A Helpful Start; Here Comes the… Drama
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Many of our parents didn’t have the resources to help fund a certain lifestyle, but does that mean we have to parent the same way? We’re discussing just how much of a head start is necessary when raising kids. Plus, we’re dishing on relationship red flags - how to spot them and when it’s time to get out!
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What are some relationship red flags?
could you talk to Loni Love and tell her she need to stop forcing her cringy jokes and laugher. she used to be naturally funny in previous seasons, now shes trying to hard to be funny by laughing the way she does, we can tell she's trying hard to make jokes.
Also tell Adrienne and Jeannie to tone it down and stop drowning out other opinions.
Much love and respect, but Garcelle needed more time to speak. Loni, Jeannie, and especially Adrienne made their points very clear and made little to no space for Garcelle to speak her point of view. Of course there's a time crunch and every deserves to be able to speak their minds❤️ that's the whole point of the show! However, Garcelle has a point. I get that Loni, Jeannie, and especially Adrienne ( again with much love and respect) have a much older mindset when it comes to preparing newer generations to the real world, but I think a plethora of people with these mindsets firmly believe that every kid at the age of 17-18 has to be thrown out of a skyscraper and be given nothing to fly or to survive the sever fall. Of course it builds character...to an extent. If parents can afford to help their kids start their life alright because NO ONE TEACHES THIS STUFF IN SCHOOL/COLLEGE, then cool. Leave them be and move along. This doesn't mean that the kids are spoiled or should be spoiled, but it'd be damn nice to know about credit, how credit can screw you over if you don't pay on time, what to look for in apartments, how loans work, etc before we end up in the deep end and never be able to come back up.
@@lurraymiranda8452 thannk you, they need to understand that things aren't the same anymore as it been in their prime years. Adrienne was able to break barriers because the walls were there to break down being a latina. nowadays, there's no barriers, everything has basically has been done. it's basically throwing your kids to the wolves to teach them to kill with no weapon. everything in the economy is so bad and expensive, as opposed to in their days. i think they sounded ridiculous to push that narrative out there that they shouldn't help their kids with ANYTHING because "that's my money" or that they're "entitled", whose fault is too blame for that? when you're a kid and you've bought them every toys and things they have and now you're mad that they're "entitled"? no boo, you raised them that they and are putting unrealistic pressure to make them grow on their own. i was do disappointed in this segment. they need to start implementing real people in these segments so WE can teach them a thing or two.
Exactly. I mean, if you can afford it, then sure, go ahead. I don’t know about BUYING their first car and apartment, but absolutely you as the parent should be teaching them the basics of money as far as budgeting, taxes, how to apply for a job, etc. That’s kind of what you signed up for when you made the choice (because becoming a parent is a choice) to become a parent. 🤷🏽♀️ But I don’t think you necessarily need to go out there and buy it for them - but you absolutely should teaching them how to save and spend responsibly - ESPECIALLY when it comes to credit cards!! One of the reasons we have such high credit card and student loan debt in this country is because most parents never fully educate their children on how to be responsible with money 💁🏽♀️
They should've let Garcelle finish her point on black thing she was about to say
I love all the Ladies...Garcelle was dropping some gems I wish she could have been given more time to share her views without being cut off
I agree...I was getting annoyed
Right! So annoyed by that. It sounds like she was starting to make a valid point about black children needing a push sometimes to get them going in life but I guess we’ll never get to hear her finish what she had to say 🙄. And Adrienne girl I love you but for real, u and Garcelle are not co-parenting. She don’t owe u a why ✌🏾
@@Dori90210
EXACTLY...RUDE AS HELL
@@Dori90210 omg I know I was like the nerve why she asking why?! Adrienne needs to go
@@cookiemonsterglendy
Garcelle should have said "WHEN YOU BECOME A PARENT THEN YOU CAN ASK ME WHY"?
They should’ve let Garcelle speak. Black and Brown kids SHOULD NOT HAVE TO STRUGGLE. We go through so much bullshit, and almost NEVER have the same privileges as our pale faced friends. I agree with Garcelle. The other’s opinions were VERY problematic. DO NOT FORCE YOUR CHILDREN TO STRUGGLE IF THEY DO NOT HAVE TO.
That's just talk!!
And thats on period! That’s something that needs to be spoken about more in the blk community.
Bingo! All I saw is white kids slowly adapting to the world bc their family had the resources to help ie career network from the family, condo bought for them to use with a roommate to pay the mortgage, a car and a Lil money to live off of. We’re made to feel bad to help our kids a lil
This right here I mean everytime she spoke
i am with u 100 .i started with nothing and got myself in issues i had no one to turn too ..having to accept ppl bs .i see how ppl treat ppl that have nothing to their names .i dnt think we shld allow our children to go out there in the world with nothing
"We didn't have any of those things and look where we are!!" Adrienne many people don't start out with those things and they still ain't where you are... There's nothing wrong with giving your kids a head start if you have the means to do it.
Exactly. Everyone's circumstances are different and its harder now because everything is so much more expensive but minimum wage is basically the same.
Exactly. I mean, if you can afford it, then sure, go ahead. I don’t know about BUYING their first car and apartment, but absolutely you as the parent should be teaching them the basics as far as budgeting, taxes, how to apply for a job, etc. That’s kind of what you signed up for when you made the choice (because becoming a parent is a choice) to become a parent. 🤷🏽♀️ But I don’t think you necessarily need to go out there and buy it for them - but you absolutely should teaching them how to save and spend responsibly - ESPECIALLY when it comes to credit cards!! One of the reasons we have such high credit card and student loan debt in this country is because most parents never fully educate their children on how to be responsible with money 💁🏽♀️
Agree with Garcelle and Loni. If you have the means I don't understand why parents can't provide some basics. No one is preaching to spoil their children. As long as your kids are made aware of their situation and are provided with the tools to become self-sufficient, it's okay to help your kids once in a while. The whole "what's mine is only mine discussion" is a little harsh.
We all know that once Adrienne has children that mentality she put up in this video is all going out the window 😄. Plus we already see how Iz spoils his kids, especially the girls, so what is A even talking about 🤣.
My cousins have rich parents and they helped support them through college and adjusting to life after. They are all successful and work hard. I don't see anything wrong with helping your kids as long as they aren't taking advantage of you. They still worked hard but they didn't have to struggle. In contrast, my life was very different.
@@Dori90210
Then like the handwashing episodes she will say..."that's not what I said"
Their reaction to Garcelle was kind of stupid sorry to say. Buying your child a car doesn't automatically make them grow up to be a horrible human being. You can buy them a used budget car. Garcelle never said she was buying them some celebrity status car. They barely even let her speak to explain herself! Depending on where you live a car is a necessity. It's safer than public transportation and make your life a whole lot easier. Teens can get a part-time job with a car provided by their parents, help run errands, etc. Adrienne doesn't understand since she doesn't drive or have her driver's license and she grew up in NY where people take metro. Jeannie shouldn't judge because look at her relationship with her mom... Garcelle seems to have a good relationship with her kids and they're raised well.
@@nq6508 I agree. My mom helped my sister out with her first car and she's far from entitled. She worked since high school and doesn't ask my mom for anything. She paid for school and her wedding with her own money. All my mom did was help with the first car and she handled the rest.
Adrienne needs her own show....cause she don't let nobody else talk. It's a panel for a reason.
All Things Adrienne Is available on youtube, however, i dont watch it, its boring lmfao this girl was much more interesting when Tamar was on.
I don't think she actually meant she should have her own show 😂😂😂, she was being sarcastic, she was basically saying she talks and acts like it's her own show because she's talking and interrupting all the time
@@SallayMusic yup!!! Haha
Thank you! Been saying this for a while!
Why do people have such a huge problem with parents helping their children get a head start on life?
No idea
Because the are brainwashed by capitalism and classicism. Lower class people love shitting on this, marriage, and other things that insure economical success. Meanwhile upper-class and mid upper-class families continue to lay the path for their children and that children will hold the power in the future while these people force their kids to start over at every generation with single parents homes to constantly slum it.
Many people romanticize struggling. They truly believe that it gives you character, makes you hard-working and grateful; and that without struggle you’ll be spoiled and entitled.
It's because number one, they live in a bubble, number two they don't have children. We can all sit here & guess what type of mother we would be but life takes over sometimes. We go through stuff and sometimes we need help. Adrienne says her money is her money but at the end of the day just her lifrstyle is a huge upgrade to start with having Adrienne and her husband as parents. And sorry but if her child was going through a rough patch ( news flash not everything in life is a fairy tale), you would have to be a heartless psychopath to not give to help your child. These women aren't maternal or motherly like Queen Garcelle. I felt they attacked her a little for being honest about wanting to help out her child...My thing is if you didn't have it in your heart to give your child some help then you shouldn't even be a parent.
Never take parenting advice from non parents. Big silly mistake
I agree with Garcelle about giving your kids a start if you are able.
Exactly, what’s the point of having wealth if u can’t help your family get to where they need to be. Especially kids. I went to school with so many classmates from different races and I see it all the time, and remember even feeling sorry for myself at one point that my parents weren’t in the same position to help me.
@@Dori90210 My parents taught us to work hard and earn for ourselves but where ever they were able to, they helped us and we appreciate it so much that we hope we can do the same for our own kids one day.
I too, I’m not wealthy but I know that being an adult can be really hard without the right tools. I want to give my kids the tools to help them maneuver without all the extra hardships. Like teaching them about credit and helping them stay as debt free as possible.
I think a car is necessary and maybe some money in the bank for a down payment on a home or to invest in a small company something to jumpstart their lives.
Just raise them responsibly and they won’t feel entitled.
@@sepharaSwift exactly
Exactly. I mean, if you can afford it, then sure, go ahead. I don’t know about BUYING their first car and apartment, but absolutely you as the parent should be teaching them the basics of money as far as budgeting, taxes, how to apply for a job, etc. That’s kind of what you signed up for when you made the choice (because becoming a parent is a choice) to become a parent. 🤷🏽♀️ But I don’t think you necessarily need to go out there and buy it for them - but you absolutely should teaching them how to save and spend responsibly - ESPECIALLY when it comes to credit cards!! One of the reasons we have such high credit card and student loan debt in this country is because most parents never fully educate their children on how to be responsible with money 💁🏽♀️
Adrienne asking Garcelle why she would help her kids buy a car...1. She don’t owe u a why! U raise your kids the way u want and let her do the same 2. If yall would just listen to her and let her finish explaining instead of talking over her then maybe u will learn the why and what she meant lol
I know what you mean , but its a chat show she wanted her to explain her point of view, because even I was like WHY? Lol I'm not a mum and after hearing Garcelle I understand why she would buy her sons a car
Adrienne lives in lala land. Most of America does not live in a city with public transport. Kids will have to drive to do anything in this country.
This is that video where the non parents spoke idiocy. Garzelle couldn't even get her point across. I really wanted to hear her point of view. Adrienne stop repeating yourself we all heard you. Geeze it's like you need validation and applause when you say something YOU believe to be facts
Omg I remember she literally used to look to the audience for applause😂😂
Adrienne always talking about how she wanted people to like her..🤔
Yeh we should’ve heard more from Garcelle on this. You never know how you will be as a parent until you are actually a parent!!!
@@latoyah07
Exactly 💯%
Exactly what I was thinking. Non parents, let the parent speak!!! 😅
Let Garcelle Speak 😭
Yes! She was making good points.
Damn u guys Dont let Garcelle finish what she was saying is annoying
That was annoying it's like because they ain't get a car they don't wanna listen to her
White people help their Kids all the time, new car , down payment, portfolio, job contacts and college money. Our black children need a boost too. Why our kids always have to struggle..
Exactly! They don’t get that that is how so many white families have stayed wealthy through MULTIPLE
generations. Not saying nobody can get to the top on their own, but having a financial push makes a huge difference.
@@Dori90210 100% they help there damn kids.
And those same people build and hold power.
I am in total agreement.. why would i let me son start from the ground up if i have the means and resourses? Why does he have to struggle like i did? I wish i had a head start in life..
100% Cindy.
I agree with Garcelle. Helping your kids doesn't mean you're spoiling them, its just giving them some resources to help them get started. As long as they appreciate it and understand the value and thought behind it, its all good.
Definitely agree with Garcelle... helping your children won’t necessarily make them entitled!
If you have the means, help your children along!!! No harm in that!
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I agree with Garcelle. I think if my kids are in school and getting good grades, I would provide them with money, food, pay for their car ect. so they could focus entirely on their degree. Teach them about saving, credit ect. But once you get that first job outside of college, you're on your own! That's what my parents did and I'm doing great years later with no debt and a great job.
Exactly 💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Not helping your kids it’s how resentment starts towards their parents, you’re their parents for a reason and should always have their backs no matter what !!!
I agree; and many minorities are just too dumb to understand this. Instead they put on a burden on their young kids because many parents think once a kid turns 18 the tables turn and then it's time for their kids to take care of them. They do their kids a disservice..... all young adults should have guidance and shouldn't have to worry about their parents problems
Garcelle is absolutely right. When this kid learn how to drive you give them the tools (a car) and teach them the importance of maintaining (paying insurance etc). Garcelle sounds like a great mom I love hearing her talk about her kids.
The only mother in the panel didn’t really get to talk. She mentioned helping with money management and PREPARING them not “I’ll give them everything” They jumped at her unfairly when again she’s the only mom there and other moms out here would’ve appreciated listening to another moms experience being that she has a grown son and is now raising teenagers. Love them all but this was frustrating to watch.
It was so frustrating
Its cause shes black
Hopefully Garcelle can finish her points on IG. Shes the only one that can really speak and give examples. All this overtalking and interrupting is ridiculous. Teach the kids in your life starting young. HS to to help prepare them, not wait til the last quarter to give them life lessons that you should have started to teach in 5th grade
Why in the world is Adrienne trying to educate the parent...girl please !! times are different...my parents didn't buy me a car, my daughter got her first car when she was in college and yes I helped her‼️ What's wrong with parents helping there kids❓ Hell you bought your boyfriend a car....remember that!..so tired of your discussion with your husband when you have kids let the person that have kids talk. Then there's Jeannie yelling like she's crazy. Glad loni told Garcelle...she's a good mother
I feel like they were being narrow-minded and judgmental of Garcelle. I noticed that when it comes to parenting, Adrienne and Jeannie are the least receptive to other peoples’ perspectives. Let’s see what happens when Adrienne becomes a parent. I feel like she may become a hypocrite, or her kid will become famous and she won’t have to help them. Not everyone has access to your platform. If you can get your kid ahead, even unintentionally, by them being associated to your name, then why can’t a middle-class parent help their kid financially a little bit? If the kid is grateful and still has drive, I don’t see the issue.
@jessdaisy that’s not ok
Agree with Garcelle. Children are a gift. It is our role to serve as advocates.
I agree with Garcelle. I don't know why Adrienne was trying to make her look bad for wanting to buy her sons a car.
Jeannie too!!
I would probably buy myself a new car and pass down my old car to my child. Why would I want them to get into debt buying a car...something that loses value over time and you end up paying like triple the price in the end. Helping them buy a car is like giving them a head start and who wouldn't want that? Adrienne wouldn't deny her children a head start by denying a private school a education, so why would I, a normal person, deny my child the only head start I could perhaps give them.
I want to know what Garcelle had to say!
My daughter is my everything!! She gets whatever she wants because I LOVE her, she’s a good kid and want her to just enjoy her childhood.. When she turns 16 I will absolutely will buy her a nice car..When she goes to college I’m absolutely paying for her tuition and whatever she needs, as long she’s getting As & Bs and focusing on her classes I got her... I promise myself to always support my only daughter and to help her as much as I can.. My money is HER money!! I Can’t take my money with me when I die 🙆🏻♀️...
U sound just like my mom
Such a great mom❤️ you go!
You’re a awesome mom!
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯💯💯
Omg! The way they keep cutting Garcelle off!! 😑
I wish they would stop interrupting Garcelle. Not sure if its the show being on zoom but it's annoying coz it always looks like Adrienne and Jeanie are interrupting Garcelle.
Ohh Gosh here we go again Adrienne....i can't wait till you get children!!!!
Same happened when she was saying she was going to have sex every day with her husband lmao
@@jens8223
OMG...I remember that...they couldn't tell her anything, then what happened ? She tired...🤔
@@helenmayberry6010 Adrienne is really close minded and apparently inexperienced in life. She's older than me and still sounds like a child
@@jens8223 The only things Adrienne is wise to is about sex
Probably that the conversation she is having with Israel about his kids.
Damn I am so glad that Adrienne is NOT my mom. She sounds so ignorant & selfish. Just because u grew up in the hood & had to struggle means that your child has to struggle to while u have money...tf? The whole “my money is MY money” towards your own children is the most selfish thing I’ve ever heard! U can’t take it with u when u die so y can’t your kids have a little? Helping your kid with buying a car,teaching them about credit,& how to survive in the real world will not make them spoiled it’s giving them the necessities in life.
I feel like the OG ladies of “The Real” really shouldn’t talk so much during the parent & child discussions when no one expect Garcelle has kids! She’s the only one that can speak about being raised as kid & raising kids so she can give real opinions & real stories instead of the 3 childless ladies speaking with no experience.
no i agree she is sincerely scaring me and I don't want her as a mom. and its crazy cus i love her as an individual but seriously she needs to have more dimension when looking at parenting. Her "fear" is driving her to a bad extreme and if she isn't careful that child is gonna grow up feeling resentment and facing unnecessary hardship BECAUSE of her parents. and thats not the goal. the goal is to instill in them good values and gratitude so that when they do receive nice things and when they work & achieve them as well they will not take them for granted.
I think you can help your children in a loving way and give them the things you didn’t have without them becoming entitled and spoilt. It’s the values you instil in them beforehand.
But Garcelle actually raised a son and is raising two boys as we speak. Yet the others (and i do respect them) overtalk, i really wish we could have heared the points Garcelle was about to make. I prefer real talk vs all this trying to be funny
This is the only talk show I watch because I enjoy the topics and love the ladies but I can't understand or hear half of what they're saying because they keep talking over each other. The constant interrupting each other is driving me crazy.
It's ANNOYING! want the old studio set up back hopefully soon
Does Adrienne has imaginary children we don’t know about?...
Yep🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Probably
Starting a thread of frequently used phrases/words by Adrienne
"I can't make this up."
"Absolutely!"
"Of course!"
"I'm not tryna be funny.."
“ I love love love ...” 😊😊😊
I have a friend...
“What a concept”
@@nelly_008 Yessss lol!
“I hear that!”
A lot of people romanticize struggle when it comes to their kids. There's nothing wrong with giving your kid a head start if you can afford to. You can teach your child the value of money and hard work without depriving them.
Love you ladies and I know it’s difficult to be doing this show online but could y’all find a strategy to distribute the talking? I actually liked what Garcelle was talking about...
Oh Garcelle I LOVE YOU!!! A take that entitlement out of your mind, just rise them well thats all...... Life is hard af. Im 24 years old and when I moved out at 18 I didn't even know anything about credit i had a car at the time that was like 15 20 years old and i remember leaving my Burger King job at 3am 4am and having a flat on the side of the road because it would over heat or a flat..... I got arrested for the first time (&only time) for non payment for a bedroom set I had allll because i just didnt know what I was signing. I was bussing my ass too pay my rent... I have a 4 year old daughter that I hope I can give her a nice decent car for her 17 or 18th birthday. I necer ever want my daughter too hace that stress or ever feel lost like I did. Im going to teach my baby about credit and HELP her with every and anything. List is hard and I dont want my baby to go through what i did. HELP YOUR KIDS. TEACH YOUR KIDS. Thats all.
@Nelly Gabby
keep you head high...I am a single parent my daughter's older...at times I didn't have money to buy myself lunch but I always found a way to feed her first it was a struggle. She graduated from high school and went out of state to college. I helped her buy her first car when she was in her jr year (it wasn't new) . She's now an Asst Principal. There's nothing wrong with helping your kids especially if their doing positive things. Adrienne has no idea what she's talking about. Your journey bought tears to my eyes you will be fine, I wish you and your babygirl all the best ❤🙏🏾
The only parent on the panel couldn’t get a word in. So disappointing. I wanted to hear what Garcelle had to say.
I love it when Loni laughs🤣🤣her laugh is infectious
"Speak now or forever hold your piece."
-Mistress: "😱😡DON'T MARRY MY MAN!!" 😆
If you can help your kid out with a car. You should. Especially if they are going to college.it can be a crappy car but I believe its a necessity depending on where you live. You also don't want them missing classes because they have to work. I believe most parents will help their kids if they can. They don't want their kids to struggle.
Not EVERY parent that didn't do anything financially for their children are on TV Adrienne. My God! Everyone can't sing, act or destined for fame and TV, One of the most highest paid industries. Stop being so unrealistic. The more money and power The More out of touch WE become with other people's real life. Relax Girl. Yes You all are "KILLING IT' but get over yourself lol
She was so annoying in this segment
Exactly...in some cases they help them with their first home. My parents couldn't afford to do the things for us..I was able to help my daughter with her first car...she made the down payment with her money from her summer job she was in college so I made the monthly payments until she graduated...It's nothing wrong with helping your kids
@@helenmayberry6010 yes exactly and it won’t make them entitled or spoiled brats.
Facts
My dad bought me a used car at 16, and I was responsible for insurance. We bought our kids cars as well, but they were responsible for the insurance. Also, my high school had an Office course, which is how I learned to balance a checkbook, typing, 10-key, and filing. Of course this was in 1979-80, but from that class I fell in love with accounting and numbers. So no, they don't have those any longer, probably stopped in the mid to late 80s because my kids didn't have anything like this.
Omg why was everyone so loud while Garcelle was speaking it was rude.. let her finish her point damn
I really really want to see Adrienne with kids. She can talk right now but it is never the same once they come!!!! Garcelle is on point. For me. Helping but not giving them everything. Plus every parent should do what they want to do or not do for their kids and no judgement to the rest.
i too am getting quite annoyed with the talking over each other. I wanted to hear what Garcelle had to say when Adrienne asked why that couple with the hysterical bride ended up divorcing but instead loni kept intejecting with remarks and i just wanna hear everyone's point damnit
Adrienne knows damn well she's gonna be spoiling her kids ...
Right, we already see Iz doing it with his kids, especially the girls so what is she even talking about 🤣. If God blesses u with the ability to have a child that u been waiting for a long time, don’t sit here and tell me u not gonna help them get to where they need in life. It’s easier said then done.
Didn't her little niece have a cell phone?
Pink is definitely Jeannie's color ❤️ She looks so good in pink! 👍
The hosts are tripping if they think giving a child a car is a crutch.....they all sound jealous 🤣
Honestly as a parent, it's your job to give them the best head start ever.... my parents didn't come to "a land of opportunity" start from ground zero and build everything they have now, only for me to be born here and have to do it all over again... thats not generational wealth, my parents taught me the value of a dollar and the importance of hard work and rewards. They helped me push forward in whatever way they could, I was able to hit the ground running and maintain the momentum they afforded me... I plan to do the same for my kids... don't get me wrong, I never expected it or demanded it, but I recognized the opportunity and support placed before me... our parents may not have been able to give us money directly in our hands but again, however they could equip us, they definitely did, PERIOD! #MyTwoCents
Let Garcelle speak.
Don’t have kids if you don’t plan on helping and teaching them basic life skills.
I agree with gracelle on this one my father paid for my car but when I tried to pay him back and he was almost offended that I didn’t want him to take care of me. At the end of the day mothers and fathers (some) want to feel like they are doing their job of taking care of the kid. Doesn’t make me spoiled I’m grateful for my parents but I think when it come to this topic there is a difference between taking care of your children verses spoiling them. And also your children won’t turn out entitled if their character and integrity is intact.
Adrienne bought her dead beat past boyfriend a car that he still drives today but Garcelle helping her kid with a DOWN PAYMENT for a car is where she draws the line 😭 likeeeee???
Oh wow! 😳
I think that this conversation for Adrienne is moreso about Israel children, she saying in a diplomatic way .she probably don't want him helping his children.
My wedding drama...we had the ceremony at an outside church, one that I started going to at 10 years old and we fed the homeless...it was on the property of a Baptist church who partnered. In the middle of the wedding the pastor of the Baptist church pulled us aside as well as the pastor of the outside church who officiated...he said that he didn't know there would be music and he doesn't agree with music during weddings so we couldn't dance and play our music list..luckily we already had our first dance and our dances with our parents.... I hysterically cried.
As a mom myself I feel like the others shouldn’t say what’s good or wrong because they are not mothers yet . Garzelle I’m with you on this one
the interrupting is way beyond out of hand. its making it hard to watch.
I work hard so that my future children don't have to fight half the battles I did to get to the top. That's how we break generational poverty... Through providing better starting points for those next in line! If my mother had the means, she would have done so much more for me.
Pls pls. My parents are very much on the "whatever you need to build yourself up, we will help you with" tip. Obviously, I have and have had responsibilities most of my life and I have to maintain things but knowing that I'm building a career without certain stresses is a gift I don't take for granted and would consider it an honour to do the same for my kids someday.
Somebody tell them to stop cutting off Garcelle...and might I add its easy for Adrienne to say but how many of us know that what would be parents say and what actually happens when you have kids don't always line up
I don’t mind a head start. I just find it weird when grown people who are married and have children still depend on their parents for money. That is not good parenting in my opinion and shows codependency.
Period!!!
I agree with Adrienne and garcelle on one hand my mom was strick and I didn’t get help but to me it only made me work harder and appreciate what I have no but on the other hand theres nothing wrong with helping your child just as long as the help does not make them depend on you are make you enabler!!!!!!
Adrienne, not everyone who had your beginnings is now as successful as you. No.
I agree with Garcelle. Why not help your kids?! My dad bought me a house, as I would never be able to afford one in this economy. When you have children, you want to give them a head start on life and that doesn't mean they'll end up entitled..if you raise them right, they'll be grateful and thankful. Family is God's gift to us and He made us to help one another
Stressing me out and raising my blood pressure lol
Wait till those kids come Adrienne 😫😂😂
Yes Waitttttttt
Right?! 🤣🤣🤣
Drama is not for kids a good start for having a positive mindset is a start as well some parents believe in giving they’re kids advice not for starting drama 🎭
Exactly. I mean, if you can afford it, then sure, go ahead. I don’t know about BUYING their first car and apartment, but absolutely you as the parent should be teaching them the basics of money as far as budgeting, taxes, how to apply for a job, etc. That’s kind of what you signed up for when you made the choice (because becoming a parent is a choice) to become a parent. 🤷🏽♀️ But I don’t think you necessarily need to go out there and buy it for them - but you absolutely should teaching them how to save and spend responsibly - ESPECIALLY when it comes to credit cards!! One of the reasons we have such high credit card and student loan debt in this country is because most parents never fully educate their children on how to be responsible with money 💁🏽♀️
I really love this since the beginning but I'm sorry they have to figure out a way where they are not constantly cutting each other off. I can't understand anything! Garcelle was making a great point and everyone was trying to speak at the same time. I end up not understanding anyone!
I like the idea of giving teens a jump start, then letting them navigate their way through. And if they need any help, they should be able to go back to their family for guidance.
I always blame the American government for not supporting its citizens enough, so I couldn’t just throw my teens out and hope they figure it all out. The system has already set us up for failure. Heck, I only had 1 economics class in high school! And we never learned about building credit!
I think where Garcelle wanted to go is. Especially as black children. They should be able to grow up not always struggling as well. I’m not saying spoil them, but as some of the first generations of black people to have money to even be able to buy our children cars. Its special. And as a black mother it’s probably an honor for Garcelle to do it, because she’s breaking generational curses. Your children don’t have to go without, to be successful. Just raise them to be grateful, and to understand not everyone has their lifestyle. Education not restriction.
I think it is true in general that people appreciate things more.... when they work hard for it.....there just needs to be a middle ground between giving children everything as opposed to giving them nothing...
If you want your kid to excel in school, play a sport, be involved in their community, get enough sleep, AND save up thousands of dollars for a car while still in high school.... that’s a lot to ask. However, if they’re not focused on their studies and want an expensive car, they should get it themselves.
I would have loved to hear Tam's perspective.
I came from a family that struggled and I did fine without needing a car or other things like that. I was old enough to learn how to start doing things for myself in high school. I moved out at 19 on my own and was saving for an apt since high school.
Yeah but that was your situation and your parents didn't have a choice. Of your parents had the means to do more for you then why wouldn't they
Jeanny.. you cut off Garcelle, and didn't really had an opinion.. Totally agree with you Garcelle.. if you have the means you can equip them, don't mean everything is going to be just given to them..
Adrienne be acting like her point is always the correct one. Why would you let your kids struggle even when you’re wealthy? Buying your kid their first car and making them pay on it will now make your kid feel entitled. And plus she got like ~15 years to raise that child properly before a car is even thought of. Starting your kid off right in life will never make them feel entitled to your money if you raised them right
Jeannie and Adrienne... let Garcelle talk!!! Sheesh lol
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I love A, but once you have children, your heart changes.
Giving your children a kick start is okay.
As long as they have a good foundation, they won't be entitled.
That groom has some daddy issues! 😂
Knowledge ain't 💩 without tangible support. Giving your children a head start with cash or kind ain't creating any mindset of parents being obligated, once you raised your children right ✌🏾
Thank u Jeannie for not romanticizing home ec 😭😭😭
I know it was to teach to be a house wife...never changed from the 50s
Stop talking over each other!! I wanted to hear what Garcelle was trying to say and Loni kept taking. Come on!!
Jeannie and Adrienne need to let Garcelle speak!!!
Gravelly was speaking nothing but truth!
I will help my kid by taking them to the bank to open up accounts and co-signing on loans with them but that's about it. When I die, they will be taken care of. But, before then, they need to make their own way.
I just had to edit/delete my comment... I've never seen so many negative comments and refuse to be part of the mob.
The idea that you have to grow up the same as the generation before in order to be as successful is so unprogressive. As our parents you should utilize what you have to curate the best situation, and allow your child to grow from that. They’re exceptions, but most people that grew up without money, still don’t have it.
I don’t like Adriennes point of wanting to teach her kids that the money she has is hers only, and that they would be entitled for expecting help. Like why do we glorify hardships, I don’t believe kids should have everything handed to them but parents chose to bring kids into the world. Kids and tweens can’t legally make their own money to provide for themselves, so they will have to rely on parents for majority of their childhood, their is literally no problem with teaching kids financiers, it’s beneficial.
Wish there was a better way for all of them to speak there points cause everyone talks on top of each other is like a headache. Wish Garcelle could’ve kept going with her point she was going somewhere!!!!
They don’t know what they’re talking about. If you have the means to set your children so that they’re not struggling just to even get around, then who in their right mind would not provide that? They don’t have children so they don’t know. I agree with Garcelle.
i wish home economics was still around when i was in school. and i was born in 87. it was already long gone.
This was such a great topic you guys should do RUclips lives together on this page
Yall's outfit colors are incredible
Garcelle is an amazing mum, if you have the means, why not help them?
I gotta say to you guys. I like this show just as much though you're not together in the studio.
I remember on previous episode of the real, loni mentioned a wedding where the side chick showed up and they had to stop the wedding...now she has this story about the mistress...I wonder which one is true 🧐
I remember that and they stayed and partied at the reception lol
Well she does host bridezillas so she must see all kinds of crap
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I immediately thought of Ross and Emily's wedding, hahaha.