Stop Holding Yourself BACK & Get INSPIRED to Go After What You Want | Mel Robbins
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The truth about life, success, and failure is everything depends on you. The problem is that you, and nearly every other person around, defaults to being at the mercy of the people, the environments, and unfortunate situations that mark the course of life. Mel Robbins is the personification of motivation on steroids packed with a high potency of raw truth. You could say she’s joining Tom to discuss her newest book, The High 5 Habit, but it’s more fitting to say she’s back to give you the kick in the ass you’ve been waiting for. Mel is not only talking about why high fiving yourself is powerful, she’s reminding you that you have a responsibility to heal yourself and do the work. While you’re chasing your dreams, understand that what the world sees as failure may just be a massive success in the timeline of your life, as has been the case for Mel Robbins.
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SHOW NOTES:
0:00 Introduction Mel Robbins
1:42 | A-Ha Moments In Life
7:20 | Why High 5 Yourself
19:54 | Feel Worth Celebrating
25:15 | R.A.S. Looking for Hearts
34:59 | Powerful of Jealousy
37:44 | Life Is Your Responsibility
47:38 | Interrupting Destructive Worry
51:37 | Mel’s Vermont Painting
QUOTES:
“I hope that when somebody listens to our conversation and watches this that they have a massive a-ha moment, but it’s not going to mean fucking shit if you don’t take action and do something about it.” [3:01]
“You are going to find yourself not at 25, but 45 or 65, and you're going to be so filled with regret that you never fucking put a bet on yourself.” [6:29]
“When you start to have a moment with yourself, the crazy part is you start to build a partnership with yourself.” [15:01]
“Beating yourself up will not make you do the work to get healthy, and tearing yourself down over the shit that you've done or the terrible relationships that you're in it's not going to empower you to change the patterns that are keeping you stuck.” [24:50]
“The thing about jealousy is, it's just your inspiration that's blocked. Jealousy is sort of the insecurity that you have that blocks this inspiration” [35:55]
“Most people aren't obsessed with their goals, because they don't believe they're worthy of them.” [40:36]
“If you don't, at some point, be defiant, against what the world or your caregivers or your past experience has pounded into your brain incorrectly, unfairly, you will forever be stuck with that story.” [41:16]
“You can have nothing, and you can still have your own back. You can have tremendous problems and very real obstacles that you're facing, and you can have a mindset that says, through my efforts, my attitude, I can have an impact on the situation that I'm in.” [45:09]
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I’ve been watching Impact Theory and listening to 5 second rule on Audible. Thank you Tom and Mel. I ve lost 70 lbs since last year. I have started a Portfolio with what I am comfortable to invest, stopped smoking , No longer dominated by alcohol . Today I’m excited for Fitness every day, I have began meditating, Just turned 40 in September. I am excited for my future which will forever be a work in progress.
What gave you the energy/motivation to make such changes? Congratulations wish you all the success!
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The commitment is to help myself and eventually get strong enough to help others. Motivation comes from always learning about my body, my mind, my past, myself and trying to find away to incorporate what I have learned to make myself one day better than yesterday.
"Just take that first step. Then another and another and sooner or later you will look back and see that you are at the top of the staircase."
Thank you Greatly.
Whaaaa that's awesome congrats! 💫🎯❤
40 years young Oliver. 40 years young.
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"You are not responsible for what happened to you, you survived what happened to you but you have a responsibility to heal yourself and do the work to change so that you can be the happy fulfilled person born to be." Thank you Mel
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Too many times f word
This hit me hard.
“There’s enough success to go around for everybody.” ✨🙏🏾 YES!!!
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I just wanna chuck my 2 cents in so I have found that the best thing that has helped me get out of bed in the morning, get off drugs, quit smoking and then improve my life the way I want it is by learning how the body and mind works and then doing something about it. These videos have been life changing and I couldn't respect it all anymore until I learn something new. 😁
Tom is a genius at bringing out the best in whoever he speaks to. He is constantly inspiring and bringing us the tools from every corner to make us legendary. All we have to do is take ACTION!
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lmaooooo Tom sucks
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@@arsenioseslpodcast3143 yep Mel is a Rockstar talking to a fkn robot
I’m a survivor of domestic violence, and I overcame a lot of adversity and still overcoming to get to my dream. But I will show other women you can too overcome anything you set your mind with a lot of faith, work and consistency to keep showing up for yourself. If I can do it ! You can too ❤️🙏🏻✨
You lived with a violent abusive man? When did you realise he was going to hurt you?
So happy to hear that you are doing better! Here is an extra highfive to pass on to yourself ❤️🙏🏻
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You deserve a big high 5!
Thank you ❤️❤️✋🏼✋🏼✋🏼
she REALLY showed her vulnerability & humanity when she said "I love you". I love her.
“Did he move or not? I don’t fucking know” Classic Mel Robbins 😂
“Marry somebody who’s happy and work on your own happiness” woooow🤩 super powerful statement!
For me the best part of this was definitely her pointing out that beating yourself up doesn't work. There's so much motivational stuff out there that talks about being hard on yourself but if you do that you just end up feeling worse. It's really important to have compassion and empathy towards yourself instead of beating yourself up.
Your channel is fantastic dude. You’re actually giving the people knowledge they need with all of these amazing people.
I absolutely agree with you...these are so informative and action provoking
Yeah Tom is one of a kind.
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I needed this I’ve been so angry about losing the use of my legs because of a spinal surgery gone wrong.
My story doesn’t stop there many things have happened before after .
Thank you for this
I am so sorry to hear that. You're doing amazing and go high 5 you're self for doing AWESOME!❤
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Hang in there darling. The sky is your limit!
Wow you are amazing to take such a positive attitude... wishing you all the best... !!
What you've shared is truly inspiring, Terrie Johnson
I love that concept of high fiving yourself in the mirror instead of looking at your insecurities. In islam we that something I wouldn't say similar but very positive that we do when standing in front of the mirror. It's a prayer that we say and I think it's solves every insecurity of body and self. It goes like this: O Allah, You have beautified my body, so do beautify my character.
Tom, I watch your show every day during my lunch break at work. Discovered you about 4 years and have nothing but huge respect for you. You have no idea how much your content has changed my life, how much I’ve learned and grown from it! I love Mel, thanks for having her back on the show.
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I am on my way to getting an international position at my job and finishing my masters courtesy of all the rules I've borrowed from Mel. This woman is the bomb
Love this video. This morning I went to walk my dog and decided to draw a bunch of hearts in the dirt. I made a video and will post on my channel. Then I hear Mel Robbins talking about hearts. That made my day!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
"Jealousy is one of the most directional signals on the planet. Because you are only jealous of people who are doing things or have things that you actually want. It's impossible to be fake jealous."
"When you start to have a moment with yourself, the crazy part is you start to build partnership with yourself."
"See, your dreams....you either pursue them or they will fucking haunt you."
~Mel
I have written a few quotes I found powerful. Help out yourself.
It seems someone is mixing up jealousy and envy. Two different things.
@@debbiemohekey1509 how so?
@@debbiemohekey1509 I looked them up, and yah Mel, in all likelihood, means 'envy' - since 'jealousy' means coveting something we already have with the suspicion it will be taken away. I guess most people think both words have the same meaning. Would have, IMO, been more generous of you to point out the actual distinction, rather than just a snarky, 'someone' has them confused.
@@barbarafairbanks4578 Jealousy is coveting something that someone else has that you want, and resent them for having not something you already have and are afraid of losing. No snarkiness just straight to the point .
@@debbiemohekey1509 I looked it up - "Envy is when we lack a desired attribute or possession
enjoyed by someone else."
"Jealousy is when something we have is threatened by a third person."
The above... from Psychology Today.
Websters def. is basically the same, i.e., "Jealousy is when you worry someone will take what you have."
"Envy is wanting what someone else has "
So, although your original comment was that 'someone' was confusing the two terms, Your reply about 'Jealousy' indicates you have the 2 terms confused. (Although, by 'someone' having the two confused, I took to mean you meant Mel?)
Unfortunately, You have it exactly backwards. You seem to have mixed up both definitions and combined them to mean Jealousy. You are, according to YOUR definition of Jealousy agreeing with Mel's usage of the term 'Jealousy'. (Coveting what someone else has and resenting them for having is 'Envy' - not 'Jealousy'.)
Sorry -maybe a typo? - but you just gave the def. of 'Envy', but termed it as 'Jealousy.'
For anyone reading this, I've started making it a habit to tell myself 3 things as soon as I wake up, before I go to bed, and throughout the day whenever I get a wave of self doubt, anxiety, etc. 1.) I love myself. 2.) I believe in myself & I trust myself that I am capable to giving myself everything I've ever desired. I believe in myself that I will be get myself where I am supposed to be. 3.) I accept myself fully - everything that I am, every thought that I have, every interest, every quirk, every hardship I've had, everything I've done to myself....I accept myself fully. That last thing, the acceptance, has really shifted my heart. I think so many of us want to be loved and accepted by everyone around us, but never fully stopped to give our own selves this full acceptance. Please try these 3 things, they will change you. xx
Wow, I was given a similar technique by a wise teacher many years ago to say to yourself in the mirror: Hello Beautiful, I love You & what can I do for You today?! Thanx for sharing your many pearls of wisdom so far that are so simple, yet so very Empowering! 🙏
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This was so powerful. I hope all of you reading this can blossom and become your best selves. Don't let the world hold you down. Gold bless.
And, don't let Yourself hold You down either 😉💚
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*“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” - Eleanor Roosovelt*
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Her painting story had me in tears halfway through because I know the significance that comes from following those feelings. I love this and you guys and I'm so thankful that it's so easy to share these stories and knowledge with the WORLD. ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you❤️
Myself included! I'm listening to this at gym too... 🤣
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I’ve watched a lot of Tom’s interviews but this is by far one of the greatest. The part where Mel tells the story about the painting sent chills down my spine and nearly made me 😭!
Yes indeed Mel's story gave me chills, I had to rewind it three times.
I had an aha moment with finally finding my passion to write novels. My first one comes out November 12 and I’m writing my next one. 😀😀
Congrats!! That’s what *I’m* trying to do (finally!!) Thanks SO MUCH for telling your story-hearing others achieve what I’m attempting to do (& after they have *also* faced challenges!) is very encouraging!!🙌🏼
Mel Robbins is amazing. this is my third time listening and it’s bringing tears to my eyes the years I’ve wasted hating myself and tearing myself down to “motivate” myself to do better (which sounds insane), but I’m so grateful for this talk. I’m gonna get her book and I’m going to do the hi-give challenge with myself, my niece and nephew, with anyone who needs it.
She is a very articulate and easy to listen communicator. I like that in interviews.
I was doing my walking exercises and when she started saying about finding the hearts ♥️ immediately commanded my brain to look for hearts and so it did there it was on the road one of the road cracks had a heart shape I took a picture for remembrance Thank you guys for inspiring so many people ❤️
Indeed I found a lot of hearts on my daily walks so awesome ❤❤
“I can ask for help because I deserve it” it does all begins with believing in yourself.I had an aha moment when I realized I was a human being… Great talk! I love the swearing!! Be okay with being your unique self, it’s your journey!!❤️
Jealousy is an emotion I've had for someone who has what I want ...that should be a motivating force to drive me! Thanks alot Mel for this video! Thanks Tom for this video! Love you guys!
Love the heart thing. After my mom passed away 8 years ago, I developed a heart-shaped mole on my left arm. I thought I was imagining it, but it's a perfect heart shape. Still there. See it every day.♥️
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"The only thing that matters in life is are you having fun? Are you working on something that matters to you?" -Tom
This is such a deeply simplistic view of reality, I have to say. When you really analyze that statement, it is a deep philosophical claim to truth. I would argue there are lots of things that matter more than that. Is it important? Sure. But not the ONLY thing that matters in life.
I just want to thank Mel and Tom for this session. It was awesome and had me in tears on multiple occasions. Happy tears. In 2017 I was in a dark place and the first Mel Robbins interview with Tom really really helped me. Thank you both. You have shown me how to put in the work to make myself and my family better. Cheers!
Listen ... I bawled my eyes out when she was telling the story of the painting. Wow
Tom, thank you for all that you do, I needed this today! 😊♥️
I became a writer at age 61 in Bogotá, Colombia. It is my way to protest elegantly and reach the World 🌎
Thank you Tom for this most inspiring interview with Mel Robbins.
Thank you so much for this. I love the painting part, that was so amazing!!!
Mel, thank you. Your works are life-changing! ✨
such a POWERFUL INTERVIEW just LOVE Mel!!!!! Thank you!
Sending so much gratitude and love to your channel. I've taken so much valuable info from you in the past two years. I won't forget 2021, because this year changed my life for the better.
Juicy juicy juicy! Thank you Mel and Tom!! Incredibly helpful to hear in your voices we are each the captain of our ships.
this was such an empowering talk! thank you 🙏🏽
Absolutely adore Mel - what a blessing she is to this world ❤️❤️ thank you so much for this gold of an interview
This is by far my favorite channel to watch. It always guides me and helps me out of bad days. On days when I see no hope I just tune to one of his interviews and then somehow things just make sense again.
Tom , you bring so much value to our world. Thank you to you and your wife and team and all the guests for everything you are sharing with us!
I feel super motivated after these episodes but then find myself falling back to same old patterns, and not take action. My house is still a mess, and my tasks overwhelm me. I always procrastinate and make excuses. I know what needs to change but can’t seem to do it. With dreams, I just don’t know where to start and it scares me overall. I love all this motivational and inspirational things, but then don’t do anything about it within myself
Thank you Mel for responding to Tom’s question of why aren’t people obsessed with their goals. Some people truly don’t believe their goals have any weight or importance. Some of us have only been taught how to be afraid of dreaming because disappointment is more real than accomplishment in our backgrounds. But shows like yours and guess like a Mel help us understand how to get past that.
You got me! Tears 😭. Love the painting story and the whole interview. ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing!! Just bought the book. Thank you Tom and thank you Mel!
I have been trying to empower myself to keep going and pushing forward… Mel’s story at the end just brought me to tears…I really needed to see this episode. It has definitely picked me up to think and do things differently…I thank you for this.. 🙏🏽
My 2 Favorite Guru's in the same room as each other again after way too long!!
I can't get enough of this!
Love to both of you for sharing your sleeves...
Love Mel! She’s an amazing positive light in the world. Of course Tom is the man! Love this channel
just love how real, authentic Mel is.
Thank you guys I needed this❤️
Thank you for reaching so many. These words ring so true, during a 90 day rehab program for addiction, everyday, upon waking, I put an x through the previous day, and looked in the mirror and said, you can do this another day. Everyone, this science works, please do it and fake it until you make it. Best wishes to us all🖐
I knew I will hear what I need to hear in this interview: stop outsourcing. This is it. Thank you💕
The first interview left me speechless, I consider it amongst the best interviews I've heard. With this one, I feel the same.
Mel is sooo genuine, love her ❤️
I absolutely loved this. My life was put there for a reason. Set aside the ego (your adolescent self) and be aware of the triggers that arise from your younger self. Heal your inner child. Going to look for hearts now ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Your first interview with Mel on the 5 second rule introduced her to me and I became a superfan.Thank you Tom and thank you Mel!
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Superfan of her? Lol
I love her energy,attitude,swag and She a real one☝🏾
Love Mel. I've been using the countdown tactic for about a week and I'll be darned, it actually works.
I listen to Mel Robbins's "Five Second Rule" audiobook at least once a day to make myself do things that need to be done that I don't want to do. That book was a game changer for me. It can Level Up anybody who uses it. And Tom's ITU is beyond incredible. God Bless Tom, Lisa & Mel! :)
I’m about to start my own business. I have everything done and done to a tee however I’m stalling from pure fear of putting myself out there. I have such low self esteem! This has always held me back!! I’m now 46 and it’s time I faces this fear head on. Thanks for this video!! This helped a lot .
You can do it Shari!! Your exactly where you need to be ✨
Just highfived myself and got the chills. Loved this episode - self love ❤️
This is probably one of my favorite talks so far. Great content, great message.
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Sooooo good! I got a lot from this interview. Thank you!
Probably shouldn’t have listened to this 5 minutes before a work meeting 😭😭🙏🏼 So impactful. Thank you Mel!!!
One of the best interviews I have watched! And I watch interviews like this every day. I have watched hundreds. Both of you guys were incredible with this information. Thank you 🙏.
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Wow..two of the BEST and most amazing speakers together! This video touched my mind, body and spirit! Much love to both of you !
"Now that we're sitting down, I have something to tell you..." Jesus! I'm still crying!
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Amazinggg Discussion!! Thank you both soo much!!
Mel is amazing, and I have shared your content with students and clients. The value is going beyond motivation and getting to specific practices and behaviors needed to change one's life. It's Theory Y and intrinsic approach is what makes the channel special. At times a Theory X, feel good guest will appear and your probing really helps them to clarify their purpose (and the viewers), and for that, thank you.
What a great show today Love how Mel was keeping it real powerful appreciate your channel Tom Love and Good Energy to you and all the beautiful souls out there 💙🧡💜💥🌠
I’ve just bought the book and look forward to reading it. Thanks for an epic interview. Huge fan of you both 🙏
Wish I could like this 100 times !! Mel you’re a hero !!!
This was incredible, thank you 🔥🔥💛💛
OMG.🔥🔥
The painting story was the icing on the cake.
She always says that everything start with YOU & BELIEVE in yourself that You can have it what You want in life.
High-5 Mel Robbins 💕
This women talks sense . Following her and Tom since 4 years . So relatable and thoughtful . Keep going Mel n Tom
Thank you for this talk!
Amazing content! Just what I needed. Leaving my job to pursue entrepreneurship as a leadership coach/consultant has literally awoken all my saboteurs. High-Five habit sounds like a simple - yet positive approach to connecting with my genius zone and reducing the voice of the saboteurs!
Thank you so much for this 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
The Vermont painting was exactly the story I needed to hear! I have dreams that have been my head since I was 7 years old, and here it is 25 years later and those dreams are still there like a "splinter in your mind" as Morpheus says in the Matrix. I'm going to start high-fiving myself everyday, starting today!
High 5 to Mel, loved the interview. Must remember not to high 5 the mirror too hard. 😀
Thanks Tom, thank you Mel you guys are just blessings to this world.
I needed this, I’m so tired of talking myself out of things and starting things and not finishing them bc I hold myself back.
I HATE holding myself back. It’s like I want out so bad but I locked the door and I can see through the window.
This was of great value! Thank you!
Thank you this one was super powerful
Yes, I needed this today. I'm going to bring this back in, I have been acknowledging myself and literally saying hello beautiful, but now I'm going to add in the high five
Yeah look who is back, Mel😊 I love Mel but I live with David Goggin's principles, I don't high five myself, I push my lazy black ass out of bed and do the hard work.
Lv from South Africa🇿🇦🇿🇦
Stay hard!
High five yourself for getting out of bed and again after doing the hard work!
All about that cookie jar bro!! I thought the EXACT same thing when I heard the high five but then she goggins'ed me hahaha Gotta take that one moment in the day to remind yourself "you got this!! Ima take these mutha fucka's souls!!!
Peace and love brother
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P.s read/listen to the 'Growth mindset'(if you haven't already, I'm on my 8th time) LIIIIFFEE changer!!!
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@@velmahenn8761 Carol dweck is her name.. the audio book is on here 🙌
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Thank you Mel and yes you got this love this show
I NEEDED THIS VIDEO TODAY!! Thank you so so much 🙏🏾 I’m going to watch it again
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I always stop what I'm doing to hear Mel speak. And this one does not disappoint. One thing that could be defined better is the difference between jealously and envy. Jealousy is fear of losing what you already have to someone else. And envy is wanting what somebody else already has. I feel that envy is what Mel was talking about
What a fantastic inspiration show, can’t say enough liberating………..👏👏👏
love this chick and your energy, so much value your a God send
WOOOW!! Just love Mel robbins and her honesty!!this was soooooo inspiring and will start today to do the high five to myself and my four kids!!thank you so much!!!!
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I just downloaded Mel's audiobook! Thanks for this episode of your show, Tom!
She has told us the absolute truth...periodt! I admire this lady!
This woman is so pure🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Wow , that’s so amazing , thank you so much Tom and Mel 🙏❤️!!
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Speechless!!! Thank you both sooooo much!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻💯💯💯♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️