One question we're all afraid to ask
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- Опубликовано: 30 дек 2020
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Didn’t think I’d see a woman birth a cat today but here I am
Makes you wonder who the dad is
Cat in the hat is the dad
Its 2020. Are you surprised at this point? ;)
Neither did I to see it tomorow
Happy 2021
Anna’s therapist is *OUR* therapist
Communism, *BABYYYY*
When's our next session😌💅
Lool
Oh yes communism!
I want her to relate way more of what her therapist says. Mine hasn't said anything this usefull in almost year. (Not that she used to be more usefull, I just have her since close to a year.)
Honestly, only thing that Anna would be missing a bomb vid on is on a critique on capitalism and its faults on mental health.
What I mean is hell yeah, communism! Lmao
“That’s what my therapist says and I’ll try to believe it.” I felt that
There's no reply?!
The good news has once again come to you today. You can inherit the kingdom of God even if you are a sinner.. after all we are all sinners in God's standards of justice and holiness (he says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed adulterly with her in his heart NO MAN IS THAT PURE😅).....All you have to do is to honestly humbly pray repent/turn away from sins (read the10 commandments) and trust that Jesus for his love❤ for you he left his throne in heaven and came to the world he was humbled humiliated betrayed beaten and killed for your sake to pay the fine of your sins and mine so that we won't spend our eternity in hell but with him in heaven...this might be the last time you read the gospel...Look around🔥 be smart..the end is nigh🔥🔥 ..He is coming back soooon not as the sacrificed lamb of God🐑..but as King of Kings🤴 the judge of the whole world..Your soul is on the line😭. Eternity is a long time.
@@keyboardevangelist8956 yeah
Therapists should show you how to make your own conclusions
Emotional maturity at its best. Congrats, you did the right thing.
Don't let this distract you from the fact that I am the ugliest RUclipsr worldwide. I also smell like 100 de*d orangutans and have two hot hot hot girlfriends as you can see on my highly stimulating channel. Greetings, dear nisee
@@AxxLAfriku who cares
Anna already talked about emotional maturity?
💖💖💗
"What is wrong with you? Do you want me to die" was such a relatable way to answer to that
(Happy new year everyone!)
Happy new year!
Happy new year to you too 🎉
not yet. 12/31/2020 7pm
@@whitykitty2651 In New Zealand it is, sorry about that XD
Happy new year!! :D
If they can't or won't answer this question, then they just answered the question.
🥺
@BRYAN The tea leaves say “love you first”
also, fun fact: “thé” is tea in French
Yup...recent guy refused to answer. He stonewalled like crazy. I was so upset because I wanted the answer to be what I wanna hear. What a bummer
YUP SO TRUE!!!!!!
Aaaand the winner for the worst answer iiiiis:
bdum ts....
I DON'T KNOOOOOW!
"Where are we headed?" Your relationship is not a drifting ship, you can actually steer it. Don't give up control (or your share of it) in favour of lying back and hoping for the best.
You can steer it, but you wouldn’t want to take it somewhere that the other person doesnt want to go. I get what you mean, the question can be framed differently, but it’s still an important question
@@LocoForChoco123 Absolutely, half the problems are about who's steering and the rest are about the direction. But it's important to have both people in the decisions.
I, too, thought it a passive aggressive question, "Where are WE headed?" On a great date, the last thing I'm thinking about is the future. Me feeling safe about telling the other person how I feel is not the same as asking the other person to define the relationship. One person can't define a relationship.
What are you looking for or hoping for here?
That would be a much better question.
agreee
Anna seems like she is in pain :( I just want all the good things in the world to happen to her because she deserves it and she’s a wonderful person ❤️
I know, I just want to give her a big hug and tell her everything will be ok.
@malice catastrophe then stop watching her, ain’t no one forcing you
Me too I want the best for her💕❤️
Yes ❤️❤️❤️
@malice catastrophe then what are you're doing here, honey?
I love how often anna uses her therapist for content lol
anna has become my therapist tbh
@@SamElle Vicarious therapy
It's our therapist now...
might as well since she's paying for it lol
Every time I've been scared to ask, it's because deep down I already knew. I just didn't really want them to confirm it. Asking means you can't kid yourself any more 💜
Yes 100 100
Right on sistah
Yes exactly!
that comment is top koala-tea.
Anyone else want to see Anna's old stand up footage?
Me!!
she performed in my state when I was in college
ruclips.net/video/dQw4w9WgXcQ/видео.html
@@absolutelynot524 oh you...
@@absolutelynot524 👁👄👁
@@absolutelynot524 oh my god, she's so good!!!!! I wish i was there in person!!!
So, I am a 23-year-old and I never imagined that I would really be able to find a guy who is emotionally available, is honest to me, and also respects and loves me a lot. I grew up in this really conservative Asian household around me(including my own home) and I never have been able to make a strong emotional connection to anyone. But I met this guy about a year ago and I have never been so grateful. He is so awesome. He is patient, emotionally available and when I ask about our future He replies to me by saying that "I want to marry you" and is totally supportive about my school and waits for me patiently. But the problem is I feel like I don't deserve it and I feel like he should be with someone much better than me. I do really love him but what is all this anxiety in me. Ughhhh my childhood is still ruining me.
You deserve all the happiness you wish for and you deserve to enjoy it. You are also not responsible for your partners choice to be with you, he is allowed to chose you and while you could of course decline his wish to be with you, you have no say in whether or not that is his wish.
i’m in the exact same boat girl
Don’t self sabotage yourself giiirl, you two sound perfect for each other ! ☺️
Hey, just wanted to say I also grew up in a really conservative Asian household. I'm 21 and haven't experienced that kind of connection yet, but your comment gives me hope that I might find that someday! I totally get your feeling of not deserving it or not feeling good enough, but I hope you are able to squash that self-doubt and see that you DO deserve it, even if you grew up in a household that made you believe you don't.
Regardless of if you deserve it or not (which you do) you should hold on to what you have right now because everyone deserves some sort of strong emotional connection to someone. Humans are social beings after all, it’s in our nature.
Yes, open communication is crucial at all levels of dating 👏🏽 let’s normalize this.
gl with that movement
@@yoooyoyooo I mean, the way to make it happen is by you normalizing it not by responding the way you did. Lmao
@@Sarafara7 ikr maybe everyone should ask this question early ahead before fully comitting in a relationship to make sure both sides are on the same page.
I’m so down!! I’m tired of having to decode men’s behaviors, like pls just be open and honest
Biggest advice my parents gave us, communication is the key to a long marriage, and yes that also means being able to take critique even on sexual aspects
Even after finding the courage to be vulnerable, my problem becomes how to accept, move on, and let go of these “could-have-been” relationships. Goals for 2021
Unfortunately just had to have this conversation with a partner last night, and didn’t get the answer I wanted to hear either. But at least we don’t have to waste time on people who don’t deserve it in 2021 🤷🏻♂️ Happy New Year, Anna 🎊 Bright things ahead, baby girl!
Wow that’s such a jump might’ve they want to be friends with you or something it’s kind of rude to be like that to a person kind of selfish
@@camix3229 If you don’t know someone else’s situation, you shouldn’t be commenting on it. Not to mention Anna said the same thing? Call me rude or selfish, but one thing I’m not is apologizing for my feelings in 2021. Have a great year and leave this kind of energy in 2020, friend ☺️
don't want to jump to conclusions but I'm assuming that there's a reason you believe they don't deserve a relationship with you. It could be they just wanted to be friends, but idk your situation nor Anna's.
@@theillennials5263 Maybe, @Camix is reacting to the idea that someone no longer 'deserves' time or emotional consideration. Value judgements aren't necessary, if like you said you do not know someone else's situation. In many cases people are simply unable to provide what others are seeking from the relationship and that doesn't make anyone a 'bad' person. It does mean it is time to move on. The healthy part is being able to treat others as well as yourself properly - they shouldn't be super mutually exclusive. So, in conclusion, you are both right, and we should all just get along.
*Boom* I fixed the internet *and* you two are going to get married and this will be *your* meet-cute. You are welcome.
@@RealNigga0190 it’s more of a time and energy situation. Unfortunately, the aforementioned partner only wanted to hang out when it was convenient for them. Whenever I needed to express something or wanted to see them, they were unavailable, despite me always making myself available for them. It felt like a one sided relationship and I’m searching for something a little more accommodating to both parties. I still want what’s best for them, but I have to be aware of what’s best for me too.
Courage and bravery? I'm a socially anxious hufflepuff, sorry
HAHAHAHA im a ravenclaw!!
hufflepuffs stand up against injustice, they were the second biggest group to fight in the final war after gryffindor !
a too lazy to be courageous hufflepuff 😌
Congress THE BRAVE looks like a pillow in the background lmao
OMGGG BRUH I JUST REALISED THAT LMAOOOOOO
I legit thought it was a pillow and then I read your comment, went back to look and didn't believe you until that pillow started breathing. 😂
@@meowkins MyPillow 2021
The good news has once again come to you today. You can inherit the kingdom of God even if you are a sinner.. after all we are all sinners in God's standards of justice and holiness (he says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed adulterly with her in his heart NO MAN IS THAT PURE😅).....All you have to do is to honestly humbly pray repent/turn away from sins (read the10 commandments) and trust that Jesus for his love❤ for you he left his throne in heaven and came to the world he was humbled humiliated betrayed beaten and killed for your sake to pay the fine of your sins and mine so that we won't spend our eternity in hell but with him in heaven...this might be the last time you read the gospel...Look around🔥 be smart..the end is nigh🔥🔥 ..He is coming back soooon not as the sacrificed lamb of God🐑..but as King of Kings🤴 the judge of the whole world..Your soul is on the line😭. Eternity is a long time.
LOL, my first thought was that that was him, after that i thought it was a pillow and now i see this hahahaha
I think, if a person makes you afraid of asking "where this is going" or what they feel, you deep down already know the answer. In my experience, you don't have to ask these questions to people, who are willing to commit and are open for love. They will invest just as much as you do and this anxiety of "will they or will they not" only develops in contact with people who "will not".
Thank you x
I don't like this line of reasoning. Perhaps the other person is oblivious to your anxiety and thinks everything is going well and is debating when would be a good time to ask "The Question" himself.
that's honestly like THE scariest thing I can imagine asking someone and I think you deserve a really big cake for managing to do so
The whole dating scene pushed me to reconsider the arranged marriage thing. At least you don't have to ask where it's going.
same
Dating = intermittent screwing.... Women choose who they want to screw and Men choose who they want to marry .... may as well wait it out ladies if you want to avoid ❤️damage. Work on personal solvency and personal responsibility... stay looking gorgeous and put yourself in the right places at the right time.
@@lisaariottiart ... Well said.
Ha ha love it 😁 right on sistah 🤗
@@lisaariottiart easier said then done.
"I was born in 1989, the year of the snake" - as someone born in 1989, I had no idea it was the year of the snake. Hoping 2021 brings you better days and better relationships, Anna!
Chinese zodiac my friend
Taylor Swift??✨
2001 snakes nod in approval
@@deutschej that's literally what I thought!
"Eventually I want to do X. It is nice thinking you would be a part of that, but I understand everything is time."
Identify individual goals before bringing another into your life.
I'm always direkt when it comes to guys. Like hey, what are you looking for? Because our time is valuable!😍💁🏼♀️
same! preach it
Imagine dating Anna Akana and constantly being at risk of having awkward parts of your relationship put on blast. It's not like Anna is rude, but it's still a level of openness that many of us aren't used to.
"I didnt think that joke would Bomb " I laughed so hard i almost peed !
Not asking is only delaying the inevitable. Don't waste your time when someone out there is looking for someone like you.
What's awesome is that when you didn't get the answer you liked, you loved yourself enough to not stick around! Some people find that keeping those boundaries are super hard.
Obi Wan to the storm trooper was a knee slapper *oh lordy -tears of laughter !! All your years as a comedian paid off on that one !!
“What are we?” Instantly made my heart skip a beat.
"even though we all died in march 2020" NICE ONE
anna makes 5 minutes so short i can't get enough
I have to ask this question soon it’s terrifying wish me luck y’all
good luck!
Good luck!
Good luck! How did it go?
Good luck! ❤️
Good luck boi
Who else has an anxious attachment style? 😅🙋♀️😭
Gang gang 😭💪🏼💪🏼
The best thing is to try and get people to be friends. Then relationships can blossom but it definitely takes really open and honest communication. Just take away the pressure before you go for the relationship
Yes! I feel that relationship is just the greatest level of friendship. At least for me... I wonder what relationship does mean for other people?
Guys it's the end of 2020...I wanna congratulate every1 and wish you happiness and lots of funny...you deserve EVERYTHING ❤️❤️and Ty Ana for being with me this year I became so confident because of you
Can I just say 1. OMG THANK YOU for making these videos, they are quite literally therapeutic and make me feel like I'm not as crazy as I think I am and 2. Your therapist sounds like the Gandalf to my Frodo.
I went through something very similar in the beginning of quarantine, it was DEVASTATING!
But healing the heartbreak, and your anxious attachment so you can finally energetically attract the person who deserves you is possible 💛💛💛
I clicked this on a newyears eve lmaoooo
Happy New Year
well she uploaded ot on newyears eve
Knowing where something is headed, knowing what's on the table and knowing how someone feels.
We love your therapist-advice segments. So fun and thoughtful.
Awaiting the fateful day that Anna releases a podcast, would be full of profound gems of advice that you'd normally only get in therapy :)
i love the fact that we share the same birthday and we're both leo, also year of the snake and i relate almost everything about her she's like my older sister who gives me advices online, i love anna!!
Awww, that was cute. Have a great year!
@@oponomo same to you!
I truly love that Ana gives us great life advice while also taking us on these small journey's through her life. You go dude.
This was exactly what I needed to hear today and probably many more times down the road. Definitely one to bookmark! :)
I knew something was immediately wrong, I could see in Anna’s eyes that she was sad... which contrasts so powerfully from her normal bubbly self. Have a hard time understanding how dude wouldn’t want to lock it down and take her to the courthouse... unless maybe he felt like he didn’t deserve her, that’s the only way that makes any sense to me. 🤷🏾♂️😂
She's decent looking and she has money, but that's really where the good points end. She's got issues and that might be why she struggles to have a relationship last longer than 3 months. I'll wish her luck though.
@@paulidson1483 well to me she seems bubbly, self reflective, brave, ambitious, strong, funny and extremely smart and beautiful but thats my opinion, maybe thats why we shouldn't punch someone elses personality to the ground if we oly see them for a few scripted minutes per week ;)
@@sinis5731
If her personality was that great then she wouldn't be struggling to have a relationship last longer than 3 months.
I'm not trying to put her down, I'm just pointing out the obvious, there's a problem somewhere.
Heyyyy.. i'm also an avoidance. I had this difficult question yesterday and I'm happy that I can finally say it out loud. Now I'm dealing with the heartbreak and watching your videos heals me ❤️ Love yaa
Ah, the history in stand-up makes a lot of sense since i've seen a good couple handful of your vids.
There is something very natural and comforting about your delivery and presence with these concerned insights.
Congratulations on it all and having worked on it in such ways while having seemingly superb taste throughout.
Dang! It's really just so good!
I absolutely love your background!! So eye-catching!! I think that every time I see you in that room and just had to mention it. (Love your content, too, of course!!! Keep being your amazing self!)
I completely understand the issues around this question. So much so that generally I don't even consider it. I'm so happy for you asking it. Maybe I'll try it too
I will defend someone being bullied by a giant without hesitation, stand up for my rights under full fire and use every ounce of my strength to lift something 10x my size out of the car; but dear God, please do not get me romantically involved with someone I have to wonder "What are we?" with. My brain can't handle it either lol
i love the honesty in ur videos!
Just mustered up doing this the day after Christmas. Right here with you sis, it's a good thing when we find the strength to choose ourselves instead of betraying our needs.
If Anna can't find a loving, committed relationship, the rest of us don't stand a chance.
You realise she is a person who literaly NEED therapy right? And she is getting it. But ok, here is a fast advice - look into yourself, and your dating choices so far. Crushes also count. Ask yourself what all the men that you want have in common? Are those men fit to be in a kind of a relationship you want? What are the type of men who ARE fit to be in a such relationship? And lastly - stop looking for men who you find attractive, and start looking for men who you will have attractive relationship with.
Who else is diving into 2021 with courage and bravery?✌🏻
Not me, that's for sure.
We alll
Wohoo 🥳
Unngh you're freaking amazing Anna! I really needed this right now.
I love your content! I realise after watching a number of your videos, you put such an incredible amount of work into your vids. Very inspiring and skilled! Keep it up gal!
Hi Anna love from Malaysia and happy new year!
I was going to skip this but then i thought, this is probably the best content ill see today, glad i was right
Good for you!!Your growing before our eyes!!Onward and upwards!!
everytime i am amazed by the quality of these videos
Welcome to the club to bold clarity!
Ask the same thing just a couple of weeks ago. Focus my vibe elsewhere now. 🌴👀
Omg this literally happened to me on New Years! I was dating a guy for a while and it was going great. We had amazing compatibility, were consistent, had great conversations, etc so naturally I thought that this could go somewhere. But alas, when I asked him “where do we stand?” He had a full on meltdown saying he doesn’t know, accusing me of so many things and pretty much blaming me for “ruining a good thing”. I’m glad that ended there. Good riddance ✌🏻
Your videos are comical but straight to the point. Keep it up.
I’m going through this very thing! Thank you (and your therapist) for the reminder that it’s important to be brave in this too!
So im historically self destructive. I had to hear that twice lol
Why is this so me right now?
Thank you Anna for all the videos
Your videos are always so lifting and gets me to thinking about myself, my grow and fact that I’m not as crazy as an thought haha
#bringgoolpicturesback
I asked this a few weeks ago after 4 years, she had a panic attack and we broke up. So yeah, the fear is justified!
I hope you do find what you need in the future! But, fear justified or not, at least you won't spend the next four years of your life in a mockery of the relationship you actually want just to have it end in even more misery due to prolonged waste of your investments! You got out of the relationship dumpster BEFORE it was on fire.
Wow. After 4 years, & that's the response you were given. Yikes.
Go check the work of coach chorey wayne - dating coach.
I love you! Thank you for this. Two years ago, it took me a really long time to ask the question and I got heartbroken. Now, I straight up just tell people where my interest is (or isn't) and I've seen that my honesty has helped me develop healthier dating patterns overall. It's not just about asking, but being candid about what our needs are. Sometimes, we get the answer we want, and sometimes we don't, but it's so much better to know (even at the risk of coming across as a vulnerable idiot).
Way to put it on the line. Admirable bravery. Onward!!!
I’m afraid too. And i don’t know where things are going. But I am hopeful. (But why can’t SHE ask the question?)😆
In order to ask that question, one must actually be dating someone first. Wonder what that feels like
I did this recently and didn't get the answer I wanted. "It's getting information you need to get the committed relationship you're looking for" really hit home. Wow. Makes me feel less vulnerable.
You rock! I really enjoy the humour as well as the lessons you give.
I just wanna see Anna in a happy healthy relationship, she's such an amazing person. Yo Ana if by the time I hit 30 you're not married, hit me up gurl XD
Ummm, we have Netflix, Amazon and HBO on Crave up here in Canada.
there are diff selections of shows!! not all licensing is the same based on territory
THANKS ANNA.LOVE UR VIDS&HAPPY NEW YEARS.
Man Anna your videos are epic!!
The question "Where are we going?" somehow triggers my inner jukebox: "We're going nowhere. We live our lives like we're ready to die! We're going nowhere."
This is Seth the turtle (Thanks BMTH)
Simp the turtle
Sandpit Turtle*
#bringGoolPicturesback
Anna thank you for your videos. Happy new year.
love you Anna. Happy new year 2021
I love Anna’s videos. She always does a great job
So many of your videos I find relatable. You're one of the few youtubers I regularly watch because I feel like you are yourself through your videos. It's either Anna or tech videos about the new GTX 4090 with 16~ cuda cores. I really like how you're funny but you make points about life and you're honest with your difficulties. You're a talented all-around awesome woman. I wish you knew me to know how conservative I am with my compliments.
Good morning all
good morninggg
#bringGoolPictersback
Happy new year and best of luck in 2021, Anna 🤞✨
I enjoy watching your videos so much thank you and hope you have a great 2021
#BringGoolPicturesback
meanwhile im on the other end of the spectrum and I ask it too soon and scare people away hahahah
I think you’re on the right path. 🙂
@@marieshielenriquez I really hope so!!
@@SamElle I asked within 2 month, is that soon? Lmao
@@Sarafara7 how many dates did you guys have? I usually ask around 5 or 6 dates!
@@SamElle no dates! We met online, long distance. But I was clear that I was looking for something serious and he agreed. We were talking all the time these 2 months...
i needed this
I needed this. Ty Anna for sharing what you learned 💕
Boy oh boy did I do the question, and the answer I got was : we are in an open relationship
And that's where I went in a downdwards spiral for about a year, but I am better now
Yeah, one person can't just decide that on their own. That requires consent from both parties. I really feel for you.
😅I got that too! Run gurl runnn
@@nisarats.2625 Primio is a boys name.
never been this early before
Same!
El sameo!
Saaaaame
Sameeee omg 😄
Same
I feel you girl. Couldn't have come across your channel at a more appropriate time in m life. Your videos always seem to hit so close to home, and your advice/words are always weirdly there at the right time. Thanks for saying your honest truths and sharing them through your humour.
Stay you, and keep going. 🤜🤛👍🌌
aww much needed content
Here's a comment for the algorithm:)
"i did stand up for a decade which as you know takes a lot of balls."
As a trans woman, I completely misunderstood what she meant here.