"Consideration over honesty!" I knew in my heart not to complain that he didn't follow the recipe like I asked. Just his desire & enthusiasm to cook for me is the blessing I would lose by opening my big mouth, no pun intended. Thank you for confirming the best way to respect & honor my husband ❤
I've been with my Husband for 25 years and I glad these elements are already practiced. I feel love, respected, & cherished by my Husband and he feels the same from me
This is amazing advice for a HEALTHY relationship where two people love and respect each other and both give. Clearly this advice is not for unhealthy relationships (eg with a narcissist, or emotional or physical abuse) which require professional help and or divorce. No one should stay in an abusive relationship. Ever. That’s why Judaism allows divorce.
I agree with your assessment. As a healthy woman, I did this for my ex-husband, even before seeing this video. I'm happy to learn that this was the right thing! I will keep doing this with my next relationship when that is time. I am so happy that this rabbi reminds us that every marriage was planned in heaven. I do not feel so bad for having received the bad news of a divorce from my husband. This allows me to love myself, past, present and future.
@@esthermichallevi3186 I’ve worked SO hard and did this for years. Then I realized my relationship was abusive when he started getting physically aggressive. Then I started seeing that there was a LOT of emotional abuse. He is a diagnosed narcissist, but I am trying hard to be patient. He realizes it and is working on himself. I have no idea if what he is doing is enough. I know I can only last a little longer. My mental health is strained. But we have been together for 25 years so I’m not letting go without doing as much as I can take! Patience and supporting him.
The only thing is being carefull not to get in a tie with this: I will show you respect when you do, I will say sorry when you do, etc.. the suggestion is you START, dont wait in your life for other to give you the opportunity to behave as you know you should. Hopefully others will follow suit, but you do what you gotta do!
I think that it used to be true that men were trying to serve and contribute .. but today men are not always trying to serve … they are very happy sitting and playing video games … neither helping nor serving bc on video games they help their buddies So no need to help their family they already have fix from video games Women are being abandoned in their own homes like crazy for all the manly pumps online She can’t compete with that !
I'd rather my husband be at home playing video games than out at a bar or anywhere out with friends honestly. I don't mind he plays video games. In fact, mine loves to tell me all about his gaming and he wants me as involved as possible. He also works hard and gives me everything I could want.
@beanallene true, but over time, even a narcissist will start to treat you better. I know because I'm married to one, and the rollercoaster ride can be exhausting. We're all G-d's children, and some of us need more patience, kindness, and long-suffering from those of us who G-d has endowed with greater than normal capacities in those areas.
Instead of focusing on someone being a narcissist (did you diagnose them) try this out and see. If it doesn't work you don't lose anything. If it does you gain a better relationship.
I am so sorry you are married to a narcissist. Narcissism is a serious and damaging mental illness. Specially in communities (Jewish communities) this should be observed and studied as all mental illness. To be married with a mental ill person is a complete different situation and generally the “typical” behaviors tactics don’t work. The worst part is that the other spouse generally keep silent and suffering… Ignorance in that case isn’t a bliss.
It is hard to respect a man that doesn't respect back. I remember clearly the disgust I got for my husband when he started flirting with other women. He disrespected me and I couldn't care less of his day, greet him or respect him. Respect is earned and kept. No man is entitled to that if tehy don't behave in a matter worthy of respect!
@@amjz77 I did for sure! He got involved with a girl in work righ away, and that was the end of it all. And that was 10 years ago....but he brought the disrespect to our home! All this "respect your man" generalization don't help anyone.
@@amjz77 I don't think I still carry hurt about that, it was a long journey for sure!! But that is why I point out these useless generalizations like " give him respect" without mentioning the real and mandatory part "if he is worthy of respect!" I hope young girls get that part. But thank you for your well wishes and real concern!
@@em7937 I am making an assumption here, but I’m pretty sure the Rabbi is giving this advice within the boundaries of a fairly healthy relationship. No one could give any relationship advice if they had to consider all unhealthy situations. This is great advice to those who are looking to improve their marriage. I don’t think it’s intended to be used to fix a broken marriage.
I did this for my husband for many years. But my husband never learned the things that I really need to thrive. He ONLY Wanted to do the things that were easy and natural to him. Do you suggest praising everything they do and then telling them the things that are exceptionally meaningful to me? Or just accept what he does and try to be okay with feeling empty or lonely or whatever it is that is the result of not getting your needs met that are high value to you as the woman?
Absolutely let him know the things that really matter to you. Otherwise you’ll eventually want to leave the relationship. And he will wonder why with all his trying he couldn’t actually please you.
@@baodongbaotao5060 I absolutely did it with nothing but sincerity. So he was recently diagnosed with severe narcissistic personality disorder. He is working towards becoming healthier. I don’t know if it will help or not. He also is looking into some bi-polar issues now and has pretty chronic ADHD. I love him and am trying to be patient but I’m not sure how much longer I can hold out with such emptiness.
Very true and wise counsel,. Might I suggest the husband should also be following ans adhering to these 2 tips? It is a two-way process of showing gratitude, respect, and admiration. For a woman, appreciation is very important. By including admiration of a wife, I'm saying, compliment her in front of others, and husband should NEVER talk positively or glowingly about former girlfriends or a former spouse either privately with your wife, or to others whether privately or when your wife is present. Wives would be wise to not do that either.
I wonder how the world would be if we treated everyone like this. Glad that we/they are there, blessed to know them and get to be known by them, even when stumbles happen, and find peace over a good meal ^.^ Thanks for sharing, speaking, and acting
I always feel like I could spend many hours and days talking with you. Perhaps someday, we will run into each other. Thanks for the video, and may God's blessings be upon you.
Yes, yes, yes, you nailed it. Showing gratitude makes all of the difference. Whatever you show gratitude FOR, attracts more of it. And so it applies to a marriage. Whatever we want more OF, we must show gratitude for. When I am at work, I don’t need to love my job to enjoy doing my job. The more enthusiasm with which I do my job, improves the quality of my work, and improves the success of the business, and, if not improving my income, it improves my ability to provide for the one(s) that I love. I don’t know if this makes sense or not, but it’s not an oxymoron OR reverse psychology.
Holy blossom temple beautiful temple in Ontario Canada a Cambridge scholar have me special shoes for entry to the temple. Fond memories and a pleasant experience human being remember experiences and sometimes the wings just have to fly us to other landscapers. In another world for a better Life thank you
There is a lot if truth in your advice. Especially starting out. However i would say its not this simple some of the time. Theres mental illness to consider. Sometimes you cant fake a good mood. Theres also years of problems that add up and make an emotionally unsafe environment when everyone is on edge. Its hard to go back to basics when the foundation is broken. Both have to be invested for that to work. Also if i did these things religiously at some point i will and have fallen into bitterness when needs are not reciprocated.
Some of us come together broken hearted and we attach our broken hearts and they fit and you become whole under God's hand. As you yield to His Will in obedience to Torah you become who God actually created you to be. The Master purifies you as by fire! In the kiln. Or you may still be on the wheel spinning. The selfish evil inclination of our flesh who will you yield to today? Deuteronomy 28! Every day, every minute, choose L'Chaim not death, choose the blessed life not the cursed life. Choose love, choose Yeshua's example.
I think so many of us want to do this but some of us are unable to take care of ourselves because we don't have support and we have a lot of children. We are waiting on our husband to come home so that we can take a shower. The way that I compromised is that I greet him nicely, but then he takes shorter showers then me... so I'll get in the shower with him, and he takes over with the children for my remaining shower. It's been helpful. Thanks for reminding me and encouraging me.
Rabbi, What about when the tables are turned? I (the wife) am the one who works, and he stays home. All of the things you mention, I do not receive--e.g., the dogs greet me, but he generally does not. If there is any dinner, it is eaten in front of the t.v. or separately. Admiration? Rarely received on my part.
You know damn well they out these rules for women to keep men served and happy. A woman is supposed to just accept being miserable and not have standards!
1.Move apart or atleast start saving some money separately. Will help you later. 2. Find another relation wether serious or casual....women need fun too.
I LOVE THIS I APPRECIATE MYSELF FOR TRYING WHEN IT WASN'T RETURNED..AS WOMEN I KNOW MY WORTH AND WHEN IT'S NOT GIVE BACK IN RETURN...ITS SAD..SO PLEASE AS MAN AND WOMEN WE MUST BE WILLING TO TRY OUT OF RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER AND IF THE RESPECT NOT THERE U WILL DEFINITELY KNOW NOT TO WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE WITH SOMEONE NOT WILLING ENOUGH. THANK U SIR FOR ENLIGHTENMENT. A.J
there is no stone i have not left unturned. bent over backwards from day 1. i get nothing back. nothing. i am broken and jaded now. nothing has worked.
Thank you for this it's given me some ideas to improve communication with my husband. It is hard because I'm his carer, sometimes showing appreciation is hard in challenging situations, I do try tho. Sometimes he has it in his head that I need more food, he often gives me heaps of mash, I thank him but say I'll save some for later. I appreciate his efforts but maybe Sometimes I come across as stand offish. I'm going to try to be more appreciative and praise him more, I know he does things to help me.
Ugh after 11 years of marriage 2 kids a full time job transition from house wife to working mother im in a rough spot in my marriage my husband feels like i no longer find him attractive or care for him which is not true but its so hard to juggle multiple important things job house kids husband relationship ect but i know without my husband and marriage none of it matters so i need to move my focus on him
Thank you Rabbi. How about husbands who are never appreciative, no gratitude and just discharge ones energy?! I used to dress up, make up amsnump towards him, he killed it. I set a beautiful table, the first bite, start with all negative comments. Solution!?
What if my husband gives me things I don’t like or want. Like chocolate covered strawberries when I don’t like them? And he pays a lot of money for it and I’m expected to eat it and I don’t like it. What if the stuff I want and ask for is replaced with what he thinks is better? Like I ask to get new pillows and he gets me a dress and I’m a homebody and don’t go anywhere anyway? Wouldn’t accepting all gifts be a waste of time? It’s been 4 years and I’ve said repeatedly I don’t want that-I want this. And I still get that. At this point it seems like I should date myself instead and he can buy gifts for his mom or something because it’s discouraging to me to accept a bunch of crap I don’t want. I would willingly accept a bunch of crap if what I actually wanted was also on the list of gift but it NEVER is.
I think it’s like they think if you ask for something you’re just trying to be practical and not asking for what you really want or they want to give you something “better” than you would think of on your own. Honestly I have no idea. Mine keeps buying me jewelry that he thinks would look nice on me even though I just want to wear my old fake pearl necklace but for some reason he doesn’t think that’s “good enough.” I wear what he gives me because it makes him happy, and I’m happy he wants to give me nice things, but yeah it’s kinda Why not wear the dresses around the house? I would, but i just hate wearing pants, anyway.
What about a unhealthy man I have given and given to the marriage in many different ways but get no response from him I'm tired of giving its draining me physically and emotionally I can't do it anymore
"Consideration over honesty!" I knew in my heart not to complain that he didn't follow the recipe like I asked. Just his desire & enthusiasm to cook for me is the blessing I would lose by opening my big mouth, no pun intended. Thank you for confirming the best way to respect & honor my husband ❤
1 accept and receive 2 greet him coming home 3 show admiration
Thank you!
Like your dog does?
@@garyfrancis6193😂
@garyfrancis6193 you do love your dog,dont you?
@@garyfrancis6193man’s best friend for a reason
I agree with respecting your partner but respect should be reciprocated by both parties
We can only control our own actions. Sometimes when you act polite and friendly, then the other person will slowly come out of their shell.
@@shells1889 Well, in Christian scriptures, there's love one another. I don't about the Old Testament.
Absolutely correct. Some husbands don’t even reciprocate for all that’s done for them.
EXACTLY 💯 What I was going to say. 😢@danielakolundzija50
@danielakolundzija50 they don't even have to be narcissists, just selfish and lazy.
I'm glad Manis Friedman acknowledges the effort ladies put in.
I've been with my Husband for 25 years and I glad these elements are already practiced. I feel love, respected, & cherished by my Husband and he feels the same from me
@@Janelegant I want this so much for myself and my children. I’m my mind that is my life. But my reality isn’t that way at all. 😭
@@LadyElina1 I'm so sorry that is your experience
This is amazing advice for a HEALTHY relationship where two people love and respect each other and both give. Clearly this advice is not for unhealthy relationships (eg with a narcissist, or emotional or physical abuse) which require professional help and or divorce. No one should stay in an abusive relationship. Ever. That’s why Judaism allows divorce.
I agree with your assessment. As a healthy woman, I did this for my ex-husband, even before seeing this video. I'm happy to learn that this was the right thing! I will keep doing this with my next relationship when that is time. I am so happy that this rabbi reminds us that every marriage was planned in heaven. I do not feel so bad for having received the bad news of a divorce from my husband. This allows me to love myself, past, present and future.
@@esthermichallevi3186 I’ve worked SO hard and did this for years. Then I realized my relationship was abusive when he started getting physically aggressive. Then I started seeing that there was a LOT of emotional abuse.
He is a diagnosed narcissist, but I am trying hard to be patient. He realizes it and is working on himself. I have no idea if what he is doing is enough. I know I can only last a little longer. My mental health is strained. But we have been together for 25 years so I’m not letting go without doing as much as I can take! Patience and supporting him.
Boy are you deludef
The only thing is being carefull not to get in a tie with this: I will show you respect when you do, I will say sorry when you do, etc.. the suggestion is you START, dont wait in your life for other to give you the opportunity to behave as you know you should. Hopefully others will follow suit, but you do what you gotta do!
I think that it used to be true that men were trying to serve and contribute .. but today men are not always trying to serve … they are very happy sitting and playing video games … neither helping nor serving bc on video games they help their buddies So no need to help their family they already have fix from video games Women are being abandoned in their own homes like crazy for all the manly pumps online She can’t compete with that !
I'd rather my husband be at home playing video games than out at a bar or anywhere out with friends honestly. I don't mind he plays video games. In fact, mine loves to tell me all about his gaming and he wants me as involved as possible. He also works hard and gives me everything I could want.
I'd rather my husband play video games than be addicted to P0rn.
Great point you can’t continue to thrive in that relationship and do all the leg work
This doesn't work for a narcissist. They expect you to beyond grateful over the smallest things. And when you're not, it's off with your head.
@beanallene true, but over time, even a narcissist will start to treat you better. I know because I'm married to one, and the rollercoaster ride can be exhausting. We're all G-d's children, and some of us need more patience, kindness, and long-suffering from those of us who G-d has endowed with greater than normal capacities in those areas.
@@raa3036good luck and take care of yourself.
Instead of focusing on someone being a narcissist (did you diagnose them) try this out and see. If it doesn't work you don't lose anything. If it does you gain a better relationship.
I am so sorry you are married to a narcissist. Narcissism is a serious and damaging mental illness. Specially in communities (Jewish communities) this should be observed and studied as all mental illness. To be married with a mental ill person is a complete different situation and generally the “typical” behaviors tactics don’t work.
The worst part is that the other spouse generally keep silent and suffering…
Ignorance in that case isn’t a bliss.
@@raa3036 narcissists NEVER GIVE!
It is hard to respect a man that doesn't respect back. I remember clearly the disgust I got for my husband when he started flirting with other women. He disrespected me and I couldn't care less of his day, greet him or respect him. Respect is earned and kept. No man is entitled to that if tehy don't behave in a matter worthy of respect!
Then get a divorce and move on!
@@amjz77 I did for sure! He got involved with a girl in work righ away, and that was the end of it all. And that was 10 years ago....but he brought the disrespect to our home! All this "respect your man" generalization don't help anyone.
@@em7937 I pray you are able to get true healing from the hurt that you still carry. You deserve to be free
@@amjz77 I don't think I still carry hurt about that, it was a long journey for sure!! But that is why I point out these useless generalizations like " give him respect" without mentioning the real and mandatory part "if he is worthy of respect!" I hope young girls get that part. But thank you for your well wishes and real concern!
@@em7937 I am making an assumption here, but I’m pretty sure the Rabbi is giving this advice within the boundaries of a fairly healthy relationship. No one could give any relationship advice if they had to consider all unhealthy situations. This is great advice to those who are looking to improve their marriage. I don’t think it’s intended to be used to fix a broken marriage.
A great gift of wisdom for my 65th birthday & 34 years of marriage
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Thank you, Rabbi, I'll take your advice and wisdom to heart. It's greatly appreciated.
I love his sound advice. A good reminder for me
I did this for my husband for many years. But my husband never learned the things that I really need to thrive. He ONLY Wanted to do the things that were easy and natural to him.
Do you suggest praising everything they do and then telling them the things that are exceptionally meaningful to me? Or just accept what he does and try to be okay with feeling empty or lonely or whatever it is that is the result of not getting your needs met that are high value to you as the woman?
Absolutely let him know the things that really matter to you. Otherwise you’ll eventually want to leave the relationship. And he will wonder why with all his trying he couldn’t actually please you.
you do it with sincerity and you will see the miracles
@@baodongbaotao5060 I absolutely did it with nothing but sincerity. So he was recently diagnosed with severe narcissistic personality disorder. He is working towards becoming healthier. I don’t know if it will help or not. He also is looking into some bi-polar issues now and has pretty chronic ADHD.
I love him and am trying to be patient but I’m not sure how much longer I can hold out with such emptiness.
@@baodongbaotao5060 are you implying she didn't? Many of us try to no avail. 😔
1 accept and receive; 2. respect the relationship; 3. show admiration.
Thankyou Rabbi..Im a Hindu and I truely believe in what you said .I appreciate your advice.🙏
That's a big one 😻 you always have to address him 💕❤️💜 when he comes home 🏡🏡
Very true and wise counsel,. Might I suggest the husband should also be following ans adhering to these 2 tips? It is a two-way process of showing gratitude, respect, and admiration. For a woman, appreciation is very important. By including admiration of a wife, I'm saying, compliment her in front of others, and husband should NEVER talk positively or glowingly about former girlfriends or a former spouse either privately with your wife, or to others whether privately or when your wife is present. Wives would be wise to not do that either.
He just recently posted a video for men too
@@ArtingFromScratchMen don’t watch any self improvement 😅stuff
@@BrooklynBaby100im sorry that your life experiences have caused you to think this
Elkview, West Virginia here. Sending peace and light!
Incredible advice for everyone!
Thank You Rabbi, I love ❤️ your advices. You’re one of the sages of this time, HaShem bless you .
“ Advice” has no plural. Don’t you know about countable and uncountable nouns?
I wonder how the world would be if we treated everyone like this. Glad that we/they are there, blessed to know them and get to be known by them, even when stumbles happen, and find peace over a good meal ^.^
Thanks for sharing, speaking, and acting
Thank you Rabbi Friedman and Team!! A Great day for you and everyone here!!💪✡️🙏❤️🔥🎶
Thank you Rabbi Manis Friedman.
Some of us are married to malignant narcissists, and nothing ever makes them happy.😮
😢 I’m sorry
I always feel like I could spend many hours and days talking with you. Perhaps someday, we will run into each other. Thanks for the video, and may God's blessings be upon you.
Yes, yes, yes, you nailed it. Showing gratitude makes all of the difference. Whatever you show gratitude FOR, attracts more of it. And so it applies to a marriage. Whatever we want more OF, we must show gratitude for. When I am at work, I don’t need to love my job to enjoy doing my job. The more enthusiasm with which I do my job, improves the quality of my work, and improves the success of the business, and, if not improving my income, it improves my ability to provide for the one(s) that I love. I don’t know if this makes sense or not, but it’s not an oxymoron OR reverse psychology.
Thank you for this.. Well noted.. After been married 4 times.. I can learn from this. Amen Hallelujah
😂😂lol
This is some really great advice. Thanks Rabbi for all the valuable tips and information. God bless!
Thanks, Rav!
Thank you, Rabbi! Golden nuggets of truth!
This extends to how we interact with others outside the family, too.
Wow insightful teaching
Everything is a reality! Beautiful teaching ❤.
Sooooo good. Sooooo true. Sir, I admire the warmth and wisdom.
As a woman. I feel the same. This is very enlightening, thank you
Thank you Rabbi Friedman.
This rabbi gives great advise.
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands is a sassy, yet paradigm shifting book. Highly recommend it.
Thank you ❤
Thank you so much, Rabbi and family. 🕊
Sometimes consideration is better than honesty 💯
I wish I had heard this 20 years ago.
Thank you for sharing this knowledge with us 🙏
Greatful for this info .. keep up the great Job.. Experience is the greatest teacher .. continue your teaching .. listening from Trinidaf 🇹🇹
Thank you so much 😢
Thanks a lot❣️🕊 ✨️
pray and praying for your health rabbi
His kindness and patience.
It appears that im not the only man that couldn't resist to click 😂
Big thank you for the knowledge!!!
Make sure you watch the video for mens😅😅
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Yes, we should, and I do thank my husband for everything. I think that whoever gets home should greet first. Well that is what my grandma taugh me❤
Thank you, Rabbi Freidman, for another incredible message ❤
Baruch Hashem!❤
Thank you! Amazing advice ! 🙏🏼💕 Shalom Rabbi !
Fantastic. My favorite is mealtime being sacred. I'm going to work on these 🙂
Thanks for the tip,there must be something definitely 🎉
Watching from India 🇮🇳
Holy blossom temple beautiful temple in Ontario Canada a Cambridge scholar have me special shoes for entry to the temple.
Fond memories and a pleasant experience human being remember experiences and sometimes the wings just have to fly us to other landscapers.
In another world for a better Life thank you
Thank you!
Good tips! Thanks!
Thank you you are blessing to World
There is a lot if truth in your advice. Especially starting out. However i would say its not this simple some of the time. Theres mental illness to consider. Sometimes you cant fake a good mood. Theres also years of problems that add up and make an emotionally unsafe environment when everyone is on edge. Its hard to go back to basics when the foundation is broken. Both have to be invested for that to work. Also if i did these things religiously at some point i will and have fallen into bitterness when needs are not reciprocated.
🌻Thank you!
♥️Rabbi thank you♥️for this WONDERFUL♥️advice♥️my ♥️prayers♥️ Blessings ♥️for the Jewish♥️
Thank you IGTK team.
Some of us come together broken hearted and we attach our broken hearts and they fit and you become whole under God's hand. As you yield to His Will in obedience to Torah you become who God actually created you to be. The Master purifies you as by fire! In the kiln. Or you may still be on the wheel spinning.
The selfish evil inclination of our flesh who will you yield to today? Deuteronomy 28!
Every day, every minute, choose L'Chaim not death, choose the blessed life not the cursed life.
Choose love, choose Yeshua's example.
Simply thank you
I think so many of us want to do this but some of us are unable to take care of ourselves because we don't have support and we have a lot of children. We are waiting on our husband to come home so that we can take a shower. The way that I compromised is that I greet him nicely, but then he takes shorter showers then me... so I'll get in the shower with him, and he takes over with the children for my remaining shower.
It's been helpful.
Thanks for reminding me and encouraging me.
Thank you very much Rabbi.❤
Great advice
What if a husband shows ego if he is valued and values you only if he is not shown love? That puzzles me… please elaborate. Thank you
Excellent excellent video. Thank you for your advice.
Thank you
Of course you know most of us listened to both.
❤Thank you for this beautiful message ❤
Such good advice
Rabbi, What about when the tables are turned? I (the wife) am the one who works, and he stays home. All of the things you mention, I do not receive--e.g., the dogs greet me, but he generally does not. If there is any dinner, it is eaten in front of the t.v. or separately. Admiration? Rarely received on my part.
You know damn well they out these rules for women to keep men served and happy. A woman is supposed to just accept being miserable and not have standards!
1.Move apart or atleast start saving some money separately. Will help you later.
2. Find another relation wether serious or casual....women need fun too.
Me too.
You are in a no win situation with a man who doesn't work. They have no self respect and no structure in their lives.
Some time the men should be here how to be loving and caring for his wife before others.
Thank you for your replay.
My husband didn't appreciate anything I did for him, that is why he is now my ex 😂
As a muslim, i appreciate this advice ❤
Am a catholic this a great advice
❤❤ powerful words of wisdom. Thanks
Thank you Rabbi
We appreciate you 🇳🇱
But he needs admiration!
Hoi
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I LOVE THIS I APPRECIATE MYSELF FOR TRYING WHEN IT WASN'T RETURNED..AS WOMEN I KNOW MY WORTH AND WHEN IT'S NOT GIVE BACK IN RETURN...ITS SAD..SO PLEASE AS MAN AND WOMEN WE MUST BE WILLING TO TRY OUT OF RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER AND IF THE RESPECT NOT THERE U WILL DEFINITELY KNOW NOT TO WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE WITH SOMEONE NOT WILLING ENOUGH. THANK U SIR FOR ENLIGHTENMENT. A.J
there is no stone i have not left unturned. bent over backwards from day 1. i get nothing back. nothing. i am broken and jaded now. nothing has worked.
Thank you for this it's given me some ideas to improve communication with my husband. It is hard because I'm his carer, sometimes showing appreciation is hard in challenging situations, I do try tho. Sometimes he has it in his head that I need more food, he often gives me heaps of mash, I thank him but say I'll save some for later. I appreciate his efforts but maybe Sometimes I come across as stand offish. I'm going to try to be more appreciative and praise him more, I know he does things to help me.
❤❤❤thank you😊
I remember my husband once saying you don’t need me. At the time I was wondering why is he saying this.
Ugh after 11 years of marriage 2 kids a full time job transition from house wife to working mother im in a rough spot in my marriage my husband feels like i no longer find him attractive or care for him which is not true but its so hard to juggle multiple important things job house kids husband relationship ect but i know without my husband and marriage none of it matters so i need to move my focus on him
I heard it ,I accepted it ,I receive
Great advice! Let me just send this to my wife 😅
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😳 omg , you supposed Not listen this, This IS Just for women.
@@marosu5834 ooops
Did you listen to the one for men? Think you might have missed a point or two.
@@613YY 😂
This holds true for men too they should respect the woman.
I say Hi David ❤ in my high voice
Thank you Rabbi. How about husbands who are never appreciative, no gratitude and just discharge ones energy?! I used to dress up, make up amsnump towards him, he killed it. I set a beautiful table, the first bite, start with all negative comments. Solution!?
What if my husband gives me things I don’t like or want. Like chocolate covered strawberries when I don’t like them? And he pays a lot of money for it and I’m expected to eat it and I don’t like it. What if the stuff I want and ask for is replaced with what he thinks is better? Like I ask to get new pillows and he gets me a dress and I’m a homebody and don’t go anywhere anyway? Wouldn’t accepting all gifts be a waste of time? It’s been 4 years and I’ve said repeatedly I don’t want that-I want this. And I still get that. At this point it seems like I should date myself instead and he can buy gifts for his mom or something because it’s discouraging to me to accept a bunch of crap I don’t want.
I would willingly accept a bunch of crap if what I actually wanted was also on the list of gift but it NEVER is.
I think it’s like they think if you ask for something you’re just trying to be practical and not asking for what you really want or they want to give you something “better” than you would think of on your own. Honestly I have no idea. Mine keeps buying me jewelry that he thinks would look nice on me even though I just want to wear my old fake pearl necklace but for some reason he doesn’t think that’s “good enough.” I wear what he gives me because it makes him happy, and I’m happy he wants to give me nice things, but yeah it’s kinda
Why not wear the dresses around the house? I would, but i just hate wearing pants, anyway.
All these three tips should apply not only to the wife!!!!
Abba help me & mine to be open to all GOOD from my husband ALWAYS.❤
Dit, im Keen to hear what tips you Give to men as well .,
very true!
"If you wanna hurt him, do it later" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
What about a unhealthy man I have given and given to the marriage in many different ways but get no response from him I'm tired of giving its draining me physically and emotionally I can't do it anymore
Thats not a marriage
So you leave
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