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Straight Talk: Ordering Expensive Food on the First Date?
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- Опубликовано: 27 янв 2019
- Is it okay to order the expensive dish on the first date? Steve’s Straight Talk panel is split on this one!
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It’s inconsiderate to order 180$ worth of food, knowing he’s a student and knowing his food cost 20$
I wouldn’t do that, that would be the last date
@Tia I I'm glad you said that, that's exactly how I feel. I think It would make you look careless and rude without taking into account the person's feelings and situation. Hes just trying to show her a good time by taking her to a more fancier place than red lobster.
Tia I I agree totally and would add that he suggests a bit of a cheaper place! In fact pick 2 or 3 cheaper places and let her pick which one or which type of food!
@ymarrero23 your right, she’s not someone anyone needs to be dating
I guarantee you that women eats Burger King when the money is coming from her pocketbook!
That's true. She KNEW he was still a student. That makes it even more inconsiderate/selfish.
People saying he shouldnt have taken her to an expensive restaurant. Well he managed to order a meal and drink for 20$ therefore the mid price range is a decent one, she should have been able to order almost anything for a reasonable amount 20-50$ but she went straight to the most expensive stuff! Says a lot about her.
Alison Francis true, can't stand women like that
I find her behavior to be such a turn off. I am in my middle years and I still don’t go crazy ordering the most expensive thing on the menu even with an established man.
I did have a female friend that would pull that whether she liked the guy or not. She was going to order like it was the last supper, but never understood why she didn’t get a second date. If she ate like that on her dime, it wouldn’t be a big deal.
I agree, any restaurant that has wine will have expensive options for example. It didn't even have to be an expensive restaurant to run a bill like that up.
That's probably what someone told her to do. I know people who tell women to order the most expensive thing on the menu and see what the guy does. In my opinion you should be reasonable on the first date. At least ask if it is ok. Also if he took her to an expensive restaurant it's most likely the prices weren't on the menu. I probably would have ordered the lobster too. But since I am a cook I know not to order that. It's always safer to go with chicken lol
Very inconsiderate. If I'm not expecting to pay, I don't try to break someone else's pockets.
Justin Penn exactly
She was basically using him for a free meal. If she really liked this guy and wanted to get to know him, she would not have done that.
Jonathan Collins she sound stupid anyways, talking bout do it as if you're treating yourself, that's the difference stupid broad, you not treating yourself, I can't stand females like her
That was rude a student just cause on the menu you don't have to order it that is cold she should have paid 60% of the bill. the woman is wrong here that is being evil
The one lady on the right claims she's "high maintenance"? Be that with yourself. That's just an excuse meaning, you only give a care about what you want, to hell with the guy. Harvey doesn't represent the real world. He says what women want to hear. That's the problem.
I'm a high maintenance women myself but if I'm going to a date with guy who I already know that he's struggling financially..(specially student) I won't use this opportunity to order an expensive meal I won't put him in that situation... Its just not right!
@davy v beurden I don't understand why u even say that? All what I meant is I won't take it as chance to order something expensive knowing that the poor guy couldn't afford it.. Even if go out with a rich man is same simply because in a date all what I want is to get to know the guy better not focusing on anything else! I'm not trying to put anyone down every one is different with different financial state & we should consider each other that all what I'm saying. And by the way its very rude of you mentioned my parents... U don't even know me!!!
davy v beurden how is she a gold digger if she has said she’s high maintenance normally?. Obviously meaning she can afford it herself... however you can be considerate if he’s a student!
@@Ibochic1 thank you for explain that to him, & if I pamper myself it's from my own pocket, my parents teach me that if want anything I need to work hard to get it.
I respect it
Yes the young lady didn't state she was going around hitting up guys for expensive meals. She has expensive tastes and she stated she wouldn't do what this lady did. Nothing wrong with that. People have different tastes. Oft times fancy places doesn't equal better quality though...I put more of an emphasis on the quality of the service provided than the price tag meal.
2:59 if you high maintenance & splurge on yourself all the time, than you shouldn't have a problem paying for your portion if he has difficulty paying.
BlackRadiance that logic will get u a 💍 soon
Rolo Robbins Hahahaha
Black radiance Yes. That part!
Agreed. We all want to be high maintenance, but it's rude if it's at other people's expenses.
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This is ridiculous. I'm annoyed at everyone on this panel. If I know someone else is paying or might be paying, I order something that I know I could afford. If this girl could personally afford lobster, and that's how she rolls, then she should not be going out with someone in school that can't afford her lifestyle. I think I think the very least she could of done was offered to pay half.
And thats what she did lol PLUS she invited him
Well said these women give women a bad name and spoil it for the sincere ones
Same thought, especially the first line...this panel🤦♀️
You saved me a lot of time😏
Keyz Depends on how he asked. It’s going to be embarrassing either way.
wanna be my gf?
If you can't order the same food when you are by yourself ,then don't order when someone takes you on a date.Respect yourself!!! I wonder why most people do this!
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Agreed. Completely users do that kind of thing!
Period
Exactly
dont ever take a woman you dont know to an expensive restaurant on a first date.
@@rutriggered7882 Good one, you say or text to her B.Y.O.B.
@@iammewhoelse9430 tell her you bring one and I'll bring one. Then "forget" mine
@@rutriggered7882 :) Or you fill an empty wine bottle with water and you tell her you're on strike.
@@iammewhoelse9430 omg fill an expensive wine bottle with a 6.99$ bottle of wine and sleep with the profits. Genius
@@rutriggered7882 That could work. Have a great one :)
Funny how the ladies who profess to be of "high maintenance" normally do not pay for thier own maintenance. They expect their partner to maintain the "high maintenance".
yea its a lot easier to maintain lol
And many are not even hot.
@@claudiaclaudia8599 Exactly this.
Look at how prettier the reasonable woman on the couch vs the two gold diggers.
You missed the point! 😂 inviting a woman on a date, as a man it’s your responsibility to pay for at least the meal. If you can’t afford it, just say that. 😊
@@trevetarowe92 I don’t mind paying for the first few dates but I will take her somewhere standard and focus on learning about her values/moral and just enjoying each other’s company.
So many guys are being used for free meals that’s we don’t know who is a good girl and who is using us for a meal.
My boys are just doing coffee dates these days until the girl shows interests and has strong values.
I'm not rocking with Steve on this. At all!!! This is NOT a MATTER of CHIVALRY. This is a MATTER of COURTESY and the women in this case showed ZERO!!!
Mr. GiveMeJESUS No Lies Allowed agreed
I agree with both you and Steve. IMO I think it is chivalrous for a man to pay, but it is also a matter of courtesy on the woman’s part to be reasonable and order something off the menu in the mid-low price range. Irregardless if the man has money or not it shows a sign of respect to him!
Only 1 of those 3 women is actually fair and worth a mans time the other 2 deserve to be single til death
I believe in the gentleman paying on the first date, however my grandma taught me to always find out what the guy is ordering and to order something of similar value or lower to be a lady.
That's what you do when you eat out with "anyone," not just dates. It keeps both parties on the same page, I follow the same rule. That's the whole point of going out with someone, to be of similar values and focus on the experience itself.
I'm sorry but the only one right is the lady on the left. First of all, don't disrespect me by ordering something so high priced it comes to almost 200 dollars. That's disrespectful. She would have paid half of hers if not all. Either way I would never see this woman again.
Jonathan Collins exactly
Thank you, coming from a girl, I found this behaviour disgusting border line childish. If I was the guy I would have paid my $20 and left her with the $180 bill for her to pay and just leave her in the restaurant, we never seeing each other again. If someone disciplines her like that she'll never do it again. Nonsense!
I took the last girl on a date to my favourite sushi restaurant, she racked up the bill so much I put the money for what I ate on the table, she told me “that’s not enough for the food” I told her “it was for mine” and I up and left her with the rest and of course she calls me cheap even though I could have paid for hers aswell but I damn well ain’t gonna pay for the amount of food she ate totalling $220. So I dipped out and left her exit the rest. Never saw her again after that.
Good for you! Would have done the same thing. Some of the women in these comments think that their entitled. We don’t have to play the game by their rules. If you’re going to be inconsiderate and get the nose expensive thing and rack up the bill. I’m just getting up, paying my part, and leaving.
B VV I dunno if you’ve ever been out for sushi before but if so you know those big plates of food you can get to share with multiple people yeah 3 of those and many more things
B VV thing is she wasn’t even fat at all, she could just eat too much
You did good bro ! I would have done the same
When u see a user and an inconsiderate chick, kick her ass to the curb. Im lucky my beautiful n hot gf now always offered to pay when we first met up until now. She pays more than me!
I would have paid for her food but that would have been the last date we go on because that tells me allot about her
super wavey You're a good man. I agree I am a woman and I would never order expensive things from the menu on a first date or second date. You never know what someone's finances are and it's better to be on the safe side. He may just want to have your company to get to know you better and enjoy the conversation
I agree, especially the guy is a student. I think she should have been a bit considerate .
@@texasgina it's hard/ difficult today to just find company of a woman just for a chat when she says her life is busy and kids. So I asked once and took that as a no and left it alone as that.
Haha......
@@giabrooks2717 Your 💯 percent correct. The one lady with the raccoon on her head is overcompensating. She isn't really who she says she is.
2 gold diggers and one reasonable woman on the couch
so true, especially the peacock
@@sadiqmalami9123 lmaooo she disgusts me
Peacock? Both y’all dumb
@@theegoated5221 fr😂🤦🏾♀️
@@sadiqmalami9123 I agree also the chick on the left that's not measurement on u being a gentleman because of how much money u spend on a woman
I think it’s important to take your date out to a place that you can afford if you plan on paying 🤷🏽♀️
Not about that. It's about being reasonable. Hell even McDonald's have high prices part of the menu. 🤷🏿♂️. Because I'm definitely that ass hole 🤷🏿♂️ we can play this game if you want to lol. Woman love to buy clothes and shoes for me that I've dated. So I'm sure if I told you I wanted the most expensive outfit and shoes you would lose your damn mind lmao. Let's be real. So I would never like Steve said. I would never jam a woman up like that. I'm very reasonable. I would never do anything like that without asking is this ok. You have to literally tell me bae it's ok if you want XYZ. Otherwise. I'm not one to take advantage of a date aka woman like that. My own mama be like boy order what you want lol. I will get the cheapest thing ever lmao unless you say otherwise. Folks offer to pay for me because I do so much without being asked. So that's there way of paying it forward. You ladies are something else. Good luck long term with a mentality like that.
Yeah, I agree with you on that point. However she took the absolute piss!!!
And fellas, chicken wings and a beer does not classify as winning and dinning.
BeautyAndFaith no the logic is not being greedy
Marquis Wright I agree, these women ordering a lot of stuff bad home training means she's been spoiled
Sorry, but to expect from a stranger, that he pays my food worth half his home rental, is selfish, rude and outrageous!
I disagree. She should have known better than that. If he could find something on the menu for 20$, even at the most there must be some great choices for 20-50$, going above and beyond by that much (180$) is just insensitive. I would never put someone in that position on the first date, and I would always be ready to pay my share.
this is why you have our first dates at cheap places. matter fact start it off with coffee
And then you will be called a cheap ass . You cant win with women . Reading minds would be such an useful gift
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Not all women. My first choice is always a coffee. Not cheap at all and it's a great place to start. Too many females these days are Vultures!! @@charlesxavier77
@@charlesxavier77 I don't mind to go for a coffee actually it's a good choice for first date & I don't consider it cheap at all.
@davy v beurden I did not had a lot of dates , but all the date I was on girls payed for themselves . But this might be because I live in a country that is kinda poor and people fall for each other because they value love and affection more then money .
Do you have to be chivalrous when someone is being rude? Chivalry used to mean a man ordered. Don’t pick and choose which old traditions you deem appropriate.
I hear the phrase "high maintenance" and immediately think "entitled".
First dates should not be expensive. It's about getting to know each other. Simple.
A good rule would be to follow his lead. Your order shouldn't cost more than his.
it should be around the same , if she wants 120 bucks worth of stuff she should pay for it not him
Guys usually let the woman order first though.
Olivia Josiah right, miss high maintenance doesn't think so
@@jmatthews5685 I know... I become indecisive and frequently ask "What do you recommend?" or "What are you thinking about ordering?"
I thought girls wanted equality . You need money to be a gentleman.
High maintenance?....these women ungrateful and need to chill
super wavey exactly, talking bout they high maintenance, you be taking yourself out
"I cannot change my style because of who I am dating" but then expected the man to pay. Yet people say that women have opresión
That's why such people are single or divorced for life. No one wants to have a dependent person.
@@adolphgracius9996 she made no sense. you date the people that can afford whatever lifestyle then you are seeking and/or have been accustomed to. You can't expect the average hard working man to afford same. Her style then in my opinion is superficial.
If she had ordered $180 worth of food with me, I would’ve went to the bathroom and never came back
😂😂😂 that's what I said and I'm a woman in her 20s
I don't think I've ever ordered the most expensive thing on any menu, and certainly never on a first date. I'm a picky eater, so my choices are usually pretty limited, but I still try to stay middle of the road on price point. My boyfriend tells me I can order whatever I please, when we go out. And I know he can afford it, but that's not the point. I'm with him because I want to be with Him, not because of what he can buy me. I'd rather he spend his money on something better than an overpriced meal that's finished in less than an hour.
Me personally... if I’m going on a first date with a guy, and I make the decision to order the lobster, there’s no way in hell I’m having him pay for it, that’s ridiculous & it’s taking the piss🙈🤨. I believe in chivalry and a man paying for a date etc, but I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night knowing I went there, ran up that bill like that & just expected him to pay. And what is this business about, a man needing to pick the venue that’s “affordable”??... so then he picks McDonalds and now his date thinks he’s a cheapskate?!?! Again, that’s just ME, but I’m not taking advantage of someone like that🙈🙈🙈.
Wooo!!! Can we get more ladies like you please!?
thrilla72 😂👍🏻👍🏻, I was appalled at these ladies reactions if I’m being honest. Why can’t they just order a damn steak if they want to be fancy?! 😂🤦🏻♀️.
Yes!
Exactly!!!!!
Clone yourself and let us know, when you reach about 3 billion! ...might want to change hair color on a few, so that we don't get too confused.
I think some women take advantage of a situation. Some have a very high opinion of themselves and are almost predators. A smart woman, if she is interested and really interested in a guy she should employ a little common sense when ordering or there won't be a second time.
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I've seen this story and they are twisting an important piece of information here. *SHE ASKED HIM OUT FOR DINNER!* And now they are saying he should pay for her lobster, just because he is the guy!? And yet you feminists expect us to take you seriously!?!?
.....Equality ladies and gentlemen
And don't talk to me about chivalry when you don't even know what the word originally means. But if we are going by the modern societal definition then Dave Chapelle said it best.
Chivalry is dead and women killed it.
*@ me*
Za Warudo I will @ you. All I have to say is....
BRAVOOOO SIR! Seriously, all the cucks and feminists that have infiltrated the show and changed Steve's personality are a cancer and blight on society. He used to at least ACT like he cared about men. But now Steve is trying to say chivalry is bending over.
Also, when you say the original definition are you talking about the knight's code of honour that came from the French word meaning horse?
Right! I read this story a month ago, she invited him out...That's a no no...and yes that important detail was left out purposely. Had this happen to me on my birthday years ago...lesson learned.
Thats his gravy train bro. His shows fan base is predominantly women. He has to stick with what works to keep the money coming in. Not saying I agree with it, but I know why he's doing it. @@matthewcooper4248
Totally agree
Yeah but do not hurt a brother. Just because he offer you out to dinner be reasonable with it. Ask first if what you ordering would be alright with him before ordering expensive. If it to much for him and you really want that than you pay for it yourself.
Juicy Fruit I ain't cheap, it's ok to me if you order but be mindful, ordering$200 worth it's money but be classy. don't think because it's an expensive place let me order everything, wow
@@corneilmadison9436 I just order similar to what the guy orders.
Aranda Holley I understand, and that's cool I'm just saying don't be greedy, don't get me wrong, some even say order what you want, if you order alot yeah they may say that's cool or you eat a lot, to me no disrespect but she says she's high maintenance, ok I feel sorry for your man if times get tough, but it's cool to me, I wouldn't take you to McDonald's nah, heck I met some didn't mine that, but I said nope I'm not cheap, she said it's not about cheap I eat whatever it's about being in to the person and not there wallet's
@@corneilmadison9436 I do not agreed with her ordering expensive wine. It seems like she was game playing or wanting free wine. A lot of people dont eat that expensively on their own. Why do it because someone else is paying. I think women do this to alert to the guy that they think they are worth something. Which I do not think the price of the date translates to worth.
Aranda Holley exactly
I can’t stand “high maintenance women”
Linda Clouse because they feel they have to have it, really
They make all women look like selfish beings that only care about themselves.
Linda Clouse true, sad part is times get tough I wonder what would she do, I don't mind doing for a woman, I raised that way, having said that I stop getting birthday gifts, Christmas presents etc at 13 years old, I'm glad because it taught me to be contempt in what I have and not what I don't, that's what's wrong with the world, ain't nothing wrong with splurging but saying you have to have expensive things is mental state, I gaurantee you if entrepreneurs didn't have no body to sell to stores businesses and all and all they had was $40 mil or $200 mil left and it was winding down two 10 years left on Earth and people had to survive by holding on to what little money they had, they wouldn't be so high maintenance, it be a different story, that's not high maintenance, that's called being spoiled, difference in treating yourself and doing to much
Me either 😒 like the "Cockatoo Lady" to the right
This will be my first and last date with a women like that 😑
According to Steve, men are always supposed to pay for a womans company? Kinda the same way men pay for prostitutes and escorts??
If it's the man's "job" to pay, the women's "job" is to put out.
No, you should take turns paying. For example, I was still in school when I started dating my husband and he had gotten a good job after graduation. I would offer, but most of the time he would pay. So I would cook for him and never ordered crazy stuff when we went out. If I did have money, I would offer to treat him. I was dating the man, not his wallet. Ten years married with a daughter and still going strong. It is never ok to take advantage of another person's kindness.
that's the problem with western women...... money, money, money!
Eastern women are the same. A Korean friend of mine said she wouldn't agree to marry a man unless the ring was worth $X
@@jenniferh189 Eastern man are equally pragmatic. She wants a high income guy, fair enough. He wants something mid-20s range.
It all comes down to the mindset of a person. A woman with a considerate heart will not try and get the most expensive items if you're just getting to know the person. It never hurts to ask the limit or the meal cost. Be high maintenance on your own dime, not a person you're just meeting.
So want him to be a gentleman without being a lady yourself? Lmao
I've said it before. If the woman really likes the guy, she's not really going to eat, anyway. Take her to lunch, take her on a picnic, or cook for her. But he should have paid the bill, and let it be the last date.
not this right here is the realest thing I've read. Same goes for a man, if I really like someone I just want to be in there company...But he didn't ask her out, so I feel he was justified in going dutch.
Nope I would have never paid but everything else you said is cool
Chanel5 Pay the $180? Nah that’s 2 of his books for the semester spent on one meal. I’m not paying anything.
lol y'all get so touchy when it comes to money. The moral of this story is, stay in your lane.
@@user-kx2vw8xe5h because it is not your money
Men did not lose chivalry by choice; feminist completely stomped on it and called it "insulting" to women. Things that men did,.like paying for dates, opening the door for a woman and other things men were taught to show respect to a women, feminist declared that women didn't need it and that it belittles a women and men need to back off.
Isatu Mansaray what? she said high maintenance not opening car doors
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Feminism has a lot to do with the downfall of modern women and why men are going their own way though.
Exactly! They ruined dating and a lot of other things for traditional and conservative people!! They also ruined a lot of men by feminizing them!! Don’t get me wrong, there are still some traditional masculine men out there, but they’re few and far in between!! Also, I don’t hate feminists, I’m actually friends with some of them. Yes they did a lot for us women, but they also ruined a lot of things in society as well for traditional and conservative people.
Women are way too entitled today.
Too entitled that they don't apply bloody common sense! If I am all materialistic, why the hell would I go on a date with a STUDENT!!!!!
3:11 exactly. It is chivalry. A first date is like an interview, the opportnity for you to make your best impression.
She did not make a good impression about HERSELF on the first date.
My first impression of her is gold digger
“She was fine. I was gonna let her eat the whole twenty”!!😂
I feel like she should have been a little more considerate, but at the same time take her to a place you can afford.
Cheyenne Michelle-Rena honestly I really doesn't make a difference, if a woman starts out ordering a lot of stuff then you know we're her mind is
Cheyenne Michelle-Rena he did. he managed to order food and a drink for $20. Even “affordable “ restaurants will have a few high priced items. He ain’t know she was gonna go there though
@@rolorobbins2933 that's true, but she should have also been considerate. You know pasta and beer isn't gonna cost $100 so why order stuff that is gonna cost $100.
my mama told me to never order expensive food when someone else is paying.... 💯💯💯💯where do ppe get all this nerves... 😢😢😢😢😢
Women take a lesson.. at times men actaully Test the behaviour of a woman. Trust me you can take a woman out to an expensive reataurant and not that you cant afford it but he just wants to see your attitude. Same thing he will take you to Mac Donalds or any other fast food and still test you. The guy is a student. I dont understand women that say " High Maintenance" I mean who where ? Is there a gauge that when a woman is born there is a gauge?? Women be simple and real. Asking for Lobsters and when the closest thing related to fish u have ever eaten are "Sardines" Be real it works for alot of brothers,you go out on a date the lady asks for a beer and the guyz face not only lights up but he will engage you more. Thats if its a real guy you trying to get. Not these guyz comming out faking they can afford stuff when they cant. So bros also be real. Never be ashamed of being who you are I have actually experienced this. The real Woman appreciates a Real Brother..and vice versa..I mean the boy is a student and you go ordering lobsters?Like seriously.??I remember once we went out as a group of friends ladies and men and out of the ladies there was this ONE lady that started ordering "James Bond" cocktails to a point where all her friends felt embarassed,like why was she doing all this..?? So the next time we went out guess who was left behind? Her girlfriends actaully lied to her that they going to some study group...yeah long story short BE REAL People both men and Women Be Real.
Peter Chileshe thank you. These women forget how dating is when you’re a student. If I were that guy, she would have lost me then.
@Peter Chileshe: The definition of "high maintenance" is needing materialistic things to make a person feel good about themself.
LOL sardines!!! So true. i agree with you 100%. These types of women are an embarrassment to the female species in my opinion. All of this "high maintenance" madness. That woman who told her husband to bring that particular wine and he brought 2 bottles, should be ashamed. God only knows how foolish, desperate and insecure he was as man to submit like that, to then marry her and later admit that he nearly"died' at her request. He must not just be under her thumb but downtrodden spiritually, but i digress... Too many fake men and women nowadays I can't stand it. I've always said though for as long as i can remember that women are Vultures! Keep keeping it real.
Peter Chileshe
Hey there’s nothing wrong with a sardine salad 🐟 🥗
Peter Chileshe I know that's right, talking bout she high maintenance, girl please
Great now all my first dates are gonna be at Taco Bell 😂
Steph 1177 what wrong with that
SuperHorseman22 nothing at all....I'm simple and was just playing
nah upgrade yourself to In and out Burger all fresh all natural no MSG lol IM KIDDDING!!!
Lettuce Preey now I'm hungry
haha you don't need a man to eat well, treat yourself to some place nice :) I just had homemade nachos myself I'm full lol@@Steph-hs5jd
If he knows he's not interested, no harm no foul in refusing to pay.
It's usually the person who invites is the one who picks up the tab
Sun Shine true but ask yourself would you order 180 dollars worth of food
If I was that guy I would have done 1 of 2 things:
1) Slip out the restaurant and ghost her.
2) Pay the bill and never call her again.
Why would you order a meal that is $180 and have that put on a dude's tab on a first date and he's a student? It's not about being a student or professional, it was rude to order something 9x the cost of your date's dinner. A good rule of thumb is to order a meal that is equivalent in price to what your date ordered or less, that's how you show you appreciate being taken out and paid for. Her behavior is not OK and she is taking advantage of guys, there is nothing about that woman worth paying $180+ for on a first date. Her attitude and entitlement is proof that she wasn't worth that meal. What if she ordered a meal that was $1,000? It's not about the amount, it's about the principles of respect and being humble. Let that woman keep doing that and she'll never get a quality relationship. It pisses me off hearing this, students cannot afford this. She's just using this guy for free and exuberant meals and doesn't give a damn about what his pockets can afford. If you are high maintenance all the time stop dating guys that can't keep up with it, do not date students as they can't handle it either.
One of the women spoke about why should a normally high maintenance woman have to calm down and not be high maintenance when going out on dates with guys, thing is she isn't buying $180 meals for herself. She's definitely used to getting over on guys and sticking them with a huge bill, she herself would order something that was $20. So let this chick go date herself and purchase $180+ meals. lol
Why does the girl at the end say I don't care how much it costs, then why is it okay to order a 120 dollar meal on the first date when the man is a student and obviously can't afford that? She contradicted herself. They mean its okay for the meal to be cheap, as long as he pays, but then you can't knock the dude who has a strict budget and asks for you to pay for your overpriced meal!
Woman in green pants: when you go on a first date, be yourself and dont order stuff you never had in your life.
Woman in green pants also: on our first date I asked him to bring a bottle of wine worth $250
Yeah right lady, Be yourself and then you wont contradict yourself
Naw fam!! Pay for yourself then.
He was doing too much... and got taken advantage of. In college you make dinner and invite her to the house. Better yet order food.
I am not going to no man's house. You have to court me. That is a dangerous situation and cheap date.
@@jackpea7102 I'm assuming its college where everyone is pretty much within an arms reach. The point is to be cheap. An expensive dinner is not the only way to court someone. But I'm not expecting some 18-21 to drop $ to gain favor. Time and effort is also currency that's accepted when courting
she invited him out actually...so that's why he wasn't prepared to pay for that. Which makes her shady
I mean, she TRIED to take advantage of him, but it blew up in her face. She asked HIM out to a place where it's expensive and then tried to break him? It backfired when he told her that she had to foot her own bill. lol
@@jayburnham3994 wouldn't have even crossed my mind that a woman could rack up a 200 bill at a restaurant at 18 years old.
With the roles reversed they DEFINITELY not paying 😭😭😭
I’ve always asked what can I order when going on a date and many of the men have appreciated that. I’m all about being spoiled and I think yes you should know the lay of the land but also there’s no harm in being considerate of their wallet
Girl you want a lobster dinner! Let me go to Albertsons and get that lobster I'll steam it up at home for ya.
I disagree. He did know where he was going because if she sees he got pasta and a beer, why would you yourself go and order a lobster???? I’m a high maintenance girl but on a first date I’m not ordering $180 meal especially when I see that the person who took me on a date didn’t order something that pricey either.
The women saying they are testing him....
He could have been testing her to see if she would try and get the most expensive stuff on the menu whole he spent $20.
Well she failed lol and he prob blocked and deleted her after the date anyway.
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This is when you get up to go to the bathroom & bounce out 😂
This is why I haven't dated in years. Im not going to wine and dine a woman when all she's probably going to do is call her late night appointment when I drop her off
You owe her but she don't owe you 😅😅😅
Also, he was probably testing her too. If you are really such a terrible person that you would order something nine times as expensive as the other person, especially on a first date, then you better be prepared to pay for it AND not go on another date with that person.
It's funny how me and my friends were just talking about this the other day.I feel like a woman should always order things that cost less than what the man orders.that's just me.
@B VV i totally understand your point(but me personally,I would not feel comfortable knowing that someone else's bill is higher because of me.not just on a date with a man but in general)
Miss Tay talking bout she high maintenance, I ain't no bum but she definitely would have paid herself
I have never been asked to do that but I do it anyway. Let him order first and follow his lead. I also wouldn’t order an appetizer and limit it to no more than one alcoholic drink (for safety reasons as well). Never had a problem doing this.
I always asked the other person what they were thinking of ordering. Then I would look to see how much that cost and I would try to order something of equal or lesser cost than what they ordered.
I remember this girl wanted me to go out with her to dinner but we pulled up and her family showed up. She asked me was I gonna pay for her momma and sister too and I said hell naw ya momma and sister need to get a job or they own date and you lucky I paid
For yours
asking a gold digger for a prenup is like showing a crucifix and holy water to a vampire.
I like to see steve and his wife together u can see the love and repect she has for him she display beautiful inside and out i like that stay with that lady steve she is gold
That girl was greedy. I don't thing the guy had the money on him. She should know if he had the money or not.
I ordered an experience dish and my boyfriend looked at me and said 'it's funny how a Zimbabwean is picking an expensive dish yet an American goes for the cheaper one' I have never felt that bad even though it sounded like a joke it had an element of truth considering the Zim economic situation to the American one😅😅
And after the date I wanna do the wild thing.
you thinking lobster huh I'm thinking Burger King.
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This is why you go to coffee on a first date. I am very frugal and would personally not want a relationship with someone who wants to spend $250 on a bottle of wine.
She took advantage of this poor guy. Straight up. No other explanation needed.
When a man offers to bring something, and the woman suggest a wine, leave it at that and what kind of wine he brings will be according to what he can afford or his Ripple character. It becomes parasitical when everything is measured by the decimal point of his money. Such women are only in it for the green.
Dates are based on the experience of spending time with someone and getting to know them. Going skating, a walk in the park, eating ice cream and going for coffee are all great times to be had! This is how you weed out those who are lurking to take advantage of you. The ladies say the guy should pay, what if the guy actually DIDN'T have the money to pay? Someone told me the girl actually invited him out to the place too. What is the benefit in him being a gentleman to her and not holding her accountable? >.>;
Answer: NO. Any girl who orders expensive food, or is "high maintenance " is not worth dating.
"Know the lay of the land" is akin to "what did you think would happen wearing that in a dark alley?".
Do people not have phone conversations anymore 😳?? He should have sniffed out if she was inconsiderate beforehand.
Phone conversations setting up dates only.
...she woulda paid her bill that night!!! #OleHeifa
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I would never want someone to take advantage of me like this. If I had a son, imma tell him that if she don't split the bill, she ain't for you!
Women cant ask for equality and still ask for their meal to be paid. If you are equal, you pay you damn meal.
Am I the only female that pays for my half when I'm on a date? (unless he absolutely insists). I just don't see what's the big deal of a female paying for her own food...
I don't expect a man to pay for my meals but I also wouldn't choose the most expensive option.
I'm a woman and I've always split or alternated the cheque. My ex had less money than me because he was still in school and I would pick up most of the tabs for movies, activities and dinner because I had money and he was tight at the time. If one person has significantly more then it's okay but you shouldn't just be taking advantage of people like that. Why would guys put up with that?
I do not accept a date as a woman somewhere unless I know I can afford it. I’ve been in situations where the man made ME pay and I was kind of annoyed. I always order the cheapest thing off the menu and I offer to chip in but it’s nice to have them take the bill. I’m a student though, so this changes things
Can't be drinking champagne on a kool aid budget 😂
Not 1 mention of LOVE
This is why it's vital to choose places that are NOT expensive!!! especially on first dates. I'm not ordering a salad but I damn sure not about to order $200 worth of food.
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See that's why 1st dates are supposed to be meet and greets so u go to somewhere cheap ...only my WOMAN gets lobster.💯
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i would never order $200 worth of food and expect someone else to pay
The lady with the rooster haircut needs to have a man pay for a new weave.... forget about dinner!!!!! 🤣🙄
No way in hell im a buy any women i just met a $250 Bottle of wine she buggin 😂🤣
First date?no.do not go for the most expensive items on the menu.now,special occasion, been together a while, ask first.It avoids issues. If you know you don't have longhorn steak house money,don't go there. All you need to do is simply ask.
rochelle thundercloud y'all keep forgetting the whole ordeal, first off it doesn't matter where you go if he did go to or her to a high restaurant does that give you the green light to say oh let me order $400 worth of food, no that's bad home training and shows how you were raised, even if they say go ahead still don't because you don't know if they have enough or setting you up for the bill, but regardless still wouldn't order that much
She went out with a student. She knew what she's getting. Stay away from her.
They missed the most critical point of the story though.. SHE ASKED HIM OUT
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The lady was wrong for ordering a meal of that price, especially expecting a student to pay for it. Based on what he ordered it should’ve been a clue that his money was funny. Truth is there are a lot of women who date for free meals and entertainment knowing they have no real interest in the guy. Steve is old school and there are men today who don’t feel like they should always pay for a date, so any woman dating today better be prepared to pay for whatever she orders.
”I was gone let her eat the whole 20” 😂😂😂😂
Sorry, can't agree with this. A man is not an ATM ladies. The girl sounded like she's using dates to get free food.
Melody LeBeau exactly, I still got faith that not all woman are like these average entitle looking woman
Lol why I stopped dinner dates with woman who I'm not in a relationship with 😂😂😂
Gentlemen, first date is one drink only
I would NEVER do that on a first date or any date. She was out of pocket and he's a student too! But he should have peeped the menu first.