Mel Robbins: "Saying These 2 Words Could Fix Your Anxiety!" (Brand New Trick)
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- Опубликовано: 12 июн 2024
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00:00 Intro
03:14 Why you can take your life in a new direction whenever you want
06:44 How to ACTUALLY act on what you know you should do
14:20 The 'what if' moment that will change your life
18:52 It breaks my heart how stuck people feel
20:49 Why you need to WANT change to actually change
25:41 Why motivation is garbage
31:41 Why people don't change even when they say they want to
34:24 How do we know what we really want?
39:57 The fastest way to take control of your life
45:18 What not caring what others think REALLY does for you
49:20 "Stay in your peace, stay in your power"
51:00 The best advice I ever received
55:35 Your partner Chris
57:14 Setting goals that align with you
01:02:19 Why you need to stop letting people's reactions affect you
01:05:47 Ads
01:07:12 Your ADHD diagnosis
01:15:29 Finally understanding myself
01:17:34 The link between trauma and ADHD
01:19:56 Menopause, it's all so confusing
01:25:49 Menopause struggles
01:27:46 What's your goal?
01:30:19 The last guest's question
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If you're feeling stuck in anyway, you must start your week here. This episode is a must-listen. If you enjoy it please hit that like button, it helps us massively 🙏Have a great day everyone 🧡
I've asked you and asked you right now I'm just going to let go I am fed up with hearing that each and every time you say such Great and Powerful things but you will not listen to the other people I said to you I was going to stop watching your videos if you come out the or only 59% once again do not subscribe to you are not a preacher so stop preaching you have now lost me as a valuable watcher I I will follow that woman instead aviary what's another waste of a brilliant just because of your egoistic Way you should believe in yourself if you believe that this is a good message not because you don't like your percentages I done with you have a nice day literally you would make this better by instead of an announcing your failure of percentages by sitting there saying can you please ask everyone that watches this to subscribe but you won't listen to me you think I'm being a prick that's fine but you're being stupid and not believing in yourself and I'm fed up with telling you and this is how much I own what I say my full name is Michael gregson I have got nothing to hide and nor will I feel ashamed by telling you that I have had enough of you and your stupid percentages just because you're not happy with them I wish you all the best honestly I do but I will not follow a preacher on percentages
The let them theory might be just what I need in my life,
Let people like it if they'd like to.
RRT
She has two words I'm give you one listen 👂 to 👇
"Qur’an"
After I listened to this episode, I wholeheartedly applied "let them" to every irritant in my life... it's been a big help.
I applied it to my lying husband
I let them go! taking it to extremes for years now to be happier than ever, just let them go
I absolutely love Mel Robbins. The hardest part of starting over at an older age is losing trust in your intuition. When things have collapsed around you, it causes you to question the choices you've made in the past and the ones you need to make to move forward.
Why would you lose trust in your intuition? Maybe it's trust in your reasoning/rational mind that you should lose!
You can totally lose touch with your intuition. Especially if you make decisions & adjust your behaviour based on what other people want or what they think will please others. And thats just one reason!
you are so DAMNED right.
Learn to sit quietly... Our trust comes from inside of us... U got this.
Do I ever know this as I have aged and lost important people in my life among a few health issues! 🥲. Plus it is not so easy to pick myself up and rework myself…again!!
Finding this interview 3 months after it was first aired was perfect timing for me. I made a radical life change this year at the age of 72, choosing between the slow fade of old age and writing a new chapter with the life force I still have. It's been a monumentally difficult transition, but it's happening. Standing on the threshold of a new life is the reward of making the effort. The journey continues and it's all that you so eloquently say it is, especially, worth it to be unstuck.
All the best energy for you in your transition!
So inspiring good luck
I was a 40 year old widower who was a security guard that went back to university and became a counsellor life coach and mental health support worker.
I swear this woman was literally having a personal conversation with me......I SOOOOOO needed this. Thank you.
I find that the older I get, the less I want to fight, contend, battle for anything. Like Mel said, I just want to prioritize peace. Life is a lot more enjoyable that way.
Ugh, so true...
So true
Change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of the change
This is me, 54 just quit my job in a toxic workplace where bullying is the norm and you are told to just ignore it because that’s what some people are like. I’ve been there 11 years and have put everything into that job but the last straw was receiving an email by accident where the sales manager was running me down to a client after he had told me the day before to listen to him and do as I was told. The pain of staying would have been worse than leaving.
I’m scared and nervous about what I am going to do now but it has to be and will be better than it was as the pain of staying was destroying me.
I can do it
That’s a true statement there..moving to a different direction can be any worse then staying where u are..one might alleviate the other in respects of unhappiness.
You can just one step at a time 😊
Good for you! I changed my career at the age of 54. I was a legal secretary for 30 years. It was ok but not my passion. I then took a course in hypnotherapy, got my diploma and started practising. I have been doing this for 20 years now, make more money than I ever did as a secretary and absolutely love my life and my job! Hope this helps to motivate you and find a job that you love. It’s never too late!
I am 51, single Mom with 5 kids, ADHD, MENOPAUSE and A Hot Mess! I am wanting to start my own business but keep thinking i am too old and my brain is to all over the place to ever be a success. I used to be such a positive optimistic person, but life, divorce and betrayal by close family members has left me tainted and somewhat hopeless, I want to be the best I can be for my family.....I just don't know what to do @@Chester6209
@@Chester6209thank you. What an encouragement!
Mel is a legend. She has the balls to share her shadow side. She speaks to you as a fellow human being not a subject. She is relatable, personable and clearly passionate. I would love to see Mel and Berne have a talk or Mel and Joe Dispenza. Could you imagine the formula this would bring?
Ooh Mel and Brene brown would be amazing! I’m also waiting for Mel and Huberman to link up- we’ll see who gets onto who’s podcast first.
“Let them” is not a new concept by any means. It’s acceptance, plain and simple. Accepting people places and things as they are and not trying to control anything, anyone or any circumstance or outcome.
I think it is a new concept because it works in a different place in the mind. The "accepting" method is not specific to other people.
While it's not new per se, this presentation of "Let Them" radical acceptance with such relatable and detailed mental process examples may help a lot of people.
No it is not a knew concept! You are right there. I think it falls into and under and around other “things”….because of fears. I think more people are seeing that it is ok to be yourself ( trying anyway) it is one of the hardest things in the world to do….just ask me I’m in the front door of this change. Fu€king YiKeS !
So what if it is not a new concept ?
Jealous b****.
As this podcast continuously grows. I have a feeling that Steven is enjoying the episodes even more. I just hear him laughing constantly which is lovely to hear. Keep smiling my friend.
I like the way he laughs 😆
And I love his accent 😂❤
He’s an amazing interviewer 😊
While money doesn’t buy happiness, having enough provides for: shelter, medical care, food, transportation. Without these basic needs being met, it’s difficult to feel safe in this world.
Feeling Safe is essential. Not always an easy go to ..
In my 57th year I had a traumatic event that left me standing alone in this world due to my family shunning my anger instead of them addressing his betrayal. I was angry he had a mistress and wouldn't leave my house to be with her. It took him ten months but he used my family as flying monkeys through his pity party and they bought it. Long story short I had an epiphany. I released the feeling of being responsible for other people morals & values by realising we are all making our own way and our emotional coping skills have evolved to where we find ourselves on our individual timeline. The people i thought were there for me let me down but i didn't resort to shunning them back. I still deal with them but Ive never been happier because I let them 🙏💖
My mantra when dealing with others doing stupid has been “not my job”. “Let them” seems a lot more freeing to me. Thank you.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
Sensation -> Perception -> Thought -> Emotion -> Action
Sounds like Peter Ralston's work
Emotion then thought
@@ultramegakillerchop^
Reminds me of the Buddhist steps of becoming
Stoicism
I remember several years ago heroin addiction destroyed my life, I suffered from severe depression and a mental disorder until I was recommended to psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on Instagram?
13:25 that saying is from a poem by Anais Nin - 'And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.'
Beautiful
This episode is undeniably exceptional and empowering. I used to feel lost these past few weeks, but now I am committed to focusing on what is truly important and beneficial to me rather than dwelling in despair.
As a woman who has just been diagnosed with endometriosis I understand all the menopause stuff and I am 22. I have started hormonal therapy and it's so tough on the body. So many changes, both physical and mental. I have moments where I burst into tears and feel like ****. But I'm trying to improve the situation by taking care of myself, taking my time, doing what I love and meditating.
Stay strong gals❤
Endometriosis is caused by scar tissue going awry in the body. Streptokinase will break up scar tissue without the side effects of hormone therapy. Do some research and you'll find out for yourself. I know how painful this condition is. Good Luck.
Thank you for sharing and offering inspiration.
Stay strong and positive. I had endometrioses and healed with Ayurveda. Not easy but I’ve learned so munch about my body. You will get better 💓
Heart goes out to you @amygald, have you heard testimonials of folks who do Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations? Remarkable transformations from various dis-eases, there’s always Hope🙏🏼
I have endo. You are experiencing too much estrogen in your body. You need to get it out. Herbs remove the estrogens specificallly dandelion, maca, passion flower, chasteberry and some others. Get the sugar and carbs out of your life. Eat clean beef and veggies. Good luck.
I never have the concentration to watch a 1.5+ hrs video and yet here I am. That was great! Thanks Mel! You really spoke to me.
Mel Robbins is easily the best no-nonsense no jargon, no BS speaker on self help / wellbeing that I have heard in a long time. She makes it accessible, understandable - and best of all no hard sell on courses, retreats, books lectures etc. She just says it like it is. “Let Them” theory is so profound. ADHD-anxiety discussion was so enlightening. Oh and the best bit? “The chain” - reverse it! Most awesome advice ever.
I don’t really want to spend an hour and a half watching can you describe what you mean?
@@h3artands0uLL You are worth the time. LIsten while you are doing other things around the house. I'm cleaning my floors while I listen.
So very true what Mel Robbins says here; I'm totally on the same page with her.
Just be aware everyone, that the "Let Them " affirmation can only work when you totally stop blaming other people for your own misery and the misery around you. YOU are the one who is in the driver seat, regardless of how difficult or hopeless a situation seems to be. As the philosophy of the old Stoa said: "When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That's where your power is."
This is so unbelievable..I know sometimes this should be common sense but knowing I'm not crazy and talking about hope is key,bit is what has kept me stuck...thank you so very much Mel..the age thing at 56 losing hope thinking I'll live out my life this fucked up thinking it's a waste of my life and accepting it does not have to be...I have good years left and I can change things. I know it's hard work but I will continue listening..training my brain...This podcast has given me hope Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!
I love how Mel continues to say Steven’s name throughout the whole conversation, it really makes the other person feel important & included 😊
This podcast is #1 on the Internet. It has helped me with my struggles in my personal life. I recently quit my toxic "dream" 6 figures job to focus on my physical and mental health. No amount of money could replace our health and our family. Please keep making these podcasts. Thanks for the great content.
Steven, changing the format would be a disaster. No one wants it. What you have here is perfect. I stopped watching several amazing channels simply because they changed format. The thing is, channel owners underestimate the immense value that comes with the warm comfort of familiarity that an audience develops over time. Once they lose this feeling it's a great annoyance, because now they need to develop it by themselves all over again. If it's not broken, don't fix it! The elegance and simplicity of your set up and the spot light on single personalities is gold. Hope all stays the way it is. Much love!
I loved u guys
Just recently found this man’s channel. Not only can I not get enough of his voice and accent but the information he shares and the guest he invites on, are tremendously thought provoking. His work is brilliant and I feel lucky to have come across the wealth of knowledge he shares. Thank you for your generosity, sir ❤ 👏🏼! Keep going, you’re doing amazing things already!
If you can apreciate all this, you're already top notch yourself!
Act like the person you want to be even tho you don’t feel like it. Take an enjoyment break. Repeat. Choose hard things you enjoy. Hard but I like this path.
What a wonderful, smart, intuitive lady! What a great guest to have on your channel! My respect.... off to watch more
Mel is the best..'.Let them ', since I heard her say it a few weeks ago, it's worked for me already ..... I'm 57, life is one long book of chapters and we're writing alot of it, even if it's the smallest of decisions . I love her, a woman in her 50's, speaking out, its inspiring...Wisdom from women
I love this and can relate since I am a 55 year old woman who is feeling a little confused, sad etc. because of changes in my body. Sometimes I think it is just me but it is so nice to hear Mel say that she struggles with menopause too. I know I want to be happy and have more fun and did reach the point where I made a change. Thank you Mel for being so honest and real and sharing great information!
There’s a great podcast on the misunderstandings of menopause (in the medical profession) I came across recently presented by a lady doctor 👩⚕️ if you’re interested, I’d be happy to send it to you 👍 yes I saved and filed it…she was brilliant 👌
Am I the only one who recognizes Will Smith? That accent is so weird coming from the Fresh Prince.
Paris
In the
the spring.
What's wrong with that sentence?
“Let them”...same message as “letting go” (David Hawkins), or the Buddhist non-control, or Eckhart Tolle’s acceptance of the moment. The wisdom is out there in so many guises...
yes, everyone says the same thing, but they present it differently. It's no brainer we cant control others,and yes parents go extra mile and they ruin indepdendece of theirs kids.
Stoicism works as well. Do not try changing something you cannot change.
Great to hear Mel talking more about neurodiversity and ADHD in women. So needed! Thanks Steven
So what are the two words you use to assist your anxiety. Do you have examples of “LET THEM”
I don’t think I quite understanding, and yet I have an interest in learning the way to use this phrase
Thank you
Instead of hearing her views and then wondering if they'll work, you hear her views, and somehow, you know they'll work. It makes all the sense in the world, and I feel blessed to have stumbled upon it. Bravo to both of you for your brilliance. If people apply these concepts, their life will change. Like I said, it just makes sense. My life will change today. I hope yours does if you needed to hear this.
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Hello Steven, your interview with Mel today was extraordinary. The words you used to thank her at the end of the podcast was so thoughtful, honest and full rich with admiration and love. Mel you are indeed a powerhouse of authencity in expressing how challenging life can be with all its struggles to understand the 'whys' to help push thru the maze of control and hangups we all have. Those simple words, 'LET THEM' with internal discipline, we can turn our energies inward and use that to guide ourselves vs wanting to control everyone else to the outcomes we desire in the moment. Those two words can create calm and deeper still an inner compassion that serves everyone. I thought your statement profound, about how important it is about "getting out of bed every morning when I don't feel like it because that ability to feel resistance in your body and get out of bed and face the day is the SKILL needed for any change." And those words spoke volumes to me. This interview was very cathartic and useful.
So again, Thank you both Steven and Mel Robbins for such a powerful and poignant podcast today. To have your children want and desire and make the time to come and spend time with you Mel is the most sacred gift and like Steven said " You did it!"
“Prioritising peace”. Yep. 😊 Loved this podcast. Thank you.
This is the best advice i ever got in my life. I wish i had have heard this twenty years ago.
I resonate with Mel so much it’s unreal, finally getting answers to questions I’ve been searching for in all my 29 years living , thank you Mel and thank you Steven for allowing such amazing people to share such good insights for the world to see, it’s helping so much people in so many ways
You’re so right Mel . It was my courage and sadly it cost me years of stagnation . But I’m pulling through 🙏🏼❤️
I happened to randomly pick this clip to listen while clearing my totally disastrous messy paperwork and this part where Mel mentioned about the traits of individuals with ADHD; it just struck me that EVERYTHING she said is as if she is describing me all the way from my schooling days till now. Its time I go find a specialist to diagnose if I happened to be one. Thanks Mel for the A-HA moment.
Paperwork is the absolute worst!!😆
0:08: 💔 Mel Robbins shares the secret to taking control of your life and changing your mindset for the better.
7:33: 🧭 The video discusses how people struggle to act on their inner compass and make changes in their lives.
14:57: 🌟 It's difficult to change habits and mindset, but it's a normal part of the human experience.
22:49: 🤔 The video discusses the importance of making a decision to change how you feel and think in order to start enjoying life.
29:56: ⚙ The video discusses how childhood trauma and anxiety can lead to a chain reaction of actions and reactions, causing a feeling of being out of control.
37:20: 🚗 The speaker reflects on the drive and motivation behind achieving success, and the shift from being dragged to being more intentional.
44:32: 🤔 The video discusses the idea of letting go and lowering expectations in various situations.
51:23: ⚠ The worst advice is that someone else can make you happy, and it's important to take responsibility for your own happiness.
58:58: 🎯 Setting goals is like knowing your starting point on a map and working towards improving different aspects of your life.
1:06:59: ⏳ Join the waiting list to get early access to limited supply conversation cards. ADHD diagnosis changed everything for the speaker.
1:14:32: 🧠 The video discusses the life-changing impact of understanding and addressing ADHD, and the importance of different neural networks for focus.
1:22:16: 🔥 The speaker discusses the challenges and frustrations of menopause and hormone replacement therapy.
1:29:47: 😊 The speaker gets emotional discussing the close friendship between kids and parents, and the decreasing time spent with parents as children grow older.
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I dont know if you arent aware that all the podcasts are divided in sections with titles so you can click inn on a certain time. 😁
Is this comment A.i. generated? 🤔
@@grateful7420yes. The last line: Tammy AI
Thank you so much for the summary! 💕
Wow. Every time I hear her speak she says exactly how I feel. To be reminded I’m not along in it all. Thank you Mel!!
Steven you are lovely! Love your podcasts. Love your patience with your guests. Love your questions. Love your vulnerability. All of that makes this podcast very ‘real’. Thank you. Keep them coming. ❤
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Thankyou 🙏 enlightening and enriching podcast and I’m 65 and so desire a permanent shift of trauma in childhood instead of circling self destruct mechanisms ❤❤❤❤
Please don't change the format, it's so good as it is. With the level of growth you're seeing it's clear everyone just loves the one on one format. It would be a terrible shame to see these talks continually interrupted by footage which for me would be widely irrelevant. I want to hear what these people think and how they describe their thoughts and experiences in their own words, I don't need to see footage or 'evidence.' It's like how the movie is just never as good as the book. Please stay as you are!
i’ve regressed these past couple of years and these are the messages/reminders i need to get back to myself. i bought one of her books on audible and subscribed to this channel. great content, and I love your openness and humility.
I’m 54 and Mel’s explanation about menopause is sooo relatable. We need more women talking about it and we need general doctors to be better informed and more updated on the latest research about hormones replacement therapy. We were told that HRT is like this evil and very bad thing when it’s not…. I’ve been suffering 5 years because of this when there was no need at all
HRT isn’t always a straight forward answer. I am a slim and but had to have HRT to stop terrible hot flushes. It worked ok but it became apparent that the progesterone in the mix was making me anxious. It’s seems like everything is a trade off. Not a wonder drug. Ten years of struggle I am now 65 off HRT and the hot flushes are disturbing my sleep again but I feel better off the hormones. Everyone is different so don’t expect HRT to fix everything
there is no help during menopause, because there was no education during puberty, to boot! It was "you'll bleed -- it sucks, use pads or tampons, and go on birth control"...theeeeen a woman wants to get pregnant, she can't, then what? No trouble shooting (thought the birth control messes everything up, as does abortion RU486, and IUDs, etc), so then IVF which messes her up even MORE. Then comes tubal ligation, with it's side effects and syndromes leading to "take it out" (hysterectomy). So, that's why/ Womens healthcare was always TOTALLY anti-women. As a nurse, I saw this very early on, and so studied outside the box with this (and other things) and founds naturopaths and Creighton Model Fertility Care/NaPro technology the BEST - comprehensive and again, non mainstream.
This episode is definitely a life changer! "Let Them" is my go-to now. Thank you, Mel, for being 100% unapologetically you!! Forever a fan. 🙏🏼
Yes suffered hot flashes 1 year until I tried the BHRT and with all my research have decided it's not only giving me relief of symptoms but is heart, health and brain protective....and yes, @jeanhorsman9364 progesterone is a b#%$ch! but I'm finding ways...
Dr Christiane Northrup has been advocating for women’s health for yearsss. I highly recommend following her work. Her books are also available on audible. She gives great insight that will help you through. She also sells products, i haven’t tried them but was completely blown away with her advice. She will help you look at menopause completely different. Best of luck ❤
Let them = stoicism anybody? The only person that you have control over is yourself and thus act accordingly. I'm glad she found it. And for those people think stoicism means no emotion and deadpan. That's a false representation. It could lead to that in some , on the extreme end , but really it's about getting in control of oneself and life despite the external factors.
Also, when you “Let them” as a parent, you get to see the kiddo’s creativity, and you trust them to use their creativity to solve their moments.
let me guess. Nit reached puberty, yet, right?
@@kathrin9674 I don’t quite understand what Nit is.
Mel, you're so powerful! That's actually the first time I've listened to two interviews with the same person twice!
Every series of podcast has a deep sense, and always triggers me to make a very good conclusion 👏
I’ve been feeling really crappy and down about myself lately and this conversation helped alleviate that for the moment, which is much appreciated. Any relief I can get from my own anxiety and mental self sabotage is something I’m grateful for. I’m going to try to remember these tactics in the future because I have decided that I really want and need to focus on being happy and remove all the negativity and issues of self worth etc
Wow, cookiefridays, I can totally identify with your comment and that gives me a feeling of "normalization". Heck, I haven't even listened to 2 seconds of this video yet because I came to the comments section first to see if any other person simply wrote what the "two words" are that the title of the video indicates will fix us if we just say them. No, I didn't find any comment yet that just tells others what the magical "two words" are but instead I found your comment which is worth more to me than listening to this dumb video or trying to find the magical two words without having to listen to this dumb video. Thank you fellow youtuber. You make the world a brighter place just by existing! Have a nice day, even if we do live in this dog eat dog world. Lol
Loser
@@myfavoriteflavor but isn't calling it dumb before you listen an act of self-sabotage right out of the gate?
@@MrKevinStraub no it isnt
@CookieFridays I highly, HIGHLY recommend Matt Kahn's video "feel good now" on YT, it will shift things out for you & with a dash of humor as well
Thank you both for all you do. This episode had me in tears! (Especially when it came to the 71 year old woman). My mother, God Bless her soul, survived many heartbreaking situations in childhood and as a result struggled with mental health issues throughout her life. I wish she could have gotten help during her lifetime. She is in Heaven now so I know she is finally at peace. Blessings of love and light to all.
Mel is my sister from another mister! From the same state & I'm just a year younger so she's my mentor right now on so many levels. I hope to meet her one day & thank her
I can relate about the menopause. So challenging! Something that helped me was eating a low carb diet (and NO PROCESSED foods) I call it a combination of a carnivore and keto diet. Saved me! The more sugar (of any kind) the worse my issues got (including night sweats). It also helped me with anxiety and my ADHD.
So true sugar is a no go after menopause, it's toxic. It's the last thing I've given up too at 57, after learning how to IF and AF using The Fast like a Girl methodology. Had to give up dairy and onions (two things I loved to eat). before that.
@@kbal1451 I'm doing low carb and IF also. Why did you give up onions? I eat them every day.
@@northofyou33everyone has some foods that don't agree with them.
Oh so true.. Keto then carnivore.. 7th yr and life is fabulous.. Meat and fat.. Food is just a fuel.. I don't even think about food unless I'm hungry.. : ) hi from NZ.
@@northofyou33 I did FODMAP elimination and when I removed onions from my diet my digestion improved. It's an individual thing.
One of my favorite episodes with Mel! Loved the insight regarding Dr Paul and the inner voice. So very relateable. I’ll be coming back to this episode again
Dr. Paul Conti
I am at the fuck it state for sure. Parents are stuck in a cycle of self pity and negativity, grand children can’t make them happy, they never visit, they cannot be happy at a birthday, work burns me out. Can’t rest, because I always ruminating on unchangeable family shit. Just fuck it honestly. I have a freaking anxiety over every small thing,because the lack of self esteem I’ve been raised with. I won’t do things to make others happy, I wont be able to EVER. If someone is screwed, let them be that way. Can’t take responsibility for others lack of self love, lack of enjoyment, or lack of happyness. I’ve been doing this for too long.
Your words sound deeply familiar - I can relate. The key for me, once I finally accepted that I can’t change anyone else in my world, other than me, was then learning to be with my inner self, and working on getting familiar with me, as in what I “really” feel and what is hurting/hindering me - and focusing on managing my thoughts (even when it seems impossible) - which has changed my inner world and brought positive shifts in my everyday that I didn’t imagine could be possible. I was stuck in patterns, but the only person I could change was me. Once I was willing to focus on that (which took hitting a longggg time of rock bottom and wanting to opt out first). I wish you the shifts and hope that you need… I was in this place for a reason and it may be just to become sooo unbearably miserable
that I was eventually make the change that has been such a help - in ways I don’t even have words for…. I wish for you all good things.
@@gridspir Thank you for your kind words and time :) Finding a way back to our true identity is hard when it was kept under water for decades. My anxiety started when my true self started to came out and it was never good enough, I was the artsy , sensitive kid whose values worth nothing in this world and I had to restrain myself If I did not want to be gaslighted, and belittled for the Things I wanted to do or have( Love, attention, quality time, carreer that suits me) .
Very Good Mel , Making me cry. I'm proud of Mell Robbins !
You don't even understand the way you're changing my life while enjoying every second of this convo. It almost feels like ilegal to have all this info, and feel so hopeful and inspired after each episode (specially w Mel and Jay). And as I am typing I'm thanking you and hoping you could have a glimpse of this feeling. I'm on my way of becoming better because of this, because of you all.
Thank you.
I feel the same way. And his voice is so calming and reassuring. It makes us feel welcomed and appreciated.
Nice! Agreed!
Finally Mel on your show❤
There is already an episode with her! It's great you should watch it
This is a secondary conversation between Steven and Mel
Thanks for the info!
That was Gold!!!
I’ve been watching you and Mel’s podcasts for a while now and… with your questions and Mel’s heart felt responses- Wow!!! Thank You both! 🫶👍🇦🇺🙏🏼
Steven ur loved good man u deserve it thank God because God very real he cares for ppl
So many moments in this particular episode where I wanted to pause and comment, but I finished on just one, how very touching, deep, relatable and impactful this particular conversation was, thank you.
Oh how happy I am that you had Mel on your show and that she has come into my awareness!! This brilliant woman is speaking the truth I need to hear 🎉THANK YOU!!!
I needed this. So much.
I know I’m not the only one.
🫶🏻Thank you Mel.
🙌🏼Thank you Steven.
Well said! You definately stay put in a situation until it becomes unbearable, probably just in hope of change. When that doesnt come, its on your to make the next steps.
I just finished watching - the years of therapy have done nothing for me as hearing Mel Robbins speaking here has opened up an understanding ive been searching most of my life THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!! Im not alone
100% when you kinda shift down and get into your body and recognize that you have agency in your life and then TAKE that gift of agency completely into your own hands and decide what your life is going to look like… it changes everything ♥️🔥⚡️
Here's a quote "People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures".Frederick Matthias Alexander.
Omg, so very very true!!! Youch !!! Thanks for posting!
Omg , that was meant for me at this moment. I have a buying habit on eBay and try to keep out of charity shops and it’s very hard because I love it but I have too much stuff and today I was wondering whether just to go to a supermarket where there was no temptation or to go to just one charity shop, but I know I will end up buying some things that I do not need more clutter, so yes I will change my habit and that will change the outcome. Thank you
What an amazing conversation, what an amazing new Mel. Truly changed. So much calmer and wiser. Thanks Stephen for the opportunity to access her humble wisdom.
I am so grateful that I found your channel Steven. Since finding it several months ago, I have told anyone who will listen about it. I am a 53 year old lawyer, my husband is also a lawyer and we have two kids, one in university and one heading there in the fall. I have never listened to one of your podcasts that I have not found relevant to my life, and I think would be relevant to anyone regardless of what they do or at what stage they find themselves. Mel also popped up in my feed a few months ago and I have found her advice and insights to be life changing. Everything discussed today are things I am struggling with at the moment in my life. Amazing podcast. So helpful. You and Mel are touching and changing lives -- you have mine, and I thank you for that.
Thank you so much for the work that you both do! I listen to both of your podcasts and find they add great value to my life. I am 35 and realizing that I don’t have to be stuck. Looking forward to becoming a business owner and owning my life.
Good luck Courtney! You rock.
Thank you Mel for being so truthful about the menopause, also to admit that you too are struggling with it. Unfortunately it is still a topic that is too little talked about. I also liked the fact that you mentioned how costly it is to have all the test done in a desperate attempt to find what you personally need rather than the multitude of things that everyone else is suggesting. Many women can't afford to pay for all these tests and all the treatment and like you say, it can go on for years.
Thank you for introducing us to Mel. I just purchsed two of her audiobooks after listening to this podcast!! Fantastic! Just fantastic 😍
I felt that at the end when she got emotional about what her goal is now. Thank you Mel for explaining in the beginning about the knowing when it’s fear vs doing what you’re supposed to do.
I already listened to it on Spotify, so just here to give a like on RUclips because everybody deserves to watch these podcasts. I appreciate how calmly you go through these podcasts. I'm not a big podcast fan, but yours are just heavenly to listen to. Thank you.
I’m only at 7:00mins where she’s talking about pivoting at the energy. I was working with teenagers at a grocery store when my kids were really young. And I found myself so JEALOUS that they were all heading off to university. I had always wanted to go back but didn’t think I could (I dropped out when I found out I was pregnant with my first). I made the decision to go back because I didn’t want to feel that jealousy and disappointment in myself anymore and live my dream. Everything magically fell into place! It was amazing! I decided right then and there to never limit myself and when I feel jealous of someone, to grasp that energy and use it to better myself.
Thank you for this episode. For me what stuck out the most was the topic of ADHD. I’m 30 and just diagnosed three months ago, even though I knew since I was a teen there was something wrong with me, there was something preventing me from focusing and doing the things I needed to do. It was the judgment from my parents and their harsh view on medication that prevented me from going to get the diagnosis. As you guys said earlier, it was that need to change that pushed me to do it and I am so thankful that I did. For the first time in my life I feel like I can do anything without my traumas and personal challenges getting in my way. ♥️
Just be careful. Long term use of antidepressants causes dementia. And benzodiazepines can literally kill you when you try to stop. (How do I know these things? 🤔😳). Make sure you are making an informed decision. Hugs from Tulsa.
So the medication really helps you. I have never been able to focus on anything unless i am supremely interested. Tried my son’s meds once and was transformative. Wonder if its time to get tested and on the meds
Mel has CANDOR! Love her mannerisms & way of explaining things that truly matter. I've never shared so many videos from any other speaker ❤
Your pod cast have blown away the competition … interesting ..informative and thought provoking ….. Mel is the warmest genuine and intelligent very understanding
Mel changed my life! I really love her!
I embraced "Let them" months ago, I feel much better! I sometimes wonder if this is selfish of me. But Thank you guys for this podcast. I now feel even happier with my "Let them".
WOW. I never heard of her, but... oh, my god! She's absolutely extraordinary. Thank you Steven for bringing Mel Robbins into my life.
You're so GREAT Mel!! I get soo much out of your podcasts and this one was listened to while crafting.. i can focus better when my hands are moving.. Im a 40 yr old survivor of many things and found out 2 yrs ago that i have complex PTSD and have been listening and healing while making useful crafts to give away.. im legally blind and enjoy listening to you& so many ah ha moments..❤
Thanks. I was cynical. I’ve invested so much and people around me don’t respect me and are not giving me the help they promised. But listening I realize I have to have the hope. I want the encouragement from family but I think ageism applies. I need to believe in myself.
You need to be your own cheerleader. Unfortunately, it’s so easy to do for others and not for ourselves!!
You don’t even realize how transformative this episode has been for me. Thank you!
Yes, I just though the same thing. Let's hope that feeling won't leave us the ....next hour. Take care.
Its only been a few days and you already feel this way??
This is one of your best episodes! Allowing ourselves to identify why we react to certain situations is so hard, just stop take a deep breath and think, sounds easy, but it really isn’t. I will definitely be using ‘just let them’ from now on, thank you!
I listen to you and Mel almost every morning! I’m so glad to see her on this episode 🎉
It’s not the events themselves that disturb people, but only their judgments about them. -Stoicism
I loved this! Sooooo informative 🎉 and very good answers at the end - firing new pathways to not go back to fear, trauma etc ❤ 🙏🏻 well done SB, great interview ❤
I love Mel! Thanks so much. You are right - the world needs people like Mel, but also people like you Steven. 💙
Love the ‘let them’ technique. Just re-listened to this part of the podcast. It’s also essentially what to actually do when people say ‘“let go”, and what’s more, in addition to all of the reasons she gave, there an is additional benefit that when you do this, you’re talking to yourself in the third person!
Steven is masterful in asking great questions! 👏👏👏👏👏👏⭐⭐⭐⭐
FACTS📌
Let them works! I’ve always called it ‘that’s them, I’m me’.
I needed to see this. I'm 47 and have spent my life self-sabotaging because of childhood trauma. I've been in therapy for almost 30 years and am JUST starting to have break throughs. I love you Mel Robbins and you are greatly needed in this world. We love you Steven for this channel and your videos. THANK YOU!!!💚🙏
Enlightening conversation, i had cancer when my son was 5 years old - it went on for a few years, he started to struggle at school and for years i said its like he's learned to tune out. He's dyslexic and we had him tested for ADD/ADHD and the Dr wouldn't have it as he wasn't swinging from the lampshades - this conversation has just confirmed exactly what I've always though!
❤😢 This really resonated with me. I'm excited to implement what I've learned here. Thank you so much for approaching the subjects that impact our well being.
Well done, you two! Thank you for the inspiration
i see a lot of people starting/making podcasts without structure, proper planning and basically just winging every bit of the podcast and hoping the guests just keep talking enough for them to get an hour long video for RUclips algorithm. This channel stands out so much by simply doing the opposite. i appreciate the quality over quantity approach Steven.
Wow , just got out of a abusive narrisst relationship and last week had a 8 hour brain surgery. And listening to these podcasts have been hitting a heart strings. Love to have a one on one with Mel . Keep this podcasts going. Thank u . WA Perth