Wow wow wow what an episode 🤯 Mel is one of the most wise and introspective people I have ever met. That revelation at the end was amazing and emotional, thank you Mel 🙏🏽…. hit like and subscribe for a new episode every Monday
Mel Robbins is one of my favourite speakers, I love her books including the more recent one ‘The High Five Habit’ she is brilliant she keeps it real , honest and vulnerable as does Steven so this interview is just a match made in heaven, one of his best interviews in my humble opinion! Keep them coming Steven I’m so excited to see what you have planned for the next few weeks and for 2022 🤩
I owe my confidence to you mel, I am a chronic procrastinator, in my 37 years of life always strugged with punctuality, discipline, waking up late kept hitting the snooze button 10 times. I hated myself, played the victim game but also wanted to have big in life, big dreams, but never really mustered the courage to pursue them. I never even shared my dreams with anyone coz always felt people are gonna laugh at me. People always thought and I think they still do that I am a fool, can't do even a small work without messing up and I believe d them that yes I really can't. Today after listening you I realized I also went through sexual and physical abuse in my childhood days. Which my nervous system has recorded . My parents also never took pride in me because they thought I am not pretty and smart enough. Rather they always pulled me down, discouraged and ignored and embarrassed me even in front of other people and I never raised my voice against it coz I thought this is what i deserve. I was ashamed of myself in so many ways. Even I was good at so many things I never really valued myself and always focused on what I didn't have. People always made fun of me, and always always always mistreated me made me feel small good for nothing and I didn't even realize d it because it normal for me. At times when I even felt bad didn't talk back because I was really scared of people that they will start scolding me in front of others which will add to my misery. After going through crores and lakhs of self help videos I watched yours and I finally got my answer which I searched for 37 years. I always knew thers something in me which needs to be addressed and corrected my overthinlinh, time management etc but didn't understand what was the reason behind. But today I understood there's nothing physical thing stopping me, but my thoughts. I am capable of so many things but because of my past experiences . I think I can't do anything right. Till now I had this false belief that I can't do the dishes every night before going to bed and also clean the kitchen every night. But after watching you u have been doing this since 15 days consistently Thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That’s beautiful to hear I’m about to start day one tomorrow and feel an excitement I’ve not felt in a long time … your story is very relatable and I wish you much love and happiness on your new journey 🦋🌱
Loneliness also takes a toll on health. It may take a while but it definitely shortens ones life. I thought I was lonely just being single for yrs after my son's mom left me out of the blue but once my parents both died within a yr after loosing grandma a yr before that's when it got real. I'm an introvert so enjoy alone time but not all of it. I do have a son but only see him every couple weeks due to visitation rights. He will be 18 soon and plans to go to college in another state. The thing I miss the most is touch as that's how I feel love. I have improved myself all these years and tried the online dating thing. It's not what it was in the beginning. I've made no progress but I remember yrs ago when online dating was new it was very easy to find a date. I'm not sure why it's changed for the worst but for society I don't think it's good. I read an article the other day saying we have a mental health crisis coming and a loneliness one as well. They said it would be a few yrs but is fast approaching. God help us! 🙏
I can't believe I'm only just watching this!... What a woman ... She makes it relatable to someone even like me, who lives in a wretched part of South Manchester.... She is amazing, her wisdom is unfathomable... Watching this was like free therapy... We all have the ability... She makes so much sense... And yet she breaks it down into pure simplicity and doability...my beginning of change starts here. ... Thank you!
"Being stuck and hopeless doesn't mean we're broken, it's our patterns of thoughts and behaviors that are broken." Such a powerful insight into where I am in relation to where I want to be.
I really don't appreciate you interrupting this beautiful young lady who's helping people find their Joy to advertise your products you're taking advantage you know she'll have a large audience and youre being a little bit rude by doing that!!! 🤬
Anyone else tear up at the end? My first introduction to Mel. I was left with an impression of a woman who is is fierce and gentle. Loved this episode. My fave.
I had a traumatic childhood and lived in constant horrific anxiety for 27 years of my life... hearing her was very impactful. This podcast will change my life. Starting now!! 🖐️
the phrase "if i'm on the move, no one can catch me" strummed a chord in my body.. I thought I was the only one that felt like this.. your channel is really helping with my transition into a happier life
“ Everybody’s purpose is exactly the same, I think your purpose is to share your true self to be fully seen “ Mel Robbins this really hit me hard. Thank you so much ❤ 1:39:23
This whole episode deserves at least 3 replays till it gets embedded in ones head. Before this video I already knew Mel Robbins and her 5 second rule and the high five strategy but her view point on manifestation, visualisation and feeling 'stuck' literally answered a years worth of my questions. I now understand why I've been feeling like shit and what I need to do.
@@now591 honestly I feel absolutely great! Been a solid good year of growth and consistency especially towards health and fitness. But I only feel this way because of visualisation and consistency. All I’m saying is that if you want something as bad as you want to breathe than you gotta put in the work EVERYDAY! These motivational speakers that come with strategy just chat bs. Be real with yourself. Find out what you want in life and be delusional confident and put in the work. That’s the only equation that I’ll ever follow
Notes and quotes from this podcast: "Anyone is capable of achieving anything if they put their mind to" "The bigger the problem, the smaller the solutions are. The bigger the dream, the smaller the actions that you need to start taking. " " The window of hesitation defines your whole life, it is about 5 seconds long and that is where anxiety, hesitation and imposter syndrome live" " No Human being is born hating themself, we are wired for love and connection" " Being excited and being nervous are the exact same feeling, but the only difference is what your brain is thinking is happening" " Understanding what is the trigger for the bad feeling is what will help you prevent it" " Your brain learns pattern, which is where you should focus in fixing your patterns"
44:00: nervous and excitement same 49:00 kids - butterflies in stomach 52:53 business loss no job - being stuck in life - how you do what u need to do - divine intervention 57:00 - window of hesitation 5 sec rule 5,4,3,2,1. 1:04 Hi five rule
Dear Mel, You've touched me. I've had a similar molesting experience. I came out after it experience and knew if I told my parents about it, I would be blamed for it because that is how my mother always treated me. I relate totally with you. I have been living in fear all of my 71 years of life. FEAR controls me to this day. Now I have the answers. I can now live the rest of my days better. I have spent my life trying to fix me. With you, I have directions to follow now. Thank you.
I read your postsnd am hoping you are not so fearful now. I understand your experience , it has been mine too. I am older too. I just wondered if you tried to apply any of the discussipn and if so has it worked for you. Thanks in advance.
same here! and no remembrance until later in late and I felt so ashamed and not protected , was so angry at my mother for not protecting me and even when I told what happened I felt that I was not believed that was my imagination since I do have high IQ and photo memory so how the heck I put this out of my memory for so long and anxiety struggle has been so long Thank you Mel for opening your heart for ours to open
I had a brief moment in my life that I finally understood what anxiety attack was. Mel is telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Can’t believe some people live like this.
Please have your blood checked for any kind of vitamin, mineral, iron, thyroid, diabetes imbalance - so many physical things will manifest as anxiety or depression. Walking outside in nature for 15 minutes a day has improved my life beyond belief, it's an antidote for vitamin D deficiency
everyone i know suffers from incredible anxiety. we cannot meet as a family or friends due to riggers so we all live very separate lives. Most of us (about 80%) have now stopped working due to our anxiety and afraid of the triggers. It is dreadful. We have gone from a huge family of wonderful get togethers to the last five years of everyone having anxiety and no contact at all.
“The host allowed her to speak without interrupting her.” Steven Bartlett is an absolute GEM and I have no idea why he isn’t a superstar. Best interviewer in history in my opinion.
I have listened to many episodes, this was my favourite so far. Like so many, I have lived the trauma of abuse in my childhood and at 60, I think I may have found someone who will help me process it. Thank you, Mel Robbins, and thank you Steven Bartlett for introducing her to me.
How are you getting on with processing it ? I’m 58 and just starting to realise why I am the way I am. Lonely, discontent, and unable to have a lasting relationship. I hope you are getting somewhere x
Having adhd has been a struggle for as long as I can remember I’ve scoured the internet looking for a way to live in harmony with this brain affliction and being diagnosed in my late 50’s and I’m now 60 most of the self defeating patterns are well and truly chiseled in to my subconscious mind and I became lost and very depressed and severely stuck and burntout information overload has set in.. I came across Mel Robbins by what I call Devine intervention she just popped up on my screen while I was on RUclips (I love this platform 🎉🙏🏼) my interest peaked and I checked he status out and her podcasts and liked her straight from the hip with compassion and empathy openly emotionally expressive dialogue that comes straight from the heart..!! Relatable and so real it’s truly amazing and I haven’t even tried the FIVE SECOND RULE or THE HIGH FIVE yourself method yet definitely I will start in the morning I am excited as I do believe this may be my answer to living in sync with my adhd brain in harmony Mel Robbins HIGH FIVE TO YOU your a legend and I’m keen to put your logic into action and THANKYOU Stephen I love your podcast and Devine intervention🙏🏼🦋
*19 ways to raise your vibration:* 1. Smile and laugh 2. Do what makes you happy 3. Eat a healthy alkaline diet 4. Working out5. Meditation 6. Let go of a grudge 7. Let go of something not serving you 8. Give to others 9. Retain your s3xual energy 10. Watch encouraging videos 11. Play an instrument 12. Start a garden 13. Spend time around uplifting people 14. Sun gaze 15. Barefoot grounding 16. Speaking positive affirmations 17. Learning to say “no” 18. Gratitude for what’s here and what’s coming 19. Learn to control nail-biting/nail-picking urges For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)
We use the five second rule to get kids at school to respond to an instruction. We’ve done it for years. It was crazy to realize that I need to use it on myself!!!! Mind blowing. So simple, but so profound.
This is one of the best. Thank you! I started the high five this morning. I've started it at least 10 times over the last year and never followed through because I didn't feel anything. Today I felt something. Many important parts of this interview flashed through my mind. And when I finished my high five, I stood staring in the mirror. I saw that my handprint was very clearly there. I apologised to myself, for not being there for me. I was massaging my sore hands as I stood there. I looked down at my hands in the mirror and realized that this is another self affirming action. Soothing and comforting my joints that have gotten me through so much. Seeing that in the mirror really did something for me. It hit home. I was the observer. Observing that person over there, showing themself kindness and working to bring relief. High five is not the only thing that we can do in the mirror. What else? Suggestions?
Think you are right, Steven. Theres some gold in this podcast. I love how Mel said shes one of us, thats why people relate to her so well. Fantastic discussion, brillant questions, super raw & real. Wow 🎉
Psychological Safety - three fundamentals: 1. To be seen 2. To be heard 3. Celebrated - for the unique person that you are 1h41 mins in and this was my absolute golden nugget. Would have saved my relationship if I'd known how to apply it. ❤
What a wonderfully vulnerable woman with the strength of a warrior ! Everyone has issues in their lives. Not everyone talks about it. Her honesty gives hope to everyone suffering in silence. Thanks Mel your a God Damn Super Hero x❤
I owe you both a huge debt of gratitude. My daughter has struggled with anxiety/OCD since the age of 3. After watching this podcast, the change in her overnight is beyond mind-blowing. Please continue the work you are doing because the impact it is having...immeasurable!!!
I’m 71 and have truly enjoyed your videos. Enjoy your travels, openess in your mental journey. This chapter of your life has been beneficial to so many because of your sharing. Please don’t stop. This is your life path what you were born to experience and share. You have always been free you just weren’t aware. Now you are. The process to this to grow and learn was your chosen path. Embrace it and continue sharing. ❤
Holy cow! This has literally been a spiritual and mental awakening for me! I am 45 and have suffered with anxiety, depression and self loathing since a child. I had goosebumps listening to this podcast..... What an amazing human being! Thank you for inspiring me... thank you for helping me and giving me the motivation and the tools to move towards a better tomorrow.
Same. Never felt seen as much, my mind actually stopped spinning and paid full attention. I 100% needed to hear this. Ws searching bloody Google for answers for hours and it lead me here.
She's more profound in thinking and in feeling than a normal medical professional such as a psychologist ,psy hotherapist or psychiatrist and she is a combination of all that and if also with the mindset of evy pompouras. She is an all in one package. All her varied interviews and vlogs are all different ,meaningful ,and resonates to all of us. She is the most introspective ,complete package guest. Listening to her is like a therapy in progress for most of us 😊❤😅🎉
Steve, I've read your book and watched a lot of episodes of your podcast, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing my life, I was disoriented, lost, not loving myself, and depressed, but you inspired me and changed the way I look into this world forever, THANK YOU.
Tank u man to see me and now u can help more People im so peoud of persons like u a and dont forget Who is going to love u if u dont leve u sellf I pass true alot to star laven my self and im still not don we have to live day by day 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊
I’m so grateful for these interviews and this channel. I lost my partner this year. We have a child together. This channel and these videos have really helped me when Iv been at my lowest points. I was so shocked by his death and when I lost him, I also lost my whole future and plans. These talks and interviews have really helped me. Thank you ❤ xxx
I've used the "I'm excited" trick for the 3 job interviews I've had over the past decade and it really works, got all 3 positions. The mind is amazing. Great interview.
Wow! This information is so profound. The human mind is the universe. Mel you are amazing, I literally got chills then started crying when you were talking about your experience of the moment of day two and the anticipation of walking to the bathroom to high five yourself in the mirror. How beautiful🙏🙏Thank you Mel Robbins. Can you imagine our world a few generations from now with this type of self love and positive thinking patterns. So beautiful.❤❤❤
Wow, out of all the videos I've watched, this single video is so powerful. She broke it down when she said just because you have a daunting task doesn't mean that it calls for huge actions on your part. It makes so much sense. I now feel like I can do anything but this time with baby steps until I reach my goal.
You are an incredibly good listener and host. Thank you for these videos. You remarks back to Mel are wonderfully insightful. She is so real and so honest. A great mentor.
Loved the episode. At the tail end, she said she partook in guided MDMA ceremonies. As a personal connoisseur and advocate of psychedelics, so much of what Mel pushes (her healing) is a byproduct of those MDMA sessions. I can say with confidence so much of my healing is attributed to MDMA and other psychedelics, and that’s the shortcut ticket to the self love she preaches. To be fully okay with who you are and to accept yourself is the greatest gifts psychedelics have given me. I wish she spoke more on this!!! Love you Mel.
Nothing hits like a rocket. Thank you Mel ! And Steven, please keep doing these the way you do them. You have the gift of leading the guest into themselves, and the courage stillness and grace to stay out of their way 👍
Great show- Thank you Stephen! Love you Mel. You have just described my life perfectly-I’m 63 yo and I have really been believing that I’m going crazy. I lost my son in 2020 right as Covid started up. I know I need to speak with a therapist; I don’t recognize myself right now so I’m reaching out. I’m mad & and I can’t do this any longer. I have to have peace. I am feeling like a can of repellant right now. So with the hopeless feeling, I can relate - so many other things you said, and I know in my case you’re exactly right. I already feel my confidence rising. Thank you for opening my ears ,heart & mind. I love listening to you and thank you for the research and the guests you have on your show and you don’t even know, I’m sure how many people you help across the globe even with your tracking service involved. THANK YOU BOTH! I love learning these things!
i can relate - i dont recognize myself - i miss the energy, optimism and connections. I need grit, perseverance and looking forward to seeing myself in the mirror, trusting my Creator and Redeemer for each day
I LOVE how she can come out on a video, TOTALLY CASUAL and a little bit unkempt 😅! She not only helps us UNDERSTAND our "Human Condition" but make us feel so comfortable it's like we're FRIENDS, sitting on the couch together.
Seriously, I’ve been watching Joe Rogan for years and have never even thought about watching or listening to another podcast... until Stevens. This is really great and I get excited to listen on Monday morning. Well done dude!!! Very inspirational.
so three habits mentioned so far were: -trick your brain when you're nervous to be excited -the five-second rule -the high five habit -mantras/manifesting don't work unless their unique and tailored
Mel is a “Firefly of Love and self understanding. “ Illuminating strategies and being so fn real. Mel if you ever need to add to your team I’m your girl!!! All the way!! ( and I’m 60 but a powerhouse of love and Truth”
I have the “YAY ME” as my high five. And when I make a boo boo ( yes I use the childlike phrase with intention) I say to myself “ it’s ok sweetheart ~ I love you so much. “ our paths are profoundly similar Mel and I am so excited !!! I’m even integrating it into my end of life doula care with those preparing to pass/transition to another existence . I give myself AMAZING GRACE likeI have been giving everyone else. Celebrating my (inner )child and how lovely, intuitive, empowered and perfectly imperfect for me. I love me enough. I love me. Footnote I am 60. I am in a wheelchair, brain tumour …. And I have NEVER BEEN SO FULFILLED! Thank you Mel!
I just want to share that every time I hear Mel Robbins speaking, and being really in tune with what she's saying, I always feel this sensation in my heart that comforts me, frees me, and empowers me. It's really hard to explain but I believe that every word that she speaks is very powerful it gives energy and great insight to me that gives me hope, enlightenment, and comfort. So, I thank you for that. This was such an awesome conversation and I am aware that it should not stop here, I need to take action and take responsibility for my life for the things that I want to figure out and improve on and that will get me results.
Tip: Watch this one all the way to the end. Being "seen" is probably the most profound observation and realisation that I've heard and that we all need to hear. It's had my brain running in at 100mph since. It's a great self-reflection point.
Mel, I listened to this podcast as well as so many but this one hit home with me. I have tried my whole life to figure out what is wrong with me. I have lived through abuse and my father committing suicide when I 9. My brain has had an ah ha moment. Thank you Mel. Kati
This was my favourite. I have watched almost all of your podcasts but this is by FAR my all-time fave. This lady is beyond amazing, so relatable. Every minute of the podcast gave SO much value. Thank you both!
Every single thing you described about being a child in a dysfunctional home is right on target! I was one of those children in a dysfunctional family. No sexual abuse however, thank God. But by the time I was 12 years old every day something was wrong. Mainly because of my sister 2 years older than I. When my parents divorced she gradually became encouragable. For many reasons that I had no control over everything was left at my feet. Like you I was always in survival mode always waiting for that next thing to happen and knowing that for whatever reason It would be my fault. I was an easy escape goat and became my mom's and my sisters whipping post figuratively and literally. You are so relatable. Thank you for sharing.
This was beyond helpful for me. I felt I had many aha epiphany moments that have lit up what I know and I believe we all know, deep down inside. We all have our own strength inside, given by God. Know that this is true for you ❤🎉
Everyone facing anxiety should watch this! I truly wish I would have had a Mel Robbins in my life 10+ years ago. I suffered mainly from ignorance and I think noat of us do. She explained the eating, not-eating unhealthy cycle so easy. We often think it’s how we eat or what we are eating when in fact all we have to do is slow down and work with our minds and breath. Thank you for posting and interviewing!
i've watched and listened to this episode at least 3 times since it's been out! There's so much healing that happens with your podcast, not just with your speakers but the listeners. Thank You
I want more episodes like this! I want to know more about how experiences in your childhood impact you all the way into adulthood and some examples of experiences and people with experiences in childhood that have caused them anxiety/mental health issues all their life!
This is so amasing i too have anxiety i am committed to Mel and want to watch well listen to all your podcast and thank you so much for this interview THERE IS HOPE !!!@TheDiaryOfACEO
High Fiving myself in the mirror felt like the weirdest thing to do...but I started to do it. LIFE CHANGING...the simplest thing but so powerful. This was the catalyst for stepping into change and the capacity to move forward after so much trauma and loss. I'm 71 years old - if this can work for me it can work for you! I have been doing this for about 6 months...and I will continue to do this. Thank you so much for this inspiration.
Wow Mel , I've been following you for some time , but omg this was another level completely. I've been doing the 54321 process for some time , but I'm going to have to watch this again plus get your audio book . I was sexualy assaulted from 18mths old till about 10sh from 2 family members then raped more times than I coukd count till 25yrs . I have D I D , cptsd , anxiety, depression and a gut that is a constant nightmare that keeps me home. I'm 71 and I want to be free to go out and have fun without fear . I've had several psychologists for over 14yrs ( don't have one at the moment as I'm fed up of rehashing and getting no where ) I have emetipobia ..fear of others vomiting plus fear of doing it my self . I have 3 surgeries coming up and I'm terrified of hospitals but no one gets it . Thank you for sharing your painful story and struggles , thank you for suggestions in being well , thankbyou for giving tips to self improvement and thank you for being raw and honest . From the bottom of my heart I feel I can do something to change what life I have left thanks to you and your research, knowledge and self experience that only we know and understand . I also was in a car that rolled 6 times , tears roll down my face because right now you've given me hope that I've never felt before . Thank you ❤️..love and blessings from Ella in the blue mountains of Australia🏵🧡🏵
Love and blessings to you Ella. It sounds like you have had much pain and difficult days. I hope you have found a way to love yourself and see joy in your world
"If you dont know how to improve the situation you're in... Google it!" made me laugh, but it's so true. There will be step-by-step instructions to handle any situation. I've always done something similar to the 5 second countdown, but I ALWAYS go on "4". I just did it one day, and got a kick out of the "element of surprise," and it stuck ever since!
I used to think that was true but I got a real doozie of a situation that wasn't on the internet at all. But with that situation, sit down, write down options, do a cost-benefit analysis, choose a route rather than get analysis paralysis, and take action.
except when its not about a choice its just how to deal with the impact something has had on you. i also have been "googling the answer to some issues i have" with no results back. so i was actually kind of offended at how easy she thinks some things are to overcome. i say this with severe ptsd and a therapist of many years and still no resolve to some issues. maybe one day ill figure it out-its not me being negative sometimes thats just the reality. @fighttips @@lvega5606
I just came across this episode and I am stunned because how much I could relate to whatever Mel said. I always thought something is wrong with me because I am constantly in fear, worry about things, having serious difficulty on making decisions and so disorganized. I don’t know what to do. I am 50 years old, a teacher, on summer holiday now, but since the first day of my holiday I am having this anxiety of what I am going to do, where should I go for a short trip, keep procrastinating on doing what I need to do for my home…etc. 10 days past and I haven’t done a thing I need and I feel panic. Everyday I am in panic mode. When I am back at work, I would spend day and night working 12/7, I feel exhausted but I feel safe and I thought I know what I am doing. I don’t know how I can move on like this. Making decision makes me feel like I just want to die so I don’t need to deal with it. I don’t know what to do.
Honestly one of the best podcasts I've ever watched!! From one that's healing from anxiety.. I wish everyone the courage to keep going we've got this XXX
Thank you! You are an amazing human being! I am 54 years old and my previous therapy has never come even close to what you bring to the world with your life experiences. For the first time in my life after decades of pain ,listening to you learning from you and also learning from the amazing Dr. Ramani has brought me hope! ❤️
Absolutely Fantastic! Mel is so inspirational! I grow just listening to her. To you Steven, there isn't a single show you have done that I didn't like. Thanks for the great service you provide us all!
17 minutes in and I can already tell this is gonna be amazing.... what an insightful woman. Listening to Mel in 23 this sums up where I am and where I imagine loads of people are....
Within the first 10 minutes I am shocked and cannot wait to learn more about Mel. I am so sorry Mel for all that you had to go through as a child, thank you for opening up and sharing this.
It's so good to know that we all go through the same thing...we can never be in this positive state of mind all the time..we going to have those times when we go back to being depressed for a short while, overwhelmed like you don't know what to do next.. Thank you Mel for always keeping it real because she could easily pretend like the 54321 rule is all you need but she needed more help after a couple years..❤
Her explanation about how she felt like she lived in a constant state of self-loathing and anxiety is exactly what I have been living for my 46 years of life. I am going to deep dive into her content and put these ideas into practice. The discomfort in my body and mind has always been indescribable for me, and she has hit the nail on the head. I am so driven to finally feel good in my skin. Thank you for this episode
I would love to see Anthony Joshua on this podcast. I've never seen an interview with AJ where he's really let his guard down and really said how he feels. I think Steven will do a great job and allowing him to be honest.
I am so grateful for how much better our understanding of trauma is and how much better we’re able to treat it than even a decade ago. This is such a great interview. ❤
I am 53, just watched and I was crying.. you explained me why I do scared to leave my mum. I was crying out for weeks in summer camp, until mum gets sorry for me and takes me home. Every year same story, then I went to university in different city.. I was so depressed, I couldn’t do anything I was trying to cut my wrists.. feeling like the lost boat in sea. I couldn’t study couldn’t do anything. You explained me.. when I was 5-6 , we went to holiday and mum had to leave please earlier because of her work. Left me with dad to have more sunshine and sea. He got drunk and malested me. Now everything is logical for me. My attachment to mum.. Im just scared feeling in danger without her. Goodness! Thank you very much , this video is so big help for me and my kids and many many people 🙏🏻
I have had anxiety for around 4/5 years and put it down to one incident, watching the first 20 minutes has actually completely changed my mind as to what incident started it all for me. Really interesting podcast.
I feel like I related a lot to what Mel was describing as her response to the traumatic event from her childhood. I have a really delayed panic response. When I get into a scary situation in a car, I don't have that nervous sensation that is being described but instead I go cold. In the case of a car, I do appreciate the extra control this affords me because I am actually really good at defensive driving thanks to this, but it also means I am always stuck dealing with the danger after. I will pull myself out of a scary car situation and then about 5 minutes after the danger passes, I will be hit with all those nervous feelings I didn't feel in the moment, and I do not get the "truck driving away" moment because the truck is long gone.
I just only recently discovered Mel and her book "Reinvent Your Life" which has awakened and TRANSFORMED ME!! Mel is truly a BLESSING to humanity!! ❤😊 Thank you for your wonderful interview!!❤
I had listened to Mel awhile back and as a chronic migraine sufferer I often feel anxious about all the things that are NOT getting done while I am ill. I started to use the high 5 habit but often times life happens and I stop. I will start again as creating new habits and acceptance for where I am have been a tremendous help in moving forward. The dangerous part about losing momentum and getting stuck is you can actually start to roll backwards and downhill!! Better to incorporate positive small changes that will get you in the right direction :)
Man I love these interviews, it’s comforting to here Mel talk about her life and how genuinely genius and curious she is at unraveling the human condition and all the amazing phases we go through from stages of innocence and love to moments of chaos that we simply don’t know how to handle and how we develop a sympathetic nervous system beast and only by learning how to control our nerves, and develop a parasympathetic system of being a calm peaceful tranquil being and allowing your body to come down from that place of heightened awareness and protective flight mode and that by talking about our lives we can almost see a reflective mirror of what’s safe but to overcome that barrier by love and accepting yourself for your base state like how we all were on the first day of elementary school to learning how to unlearn bad habits and dance in the dark and laugh through uncomfortablility even if to just make an exit but those that are maybe desensitized or live with a extremest stoic approach is to find comfort in the uncomfortability so as to know you can make it through anything. And it’s by being on a knowing and faithful frequency that sets your spirit free and losing your mind becomes freeing and in a way transformative and consciousness expanding. you should never go full retard but think for yourselves I love you all peace and prosperity to all you beautiful crazies
Since your first video, I’ve grown! I can feel in my soul I’m now headed in the right direction by how certain things are aligning correctly. It’s not happening overnight but I see the signs that my ancestors most definitely hear me. From this day on I’m committed to gathering all the information I need to be able to know every direction on a compass. Peace and blessing to you always queen! ❤❤❤
Fascinating interview with Mel, I can so relate to many of her anxious experiences and her pathway to overcoming them. 2016 to 2020 I went through a hellish journey with anxiety that led to depression. I was taught many tools by an anxiety specialist for dealing with this debilitating condition through mostly NLP techniques that really worked for me so I recognise a lot of the re-programming that Mel is talking about. What a woman to share her story so powerfully, I think I might add the high-five to my daily routine. I don't have any problems with self-talk now, have gone from strength to strength and yet hearing her talk reminds me how far I've come so I'm massively grateful for this episode, thank you.
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
Gosh. Woman you changed, challenged, loved & called me out on my shit too. I love you both for taking the time to talk and thank you for being HONEST. ❤
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Wow wow wow what an episode 🤯 Mel is one of the most wise and introspective people I have ever met. That revelation at the end was amazing and emotional, thank you Mel 🙏🏽…. hit like and subscribe for a new episode every Monday
Mel Robbins is one of my favourite speakers, I love her books including the more recent one ‘The High Five Habit’ she is brilliant she keeps it real , honest and vulnerable as does Steven so this interview is just a match made in heaven, one of his best interviews in my humble opinion! Keep them coming Steven I’m so excited to see what you have planned for the next few weeks and for 2022 🤩
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This is so powerful. I feel I need to write you a cheque! Honestly, the episode will change my life. Simple, easy and brilliant. Wow. Thank you.
Thank u to Mel 😢 & Steve!!!!
You're excellent at making people talk.
I owe my confidence to you mel, I am a chronic procrastinator, in my 37 years of life always strugged with punctuality, discipline, waking up late kept hitting the snooze button 10 times. I hated myself, played the victim game but also wanted to have big in life, big dreams, but never really mustered the courage to pursue them. I never even shared my dreams with anyone coz always felt people are gonna laugh at me. People always thought and I think they still do that I am a fool, can't do even a small work without messing up and I believe d them that yes I really can't. Today after listening you I realized I also went through sexual and physical abuse in my childhood days. Which my nervous system has recorded . My parents also never took pride in me because they thought I am not pretty and smart enough. Rather they always pulled me down, discouraged and ignored and embarrassed me even in front of other people and I never raised my voice against it coz I thought this is what i deserve. I was ashamed of myself in so many ways. Even I was good at so many things I never really valued myself and always focused on what I didn't have. People always made fun of me, and always always always mistreated me made me feel small good for nothing and I didn't even realize d it because it normal for me. At times when I even felt bad didn't talk back because I was really scared of people that they will start scolding me in front of others which will add to my misery. After going through crores and lakhs of self help videos I watched yours and I finally got my answer which I searched for 37 years. I always knew thers something in me which needs to be addressed and corrected my overthinlinh, time management etc but didn't understand what was the reason behind. But today I understood there's nothing physical thing stopping me, but my thoughts. I am capable of so many things but because of my past experiences . I think I can't do anything right. Till now I had this false belief that I can't do the dishes every night before going to bed and also clean the kitchen every night. But after watching you u have been doing this since 15 days consistently Thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing! There is much love here for you! 🙏❤
So powerful. By sharing this, you've already helped me. Thank you
Oh wow thanks for sharing from your heart ❤
Thank you for sharing. I hope you will learn to see that you are enough and you are capable of more than you can ever imagine ❤
That’s beautiful to hear I’m about to start day one tomorrow and feel an excitement I’ve not felt in a long time … your story is very relatable and I wish you much love and happiness on your new journey 🦋🌱
Loneliness is a psychological signal for connection, just as hunger is a physiological signal for nutrition. I loved this episode! ♥
Loneliness also takes a toll on health. It may take a while but it definitely shortens ones life. I thought I was lonely just being single for yrs after my son's mom left me out of the blue but once my parents both died within a yr after loosing grandma a yr before that's when it got real. I'm an introvert so enjoy alone time but not all of it. I do have a son but only see him every couple weeks due to visitation rights. He will be 18 soon and plans to go to college in another state. The thing I miss the most is touch as that's how I feel love. I have improved myself all these years and tried the online dating thing. It's not what it was in the beginning. I've made no progress but I remember yrs ago when online dating was new it was very easy to find a date. I'm not sure why it's changed for the worst but for society I don't think it's good. I read an article the other day saying we have a mental health crisis coming and a loneliness one as well. They said it would be a few yrs but is fast approaching. God help us! 🙏
"You are one decision away from the life you want to have" - This one hit hard. Thank you for this podcast
Crazy how she said this as I read this comment 🤯
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I watch guilt ruin lots of people
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I agree. This was so helpful.
I can't believe I'm only just watching this!... What a woman ... She makes it relatable to someone even like me, who lives in a wretched part of South Manchester.... She is amazing, her wisdom is unfathomable... Watching this was like free therapy... We all have the ability... She makes so much sense... And yet she breaks it down into pure simplicity and doability...my beginning of change starts here. ... Thank you!
So does mine! Exactly the things I felt midway through the episode
How has your journey been? I’m in depression that I’m trying desperately to get out of.
"Being stuck and hopeless doesn't mean we're broken, it's our patterns of thoughts and behaviors that are broken." Such a powerful insight into where I am in relation to where I want to be.
Crazy how she said this as I was in the middle of reading this comment🤯
Power of positive thinking. It changed my life.
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I really don't appreciate you interrupting this beautiful young lady who's helping people find their Joy to advertise your products you're taking advantage you know she'll have a large audience and youre being a little bit rude by doing that!!! 🤬
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Anyone else tear up at the end? My first introduction to Mel. I was left with an impression of a woman who is is fierce and gentle. Loved this episode. My fave.
Yup. 100% agree
I had a traumatic childhood and lived in constant horrific anxiety for 27 years of my life... hearing her was very impactful. This podcast will change my life. Starting now!! 🖐️
High Five 🖐
😊✋ We see you. We reed you. God bles you! 💗
I would love to hear an update. Have a blessed life.
Amen!!! Love her explanations, humor and my sister lol very cool!!! 😂🙏🏻💕🌈🌠🦋🌷🌼🌺
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the phrase "if i'm on the move, no one can catch me" strummed a chord in my body.. I thought I was the only one that felt like this.. your channel is really helping with my transition into a happier life
“ Everybody’s purpose is exactly the same, I think your purpose is to share your true self to be fully seen “ Mel Robbins this really hit me hard. Thank you so much ❤ 1:39:23
That is deep!
@@SEP2922 It's exactly the same, but everybody is different therefore we all have something to offer when honoring our authentic self.
This whole episode deserves at least 3 replays till it gets embedded in ones head. Before this video I already knew Mel Robbins and her 5 second rule and the high five strategy but her view point on manifestation, visualisation and feeling 'stuck' literally answered a years worth of my questions. I now understand why I've been feeling like shit and what I need to do.
Love this, thank you
YES
Yeah she deep and I felt like my time was spent really well listening to her.
How are you getting on now?
@@now591 honestly I feel absolutely great! Been a solid good year of growth and consistency especially towards health and fitness. But I only feel this way because of visualisation and consistency. All I’m saying is that if you want something as bad as you want to breathe than you gotta put in the work EVERYDAY! These motivational speakers that come with strategy just chat bs. Be real with yourself. Find out what you want in life and be delusional confident and put in the work. That’s the only equation that I’ll ever follow
i really love Mel, and Stephan is a great host who lets his guest actually talk... great combo
Notes and quotes from this podcast:
"Anyone is capable of achieving anything if they put their mind to"
"The bigger the problem, the smaller the solutions are. The bigger the dream, the smaller the actions that you need to start taking. "
" The window of hesitation defines your whole life, it is about 5 seconds long and that is where anxiety, hesitation and imposter syndrome live"
" No Human being is born hating themself, we are wired for love and connection"
" Being excited and being nervous are the exact same feeling, but the only difference is what your brain is thinking is happening"
" Understanding what is the trigger for the bad feeling is what will help you prevent it"
" Your brain learns pattern, which is where you should focus in fixing your patterns"
Thankyou for doing this!
🙌🏽 thank you simeon, appreciate you
You are both welcome, it is ny please to do that and to share my takeaways from the podcast.
Looking forward to one day see it in person!
Thank you Simeon, Just added few important lessons in my notes.
Thank you
She just taught me more than I've learned in years of therapy for anxiety.
She’s cool like that.
44:00: nervous and excitement same 49:00 kids - butterflies in stomach 52:53 business loss no job - being stuck in life - how you do what u need to do - divine intervention 57:00 - window of hesitation 5 sec rule 5,4,3,2,1. 1:04 Hi five rule
Dear Mel, You've touched me. I've had a similar molesting experience. I came out after it experience and knew if I told my parents about it, I would be blamed for it because that is how my mother always treated me. I relate totally with you. I have been living in fear all of my 71 years of life. FEAR controls me to this day. Now I have the answers. I can now live the rest of my days better. I have spent my life trying to fix me. With you, I have directions to follow now. Thank you.
I read your postsnd am hoping you are not so fearful now. I understand your experience , it has been mine too. I am older too. I just wondered if you tried to apply any of the discussipn and if so has it worked for you. Thanks in advance.
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same here! and no remembrance until later in late and I felt so ashamed and not protected , was so angry at my mother for not protecting me and even when I told what happened I felt that I was not believed that was my imagination since I do have high IQ and photo memory so how the heck I put this out of my memory for so long and anxiety struggle has been so long
Thank you Mel for opening your heart for ours to open
Yeah...meeee, too!!
I had a brief moment in my life that I finally understood what anxiety attack was. Mel is telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Can’t believe some people live like this.
Thanks for sharing Annee, glad you finally understood it
As someone who suffers from anxiety I got so many game-changing tips from this episode. What a wonderful guest ❤
Please have your blood checked for any kind of vitamin, mineral, iron, thyroid, diabetes imbalance - so many physical things will manifest as anxiety or depression. Walking outside in nature for 15 minutes a day has improved my life beyond belief, it's an antidote for vitamin D deficiency
everyone i know suffers from incredible anxiety. we cannot meet as a family or friends due to riggers so we all live very separate lives. Most of us (about 80%) have now stopped working due to our anxiety and afraid of the triggers. It is dreadful. We have gone from a huge family of wonderful get togethers to the last five years of everyone having anxiety and no contact at all.
@@mimig6511goodness…sounds like a lot of people I personally know.
I don’t think you are alone, friend.
Just Amazing. Mel was so candid and the host allowed her to speak without interrupting her .
“The host allowed her to speak without interrupting her.” Steven Bartlett is an absolute GEM and I have no idea why he isn’t a superstar. Best interviewer in history in my opinion.
Amen!@@retired_early
Amen!
I have listened to many episodes, this was my favourite so far. Like so many, I have lived the trauma of abuse in my childhood and at 60, I think I may have found someone who will help me process it. Thank you, Mel Robbins, and thank you Steven Bartlett for introducing her to me.
I so hear You!!
How are you getting on with processing it ?
I’m 58 and just starting to realise why I am the way I am. Lonely, discontent, and unable to have a lasting relationship. I hope you are getting somewhere x
What I love about your podcast is the fact that all your guests enjoy being there with you
Having adhd has been a struggle for as long as I can remember I’ve scoured the internet looking for a way to live in harmony with this brain affliction and being diagnosed in my late 50’s and I’m now 60 most of the self defeating patterns are well and truly chiseled in to my subconscious mind and I became lost and very depressed and severely stuck and burntout information overload has set in.. I came across Mel Robbins by what I call Devine intervention she just popped up on my screen while I was on RUclips (I love this platform 🎉🙏🏼) my interest peaked and I checked he status out and her podcasts and liked her straight from the hip with compassion and empathy openly emotionally expressive dialogue that comes straight from the heart..!! Relatable and so real it’s truly amazing and I haven’t even tried the FIVE SECOND RULE or THE HIGH FIVE yourself method yet definitely I will start in the morning I am excited as I do believe this may be my answer to living in sync with my adhd brain in harmony Mel Robbins HIGH FIVE TO YOU your a legend and I’m keen to put your logic into action and THANKYOU Stephen I love your podcast and Devine intervention🙏🏼🦋
*19 ways to raise your vibration:*
1. Smile and laugh
2. Do what makes you happy
3. Eat a healthy alkaline diet
4. Working out5. Meditation
6. Let go of a grudge
7. Let go of something not serving you
8. Give to others
9. Retain your s3xual energy
10. Watch encouraging videos
11. Play an instrument
12. Start a garden
13. Spend time around uplifting people
14. Sun gaze
15. Barefoot grounding
16. Speaking positive affirmations
17. Learning to say “no”
18. Gratitude for what’s here and what’s coming
19. Learn to control nail-biting/nail-picking urges
For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)
May I add one more to your insightful list: 20..Random acts of kindness, and be in the present moment.
Please don't sun gase you'll burn your retina just get out in the sun 🌞
We use the five second rule to get kids at school to respond to an instruction. We’ve done it for years. It was crazy to realize that I need to use it on myself!!!! Mind blowing. So simple, but so profound.
This woman is a force to the world to make positive changes.
This is one of the best. Thank you!
I started the high five this morning. I've started it at least 10 times over the last year and never followed through because I didn't feel anything. Today I felt something. Many important parts of this interview flashed through my mind. And when I finished my high five, I stood staring in the mirror. I saw that my handprint was very clearly there. I apologised to myself, for not being there for me. I was massaging my sore hands as I stood there. I looked down at my hands in the mirror and realized that this is another self affirming action. Soothing and comforting my joints that have gotten me through so much. Seeing that in the mirror really did something for me. It hit home. I was the observer. Observing that person over there, showing themself kindness and working to bring relief. High five is not the only thing that we can do in the mirror. What else? Suggestions?
"I am" affirmations
I remind myself of how amazing I am!
I write notes saying:
“I have” it makes me stop and think about what I do have not what I want.
Absolutely loved that part "everyone's purpose is the same.. to be your full self and be seen". Powerful 🔥🔥
Think you are right, Steven. Theres some gold in this podcast. I love how Mel said shes one of us, thats why people relate to her so well. Fantastic discussion, brillant questions, super raw & real. Wow 🎉
Psychological Safety - three fundamentals:
1. To be seen
2. To be heard
3. Celebrated - for the unique person that you are
1h41 mins in and this was my absolute golden nugget.
Would have saved my relationship if I'd known how to apply it. ❤
“You’re one decision from a different life.” This woman is a genius!!! This is the most powerful message! Thank you for this!!!
What a wonderfully vulnerable woman with the strength of a warrior ! Everyone has issues in their lives. Not everyone talks about it. Her honesty gives hope to everyone suffering in silence. Thanks Mel your a God Damn Super Hero x❤
I owe you both a huge debt of gratitude. My daughter has struggled with anxiety/OCD since the age of 3. After watching this podcast, the change in her overnight is beyond mind-blowing. Please continue the work you are doing because the impact it is having...immeasurable!!!
Wow, that is great to hear, thanks for sharing! 🙏🎉💕
What did she implemented ? Thank you.
@dita4911 High-five habit and the 5 second rule
@@heatherturner5750 thank you
I’m 71 and have truly enjoyed your videos. Enjoy your travels, openess in your mental journey. This chapter of your life has been beneficial to so many because of your sharing. Please don’t stop. This is your life path what you were born to experience and share. You have always been free you just weren’t aware. Now you are. The process to this to grow and learn was your chosen path. Embrace it and continue sharing. ❤
Holy cow! This has literally been a spiritual and mental awakening for me! I am 45 and have suffered with anxiety, depression and self loathing since a child. I had goosebumps listening to this podcast..... What an amazing human being! Thank you for inspiring me... thank you for helping me and giving me the motivation and the tools to move towards a better tomorrow.
Same here! 💗
Same. Never felt seen as much, my mind actually stopped spinning and paid full attention. I 100% needed to hear this. Ws searching bloody Google for answers for hours and it lead me here.
She's more profound in thinking and in feeling than a normal medical professional such as a psychologist ,psy hotherapist or psychiatrist and she is a combination of all that and if also with the mindset of evy pompouras. She is an all in one package. All her varied interviews and vlogs are all different ,meaningful ,and resonates to all of us. She is the most introspective ,complete package guest. Listening to her is like a therapy in progress for most of us 😊❤😅🎉
"Hard work gets rewarded. It just might not be in the time you think or the way you think." Brilliant! What a fabulous interview! Thank you!
This is helping me become an improved person on so many levels. Love this line at 1:24:58 - "Act Like the Person You Say You Want To Be."
Steve, I've read your book and watched a lot of episodes of your podcast, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing my life, I was disoriented, lost, not loving myself, and depressed, but you inspired me and changed the way I look into this world forever, THANK YOU.
Great- what book you are referring to?
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Tank u man to see me and now u can help more People im so peoud of persons like u a and dont forget Who is going to love u if u dont leve u sellf I pass true alot to star laven my self and im still not don we have to live day by day 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊
Tanks to this lady thas the one that make the magic
I agree, lack of purpose is the main cause of feeling stuck, especially later in life…
Now they're saying that isolation and lack of purpose are causes of dementia
Absolutely.
I’m so grateful for these interviews and this channel. I lost my partner this year. We have a child together. This channel and these videos have really helped me when Iv been at my lowest points. I was so shocked by his death and when I lost him, I also lost my whole future and plans. These talks and interviews have really helped me. Thank you ❤ xxx
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Just sobbed while holding my hand against my own reflections hand in the mirror and felt something HUGE. So emotional. Thank you xx
I've used the "I'm excited" trick for the 3 job interviews I've had over the past decade and it really works, got all 3 positions. The mind is amazing. Great interview.
Wow! This information is so profound. The human mind is the universe. Mel you are amazing, I literally got chills then started crying when you were talking about your experience of the moment of day two and the anticipation of walking to the bathroom to high five yourself in the mirror. How beautiful🙏🙏Thank you Mel Robbins. Can you imagine our world a few generations from now with this type of self love and positive thinking patterns. So beautiful.❤❤❤
being excited instead of nervous is so true. Life is all about your mindset. 🙏🏻
Wow, out of all the videos I've watched, this single video is so powerful. She broke it down when she said just because you have a daunting task doesn't mean that it calls for huge actions on your part. It makes so much sense. I now feel like I can do anything but this time with baby steps until I reach my goal.
You are an incredibly good listener and host. Thank you for these videos. You remarks back to Mel are wonderfully insightful. She is so real and so honest. A great mentor.
Mel describes exactly ME. It’s awful.. one experience 12 yrs ago has left me in fight or flight daily and nightly. It’s absolutely wicked..
Loved the episode. At the tail end, she said she partook in guided MDMA ceremonies. As a personal connoisseur and advocate of psychedelics, so much of what Mel pushes (her healing) is a byproduct of those MDMA sessions. I can say with confidence so much of my healing is attributed to MDMA and other psychedelics, and that’s the shortcut ticket to the self love she preaches. To be fully okay with who you are and to accept yourself is the greatest gifts psychedelics have given me. I wish she spoke more on this!!! Love you Mel.
Nothing hits like a rocket. Thank you Mel ! And Steven, please keep doing these the way you do them. You have the gift of leading the guest into themselves, and the courage stillness and grace to stay out of their way 👍
Great show- Thank you Stephen! Love you Mel. You have just described my life perfectly-I’m 63 yo and I have really been believing that I’m going crazy. I lost my son in 2020 right as Covid started up. I know I need to speak with a therapist; I don’t recognize myself right now so I’m reaching out. I’m mad & and I can’t do this any longer. I have to have peace. I am feeling like a can of repellant right now. So with the hopeless feeling, I can relate - so many other things you said, and I know in my case you’re exactly right. I already feel my confidence rising. Thank you for opening my ears ,heart & mind. I love listening to you and thank you for the research and the guests you have on your show and you don’t even know, I’m sure how many people you help across the globe even with your tracking service involved. THANK YOU BOTH! I love learning these things!
i can relate - i dont recognize myself - i miss the energy, optimism and connections. I need grit, perseverance and looking forward to seeing myself in the mirror, trusting my Creator and Redeemer for each day
I love Mel.. .Such a down to earth person, despite such a success... humble and loving
Indeed a beautiful soul
I LOVE how she can come out on a video, TOTALLY CASUAL and a little bit unkempt 😅!
She not only helps us UNDERSTAND our "Human Condition" but make us feel so comfortable it's like we're FRIENDS, sitting on the couch together.
Seriously, I’ve been watching Joe Rogan for years and have never even thought about watching or listening to another podcast... until Stevens. This is really great and I get excited to listen on Monday morning. Well done dude!!! Very inspirational.
🙏🏽 thank you amanda that means a lot
so three habits mentioned so far were:
-trick your brain when you're nervous to be excited
-the five-second rule
-the high five habit
-mantras/manifesting don't work unless their unique and tailored
Mel is a “Firefly of Love and self understanding. “ Illuminating strategies and being so fn real.
Mel if you ever need to add to your team I’m your girl!!! All the way!! ( and I’m 60 but a powerhouse of love and Truth”
I have never in my life listened to a more life changing podcast in my life, absolutely sensational 😭
I have the “YAY ME” as my high five. And when I make a boo boo ( yes I use the childlike phrase with intention) I say to myself “ it’s ok sweetheart ~ I love you so much. “ our paths are profoundly similar Mel and I am so excited !!! I’m even integrating it into my end of life doula care with those preparing to pass/transition to another existence .
I give myself AMAZING GRACE likeI have been
giving everyone else.
Celebrating my (inner )child and how lovely, intuitive, empowered and perfectly imperfect for me.
I love me enough.
I love me.
Footnote I am 60. I am in a wheelchair, brain tumour …. And I have NEVER BEEN SO FULFILLED!
Thank you Mel!
What a relief to finally understand that I am not alone. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️❤️❤️
I just want to share that every time I hear Mel Robbins speaking, and being really in tune with what she's saying, I always feel this sensation in my heart that comforts me, frees me, and empowers me. It's really hard to explain but I believe that every word that she speaks is very powerful it gives energy and great insight to me that gives me hope, enlightenment, and comfort. So, I thank you for that. This was such an awesome conversation and I am aware that it should not stop here, I need to take action and take responsibility for my life for the things that I want to figure out and improve on and that will get me results.
Tip: Watch this one all the way to the end.
Being "seen" is probably the most profound observation and realisation that I've heard and that we all need to hear. It's had my brain running in at 100mph since. It's a great self-reflection point.
Mel, I listened to this podcast as well as so many but this one hit home with me. I have tried my whole life to figure out what is wrong with me. I have lived through abuse and my father committing suicide when I 9. My brain has had an ah ha moment. Thank you Mel. Kati
This was my favourite. I have watched almost all of your podcasts but this is by FAR my all-time fave. This lady is beyond amazing, so relatable. Every minute of the podcast gave SO much value. Thank you both!
It was truly inspirational. Every word was important to me anyway.
Every single thing you described about being a child in a dysfunctional home is right on target! I was one of those children in a dysfunctional family. No sexual abuse however, thank God. But by the time I was 12 years old every day something was wrong. Mainly because of my sister 2 years older than I. When my parents divorced she gradually became encouragable. For many reasons that I had no control over everything was left at my feet. Like you I was always in survival mode always waiting for that next thing to happen and knowing that for whatever reason It would be my fault. I was an easy escape goat and became my mom's and my sisters whipping post figuratively and literally. You are so relatable. Thank you for sharing.
This was beyond helpful for me. I felt I had many aha epiphany moments that have lit up what I know and I believe we all know, deep down inside. We all have our own strength inside, given by God. Know that this is true for you ❤🎉
Everyone facing anxiety should watch this! I truly wish I would have had a Mel Robbins in my life 10+ years ago. I suffered mainly from ignorance and I think noat of us do. She explained the eating, not-eating unhealthy cycle so easy. We often think it’s how we eat or what we are eating when in fact all we have to do is slow down and work with our minds and breath.
Thank you for posting and interviewing!
i've watched and listened to this episode at least 3 times since it's been out! There's so much healing that happens with your podcast, not just with your speakers but the listeners. Thank You
I want more episodes like this! I want to know more about how experiences in your childhood impact you all the way into adulthood and some examples of experiences and people with experiences in childhood that have caused them anxiety/mental health issues all their life!
Thank you so much for your suggestions! 🙏
This is so amasing i too have anxiety i am committed to Mel and want to watch well listen to all your podcast and thank you so much for this interview THERE IS HOPE !!!@TheDiaryOfACEO
Steven… you are genuinely talented and authentic interviewer. These talks go deep under the surface where I feel and we all live.
God bless Mel Robbins this was a seriously good podcast for the mind and soul.
This is the deepest interview and video I have ever seen of Mel. There is so much more to her than what floats around the internet. Very refreshing.
thank you! Good to hear you enjoyed it
High Fiving myself in the mirror felt like the weirdest thing to do...but I started to do it. LIFE CHANGING...the simplest thing but so powerful. This was the catalyst for stepping into change and the capacity to move forward after so much trauma and loss. I'm 71 years old - if this can work for me it can work for you! I have been doing this for about 6 months...and I will continue to do this. Thank you so much for this inspiration.
Wow Mel , I've been following you for some time , but omg this was another level completely. I've been doing the 54321 process for some time , but I'm going to have to watch this again plus get your audio book .
I was sexualy assaulted from 18mths old till about 10sh from 2 family members then raped more times than I coukd count till 25yrs . I have D I D , cptsd , anxiety, depression and a gut that is a constant nightmare that keeps me home. I'm 71 and I want to be free to go out and have fun without fear . I've had several psychologists for over 14yrs ( don't have one at the moment as I'm fed up of rehashing and getting no where )
I have emetipobia ..fear of others vomiting plus fear of doing it my self .
I have 3 surgeries coming up and I'm terrified of hospitals but no one gets it . Thank you for sharing your painful story and struggles , thank you for suggestions in being well , thankbyou for giving tips to self improvement and thank you for being raw and honest . From the bottom of my heart I feel I can do something to change what life I have left thanks to you and your research, knowledge and self experience that only we know and understand . I also was in a car that rolled 6 times , tears roll down my face because right now you've given me hope that I've never felt before . Thank you ❤️..love and blessings from Ella in the blue mountains of Australia🏵🧡🏵
Love and blessings to you Ella. It sounds like you have had much pain and difficult days. I hope you have found a way to love yourself and see joy in your world
"If you dont know how to improve the situation you're in... Google it!" made me laugh, but it's so true. There will be step-by-step instructions to handle any situation.
I've always done something similar to the 5 second countdown, but I ALWAYS go on "4". I just did it one day, and got a kick out of the "element of surprise," and it stuck ever since!
I used to think that was true but I got a real doozie of a situation that wasn't on the internet at all. But with that situation, sit down, write down options, do a cost-benefit analysis, choose a route rather than get analysis paralysis, and take action.
except when its not about a choice its just how to deal with the impact something has had on you. i also have been "googling the answer to some issues i have" with no results back. so i was actually kind of offended at how easy she thinks some things are to overcome. i say this with severe ptsd and a therapist of many years and still no resolve to some issues. maybe one day ill figure it out-its not me being negative sometimes thats just the reality. @fighttips @@lvega5606
I just came across this episode and I am stunned because how much I could relate to whatever Mel said. I always thought something is wrong with me because I am constantly in fear, worry about things, having serious difficulty on making decisions and so disorganized. I don’t know what to do. I am 50 years old, a teacher, on summer holiday now, but since the first day of my holiday I am having this anxiety of what I am going to do, where should I go for a short trip, keep procrastinating on doing what I need to do for my home…etc. 10 days past and I haven’t done a thing I need and I feel panic. Everyday I am in panic mode. When I am back at work, I would spend day and night working 12/7, I feel exhausted but I feel safe and I thought I know what I am doing. I don’t know how I can move on like this. Making decision makes me feel like I just want to die so I don’t need to deal with it. I don’t know what to do.
Honestly one of the best podcasts I've ever watched!!
From one that's healing from anxiety.. I wish everyone the courage to keep going we've got this XXX
Thank you! You are an amazing human being! I am 54 years old and my previous therapy has never come even close to what you bring to the world with your life experiences. For the first time in my life after decades of pain ,listening to you learning from you and also learning from the amazing Dr. Ramani has brought me hope! ❤️
Dear Steve
This is the one, unforgettable and healing interview. Thank you.
Absolutely Fantastic! Mel is so inspirational! I grow just listening to her. To you Steven, there isn't a single show you have done that I didn't like. Thanks for the great service you provide us all!
17 minutes in and I can already tell this is gonna be amazing.... what an insightful woman. Listening to Mel in 23 this sums up where I am and where I imagine loads of people are....
Life changing. This woman is describing my journey to the letter ❤ thank you. I’ve learned so much.
❤Thank you for everything you are sharing!
Within the first 10 minutes I am shocked and cannot wait to learn more about Mel. I am so sorry Mel for all that you had to go through as a child, thank you for opening up and sharing this.
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It's so good to know that we all go through the same thing...we can never be in this positive state of mind all the time..we going to have those times when we go back to being depressed for a short while, overwhelmed like you don't know what to do next.. Thank you Mel for always keeping it real because she could easily pretend like the 54321 rule is all you need but she needed more help after a couple years..❤
I’d just like to say this episode is so helpful for overcoming my anxiety attacks it puts my brain back into neutral.
Her explanation about how she felt like she lived in a constant state of self-loathing and anxiety is exactly what I have been living for my 46 years of life. I am going to deep dive into her content and put these ideas into practice. The discomfort in my body and mind has always been indescribable for me, and she has hit the nail on the head. I am so driven to finally feel good in my skin. Thank you for this episode
I would love to see Anthony Joshua on this podcast. I've never seen an interview with AJ where he's really let his guard down and really said how he feels. I think Steven will do a great job and allowing him to be honest.
Yeah I would like that….would be huge for podcast as well!
Would be a great guest! We're seeing what we can do
Couldn't agree more all we ever see is ' stay humble' but we all know that's a marketing ploy
AJ has let his guard a few times....🤣🤣🤣
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There is nobody like Mel Robbins. Her authenticity and personal development support is amazing and I am so grateful for all she does 🙏🏼
I am so grateful for how much better our understanding of trauma is and how much better we’re able to treat it than even a decade ago. This is such a great interview. ❤
I am 53, just watched and I was crying.. you explained me why I do scared to leave my mum. I was crying out for weeks in summer camp, until mum gets sorry for me and takes me home. Every year same story, then I went to university in different city.. I was so depressed, I couldn’t do anything I was trying to cut my wrists.. feeling like the lost boat in sea. I couldn’t study couldn’t do anything. You explained me.. when I was 5-6 , we went to holiday and mum had to leave please earlier because of her work. Left me with dad to have more sunshine and sea. He got drunk and malested me. Now everything is logical for me. My attachment to mum.. Im just scared feeling in danger without her. Goodness! Thank you very much , this video is so big help for me and my kids and many many people 🙏🏻
I have had anxiety for around 4/5 years and put it down to one incident, watching the first 20 minutes has actually completely changed my mind as to what incident started it all for me. Really interesting podcast.
I love Mel, and each time I hear her speak I love her more ❤ She has helped me so much, we are so blessed to have her on earth with us
I feel like I related a lot to what Mel was describing as her response to the traumatic event from her childhood. I have a really delayed panic response. When I get into a scary situation in a car, I don't have that nervous sensation that is being described but instead I go cold. In the case of a car, I do appreciate the extra control this affords me because I am actually really good at defensive driving thanks to this, but it also means I am always stuck dealing with the danger after. I will pull myself out of a scary car situation and then about 5 minutes after the danger passes, I will be hit with all those nervous feelings I didn't feel in the moment, and I do not get the "truck driving away" moment because the truck is long gone.
I just only recently discovered Mel and her book "Reinvent Your Life" which has awakened and TRANSFORMED ME!! Mel is truly a BLESSING to humanity!! ❤😊 Thank you for your wonderful interview!!❤
Resilience and self care is what I hear with Mel love the honesty she brings to this ❤️
I had listened to Mel awhile back and as a chronic migraine sufferer I often feel anxious about all the things that are NOT getting done while I am ill. I started to use the high 5 habit but often times life happens and I stop. I will start again as creating new habits and acceptance for where I am have been a tremendous help in moving forward.
The dangerous part about losing momentum and getting stuck is you can actually start to roll backwards and downhill!! Better to incorporate positive small changes that will get you in the right direction :)
Man I love these interviews, it’s comforting to here Mel talk about her life and how genuinely genius and curious she is at unraveling the human condition and all the amazing phases we go through from stages of innocence and love to moments of chaos that we simply don’t know how to handle and how we develop a sympathetic nervous system beast and only by learning how to control our nerves, and develop a parasympathetic system of being a calm peaceful tranquil being and allowing your body to come down from that place of heightened awareness and protective flight mode and that by talking about our lives we can almost see a reflective mirror of what’s safe but to overcome that barrier by love and accepting yourself for your base state like how we all were on the first day of elementary school to learning how to unlearn bad habits and dance in the dark and laugh through uncomfortablility even if to just make an exit but those that are maybe desensitized or live with a extremest stoic approach is to find comfort in the uncomfortability so as to know you can make it through anything. And it’s by being on a knowing and faithful frequency that sets your spirit free and losing your mind becomes freeing and in a way transformative and consciousness expanding. you should never go full retard but think for yourselves I love you all peace and prosperity to all you beautiful crazies
Since your first video, I’ve grown! I can feel in my soul I’m now headed in the right direction by how certain things are aligning correctly. It’s not happening overnight but I see the signs that my ancestors most definitely hear me. From this day on I’m committed to gathering all the information I need to be able to know every direction on a compass. Peace and blessing to you always queen! ❤❤❤
Omg ! She’s brilliant! She has just answered all my questions . That therapy never answered . She really gets people . Thank you .
Fascinating interview with Mel, I can so relate to many of her anxious experiences and her pathway to overcoming them. 2016 to 2020 I went through a hellish journey with anxiety that led to depression. I was taught many tools by an anxiety specialist for dealing with this debilitating condition through mostly NLP techniques that really worked for me so I recognise a lot of the re-programming that Mel is talking about. What a woman to share her story so powerfully, I think I might add the high-five to my daily routine. I don't have any problems with self-talk now, have gone from strength to strength and yet hearing her talk reminds me how far I've come so I'm massively grateful for this episode, thank you.
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
Gosh. Woman you changed, challenged, loved & called me out on my shit too. I love you both for taking the time to talk and thank you for being HONEST. ❤