How I HEALED from Codependency | Stephanie Lyn 2024
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- Опубликовано: 19 апр 2024
- There were a lot of things that I didn’t even realize I was doing that was keeping my codependency going. Today I want to tell you guys what I did and still have to be mindful of when my codependency is taking over. Something I dont have to focus on so much anymore but others are still in the back of my mind.
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Found out I was co dependent after death of my wife years ago and just getting out of a friendship/relationship with a narc!! Yes, learning to be alone and doing things by myself, being independent. But God is helping mentally and spiritually get through it all!!
This woman is the truth! Just as real as it comes! Seriously
She basically saved my life back in 2018 🎉
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
How long were yall divorced?
i considered a bumper sticker” i’m not codependent… but what do you think “. thank you. your helping so many Stephanie
I love this!!! You totally should! I would buy one off of you
@@thelovelylife7451 hahaha !
That's actually pretty funny. Roll with it!
I was codependent on my ex. He was my very first relationship at 38. I was trying to fix and heal him which made mw anxious. So he left me because he said he didn't really fall in love with me. So now, I am loving myself more so I won't lose myself again.
oh my …. conflict avoider ? yes i did everything i could do over the last 70 years to avoid conflict.I still do but I’m getting better at it. And anger! Anytime I talk with an angry person, my first response is I must fix this. i must take there anger away and put them at ease and the extreme Anxiety that goes with it. You younger people learn this stuff now. Don’t wait till you’re 70 years old. And again thank you Stephanie you’ve helped me so very much 👍🏼
Thanks Steph you speak as though you’re talking my language. I get what you’re saying, it’s said in layman’s terms. Appreciate your channel ❤
Thank you so much Stephanie.... 90% of the stuff you said is who I am too... I am on the healing process, I am recognizing these characteristics and I hope I am slowly proceeding to a healthier me and teaching my daughter a healthier way of life too.. Sincerely thank you for sharing your experiences and journey...
OMGosh this was soo helpful!! I was the oldest of six so I started out caring for others, I went in to being a nurse, which I loved then married an extreme taker & now @ 70 I’m finding out that although I still really love helping others that I need to take care of me!! My thinking was that if I didn’t have a good reason to say no that I needed to say yes!! Grateful to these podcasts that give me help.
Your videos lately are everything I need. This is a cycle and exactly why I found you in the first place.
If I had a million dollars this video is where I would spend it. Thank you. You are helping more people than you know by sharing deep.
I'm a recovering codependent and everything you talked about applies to me. It is such a hard mindset to get out of when it was ingrained within you way back in childhood. Thanks, Stephanie!
I am is going to tell you Steph what I need to tell myself. You are sweet and authentic. Genuine. You have gifts. So thank yourself for the help you give and thank goodness you are setting boundaries and looking after yourself. This is from your codependency video
You are very brave! Thanks for sharing personal experiences, you are speaking the truth!
Wow, this is one of the most informative and helpful videos I've seen. I'm working to overcome codependency. I just freed myself from a narcissistic emotionally abusive marriage, and it is a struggle. Thank you so much for this video!
I used to apologise too much and too soon, and I struggled with guilt and shame since childhood as a result of being corrected and disciplined far more than other kids I knew. I dropped the need for over apologising quite a few years ago. The problem with over apologising is that it's so deep rooted in negative feelings about the self that sometimes when you really have done something wrong you might not reflect on it enough or be present, and can come across inauthentic when making your apology. I fixed that issue but still struggle with how I will naturally assume to be wrong and at fault. It's ironic that for someone who spent so much of his life being oblivious to himself and rarely took the time to check in with himself, self sooth or consider his own needs and wants, that I have always been unaware of myself unless of course I'm introspecting to find my own faults to atone for. So for any kind of affirmation or self compassion I was nowhere to be seen, but when fault finding I was the most introspective person out there.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you!
Yes,it's uncomfortable at times!!
this woman..."glows" with those cloths n colors. keep doing what your doing
Whenever my anxiety resurges, even just seeing one of these videos while scrolling and just being reminded that there are positive sources to improve myself helps to soothe my mood.
Oh my goodness! You are explaining my whole life story. 😮😢 The good thing is I have been working on myself for the past 9 months, and I'm starting to change in a lot of ways. 😊
You smiling in the end is everything ❤
I’m so happy I found your page
Ive been looking at myself for years, then i get triggered again and it hurts again, then i feel my heart getting ripped out again.
Correcting my behavior patterns, taking accountability, and responsibility for everything including my reaction to how i have been treated.
100%. Once you get past looking at the narc and looking inward=pain but emotional maturity. Steph ir beautiful inside out! Thanks for your work.
This was powerful & empowering. Ireally needed to hear this, ty so much 🙏 🌟
I always say sorry easily. I will comment on that.
Read “co dependent no more “ !!!!
Okay the beginning of the video have made me learn I have grown up. I no longer call people for validation
I'm not perfect but I know I don't do it like I used to
Thank you Stephanie. Your videos are of help. Take care
Just found out that I am codependent this past week. This video has helped so much and lets me know that I have some work to do. I love the "pause" and ask yourself what you are feeling and why are you feeling this way. This is something that I will have to put into practice on a regular basis.
Thank you so much!
Love your videos🌟Thank you for sharing with us your story! God bless you❤️Have a peaceful week 🕊️
Okay I have to finish listening to the rest of the video Stephanie this is good❤
Wow just amazing thank you
You rock!!🎉❤
Listening everyday this is me omg
Thank you!
Thank you ☺️
Thanks, Stephanie.
This video is an eye-opener! Thanks for the wisdom.
Thank you! This was helpful I’m going to relisten.
Thank u Stephanie. Your video helped me a lot. Thanks. I will write this down and take down good points.
This is very helpful! I've been working on self awareness, so this information is very beneficial for me. Thank you 🙏🏼😊❤
Would love to be coached by you , lovely heart , lovely lady, beautiful too . Who let ever mistreated you is a fool ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
OMG- THIS is so me. I grew up trying to ignore my problems and taking responsibility for my friends problems. Then this transfered over to boyfriends and marriages. I wasn't too concerned what people thought of me because I was really independent perhaps overly so. I was confident but I didn't really stop to think what do I really want can this person really be there or meet me In this.
I know how I am feeling. I just don't know what to do about it. I feel 25% of the time still stuck in survival mode. I have a good relationship now but sometimes misinterpret a text that seems similar to what my ex would say but this guy is totally different. When we are together it is easy and clear I just went down the rabbit hole for no reason. I feel like I am spending too much time thinking about the relationship and not enough about me and the other things going on in my life like my job or hobbies, goals, kids or friends ect
I would love to hear some tips on how to teach my children to re-parent themselves like you were saying about your son. ❤
So helpful, it’s a bit awkward how much in leaned in on advice as a tool to connect with others. Usually their advice is not helpful and it just makes others worry about me
Yes!! I always apologize for no reason literally
I like the pink and white outfit. Very soft and approachable imho. ❤🎉
I am co dependent though I have improved tremendously. I went from not knowing why am that way. Not knowing it has a name to knowing the name and improving from 0 to 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. Still a work in progress though.
Because I have gone through this, I am very sensitive to it and i try as much as i can to help others.
I'm that person that always says I'm sorry .
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I know this is a useful theory, mainly in unhealthy societies like ours, but in healthy societies taking care of others is natural and secure.
I heard it put best this way:
Real and healthy love and relationships - where people are caring and being responsible for others (family, kids, spouses, etc.) means sometimes and often putting others' needs before your own. But not INSTEAD of your own - like betraying your needs and wants by not taking care of oneself, living only for others, not clearly communicating others one's needs and wants, not asking and getting help when and as needed, etc.
Also there's a book called Real Love that describes healthy love and relationships really well where love isn't transactional and a performative, passive aggressive bid to hopefully get what one needs and wants IF they do someone another person wants.
Another thing is knowing what getting and protecting behaviors are (always trying to earn someone's very conditional "love") the difference between performative vs connective behaviors.
In other cultures, taking care of others can be just as easily taken advantage of, one sided, abused, and unhealthy. And when a female wife / mom is economically trapped in an abusive relationship it's absolutely not "healthy" and "secure'. Especially if the guy leaves or cheats (exposing the wife to the possibility of STDs, including AIDS. At the very least I hope women in those situations have access to free or affordable healthcare, birth control, and prophylactics - if the husbands let them use it.
Oh I get it, there's a other comment like this - this channel is being targeted by some sexist trolls or people using bots for trolling.
You represent people focused on not making things better for women like being better husbands and fathers, and not raising strong, independent, capable children so they can have better lives, relationships, and families than yours.
@@tinaperez7393 well said
@@tinaperez7393 it is very true
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