I can't believe this was 7yrs ago but its so relevant to me now. Im currently stuck in a high functioning depression cycle. I procrastinate but still get things done, im basically doing enough to survive but not enough to live the life I want. Im stuck in a job i hate, with a boss who is such a bully and i dont even have the will to apply for a new job. I really needed this. Thank you
Please watch Gabor maté maybe you're just stuck in your traumas ,he can provide wonderful insights about it, I'm struggling too but I don't judge myself or others,I just become more aware about my traumas and working on set my mind free of them, don't let them control your life❤❤
And thank you very much for being such a great interviewer and not interrupting her all the time. I love how you ask her the questions and then let the woman answer.
The best thing about Tom is he lets his guest speak. And he doesn’t interrupt even after they finished speaking.. because many times people have more to add ! And he always does his homework !! Great Job Tom.
Thank you Tom for allowing Mel to talk without being interrupted. A lot of presenters don't have this skill. This message of NASA is amazing I feel that I have discovered treasure. And all for free. My heart is full of gratitude. I can already visualize my life changing. Much appreciated. I'm following your channel going forward. All the best to all of us. Cheers!
Thank you I'm going to try my best and my father and God I won't let you down if I don't know what I'm doing me some help I don't mind asking y'all tell me thank you
I listened to almost everything Mel Robbins on audible before watching this vid. Tom wore a NASA t-shirt because of the rocket launch image of the 5 second rule? I'm mind-blown like Mel! He's the besttttt and most amazing host!!!!!!!!
I'm 435 lbs on a weight loss journey I've lost and gained a million and one times. The whole day today has been about creating new HABITSSSS healthy habits Incorporating exercise into my life and my hobbies and being productive. I'm going to start doing this... I think it'll really help! I just need to take action. Like my deceased grandma used to tell me "Like Nike says Just Do it" Thank you so much for this message Mel and Tom! I think its going to take me places!!!!
I will be praying for you. I know that my overeating is connected to feeling bad about being too overwhelmed, depressed, anxious and fearful to get anything done!
thank you very much for being such a great interviewer and not interrupting her all the time. I love how you ask her the questions and then let the woman answer.
That is awesome. My dad grew up in the very cold Midwest. The only food they had was what they grew on the farm. Nine kids, and a dad who beat the boys regularly. My mother told me after he died that he would not wear shorts bc of the scars on his legs. He once had milk spilled on him while milking their cow, and wore the same clothes all week. Apparently no other clothes were available. Wore 2 left shoes to high school bc that’s all he had. He pulled himself up, borrowed money from his kind sisters to buy an old car, then again to go to college working full time with a wife and children at home. No student grants. No military benefits, bc he was in a terrible accident and lost part of one hand. Graduated, and went on to have a government career lasting over 30 years. When unmotivated, I try to remember what my father did, and for my heritage. Honestly when I’m feeling lazy or feeling sorry for myself, I don’t. Even if you are unmotivated, please remember that you-you-are worthy. ❤
1. Motivation is garbage 2. Knowledge action gap 3.counting backwards 5seconds rule 4. Say “I am excited to do this “more often Ask yourself why am I ready to do this ❤
The first time I skimmed through a segment of hers and heard her say, "you're never going to feel like doing what you NEED to do", I knew she was on to something!!! I'm inspired by her advice and knowledge and I will be returning to watch /listen to more when I get "stuck" again!! THAAAANK YOU MEL!
Wow, glad this helps people, but I'm motivated quite often when I need to be. Why didn't the guy jump overboard with his decision in 5 secs? Seems hesitation, not action, saved him.....
@@leeleeturn I think I earned it, not learned it, but your point is well taken.... if you learn to be confident and have not earned it, what is it worth?
A man I was dating told me "IT'S NOT WHO WE ARE THAT HOLDS US BACK, IT'S WHO WE THINK WE'RE NOT"! I am a worrier, never sure in my decisions. Thank you for your 5 4 3 2 1. I am excited to have this guidance.
I have often counted down from 3, but I never thought about the scientific reason behind why counting down worked for me. It was so fascinating to hear her explanation. This quote had the biggest impact on me: “When you understand the power of a 5 second decision and you understand that you always have a choice to go from autopilot to decision-maker, everything in your life will change.” Really awesome!
Ayesha Kamal what happen if you go out and your friends invite you to drink or take drugs at the moment you are enjoying the night. does the counting back trick works as well? i have my doubts its that powerfull
@@unknowndriver6652 just say no because you value health and feeling awesome sober. the idea is that those things give us true happiness when in reality, whatever that may be, they simply contort our perception. you can also party while sober and enjoy the music/laughs- or just set boundaries and say no I've got beddiebies
I've been doing this for two days! Any time I catch myself having an anxious thought....."5,4,3,2,1 replace with boring mundane thought to replace it! Seriously think you might have worked out how to cure my anxiety! Thank you Thank you Thank you SO MUCH! Thank you!
What I LOVE about her and this video is that she REALLY gives away some REAL technics that help people. Not many "speakers" do this or can be this helpful. They usually save the most important info to make people come to their workshops or buy the books.
Have you tried listening to Jordan Prterson. All of his lectures are free. She gave just enough to make the book sound appealing, she sounds like a sales person. The book wasn't all that inspiring though... someone like JP promotes his book by teaching deeply about all he wrote about and expands on it further in lectures and discussions. Hell that's just 1 person and there's many more online. Me thinks you just like how she talks yes?
This stuff makes so much sense. I'm sharing the information with my kids. I wish I had understood all of this years ago. My son went to baseball tryouts this week and he struggles with anxiety. When he said, "I'm really nervous," I asked him, "what are you feeling?" He grinned at me knowing exactly what I meant and he said, "I'm excited!" I love that I could give him a tool to deal with tough situations.
As a Mum (of sons) and someone who has had horrific (I can't cross the street) panic attacks, ANYTHING we can do to help our boys is awesome! Congratulations to both of you!
My high school swim coach taught me that same lesson!!! At a championship meet, 30 years later I still recall the moment as I looked up at him and told him how scared I was. He looked at me and firmly said, Brandy you’re not scared. You’re excited. I dropped my jaw in confusion and have spent the rest of my life remembering it once it registered. Amazing advice. Amazing that you have that bond with your son. How beautiful!!!
I love it when she said "You don't have to buy the book." It shows dedication for others' improvement in life. I've just discovered recently. Thank you for your story, Mel.
“Confidence isn't assuredness, it's the willingness to try” wow, that's the best idea I've heard in a while. I can totally relate to this, sometimes I'm confident in my ideas but I'm unwilling to draw attention to myself.
Your response Resonates so much with me. Very confident in my ideas but reluctant to put it into action. I have constant negative thought of failure on ideas I know should work. Over the years I’ve told close friends of several and to see them succeed on my idea has placed me in an emotional rut. It felt like a breach in confidence going behind my back to spearhead something they never thought of and ending a lifelong friendship over monetary gain without my inclusion. I no longer share my ideas but hoard them silently without action for fear of rejection or failure, especially financial failure. I can truly relate to this interview wholeheartedly.
@@sjgeneralcontractors2137 if they are wonderful ideas that change the lives of others for the better and you are too scared to pursue them is it not a good thing that someone else has gone ahead with the idea? Just an idea... Although i truely hope you can use the 5 second rule to begin on a new venture based on one, or many, of your great ideas! All the best for the future
Absolutely the most powerful guest. Mel Robbins spoke to every emotion that I am going through right now. Because of this episode I am 'excited' to move forward in my life, and make the changes that I have been afraid of making because of fear and uncertainty. Thank you so much Tom for this show and your guests. You truly are making an Impact on my life!
This has definitely helped me develop a new habit of not sleeping with my phone, hitting the snooze and getting up when I hear the alarm at 5AM. I am getting so much done in a day. #5SecondRule
I'm trying it and other things but i was a fentanyl addict. 2yrs clean but my brain is struggling. I just feel worst. The dopamine clearly overloaded my brain.
"Our mind is designed to stop you, at all costs, from being anything that might hurt you!" That is so so true... As Mel said that hesitation sends stress signals to stop your brain, to stop you from doing anything...Mel is such an inspiring woman who creates lots possibilities to everyone... very impressive!
Think it, do it. Go by your first thought. Now, if your first thoughts are usually crazy thoughts, then you need to clear out your mind, like suicide or rob a bank,but they are usually not your first thoughts,but people don't know that.
This woman is a genius. One thing that I've come up with in recent years is that yea, I never FEEL like eating healthy or exercising and it's so easy (especially when I've struggled with it my whole life pretty much) to just fall back into that comfy zone. The comfort zone is a myth, it's more like a death zone...it will KILL YOU slowly. I say, don't think, not on this type of stuff...just do...do what you know you need to do to improve yourself no matter how you "feel" because otherwise, you will always be trapped in that death zone AKA the comfort zone.
I used a lot of her techniques when I was teaching people how to drive. A lot of my students were terrified of driving and I would make them say out loud “I’m excited” right before we started and it really helped.
I bought the book and I’m applying. I am now back into songwriting and have my RUclips channel that I promised myself I would set up for years. Not a plug btw. Well ... you know. Thanks Mel! Love Impact Theory.
Started sceptically seeing it's a 49 min video, but now I think this is a video that's gonna help me change my life. Thank you so much! Both of you're wonderful.
I think she is getting all this energy from just being honest. To herself and to people. When you live in illusion and talk about lies, it drains lots of energy.
Wow! I love how a 14 year old me, has been changed by knowledge and information found by someone who has lived life. It just shows how the old and new generation co-operate with each other. I'm currently suffering from GAD to a point where it affected my exams and I've been feeling reluctant about school, but as soon as I had that you're decision away from changing your life, something clicked.☺
I literally just asked my boss to work from home despite the pressure the companies under after watching this so that i can focus on my life and my health from home, Thank you so much
Four years ago, I found this video. I was stuck in a job I didn't enjoy and was terrified to leave. But I listened to this video everyday driving to work. I finally left, which was one of the best decisions I ever made. Thank you to both Tom and Mel for such a wonderful interview. It truly changed my life.
What is another person has an epiphany will you be so elated as well. You can’t believe everything people say. All the prefrontal cortex research is silly men don’t really know how the brain works they just observe input and output and speculate. Be a critical thinker stop putting people on pedestal.
Staying in a body that you are not proud of is a DECISION!!!!!! LOVE that and LOVE Mel!!! Totally relatable, down to earth inspiration… Thank you Tom and Mel for sharing your wealth of knowledge!!!❤️
that is NOT true for many many people.....genetics, and birth defects, accidents and cancer have done things to people's bodies that they have NO CONTROL over......she is very simplistic and superficial if you ask me
This is the most perfect interview I have seen, I love science and I love the way she linked it all to science. I've been searching tirelessly for a show like this and I've finally found it. Glad I found you Tom!
@@TomBilyeu YT Red is my only "tv", so YES! I'm so grateful for this content!! Thanks Tom for alllll the awesome. Love to Lisa, too! YOU GUYS F-ing ROCK
It's absolutely true when Mel said, "There are tremendous number of introverted people that feel uncomfortable putting the attention on themselves, but they are very, very confident in their ideas." I think I am one of those.
hurt people hurt others....fear makes you do so many things that don't help, but hurt and exacerbate the issue....such amazing realizations and shares....thank you for your work!!!!!
I am truly blown away by this video. I feel it’s an awakening and will be rewatching it a few times as my starting point. She spoke to me on a level and I finally feel like I can help myself using these tools to get back up from the rock bottom my life has hit after what I thought was a life destined to fail with such bad luck and listening to others advice not myself enough ,, not using these tools shutting the world out to cope now after so much has gone wrong , but now I feel i can get back up. I will be researching more on the amazing Mel Robbins and also want to say that the interviewer here was great too very engaged and allowed her to freely talk and explain it all so well. Thank you to both of you for this life changing information 🥰 much appreciated.
This video popped up while I was searching for a makeup tutorial on how to paint a fairy face. It was God sent. I have started feeling more and more hopeless to the point of, at times, toying with the ultimate and final way out of it all. This was a beam of light. The openness of Mel about her experiences especially helped. Thank you
As we lay there thinking of “fairytales” and super hero’s we expect someone else to come to our rescue. But if we just just “jump-up” and do the Mel blast- we’ll become our own hero !! Love it !!
Change your decisions change your life. Change your mind and you can change your actions, decisions and everything. Wherever you start interrupt the unconsciousness of your life and become more awake/conscious/aware of your decisions, thoughts, self talk, ideas, beliefs, values, habits, circumstances, relationships and so on controlling your life!
Of all the thousands of videos and influencers I have come across to help with depression, anxiety. This is the most helpful. Techniques backed up by science and deep explanation on HOW to improve as opposed to telling us for 30 minutes - the problem or what we already know. Thank you Mel!
Not sure what else to say but.... WOOOWWW!!... I so needed this kick in the ass!. I'm watching this everyday until I engrained it into my soul.. THANK YOU ... SO MUCH!!
Tom Bilyeu I am on the brink of doing something stupid! My names is Stephen and I am the same as Steve who is referred to in this video! 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Thank you! I counted backwards 3, 2, 1 and I got up and washed a cereal bowl, to eat some cereal after not eating for almost 9 Days! I was stood at the kitchen sink looking out the window whilst washing the Bowl with this video playing out the rest of it with it, in the background, whilst washing the bowl, I looked up and out the window, into the world I have not been dealing with, and hiding away from! And to the left of me was an aircraft coming into land at our local airport, that Aircraft has just become my rocket moment! Thank you @Mel Robbins ( I would love to know what the musical soundtrack that is playing during this video absolutely fantastic!?)
Budha said this before: "Suffering is caused by decisions not made". So once you have made any decision you were pondering on instantly you feel better and calm, even when the decision is something you know it's going to be painful, it just give you the certainty you need
Humility, be teachable and honest. Remember when you decide not to make a decision life will make it for you. Therefore don't believe in yourself but God. Faith without works is dead!
totally agree,,,,, she is da bomb. And WE (you too!) have the option, to take her suggestions and PUT THEM TO WORK RIGHT NOW...5 4 3 2 1.....or, just hear, learn and UNDERSTAND the concepts......yet NOT APPLY them. Which is foolish. There's a saying that applies.... I paraphrase ... "Knowing but not doing, is as if we never knew it at all."
I feel like I found Mel at the perfect time. I have been working on my mindset for years and can finally start to take action, and then I found her! Great suggestions.
@JessBisme123 if interested, look up Marisa Peer. She's a therapist; was also a guest on this show. In a short time, I've seen positive results in listening and following her advice. Hope it helps. Best regards.
Bravo Mel, I think all of us in our life relate to this issue. I am a decision maker at work and I can’t make myself to do my finances I’m ignoring it and escaping to go away on holidays overseas. I don’t know why my brain is reacting in this way. It’s unbelievable! Thank you for 5 sec rulzs. Will apply this as I need to unlock my mind right now.
What a great teacher. I love that while (with all respect,) Mel Robbins was obviously in a very dark, scary, emotional experience....she found something that was so profound for her that she researched the shit out of it, creating her own security and validation. Out of that she was able to create her empowerment. Thank you for doing your work and showing us the way. I’m still in that process but proud to share that it’s going better than I’ve even envisioned.... With all my gratitude. 🙏
@Carrie Dolha Agree. We each have our own pace. If it helps, look up Marisa Peer. She is a therapist who was a guest on this show as well. I just found her on RUclips and it has changed the way I command my mind and I can see positive results in just a short time. Best regards.
I haven't even read The 5 Second Rule yet (ordering it now!) and I can already tell Mel had to hold her past thoughts, emotions, and perceptions outside of herself to observe them carefully in order to write this book. That alone makes it a masterpiece. Thanks so much for this interview. It's helping me get through a seemingly difficult week.
Dear Mel, I am generally a very motivated person. I agree with you to just keep it simple. I need to let you know that I have started using this with my 7 year old son. It works and he loves it. What he has started though without me mentioning anything about you or your work, he decided that we need to continue counting to 5,4,3,2,1,0 then he says lift off and he does whatever we wanna do. I said to him yesterday, just do it and he responded, well I need to count down so my mind knows! I almost had tears in my eyes. I respect your work and am using it im my professional as a change manager. Respect! Ali
alvoda I want to thank you, I'm a 44 year old new single mom . Suffering from anxiety and depression for 24 years, you just gave me the brilliant idea of using this in soon future with my 10 months old boy. Thank You!!!! 🙏💛💛💛
Who are these ppl who's clicking the thumbs down. I changed the way I think just by listening & following her steps. It worked ppl. Just fight within you & spend a few minutes of your time for this valuable video. For the better!
I'm out of words to say how much I've enjoyed watching this video. It has made me think about how simple it may be to control my life and attitudes. It was a push to change myself. Thank you so much ❤️
Tom, you are THE BEST listener on this planet! I love Mel + enjoy every talk you upload, but witnessing you listen...is one of my favorite parts. =) Keep up the amazing work! I wish you this whole world.
This is impacting my life tremendously as I found myself in a reality at the age of 41 where I had to radically and drastically change my whole life after loosing everything! I'm still 41 by the way and am finding tremendous benefits in the change that I committed to, so thank you both for this wonderful interview!
I used this method for about 1.5yrs after watching the very same interview and it worked with everything I've done, surpassed everything I set out to do. As of the last 4months I dropped it, I'm currently off routine and poised to not reaching any of my goals for this year. Just watch the interview again because it's what sparked the discipline..... Hitting the reset button! The year ain't over yet!
I found myself worrying about something unnecessary and not only do I recognize it creeping up but now I count 5,4,3,2,1 and I smile and my mind shifts and I feel great again. This is amazing!
This training is also in alignment with the Bible teaching of, “being transformed by the renewing of your minds,” in Romans chapter 12. Breaking negative habits and replacing them with healthy habits is what transformation is all about and This hope is the anchor for your soul. Such great advice for those with anxiety!! Thanx Tom and Mel for sharing.
So true! We have to make Jesus Christ #1 in our lives. Making Him our Lord and Saviour is the first step. Then listening to the Holy Spirit and obeying is the next step. You have to want to change into the kind of person who God wants you to be. No one can make you. It's a free choice and gift from above, from God Almighty. Satan will do everything in his evilness to stop you, but you have to listen to the still, small voice, the Holy Spirit. Praise God! ❤
Unquestionably one of the best guests you’ve ever had Tom. I’ve been a keen listener and reader of self-help for 30 years and I rate this as absolutely one of the best ever.
Thank you sooooooooo much , this cane when I was checking out and almost gave up on everything & everyone around me, after watching this ready I can truly say I am ready to live again ❤️ I love everyone reading this and may you find yourself ...
Well I am very happy u found this video, stay strong n remember nothing in life is too hard to over come…. Sending u love n peace with lots of strength… stay blessed
I appreciate your interview with Mel Robbins ! Once again in my life I am reminded of these simple treasures, and am going to apply! You created a great environment for Mel to truly share herself, without interrupting or cutting her off. I felt like I was in the room with you guys! Great job, and thank you SO much once again! Spread Love
Fascinating. I realized about a year ago that if I set a timer to start a task I would almost always start the task when the timer went off if not before. This captivates another element of challenging a moving motion to act. I like this. I have been watching many motivational talks but this is useful and I can already get behind the method
This was awesome. I've had Mel's book for some years, but THIS interview finally makes all that stuff make sense. As an interviewer, my goodness you have excellent skills, Tom. I've watched this several times. BTW, thank you for the awesome notes on the post, which makes it simple to rewatch a portion that I feel I need to see again. A great outline. I love this!
I came across this interview and it was breath taking. She is incredible,she went through tough times,so she knows what she is talking about. I will follow the rule. What a brilliant idea!
I was thinking the same thing. It's rare to find people who are actually skilled at interviewing. She's a powerhouse, but Tom added to the energy and believability of it, letting her finish her thoughts but bringing up new topics to discuss that blended seamlessly. Enjoyable to watch.
After a 3 day, self imposed "silent retreat", by myself, I was stunned by how powerful and apart from myself my brain was acting. It stopped listening to me and took over like a run away train, and I couldn't stop it. You are speaking about this, and since that experience I was truly awakened to the power and control of our brains. Thanks again.
All I can say is: thank you for chasing the impact you want to have in the world. This is the first video that's is talking to me! I love them all, but this one is my hit!!!
5,4,3,2,1 I have been doing this for about 10 years now. I discovered this as I was a kid. Like on your mark get set go! I use it for work, when I'm angry to calm down and get into a neutral mindset. It works 💪🏽.
Watched this video twice because she speaks truth. Her video is on repeat because she is exactly right: Motivation is BS. You take the action needed to be successful or you don't. Now affirmations, reinforcements, and programming your brain to do what you need to do and want to do is truth.
I love your speech, Mel. You gave me real motivation or reminded me of the reasons I have to take action. Well, it may be semantics. I understand the 5-second rules. But about the motivation thing: It's a motive to action. You need to find a motive, or reason to act. You need to remember your reason when you don't feel like doing what you need to do. That's called discipline; doing what you have to do when you don't feel like it. It also requires practice. The beauty of discipline is that you don't need to have it forever, once that thing you don't feel like doing becomes a habit, you no longer need discipline, the auto-pilot takes over. When you say that motivation is garbage, it depends on what that word means to you. Probably the feeling of being motivated is the problem. You may be feeling so motivated because you just listened to a speaker and that changed your mood. You were feeling down and after listening to some "motivational speech" you feel empowered and energetic, enthusiastic and then you wake up the next morning, and that feeling when out of the window because your old behavior is not that easy to change. You need to remember why you need to do what you need to do. You need to remind yourself of your 'motive' to 'action'. Thank you.
This is the Most Powerful Motivation Speech I have heard since 2014 I started listening to motivational speech. I ran over to Amazon to purchase the "5 Second Rule" book immediately. This woman is very intelligent and she understands human behavior entirely. I felt so connected and in tune with all she said because "TAKING ACTION" is the biggest problem I have. I have a list of goals, dream and habits but I talk myself out of them. God Bless You Mel Robbins! Cant wait for my book to arrive!!!
I only just discovered #melrobbins and the #5secondrule just over a month ago. I feel just the same way about her. She is so real, so open, so honest, so direct...yet so caring. Being able to relate to the person talking and teaching you how to change your life goes a long way in helping you do it. I am obsessed with her....my life has changed more in the month than I ever could imagine it would in that time frame!
You are remarkable lady. speaking raw truth as it should be not wrapped up in fancy lace or difficult jargon . The rule about no phone in bedroom is great . I have a smartphone which i switch off 1.5 hour before bed time and left downstairs and only keep the old phone for alarm and emergency calls. I also have a landline one set downstairs and another in the spare room upstairs that number is ex directory so only my close family have it. The smart phones and access to social media is destroying children's mental health and their social well being. I only bought the smart phone during pandemic and must say it helped me in keeping well informed on all aspects because the main stream TV news were just foom and gloom ..thank you for lovely inspiring talk.
I work as an AV technician at a local hotel and I had the amazing opportunity to tech the room Mel was speaking in. Prior to having any idea who she was, I set her presentation equipment up and introduced myself. Then something clicked, I had just gotten back from visiting my brother out of state and he mentioned a book to me because i was explaining to him how difficult it is for me to act on my instincts and I am constantly stuck in my head. Turns out, the book was The 5 Second Rule and a typical day at work turned into one of the most inspirational days of my life. So strange how life can surprise us and magically bring important people into our lives when we need it the most. I mean what are the odds Mel Robbins unexpectedly shows up at my work, still cant get over it.
5 second rule is quite interesting indeed !! Loved the simple ways to think right and bright in 5 seconds or less. Mel is a livewire, we can feel it instantly.
I don't came across this video..I'm just starting to watch it... title make me feel this is the motivation I need right now! Knee injury has turned me into a couch potato for the last 8 months. I feel like I've totally lost myself- and honestly I don't think I had much motivation before that. I'm ready for this video! Hopefully it helps.
Wow! I just had a big ‘aha’ moment when Mel said “when you put a lot of time and money into something, it’s hard to let go of it”. In my case, I’ve been hanging on for years to an old camper, constantly paying for upkeep and insurance, not having the confidence that it can even get me from point A to B without breaking down....hard to let go of it indeed.
Ha! My mom and stepdad are trying to buy a camper for full time lifestyle security and stability. It’s funny how things in life come full circle, even in unexpected ways with strangers. You could decide to sell and meet someone like my parents or otherwise where it can help you to feel good that you have made this decision.
Loved this! I just bought her book and sent this link to my mom, sister and two other friends. The message is powerful but who doesn't love to have a female hero speaking courage and determination into your life? What a gem. Thanks again Tom. Keep bringing the power to change because you have our attention.
I felt the exact same way and her explanations were so clear and easy to comprehend. This my favorite interview he’s done I can’t wait to apply this to my life
Hi! I just wanted to say this video contributed a lot into saving me back in 2017, I was stuck, depressed, not getting anything done and it completely changed my mindset. You might have no idea how your work had an impact on someone's - that u don't even know exists - life. Thank you!
I can't believe this was 7yrs ago but its so relevant to me now. Im currently stuck in a high functioning depression cycle. I procrastinate but still get things done, im basically doing enough to survive but not enough to live the life I want. Im stuck in a job i hate, with a boss who is such a bully and i dont even have the will to apply for a new job. I really needed this. Thank you
Get up and get going fam, I'm getting through the same cycle now myself.
Please watch Gabor maté maybe you're just stuck in your traumas ,he can provide wonderful insights about it, I'm struggling too but I don't judge myself or others,I just become more aware about my traumas and working on set my mind free of them, don't let them control your life❤❤
Me too after back pain i quit 30.3.
so i am scared to change but all is better than that
Same!!!
@@StevieMac1776 thank you 🙏
And thank you very much for being such a great interviewer and not interrupting her all the time. I love how you ask her the questions and then let the woman answer.
And that makes you feel empowered does it.
@@age_of_reason It's not about what you think. Generally interviewers don't let anyone talk really.
I totally agree
That's how you do an interview
So she was a criminal defense attorney and worked at CNN?
Sounds about right.
The best thing about Tom is he lets his guest speak. And he doesn’t interrupt even after they finished speaking.. because many times people have more to add ! And he always does his homework !! Great Job Tom.
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Thank you Tom for allowing Mel to talk without being interrupted. A lot of presenters don't have this skill. This message of NASA is amazing I feel that I have discovered treasure. And all for free. My heart is full of gratitude. I can already visualize my life changing. Much appreciated. I'm following your channel going forward. All the best to all of us. Cheers!
Thank you
I'm going to try my best and my father and God I won't let you down if I don't know what I'm doing me some help I don't mind asking y'all tell me thank you
@@annpipes5601 👽 🤯
me too!
Yes I agree it was refreshing 🥰
OMG!!!!!I believe that knowledge is power!...This has been a total game changer for me! A heartfelt thank you!
I listened to almost everything Mel Robbins on audible before watching this vid. Tom wore a NASA t-shirt because of the rocket launch image of the 5 second rule? I'm mind-blown like Mel! He's the besttttt and most amazing host!!!!!!!!
I'm 435 lbs on a weight loss journey I've lost and gained a million and one times. The whole day today has been about creating new HABITSSSS healthy habits Incorporating exercise into my life and my hobbies and being productive. I'm going to start doing this... I think it'll really help! I just need to take action. Like my deceased grandma used to tell me "Like Nike says Just Do it"
Thank you so much for this message Mel and Tom! I think its going to take me places!!!!
I will be praying for you. I know that my overeating is connected to feeling bad about being too overwhelmed, depressed, anxious and fearful to get anything done!
Prayers for you to achieve all your goals😊
Tgat is a great decision you made, I hope you will stick to it, 🙏🙏🙏
This is two years late. Hoping your well. I just found a guy @billnott. He has lost 200lbs in a year. I think he was 600 lbs. He is so motivating too.
thank you very much for being such a great interviewer and not interrupting her all the time. I love how you ask her the questions and then let the woman answer.
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Yes! Interviews where the interviewer/interviewee are always cutting each other off give me so much anxiety lol. Tom is so gifted.
That is awesome. My dad grew up in the very cold Midwest. The only food they had was what they grew on the farm. Nine kids, and a dad who beat the boys regularly. My mother told me after he died that he would not wear shorts bc of the scars on his legs. He once had milk spilled on him while milking their cow, and wore the same clothes all week. Apparently no other clothes were available. Wore 2 left shoes to high school bc that’s all he had. He pulled himself up, borrowed money from his kind sisters to buy an old car, then again to go to college working full time with a wife and children at home. No student grants. No military benefits, bc he was in a terrible accident and lost part of one hand. Graduated, and went on to have a government career lasting over 30 years. When unmotivated, I try to remember what my father did, and for my heritage. Honestly when I’m feeling lazy or feeling sorry for myself, I don’t.
Even if you are unmotivated, please remember that you-you-are worthy. ❤
1. Motivation is garbage
2. Knowledge action gap
3.counting backwards 5seconds rule
4. Say “I am excited to do this “more often Ask yourself why am I ready to do this ❤
Just look at the clock,I'm going to be late if I don't get up off my arse!
The WHYs? So often in Quran it's emphasised to inquire about universe, about creation, seek wisdom in day and night events.
Thank you for this recap you saved me so much time.
Thank you
Motivation is not garbage a lot of people have it. So "you' need to make yourself do things you don't want to do. What's the fun in that?
The first time I skimmed through a segment of hers and heard her say, "you're never going to feel like doing what you NEED to do", I knew she was on to something!!! I'm inspired by her advice and knowledge and I will be returning to watch /listen to more when I get "stuck" again!! THAAAANK YOU MEL!
Wow, glad this helps people, but I'm motivated quite often when I need to be. Why didn't the guy jump overboard with his decision in 5 secs? Seems hesitation, not action, saved him.....
@@chtomlin Sounds like you're confident. But she said confidence is a habit. Maybe you learned it early from good parenting or someone in your life.
@@leeleeturn I think I earned it, not learned it, but your point is well taken.... if you learn to be confident and have not earned it, what is it worth?
@@chtomlin Yes, you do have to do something to earn it
A man I was dating told me "IT'S NOT WHO WE ARE THAT HOLDS US BACK, IT'S WHO WE THINK WE'RE NOT"! I am a worrier, never sure in my decisions. Thank you for your 5 4 3 2 1. I am excited to have this guidance.
You go Linda! Much love, strength, & success. God Bless.
I'm gunna use that one "It's who we think we are not". Thanks for sharing that. Don't you mean "I have the HABIT of worrying"??
My best friend of 13 years lived by that motto! 😄RIP BDL 🦋💕awesome vid!!
Smart man ❤ And YOU'RE SMARTER THEN YOU THINK.!!! So SMILE YOUR LIFE is gonna change FOREVER if it hasnt ALREADY!!!😊❤
I have often counted down from 3, but I never thought about the scientific reason behind why counting down worked for me. It was so fascinating to hear her explanation. This quote had the biggest impact on me: “When you understand the power of a 5 second decision and you understand that you always have a choice to go from autopilot to decision-maker, everything in your life will change.” Really awesome!
Yes! That's a very powerful quote! So glad Mel resonated with you!
Ayesha Kamal what happen if you go out and your friends invite you to drink or take drugs at the moment you are enjoying the night. does the counting back trick works as well? i have my doubts its that powerfull
@@unknowndriver6652 what kind of example is that?? some people say NOT to DRUGS no matter the situation they are in.
That quote is at about the 22:00 minute mark
@@unknowndriver6652 just say no because you value health and feeling awesome sober. the idea is that those things give us true happiness when in reality, whatever that may be, they simply contort our perception. you can also party while sober and enjoy the music/laughs- or just set boundaries and say no I've got beddiebies
I've been doing this for two days!
Any time I catch myself having an anxious thought....."5,4,3,2,1 replace with boring mundane thought to replace it!
Seriously think you might have worked out how to cure my anxiety!
Thank you Thank you Thank you SO MUCH!
Thank you!
What I LOVE about her and this video is that she REALLY gives away some REAL technics that help people. Not many "speakers" do this or can be this helpful. They usually save the most important info to make people come to their workshops or buy the books.
Yes! This is so valuable
Have you tried listening to Jordan Prterson. All of his lectures are free. She gave just enough to make the book sound appealing, she sounds like a sales person. The book wasn't all that inspiring though... someone like JP promotes his book by teaching deeply about all he wrote about and expands on it further in lectures and discussions.
Hell that's just 1 person and there's many more online. Me thinks you just like how she talks yes?
This stuff makes so much sense. I'm sharing the information with my kids. I wish I had understood all of this years ago. My son went to baseball tryouts this week and he struggles with anxiety. When he said, "I'm really nervous," I asked him, "what are you feeling?" He grinned at me knowing exactly what I meant and he said, "I'm excited!" I love that I could give him a tool to deal with tough situations.
That's AWESOME, Tammy!!! I know Mel will love hearing that!!!
As a Mum (of sons) and someone who has had horrific (I can't cross the street) panic attacks, ANYTHING we can do to help our boys is awesome! Congratulations to both of you!
Aw that's great Tammy! Great way to help kids deal with their emotions, more mums need to learn about this 🥰💖💪
My high school swim coach taught me that same lesson!!! At a championship meet, 30 years later I still recall the moment as I looked up at him and told him how scared I was. He looked at me and firmly said, Brandy you’re not scared. You’re excited. I dropped my jaw in confusion and have spent the rest of my life remembering it once it registered. Amazing advice. Amazing that you have that bond with your son. How beautiful!!!
Mine is a teenager and she know everything already, but I'll try.
I love it when she said "You don't have to buy the book." It shows dedication for others' improvement in life. I've just discovered recently. Thank you for your story, Mel.
When she said "you don't have to buy the book" she actually told you "buy it" 🤔🧐
@@Goratek well I took her advice literally. So ya didn't buy 😆
Lmao wtf that's such basic manipulation no way u and 64 people believed that
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“Confidence isn't assuredness, it's the willingness to try” wow, that's the best idea I've heard in a while. I can totally relate to this, sometimes I'm confident in my ideas but I'm unwilling to draw attention to myself.
So me saying I am not confident I can do something is the same as me saying I am not willing to try it 🙃 😩....ok let me work on that
Your response Resonates so much with me. Very confident in my ideas but reluctant to put it into action. I have constant negative thought of failure on ideas I know should work.
Over the years I’ve told close friends of several and to see them succeed on my idea has placed me in an emotional rut. It felt like a breach in confidence going behind my back to spearhead something they never thought of and ending a lifelong friendship over monetary gain without my inclusion. I no longer share my ideas but hoard them silently without action for fear of rejection or failure, especially financial failure. I can truly relate to this interview wholeheartedly.
@@sjgeneralcontractors2137 if they are wonderful ideas that change the lives of others for the better and you are too scared to pursue them is it not a good thing that someone else has gone ahead with the idea? Just an idea... Although i truely hope you can use the 5 second rule to begin on a new venture based on one, or many, of your great ideas! All the best for the future
I relate to “unwilling to draw attention to myself.” Thank you!
Absolutely the most powerful guest. Mel Robbins spoke to every emotion that I am going through right now. Because of this episode I am 'excited' to move forward in my life, and make the changes that I have been afraid of making because of fear and uncertainty. Thank you so much Tom for this show and your guests. You truly are making an Impact on my life!
That's so awesome to hear!!! Mel is amazing and I'm so happy that her advice is helping you. That's what this is all about!
Blessings to you🙏🏽❤️
This has definitely helped me develop a new habit of not sleeping with my phone, hitting the snooze and getting up when I hear the alarm at 5AM. I am getting so much done in a day. #5SecondRule
That's so awesome to hear! It's been amazing to hear how many people have been affected positively by Mel's 5 second rule!
I'm trying it and other things but i was a fentanyl addict. 2yrs clean but my brain is struggling. I just feel worst. The dopamine clearly overloaded my brain.
@itzjess88 keep trying and don't give up. You got this❤
"Our mind is designed to stop you, at all costs, from being anything that might hurt you!" That is so so true... As Mel said that hesitation sends stress signals to stop your brain, to stop you from doing anything...Mel is such an inspiring woman who creates lots possibilities to everyone... very impressive!
Think it, do it. Go by your first thought. Now, if your first thoughts are usually crazy thoughts, then you need to clear out your mind, like suicide or rob a bank,but they are usually not your first thoughts,but people don't know that.
So we go against God's nature and disobey our own brains?
This woman is a genius. One thing that I've come up with in recent years is that yea, I never FEEL like eating healthy or exercising and it's so easy (especially when I've struggled with it my whole life pretty much) to just fall back into that comfy zone. The comfort zone is a myth, it's more like a death zone...it will KILL YOU slowly. I say, don't think, not on this type of stuff...just do...do what you know you need to do to improve yourself no matter how you "feel" because otherwise, you will always be trapped in that death zone AKA the comfort zone.
Mmeldr😊
You are genius
I'm sorry, a "genius" she is not. But if she helps you, God bless you. Do what YOU need to find your peace. 😊
@@johnstagl5651 do you feel that
@@johnstagl5651 did find thatb way, where you are happy... aaaa ..... And you quit eating bad staff
Before anything else, the lady didn't dump her husband at his worst. Shows how noble she is
I used a lot of her techniques when I was teaching people how to drive. A lot of my students were terrified of driving and I would make them say out loud “I’m excited” right before we started and it really helped.
I bought the book and I’m applying. I am now back into songwriting and have my RUclips channel that I promised myself I would set up for years. Not a plug btw. Well ... you know.
Thanks Mel! Love Impact Theory.
I just subscribed ur channel!
I went to yr channel. i didn't watch any of yr vids. Cuz i don't care. But i subbed...well, you know. ;)
Which book
Mer Asas thank you so much for that. That’s awesome.
craffte Thanks so much craffte. Appreciate how you can be helpful - even when not caring. Maybe pay a visit? Wishing you all the best.
Started sceptically seeing it's a 49 min video, but now I think this is a video that's gonna help me change my life. Thank you so much! Both of you're wonderful.
I love Mel Robbins. Her blunt honesty, her active spirit and her knowledge are inspirations that I go back to every time that I need a lifeline.
Whst do you think about her chin?
Outstanding 🖤
@@snoweewhites9983 it’s a chin is what I think about her chin :)
@@snoweewhites9983 She is a gobbler. And a good one too!
@@seanpaulcurran 😊😊
@@snoweewhites9983 And you're perfect? Good for her for not running off to a plastic surgeon to feel better about themselves. Vanity is out of control
Here to spread some love and kindness to those reading this comment. Have the best day. You deserve it🧘🏻♀️
Thank you! You too.
Omg, she has so much energy, it is so contagious! And the 5 second rule is so powerful... Amazing episode, time flew by so fast.
Gonçalo Costa So glad you liked it!
I think she is getting all this energy from just being honest. To herself and to people. When you live in illusion and talk about lies, it drains lots of energy.
Wow! I love how a 14 year old me, has been changed by knowledge and information found by someone who has lived life. It just shows how the old and new generation co-operate with each other. I'm currently suffering from GAD to a point where it affected my exams and I've been feeling reluctant about school, but as soon as I had that you're decision away from changing your life, something clicked.☺
I literally just asked my boss to work from home despite the pressure the companies under after watching this so that i can focus on my life and my health from home, Thank you so much
Four years ago, I found this video. I was stuck in a job I didn't enjoy and was terrified to leave. But I listened to this video everyday driving to work. I finally left, which was one of the best decisions I ever made. Thank you to both Tom and Mel for such a wonderful interview. It truly changed my life.
It's called motivation, because of of her video you did something that you didn't gave the courage to do before
Shed say motivation is 💩 crap...lol
😂 Aaron's paying attention
Kudos!!!
Any updates?
This woman gives the most practical advice i have ever heard 🌞🌞🌞
How has it panned out for you?
Confidence is not a personal trait, it’s a skill. Loved that one ❤
Yes, of course it's a skill
Its a skill if you have to aquire it yes, its inate if your born & wired that way , yes
What is another person has an epiphany will you be so elated as well. You can’t believe everything people say. All the prefrontal cortex research is silly men don’t really know how the brain works they just observe input and output and speculate. Be a critical thinker stop putting people on pedestal.
@@stayinghealthy-bt5pb it is not a skill but your skill will determine your confidence.
Staying in a body that you are not proud of is a DECISION!!!!!!
LOVE that and LOVE Mel!!!
Totally relatable, down to earth inspiration…
Thank you Tom and Mel for sharing your wealth of knowledge!!!❤️
That one was mine
that is NOT true for many many people.....genetics, and birth defects, accidents and cancer have done things to people's bodies that they have NO CONTROL over......she is very simplistic and superficial if you ask me
This is the most perfect interview I have seen, I love science and I love the way she linked it all to science. I've been searching tirelessly for a show like this and I've finally found it. Glad I found you Tom!
Don't know how this is not a legit TV Show! Love your stuff
Thank you!
@@TomBilyeu YT Red is my only "tv", so YES! I'm so grateful for this content!! Thanks Tom for alllll the awesome. Love to Lisa, too! YOU GUYS F-ing ROCK
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It's absolutely true when Mel said, "There are tremendous number of introverted people that feel uncomfortable putting the attention on themselves, but they are very, very confident in their ideas." I think I am one of those.
Yea me too.
I also understand! 🤍
So me
Me too
That me for sure 👍introverted,but sure about my abilities.
I thought I was the only one who couldn't take action even when I KNEW what to do!! The 5 second rule rules! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
hurt people hurt others....fear makes you do so many things that don't help, but hurt and exacerbate the issue....such amazing realizations and shares....thank you for your work!!!!!
It's an honor! Mel is amazing! So glad the episode resonated with you!
I am truly blown away by this video. I feel it’s an awakening and will be rewatching it a few times as my starting point. She spoke to me on a level and I finally feel like I can help myself using these tools to get back up from the rock bottom my life has hit after what I thought was a life destined to fail with such bad luck and listening to others advice not myself enough ,, not using these tools shutting the world out to cope now after so much has gone wrong , but now I feel i can get back up. I will be researching more on the amazing Mel Robbins and also want to say that the interviewer here was great too very engaged and allowed her to freely talk and explain it all so well. Thank you to both of you for this life changing information 🥰 much appreciated.
Update pls millionaire yet?
This video popped up while I was searching for a makeup tutorial on how to paint a fairy face. It was God sent. I have started feeling more and more hopeless to the point of, at times, toying with the ultimate and final way out of it all. This was a beam of light. The openness of Mel about her experiences especially helped. Thank you
You are worth it. You are a child of God ❤️
Jesus loves you!!!!❤
You better off finding that 'fairy face' tutorial
As we lay there thinking of “fairytales” and super hero’s we expect someone else to come to our rescue.
But if we just just “jump-up” and do the Mel blast- we’ll become our own hero !!
Love it !!
I think I have changed as a person while watching this video. This video has shaken my belief system for good.
That's fantastic! Mel really delivered the goods with this one!
Change your decisions change your life. Change your mind and you can change your actions, decisions and everything. Wherever you start interrupt the unconsciousness of your life and become more awake/conscious/aware of your decisions, thoughts, self talk, ideas, beliefs, values, habits, circumstances, relationships and so on controlling your life!
Saurabh Singh sounds like bullshit.
I feel the same.
Bollocks Freemason has brainwashed you
Of all the thousands of videos and influencers I have come across to help with depression, anxiety. This is the most helpful. Techniques backed up by science and deep explanation on HOW to improve as opposed to telling us for 30 minutes - the problem or what we already know. Thank you Mel!
Please search for magnesium videos.
Facts!! My thoughts exactly
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Not sure what else to say but.... WOOOWWW!!... I so needed this kick in the ass!. I'm watching this everyday until I engrained it into my soul.. THANK YOU ... SO MUCH!!
So glad it helped!!! And rewatching is an awesome strategy!
Tom Bilyeu I am on the brink of doing something stupid! My names is Stephen and I am the same as Steve who is referred to in this video! 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Thank you! I counted backwards 3, 2, 1 and I got up and washed a cereal bowl, to eat some cereal after not eating for almost 9 Days! I was stood at the kitchen sink looking out the window whilst washing the Bowl with this video playing out the rest of it with it, in the background, whilst washing the bowl, I looked up and out the window, into the world I have not been dealing with, and hiding away from! And to the left of me was an aircraft coming into land at our local airport, that Aircraft has just become my rocket moment! Thank you @Mel Robbins ( I would love to know what the musical soundtrack that is playing during this video absolutely fantastic!?)
Stephen Johnston Wow that’s amazing, good on you!
I also watch this video so often!
Jeff Mcilroy 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 yes!!! Doing same hahah
Out of all these motivational video that flood the internet Mel Robbins video is the most meaningful and powerful of all! Hands down!
Budha said this before: "Suffering is caused by decisions not made". So once you have made any decision you were pondering on instantly you feel better and calm, even when the decision is something you know it's going to be painful, it just give you the certainty you need
Humility, be teachable and honest. Remember when you decide not to make a decision life will make it for you. Therefore don't believe in yourself but God.
Faith without works is dead!
@@cheylou1 Yes!! Let God & Let God! 🙌🏻
@@jencaligal6345 you mean let go and let god?
actually buddha said that desire is suffering. so wanting anything will cause you suffering.
That’s not always true we cause a lot of our own sufferings let’s keep it 💯
Sensationally brilliant. Love this woman!
totally agree,,,,, she is da bomb. And WE (you too!) have the option, to take her suggestions and PUT THEM TO WORK RIGHT NOW...5 4 3 2 1.....or, just hear, learn and UNDERSTAND the concepts......yet NOT APPLY them.
Which is foolish.
There's a saying that applies.... I paraphrase ... "Knowing but not doing, is as if we never knew it at all."
I agree with you Rita!!!
I feel like I found Mel at the perfect time. I have been working on my mindset for years and can finally start to take action, and then I found her! Great suggestions.
@JessBisme123 if interested, look up Marisa Peer. She's a therapist; was also a guest on this show. In a short time, I've seen positive results in listening and following her advice. Hope it helps. Best regards.
How’s it going?
🙌 #realtalk
Bravo Mel, I think all of us in our life relate to this issue. I am a decision maker at work and I can’t make myself to do my finances I’m ignoring it and escaping to go away on holidays overseas. I don’t know why my brain is reacting in this way. It’s unbelievable! Thank you for 5 sec rulzs. Will apply this as I need to unlock my mind right now.
Great use of 49 minutes! I love this, really needed it. I will continue to watch and listen to every word till it’s embedded in me!
Don't try to find a reason to procrastinate.. do it now whatever you need to do
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Are u still using it?
Tom, I am not sure if I believe in serendipity yet, but I needed this video today. Thank you. You and Mel may have just saved me.
I love that! This is one of my favorite comments to receive! The right message at the right time. That's what it's all about.
What a great teacher.
I love that while (with all respect,) Mel Robbins was obviously in a very dark, scary, emotional experience....she found something that was so profound for her that she researched the shit out of it, creating her own security and validation.
Out of that she was able to create her empowerment.
Thank you for doing your work and showing us the way.
I’m still in that process but proud to share that it’s going better than I’ve even envisioned....
With all my gratitude. 🙏
@Carrie Dolha Agree. We each have our own pace. If it helps, look up Marisa Peer. She is a therapist who was a guest on this show as well. I just found her on RUclips and it has changed the way I command my mind and I can see positive results in just a short time. Best regards.
I haven't even read The 5 Second Rule yet (ordering it now!) and I can already tell Mel had to hold her past thoughts, emotions, and perceptions outside of herself to observe them carefully in order to write this book. That alone makes it a masterpiece. Thanks so much for this interview. It's helping me get through a seemingly difficult week.
Dear Mel,
I am generally a very motivated person. I agree with you to just keep it simple.
I need to let you know that I have started using this with my 7 year old son. It works and he loves it. What he has started though without me mentioning anything about you or your work, he decided that we need to continue counting to 5,4,3,2,1,0 then he says lift off and he does whatever we wanna do.
I said to him yesterday, just do it and he responded, well I need to count down so my mind knows!
I almost had tears in my eyes.
I respect your work and am using it im my professional as a change manager.
Respect!
Ali
Wow! I love this! Thanks for sharing.
alvoda I want to thank you, I'm a 44 year old new single mom . Suffering from anxiety and depression for 24 years, you just gave me the brilliant idea of using this in soon future with my 10 months old boy. Thank You!!!! 🙏💛💛💛
@@lolavelmar2996 you're going to crush life
Who are these ppl who's clicking the thumbs down. I changed the way I think just by listening & following her steps.
It worked ppl. Just fight within you & spend a few minutes of your time for this valuable video. For the better!
I absolutely love this. Her perspective is so refreshing.
Watched this in full and broke down crying. Thank you. I hope today I can make that change. I really do.
Because you're a loser
Such a realistic individual. She is real and it's rare to find such individuals in this day and age. Love her energy. Thanks Lisa 🙂
I'm out of words to say how much I've enjoyed watching this video. It has made me think about how simple it may be to control my life and attitudes. It was a push to change myself. Thank you so much ❤️
Hi. Just checking in to see if you ended up making those changes?
Me too, Paula. How did this pan out?
Tom, you are THE BEST listener on this planet! I love Mel + enjoy every talk you upload, but witnessing you listen...is one of my favorite parts. =) Keep up the amazing work! I wish you this whole world.
He is a ef head!
I concur...he has this skill of "active listening".
Holy Mackerel I love her Energy and perspective! Great Interview Tom!
This is impacting my life tremendously as I found myself in a reality at the age of 41 where I had to radically and drastically change my whole life after loosing everything! I'm still 41 by the way and am finding tremendous benefits in the change that I committed to, so thank you both for this wonderful interview!
I hope that you are doing well
@@grainofsand4176 Yes, creating and recreating life as I go! Hope you're doing well as well.
I used this method for about 1.5yrs after watching the very same interview and it worked with everything I've done, surpassed everything I set out to do. As of the last 4months I dropped it, I'm currently off routine and poised to not reaching any of my goals for this year. Just watch the interview again because it's what sparked the discipline..... Hitting the reset button! The year ain't over yet!
I found myself worrying about something unnecessary and not only do I recognize it creeping up but now I count 5,4,3,2,1 and I smile and my mind shifts and I feel great again. This is amazing!
This training is also in alignment with the Bible teaching of, “being transformed by the renewing of your minds,” in Romans chapter 12. Breaking negative habits and replacing them with healthy habits is what transformation is all about and This hope is the anchor for your soul.
Such great advice for those with anxiety!!
Thanx Tom and Mel for sharing.
Amen!
So true! We have to make Jesus Christ #1 in our lives. Making Him our Lord and Saviour is the first step. Then listening to the Holy Spirit and obeying is the next step. You have to want to change into the kind of person who God wants you to be. No one can make you. It's a free choice and gift from above, from God Almighty. Satan will do everything in his evilness to stop you, but you have to listen to the still, small voice, the Holy Spirit. Praise God! ❤
Unquestionably one of the best guests you’ve ever had Tom. I’ve been a keen listener and reader of self-help for 30 years and I rate this as absolutely one of the best ever.
Thank you sooooooooo much , this cane when I was checking out and almost gave up on everything & everyone around me, after watching this ready I can truly say I am ready to live again ❤️ I love everyone reading this and may you find yourself ...
Well I am very happy u found this video, stay strong n remember nothing in life is too hard to over come…. Sending u love n peace with lots of strength… stay blessed
She is so amazing! Thanks to her 5 second rule I am recording my songs and uploading more RUclips Videos. And I started swimming again!
This is so much more do-able than just trying to "think positive thoughts" Which never worked for me. Thank you so much.
At first I did not give credit to Mel Robbins, but after listening to this interview, I have to say that she is Amazing.
Same here. This interview really is something.
Exactly, I couldn't get her message before. This interview is surely something special. I watch it every time I get a chance
54321 is BRINGING YOU INTO FOCUS!!!
Reta Tus Límites pretty sure it’s not your job to give credit, but get what your saying.
Kim Howard love this reply
I appreciate your interview with Mel Robbins ! Once again in my life I am reminded of these simple treasures, and am going to apply! You created a great environment for Mel to truly share herself, without interrupting or cutting her off. I felt like I was in the room with you guys! Great job, and thank you SO much once again! Spread Love
Fascinating. I realized about a year ago that if I set a timer to start a task I would almost always start the task when the timer went off if not before. This captivates another element of challenging a moving motion to act. I like this. I have been watching many motivational talks but this is useful and I can already get behind the method
This was awesome. I've had Mel's book for some years, but THIS interview finally makes all that stuff make sense. As an interviewer, my goodness you have excellent skills, Tom. I've watched this several times. BTW, thank you for the awesome notes on the post, which makes it simple to rewatch a portion that I feel I need to see again. A great outline. I love this!
May I ask what the name of her book is
I came across this interview and it was breath taking. She is incredible,she went through tough times,so she knows what she is talking about. I will follow the rule. What a brilliant idea!
She's so on point. So glad my mate told me about your channel and podcasts at work today.
Man what an introduction. Fantastic Hosting. Well produced and honest.
Thank you! Glad you liked it!
jonathan mulcahy it is
I was thinking the same thing. It's rare to find people who are actually skilled at interviewing. She's a powerhouse, but Tom added to the energy and believability of it, letting her finish her thoughts but bringing up new topics to discuss that blended seamlessly. Enjoyable to watch.
I just subbed to him, great video and interview!
He is, hand down, without a shadow of a doubt, the BEST at introducing people.
The way you introduced Mel, was the reason why I watched. The way it has positively impacted my life is amazing🤗🤗thank you
After a 3 day, self imposed "silent retreat", by myself, I was stunned by how powerful and apart from myself my brain was acting. It stopped listening to me and took over like a run away train, and I couldn't stop it. You are speaking about this, and since that experience I was truly awakened to the power and control of our brains. Thanks again.
All I can say is: thank you for chasing the impact you want to have in the world. This is the first video that's is talking to me! I love them all, but this one is my hit!!!
5,4,3,2,1 I have been doing this for about 10 years now. I discovered this as I was a kid. Like on your mark get set go! I use it for work, when I'm angry to calm down and get into a neutral mindset. It works 💪🏽.
I’m curious, if you discovered it as a kid, why have you not been using it for more than 10 years?
This lady is a true gem. Thank you so much Mel.
I watch a TON of personal growth content and Mel Robbin's interview with Tom is AMAZING. thank you both!
This is the most valuable interview I have seen in a long time. If not ever for my current situation. Nothing has spoken so damn directly to me.
I feel like my heart is burning while watching this, as if i need to do something right here right now! Feels good
Yes! That's the best reaction!
Watched this video twice because she speaks truth. Her video is on repeat because she is exactly right: Motivation is BS. You take the action needed to be successful or you don't. Now affirmations, reinforcements, and programming your brain to do what you need to do and want to do is truth.
I love your speech, Mel. You gave me real motivation or reminded me of the reasons I have to take action. Well, it may be semantics. I understand the 5-second rules. But about the motivation thing: It's a motive to action. You need to find a motive, or reason to act. You need to remember your reason when you don't feel like doing what you need to do. That's called discipline; doing what you have to do when you don't feel like it. It also requires practice. The beauty of discipline is that you don't need to have it forever, once that thing you don't feel like doing becomes a habit, you no longer need discipline, the auto-pilot takes over. When you say that motivation is garbage, it depends on what that word means to you. Probably the feeling of being motivated is the problem. You may be feeling so motivated because you just listened to a speaker and that changed your mood. You were feeling down and after listening to some "motivational speech" you feel empowered and energetic, enthusiastic and then you wake up the next morning, and that feeling when out of the window because your old behavior is not that easy to change. You need to remember why you need to do what you need to do. You need to remind yourself of your 'motive' to 'action'. Thank you.
Great point, I would also say she was motivated by that rocket (NASA)
This is the Most Powerful Motivation Speech I have heard since 2014 I started listening to motivational speech. I ran over to Amazon to purchase the "5 Second Rule" book immediately. This woman is very intelligent and she understands human behavior entirely. I felt so connected and in tune with all she said because "TAKING ACTION" is the biggest problem I have. I have a list of goals, dream and habits but I talk myself out of them. God Bless You Mel Robbins! Cant wait for my book to arrive!!!
That's awesome! So glad what she said resonated with you!
I only just discovered #melrobbins and the #5secondrule just over a month ago. I feel just the same way about her. She is so real, so open, so honest, so direct...yet so caring. Being able to relate to the person talking and teaching you how to change your life goes a long way in helping you do it. I am obsessed with her....my life has changed more in the month than I ever could imagine it would in that time frame!
Vignette Vlogs That's Fantastic. Great job! And I completely agree with you about Mel. She is truly inspiring! Love listening to her.
You are remarkable lady. speaking raw truth as it should be not wrapped up in fancy lace or difficult jargon . The rule about no phone in bedroom is great . I have a smartphone which i switch off 1.5 hour before bed time and left downstairs and only keep the old phone for alarm and emergency calls. I also have a landline one set downstairs and another in the spare room upstairs that number is ex directory so only my close family have it.
The smart phones and access to social media is destroying children's mental health and their social well being.
I only bought the smart phone during pandemic and must say it helped me in keeping well informed on all aspects because the main stream TV news were just foom and gloom ..thank you for lovely inspiring talk.
I work as an AV technician at a local hotel and I had the amazing opportunity to tech the room Mel was speaking in. Prior to having any idea who she was, I set her presentation equipment up and introduced myself. Then something clicked, I had just gotten back from visiting my brother out of state and he mentioned a book to me because i was explaining to him how difficult it is for me to act on my instincts and I am constantly stuck in my head. Turns out, the book was The 5 Second Rule and a typical day at work turned into one of the most inspirational days of my life. So strange how life can surprise us and magically bring important people into our lives when we need it the most. I mean what are the odds Mel Robbins unexpectedly shows up at my work, still cant get over it.
5 second rule is quite interesting indeed !! Loved the simple ways to think right and bright in 5 seconds or less. Mel is a livewire, we can feel it instantly.
I don't came across this video..I'm just starting to watch it... title make me feel this is the motivation I need right now! Knee injury has turned me into a couch potato for the last 8 months. I feel like I've totally lost myself- and honestly I don't think I had much motivation before that.
I'm ready for this video! Hopefully it helps.
The knee is about moving forward
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I hope you feel better now. Sending you love and light. Hugs.
Wow! I just had a big ‘aha’ moment when Mel said “when you put a lot of time and money into something, it’s hard to let go of it”. In my case, I’ve been hanging on for years to an old camper, constantly paying for upkeep and insurance, not having the confidence that it can even get me from point A to B without breaking down....hard to let go of it indeed.
Ha! My mom and stepdad are trying to buy a camper for full time lifestyle security and stability. It’s funny how things in life come full circle, even in unexpected ways with strangers. You could decide to sell and meet someone like my parents or otherwise where it can help you to feel good that you have made this decision.
People are renting their (non moving) campers out as a living space/small apartment where I live.
Loved this! I just bought her book and sent this link to my mom, sister and two other friends. The message is powerful but who doesn't love to have a female hero speaking courage and determination into your life? What a gem. Thanks again Tom. Keep bringing the power to change because you have our attention.
Tom, the perfect interviewer, listener and he really does his homework by really reading and his guests ' books!🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Mel. You make sense!!!
Thank you so much pulling myself through loss depression and self doubt every baby step is invaluable… peace on your hearts
She is so smart . I have never heard anyone say anything more true and relatable. Like ever !!! This is so crazy
I felt the exact same way and her explanations were so clear and easy to comprehend. This my favorite interview he’s done I can’t wait to apply this to my life
None of it is new
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You are changing the world team...thank you so much.
Mel Robbins, BRILLIANT!
Tom i look forward to your intros as much as I do to your guests! love em!
Med Life people used to hate the intros back then lol
Med Life I'm so glad! Thank you!
One has come to realize that you're not alone and its not abnormal the way our brains are wired, its a matter of rewiring ourselves. Thanks Mel❣👊🏽
This video changed my life , I knew something was missing in my life, I finally found the missing piece thanks God bless you Mel.
It’s indeed a ‘life changing material’. Good luck for your future
Hi! I just wanted to say this video contributed a lot into saving me back in 2017, I was stuck, depressed, not getting anything done and it completely changed my mindset. You might have no idea how your work had an impact on someone's - that u don't even know exists - life. Thank you!