At 62, I began using the latter half of my first name, thereby changing it up just enough. Also, I deactivated by Facebook because I was dragging around people from high school who I only said “happy birthday” and “your dinner looks great” to. Then I re-created myself a brand new Instagram for just my art and photography. I grayrocked every single one of my narcissistic family of origin members who seemed hellbent on destroying me. And then I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Now I take long walks in the woods and I garden and I paint and I LOVE each and every day. I hope you, reading this, finds your own path to true inner peace. ❤
Just did this: personal history and others tasks are so tiring and unbearable. I’m 45 and my b cluster brother forced me to move forard without toxic family. It’s great on the other side ❤
@@gjondunadan5852 thats a ridiculously unfair statement. U just are being confrontational and inflammatory. You’re gaslighting. I recognize narcissism now and protect myself from it. You can try stoic philosophy to learn to deal with narcs. Its helped me. Good luck!!
I sold my house and most of my belongings. I threw away ALL of my pictures and scrapbooks. Everytime I looked at those pictures it didn't really bring me joy. It wasn't sadness either since most of those pictures were taken during good times. I just realized I couldn't go back so why not just leave it there and let it live as good memeries in my mind.
I did the SAME thing. It felt so light walking out that front door. Bless Wayne Dyer's words. This helps. We did it, and it IS okay. I see with new eyes at 60.
It’s still the brain/behavior study controlling information. Another loss. My baby and parents died, I divorced b/c of abuse, not “differences”, my health was harmed b/c I was in non/consensual testing. Horrible times in this land but do we want more?
@@bjacob9998sorry to hear about your loss. And the way you have gone over the situation is unimaginable. You can still use the acceptance practice to go over and embrace the now. Also try Sadhguru's inner-engineering, this practice helped me immensely.
We know this but we keep needing reminders because they always creep up. We can’t change who we are but we can always move forward because we only have one direction. This is not an easy journey and as hard as you try, it most certainly will always come back. And that is why all these self help gurus continue to make money. They convince you that it is easy to change with just a change of mindset. What they miss is the people who see you.
"They convince you that it is easy to change with just a change of mindset." I don't know if they mean to suggest changing your mindset will be easy. I think it takes a lot of diligent work but can be done. Learning mindfulness using meditation is very helpful but it takes genuine practice every day. But it seeps into your life and you gradually catch destructive thinking and begin deliberately changing over to constructive thinking.
I have been listening to his videos for some years and he has really helped me making huge shifts in my life. I hope that everyone reading this finds love, joy, happiness, abundance and peace in their lives.
Thank you for sending kind wishes on everyone. I’ve found this video to, sort of, give me permission to let go and exist in the present. I think I’ll take the cue from you to rewatch it from time. Be well! 😊🌸
Thank you so much for your kind wishes to us all. I think that one can be traumatized so much in life that you reach a point where all you want is peace and happiness. Not happiness in terms of getting stuff so much, but the happiness of no longer being demeaned by one's past misadventures, and the quiet of the soul; God's peace.
All problems have components. Not all components are in your control or are created by you, consequently a person does not entirely create a problem. At best, you have a triad of a problem situation. Two thirds are outside of your control, leaving you the third that was created or you have control over. The problem could be the lack of education or the wrong type of education (ideologies come to mind here) Where there are problems created by an amount of learning incorrect information and applying it to reality (where you are part of everyone else being in the same bubble), it was not created by you but accepted by you as true. There are more instances than not that this does NOT apply to.
@@PClanner maybe, but we can perpetuate a problem, rather than move past it, because of our current mindset. I think that's what Einstein meant. We can't expect different results if we repeat the same choices, or engage in the same mindset.
Because it's your *PERCEPTION* that it's a problem. Have to work with what's there &/or change your understanding of what you're classifying as a problem
Mary Morrissey and Wayne shared a mentor. Like Wayne, Mary has some great material around letting go of past trauma and patterns. Saving my life now. 🤗🌻🥰
Im in therapy im 70 fit lift weights etc. had some post covid stuff in 2022 its gone. Now chronic pain: burning skin , tendinitis & low back pain. In therapy we talk about my abusive father & health anxiety mother. Im now much worse after 4 months I need to leave the past behind
You have to grieve over your past in order to move past it. Those old emotions are still there trying to give you their message. They must be felt before they will leave you alone.
I'm 43y old. No children. My girl ended our relationship after 14y. A wonderful woman... so sweet, beautiful inside and out. Been 1 year. I'm finally starting to see that I no longer have the need for her to be a part of my story. I'm thinking about moving to a new home... you know why? Because I want to. Me. Maybe I'll be ok.
Give yourself an opportunity to observe what you are surrounded with, when you notice something that catches you attention either in positive or negative way, think about the reason why that made you feel in a certain way. It helps to be present in the moment. It is hard to change yet possible. Your past defines partially your character as a person today and maybe even decisions you make, however if you are not content, give yourself a chance to change for the better and know that present actually is a present given to us, unwrape it and hope for the best and work on becoming the person you would like to be. A happier version of yourself. You can change, first thoughts, then words and finally actions. It is hard, yet possible. It's up to you.
Decide. I am God and there is no other. What I say goes. It's still a process but I keep affirming it as the story pops up but it has less charge and less importance instantly. Intention and commitment bring the decision to be.
It will bother you again, come knocking on your door, or even like a note tied to a rock that smashes through your window if you don’t answer the door!😳😄 That’s why Dyer says to also get help with your issues if you need it. There are many possible forms of help: info/ motivational videos like this one, books, therapists, wise friends, clergy, online and in-person communities, etc. It can be like walking along the beach, maybe you are sad or upset, then you see a lovely shell or rock, and you pick it up and examine it, and maybe you keep it because you like it, and you walk some more and you see another thing you like, and it is free for the taking so you keep that thing too. After a while you may have too much and want to leave some of the less attractive things you found, so you just leave them, with thanks for coming into your life when they did. In this way life comes to with offers and you pick and choose what to take, what to keep and try to hold with respect, and what to leave, with thanks. Relationships are complex so require more patience to cope with, so you may want to seek more perspectives and support about what to do. But if your intent is good (ie helping yourself AND helping others) things will work the best that they can at that time. It’s important to not be in a rush. We often make poor choices when we rush and grab at choices. Don’t be running all over the beach rushing to try and find treasures! Enjoy what you can of your surroundings and watch to see what things you come across, what you notice and choose with care. One more thing he seems to be suggesting is that your experience of life can be like sitting in a movie. If you are not liking this particular movie you can get up and go find a new movie to try. That first movie doesn’t stop playing, and some people stay and watch it, but you can choose to stay, or find a different movie to watch (and some people may go with you, some won’t, and there will new people to watch the new movie with as well🤷🏻♂️). Change is not easy or simple but he is saying it is possible and positive change can be your intent. You can gradually learn to take better care of yourself just as when you practice anything your ability to do that thing improves. There will be ups and downs and progress and setbacks and changes of course, but just try and remember your honest intent( which is hopefully to be a good and helpful person in this world).
It isn't only the negative aspects of your past life you must give up, it's the positive aspects as well. Positives experiences bind you to delusions about yourself and create expectations for the tuture that don't happen. Giving up the past, means the whole past, not just the unpleasant parts.
Nah not at all that's a limited belief that expectations arose only from that..the good memories don't need to be deleted its about state of being ultimately in the now
Sounds Heavenly. Amazing how many people have Narc... family. I'm almost 67 & remembered my Grandparents guarding their peace like their lives depended on it❤
I read Deepak Chopra in the 90s, my life improved. I read your 1st book after that. My life improved more. I read Eckhart Tolle 2 yrs ago. Between the 3 of your very unique styles, i absorbed invaluable enrichment. I know you are gone now, but I've got a feeling that somehow, you've seen this tiny little woman walking in the woods with a heart full of beauty, acceptance and appreciation, no matter the circumstances of my 'Nows'. ♥
When i was at a very low point in my life and in need of guidance, I was flipping through the tv channels one day and came across Wayne Dyer's PBS special called "Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life," which was basically about applying principles in the Tao Te Ching in order to improve your life. Now, 20 years later, I am still applying what ive learned in the the Tao Te Ching and am infinitely greatful for the day that I saw that Wayne Dyer special on PBS, and credit Dr. Dyer and the Tao Te Ching, as being the catalysts for the Man that I have have become and the life that I have lived to this very day. 🙏🏻❤️☯️😁
My thoughts also whilst listening to this 🥺 I watched THE SHIFT again recently…I needed the reminder,and his wise words of gentle advice 🦋May he rest peacefully,closer to source 💫
Many times, it is not just mental/psychological burden we carry but physical/material burden. We accumulate so much material "stuff", it becomes a burden to take care/maintain. We use a lot of resources (both mental and physical) to take care of the material accumulations. We must think of reducing it too. We have to live, but try to reduce the physical accumulations. I am working on reducing the material/physical accumulation which also helps in decluttering your mind. We should constantly engage in introspection, think about what is going on in the world. We are fortunate to have wise men like Dr. Wayne Dyer and others to guide us.
I am getting rid of stuff, too. One of the best books that always helps me to do that is called: Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui by Karen Kingston. It's small and easy to read and explains how clutter holds us down and getting rid of it is freeing.
This is exactly the message I need right now. I am going through a process of releasing all attachments. I did not realise that included letting go of my past. The weight of carrying my past is too much. I am so embracing this today.
Immediately after retiring in 2020 I threw out everything that reminded me of the work I did and stopped talking about the work. I don't remember hearing about doing it but I know now it was right to do. My unhappy neighbors have one thing in common - they are stuck in the past. I tried to encourage them to have new goals for the new year but they couldn't care less.
❤wow- exactly what I did after 25 years in toxic working environment. Leaving there was such a relief that for a full 2 years afterwards I would wake each morning with so much joy in my heart. From there I chose jobs I wanted to do and stayed only as long as I enjoyed them, moving forward to better things each time and learning more about myself in the course of those few years then that 25 year self imposed life sentence! Only remain in touch with one ex-colleague from the old place but I do find them a bit negative and it is so important to stay away from negative energy I believe. Would never set foot back in the old workplace 😊
Some of us out here are debilitated by those things that we experienced and it cripples our lives as a human being and stunting the growth that we need to flourish and become better selves .
Loved Wayne Dyer but disagree with giving up your personal history. I have learned so much from my dysfunctional family and past and my place in it. I was able to transcend the pain, embrace it and move on. Tossing it would be like cutting off my arm . The past will always be apart of me BUT it doesn’t control me rather it has made me stronger and I am able to function well knowing I’ve Dropped the anger, bitterness and embraced the love and joy but cannot be the naïve victim anymore.
I don’t think he’s saying to completely forget your past. He’s really saying to acknowledge what happened, detach yourself from it, learn the lessons and merge yourself into the present moment. Which is all we pretty much ever have.
It sounds like you've done exactly what he's speaking about, don't get too caught up on the exact language. I know people that have missed out on the life in life for many years because they refused to move on and live in the present... they'll cling to a past they feel like they lost and not realize how much of the present is squandered.
For my son, C.J who is battling childhood trauma. You got this and don’t let it deter you from doing all the things that make you happy. Love, Mommy ❤❤❤
I am 63 and start learning this about 3 years ago. It’s a slow process, because the old way of thinking wants to creep back. There are set backs, but I am trying. Throwing negative thoughts out and replace them with positive ones. Spending time in nature to get energy from my collective or give it , whichever at that moment. I like this video. It describes it very simple, even though the process is tough. But I will get there. ❤❤❤
This is really about deprogramming yourself. Our parents, siblings, culture all put us on patterns that don't help our happiness or contentment. All you never needed was a path to self empowerment. It starts by understanding money and how it works. Money buys you time so you can enjoy a sunset. Ignorant buys you slavery. It's that simple. Once you get that under control you no longer need your family and can choose your friends better and you can live your life on your terms and connect with your faith in the best way possible; without bad programming.
I had the pleasure of attending a seminar to see this guy live. I was a small business owner and paid my own way. One of the best events I attended. Still an active small business owner at 74 and use some of the principles every day.
Thanks so much for this teaching. I recall a Zen Koan I heard in past days that today makes sense to me. Someone asked the Master, "What was the purpose for my past; why did I go through all that?" The Master replied, "You go through it so you can toss it away." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
universe supports me through every situation, i am protected and safe something wonderful is happening to me, everything is wonderful, everything has a good reason, i am here to learn
I am just beginning to learn these lessons. I pray Dyers I Am prayer throughout the day. " I am the conquering Presence. I command this Presence to govern perfectly..... ", then fill in the end with my prayer. Seeing that I Am the same Presence as the Universe and letting myself claim my right.to ask anything changed my life.
When I was 15, read Your Erroneous Zones, which changed the way I looked at life. Now in my sixties, these videos started yesterday to pop up in my feed… and so glad. Had forgotten how good Wayne Dyer was at helping to create clarity.
He was such a pioneer and a prolific writer and teacher in the early days of personal development and spiritual discovery in America ( even had PBS specials). Forever grateful for his many contributions.
I frequently visualize the traumas that have shaped me and at 80 realize how blessed I was the former person. child. youth and other incidents, is to visualize that part of me and thank him for having the will and courage to process it and learn from it and incorporate that part of myself into who I am now. Thank you for these tips and reminders of the process of getting here.
I hate when people say I needed to be tormented to the brink of suicide and then left to die. What lessons did I need to know from being raped? Starving me for punishment taught me to be embarrassed of my hunger and ashamed to eat. I don't trust love because it was used to manipulate me. I don't trust family or friendships. I hide in my room and hate to interact with world because every time I do I then spend hours and hours beating myself up for being myself. What has the abuse taught me? How the f*ck can you tell me that was a good way to teach a child anything? Please don't say stuff like this. It's a horrible thing to say. My mother died when I was 7. My "parents" were so neglectful and narcissistic that 2 out of 3 kids didn't live to adulthood and I attempted suicide at 15. Tell me please, how was any of this necessary and what lessons other than fear did I learn from this? Please don't say stuff like this. You do not know what you are talking about or how incredibly painful and offensive and dismissive it comes off.
@@VictoriaJarvis-jl8gx I really hate when people say stuff like this. I'm so sorry you went through that. My heart breaks for you. You didn't need those lessons. You didn't learn anything valuable from them. I'm sure there was a better way to teach us. I do not know why we went through such horrors. I do not know. But you have my hugs and understanding. I don't know what you went through or why, but I understand the pain it leaves behind. I'm so sorry for the pain you lived.
Miss you Wayne ! Powerful message. Nearly 4 months ago i droped over and nearly died. I am still recovering today and will be stronger than ever. Faceing my own mortality changed my life forever. I no longer hold gruges against anyone, i focus on today and moving forward. Love is the most powerful energy on Earth. Each day is a gift, i want only to be happy. We only get 1 shot at this life, there are no do overs. Live in the now, learn from the past and move forward with no regretd. Love Carlos, read all his books....🙏💙🙏
Some of my best days have been my worst. Reason being, is the acknowledgement that these cataclysmic catalysts were shocking enough for me to change my choices for the better.
Assault two years ago left me with a disability. My childhood was difficult but it didn't stop me. Somehow all the trauma coming out, I'll embrace it all and emerge.
Dr. Wayne Dyer, coming through from beyond to extend messages to those who have ears to comprehend and the resilience that's required to move forward on a call-to-action. I love it! I am content that I did not miss this one. Thank you!
I really like this video. I stay as close to Jesus as He will let me. I believe that Bubba, as I call Christ, led me to watch this video as I have been working on the issues mentioned in the video. Thank you.
You are right, and some of your history comes uninvited, as things you had long forgotten. One can change but you will never be able to not be effected by some of those things. You can only treat them as a lesson learned and try to reject the thoughts.
@@Scarlet99977Once you meet Jesus, and see the sacrifice on the cross as your death, the death of your old self and all the baggage with it, you fall to your needs in gratitude and thanks....because HE went thru it all and saved you from the pain and anuish and shame not you.. You were the one who was meant to suffer all consequences of your own sins. (Me , you ...) He took it all. And now youre living as a new creation IN HIS life. No more on this. The WORD is our source of True Life. His Spirti in this new creation. Ffo you have a pastor who loves Jesus?
I'm taking 'History' to mean my abusive violent immediate family....parents and 3 siblings....no matter how much I forgive and forget the Past..and heal to try to recover from the ME that I've had 46 years...they still manage to hurt me...I'm 60 now...not gonna be the Family Scapegoat any longer ...but still they don't let up. I even tried going non contact with them but I missed my nieces and nephews. No matter how much shite they throw my way, they always come up smelling of roses. They enjoy perfect health and plenty of energy even though they've mistreated their bodies with smoking and drinking etc ..I'm beginning to wonder if karma even exists!
I love Dr Wayne Dyers teachings. He was very wise and his books are an excellent read. ♥️ If one can master living in the present and drop the sorrows of the past , it’s the only way to find peace.
Dyer was a top Maslow student who was a master of using with and humor to communicate deep and useful life advice. He continues to influence us with his ideas long after his has left his "garage". Yes, he liked to refer to our bodies as temporary garages. LOL
I read Carlos Castaneda books in the 1970s & Tao Te Ching & got lost in the wording. Thankfully I came across Wayne Dyer's tapes and between listening to his tapes & reading Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind I finally got it. I am happy that RUclips suggested this for me today. This makes sense because I need my energy to focus on living my best life now.
Is that a fact? It took me 5 years to get over my divorce because my x wife destroyed our family, turned my children against me and brought false charges against me. I was hurt on the job and needed surgery, was off work for a year. My x re-married and interfered with my visitation and demanded child support when I was unable to pay it and had to get it modified by the Court. Do you really think this was all in my mind? I survived because I believed in God’s Justice and knew that one day He would bring it. Well, He brought it. And I have a good relationship with my children now. They are grown and know the truth. To say that we can’t be affected by circumstances is ignorant. Ask our wounded warriors, the ones that are still alive, that is. There are no easy answers. Only learning and enduring.
I think the most important message is not to let our past define us. Not to hold on to it. I am glad your children came around. And am sorry you had to endure such hardship in the past. But it's in the past. The wound heals but always leaves its scars. Don't pick at it.
Lay down your cross and follow me. Cross being you ( stand up put out your arms, there's your cross) put down you or the you that you perceived yourself to be and follow truth to be free.
Sometimes we need to turn and face the past. I'm nearly 50, letting go and moving on. But when you have malignant narcissists in family you need to point it all out, 3 countries, 5 decades, sometimes we need to face the past, so we can drop it and move on securely.
I remember him on TV when I was a teenager, now as an adult I ran into his material again, but I didn't realized he has passed. Makes me sad, but he left such a legacy, the lessons: ty Dr. Dyer.
Wayne “If you go to source energy to find what’s missing you won’t find it. We live in a world of abundance.” These words changed me. Thank you Wayne, back then and always in your presence.
What it means that when you reach out to your source, you will be fulfilled. There is no shortage/scarcity in the truth, but only an illusion. Reaching out to source or connecting to your source, you will come to know of the truth. Truth is, according to Wayne, there is no lack, life has plenty to offer but we are defocused like someone with his back towards the sun might look at his own shadow and say there is shortage of light in that particular area but all that he or she needs to do is to look towards the sun and there would be no shadow.
Most who try to leave the past behind fail to thoroughly embrace and accept it first. That’s the indispensable step. If you fail to do this, then it will remain buried deep down and it will bubble back up. Don’t forget this! So what you really need to do is look at it with honesty and acceptance. And, frankly, if you do that completely, you really don’t need to throw it away after all. The venom is gone and it’s just amusing, or instructional, or beautiful, etc. When you realize it’s all just life, and you’re just a human being, most things that seemed so bad at the time, are just more beautiful examples of life. It’s okay.
Dude that is brilliant, super timely for me and incredibly useful. I had been thinking that there is 1) No way that I can go back and fix any of it. And 2) All the choices I made at all those times, I thought were the right ones. So 3) I have to let all of the past go, good and bad, I gotta hit the ball from where it landed just now.
5 mins in and im shaking from how hard this is hitting me. This will need to be watched daily for me. Used to have someone in my life who reminded me of these things....they have been gone for awhile and my oat was seriously off course.....you made me cry though so it obviously hit home, i thankyou for taking the time to share this!
Wow! What a great way to begin my day! Looks like I need to read Emerson too! Thank you all and God Bless all of you and may you all create positive thoughts frequently!
Everyday is a new day. With each rising sun we are resurrected in Christ. Blessings to all. I am working on my faith and enjoy Mr Dyer immensely. His heart was extremely pure on the human scale.
"there is nothing noble about being superior to your fellow man, true nobility comes from being superior to your former self" Hemingway. Let it go. I'm 5 months sober. I didn't quit. It was not a sacrifice. I'm alive. If I look after myself I've possibly got 30 years left. The last 10 will be dominated by physical and mental decline with the darkness of the end my life looming as the only future I can expect. Live.... In ... The NOW! it's really all we have.
I read Carlos Castenada's books years ago!! Thanks for reminding me of his incredible wisdom! Peaceful Warrior (great book!) by Dan Millman lead me to Castenada's books. One of my favorite lessons by Castenada was if you have something in your life you want to change or get rid of, you need to stalk it. Study it, know it, stalk it and kill it!
It's so amazing how we tend to embrace the past in such a negative manner of suffering. Everything we've been through has been lessons experience as humans. When we accept we are Spiritual beings having a human experience: according to Yahweh Elohim's Divine Purpose... HalleluYah!!! 🕊🕊🕊
I sense Neville in your words... and in Wayne Dyer's, since Neville inspired Castaneda as well, and Castaneda - even though unwillingly - knew him and his works.
Wayne Dyer is a great story teller. I have been moved to tears by many of his speeches. Most of his quotes are from ancient civilizations. If we pause and reflect on what the sages of the past have taught us, we can lift ourselves from the doom and gloom of our daily existence.
The name of the game is attention. What and where you place your attention, those things, those experiences, those states of mind, those thoughts, thouse feelings, they grow regardless of their nature. You pay enough attention to it, and it WILL GROW within you. Call it peace, call it love, call it hate, call it stress, call it what-have-you. What you constantly pay attention to, GROWS WITHIN YOU!!! Ask yourself: what kind of reality do you wish to live in? and THINK those thoughts instead. The name of the game: IS Attention. Pay Attention.
Honestly I try to just take each moment by moment really. I'll imagine that I only just started existing right now. And I'll vanish again in another hour. It makes me wanna quickly run and do something meaningful. With all my effort. It makes me wanna make sure to acknowledge everyone. And make sure they knew I loved them. Even that random dude nobody talks to in the corner.. it makes me wanna tell people my true feelings about God. And try to be joyful as possible. And make that last moment good as possible. I never wanna be on my phone in that last hour. Or go eat a junk food or drug. Or be mean. Or hold in my feeling. Or not love my peers. And family. Sometimes I forget. Or loose focus of it.
I was only able to begin being happy when I learned to forgive those who had wronged me. And more importantly, learned to forgive and love myself. Realizing you habe to give yourself the same kind of support & relief you'd give your best friend is life changing. I let go of a lot of long standing pain a couple months ago, never felt happier in my life.
May God heal us from this rumination problem Ameen. It's not easy at all but one day a miracle will happen as I'm doing everything I can to stop it and some times i have absolutely no thoughts on my mind for days then it's all back again
Yes, I'm teaching my kids that our own life now is what matters and where we are moving forward and trying to do better and be better. We have a fresh start everyday and it doesn't matter who our parents are, or grandparents and their parents, where they came from etc.. Yes, it does have some affect on who we are but our identity only lies with in who we are now, today.
Funny i moved in a neighborhood and the tension among neighbors was unmistakable....i couldnt figure out why.Eventually learned we had a bully and people tip toed on eggshells around him.I felt instant negativity upon meeting him and his wife.Telling us where we can and cannot park...showboating his wealth/toys and his unconcern for others. I thought life is too short to have this any where near my place called home.I know this is extreme but sold it and moved on.Im in an apartment for now and all the college kids are so good to me,i feel their youthful energy and postivity.Sometimes its more about changing your local physicality than ur thoughts....so many people in bad situations deluding themselves its all okay.You can't live positive in your head if your surroundings don't match.The inclination to make a change is the next step to sync with positive thinking,well thats what I did but who am I anyway.
I agree with a lot what you're saying. There is no divinity in no one. Power we obtain from our Maker to help us through . . . Only God is Divine. We all are wretched in need of God. . . . if we let Him
“And Moses said unto the people, Remember this day, in which ye came out from Egypt, out of the house of bondage; for by strength of hand the LORD brought you out from this place:
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Thankyou , this has been very cathartic for me ❤️🩹
Glad it was helpful
Thank you kindly!
After 64 years, im only just learning these truths. But at least ive begun...
Better late than never, right?
@@SviraSvi Yes, better late than never! And one step, one day, at a time. 👍
As long as you have breath in your body, it’s never too late
Life is a life long journey and yes at least at 64 you know it now 💚🙏
44 bud..same
At 62, I began using the latter half of my first name, thereby changing it up just enough. Also, I deactivated by Facebook because I was dragging around people from high school who I only said “happy birthday” and “your dinner looks great” to. Then I re-created myself a brand new Instagram for just my art and photography. I grayrocked every single one of my narcissistic family of origin members who seemed hellbent on destroying me. And then I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Now I take long walks in the woods and I garden and I paint and I LOVE each and every day. I hope you, reading this, finds your own path to true inner peace. ❤
I want to date you ❤
Just did this: personal history and others tasks are so tiring and unbearable. I’m 45 and my b cluster brother forced me to move forard without toxic family. It’s great on the other side ❤
@@Hawaiiartobjects I’m very happy for you!! May I ask what is “b cluster”?
If you spent most your life around narcissists you more than likely are one yourself.
@@gjondunadan5852 thats a ridiculously unfair statement. U just are being confrontational and inflammatory. You’re gaslighting. I recognize narcissism now and protect myself from it. You can try stoic philosophy to learn to deal with narcs. Its helped me. Good luck!!
“I've lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.”
-Mark Twain
Fair enough. We all live in our head, a good bit of the time, and it is worthwhile to know this.
For some of us it was all true.
@@robinr5669 More reason to just give it up.
Well then, he imagines a lot
Positive thinking! 😊
Thank you for not putting music. It brings a sense of peace, assurance, and concentration.
I couldn't agree more.
It is so peaceful without it.
😂👍
Totally agree!!!
WD plays with words and is disingenuous to no end. I see through his little facade
@@wheelie642And yet there are still pearls of wisdom here.
There is no “letting go” - It is accepting what is already gone.
Wow
So true
Damn.... that's what it IS
Beautifully stated.
Agree completely.
We are living in the wake of Dr. Dyer's light and teachings. We are forever blessed by his time here.
agree! he was and still is my favourite teacher.
He is excellent but he’ll be the first to admit that he is standing on the shoulders of giants.
Forever blessed because of him. He was my first self help book.
I sold my house and most of my belongings. I threw away ALL of my pictures and scrapbooks. Everytime
I looked at those pictures it didn't really bring me joy. It wasn't sadness either since most of those pictures were taken during good times. I just realized I couldn't go back so why not just leave it there and let it live as good memeries in my mind.
I did the SAME thing. It felt so light walking out that front door. Bless Wayne Dyer's words. This helps. We did it, and it IS okay. I see with new eyes at 60.
It’s still the brain/behavior study controlling information. Another loss. My baby and parents died, I divorced b/c of abuse, not “differences”, my health was harmed b/c I was in non/consensual testing. Horrible times in this land but do we want more?
I totally agree. If you want to live in a prison just hold on to everything. Holding on to Stuff snuffs out your life.
@@bjacob9998sorry to hear about your loss. And the way you have gone over the situation is unimaginable. You can still use the acceptance practice to go over and embrace the now. Also try Sadhguru's inner-engineering, this practice helped me immensely.
I'm in the process of selling everything that no longer serves me.
We know this but we keep needing reminders because they always creep up.
We can’t change who we are but we can always move forward because we only have one direction.
This is not an easy journey and as hard as you try, it most certainly will always come back.
And that is why all these self help gurus continue to make money.
They convince you that it is easy to change with just a change of mindset.
What they miss is the people who see you.
"They convince you that it is easy to change with just a change of mindset." I don't know if they mean to suggest changing your mindset will be easy. I think it takes a lot of diligent work but can be done. Learning mindfulness using meditation is very helpful but it takes genuine practice every day. But it seeps into your life and you gradually catch destructive thinking and begin deliberately changing over to constructive thinking.
I have been listening to his videos for some years and he has really helped me making huge shifts in my life. I hope that everyone reading this finds love, joy, happiness, abundance and peace in their lives.
Thank you for sending kind wishes on everyone. I’ve found this video to, sort of, give me permission to let go and exist in the present. I think I’ll take the cue from you to rewatch it from time. Be well! 😊🌸
Aśe Dear One. I appreciate you sharing your light. ❤️✨🙌🏾✨❤️
Thank you so much for your kind wishes to us all. I think that one can be traumatized so much in life that you reach a point where all you want is peace and happiness. Not happiness in terms of getting stuff so much, but the happiness of no longer being demeaned by one's past misadventures, and the quiet of the soul; God's peace.
Thank you for your wishes, the same yo you!
I'm in a break up and listening to this. It' s helpful. ❤
Thanks. I'm trying
"You can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it.' 😮 wow😮
All problems have components. Not all components are in your control or are created by you, consequently a person does not entirely create a problem.
At best, you have a triad of a problem situation. Two thirds are outside of your control, leaving you the third that was created or you have control over.
The problem could be the lack of education or the wrong type of education (ideologies come to mind here) Where there are problems created by an amount of learning incorrect information and applying it to reality (where you are part of everyone else being in the same bubble), it was not created by you but accepted by you as true.
There are more instances than not that this does NOT apply to.
@@PClanner maybe, but we can perpetuate a problem, rather than move past it, because of our current mindset. I think that's what Einstein meant. We can't expect different results if we repeat the same choices, or engage in the same mindset.
Only life issues exist
There are no problems
Challenges
Some we need to face
Most we can let go
No problems
Wow I love this x
Because it's your *PERCEPTION* that it's a problem.
Have to work with what's there &/or change your understanding of what you're classifying as a problem
I am 71 yrs old…I grew up with shame…and ir killed me so very long ago…I am now listening to this, thank you Wayne…love you so much..
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♥
God bless you mate
Thank you for letting it go!
I’ve allowed my painful past to define me, possess me. Thank you for this.
Mary Morrissey and Wayne shared a mentor. Like Wayne, Mary has some great material around letting go of past trauma and patterns. Saving my life now. 🤗🌻🥰
Embrace it and learn from it, don’t take it away! If you ”give it up” You’ll be totally lost🍏
If you don’t have a story, . You don’t have to live up to it. That sounds amazing in so many different ways.
@NightWolf767
I guess that means you also don't have to live down to it!
And not. Be present but don’t give up your personal history of joys as well.
Thanks for reminding me of this. It was early in the video and I forgot because of all the other wonderful insights. ;-)
And so stupid!
The past is gone, i was what i was then, i am who i am now.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
I never heard that phrase before but it is very true. I am writing it down to hang on my refrigerator! ;-) Thank you!
What a beautiful, strong phrase
I needed this! WOW
Wow, I love this, it spoke to me! Thank you❤
My personal history is who I am. It's the thing that saved me. I can stop doing some of those things, but i can't change who those things made me.
Im in therapy im 70 fit lift weights etc. had some post covid stuff in 2022 its gone. Now chronic pain: burning skin , tendinitis & low back pain.
In therapy we talk about my abusive father & health anxiety mother. Im now much worse after 4 months
I need to leave the past behind
You have to grieve over your past in order to move past it. Those old emotions are still there trying to give you their message. They must be felt before they will leave you alone.
The theraphy is not helping. Change the type of it.
Hope you will feel better soon
I'm 43y old. No children. My girl ended our relationship after 14y. A wonderful woman... so sweet, beautiful inside and out. Been 1 year. I'm finally starting to see that I no longer have the need for her to be a part of my story. I'm thinking about moving to a new home... you know why? Because I want to. Me. Maybe I'll be ok.
You will , believe it and make it so
Sometimes your pain of the past becomes your joy because it's all you know.
Deep down you want to be normal but don't know how.
It becomes your strength and compassion. Increasing this is a change
@@bjacob9998 I seem to be missing something.thelostone
Give yourself an opportunity to observe what you are surrounded with, when you notice something that catches you attention either in positive or negative way, think about the reason why that made you feel in a certain way. It helps to be present in the moment. It is hard to change yet possible. Your past defines partially your character as a person today and maybe even decisions you make, however if you are not content, give yourself a chance to change for the better and know that present actually is a present given to us, unwrape it and hope for the best and work on becoming the person you would like to be. A happier version of yourself. You can change, first thoughts, then words and finally actions. It is hard, yet possible. It's up to you.
@@ivanavidovic3714 thanks I keep holding on but I don't know what I'm searching for.
Embrace it, then toss it and bring yourself into the present moment always. go 4 it friend
I just gave up my personal history! Boom. The present moment is where all our power is. YES! 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
I'm right behind you. What a gift!
How did you do that and how do you know it will never bother you again?
Decide. I am God and there is no other. What I say goes. It's still a process but I keep affirming it as the story pops up but it has less charge and less importance instantly. Intention and commitment bring the decision to be.
It will bother you again, come knocking on your door, or even like a note tied to a rock that smashes through your window if you don’t answer the door!😳😄 That’s why Dyer says to also get help with your issues if you need it. There are many possible forms of help: info/ motivational videos like this one, books, therapists, wise friends, clergy, online and in-person communities, etc. It can be like walking along the beach, maybe you are sad or upset, then you see a lovely shell or rock, and you pick it up and examine it, and maybe you keep it because you like it, and you walk some more and you see another thing you like, and it is free for the taking so you keep that thing too. After a while you may have too much and want to leave some of the less attractive things you found, so you just leave them, with thanks for coming into your life when they did. In this way life comes to with offers and you pick and choose what to take, what to keep and try to hold with respect, and what to leave, with thanks.
Relationships are complex so require more patience to cope with, so you may want to seek more perspectives and support about what to do. But if your intent is good (ie helping yourself AND helping others) things will work the best that they can at that time. It’s important to not be in a rush. We often make poor choices when we rush and grab at choices. Don’t be running all over the beach rushing to try and find treasures! Enjoy what you can of your surroundings and watch to see what things you come across, what you notice and choose with care.
One more thing he seems to be suggesting is that your experience of life can be like sitting in a movie. If you are not liking this particular movie you can get up and go find a new movie to try. That first movie doesn’t stop playing, and some people stay and watch it, but you can choose to stay, or find a different movie to watch (and some people may go with you, some won’t, and there will new people to watch the new movie with as well🤷🏻♂️).
Change is not easy or simple but he is saying it is possible and positive change can be your intent. You can gradually learn to take better care of yourself just as when you practice anything your ability to do that thing improves. There will be ups and downs and progress and setbacks and changes of course, but just try and remember your honest intent( which is hopefully to be a good and helpful person in this world).
a very important lesson. Rest in Peace dear Wayne Dyer❤
It isn't only the negative aspects of your past life you must give up, it's the positive aspects as well. Positives experiences bind you to delusions about yourself and create expectations for the tuture that don't happen. Giving up the past, means the whole past, not just the unpleasant parts.
Very true and very wise of you to mention that. I never thought about that aspect before. Thank you. 🙏
Nah not at all that's a limited belief that expectations arose only from that..the good memories don't need to be deleted its about state of being ultimately in the now
Without Christ all is meaningless.
@@blessed7927Amen!
@@blessed7927Cthulhu disagrees. As does Oden. As does Zeus. As does Pele. And countless other fictional deities.
Sounds Heavenly. Amazing how many people have Narc... family. I'm almost 67 & remembered my Grandparents guarding their peace like their lives depended on it❤
I read Deepak Chopra in the 90s, my life improved. I read your 1st book after that. My life improved more. I read Eckhart Tolle 2 yrs ago. Between the 3 of your very unique styles, i absorbed invaluable enrichment. I know you are gone now, but I've got a feeling that somehow, you've seen this tiny little woman walking in the woods with a heart full of beauty, acceptance and appreciation, no matter the circumstances of my 'Nows'. ♥
When i was at a very low point in my life and in need of guidance, I was flipping through the tv channels one day and came across Wayne Dyer's PBS special called "Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life," which was basically about applying principles in the Tao Te Ching in order to improve your life.
Now, 20 years later, I am still applying what ive learned in the the Tao Te Ching and am infinitely greatful for the day that I saw that Wayne Dyer special on PBS, and credit Dr. Dyer and the Tao Te Ching, as being the catalysts for the Man that I have have become and the life that I have lived to this very day.
🙏🏻❤️☯️😁
Like Wayne always said, “when the student is ready the teachers will appear”
That is beautiful… Thank you for sharing! 🙏
@@angelaripolo2721 🥰
@@GinaMartina2023 thanks, and you're welcome
I read Journey to Ixtlan in 1986 and decided that Casteneda was right- personal histories keep you more in the past than you may realize.
Is that the book from which the mentioned quote is from? Please and thank you!
Google it? @@suredeydo
I miss Wayne Dyer 😪 One of the wisest men I've listened to. What a beautiful soul and loving mentor.😊
He seems so wise yeah
@@SviraSvi I usually go to Amazon and read the reviews people write there
@SviraSvi you see it when you belive it, is one title.
My thoughts also whilst listening to this 🥺 I watched THE SHIFT again recently…I needed the reminder,and his wise words of gentle advice 🦋May he rest peacefully,closer to source 💫
indeed! I am a fan!
Many times, it is not just mental/psychological burden we carry but physical/material burden. We accumulate so much material "stuff", it becomes a burden to take care/maintain. We use a lot of resources (both mental and physical) to take care of the material accumulations. We must think of reducing it too. We have to live, but try to reduce the physical accumulations. I am working on reducing the material/physical accumulation which also helps in decluttering your mind. We should constantly engage in introspection, think about what is going on in the world. We are fortunate to have wise men like Dr. Wayne Dyer and others to guide us.
I am getting rid of stuff, too. One of the best books that always helps me to do that is called: Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui by Karen Kingston. It's small and easy to read and explains how clutter holds us down and getting rid of it is freeing.
This is exactly the message I need right now. I am going through a process of releasing all attachments. I did not realise that included letting go of my past. The weight of carrying my past is too much. I am so embracing this today.
I agree ❤
Immediately after retiring in 2020 I threw out everything that reminded me of the work I did and stopped talking about the work.
I don't remember hearing about doing it but I know now it was right to do.
My unhappy neighbors have one thing in common - they are stuck in the past.
I tried to encourage them to have new goals for the new year but they couldn't care less.
❤wow- exactly what I did after 25 years in toxic working environment. Leaving there was such a relief that for a full 2 years afterwards I would wake each morning with so much joy in my heart. From there I chose jobs I wanted to do and stayed only as long as I enjoyed them, moving forward to better things each time and learning more about myself in the course of those few years then that 25 year self imposed life sentence!
Only remain in touch with one ex-colleague from the old place but I do find them a bit negative and it is so important to stay away from negative energy I believe.
Would never set foot back in the old workplace 😊
@@gillianm9367 Good for you! You learned something important and made the changes you needed to make.
Everybody is different...what works for one doesn't for another. Some see life in different ball field than others.
My past was a teaching, i am honored to carry it
Some of us out here are debilitated by those things that we experienced and it cripples our lives as a human being and stunting the growth that we need to flourish and become better selves .
@@tiredofcrybabiesonYT I am actually handicapped it's funny you said that - it's related to my past, not only mine though
@tiredofcrybabiesonYT and I'm still becoming more of a monster everyday
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My past had me attempting suicide more than once. It makes me wish I was never born.
Loved Wayne Dyer but disagree with giving up your personal history. I have learned so much from my dysfunctional family and past and my place in it. I was able to transcend the pain, embrace it and move on. Tossing it would be like cutting off my arm . The past will always be apart of me BUT it doesn’t control me rather it has made me stronger and I am able to function well knowing I’ve
Dropped the anger, bitterness and embraced the love and joy but cannot be the naïve victim anymore.
I don’t think he’s saying to completely forget your past. He’s really saying to acknowledge what happened, detach yourself from it, learn the lessons and merge yourself into the present moment. Which is all we pretty much ever have.
Moving on is pretty much what he meant when he said toss it
It sounds like you've done exactly what he's speaking about, don't get too caught up on the exact language. I know people that have missed out on the life in life for many years because they refused to move on and live in the present... they'll cling to a past they feel like they lost and not realize how much of the present is squandered.
I love Wayne Dyer. I miss watching him on PBS.
Yes he could sell books and tapes like a televangelist.
For my son, C.J who is battling childhood trauma. You got this and don’t let it deter you from doing all the things that make you happy. Love, Mommy ❤❤❤
I am 63 and start learning this about 3 years ago. It’s a slow process, because the old way of thinking wants to creep back. There are set backs, but I am trying. Throwing negative thoughts out and replace them with positive ones. Spending time in nature to get energy from my collective or give it , whichever at that moment. I like this video. It describes it very simple, even though the process is tough. But I will get there. ❤❤❤
Learned a lot from Dr Dyer over the years - "We're not a body with a soul, but rather a soul that has a body"
I also read this and it made such a profound impact on me. ❤
This is really about deprogramming yourself. Our parents, siblings, culture all put us on patterns that don't help our happiness or contentment. All you never needed was a path to self empowerment. It starts by understanding money and how it works. Money buys you time so you can enjoy a sunset. Ignorant buys you slavery. It's that simple. Once you get that under control you no longer need your family and can choose your friends better and you can live your life on your terms and connect with your faith in the best way possible; without bad programming.
You are missed Dr. Dyer! What an amazing human! ❤️
I had the pleasure of attending a seminar to see this guy live. I was a small business owner and paid my own way. One of the best events I attended. Still an active small business owner at 74 and use some of the principles every day.
Thanks so much for this teaching.
I recall a Zen Koan I heard in past days that today makes sense to me.
Someone asked the Master, "What was the purpose for my past; why did I go through all that?"
The Master replied, "You go through it so you can toss it away."
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thanks. loved it!!
universe supports me through every situation,
i am protected and safe
something wonderful is happening to me,
everything is wonderful,
everything has a good reason,
i am here to learn
I am just beginning to learn these lessons. I pray Dyers I Am prayer throughout the day. " I am the conquering Presence. I command this Presence to govern perfectly..... ", then fill in the end with my prayer. Seeing that I Am the same Presence as the Universe and letting myself claim my right.to ask anything changed my life.
thats so profound, good job my friend, bless you, all the power is in now@@lindawise5546
At 65 I’m still learning and what I’ve learned from this video , Thank u !!
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Let go of the past and especially those regrets and trauma. Live in the present moment
I shook off the past 20 years ago as a result of performing the 12 steps. Find your method and set yourself free
Forgiveness is what set me free.
I don't toss my history - I forgave it.
You nailed it!!!! TRUTH!!!!
I love the end where he told the people "well that's what you're going to find here", it was funny, but pretty true...
When I was 15, read Your Erroneous Zones, which changed the way I looked at life. Now in my sixties, these videos started yesterday to pop up in my feed… and so glad. Had forgotten how good Wayne Dyer was at helping to create clarity.
it to changed my life! picked it up at a yard sale . best buy ever
He was such a pioneer and a prolific writer and teacher in the early days of personal development and spiritual discovery in America ( even had PBS specials). Forever grateful for his many contributions.
Your voice is my home DR WAYNE DYER .....REST IN PEACE ✌️
I frequently visualize the traumas that have shaped me and at 80 realize how blessed I was the former person. child. youth and other incidents, is to visualize that part of me and thank him for having the will and courage to process it and learn from it and incorporate that part of myself into who I am
now.
Thank you for these tips and reminders of the process of getting here.
Things happened the way they did because we needed the lessons learned.
I didn't need to learn that my family lied and disrespected me behind my back for years. Shitty lesson.
I was tortured and revived after having been intentionally drowned. Other things I won't mention. Did I need that?
@@VictoriaJarvis-jl8gx No you fucking didn't!
I hate when people say I needed to be tormented to the brink of suicide and then left to die. What lessons did I need to know from being raped? Starving me for punishment taught me to be embarrassed of my hunger and ashamed to eat. I don't trust love because it was used to manipulate me. I don't trust family or friendships. I hide in my room and hate to interact with world because every time I do I then spend hours and hours beating myself up for being myself. What has the abuse taught me? How the f*ck can you tell me that was a good way to teach a child anything? Please don't say stuff like this. It's a horrible thing to say. My mother died when I was 7. My "parents" were so neglectful and narcissistic that 2 out of 3 kids didn't live to adulthood and I attempted suicide at 15. Tell me please, how was any of this necessary and what lessons other than fear did I learn from this? Please don't say stuff like this. You do not know what you are talking about or how incredibly painful and offensive and dismissive it comes off.
@@VictoriaJarvis-jl8gx I really hate when people say stuff like this. I'm so sorry you went through that. My heart breaks for you. You didn't need those lessons. You didn't learn anything valuable from them. I'm sure there was a better way to teach us. I do not know why we went through such horrors. I do not know. But you have my hugs and understanding. I don't know what you went through or why, but I understand the pain it leaves behind. I'm so sorry for the pain you lived.
Miss you Wayne ! Powerful message. Nearly 4 months ago i droped over and nearly died. I am still recovering today and will be stronger than ever. Faceing my own mortality changed my life forever. I no longer hold gruges against anyone, i focus on today and moving forward. Love is the most powerful energy on Earth. Each day is a gift, i want only to be happy. We only get 1 shot at this life, there are no do overs. Live in the now, learn from the past and move forward with no regretd. Love Carlos, read all his books....🙏💙🙏
Some of my best days have been my worst. Reason being, is the acknowledgement that these cataclysmic catalysts were shocking enough for me to change my choices for the better.
We learn to love by way of suffering.
Assault two years ago left me with a disability. My childhood was difficult but it didn't stop me. Somehow all the trauma coming out, I'll embrace it all and emerge.
A butterfly. 🦋
You are amazing. Sending you wishes for strength.
You can do it. It's ok to feel pain but don't succumb to negativity.. your adversity may serve you somehow
Miss Wayne so much. One of the great speakers ever.
I keep hearing this, let go of the past, stop looking back, i feel ready now to stop doing that and live a new life 🙏🏼🥰✨✨✨✨
Yes, don't look back because you are not going that way
@@rebit6511 such a perfect way of saying it 🙏🏼✨ tks 😊
I am blown away. There's so much power in his words. More power in my MIND. My past will no longer define me. ❤
Dr. Wayne Dyer, coming through from beyond to extend messages to those who have ears to comprehend and the resilience that's required to move forward on a call-to-action. I love it! I am content that I did not miss this one. Thank you!
I really like this video. I stay as close to Jesus as He will let me. I believe that Bubba, as I call Christ, led me to watch this video as I have been working on the issues mentioned in the video. Thank you.
“your focus determines your reality”
Thank you Dr. Dyer for all your love and work. It helps so many to improve their quality of life and let go of suffering.
You can give up your history but your history will not give up you
You are right, and some of your history comes uninvited, as things you had long forgotten. One can change but you will never be able to not be effected by some of those things. You can only treat them as a lesson learned and try to reject the thoughts.
@@Scarlet99977Once you meet Jesus, and see the sacrifice on the cross as your death, the death of your old self and all the baggage with it, you fall to your needs in gratitude and thanks....because HE went thru it all and saved you from the pain and anuish and shame not you.. You were the one who was meant to suffer all consequences of your own sins. (Me , you ...) He took it all. And now youre living as a new creation IN HIS life. No more on this. The WORD is our source of True Life. His Spirti in this new creation. Ffo you have a pastor who loves Jesus?
That’s called karma. Those who understand karma know that it is better to do nothing with intention, than to do something without consideration
I'm taking 'History' to mean my abusive violent immediate family....parents and 3 siblings....no matter how much I forgive and forget the Past..and heal to try to recover from the ME that I've had 46 years...they still manage to hurt me...I'm 60 now...not gonna be the Family Scapegoat any longer ...but still they don't let up. I even tried going non contact with them but I missed my nieces and nephews. No matter how much shite they throw my way, they always come up smelling of roses. They enjoy perfect health and plenty of energy even though they've mistreated their bodies with smoking and drinking etc ..I'm beginning to wonder if karma even exists!
Being at peace with what was allows going forward with the ability to choose whatever life wanted with a clear conscience.
I love Dr Wayne Dyers teachings.
He was very wise and his books are an excellent read. ♥️
If one can master living in the present and drop the sorrows of the past , it’s the only way to find peace.
Sooooo beautiful...
I just love Doctor Dyer with all my heart and I can't imagine how much his family been missing him 😢
He helped so many of us....
Dyer was a top Maslow student who was a master of using with and humor to communicate deep and useful life advice. He continues to influence us with his ideas long after his has left his "garage". Yes, he liked to refer to our bodies as temporary garages. LOL
I read Carlos Castaneda books in the 1970s & Tao Te Ching & got lost in the wording. Thankfully I came across Wayne Dyer's tapes and between listening to his tapes & reading Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind I finally got it. I am happy that RUclips suggested this for me today. This makes sense because I need my energy to focus on living my best life now.
Is that a fact?
It took me 5 years to get over my divorce because my x wife destroyed our family, turned my children against me and brought false charges against me. I was hurt on the job and needed surgery, was off work for a year.
My x re-married and interfered with my visitation and demanded child support when I was unable to pay it and had to get it modified by the Court.
Do you really think this was all in my mind?
I survived because I believed in God’s Justice and knew that one day He would bring it. Well, He brought it. And I have a good relationship with my children now. They are grown and know the truth.
To say that we can’t be affected by circumstances is ignorant. Ask our wounded warriors, the ones that are still alive, that is.
There are no easy answers. Only learning and enduring.
I think the most important message is not to let our past define us. Not to hold on to it. I am glad your children came around. And am sorry you had to endure such hardship in the past. But it's in the past. The wound heals but always leaves its scars. Don't pick at it.
Lay down your cross and follow me. Cross being you ( stand up put out your arms, there's your cross) put down you or the you that you perceived yourself to be and follow truth to be free.
Sometimes we need to turn and face the past. I'm nearly 50, letting go and moving on. But when you have malignant narcissists in family you need to point it all out, 3 countries, 5 decades, sometimes we need to face the past, so we can drop it and move on securely.
Not sure how I needed up here but at 47 and starting over in many ways, I needed this. I’m a man of faith and this helped cement that characteristic…
I remember him on TV when I was a teenager, now as an adult I ran into his material again, but I didn't realized he has passed. Makes me sad, but he left such a legacy, the lessons: ty Dr. Dyer.
Treasure your divinity. I took nearly 60 years to get there...... ❤
Wayne “If you go to source energy to find what’s missing you won’t find it. We live in a world of abundance.” These words changed me. Thank you Wayne, back then and always in your presence.
What does this nean
What it means that when you reach out to your source, you will be fulfilled. There is no shortage/scarcity in the truth, but only an illusion. Reaching out to source or connecting to your source, you will come to know of the truth. Truth is, according to Wayne, there is no lack, life has plenty to offer but we are defocused like someone with his back towards the sun might look at his own shadow and say there is shortage of light in that particular area but all that he or she needs to do is to look towards the sun and there would be no shadow.
Ok so do you go to the source to find the truth which means everything is an illusion?!? Thx!!
@@giachahal work in progress, dear. I am coming out and again falling in and then coming out. It's all work in progress.
Give without measure
Always comes back
Take from life, life takes from you
Just heard him read that from the way of the tao
Most who try to leave the past behind fail to thoroughly embrace and accept it first. That’s the indispensable step. If you fail to do this, then it will remain buried deep down and it will bubble back up. Don’t forget this! So what you really need to do is look at it with honesty and acceptance. And, frankly, if you do that completely, you really don’t need to throw it away after all. The venom is gone and it’s just amusing, or instructional, or beautiful, etc. When you realize it’s all just life, and you’re just a human being, most things that seemed so bad at the time, are just more beautiful examples of life. It’s okay.
Dude that is brilliant, super timely for me and incredibly useful. I had been thinking that there is 1) No way that I can go back and fix any of it. And 2) All the choices I made at all those times, I thought were the right ones. So 3) I have to let all of the past go, good and bad, I gotta hit the ball from where it landed just now.
5 mins in and im shaking from how hard this is hitting me. This will need to be watched daily for me. Used to have someone in my life who reminded me of these things....they have been gone for awhile and my oat was seriously off course.....you made me cry though so it obviously hit home, i thankyou for taking the time to share this!
Wow! What a great way to begin my day! Looks like I need to read Emerson too! Thank you all and God Bless all of you and may you all create positive thoughts frequently!
Everyday is a new day. With each rising sun we are resurrected in Christ. Blessings to all. I am working on my faith and enjoy Mr Dyer immensely. His heart was extremely pure on the human scale.
"there is nothing noble about being superior to your fellow man, true nobility comes from being superior to your former self" Hemingway. Let it go. I'm 5 months sober. I didn't quit. It was not a sacrifice. I'm alive. If I look after myself I've possibly got 30 years left. The last 10 will be dominated by physical and mental decline with the darkness of the end my life looming as the only future I can expect. Live.... In ... The NOW! it's really all we have.
I read Carlos Castenada's books years ago!! Thanks for reminding me of his incredible wisdom! Peaceful Warrior (great book!) by Dan Millman lead me to Castenada's books. One of my favorite lessons by Castenada was if you have something in your life you want to change or get rid of, you need to stalk it. Study it, know it, stalk it and kill it!
My work is what I enjoy most of all. People changed their energy out for what they could take from me regardless if I was here or not.
The ancestor of action is thought
I have followed Wayne Dyer for over 30 years and I have learned so much from him that I have applied to my life
Giving up doesn’t mean forgetting.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
“remembering is so much more a psychotic activity than forgetting” Speed Levich from the movie Waking Life
Wonderful practice. Pairs well with not knowing anything about myself.
It's so amazing how we tend to embrace the past in such a negative manner of suffering. Everything we've been through has been lessons experience as humans. When we accept we are Spiritual beings having a human experience: according to Yahweh Elohim's Divine Purpose...
HalleluYah!!!
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I sense Neville in your words... and in Wayne Dyer's, since Neville inspired Castaneda as well, and Castaneda - even though unwillingly - knew him and his works.
Wayne Dyer is a great story teller. I have been moved to tears by many of his speeches. Most of his quotes are from ancient civilizations. If we pause and reflect on what the sages of the past have taught us, we can lift ourselves from the doom and gloom of our daily existence.
The name of the game is attention.
What and where you place your attention, those things, those experiences, those states of mind, those thoughts, thouse feelings, they grow regardless of their nature.
You pay enough attention to it, and it WILL GROW within you.
Call it peace, call it love, call it hate, call it stress, call it what-have-you.
What you constantly pay attention to, GROWS WITHIN YOU!!!
Ask yourself: what kind of reality do you wish to live in? and THINK those thoughts instead.
The name of the game: IS Attention.
Pay Attention.
I love my past history.
It is how I became the me I am now.
Honestly I try to just take each moment by moment really. I'll imagine that I only just started existing right now. And I'll vanish again in another hour. It makes me wanna quickly run and do something meaningful. With all my effort. It makes me wanna make sure to acknowledge everyone. And make sure they knew I loved them. Even that random dude nobody talks to in the corner.. it makes me wanna tell people my true feelings about God. And try to be joyful as possible. And make that last moment good as possible. I never wanna be on my phone in that last hour. Or go eat a junk food or drug. Or be mean. Or hold in my feeling. Or not love my peers. And family. Sometimes I forget. Or loose focus of it.
I was only able to begin being happy when I learned to forgive those who had wronged me. And more importantly, learned to forgive and love myself. Realizing you habe to give yourself the same kind of support & relief you'd give your best friend is life changing. I let go of a lot of long standing pain a couple months ago, never felt happier in my life.
Dying daily to the old self, the pride the ego and life begins rip mr dwyer
I still love my X, that's why I set him free❣️
I want to do that. I needed to hear you say that ❤
Letting go is a huge act of generosity.
Yes,I agree with dropping your past.... let go your past...
I’m carrying a lot of mental pain through rumination, I can’t concentrate enough to think clearly. It’s scary and the depression is extreme
Sending air 🤗💕
Did you make it through this?
@@reinventdaily I’m here and struggling
May God heal us from this rumination problem Ameen. It's not easy at all but one day a miracle will happen as I'm doing everything I can to stop it and some times i have absolutely no thoughts on my mind for days then it's all back again
Yes, I'm teaching my kids that our own life now is what matters and where we are moving forward and trying to do better and be better. We have a fresh start everyday and it doesn't matter who our parents are, or grandparents and their parents, where they came from etc.. Yes, it does have some affect on who we are but our identity only lies with in who we are now, today.
Funny i moved in a neighborhood and the tension among neighbors was unmistakable....i couldnt figure out why.Eventually learned we had a bully and people tip toed on eggshells around him.I felt instant negativity upon meeting him and his wife.Telling us where we can and cannot park...showboating his wealth/toys and his unconcern for others. I thought life is too short to have this any where near my place called home.I know this is extreme but sold it and moved on.Im in an apartment for now and all the college kids are so good to me,i feel their youthful energy and postivity.Sometimes its more about changing your local physicality than ur thoughts....so many people in bad situations deluding themselves its all okay.You can't live positive in your head if your surroundings don't match.The inclination to make a change is the next step to sync with positive thinking,well thats what I did but who am I anyway.
I agree with a lot what you're saying.
There is no divinity in no one. Power we obtain from our Maker to help us through . . .
Only God is Divine. We all are wretched in need of God.
. . . if we let Him
Awesome😂❤😅
We are not wretched. Original sin was made up by a Catholic pope long after Yeshua was murdered.
@@TheSarahJane33 check Adam and Eve
“And Moses said unto the people, Remember this day, in which ye came out from Egypt, out of the house of bondage; for by strength of hand the LORD brought you out from this place:
❤we can always start all over again! Human has this power. I did it. Changed country learned new skills. Building new world.