Thank you again, Derrick. I don't know why you are like this, but I am blessed to see that there is a woman out their who gave a birth to a blessing like you. Thank you for being you.
…or when he mistakes your kindness for “wanting/loving him sooo much. Then he’s left looking like a “deer in the headlights”, wondering “what happened”😳!
I think you mean to say, Let these “little boys” do what they please and remove yourself from the equation. Real men do not behave these types of ways.
Focus on yourself. You matter! Stop caring about men not worth your time. Whatever they do, that's on them. If they add no value, subtract. Let them respect your absence. You deserve better! Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
@@nadineelizabeth195 I fell for it didn't knw it was gaslighting @ tht time.Had me thinking & 2nd guessing tht the problem was me, which his mom kept telling me I'm the best woman he had n tht it him wth narcissistic ways & I walk after 4yrs. I loved him but loved me more❤
This is why having others who love you, like strong family ties and loyal friends, is so very important. Single spirits on this journey are preyed upon. Having a village of support, even for those with a strong sense of self, is so powerful
This is why I feel like it's easier to be single. If I always have to be on my guard that he could take me for granted then I feel like I will never be able to relax in the long term.
Loving is also knowing when to let go. If you have tried everything and it still wasn’t enough, then just have the courage to let go. If when he comes back you still want him to, great, have Grace and give it a chance, but if he or you find someone different, that doesn’t mean is better, it just means letting go was the right thing for both of you. Sometimes we convince ourselves that a certain person is right for us just because of love, but there is a lot more than basic romantic love to make a true couple to last. Sometimes letting go is showing love
I totally agree on everything. I appreciate that more and more males are speaking to us women on how males think and operate. That is the biggest problem for women is not knowing how a male thinks. Keep up the great work. Thank you, Darlene Bernard
I think you just confirmed what I have been thinking. A lot of men are emotionally unavailable. And women are told and taught to constantly skim to compensate for that emotional unavailability. To keep him, u gats to be unavailable. Yikes, it's fucked up.
I have had 2 major relationships when dudes said they never thought I would leave, after I left….and during that whole time I was expressing how I felt….welp too late
If you were the one,he will look for you in every woman after you and will never find you😳 He may act like he don’t care but a good woman will ALWAYS be missed🥰🙏🏽
Love listening to you. Although it's a lot of what I already know, we tend to overlook alot of bad behavior from men because we love them so much!! It's a good wake-up call. Thanks!
I agree there are some scumbags out there, but most of us are just looking for an honest loving woman who is willing to COMMIT to us in their way, while we commit in our way. Men and women are very different beings, the lines should not be blurred... We each come to the table with different values. Men should provide security, and a healthy living so that the family can survive, while the woman creates and maintains an efficient home. It's a team effort on both sides. Marriage is a partnership, it isn't always about your feelings, it is about building a strong family. If you're in a relationship where all those conditions are being met, both sides are equally respected...
Agree. Love but leave if conditions aren’t met… I was asked to forgive a lot. There’s grace and patience for a mistake but consistent lack of respect is unacceptable.
Hey Derrick, thanks so much for this. It actually came right on time because i was taking for granted in a relationship by showing my kindness and it was taking as a weakness.
I wish I knew this long ago. Knowing it now is perfect as I'm now ready to be in the relationship you describe here. Thank you for your time and for sharing this information.
I love listening to Derrick! I make it very clear to men that I am great being single. My options are unlimited and if I choose to give you a chance he is going to know that you only get one chance to get it right with me.
I am going through this and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for having this content !! You made me realize so much I deserve and I know I’m not crazy! 🙏🙏🙏
I love listening to your words. They make so much sense. If only men would listen To them more often. listening to you makes my break up, smoother. I told him I was content before I met him, and I can be content after him. He lost the his only diamond. Good luck trying to collect them rocks.
This is so blood raw. A few moments I went "ouch" because I know the pain when facing the reality that someone has hurt us but it gets way better as you grow and learn.
Thank you for your messages! I’ve learnt my lesson: worked out my childhood trauma, forgave, and started doing what I love! It took me nearly two years of sitting in my room, watching RUclips videos and reading about trauma relationships mantras meditation and prayer. At one point I nearly went crazy from total isolation and absolutely no entertainment music/movies. I kept praying for the healing and then in one of your videos you said something that really brought it all together and lit the light in my head. You said if you are in a relationship and you and your life starts falling apart obviously it’s not good for you. And I realized OMG !!! It’s true! In any relationship we all sometimes have small misunderstanding but overall in a good relationships we blossom our life blossoms and we get infused by the life itself 😊❤ it’s like that with anything . Thank you so much for being an answer to my prayers and helping me finally break the chains of being enslaved by my mind 😅🙏🕉🌌💖💜❤️🌸blessings to all you beautiful beings!!! From the bottom of my heart and depths of my soul I wish and pray for everyone to heal and see how truly amazing and precious you are!!! You are God precious child ...protect and nurture this child like you would your own child or your pets 😅big universal hug 🤗 to everyone 🧚♀️✨🌸
yes. If you respect his absence as well. Mutual respect is vital to an intimate relationship. How you value yourself is evident and confidence is attractive in any one. Help each other not hinder. Have fun together!
My ex was narcissistic and I’m so glad I left abusive all I went through was hell with him he even burned and ripped my Bible and still tried to get in contact with me
You are so spot on with these messages. Coming from a woman’s perspective I would love to say to all the women in here still not fully understanding what he is teaching us, is that it’s ok to love unconditionally and still set conditions. Another word for boundaries. Remember the life that God/source/universe- give it whatever name you’d like- wants for you. If you have never read just the words of Jesus, I suggest you do. Jesus still set boundaries and was still able to love unconditionally. Listen to both your divine feminine and masculine energy and you will have more peace and patience because you will be centered. Thank you sir( forgot your name🤦🏻♀️) for making this video. God bless you and all the people. Amen in Jesus Name 🙏🙏🙏
Omgolly. I wish I had your insight given to me as a young woman. I now am too old, but I will relay and share your expertise with my young women friends and family. Praise you
This is exactly 💯 We always have to be stronger then then. It's almost like you have to be with someone your not in love with. So you can be hard But then again if you think about how we raise our son's that is what they are used to
You’re perspective are so unique and direct. I love how you can elaborate on something that it so deeply true and not always so upfront to see. Thank you for sharing your detailed concepts.
Men might not mind competition - but boys or rather, just those unhealed / unevolved - it can trigger some unaddressed insecurities and feelings of unworthiness. Which can be so destructive to a relationship. A recent experience. Everything was a threat or trigger. To me, it just revealed his toxic and distorted views on relationships. He often lived in completely different reality and vilanized me (definitely based on past unhealed experiences). It was - so - hurtful and to be honest, it really wasn't fair to me. He couldn't take accountability on his part of healing (he blamed me for everything - including his lack of grown-up behaviour and relationship skills). And I became disinterested with continuing to be in the line of fire. The End. I was spared. Phew!
I’ve always been super independent and I love to travel. A good friend told me that I should do less of that since my boyfriend and I are considering getting married. That actually made me second guess that I could be marriage material. But after seeing this I know that I can’t pretend to be anyone else but the free spirit that I am and if he can’t accept that..then he’s not the one for me! Thanks so much for your perspective. 😢
Thanks, Derrick. I just love listening to you because you always make sense of what you are talking about. I got rid of the nonsense, and I'm happy in my singleness.
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Thank you again, Derrick. I don't know why you are like this, but I am blessed to see that there is a woman out their who gave a birth to a blessing like you. Thank you for being you.
Derrick must have sisters and has seen the behaviour. Thank you for the insight!!
*Making him respect your absence is all about valuing your own time and priorities.*
🙏🏻💯❤️true
When your kindness is taken for weakness
💯 😪😥
💯
Facts
When your meekness is taken for granted
…or when he mistakes your kindness for “wanting/loving him sooo much. Then he’s left looking like a “deer in the headlights”, wondering “what happened”😳!
Let these men do what they please and remove yourself from the equation 💯
I think you mean to say, Let these “little boys” do what they please and remove yourself from the equation. Real men do not behave these types of ways.
I agree
They will cancel themselves out.
❤️👌
Focus on yourself. You matter! Stop caring about men not worth your time. Whatever they do, that's on them.
If they add no value, subtract. Let them respect your absence.
You deserve better!
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Know the most important relationship to have is a relationship with GOD‼️🙏🏾
AMEN❤
Agreed.
Exactly, God first❤🙏🏼
That’s right
Yes!!!!❤❤❤🔥👍
"never let someone's irresponsibility be the reason why your heart breaks"
Real talk
And when you walk away, you’ve “betrayed” him. You “just gave up”. You’re “always running”. Don’t let the gaslighting get to you.
This. Unhealthy men say those things
Yup..they always try to put you on a guilt trip!
And when you don't know it's gaslighting you fall for it
Gurrrllll.....
@@nadineelizabeth195 I fell for it didn't knw it was gaslighting @ tht time.Had me thinking & 2nd guessing tht the problem was me, which his mom kept telling me I'm the best woman he had n tht it him wth narcissistic ways & I walk after 4yrs. I loved him but loved me more❤
Single , healing & currently taking notes 🙏🗣️
Single happy and currently getting 💰
Amen! Might I add ' happily single' 🎉🎉
Facts
Amen
From a deceiver
Ladies 💫 Know Your Worth 💃🏾 Know Your Value 🌱 Your fulfillment is in God!!
AMEN 🙏🏻 ❤
That’s true
Amen!
If he thinks you'll never leave ... you've already lost.
Biggest fact 💯
If he thinks you'll never leave... And you do. You ❤️ 🎉 win.
Big facts. 💯
Nope cuz I’ll flip the tables real quick
Absolutely @@barbaradiaz345
If he never appreciated our presences he probably won't notice our absence
Amen😅
There's time for everything There's nothing in this world we do and can't remember or have memories of it...
This is why having others who love you, like strong family ties and loyal friends, is so very important. Single spirits on this journey are preyed upon. Having a village of support, even for those with a strong sense of self, is so powerful
“You don’t want a dependencship - you want a relationship “ 😮
Wow, I heard that ❤
He thought I wasn't going, nowhere. But I'm done!
This is why I feel like it's easier to be single. If I always have to be on my guard that he could take me for granted then I feel like I will never be able to relax in the long term.
I agree its just all toooo dam complicated. You have to be cunning up to a point.
Word
💯💯💯
Powerful message!! This message will remove sadness and replace with feelings of empowerment!! The truth shall set you free!!🙏🏽
Loving is also knowing when to let go. If you have tried everything and it still wasn’t enough, then just have the courage to let go. If when he comes back you still want him to, great, have Grace and give it a chance, but if he or you find someone different, that doesn’t mean is better, it just means letting go was the right thing for both of you. Sometimes we convince ourselves that a certain person is right for us just because of love, but there is a lot more than basic romantic love to make a true couple to last. Sometimes letting go is showing love
I'm in tears. My second time around and I've been feeding the monster. I didn't create him but I've been feeding him.
And now you see the pattern. Enjoy moving to your High Road ~ where Love.Honor.Cherish thrives.
I totally agree on everything. I appreciate that more and more males are speaking to us women on how males think and operate. That is the biggest problem for women is not knowing how a male thinks. Keep up the great work.
Thank you,
Darlene Bernard
I think you just confirmed what I have been thinking. A lot of men are emotionally unavailable. And women are told and taught to constantly skim to compensate for that emotional unavailability. To keep him, u gats to be unavailable. Yikes, it's fucked up.
I have had 2 major relationships when dudes said they never thought I would leave, after I left….and during that whole time I was expressing how I felt….welp too late
Men realise they lost something good just for a minute. After that they don't care
If you were the one,he will look for you in every woman after you and will never find you😳 He may act like he don’t care but a good woman will ALWAYS be missed🥰🙏🏽
This the 1 and I told him exactly this but he knows it already and is already regretting his decision to split up@@cheryltopps8169
You are AMAZING!! Yesterday I walked away from my relationship. Listening to you validates my choice.
Facts 😊
Amen!🙏🏽⚘️
Me too!
Me too😅
Amen ‼️‼️
Thank you for these words, “know you’re worth and detach yourself if you don’t feel valued “
Omg this is 100% FACTS. I just read a whole book last weekend about this. God sent this message through my feed to keep me on track. Wow....
Love listening to you. Although it's a lot of what I already know, we tend to overlook alot of bad behavior from men because we love them so much!! It's a good wake-up call. Thanks!
Thank you Derrick, this words came at the right moment. This means a lot to me. Thank you once again and God bless you
Same same
Same here wow💓🙏🏾
Thank you for breaking this down in a way that makes sense how to never be taken for granted ❤
Tried to make things better but your so right only took advantage of me. Wasted tears and years and it only got worst
I agree there are some scumbags out there, but most of us are just looking for an honest loving woman who is willing to COMMIT to us in their way, while we commit in our way. Men and women are very different beings, the lines should not be blurred... We each come to the table with different values. Men should provide security, and a healthy living so that the family can survive, while the woman creates and maintains an efficient home. It's a team effort on both sides. Marriage is a partnership, it isn't always about your feelings, it is about building a strong family. If you're in a relationship where all those conditions are being met, both sides are equally respected...
If it’s not about feelings, then it should be fine if a woman steps out every now and then right?
@@Minxii118WWHHHAATTTT????
@@Minxii118i don’t think he said either party was ok to cheat. That’s honestly where i thought it was going at first, but by my surprise, it did not.
Agree. Love but leave if conditions aren’t met… I was asked to forgive a lot. There’s grace and patience for a mistake but consistent lack of respect is unacceptable.
Exactly , walk away instead of wasting time
if he wants to be there he will come If not move on.
Very good very true. Remember you are the prize & the Queen 👸🏾
Hey Derrick, thanks so much for this. It actually came right on time because i was taking for granted in a relationship by showing my kindness and it was taking as a weakness.
I love this. Where were you 20 years ago to impart this valuable message? ❤
Thank you for your time.
I have given him everything. I just feel like what I say doesn't light a fire under him. I'm very blunt there is no mistake in how I feel.
I wish I knew this long ago. Knowing it now is perfect as I'm now ready to be in the relationship you describe here. Thank you for your time and for sharing this information.
well said Derrick. it's so logical to have respect works both ways 👍
I love listening to Derrick! I make it very clear to men that I am great being single. My options are unlimited and if I choose to give you a chance he is going to know that you only get one chance to get it right with me.
I am going through this and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for having this content !! You made me realize so much I deserve and I know I’m not crazy! 🙏🙏🙏
Exactly. He lost me after 2 and a half decades due to him not respecting boundaries.
Thaaat loonnggg???😢
@@patriciamharris5664 yes unfortunately. I stuck it out for the kids
@@rondanatan6198you a big dummy
I just love you, you stay spitting the truth
I always thought give to him more is a good thing but he did take for granted even though he said he won’t.
Derrick Jaxn is phenomenal the way he lays everything out so clearly and with such passion. God bless ❤
I just set this boundary maybe an hour before I saw this. Thank you for the confirmation 🙌🏾
The most realistic talk I have ever heard ! Thank you for sharing this because I needed to hear it!!!
I love listening to your words. They make so much sense. If only men would listen To them more often. listening to you makes my break up, smoother. I told him I was content before I met him, and I can be content after him. He lost the his only diamond. Good luck trying to collect them rocks.
This is so blood raw.
A few moments I went "ouch" because I know the pain when facing the reality that someone has hurt us but it gets way better as you grow and learn.
Your absolutely right , everything comes with conditions and they know it too well !
He has to control himself and his emotions and has respect for her.
Your awfully young to be so wise,Thank you so much 💖 Your mama did a great job raising you 😊
He's speaking from experience
Thank you for your messages! I’ve learnt my lesson: worked out my childhood trauma, forgave, and started doing what I love! It took me nearly two years of sitting in my room, watching RUclips videos and reading about trauma relationships mantras meditation and prayer. At one point I nearly went crazy from total isolation and absolutely no entertainment music/movies. I kept praying for the healing and then in one of your videos you said something that really brought it all together and lit the light in my head. You said if you are in a relationship and you and your life starts falling apart obviously it’s not good for you. And I realized OMG !!! It’s true! In any relationship we all sometimes have small misunderstanding but overall in a good relationships we blossom our life blossoms and we get infused by the life itself 😊❤ it’s like that with anything . Thank you so much for being an answer to my prayers and helping me finally break the chains of being enslaved by my mind 😅🙏🕉🌌💖💜❤️🌸blessings to all you beautiful beings!!! From the bottom of my heart and depths of my soul I wish and pray for everyone to heal and see how truly amazing and precious you are!!! You are God precious child ...protect and nurture this child like you would your own child or your pets 😅big universal hug 🤗 to everyone 🧚♀️✨🌸
Amen! Thank you so much. Breadcrumbs are not enough.
I'm going to keep this on repeat until I can let go completely. Thank you!!
yes.
If you respect
his absence as
well.
Mutual respect
is vital to an intimate relationship.
How you value
yourself is evident and confidence is attractive
in any one.
Help each other
not hinder.
Have fun together!
My ex was narcissistic and I’m so glad I left abusive all I went through was hell with him he even burned and ripped my Bible and still tried to get in contact with me
Oh my!! That is horrible
Wow. I am so glad you left him. May God continue to heal and strengthen you!
You're not alone! 😢
Wow!! You sir are truly wise beyond years!! God bless you!
Messages from GOD.😊
You are so spot on with these messages. Coming from a woman’s perspective I would love to say to all the women in here still not fully understanding what he is teaching us, is that it’s ok to love unconditionally and still set conditions. Another word for boundaries. Remember the life that God/source/universe- give it whatever name you’d like- wants for you. If you have never read just the words of Jesus, I suggest you do. Jesus still set boundaries and was still able to love unconditionally. Listen to both your divine feminine and masculine energy and you will have more peace and patience because you will be centered. Thank you sir( forgot your name🤦🏻♀️) for making this video. God bless you and all the people. Amen in Jesus Name 🙏🙏🙏
Omgolly. I wish I had your insight given to me as a young woman. I now am too old, but I will relay and share your expertise with my young women friends and family. Praise you
Thank You, I appreciate you Derrick
So glad I found your videos. I’ve been too passive. Thank you sooo much.
Derrick is always on point 💯
This is exactly 💯
We always have to be stronger then then. It's almost like you have to be with someone your not in love with. So you can be hard
But then again if you think about how we raise our son's that is what they are used to
Thank you Jehovah for this
Thank you ! Exactly what I needed to hear.
This is what I am going through, you just confirmed what I was thinking.
You are speaking 💯% truth‼️ PERIODT‼️‼️
Well said. Adults are responsible for their own lives.
Well… I was the complete and happy one and he was the broken one who tried to break me too.Three years later I left . Good for me
Thank you Derrick... your talk is packed with tons of truth and insight....lot of love and respect for you...!
You are right on point you are doing a phenomenal job
Ty for understanding how I feel about men....
You’re perspective are so unique and direct. I love how you can elaborate on something that it so deeply true and not always so upfront to see. Thank you for sharing your detailed concepts.
Thanks for the input.
Men might not mind competition - but boys or rather, just those unhealed / unevolved - it can trigger some unaddressed insecurities and feelings of unworthiness. Which can be so destructive to a relationship.
A recent experience. Everything was a threat or trigger. To me, it just revealed his toxic and distorted views on relationships. He often lived in completely different reality and vilanized me (definitely based on past unhealed experiences). It was - so - hurtful and to be honest, it really wasn't fair to me. He couldn't take accountability on his part of healing (he blamed me for everything - including his lack of grown-up behaviour and relationship skills). And I became disinterested with continuing to be in the line of fire. The End. I was spared. Phew!
Omg, this mirrors my current experience to the core!
Same 🤦🏾♀️
I'm going through this same thing right now...with two small babies
Stoic fundamental thinking never get old !!!! Everyone should know about stoicism
This was so powerful!! Loved the info ❤
Exactly 💯 this.
Derrick I love how u speak the TRUTH. Keep it coming!
I’ve always been super independent and I love to travel. A good friend told me that I should do less of that since my boyfriend and I are considering getting married. That actually made me second guess that I could be marriage material. But after seeing this I know that I can’t pretend to be anyone else but the free spirit that I am and if he can’t accept that..then he’s not the one for me! Thanks so much for your perspective. 😢
Thanks, Derrick. I just love listening to you because you always make sense of what you are talking about. I got rid of the nonsense, and I'm happy in my singleness.
Thank you Derrick! This was very helpful. I needed to hear this.
Amen to that-“Tile of the relationship doesn’t give you the access to me all the time”!
Great message
Great speaker too, easy to listen to and clear and concise
Amen! Hallelujah,!🎉
Amazing. This is probably the best I’ve heard so far value yourself is the key.🎉
Yup, my ex never thought I would divorce him. And never been happier! 😁
YOURE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT ❣️in so many ways
THIS IS GOLD 🔥 Every second of it. Thank you!
Beautiful teaching
You dropped some jewels my brother! I appreciate you and bless you and your family.🙏🏾
Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wow...this is deep, never knew this love language of men...men r so different from us.goshh...
❤❤....Truer words have never been spoken ! 👏 🙌 Thank you 🙏
You are spot on!!!
Yes. I receive this
OooooooooWeeeeeeee, I'm screaming!
I always learn from you! Great teacher!!!
Appreciated. I think this can go for both men and women. Make them respect your absence
Yoooo..so happy of your return... Don't stop.. Get. Get..NY..feels ya. ..jah...soldiers we are.....
Right on time... We woman need to hear a mans mindset.
Thank You, you make a lot of sense, you made me aware of my past, Divorce
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Love it!!! Well said!!! Thank you for sharing