How Men Think When You Stop Chasing Them

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  • Опубликовано: 15 янв 2025

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  • @throwaway3286
    @throwaway3286 7 месяцев назад +2301

    See I’m just not meant for the dating world. This shit is exhausting! Why can’t ppl just be straightforward and stop wasting each other’s time?

    • @natalieblades2083
      @natalieblades2083 7 месяцев назад +15

      🙏🏼

    • @jamaicanscorpio9522
      @jamaicanscorpio9522 7 месяцев назад +32

      Amen to that!

    • @sherrymshephard-massat5929
      @sherrymshephard-massat5929 7 месяцев назад +67

      It IS exhausting. The back n' forth of it all. There's some outright cruelty out there what with 'ghosting' and all. I mean, can't you just see eachother as human beings with flaws and not this "I will treat you with respect and care as long as you have something I want" attitude?

    • @Dalitso_Mule
      @Dalitso_Mule 7 месяцев назад +23

      I’m done too 😒

    • @Dalitso_Mule
      @Dalitso_Mule 7 месяцев назад +12

      I’m done too 😒

  • @genieyess1720
    @genieyess1720 2 месяца назад +176

    If a woman stops chasing, she is done. It’s not a game!

  • @ladicamille5932
    @ladicamille5932 4 месяца назад +330

    3 rules...
    1. Read the room
    2. Dont match energy
    3. Never chase always replace
    If they Ghost you...respect the dead and let them RIP (Regret ignoring your presence.)

    • @hairscience1016
      @hairscience1016 4 месяца назад +17

      POWERFUL STATEMENT WOWWW!!🎉

    • @latessatkinson236
      @latessatkinson236 4 месяца назад +9

      💪🏽💪🏽 ✨SHARING ✨💪🏽💪🏽

    • @7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he
      @7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he 2 месяца назад +1

      Lol ,I like that

    • @BabyGrand77
      @BabyGrand77 2 месяца назад +5

      Please step to the front of the room!!! You spoke a word here!!! 🎯🎯🎯

    • @ReneeHarris96
      @ReneeHarris96 2 месяца назад

      👏🏼👏🏼💯💯🗣️

  • @AlexandraZack-pc9le
    @AlexandraZack-pc9le 7 месяцев назад +962

    If you find yourself questioning whether or not they like you, they don't. Move accordingly, and only reciprocate the energy you receive. Simple.

    • @Sun_Goddess89
      @Sun_Goddess89 7 месяцев назад +5

    • @xheartiiz
      @xheartiiz 7 месяцев назад +10

      THIS!

    • @bridgettesweeney9809
      @bridgettesweeney9809 7 месяцев назад +4

      💯 percent correct!

    • @Mel-ee1qe
      @Mel-ee1qe 6 месяцев назад +38

      Not true. A lot of ppl think I don't like them when I actually care deeply.

    • @Sydonie-po8iq
      @Sydonie-po8iq 6 месяцев назад +1

      Yess❤❤

  • @saradf
    @saradf 8 месяцев назад +2505

    I let them believe I’ll be there no matter what, take me for granted, i play dumb 😇 then suddenly poof ! ghost and block. They always come back but too late boy bye.

  • @melbaT2770
    @melbaT2770 8 месяцев назад +1319

    I never chase men. Waste of time.

    • @yasminogbu8929
      @yasminogbu8929 8 месяцев назад +127

      Total waste.. if they want you they will be there

    • @gloriabitutu8776
      @gloriabitutu8776 8 месяцев назад +30

      I agree

    • @VARSHASAKETI
      @VARSHASAKETI 6 месяцев назад +11

      Total waste of time 😂😂😂😂

    • @vanallenk5651
      @vanallenk5651 6 месяцев назад +33

      @@melbaT2770 I agree because if you give them too much, they don’t appreciate it anyways so why chase.

    • @juliewambui2618
      @juliewambui2618 5 месяцев назад +13

      A total waste of time and energy

  • @lotus1716
    @lotus1716 8 месяцев назад +685

    The problem with "matching energy" is that, when a woman has been thoroughly rejected while chasing the man... and stops, then he starts to chase her with the entitlement that she should just immediately pick back up and be receptive... he's not acknowledging how he ignored her for his need for "space". So when she takes hers and decides to match the old energy that he gave her, there is a double standard and the guy doesn't like a taste of his own medicine.
    I have a strong sense of justice and don't allow men to go unpunished for neglecting women's emotions. Men are even more fragile than women if they're willing to give up after a single rejection. Imo that's being controlling. Expecting women to be receptive all the time, but a man is okay walking in and out at will.
    What's good for the goose, must be good for the gander

    • @patriot-hj5vx
      @patriot-hj5vx 7 месяцев назад +79

      Could not have put it better myself. Mirroring disengagement makes these guys SO MAD. They get used to you carrying everything and see that as a right. When you stop, they get mad AT YOU instead of reflecting on their behavior that led to the rupture.

    • @khemilife1187
      @khemilife1187 7 месяцев назад +19

      Perfectly stated 💣💥

    • @sherrymshephard-massat5929
      @sherrymshephard-massat5929 7 месяцев назад +35

      @@patriot-hj5vx Exactly. I can't believe it when I experience it. It's hard for me to grasp how a dude can do something really mean and unnecessary but when YOU give them a taste of their own medicine, YOU become the bad guy. It's like,
      "okay, I did that BUT YOU DID THAT" with no regard for the fact that if he hadn't done what he did in the first place, none of it would've occurred. You wouldn't have felt like you had to defend yourself and stand up for your human dignity.

    • @momoVerse-z5h
      @momoVerse-z5h 7 месяцев назад +20

      “I have a strong sense of Justice and don’t allow men to go unpunished for neglecting women’s emotions.”
      That right there sums up how I am when I’ve encountered such situations.

    • @jaethezoe
      @jaethezoe 7 месяцев назад +3

      💯💯

  • @anandanabila8439
    @anandanabila8439 8 месяцев назад +975

    When it doesn’t seems right just dispear and keep enjoying life to the fullest

    • @goldenbeauty3032
      @goldenbeauty3032 5 месяцев назад +7

      Simple as that 💯

    • @beckysouthlondon
      @beckysouthlondon 4 месяца назад +5

      Absolutely

    • @nickbannigan
      @nickbannigan 3 месяца назад +4

      The problem is, this has been planted into modern dating, it's baked into the way people think they should feel.... therefore it's happening too much, under false circumstances... in return the dating world has become a complete mess of Narcissism

  • @T20-zt1kn
    @T20-zt1kn 8 месяцев назад +557

    Ghosting someone who already in love with you is mentally draining 💔

    • @girlsinnahoodvlogs
      @girlsinnahoodvlogs 7 месяцев назад +9

      Yes omgggg😢

    • @missylib5
      @missylib5 6 месяцев назад +5

      lol yes

    • @Belen_Ruiz
      @Belen_Ruiz 6 месяцев назад +3

      Straight up

    • @salsawaldah345
      @salsawaldah345 5 месяцев назад +7

      Going through this lool but time will heal

    • @alicewere42
      @alicewere42 5 месяцев назад +5

      Who is feeling the drain, the one ghosting?

  • @EileenPurdy-q6z
    @EileenPurdy-q6z 7 месяцев назад +343

    I don’t chase men. If they are not interested, I am gone.

  • @Marta-b9m
    @Marta-b9m 8 месяцев назад +273

    By walking away, we don't chase quick impressions, do not wait for cheap validation creating stronge self-worth

  • @jeremyreese9663
    @jeremyreese9663 6 месяцев назад +177

    This shit is exhausting, almost like you have to pretend to not be interested, I’m the type if I like you I like you if I don’t I don’t period. It’s like it’s okay to be interested but pretend to be emotionally unavailable for them to chase. Shit dating has become more like a job interview if you ask me.

    • @serenitygilles7064
      @serenitygilles7064 5 месяцев назад +8

      I just cut i t off with a couple guys I really liked...I had to crash out for 2 hours with my kitten...your right.

    • @sherrygoldman8938
      @sherrygoldman8938 5 месяцев назад +24

      Too exhausting, all this cat and mouse shit these unhealthy, broken and scarred people are playing who shouldn't be dating at all. You can't even be real and truthful with these sicko's. A person shouldn't have to wonder why you stop chasing, just tell people whatever is going on. Dating toxic people will make you sick.

    • @MonicaPerry-cn4qd
      @MonicaPerry-cn4qd 2 месяца назад

      Yes it does.....Worn Out

    • @StanleyHill-y3i
      @StanleyHill-y3i Месяц назад

      Facts

  • @divinelyguidedwithmaxx5481
    @divinelyguidedwithmaxx5481 8 месяцев назад +271

    You should never have to have control over the person you are with 1st red flag. That's not love it's immaturity & ego.

  • @iamcohengrey
    @iamcohengrey 6 месяцев назад +213

    Tbh This only works if the person actually cared. Otherwise they just gonn move on with they life’s and forget u exist. Especially if they have multiple options. A man who don’t care, never cared , ain’t gon suddenly care. The person gotta actually gaf about u in some way.

    • @1crafter408
      @1crafter408 5 месяцев назад +14

      Unless there’s sex involved… then some players will try to come back just for the physical stuff

    • @PrettyToez07
      @PrettyToez07 5 месяцев назад +1

      True

    • @PrettyToez07
      @PrettyToez07 5 месяцев назад +2

      Yes

    • @khattak7077
      @khattak7077 5 месяцев назад +1

      😢

    • @sweetthang7573
      @sweetthang7573 4 месяца назад +7

      They all care, just depends on how they value you.

  • @starrchild1972
    @starrchild1972 8 месяцев назад +198

    Lately, I have been listening to so many males say, " Never Chase a women" but then get upset when they are called "sassy"? This is what women mean when labeling men that aren't in touch with their masculinity. Chasing a woman should come naturally, But never in a way that seems forced or strange. It is in a woman's genetic make up to be hunted while the masculine is instinctively the hunter. The reward in the end is the prize...a loving caring feminine that will always represent her masculine in a good light.

    • @DontDooTooMuch
      @DontDooTooMuch 8 месяцев назад +39

      I feel like a man will chase who he really wants. If he doesn't, that means he's not that into you.

    • @Erik7prc
      @Erik7prc 8 месяцев назад +20

      ​@@DontDooTooMuch women get approached in person and online so much that when a man of good intention and quality approaches theres this indifference present. For me if i get that vibe i wont take it as "try harder," i will let her be. Even though i can see myself being with her. Social media is training men and women to be more manipulative than humans already are naturally. Thats already a bad start if someone is doing something or not doing something to get you to chase. Its like, ok, what other manipulative games does this person know. Pretty women are ever where. But a pretty one with good intentions and that is grounded are not.

    • @starrchild1972
      @starrchild1972 8 месяцев назад +9

      @@DontDooTooMuch yes some cases that’s true, but there are also men that are fearful of rejection others that are intimidated by independent women and the list goes on and on and on it’s not always that he’s not into you because he doesn’t chase.

    • @starrchild1972
      @starrchild1972 8 месяцев назад +7

      @@Erik7prc true, but also the quality of the approach rather than quantity is most important. We do get approach a lot mainly online. It gets a bit overwhelming. I tend to go for the most aggressive man because they are the most memorable. Those that do not “go harder” in their approach are typically forgotten. When you are aggressive, but respectful, you stand out above the rest.A lot of these dudes today don’t know how to talk to women. They’re very disrespectful in their approach and they treat all women like that one that may have been nasty in her rejection. The dating pool today is contaminated and the “pretty” woman speak may have a lot of inner work to do in most cases.

    • @Erik7prc
      @Erik7prc 8 месяцев назад

      @@starrchild1972 I'm in my mid 40s and I have female friends show me the messages and tell me all kinds of stories. It's very much different from today. I personally do do cold approaches for years now. I found that the best relationships formed organically. Like you genuinely saw an interest in the person. Simply from standing in line somewhere and a conversation sparked "organically." It seems "to me" that if it doesn't happen that way you are really asking for it. Especially online. People have so many personality and attachment issues but steadily trying to get up under someone else. Rarely you find a person using their introspection skills and putting a solution to work. I think that is what's missing. So much is put in to being outter focused that many don't address past trauma and neglects. Which ultimately show up in approach, relationships, and marriages!

  • @catwoman7102
    @catwoman7102 7 месяцев назад +141

    You should make them WAIT. Don’t be too available. Make them EARN YOUR TIME & ATTENTION. If they are patient enough then they truly care about you and are not just looking for validation.

  • @girlygirl402
    @girlygirl402 4 месяца назад +26

    What I’ve noticed in my dating life is they love bomb so hard in the beginning that it’s almost a turn off and then when I start falling for them is when they switch up and want space it’s a draining game that just leads to fights and animosity.

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 7 месяцев назад +218

    Giving the same energy that you're getting
    is key
    and if you don't like that energy
    then move on.
    It can be hard
    but that's when you need to choose yourself
    over the damn illusion/fantasy.
    A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
    So...
    If he ignores me
    I will step back
    and he will lose me.
    Simple. Simple.
    Non-dramatic
    and uncomplicated.
    I don’t, under any circumstance:
    play these childish-abusive-controlling
    mind games.
    I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
    and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
    (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
    Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
    and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
    who knows my worth.
    Period.

    • @queenjee8570
      @queenjee8570 6 месяцев назад +3

      ❤that part!

    • @kiki-yf4qr
      @kiki-yf4qr 6 месяцев назад +5

      And there it is👏👏👏👏

    • @christinekohler8866
      @christinekohler8866 6 месяцев назад +8

      You said it 💯perfect. Put that shit in a book. I’m with you 💯

    • @ShyBabyxoxo
      @ShyBabyxoxo 6 месяцев назад +8

      Love it! And exactly what you said, it’s an abusive, childish, controlling mind game not to mention manipulative.

    • @teddyBear-tp3tu
      @teddyBear-tp3tu 5 месяцев назад +5

      Yasss daughter of the most high🎉

  • @bartholetbayana9198
    @bartholetbayana9198 4 месяца назад +261

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @michael-gg2rh
      @michael-gg2rh 4 месяца назад +3

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @bartholetbayana9198
      @bartholetbayana9198 4 месяца назад +2

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @michael-gg2rh
      @michael-gg2rh 4 месяца назад +3

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @bartholetbayana9198
      @bartholetbayana9198 4 месяца назад +2

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @deborahburrell2005
      @deborahburrell2005 4 месяца назад +2

      You are not alone. Take the focus off of her and focus on yourself.

  • @Tnaphan
    @Tnaphan 8 месяцев назад +764

    Do men really think us women will “always be there”

    • @MindfulAttraction2.0
      @MindfulAttraction2.0  8 месяцев назад +220

      Yup. Object permanence. Everyone does it

    • @jl5814
      @jl5814 8 месяцев назад +18

      I reply same second or never. I never felt so grateful for not having object permanence thanks to severe trauma. I just try to erase the “difficult“ parts of it and keep the object impermanence lol. out of sight out of mind (or the other way around) is real for me and I treat others as if they also have it. but yes, I know other people have object permanence lol.

    • @raniyuna2930
      @raniyuna2930 8 месяцев назад +144

      Yes. That's why they are so surprised if you suddenly vanish. But it's best tool to show them bye - enough is enough.😏

    • @Dreamsareareality
      @Dreamsareareality 8 месяцев назад +98

      Yes. I told this guy i was dating nearly 20 years ago stop playing with me, I will be gone. He said yeah ok you talk tough. This was 19 years ago we broke up i moved on to my longtime partner. He just called recently. He is so 20 years ago. No way never again.

    • @FavDogBisquit
      @FavDogBisquit 8 месяцев назад +63

      Yes. Weird how they think. It breaks em when they see you can move around

  • @kgaskins01
    @kgaskins01 7 месяцев назад +102

    Chasing is a Masculine energy.

  • @encryption15
    @encryption15 6 месяцев назад +65

    This isn’t true for everyone. Ghosting someone won’t automatically make them chase you, they might just match energy because they don’t want to look stupid

    • @oliwiasurymt1123
      @oliwiasurymt1123 3 месяца назад +5

      Facts💯speaking from experience

    • @comfortzone5618
      @comfortzone5618 3 месяца назад +8

      Yeah! Experience. Some people’s ego are big AF they won’t chase or self reflect.

  • @CeciledeLuire
    @CeciledeLuire 8 месяцев назад +121

    your thesis is good. unhealed people/ people with self worth issues miss the "lovers" when they're gone. because there's nothing left then to suppress/ cover their own fears.

    • @TheModernAlchemix
      @TheModernAlchemix 4 месяца назад +1

      This!!!!! People are avoiding dealing with the shit that would actually make them good partners by constantly dating 😢

  • @km1526
    @km1526 2 месяца назад +4

    This is facts😅…So on point. & when a woman is no longer interested she is done & gone forever. Someone eles has her attention or she is out busy focusing on herself. It’s not a game.

  • @CeciledeLuire
    @CeciledeLuire 8 месяцев назад +100

    i've never felt the will to control someone. i've always felt like running when someone loved me and i couldn't reciprocate.
    no wonder it took me a while to understand that many people are such power control freaks.

    • @PrincessofGod-pog
      @PrincessofGod-pog 8 месяцев назад +9

      Me too! But as I get older and have experienced life, friends and family... I get it and now want control (with good intent for them too) so I can protect and control myself and my reality.. i sort of feel late to the party of how society operates.

    • @georginaporter946
      @georginaporter946 8 месяцев назад +6

      You need your look up dismissive avoidance as your description of running from love is that of a DA.

    • @CeciledeLuire
      @CeciledeLuire 8 месяцев назад +12

      @@georginaporter946 wrong. Leaving when you know you can't love them is not avoidant-it's just fair and the right thing to do hun.

    • @diasporalounge.
      @diasporalounge. 8 месяцев назад +4

      💯 Exactly!
      That's what healthy self aware people do.

    • @bebedulce9986
      @bebedulce9986 8 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@PrincessofGod-pogHi, I'm autistic and that's how autism presents itself "feeling behind in things in life and society, not reading between the lines especially in sarcasm"

  • @reemsaif3105
    @reemsaif3105 2 месяца назад +8

    Never chase anyone. Queens are Queens ❤

  • @Tatianarain
    @Tatianarain 8 месяцев назад +117

    5:45 “When it dawns on people, it really hurts”. I have never felt greater pleasure in life than hearing those words confirmed to my ears 😊muahahahaha Thank You Alex !

  • @gigiarmany
    @gigiarmany 7 месяцев назад +82

    these silly games are the reason I'm blissfully single..after two divorces .. I'll stick to enjoying my career, friends, kids, grandkids & hobbies..I dont envy the young generation who have to go through these mind games..no thx😒

    • @LOVETHYSELFDAILY
      @LOVETHYSELFDAILY 6 месяцев назад +3

      There are younger men out there looking for a sugar mama. Beware!

    • @seagreentangerine2065
      @seagreentangerine2065 3 месяца назад

      I decided to desire financial independence and dump men. Now I am in control, at peace.
      I doubt very much doubt I'll ever align with another man, I'll enjoy sex, but that's it. I don't think they're are very many emotionally mature men in this world lol

  • @pooh4025
    @pooh4025 8 месяцев назад +72

    Ignore them,don't show intrest those are the ones who persue you.

    • @michellek2083
      @michellek2083 6 месяцев назад +1

      What?

    • @Elvinevelyia
      @Elvinevelyia 5 месяцев назад +2

      I'm like Chameleon, the moment i smell that u're playing games with me then i change it for you by ignoring you more😂😂😂

    • @crystalbee9706
      @crystalbee9706 4 месяца назад

      Only if u had sex with them. They usually dgaf.

  • @JayH1931
    @JayH1931 8 месяцев назад +26

    I LOVE when you said “I’m a guy, I’ll chase a girl.” Love that. But after awhile you stop because you know if she doesn’t want you or if she’s just mad.

  • @sunflowerroark5170
    @sunflowerroark5170 7 месяцев назад +50

    The game is exhausting. I dated a guy a few times. I thought everything went well, until he ghosted me. I ask his cousin what happened. He was using me to see what level of pretty he could get. I was a stepping stone for his ego. Later, I found out he was having frequent booty calls with his step sister. He did me a favor, but it was a puzzle for awhile.

    • @Adelina24244
      @Adelina24244 5 месяцев назад

      His step sister? YUCKKK 🤮

    • @TheModernAlchemix
      @TheModernAlchemix 4 месяца назад +5

      Wow…. I haven’t considered just being seen is enough to ghost. Man, people’s egos are so fragile 😢

  • @ShaniOnSinai
    @ShaniOnSinai 8 месяцев назад +273

    You gotta be hot and cold. Available and then suddenly busy. They lose their minds, and then you comfort them. ❤

    • @virginiahoward1660
      @virginiahoward1660 8 месяцев назад +25

      That's dark 😭

    • @vasiliki8
      @vasiliki8 8 месяцев назад +17

      No man..that is evil

    • @u-r-blasphemous
      @u-r-blasphemous 8 месяцев назад +8

      Who hurt you?

    • @blumondayz4837
      @blumondayz4837 7 месяцев назад +38

      I love it when narcissist feel comfortable enough to openly share the trauma bonding techniques that they use on their victims. All you have to do is sit back and quietly listen to people. They always reveal which side they are on through “innocent” remarks. She is actually coming out and telling you what she plans to do to you before you even meet her.

    • @kendraphic
      @kendraphic 7 месяцев назад +8

      Nobody got time for games

  • @joeymuriungi8237
    @joeymuriungi8237 6 месяцев назад +45

    Been crying for 2 months straight...I'm learning not to. But Lord...you funny I've laughed 😂 heartbreak is the woorrrrrst 😥

    • @pruittnaomi3156
      @pruittnaomi3156 6 месяцев назад +4

      It'll get better beautiful ❤️

    • @salsawaldah345
      @salsawaldah345 5 месяцев назад +3

      All will be well with time and you will laugh at how you cried

    • @tanyarodriguez157
      @tanyarodriguez157 5 месяцев назад +8

      I’m with you hun you are not alone! Letting go of someone you THOUGHT you had a future with is hard.

    • @JoJo-pz7mp
      @JoJo-pz7mp 4 месяца назад +1

      ❤❤❤

  • @AFLive
    @AFLive 7 месяцев назад +5

    That ENDING was PERFECT. I needed to hear that , thank you

  • @4truth1111
    @4truth1111 8 месяцев назад +80

    Definitely better than therapy.
    Hard facts 💯

  • @jessicanowherefound4188
    @jessicanowherefound4188 5 месяцев назад +17

    I don't chase once the feeling is mutual. You don't answer text until the next day, nope!? I give chances but if it's all the time nope! A person is not that busy. You have others that entertain. not begging either 🤷🏻‍♀️😎♌🦁😀.

  • @coffee_pigglet
    @coffee_pigglet 5 месяцев назад +16

    This is actually really true
    It’s a psychological thing
    Whether the person really liked you or not
    The moment you stop putting sm energy into a person especially when it’s not being reciprocated
    The other person starts to pull towards you
    I do it and it always happens that way

  • @shanesem5313
    @shanesem5313 7 месяцев назад +30

    I agree it helps to pull back. Especially when they are manipulative. It helps the energy for both parties

  • @RisingPhoenix81
    @RisingPhoenix81 7 месяцев назад +45

    When he said "MF I'm blinking" 😂 I was out...lmao❤ I wasn't ready 🤣 😂 😭

  • @JM-ls8du
    @JM-ls8du 8 месяцев назад +69

    The blinking part is so funny 😂😂😂

  • @Dualshockbarbie
    @Dualshockbarbie Месяц назад +3

    I had to stop the video at 5:30 😂😂😂😂 QUINTEESHA?!! I am weak

  • @someonespecial3149
    @someonespecial3149 4 месяца назад +9

    The way we allow social media to govern everything we do and think is crazy … I wish we could get bk to dating without social media influences..

  • @jae.m.a
    @jae.m.a 8 месяцев назад +50

    I have just been ghosted for the second time (and I seldom like people so my ego was dying) and this video was very helpful. Still hurts, but it makes more sense and closes the gap for me coming to terms with.

  • @talibahdivine
    @talibahdivine 7 месяцев назад +12

    Taking the space is like a reset.. I never want to take space, I'm the smotherer 🤦🏾‍♀️ .. but when we do take the space it's like my head is clearer and I get a full reset to get that original feeling like we first met.. so I'm learning to take space and time for myself

    • @samxsara
      @samxsara 7 месяцев назад +2

      It’s a good feeling

  • @Zphora
    @Zphora 8 месяцев назад +16

    Love your growth of the years Alex. I used to watch your channel years ago. Love the evolution. Your powerful and you worked hard ❤

  • @wizardkitty92
    @wizardkitty92 8 месяцев назад +15

    Thank you for these videos. They are helping me mentally right now so much.

  • @princessleah6826
    @princessleah6826 8 месяцев назад +42

    “Things that don’t matter, like that Taxi that robbed you one time in Mexico City”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @mermaidtales4009
    @mermaidtales4009 7 месяцев назад +6

    I stopped chasing.. started other way round & I gave & gave.. Gemini was lazy ..
    He knows he fumbled his Pisces blessing.
    Thanks, luv to share a blunt with you.. dig yr vibe 😂
    Love from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤️

  • @softlife45
    @softlife45 8 месяцев назад +38

    Alex i just watched one of your old videos. You were hell on wheels😂😂😂

  • @mg5570
    @mg5570 9 дней назад

    Thank you for your videos. Your smile makes me smile.

  • @silviamihailova6042
    @silviamihailova6042 6 месяцев назад +9

    True love and true friend shouldnt be chased

  • @SteffanyAtkinson93
    @SteffanyAtkinson93 5 месяцев назад +5

    ive been seeing this guy for 4 years on and off and things were finally going well then all of the sudden he pulled away 😢 so im trying to pull back my energy hopefully things get better thanks your videos are so awesome❤

    • @OllieKish
      @OllieKish 3 месяца назад +3

      How are you doing currently?

  • @ronjaraubertochter971
    @ronjaraubertochter971 8 месяцев назад +7

    ohmygod😮 i just have the feeling that every word u speak to me was just what i needed to hear and i really mean every single word. ❤❤❤

  • @sbeth82sc
    @sbeth82sc 3 месяца назад +1

    I love your Authenticity!

  • @evarodriguezalequin5705
    @evarodriguezalequin5705 6 месяцев назад +6

    Very interesting! Some men tend to take things for granted. When women are not chasing men, then it’s the guys who’s chasing women. But then again some girls will open their eyes 👀 and say Noooo. You didn’t know how to cherish and consider me.

  • @LaLaTheMoonGoddessOne
    @LaLaTheMoonGoddessOne 6 месяцев назад +14

    What I don’t get is when I say I’m done, show I’m done…they get dumb. Here goes the restraining order.

  • @Iamconjurequeen
    @Iamconjurequeen 8 месяцев назад +4

    Love the music with the gems 💎 you droppin 🔥

  • @noxoloradebe3751
    @noxoloradebe3751 3 месяца назад +1

    This has been so helpful omg, starting to realize a few things i did wrong, and gonna work on them and myself aswell.❤

  • @Jasmynshawntel
    @Jasmynshawntel 8 месяцев назад +13

    My ex an I broke up.... currently no contact. I really appreciate videos like these because it can be hard at times.

  • @jack-gx
    @jack-gx 8 месяцев назад +36

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

    • @kanereall
      @kanereall 8 месяцев назад +7

      I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

    • @jack-gx
      @jack-gx 8 месяцев назад +5

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?

    • @kanereall
      @kanereall 8 месяцев назад +5

      Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @jack-gx
      @jack-gx 8 месяцев назад +5

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @CameronHarris-f1c
      @CameronHarris-f1c 8 месяцев назад +4

      It takes a minute to get over. I’ve been there and doesn’t feel good. It makes you question your self worth. External validation can be addicting but you’re more important right now. Learn to love yourself, which is what I had to do. Then you’ll start attracting people with self worth, non broken type. Almost like a mirroring effect.

  • @vanallenk5651
    @vanallenk5651 8 месяцев назад +47

    Desperate people are like bill collectors

    • @talibahdivine
      @talibahdivine 7 месяцев назад +3

      Damn that's a good way to put it lol

  • @lalea9311
    @lalea9311 16 дней назад +2

    This is why being on your own is great. No games of the mind. 👌🏼 This generation is different. Don’t be too interested basically. 2025 is almost here. We all deserve better. 🤷‍♀️ if people play games of the mind, then it’s time to move on.

  • @SK-no2pp
    @SK-no2pp 8 месяцев назад +14

    I love your channel! Thank you! It has really helped me. It’s better than my weekly therapy lol 😂

  • @malerosenyashamailos700
    @malerosenyashamailos700 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you 💕❤ that is exactly what's happening now

  • @Sa-od9ke
    @Sa-od9ke 3 месяца назад +7

    Why can t men just trust & love 😢why predict....calculate & make it a game. 😊❤

    • @deedontcare584
      @deedontcare584 Месяц назад

      It’s women who play the games that’s why lol

  • @listeningtoyou
    @listeningtoyou 3 месяца назад

    You never run out of stuff to say and I love listening to your knowledge

  • @MindfulAttraction2.0
    @MindfulAttraction2.0  8 месяцев назад +31

    🌋 Look at this volcano emoji! Its exploding like i always thought. lol 🌋🌋🌋🌋

  • @SilkChocolateKisses
    @SilkChocolateKisses 6 месяцев назад +2

    Looovvvved your energy and light hearted temperament Alex! ❤

  • @melissaoviedo1021
    @melissaoviedo1021 8 месяцев назад +21

    Lmfao “shut up Melissa” is my sign to get the course

    • @mellovestodraw
      @mellovestodraw 7 месяцев назад +2

      My name is Melisa too I wonder what time stamp he says this 🤣

  • @andreacdoyle
    @andreacdoyle 4 месяца назад +1

    this is so trill & explained the best than others XO

  • @Sunsoula
    @Sunsoula 7 месяцев назад +11

    Look like Bruno Mars 😍❤️‍🔥

  • @ANB44
    @ANB44 6 месяцев назад +1

    This is ABSOLUTELY GOLDEN!

  • @VivSees
    @VivSees 8 месяцев назад +13

    Father Alex, some volcanos do erupt and violently so. Others let their magma pour out slowly.

  • @lt4203
    @lt4203 4 месяца назад

    This is so true! Can’t wait to watch what else comes to the surface… perfect analogy 💯

  • @monaasmr2936
    @monaasmr2936 8 месяцев назад +13

    Once u experience love being single hurts

  • @seolajun3653
    @seolajun3653 5 месяцев назад +2

    I feel you talk the realest out there

  • @marthatowler3057
    @marthatowler3057 8 месяцев назад +47

    “Quintisha” 😭

    • @spiritfiyuh11
      @spiritfiyuh11 8 месяцев назад +3

      Yeah right 😂😂😂 i was just making Coffee when i heard it 😂🤣🙏 💎

    • @Rebelle07
      @Rebelle07 8 месяцев назад +4

      Relax, Martha.

    • @godstallchild7964
      @godstallchild7964 7 месяцев назад +5

      @@Rebelle07its a joke…not that hard to tell 😂

  • @AM-qr4ys
    @AM-qr4ys 2 месяца назад

    thank you thank you thank you. you have helped me SO much. i appreciate you and these videos ❤

  • @theveryplumdarcey
    @theveryplumdarcey 4 месяца назад +5

    "Quintesha" 😂😂😂

  • @castaway2680
    @castaway2680 4 месяца назад +1

    Relinquish power to the person you trust and love....that's a power move people are helpless to your surrender. Right Alex?

  • @CremeDeLaCreme085
    @CremeDeLaCreme085 8 месяцев назад +19

    Father Alex you look so Handsome 🥰

  • @Ohsoyouchantel
    @Ohsoyouchantel 26 дней назад

    You’re a lifesaver ❤ thank you

  • @marjoriesmith2578
    @marjoriesmith2578 8 месяцев назад +6

    I'm tainted by relationships.. your videos are intriguing

  • @yokonono2171
    @yokonono2171 8 месяцев назад +1

    Your content is gold Alex. I appreciate your wisdom. You seem to post at the right times

  • @APARAJITA-26
    @APARAJITA-26 5 месяцев назад +4

    It's actually so sad
    I wish people were more self secure and self loving so that they don't have to play these nasty games

  • @patrizia8494
    @patrizia8494 5 месяцев назад

    1st of all thank you for the REAL TALK!!! Your personality is so cool it goes just right with what and how you're trying to get across again just thank you cutie peace.

  • @Asthesunshine
    @Asthesunshine 7 месяцев назад +8

    “If they feel relief …. You gotta take a look at yourself” 😂😂😂

  • @CarolPerdum
    @CarolPerdum 4 месяца назад

    Thank you for your video. Very helpful and informative!!!

  • @lolygallegos3422
    @lolygallegos3422 8 месяцев назад +40

    This won’t work on an avoidant. They’ll just detach more.

    • @samxsara
      @samxsara 7 месяцев назад +12

      Yes and no. First they’ll chase back because it hasn’t yet sunk in that they’ve lost you

    • @renee55
      @renee55 6 месяцев назад +5

      They reel you back in to discard you. After blaming you for everything and calling you crazy.

    • @JANEYZANEY
      @JANEYZANEY 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@renee55that’s narcissistic behaviour

  • @dcaramelone
    @dcaramelone 3 месяца назад

    You explained this so well. 4 stars🎉

  • @mostgraciousone
    @mostgraciousone 7 месяцев назад +4

    4:37 ~ I got to blink!😅😂🌷

    • @Beela2020
      @Beela2020 3 месяца назад

      Hhhhhh😂😂😅

  • @dcaramelone
    @dcaramelone 3 месяца назад +1

    I'm laughing I'm going through this right now. 😊

  • @melissaacosta3848
    @melissaacosta3848 8 месяцев назад +5

    Amazing thank you

  • @TheJuanitaperez025
    @TheJuanitaperez025 8 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for existing ❤❤❤ very much needed :)

  • @alice-hp7dh
    @alice-hp7dh 8 месяцев назад +27

    If he has other women, no problem if we vanish.

    • @ceeceeme1
      @ceeceeme1 4 месяца назад +4

      He’s going to have other women most men do lol! He still goes for the one that is mysterious and hard to get. The other women are just convenient, available and desperate.

    • @alice-hp7dh
      @alice-hp7dh 4 месяца назад +1

      @@ceeceeme1 if you still are mysterious after months, you have multiple relationships or you are a CIA agent.

    • @ceeceeme1
      @ceeceeme1 4 месяца назад

      @@alice-hp7dh Perhaps

  • @ddu020
    @ddu020 6 месяцев назад +2

    How is that even possible, when you like somebody , you like them, when you do it you do not.. How can someone feel that way?!?!

  • @deelover8593
    @deelover8593 6 месяцев назад +3

    Why you blinking like that 😂😂😂😂 I’m on the floor but truth

  • @ChristinaP-k2n
    @ChristinaP-k2n Месяц назад

    Omg I missed this stache! I never knew this existed. Haha. Look at you!

  • @thelittlemermaid22
    @thelittlemermaid22 5 месяцев назад +4

    "QUINTESHA..." 😂

  • @irinakushnir8338
    @irinakushnir8338 4 месяца назад +1

    Because in life we have to change the road to get different results 😊