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I've asked you and asked you right now I'm just going to let go I am fed up with hearing that each and every time you say such Great and Powerful things but you will not listen to the other people I said to you I was going to stop watching your videos if you come out the or only 59% once again do not subscribe to you are not a preacher so stop preaching you have now lost me as a valuable watcher I I will follow that woman instead aviary what's another waste of a brilliant just because of your egoistic Way you should believe in yourself if you believe that this is a good message not because you don't like your percentages I done with you have a nice day literally you would make this better by instead of an announcing your failure of percentages by sitting there saying can you please ask everyone that watches this to subscribe but you won't listen to me you think I'm being a prick that's fine but you're being stupid and not believing in yourself and I'm fed up with telling you and this is how much I own what I say my full name is Michael gregson I have got nothing to hide and nor will I feel ashamed by telling you that I have had enough of you and your stupid percentages just because you're not happy with them I wish you all the best honestly I do but I will not follow a preacher on percentages
Finding this interview 3 months after it was first aired was perfect timing for me. I made a radical life change this year at the age of 72, choosing between the slow fade of old age and writing a new chapter with the life force I still have. It's been a monumentally difficult transition, but it's happening. Standing on the threshold of a new life is the reward of making the effort. The journey continues and it's all that you so eloquently say it is, especially, worth it to be unstuck.
I absolutely love Mel Robbins. The hardest part of starting over at an older age is losing trust in your intuition. When things have collapsed around you, it causes you to question the choices you've made in the past and the ones you need to make to move forward.
You can totally lose touch with your intuition. Especially if you make decisions & adjust your behaviour based on what other people want or what they think will please others. And thats just one reason!
Do I ever know this as I have aged and lost important people in my life among a few health issues! 🥲. Plus it is not so easy to pick myself up and rework myself…again!!
I will state the best explanation I have received about menopause is that your body made you an estrogen junkie at puberty and menopause is withdrawal from it. Once this was explained to me, I could understand all the symptoms as withdrawal from a drug. That made it easier to slow my head down and cope with the symptoms mentally. I finally gave in and started HRT, which saved my sanity, my marriage, and allowed me to continue to do my job. Menopause absolutely SUCKS, and it’s a big fat lie that it ONLY takes 10 years to get through. Enjoyed this - TFS.
I find that the older I get, the less I want to fight, contend, battle for anything. Like Mel said, I just want to prioritize peace. Life is a lot more enjoyable that way.
Mel is a legend. She has the balls to share her shadow side. She speaks to you as a fellow human being not a subject. She is relatable, personable and clearly passionate. I would love to see Mel and Berne have a talk or Mel and Joe Dispenza. Could you imagine the formula this would bring?
Change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of the change This is me, 54 just quit my job in a toxic workplace where bullying is the norm and you are told to just ignore it because that’s what some people are like. I’ve been there 11 years and have put everything into that job but the last straw was receiving an email by accident where the sales manager was running me down to a client after he had told me the day before to listen to him and do as I was told. The pain of staying would have been worse than leaving. I’m scared and nervous about what I am going to do now but it has to be and will be better than it was as the pain of staying was destroying me. I can do it
That’s a true statement there..moving to a different direction can be any worse then staying where u are..one might alleviate the other in respects of unhappiness.
Good for you! I changed my career at the age of 54. I was a legal secretary for 30 years. It was ok but not my passion. I then took a course in hypnotherapy, got my diploma and started practising. I have been doing this for 20 years now, make more money than I ever did as a secretary and absolutely love my life and my job! Hope this helps to motivate you and find a job that you love. It’s never too late!
I am 51, single Mom with 5 kids, ADHD, MENOPAUSE and A Hot Mess! I am wanting to start my own business but keep thinking i am too old and my brain is to all over the place to ever be a success. I used to be such a positive optimistic person, but life, divorce and betrayal by close family members has left me tainted and somewhat hopeless, I want to be the best I can be for my family.....I just don't know what to do @@Chester6209
Steven, changing the format would be a disaster. No one wants it. What you have here is perfect. I stopped watching several amazing channels simply because they changed format. The thing is, channel owners underestimate the immense value that comes with the warm comfort of familiarity that an audience develops over time. Once they lose this feeling it's a great annoyance, because now they need to develop it by themselves all over again. If it's not broken, don't fix it! The elegance and simplicity of your set up and the spot light on single personalities is gold. Hope all stays the way it is. Much love!
So very true what Mel Robbins says here; I'm totally on the same page with her. Just be aware everyone, that the "Let Them " affirmation can only work when you totally stop blaming other people for your own misery and the misery around you. YOU are the one who is in the driver seat, regardless of how difficult or hopeless a situation seems to be. As the philosophy of the old Stoa said: "When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That's where your power is."
13:25 that saying is from a poem by Anais Nin - 'And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.'
While money doesn’t buy happiness, having enough provides for: shelter, medical care, food, transportation. Without these basic needs being met, it’s difficult to feel safe in this world.
Great comment, and needs to be said. The people at the top are constantly searching for something to stop the boredom setting in, never able to relax, while the people at the bottom just struggle to survive, never getting off the first rung of the ladder. In the middle there is scope to live the most enriched life. If only the rich and wealthy could see that they have too much, only because there are others who have too little. In a healthy society we should ensure that everyone’s basic needs are met - particularly the most vulnerable - then we could all enjoy the quest to achieve self-actualization. Think how exciting it would be if we engaged with each other on a higher spiritual level, not having to worry about basic needs! It can be achieved if everyone has a home and a basic income, sufficient to meet physical needs.
Agree on money can't make you happy then continue to talk about money expensive tests, men retreats, husband getting masters. Ppl to invest in a restaurant, kids dressed to 9s to prom. Lets be real her experiences aren't normal which is good but don't act like your life is average.
“Let them”...same message as “letting go” (David Hawkins), or the Buddhist non-control, or Eckhart Tolle’s acceptance of the moment. The wisdom is out there in so many guises...
yes, everyone says the same thing, but they present it differently. It's no brainer we cant control others,and yes parents go extra mile and they ruin indepdendece of theirs kids.
Exactly. In codependents Anonymous , we say”Let go and let god”, because every one over the age of 18 is on their own spiritual journey that has nothing to do with us. ❤🎉❤ One can suggest twice if so inclined, but more than that , is being controlling for our own selfish safety. ❤🎉❤
As this podcast continuously grows. I have a feeling that Steven is enjoying the episodes even more. I just hear him laughing constantly which is lovely to hear. Keep smiling my friend.
This is so unbelievable..I know sometimes this should be common sense but knowing I'm not crazy and talking about hope is key,bit is what has kept me stuck...thank you so very much Mel..the age thing at 56 losing hope thinking I'll live out my life this fucked up thinking it's a waste of my life and accepting it does not have to be...I have good years left and I can change things. I know it's hard work but I will continue listening..training my brain...This podcast has given me hope Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!
Hallelujah Mel! You speak such truth. Not motivation. It's it disciplines. Not the whipping kind but the kind that knows you're being mindful of/to who you want to be. Through those doorways.. time after time. Maybe menopause gives us wisdom in these pursuits as we face our mortality and our presence as our self this life. Thank you both of you and all who work to be the person you want to be. ❤
I accomplished this about 6 months ago. It’s great to hear her speak on it. I call it minding my own business. Allow others to live out the consequences of their choices and focus on who I can control… me. I feel free, peaceful, joy and purpose.
As a woman who has just been diagnosed with endometriosis I understand all the menopause stuff and I am 22. I have started hormonal therapy and it's so tough on the body. So many changes, both physical and mental. I have moments where I burst into tears and feel like ****. But I'm trying to improve the situation by taking care of myself, taking my time, doing what I love and meditating. Stay strong gals❤
Endometriosis is caused by scar tissue going awry in the body. Streptokinase will break up scar tissue without the side effects of hormone therapy. Do some research and you'll find out for yourself. I know how painful this condition is. Good Luck.
Heart goes out to you @amygald, have you heard testimonials of folks who do Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations? Remarkable transformations from various dis-eases, there’s always Hope🙏🏼
I have endo. You are experiencing too much estrogen in your body. You need to get it out. Herbs remove the estrogens specificallly dandelion, maca, passion flower, chasteberry and some others. Get the sugar and carbs out of your life. Eat clean beef and veggies. Good luck.
“Let them” is not a new concept by any means. It’s acceptance, plain and simple. Accepting people places and things as they are and not trying to control anything, anyone or any circumstance or outcome.
While it's not new per se, this presentation of "Let Them" radical acceptance with such relatable and detailed mental process examples may help a lot of people.
No it is not a knew concept! You are right there. I think it falls into and under and around other “things”….because of fears. I think more people are seeing that it is ok to be yourself ( trying anyway) it is one of the hardest things in the world to do….just ask me I’m in the front door of this change. Fu€king YiKeS !
Mel Robbins is easily the best no-nonsense no jargon, no BS speaker on self help / wellbeing that I have heard in a long time. She makes it accessible, understandable - and best of all no hard sell on courses, retreats, books lectures etc. She just says it like it is. “Let Them” theory is so profound. ADHD-anxiety discussion was so enlightening. Oh and the best bit? “The chain” - reverse it! Most awesome advice ever.
In my 57th year I had a traumatic event that left me standing alone in this world due to my family shunning my anger instead of them addressing his betrayal. I was angry he had a mistress and wouldn't leave my house to be with her. It took him ten months but he used my family as flying monkeys through his pity party and they bought it. Long story short I had an epiphany. I released the feeling of being responsible for other people morals & values by realising we are all making our own way and our emotional coping skills have evolved to where we find ourselves on our individual timeline. The people i thought were there for me let me down but i didn't resort to shunning them back. I still deal with them but Ive never been happier because I let them 🙏💖
Let them, is not an excuse to let people treat you badly. I would Let them have an opinion. But I might choose to distance myself from them. Let them, not support me, Let me walk away from people who don't have my back.
I remember several years ago heroin addiction destroyed my life, I suffered from severe depression and a mental disorder until I was recommended to psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Mel is the best..'.Let them ', since I heard her say it a few weeks ago, it's worked for me already ..... I'm 57, life is one long book of chapters and we're writing alot of it, even if it's the smallest of decisions . I love her, a woman in her 50's, speaking out, its inspiring...Wisdom from women
Mel is my sister from another mister! From the same state & I'm just a year younger so she's my mentor right now on so many levels. I hope to meet her one day & thank her
Act like the person you want to be even tho you don’t feel like it. Take an enjoyment break. Repeat. Choose hard things you enjoy. Hard but I like this path.
Let them = stoicism anybody? The only person that you have control over is yourself and thus act accordingly. I'm glad she found it. And for those people think stoicism means no emotion and deadpan. That's a false representation. It could lead to that in some , on the extreme end , but really it's about getting in control of oneself and life despite the external factors.
I love this and can relate since I am a 55 year old woman who is feeling a little confused, sad etc. because of changes in my body. Sometimes I think it is just me but it is so nice to hear Mel say that she struggles with menopause too. I know I want to be happy and have more fun and did reach the point where I made a change. Thank you Mel for being so honest and real and sharing great information!
There’s a great podcast on the misunderstandings of menopause (in the medical profession) I came across recently presented by a lady doctor 👩⚕️ if you’re interested, I’d be happy to send it to you 👍 yes I saved and filed it…she was brilliant 👌
Please don't change the format, it's so good as it is. With the level of growth you're seeing it's clear everyone just loves the one on one format. It would be a terrible shame to see these talks continually interrupted by footage which for me would be widely irrelevant. I want to hear what these people think and how they describe their thoughts and experiences in their own words, I don't need to see footage or 'evidence.' It's like how the movie is just never as good as the book. Please stay as you are!
Just recently found this man’s channel. Not only can I not get enough of his voice and accent but the information he shares and the guest he invites on, are tremendously thought provoking. His work is brilliant and I feel lucky to have come across the wealth of knowledge he shares. Thank you for your generosity, sir ❤ 👏🏼! Keep going, you’re doing amazing things already!
Instead of hearing her views and then wondering if they'll work, you hear her views, and somehow, you know they'll work. It makes all the sense in the world, and I feel blessed to have stumbled upon it. Bravo to both of you for your brilliance. If people apply these concepts, their life will change. Like I said, it just makes sense. My life will change today. I hope yours does if you needed to hear this. ✌️
I just finished watching - the years of therapy have done nothing for me as hearing Mel Robbins speaking here has opened up an understanding ive been searching most of my life THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!! Im not alone
This podcast is #1 on the Internet. It has helped me with my struggles in my personal life. I recently quit my toxic "dream" 6 figures job to focus on my physical and mental health. No amount of money could replace our health and our family. Please keep making these podcasts. Thanks for the great content.
I needed to see this. I'm 47 and have spent my life self-sabotaging because of childhood trauma. I've been in therapy for almost 30 years and am JUST starting to have break throughs. I love you Mel Robbins and you are greatly needed in this world. We love you Steven for this channel and your videos. THANK YOU!!!💚🙏
As Mel says: when the pain of continuing to do something becomes WORSE than the pain of NOT DOING IT…. you will change without a blink. It’s literally “the TONY ROBBINS switch”! I live by that.
I’m only at 7:00mins where she’s talking about pivoting at the energy. I was working with teenagers at a grocery store when my kids were really young. And I found myself so JEALOUS that they were all heading off to university. I had always wanted to go back but didn’t think I could (I dropped out when I found out I was pregnant with my first). I made the decision to go back because I didn’t want to feel that jealousy and disappointment in myself anymore and live my dream. Everything magically fell into place! It was amazing! I decided right then and there to never limit myself and when I feel jealous of someone, to grasp that energy and use it to better myself.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Hello Steven, your interview with Mel today was extraordinary. The words you used to thank her at the end of the podcast was so thoughtful, honest and full rich with admiration and love. Mel you are indeed a powerhouse of authencity in expressing how challenging life can be with all its struggles to understand the 'whys' to help push thru the maze of control and hangups we all have. Those simple words, 'LET THEM' with internal discipline, we can turn our energies inward and use that to guide ourselves vs wanting to control everyone else to the outcomes we desire in the moment. Those two words can create calm and deeper still an inner compassion that serves everyone. I thought your statement profound, about how important it is about "getting out of bed every morning when I don't feel like it because that ability to feel resistance in your body and get out of bed and face the day is the SKILL needed for any change." And those words spoke volumes to me. This interview was very cathartic and useful. So again, Thank you both Steven and Mel Robbins for such a powerful and poignant podcast today. To have your children want and desire and make the time to come and spend time with you Mel is the most sacred gift and like Steven said " You did it!"
This episode is undeniably exceptional and empowering. I used to feel lost these past few weeks, but now I am committed to focusing on what is truly important and beneficial to me rather than dwelling in despair.
Thankyou 🙏 enlightening and enriching podcast and I’m 65 and so desire a permanent shift of trauma in childhood instead of circling self destruct mechanisms ❤❤❤❤
I happened to randomly pick this clip to listen while clearing my totally disastrous messy paperwork and this part where Mel mentioned about the traits of individuals with ADHD; it just struck me that EVERYTHING she said is as if she is describing me all the way from my schooling days till now. Its time I go find a specialist to diagnose if I happened to be one. Thanks Mel for the A-HA moment.
I can relate about the menopause. So challenging! Something that helped me was eating a low carb diet (and NO PROCESSED foods) I call it a combination of a carnivore and keto diet. Saved me! The more sugar (of any kind) the worse my issues got (including night sweats). It also helped me with anxiety and my ADHD.
So true sugar is a no go after menopause, it's toxic. It's the last thing I've given up too at 57, after learning how to IF and AF using The Fast like a Girl methodology. Had to give up dairy and onions (two things I loved to eat). before that.
Oh so true.. Keto then carnivore.. 7th yr and life is fabulous.. Meat and fat.. Food is just a fuel.. I don't even think about food unless I'm hungry.. : ) hi from NZ.
So what are the two words you use to assist your anxiety. Do you have examples of “LET THEM” I don’t think I quite understanding, and yet I have an interest in learning the way to use this phrase Thank you
I’ve been very sick with an autoimmune disease. My first decision was “I want to feel better.” I’ve cut out sugar, gluten, processed foods, most dairy, alcohol, etc. I’ve stuck to this for 4 months. Normally I would have no motivation, as eating “clean” is difficult and challenging. Its extremely challenging in social situations and when I travel. I do it because I KNOW I will feel better. I’m so glad to know that I leaned on my inner intuition. This show helped me to see this.
I’ve been feeling really crappy and down about myself lately and this conversation helped alleviate that for the moment, which is much appreciated. Any relief I can get from my own anxiety and mental self sabotage is something I’m grateful for. I’m going to try to remember these tactics in the future because I have decided that I really want and need to focus on being happy and remove all the negativity and issues of self worth etc
Wow, cookiefridays, I can totally identify with your comment and that gives me a feeling of "normalization". Heck, I haven't even listened to 2 seconds of this video yet because I came to the comments section first to see if any other person simply wrote what the "two words" are that the title of the video indicates will fix us if we just say them. No, I didn't find any comment yet that just tells others what the magical "two words" are but instead I found your comment which is worth more to me than listening to this dumb video or trying to find the magical two words without having to listen to this dumb video. Thank you fellow youtuber. You make the world a brighter place just by existing! Have a nice day, even if we do live in this dog eat dog world. Lol
Thank you both for all you do. This episode had me in tears! (Especially when it came to the 71 year old woman). My mother, God Bless her soul, survived many heartbreaking situations in childhood and as a result struggled with mental health issues throughout her life. I wish she could have gotten help during her lifetime. She is in Heaven now so I know she is finally at peace. Blessings of love and light to all.
One of my favorite episodes with Mel! Loved the insight regarding Dr Paul and the inner voice. So very relateable. I’ll be coming back to this episode again
I felt that at the end when she got emotional about what her goal is now. Thank you Mel for explaining in the beginning about the knowing when it’s fear vs doing what you’re supposed to do.
0:08: 💔 Mel Robbins shares the secret to taking control of your life and changing your mindset for the better. 7:33: 🧭 The video discusses how people struggle to act on their inner compass and make changes in their lives. 14:57: 🌟 It's difficult to change habits and mindset, but it's a normal part of the human experience. 22:49: 🤔 The video discusses the importance of making a decision to change how you feel and think in order to start enjoying life. 29:56: ⚙ The video discusses how childhood trauma and anxiety can lead to a chain reaction of actions and reactions, causing a feeling of being out of control. 37:20: 🚗 The speaker reflects on the drive and motivation behind achieving success, and the shift from being dragged to being more intentional. 44:32: 🤔 The video discusses the idea of letting go and lowering expectations in various situations. 51:23: ⚠ The worst advice is that someone else can make you happy, and it's important to take responsibility for your own happiness. 58:58: 🎯 Setting goals is like knowing your starting point on a map and working towards improving different aspects of your life. 1:06:59: ⏳ Join the waiting list to get early access to limited supply conversation cards. ADHD diagnosis changed everything for the speaker. 1:14:32: 🧠 The video discusses the life-changing impact of understanding and addressing ADHD, and the importance of different neural networks for focus. 1:22:16: 🔥 The speaker discusses the challenges and frustrations of menopause and hormone replacement therapy. 1:29:47: 😊 The speaker gets emotional discussing the close friendship between kids and parents, and the decreasing time spent with parents as children grow older. Recapped using Tammy AI
Steven you are lovely! Love your podcasts. Love your patience with your guests. Love your questions. Love your vulnerability. All of that makes this podcast very ‘real’. Thank you. Keep them coming. ❤
6:55 I love how she talks about feeling more triggered/controlled by the negative vs positive. I’m always running toward the positive, but my whole childhood, I felt familiarity with the negative. Now I didn’t realize that I have made negative energy and feelings my compass; not making friends with it, but using it to determine my next steps and goals. I love this woman❤
I resonate with Mel so much it’s unreal, finally getting answers to questions I’ve been searching for in all my 29 years living , thank you Mel and thank you Steven for allowing such amazing people to share such good insights for the world to see, it’s helping so much people in so many ways
Yes 🙌 I’m a serial overcomer + Clinical Hypnotherapist/Speaker; and as I speak and write about - it’s all in the mindset. I’m ‘63’ whatever the hell that means. Being more mature is a great time to start a business- you have a wealth of experience and a don’t give an eff attitude
I’m 54 and Mel’s explanation about menopause is sooo relatable. We need more women talking about it and we need general doctors to be better informed and more updated on the latest research about hormones replacement therapy. We were told that HRT is like this evil and very bad thing when it’s not…. I’ve been suffering 5 years because of this when there was no need at all
HRT isn’t always a straight forward answer. I am a slim and but had to have HRT to stop terrible hot flushes. It worked ok but it became apparent that the progesterone in the mix was making me anxious. It’s seems like everything is a trade off. Not a wonder drug. Ten years of struggle I am now 65 off HRT and the hot flushes are disturbing my sleep again but I feel better off the hormones. Everyone is different so don’t expect HRT to fix everything
there is no help during menopause, because there was no education during puberty, to boot! It was "you'll bleed -- it sucks, use pads or tampons, and go on birth control"...theeeeen a woman wants to get pregnant, she can't, then what? No trouble shooting (thought the birth control messes everything up, as does abortion RU486, and IUDs, etc), so then IVF which messes her up even MORE. Then comes tubal ligation, with it's side effects and syndromes leading to "take it out" (hysterectomy). So, that's why/ Womens healthcare was always TOTALLY anti-women. As a nurse, I saw this very early on, and so studied outside the box with this (and other things) and founds naturopaths and Creighton Model Fertility Care/NaPro technology the BEST - comprehensive and again, non mainstream.
Yes suffered hot flashes 1 year until I tried the BHRT and with all my research have decided it's not only giving me relief of symptoms but is heart, health and brain protective....and yes, @jeanhorsman9364 progesterone is a b#%$ch! but I'm finding ways...
Dr Christiane Northrup has been advocating for women’s health for yearsss. I highly recommend following her work. Her books are also available on audible. She gives great insight that will help you through. She also sells products, i haven’t tried them but was completely blown away with her advice. She will help you look at menopause completely different. Best of luck ❤
I JUST FOUND THIS! I just pulled over to make major changes in my where to go to church. I loved most of the church I attended but in my financial state it was nerve raking to even meet to ride with a friend, I would get home with just enough gas to get to the gas station and sit for 2-3 days before going anywhere. I just made the DECISION to find a church I could afford to drive to. Fits this explanation so well !!!! Such a relief !!!!!!
I am so grateful that I found your channel Steven. Since finding it several months ago, I have told anyone who will listen about it. I am a 53 year old lawyer, my husband is also a lawyer and we have two kids, one in university and one heading there in the fall. I have never listened to one of your podcasts that I have not found relevant to my life, and I think would be relevant to anyone regardless of what they do or at what stage they find themselves. Mel also popped up in my feed a few months ago and I have found her advice and insights to be life changing. Everything discussed today are things I am struggling with at the moment in my life. Amazing podcast. So helpful. You and Mel are touching and changing lives -- you have mine, and I thank you for that.
So much gold in this interview. I needed to watch it a second time to truly appreciate how much is amazing in this. The section around the 1:18 mark about the link between ADHD and childhood trauma blew my mind. Realizing you always had to be hyper vigilant to scan for all the threats in your environment is now making you unable to focus on what you are trying to focus on without being distracted by everything in your environment around you even if its not a threat makes so much sense to me and my life. And then after you collapse in exhaustion from always being on alert you fall into disassociating and tuning out which then causes you to be seen as not listening or not being present and taking on more shame around that.
I embraced "Let them" months ago, I feel much better! I sometimes wonder if this is selfish of me. But Thank you guys for this podcast. I now feel even happier with my "Let them".
I don’t need someone who knows zip about other peoples realities to diminish that reality by proposing a 2 word hack like “let them”. Seriously the most brilliant thing about Mel is how her 2 word hacks ( hi 5 and now let them) plus an ability to count backwards from 5, created a movement that wealthifies her reality in a way that I can respect but see for the marketing & PR spin that it is.
Spot on! I'm a forgotten woman. I thought I must be the original case of adhd. And now horrific anxiety at almost 62. Makes total sense!! My mom had post Partum depression...electric shock treatments. A few times. Ive been doing bhrt for 13 years. Mom had breast cancer 4 times. There is a safe way to do it. Sam alaweih and Courtney ferrier are the two best pharmacists for hormones. Its the pharmacist who understands our circuitry. So much to unpack as you say.. 👏
So many moments in this particular episode where I wanted to pause and comment, but I finished on just one, how very touching, deep, relatable and impactful this particular conversation was, thank you.
For the first time 56 years I undrerstand the difference between goals and dreams and how they apply. . Being able to make this distinction empowers me to be the 2024 success to which I am aspiring. Thanks Mel!
You don't even understand the way you're changing my life while enjoying every second of this convo. It almost feels like ilegal to have all this info, and feel so hopeful and inspired after each episode (specially w Mel and Jay). And as I am typing I'm thanking you and hoping you could have a glimpse of this feeling. I'm on my way of becoming better because of this, because of you all. Thank you.
Love the ‘let them’ technique. Just re-listened to this part of the podcast. It’s also essentially what to actually do when people say ‘“let go”, and what’s more, in addition to all of the reasons she gave, there an is additional benefit that when you do this, you’re talking to yourself in the third person!
Thank you for this episode. For me what stuck out the most was the topic of ADHD. I’m 30 and just diagnosed three months ago, even though I knew since I was a teen there was something wrong with me, there was something preventing me from focusing and doing the things I needed to do. It was the judgment from my parents and their harsh view on medication that prevented me from going to get the diagnosis. As you guys said earlier, it was that need to change that pushed me to do it and I am so thankful that I did. For the first time in my life I feel like I can do anything without my traumas and personal challenges getting in my way. ♥️
Just be careful. Long term use of antidepressants causes dementia. And benzodiazepines can literally kill you when you try to stop. (How do I know these things? 🤔😳). Make sure you are making an informed decision. Hugs from Tulsa.
So the medication really helps you. I have never been able to focus on anything unless i am supremely interested. Tried my son’s meds once and was transformative. Wonder if its time to get tested and on the meds
Since I started listening to this podcast, I began my Huel journey and now I drink a ready to drink bottle every morning, without fail, for about 6 months. I definitely feel more energised and more alert so Huel is feeding my body and this podcast is feeding my soul! Thanks Steven for both.
I ordered all the huel products and they were disgusting. Felt like I was going to vomit when I'd try it. Felt scammed afterwards. I advise my friends not to buy it and I kept all of what I bought to give them samples, everyone else who tried it agreed that it was disgusting.
Well said! You definately stay put in a situation until it becomes unbearable, probably just in hope of change. When that doesnt come, its on your to make the next steps.
Quite frankly, I am tired of all these behavioral gurus. Life is very complex, competitive, expensive and we as humans no longer interact as used to. The human connection have been replaced by the screens and that’s why people are more depressed than ever.
J.B, yes it's a challenge to know the difference with who is sincere but with your attitude I can guarantee you will not make a change. No one is completely wrong or right all the time. Take what you can and leave the rest
Hi JB, I feel the same. And who are these people constantly peddling instructions on how we should live our lives in a world that makes no sense without human6th connection? They are self appointed experts. Blah!
You are right. They all try to make it so easy. Like there is this formula to fix anything. Like our lives are not influenced by external factors. Like everything that happens to us is in our control. And the truth is, a lot of times it is not. These gurus are happy and they seem so complete in their lives because they found a successful way to makes lots of money with these instructions.
Wow , just got out of a abusive narrisst relationship and last week had a 8 hour brain surgery. And listening to these podcasts have been hitting a heart strings. Love to have a one on one with Mel . Keep this podcasts going. Thank u . WA Perth
This is one of your best episodes! Allowing ourselves to identify why we react to certain situations is so hard, just stop take a deep breath and think, sounds easy, but it really isn’t. I will definitely be using ‘just let them’ from now on, thank you!
I can listen to you two all day. After teaching all day, I listen to both your podcasts to train my brain for optimal performance. Now, I've got BOTH of YOU in one podcast! The planets are aligned!
Enlightening conversation, i had cancer when my son was 5 years old - it went on for a few years, he started to struggle at school and for years i said its like he's learned to tune out. He's dyslexic and we had him tested for ADD/ADHD and the Dr wouldn't have it as he wasn't swinging from the lampshades - this conversation has just confirmed exactly what I've always though!
i’ve regressed these past couple of years and these are the messages/reminders i need to get back to myself. i bought one of her books on audible and subscribed to this channel. great content, and I love your openness and humility.
OMG! That’s exactly what what I was dealing with from childhood in the 60’s. In more recent years I’ve self diagnosed. My teachers would comment that I was a nice girl and a good student but they wished I didn’t daydream so much. I knew I couldn’t focus but I didn’t understand why I felt so discombobulated. I have to really work on focus now. It is still a challenge. Thank you for all you both do!❤
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If you're feeling stuck in anyway, you must start your week here. This episode is a must-listen. If you enjoy it please hit that like button, it helps us massively 🙏Have a great day everyone 🧡
I've asked you and asked you right now I'm just going to let go I am fed up with hearing that each and every time you say such Great and Powerful things but you will not listen to the other people I said to you I was going to stop watching your videos if you come out the or only 59% once again do not subscribe to you are not a preacher so stop preaching you have now lost me as a valuable watcher I I will follow that woman instead aviary what's another waste of a brilliant just because of your egoistic Way you should believe in yourself if you believe that this is a good message not because you don't like your percentages I done with you have a nice day literally you would make this better by instead of an announcing your failure of percentages by sitting there saying can you please ask everyone that watches this to subscribe but you won't listen to me you think I'm being a prick that's fine but you're being stupid and not believing in yourself and I'm fed up with telling you and this is how much I own what I say my full name is Michael gregson I have got nothing to hide and nor will I feel ashamed by telling you that I have had enough of you and your stupid percentages just because you're not happy with them I wish you all the best honestly I do but I will not follow a preacher on percentages
The let them theory might be just what I need in my life,
Let people like it if they'd like to.
RRT
She has two words I'm give you one listen 👂 to 👇
"Qur’an"
Finding this interview 3 months after it was first aired was perfect timing for me. I made a radical life change this year at the age of 72, choosing between the slow fade of old age and writing a new chapter with the life force I still have. It's been a monumentally difficult transition, but it's happening. Standing on the threshold of a new life is the reward of making the effort. The journey continues and it's all that you so eloquently say it is, especially, worth it to be unstuck.
All the best energy for you in your transition!
So inspiring good luck
8:20 Well-said
If you believe it, you can do it 💪 ✨️ 👌
That us wonderful. I'm curious what is the big change?
I was a 40 year old widower who was a security guard that went back to university and became a counsellor life coach and mental health support worker.
❤ I love this
Wow.
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Very inspiring! I turned 40 this year and here I am thinking it’s all set and done
Very inspiring. Awesome job! 👏❤️
After I listened to this episode, I wholeheartedly applied "let them" to every irritant in my life... it's been a big help.
I applied it to my lying husband
I let them go! taking it to extremes for years now to be happier than ever, just let them go
I absolutely love Mel Robbins. The hardest part of starting over at an older age is losing trust in your intuition. When things have collapsed around you, it causes you to question the choices you've made in the past and the ones you need to make to move forward.
Why would you lose trust in your intuition? Maybe it's trust in your reasoning/rational mind that you should lose!
You can totally lose touch with your intuition. Especially if you make decisions & adjust your behaviour based on what other people want or what they think will please others. And thats just one reason!
you are so DAMNED right.
Learn to sit quietly... Our trust comes from inside of us... U got this.
Do I ever know this as I have aged and lost important people in my life among a few health issues! 🥲. Plus it is not so easy to pick myself up and rework myself…again!!
I will state the best explanation I have received about menopause is that your body made you an estrogen junkie at puberty and menopause is withdrawal from it. Once this was explained to me, I could understand all the symptoms as withdrawal from a drug. That made it easier to slow my head down and cope with the symptoms mentally. I finally gave in and started HRT, which saved my sanity, my marriage, and allowed me to continue to do my job. Menopause absolutely SUCKS, and it’s a big fat lie that it ONLY takes 10 years to get through. Enjoyed this - TFS.
My mantra when dealing with others doing stupid has been “not my job”. “Let them” seems a lot more freeing to me. Thank you.
LET THEM. Magic words. Not muy job, let them do what they want with their lives.
I find that the older I get, the less I want to fight, contend, battle for anything. Like Mel said, I just want to prioritize peace. Life is a lot more enjoyable that way.
Ugh, so true...
So true
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Mel is a legend. She has the balls to share her shadow side. She speaks to you as a fellow human being not a subject. She is relatable, personable and clearly passionate. I would love to see Mel and Berne have a talk or Mel and Joe Dispenza. Could you imagine the formula this would bring?
Ooh Mel and Brene brown would be amazing! I’m also waiting for Mel and Huberman to link up- we’ll see who gets onto who’s podcast first.
Mel & Dr Joe 🎉 Mel & Huberman 🎉 Mel & God 🎉🎉🎉
Change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of the change
This is me, 54 just quit my job in a toxic workplace where bullying is the norm and you are told to just ignore it because that’s what some people are like. I’ve been there 11 years and have put everything into that job but the last straw was receiving an email by accident where the sales manager was running me down to a client after he had told me the day before to listen to him and do as I was told. The pain of staying would have been worse than leaving.
I’m scared and nervous about what I am going to do now but it has to be and will be better than it was as the pain of staying was destroying me.
I can do it
That’s a true statement there..moving to a different direction can be any worse then staying where u are..one might alleviate the other in respects of unhappiness.
You can just one step at a time 😊
Good for you! I changed my career at the age of 54. I was a legal secretary for 30 years. It was ok but not my passion. I then took a course in hypnotherapy, got my diploma and started practising. I have been doing this for 20 years now, make more money than I ever did as a secretary and absolutely love my life and my job! Hope this helps to motivate you and find a job that you love. It’s never too late!
I am 51, single Mom with 5 kids, ADHD, MENOPAUSE and A Hot Mess! I am wanting to start my own business but keep thinking i am too old and my brain is to all over the place to ever be a success. I used to be such a positive optimistic person, but life, divorce and betrayal by close family members has left me tainted and somewhat hopeless, I want to be the best I can be for my family.....I just don't know what to do @@Chester6209
@@Chester6209thank you. What an encouragement!
Steven, changing the format would be a disaster. No one wants it. What you have here is perfect. I stopped watching several amazing channels simply because they changed format. The thing is, channel owners underestimate the immense value that comes with the warm comfort of familiarity that an audience develops over time. Once they lose this feeling it's a great annoyance, because now they need to develop it by themselves all over again. If it's not broken, don't fix it! The elegance and simplicity of your set up and the spot light on single personalities is gold. Hope all stays the way it is. Much love!
I loved u guys
I agree, except change that creepy into music.
I swear this woman was literally having a personal conversation with me......I SOOOOOO needed this. Thank you.
So very true what Mel Robbins says here; I'm totally on the same page with her.
Just be aware everyone, that the "Let Them " affirmation can only work when you totally stop blaming other people for your own misery and the misery around you. YOU are the one who is in the driver seat, regardless of how difficult or hopeless a situation seems to be. As the philosophy of the old Stoa said: "When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That's where your power is."
13:25 that saying is from a poem by Anais Nin - 'And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.'
Beautiful
While money doesn’t buy happiness, having enough provides for: shelter, medical care, food, transportation. Without these basic needs being met, it’s difficult to feel safe in this world.
Feeling Safe is essential. Not always an easy go to ..
Great comment, and needs to be said. The people at the top are constantly searching for something to stop the boredom setting in, never able to relax, while the people at the bottom just struggle to survive, never getting off the first rung of the ladder. In the middle there is scope to live the most enriched life. If only the rich and wealthy could see that they have too much, only because there are others who have too little. In a healthy society we should ensure that everyone’s basic needs are met - particularly the most vulnerable - then we could all enjoy the quest to achieve self-actualization. Think how exciting it would be if we engaged with each other on a higher spiritual level, not having to worry about basic needs! It can be achieved if everyone has a home and a basic income, sufficient to meet physical needs.
❤🎉YES WE SHOULD ALL WORK TOWARDS EVERYONE HAVING A FULLFILLING LIFE.
WE ARE HERE FOR SOME REASON AND SELFISH DOESNT WORK !
TU🎉
Agree on money can't make you happy then continue to talk about money expensive tests, men retreats, husband getting masters. Ppl to invest in a restaurant, kids dressed to 9s to prom. Lets be real her experiences aren't normal which is good but don't act like your life is average.
She was never without. These people will be dealt with
“Let them”...same message as “letting go” (David Hawkins), or the Buddhist non-control, or Eckhart Tolle’s acceptance of the moment. The wisdom is out there in so many guises...
yes, everyone says the same thing, but they present it differently. It's no brainer we cant control others,and yes parents go extra mile and they ruin indepdendece of theirs kids.
Stoicism works as well. Do not try changing something you cannot change.
Exactly. In codependents Anonymous , we say”Let go and let god”, because every one over the age of 18 is on their own spiritual journey that has nothing to do with us. ❤🎉❤ One can suggest twice if so inclined, but more than that , is being controlling for our own selfish safety. ❤🎉❤
As this podcast continuously grows. I have a feeling that Steven is enjoying the episodes even more. I just hear him laughing constantly which is lovely to hear. Keep smiling my friend.
I like the way he laughs 😆
And I love his accent 😂❤
He’s an amazing interviewer 😊
This is so unbelievable..I know sometimes this should be common sense but knowing I'm not crazy and talking about hope is key,bit is what has kept me stuck...thank you so very much Mel..the age thing at 56 losing hope thinking I'll live out my life this fucked up thinking it's a waste of my life and accepting it does not have to be...I have good years left and I can change things. I know it's hard work but I will continue listening..training my brain...This podcast has given me hope Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!
Sensation -> Perception -> Thought -> Emotion -> Action
Sounds like Peter Ralston's work
Emotion then thought
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Reminds me of the Buddhist steps of becoming
Stoicism
Hallelujah Mel! You speak such truth. Not motivation. It's it disciplines. Not the whipping kind but the kind that knows you're being mindful of/to who you want to be. Through those doorways.. time after time. Maybe menopause gives us wisdom in these pursuits as we face our mortality and our presence as our self this life. Thank you both of you and all who work to be the person you want to be. ❤
I accomplished this about 6 months ago. It’s great to hear her speak on it. I call it minding my own business. Allow others to live out the consequences of their choices and focus on who I can control… me. I feel free, peaceful, joy and purpose.
As a woman who has just been diagnosed with endometriosis I understand all the menopause stuff and I am 22. I have started hormonal therapy and it's so tough on the body. So many changes, both physical and mental. I have moments where I burst into tears and feel like ****. But I'm trying to improve the situation by taking care of myself, taking my time, doing what I love and meditating.
Stay strong gals❤
Endometriosis is caused by scar tissue going awry in the body. Streptokinase will break up scar tissue without the side effects of hormone therapy. Do some research and you'll find out for yourself. I know how painful this condition is. Good Luck.
Thank you for sharing and offering inspiration.
Stay strong and positive. I had endometrioses and healed with Ayurveda. Not easy but I’ve learned so munch about my body. You will get better 💓
Heart goes out to you @amygald, have you heard testimonials of folks who do Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations? Remarkable transformations from various dis-eases, there’s always Hope🙏🏼
I have endo. You are experiencing too much estrogen in your body. You need to get it out. Herbs remove the estrogens specificallly dandelion, maca, passion flower, chasteberry and some others. Get the sugar and carbs out of your life. Eat clean beef and veggies. Good luck.
“Let them” is not a new concept by any means. It’s acceptance, plain and simple. Accepting people places and things as they are and not trying to control anything, anyone or any circumstance or outcome.
I think it is a new concept because it works in a different place in the mind. The "accepting" method is not specific to other people.
While it's not new per se, this presentation of "Let Them" radical acceptance with such relatable and detailed mental process examples may help a lot of people.
No it is not a knew concept! You are right there. I think it falls into and under and around other “things”….because of fears. I think more people are seeing that it is ok to be yourself ( trying anyway) it is one of the hardest things in the world to do….just ask me I’m in the front door of this change. Fu€king YiKeS !
So what if it is not a new concept ?
Jealous b****.
I love how Mel continues to say Steven’s name throughout the whole conversation, it really makes the other person feel important & included 😊
Mel Robbins is easily the best no-nonsense no jargon, no BS speaker on self help / wellbeing that I have heard in a long time. She makes it accessible, understandable - and best of all no hard sell on courses, retreats, books lectures etc. She just says it like it is. “Let Them” theory is so profound. ADHD-anxiety discussion was so enlightening. Oh and the best bit? “The chain” - reverse it! Most awesome advice ever.
I don’t really want to spend an hour and a half watching can you describe what you mean?
@@h3artands0uLL You are worth the time. LIsten while you are doing other things around the house. I'm cleaning my floors while I listen.
In my 57th year I had a traumatic event that left me standing alone in this world due to my family shunning my anger instead of them addressing his betrayal. I was angry he had a mistress and wouldn't leave my house to be with her. It took him ten months but he used my family as flying monkeys through his pity party and they bought it. Long story short I had an epiphany. I released the feeling of being responsible for other people morals & values by realising we are all making our own way and our emotional coping skills have evolved to where we find ourselves on our individual timeline. The people i thought were there for me let me down but i didn't resort to shunning them back. I still deal with them but Ive never been happier because I let them 🙏💖
Let them, is not an excuse to let people treat you badly. I would Let them have an opinion. But I might choose to distance myself from them. Let them, not support me, Let me walk away from people who don't have my back.
Same❤
@@marshawilliams9281same here❤
It’s not the events themselves that disturb people, but only their judgments about them. -Stoicism
I remember several years ago heroin addiction destroyed my life, I suffered from severe depression and a mental disorder until I was recommended to psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on Instagram?
Mel is the best..'.Let them ', since I heard her say it a few weeks ago, it's worked for me already ..... I'm 57, life is one long book of chapters and we're writing alot of it, even if it's the smallest of decisions . I love her, a woman in her 50's, speaking out, its inspiring...Wisdom from women
Mel is my sister from another mister! From the same state & I'm just a year younger so she's my mentor right now on so many levels. I hope to meet her one day & thank her
Act like the person you want to be even tho you don’t feel like it. Take an enjoyment break. Repeat. Choose hard things you enjoy. Hard but I like this path.
I never have the concentration to watch a 1.5+ hrs video and yet here I am. That was great! Thanks Mel! You really spoke to me.
Many times, I adjust the playback speed to 1.25 - 1.5 x to maintain my focus.
@ お前馬鹿だからな
I love the ending statement by Mel Robbins. Really vulnerable and powerful.
Let them = stoicism anybody? The only person that you have control over is yourself and thus act accordingly. I'm glad she found it. And for those people think stoicism means no emotion and deadpan. That's a false representation. It could lead to that in some , on the extreme end , but really it's about getting in control of oneself and life despite the external factors.
I love this and can relate since I am a 55 year old woman who is feeling a little confused, sad etc. because of changes in my body. Sometimes I think it is just me but it is so nice to hear Mel say that she struggles with menopause too. I know I want to be happy and have more fun and did reach the point where I made a change. Thank you Mel for being so honest and real and sharing great information!
There’s a great podcast on the misunderstandings of menopause (in the medical profession) I came across recently presented by a lady doctor 👩⚕️ if you’re interested, I’d be happy to send it to you 👍 yes I saved and filed it…she was brilliant 👌
Am I the only one who recognizes Will Smith? That accent is so weird coming from the Fresh Prince.
Paris
In the
the spring.
What's wrong with that sentence?
Please don't change the format, it's so good as it is. With the level of growth you're seeing it's clear everyone just loves the one on one format. It would be a terrible shame to see these talks continually interrupted by footage which for me would be widely irrelevant. I want to hear what these people think and how they describe their thoughts and experiences in their own words, I don't need to see footage or 'evidence.' It's like how the movie is just never as good as the book. Please stay as you are!
Just recently found this man’s channel. Not only can I not get enough of his voice and accent but the information he shares and the guest he invites on, are tremendously thought provoking. His work is brilliant and I feel lucky to have come across the wealth of knowledge he shares. Thank you for your generosity, sir ❤ 👏🏼! Keep going, you’re doing amazing things already!
If you can apreciate all this, you're already top notch yourself!
Instead of hearing her views and then wondering if they'll work, you hear her views, and somehow, you know they'll work. It makes all the sense in the world, and I feel blessed to have stumbled upon it. Bravo to both of you for your brilliance. If people apply these concepts, their life will change. Like I said, it just makes sense. My life will change today. I hope yours does if you needed to hear this.
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I just finished watching - the years of therapy have done nothing for me as hearing Mel Robbins speaking here has opened up an understanding ive been searching most of my life THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!! Im not alone
This podcast is #1 on the Internet. It has helped me with my struggles in my personal life. I recently quit my toxic "dream" 6 figures job to focus on my physical and mental health. No amount of money could replace our health and our family. Please keep making these podcasts. Thanks for the great content.
I needed to see this. I'm 47 and have spent my life self-sabotaging because of childhood trauma. I've been in therapy for almost 30 years and am JUST starting to have break throughs. I love you Mel Robbins and you are greatly needed in this world. We love you Steven for this channel and your videos. THANK YOU!!!💚🙏
As Mel says: when the pain of continuing to do something becomes WORSE than the pain of NOT DOING IT…. you will change without a blink. It’s literally “the TONY ROBBINS switch”! I live by that.
I’m only at 7:00mins where she’s talking about pivoting at the energy. I was working with teenagers at a grocery store when my kids were really young. And I found myself so JEALOUS that they were all heading off to university. I had always wanted to go back but didn’t think I could (I dropped out when I found out I was pregnant with my first). I made the decision to go back because I didn’t want to feel that jealousy and disappointment in myself anymore and live my dream. Everything magically fell into place! It was amazing! I decided right then and there to never limit myself and when I feel jealous of someone, to grasp that energy and use it to better myself.
Mel, you're so powerful! That's actually the first time I've listened to two interviews with the same person twice!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
Hello Steven, your interview with Mel today was extraordinary. The words you used to thank her at the end of the podcast was so thoughtful, honest and full rich with admiration and love. Mel you are indeed a powerhouse of authencity in expressing how challenging life can be with all its struggles to understand the 'whys' to help push thru the maze of control and hangups we all have. Those simple words, 'LET THEM' with internal discipline, we can turn our energies inward and use that to guide ourselves vs wanting to control everyone else to the outcomes we desire in the moment. Those two words can create calm and deeper still an inner compassion that serves everyone. I thought your statement profound, about how important it is about "getting out of bed every morning when I don't feel like it because that ability to feel resistance in your body and get out of bed and face the day is the SKILL needed for any change." And those words spoke volumes to me. This interview was very cathartic and useful.
So again, Thank you both Steven and Mel Robbins for such a powerful and poignant podcast today. To have your children want and desire and make the time to come and spend time with you Mel is the most sacred gift and like Steven said " You did it!"
This episode is undeniably exceptional and empowering. I used to feel lost these past few weeks, but now I am committed to focusing on what is truly important and beneficial to me rather than dwelling in despair.
Thankyou 🙏 enlightening and enriching podcast and I’m 65 and so desire a permanent shift of trauma in childhood instead of circling self destruct mechanisms ❤❤❤❤
I think the hardest part is “noticing” it. I like the idea of thinking “let them” as a sign that there is a feeling in you to acknowledge.
I happened to randomly pick this clip to listen while clearing my totally disastrous messy paperwork and this part where Mel mentioned about the traits of individuals with ADHD; it just struck me that EVERYTHING she said is as if she is describing me all the way from my schooling days till now. Its time I go find a specialist to diagnose if I happened to be one. Thanks Mel for the A-HA moment.
Paperwork is the absolute worst!!😆
I can relate about the menopause. So challenging! Something that helped me was eating a low carb diet (and NO PROCESSED foods) I call it a combination of a carnivore and keto diet. Saved me! The more sugar (of any kind) the worse my issues got (including night sweats). It also helped me with anxiety and my ADHD.
So true sugar is a no go after menopause, it's toxic. It's the last thing I've given up too at 57, after learning how to IF and AF using The Fast like a Girl methodology. Had to give up dairy and onions (two things I loved to eat). before that.
@@kbal1451 I'm doing low carb and IF also. Why did you give up onions? I eat them every day.
@@northofyou33everyone has some foods that don't agree with them.
Oh so true.. Keto then carnivore.. 7th yr and life is fabulous.. Meat and fat.. Food is just a fuel.. I don't even think about food unless I'm hungry.. : ) hi from NZ.
@@northofyou33 I did FODMAP elimination and when I removed onions from my diet my digestion improved. It's an individual thing.
Great to hear Mel talking more about neurodiversity and ADHD in women. So needed! Thanks Steven
So what are the two words you use to assist your anxiety. Do you have examples of “LET THEM”
I don’t think I quite understanding, and yet I have an interest in learning the way to use this phrase
Thank you
I’ve been very sick with an autoimmune disease. My first decision was “I want to feel better.” I’ve cut out sugar, gluten, processed foods, most dairy, alcohol, etc. I’ve stuck to this for 4 months. Normally I would have no motivation, as eating “clean” is difficult and challenging. Its extremely challenging in social situations and when I travel. I do it because I KNOW I will feel better. I’m so glad to know that I leaned on my inner intuition. This show helped me to see this.
Dr. Brook Goldner also on youtube, maybe this helps!
I’ve been feeling really crappy and down about myself lately and this conversation helped alleviate that for the moment, which is much appreciated. Any relief I can get from my own anxiety and mental self sabotage is something I’m grateful for. I’m going to try to remember these tactics in the future because I have decided that I really want and need to focus on being happy and remove all the negativity and issues of self worth etc
Wow, cookiefridays, I can totally identify with your comment and that gives me a feeling of "normalization". Heck, I haven't even listened to 2 seconds of this video yet because I came to the comments section first to see if any other person simply wrote what the "two words" are that the title of the video indicates will fix us if we just say them. No, I didn't find any comment yet that just tells others what the magical "two words" are but instead I found your comment which is worth more to me than listening to this dumb video or trying to find the magical two words without having to listen to this dumb video. Thank you fellow youtuber. You make the world a brighter place just by existing! Have a nice day, even if we do live in this dog eat dog world. Lol
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@@myfavoriteflavor but isn't calling it dumb before you listen an act of self-sabotage right out of the gate?
@@MrKevinStraub no it isnt
@CookieFridays I highly, HIGHLY recommend Matt Kahn's video "feel good now" on YT, it will shift things out for you & with a dash of humor as well
Thank you both for all you do. This episode had me in tears! (Especially when it came to the 71 year old woman). My mother, God Bless her soul, survived many heartbreaking situations in childhood and as a result struggled with mental health issues throughout her life. I wish she could have gotten help during her lifetime. She is in Heaven now so I know she is finally at peace. Blessings of love and light to all.
You’re so right Mel . It was my courage and sadly it cost me years of stagnation . But I’m pulling through 🙏🏼❤️
This is the best advice i ever got in my life. I wish i had have heard this twenty years ago.
One of my favorite episodes with Mel! Loved the insight regarding Dr Paul and the inner voice. So very relateable. I’ll be coming back to this episode again
Dr. Paul Conti
I felt that at the end when she got emotional about what her goal is now. Thank you Mel for explaining in the beginning about the knowing when it’s fear vs doing what you’re supposed to do.
0:08: 💔 Mel Robbins shares the secret to taking control of your life and changing your mindset for the better.
7:33: 🧭 The video discusses how people struggle to act on their inner compass and make changes in their lives.
14:57: 🌟 It's difficult to change habits and mindset, but it's a normal part of the human experience.
22:49: 🤔 The video discusses the importance of making a decision to change how you feel and think in order to start enjoying life.
29:56: ⚙ The video discusses how childhood trauma and anxiety can lead to a chain reaction of actions and reactions, causing a feeling of being out of control.
37:20: 🚗 The speaker reflects on the drive and motivation behind achieving success, and the shift from being dragged to being more intentional.
44:32: 🤔 The video discusses the idea of letting go and lowering expectations in various situations.
51:23: ⚠ The worst advice is that someone else can make you happy, and it's important to take responsibility for your own happiness.
58:58: 🎯 Setting goals is like knowing your starting point on a map and working towards improving different aspects of your life.
1:06:59: ⏳ Join the waiting list to get early access to limited supply conversation cards. ADHD diagnosis changed everything for the speaker.
1:14:32: 🧠 The video discusses the life-changing impact of understanding and addressing ADHD, and the importance of different neural networks for focus.
1:22:16: 🔥 The speaker discusses the challenges and frustrations of menopause and hormone replacement therapy.
1:29:47: 😊 The speaker gets emotional discussing the close friendship between kids and parents, and the decreasing time spent with parents as children grow older.
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I dont know if you arent aware that all the podcasts are divided in sections with titles so you can click inn on a certain time. 😁
Is this comment A.i. generated? 🤔
@@grateful7420yes. The last line: Tammy AI
Thank you so much for the summary! 💕
“Prioritising peace”. Yep. 😊 Loved this podcast. Thank you.
Mel has CANDOR! Love her mannerisms & way of explaining things that truly matter. I've never shared so many videos from any other speaker ❤
Steven you are lovely! Love your podcasts. Love your patience with your guests. Love your questions. Love your vulnerability. All of that makes this podcast very ‘real’. Thank you. Keep them coming. ❤
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6:55 I love how she talks about feeling more triggered/controlled by the negative vs positive. I’m always running toward the positive, but my whole childhood, I felt familiarity with the negative. Now I didn’t realize that I have made negative energy and feelings my compass; not making friends with it, but using it to determine my next steps and goals. I love this woman❤
I resonate with Mel so much it’s unreal, finally getting answers to questions I’ve been searching for in all my 29 years living , thank you Mel and thank you Steven for allowing such amazing people to share such good insights for the world to see, it’s helping so much people in so many ways
Yes 🙌 I’m a serial overcomer + Clinical Hypnotherapist/Speaker; and as I speak and write about - it’s all in the mindset. I’m ‘63’ whatever the hell that means. Being more mature is a great time to start a business- you have a wealth of experience and a don’t give an eff attitude
I’m 54 and Mel’s explanation about menopause is sooo relatable. We need more women talking about it and we need general doctors to be better informed and more updated on the latest research about hormones replacement therapy. We were told that HRT is like this evil and very bad thing when it’s not…. I’ve been suffering 5 years because of this when there was no need at all
HRT isn’t always a straight forward answer. I am a slim and but had to have HRT to stop terrible hot flushes. It worked ok but it became apparent that the progesterone in the mix was making me anxious. It’s seems like everything is a trade off. Not a wonder drug. Ten years of struggle I am now 65 off HRT and the hot flushes are disturbing my sleep again but I feel better off the hormones. Everyone is different so don’t expect HRT to fix everything
there is no help during menopause, because there was no education during puberty, to boot! It was "you'll bleed -- it sucks, use pads or tampons, and go on birth control"...theeeeen a woman wants to get pregnant, she can't, then what? No trouble shooting (thought the birth control messes everything up, as does abortion RU486, and IUDs, etc), so then IVF which messes her up even MORE. Then comes tubal ligation, with it's side effects and syndromes leading to "take it out" (hysterectomy). So, that's why/ Womens healthcare was always TOTALLY anti-women. As a nurse, I saw this very early on, and so studied outside the box with this (and other things) and founds naturopaths and Creighton Model Fertility Care/NaPro technology the BEST - comprehensive and again, non mainstream.
This episode is definitely a life changer! "Let Them" is my go-to now. Thank you, Mel, for being 100% unapologetically you!! Forever a fan. 🙏🏼
Yes suffered hot flashes 1 year until I tried the BHRT and with all my research have decided it's not only giving me relief of symptoms but is heart, health and brain protective....and yes, @jeanhorsman9364 progesterone is a b#%$ch! but I'm finding ways...
Dr Christiane Northrup has been advocating for women’s health for yearsss. I highly recommend following her work. Her books are also available on audible. She gives great insight that will help you through. She also sells products, i haven’t tried them but was completely blown away with her advice. She will help you look at menopause completely different. Best of luck ❤
I JUST FOUND THIS!
I just pulled over to make major changes in my where to go to church. I loved most of the church I attended but in my financial state it was nerve raking to even meet to ride with a friend, I would get home with just enough gas to get to the gas station and sit for 2-3 days before going anywhere. I just made the DECISION to find a church I could afford to drive to. Fits this explanation so well !!!! Such a relief !!!!!!
I am so grateful that I found your channel Steven. Since finding it several months ago, I have told anyone who will listen about it. I am a 53 year old lawyer, my husband is also a lawyer and we have two kids, one in university and one heading there in the fall. I have never listened to one of your podcasts that I have not found relevant to my life, and I think would be relevant to anyone regardless of what they do or at what stage they find themselves. Mel also popped up in my feed a few months ago and I have found her advice and insights to be life changing. Everything discussed today are things I am struggling with at the moment in my life. Amazing podcast. So helpful. You and Mel are touching and changing lives -- you have mine, and I thank you for that.
So much gold in this interview. I needed to watch it a second time to truly appreciate how much is amazing in this. The section around the 1:18 mark about the link between ADHD and childhood trauma blew my mind. Realizing you always had to be hyper vigilant to scan for all the threats in your environment is now making you unable to focus on what you are trying to focus on without being distracted by everything in your environment around you even if its not a threat makes so much sense to me and my life. And then after you collapse in exhaustion from always being on alert you fall into disassociating and tuning out which then causes you to be seen as not listening or not being present and taking on more shame around that.
I embraced "Let them" months ago, I feel much better! I sometimes wonder if this is selfish of me. But Thank you guys for this podcast. I now feel even happier with my "Let them".
WOW. I never heard of her, but... oh, my god! She's absolutely extraordinary. Thank you Steven for bringing Mel Robbins into my life.
I don’t need someone who knows zip about other peoples realities to diminish that reality by proposing a 2 word hack like “let them”. Seriously the most brilliant thing about Mel is how her 2 word hacks ( hi 5 and now let them) plus an ability to count backwards from 5, created a movement that wealthifies her reality in a way that I can respect but see for the marketing & PR spin that it is.
Spot on! I'm a forgotten woman. I thought I must be the original case of adhd. And now horrific anxiety at almost 62. Makes total sense!! My mom had post Partum depression...electric shock treatments. A few times. Ive been doing bhrt for 13 years. Mom had breast cancer 4 times. There is a safe way to do it. Sam alaweih and Courtney ferrier are the two best pharmacists for hormones. Its the pharmacist who understands our circuitry. So much to unpack as you say.. 👏
💜There will be more LOVE for Humanity in the world in 2024💜Blessings 💜
So many moments in this particular episode where I wanted to pause and comment, but I finished on just one, how very touching, deep, relatable and impactful this particular conversation was, thank you.
You don’t even realize how transformative this episode has been for me. Thank you!
Yes, I just though the same thing. Let's hope that feeling won't leave us the ....next hour. Take care.
Its only been a few days and you already feel this way??
For the first time 56 years I undrerstand the difference between goals and dreams and how they apply. . Being able to make this distinction empowers me to be the 2024 success to which I am aspiring. Thanks Mel!
You don't even understand the way you're changing my life while enjoying every second of this convo. It almost feels like ilegal to have all this info, and feel so hopeful and inspired after each episode (specially w Mel and Jay). And as I am typing I'm thanking you and hoping you could have a glimpse of this feeling. I'm on my way of becoming better because of this, because of you all.
Thank you.
I feel the same way. And his voice is so calming and reassuring. It makes us feel welcomed and appreciated.
Nice! Agreed!
Love the ‘let them’ technique. Just re-listened to this part of the podcast. It’s also essentially what to actually do when people say ‘“let go”, and what’s more, in addition to all of the reasons she gave, there an is additional benefit that when you do this, you’re talking to yourself in the third person!
Thank you for this episode. For me what stuck out the most was the topic of ADHD. I’m 30 and just diagnosed three months ago, even though I knew since I was a teen there was something wrong with me, there was something preventing me from focusing and doing the things I needed to do. It was the judgment from my parents and their harsh view on medication that prevented me from going to get the diagnosis. As you guys said earlier, it was that need to change that pushed me to do it and I am so thankful that I did. For the first time in my life I feel like I can do anything without my traumas and personal challenges getting in my way. ♥️
Just be careful. Long term use of antidepressants causes dementia. And benzodiazepines can literally kill you when you try to stop. (How do I know these things? 🤔😳). Make sure you are making an informed decision. Hugs from Tulsa.
So the medication really helps you. I have never been able to focus on anything unless i am supremely interested. Tried my son’s meds once and was transformative. Wonder if its time to get tested and on the meds
This person is such an incredible inspiration. I‘m so grateful she exists and has the courage to do what she did.
Since I started listening to this podcast, I began my Huel journey and now I drink a ready to drink bottle every morning, without fail, for about 6 months. I definitely feel more energised and more alert so Huel is feeding my body and this podcast is feeding my soul! Thanks Steven for both.
I ordered all the huel products and they were disgusting. Felt like I was going to vomit when I'd try it. Felt scammed afterwards. I advise my friends not to buy it and I kept all of what I bought to give them samples, everyone else who tried it agreed that it was disgusting.
Wow. Every time I hear her speak she says exactly how I feel. To be reminded I’m not along in it all. Thank you Mel!!
Well said! You definately stay put in a situation until it becomes unbearable, probably just in hope of change. When that doesnt come, its on your to make the next steps.
What a wonderful, smart, intuitive lady! What a great guest to have on your channel! My respect.... off to watch more
Quite frankly, I am tired of all these behavioral gurus. Life is very complex, competitive, expensive and we as humans no longer interact as used to. The human connection have been replaced by the screens and that’s why people are more depressed than ever.
Dude you don't have to follow what they say perfectly. The key is to take the good parts and follow.
J.B, yes it's a challenge to know the difference with who is sincere but with your attitude I can guarantee you will not make a change. No one is completely wrong or right all the time. Take what you can and leave the rest
Hi JB, I feel the same. And who are these people constantly peddling instructions on how we should live our lives in a world that makes no sense without human6th connection? They are self appointed experts. Blah!
What you say is true. That doesn’t change what they say is also a truth. Now you need to decide to decide what truth you are going to live by.
You are right. They all try to make it so easy. Like there is this formula to fix anything. Like our lives are not influenced by external factors. Like everything that happens to us is in our control. And the truth is, a lot of times it is not.
These gurus are happy and they seem so complete in their lives because they found a successful way to makes lots of money with these instructions.
Wow , just got out of a abusive narrisst relationship and last week had a 8 hour brain surgery. And listening to these podcasts have been hitting a heart strings. Love to have a one on one with Mel . Keep this podcasts going. Thank u . WA Perth
I love Mel Robbins, she has always struck me as a truly empathetic human. Love every episode. Please have Dr Ramini on Steven
Yes!!😊
Here! Here! Dr. Ramiini! … and thanks for pulling off having. Russell Brand- as epic an interview as I’d imagined it could be!
I could listen to Mel talk for hours. I first heard of her from her legendary TED Talk. So happy to see her on this show.
This is one of your best episodes! Allowing ourselves to identify why we react to certain situations is so hard, just stop take a deep breath and think, sounds easy, but it really isn’t. I will definitely be using ‘just let them’ from now on, thank you!
I can listen to you two all day. After teaching all day, I listen to both your podcasts to train my brain for optimal performance. Now, I've got BOTH of YOU in one podcast! The planets are aligned!
I needed this. So much.
I know I’m not the only one.
🫶🏻Thank you Mel.
🙌🏼Thank you Steven.
Enlightening conversation, i had cancer when my son was 5 years old - it went on for a few years, he started to struggle at school and for years i said its like he's learned to tune out. He's dyslexic and we had him tested for ADD/ADHD and the Dr wouldn't have it as he wasn't swinging from the lampshades - this conversation has just confirmed exactly what I've always though!
i’ve regressed these past couple of years and these are the messages/reminders i need to get back to myself. i bought one of her books on audible and subscribed to this channel. great content, and I love your openness and humility.
OMG! That’s exactly what what I was dealing with from childhood in the 60’s. In more recent years I’ve self diagnosed. My teachers would comment that I was a nice girl and a good student but they wished I didn’t daydream so much. I knew I couldn’t focus but I didn’t understand why I felt so discombobulated. I have to really work on focus now. It is still a challenge. Thank you for all you both do!❤
Also, when you “Let them” as a parent, you get to see the kiddo’s creativity, and you trust them to use their creativity to solve their moments.
let me guess. Nit reached puberty, yet, right?
@@kathrin9674 I don’t quite understand what Nit is.
Anxiety can affect our ability to work , focus and participate in other activities...loved this concept.
Wow, it's amazing how I forget so quickly. It is a decision.
Awesome words young one ... "let them" 🙏
My husband used to say "pop that bubble" wound me up terribly 😆 But I learnt he meant this... "let them".