@@Raj-ld1oy never said they didn’t. They absolutely do as well. I’m not part of that statistic, seeing as I got my tubes tied, but I get what your saying 💁🏽♀️
Im glad loni stood up and defended the Christian mindset ... because originally that’s what it is .... Now if you choose to sign a prenup, that’s your personal choice.
I would love to have 4 kids with the same gender. My aunt has 4 daughters and my cousin has 4 sons, and their Kids dynamic is so different from everything i have seen in other families, they are this sibling-gang of 4 that no one can come in between hahaha.
@@yasminejasmine4368 sooo cool, siblings but also best friends. Siblings of the same gender can relate much more to life experiences the other one is going through!!
This stems from a very traditional mindset where you are expected to bear at least a son. My brother has 3 daughter and 1 son. His son is autistic, so my mom urge them to try to have another son. His wife is currently pregnant with their fifth child and we don't know the gender yet. My other brother has 3 daugthers and feels like he has enough kids already, but my parents wants him to try for a son. Sometimes the question is harmless, but if it doesn't stop after you already gave them an answer, then it's really just being rude.
Really? Because where I'm from if you as the celebrant invites people you should be prepared to pay and I'm pretty regular. Now with my friends, if the celebrant invites you but can't pay, they tell you "you're invited but you're going to pay for yourself", then if you can't afford it you stay home.
@@victoryjessey yeah nope, if I say "I'm having a party and you're invited" than I'm paying but if I say "we're going out to celebrate my birthday" everyone pays for themselves.
@@mscstapleton with a birthday party that’s different. Unless someone throws a party for me that’s cool and I’d be so grateful (or like a surprise party). However, with a birthday dinner nah. Everyone is paying for themselves
Lmao Jeannie is defo not bugging, - outside of America there are many cultures including mine where the celebrant is expected to cover the costs for a dinner for example.
Really? I’m living in Spain and it’s expected that the birthday person pays. I also grew up in Nigerian/African culture and it’s the same...the people invited don’t pay 😅
I hate when new yorkers think they can put people down like that by saying such things. Their soo cocky it's crunchy a.f. not everyone from wherever are that!!
Lmao no it's not a Hollywood thing - I'm Nigerian and if you invite someone to a party or your birthday you're expected to provide as the host. But growing up in the UK, people started asking people to pay for themselves as everything is so expensive here. However, I'm a believer in cutting your coat according to your size
I love that they've gone back to talking about fluff topics, instead of hard news. I follow the news everyday. I come to The Real to escape it, not to listen to The View 2.0. I also love how chilled out Loni is at home. She's been letting everyone talk without only arguing her point.
😄 I'm a regular shmegular and where I'm from if you invite people for your birthday you should be ready to pay, now if you can't afford it you tell people ahead of time, you're invited but you're paying for yourself and then anyone who can't pay won't come
As someone having a birthday dinner this weekend. I will not be paying for anyone else’s meal. Thank you Adrienne for speaking for the regular folks. Fortunately my friends always pay for my birthday meal as well, but I come prepared to pay for my own.
Angie Martinez Inducted Into the Radio Hall of Fame ---------------- I love me some Angie... listen the way she has made her mark in the hip hop/ music industry to even being one of top people to listen to on the radio...this woman can do NO wrong... she’s a dope personality , she’s all good vibes , anytime you hers her name it’s nothing but good news and for that she gets all my respect ! Prayer Over Prenup -------------- I don’t think having a prenup is nonsense... nor does it mean that a person is necessarily not trusting of their partner... it’s one thing to become one , and it’s another to take something that wasn’t yours to begin with... to me becoming one means all the things going FORWARD you do as one... if you choose to have a bank account together fine , if you choose to make a mighty fine investment in something make sure you do it together..stuff like that! But this is more than just about materialistic things..l some people use faith as a way to manipulate or use it against someone and end up doing dirty deeds in the end and that’s not ok... nobody goes into a marriage wanting a divorce, but at least be PREPARED & PROTECTED just in case , cuz things happen , love changes and people change Borrowing from Bae -------------- I’m gonna mention a quote Tam once said ... and that is “ If You Lend Money to Someone , Think Of It As A Gift” Now if you get it back... that’s fine but don’t expect to get it back... because sometimes as much as I would like to be petty and keep tabs and let people know they are in debt with me... I’m not gonna let someone as small as money make me act out of character..l I will however treat you according whether you’re my partner or not... now I will have a conversation but I’m not gonna constantly keep checking with you like “ hey so when you gon give me back my 30 dollars I let you borrow “ Quit the Questions ------------- I think one question that irritates me a lot is... when like you’re at a family function every damn year someone in th family days “ omg look at you getting all big how old are you now , th last time I saw you was when u were a toddler “ and in my head I’m like “ a year older than I was last year when u saw me “ but outside I’m like “ heyyyy nice to see you... I’m 19 now “ like it annoys me lol Birthday Bill ------------ First of all... if it’s MY BIRTHDAY PARTY... where tf are we going that u one necessarily have to pay and two... why is that I have to pay on my birthday... it’s MY DAY! Better be glad I even offered to host something on my day when I’d rather have y’all plan and surprise me... people are so entitled 😂 I would rather have a party/ big celebration at my house rather than go out and pay for people’s meals...
I agree with Jeanie, you should be prepared to pay because if everyone was like I'm broke and stayed home you would feel some type of way if nobody showed up especially if you're the one who gave the invitation. If your friends say they're taking you out for dinner on your birthday that's different.
I'm old skool, if im having a party to celebrate me I'm prepared to pay for everybody stuff. The issue is that people having parties at places they can't afford. I don't need to spend RuthCrust money when I was just at your house having Dominios Pizza.
Cuz she’s going from the POV of those fake judgy holier than thou Christians. Not saying she is one, Loni loves playing devils advocate to keep everything balanced to some extent.
Love doesn’t last forever. Relationships fade. I do not want to share what ever I inherit with the husband if it doesn’t last so I’m signing up for the prenup. And if you can stop asking why I don’t lose weight that’d be great
I totally agree with Adrienne regarding birthday dinner; I'd love to share my celebration with my friends, but if we go to a restaurant, your meal is your responsibility. I'd be prepared to pay for my meal, but usually friends/family will treat the birthday girl/guy. In this instance, your attendance is my birthday "gift" and anything else gifted to me is icing on the cake.
If your friends and family treat you to a birthday meal at a restaurant it's fine. But please don't ask people to come out and pay for their own meals. It's so tacky and cheap. It just makes you look like you're broke and forcing to have a celebration. You honestly won't die if you stay home and order yourself a pizza on your birthday.
@@angelwallace6319 because you're HOSTING a dinner and that's what a host does. They provide the meal. Will you make your guests pay for their own meals at your wedding as well?😒
It is insensitive to ask a woman when she will have a baby. You don’t know her struggles. Adrienne has shared the bff struggles of conceiving. So stop asking her
The question “ when are you gonna have a baby” is rude because you don’t know their journey, miscarriages are common, they could be trying to adopt or in general have issues like what type of answer do you expect? It’s so entitled
I hate the question “is that your REAL hair?” I know Black girls feel me, at this point I say YES I don’t care if it’s blonde to my toes, they wouldn’t ask that to anyone else like chile bye
Wigs, extensions, hairpieces have been so normalized in 2021. There is nothing embarrassing about it. People are generally interested, sometimes they ask because they wanna buy it too. I do think it depends on who asks me though.
If you are the birthday person, then it would seem more sensible to have someone invite you out than for you to ask people to come out to celebrate with you. If I wanted to organize something instead, I would be fine with hosting something that I could afford for each guest that I would want to invite. In return, people I would invite would likely bring me a nice gift and of course be good company anyway. If someone is not paying for their guests, then at least make sure there is no pre-set menu and that people can order within their price range.
Prayer is not tied to one thing you can literally pray about anything. A prenuptial is a legally binding contract that you sign when marrying someone who has assets or potential assets in case of a divorce they are protected so they don't get finessed. It should be prayer for marriage or marriage counselling. Which is very debatable...true or very true?
You don't have to pay for everyone's meal, be prepared to pay for yours and choose a restaurant within everyone's budget or be okay if people decline, and maybe do somehing else with said people.
I don't like when people ask why I'm not Married yet? 😩 Because i rather take my time to meet a quality man than rush and meet some jerk that I'm probably just gona end up divorcing anyways.
Why should I pay for everyone’s meal. I agree that you should pay for your own meal. Maybe not everyone makes good money. Then go somewhere everyone can afford to go
Prenups are important to have it’s just to protect both parties just in case and I understand why Adrienne is annoyed everyone knows she wants a child more than anything and to keep mentioning it are asking is insensitive !!!!!!!
That’s such a Hollywood thing. I have never lol. If I’m inviting you to dinner, y’all are paying for your meal. Everyone is paying for their own meal. You shouldn’t have to pay for everyone’s meal on my birthday? That makes no sense. Come celebrate with me or nah. If you can’t then don’t come or if I got it then I’ll pay for your meal. If I offer to pay for someone’s meal cause they don’t got it on my birthday then that’s different. In general if I say my treat as a gift - like if I offer then that’s different. if someone invites you somewhere don’t expect that person to pay for you. If you ain’t got it then don’t come or know your budget and spend accordingly.
Birthday Dinner Discussion: I think Jeannie was right, if you invite everyone and you are planning the party/dinner or whatever then you should pay. If you get surprised or taken out by your fam and friends then that's different because it's coming from them. I am not paying for someone who is throwing a party for themselves and called all of us to come😂 I was raised that if you invite people then you pay. If you agree early on you are all going and you're going to split the bill or pay for someone because its their b-day then that is talked about beforehand. But YOU invite ME and expect ME to pay for YOU? 🤔
Nah I hate when people do that. In high school I had a friend who hopped onto that trend despite having very financially stable parents who didn't mind throwing her a birthday party every year. I straight up told her to pay for my meal when she invited everyone out for dinner for her birthday cause hello I brought a gift. Lol she NEVER pulled that stunt again 😂
@@omphilemoerane2569 exactly! How do people expect you to pay for them when they don't know if you got it like that? Don't invite me to come out and then hand me your check😶
That bill could literally be $300, I don’t get why the person being celebrated has to pay for everyone on their birthday. If they do that sort nice but definitely not expected
For me I do agree with both Jeannie and Adrianne, depending on how close is the friendship. Like me and my friends, no matter who invites or if its your Birthday, you are expect to pay for yourself, but we have been friends for years. My sister is the same situation with her and her friends. My mom and her best friend, have a plan and budget where they take turns paying when they go out to eat, no matter who invities. However, if I invited someone who I am friends with for not very long or never really hang out with her, then I will pay for her. Like there was situation with one of my mom's friend, she was invited to Chuckie Cheese by one of the parents of her daughter friends, since it was her daughter's best friend birthday. The daughters were friends but the parents were at most acquaintences. When she arrived at Chuckie E Cheese, it was expect for her to pay for her daughters tokens and meal. My mom friend at that time a stay at home parent, lucky she had cash on herself. I found that pretty cheap and rude since it wasn't talk beforehand esp since she is stay at home mom. They weren't really friends, their daughters were friends, and it was kids party. Like when my mom threw my and my sister parties when we were kids, she never made the guest pay for their meals.
Exactly! The that's so Hollywood thing reminds me that a lot of people forget other cultures exist out side of the the USA. If I tell my friends I want to host something then I will pay for it, if it's too much reduce the amount of people or do nothing - cut your coat according to your size
A prenup doesn't mean "I dont trust you." It means "I trust and love you but I don't know what will happen in the future. Life can be unexpected." Btw I love Loni's shirt :)
The double standards people, but where I come from we are like Jeannie you are expected to pay for the guests. That's why I don't do BD parties coz Iam cheap and I don't want to pay for everybody 🙃
I'm with Angie on this "I don't want to pay for your dinner". More specifically, if you came out to celebrate with me on my birthday with genuine sincerity and love - why do you find it hard to pay your own bill. It's my birthday and I did not force you to come. That's the height of audacity wanting the birthday person to foot the bill of the multitudes....hell nooo!!! Period! *Btw my view goes both ways, I have no problem paying my own bill.
I agree that a pre-nip sets the relationship up for a rocky start. When you get married, you become one and so should your finances. That’s why it’s important to vet out your spouse. I understand that Jeannie has a different perspective because she’s divorced. However, the concept remains.
I disagree - how you go about it is what sets the precedent for your marriage. If you're open about communications and your reasons for getting a pre-nup then it really shouldn't.
A prenup is clear open and honest communication. They can put the assets in a trust and not tell you anything. A prenup gives both party a say no different than a will, which should be drafted or revised at the time of prenup draft
The thing about paying for a birthday dinner is so interesting, as it differs so much from culture to culture 😊 Here in Croatia it's always the person whose birthday it is paying for everything. The friends bring the presents, have a great time and that's it. But in no way would they be expected to pay for anything regarding the dinner or the party.
Funny that Loni's opinion on prenups is more christian than the Christians on the panel 😂 Loni is a very beautiful woman. She def styles herself waaaaay better than the stylists in-studio.
I think the girls got the question twisted. If your friends invite you out for a bday meal that's totally different and they should treat you and you obviously be prepared to pay for yourself. HOWEVER, if I have invited my friends out to eat, KM AM CELEBRATING MYSELF so will gladly pay for everyone's meals they just shouldn't expect it. That is how most Africans celebrate their bdays, it's when I got to this country that I realised If you're invited to eat out for someone's bday then you're required to pay for yourself
I agree with Loni based on experience. I did not have a prenup on my first marriage because we both had nothing. My Business professor always said you should always have a prenup anytime either person has assets and/or children. Now I have my children to protect as well as myself. You don’t divorce the same person you marry. I never thought I would divorce much less have a messy divorce but it happens. Everyone stay safe!
Things happen and y'all might get divorced nobody go into a marriage thinking they are going to get a divorce a prenup protects you against the worse happening a divorce. If you don't get a prenup then you don't care about what you worked for.
@@d.g9661 it’s also shows you are only worried about yourself and tad selfish . If you living together both paying bills, mortgage , struggle etc then if a divorce happens , YES that person is entitled to half .
@@Gheuns3251 well that’s the problem. Each is entitled to half but it doesn’t always end nicely and the situation can get messy and that’s what the prenup is for to help settle things fairly in case anything happens.
1. Prayer vs. prenup: it seems like only Loni understood the topic. 2. Where do people get the balls to ask people such inappropriate questions? It’s shocking. 3. I agree with Adrienne, you should be prepared to pay for your own meal. And everyone can contribute to pay for the birthday girl/boy.
I kinda think adrienne is hypocrite because on the show she aaaaalwaaaaays talked about how she can't wait to have babies and things like that and now she is married for what, 3 years, haven't had children yet and she gets surprised that people ask her that? If she were true to her word she would at least say: "I decided differently, I don't want baby just yet" or sth like that
Prenup topic: I used to think prenups were offensive and meant that you didn’t trust me, but I’ve seen people get screwed over in their marriages because there wasn’t anything set in place beforehand. I’d rather be safe than sorry. I hate being asked “when are you gonna get a boyfriend? Are you talking to someone yet” like damn, mind ya business 😅😅 It’s one thing if I throw a birthday party at my house and provide the food/liq/music and allat, then yeah I’m supposed to pay for it. But if I want to go out to dinner for my birthday at a restaurant , why should I pay for everyone? Me personally, I’m ok with paying my own bill, but I’m not bout to cover the whole table. Plus my friends would never let that fly. Whenever it’s someone’s b-day, we buy them drinks and split their bill.
The two said Christians on the show (Adrienne and Jeannie) don't seem to be born-again so of course they wouldn't get it. Thank you Lonnie for providing an authentic Christian perspective.
Prenups have a negative connotation especially from women because they think it basically means they will be left high and dry but from my research it is just setting the terms. A woman can also negotiate her wants too! Prenups should be normalized!
what works in our marriage is that all money goes into our account and all bills get taken out. we also have separate savings as well. my husband and I are both financially responsible so we both entrust each other with our finances. We are either gonna be balling together or broke together. And since we are in our mid 30s we always have a surplus. not only that I helped get our credit scores up as well. so now we both can finance anything we want.
Both Ade and Jeannie are correct. This is depending on your setting. In a regular setting, expect to pay for yourself unless you told them ahead of time “the bill would be on me.” In a Hollywood setting, i think it’s probably also good to be clear but to also expect to potentially have to pay for everyone depending. At the end of the day, but be clear any Joe the Bill will go and is in the moment someone offers to pay for your meal, that’s kind. No one should assume you’re paying and then order recklessly. That’s rude in any setting.
If you’re going to a birthday dinner or going to the club for a birthday it should be discussed who is paying before hand, but I will pay for the birthday person. Even if it’s my birthday I just assume I’m paying for myself, especially if I made the plans. If we’re going to a club I’ll buy the birthday person a drink or two depending on why they order, but I’m not footing the bill for the whole night, drinks are expensive.
Hm... I got a contract with my longterm partner eventho were not even married... U know he loves you when he says "let's go and write something down so u know u are protected no matter what"
Exactly if you're partner truly loves you, they will have 0 issue with you doing something that makes you feel safe. No different than turning on the alarm and buckling up the seat belt
@@joypeaceandhappiness1501 thank you for your insight and comment, i appritiate your logic and you are right - how strange would it be if in the car a woman puts a seat belt and a man gets upset and says "wait, you dont trust me that im a good driver??" ☺️🍀
This birthday thing is cultural, where I'm from the birthday person pays for their celebration, party, dinner or whatever. The guests are expected to bring the gifts. I thought it was so weird when I saw that in the US the guests are expected to pay on someone else's birthday party that someone else organised. And bring the gift?
It's a birthday dinner everyone pays for themselves I've never had to explain to anyone that has ever been to one for me. The only way I would pay is if I had it at a restaurant i know is out of the price range for friends.
@@susuilu not really and I've never been at a dinner an expected to be paid for I guess my friends,family, and self must be different because this has never been a problem and we all have birthday dinners for our bithday8
I agree. Don't have a birthday party if you can't afford it. I don't have parties because I can't afford to. If your friends plan it for you then that's awesome. But if you cannot afford to do something then don't do it.
Exactly, such a Hollywood thing. Why would I pay for all my friends on my birthday dinner??? It's different if I'm asking you to pay at a party that I'm throwing. For a dinner? Nah bih, you got yourself
When God instituted marriage, there was no mention of prenups. If we TRUST GOD to lead us to the spouse that HE HAS IN STORE for us, I STRONGLY believe there will be NO NEED for a prenup because there won’t be a divorce. Also within the marriage, both parties are supposed to put GOD FIRST in order for the marriage to work!! Period!
@@Sassy_Muffin136 I hear you.. as sweet and dandy as this sounds, it's unfortunately not the case for even strong believers.. the marriage just ends and you're left with the greedy side of this person you've loved for months and years.. the fight gets ugly during the divorce and you get shocked, wondering if you ever knew this person at all... If anyone feels the need to do it, then they should get a prenup. I strongly believe that whether one does a prenup or not, a marriage that will end, will end and the ones that will stay till death, will. It's just what it is
I think the meal paying perspective is very Bay Area!!! We always invite people and pay for everyone never expect for someone else to pay for our fun but if they offer they’re awesome friends!
When Loni said “I did some research and asked my Christian friends” meaning, she probably asked Tamera hahaha
😂😂😅🤔
but Tamera signed a prenup it sounded like she asked people that didnt sign a prenup.
Hahaaa! True! That is exactly who she called lol
Jacqueline hahahaha true that
Tamera has a prenup with her husband
Loni’s Outfit is Giving Me Life ❤️
Yasssss
She looks so good✨
Loni looks like a beautiful African queen in this outfit
A piece of paper offers more legal protection than any man’s word does. Simple as that. 💁🏽♀️
Preach
You better preach!
The same applies to a womans word.
Women say i'm on the pill but she suddenly becomes pregnant?
Don't act like women don't ever lie.
Yass Qween!
@@Raj-ld1oy never said they didn’t. They absolutely do as well. I’m not part of that statistic, seeing as I got my tubes tied, but I get what your saying 💁🏽♀️
This is why I love Loni, she always considers everyone's side of the story
Loni you are shinning thru lockdown
Better than in the studio
I wonder if they have someone doing their hair and makeup at home
I might pray before getting in a car but that doesn't mean I won't put my seatbelt on
I like that quote sis
Im glad loni stood up and defended the Christian mindset ... because originally that’s what it is .... Now if you choose to sign a prenup, that’s your personal choice.
I hate being asked “are you going to try for a baby boy?” I have 4 daughters..... I’m done with kids why should I try for a boy
lol same I have 2 boys and they keep asking me “where’s the girl?” Like why? I’m content with my two kids ☺️
I would love to have 4 kids with the same gender. My aunt has 4 daughters and my cousin has 4 sons, and their Kids dynamic is so different from everything i have seen in other families, they are this sibling-gang of 4 that no one can come in between hahaha.
@@marykay7878 it’s good especially my 2 oldest are 2 years apart and the younger 2 are twins so they each have a partner
@@yasminejasmine4368 sooo cool, siblings but also best friends. Siblings of the same gender can relate much more to life experiences the other one is going through!!
This stems from a very traditional mindset where you are expected to bear at least a son. My brother has 3 daughter and 1 son. His son is autistic, so my mom urge them to try to have another son. His wife is currently pregnant with their fifth child and we don't know the gender yet. My other brother has 3 daugthers and feels like he has enough kids already, but my parents wants him to try for a son. Sometimes the question is harmless, but if it doesn't stop after you already gave them an answer, then it's really just being rude.
Jeannie is buggin about the birthday party... Adrienne was on point with "that's so Hollywood"
Really? Because where I'm from if you as the celebrant invites people you should be prepared to pay and I'm pretty regular. Now with my friends, if the celebrant invites you but can't pay, they tell you "you're invited but you're going to pay for yourself", then if you can't afford it you stay home.
@@victoryjessey yeah nope, if I say "I'm having a party and you're invited" than I'm paying but if I say "we're going out to celebrate my birthday" everyone pays for themselves.
@@mscstapleton with a birthday party that’s different. Unless someone throws a party for me that’s cool and I’d be so grateful (or like a surprise party). However, with a birthday dinner nah. Everyone is paying for themselves
Lmao Jeannie is defo not bugging, - outside of America there are many cultures including mine where the celebrant is expected to cover the costs for a dinner for example.
@@essie420 we don’t have money for that
I'm glad Adrienne pointed out that thats a Hollywood way of thinking cuz I've never paid for another person's meal at a dinner
Really? I’m living in Spain and it’s expected that the birthday person pays. I also grew up in Nigerian/African culture and it’s the same...the people invited don’t pay 😅
I hate when new yorkers think they can put people down like that by saying such things. Their soo cocky it's crunchy a.f. not everyone from wherever are that!!
@@TheFilmLocker it's a hollywood thing from a USA perspective.
@@TheFilmLocker I'm a Nigerian, the people invited don't pay 😄
Lmao no it's not a Hollywood thing - I'm Nigerian and if you invite someone to a party or your birthday you're expected to provide as the host. But growing up in the UK, people started asking people to pay for themselves as everything is so expensive here. However, I'm a believer in cutting your coat according to your size
I love that they've gone back to talking about fluff topics, instead of hard news. I follow the news everyday. I come to The Real to escape it, not to listen to The View 2.0. I also love how chilled out Loni is at home. She's been letting everyone talk without only arguing her point.
Exactly!!!
Thank god Adrienne was here to speak up for us regular shmegulars 😩❤️
😄 I'm a regular shmegular and where I'm from if you invite people for your birthday you should be ready to pay, now if you can't afford it you tell people ahead of time, you're invited but you're paying for yourself and then anyone who can't pay won't come
@@victoryjessey Exactly
As someone having a birthday dinner this weekend. I will not be paying for anyone else’s meal. Thank you Adrienne for speaking for the regular folks. Fortunately my friends always pay for my birthday meal as well, but I come prepared to pay for my own.
*Ive said it and will continue to say it. Loni is so pretty* 🥺
Yesssss 😍
Angie Martinez Inducted Into the Radio Hall of Fame
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I love me some Angie... listen the way she has made her mark in the hip hop/ music industry to even being one of top people to listen to on the radio...this woman can do NO wrong... she’s a dope personality , she’s all good vibes , anytime you hers her name it’s nothing but good news and for that she gets all my respect !
Prayer Over Prenup
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I don’t think having a prenup is nonsense... nor does it mean that a person is necessarily not trusting of their partner... it’s one thing to become one , and it’s another to take something that wasn’t yours to begin with... to me becoming one means all the things going FORWARD you do as one... if you choose to have a bank account together fine , if you choose to make a mighty fine investment in something make sure you do it together..stuff like that! But this is more than just about materialistic things..l some people use faith as a way to manipulate or use it against someone and end up doing dirty deeds in the end and that’s not ok... nobody goes into a marriage wanting a divorce, but at least be PREPARED & PROTECTED just in case , cuz things happen , love changes and people change
Borrowing from Bae
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I’m gonna mention a quote Tam once said ... and that is “ If You Lend Money to Someone , Think Of It As A Gift” Now if you get it back... that’s fine but don’t expect to get it back... because sometimes as much as I would like to be petty and keep tabs and let people know they are in debt with me... I’m not gonna let someone as small as money make me act out of character..l I will however treat you according whether you’re my partner or not... now I will have a conversation but I’m not gonna constantly keep checking with you like “ hey so when you gon give me back my 30 dollars I let you borrow “
Quit the Questions
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I think one question that irritates me a lot is... when like you’re at a family function every damn year someone in th family days “ omg look at you getting all big how old are you now , th last time I saw you was when u were a toddler “ and in my head I’m like “ a year older than I was last year when u saw me “ but outside I’m like “ heyyyy nice to see you... I’m 19 now “ like it annoys me lol
Birthday Bill
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First of all... if it’s MY BIRTHDAY PARTY... where tf are we going that u one necessarily have to pay and two... why is that I have to pay on my birthday... it’s MY DAY! Better be glad I even offered to host something on my day when I’d rather have y’all plan and surprise me... people are so entitled 😂 I would rather have a party/ big celebration at my house rather than go out and pay for people’s meals...
Agreed
Very true! People change, especially MEN. I’m definitely signing a prenup.
I agree with Jeanie, you should be prepared to pay because if everyone was like I'm broke and stayed home you would feel some type of way if nobody showed up especially if you're the one who gave the invitation. If your friends say they're taking you out for dinner on your birthday that's different.
I'm old skool, if im having a party to celebrate me I'm prepared to pay for everybody stuff. The issue is that people having parties at places they can't afford. I don't need to spend RuthCrust money when I was just at your house having Dominios Pizza.
Loni seem to get the 'Christian' thought line than the two who speak more of being 'Christians'
No offence meant.
I was waiting for A to confirm what Loni was saying. My assumption is she has one.
Cuz she’s going from the POV of those fake judgy holier than thou Christians. Not saying she is one, Loni loves playing devils advocate to keep everything balanced to some extent.
Love doesn’t last forever. Relationships fade. I do not want to share what ever I inherit with the husband if it doesn’t last so I’m signing up for the prenup.
And if you can stop asking why I don’t lose weight that’d be great
I hadn’t listened to the video yet so the last part threw me. I said who is out here insulting commenters about their weight?! Lord
I totally agree with Adrienne regarding birthday dinner; I'd love to share my celebration with my friends, but if we go to a restaurant, your meal is your responsibility. I'd be prepared to pay for my meal, but usually friends/family will treat the birthday girl/guy.
In this instance, your attendance is my birthday "gift" and anything else gifted to me is icing on the cake.
If your friends and family treat you to a birthday meal at a restaurant it's fine. But please don't ask people to come out and pay for their own meals. It's so tacky and cheap. It just makes you look like you're broke and forcing to have a celebration. You honestly won't die if you stay home and order yourself a pizza on your birthday.
@@omphilemoerane2569 I mean....if I’m the birthday girl why should I have to pay for everyone else’s meal?
@@angelwallace6319 because you're HOSTING a dinner and that's what a host does. They provide the meal. Will you make your guests pay for their own meals at your wedding as well?😒
Angel Wallace because you invited them. The same as inviting to a wedding or any celebration. People don’t pay to attend. Same for bdays I think 😅
Omphile Moerane exactly! 😅
Jeanie is so on point here. In my culture if you are inviting people for your party. You host them. If you dont have money to invite nobody
It is insensitive to ask a woman when she will have a baby. You don’t know her struggles. Adrienne has shared the bff struggles of conceiving. So stop asking her
The question “ when are you gonna have a baby” is rude because you don’t know their journey, miscarriages are common, they could be trying to adopt or in general have issues like what type of answer do you expect? It’s so entitled
I hate the question “is that your REAL hair?” I know Black girls feel me, at this point I say YES I don’t care if it’s blonde to my toes, they wouldn’t ask that to anyone else like chile bye
I answer truthfully
I don’t mind the question
People are curious
And if it actually is my real hair, I find it a compliment
@@dhenderson319 Agreed , I would not take offense at that question especially in 2021....
Depends who ask... But overall, it is a silly question.
Wigs, extensions, hairpieces have been so normalized in 2021. There is nothing embarrassing about it. People are generally interested, sometimes they ask because they wanna buy it too. I do think it depends on who asks me though.
@@roka2031 I've been getting that question since 20 years ago. It will never stop.
Loni's skin is always flawless
If you are the birthday person, then it would seem more sensible to have someone invite you out than for you to ask people to come out to celebrate with you. If I wanted to organize something instead, I would be fine with hosting something that I could afford for each guest that I would want to invite. In return, people I would invite would likely bring me a nice gift and of course be good company anyway. If someone is not paying for their guests, then at least make sure there is no pre-set menu and that people can order within their price range.
I love the way Jeannie is sitting lolol she’s so casual!!
Prayer is not tied to one thing you can literally pray about anything. A prenuptial is a legally binding contract that you sign when marrying someone who has assets or potential assets in case of a divorce they are protected so they don't get finessed. It should be prayer for marriage or marriage counselling. Which is very debatable...true or very true?
You don't have to pay for everyone's meal, be prepared to pay for yours and choose a restaurant within everyone's budget or be okay if people decline, and maybe do somehing else with said people.
It's called trust can be broken. You can trust a person wholeheartedly and that trust can still be broken.
I don't like when people ask why I'm not Married yet? 😩 Because i rather take my time to meet a quality man than rush and meet some jerk that I'm probably just gona end up divorcing anyways.
I’m so grateful for y’all I literally been watching y’all everyday for years yall my h0es for life!!! 😭❤️
Why should I pay for everyone’s meal. I agree that you should pay for your own meal. Maybe not everyone makes good money. Then go somewhere everyone can afford to go
This!
Prenups are important to have it’s just to protect both parties just in case and I understand why Adrienne is annoyed everyone knows she wants a child more than anything and to keep mentioning it are asking is insensitive !!!!!!!
I agree with Jeannie, you have to be prepared to pay. You are the one who invited your guests.
That’s such a Hollywood thing. I have never lol. If I’m inviting you to dinner, y’all are paying for your meal. Everyone is paying for their own meal. You shouldn’t have to pay for everyone’s meal on my birthday? That makes no sense. Come celebrate with me or nah. If you can’t then don’t come or if I got it then I’ll pay for your meal. If I offer to pay for someone’s meal cause they don’t got it on my birthday then that’s different.
In general if I say my treat as a gift - like if I offer then that’s different. if someone invites you somewhere don’t expect that person to pay for you. If you ain’t got it then don’t come or know your budget and spend accordingly.
Loni looks lovely, like my auntie. A Nigerian auntie.
Loni looks gorgeous in that outfit!! literally clicked on the video bc of her look. great job!!!
Birthday Dinner Discussion: I think Jeannie was right, if you invite everyone and you are planning the party/dinner or whatever then you should pay. If you get surprised or taken out by your fam and friends then that's different because it's coming from them. I am not paying for someone who is throwing a party for themselves and called all of us to come😂 I was raised that if you invite people then you pay. If you agree early on you are all going and you're going to split the bill or pay for someone because its their b-day then that is talked about beforehand. But YOU invite ME and expect ME to pay for YOU? 🤔
Nah I hate when people do that. In high school I had a friend who hopped onto that trend despite having very financially stable parents who didn't mind throwing her a birthday party every year. I straight up told her to pay for my meal when she invited everyone out for dinner for her birthday cause hello I brought a gift. Lol she NEVER pulled that stunt again 😂
@@omphilemoerane2569 exactly! How do people expect you to pay for them when they don't know if you got it like that? Don't invite me to come out and then hand me your check😶
That bill could literally be $300, I don’t get why the person being celebrated has to pay for everyone on their birthday. If they do that sort nice but definitely not expected
For me I do agree with both Jeannie and Adrianne, depending on how close is the friendship. Like me and my friends, no matter who invites or if its your Birthday, you are expect to pay for yourself, but we have been friends for years. My sister is the same situation with her and her friends. My mom and her best friend, have a plan and budget where they take turns paying when they go out to eat, no matter who invities. However, if I invited someone who I am friends with for not very long or never really hang out with her, then I will pay for her. Like there was situation with one of my mom's friend, she was invited to Chuckie Cheese by one of the parents of her daughter friends, since it was her daughter's best friend birthday. The daughters were friends but the parents were at most acquaintences. When she arrived at Chuckie E Cheese, it was expect for her to pay for her daughters tokens and meal. My mom friend at that time a stay at home parent, lucky she had cash on herself. I found that pretty cheap and rude since it wasn't talk beforehand esp since she is stay at home mom. They weren't really friends, their daughters were friends, and it was kids party. Like when my mom threw my and my sister parties when we were kids, she never made the guest pay for their meals.
Exactly! The that's so Hollywood thing reminds me that a lot of people forget other cultures exist out side of the the USA. If I tell my friends I want to host something then I will pay for it, if it's too much reduce the amount of people or do nothing - cut your coat according to your size
Adrienne seems like shes over the show Lmaoo i hope she doesn’t leave soon ;(
A prenup doesn't mean "I dont trust you." It means "I trust and love you but I don't know what will happen in the future. Life can be unexpected."
Btw I love Loni's shirt :)
Could not have said it better 🙌🏼
The double standards people, but where I come from we are like Jeannie you are expected to pay for the guests. That's why I don't do BD parties coz Iam cheap and I don't want to pay for everybody 🙃
Its called wisdom! The Bible says we should have that.
Loveeee Angie!!! She keeps things real with no fluff. True fellow Boricuaaaaa!!!!
I'm with Angie on this "I don't want to pay for your dinner". More specifically, if you came out to celebrate with me on my birthday with genuine sincerity and love - why do you find it hard to pay your own bill. It's my birthday and I did not force you to come. That's the height of audacity wanting the birthday person to foot the bill of the multitudes....hell nooo!!! Period! *Btw my view goes both ways, I have no problem paying my own bill.
Lmfao Jeanie checking her phone @ 8:39 y’all!!! I am crying 😂😂😂😭😭😭
I agree that a pre-nip sets the relationship up for a rocky start. When you get married, you become one and so should your finances. That’s why it’s important to vet out your spouse. I understand that Jeannie has a different perspective because she’s divorced. However, the concept remains.
I disagree - how you go about it is what sets the precedent for your marriage. If you're open about communications and your reasons for getting a pre-nup then it really shouldn't.
A prenup is clear open and honest communication. They can put the assets in a trust and not tell you anything. A prenup gives both party a say no different than a will, which should be drafted or revised at the time of prenup draft
Awesome show.....and loving the questions!!! Loni you look amazing 🤩
The thing about paying for a birthday dinner is so interesting, as it differs so much from culture to culture 😊 Here in Croatia it's always the person whose birthday it is paying for everything. The friends bring the presents, have a great time and that's it. But in no way would they be expected to pay for anything regarding the dinner or the party.
Adrienne looks stunning here!
Funny that Loni's opinion on prenups is more christian than the Christians on the panel 😂
Loni is a very beautiful woman. She def styles herself waaaaay better than the stylists in-studio.
I just love love loni love.... she’s just saying what she got from her research 😅😅
Loni is stunning! She wears that outfit with the headwrap so so well.
Wow Loni is glowing as always
I think the girls got the question twisted. If your friends invite you out for a bday meal that's totally different and they should treat you and you obviously be prepared to pay for yourself. HOWEVER, if I have invited my friends out to eat, KM AM CELEBRATING MYSELF so will gladly pay for everyone's meals they just shouldn't expect it. That is how most Africans celebrate their bdays, it's when I got to this country that I realised If you're invited to eat out for someone's bday then you're required to pay for yourself
Jeanie is so pretty..
😍😍😍
Loni your outfit is a whole mood
🥳🥳
Adrienne looks so elegant
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Lesson of the day is always prepare to pay for yourself, you just never know
I agree with Loni based on experience. I did not have a prenup on my first marriage because we both had nothing. My Business professor always said you should always have a prenup anytime either person has assets and/or children. Now I have my children to protect as well as myself. You don’t divorce the same person you marry. I never thought I would divorce much less have a messy divorce but it happens. Everyone stay safe!
Loni is sooo introspective and smart❤️❤️❤️
Seems like Jeanie wanted to highlight she was always asked about having a baby by the ladies so it's ironic that A doesn't like it happening to her 👀
Loni speaking truth. Other ladies are all up in their feelings because it hit close to home 😂
Facts!!!!!!!!! A prenup means you don't have certainty that you'll really be together til death do you part
Things happen and y'all might get divorced nobody go into a marriage thinking they are going to get a divorce a prenup protects you against the worse happening a divorce. If you don't get a prenup then you don't care about what you worked for.
@@d.g9661 it’s also shows you are only worried about yourself and tad selfish . If you living together both paying bills, mortgage , struggle etc then if a divorce happens , YES that person is entitled to half .
@@Gheuns3251 well that’s the problem. Each is entitled to half but it doesn’t always end nicely and the situation can get messy and that’s what the prenup is for to help settle things fairly in case anything happens.
@@mphon1828 don’t get married period and avoid a “messy “ split
1. Prayer vs. prenup: it seems like only Loni understood the topic.
2. Where do people get the balls to ask people such inappropriate questions? It’s shocking.
3. I agree with Adrienne, you should be prepared to pay for your own meal. And everyone can contribute to pay for the birthday girl/boy.
I kinda think adrienne is hypocrite because on the show she aaaaalwaaaaays talked about how she can't wait to have babies and things like that and now she is married for what, 3 years, haven't had children yet and she gets surprised that people ask her that? If she were true to her word she would at least say: "I decided differently, I don't want baby just yet" or sth like that
Prenup topic: I used to think prenups were offensive and meant that you didn’t trust me, but I’ve seen people get screwed over in their marriages because there wasn’t anything set in place beforehand. I’d rather be safe than sorry.
I hate being asked “when are you gonna get a boyfriend? Are you talking to someone yet” like damn, mind ya business 😅😅
It’s one thing if I throw a birthday party at my house and provide the food/liq/music and allat, then yeah I’m supposed to pay for it. But if I want to go out to dinner for my birthday at a restaurant , why should I pay for everyone? Me personally, I’m ok with paying my own bill, but I’m not bout to cover the whole table. Plus my friends would never let that fly. Whenever it’s someone’s b-day, we buy them drinks and split their bill.
I love Angie on the song lady’s night they all killed it too many legends on just one song 🎧 🤦🏾♀️💯video even better
Loni looks soooo beautiful ! Love the look!!
They are all well put together women but their facial expressions are priceless
The hood emerges on some questions
Micah 7:5 tells us not to trust any one.Prenup is important.
The two said Christians on the show (Adrienne and Jeannie) don't seem to be born-again so of course they wouldn't get it. Thank you Lonnie for providing an authentic Christian perspective.
Happy Belated 50th Birthday Angie Martinez
Prenups have a negative connotation especially from women because they think it basically means they will be left high and dry but from my research it is just setting the terms. A woman can also negotiate her wants too! Prenups should be normalized!
Well if the woman will be a housewife/stay-at-home mom then a prenup is probably not the best thing for her.
@@omphilemoerane2569she should also negotiate what she wants....doesnt matter if she is a housewife.
what works in our marriage is that all money goes into our account and all bills get taken out. we also have separate savings as well. my husband and I are both financially responsible so we both entrust each other with our finances. We are either gonna be balling together or broke together. And since we are in our mid 30s we always have a surplus. not only that I helped get our credit scores up as well. so now we both can finance anything we want.
Loni has been rocking these headwraps🥰
Angie is a cutie pie man. She should be the go to co-host every time a regular isn't on. Chemistry is 🔥!
Both Ade and Jeannie are correct. This is depending on your setting. In a regular setting, expect to pay for yourself unless you told them ahead of time “the bill would be on me.” In a Hollywood setting, i think it’s probably also good to be clear but to also expect to potentially have to pay for everyone depending. At the end of the day, but be clear any Joe the Bill will go and is in the moment someone offers to pay for your meal, that’s kind. No one should assume you’re paying and then order recklessly. That’s rude in any setting.
Why tf would you plan your b'day and invite your friends if you don't intend to pay for their meals..? That's so cheap.
Wow. I've never been this early before! Love this show!!
Loni looking lovely. Looking like a real african queen.
lmao the end!!!!!! i guess depends on the situation! if you throw a party, ofc you fronting money. if it's a dinner, everyone pays tf lol
If you’re going to a birthday dinner or going to the club for a birthday it should be discussed who is paying before hand, but I will pay for the birthday person. Even if it’s my birthday I just assume I’m paying for myself, especially if I made the plans. If we’re going to a club I’ll buy the birthday person a drink or two depending on why they order, but I’m not footing the bill for the whole night, drinks are expensive.
Hm... I got a contract with my longterm partner eventho were not even married... U know he loves you when he says "let's go and write something down so u know u are protected no matter what"
Exactly if you're partner truly loves you, they will have 0 issue with you doing something that makes you feel safe. No different than turning on the alarm and buckling up the seat belt
@@joypeaceandhappiness1501 thank you for your insight and comment, i appritiate your logic and you are right - how strange would it be if in the car a woman puts a seat belt and a man gets upset and says "wait, you dont trust me that im a good driver??" ☺️🍀
I am 100% with Jeannie on the birthday dinner situation!
Questions i hate
How old are you now? And when are you going to get married/have kids?
No. you need that piece of paper. You need to protect yourself from what might happen.
I hate those small talk questions too!
Yes the bible for life!! 💯
This birthday thing is cultural, where I'm from the birthday person pays for their celebration, party, dinner or whatever. The guests are expected to bring the gifts.
I thought it was so weird when I saw that in the US the guests are expected to pay on someone else's birthday party that someone else organised. And bring the gift?
Exactly!!
It's a birthday dinner everyone pays for themselves I've never had to explain to anyone that has ever been to one for me. The only way I would pay is if I had it at a restaurant i know is out of the price range for friends.
Nah, that is selfish
@@susuilu not really and I've never been at a dinner an expected to be paid for I guess my friends,family, and self must be different because this has never been a problem and we all have birthday dinners for our bithday8
In Islam they say “ what’s his is yours and what’s HERS is HERS” 😊😊
I love when Angie’s on!!!!!
I clicked immediately for Loni!!!!
I agree. Don't have a birthday party if you can't afford it. I don't have parties because I can't afford to.
If your friends plan it for you then that's awesome. But if you cannot afford to do something then don't do it.
From a divorce lawyer prenups are essential as divorce is about finances. It's better to be prepared for the future, even if it's with a loved one.
Exactly, such a Hollywood thing. Why would I pay for all my friends on my birthday dinner??? It's different if I'm asking you to pay at a party that I'm throwing. For a dinner? Nah bih, you got yourself
When God instituted marriage, there was no mention of prenups. If we TRUST GOD to lead us to the spouse that HE HAS IN STORE for us, I STRONGLY believe there will be NO NEED for a prenup because there won’t be a divorce. Also within the marriage, both parties are supposed to put GOD FIRST in order for the marriage to work!! Period!
@Sarah Flores honestly!
@@Sassy_Muffin136 I hear you.. as sweet and dandy as this sounds, it's unfortunately not the case for even strong believers.. the marriage just ends and you're left with the greedy side of this person you've loved for months and years.. the fight gets ugly during the divorce and you get shocked, wondering if you ever knew this person at all... If anyone feels the need to do it, then they should get a prenup.
I strongly believe that whether one does a prenup or not, a marriage that will end, will end and the ones that will stay till death, will. It's just what it is
I think the meal paying perspective is very Bay Area!!! We always invite people and pay for everyone never expect for someone else to pay for our fun but if they offer they’re awesome friends!
Loni looks amazing
today‘s topics were repeats from season 1 and 4 🙃🙃🙃
Loni looks gorgeous here! The make-up also
I am so glad that Jeannie asked Adrienne why that question annoys her.