How To Make Life Easy
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- Опубликовано: 28 май 2024
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00:00 - Introduction
02:15 - What science can't teach you
04:01 - SSRIs and anti-depressants
05:34 - The difference between easy and hard
09:21 - Calculus (as an example)
11:44 - The three guṇas
15:13 - Motivation and willpower
17:52 - How do I cultivate sattvas?
26:15 - Summary
27:00 - Conclusion
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I can definitely relate to this idea of engaging in tasks from a balanced state of mind. I remember there were times where I tried to go to the gym consistently and all of my attempts would either come from a place of willpower - "I'm so out of shape so I will force myself to work out today" or motivation - "I just watched 20 lifting videos in a row and researched the perfect routine, let me start going 6 days a week and eating the perfect diet tomorrow". As you can probably guess, neither were particularly effective over the long term.
What I've found to help the habit stick is to calmly say "I need to go to the gym at this time tomorrow" when planning out my day. Much like getting groceries or doing my laundry, I treat it like an errand without a ton of emotional attachment. And that has made all the difference.
This works for me too. There's no "I don't feel like working out" unless I'm actually sick.
Had an old roommate who would always talk about workout schedules / styles, but would go to the gym an average of 2 days a week and not really try hard. Sometimes theyd skip for a couple weeks at a time, show back up and get pissed off when they couldnt bench or squat as much as they wanted to. Eventually i told them they need to stop conceptualizing workout routines and just go f'ing workout consistently.
In book Atomic habits, advised same thing. To set details description of time and place you want to do it. By time i mean i do something after this.
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✨The path is the goal ✨
"science doesn't give us answers for you as an individual, it gives us answers for what works on average for most people"- very well said, and overlooked by many!
Everyone is an outlier, without exception.
This reminds me of Dr K's comments on college: college does not at all adopt an individualized approach. It tries putting ppl into the same mold (something along those lines can't recall the exact formulation for that last one). There's little point in looking for particular, individual-tailored answers, in broad systems.
@@thricemindblown7883 I don't know if everyone, but most people yes
@@destroyerinazuma96 I don't know what to think about that, mainly because I haven't yet done enough thought about it. But, from what I know so far, there are likely exceptions.
@@MacM545 You could rephrase it into Everyone is the exception. no one fits "perfectly" into any specific categorization, as each person is made up of aspects, therefore there's no perfect matchup
When you get used to difficult everything becomes easy
“normal is just what you’re used to” handmaids tale
He's being overly optimistic
David Goggins in a nutshell 🗿
@@penderyn8794 no he’s right though
This is so true. Also when you remove cheap dopamine, your baseline is lower so harder things just feel easier
Dr. Ks one grey hair from not becoming a monk and then killing it at Harvard Medical School and then helping all these gamers fix themselves 🎉🎉🎉
Still waiting for the hair and skincare routine 😂
@@Sandy-of6gq you’re so right
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@@Sandy-of6gq Dr K stats: -5% hair
@@Sandy-of6gqprobably the satvic foods and a good night's sleep every night. sadly he didn't actually mention any specific foods in this video but he does have videos on ayurveda that cover it
Sometimes I think Dr. K is a monk, and then I realize that he is
I took a course on communication, and the first chapter in the tiny textbook only about proper emailing was never apologize, always thank someone for helping with xyz situation. Reframe things to a gratitude mindset and you get emails actually responded too. That habit bled into everything and I find myself smiling in heavy traffic.
What was the name of the textbook? I’d be interested in checking it out!
@@ArmchairAuthorities pls lmk if u find out
@@ArmchairAuthorities Not exactly a textbook but definitely check out "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It goes in-depth and has wonderful examples on how to achieve a gratitude mindset, among other things. I listen to the audiobook version on my commutes, and it's really been an eye-opener.
I don't get the 'don't apologize'. I recently had a lot of problems with one furniture company, they messed up a lot. Eventually they fixed everything but one thing I missed was an apology, not a single one and I was very kind and patient with them. Could sue them for various things, could have demanded the compensation which they were legally obligated to give but I didn't. Still, not a single apology.
@@ProfoundFamiliarity Yeah. I also don't think that you need much more than what's in ,,How to win friends..." on human communication. Basically, people like authenticity, kindnes and honest human interaction. Maybe I'm just already decent at it but all this textbook social engineering borders on manipulation in my opinion. Once I stopped acting artificially (what I learned from books, movies, internet) I started developing my own style of communication and I started to feel better and human interactions stopped feeling like calculations or RPG video games.
Well I just started the video but recently life has felt so much easier for me and I think it’s because I’ve 1. been following a lot of Dr. K’s advice about meditation, journalling, and setting boundaries/communicating with people. Which has overall sorted out a good 40% of my problems so far, and 2. I’ve worked a lot on my habit of procrastinating/wanting to be perfect 100% of the time, so I’ve gotten more used to just starting tasks and doing my best, and just starting can often give me the motivation to complete whatever task I thought would take forever. And 3. I’ve made a habit of stretching daily, working out, cooking, washing my face twice a day, and consistently cleaning, and my hard work has finally started to pay off and it doesn’t feel like such a chore to do those things anymore. I’ve also made sure to take the time to see friends at least once every 2 weeks and I’ve just been so very happy and I have no where else to really put this but I couldn’t have done it without Dr. K, so thankyou so much I love the videos
Awesome!!
Cause why wouldn't you? Perhaps they feel that connecting with people and sharing experiences is a fulfilling value to them, and they felt that this was an appropriate place to do that?
I for one am very happy to see these kinds of comments.
"We are all just walking each other home." - Ram Dass@@megatron324
Same here, it's totally okay in that context especially since people regroup here seeking for help. Feedback on positive change while following Dr K teachings in his comment section is all but weird I'll even say that it's an excellent source of motivation and hope, a proof that it can happen to other people too.
I mean, sharing stuff that can help people even if it contain some info on his habits is absolutly not a problem especially with these good intentions :)@@megatron324
Same here, couldn't say it better :)
questions I always ask myself:
How do I feel better than I do right now?
How do I make tomorrow less hard?
If I'm honest with myself, the answer to both tends to be,
either, looking after my health mental or physical,
or getting something done that I don't want to do
For me it's always "money" but I currently have no way to make money due to disabilities. Yet if I don't then I'll just end up homeless next month.
Yay, what a wonderful world we live in.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 I understand this way of thinking...
Its incredible how little you can get by on.
I don't think I own any clothing that wasn't given to me second hand.
Sometimes you cant afford what you need.
But I consider things to be better now than they were.
for a start, I have internet now :D
Something I've gone years without having
And with it, I'm learning skills I can later use to earn money. And it gives access to places and people willing to help each other.
The help is out there, but you do have to work for it
If it's always money and that's out of reach right now - which is awful and tough w disability. What is in reach? What little thing bring it to something smaller. Any skill you can learn, anything to help you cope w symptoms better or to connect w the world despite it.
I like referring to my future self. It can be as little as a glass of water by my bed for tomorrow morning so if my pain is high I can still hydrate in the morning.
@@emilyb5557 I've already done what I can, I've already reached out to government agencies who are supposed to support but the barrier to being eligible to the supports were increased a few years ago (due to massive funding cuts and changed from individualised plans to cookie cutter plans) and meeting those requirements send fully abled people doing it on behalf of family into meltdowns. Even if I was able to get payments they wouldn't cover even half of the necessities and that was before the massive profiteering under the guise of inflation happened.
I've already searched through job listings trying to find something that won't harm my health further. There isn't any. I either just apply for everything even though a lot of them won't cover costs and will just destroy what little health I've managed to recover or .. well that's the only option if I want to live.
My car is dying, my savings are dried up, I've got no support network, learning skills is a struggle but just going grocery shopping can leave me bedridden.
This is the reality of so many people right now. My chances of actually getting a job anyway are slim to none because of discrimination.
Combine busy hours with calm hours.
Busy hours - doing something creative manually.
Calm hours - listen to music, walk in nature, do yoga, Qi-Gong, or something very slow
that creates a new neuron network in the brain for new thoughts, new ideas, perceptions,
learning about yourself and your purpose.
Busy hours help you to achieve things physically, and build musicless or mental muscles too.
Calm hours also build different types of mental or physical muscles, and it gives you a perspective of who you are, you may make plans
During calm hours, youa are able to reprogram your mind for the better and practice, love empathy, gratitude, and your true emotions.
A few years back, when I was just getting into video editing, I was totally afraid of trying Adobe After Effects. I had no clue about all those tools and how to fit them into my workflow. But after messing around with it for a while-watching RUclips tutorials and goofing off just for fun (passion projects)-it got way easier. Now, I don't even stress about it as much anymore. People even give me props for using After Effects, probably 'cause they think it's scary too. It's funny how I used to see it just like that before I gradually got the hang of it. This logic can also be applied to video games, try asking a high rank player why they achieved that rank, and pay attention to their response. xD
this is actually what me and my friends call the editor buff :)
Me at adobe photoshop and 2d graphic tools in general! Start with no clue of what to do, now i can use pretty much every 2d graphic tool pretty much easly. It is automatic now, so i internalize the thing
your comment made me want to try after effects after putting it off for years
When it comes to tasks. There are:
- Inertia - Tendency towards lethargy and rigidity. Resistance to change.
- Passion - Tendency towards ambition and activity. Excitement for change.
- Balance - A balance between Inertia and Passion.
An overabundance of Resistance makes life hard and sluggish. Doing anything requires substantial motivation and willpower, and both can be drained. You're overwhelmed by dysfunctional resistance.
An overabundance of Passion makes life distracted and overwhelming. Doing anything will be erratic, reactionary, disorganized, and you're overwhelmed by dysfunctional desires.
A balance of Resistance and Passion makes life 'just right'. Doing anything requires enough motivation without waste and enough resistance to remain focus. You'll use a suitable amount of motivation and energy for the tasks, and you'll experience Eustress and enter the flow-state.
Computers were "supposed to" make our lives "easier."
My life hasn't felt easier since my parents bought our first computer 25yrs ago. In fact, my life always feels easier when I go out into the wilderness,away from my computer, where my phone doesn't work.
Homesteading/offgridding might be for you if I'm getting the terms right. Or self sustained farm with trading at the farmer's market and things that you're unable to produce on your own.
There are people who are allergic to the wave lengths that mobile phone towers give off and trying to find places they can live without them now is hard.
Highly sensitive people are far more common in comparison though. They still need to live at a quieter slower pace than what society is screaming at us to achieve
Tell that to the starving people under mao or russia. Life SEEMS easy in the wilderness, until you actually try and survive out there.
The stress we have now sucks and is real, but it's nothing compared to a famine.... Or not preparing well enough for the winter and suddenly it's cold, you are starving, and there are a pack of wolves encircling your cabin.
Dr.K is a very rare gem, psychology is like being offered a template of a car and the tools to repair or improve it, but instead of a car it's the human mind and the tools is the understanding of how it works and the fact that he understands our current generations is amazing as well, I hope more people do what he does, he's kind and amazing!
Combine busy hours with calm hours.
Busy hours - doing something creative manually.
Calm hours - listen to music, walk in nature, do yoga, Qi-Gong, or something very slow
that creates a new neuron network in the brain for new thoughts, new ideas, perceptions,
learning about yourself and your purpose.
Busy hours help you to achieve things physically, and build musicless or mental muscles too.
Calm hours also build different types of mental or physical muscles, and it gives you a perspective of who you are, you may make plans
During calm hours, youa are able to reprogram your mind for the better and practice, love empathy, gratitude, and your true emotions.
Dr. K is not a psychologist
@@iche9373 nowhere in that comment did it say that he was a psychologist
John Gray: "Estrogen makes women emotional, and during stress the female brain notices the problems 10 times more...she feels an urgency to alarm everybody about it.
Testoserone makes men much more calm and focused on tasks, therefore hormone testosterone is about problem-solving."
Women need probably doing a yoga or Qi-gong to feel grounded so she will not disturb the amn when focusing on his jobs.
I was wondering "the alarm state" of mind" probably comes from ancient times when woman tried to keep her new born baby safe and alive,
and the brain was probably in the scarecity reaction of subconscious mind program,
so she would alarm everybody, please help, my child has a flu, or some bacteria etc
so maybe the estrogen hormone craeted such a chaotic state of mind over the generations, I wonder if its genetic thing.
Other wise why would the estrogen create such chaos in her mind,10 times more during the stress situation, if its purpose wouldn´t be
the alarm system of the mind...please come save the baby from the flu or some virus etc?
And men are technical geniuses usually so they realise immediatelly what the baby needs,
she knows it too in other ways, but she isnt as technical as men are, when it comes to crisis.
So these two hormones probably have its purpose, but we should learn to manage it.
10:56 is where it gets real. I wish I’d known about this concept, I went through life undiagnosed with ADHD chasing every thread of motivation I could find and always feeling gassed from it shortly after. This helps my perspective, approach IMMENSELY. Thanks man.
I'm at 9.54 and appreciate the dopamine boost to keep listening hahaha 😅
Appreciate the time skip haha
Combine busy hours with calm hours.
Busy hours - doing something creative manually.
Calm hours - listen to music, walk in nature, do yoga, Qi-Gong, or something very slow
that creates a new neuron network in the brain for new thoughts, new ideas, perceptions,
learning about yourself and your purpose.
Busy hours help you to achieve things physically, and build musicless or mental muscles too.
Calm hours also build different types of mental or physical muscles, and it gives you a perspective of who you are, you may make plans
During calm hours, youa are able to reprogram your mind for the better and practice, love empathy, gratitude, and your true emotions.
@@alaalfa8839people barely have any hours left after work, commuting, eating, prepping. Where does one rest ?!
Modern lifestyle diseases require us to have lot more time for ourselves to fix those problems and yet there's been no real progress towards such solutions. It's all on paper and lip service, nothing concrete.
@@alaalfa8839 Well said, thank you
Aside from the food/body approach, I like the concept of "gaslighting" your own mind to fill it with the thoughts you want it to have. The mind talks a lot, why not shape it to your specifications. I personally enjoy the puzzle challenge of "how do I turn this misery into a perspective that serves me?" They have to be genuine and true though for it to work. Another is the concept of easy vs hard in itself. Like in a previous Dr. K video, he describes this spectrum of pain and pleasure, against the axis of peace vs suffering. Even when things are hard, you can be content and at peace, and do not necessarily have to suffer. The ability to shift from one state to the other consciously (to me) requires quite a bit of inner work, development of perspective/philosophy, and actual skills like pausing, questioning/challenging your thoughts, emptying the mind even.
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Love this!!!
This all seemed so simple when we were kids.
No kidding.
This was simple when you were a kid. Someone else was taking the mental load and doing the organisation of things. Then there's the fact that what you were doing for the next several years was just "move up to the next year of school".
No trauma, all hope.
for some of us nothing was ever easy lol
It was actually much worse for me because when there was hardship my power as kid was very small to anyhow change the situation just could survive
I love this, I'm glad I learned this lesson early. The ability to float between studying, relaxing, exercising, socializing, and meditating in flow. Don't "try" to do it all, let each thing happens as it does and utilize it while its there, then continue that with the next thing.
I accidentally lived a day like this a few weeks ago. I just did what felt good to do in each moment and focused myself fully on whatever it was. It felt much better than my usual push to be productive all the time, ironically.
There needs to be non profit companies, making healthy non processed meals and most importantly ensuring everyone gets enough protein, many people are deficient in vitamins and protein and have not the time or knowledge to prepare these, so they lack energy and don't feel so good, diet and exercise are crucial for health.
The conclusion reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite people:
"Don't pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one." ~Bruce Lee
Im a man of Balance, and its always an interesting and wonderful feeling to learn that a lot of the stuff Im discovering about Balance ALREADY has foundations throughout human history i.e. a lot of this stuff has already been figured out, and Im just looking in the right spots. Fascinating.
Perfectly balanced as all things should do be.
Apart from games they'll never be balanced 😂😂😂
Pretty sure that's a Marcus Aurelius quote being falsely attributed
John Gray: "Estrogen makes women emotional, and during stress the female brain notices the problems 10 times more...she feels an urgency to alarm everybody about it.
Testoserone makes men much more calm and focused on tasks, therefore hormone testosterone is about problem-solving."
Women need probably doing a yoga or Qi-gong to feel grounded so she will not disturb the amn when focusing on his jobs.
I was wondering "the alarm state" of mind" probably comes from ancient times when woman tried to keep her new born baby safe and alive,
and the brain was probably in the scarecity reaction of subconscious mind program,
so she would alarm everybody, please help, my child has a flu, or some bacteria etc
so maybe the estrogen hormone craeted such a chaotic state of mind over the generations, I wonder if its genetic thing.
Other wise why would the estrogen create such chaos in her mind,10 times more during the stress situation, if its purpose wouldn´t be
the alarm system of the mind...please come save the baby from the flu or some virus etc?
And men are technical geniuses usually so they realise immediatelly what the baby needs,
she knows it too in other ways, but she isnt as technical as men are, when it comes to crisis.
So these two hormones probably have its purpose, but we should learn to manage it.
you've done more for me than my own father. thank you
The fact that life-changing stuff like this can exist on the internet and not go mega-viral just blows my mind.
Thanks for another banger of a knowledge dump, Dr. K. You frickn rock.
I would imagine that many people look at the title of this video and think, "That's impossible." Then Skip it
Or his thumbnails/catchphrase isn't clickbaitey enough. He's just too based for using clickbaiting I guess. @skinnytimmy1
Dr.k droppin straight fire right when I need once again 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯💯
man's always right on time fr
My name is actually Guna so I know the meaning and also I went to yoga college (Bhaktivedanta College of Theology) for one year but it was good to hear it explained in a different way. And a very valuable thing I learned from this video is using my natural motivation (that is rajas) for sattva. It seemed very hard to achieve but now I know how to do it and as you said it doesn't seem difficult anymore. Let's see how I can apply this knowledge to live a better life :)) Wishing happiness to anyone reading this comment!
An interesting parallel with the discussion of "If you know how to do something its easy. If you dont, its hard." I have relatively extreme hyperactive ADHD, and with that due to the way my brain works when I'm interested in an activity I tend to try to understand everything I possibly can about the process and the pitfalls before I start doing it. What this leads to for me is have an easy time doing almost anything I decide to try and get into. I'm thinking I need to actively apply this to my mental health work more. If i take note of all the problems I'm having, and do research on possible solutions with educated guesses on what would work best for me there's a chance life does get easier. Thank you Dr.K!
As someone with extreme hyperactive ADHD who just started a new data analyst job, I sympathize with this so much!
Everyone is so impressed that I took like two weeks to talk to every department in the company so I could understand the entire pipeline of how the data is gathered and analyzed. And like, no I just did it because I understood nothing and wanted to avoid making stupid mistakes, but it helps to see everything as part of a big picture, and not just compartmentalize everything to "not my problem" or "this is unrelated."
That's some amazing insight my friend. I'm rooting for you. Let us know how it goes!
@@21HeartSong pretty good so far. I ended up breaking down the concept of mental health into smaller bits that were causing me trouble and have been researching them individually and taking notes. It's getting me a lot of progress a lot faster than before.
I would like to add one thing: if you have any control over the temperature and humidity of your environment, do it.
Hot environments may make you feel restless, while too cold may make you sluggish. Dry environments may make you cranky, and damp environments may make you feel more impulsive.
This is my personal experience. Finding a place with neutral temperature and humidity helps a lot. Of course there are monks out there that can meditate in the middle of 4 bonfires, but, let's be real: if you watched this video you're not one of them. Try to estabilize the temperature and humidity of your environment as much as possible(of course avoiding any temperature/moisture extremes as much as you can).
EDIT: guys, it's the extremes. If you like cold or hot, it's fine. Everyone has a temperature and humidity that fits them better and it's unique. I did not put any numbers exactly because of that. Find YOUR own best temperature and moisture. The effects are just my own experience. You may feel different than me.
However, the extremes always will make you suffer in some way.
what's the humidity percentage in your city? In my city it is in between 56% and 68%. Would you recommend using a humidifier?
Today's horoscope wisdom?
golden advice
big thanks man!
@@rafaelbohorquez8135 Nope, a good humidity is between 40% & 60% in your home. Over 60% you may have moisture developing and that's not very good for the air you breathe. So I'd say just open your windows once a day and eventually dry it by heating until the right temperature ^_^
Citation needed.
I've been walking this path because of you for a year. I'm off everything, weed, alcohol, even caffeine (still drink decaf for the fiber and polyphenols). I'm seeing it! Countering the difficulties of life IS getting easier 🙏 And I'm becoming insanely productive in my law practice thank YOU!!
Yo just FYI cuz I recently learned this: decaf still has like 5-10% the caffeine of regular coffee. So obviously huge reduction in the amount of caffeine, but there is still A LITTLE BIT of caffeine in the decaf. I feel more people should know this because I didn’t for a long time.
Keep doing what you’re doing, great to hear about your success and life getting easier!!!!
@@matthewthompson6455 lol who cares caffeine isnt even bad for you lol 😂
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First time taking notes over a Dr. K video and I feel like it really helped. I find myself listening to a couple episodes multiple times to fully understand them and I tried writing notes like I would for a college class and it really made every line stand out. Dr. K is able to just talk about it so casually because he knows how it works but for someone that hasn't touched the topic, taking it extra slow and pausing and replaying really helped!
I usually don't remember the words the Yogi used but I am never forgetting Tamas, Rajas, and Sattvas
I feel the same
i bet you’re going to get a lot more out of it. i might try taking notes when a video really speaks to me
thats yalls problem always trying to put structure into everything lol notes on a yt video wtff LOL😂😂
@@firerams_and_arisinglion Note taking is just a method of remembering something. If you find some information valuable then writing it down will help you to remember it. If you are just watching for entertainment then there is no need to remember it. When you read a book for its entertainment value there is no need to remember it. When you read a text book it is valuable to write down the information you want to remember. That's all. 🤷
@@firerams_and_arisinglion bro is OBSESSED
As depressed as I have been for the last year or so, I can't help but be grateful for the positive habits I somehow git back into. Making time to cook all my meals from scratch with fresh ingredients and daily exercise has made life easier than it would have otherwise been for sure. I need to get back into meditation at some point, unless doing a couple sinkloads of dishes everyday counts...
I've been watching your content for probably a yr and a half now. This is one of the best, if not the best, knowledge I've heard from you IMO. I really found this take to resonate and something I would have never considered. Definitely learned something new today that I hope to implement into my life for the better.
You've highlighted the exact problem I've been having since 2019 with my self improvement journey. A lot of stuff talks about what you should do but not necessarily how to do it. Sure they'll prescribe certain behaviors but won't talk about all the internal work that has to accompany those behaviors. They don't talk about what happens you can't stay consistent and how to get back on track.
This video is gold.
When he explains "you want the mind to listen to you" he is relating something powerful and subtle... That the mind (i think of it as the habit execution mind) is not you! It is not me! It is a tool for us to weild to do things. If we don't weild it, it weilds us, and we are just stuck watching whatever it does.
For me, intentful "mantra meditation" is the technique that helped me see and experience this separation, and start to train my habit mind to listen to me (and to start to train me that i need to lead the habit mind).
This is the same practics as his yoga balancing example..
i like to think of it like training a dog. Our habit mind is like a dog that knows alot of tricks. It knows how to walk, and talk, and play soccer, and watch tv, and load the dishwasher. These things are just action habits, like a dog doing a trick. A well trained dog told to sit will sit, a poorly trained dog will wandee away and ignore. That is our habit mind. We need to train it to ro what we ask.. and the way we do this is mechanically sinple (but not necessarily easy to start) We ask our habit mind to do something and use our concious focus to make sure it stays on task. Do that over and over, and the habit mind starts to listen to us more consistently. The more we become aware of the difference between our concious self and the habit mind, the easier it is to direct the mind.
I personally have not put enough effort into controlling mind balance as he describes in this video. Sounds amazing
This is something I’ve been struggling with a lot the last few months and it finally clicked for me a few days ago, where my adhd meds would give me an over abundance of motivation in the beginning and quickly wane and make me feel burnt out very easily. I’m taking a break from them since I’m starting to realize they are hurting more than helping me at this point by making my adhd symptoms worse. I need to approach life with a more balanced perspective. I know I’ve been craving balance so much the last 6 months for a very good reason. Instead of beating myself up for not having an abundance of energy and enthusiasm I need to honor my instincts and my body more. Definitely needed to hear this. ❤
you have no idea how valueable your videos are...thanks for making them available for free!
This comes to me at a perfect timing, I'd say.
The second week of the year was a bit difficult, I had a small depressive episode and skipped work a couple days. Then, let's say that I got a trial for a promotion, and that challenge put me back on my feet. I enjoyed it and got compliments from my boss, so I came out very happy.
And today I started a project for a friend that involves woodworking and spirituality, and I feel I'm in that balanced state.
My therapist tries to push me in the direction of emocional balance, but I think what doctor K said here hit the spot.
Thank you, I think that's a very good technique to tame the emotional wave.
This is the best detailed explanation of “Easy choices, hard life // hard choices, easy life” that exists out there. Thank you so much! Saving the video for future reference. ❤
And, not for the first time with your sessions, I only want to point out that "Showing up Early and Leaving late" are only part of the tale of success. The last part is "Find oil."
Dr. K, in a world where one can do everything right and follow the major path to success and happiness with dogged perseverance only to fall flat on ones face and "Fail anyway": It grinds the hell out of my gears to hear once again that "If you want an easy life, prepare for a hard life now."
Dude, I broke my back for 30 years in that very vein and did for myself all the things one must in order for an easy life to occur. It didn't. It was never going to. I hate how videos like this continually forget to mention that the hard life only gifts you a CHANCE at an easy life later. Some of today's video is "Suckers Talk" and I call you out on it! There are no guarantees when it comes to this alleged "formula." They could find happiness doing something different. They don't deserve to end up like me.
I feel you. I've worked 60-80 hours a week for 20 years. In that time the 3 companies I worked for screwed over myself and all the other employees so the owners or executives could get more money. They are in order, out of business, had to sell half the business and in the process of going out of business (20 employees down from 180) but none of that mattered to the owners/executives because the made sure they got high pay and bonuses no matter what. I'm in my 40s and a guy I worked with at two of those 3 companies, who's in his mid-50s, is just back at it with another company, but I've lost all my motivation. I'm working temp jobs because whats the point of investing in a career if I'm just going to keep getting screwed?
Yep, same, all I got was health issues and burn out that were hiding under the guise of depression.
Several years of being bedridden and using all my savings and I'm still not fully recovered but at least I know a lot of what's going on with me. Yet it also means I've been unable to find a job that fits my needs.
I've asked for support and somehow magically I'm not debilitated enough for support but that support doesn't cover basic costs anyway.
When having enough money is the only thing that will help but you don't have a way to make it, you're screwed and self help doesn't actually help.
I remember seeing somewhere about whilst in certain moments, (think the context was creativity / artistry of any kind) there is a moment of peak stimulation / momentum / drive, whatever term you want to use... and to prevent an overstimulated, burnout-waiting-to-happen, that is when one must stop. Give ourselves these subtle cliffhanger moments so we're excited to see what we create next time. Rather than cresting over the hill, loosing momentum, and thinking we just suck at something.
Such brilliant content, animated use of hand gestures, proper vocal intonation, and a beautiful background.
literally was thinkng about how i've been trying to take the easy route to have an easy life last night. I been creating my easy life today ever since I started college and practicing my autonomy and that has definitely made my life harder. I have now begun to do a lot of the things like meditation/yoga and eating healthy more consistently but I appreciate how you said to do it on a day when you're filled with passion. Because sure enough, on those days I definitely get so excited to do the things I've been procrastinating over and want to get to it quickly so I just go, instead of taking care of myself first. Thank you for this video, this allowed me to internalize and come to a conclusion, I feel like I will acutally move forward and make change.
Thank you K. Sometimes I feel guilty about not continuing on my YTT. But then im reminded I am practicing every moment of the day when I allow myself to find beneficial information for myself. Thank you SO much for incorporating Yogic Practices into therapy. This is revolutionary and it’s happening. Slowly. But with people creating a narrative like you have here. We will get there.
Thanks Dr.K, this reminded me of the analogy you had before regarding the "build" people should approach life with, if life was a game, and the good build is being resilient and self-healing, so that you can take a lot of damage and still carry on.
instructions unclear, Im homeless now
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Dr K’s videos are like a user manual for our mind/body. I learn so much from every video. Commenting for the algorithm ❤️
Tip on changing tires:
The steel pipe is technically optional.
That means it is optional if you have super human strength. People who know what they are doing still use it every time.
Just mentioning that because I see newbs ignoring the "random steel pipe" all the time. Big mistake, that pipe is not random at all.
It's just that a regular steel pipe is so good at what it is used for, that there is no point in getting a "proper" extension.
I find it difficult to wrap my head around the idea of, "if you have all the energy needed to do the things you don't want to do, and then you go and get them done without having to fight yourself about it, that is bad because you didn't do it in a controlled state". Like. I've got ADHD... sometimes those bursts of motivation are the only things that'll get the tasks done in the first place. You've said, "you're not in control" but like? If "not being in control" is the price of actually feeling like I've got momentum in my day and can get things done, like... what do I even need control for at that point? What do we need to be in control FOR if not for the achieving of our desired objectives? And if rajas accomplishes that, then... what's the problem here?
Because as it is it functions like a coin flip with messed up statistics.
Good enough as long as it it flips what you want.
Would you like to be able to adjust those statistics? Not dictate - adjust. To shorten the waiting time between the 'lucky' flips
Yeah, another ADHDer here. I got the sense that this video is addressed more for neurotypicals. I wish he would have clarified.
Also burnout from having to use adrenaline response to get stuff done. Then there's the fact that it's often not to a standard that could be achieved with methodical planning and progress.
@@JeffEmbracedDC Fellow ADHDer, and I have managed depression. I also wish he would have clarified, because he mentioned SSRI's and stimulants, but like we use those because our brain simply doesn't function how it's supposed to. This video was focused a lot on mind body connection, but for us NDs we have another variable in play apart from what he discussed. I think for people like us, if we have medicines that help us, we probably should keep taking them, because its not like life was easier before we started taking them ya know.
The idea of being fuel only by passion and having no motivation or willpower reminds me of some artists. They can be very talented at creating things, but only when they feel like it which hinders them on bad days where they don't feel like doing anything.
I struggle with very opposite issue and this makes me feel worse. Almost every self help advice makes me feel less and less enough and able. Just because i feel like I am passionate a lot in this case. I like riding these waves of extreme focus, deep work, and passion. It was and still is the greatest challenge to learn how to trust my own ways, call it self love and acceptance. It made me career. It steered me away from easy yet externally pushed unfulfilling path. I was in a jobless run for way longer because it was a harder path only passion made me follow through. It was a lot of it, constantly "taking me away from the thing A i am supposed to do". Passion ends, burning out occurs, difficult things are not supposed to happen at one go. Does it makes me quitter? No, passion for truly valuable things always returns, i know these swings work like a clock. And now it is the forth hour of both passionately proving myself i am correct about basis of my self understanding and that i am ok. For now, improvement has become unhealthy obsession
Dr k has a video that might be helpful, it's called "the addiction you didn't know you had"
@@rohankataria4926 Hm, thanks, good one. Tbh in some aspects i dont relate with this coach at all, but in this particular one - yeah, helpfull
Love this so much! Thanks Dr. K!
Ouch. Thanks Dr. K! I related to a lot of things said in this video, but didn't have any words to describe them or any direction on how to solve them. You are changing lives little by little here on youtube.
I think Dr.K explanation on why Science could be a problem is not very nuanced but it is something I would have agreed with at one point in my life. I think Science and Technology is by far a net positive for humanity, however, I think an issue arises for the population that are reliant on these technologies yet have no knowledge of understanding of the underlying logic, mathematics and skills going toward these technologies that make our lives better. When people understand how the car works under the hood, it leads to more fulfilment when you drive it.
He didn't say that science is bad. He said that science and studies aren't going to give answers to the individual. They only give population based answers, which are not applicable to everyone. If something works for 60% of the individuals, it is a good solution for x problem, but there is still 40% of people that won't receive benefit from it, which doesn't make it bad. Not only that but it will only test if it works for the majority, and won't test which individual factors it will interact with to produce certain results. He also isn't talking about science not being a good thing to understand and develop cars,, or physics, he is talking about humans which are very complex and require multimodal answers when the questions are targeted at an individual. This doesn't mean that science is bad, as it obviously isn't, if x feature in a car reduces 80% of deaths in car accidents, it obviously is a very good feature and improvement, but that's where science will stop being able to provide more answers, science and scientifical studies can't possibly analyse every single car and which environment it is used in, in conjunction with what is the best feature for that car in the specific conditions it is used on to come up with the perfect solution to reduce mortality to 0% for each specific car user, so it can and will only stick to finding out which feature is the one that makes the car GENERALLY safer, which still is extremely beneficial and that still leaves what DrK is saying as an extremely valid observation, which is that if we can find a way to come up with what would make the car features suit the conditions it is used in, that is obviously better than relying in a generalistic study of what is ON AVERAGE safer. Of course that we don't expect this to be executed effortlessly, which is why we have people who are experts in x fields to come up with the individual targeted answers. Let's say for example that there is a study that shows that for 90% of the times a car is doing x noise, the problem is y, then 10% of the of the other times would go unsolved which isn't very effective, but just because 90% of the times the problem is y, that doesn't mean that the other 10% the problem is unfixable, it just means that 10% of the times the problem might be a, b, c, d...
Thank you! Easily, digestible, so valuable ❤
It’s interesting because now that I think about it, every single time I’ve had high motivation, will to complete something/start something. It’s almost always been with me waking up and feeling very at peace, very relaxed and calm, and telling myself, just one step at a time.
Thinking motivation has to be met with some huge burst of energy and fire deep from within always leads to burnout and it makes so much more sense now.
A calm state of mind is the key for everything
Tamas, Rajas, and Satva.
We all have all three. Its the balance that defines our nature.
Tamasic people tend to live like animals or insects. Chasing one stimulation after the other.
Rajasic people know the difference between right and wrong. But they do not draw a line when to chase the stimulation and when to stop.
Satvic people tend to be more calm and less impulsive. They suffer from problems, but they try to solve them. They also follow stimulations, but they know when to stop.
I know exactly how to do my job (not working at the moment due to medical stuff), so it should be easy for me. It's monotonous torture. I had some success getting into a flow state at work, but I burnt out again. At least this time I burnt out physically before I burnt out mentally.
Today I feel exactly as what you described as rajas. I feel very motivated and passionate about stuff. I'm looking into doing new stuff, I want to start a ton of habits, I was even thinking about learning to play ukelele. This video comes at perfect timing (as usual with Dr. K), so I'll try to make tomorrow a sattvas day.
The amount of insight I got from this video is incredible. I've never even thought about motivation and demotivation in that way before. All I knew was if I'm motivated, I gotta seize that chance and get as much as possible done. Looking back, I get an inkling how, overall, it wasn't really a healthy way to approach things. Kinda like how analog refrigerators work, they draw so much power whenever their compressors are active but with the newer inverter types, they work more regularly but draw less power because they do it in a more balanced approach.
This video just changed everything for me. This is what I needed in my life, he explained it with such an ease that made me embrace all the difficulties in life.
Thanks a lot, Dr. K.
I don't know about this premise of "if you know how to to something it becomes easy" I reckon chess grand masters know how to play chess pretty well but I don't think they'd say it was easy, similarly for elite athletes. Even in my work I know how to do what I need to do well and have lots of experience but it's still pretty difficult work - even people who are very experienced and knowledgeable in my profession wouldn't call the job easy. Sometimes things are difficult because you are competing against others who are also competent, or because (as in my job) there often is no good solution, yet it is still your job to find one, with all the pressure that comes with that.
He explained what to do on a day where we feel rajas, but not tamas. Did I miss something? Do we do the same things on a tamas day? Do we just rest? This video feels incomplete.
Exactly. I’m feeling way more tamas (inertia) rather than rajas (energy) these days… and I don’t know if I’m supposed to rest or try to stimulate my activity levels or what?
@@Anotherhumanexisting I did my own research and discovered this: With tamas, it's ideal to also eat light foods (with more emphasis on energising, slow-burn food), avoid the impulse to over-eat, get an average amount of sleep without over-sleeping, and subject yourself to bright sunlight and mild stimulants (like fragrances) if possible. Hope that helps!
15:30 was honestly one of the biggest eureka moments I’ve ever had in terms of mental health/motivation. I just realized that I’ve never truly tried to control my mind but instead motivate it to do what I want it to.
Sleep is the most important thing for me. I have notice that I need to be in bed like 22:00 max or I will not perform good on the other day and act and think very anxiously. If I sleep good I become a master of myself I do everything I feel amazing I solve problems without even thinking my mind is sharp af. Problem is, I literally can only be at home at 23:00. So because of my work I already cannot sleep good. I can’t see a way out for now.
I just need to say that you are an incredible person, I don't care if you get rich of your education that's what you deserve, there is only so many careers where you can help millions upon millions of people, thank you for reals.
Tbh I don’t want an easy life, I want a fun and fulfilling life. If it’s easy that’s cool, but if it’s hard that’s also cool
You say that… lol
Grass green over there I promise
Best video ever😊 Perfect timing to apply in my life! Thank you, Dr. K.
The experiment: I watched this video on Jan 14th and was intrigued by Dr. K’s explanation of “psychoactive substance theory” and how motivation is actually not a “good thing” 🙂 It’s been three weeks since my sober experiment (I still enjoy ☕️). Everything becomes so much easier! No kidding. I feel calm, grounded and stable. It’s like I withdrew myself from being pushed and pulled non-stop inside of a maze blindfolded…now I’m just casually reading a 📖 under a 🌳❤ So far so good.
8 weeks clean and sober. Everything IS easy! I can’t even get frustrated anymore haha. Down the road I might consider revisiting psychedelics occasionally but this video completed changed my nightly THC habits. MAGIC!
Did I miss something? Dr.K said things to do to be satvic tomorrow if we are rajasic today, but what if whe are tamasic(inertia/lazy/procrastinate) today?
Find pleasure in doing hard things and your life will always be easy
Summary of video yeah
You are literally helping me figure this out for free. Bless You!!
some thoughts:
"easy" !~= "happy"
"easy"/"happy"/"hard" are subjective terms and can mean different things to different people -> "happy" for a sadist doesn't necessarily mean the same thing for a masochist
just because you know how to do something doesn't necessarily mean it's "easy" -> if you know how to exercise it doesn't mean it's not "hard" (e.g. account for motivation vs. knowledge vs. physical requirements)
i'm glad you pointed out that studies generally regard statistical averages 👌🏻
So, in short, eat better light nutritious foods on a day you feel passionate, do yoga and don't use weed, alcohol and don't take caffeine so you feel more balanced
Also embrace difficult things and don’t run away from challenges.
Not sure that's the main point 😅 10.50 - things you do to make life easier rather than investing that energy trying to learn things that will make you better at living your life.
This is very interesting as I feel I am almost constantly in the inertia stage, with few spots of passion (like 2/3 weeks a year maybe). This is probably why antidepressants don't work for me and worsen symptoms as it puts me deeper into the inertia stage. I have already started a much healthier diet and have cut alcohol, coffee is the only thing, usually 1/2 cups a day. From this I think I need to focus more on 'stretching the mind', learning to have more of a growth mindset and start to appreciate/reward the small wins.
Just double check that depression isn't just burnout being misdiagnosed.
I never had a single antidepressant work because it was all burnout. And when you're on that burnout slope you start getting other health issues like catching colds/flus more, they last longer and the symptoms are worse.
You might start getting more headaches, migraines, then they get more frequent and longer with greater intensity.
Heck, I should have known something was up getting tonsillitis in my late 20s when I'd never had it before and then it just wouldn't go away, 8months and had to have them burned out but throat still got worse with what felt like stabbing pains on the inside. I figured it was scar tissue pulling but no it was from being that burnt-out. Took 3ish years of being bed ridden for it to heal enough that the whole throat stopped hurting and the pain was more localised being way too far down the throat for it to be tonsil scar tissue. Was my nerves being damaged or something.
Burnout is no joke, but it's not got any diagnostic criteria. And if you're only getting 2-3 weeks a year with any joy in life there's a high chance it is burnout.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 Interesting. Not sure what I could be burnt out from but I will look into this, see if anything resonates.
Dude, I just found this channel and have been watching a lot, learning a lot. This is really what I needed, natural remedies to the negative effects of our comfortable lives. Thank you.
I teally needed to hear this. Because i keep telling myself im not good enoufh to jump into a different career. That i dont know what im doing and that immediatelty disqualifies me from working really anywhere. But! I took this job i have currently and knew absolutely nothing. Have i learned more? Yes. Am i a master of this position? No. Do I want to be? No. But thats ok. Because this job isnt for me but it puts different experience under my belt and thats better than no experience.
Dr. K just casually spilling the keys of life. Thank you!
surely this will be the video to change my life
Stop waiting for a particular video to change you and make the decision that you are going to change. Then you are truly in control.
@@Aires457this is better advice
@@Aires457surely this will be the reply that change my life
God Dr K always has the wisdom I need. Interpreting life through the lens of the Gunas makes so much sense.
I've gotta remember what was said about motivation being a hope for Rajas and how it doesn't actually permit control of the mind, as motivation is just a spur independent of input.
I've also gotta remember that willpower is just mental energy expended on counteracting Tamas, which will leave us more drained afterwards.
Cultivating Sattvas by taking advantage of Rajas days to practice things which will improve our ability to control our minds is such a great guideline to slowly gaining control over one's own life!
Thank you! (If you didn't notice, I was writing this out for comprehension lol)
Best video I’ve heard in a long long time. Thank you so much
"If what you´re doing is easy, you´re doing it wrong." -sentiment of pretty much every person in my life.
This just feels like a longer slightly more elaborate way of saying "eat better, do sport, yadyada," which you can read in any copy paste "top 10 tips for your health" article.
Except he put some Minecraft enchantment table in it as well for good measure. This one ain´t really vibing with me.
Hope you find the magic spell you're looking for buddy.
@@AtmoStk There is no magic spell. It´s a combined effort of medication, therapy and a suitable life goal. Everything else is just scam imho.
Neither, at this point only a substantial injection of money so that I can afford to set up my environment to suit my brain is going to do it.
making life easy is dope, what do you like about life?
clueless
asking other people about their attraction to life is dope, what do you like about asking people about life?
I like sitting in the predawn light listening to all the birds waking up.
It's always destroyed by car noises. Humanity is horrible, life is horrendous, I'm ready to just go.
Folks! Embrace hard times. It makes everything else easier.
If your broke you'll learn how to be resourceful. You will learn to fix things, show gratitude for the things you have. You will learn that money does not fix everything.
If your not happy, your not in the moment. Learn what will make minutes better and days will get better.
Find your passion, once you find this turn that into revenue. It won't be easy but you'll overcome every objection and the duration of this journey will be meaningful.
Stay sober! Your mind is so amazing and addictions are for making things better in life not send you down a reboot or rabbit hole wasting time that's so valuable of things you remember.
Learn that failure is a step to success. The experience alone is gathered in failure. It makes things exciting. In other words you didn't fail, you gave up! Do things enough times you'll succeed the way you need to.
Finally remember comparing is the killer of all joy. Your journey will be different than everyone else's.
Love these videos!
*YES*
I feel like the main psychoactive substance I need to take out of my system is my phone
This video has resonated with me the most of all the ones I've watched. Thank you
Idk why I never thought of training my body and mind until I watched this video. Like, this phrase is said a lot in a variety of situations but somehow the right words in this video made things clear to me. Thanks Dr. K!!
Life is easy when I take my meds, when I don’t I’m literally fighting demons and skin-walkers pretending to be my friend.
If your brain needs chemicals your body can't produce, store bought is fine 😸
It's funny how when I hear people talking about pursuing difficult things and how we need to do that if we want the things we want... I get angry.
I do like how Dr. K talked about building habits and doing those things when we have the energy to do it.
I've found that thinking about the habits I want to build in a positive way and not engaging in putting myself down when I fail to follow through helps to make it easier to actually try again.
I'm interested to hear about others' experiences with this.
Thank you for putting this up.
These videos are so helpful, I used to play video games a lot growing up, and I have found myself not having the problem of any video game addiction luckily, but nonetheless, the way you apply these principles with video game analogies feels like a sweet psychological potion for my younger soul.
where did astarion and shadowheart come from?? this man knows how to pique interest
Step 1: be born in a well off family
Step 2: ???
Step 3: profit
(I live in a well off family)
Using generational wealth is the greatest hack of capitalism.
Step 2 would be financial knowledge and experience combined with collateral. (Mum, Dad, can I have 2 million? I'd like to put it in a family trust and invest it in ETFs)
Life is such a rip off.
So true, great video 😁👍
great video! loved it
12:39 i know im supposed to focus and understand what he is explaining but i was laughing ma ass off for 20 minutes to this
There's no way you're 18+...
@@gifi4 I'm 24 dude.... Don't be so serious, learn to love the small things in life.
@@radiationgeneration4006 🤣
It's just so sad that so many people could improve their life by very simple changes but they just refuse to do it because they are scared they could loose the NOTHING they have and they are so sank in their own missery it is impossible to get them out.
“We don’t spend time learning how to live life” Amen 🙌🏼
I’m in that boat 100% right now. I have severe adhd symptoms I’ve been working on slowly for the past 1.5-2years to make better and up until January 15th 2023 (when I sought rehab) I’ve struggled with cannabis use disorder. Only time I wasn’t high when I was ‘asleep’. I lapsed once for ~3 weeks over the summer but have been clean now again for the last 6 months! :) I was couch surfing during my relapse and got clean to move into a sober living house. I work selling tires and assembling them on and off cars. I am currently living at an ‘In between house’ I want to change but 98% of the time manage to do anything but be productive. I don’t currently have a car for a number of reasons but primarily lack of financial affordability. I’m clean why do I feel so complacent despite wanting to change?
Ps I graduated college with 2 bachelor degrees; one in behavioral psychology and the other in advertising and I’m about to be 26 yr old and this is my life… 🙃
Because life, or more accurately, society is not currently set up to support neurodivergent people. Often it's the opposite.
You have to set up your environment to suit your brain. Lots of ADHD people will have had many different jobs in lots of different industries but also spotty employment history because of burnout and needing to recover.
Unfortunately another huge barrier to setting up a life environment that actually supports you requires.. you guessed it! 🤑
Money money money, which is tough for neurodivergent people to acquire, why? Because neurotypicals are very discriminatory even if they don't think they are. But also for undiagnosed NDs spending money gives a dopamine hit, food in general gives a dopamine hit, and on and on it goes.
It's because getting a degree is worthless. Go out and get experience. Live your life man. Join the army or work in a kitchen, or write a book. Move to Australia. Do something. I can relate to your situation. I am now 24 and a real estate agent. Nothing is given, you have to take it. Get yourself used to not being comfortable and lazy.
Thanks for all the work you do, Dr. K.
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Do you have a topic video on emotional masochism?
I'm not able to completely stop them, but have learned to cut out specific interaction with other people to minimize or mitigate the intrusive negative thoughts. Such as when trying to date or find a relationship, the usual thoughts include things like "you're a worthless, you'll just be a burden, they can do so much better." I end up inducing my own stress, anxiety, exhaustion, and depressive thoughts. I cut that out of my life 5 years ago and most of that has gone away, still some lingering thoughts here and there, but nothing major.
@Phane02 How did you approach this? I suffer from this and it is the one thing that is legitimately ruining my life and making all my success feel like nothing.
Sounds like toxic shame, maybe it's worth exploring by this keyword
@@DomenTheChief The fk is emotional masochism? You telling yourself that you're worthless, or is someone telling you? Masochism should mean that you derive pleasure from being hurt.
@@nightmareTomek That's Sexual Masochism which is the enjoyment of physical abuse, verbal abuse, humiliation, or degradation for erotic arousal.
Emotional Masochism is when someone holds onto negative emotional feelings of guilt, remorse, regret, sadness, anger for extended periods of time. It's not that we enjoy these feelings, but we hold onto them for dear life when they happen or self-sabotage ourselves to make it happen.
It's like taking low-self esteem and multiply it by 10. We are "addicted" to others putting us down, mocking us, or telling us off. We don't like the feelings, but at the same time its psychological fuel that we move closer to it rather than trying to cut it out of our lives.
@@Phane02that doesn't sound like masochism, but more like you're stuck in that mindset because that's all you've known and changing it or believing that it's not true is more painful than staying in that mindset.
Definitely need a different name for it. But isn't it just negative self talk that's constantly going on combined with rumination and hmm chaotic interpersonal relationships of a toxic variety because your sense of self worth is so low that you wouldn't believe if anyone said differently. When they reinforce your beliefs there's a sense of stability for all the coping mechanisms you've developed over time.
Feels like you're getting wires crossed about this somewhere.
Love your videos, 29 M they're really helping me through some tough times.
I love the way you teach and encourage people. Bless you!
Wait Dr. K talked about what to do when you have too much rajas, but what do you do when you have too much tamas? When you need to willpower yourself to do things.
Passion is easy to spark. Any kind of primal desire (hunger, lust, affection, safety) or higher desires (success, sensory enjoyment) can create tremendous rajas. Even things like anger, frustration create tremendous rajas, but its best to balance into sattva and not overuse these emotions.
So does he recommend to do the same thing on tamas days as he says to do on rajas days??
@@Anotherhumanexisting dont approach this so robotically. take a intuitive commonsensical approach to this. if u are in a tamasic state which is sluggish and lethargic then u need to generate passion and desire and motivation. this can be through music, thinking about ur goals, or even anger and frustration, but once u get ur engine is going it is best to balance it onto sattva through meditation, body mind awareness exercises and light food.