Are We Stuck With Our Insecurities Forever?
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- A recent Medium article has us talking about insecurities and whether they ever truly go away. From body type and education level to where you’re from and how you speak, we open up about our insecurities and reveal their current status.
How do you get over insecurities?
Go to therapy, people. Age doesn't fix anything if you're not actively working on yourself. Ignoring, repressing, acting like you don't care about something that was important to you only creates dysfunctional patterns of behavior that are harder to change later.
Love your self and inbrace them
Yes just like Adrienne said growing up is one part of involvement but it's hard to get over your insecurities course i tried okay guys i tried hart to but never goes off my mind. Maybe i need therapy for that
I’m still learning everyday, but for me it helps to just accept them, bc that’s who I am and also not comparing myself to others.
I’m still a work in progress I am 34 and went through a divorce so that has brought on other insecurities !!!!!’
Adrienne’s insecurity is more common than she thinks. And it’s on a global scale. I get it 🤷🏻♀️
Facts i can super relate to her, even as a black girl in canada
Maybe for English or commonwealth countries.
I used to feel the same way Adrienne felt around white folks too as I entered into the corporate workplace
@@erikjj235 francophone countries are worse when it comes to white worship lets be honesy
For sure
Only Adrienne was being vulnerable, deep and genuine in this conversation. Thanks Ade♥️♥️♥️
Right! She's awesome. Like we need to dig deeper into that topic!
Agreed! 👏🏽
I agree!
Believe me I grew up with nothing but white ppl and being friends with white women is nothing but problems. I understand when she said she only interacted with authority figures. I wish growing up all the way to high school there was more black and brown ppl. It really messes you up when you’re the minority of a majority
This 💯 made me think
Adrienne's insecurity is quite common I think a lot of us are just afraid to say it.
Adrienne I think you hit it on the spot for many of us Latinas/Hispanics. It’s a weird insecurity but it does exist
Yess
she looks so skinny- postmaster must not deliver to her building.
@@newtempphone-ash9507 What? She looks healthy. Stop it.
@@newtempphone-ash9507 I didn't understand what you are saying?
The ladies sometimes don’t answer the topic. They always go off topic. Only Adrienne mentioned her insecurities 😂😂.
Loni mentioned hers too which was growing up in the projects. Did we watch the same segment ???
Loni did
I wanna hear more of what Adrienne was talking about
Yes, I think she should take some social psychology courses and perhaps some history, postcolonial, and political science courses to learn about cross culture psychology, minorities in America, and multicultural psychology. I hope she reads some books.
Loni is looking better than ever! She is slayingggg
She looks gorgeous today
Yessss she has been looking amazing
It's all the love she's getting!
@@eccentricityxoxo5378
...and giving
Jeannie “I remember Loni talking about her elbows and how her elbows helped her thru life”
Loni: 🙆🏾♀️
😭😭😭😭😭😭
Haha
I definitely felt that awareness and insecurity due white people's presence . Even though I'm college educated, there's definitely been times where I felt I had to tone down my emotions, language, and behavior because I didn't want to be looked at as ghetto. But no longer. But that never really stopped me from having white friends though, but they were also my "equals"
Really appreciated Adrienne's vulnerability here. Everyone else was pretending to be above insecurities, especially Jeannie trying to play therapist and I wish they had related and shared a bit more.
Agree 110%
Right lmaoo on the jeanie part I was just about to say that she trying to play the therapist now😊🥴
I wish the other hosts were more open like Adrienne. I understand that Jeannie can push past her insecurities, but she still has them.
She may not
@@greatgull6931 Everyone does.
She basically changed her whole look since she has started datign a black man. Ass work and everything.
@@valeriewilliams5078 Stop spreading lies. Jeannie started working out and gained some weight, which is exactly what she wanted.
@@gaila.9852 She wanted it when she got with a black man. Ass shots and everything. She is insecure because she is trying hard to fit the world she knows most black men love.
"The projects don't define me. I'm actually defining the projects." What a profound, impactful, philosophical statement that was Loni. Can't say enough 👏👏👏👏
It let's people like me, who is from the projects, to redefine myself ❤❤❤
Right loni was preaching here I was like ok get it loni😊😊👏👏😅👍👍
Adrienne really brought up a good topic here and I'd love to hear how much deeper her thoughts go because insecurities like that are SO valid and I don't know if I hear people talk about this all that much.
I know exactly what Adrienne is talking about I wish the other girls wouldn’t interrupt Her
They tryna stop her from getting fired.
Nobody was really interupting her but Jeannie🥴 but you know Adrienne she seems to be louder than everyone else there😅 well except for loni well..... here she wasn't tho😊🥴 love her tho❤
It may not be the insecurities that lasts, it’s the trauma.
Amen!!!!! This comment needs to be highlighted.
Well said.
yessssssss! spot on!
I think Loni has been looking her best since quarantine, the head wraps and braids really suit her❤️❤️😍💯
Lmaoo😅😅👍👍 Right😄
Jeanie was so annoying this segment did she smoke before hand.
Yeah she definitely dismissed Adrienne and the entire age aspect. Because Garcelle is older than all the women in the panel and doesn’t throw her age in everything.
I feel you. Jeanie tends to go on and on and on and on .....🙄
@@lilian7864 she a Capricorn. We long winded af when we are passionate abt something lol.
@@babygirl4949 lmaooo 😂😂😂😂
Lmfaoo
Damn, Adrienne got real af. I use to feel the same way because my school and neighborhood only had black and hispanic kids. I can't imagine how it feels for kids who were one of the few minorities at their school.
Right!! I felt like a foreign alien growing up. I was the only Asian household in a predominantly Black neighborhood but then my school was predominantly White. It was odd and segregated!
@@jyn88 Where did you grow up???
@@asante291 Arlington, Virginia
Can we hear more about Adrienne's insecurity. Please post the longer video.
Nope the other ladies cut her off and did not let her get deeper
They're scared to go deep now
@@lucky4evr1 why?
@@wiena3352 People were saying the topics were too serious when Amanda Seales was on it. .. Like that was her fault. But they complained. And now all they show is duplicated bubble gum and sex topics .. like we want to hear them talk about sex all the time😒
@@josephlovely7759 no they didnt
That's a lie! There are plenty of people over 40 that still have insecurities. They act like 40 is so old🤦
Love what Adrienne was trying to say. My girl tried to take this back to the days when our ladies used to put their feelings out there, get deep, and relatable to their audience.
Jeannie seems to be in a different headspace now so she's just happy happy, lol but she could have mentioned just a few months back that she felt insecure about her body weight due to DWTS and then getting sick.
It is possible to overcome them, you need to first acknowledge them, own and accept them.
We evolve and insecurities changes over time, for example especially in grade school I was so insecure about how dark my skin was because it wasn't seen as beautiful. Now, it's one of my best features. I love and appreciate my complexion.
"but jesus can help you!!11!1!"
I love honest they all are especially Adrienne!
I fully understand what Adrienne is saying and it makes a lot of sense.
Jeannie trying too hard to say something inspirational.. girl bye
Listening to Adrienne speak about her experience with white people, I'm curious to what she would categorize her relationship with Rob Kardashian as, since he is white. Maybe she's just not thinking about him when she says that since it was a romantic relationship, but I'm curious to know if she felt the same way around him and his family. Or if perhaps she looked at them as not white since they are Armenian and many people try to claim they are not white?
Yeah, I think cause they're just not WASP white
Adrienne, I appreciate your transparency and you actually being relatable with answering the question. We ALL have or had insecurities no matter how old we are. Thank you for being REAL with us about yours! ♥️
I’ve been loving Adrienne’s input lately. She adds both light and depth to the show.
WOw, Loni you look wonderfull!
Jeannie, please stop. I am trying to follow Ade's line of thinking but you keep interrupting
She's being so annoying af
Adrienne thank you for being real and going there. That's something alot of people would never day out loud
Omg Adrienne just kept things a whole stack! I love how vulnerable she is, esspecially at her class of fame...just because it helps me to see that my thought and insecurities are not mine alone and are not because I'm not at a certain Financial class. I totally get everything thing she said. May soind weird but... I purposely sought ojt friends of different races just because I saw this flaw in myself ans no matter how much I knew it wasn't right I couldn't shake it. I learned that we are all very different but from a human level very much the same. I also learned that there are definitely white ppl who seek out black friends just to rid themselves of their generational superiority mentality and I do not fault them one bit. Its funny to see but I respect it!
What Adrienne said about college is one of those grass is always greener on the other side things. As someone who went to college to do engineering, I always think about what if I went down the entertainment/social media route instead and got clout/money that way. My insecurity is that I won't have an impact on the world, but if I was an "influencer" maybe I could have
Rae Jae you could do both.
Jeannie lowkey gives me narcissistic vibes , I don’t believe one bit that she doesn’t have any insecurities . Every single human has insecurities. She was annoying in this segment. Tamar was lowkey right about her , she doesn’t let people see her true self
Jeanne has mentioned hers on her Hello Hunnay youtube channel.
ALOT of people see that. Including myself
In previous videos, she said she was always insecure about her small cup size and chicken legs. She's not lying that the older you get, the less you Insicure you become.
Because older people figure that they're closer to death, so they automatically just live life. Plus you look at how much you've overcome and feel strong regarding that.
The key to letting go of insecurities, is seeking therapy and staying in the present and looking at how much you've overcome 💁♀️. No matter how many people treated you like trash, you didn't treat yourself like trash by looking after your appearance, going to therapy and not self harming no matter how many people have harmed you. Hope I'm making sense. 😹
@@NicieWilliams so? That’s not the real
@@misbahailia3345 she should have said some here tho
I use to feel like Adrianne but having white co workers who are so Amazing, Welcoming, Respectful and just plain Wonderful have helped heal that for me. Not 100% but close.
Jeannie, we are not going to wait until we are 40 for our insecurities to go away.
That’s not what she’s saying. She’s speaking from her personal experience.
@@iacobus4227 I know that. This is my response.
@@gaila.9852 oh ok cause you said it like waiting that long is bad thing or something. Insecurities don’t simply go away, and it doesn’t happen by the snap of your fingers. For you it might not take that long. And if u don’t have any insecurities, that’s good, I’m happy for u. 👏 👏 👏 But for others it may not happen until they’re 40, 50, 60, 100. Some will never get over them. The point is people come from all walks of life, and different circumstances that made them who they are. I don’t care how old you are, I just want people to be happy whether they have insecurities or not, and to not let it stifle or take control of their lives.
@@iacobus4227 Jeannie responded as if insecurities magically go away once you hit 40. We wanted to know how.
Say it again for the people in the back!
Dang! Adrienne be hitting deep! I too share her insecurities. I think its more common than she thinks. You can tell the rest of the girls probably shared a similar experience with white people. When you're a minority, its not always a comfortable feeling. The college thing is also a huge insecurity of mine too 😞
Jeannie doing the most as usual, she should stick to her RUclips channel so she can the platform all to herself
I have a feeling this will be her last season. she seems done and want to do different things like Tamera.
Adrienne!! SO. FREAKING. TRUE!! That is a huge insecurity 👏👏👏
Even with my White friends, I feel this insecurity. I feel slighted or less than. Maybe by conversations or by this history between Whites and Blacks. That was deep Ade, and I wish this point of yours would have been discussed a lot further
I really appreciate you all on TV every day
Love Adrienne for keeping it real. I have felt Similar insecurity as well in the past.
The moment you realize that there are people living with diseases, cancer, diabetes, disabilities, & so much more then you’ll realize that your insecurities are so small & stupid. Love yourself💕
Still valid.
Loni looks like a queen during this season 🤩🔥
It was really nice getting all the girls' perspectives especially Adrienne's. I liked Jeannie's take too.
I totally relate to Adrienne. I myself don’t really have white friends for the same reason. It’s part of growing and believing that not all non people of color have white savor complex or want to be our friend to check the ethnicity box!
Yes Adrianne I have a bit of an insecurity when I have to help white men or established white ppl at work. I was worried that they wouldn’t think I knew what I was doing
I’m a teacher and majority of us are white, there’s not a lot of Hispanic/Latinos so I always felt like I could easily be judged on my mistakes and I would become their generalization of Hispanics/Latinos. I feel the pressure
Jeannie is just rambling
Right. And she's full out it. Because on her channel she's always talking about her insecurities now she trying to act like there's none
Loni looks amazing 😍
I've always liked Jeannie but it's seriously so annoying that she never lets anybody talk.
I’ve been feeling the same. It’s incredibly immature
Or just accepting other people's experiences, we're not all the same lol...
She still in her honeymoon phase she will calm down eventually lol
@@JeremiahWalton that has nothing to Dow it’s this stfu
@@JeremiahWalton Lmaoo
I have the exact same issues as Aderienne. White girls have always been weird and awkward with me. I don't know what it is, I have dark hair and eyebrows and a tan colour skin but I honestly could not point it out. Middle to high school I couldn't befriend them then college I had so many classes randomly with the same white girls over and over but could not even work in a group without the awkwardness. Then in my night school when I thought I had one white friend, she turned out to be greek LOL. Then in University when at this point I really know who I was and was sure it is not me that's the problem (which the naiive and younger me would think it is), turns out this girl in my group just decided not to like me from day one and was super rude to me. I remember my first covo with her was that she just went to florida and I said same I just returned a week ago, and throught we were going somewhere with the convo, turns out she just ignored me and continued the rest of the term with her snarky comments and ignoring. Oh well. It is what it is.
they jealous cos you cute, tf
@## it's a summary of my life experiences not just high school. You clearly did not read the whole thing. Lol . Oh well
Its not the white its that you feel inferior around them...
Jeanie is becoming hard to watch these days, she’s almost disrespectful to the people she’s working with. The way she laughed and cut off Ade, not cool!
Because alot of latinas hispanics look white to me, I did not know they felt a difference between them and white people. Or that they care. Interesting to know. As a black woman I don't even think about that, I just think they don't like my race because we look different and because of history..but never been insecure with them...The subject was quite interesting today
It's a weird relationship with Latinos and white Americans. Within Latino culture we like lighter skin and colored eyes, there's lots of colorism issues. But there still is a difference between white Americans and Latinos. For instance Latinos get along better with Italian Americans versus evangelical whites.
@@erikjj235 Interesting
As a Latina/Hispanic, I never ever considered white people as MY people. We are completely different and treated differently. I have heard of Hispanics/Latinos forgetting their roots and wanting to be white. They think being white is the way to live. I relate more with my native side. I am proud of who I am, I don’t want to be them. I’m not good with words so sorry if this makes no sense.
@@littlebean2494 👍👏👏👏 yas Ruby!
@@littlebean2494 Understood very well! You know your history that's why...
I have never made a comment, but Adrienne is make real sense. I have always have this awkwardness with white women even though all my boyfriends has always being white
@Mel Wilson I actually don’t have anything against white women. I truly love and respect all women no matter their race.
Garcelle’s box always looking like a magazine cover 🥰🥰😝📸
I really appreciate Adrienne being so real and sharing that
This caption is my life . I read this book and she said you have to feel worthy
Same Loni. I would hate to say the “projects”
Same.
Wow. I’m Asian from NYC and have the same insecurity as Adrienne. I’m 41 and still don’t have a white friend till this day.
Omg Jeannie has all of a sudden become so annoying lol what happened? lol let people talk and take a moment to consider the deeper part of the conversations
When you get older, you tend to over drink caffeine to stay awake for the show lolz.
I've totally been in Adrienne shoes and I bet so many have been in the same situation glad she brought it up
Ahhhhhh I love this episode!! Yes, we love going deep! & I honestly thought i was the only person who can honestly say I’ve never really had any white friends...and it wasn’t always by choice, it just never really happened - thank you Ade🙏🏾❤️
I loooove adriennes honesty,
I think sometimes I know this sounds cliche... but sometimes what we see as flaws , or insecurities... i would say it’s good for them to stay with us... it’s the perspective that needs to change... I notice that a lot of times we become insecure based on what society tells us is not considered “ beautiful “ so when you don’t have that slender nose... or that perfect six pack or that curly hair or those big lips you feel the need to conform and make others comfortable when you should truly appreciate what makes you happy and everything about you should be secure and confident... even little quirks that one has... it adds to what makes you YOU ! ♥️🙏🏾
I love this!!!
I luv how honest Adrienne and loni was I’m 34 and went through a divorce which has brought out some insecurities that I may have had before and some I didn’t have till now so I am a work in progress and learning each day !!!!
I think it’s just not having thinks in common. I’ve lived around and worked with white people all my life. For me, in my experience...it just boils down to having different interests.
I agree I grew up very diverse which I'm thankful for. But now it's pretty easy to see when someone isn't really used to having a diverse group of friends, personally makes me feel awkward lol
Sometimes insecurities are purely caused by other people. Kids in middle school made me insecure about my skin tone and having parents from Africa, but I am proud of both these things today.
What country in Africa...?
@@beebee__ They are from Cameroon. I get what you are implying, but the specific country was irrelevant to my comment.
Ade, THANK YOU for being so real, so vulnerable, so you. I love that about you 😘 God bless you.
I have always and still til this day felt insecure around white people. Even my own family members (I’m half white half black). Feeling like I had to change who I was or how I acted around them and could never be myself or they would think lesser of me.
Well my mother is 40 something and she still have insecurities in her looks and weight and all that...it’s funny cause I’m 28 and I don’t care it if I gain weight or don’t wear makeup...
Jeannie's laughing was so cringy.
Did Loni ever have her “Get Ready With Me”???
No & I don't think she is at this point 🤔
@@wendyfan8071 dang
@@JayeKisses ikr comon Loni!!😄
They premiered it on tv, but not sure when they’ll post it on here
Love Adrienne and Loni input 💗💗
Facts A! I don't think I have many insecurities either but not having a degree is my only regret in life so I do think in certain rooms, around certain ppl I feel less than. Sheesh!
What kind of Christian is Jeannie🥴
A practical one! God can't fix your problems/insicurities, if you don't take action. Jeanie knows that every scripture teaches us that, there's no faith without faith in motion.
Love this.
That was really brave of Adrienne to admit. A lot of people could take that the wrong way, but it’s a legitimate insecurity as a minority person in this Eurocentric world.
Damn what Adrienne said was real as hell! I can relate. I don’t have any white friendships at all. And it stems from seeing things where I grew up at and the only white people i came across were in “authority figures” and how they treated minorities is what subconsciously made me not have white friends at all till this day actually 😱 so I automatically felt that they look down on me or thought less of me. But no disrespect this is me being vulnerable like A up in the internets lol but low key what has been brought out to light with a lot of white privilege and all makes me think that I wasn’t too far from the truth thinking that way growing up. And still kinda do cause like I said I don’t have any white people in my circle for the same reason and now a days I am even more guarded with that. 🤷🏽♀️ I really don’t feel bad saying that even though I know there are some white folks that aren’t racist and are welcoming (I just don’t know any personally tbh but I know there are some genuine white dolls out there) for so many years minorities have been looked at a certain way and now white folks are being looked at a certain way cause the privilege is in the spot light now versus before it was just known about but not pointed at 🤷🏽♀️ the white folks that flaunt the privilege and racism thanks to the 🍊 man it just doesn’t make it any easier for the genuine ones that truly don’t look down on minorities. Just being honest.
Loni is serving erykah badu realnesss
Wow Loni looks absolutely breathtaking! 😍 Purple looks great on her.
Loni’s head wrap is to die for😍😍😍
Same as Adrienne in that I''ve never had a white girl friend. I'm from New York and went to college in Georgia and still managed to not connect with any white girls. It's weird though because I met my white husband in college so I dont know.....
Same. I'm a black woman. I've dated many white men, yet never had a white girl as a friend.
@Mel Wilson Ive actually never had white guy friends either so your point about "loving white men and being with jealous of white women" is invalid. My childhood school was made up of black and hispanic students, so when I went to college in Georgia I didnt make any connections with the students, especially since my major was Political Science. Lots of conservative men and women. I remember one fraternity had a confederate flag on their lawn. Anyway, my husband wasn't like the other students and he was actually relentless in pursuing me over the years. We didnt even date until after college when we both moved to China, which is where we got married and currently live. As far as his female relatives, he almost has none and the ones he does have are old. Besides his mom and two older aunts its just his Dad and brother. His brother is married and has all sons. Either way we live in China and we have only been back to the states 2 times. Its not like I said I never had a good conversation with white women or never hung out with them, I just never had them as an actual friend like a real friend.
@Lee Santos I didnt say I couldnt relate to them. I just never had an actual white friend before my husband. But yeah it may be hard to relate to someone from a different race or culture.
@Mel Wilson I think it goes both ways and based on natural circumstances. For example, when my husband and I were dating we were going through getting our TEFL certificate so we had to take classes. On the first day of class we were meeting everyone it was diverse but more white people. I met a white girl and we started talking her name was Amy. She asked me what was my name and when I told her it was Kareena, she rolled her eyes and said "I'm never going to remember that, do you have a nick name?" In that same class I met a girl named Megan she was very down to earth and we hung out in a group through the whole training. So Megan and I were friends but that wasnt a deep friendship. We mostly just partied together as we were all just settling into being in China.We are just FB friends now and she lives in Taiwan. Now I have met more Amy type girls than Megan. So, thats my experience.
We can do all things through Christ who strengthen us
Thank you A for being vulnerable, and saying what we are thinking at home!
I want to applaud Loni for saying that the project don't defined her, that she defines the projects by coming out of that and being who she is today . I think too many people allow their past to define who they are today rather than letting themselves now define who they are today.
Right I was like yessssss👍👍👏👏😁 you betta tell them loni
Was Sabrina Bryan not her friend? I know she half Mexican but yea
Thank you Adrienne for being so honest this hits deep for so many of us. Your so inspirational. God bless ❤️🙏
Hey I'm a big fan
damn jeannie is 42 she looks 28
As you get older you tend to live for yourself and not the opinion of others.
i can always count on adrienne to bring out the truth and vulnerability
Really loved Adrienne’s story
Wayment! I really didn't know Jeannie is 42🙆🏿they all look SO gooooooooood
Thank you Adrienne. This is the video I needed today. Thank you for being both honest and vulnerable.
OMG ADRIENNE HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD WITH THE WHITE PEOPLE COMMENT!!!
I felt the same way Adrienne !!! Thx for sharing and being vulnerable ❤️
I definitely agree and understand Adrienne!
More common than you think Adrienne!!
Adrienne’s insecurity about white people makes me think about “The Cheetah Girls” because Sabrina is white & they all seemed like best friends to me. So for Adrienne to say that she always felt insecure around white people & that they were always an authority figure in her life I wonder...did Sabrina have authority over Adrienne during her Cheetah Girls days?
Wow that's exactly what I was coming to type and you literally JUST said the words outta my mind lol
@@DKDiva804 😂
But on the real that’s a question I have for her
I was thinking the same and maybe that internal issue she had could’ve unintentionally caused a divide in the group. Also when you go to college or any type of higher education you are around a lot of white people. I feel like had she had that education she could’ve over come that insecurity.
I don’t think she had authority over her , I think Adrienne tried to befriend her and found that it might have been difficult because of the culture difference whether that’s in the way she talks , the music she listens too , the difference in how they were raised etc etc . A lot of ppl of color connect instantly through cultural similarities and those things come off ghetto , weird or unusual to a suburban white person.
That's what I was thinking