I had examples of affection and teamwork, but I’m not sure if you can categorize it as healthy. Codependency isn’t healthy and that’s how my parents are.
I think with me I want to give give give and give me some more and if I don't get the same love back then I don't take personally i just switch off but I give first
My parents have been married for 35+ years I’m 20 years old now and they are literally examples of what I don’t want out of life and love. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, so if you didn’t grow up in a 2 parent household please don’t feel left out. There is a reason for everything. I rather see my parents split up, so my mother can be truly happy rather than staying for the kids & finances but these are difficult decisions parents have to make.
I feel you same thing happened to me my parents married for 23 years n they have been separated for two years now I think they shouldn’t have been married cause the toxic relationship scarred us and now we’re left with trust issues
@Kea Lucky I feel the same way about my father. I’ve just seen my mother be so under-appreciated and taken for granted. It’s left a bad taste in my mouth in regard to relationships with men especially. They say that a girls first love is her father, but what about their first heartbreak? Mine was my father. So what now?
I'm in the same boat on the parent side!I've been with my husband since I was 15, we got married when I was 22 and we have 2 kids together (I'm now 34). I feel like we've grown so far apart and present a toxic image to our kids sometimes and so often I feel like I want the divorce. I grapple with leaving to be happy or staying because of the kids and finances. I can make it financially without him but it would be super tight and very difficult. It sucks because I feel like my husband is happy to keep the status quo and if I even bring up the subject of separation he fights it. we're not on the same page in that either. Ugh, I don't want my kids to feel like the ladies in this comment section. It's a struggle
miss conversations like these, it reminds me of the old The Real. It was nice when they talked about real life issues and shared stories from their past
I also really hate when people say that in order to know if someone’s marriage/dating material, find out how they are with their parents, and that’s how they’ll treat you in a relationship. We are not our families. Many of us haven’t been blessed with loving and supportive families, and it’s physically, mentally and emotionally better for us to distance ourselves from our family members as much as possible. That doesn’t mean we’re bad people. My husband grew up with 2 parents who loved each other; I didn’t, and I don’t talk to most of my family, but he didn’t judge me for my family background. He saw how I interacted with people around us, and made up his own mind. Not saying you shouldn’t investigate someone’s background as much as you can. There can be red flags, but just because we’re from a broken home doesn’t mean we’re not capable of love, or we aren’t worthy of someone who has had a more stable life. We cannot choose the families we are born into, but we can choose those whom we want to call “family.”
THIS!! I think a lot of ppl automatically think something is wrong with you if you don't have a bond with your family, but sometimes your family members are very toxic. They can get along with each other, but I can't. I know if I find a significant other in the future, he can tell that I'm a good person.
@@antwanpena171 That paper makes it important to show value for your family the partner you have. To access the hospital when they’re sick, to have financial help for funerals and support your kids and kids, kids. Just living together and having sex is just selfish.
That was an EXCELLENT segment. 🙌🏾 Once you become an adult, it’s your job to heal your daddy issues. We all know that’s not easy, but it’s necessary to get the healthy relationships you deserve. Stay strong ladies. ❤️
Very true what Lonnie and Adrienne said. I’m in my early 40s and it took me this long to finally manifest the love that I truly needed and desired in my life. I didn’t grow up hearing “I love you” and no affection. I FINALLY have a man who tells me every day, and is very affectionate. It is out there!
@AAO FIT TV maybe it's out there for the rest of you college educated able bodied people but not for someone like me who's both mentally & physically challenged.
@@ranitagadling4312 Never give up hope. There’s enough love for everyone in this world. And everyone is deserving of it not matter what flaws and challenges we may have.
On the flip side, my dad showed me what I didn’t want in a man, and my mom showed me what I didn’t want to do in a relationship. My parents separated when I was 10(I’m 33 now), but it didn’t change my views on marriage or men. From a young age, I knew that I would only get married if I found someone who was the exact opposite of my dad, and I knew I didn’t want to be a man-hater, and not open to love like my mom. My mom lived by herself for so long, that she just couldn’t let anyone else in her life. I don’t think all kids are influenced by their parents’ decisions. Some are, but for some like me, it teaches us valuable life lessons: the qualities you want in a partner, what not to do in a relationship, red flags etc. As an adult, you’re responsible for your own actions, and for healing yourself. Can’t always blame your past. Examples of good relationships are around us, even if it isn’t always in our vicinity. We just have to keep our eyes open.
yo I always watch this show all day, everyday. So much so that I do believe I’ve got wiser because I’ve just been so informed by these intelligent ladies. they are truly my inspiration.
Loni’s right tho, I can relate. My father and I haven’t had the best relationship and it does affect me at times. I’m glad she talked about the blogs because they twist everything she says 🙄
@@devin3955 Well I can agree with whoever made the original statement because most moms are pretty decent to their boys. when I 1st met a boyfriend he was always super pleasant to his mom (she's an amazing woman and I never heard him say she mistreated him)but one day she asked him to help her move furniture and he didn't feel like it so he was super pissed and being disrespectful and yelling at her. I was appalled but stayed and learned later that he treated me the same exact way and was very disrespectful when he didn't get his way or if I asked him to do something he didn't feel like doing. Now if I ever see a man be disrespectful towards his mother (who isn't disrespectful towards him) I'm out!
I had a father in my life. My parents were married but they never hugged or held hands so having two parent household doesn't necessarily mean better. I saw them give a peck on the cheeks or lips only when we had guests forcing them for photos due to celebrating their birthday or wedding anniversary. They argued often and they weren't really friends either. They rarely conversed or laughed with each other. It honestly wasn't a good marriage. I thought they were going to divorce many times. No kid want their parents to divorce but there were times I was so fed up with their fighting I didn't care anymore. I wanted them to separate so we could live in peace.
I grew up with parents that were toxic for one another and a broken home. I think it’s why in relationships I wanted to be someone’s safe space because I wanted that safe place for myself.
Seems like two parent households have more successful kids too but don’t get it twisted single parent kids beat the odds everyday and become successful
I definitely should have had a handkerchief ready to dab at my tears 😢😢from hearing Adrienne's experience about receiving love from her husband that mirrored what her mother had shown her right from childhood. What Adrienne, Loni and Garcelle said were profound. Our childhood experiences greatly impact our adult behaviours.
In the younger years, yes it can mess with you (it did me) but when you grow up, learn your worth, you don't/won't/shouldn't accept anything but pure love, loyalty, respect.
Ladies this segment was amazing!!!! I love the fact that everyone got the chance to share their own perspective and be vulnerable. The flow of the conversation was impeccable. Nobody's feelings were invalidated. Great dynamic y'all.
This was a trully great conversation. My parents have been together for around 30 years. My father was indeed my first love and i always viewed him as my hero and my bigest role model. When i was around 13/14 something changed, either my perception or my father, and i started seeing how he treated my mother vs how he treated other people outside our family. They are not compatible, never were really, but they were in love and started a family and a life together anyway. My mother quit her job 15 years ago to raise us and now relies on him financially. She is now stuck in a relationship where she isn‘t loved or respected, and they are always fighting or being passive-agressive with each other, to the point that they can‘t even stand one another anymore. They should have just gotten separated years ago... No one is happy in this house anymore and we're just waiting till my sister goes to college so my mum can also move out along with her. I love them both but i feel like living through this as made me look and them in a way that i didn't want to see or know, and i feel that they are both worse peoole today than they were before. My father has turned into a selfish, mean man with zero self perception about who he really is or how he treats my mother and sister and my mother has become an empty, bitter person without any hobbies, or passions in her life. I would love to be married one day and to set a good exemple on what a good relationship looks like for my future kids but i am now afraid of ending up like me parents and i'm certain that if i do get married i'll give up on my relationship at the first sign of trouble because i'd much rather break it off amicably sooner than end up in a home where everyone is miserable. Sorry for the long comment. Just needed to write this.
I'm currently going through premarital counseling and I'm trying to identify some of these issues and begin the journey of overcoming them so they don't hurt my marriage. Pray for me, y'all. I am the epitome of daddy issues.
This subject really hits home for me. I didn't have the best relationship with my own Dad and it did affect my relationships in a way. But I'm growing out of fear of love
I secretly think that my dad dying when I was a child was a blessing in disguise. So many women, so much trauma caused from their fathers. Now I’m not saying I’ve come out all perfect and squeaky clean but my good god I’ve been saved from a lot of heartache
As a 25 single black women I really got a lot from this conversation. Esp the part when Loni touched on always WAITING on the man instead of taking it in my own hands. But chileeeee it’s hard out here. The men I want either don’t date black women or gay, or they just don’t want a relationship.
My parents have been married for over 40 years. I spent my whole life hoping that I could have what they have in a relationship. I have never once seen them fight in front of me and when they do disagree it's over in like 5 minutes. They have been wonderful remodels of what a healthy relationship is and I am so grateful that I have had that example set for me. I am thankful that I have a dad that showed me how a man is supposed to treat me and taught me to not accept anything less. I have had my fair share of bad relationships but I chalk that up to be young and still looking for a man that would treat me like my dad treats my mom. It took me a while but I found him! I have to most amazing husband! I finally found what I have been looking for all of these years. He is loving, kind, patient, and all around amazing! I couldn't have asked for a better partner in life!
Same as Loni Love. I never knew my dad and it had a big influence in my relationship with men. Especially when I was younger. I'm 44 now things have changed but I'm still wishing to meet him one day.
This is a very important question cuz I know a lot of times we hear about girls and even guys having what society considers “ daddy issues “ so when they don’t have that male figure in their life to lead the way and show them what a good man does or looks like or shows a young girl what to accept and not to accept from a guy,.. nor a young man has a male figure to teach him how to treat a lady... it sets up a system where now the hurt and inexperience they have when it comes to certain scenarios within relationships they don’t have the basic fundamentals to understand what’s not right to be in !!! And it’s a conversation that needs not to be swept under the rug... cuz some people really be going through it because they didn’t have a parent around and they don’t even know it’s a subconscious thing !
I ain't even gonna lie, I 100% expect nice gifts in my relationships and it's 100% because my father would always buy me the nice gifts I wanted on special holidays growing up.
I can defo second that. My dad cheated on my mum and my view of hun changed. I also find it hard to trust people and I think it’s down to the fact that he did that and it hurt that he would do my mum like that. However it has shown me what kind of men to avoid , which is taking me longer to find someone lool
I loved this segment! I was actually shocked by what Adrienne said because I thought a lot of women who are used to not being treated right by their parents are the ones who end up in toxic relationships because that's all they're used to. Adrienne was able to see what a healthy relationship was, but I guess she didn't think it was something that she could get from a man in a relationship? Anyways, I'm glad she is able to have a loving relationship in the end :)!
My mom and dad gave a lot of affection and generosity, my grandmother always massaged and prayed over me and gave me undying patience. Hence, not only did I expect it, that's how I love. What I never received is also how what I make a point to include.
I agree with the panel. In my experience, the magnitude of my culture and relationship with my parents has impacted my relationship. Not always in a positive way. For example, my upbringing allows me to feel comfortable putting my parents on the highest pedestal. So when my parents Say jump, I hold nothing back and leap. My wife, on the other hand, has an American cultured upbringing that fosters a more individual approach that separates your decision making from your parental influence.
All of the ladies had issues, regardless of the love they were given from the parents because NONE of their parents had a talk to them about relationships, about what to look for in a partner, about what you should not stand for ect. It is good to have a good role model for relationships but there needs to be dialogue from parents to their kids about relationships. Just because you see it does not mean you understand it. Ask your parent how they make it work, ask them how they got there ect.
My parents are going on 40years being married. I thought for sure they'd be divorced a long time ago. They just stuck it through. No one seems to understand why I'm not interested in marriage nor do I even want a relationship right now. I saw some hard times and swore I'd never want to be like my mom. I now understand as an adult she stuck through because she had no choice. This was another topic a while ago about staying for financial reasons. She didn't have anything in her own name. Im trying to be independent and I'm sure its not all marriages but I guess I've just been burned. Its all I know. I constantly get looked at and judged by others who are married like what about you??
It’d be nice to have someone on with someone who had a father in their life, or someone who only had a relationship with their father and their mother was out of the picture. All of these convos come back to the dad being the bad guy, and it’s just not how it always is. Diversity isn’t just about skin color. It’s about experiences too
I’ve had a really good relationship with my dad throughout my life but I still found it really hard to know how to communicate and be with men. Talking to my dad is different than talking to my romantic partner.
This was a good conversation. We need more like this. Adrienne made me tear up! I like emotional, deep, and soul searching topics. This is how The Real used to be when Tamar was around. They had a lot of personal topics that made the ladies cry weekly lol.
Wow that’s so interesting I would imagine growing up with parents who told u on a reg u are beautiful and r loves would’ve Instilled a confidence in that child where later in life they are so comfortable in who they are they won’t be looking for validation through others. I guess it’s not so much about how ur given love but how you interpret the love that’s really shapes u
Well my Dad was Air Force so he was gone all the time, so for me I've realized that if I'm dating someone and they go away for work, I don't freak out. I just say "Ok, see you when you get back". To me that's normal, if that makes since. I have a friend that always uses her parents on why she is the way she is and I told her, "Honey you are too far into grown to have that effect you now, You might want to get a therapist or a life coach to help you out".
Did you have examples of healthy relationships growing up?
Nope
I had examples of affection and teamwork, but I’m not sure if you can categorize it as healthy. Codependency isn’t healthy and that’s how my parents are.
I think with me I want to give give give and give me some more and if I don't get the same love back then I don't take personally i just switch off but I give first
Where has Jeannie been? I’m late to the party on these RUclips clips
@@RyanJCreations Kudos to you! How did you realize that it was codependency?
My parents have been married for 35+ years I’m 20 years old now and they are literally examples of what I don’t want out of life and love. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, so if you didn’t grow up in a 2 parent household please don’t feel left out. There is a reason for everything. I rather see my parents split up, so my mother can be truly happy rather than staying for the kids & finances but these are difficult decisions parents have to make.
yeah I agree 100%
I have the same experience. My parents have been married for 40 years, but I would have been much happier as a kid if my parents where divorced.
I feel you same thing happened to me my parents married for 23 years n they have been separated for two years now I think they shouldn’t have been married cause the toxic relationship scarred us and now we’re left with trust issues
@Kea Lucky I feel the same way about my father. I’ve just seen my mother be so under-appreciated and taken for granted. It’s left a bad taste in my mouth in regard to relationships with men especially. They say that a girls first love is her father, but what about their first heartbreak? Mine was my father. So what now?
I'm in the same boat on the parent side!I've been with my husband since I was 15, we got married when I was 22 and we have 2 kids together (I'm now 34). I feel like we've grown so far apart and present a toxic image to our kids sometimes and so often I feel like I want the divorce. I grapple with leaving to be happy or staying because of the kids and finances. I can make it financially without him but it would be super tight and very difficult. It sucks because I feel like my husband is happy to keep the status quo and if I even bring up the subject of separation he fights it. we're not on the same page in that either. Ugh, I don't want my kids to feel like the ladies in this comment section. It's a struggle
Garcelle's hair game is on point!
And is 👏🏾😍
miss conversations like these, it reminds me of the old The Real. It was nice when they talked about real life issues and shared stories from their past
Frrr!😭
They still do 😂
Righttttt
Omg! Yes! I always loved this show & still do but feel like they were all relatable topics but lately they haven't been as much.
I also really hate when people say that in order to know if someone’s marriage/dating material, find out how they are with their parents, and that’s how they’ll treat you in a relationship. We are not our families. Many of us haven’t been blessed with loving and supportive families, and it’s physically, mentally and emotionally better for us to distance ourselves from our family members as much as possible. That doesn’t mean we’re bad people. My husband grew up with 2 parents who loved each other; I didn’t, and I don’t talk to most of my family, but he didn’t judge me for my family background. He saw how I interacted with people around us, and made up his own mind. Not saying you shouldn’t investigate someone’s background as much as you can. There can be red flags, but just because we’re from a broken home doesn’t mean we’re not capable of love, or we aren’t worthy of someone who has had a more stable life. We cannot choose the families we are born into, but we can choose those whom we want to call “family.”
THIS!! I think a lot of ppl automatically think something is wrong with you if you don't have a bond with your family, but sometimes your family members are very toxic. They can get along with each other, but I can't. I know if I find a significant other in the future, he can tell that I'm a good person.
Now THIS is what I like to see. Great conversation ladies.
Yesss!
Same it was so authentic and real
Exactly!!
No wonder a lot of young people nowadays don’t want to get married. They saw their parents divorced.
💯💯
Or say their parents stay together for the wrong reasons. It made us question love/marriage.
Marriage is a piece of paper 👏🏾👏🏾 it isn't essential ☺️
@@littlebean2494 that part
@@antwanpena171 That paper makes it important to show value for your family the partner you have. To access the hospital when they’re sick, to have financial help for funerals and support your kids and kids, kids. Just living together and having sex is just selfish.
That was an EXCELLENT segment. 🙌🏾 Once you become an adult, it’s your job to heal your daddy issues. We all know that’s not easy, but it’s necessary to get the healthy relationships you deserve. Stay strong ladies. ❤️
Got so emotional too when Adrienne was talking about why she loves Israel. Uughh❤️🥰😢
Yes me too!
Sometimes parents damage kids by staying together and being miserable. Kids don’t know who to expect each day.
That's my parents although they have improved there is still a long way to go
Very true what Lonnie and Adrienne said. I’m in my early 40s and it took me this long to finally manifest the love that I truly needed and desired in my life. I didn’t grow up hearing “I love you” and no affection. I FINALLY have a man who tells me every day, and is very affectionate. It is out there!
i am so sorry to here that
I’m so happy for you
@@Simz199x thank you ♥️
@AAO FIT TV maybe it's out there for the rest of you college educated able bodied people but not for someone like me who's both mentally & physically challenged.
@@ranitagadling4312 Never give up hope. There’s enough love for everyone in this world. And everyone is deserving of it not matter what flaws and challenges we may have.
I love Adrienne’s growth. Her comments and sharing are great.
On the flip side, my dad showed me what I didn’t want in a man, and my mom showed me what I didn’t want to do in a relationship. My parents separated when I was 10(I’m 33 now), but it didn’t change my views on marriage or men. From a young age, I knew that I would only get married if I found someone who was the exact opposite of my dad, and I knew I didn’t want to be a man-hater, and not open to love like my mom. My mom lived by herself for so long, that she just couldn’t let anyone else in her life. I don’t think all kids are influenced by their parents’ decisions. Some are, but for some like me, it teaches us valuable life lessons: the qualities you want in a partner, what not to do in a relationship, red flags etc. As an adult, you’re responsible for your own actions, and for healing yourself. Can’t always blame your past. Examples of good relationships are around us, even if it isn’t always in our vicinity. We just have to keep our eyes open.
Awwww what A said when she quoted Jeannie about healing🥺🥺
yo I always watch this show all day, everyday. So much so that I do believe I’ve got wiser because I’ve just been so informed by these intelligent ladies. they are truly my inspiration.
Loni’s right tho, I can relate. My father and I haven’t had the best relationship and it does affect me at times. I’m glad she talked about the blogs because they twist everything she says 🙄
Adrienne!!!! 🥺🥺🥺💝💝💝 MORE TOPICS LIKE THIS PLEASE
I love the way Adrienne loves her mom and sister. Their bonds are beautiful.
I believe in that the way a guy treats his mother that’s exactly how he would treat you being his girlfriend.
Too bad society calls these men mama’s boy
@@annatar6453 Nah I’m pretty sure “mama’s boy” refers to guys that let their mom meddle in their relationships, not guys that love their mom lol
This line is so bullshit because people have abusive mothers and people treat those that are important to them differently.
We all go through situations in life you believe in what u want
@@devin3955 Well I can agree with whoever made the original statement because most moms are pretty decent to their boys. when I 1st met a boyfriend he was always super pleasant to his mom (she's an amazing woman and I never heard him say she mistreated him)but one day she asked him to help her move furniture and he didn't feel like it so he was super pissed and being disrespectful and yelling at her. I was appalled but stayed and learned later that he treated me the same exact way and was very disrespectful when he didn't get his way or if I asked him to do something he didn't feel like doing. Now if I ever see a man be disrespectful towards his mother (who isn't disrespectful towards him) I'm out!
I had a father in my life. My parents were married but they never hugged or held hands so having two parent household doesn't necessarily mean better. I saw them give a peck on the cheeks or lips only when we had guests forcing them for photos due to celebrating their birthday or wedding anniversary. They argued often and they weren't really friends either. They rarely conversed or laughed with each other. It honestly wasn't a good marriage. I thought they were going to divorce many times. No kid want their parents to divorce but there were times I was so fed up with their fighting I didn't care anymore. I wanted them to separate so we could live in peace.
Many people assume that a two-parent household is always best. This comment is so important. Thanks for sharing.
I grew up with parents that were toxic for one another and a broken home. I think it’s why in relationships I wanted to be someone’s safe space because I wanted that safe place for myself.
We all just need LOVING parents ♥️♥️💕💕
Absolutely, because your parents are your first example of what a functional relationship looks like.
Message 💯
Seems like two parent households have more successful kids too but don’t get it twisted single parent kids beat the odds everyday and become successful
Thank you. You'd be surprised! Single parents are killing it 💯
Correlation doesn’t equal causation.
Loni is absolutely killing it with her looks this season! Just stunning
I aspire to be the type of woman Adrienne’s mother is I mean wow, the way her daughters love her!
Me too, I wanna be that mother that shows her kids a lot of love and affection
I definitely should have had a handkerchief ready to dab at my tears 😢😢from hearing Adrienne's experience about receiving love from her husband that mirrored what her mother had shown her right from childhood. What Adrienne, Loni and Garcelle said were profound. Our childhood experiences greatly impact our adult behaviours.
In the younger years, yes it can mess with you (it did me) but when you grow up, learn your worth, you don't/won't/shouldn't accept anything but pure love, loyalty, respect.
Ladies this segment was amazing!!!! I love the fact that everyone got the chance to share their own perspective and be vulnerable. The flow of the conversation was impeccable. Nobody's feelings were invalidated. Great dynamic y'all.
This is hands down one of the best girl chat segments I’ve ever seen. So real and honest, and I love the different perspectives. 🤍
Omg I love when they have Convos like thisss❤️
My husband loves me how my mama loves me ♥️
Loved this!! Conversations like this remind me why this this was always my favourite show. Can't wait for them to be back on set!
This was a trully great conversation. My parents have been together for around 30 years. My father was indeed my first love and i always viewed him as my hero and my bigest role model. When i was around 13/14 something changed, either my perception or my father, and i started seeing how he treated my mother vs how he treated other people outside our family. They are not compatible, never were really, but they were in love and started a family and a life together anyway. My mother quit her job 15 years ago to raise us and now relies on him financially. She is now stuck in a relationship where she isn‘t loved or respected, and they are always fighting or being passive-agressive with each other, to the point that they can‘t even stand one another anymore. They should have just gotten separated years ago... No one is happy in this house anymore and we're just waiting till my sister goes to college so my mum can also move out along with her. I love them both but i feel like living through this as made me look and them in a way that i didn't want to see or know, and i feel that they are both worse peoole today than they were before. My father has turned into a selfish, mean man with zero self perception about who he really is or how he treats my mother and sister and my mother has become an empty, bitter person without any hobbies, or passions in her life. I would love to be married one day and to set a good exemple on what a good relationship looks like for my future kids but i am now afraid of ending up like me parents and i'm certain that if i do get married i'll give up on my relationship at the first sign of trouble because i'd much rather break it off amicably sooner than end up in a home where everyone is miserable. Sorry for the long comment. Just needed to write this.
I pray you find true love that fulfils you and you fulfil them. 💓
Sorry for the late reply but, thank you for sharing
What loni said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Loved this discussion
I'm currently going through premarital counseling and I'm trying to identify some of these issues and begin the journey of overcoming them so they don't hurt my marriage. Pray for me, y'all. I am the epitome of daddy issues.
This subject really hits home for me. I didn't have the best relationship with my own Dad and it did affect my relationships in a way. But I'm growing out of fear of love
This was the richest conversation yet... wow. Just wow.
I secretly think that my dad dying when I was a child was a blessing in disguise. So many women, so much trauma caused from their fathers. Now I’m not saying I’ve come out all perfect and squeaky clean but my good god I’ve been saved from a lot of heartache
I think sometimes we accept the love we think we deserve
Adrienne, thank you for this perspective. I can't control who stays in my children's lives, but i can love them enough 💗
As a 25 single black women I really got a lot from this conversation. Esp the part when Loni touched on always WAITING on the man instead of taking it in my own hands. But chileeeee it’s hard out here. The men I want either don’t date black women or gay, or they just don’t want a relationship.
My parents have been married for over 40 years. I spent my whole life hoping that I could have what they have in a relationship. I have never once seen them fight in front of me and when they do disagree it's over in like 5 minutes. They have been wonderful remodels of what a healthy relationship is and I am so grateful that I have had that example set for me. I am thankful that I have a dad that showed me how a man is supposed to treat me and taught me to not accept anything less. I have had my fair share of bad relationships but I chalk that up to be young and still looking for a man that would treat me like my dad treats my mom. It took me a while but I found him! I have to most amazing husband! I finally found what I have been looking for all of these years. He is loving, kind, patient, and all around amazing! I couldn't have asked for a better partner in life!
Same as Loni Love. I never knew my dad and it had a big influence in my relationship with men. Especially when I was younger. I'm 44 now things have changed but I'm still wishing to meet him one day.
This was a beautiful conversation 💖
Lonnie you lookin so good at home... On point all da time
This is a very important question cuz I know a lot of times we hear about girls and even guys having what society considers “ daddy issues “ so when they don’t have that male figure in their life to lead the way and show them what a good man does or looks like or shows a young girl what to accept and not to accept from a guy,.. nor a young man has a male figure to teach him how to treat a lady... it sets up a system where now the hurt and inexperience they have when it comes to certain scenarios within relationships they don’t have the basic fundamentals to understand what’s not right to be in !!! And it’s a conversation that needs not to be swept under the rug... cuz some people really be going through it because they didn’t have a parent around and they don’t even know it’s a subconscious thing !
Adrienne I’m crying, I pray to God my girls will keeping finding the love I give them from someone else.
Oh my God... Adrienne just answered so many of my questions... Oh wow... 😟 It all makes sense now....
Everyone was on point here. Best segment i've watched in a longggg time from them
just curious, where has Jeannie been? :) Maybe I am out of the loop hehe
Me too 😭😭where is Jeannie?
Me too ..
I believe she is in Miami w Jay.
These are pre-recorded episodes. They were probably filmed when Jeannie had epiglottitis
Was thinking the same.
I can relate to Ade so much with this one.
Love Garcelle’s pink eyeshadow, it looks very pretty and I feel like it compliments her skin tone. She’s beautiful.
This was such a beautiful convo!! Reminds me of the convos they had like which memory they would delete or other childhood stories 💛💛
Some of us learn to love as we grow as people.
I ain't even gonna lie, I 100% expect nice gifts in my relationships and it's 100% because my father would always buy me the nice gifts I wanted on special holidays growing up.
I LOVED what Loni said 💞💞💞
I can defo second that. My dad cheated on my mum and my view of hun changed. I also find it hard to trust people and I think it’s down to the fact that he did that and it hurt that he would do my mum like that. However it has shown me what kind of men to avoid , which is taking me longer to find someone lool
Aww Adrianne you made me tear up 😢😢❤
I loved this segment! I was actually shocked by what Adrienne said because I thought a lot of women who are used to not being treated right by their parents are the ones who end up in toxic relationships because that's all they're used to. Adrienne was able to see what a healthy relationship was, but I guess she didn't think it was something that she could get from a man in a relationship? Anyways, I'm glad she is able to have a loving relationship in the end :)!
I fell inlove with Adriennes mother when Adrienne told that story of her love for her daughter
My mom and dad gave a lot of affection and generosity, my grandmother always massaged and prayed over me and gave me undying patience. Hence, not only did I expect it, that's how I love. What I never received is also how what I make a point to include.
I just really wanna admire the proper sound quality of this video chat 👏🏾 When their voice crossover, the sound doesn't cancel out and get staticky.
This conversation is SO important.
I also grew up with an absent father who was barely in my life. Me and Lori are so similar. Whenever I'm with boys it's like a new territory!!!
Love all of their different perspectives on this topic👏🏼
If your close with ur parents and they are genuinely good
People yes it does matter
Loving yourself first is important
I agree with the panel. In my experience, the magnitude of my culture and relationship with my parents has impacted my relationship. Not always in a positive way.
For example, my upbringing allows me to feel comfortable putting my parents on the highest pedestal. So when my parents Say jump, I hold nothing back and leap. My wife, on the other hand, has an American cultured upbringing that fosters a more individual approach that separates your decision making from your parental influence.
Finally! Convos like the old The Real days!! Loved this!
Garcelle looks so stunning here. My God.
Preach, ladies!! TThat's the kind of EP's we love!! heart on heart conversations where everyone can relate on. Well done
Yesssss Loni, working on that now.
All of the ladies had issues, regardless of the love they were given from the parents because NONE of their parents had a talk to them about relationships, about what to look for in a partner, about what you should not stand for ect. It is good to have a good role model for relationships but there needs to be dialogue from parents to their kids about relationships. Just because you see it does not mean you understand it. Ask your parent how they make it work, ask them how they got there ect.
This was actually really good thank you ladies
My parents are going on 40years being married. I thought for sure they'd be divorced a long time ago. They just stuck it through. No one seems to understand why I'm not interested in marriage nor do I even want a relationship right now. I saw some hard times and swore I'd never want to be like my mom. I now understand as an adult she stuck through because she had no choice. This was another topic a while ago about staying for financial reasons. She didn't have anything in her own name. Im trying to be independent and I'm sure its not all marriages but I guess I've just been burned. Its all I know. I constantly get looked at and judged by others who are married like what about you??
Garcelle is so beautiful 😻
Adrienne I definitely relate..I grew up the same way...can't wait to Get the right love from the right person💞
I love seeing loni speak I feel like before she was so quiet and stressed out
It’d be nice to have someone on with someone who had a father in their life, or someone who only had a relationship with their father and their mother was out of the picture. All of these convos come back to the dad being the bad guy, and it’s just not how it always is. Diversity isn’t just about skin color. It’s about experiences too
Damn this topic got me crying up in here. Nose running and everything!
I loved this conversation so so much. Truly beautiful and profound
Garcelle GREAT insight. So helpful to me in particular.
Great topic guys.
Amazing conversation, From all perspectives!! This was extremely relatable
I’ve had a really good relationship with my dad throughout my life but I still found it really hard to know how to communicate and be with men. Talking to my dad is different than talking to my romantic partner.
Garcelle fits pefect in this show, she is respectful and kind
Loved this conversation it was reminiscent of the old real
This was a good conversation. We need more like this. Adrienne made me tear up! I like emotional, deep, and soul searching topics. This is how The Real used to be when Tamar was around. They had a lot of personal topics that made the ladies cry weekly lol.
Yes, Adrianne. This is exactly what I'm going through.
Wow that’s so interesting I would imagine growing up with parents who told u on a reg u are beautiful and r loves would’ve Instilled a confidence in that child where later in life they are so comfortable in who they are they won’t be looking for validation through others. I guess it’s not so much about how ur given love but how you interpret the love that’s really shapes u
Loni is right we should stop using that excuse 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Well my Dad was Air Force so he was gone all the time, so for me I've realized that if I'm dating someone and they go away for work, I don't freak out. I just say "Ok, see you when you get back". To me that's normal, if that makes since. I have a friend that always uses her parents on why she is the way she is and I told her, "Honey you are too far into grown to have that effect you now, You might want to get a therapist or a life coach to help you out".
This was a powerful segment.
Awww...Adrian you are made me tear up.......you are so right dear!
Well said Garcelle! 👏😊
this was one of the best convos
Aww I loved the episode, definitely so relatable 🤍
This conversation was SO great!!!
No I didn’t but my plan is to break the cycle of it. Have standard for my future relationship and family.