When friends become enemies
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
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I can't believe i've been a gray rock my entire life with manipulative people without knowing there's actually a name for it aaa i love it
Yes!!!! Was thinking the same thing!
HELP MY!!! My muscles are too big! I am a big tall man and my muscles are even BIGGER! I use them to get views but they HURT so much!!! Because they are heavy. Do you have any advice, dear sofia
Same!
Doing that at work. They started complaining to management about my grey rocking.
OMG exactly what I thought. Had to deal with someone manipulative and I just went gray rock and it worked amazingly well. Never knew it was a 'technique' haha.
I thought I was literally the only one, aaaaaa 🙈✨
Missed opportunity to thank your PaTREEons
*air horn noises* OOooOhhh
Thank you, I was just about to write that :D
Thank you
Maybe she leaft it out just for you to find. Treemendous effort my bud!
@@chrisside4312 SAME XD
I want to have friends who will pretend to be trees with me. Goals.
I want to have friends
Maybe Vin Diesel would be down
I'm sure your friends would be oak ay with it.
@@cjermevpg6372 HA
Why don't you pretend to be a tree WITH YOURSELF!!😆😆😆.. I'm lame 😞
tree-anna: abolish the patreearchy
my multilingual brain: arbol-ish the patreearchy
the funniest thing I have seen today, ni yo me habia dado cuenta JAJJAJAJA
Haha :))
jajajajaja bien
Realll🤣🤣
SIII 😂
It was honestly very traumatic *smile*
Aaaand my childhood just got summed up in 5 seconds.
Someone make this top comment
Oh... So its not just me...okay
needs to be made into a gif
Please Anna, start a podcast channel. Go more deeper and discuss on such topics. Thank you!
facts facts facts
I third and fourth this motion
Agree
YASSSS. Please.
I fifth this motion
I used to do the Grey Rock method when I was a kid to get throught all the horrible situations I've been put into. Therefore my whole family thought I was a bore and "too serious for my age". I love that there's a name for that!
Borahae💜💜
Good for you! That’s so smart to realize that as a kid!
I've seen U in other comments sections, wanna be comment pals?
The worst part, you'll not know who or when it'll happen
Ikr!
@Michael Skinner It means that it WILL happen and there's no way knowing where or who is gonna eventually betray you.
Even though it seemed like a total birch move at the time, Anna enticing that deer to eat Michelle was actually a deep-rooted term of endearment with her fellow tree.
En'deer'meant you mean?
Sorry, the tree puns got me in the mood. 🤭
Do some people feel like they turn in to gray rocks with people they don’t know yet and don’t feel comfortable with?
Yes i do this on a daily basis
All the time! Makes it so much harder making friends 😅
@@kalikso lol indeed. People often tell me like: "at first you seem closed off and maybe even cold but after becoming friends you're so different!".. I mean i am glad they like me after a while but hahah not a good first impression
@@LOVEAapjes same here
most people probably use or have used the method before in their lives without knowing their was an actual term for it. I mean, aren't most people at least somewhat of a grey rock with new people? it takes time to open up and be comfortable with them.
Also, yes to using Gray Rock method because energy vampire feed off our energies and we don't want that.
Only the White Court
I never realized I did the gray rock method instinctively when dealing with ppl i don’t like. Also indifference is such a better option then hating because it sends the message that u rlly don’t care about them and it’s less energy wasted.
Wow.. Good for you❤
You've been posting a lot about the changing and loss of your relationships. Just remember that wildfires pave the way for new growth.
That might be a bad analogy now that wildfires (caused by preventing indigenous people from doing traditional cool burnings) are contributing to climate change and killing people.
GASP
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wildfires also kill TREES... i see what you did there 😉
i have just learned that i have been using the grey rock method a LOT lately with my family. maybe even my whole life. i have a lot more communication issues i need to work out in my life
i started to use the grey rock method unknowingly when i got tired of the comments of my family, i just don't care anymore what they say :)))
It's odd that Anna doesn't become a professional therapist herself at this point 😂❣
She basically is
To us 😂
I was literally thinking the same....
Lol she has heaps of experience lol
It's not as profitable or as fun.
Giving these deep advises like this is something completely different than actually analyzing people correctly. She also reaches a way bigger audience like this.
"Silence is a strong reply"
Murray Head
Where was this when I was in high-school?? 😭 so many toxic relationships
I've been Grey rocking my abusive, narcissistic, alcoholic roommate and I didn't even know that's what it was called 😅 it works to a certain extent, but when you are with them constantly it's harder to do 😭
Do you have the option to move somewhere else?
I hope you have the option to move out and find a more peaceful place to live 😢
@@Etianen7 I'm working on finding a place right now. It's difficult since the US government doesn't believe in supporting a living wage. The cost of living is just so crazy it's hard to leave abusive situations 😬
@@dustieyontararak thanks for the support, stranger 😊
I feel you! Living that right now to some extent. I have two cray crays in my home. I do the same, but sometimes , especially during codiv , I do feel the need to talk a bit about something of interest or let them in on my mind. Yesterday was such a day and lo and behold, they turned it into drama today! Like where do that get the energy from. It's badshit crazy around here sometimes.
Can't fall out with friends if you have none💕
True 😅😂😭
Yasssss queen✌️
'Grey rocking' is like a real life "ghosting"
Always thought trees could be friends.. never enemies.. a little scared of trees now
I hope you see animals as friends too.
@@mariemaier5630 i do too
Grey rocking sounds like what helped me survive bullying in school
Been grey rocking my parents for 2 years now. There's only so much bickering and crying I can take, I'm tired on spending my emotions on people who aren't worth a genuine smile.
Anna: uploads
Me: CLICKS FASTER THAN THE SPEED OF LIGHT
I make vidz💜
Very slippery vids, in fact.
needed this today
Burg? 🤣😅
same lol
I did too
hope ur doing okay
Oh my! I know now why I havn‘t met manipulative people in my entire life! And why I never experience Drama! It‘s all just because I‘m a boring person :)
WHOA ive never heard of the grey rock method!! Im in a situation where I have to see this toxic "friend" a lot because we are in the same friend group. I cant exactly just separate my life from them because I want to stay friends with everyone else in the group!!
love this
"Michelle? MiCHEllE? MicHELLE? MICshell? misshell? mcchell?"
that's all i be hearing
My families advice growing up when I encountered manipulative people was to ignore them, and there is an actual name for their technique? I nevr guessed! Thank you Anna!
THE GREY ROCK
I'm am dieing that I didn't know this anyway ima start using so I can slowly push my toxic friend away
YOUR A FRICKEN GOSESS THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS TIP IN MY LIFE THANK YOU!!!
It's the Adult version of Ignore the bullies and they will leave you alone.
I'm a naturally boring person and basically all my college friends lived for the drama and gossip. I was never interested in a thing they said which is why we aren't friends anymore. A grey rock since birth 🙃✌️
Wow i didn’t know this was a method with a name. Years ago, I used it in school when kids would bully me and giving them no reaction worked everytime!
The childhood play in which you played a tree paid off immensely
The use of the Gong during the therapist segment - 1:57 to symbolize a certain *"Zen?"* Very clever...
Is there a line that needs to be tread carefully with the grey rock method? I feel like it could come across as avoidant and dismissive if not executed properly. I don’t think it should be used as a crutch to get out of uncomfortable situations simply because it’s awkward. I don’t know. Just my .02.
Agree.
It is avoidant and dismissive by design, which makes it ineffective at actually helping people communicate and achieve conflict resolution.
Thing is, it was designed specifically for what Anna described -- surviving toxic people who are in your social orbit. It is not intended to get you out of uncomfortable situations you just don't feel like dealing with.
@@annaeverette8960 makes sense, thanks!
I remember hearing about how grey rock method before. It also is a very thin line cause it can become empty. Idk if that makes sense
This is the best content I could’ve woken up to
Thank you for sharing your life experiences and things you’ve learned from therapy all these years!!
Damn you really want to dress up as a tree, I'm here for it
I would watch a series of all three of standing around making tree puns dressed as trees
this is literally my comfort youtube channel
why does this comment make so much sense?
Same 😫
Trueeee
Me tooooo, shes been my therapist since 2013
I love the tree costume 🥺
She should have said “paTREons”
Ok who made the tree costumes. I think they deserve extra credit.
Why did I just find out that Michelle and Melissa were two different people
It took me a WHILE too. For some videos I just thought Anna was a master at special effects.
@@RicardoMoralesMassin maybe she is👀
They aren't the same person???
I've read this book, it's amazing
Friends becoming enemies is the worst thing in the world. 😔
"All of my enemies started out friends". Taylor Swift
@@annaeverette8960 I'm sorry that happened to you. 😔
I've learned more about life through watching Anna's videos, than school ever taught me.😤❤️
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The many rus speaking know about you from this chanel. She just translate your videos from us, who don't good understand eng. And really want to know. Is this racism to rus-speaking people?))))
If you really want to pass this problem, you are ask to email from this chanel. The all rus-speaking community disappointed.
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what?
I loved that book! I highly recommend listening to the audiobook. The narrator does a fantastic job. A few months ago I won tickets to Wohlleben's tour and I can't wait for the pandemic to be over to go see him live.
I never knew I was Grey rocking with my manipulative family members since I was a pre-teen.
Her videos are better than most of the movies they put out
okay but what do you do when they ask why you're being dull and different and quiet? T__T
Wow... The Grey Rocking is awesome... Thank u for sharing ❤️
oh jeez, grey rocking is definitely one of my core interpersonal tools for dealing with difficult people that I have been using since I was in high school... Actually super handy as a bartender/server
I love your dynamic and humour
Most recent interpersonal drama: a girl said to me “why are you acting like we’ve been best friends for years? If you don’t like me, just say it.” ????????
wow that's deep
Man, that sounds like a rough situation. Is there any chance there was any form of miscommunication, however subtle?
I had a friend pull that once. Been friends for 2 years and she would say I was her best friend, all of a sudden she told me it was weird how I called her my best friend and that she didnt want to hang with me anymore. Like.. okay lemme just ignore the last 2 years of non stop texting and endless sleepovers and pretend that didnt happen I guess.
I think some people fear being known because they've internalised the message that they're a 'bad' person. So they push people away and self fulfill the prophecy.
Mixed signals here. Probably she's very insecure. I have a friend i adore but when she's really stressed she thinks everyone low-key hates her so, it might be that
Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences and being vulnerable!!! ❤️ I also love how you showcase your personal growth and experiences with anxiety. The Grey Rock Method is something I definitely used in middle and high school, without realizing it, because I experienced severe bullying growing up in rural North Carolina. I learned that not reacting and to be invisible was the best way for me to survive. We have to learn to figure out what conflict is worth our time to try to resolve and when we should walk away.
I didn’t know there was a term for that, or that it was a special technique. I’ve been Gray Rocking for years!
"Sorry, not sorry. I'm a grower, can't get much slower, you know......hehnhehn" 😂😂😂😂
The Grey Rock thing seems fine if there is a relationship that is established as broken. If you do it to a friend without talking to them first is manipulative as well and extremely hurtful.
This.
Which is why thats called the cold shoulder. Grey Rock is a distancing technique for people that are hurting you, of course you cant do it to someone who is a friend.
ugh yet another quality vid, love it
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omg that makes so much sense I think I unintentionally would grey rock a lot to cope and get through past manipulative people.... man my eyes are opened
Best insult to say to a tree: you're such a burch! LOL
Flat line face!!!! Love it
OOF I love reliving my college trauma ^^;
on a real note though when can I evolve into Anna Akana? gold content here~
"it was honestly really traumatic" *smiles with her teeth out*
What a birch 🌳
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Anna Akana trying to be boring is like a turtle trying to convince itself, that it's fast enough for a race. 😅
Anna is like the most eccentric person I know. Lol 😆
I can't get a pun outta my head - when you said, we've talked our whole lives i just keep thinking leaves instead of lives lol
"I'm leafing"
"Then leaf."
@@briannagravely9349 hahaha treemendous
Seedlings! I love it
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Loving the backdrop!
i love how honest Anna is over her past problems makes it easier to confront mine
Didnt know I needed Anna and her friends being trees, but I absolutely needed it
* *Starts reading about plants* * : you know what this reminds me of? My friends!
~ Mark Watney (45) Botanist
Watch how people in your life treat other people. If they're awful to some, it's only a matter of time they're going to be awful to you.
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You killed it with the tree puns!
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Your skit is always fun
Oh, I'm absolutely loving these scetches with your flatmates!!! It looks like you have such a good time!
"vine... leaf me" disappointed they didnt just evolve into trees slowly every cut away lmao
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You're such a lovely, kind and amazing person, Anna
I don't know that fact about trees. Interesting 🤔
What a beautiful font !
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we now have the wobbuffet effect... yes it was inspired by the pokemon.. i know... but what it does is basically letting them throw abusive stuff then copy their pattern when they think that they are winning... sometimes one rebuttal can silence their ego.
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I'm so intrigued by the tree book
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thank you for making your videos! I'm dealing with a manipulative ex and grey rocking is helping me a lot. I hope you know how much you're helping people
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Love this! I’m loving how often you upload with such deep content! 💜
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