I cut off from my person too. There was still some attachment left in me.. I'm trying my best to move ahead. Trying to work on myself. I realised that no matter who you have in your life who says they'll be with you forever no matter what by the end of the day it's literally just you and your fight. Don't give up. Don't go back. Find decipline. Work. Grow.
The hardest thing is not letting go but to know when to let go because if you don't hold on to anything else than yourself then everything is pointless
@@indivestor as ram dass was told, you're in school, why not take the curriculum. yes deep inside the more we let go we find a spirit or something deeper, BUT, in this life and this incarnation you partly are an organic blob with an ego, you can run from it, or invite it in for tea, good luck bud
I started to do this as I got older. It's a good piece of advice and I just wish I knew it when I was younger. Granted I still struggle with letting go, but I find cutting them out of my life completely helps the healing process and I recover faster.
It’s important to not become too jaded when you undergo this transformation. Happened to me in my early 20’s. Life’s good now but there was a period where everything I did was to stick it to someone. It was my main motivation. Very Powerful, yes, but also toxic after a while. Need to develop good mental practices following a Self Separation such as this. You’ll accomplish just as much but also be much happier and more likable…..Yes, it was a girl Lol. Fucking always. Tom and Charles are absolutely right though. Just grow the right way. Keep ya head up, fellas. It’s all gravy
Popped up when I needed to hear this. Man this year has been hard. I often wonder why stuff happens to me when I start to get happy. Either I cause my own misery or other people’s actions do. I get so wrapped up in this, get so anxious that I forget to breathe and take care of myself. Maybe letting it be is the best idea. Sometimes you gotta let nature run its course. Thank you Tom Hardy
I was very well-rounded in my youth with extracurriculars: boy scouts, Spanish, multiple sports, multiple instruments, chess, etc. In high school I dropped most to really focus on school, with the exception of one instrument and one sport. I put the cello away when I finally went to college, but managed to go Div. 1 in the sport. It was 20ish hours a week of lifting, lessons, and practice for 4 years, and I almost died once while competing. When I graduated college, I realized that a lot of my teammates continued to fight to stay relevant in the sport despite variable success and no opportunities, sending themselves on a path to become a coach at some mediocre club. I saw in that moment that despite how attached I was to the sport, I could never respect myself if I didn't go to medical school like I had always planned. It hurt bad putting all my equipment in a box and being done with it, like cutting off a limb, but I had to do it or else I would have drowned.
Reading your comment made me realize that I was going through the same these past few months, the sadness and depression of letting go of something you invested your time in is excruciatingly painful but wow
At first I immediately appreciated your comment, and I still do and I respect your decisions. But frankly, you cutting your joy from your life is the opposite of what Bronson's advice meant, in my interpretation of it. Cutting off a leg is necessary in a drowning situation. Cutting off that mental blockade is necessary in mental health crisis. I don't know what your crisis was, I don't mean to diminish your experience. But giving up on something that gives you joy is not the way to go. Unless that is what you intend to do, in that case go ahead. But there are things that you just can't let go and they are of a painful nature, not joyful. Parting with them is regardless still difficult, so again, I'm not trying to diminish your experience. I acknowledge it must have been painful for you. Anyway I hope you are happy wherever you are, and apologies for misinterpreting your situation which I'm certain I am in some ways.
Was rejected by a girl I have loved pretty much my entire adult life. I was stuck as she recently integrated into my friend group and got a boyfriend. I couldn't stomach being around that. She would still engage with me go out of her way to talk to me, only in a group setting, even do things like touch me and grab my hand. I recently called her and told her to leave me alone going forward. It was the longest conversation we ever had and will for sure be the last. I am hurting but I hope I feel better soon about it.
Yeah it's difficult when you're in the same friendship group. But she seems to still care about you a lot. It's neither your fault nor hers. I understand that it's still difficult to be around her though but you'll find someone who feels the same way. x
I feel you, same thing happened to me when I was in college, although I did not propose, but an obsessive crush. Whenever she saw me (with her boyfriend), she had that look that pierced my heart. I believed she was the one and felt like I was a failure. This disturbed me and pushed me into depression for well over 6 years. Post college, I started working on myself, getting into shape, getting good at my career. Now I have a lot of females looking at me on a daily basis, which makes me happy. I also have one crush in my office, who is actually reciprocating. So, be good to yourself and when the time is right, your person will come to you. Till then, keep grinding and work on yourself. That love, that butterflies WILL come. Do not worry. Also, strangely, I was talking to a common friend of ours and came to understand that the crush I had in college is literally a bad person. In hindsight, it is good we did not get what we wanted back then. Keep working! You're gonna thank yourself later on :)
@@a_rod1678 Thanks for all the support lol. Arguably more in a day from a RUclips comment than I’ve received from “real friends” over years. You’re right all I can do is improve myself and be open to finding someone truly open to returning my feelings. Feel very isolated at the moment. Like I said I can’t stomach pal-ing around w her and her boyfriend and now I can’t hang out w MY friends without them being there. Sometimes I can’t believe this outcome because she wasn’t even their friends until they completely randomly ran into her at a bar 2 ish years ago. I feel like I’m being punished sometimes here. They’re all having a get together tomorrow and I’ll be by myself. I also was added without asking to a group text including her so I get fun updates about what her and her BF are up to. I wanna just change my number.
It’s kinda crazy to see this video pop on my RUclips especially when I’m literally going through a breakup now with a woman who I love it’s been a bit tough but to hear this words definitely brings clarity to mind on what I must do cutting it off letting it go though there’s apart of me that doesn’t won’t to let go but I know I got to though for myself seeing this came at the right time
Very true, after a decade of drinking to self medicate through low self esteem, feeling lost, and overall depression, I finally quit alcohol. I cleared my head, went through the pain of looking my self in the mirror and saying “this isn’t anyones fault but your own, so how do I fix myself?”. I lost friends during this transition that weren’t good for me, I ended up going through loneliness of a drastic change in my social life, and put myself in a stressful situation in order to become self employed. Well 5 years later, I’ve never been happier in my entire life. I cut off something that was painful to do and because of that I am here today. I knew it would suck but I knew what I had to do if I wanted to survive and live a life true to myself.
"My Momma always said you got to put the past behind you before you can move on. And I think that's what my running was all about." - Quote from "Forrest Gump"
I’ve heard this story before, and it really helped me through a relationship I was in that ended. Best advice I’ve ever been handed. You can’t move forward if you’re holding onto the past.
RUclips can do some crazy sh!T...I mean, how this popped up on my feed I will never know......but I really needed this....I only had 4 hours of sleep lastnight....thinking it's time for me to let go....this really helped.
The mind desires experiences so much, positive or negative, it will loop the event and create scenarios to continue to recreate the emotional experience. Why does it do this because it has no consciousness. In order to experience this world you need consciousness. Without consciousness you don't experience the world like when you are sleeping. If you don't experience the world neither does your mind. The first rule is to understand that we aren't the mind, it was given to us. So how do we quiet the mind... We never confront it, we allow the thoughts no matter how painful to come at full force and accept them like clouds passing in the sky. It takes practise and time. If you confront the mind you give it power in this world of illusion, it will give you depression and anxiety. Repeat for a long time 'Every thing we experience here is not true.' When you find your mind racing with thoughts repeat the words I am I am I am, and keep holding onto that I am and you'll notice the emotional turmoil reduce. Over time as you do not fight against the thoughts the mind will realise it is defeated and become quiet. It took me a long time to learn that emotions are not our own. Stop talking and learn to observe in this life. Living in the past creates depression and living in the future creates fear.
Recently found out the girl I was in love with had been cheating on me and lying to me throughout our entire relationship. The wound is still fresh and I can't think clearly, everyday is a struggle but I know I'll get through it. Need to let go of the humanity I gave her and need to rebuild myself from the ground up. Seeing people's experiences gives me motivation that this unbearable pain won't last too long and I will come out of it a lot stronger.
You don't need selfish self serving snakes like that in your life dude , it's a blessing in disguise man . Been there more than once , you get hardened to it over time & realise that most people aren't really worth your time and effort . There are exceptions , try not to let the bad taint the good , but move on as soon as you're ready mate . No prizes for wallowing in darkness . Go inside to learn more about what you deserve & require . Then get ready to recognize when a good one comes along .
That's whatI'm facing right now, and that's the only way to go: "Cut It OFF NOOOW" Hope that those who are through the same situation, win anyway, no matter what! Bless ya
Man, how did the RUclips algorithm RANDOMLY showed me this video today, as I'm in the middle of ruminating, overthinking and grieving for a friendship that just turned to charcoal and it feels like I'm flagellating myself because of it? AND HOW CAN THIS ADVICE BE SO SPOT-ON FOR ME, RIGHT NOW??? Oh, right: _the video._ Nothing further needs to be said: we need to let go in order to move on, no matter how much it hurts me because it's better than dying or getting stuck in the past.
I was in a ten year relationship, eventually found out she was cheating on me for months. Told her "the last ten years aren't even worth remembering"... "good bye and good riddance". Changed my number and never spoke to her since... it's been a tough past few months but the grief she caused has made me a better man. Love is blind.
Doing a reset on my life was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I simplified everything diet, routine, and mindset. I picked it all up from the book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential
had it! felt like lobotomy to stop sensing the hole in heart, no idea what I was dragging around for a while, but life gets re-oriented and ended up being way easier
I like this expanded metaphor, but how many will actually understand it? Letting go is so very hard to do, but often when you do, the next chapter in life brings so much more satisfaction. Don't live in the past. Stay in the present.
Exactly!! Im brazilian, understand many videos in english, although Im obviously not a native speaker.. but the accent of this guy.. without legends cant understand even a word. thank you!
It's about prioritizing your own well being and surrounding yourself with those who lift you up, not bring you down. It's okay to set boundaries for your peace
Damn…. Hits hard tho. I currently have a On-Off situation and she cant decide if she wants a new start or not. Even i have changed, she cant even tell if she wants it tho. So i guess if somebody cant tell if she/he has feelings for someone. Its not worth i guess hard to admit… Brothers/Sister no matter what your currently in YOU got this! much love out there!
Brother…as soon as you decide you don’t want her anymore, she will come after you. But then it will be too late. Be with someone who chooses you from the get go.
she doesn't want a relationship, she wants to be able to say she's in one either for comfort or for a sex buddy without telling people its just a fwb thing. she doesn't love you, you have to leave her behind and move on bro. i worded this very poorly but i think you get my point.
My gf just became a stripper after being together for 7 years. I’m 23 and Ik it’s just my first heart break but life seems pointless….. she was all I knew, but just because we had money problems she decided to do her thing and I’m having trouble cutting her off….. we have a kid together so it’s not all easy….she is telling me she loves me but
Mate, you serious? What, do you think she’s becoming a stripper because she enjoys it or something? You have money problems to the point she literally has to sell herself to keep you guys afloat, and you’re talking about heartbreak? You have a kid for fucks sake, maybe you are fine with living in poor conditions, but is that the childhood you want to give them? To me it sounds like she is taking a drastic measure to keep you guys from falling apart, be a man and put in the work, either you get a well paying job that puts all of you in a good living space, or you shut up and do the best you can to be there for your kid and keep the family out of poverty. Don’t be a coward.
Just do your own thing and forget about her. Try to build a better life for you and your child. Focus on making money don’t let her know and don’t take her bacon forget what she’s says seriously this is not love. She doesn’t see you as a man
@@VincentChavarria-u1q I think you‘re being really selfish, she‘s literally selling her body to keep you guys afloat and you‘re just thinking about your pride. Either you find a way to provide for the three of you to get her out of that space, or you keep your mouth shut and try to do your best to raise your child. Do you think she‘s doing it out of enjoyment? Because to me it seems you‘re not taking your child seriously and don‘t care if they grow up in poverty, to the point you‘re willing to break up your relationship just because your ego got hurt. Pull yourself together man.
@@SSS_pider Holy shit dude I'd rather grow up in poverty then have my momma be a stripper. You can make money in other ways, dude should just ditch her, you can raise your child by yourself, bet it'll turn up better then if the child was to be raised by a stripper
2 months ago the person I love left my life overnight, he simply left and closed all forms of contact after ending a relationship that we had been in for almost 7 years. Later I found out about infidelities (I assumed it but I decided to trust her) and several important lies throughout the last few years of the relationship or more. Now I know that he is in another relationship that started some time before breaking up with us, in part it is funny and sad. In 4 days it's her birthday, it will be the first time in years that I don't say anything to her, actually it's the first time in years that I don't talk to her, it's been 2 months now and it hurts every day. I should hate her and get her out of my head, but I can't, she probably doesn't think about me in the slightest, I mean she never thought about how I would feel and I cut myself out of her life like it was nothing, despite everything I can't. forget her, it's funny because I can't forgive her either, I never could, in part I still love her.
Great video & message. I'm going through the same thing. Love the raw audio quality and hardys impression. Letting go is (one of) the most important tool to learn.
It wouldnt have happened to me! Cut it Off!". Saying it is one thing, doing it is another. The ones boasting about it in theory are the ones most likely to chicken out when actually confronted with it.
It seems to me that the message was different. Cutting off a piece of yourself does not mean breaking up and forgetting a person. Tom said he suffered from doing the same things in relationships. Cutting off a piece of yourself means saying goodbye and changing to some of your traits that are hard to part with, be it infantilism or something else
Tom hardy did a movie called Bronson about the famous prisoner named Charles Bronson. The real Charles Bronson sort of became friends with him after the movie came out because he thought hardy did a faithful portrayal. Bronson often would call Hardy to give advice like the video
Oi looks like Charlie and Christ had a thing in common. haha this wonderful🔥 “ And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.” Matthew 5:30 ESV
ON the day ON your judgement when you stand before god and Tell him that you have killed one of His true mirracles,what are you gonna say,IT was your Job you got paid by 28
What this video omits is that the man giving him this advice is Charles Bronson. A petty criminal, sociopath and violent convict who has spent his whole adult life in jail 🤣
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"I can't be with a woman and I can't be without one"
Same SН!Т bro.
That’s the life of a Dismissive avoidant man
This is gold.
That IS life as a man. It's misery on both ends OR you tread water in the middle wondering when you're going to be miserable again.
@@dinkmartini3236 that’s a life of a dismissive avoidant man. Not all men
I cut off from my person too. There was still some attachment left in me.. I'm trying my best to move ahead. Trying to work on myself. I realised that no matter who you have in your life who says they'll be with you forever no matter what by the end of the day it's literally just you and your fight. Don't give up. Don't go back. Find decipline. Work. Grow.
I needed this today, thank you.
Thanks 🙏🏻
That is really bad advice. Cut what off? Attachment is very normal, you grow out of it. You do NOT cut it off.
Thank you for this 🙏🏼
@@indivestorNot all attachment is healthy or good for you! 101 learn about other people too.
This actually gave me chills. Tom is a good storyteller.
it gave you chills? Why? Because what he was saying was so sh ite?
@@indivestor He gave actual advice, unlike your useless comment.
@@indivestor who hurt you?
The hardest thing is not letting go but to know when to let go because if you don't hold on to anything else than yourself then everything is pointless
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its sort of an illusion chap, there is nothing else to hold onto but yourself, grow and be strong, clear out the closet of your past by facing it
No holding on to the false believe that you exist as an individual ego is what you need to let go of
@@indivestor as ram dass was told, you're in school, why not take the curriculum. yes deep inside the more we let go we find a spirit or something deeper, BUT, in this life and this incarnation you partly are an organic blob with an ego, you can run from it, or invite it in for tea, good luck bud
@@indivestor we all do exist as an individual ego as well as the god head that we all are, they're both the same thing playing drag with each other
real.
i mourn hard on relationships that I forget to live in the present.
I started to do this as I got older. It's a good piece of advice and I just wish I knew it when I was younger. Granted I still struggle with letting go, but I find cutting them out of my life completely helps the healing process and I recover faster.
It’s important to not become too jaded when you undergo this transformation. Happened to me in my early 20’s. Life’s good now but there was a period where everything I did was to stick it to someone. It was my main motivation. Very Powerful, yes, but also toxic after a while. Need to develop good mental practices following a Self Separation such as this. You’ll accomplish just as much but also be much happier and more likable…..Yes, it was a girl Lol. Fucking always.
Tom and Charles are absolutely right though. Just grow the right way. Keep ya head up, fellas. It’s all gravy
Popped up when I needed to hear this. Man this year has been hard. I often wonder why stuff happens to me when I start to get happy. Either I cause my own misery or other people’s actions do. I get so wrapped up in this, get so anxious that I forget to breathe and take care of myself. Maybe letting it be is the best idea. Sometimes you gotta let nature run its course. Thank you Tom Hardy
Same here Brother keep your head up
its different when nature involves in your suffering
@@visstormnature is duality but the soul is one. In order to suffer there must be the opposite. Realising we are the soul is a way to realise bliss
I was very well-rounded in my youth with extracurriculars: boy scouts, Spanish, multiple sports, multiple instruments, chess, etc. In high school I dropped most to really focus on school, with the exception of one instrument and one sport. I put the cello away when I finally went to college, but managed to go Div. 1 in the sport. It was 20ish hours a week of lifting, lessons, and practice for 4 years, and I almost died once while competing. When I graduated college, I realized that a lot of my teammates continued to fight to stay relevant in the sport despite variable success and no opportunities, sending themselves on a path to become a coach at some mediocre club. I saw in that moment that despite how attached I was to the sport, I could never respect myself if I didn't go to medical school like I had always planned. It hurt bad putting all my equipment in a box and being done with it, like cutting off a limb, but I had to do it or else I would have drowned.
i got goosebumps my man. good luck to you!
@@greatgiginmyroom5950 Thank you, I appreciate it. You too!
Reading your comment made me realize that I was going through the same these past few months, the sadness and depression of letting go of something you invested your time in is excruciatingly painful but wow
At first I immediately appreciated your comment, and I still do and I respect your decisions. But frankly, you cutting your joy from your life is the opposite of what Bronson's advice meant, in my interpretation of it. Cutting off a leg is necessary in a drowning situation. Cutting off that mental blockade is necessary in mental health crisis. I don't know what your crisis was, I don't mean to diminish your experience. But giving up on something that gives you joy is not the way to go. Unless that is what you intend to do, in that case go ahead. But there are things that you just can't let go and they are of a painful nature, not joyful. Parting with them is regardless still difficult, so again, I'm not trying to diminish your experience. I acknowledge it must have been painful for you. Anyway I hope you are happy wherever you are, and apologies for misinterpreting your situation which I'm certain I am in some ways.
You have such a way with words
Was rejected by a girl I have loved pretty much my entire adult life. I was stuck as she recently integrated into my friend group and got a boyfriend. I couldn't stomach being around that. She would still engage with me go out of her way to talk to me, only in a group setting, even do things like touch me and grab my hand. I recently called her and told her to leave me alone going forward. It was the longest conversation we ever had and will for sure be the last. I am hurting but I hope I feel better soon about it.
Yeah it's difficult when you're in the same friendship group. But she seems to still care about you a lot.
It's neither your fault nor hers.
I understand that it's still difficult to be around her though but you'll find someone who feels the same way. x
@ Thank you.
I feel you, same thing happened to me when I was in college, although I did not propose, but an obsessive crush. Whenever she saw me (with her boyfriend), she had that look that pierced my heart. I believed she was the one and felt like I was a failure. This disturbed me and pushed me into depression for well over 6 years. Post college, I started working on myself, getting into shape, getting good at my career. Now I have a lot of females looking at me on a daily basis, which makes me happy. I also have one crush in my office, who is actually reciprocating. So, be good to yourself and when the time is right, your person will come to you. Till then, keep grinding and work on yourself. That love, that butterflies WILL come. Do not worry. Also, strangely, I was talking to a common friend of ours and came to understand that the crush I had in college is literally a bad person. In hindsight, it is good we did not get what we wanted back then.
Keep working! You're gonna thank yourself later on :)
@@a_rod1678 Thanks for all the support lol. Arguably more in a day from a RUclips comment than I’ve received from “real friends” over years.
You’re right all I can do is improve myself and be open to finding someone truly open to returning my feelings.
Feel very isolated at the moment. Like I said I can’t stomach pal-ing around w her and her boyfriend and now I can’t hang out w MY friends without them being there. Sometimes I can’t believe this outcome because she wasn’t even their friends until they completely randomly ran into her at a bar 2 ish years ago. I feel like I’m being punished sometimes here. They’re all having a get together tomorrow and I’ll be by myself. I also was added without asking to a group text including her so I get fun updates about what her and her BF are up to. I wanna just change my number.
big move, well played, good luck with what comes next big man!
It’s kinda crazy to see this video pop on my RUclips especially when I’m literally going through a breakup now with a woman who I love it’s been a bit tough but to hear this words definitely brings clarity to mind on what I must do cutting it off letting it go though there’s apart of me that doesn’t won’t to let go but I know I got to though for myself seeing this came at the right time
This popped up at the right time
Very true, after a decade of drinking to self medicate through low self esteem, feeling lost, and overall depression, I finally quit alcohol. I cleared my head, went through the pain of looking my self in the mirror and saying “this isn’t anyones fault but your own, so how do I fix myself?”. I lost friends during this transition that weren’t good for me, I ended up going through loneliness of a drastic change in my social life, and put myself in a stressful situation in order to become self employed. Well 5 years later, I’ve never been happier in my entire life. I cut off something that was painful to do and because of that I am here today. I knew it would suck but I knew what I had to do if I wanted to survive and live a life true to myself.
You aren't alone, our stories are very similar. The shadow work is imperative, as is taking out the trash. Kudos to you.
Thats awesome you are living your best life, mad respect 🤝
how did you do that? i'm stuck.... my eyes are wet.. i dont know what to do...
Amazing man, happy for you 👍
"My Momma always said
you got to put the past behind you before you can move on.
And I think that's what my running was all about."
- Quote from "Forrest Gump"
I’ve heard this story before, and it really helped me through a relationship I was in that ended.
Best advice I’ve ever been handed. You can’t move forward if you’re holding onto the past.
RUclips can do some crazy sh!T...I mean, how this popped up on my feed I will never know......but I really needed this....I only had 4 hours of sleep lastnight....thinking it's time for me to let go....this really helped.
The mind desires experiences so much, positive or negative, it will loop the event and create scenarios to continue to recreate the emotional experience. Why does it do this because it has no consciousness. In order to experience this world you need consciousness. Without consciousness you don't experience the world like when you are sleeping. If you don't experience the world neither does your mind. The first rule is to understand that we aren't the mind, it was given to us. So how do we quiet the mind... We never confront it, we allow the thoughts no matter how painful to come at full force and accept them like clouds passing in the sky. It takes practise and time. If you confront the mind you give it power in this world of illusion, it will give you depression and anxiety. Repeat for a long time 'Every thing we experience here is not true.' When you find your mind racing with thoughts repeat the words I am I am I am, and keep holding onto that I am and you'll notice the emotional turmoil reduce. Over time as you do not fight against the thoughts the mind will realise it is defeated and become quiet.
It took me a long time to learn that emotions are not our own. Stop talking and learn to observe in this life. Living in the past creates depression and living in the future creates fear.
Recently found out the girl I was in love with had been cheating on me and lying to me throughout our entire relationship. The wound is still fresh and I can't think clearly, everyday is a struggle but I know I'll get through it. Need to let go of the humanity I gave her and need to rebuild myself from the ground up. Seeing people's experiences gives me motivation that this unbearable pain won't last too long and I will come out of it a lot stronger.
You don't need selfish self serving snakes like that in your life dude , it's a blessing in disguise man . Been there more than once , you get hardened to it over time & realise that most people aren't really worth your time and effort .
There are exceptions , try not to let the bad taint the good , but move on as soon as you're ready mate . No prizes for wallowing in darkness .
Go inside to learn more about what you deserve & require . Then get ready to recognize when a good one comes along .
In my case it will probably at least last a year but I will deal with it and every month that passes will bring a little bit more relieve.
Just broke up with my girlfriend and suddenly my RUclips recommended is filled to the brim with advice on breakups...
They’re listening in on you, mate. Sorry to hear about the break up, and good luck with it. Time and space, time and space….
Well don’t forget too easy, you’ll laugh soon.
Sounds like you ARE being watched and feed content that they think is appropriate.
That's whatI'm facing right now, and that's the only way to go: "Cut It OFF NOOOW"
Hope that those who are through the same situation, win anyway, no matter what! Bless ya
Man, how did the RUclips algorithm RANDOMLY showed me this video today, as I'm in the middle of ruminating, overthinking and grieving for a friendship that just turned to charcoal and it feels like I'm flagellating myself because of it? AND HOW CAN THIS ADVICE BE SO SPOT-ON FOR ME, RIGHT NOW???
Oh, right: _the video._ Nothing further needs to be said: we need to let go in order to move on, no matter how much it hurts me because it's better than dying or getting stuck in the past.
I was in a ten year relationship, eventually found out she was cheating on me for months. Told her "the last ten years aren't even worth remembering"... "good bye and good riddance". Changed my number and never spoke to her since... it's been a tough past few months but the grief she caused has made me a better man. Love is blind.
Doing a reset on my life was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I simplified everything diet, routine, and mindset. I picked it all up from the book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential
Bot and scam
Stop promoting this shit book
Bot
Wow. I'm going through a painfully breakup right now and a custody battle. The algorithm knew i needed this.
learned this the hard way last year (let go) and now i'm on top of world :)
had it! felt like lobotomy to stop sensing the hole in heart, no idea what I was dragging around for a while, but life gets re-oriented and ended up being way easier
Man hes a good actor
God I love this man
I like this expanded metaphor, but how many will actually understand it? Letting go is so very hard to do, but often when you do, the next chapter in life brings so much more satisfaction. Don't live in the past. Stay in the present.
Yeah I can guarantee it’s worth it ,.,
I've seen this video before, but couldn't understand anything he was saying lmao.
Thanks for the subs. Very powerful. Glad this popped up
Exactly!! Im brazilian, understand many videos in english, although Im obviously not a native speaker.. but the accent of this guy.. without legends cant understand even a word. thank you!
you're absolutely right
PURE WISDOM.
... I must have watched this clip tens of times over the years, in various edits & across numerous channels, the message and meaning never gets old.
Absolutely awesome.
Shalom Mr. Solomons, thanks for the advice
This is SO MUCH better advice than "let it go."
as I read books both secular and religious, surrender seems like the most important common theme
Need this
Brilliant . It's true
thx. this hit hard
Beautiful video
It's about prioritizing your own well being and surrounding yourself with those who lift you up, not bring you down. It's okay to set boundaries for your peace
Damn…. Hits hard tho.
I currently have a On-Off situation and she cant decide if she wants a new start or not. Even i have changed, she cant even tell if she wants it tho. So i guess if somebody cant tell if she/he has feelings for someone. Its not worth i guess hard to admit…
Brothers/Sister no matter what your currently in YOU got this! much love out there!
Brother…as soon as you decide you don’t want her anymore, she will come after you. But then it will be too late. Be with someone who chooses you from the get go.
she doesn't want a relationship, she wants to be able to say she's in one either for comfort or for a sex buddy without telling people its just a fwb thing. she doesn't love you, you have to leave her behind and move on bro. i worded this very poorly but i think you get my point.
@@RoadToAesthetics ty mate!
@@BryanFarani Bro ty for your words!
@@shinra.miller honor yourself, brother. Get the fuck out. Much love 🙏🏿💪🏿
Starting my reset today… wish me luck.
How the hell did You Tube know I needed to hear this right now! How?
Amen!
Its Charles Bronson's advice, but yeah great memo.
Broke up with my girlfriend today. (I think? It's confusing.) Good message. Good timing.
They are the ones that will not let it go
I really needed to hear this. I'm done with the wife and kids.
You can't blame the kids
"chopping off what's incomplete and saying: 'Now, it's complete because it's ended here"
Tom Hardy's have talent
Just great.
Truth.
My gf just became a stripper after being together for 7 years. I’m 23 and Ik it’s just my first heart break but life seems pointless….. she was all I knew, but just because we had money problems she decided to do her thing and I’m having trouble cutting her off….. we have a kid together so it’s not all easy….she is telling me she loves me but
Mate, you serious? What, do you think she’s becoming a stripper because she enjoys it or something? You have money problems to the point she literally has to sell herself to keep you guys afloat, and you’re talking about heartbreak? You have a kid for fucks sake, maybe you are fine with living in poor conditions, but is that the childhood you want to give them? To me it sounds like she is taking a drastic measure to keep you guys from falling apart, be a man and put in the work, either you get a well paying job that puts all of you in a good living space, or you shut up and do the best you can to be there for your kid and keep the family out of poverty. Don’t be a coward.
Just do your own thing and forget about her. Try to build a better life for you and your child. Focus on making money don’t let her know and don’t take her bacon forget what she’s says seriously this is not love. She doesn’t see you as a man
@@McLovin-ko3ff Did the guy ask you for advice? Your advice is even predictable and bad.
@@VincentChavarria-u1q I think you‘re being really selfish, she‘s literally selling her body to keep you guys afloat and you‘re just thinking about your pride. Either you find a way to provide for the three of you to get her out of that space, or you keep your mouth shut and try to do your best to raise your child. Do you think she‘s doing it out of enjoyment? Because to me it seems you‘re not taking your child seriously and don‘t care if they grow up in poverty, to the point you‘re willing to break up your relationship just because your ego got hurt. Pull yourself together man.
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Holy shit dude I'd rather grow up in poverty then have my momma be a stripper. You can make money in other ways, dude should just ditch her, you can raise your child by yourself, bet it'll turn up better then if the child was to be raised by a stripper
You gotta cut out what it is inside you that drives you to make the same mistakes
True
Charles Bronson's Powerful Advice on Letting Go
I don't think there's anything left to cut off. I'm just gonna end up being a shell of a person.
The title of this video should be renamed to ‘Charles Bronson’s powerful advice on letting go’
Wow..😊❤
I thought he was going to say he slipped his foot out of his shoe and let his shoe go, but no, we went straight for the hacksaw lol
2 months ago the person I love left my life overnight, he simply left and closed all forms of contact after ending a relationship that we had been in for almost 7 years. Later I found out about infidelities (I assumed it but I decided to trust her) and several important lies throughout the last few years of the relationship or more. Now I know that he is in another relationship that started some time before breaking up with us, in part it is funny and sad.
In 4 days it's her birthday, it will be the first time in years that I don't say anything to her, actually it's the first time in years that I don't talk to her, it's been 2 months now and it hurts every day.
I should hate her and get her out of my head, but I can't, she probably doesn't think about me in the slightest, I mean she never thought about how I would feel and I cut myself out of her life like it was nothing, despite everything I can't. forget her, it's funny because I can't forgive her either, I never could, in part I still love her.
BruTAL. I dig it.
Great video & message. I'm going through the same thing. Love the raw audio quality and hardys impression.
Letting go is (one of) the most important tool to learn.
Sliced it
Going through a divorce at the moment, been together 24 years, shit hurts.
Like in movie 127 hours...just cut it off
It wouldnt have happened to me! Cut it Off!". Saying it is one thing, doing it is another.
The ones boasting about it in theory are the ones most likely to chicken out when actually confronted with it.
Dating/ life advice from Charles Bronson. ❤❤❤❤❤
What’s not included is the bit after where he talks about how much Bronson loves steak
1:49 that’s Alfie Solomons speaking right there😂
It seems to me that the message was different. Cutting off a piece of yourself does not mean breaking up and forgetting a person. Tom said he suffered from doing the same things in relationships. Cutting off a piece of yourself means saying goodbye and changing to some of your traits that are hard to part with, be it infantilism or something else
Misleading title. Tom told the advice, very well, that he received from Charles Branson (renowned prisoner, not the movie star)
Charles Bronson the relationship therapist.😮
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Sounds alot like something bane would do
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Yep never again
Holy crap that hit way, way too close to home...
If it was my foot 🦶 I’d do it now! But it’s my emotion my heart my love my hurt so HOW DO I CUT IT OFF?
Charlie spent a loooot of time Thinking
More precisely, we can say it is Charles Bronson Salvador advise....
Charles Bronson was a badass
Who's Tom Hardy?
I mean, sound as it seems at a glance, I'm not sure _Charles_ _Bronson_ is the best source of longterm mental advice.
So did he actually get advice from Charles Bronson, or is his mate named Charlie Bronson? Now I can't get this question out of my head!!
Tom hardy did a movie called Bronson about the famous prisoner named Charles Bronson. The real Charles Bronson sort of became friends with him after the movie came out because he thought hardy did a faithful portrayal. Bronson often would call Hardy to give advice like the video
@@hypergogic3269 What a load off my mind. Thanks
Oi looks like Charlie and Christ had a thing in common.
haha this wonderful🔥
“ And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.”
Matthew 5:30 ESV
i can do this
ouch!!! 😞
Rather listen to Jesus than a celeb. Nuff said.
Bro😢😢😢
ON the day ON your judgement when you stand before god and Tell him that you have killed one of His true mirracles,what are you gonna say,IT was your Job you got paid by 28
too many women with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) out here now
always been like this
This is from the Bible.
What verse?
Something doesn't feel right using the analogy of an innocent and helpless kid drowning in a flood, but I expected worse from Charles Bronson lol
In fairness, this is great advice LMAO
What this video omits is that the man giving him this advice is Charles Bronson. A petty criminal, sociopath and violent convict who has spent his whole adult life in jail 🤣
Jesus said something about that too. Guess he knew a thing or too. Somehow I am always surprised.
Ah ah, this is hilarious, coming form that dude, cold as f#$$ but real motherf$#%#$
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