I was misled as well… God had to intervene because I was struggling to let this situation go and I highly doubt he felt any type of remorse for losing me 🤷🏾♀️ Though it’s hurts now we all will be able to move forward to bigger and better things after we take time to heal. We all deserve someone who will value and appreciate us. All I can do now is put it in God’s hands.
You’re certainly not sounding like the guy in the video… God bless him. God bless you too with the knowledge and understanding of the Lord Jesus Christ, and how to take care of a woman.
Narcissistic men aren't appreciative of a virtuous woman. The more we give the more they take, never putting into that woman. Then in hindsight actually had the nerve to say " I miss the way you USED to take care of me." As if this is a compliment. Been there done that NEVER again. I now recognize my self worth & am not prepared to settle for ANYTHING less than I deserve. I deserve the WORLD. To my sister's never underestimate your value or be so lonely that you feel you can't do or get better. You most definitely can and will ! ! ! 😁
Yessssss THEIR MOM'S WILL TELL A GREAT YOUNG WOMAN.... You should marry my son for all you do for him.... And you wonder where MAMAS BOY got the narc from.
A queen doesn't settle. I can love a man but i will never fall in love with a man again. All they do is drag you through the mudd. Love yourself always.
It's too bad that the loss of a good woman is felt immediately, yet for all the time you had her you seemed to feel nothing. Why should her absence trigger such sentiment?
@@225Qc Wow, you really don't bring any value to a relationship do you? Once a man can bring value to a relationship, he will have options. Then its the mans job to pick the best option. Sounds like you are just trying to keep what you can get?? JMHO.
@@Impossibly_gorgeous Oh they most definitely get what they push for. They do the dumbest crap, sneek on women's social media page, talk bad about their woman in an effort to get sympathy coochie when the little huzzy was going to give it up anyway. Then when she drops his arse like the hot sack of 💩 he is .. she's the bad guy. Bye Tyrone 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 I don't play the radio with nobody's child. You're most definitely going to get your ego adjusted coming at me with the shenanigans. I be waiting on it. 🤣🤣🤣
@@soulsistah5738 🎯🎯🎯🎯 As you can guess I'm single and I love it. I wished I would let an insecure, manipulative dingy draws man manipulate me into the bs. I'm straight ninja.
@@rondas7772 Remember, The Bible says a man findeth a good thing when he finds a wife , If she is a good and Faithful wife. So the wife has to be a good woman. Us men are the ones who gets down on our knees to ask the woman for marriage, but not if she is a whole. But when a woman is a good woman, she is absolutely priceless.
That's how my ex husband felt. I didn't want to end the marriage, but he forced my hand and I had to. He tried for years to get me back, but I was done. Some situations just can't be worked out. He has told me, leaving our marriage was and still is his biggest regret.
@@juliemcdaniel499 Reality hit when he got the divorce papers. He thought it was funny at first, didn't take it serious. I thought he was just losing his mind, so I waited for 6 months to see if he would get right. He still treated it like it was a game. But he realized it
I’ve learned that a man that doesn’t love God (who is Love) can’t love a woman properly Period. That’s what the majority are missing and why selfishness & words like narcissism are thrown around so often now.
It's true. Sometimes, my ex wanted prayer and Sometimes he didn't...he wanted to acknowledge God but wudnt crack the Bible open for nothing..Tried making me feel bad for reading, knowing and applying scripture to how I lived...definitely an Unbeliever.
This comment needs 📌 and belongs at the tops. This some up everything. How can you love a woman correctly when you dont even love or seek Christ first.
@AfroButterfly many of the ppl we encounter in life we weren't meant to encounter so we're damaging folks out of lack of patience & overly easy access.
@@messiahboss6903 i commend you for being so transparent and honest about your emotions and actions. This is was very mature if you in the way that you explained it as well. Thank you for not being so prideful and making this a teaching moment for both male and female. Friend you are truly appreciated and I thank you 😘
I walked away after 15 years after being with a narcissist that was abusing me and our children. And him worried about his family and friends over us It was the best decision I ever made. I’ve been single for 16 months now just enjoying my children God. And work I just wish I would’ve left more sooner
I have only had two women in my life out of ALL the other women that were the ones. The first woman was a gem, a one million, and I blew that big time. I vowed if that spark ever happens again, I would not mess it up. Now, I am married to my second chance woman who is a gem, and diamond, and I am not f'ing this up for nothing!
Lies. The one you screwed over was the gem and will always be the one you think about. You can lie to yourself and claim you married a diamond. You didnt.
Thank you they can't have same sex and look you in the face they can't give pay their grown healthy daughters bills and want you to replace the money they can't beat your kids without being afraid you'll kill them in their sleep when a woman is save and love Jesus Married twice and they left me and they are very happy both tried to ask me again I guess Lol I'm smart enough to not entertain their illness I'm in there until I don't have to be Freedom let go with no place to go but happy to be let go Our black man are so damaged they don't know when or how to stop hurting their households They say they want a real woman but are afraid because they're not real men
And what they do ? Woman help bring him up or at least help him up in Many ways than a few, he takes what she’s given and give to another that’s Don’t even wanna be with him just want what’s in them pockets that’s even if he have pockets , thinking He some kind of PLAYA REMOVE THE “L” cause he ain’t none but a PAYA! Silly rabbit 🐇 tricks are for kids
TREAL & 💯 FACTS! I WANTED A MARRIAGE BUT HE WANTED TO BE A SUGA DADDY...GO ON PAYA AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT WORLDLY LIFESTYLE BREAK UR NARCISSISTIC BEHIND DOWN! KUDOS TO THE 1 THAT CAN HANDLE HIS HYGIENE OF KENNETH COLE BLUE INSTEAD OF DAILY SOAP AND WATER.
I’ve been that woman for 11 long years. He never appreciated all that I did because of his ego. I was forced into a corner and had to make the decision to put me first. The divorce was finalized when he confessed to mistreating me. He confessed that the reason he mistreated me was because of his own insecurities and that he wanted someone else to feel his hurt. Well, I was indeed hurt but didn’t understand why. Keep in mind, I’m working and taking care of 2 kids under the ages of 11 as if I’m single yet married. So yea, when I walked out, I had no hesitation or intention of returning. I’d had enough and it was time for me to choose me. 4 years later, I’m still single and happy. My kids are my priority. Single isn’t lonely. I’m a beautiful person inside and out and I love life. That’s why I can be happy. His loss, my gain!
Im empathetic. The fact that my ex understands this is why I'm not mean to him. I don't trust him but I'm not bitter. He bears the weight of his self-sabotage. I pity those who fight genuine caring and love. Ego destroys. Thank you for this, bless you.
I will never forget the fb messages I got from my ex once I got engaged .... "I can't believe I let you go ... please..."... I think as adults we have to learn to live with those mistakes and allow people to move on and be happy!!!
My man. did exactly that, but only for awhile. I didn’t go after him this time. I didn’t apologize for doing nothing. After a couple of werks, maybe even a month it hit him hard. It’s over. Good luck.
Worst thing I ever heard when I had to leave the man I loved was from mutual friend of ours. "You have to come back for him, he looks grey without you." I didn't go back, because he didn't realize he wanted more until I was gone thousand of miles away.
I love hearing this from a man. Women don't comprehend they can't determine their value to a man. That is up to him to see and feel it. Women often shout from the roof tops that their ex lost a good woman by losing them when in fact he didn't feel that way. Only she thought that way. Women try to force a man to make her more than what she is and then they are devastated when he is okay losing her. Let men be men and let them show you if you are a good woman to him. Stop over selling yourself based on what you think you are. Because if he doesn't see it then he will never be in fear of losing you. And his actions will show you that.
100%! It’s just like the saying, “you will never be good enough for the wrong person”. Women automatic getting into “let me prove myself to him” mode when we feel the guy we’re interested in isn’t showing the attention and commitment we want when we really have slim to no control over anyone’s feelings, perception of value, etc. besides our own!
I was thinking kind of the same - a personal assistant male or female could have done those things he mentioned. Basically no special personal qualities. So, what did his woman take away from him that he sees and appreciates that a personal assistant CANNOT give - THAT is what I hope he means he misses but didn't say...possibly... 🥲
I’m glad you caught that…they don’t miss the WOMAN…they miss what she did for them….this is why they can move on quickly because it’s not about love…it’s about what you can do for them. Listen to these men on this innernet…they are revealing their innermost thoughts. After it’s all said and done women should know all they need to know and move accordingly.
Something how they hurt but they can’t see how they are damaging your mental health and overall wellbeing. It forces you to either continue down a path of degradation or choose yourself.
I’m currently going through it as well. Mines was a lil more complex cause we weren’t in a relationship but we liked each other. I’m not sure how he feels cause I blocked him but he knows how to reach me
This made me cry. It’s messed up. I loved him for him. He said he never had anyone love him and proceeded to drag me thru the mud. Shit hurt so bad at night when I cry I can barely catch my breath. I’ll never understand why.
Hang in there sis. One day you’ll wake up and the pain would be gone and nights won’t feel vacant and scary like a ghost haunting you. You have to pray and cried the pain away.
My sister gave me some great advice after I had a bad breakup and he just ghosted me... She said, you're looking for closure, but you need to face the fact you may never get it from him. You make have to create your own. She said girl, you got options and a relationship is work. Imo, when you're alone, focus on you, do your nails, give yourself a facial. Every day it gets easier to breath and the day you find yourself humming to a tune, you will notice this, and smile. Btw the ex did call. I looked at the phone and kept walking. I had flowers to repot.
My ex said to me year's after the marriage ended that his pride got the best of him, he said he thought I would come crying back because I left him with the 5 kid's...their grown and now they understand why I left their Dad and moved on with my life. I just pray that he will heal from whatever happened in his childhood that messed him up and he in turn broke up his family, I forgave.
@@ggsolleb916 I thought y’all said the kids were better off with the father? She didn’t say she abandoned them, but left them in primary care of their father.
The scary thing about a narcissist is they'll try to get you back "just to win" and abuse you again. And yeah I agree, they don't have feelings like normal people.
I love your post because your delivery is always brutally honest. Its too bad they realize it too late because it damages bot parties in today's society. Empaths today dont get the love & courtship we deserve.
They should have appreciated her while they had her!! I'm happy I was finally able to get out of the relationship I was in! I was good to this man, didn't cheat, bought things I wanted him to have, but he wanted to call me out my name for no reason, the longer I stayed in the relationship the worst he got. I cared for him. We did things for each other. But the mental, emotional and the physical abuse I had to say No way can I allow myself to be disrespected!!!
We just stupid my sister..... I was one of dose guys..... Now I have to see HER HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELSE 🥲... I ASKED THE LORD 🙏🏿🙄 TOO FORGIVE ME ... ALL I CAN DO.... I HAD TO LEARN THAT LOVE DON'T HURT.....
I went thru that myself and lord knows he had no room to call me outta my name with the way he was beginning to look. He thawt he was sunthn serious because he was 56 and still had waves in his hair....whatever dude!
I commend you for seeing this truth and revealing this it helps me a lot to understand some things from a man’s perspective. If a man can do this kind of self reflection and learn from it, it shows a very high level of maturity, honesty, and wisdom.
Facts. There are PLENTY of women in this world, but a GOOD WOMAN is rare. Even more rare these days.... Most GOOD MEN men never find them. Most of the "other" men got to them first. Mismanaged and damaged them even more than they already were.. ONCE A GOOD GIRL GOES BAD, SHE'S GONE FOREVER...💯
That’s Jay Z’s words, I don’t think so. She is still good just understands better that’s all. A lesson learned.😊 I chalk it up to the Game. And keep it moving.
It is so true a man does not realize what he lost until it's gone ! The love of a good woman can never be replaced by other jump offs ! She loved him unconditionally , would of done anything in the world for him , and treated him like a king ! 🧔🌹
I'm going through this right now😭 Everything that he's mentioned in this video and more I did because when I'm with you it comes with the territory. He used to always tell me, I'm his peace,I make him happy, he appreciates me, that I am a good women and suddenly he's telling me it's not me it's him. He is going through something mentally. His heart is telling him do right and push through, but his mind is confused and etc. I was immediately hurt while he was expressing himself. He just don't know the damage he caused. 💔 I will never understand why do men come into a woman's life knowing that he's not ready and leading her to hurt and pain.
I did this for my husband of 32 years. Did everything for him so he could provide for our family.He saw this as pathetic at the time.I know he wishes he had someone to take care of him now.I'm one of the last good holsome real woman that I know.
I can tell what kind of person you are just by telling me I misspelled a word.Good for you 🤗 Did I mention I'm going blind so my vision is off.But thanks
I can remember this conversation my ex and I had of 13 years. It’s refreshing when they finally can admit it but then, it’s too late. His sister told him he had a good woman and I was in disbelief when he admitted to her.
I left California after my gra’mom passed on. Her son sold the house Ingrew up in after that. My whole life did a 180. So, I took it further and left California for Texas 2 weeks b4 she passed, the man I had been trying to be in a relationship with for the past 10+ years , who was the Devon of our church, who my family embraced with open arms, revealed that I was the side chick. I found out yesterday that he has been looking for me. And I feel so bad for him. But once a man makes me cry in pain. There is no get back. And he knows now that not only did the mother of his church pass on, but everything about that era has to. And that he is now part of that Blaq history.
I gave that to my ex for 10+yrs , Up b4 him to do his lunch box fresh, coffee, clothes , fag made in ashtray, Home time he’d have bath run , can of special brew chilling,, dinner cooking,, He didn’t have to do anything,, He played the field when I put him out,,, Then needed to get a place so he could see his son,,, then reality hit home and he cried for months an months because he wanted to come HOME ...
I lost the most amazing girl who loved me and stood by my side for years. I lost here because of immaturity and the fact that I relaxed and was acting weak. I have been reflecting for 3 months and know what I did wrong and I will never make the same mistakes again. Sadly that won't bring her back. Don't make my mistakes or you may regret it for the rest of your life.
There are many young minded males out there that felt that in the heart, you're right. It's not too late to turn your life over to Christ, ask the Father for help in guiding you and see your life get better once you put in genuine effort to become better in every way. God bless all.
Wow, ur humility in saying that 🥺😢. That's Precious. My ex husband pretty much told me that and he regrets he quickly married someone he does not love the way a man is supposed to love a wife. Smh sad 😔. Too late, smh .
But nah you take her for granted and are unthankful and leaving her. You don’t and never will appreciate a woman who truly was standing behind you no matter what. You will never be able to appreciate her
Yup. No such thing as regretting what you did to someone. If you realized their value, he nwver would have done it. What he lost was your attention and attention isn't easy for men to get. He forgets that while he's in a relationship.
Sometimes people have more growing to do and honestly won’t realize it until what they had us gone. If it’s true love, and change is sincere, love can be rekindled.
So Glad God Spoke to me and said focus on you. Yes it’s disappointing when someone doesn’t really pay attention to your worth and value. Happy I did listen to the word because God sent all my heart has ever desired and more.
Thank you for being so transparent. Women need to know this, because we always wonder did they ever care at all sometimes with they way they treat us at times. When you leave is when you get all the effort but by then it's too late.
I normally don’t comment but I’m 51 one and was married for a long time. I’m single now and finally understanding me and what I want. I’ve been through a lot and it was all lessons. You guys are so on it when it comes to a women’s feelings, her intentions and her concerns. Keep up the good work because in the end only the TRUTH will stand.❤❤And you all don’t mind telling the truth.
There’s nothing wrong with nurturing a man like his mama when he provides and protects her like a daddy. Humble service is the physical demonstration of several honorable character traits. Withholding service from your spouse negates the difference that your presence SHOULD make in their life. If their life doesn’t change when you’re not around, they have nothing to lose anyway because you don’t add value when you are there. “It’s the small things” that leave the biggest void when you don’t have them anymore.
Good that you feel the loss. I've had that happen when they woke up in their own slop and figured out a I screwed up! Guess what and guess who, I did a Vanishing Act and I did leave in anger but I just stay prayerful and got away from them or as they like to put it they got away from me but who came back to who or who thought they had the right to come back to me! No! What I do for them for them and help them if they were sick ? Yes yes, Beyond that NO!Men like women should just learn from their mistakes be PRAYERFULLY and do better
Glad to here that this means the next time you are blessed to have a good woman...you will know how to. Appreciate that good woman. Maybe you will bring her flowers just because......you love her....... Maybe you will sit at the kitchen table while she is cooking dinner and talk to her. Tell her how happy you are to have that woman who puts your cloths out for you...got that stick of deodorant..etc. ect. Well sorrow can indeed bring maturity to ones life.... Nothing like recognizing on both sides........,..
@@juliemcdaniel499 I’m sure he have left a good one before and was blessed with another one. Sound like he’s saying from experience but I don’t know him to know fr sure. Thanks for part of his history
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Going through that now, it hurts me, I love him, but I love myself more, he told me I was his priority, but his actions show me I was an option.
I'm right here with you sis
I was misled as well… God had to intervene because I was struggling to let this situation go and I highly doubt he felt any type of remorse for losing me 🤷🏾♀️
Though it’s hurts now we all will be able to move forward to bigger and better things after we take time to heal.
We all deserve someone who will value and appreciate us. All I can do now is put it in God’s hands.
I am going thru the same thing. Hold your head up, this too shall pass
Thank you all in the replies for the encouragement to let this go! Wish you all the best...
🙏🏾Praying for all of your hearts to be healed and for God to send you ladies the right man he has for you 🙏🏾❤️
When you treat a good woman as an option, she will treat herself as a priority!!! Facts!
She better ❤💯
💯
Period.
Ohhh I sharing this with my BFF thanks!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
He will realize he lost a good woman when u GIVE HIM SPACE, DO NOT
RUN HIM DOWN. Your absence is only felt when you’re ABSENT.
This the 1 ret herre! 💯
You’re certainly not sounding like the guy in the video… God bless him. God bless you too with the knowledge and understanding of the Lord Jesus Christ, and how to take care of a woman.
This is true!!!!
Facts, DONT GO BACK!
And stay absent
Narcissistic men aren't appreciative of a virtuous woman. The more we give the more they take, never putting into that woman. Then in hindsight actually had the nerve to say " I miss the way you USED to take care of me." As if this is a compliment. Been there done that NEVER again. I now recognize my self worth & am not prepared to settle for ANYTHING less than I deserve. I deserve the WORLD. To my sister's never underestimate your value or be so lonely that you feel you can't do or get better. You most definitely can and will ! ! ! 😁
Amen!!!
Yessssss THEIR MOM'S WILL TELL A GREAT YOUNG WOMAN.... You should marry my son for all you do for him.... And you wonder where MAMAS BOY got the narc from.
Facts Queen and you will too!
They hate virtue. They take pleasure in destroying it
A queen doesn't settle. I can love a man but i will never fall in love with a man again. All they do is drag you through the mudd. Love yourself always.
So true my ex is doing horrible and looks horrible. I wish him the best, but you reap what you sow
They do reap what they sow.
Mine too
Pride always comes before the fall. God created woman for a purpose, and it wasn't what most men are committing and showing these days.
Yup! Mine too! Welp!
Mine too. Living on the streets. Bum.
It's too bad that the loss of a good woman is felt immediately, yet for all the time you had her you seemed to feel nothing. Why should her absence trigger such sentiment?
Well said👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You never miss the water til the well runs dry.
Because people always want what they no longer have.
People do not practice gratitude, in a world where we over consume.
Wow!!!!
Amen . But most men don't know this until its gone
Most men don't know there will be more and better options in the future....
@@ironwillie7666 Most men don't know they don't get to keep getting good women and treating them poorly either.
@@ironwillie7666 if she dumped your ass she was THE better option
@@225Qc Wow, you really don't bring any value to a relationship do you? Once a man can bring value to a relationship, he will have options. Then its the mans job to pick the best option. Sounds like you are just trying to keep what you can get?? JMHO.
And he got on my last nerves begging me to come back and he even threatened to kill himself 😩
Your Ego and immaturity is your OWN demise. 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Factz these clowns 🤡will never learn!!
Until it's to late oh well😊
They deserve it
@@Impossibly_gorgeous Oh they most definitely get what they push for. They do the dumbest crap, sneek on women's social media page, talk bad about their woman in an effort to get sympathy coochie when the little huzzy was going to give it up anyway. Then when she drops his arse like the hot sack of 💩 he is .. she's the bad guy. Bye Tyrone 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 I don't play the radio with nobody's child. You're most definitely going to get your ego adjusted coming at me with the shenanigans. I be waiting on it. 🤣🤣🤣
Lmao yup
@@soulsistah5738 🎯🎯🎯🎯 As you can guess I'm single and I love it. I wished I would let an insecure, manipulative dingy draws man manipulate me into the bs. I'm straight ninja.
I can honestly say I have never lost a good man cos unfortunately ive never had one
Oh. That's horribly funny.
Damn. I’m sorry 😢
Wow 😲😳 well, it is what it is isn't it 🤣🤣
I know that’s right
I feel you on that statement. Same here😔
Then they get mad and bitter because you don't want they ass back.. that's what I will never understand
And begged and had the nerve to say, "I'm working now and going to church." 🤣🤣🤣🙄 I said well, that's good. You'll be better for the next person!
@@caramelkisses8396 😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
never go backwards!
Or stalk forever
Us Blackmen need to spend more time on uplifting Good Blackwomen, instead of criticizing pitiful Blackwomen.
Exactly
@@rondas7772 See. You made me feel good just by agreeing with a true statement.
Thank you for saying that. 😊 It’s confusing to us watching the bad girls get all the attention.
@@rondas7772 Remember, The Bible says a man findeth a good thing when he finds a wife , If she is a good and Faithful wife.
So the wife has to be a good woman.
Us men are the ones who gets down on our knees to ask the woman for marriage, but not if she is a whole. But when a woman is a good woman, she is absolutely priceless.
@@warrendraw5142 I'm married, I know... Not sure why you're addressing me
That's how my ex husband felt. I didn't want to end the marriage, but he forced my hand and I had to. He tried for years to get me back, but I was done. Some situations just can't be worked out. He has told me, leaving our marriage was and still is his biggest regret.
Awww so sad, how many months/years did it take 4 him 2 finally say that?
Good for him
U get what you bargain for
Too bad so sad.
@@juliemcdaniel499 Reality hit when he got the divorce papers. He thought it was funny at first, didn't take it serious. I thought he was just losing his mind, so I waited for 6 months to see if he would get right. He still treated it like it was a game. But he realized it
Some folks learn the hard way when the good ain't good.... Listening to guys who really jelous pulling em down
I’ve learned that a man that doesn’t love God (who is Love) can’t love a woman properly Period. That’s what the majority are missing and why selfishness & words like narcissism are thrown around so often now.
This is the best comment ever
It's true. Sometimes, my ex wanted prayer and Sometimes he didn't...he wanted to acknowledge God but wudnt crack the Bible open for nothing..Tried making me feel bad for reading, knowing and applying scripture to how I lived...definitely an Unbeliever.
Makes sense
Not reading any more comments bc this the one!😊❤
This comment needs 📌 and belongs at the tops. This some up everything. How can you love a woman correctly when you dont even love or seek Christ first.
Facts, we know at they exact moment when you knew it was over & no coming back from. 💯
Why push it to that point?
@AfroButterfly many of the ppl we encounter in life we weren't meant to encounter so we're damaging folks out of lack of patience & overly easy access.
For men to ‘know’ so much you are sure do a lot of stupid stuff.
@@messiahboss6903 i commend you for being so transparent and honest about your emotions and actions. This is was very mature if you in the way that you explained it as well. Thank you for not being so prideful and making this a teaching moment for both male and female. Friend you are truly appreciated and I thank you 😘
Yep. Make them REACH for access.
If they don't, ladies...They were never
worth your trying (or crying).
A man who shows his actions to be so cold to his woman could never prove he ever loved her. She will walk away once she had enough.
I walked away after 15 years after being with a narcissist that was abusing me and our children. And him worried about his family and friends over us It was the best decision I ever made. I’ve been single for 16 months now just enjoying my children God. And work I just wish I would’ve left more sooner
@@Lil-Ice21 Praying for God to continue blessing you. Thanks for sharing.
I have only had two women in my life out of ALL the other women that were the ones. The first woman was a gem, a one million, and I blew that big time. I vowed if that spark ever happens again, I would not mess it up. Now, I am married to my second chance woman who is a gem, and diamond, and I am not f'ing this up for nothing!
What were the characteristics of these women that you determined were the “one” if you don’t mind me asking..
Were the other ones, just women you were using?
Lies. The one you screwed over was the gem and will always be the one you think about. You can lie to yourself and claim you married a diamond. You didnt.
@@Gia-mg5nx exactly
Damn bruh I needed to hear that !
It's really sad. This was me always on point with my man but majority of men don't want a good woman.
They think they do but a lot of them aren’t ready
Truth. Mine blames it on being a Capricorn. Your name triggered me. He has hurt me so bad, I been praying to God to take my desire for him away 😢
@@aneriataylor7091 What do you mean by blames it on being a Capricorn?
@@aneriataylor7091 replace him with someelse or get hobbies. If youre still thinking of him it means you arent busy enough...
Thank you they can't have same sex and look you in the face they can't give pay their grown healthy daughters bills and want you to replace the money they can't beat your kids without being afraid you'll kill them in their sleep when a woman is save and love Jesus
Married twice and they left me and they are very happy both tried to ask me again I guess Lol I'm smart enough to not entertain their illness I'm in there until I don't have to be Freedom let go with no place to go but happy to be let go
Our black man are so damaged they don't know when or how to stop hurting their households
They say they want a real woman but are afraid because they're not real men
If people cannot appreciate your presence they deserve your absence.
What's sad is that so many men would agree with this and they still refuse to maintain the relationship & start dih slangin'. 🤷♀️
I’m laughing so hard because my ex pushed me into the arms of a good man! Thank you 😊 and I know he crying somewhere right now! 😅
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😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah straight inspiration
EVERY SINGLE TIME this particular pedigree of men describes a good woman they describes a maid. I give up!
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Thank you for saying it Brother! Many of us Really do try to be that superwoman for our men, even putting them before ourselves at times.
And what they do ? Woman help bring him up or at least help him up in Many ways than a few, he takes what she’s given and give to another that’s Don’t even wanna be with him just want what’s in them pockets that’s even if he have pockets , thinking He some kind of PLAYA
REMOVE THE “L” cause he ain’t none but a PAYA!
Silly rabbit 🐇 tricks are for kids
TREAL & 💯 FACTS! I WANTED A MARRIAGE BUT HE WANTED TO BE A SUGA DADDY...GO ON PAYA AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT WORLDLY LIFESTYLE BREAK UR NARCISSISTIC BEHIND DOWN! KUDOS TO THE 1 THAT CAN HANDLE HIS HYGIENE OF KENNETH COLE BLUE INSTEAD OF DAILY SOAP AND WATER.
So Very True! Precious Moments gone Due to Big Egos and Immaturity.
It's always based on what she does for you. Never what you do for her 🤦🏾♀️
That part!
Right so why arent u dudes on here talking bout all the so called GOOD u gave 2 the relationship, there r some good guys but very very few 🙄
I’ve been that woman for 11 long years. He never appreciated all that I did because of his ego. I was forced into a corner and had to make the decision to put me first. The divorce was finalized when he confessed to mistreating me. He confessed that the reason he mistreated me was because of his own insecurities and that he wanted someone else to feel his hurt. Well, I was indeed hurt but didn’t understand why. Keep in mind, I’m working and taking care of 2 kids under the ages of 11 as if I’m single yet married. So yea, when I walked out, I had no hesitation or intention of returning. I’d had enough and it was time for me to choose me. 4 years later, I’m still single and happy. My kids are my priority. Single isn’t lonely. I’m a beautiful person inside and out and I love life. That’s why I can be happy. His loss, my gain!
Yes Queen, we can be Happy by ourselves
You tell it sista single is not lonely. You actually find out what kind of person you are and what you deserve.. keep moving forward. Be Blessed!
Who has time to be a punching bag?! That’s not your fault and I’m glad you’re gone
Im empathetic. The fact that my ex understands this is why I'm not mean to him. I don't trust him but I'm not bitter. He bears the weight of his self-sabotage. I pity those who fight genuine caring and love. Ego destroys.
Thank you for this, bless you.
You’re so beautiful
I will never forget the fb messages I got from my ex once I got engaged .... "I can't believe I let you go ... please..."... I think as adults we have to learn to live with those mistakes and allow people to move on and be happy!!!
You said the key word immaturity. He ain't sitting there thinking he lost a good woman, he's thinking she lost a good man🤣😂
So true! He claimed always to be a good man but was always hiding that cell phone...dummy boi.
My man. did exactly that, but only for awhile. I didn’t go after him this time. I didn’t apologize for doing nothing. After a couple of werks, maybe even a month it hit him hard. It’s over. Good luck.
Narcs have this mentality smh never again, I can smell narcs blocks away, dealt w one for 7 years
THIS!!!! SMH!!!!!! 🤦🏽♀️
Worst thing I ever heard when I had to leave the man I loved was from mutual friend of ours. "You have to come back for him, he looks grey without you." I didn't go back, because he didn't realize he wanted more until I was gone thousand of miles away.
It takes a mature man to recognize and admit that. Much respect for that.
I remember when Genuine said this in an interview. He said men have to suffer a loss before they realize what they had...which is truly sad!
I learned this from a Taylor Swift song. Men only want love if it's torture 🙃🙄😮💨
A smart man will always know!
I love hearing this from a man. Women don't comprehend they can't determine their value to a man. That is up to him to see and feel it. Women often shout from the roof tops that their ex lost a good woman by losing them when in fact he didn't feel that way. Only she thought that way. Women try to force a man to make her more than what she is and then they are devastated when he is okay losing her. Let men be men and let them show you if you are a good woman to him. Stop over selling yourself based on what you think you are. Because if he doesn't see it then he will never be in fear of losing you. And his actions will show you that.
This is why I just leave .
@@Thrivegrl24 and that's really all you can do.
100%! It’s just like the saying, “you will never be good enough for the wrong person”. Women automatic getting into “let me prove myself to him” mode when we feel the guy we’re interested in isn’t showing the attention and commitment we want when we really have slim to no control over anyone’s feelings, perception of value, etc. besides our own!
@@shalalala868 absolutely correct because I know I have been guilty of doing that myself. Had to learn the hard way but I get it now!
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Humble yourself .Humble people are pleasant to be around .
"HE KNOWS..I WAS A QUEEN.👸🏽..THANKS BROTHER ⚘❤
They should know. And they should suffer from the loss. Point blank period
That part!!!
And I wanna see the suffering too😐🤣
Good people don’t want others to suffer
They shouldn’t suffer but they should definitely learn in this lifetime.
I feel sorry for your hurt. But oh well.
He’s looking for a mommy to remember and care for his basic needs and necessities.
What????? That’s what you got from that? I bet you’re single👀🤦🏾♂️
I agree lol he only mentioned how she did things around the house for him lol
@@yungrenny9061 Do you realize we are happier single? You have to know this. All men do is take and take.
I was thinking kind of the same - a personal assistant male or female could have done those things he mentioned. Basically no special personal qualities. So, what did his woman take away from him that he sees and appreciates that a personal assistant CANNOT give - THAT is what I hope he means he misses but didn't say...possibly... 🥲
I’m glad you caught that…they don’t miss the WOMAN…they miss what she did for them….this is why they can move on quickly because it’s not about love…it’s about what you can do for them. Listen to these men on this innernet…they are revealing their innermost thoughts. After it’s all said and done women should know all they need to know and move accordingly.
I always said, "It's the little things a person does that mean so much." 😊
It is not about materialistic things. It is is about quality of character and sharing yourself.
It happens instantaneously, absolutely!
Really and how long does that feeling last?
@@juliemcdaniel499 There's no set time, if you choose to heal before moving forward after losing her.
Going through it right now. I asked him to leave and he’s hurting bad. But first “me”. My mental health and wellbeing first.
Something how they hurt but they can’t see how they are damaging your mental health and overall wellbeing. It forces you to either continue down a path of degradation or choose yourself.
I’m currently going through it as well. Mines was a lil more complex cause we weren’t in a relationship but we liked each other. I’m not sure how he feels cause I blocked him but he knows how to reach me
Yeah, I walked away from someone I loved and wanted nothing less than the best for him. I really loved him for him. I pray for him every day still❤
This made me cry. It’s messed up. I loved him for him. He said he never had anyone love him and proceeded to drag me thru the mud. Shit hurt so bad at night when I cry I can barely catch my breath. I’ll never understand why.
Hang in there sis. One day you’ll wake up and the pain would be gone and nights won’t feel vacant and scary like a ghost haunting you. You have to pray and cried the pain away.
@@TheSadie88 thank you beautiful. I’m hanging on
My sister gave me some great advice after I had a bad breakup and he just ghosted me...
She said, you're looking for closure, but you need to face the fact you may never get it from him. You make have to create your own.
She said girl, you got options and a relationship is work.
Imo, when you're alone, focus on you, do your nails, give yourself a facial. Every day it gets easier to breath and the day you find yourself humming to a tune, you will notice this, and smile.
Btw the ex did call. I looked at the phone and kept walking. I had flowers to repot.
My ex said to me year's after the marriage ended that his pride got the best of him, he said he thought I would come crying back because I left him with the 5 kid's...their grown and now they understand why I left their Dad and moved on with my life. I just pray that he will heal from whatever happened in his childhood that messed him up and he in turn broke up his family, I forgave.
Did he emotionally switch off?
@@ggsolleb916 that part!!!🤦🏽♀️
@@ggsolleb916 I thought y’all said the kids were better off with the father? She didn’t say she abandoned them, but left them in primary care of their father.
Not a narc, he or she will always have more on the side, don’t be fooled into feeling good, they forget you as fast as they met you.
Idk I’ve had attempted Hoovers many times, but idk if they can feel regret like a normal person
The scary thing about a narcissist is they'll try to get you back "just to win" and abuse you again. And yeah I agree, they don't have feelings like normal people.
Karma will be a great teacher!
Yea but I bet he won't forget me sending his ass to jail 😁
God will punish EVERY narc 💯
I love your post because your delivery is always brutally honest. Its too bad they realize it too late because it damages bot parties in today's society. Empaths today dont get the love & courtship we deserve.
They should have appreciated her while they had her!! I'm happy I was finally able to get out of the relationship I was in! I was good to this man, didn't cheat, bought things I wanted him to have, but he wanted to call me out my name for no reason, the longer I stayed in the relationship the worst he got. I cared for him. We did things for each other. But the mental, emotional and the physical abuse I had to say No way can I allow myself to be disrespected!!!
We just stupid my sister..... I was one of dose guys..... Now I have to see HER HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELSE 🥲... I ASKED THE LORD 🙏🏿🙄 TOO FORGIVE ME ... ALL I CAN DO.... I HAD TO LEARN THAT LOVE DON'T HURT.....
I went thru that myself and lord knows he had no room to call me outta my name with the way he was beginning to look. He thawt he was sunthn serious because he was 56 and still had waves in his hair....whatever dude!
@@stephaniewilliams9890 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 Not him thinking he was untouchable because of his waves!😂
@@harlembofill4206 God has forgiven you but she still won't come back
I commend you for seeing this truth and revealing this it helps me a lot to understand some things from a man’s perspective. If a man can do this kind of self reflection and learn from it, it shows a very high level of maturity, honesty, and wisdom.
Some people just cross the line to no return. They Never know what they had until it's gone👈
Facts. There are PLENTY of women in this world, but a GOOD WOMAN is rare. Even more rare these days.... Most GOOD MEN men never find them. Most of the "other" men got to them first. Mismanaged and damaged them even more than they already were.. ONCE A GOOD GIRL GOES BAD, SHE'S GONE FOREVER...💯
Not gone forever. Just takes a patient man to bring it back in her.
We aren’t gone forever we just become more cautious on who we allow in our space
Not if her mind and heart is unbreakable.
Stop not true🙄 there are still so many great women out here
That’s Jay Z’s words, I don’t think so. She is still good just understands better that’s all. A lesson learned.😊 I chalk it up to the Game. And keep it moving.
Amen, you don't miss the water until the well runs dry. 💯
It is so true a man does not realize what he lost until it's gone ! The love of a good woman can never be replaced by other jump offs ! She loved him unconditionally , would of done anything in the world for him , and treated him like a king ! 🧔🌹
Truth! Havent lost one yet because I’m with mine
True Facts!💯🎯👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
FACTS! And ain’t no repeats…the only cycles I’m on are 10speeds and Harleys after that
I'm going through this right now😭 Everything that he's mentioned in this video and more I did because when I'm with you it comes with the territory. He used to always tell me, I'm his peace,I make him happy, he appreciates me, that I am a good women and suddenly he's telling me it's not me it's him. He is going through something mentally. His heart is telling him do right and push through, but his mind is confused and etc. I was immediately hurt while he was expressing himself. He just don't know the damage he caused. 💔 I will never understand why do men come into a woman's life knowing that he's not ready and leading her to hurt and pain.
Na she gave you chance after chance till you broke her and she couldn’t take it anymore and snapped then y’all notice the change lmao
I did this for my husband of 32 years. Did everything for him so he could provide for our family.He saw this as pathetic at the time.I know he wishes he had someone to take care of him now.I'm one of the last good holsome real woman that I know.
Wholesome
I can tell what kind of person you are just by telling me I misspelled a word.Good for you 🤗 Did I mention I'm going blind so my vision is off.But thanks
@@tammie2312 you're welcome
As a housewife, you can never measure up to them.
They betta know it but he's gonna see real soon
I can remember this conversation my ex and I had of 13 years. It’s refreshing when they finally can admit it but then, it’s too late. His sister told him he had a good woman and I was in disbelief when he admitted to her.
GOD BLESS YOU!!!!
True love is rare/ don't lose it / cause people have options/ u don't want to lose what u have
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Say it 👑 King
My Mom wanted to be a Wife and Mother. She is Great. She always said “it’s the little things”. ☺️
Truth. A man loses a part of myself.
I left California after my gra’mom passed on. Her son sold the house Ingrew up in after that. My whole life did a 180. So, I took it further and left California for Texas
2 weeks b4 she passed, the man I had been trying to be in a relationship with for the past 10+ years , who was the Devon of our church, who my family embraced with open arms, revealed that I was the side chick.
I found out yesterday that he has been looking for me. And I feel so bad for him. But once a man makes me cry in pain. There is no get back. And he knows now that not only did the mother of his church pass on, but everything about that era has to. And that he is now part of that Blaq history.
I gave that to my ex for 10+yrs ,
Up b4 him to do his lunch box fresh, coffee, clothes , fag made in ashtray,
Home time he’d have bath run , can of special brew chilling,, dinner cooking,,
He didn’t have to do anything,,
He played the field when I put him out,,,
Then needed to get a place so he could see his son,,, then reality hit home and he cried for months an months because he wanted to come HOME ...
God made a way every day for me and my kid's we made it...Faith love ...and we had so much peace after we left.
Same Here Amen
This is so true. However, it’s very unfortunate you realize this when it’s too late. Blessings
Accountability is everything ‼️ period ! It's gets you a long way in life
I lost the most amazing girl who loved me and stood by my side for years. I lost here because of immaturity and the fact that I relaxed and was acting weak. I have been reflecting for 3 months and know what I did wrong and I will never make the same mistakes again. Sadly that won't bring her back.
Don't make my mistakes or you may regret it for the rest of your life.
I done all of this he didn’t appreciate it or wanted to do it.Said he can do it himself.Now that I have moved on with someone else he wants to be mad.
You better say that !!! 👏🏽
There are many young minded males out there that felt that in the heart, you're right. It's not too late to turn your life over to Christ, ask the Father for help in guiding you and see your life get better once you put in genuine effort to become better in every way. God bless all.
Wow,
We constantly hear horrible we are.
Thanks bruh
Every gift and every attempt to do something nice or thoughtful was met with a passive aggressive or back handed comment.
Exactly
@@izealliaeldridge1901 ‼️
Mommy issues and self sabotage at its finest .
ABSOLUTELY YES INDEED AMEN MESSAGE
Wow, ur humility in saying that 🥺😢. That's Precious. My ex husband pretty much told me that and he regrets he quickly married someone he does not love the way a man is supposed to love a wife. Smh sad 😔. Too late, smh .
And they always seem to understand when it's too late:(
But nah you take her for granted and are unthankful and leaving her. You don’t and never will appreciate a woman who truly was standing behind you no matter what. You will never be able to appreciate her
Yup. No such thing as regretting what you did to someone. If you realized their value, he nwver would have done it. What he lost was your attention and attention isn't easy for men to get. He forgets that while he's in a relationship.
Sometimes people have more growing to do and honestly won’t realize it until what they had us gone. If it’s true love, and change is sincere, love can be rekindled.
Thank you for recognition because I thought men never felt it
One year ago he lost me. I warned him. But he kept showing me I was just a opinion. I truly loved him. Only if he truly knew.
So Glad God Spoke to me and said focus on you. Yes it’s disappointing when someone doesn’t really pay attention to your worth and value. Happy I did listen to the word because God sent all my heart has ever desired and more.
Thank you for being so transparent. Women need to know this, because we always wonder did they ever care at all sometimes with they way they treat us at times. When you leave is when you get all the effort but by then it's too late.
Thank you god for this message,thanks GUYS!
This is what you call real talk
Absence makes the heart grow! Not just theirs but ours too! Currently working to improve my discipline.
I believe some just know. I even think narcs know not capable of caring though.
Where in the heck does these no heart having individuals come from? Because their feelings is none.
I normally don’t comment but I’m 51 one and was married for a long time. I’m single now and finally understanding me and what I want. I’ve been through a lot and it was all lessons. You guys are so on it when it comes to a women’s feelings, her intentions and her concerns. Keep up the good work because in the end only the TRUTH will stand.❤❤And you all don’t mind telling the truth.
There’s nothing wrong with nurturing a man like his mama when he provides and protects her like a daddy. Humble service is the physical demonstration of several honorable character traits. Withholding service from your spouse negates the difference that your presence SHOULD make in their life.
If their life doesn’t change when you’re not around, they have nothing to lose anyway because you don’t add value when you are there. “It’s the small things” that leave the biggest void when you don’t have them anymore.
Lady's, I'm rowing in the same boat with all of you. Goal survival ❤️ and light ✨️
He then gotta accept it, leave her alone and move on
Good morning, thank you for being 💯 Stay Bless & safe 🙏🤗
Facts . .all my ex realize that when I was gone
Had this on replay 😁
This channel is so needed.. thank you🙏🏾💙
Good that you feel the loss. I've had that happen when they woke up in their own slop and figured out a I screwed up! Guess what and guess who, I did a Vanishing Act and I did leave in anger but I just stay prayerful and got away from them or as they like to put it they got away from me but who came back to who or who thought they had the right to come back to me! No! What I do for them for them and help them if they were sick ? Yes yes, Beyond that NO!Men like women should just learn from their mistakes be PRAYERFULLY and do better
Now he know what he lost i bet . 💯💯💯💯 I pray for him
THANK YOU!!!
This admission brought me to tears...I had felt my worth lessen for years being good to people that were primarily EGO DRIVEN
Glad to here that this means the next time you are blessed to have a good woman...you will know how to. Appreciate that good woman. Maybe you will bring her flowers just because......you love her....... Maybe you will sit at the kitchen table while she is cooking dinner and talk to her. Tell her how happy you are to have that woman who puts your cloths out for you...got that stick of deodorant..etc. ect. Well sorrow can indeed bring maturity to ones life.... Nothing like recognizing on both sides........,..
T pain really opens up!! So dope to see! Thankyou
I’m glad you can admit that as a man❤
He's not talking about himself, he's talking about men. This cat is happily married for ten+ yrs.
@@juliemcdaniel499 I’m sure he have left a good one before and was blessed with another one. Sound like he’s saying from experience but I don’t know him to know fr sure. Thanks for part of his history
@@HealinAllOfMe yeah probably so bc we all know they ain't perfect lol js.