Exactly. She must respect the man and he must be responsible and competent at life. Man-children aren’t fit for marriage. This is ultimately the problem of far too many breakups. Women need and desire mature and competent men. If you’re still getting financial assistance from daddy at 50 to support your family…. Zero respect . I see this in far too many.
And a woman who is capable isn't lost so it isn't so much that it's 'leadership' so much as "decisiveness." Have the ability to make sound decisions and have a world view with integrity to back them up!
This idea has been used for centuries to dominate, control and destroy the lives of women. "I know what's best for her, and I don't care what she says she wants / needs - I know what she needs."
As a Christian woman who grew up in a secular world, for the most part, I was considered the independent woman who had it all. I believed, or made myself believe that I was fine without a man. Now in my older year I am much more wiser and humble about these things. I can honestly tell you, I see so many reasons to need a man in my life. I would love to enjoy the companionship, reading scripture together, helping him in his career, helping each other in life, and the close connection and bond of a partner. So yes, Rabbi, this is a good message to share! Most certainly. Blessings to you.
@@Wisdomforthehour what about your career? Wouln't it be wise that you have one and that man would support you in it as well? Or is all about his success, build him up and you end up one of those used women that have nowhere to go when the husband brings home his mistress....
You only feel that way now because you're older and the men that you want no longer want you. On top of that you're now competing with younger, more attractive women who can bear children. Don't worry, there are millions more women now just like you!
@@CryptoKernels says who, based on what? 😂😂😂 I just spoke of a realiry that happens to majority of women are dumb enough to give yo their life to build a man. By your comment, you are one of those frustrated red pill incels that keep preachin how women compete for men, yet men are the ones not being able to date or find a partner for years. So my friend...women don't compete for men, hence you are single af! All those dreams that young women want you...and yet can't get a date, with young or older woman😂😂😂 so much competition for you guys! Women chose better...they chose cats.😂😂😂
@@olgabushak2942 It’s being free of arrogance and egotism, so you don’t assume others are wrong, or inferior to you, or are less deserving of respect and all other important things than you.
@@olgabushak2942it means that until you intentionally pick the right circle (friends, family, and spouse) you will ALWAYS be surrounded by HATERS that tell you, you need to be humble and modest. The part that they don’t tell you is that no matter how much you try to be modest if you are shining in life, you will always create the same level of attack against you. 💯
I'm not a religious person, but every time I listen to one of your videos, my perspective on the world and relationships completely shifts. So many connections are made, and I learn things I was never taught when I was younger. It's truly a pleasure. Thank you!
Thank you for your wise words. I needed to hear this a long time ago before I got divorced and had a massive heartbreak with another woman who didn’t like me. Time for me to get my own shit together if I still can
Every relationship has hierarchy. Power is not a bad thing in the right hands. The problem is society is convincing all that men in power are all inherently wicked, so they can only be good with a female lording over every move.
@@leeolie3728I agree with this. Seems men are expected to be more and more responsible but retain less and less authority. Feminism teaches women to be strong and independent. Strong independent women obviously don't want a toxic authoritarian man. But unfortunately they also reject the healthy stoic masculine leader as well. They can't seem to tell the difference or want to acknowledge there is a difference.
@@justone3243 I'm sure he understands not all men are equal. There are gods and there are clods. Winners and losers. Some are boys in men's bodies. But the principles apply to everyone. It just may come more naturally to some than to others. No one said it would be easy. But a real man does it anyways. That's the key. A strong masculine man does what is right. A weak man does what is easy. So man up and stop telling yourself pathetic copes.
Relationship expert Alison Armstrong made a great point: she could provide financially and physical goods for herself, but she needed a man to provide emotional support, touch, and love.
Theo Von has a bit where he speaks on loneliness: it's not about you not having anyone- it's about no one having YOU. As a man, we instinctively desire to be needed, to have all our skills and knowledge be of benefit to someone else. Our brains are literally designed as solution machines, and we all know what we can do for ourselves. We need to serve others in a meaningful way.
But can't you serve without being needed only for your abilities? I mean, everyone can do the dishes, and if you'd do, it would still be serving. Actually, I think this point of view of basing human relationships on how useful you can be very problematic. Maybe that's why men have a higher chance of leaving their partners when they're ill than the other way around. I myself prefer to be with someone who doesn't need me, but still wants me there, simply bc they love me.
@rofishy2 I can't speak for every woman, but I have loved in the past, and I love now. I have loved a man who I didn't need, I just enjoyed his company. I have resented a man I needed and a man I didn't need. I have loved a man I needed. The problem is wanting to reach a perfect formula that will guarantee you love. That's not how it works.
@@Mrsgmuller73I believe this is indictive of the huge issue modern male female interaction has. Is men project their view and experience of the world onto women and expect them to be of the male mindset. And women do exactly the same. Instead of ACCEPTING the nature of the being as your counterpoint. Thusly equalizing the relationship. You cannot tell the buyers of your product(which is you) what they should want. They tell u what they are willing to buy. Can you provide it?
@seanpeavideo I have no problems not telling the buyers what they want to buy. I have a problem with those who think there's only one kind of product to purchase/ they are the only one making the product. The truth is there's hundreds of brands of the product (following the analogy), and there are niches that will buy each one of these brands. And even if you make the "best" product, there are consumers who won't like it. And even if you buy this so-called "best" product, there's always a chance it won't fit you, or you won't like it, or that it will be defective. The author of this post is considering there's only one kind of product to offer and gets confused why ppl aren't buying it. He's failed to see that there are other similar products that satisfy customers' needs as well.
This notion turns you into a yes man which women cannot stand!! You need to be respected. Lead with what is needed and not want, if she wants something do not give it if she walks away let her. Women respect men like these. You're giving so she can show you gratitude, if she'd entitled and don't care about you, she will never be grateful
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@@machteldpeeters2282 No, he didn’t miss the point, a man who marries a woman and does things for her and she doesn’t appreciate it, is a fool. Man needs to marry a woman who appreciates him, otherwise he will slowly lose his soul.
As I watch this enthralling video, it resurrects the painful memories of my recent breakup-a relationship of five years that ended just three months ago. The woman who meant everything to me decided to leave, plunging me into a vortex of heartache. Despite my desperate attempts to reconcile, I find myself trapped in a cycle of frustration and longing, unable to envision a life without her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I find solace in expressing my lingering affection for her here.
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
As men we must both lead and simultaneously protect. Take charge of yourself, your manhood, your family unit, your household and your life! Assert yourself be the man your oats call you to be. We aren’t perfect but we can try to become as close to it as we can through living our roles appropriately. Wear the pants for a woman who rules you will despise you! This rabbi has truly earned his title! What a great teacher
I keep hearing all these responsibilities that a man must take up and I do agree. Yet, 95% of the relationships and marriages I see do not have any semblance of properness from the man nor woman.
@@Owl-yc2yuThat is why I say let the system burn to the ground. It has been damaged beyond repair. The only possible option is a huge disaster or calamity which will reset things. We have to stop playing this rigged game where no one wins
A good man seeks to support, protect, and provide (which these days, is emotional protection since women can get their own physical things and money). An emotionally healthy man knows that it is not his place to rule over his women and that only weak, little men want to do that.
I feel maintaining respect is about seeing the best in each other. In difficulty do not assume the worst. I try to see my mates perspective in a positive light and if i cannot do that I think of 5 things I am grateful for that he brings into my life. I must admit I really appreciate how much he really is a man. He is willing to be kind and thoughtful and still plan and take charge. He asks me what I want and is not afraid to offer help. I do make an effort to ask him to do the things that I really want. He likes fixing things and putting things together. I could do it but I like that he would rather do it so I receive it and I let him know that I appreciate his contributions. I thank God every day he is in my life. I feel I make his life better and he makes my life better. Respect is important to him and it is important to me that he can see I respect him. He is truly a blessing.
He’s not addressing the hyper feminism and its saturating presence that is taught to men and women in the West. It’s in little girls cartoons, in ever level of schooling, ect ect.
If someone does not want your gift, there are two options - either you’re giving to a wrong person who simply does not have the same values as you do, either your “gift” is worthless. Easy.
And most men have a life that women should run from: porn addicts, sick minds, no real growth. But some women still fall for the romantic BS...if they would look at the lives men live, they would stay far, far away from them!
@@OxenteGente if women would really look into men and the lives they live, no woman would marry. Most men lives are filled with corn addiction, games and no vision or structure. She has nothing to join...
10:00 "what do you want?" Thank you, Rabbi. I see a lot of men, including myself, losing their masculinity chasing women's validation and forgetting their inner voice.
thank you for your common sense and clarity. my wife and i do not understand how couples enter into marriage and maintain "seperate" lives (bank accounts, friends, and even faiths) expecting the marriage to be happy, fulfilling, and lasting.
Because, although u are married, u may not always be married. There is no guarantee that your partner will love u forever. He may decide to leave. I have heard stories of one spouse taking all the money from the joint account.
So wise .. I try to not have regrets in life but I do wish that I had more spiritual guidance on relationships and marriage when I was younger. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏
Thank you. I was with a man who was like this, happy to be reactive but not proactive or willing to genuinely include me in his life. Awful, sad & complicated. It’s nice for me to watch this and see that my instincts are correct and how I can have more confidence in myself and not step into masculine energy when he doesn’t know what to do. If he doesn’t know what to do, let that be apparent and ok and awkward. I don’t have to fill that vacuum. The willingness to do gives the ability to do.
Introduce a “Random Act of Respect” day Designate one day a week when you both try to show extra respect for each other. This could include writing a love note, bringing flowers or simply thanking them for everything they do. Remember why you fell in love Cultivate common interests Laugh together remember that predictability is often a sign of stability and security in a relationship. Instead of fighting it, embrace it and be thankful that you have someone who is always there for you, no matter what
@@jacksmith4438 respect is not most with predictibility. You behave worthy of respect, even if predictable, respect only grows. You probably talk about something else
🤗It's just I was raised by a very angry woman. I then went out into the world as a giver - raising these two kids by myself, etc. This is not who was Created to be. 🥰Now, I am 50 years old, the kids grown now, and I am learning day by day to be softer and to RECEIVE and this is who I am. It all began with RECEIVING the love of the Father - we love Him b/c He first loved us. 😇I was not able to RECEIVE at all before - not even the love of my own children - so if anyone wanted to GIVE to me - I would reject it and stay alone - I am glad to understand now - may more and more Revelation Knowledge come to me as I am able to RECEIVE more EACH day - even though I am under the blessing of Abraham, I could not walk in my own inheritance b/c I did not know it and I could not RECEIVE God's many blessings each day. 🙏🙏
God gave us the rule of marriage we can follow as a woman (wife) & as a man (Husband) responsibilities of marriage life, in a way that doesn't hurt both parties when they live together. The secret of marriages is very huge. We need to understand about marriage responsibilities before marriage. Otherwise, it will be fragile after honeymoon.
You can confirm that you, personally, are turned off by not "taking charge" but what do you mean by "taking charge"? Do you confuse confidence with arrogance? Do you dislike living with the consequences of your decisions, and so dislike making decisions? I'm genuinely curious.
She’s pretending to know things. If she really knew things she would NEVER complain nor let her girls complain about “controlling” guys. Most modern men are trained to never take control and this lady is that ignorant to never speak up when women shame other men for taking control. The gals want a leader, and don’t want to be a follower. Basic American new style-
@@jmso8096maybe I can help elaborate a bit. Confidence is good, arrogance is annoying and unnecessary. Women are perfectly capable of making all the important decisions in a relationship, but to do so is exhausting for her. It's not about not being able to live with the consequences of a decision, we do that all day everyday without a spouse. The issue is that women were not created to lead a relationship, we were created to help. I once heard someone say "weight is meant for shoulders not for hips" and I agree with this statement. All it means for a man to "take charge" is that he's capable of leading the relationship through making important decisions with strength and isn't afraid to do so. And that comes from a place of confidence in God and in himself. It doesn't mean he arrogantly says "my way or the highway" it means he consults God, consults his wife and has earned her trust in a way that allows him to lead her and make difficult decisions for her and the family when necessary. It also means that he can make ANY decision when necessary, including making plans for their future. But if the man is constantly only trying to please his wife to the point he's so scared of making the wrong move that he shrinks back and lets her decide everything at all times, for a woman that's exhausting for her and shows a lack of self-confidence in the man. If he can't stand up to his woman, he can't stand up FOR his woman and is therefore a pushover and is no longer safe. And pushovers are unattractive, male or female. Everyone appreciates confidence, but no one respects a "yes-man" or someone who cowers every time he has to decide something, agreeing to everything. At that point the woman becomes the head of the man because the man put her there and this defies God's natural order. This is why relationships like this typically end in resentment for the woman and emasculation for the man because he never learned to lead and she never began to follow. The natural order is reversed and this is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.
This video brings home the point that we must raise our boys extremely well, in wisdom and strength, so they can create healthy relationships and healthy homes. ❤
80 percent of divorces initiated by women. Stop taking fathers away from their boys. It happened to me with my father. I never knew how to be a man. Hard start to say the least.
This is absolutely true. I have seen so many men I know either in miserable marriages or divorced due to a "strong woman" that doesn't feel like she needs anyone
@@LisaCultonThat's a very simplistic way of putting it, very convenient for the selfish ones. And yet, Women GIVE birth. It is the Supreme give, but most women in the West have decided that they are not willing to do that. It is then when they turn into takers.
This makes perfect sense, and it's a tragedy that the modern civilisation tries to teach the exact opposite approach, resulting in chaos and broken homes.
If women and men would respect what each other brings to the relationship then things would be great but if one contribution is used as a manipulative tool to blackmail the other,it will always end disastrous.
I followed the advice of the Rab and I found my one 😍 I know he is my one because I really feel like a woman (feminine)when Im with him and he feels the other way around with me, i was a boss girl and never wanted to give up to my leadership but he is a leader and I could recognize that in him, and I naturally let him lead and I happy follow his lead, he listens to me but he has the final decision, I never have been this happy in my life, love my husband, thank God, thanks Rab Friedman 🙏🏽
For years I kept telling my partner look, I don’t need you, I want you. I’m here by choice. I thought that was more powerful. It might have been for a giver, but if a man is a reciever it will not be reciprocated well. Now I understand I was needing him to step up and be a man, to which he choose being a child. I did need a man but not the material things he provided.
@@kresovk5 materials mean nothing, I could have loved him In a tent if it meant I would have received the love I desired. Love respect and kindness. Those are needs. God provides the rest.
@K.L.Kelley Yeah, everyone loves to express themselves in extremes they would never stoop down to in actuality. Besides, even for the general answer, "receiving love I needed" is still incredibly vague, as that is the end goal, not the method.
@@kresovk5 okay so to simplify or in your case expand: attunement, affection, gratitude, respect, honor, faithfulness. That is what I required. Basic human needs consist of significance, love and connection, certainty, growth, contribution and uncertainty. You can determine your own needs by self reflection and examination. Those are needs. Materialism isn’t a need. And God provides those things. You aren’t in control of anything.
That is what an equality mindset brings along. You will be tempted to ask her for what she wants all the time and that will bring about contempt for you at the end. That's what thinking we are equal does to us.
@@SimonBoafo thinking equal does not do that. Looking at your partner as equal, not superior or inferior should bring about the level ground where you start the communication and agree on things. And from there u deal with that specific person. She is your equal but her love language might ve quality time, so that is her need, not a want!Another woman might nit care about quality time but acts of service...so the need is what the perdon needs, not what you decide for her/him that she/he needs
Young women today don't want to need a man, and even if they don't need him, they need to give the impression that they do, WITHOUT BEING NEEDY IN THE WRONG WAY. John Gray is my favourite author on what men need from women and what women need from men. My own rendition of what is healthiest for a marriage is for women to LET MEN DO THINGS FOR THEM. Even if you don't need the thing he's offering, SAY YES, and say thank you, I really appreciate this, it helps me a lot. Men get depressed if they are not of service to a woman often. Often. If he has stopped offering things to you, then start asking for things with a happy attitude, and when he finally does the thing, APPRECIATE HIM. He will then want to do more for you. Never nag. Just keep asking with absolutely no negativity at all.
I hope all young women disregard this. You don’t have to do anything. Learn to love God and learn to receive his love. The rest will set itself in motion. The minute you start doing all this you’re no longer abiding in grace now you’ve subjected yourself to laws, laws of how to please a man. Which is impossible. A man can only please himself. Focus on God and the good works of your faith. Leave people pleasing, it never works.
Young women today saw theor mothers and grandmothers being gr...ed, abused financiallyz, physically, emotionally. And if men get depressed because they want to be of help, how about theh start helping with what is indeed needed: cook a meal, run the vaccum, clean a bathroom. That os very much needed and it would be of great help to take some of theoad off her. Please spare me the BS withen getting into depression because they are not needed. They get depressed because they can't control and absue a woman. There is plenty of responsabilities around the house, that require a lot of time and energ...yet men refuse to help with that. Stop teaching men this BS....women had enough of being blamed for not putting up with crap!
Big dose of hard cold facts here. Absolutely true. I WISH i understood this earlier in my life, so any young bloods in the comments, please heed this man's words. Great video.
Its not that she needs to follow, she needs someone who has their own thoughts and opinions. And stands on them. She doesn't need someone to "follow". Men and women can have and be equal. Its called being partners. Its respecting each others thoughts and opinions, honestly listening to each other, coming to conclusions by hearing each other. And figuring out what works best for them.
I totally agree. No one in a relationship should “need” the other person; you should be capable of taking care of yourself and be happy on your own. A partner adds to that happiness. I believe people like this man are trying to help but the “a husband and a wife each have separate rolls” type of thinking is beginning-level spirituality. Everything you need and want in life is first found within, then you can share that life with someone else who has achieved the same thing. Thanks for reading.
@@LisaMarie-eh7up so if you gonna build with a person in a relationship have kids and everything shouldn't you realize that you need that person.....
@@Sicxestsms Hi Lacynthia, these are two different definitions of “need”. I think (tell me if I’m wrong) that you mean physically it’s difficult to do everything but that’s not what I understand in this video. He’s saying that men have this desire to be needed; it’s part of their makeup as a man. I disagree. I believe that if you have a desire to be needed, then you’ll never be happy long term with someone. What happens if they need you only sometimes? What if in one instance the women does do something on her own and in that moment the man feels like “she doesn’t need me.”? Can you see how this could end up in the man getting mad at the woman and how she may not have any idea what’s going on? Become whole within and these problems won’t happen.
@@MBAYoungboy Hi! You may find a woman one day that has a need to be subservient and if that works for both of you then that’s fine. But to give that as advice for everyone, that’s not ok. A truly advanced spiritual person sees everyone as having their own path in life. And I would add that a truly advanced man would listen to his partner and let them lead in situations where they realize that their partner knows more or is better at something. This leads to things being better for everyone involved. Thanks for reading.
Unless she needs you? She will leave when she doesn't. Being a leader doesn't mean you're the best at everything and one doesn't submit to leadership because the leader is better than them. The greatest and the best of us have shortcomings. At the same time we encourage men to strive to be better knowing full well there will always be room for improvement.
Father Abraham & Sarah had separate tents! This helps to maintain unpredictability. Today we'd say they each had their space & she still was a mystery to him therefore the romance was always there.
I'd change the word 'unpredictability' to 'desire'. I'm sure Sarah never left her tent without first being presentable to the world, meaning, Abraham rarely saw Sarah in those 'human moments', e.g. not at her best, before/after bodily functions, etc. etc. Familiarity breeds contempt is so true.
But Abraham took her everywhere … to Egypt , any journey he took- he did not leave her behind and go do “his own thing”. He made sure she felt included, loved, and appreciated.
I like what he’s saying but I wished he’d explain more. For example, when he critiques the request for a “peaceful home” by suggesting one doesn’t have structure in the home. A few examples of what he deems to be structure would’ve been edifying at that moment.
Why would he be saying about what women need to be, lol, you people are rediculous. he better say about men coz he's a man and he's wise. I've seen manny religious men talking about how women should be and they always recieve a backlash
Always one dominant and a submissive. This is not said in a harsh way. It just means we take our respective roles in a marriage. Submissive doesn't mean a pushover and dominant doesn't mean overbearingly so.
As a woman listening to all my friends the majority of our problems in the relationship is men just want sex never intimacy like cuddling and hand holding and men expect you to clean everything, cook everything, do all care of animals or children and still want you to provide some income. When you start feeling overwhelmed and treated like a maid you just figure out it’s better to be alone. Even if you provide major income in household you need to help with chores at home. You would have to without your partner there and still would be working. It’s ok to help with one load of dishes and take the trash out.
I'm a woman in my twenties and... yes, 100% this is how my friends and I also experience men. And when you bring it up with men, they all say 'well you just pick bad ones,' but then when you decide 'ok, I will only be with a man who treats me well,' you're told your standards are too high / you don't deserve that / men like that don't exist... So what is the point? Feels pretty hopeless at this point. What even is the point of a man? If you are an educated woman with friends and a meaningful, decently paid work and a rich inner life... what is the point, can someone tell me?
@@PsalmNinety1 I feel like you didn't read what I wrote, because your reply was quite irrelevant to it. Not that it's any of your business but I do pray regularly. Your advice was unsolicited and unhelpful.
@MeandmySara I know women who went celibate for 5 years and God blessed them with a husband so im just speaking from experience, hopefully that helps but sorry 😞 just tryna give some wisdom 🙏
I wish you all the best. May G-d help you. I mean I could try and idk what country you’re in? right now I have own issues to resolve. I just wanna send love to people who might need it ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. It feels like the phone company knew just what I needed at the right time. I just really needed to hear this so bad because I feel like there's nobody out there for me and I want to give up on a whole relationships right now at this point
you make good points to think on but I wonder about a woman with everything(job, house etc)- what’s your opinion about what she would need from a man? bc in my opinion it’s companionship so I think it fits your point, just differently
Just because you have one house does not mean you don’t need a second one that you share with your husband 🙌🏼 You just make money out of yours by renting it out, quit your job and dedicate your time to stay healthy and sane for your family, be the best wife and mother you can be, with no job stress 🎉😊
Husband and wives are equal in value, in partnership, but not in function. Each function is equal in value but different (I say men and women are like a salt and pepper shaker set). Equality does not mean sameness. By the way, speaking as a woman, women definitely need respect too. We need our partners to say they admire us. Anyway, good video and great points! I do like how the Rabbi doesn't put down men or women or put all the blame on women like many videos.
Well do you help her with ehat is needed? Clean the housez cook a meal, change the bed. She does very much need you....but I am.sure you expect her to do everything. In that case, how can she need you....if you don't help with the real needs??
@@smokingcrab2290you cannot blame a woman for that. It’s your job as a person to secure yourself. You’re not a child your self esteem should not be so easily shaken by a wife. That’s an excuse.
Where are all these elders when we need them. I felt so lost as a young woman. All the silly media, movies, music and books did nothing for me in the department of romance and relationships. Just got used and never got the love or nurturing I wanted.
"it's not saying women are weak, you have to be their boss, it's saying the woman will accept you if you can be the boss. If not, she doesn't need you."
Yet the women are always fighting for dominance and redefining what masculine is. They're judge, jury, and executioner and they move the goalpost constantly
Interesting idea, no one have ever mentioned this, no one! No one I ever came across at least online. By this standard it is basically like newton's laws of motion lol, it is so true and powerful formula to see how manly a man is and how feminine the women is. That explains why male teachers vs female teachers are very different in how they feel rewarded female teachers prefer their students to love them over educating them while male teachere are more likely to feel more rewarded once they see thier students achieve in life even if it means not having a close relationship. I heard something similar from a Christian educator in the past.
As the Rabi says, women don't know what they want until it shows up, if it ever does. Never try to ask a woman what she wants as she does not know it. It does not matter how long she talks about it. THEY DON'T KNOW. They expect you to know and they get dissapointed and despice you if you don't. It is the magical thinking that almost every young woman does. If you fail to provide an experience that is not magical, they'll reject you. This is due to the wsy little girls are brought up in the West, with a parent that GIVES them everything and asks for nothing. They grow up thinking they deserve everything and when the tree grows bent, you cannot straighten it without breaking. In my opinion, Rabbi forgets this element in the equation: EDUCATION.
Spoken like a true misogynist. "She doesn't know what she needs, I don't care what she says she needs, I always know better, I don't need to listen to her at all". Been used for centuries to abuse and control women. And this idea that every western woman's life is just a picnic is nonsense, but of course you believe this.
Not necessarily true. Anyone can potentially discard anyone for any other reason. If she has an ounce of a heart she will remember the man who loved her and was there for her when she had those needs. If she has an once of wisdom she will recognise that he helped to get her to where she is. If she is a selfish fool she will discard him when she has her needs met.
@@FarTooPreciousthat's not how women think. For them it's: "what have you done for me lately?". With lately being today. Women don't generally exhibit reciprocity, certainly they don't accumulate it over time.
@@losfromla1480.lol. are you talking about men? Because that is what men do. They don't satisfy any of the woman's needs....yet they want all their needa satisfied! You have neen brainwashed. And before yoi start....oaying some billd is not satisfying a woman's needs!
"Live a life that she can follow."
Exactly. She must respect the man and he must be responsible and competent at life. Man-children aren’t fit for marriage. This is ultimately the problem of far too many breakups. Women need and desire mature and competent men. If you’re still getting financial assistance from daddy at 50 to support your family…. Zero respect . I see this in far too many.
@@jp5419🤡💩💯. Do you know everyone circumstance? Illness, bad luck, socioeconomic environment your country is based on. 🤫
@@jp5419 "man-children" aptly stated. Holy God please get through to all boys, youth and men😢🙏
@@SanityMustPrevail😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly you have to post every moment of your life on social media so she can follow it.
💯 giving her what she wants is not leading. Give her what she needs...your leadership.
And a woman who is capable isn't lost so it isn't so much that it's 'leadership' so much as "decisiveness." Have the ability to make sound decisions and have a world view with integrity to back them up!
This idea has been used for centuries to dominate, control and destroy the lives of women. "I know what's best for her, and I don't care what she says she wants / needs - I know what she needs."
And while fighting my arm banged against furniture and I really hurt myself
Don't marry someone who hates you -- is that all you can say? I can't get meds - after that I am still in the wrong???? after he made me a victim?
After he wouldn't leave he insisted to sleep on my mattress and I woke up to him performing a sexual act and I knew I'm as good as dead
You should only marry someone who needs you. And who you need.
We all need to be needed.
As a Christian woman who grew up in a secular world, for the most part, I was considered the independent woman who had it all. I believed, or made myself believe that I was fine without a man. Now in my older year I am much more wiser and humble about these things. I can honestly tell you, I see so many reasons to need a man in my life. I would love to enjoy the companionship, reading scripture together, helping him in his career, helping each other in life, and the close connection and bond of a partner. So yes, Rabbi, this is a good message to share! Most certainly. Blessings to you.
Do you have such a man in your life at the moment?
@@Wisdomforthehour what about your career? Wouln't it be wise that you have one and that man would support you in it as well? Or is all about his success, build him up and you end up one of those used women that have nowhere to go when the husband brings home his mistress....
You only feel that way now because you're older and the men that you want no longer want you. On top of that you're now competing with younger, more attractive women who can bear children. Don't worry, there are millions more women now just like you!
@@em7937You're not very bright at all
@@CryptoKernels says who, based on what? 😂😂😂 I just spoke of a realiry that happens to majority of women are dumb enough to give yo their life to build a man. By your comment, you are one of those frustrated red pill incels that keep preachin how women compete for men, yet men are the ones not being able to date or find a partner for years. So my friend...women don't compete for men, hence you are single af! All those dreams that young women want you...and yet can't get a date, with young or older woman😂😂😂 so much competition for you guys! Women chose better...they chose cats.😂😂😂
“The only way to maintain respect is through modesty.” 👍🏼
Can you tell me more by what that means to you?
@@olgabushak2942 It’s being free of arrogance and egotism, so you don’t assume others are wrong, or inferior to you, or are less deserving of respect and all other important things than you.
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@@olgabushak2942it means that until you intentionally pick the right circle (friends, family, and spouse) you will ALWAYS be surrounded by HATERS that tell you, you need to be humble and modest. The part that they don’t tell you is that no matter how much you try to be modest if you are shining in life, you will always create the same level of attack against you. 💯
@@4theloveoffashion959this part!!!!
I'm not a religious person, but every time I listen to one of your videos, my perspective on the world and relationships completely shifts. So many connections are made, and I learn things I was never taught when I was younger. It's truly a pleasure. Thank you!
God Jesuscrist is not religion its freedom and relationship
That makes you religious…
@@lillyvalley415no spiritual. Big difference. That existed before mainstream religion.
@@DJV94022 your talking about spirituality not religion.
Thank you for your wise words. I needed to hear this a long time ago before I got divorced and had a massive heartbreak with another woman who didn’t like me. Time for me to get my own shit together if I still can
If you approach marriage as a power negotiation, don't be surprised when it plays out as a power struggle.
Right.
Competition
But it’s the truth for heterosexual young couples In old age the power balances out 🤷🏽♀️
@@irreplacable1988 How does it balance out in old age?
Every relationship has hierarchy. Power is not a bad thing in the right hands. The problem is society is convincing all that men in power are all inherently wicked, so they can only be good with a female lording over every move.
@@leeolie3728I agree with this. Seems men are expected to be more and more responsible but retain less and less authority. Feminism teaches women to be strong and independent. Strong independent women obviously don't want a toxic authoritarian man. But unfortunately they also reject the healthy stoic masculine leader as well. They can't seem to tell the difference or want to acknowledge there is a difference.
This man just debunked our whole western society, equality and feminism in just 10minutes, love it!!
Amen, I'm a woman and I agree
The western mind is a false to destroy the family unit. The man is the head and provider and protector. The woman is the helper.
Men should start behaving like man. Women will become feminine
But what he doesn't understand is that not all man are equal.
So the principles he is teaching don't work for everybody.
It's not as easy as he says
@@justone3243 I'm sure he understands not all men are equal. There are gods and there are clods. Winners and losers. Some are boys in men's bodies. But the principles apply to everyone. It just may come more naturally to some than to others. No one said it would be easy. But a real man does it anyways. That's the key. A strong masculine man does what is right. A weak man does what is easy. So man up and stop telling yourself pathetic copes.
Relationship expert Alison Armstrong made a great point: she could provide financially and physical goods for herself, but she needed a man to provide emotional support, touch, and love.
YES!! 🙌🏼
Theo Von has a bit where he speaks on loneliness: it's not about you not having anyone- it's about no one having YOU. As a man, we instinctively desire to be needed, to have all our skills and knowledge be of benefit to someone else. Our brains are literally designed as solution machines, and we all know what we can do for ourselves. We need to serve others in a meaningful way.
But can't you serve without being needed only for your abilities? I mean, everyone can do the dishes, and if you'd do, it would still be serving. Actually, I think this point of view of basing human relationships on how useful you can be very problematic. Maybe that's why men have a higher chance of leaving their partners when they're ill than the other way around. I myself prefer to be with someone who doesn't need me, but still wants me there, simply bc they love me.
@@Mrsgmuller73but then why do women refuse to love?
@rofishy2 I can't speak for every woman, but I have loved in the past, and I love now. I have loved a man who I didn't need, I just enjoyed his company. I have resented a man I needed and a man I didn't need. I have loved a man I needed. The problem is wanting to reach a perfect formula that will guarantee you love. That's not how it works.
@@Mrsgmuller73I believe this is indictive of the huge issue modern male female interaction has. Is men project their view and experience of the world onto women and expect them to be of the male mindset. And women do exactly the same. Instead of ACCEPTING the nature of the being as your counterpoint. Thusly equalizing the relationship. You cannot tell the buyers of your product(which is you) what they should want. They tell u what they are willing to buy. Can you provide it?
@seanpeavideo I have no problems not telling the buyers what they want to buy. I have a problem with those who think there's only one kind of product to purchase/ they are the only one making the product. The truth is there's hundreds of brands of the product (following the analogy), and there are niches that will buy each one of these brands. And even if you make the "best" product, there are consumers who won't like it. And even if you buy this so-called "best" product, there's always a chance it won't fit you, or you won't like it, or that it will be defective.
The author of this post is considering there's only one kind of product to offer and gets confused why ppl aren't buying it. He's failed to see that there are other similar products that satisfy customers' needs as well.
As a man its important to give to someone who will appreciate....
Nope...you missed the whole idea...you don t give in the expectations to be appreciated
This notion turns you into a yes man which women cannot stand!! You need to be respected. Lead with what is needed and not want, if she wants something do not give it if she walks away let her. Women respect men like these. You're giving so she can show you gratitude, if she'd entitled and don't care about you, she will never be grateful
@@machteldpeeters2282 No, he didn’t miss the point, a man who marries a woman and does things for her and she doesn’t appreciate it, is a fool. Man needs to marry a woman who appreciates him, otherwise he will slowly lose his soul.
@@machteldpeeters2282 cool, give to a women who doesnt appreciate it then, loser
@@machteldpeeters2282 when you give someone who needs you, they appreciate you. It goes hand in hand.
As I watch this enthralling video, it resurrects the painful memories of my recent breakup-a relationship of five years that ended just three months ago. The woman who meant everything to me decided to leave, plunging me into a vortex of heartache. Despite my desperate attempts to reconcile, I find myself trapped in a cycle of frustration and longing, unable to envision a life without her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I find solace in expressing my lingering affection for her here.
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Suzanne Ann walters, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
As men we must both lead and simultaneously protect. Take charge of yourself, your manhood, your family unit, your household and your life! Assert yourself be the man your oats call you to be. We aren’t perfect but we can try to become as close to it as we can through living our roles appropriately. Wear the pants for a woman who rules you will despise you! This rabbi has truly earned his title! What a great teacher
I keep hearing all these responsibilities that a man must take up and I do agree. Yet, 95% of the relationships and marriages I see do not have any semblance of properness from the man nor woman.
@@Owl-yc2yuThat is why I say let the system burn to the ground. It has been damaged beyond repair. The only possible option is a huge disaster or calamity which will reset things. We have to stop playing this rigged game where no one wins
A good man seeks to support, protect, and provide (which these days, is emotional protection since women can get their own physical things and money). An emotionally healthy man knows that it is not his place to rule over his women and that only weak, little men want to do that.
@@Owl-yc2yu then you must change you associations and relationships as they are bad modeling for you. that is not the world at large
Why should you lead? Hope you both took iq tests before assigning that role
I feel maintaining respect is about seeing the best in each other. In difficulty do not assume the worst. I try to see my mates perspective in a positive light and if i cannot do that I think of 5 things I am grateful for that he brings into my life. I must admit I really appreciate how much he really is a man. He is willing to be kind and thoughtful and still plan and take charge. He asks me what I want and is not afraid to offer help. I do make an effort to ask him to do the things that I really want. He likes fixing things and putting things together. I could do it but I like that he would rather do it so I receive it and I let him know that I appreciate his contributions. I thank God every day he is in my life. I feel I make his life better and he makes my life better. Respect is important to him and it is important to me that he can see I respect him. He is truly a blessing.
Keep reminding him of what you’ve put on here
You're a blessing to him
Its an honor and a privlage to listen to you, sir!
Finally!
I found sanity
Clarity
And wisdom.
Being needed also requires the acknowledgement of carrying that burden. When I carry you, and you dismiss this carrying, I will no longer carry you.
He’s not addressing the hyper feminism and its saturating presence that is taught to men and women in the West.
It’s in little girls cartoons, in ever level of schooling, ect ect.
Agreed
This is how my wife is
Bites the hand that feeds
If someone does not want your gift, there are two options - either you’re giving to a wrong person who simply does not have the same values as you do, either your “gift” is worthless. Easy.
I have never heard more clarity about marriage more than this . I am now clear of my state right now
" if you have a life that she approves of and likes than she joins you in your life" 👏👏🙌
And most men have a life that women should run from: porn addicts, sick minds, no real growth. But some women still fall for the romantic BS...if they would look at the lives men live, they would stay far, far away from them!
@@OxenteGente if women would really look into men and the lives they live, no woman would marry. Most men lives are filled with corn addiction, games and no vision or structure. She has nothing to join...
Thank you Rabbi Manis you are such an inspiration to the world. May H’Shem bless you and shine his face upon you.
Once you're married it's about the government.
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😁😁😂👍🏽 Sadly true if you let it be
Yup it’s an artificial program that is falling apart and men can’t handle being alone
@@jillianminton8506 Women too. Let’s not be disingenuous now
10:00 "what do you want?" Thank you, Rabbi. I see a lot of men, including myself, losing their masculinity chasing women's validation and forgetting their inner voice.
thank you for your common sense and clarity.
my wife and i do not understand how couples enter into marriage and maintain "seperate" lives (bank accounts, friends, and even faiths) expecting the marriage to be happy, fulfilling, and lasting.
You don’t. That is living with a roommate, not marriage!
Because, although u are married, u may not always be married. There is no guarantee that your partner will love u forever. He may decide to leave.
I have heard stories of one spouse taking all the money from the joint account.
Great teaching!
@@Jenny-e4v Yes, and fights over money are one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Sometimes it's better to keep separate accounts.
Being "unequally yoked" is a terrible thing 😑
Everybody needs somebody and we all need Help at sometime in our Lives..
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So wise .. I try to not have regrets in life but I do wish that I had more spiritual guidance on relationships and marriage when I was younger. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏
Thank you. I was with a man who was like this, happy to be reactive but not proactive or willing to genuinely include me in his life. Awful, sad & complicated. It’s nice for me to watch this and see that my instincts are correct and how I can have more confidence in myself and not step into masculine energy when he doesn’t know what to do. If he doesn’t know what to do, let that be apparent and ok and awkward. I don’t have to fill that vacuum.
The willingness to do gives the ability to do.
I love this rabbi. He speaks sound doctrine. ❤❤❤❤❤
Please post part 2 about how to maintain respect after the other person becomes predictable!
Introduce a “Random Act of Respect” day
Designate one day a week when you both try to show extra respect for each other. This could include writing a love note, bringing flowers or simply thanking them for everything they do.
Remember why you fell in love
Cultivate common interests
Laugh together
remember that predictability is often a sign of stability and security in a relationship. Instead of fighting it, embrace it and be thankful that you have someone who is always there for you, no matter what
@@calmchill7583 thank you so much for your reply. Such valuable wisdom!
I knew you were going to say that.
@@jacksmith4438 respect is not most with predictibility. You behave worthy of respect, even if predictable, respect only grows. You probably talk about something else
As a woman he is saying the truth 💯
You know Andrew Tate says the same thing but when he says it he’s the Devil 🤷🏾♂️
@@themoneyman1752exactly!!
🤗It's just I was raised by a very angry woman. I then went out into the world as a giver - raising these two kids by myself, etc. This is not who was Created to be. 🥰Now, I am 50 years old, the kids grown now, and I am learning day by day to be softer and to RECEIVE and this is who I am. It all began with RECEIVING the love of the Father - we love Him b/c He first loved us. 😇I was not able to RECEIVE at all before - not even the love of my own children - so if anyone wanted to GIVE to me - I would reject it and stay alone - I am glad to understand now - may more and more Revelation Knowledge come to me as I am able to RECEIVE more EACH day - even though I am under the blessing of Abraham, I could not walk in my own inheritance b/c I did not know it and I could not RECEIVE God's many blessings each day. 🙏🙏
Thank you for this❤️ blessings unto you!
that's a lot of work you did, God bless you!!
This man gets it. Wise words.
mans job is to give generously,
woman job is to receive gratefully,
end of story
Wow, just like that you've summer up all about men and women Ina simplistic statement, which is the end of the story lol. How dumb
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This sounds like a comment from a woman
100% nonsense
Man's role is to provide necessities as a normal habit. You need something, you get it.
God gave us the rule of marriage we can follow as a woman (wife) & as a man (Husband) responsibilities of marriage life, in a way that doesn't hurt both parties when they live together. The secret of marriages is very huge. We need to understand about marriage responsibilities before marriage. Otherwise, it will be fragile after honeymoon.
I love listening to his voice of wisdom and guidance. It's a breath of fresh air. Society needs to hear
I’m not religious but as I woman I can confirm that this it is such a turn off when a man doesn’t take charge 💯
You can confirm that you, personally, are turned off by not "taking charge" but what do you mean by "taking charge"? Do you confuse confidence with arrogance? Do you dislike living with the consequences of your decisions, and so dislike making decisions? I'm genuinely curious.
She’s pretending to know things.
If she really knew things she would NEVER complain nor let her girls complain about “controlling” guys.
Most modern men are trained to never take control and this lady is that ignorant to never speak up when women shame other men for taking control.
The gals want a leader, and don’t want to be a follower.
Basic American new style-
@@jmso8096maybe I can help elaborate a bit. Confidence is good, arrogance is annoying and unnecessary. Women are perfectly capable of making all the important decisions in a relationship, but to do so is exhausting for her.
It's not about not being able to live with the consequences of a decision, we do that all day everyday without a spouse. The issue is that women were not created to lead a relationship, we were created to help. I once heard someone say "weight is meant for shoulders not for hips" and I agree with this statement.
All it means for a man to "take charge" is that he's capable of leading the relationship through making important decisions with strength and isn't afraid to do so. And that comes from a place of confidence in God and in himself. It doesn't mean he arrogantly says "my way or the highway" it means he consults God, consults his wife and has earned her trust in a way that allows him to lead her and make difficult decisions for her and the family when necessary.
It also means that he can make ANY decision when necessary, including making plans for their future. But if the man is constantly only trying to please his wife to the point he's so scared of making the wrong move that he shrinks back and lets her decide everything at all times, for a woman that's exhausting for her and shows a lack of self-confidence in the man. If he can't stand up to his woman, he can't stand up FOR his woman and is therefore a pushover and is no longer safe. And pushovers are unattractive, male or female.
Everyone appreciates confidence, but no one respects a "yes-man" or someone who cowers every time he has to decide something, agreeing to everything. At that point the woman becomes the head of the man because the man put her there and this defies God's natural order.
This is why relationships like this typically end in resentment for the woman and emasculation for the man because he never learned to lead and she never began to follow. The natural order is reversed and this is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.
To avoid accountability a woman must not take charge😂
A woman who is not religious is such as big turn off.. I can confirm stay away from women who doesn't have faith within her heart...
This video brings home the point that we must raise our boys extremely well, in wisdom and strength, so they can create healthy relationships and healthy homes. ❤
80 percent of divorces initiated by women. Stop taking fathers away from their boys. It happened to me with my father. I never knew how to be a man. Hard start to say the least.
This is absolutely true. I have seen so many men I know either in miserable marriages or divorced due to a "strong woman" that doesn't feel like she needs anyone
The men need to be stronger and stop being takers/ receivers.
Most likely the man was weak and the woman couldn’t settle into her divine feminine role.
@LisaCulton, vvomen don't give anything
@@smokingcrab2290 They're not supposed to give. Women are made to receive.
@@LisaCultonThat's a very simplistic way of putting it, very convenient for the selfish ones.
And yet, Women GIVE birth. It is the Supreme give, but most women in the West have decided that they are not willing to do that.
It is then when they turn into takers.
There is so much knowledge in the Hebrew Culture
This makes perfect sense, and it's a tragedy that the modern civilisation tries to teach the exact opposite approach, resulting in chaos and broken homes.
"Live a life that she can follow!" Brilliant! Just Brilliant!
If women and men would respect what each other brings to the relationship then
things would be great but if one contribution is used as a manipulative tool to blackmail the other,it will always end disastrous.
I followed the advice of the Rab and I found my one 😍 I know he is my one because I really feel like a woman (feminine)when Im with him and he feels the other way around with me, i was a boss girl and never wanted to give up to my leadership but he is a leader and I could recognize that in him, and I naturally let him lead and I happy follow his lead, he listens to me but he has the final decision, I never have been this happy in my life, love my husband, thank God, thanks Rab Friedman 🙏🏽
For years I kept telling my partner look, I don’t need you, I want you. I’m here by choice. I thought that was more powerful. It might have been for a giver, but if a man is a reciever it will not be reciprocated well. Now I understand I was needing him to step up and be a man, to which he choose being a child. I did need a man but not the material things he provided.
What was it that then that you needed?
Material goods were and, to a certain point, still are the most basic need.
@@kresovk5correct
@@kresovk5 materials mean nothing, I could have loved him In a tent if it meant I would have received the love I desired. Love respect and kindness. Those are needs. God provides the rest.
@K.L.Kelley Yeah, everyone loves to express themselves in extremes they would never stoop down to in actuality.
Besides, even for the general answer, "receiving love I needed" is still incredibly vague, as that is the end goal, not the method.
@@kresovk5 okay so to simplify or in your case expand: attunement, affection, gratitude, respect, honor, faithfulness. That is what I required.
Basic human needs consist of significance, love and connection, certainty, growth, contribution and uncertainty. You can determine your own needs by self reflection and examination. Those are needs. Materialism isn’t a need. And God provides those things. You aren’t in control of anything.
😊 endlich ein Mann, der es versteht. 😊danke!
That is what an equality mindset brings along. You will be tempted to ask her for what she wants all the time and that will bring about contempt for you at the end. That's what thinking we are equal does to us.
@@SimonBoafo thinking equal does not do that. Looking at your partner as equal, not superior or inferior should bring about the level ground where you start the communication and agree on things. And from there u deal with that specific person. She is your equal but her love language might ve quality time, so that is her need, not a want!Another woman might nit care about quality time but acts of service...so the need is what the perdon needs, not what you decide for her/him that she/he needs
@@em7937hope you don’t learn the hard way.
Wow. This was deep. You had me at the first sentence. ❤ Thank you for sharing.
This is the best pick up advice ive ever heard
I love EVERYTHING he said. 100% agreement.
Young women today don't want to need a man, and even if they don't need him, they need to give the impression that they do, WITHOUT BEING NEEDY IN THE WRONG WAY. John Gray is my favourite author on what men need from women and what women need from men. My own rendition of what is healthiest for a marriage is for women to LET MEN DO THINGS FOR THEM. Even if you don't need the thing he's offering, SAY YES, and say thank you, I really appreciate this, it helps me a lot. Men get depressed if they are not of service to a woman often. Often. If he has stopped offering things to you, then start asking for things with a happy attitude, and when he finally does the thing, APPRECIATE HIM. He will then want to do more for you. Never nag. Just keep asking with absolutely no negativity at all.
I hope all young women disregard this. You don’t have to do anything. Learn to love God and learn to receive his love. The rest will set itself in motion. The minute you start doing all this you’re no longer abiding in grace now you’ve subjected yourself to laws, laws of how to please a man. Which is impossible. A man can only please himself. Focus on God and the good works of your faith. Leave people pleasing, it never works.
Young women today saw theor mothers and grandmothers being gr...ed, abused financiallyz, physically, emotionally. And if men get depressed because they want to be of help, how about theh start helping with what is indeed needed: cook a meal, run the vaccum, clean a bathroom. That os very much needed and it would be of great help to take some of theoad off her. Please spare me the BS withen getting into depression because they are not needed. They get depressed because they can't control and absue a woman. There is plenty of responsabilities around the house, that require a lot of time and energ...yet men refuse to help with that. Stop teaching men this BS....women had enough of being blamed for not putting up with crap!
@@lillyvalley415 Yeah, John Gray is all about men can merely exist and women must change and adapt to men. I disregard anything he says.
Modesty brings Respect. Thank youvsir.
Big dose of hard cold facts here. Absolutely true. I WISH i understood this earlier in my life, so any young bloods in the comments, please heed this man's words.
Great video.
This is good…. Beautifully said from a loving space of FREEdom. The way you broke down marriage…. Such a sweet thing.
Its not that she needs to follow, she needs someone who has their own thoughts and opinions. And stands on them. She doesn't need someone to "follow". Men and women can have and be equal. Its called being partners. Its respecting each others thoughts and opinions, honestly listening to each other, coming to conclusions by hearing each other. And figuring out what works best for them.
I totally agree. No one in a relationship should “need” the other person; you should be capable of taking care of yourself and be happy on your own. A partner adds to that happiness. I believe people like this man are trying to help but the “a husband and a wife each have separate rolls” type of thinking is beginning-level spirituality. Everything you need and want in life is first found within, then you can share that life with someone else who has achieved the same thing. Thanks for reading.
@@LisaMarie-eh7up so if you gonna build with a person in a relationship have kids and everything shouldn't you realize that you need that person.....
partners are for businesses not relationships. The man leads.
@@Sicxestsms Hi Lacynthia, these are two different definitions of “need”. I think (tell me if I’m wrong) that you mean physically it’s difficult to do everything but that’s not what I understand in this video. He’s saying that men have this desire to be needed; it’s part of their makeup as a man. I disagree. I believe that if you have a desire to be needed, then you’ll never be happy long term with someone. What happens if they need you only sometimes? What if in one instance the women does do something on her own and in that moment the man feels like “she doesn’t need me.”? Can you see how this could end up in the man getting mad at the woman and how she may not have any idea what’s going on? Become whole within and these problems won’t happen.
@@MBAYoungboy Hi! You may find a woman one day that has a need to be subservient and if that works for both of you then that’s fine. But to give that as advice for everyone, that’s not ok. A truly advanced spiritual person sees everyone as having their own path in life. And I would add that a truly advanced man would listen to his partner and let them lead in situations where they realize that their partner knows more or is better at something. This leads to things being better for everyone involved. Thanks for reading.
God has blessed you with wisdom in your age. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!!💪🔯🙏❤☀🎶
Unless she needs you? She will leave when she doesn't. Being a leader doesn't mean you're the best at everything and one doesn't submit to leadership because the leader is better than them. The greatest and the best of us have shortcomings. At the same time we encourage men to strive to be better knowing full well there will always be room for improvement.
The vocabulary on the bottom left is a nice touch!
Ah, thanks for mentioning that. I missed the last one tznius for modesty
“Understand and be comfortable with the idea that life is not about you” 💯
I often look to Rabbi Friedman for wisdom
Father Abraham & Sarah had separate tents! This helps to maintain unpredictability. Today we'd say they each had their space & she still was a mystery to him therefore the romance was always there.
I'd change the word 'unpredictability' to 'desire'. I'm sure Sarah never left her tent without first being presentable to the world, meaning, Abraham rarely saw Sarah in those 'human moments', e.g. not at her best, before/after bodily functions, etc. etc. Familiarity breeds contempt is so true.
But Abraham took her everywhere … to Egypt , any journey he took- he did not leave her behind and go do “his own thing”. He made sure she felt included, loved, and appreciated.
Marriage is vitally important to the divorce courts.
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I like what he’s saying but I wished he’d explain more. For example, when he critiques the request for a “peaceful home” by suggesting one doesn’t have structure in the home. A few examples of what he deems to be structure would’ve been edifying at that moment.
This is a good talk about what men need to be. Can you please do a talk about what women need to be?
Amen to that
Why would he be saying about what women need to be, lol, you people are rediculous. he better say about men coz he's a man and he's wise. I've seen manny religious men talking about how women should be and they always recieve a backlash
@@zeehuss7275 Yeah narcissist group is always right and can't do no mistakes.
I would watch that for sure
Thanks for helping me find my husband ..Godly circle and wisdom 🙏❤❤
It is beyond logic and nature , but also explains the theory !
Always one dominant and a submissive.
This is not said in a harsh way. It just means we take our respective roles in a marriage.
Submissive doesn't mean a pushover and dominant doesn't mean overbearingly so.
As a woman listening to all my friends the majority of our problems in the relationship is men just want sex never intimacy like cuddling and hand holding and men expect you to clean everything, cook everything, do all care of animals or children and still want you to provide some income. When you start feeling overwhelmed and treated like a maid you just figure out it’s better to be alone.
Even if you provide major income in household you need to help with chores at home. You would have to without your partner there and still would be working. It’s ok to help with one load of dishes and take the trash out.
I'm a woman in my twenties and... yes, 100% this is how my friends and I also experience men. And when you bring it up with men, they all say 'well you just pick bad ones,' but then when you decide 'ok, I will only be with a man who treats me well,' you're told your standards are too high / you don't deserve that / men like that don't exist... So what is the point?
Feels pretty hopeless at this point. What even is the point of a man? If you are an educated woman with friends and a meaningful, decently paid work and a rich inner life... what is the point, can someone tell me?
@MeandmySara pray to God and seek God first,he will provide you a husband that's if your ready in gods timing
@@PsalmNinety1 I feel like you didn't read what I wrote, because your reply was quite irrelevant to it. Not that it's any of your business but I do pray regularly. Your advice was unsolicited and unhelpful.
@MeandmySara I know women who went celibate for 5 years and God blessed them with a husband so im just speaking from experience, hopefully that helps but sorry 😞 just tryna give some wisdom 🙏
@@PsalmNinety1 Where it wasn't asked. And I am celibate. Again, not that it's any of your business.
I have always found great joy and pleasure in giving and people took advantage of me and used me for kindness until there was nothing more to get.
I wish you all the best. May G-d help you. I mean I could try and idk what country you’re in? right now I have own issues to resolve. I just wanna send love to people who might need it ❤
I’m not Jewish but the Rabbi is cooking!
Thank you so much for sharing. It feels like the phone company knew just what I needed at the right time. I just really needed to hear this so bad because I feel like there's nobody out there for me and I want to give up on a whole relationships right now at this point
This is clarifying and true in so many ways
She joins you in your life. Amen ❤
you make good points to think on but I wonder about a woman with everything(job, house etc)- what’s your opinion about what she would need from a man? bc in my opinion it’s companionship so I think it fits your point, just differently
Emotional support: "How was your day?"
Just because you have one house does not mean you don’t need a second one that you share with your husband 🙌🏼 You just make money out of yours by renting it out, quit your job and dedicate your time to stay healthy and sane for your family, be the best wife and mother you can be, with no job stress 🎉😊
Lmao! That's just dumb@@margarettabone9713
Husband and wives are equal in value, in partnership, but not in function. Each function is equal in value but different (I say men and women are like a salt and pepper shaker set). Equality does not mean sameness. By the way, speaking as a woman, women definitely need respect too. We need our partners to say they admire us. Anyway, good video and great points! I do like how the Rabbi doesn't put down men or women or put all the blame on women like many videos.
She doesnt need me, and this really has led to a lot of pain.
Well do you help her with ehat is needed? Clean the housez cook a meal, change the bed. She does very much need you....but I am.sure you expect her to do everything. In that case, how can she need you....if you don't help with the real needs??
*Priceless* wisdom. Perfect antidote to post-modernism.
Lots of wisdom here 🙌
Good Lord. This is absolute gold.
He is absolutely right. It is very frustrating to be with a man who is insecure
Insecurities arise from infidelity 😊
You can call aan insecure if you're doing everything you can to sabotage his authority and beat him down.
@@Tiranga1947 Or feeling inadequate
If you find the man insecure, don't get married to them.
@@smokingcrab2290you cannot blame a woman for that. It’s your job as a person to secure yourself. You’re not a child your self esteem should not be so easily shaken by a wife. That’s an excuse.
Where are all these elders when we need them. I felt so lost as a young woman. All the silly media, movies, music and books did nothing for me in the department of romance and relationships. Just got used and never got the love or nurturing I wanted.
Rabbi is dropping some Red Pill truths
"it's not saying women are weak, you have to be their boss, it's saying the woman will accept you if you can be the boss. If not, she doesn't need you."
Women regard men as human doings, not human beings. It's that simple.
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Translate: women want men to be masculine, strong, and possess leadership qualities.
Yet the women are always fighting for dominance and redefining what masculine is. They're judge, jury, and executioner and they move the goalpost constantly
Interesting idea, no one have ever mentioned this, no one! No one I ever came across at least online. By this standard it is basically like newton's laws of motion lol, it is so true and powerful formula to see how manly a man is and how feminine the women is. That explains why male teachers vs female teachers are very different in how they feel rewarded female teachers prefer their students to love them over educating them while male teachere are more likely to feel more rewarded once they see thier students achieve in life even if it means not having a close relationship. I heard something similar from a Christian educator in the past.
The story about the couple that came to marriage counseling made me😂😂😂😂😂 and it is so common today
I just told my wife a similar metaphor like what your explanation is and I love it because I found this video right after
As the Rabi says, women don't know what they want until it shows up, if it ever does.
Never try to ask a woman what she wants as she does not know it.
It does not matter how long she talks about it.
THEY DON'T KNOW.
They expect you to know and they get dissapointed and despice you if you don't.
It is the magical thinking that almost every young woman does.
If you fail to provide an experience that is not magical, they'll reject you.
This is due to the wsy little girls are brought up in the West, with a parent that GIVES them everything and asks for nothing.
They grow up thinking they deserve everything and when the tree grows bent, you cannot straighten it without breaking.
In my opinion, Rabbi forgets this element in the equation: EDUCATION.
Spoken like a true misogynist. "She doesn't know what she needs, I don't care what she says she needs, I always know better, I don't need to listen to her at all". Been used for centuries to abuse and control women. And this idea that every western woman's life is just a picnic is nonsense, but of course you believe this.
As a Christian, thank you for sharing your insight!
Major problem with this theory is that once she doesn’t need you, she’s going to discard you.
Not necessarily true. Anyone can potentially discard anyone for any other reason. If she has an ounce of a heart she will remember the man who loved her and was there for her when she had those needs. If she has an once of wisdom she will recognise that he helped to get her to where she is. If she is a selfish fool she will discard him when she has her needs met.
facts. dont be too rich either, shell be gone tomorrow.
@@FarTooPreciousthat's not how women think. For them it's: "what have you done for me lately?". With lately being today. Women don't generally exhibit reciprocity, certainly they don't accumulate it over time.
@@losfromla1480.lol. are you talking about men? Because that is what men do. They don't satisfy any of the woman's needs....yet they want all their needa satisfied! You have neen brainwashed. And before yoi start....oaying some billd is not satisfying a woman's needs!
Bingo... she will take her cash and prizes with no repercussions. Wake up gents...the game is rigged against you.
This is very wholesome and refreshing.
Receiving and giving are the flip side of the same coin. To say a man only gives, misses the point completely.
What I wanted to comment. I noticed how I cook just to make hime happy and as a thank you. I truly appreciate his leadership.
Thank you Rabbi for your teaching. Best advice a man can get. Thanks
Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤
Awesome! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
תודה רבי
ineedarabbi--watching this today in this generation! Simply put "Profound"
Shabbat Shalom ❤
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thanks for your statments. you touches the major point of modern world crisis