The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle
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- Опубликовано: 3 май 2024
- Whether this person is your friend, family member or romantic partner there are certain things that will happen in all relationships with a narcissist.
After learning this what I struggled with was telling the difference between a toxic person and a healthy person.
I realized that me working on myself was more important than learning everything about narcissism. Learning about narcissism was only going to do so much. The rest I had to do was work on myself.
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The more someone demands you be vulnerable with them, the more you should suspect they're going to use it against you once they find it.
Stephanie has freely enslaved strangers for years just because she calls them "narcissists."
You do not clearly understand yourself and your emotions
@@jamesmill325 What a bold ASSumption to make of a stranger.
“I’m done” those were the last words communicated to my ex bf almost two years ago. The pain was too great. So much authentic healing since then! I’m grateful to the Lord. Thank you Stephanie for another excellent video.
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It took me 4 months to leave the narc after I realized what was going on. I mentally knew I had to leave…the trauma bond kept me longer. I had to see what was going on and gradually become so disgusted by it that i could walk away and break free of the trauma bond.
You are in ignorance of the causes whereby things are determined to existence and actions.
I am guilty of the "fixing" and "saving" thing.
My way of "fixing" and "saving" people was to get them to think for themselves though, if I could see they had no psychological security.
I never realised until I started looking into all of this stuff, that I had to build these critical-thinking skills, specifically because of how often I had been gaslit and led down the garden-path when I was younger.
I didn't realise that I gravitated to people that needed help in this regard, and felt it was my responsibility to help them.
I essentially made myself into a martyr.
As much as I want to help, it's not and nor was it ever my job.
Not to save my siblings or my parents from each-other -- and not my friends and loved ones from the malicious people who would take advantage of them.
All it does it make me look as bad as them -- as videos like this don't often make the distinction between "saviour complex" from someone who has experienced their own traumas, and narcissistic saviours.
I was actually very happy and in a good place when I met my ex…didn’t care about hearing nice things…It was the great things in common that he used…
🙏God Bless Stephanie🙏
Amen ❤🙏🏼
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Excellent explanation ❤ The abuse can start slow and go on for years. As the Narc ages they need more control. I’m out after 19 years of marriage and the last 3 years of it was horrendous😊 I left to save myself and my children’s souls. The Narc is a shape shifter and a life thief. Stay strong survivors and to those still in, if your watching this video ~ It’s time to leave 🙏🏻✋
This is a thorough and helpful video. Thank you.
Great video as usual, makes me sad bc my wife is a narcissist and we separated about 3 years ago. Been married 15 years this month and she was my high school sweetheart but we went through some major trauma , 7 deaths in our family in a year and a half, like immediate family members. Well we did not take the trauma the same way and she came out narcissistic which broke my heart. I still cannot let her go just bc I love her so damn much, we have 2 awesome kids together etc.. I stay at my own home down the street and go over for movies and we are still intimate here and there but I know its not healthy. I am just praying she goes back to how she was for the 1st 10 years. IDK just needed to get that out, sorry for the novel.
Thank you Stephanie 💕yes I have learned to appreciate good people not toxic ones 🙏❤️
Each, literally each video that you make, make me wow! How precisely you can describe all emotions and abusing steps. Great work 🙌
My life literally
Praise God for all this great information, so true and we need to seek God to heal every area of our trauma , hurts from child hood to be able to heal. God can heal every area of our lives , if we surrender it to him. It's important to forgive ourselves and love ourselves to heal and start making wise decisions.
Yahuah rocks.............................................
God has nothing to do with this you yourself is all that is needed to heal God aint real 😅
Thank you for being here Stephanie you are a blessing❤
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I have a difficult relationship with some of my family members i have an older narcisist brother that has hijacked my mom that has become ill(dementia), he has taken her a long way from us, he wants us to go visit her and take care of her, i have my doubts of going cause he was very abusive when we were younger and he hasnt changed.
My ex "opened up" about things, had extreme reactions of zoning out, taking pills, suddenly not replying in the middle of the night then replying later than she went out walking through the city, went cold and distant suddenly. Didn't realize it was all manipulation until I looked back and became aware that all of that stuff suddenly stopped over night when she knew I wouldn't leave her. Then it became a lot of villainizing me and victimizing herself. Whenever I tried to communicate with her, she ignored everything I said and just fired angry messages at me, then went quiet, then started again.
Her dad is a narcissist and she has a lot of narcissistic traits. I was warned by my family, friends and therapists. I should've listened sooner.
Its intresting how many diagnostic clues there are on how they act in relationships!
I was getting to know someone after my long previous toxic/narcissistic relationship. It had only been 6 months, so I was definitely not healed , but thought maybe I was doing ok.
I did end up getting sucked in a little bit, but I at least saw some signs this time, and it ended after only 1-3 months.
She was definitely love bombing at first, and saying how great I am, giving small gifts/etc. But I noticed she was being very quiet as I talked about some things, or holding back.
Then as time started to go on a bit, she would say little things here and there, that were red flags for me. Or taking small jabs at me, which could be considered "teasing" in a nice way, but felt more like trying to get under my skin a bit. So like I said, I knew it was wrong/something was not right and pulled back/got away.
Being love bombed in the first 3 months is pretty scary. No one can live up to that kind of idealization.
@@Liz-wz8dh Yeah, I just knew something was not right. First time we got together, she gave me a meal she made, and other things. Then next time, giving other small gifts like I said, and liking every single instagram post i made/every story/etc.
We went through something similar, except I was too vulnerable and didn't heal enough to pay attention to red flags and ended up being discarded. Which in turn, left me more traumatized than the first discard.
Only after I started researching what the hell even happened, learning about attachment styles, about narcissism, about childhood trauma that result in us attracting such people etc.
I am happy you managed to figure it out soon enough the second time!
@@nickus51hi Nick, your words resonates so much with me. U were so spot on. I wish i was smarter this time around but then it took me almost 2 years to realise this is not right. I even got engaged with this narcissist person. Now i am going through therapy because of the trauma he caused me.
@@rh5273 I am deeply sorry you are going through such a traumatic experience. I myself went into therapy after the second discard and it honestly helped a lot. What helped me as well was reading 2 brilliant books, It's not you by dr. Ramani and Love life by Matthew Hussey. Reading them was the first time in a long time I felt truly seen, heard and understood outside of therapy sessions.
Remember, we did the best we could with what we knew at the time. In the end, we will resurface as better, improved versions of ourself.
In the summer almost two years ago I met a woman, just a few month after breakup from a long-term relationship... She came very fast into my life, giving over the top on compliments, and the sex reallyreally great. I felt like i had walked in the dessert dried out, and she poured a waterfall over me. She got alot of issues, and one severe case of daddyissue. An impossible relationship... She came back last spring, and went away again...
Now, i think I'll never meet a nice, stable woman, and if I do, they will never be as passionate like my last one...
These things can be dangerous, watch out.
Thank you for this video, Stephanie! I am working on my wholeness because I want to attract the best.
There is something wrong with all of us....
To huge varying degrees
Looking beautiful as usual 😮❤🎉
Life changing, thank you!
Great to hear!
Videos always drop at the Perfect time!❤
Thanks ❤
This was really really valuable information
I know exactly how this feels but not how to get out of it ...
Hi Annie, how's your day going with you?
I found my inner Tina a long time ago; she's called Clint Eastwood.
Oh, how many times have I had to say, "Must be the allergies."
I don't have allergies.
Omg thank u so much for this video. I really learned a whole lot.
Wow, this is an eye opener. Definitely will help dealing with future potential relationships. Thanks for this video.
Unfortunately, this is how a lot of people "win" at life.
I feel this is a Good video with helpful information
I’m getting more inspired!!
Going to find Love ❤️ for the First time in my 50’s….
Healing an my All my work has given me New eyes…
I’m Grateful for your willingness to share an continue to do your work an help!!!!
As always Stephanie you look gorgeous id love u to coach me ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really appreciate the videos and validation however after a while I'm beginning to wonder if demonising an ex as a narcissistic vampire is helpful long term. It seems that an ex is portrayed like they consciously and deliberately stalk victims (us), and once the life runs out of us - move on; when in fact is may be unconscious selfishness to the extreme (or unconscious narcissistic traits). Although I am sure some of us have been the recipient of deliberate malicious and manipulative behaviour (and that is horrible and I'm not minimising it one bit), I am also sure that a lot have not. The point? Not every ex is a narcissist, nor are they adult enough to communicate why the relationship isn't happening for them anymore. And yes, it's hard to accept being replaced - years on when we've been the adults all along.
My former wife and her NMom did so much of this CRAP to me. By the time I escaped the hell that marriage had become, more than 6 years ago, I was ready to commit suicide. The subject came up in a divorce hearing in which my former wife claimed I had 'abandoned' the marriage/family. My lawyer countered by explaining that I was ready to self harm because of hers and her mother's abusive behavior. She defended her NMom and deflected it back on me, blaming my earlier struggles with mental illness while I was a teenager and young adult in college. Awful what these people will use against you to justify their shit behavior.
The anger lingers doesn’t it! When the fog lifts you will feel like a new man.
FCUK" !!!! Your good, you nailed it x x x God Bless x x
Bonjour Stéphanie lyn
Then you come out and you’re like. Nope. Never. Again. Log out.
Thanks!
Love you so bad!
It is hard to imagine these [insert description] have been walking among us undetected for many hundreds of years. I think Jesus made reference to them as “cranks”.
You ses a don't have adeya?
Thank you so much for this Stephanie, Absolutely tremendous, I really appreciate your support and advice, You've helped me not to get involved with abusive guys and abusive relationships, I have a lot of respect for myself, I know my worth, I deserve so much better, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the most high God 🦄🕊🌹🌲🍄🐎🕆👽♱☘🦁🌈❤💗💙💜💛😃✌🌌⚖😘💚😊⚽