The breakdown: 1. Intentional Pause: Take deliberate breaks, like sitting by running water in a forest, to rejuvenate your mind and body. Even a five-minute pause can be restorative. 2. Engage with Nature: Find a patch of nature or incorporate natural elements into your surroundings. Small plants or a water fountain at home can provide similar benefits if you can't access a forest. 3. Daily Practice: Spend a few minutes daily absorbing your natural environment, no matter how small. This practice counters the energy drain of modern life. 4. Impact of Colors: Colors influence mood and behavior. Blues and greens are calming, while red can make you feel strong and dominant. Use this knowledge to create supportive environments. 5. Mirrors and Self-Reflection: Mirrors make you more introspective and thoughtful, helping deter bad habits by forcing you to confront your actions. 6. Time Dilation through Engagement: Activities that stretch time, like being in nature or having meaningful conversations, help you feel more connected and less rushed. 7. Physical Activity: Movement can reset your sense of time and provide a break from a sedentary, screen-focused lifestyle, enhancing well-being. 8. Clutter-Free Environment: Reduce workspace clutter to enhance focus and creativity. A clear environment reduces distractions and improves productivity. 9. Screen Time Boundaries: Set specific times daily to disconnect from screens, reclaiming time and improving mental health. An hour without screens can be very beneficial. 10. Recognize and Replace Habits: Identify unfulfilling habits like mindless scrolling and replace them with enriching activities to develop healthier habits and improve your quality of life.
Being a perfectionist, I have a hard time starting because of my fear of not doing it perfectly! This was great motivation to start it "badly"...just a brilliant idea 💡 👏
Awesome info! 72-year-old grandma and have been stuck off and on throughout life. Big Takeaway is to experiment with what you like to do Experimenting with different ideas and taking the pressure off. Really appreciate this podcast at this time in my life. Thank you.
I've listened to many of Mel's podcast episodes, but this is by far the one that spoke directly to me. I just told a friend the other day that I felt stuck. And the idea of friction points that we steer away from is spot on for me. Excellent stuff.
I liked what he said at the very end, that you're either exploring your options, or focusing on one idea, but you can't do both at once. Oh. I'm doing both at once, and flailing.. Aha.
Absolutely! Embracing challenges and going all in is key to success. When you take control and actively work towards your goals, you're essentially creating your own future.
The problem for some of us is when we become a little too preoccupied with those “motivating activities “ such as the marathon example and as a result we procrastinate instead of getting the confidence boost and moving forward towards the”ultimate “goal which we needed encouragement with in the first place. Unintentionally we can create a cycle
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
I noticed that twice your guest looked directly at the audience and gave the very important information. I’ll probably rewatch this podcast with a piece of paper to write the info down. I love these podcasts. Thank you, Mel!!
Thank you so much Mel! I’ve been wrestling leaving my job for years & have been quietly unhappy. I resigned the other day because I can’t live like this anymore, found your videos and they’re speaking to exactly how I feel. I know I’ve got so much untapped creative talent. I need to focus on that now & see where it takes me. It is both scary and energising.
Omg! I’m in this situation exact situation- where I started a new job with a higher salary - I was very excited and still am but I’m feeling stuck and drained. It was good to hear that people can feel stuck even with good changes.
It’s happened to me. And it feels like pretty much every time, but life-quakes also sometimes travel in packs… so who knows what actually happened way back when. Hang in there, you can figure it out!
MEL, YOU’RE THE BEST!! 💗 Thank you so much for all your amazing content! 🫶🏼 I’ve been listening/watching your podcast since it first started. You’re so relatable and ALWAYS give the best advice. The way you speak to us (your listener’s) with such honesty and care, it sounds like it’s coming from your best friend. ❤ Thanks Mel!! I appreciate you so much! 🫶🏼
Thank you Mel! I ❤ this podcast I feel sooo stuck it’s even harder when you are the only income! I am mainly stuck when it comes to my career I am not happy in it at all but I have to be grateful to have one.
Wow! What a wonderful episode, Mel! Dr Alter is great but this was so wonderful because you knew exactly what and how to ask so that we could get the most of his information! Thank you, thank you THANK YOU! 🙏🏻 ❤
I've felt stuck for most of my life, mostly re: career. I wanted to be a commercial pilot but couldn't due to hearing loss. I "fell into" a legal assistant career. I didn't really enjoy most aspects of it. In 2017, at the age of 58, I visited London & wanted to live there permanently. The only way to move there permanently was to change my career. I enrolled in a digital animation course in London. I was thrilled to finally have a sense of direction & no longer felt stuck. The Nov. 2019 intake was delayed due to low enrollment, so they put me in the June 2020 intake. COVID happened, the course was cancelled & I moved back to America. (They no longer offer the course.) I've been stuck ever since. I'm almost 66 years old. I don't want to go back into the legal field. It's soul draining. I don't have a car; can't afford one, so I've been looking for remote work, but it's been tough.
You could try to learn a skill you like, on the internet, it's possible to learn almost any skill from the internet. Even high value skills, if you find a remote job you're interested in, you can learn the skill online and apply. Digital animation is definitely one you can learn online even on youtube. With AI (e.g. Sora from Open AI, for creating short videos) its even easier to create or learn about things and putting it out there with social media is easier than ever. Or you can even sell short animations, which could be used by companies or so, on digital platforms. I hope I could provide a little bit of a different perspective. If you have something you want to learn and don't know how to start you can get back to me I would be happy to help, or ask ChatGPT or google. Hope you have a great day!
@@Isabella-h3c Thanks for the reply. Since posting that, I've decided to move to London. Thus, any future career will need to be something I can do remotely on my own time, working for a US employer. I won't be eligible for UK residency for 5 years & won't be able to work for a UK employer until that time. Any suggestions?
I listened to the podcast but wanted to leave a comment. This is so good and insightful. My biggest takeaway is that we should not stay in our feelings. But instead take small steps towards the life we want.
I just want to do something meaningful in life, do something I love, and have been struggling to find my purpose in life. Have had so many business ideas but they remain just that . Also currently living in a city that is full of consumerism and display of wealth makes it more depressing. I dont know what to do anymore, its a daily struggle to just figure out something that will work.
Hello, I read your message and just wanted to reach out to you. I understand your struggle I have been in the same position. I also understand that being in an environment where wealth seems abundant, but not for you is very depressing. The one thing that pops out for me is learning to be yourself and accepting where you are in life. This is very difficult to do I know, but it does help. We must trust and have faith that our time will come. Right now is the time for healing and resting. I wish you all the best.❤
💡 the friction points conversation was so eye-opening for me and explains why just filling up my time with fun activities wasn't making me feel any less stuck. You can spend time and energy dodging the negative stuff, but it will still be there, weighing on you, so better to face it head on and hopefully resolve it.
Mel thanks for doing these podcasts today l was going thru alot but aftr watching this l feel unstuck and postive to change mylife for the bttr .Thank you.
Thanks for posting such an informative video that I now feel like I’m understanding this “Stuck” feeling much better now! Once again Mel, I greatly appreciate you & literally feel like we’re friends sitting down having a chat every single video you post! You should feel incredibly proud & special for being the only chick that helps happiness and clarity to all so many…❤💯
Dr alter speaking off Smoothing put the rough places reminds me of this scripture... Isaiah 40:4-5 New King James Version (NKJV) Every valley shall be exalted And every mountain and hill brought low; The crooked places shall be made straight And the rough places smooth; The glory of the LORD shall be revealed, And all flesh shall see it together; For the mouth of the LORD has spoken.”
Yes. Can and do get stuff done. I am tackling further education and I am taking more classes. Taking steps towards the life I desire. Something I am struggling with is letting go of unhealthy relationships. That is a tough one for me. I maneuver around the relationship like it is my fork in the road. It is exhausting, but I will not put my progress on hold.
Burn out is real too, one step at a time in my opinion and try your best to stick to it , , step forward not step backwards , try it , dont try to get everything done in one day if u can get one thing done in one day give yourself a hug , it helps , i take one day at a time,and cbt as well jornal make a list short not long , get out in nature find something you love or like to do ❤i hope this helps someone
This was so timely. My wife and I were talking about this. I just shared it with her for us to listen to together. I suggested that she share it with a coworker who is having issues with cancellations in a sign up process. Maybe they can did into where the friction point is
Watching from Panama. My husband and I moved here from Arizona over 2 years ago. I still have issues with my life, and I feel stuck sometimes, but I live in a place I truly love. The temps are 52 to 82 year round. If the weather is something you don't like, you can change that. Getting his book on Audible. Thanks again Mel
Mel, it’s so funny as I heard what your husband did about the reservation, just this day I had programmed to log on to make a reservation for new years
I have the feeling that "tomorrow" the world would collapse (financially/new pandemic etc) and for this reason I find it hard to set some goals in the future (because I believe that the future would be mostly about survival)..how can I manage this?
Here’s the problem…..the real reason people feel stuck is because we live in an artificial system. No one really cares about being successful, people wanna be free.
We need to learn how to live the life of an underprivileged person. You have to learn to make more out of less. Thank you for helping me get back on track.
I would recommend picking up a job in the trades. Ive seen women electricians, so dont think its only for one gender. My dad lived all his life working in restaurants either server or manager. But the problem is he never brought home enough money. He gave up on his teaching degree and never went back to try anything else. I am a plumber that makes close to 30/hr and about to get another license with a raise. You just have to get out there and find a job you can move up in and learn. Of course my job is hard. But i have purpose pushing me forward. I can open up my own business in the next 5 years.
Another video with so much “potential” but no roadmap or timestamps. Why in the world would the Mel Robbins team ever upload a 1hour long video without timestamps? 🤦🏻♀️
Oh yeah, 40 minutes into this! Set the bar low and just start. That is the key to progress. Let go of ego and BEGIN.
The breakdown:
1. Intentional Pause: Take deliberate breaks, like sitting by running water in a forest, to rejuvenate your mind and body. Even a five-minute pause can be restorative.
2. Engage with Nature: Find a patch of nature or incorporate natural elements into your surroundings. Small plants or a water fountain at home can provide similar benefits if you can't access a forest.
3. Daily Practice: Spend a few minutes daily absorbing your natural environment, no matter how small. This practice counters the energy drain of modern life.
4. Impact of Colors: Colors influence mood and behavior. Blues and greens are calming, while red can make you feel strong and dominant. Use this knowledge to create supportive environments.
5. Mirrors and Self-Reflection: Mirrors make you more introspective and thoughtful, helping deter bad habits by forcing you to confront your actions.
6. Time Dilation through Engagement: Activities that stretch time, like being in nature or having meaningful conversations, help you feel more connected and less rushed.
7. Physical Activity: Movement can reset your sense of time and provide a break from a sedentary, screen-focused lifestyle, enhancing well-being.
8. Clutter-Free Environment: Reduce workspace clutter to enhance focus and creativity. A clear environment reduces distractions and improves productivity.
9. Screen Time Boundaries: Set specific times daily to disconnect from screens, reclaiming time and improving mental health. An hour without screens can be very beneficial.
10. Recognize and Replace Habits: Identify unfulfilling habits like mindless scrolling and replace them with enriching activities to develop healthier habits and improve your quality of life.
Thank you so much
Thank you for taking the time to break it down😍
You are my friend! Thanks for summarizing
Youre a lifesaver! Thank you!
SO HELPFUL! Thank you 🫶🏻
Being a perfectionist, I have a hard time starting because of my fear of not doing it perfectly! This was great motivation to start it "badly"...just a brilliant idea 💡 👏
Agree loved his book
Awesome info! 72-year-old grandma and have been stuck off and on throughout life. Big Takeaway is to experiment with what you like to do Experimenting with different ideas and taking the pressure off. Really appreciate this podcast at this time in my life. Thank you.
Ugh thank you so much for your perspective I'm just 19 but I completely agree💖
I’m money stuck. I hate making money just to pay rent, buy groceries, pay bills and be broke again.
You got this Brodie
@ Thanks!
same. and I feel helpless about it
Bless you and thank you for sharing - sending you love and luck and blessings and please know we understand ❤❤
@@milkteaminie2027- sending blessings to you and angels all around you❤❤
I've listened to many of Mel's podcast episodes, but this is by far the one that spoke directly to me. I just told a friend the other day that I felt stuck. And the idea of friction points that we steer away from is spot on for me. Excellent stuff.
I liked what he said at the very end, that you're either exploring your options, or focusing on one idea, but you can't do both at once. Oh. I'm doing both at once, and flailing.. Aha.
Flailing or failing😂i am doing both!
I feel I’m flailing in water most days & anytime soon I’ll drown 😢
@@darnitthelma4247You won’t, my friend, you have the sense to listen to an hour long podcast!!
I'm right there with you flailing & failing lol.
@@krissi42085 🩷
Absolutely! Embracing challenges and going all in is key to success. When you take control and actively work towards your goals, you're essentially creating your own future.
The problem for some of us is when we become a little too preoccupied with those “motivating activities “ such as the marathon example and as a result we procrastinate instead of getting the confidence boost and moving forward towards the”ultimate “goal which we needed encouragement with in the first place. Unintentionally we can create a cycle
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
Thanks Mel and colleagues. Robert Pritchard
I noticed that twice your guest looked directly at the audience and gave the very important information. I’ll probably rewatch this podcast with a piece of paper to write the info down. I love these podcasts. Thank you, Mel!!
I liked that too. I felt like he was saying hey! Listen to this!
Focus on elevating negatives rather than adding up positives, mannnn it hits the right spot 👌🏼
Thank you so much Mel! I’ve been wrestling leaving my job for years & have been quietly unhappy. I resigned the other day because I can’t live like this anymore, found your videos and they’re speaking to exactly how I feel. I know I’ve got so much untapped creative talent. I need to focus on that now & see where it takes me. It is both scary and energising.
Omg! I’m in this situation exact situation- where I started a new job with a higher salary - I was very excited and still am but I’m feeling stuck and drained. It was good to hear that people can feel stuck even with good changes.
It’s happened to me.
And it feels like pretty much every time, but life-quakes also sometimes travel in packs… so who knows what actually happened way back when.
Hang in there, you can figure it out!
I'm going to listen to this a few times. I've been feeling stuck for years!
Mel asked a great question about the pride of not wanting others to be right. I really wish he would’ve answered that question.
Yess,Dr Adam is certainly true,,,it's better to remove our lower points instead of making happier ones
You’re words keep me going, I been through rough times 😢
MEL, YOU’RE THE BEST!! 💗
Thank you so much for all your amazing content! 🫶🏼
I’ve been listening/watching your podcast since it first started.
You’re so relatable and ALWAYS give the best advice. The way you speak to us (your listener’s) with such honesty and care, it sounds like it’s coming from your best friend. ❤
Thanks Mel!! I appreciate you so much!
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Love you, mel robbins, and your respectful team and special guests ❤️ ❤️ ♥️
Feeling financially stuck in a toxic marriage, gonna try these tips to help myself get out. Thank u
I’m not alone atleast
Try therapy 🤷♂️
Thank you Mel! I ❤ this podcast I feel sooo stuck it’s even harder when you are the only income! I am mainly stuck when it comes to my career I am not happy in it at all but I have to be grateful to have one.
Wow! What a wonderful episode, Mel! Dr Alter is great but this was so wonderful because you knew exactly what and how to ask so that we could get the most of his information! Thank you, thank you THANK YOU! 🙏🏻 ❤
Love these tips. They have been helping me keep my sanity through lots of life changes.
thankyou for this, currently I am stuck in life , with things and I really needed this
This podcast is gold. Learned a lot Thank you!
The comments given on this discussion are also very educative.
I've felt stuck for most of my life, mostly re: career. I wanted to be a commercial pilot but couldn't due to hearing loss. I "fell into" a legal assistant career. I didn't really enjoy most aspects of it. In 2017, at the age of 58, I visited London & wanted to live there permanently. The only way to move there permanently was to change my career. I enrolled in a digital animation course in London. I was thrilled to finally have a sense of direction & no longer felt stuck. The Nov. 2019 intake was delayed due to low enrollment, so they put me in the June 2020 intake. COVID happened, the course was cancelled & I moved back to America. (They no longer offer the course.) I've been stuck ever since. I'm almost 66 years old. I don't want to go back into the legal field. It's soul draining. I don't have a car; can't afford one, so I've been looking for remote work, but it's been tough.
You could try to learn a skill you like, on the internet, it's possible to learn almost any skill from the internet. Even high value skills, if you find a remote job you're interested in, you can learn the skill online and apply.
Digital animation is definitely one you can learn online even on youtube. With AI (e.g. Sora from Open AI, for creating short videos) its even easier to create or learn about things and putting it out there with social media is easier than ever. Or you can even sell short animations, which could be used by companies or so, on digital platforms.
I hope I could provide a little bit of a different perspective. If you have something you want to learn and don't know how to start you can get back to me I would be happy to help, or ask ChatGPT or google. Hope you have a great day!
@@Isabella-h3c Thanks for the reply. Since posting that, I've decided to move to London. Thus, any future career will need to be something I can do remotely on my own time, working for a US employer. I won't be eligible for UK residency for 5 years & won't be able to work for a UK employer until that time. Any suggestions?
Mel I listened to this twice! Awesome podcast and I will be saving and sharing to my husband. Thank you for this information ❤
Love these episodes! Thank you for the time to put them out there!!!
First time through. This is insanely spot on.
I listened to the podcast but wanted to leave a comment.
This is so good and insightful.
My biggest takeaway is that we should not stay in our feelings. But instead take small steps towards the life we want.
I just want to do something meaningful in life, do something I love, and have been struggling to find my purpose in life. Have had so many business ideas but they remain just that . Also currently living in a city that is full of consumerism and display of wealth makes it more depressing. I dont know what to do anymore, its a daily struggle to just figure out something that will work.
Hello, I read your message and just wanted to reach out to you. I understand your struggle I have been in the same position. I also understand that being in an environment where wealth seems abundant, but not for you is very depressing. The one thing that pops out for me is learning to be yourself and accepting where you are in life. This is very difficult to do I know, but it does help. We must trust and have faith that our time will come. Right now is the time for healing and resting. I wish you all the best.❤
💡 the friction points conversation was so eye-opening for me and explains why just filling up my time with fun activities wasn't making me feel any less stuck. You can spend time and energy dodging the negative stuff, but it will still be there, weighing on you, so better to face it head on and hopefully resolve it.
Wow this was exactly what I needed. Thank you
Good morning Mel, I needed to hear from you, thank you so much, I love you ❤
Mel thanks for doing these podcasts today l was going thru alot but aftr watching this l feel unstuck and postive to change mylife for the bttr .Thank you.
Thanks for posting such an informative video that I now feel like I’m understanding this “Stuck” feeling much better now! Once again Mel, I greatly appreciate you & literally feel like we’re friends sitting down having a chat every single video you post! You should feel incredibly proud & special for being the only chick that helps happiness and clarity to all so many…❤💯
Oof, I hear Mel at timestamp 12:54 -- the sense of guilt when you have it made in so many ways but still feel unfulfilled or restless.
Dr alter speaking off Smoothing put the rough places reminds me of this scripture... Isaiah 40:4-5 New King James Version (NKJV)
Every valley shall be exalted And every mountain and hill brought low; The crooked places shall be made straight And the rough places smooth; The glory of the LORD shall be revealed, And all flesh shall see it together; For the mouth of the LORD has spoken.”
Yes. Can and do get stuff done. I am tackling further education and I am taking more classes. Taking steps towards the life I desire. Something I am struggling with is letting go of unhealthy relationships. That is a tough one for me. I maneuver around the relationship like it is my fork in the road. It is exhausting, but I will not put my progress on hold.
Burn out is real too, one step at a time in my opinion and try your best to stick to it , , step forward not step backwards , try it , dont try to get everything done in one day if u can get one thing done in one day give yourself a hug , it helps , i take one day at a time,and cbt as well jornal make a list short not long , get out in nature find something you love or like to do ❤i hope this helps someone
Thanks a ton Mel for bringing in Dr Adam
Very helpful and actionable advice and analysis .Thank you both.
The only way out is through.
This was so timely. My wife and I were talking about this. I just shared it with her for us to listen to together. I suggested that she share it with a coworker who is having issues with cancellations in a sign up process. Maybe they can did into where the friction point is
What a great, motivating & validating episode!
FANTASTIC information!! Thank you! 💖
LOVE YA MEL
Thank you so much, Mel.
Wow turn to what makes you feel better than what doesn’t That ended my relationship 😢
I really enjoyed you and Adam. Thanks
I really needed this.
Thank you, Mel ❤
Thank you so much!! I needed this ❤❤❤
So important to get that message out there! ❤
That was an amazing therapy session. Thank you Mel for this wonderful podcast.
Awesome information that I really needed!
I needed this thank you Mel ❤
This was excellent thank you 😊
Love all of your videos and the guests
Thanks MeL. purchased his book to support you and thanks Dr.
Gurlllll… W💥WWWWW!
You truly are a role model, even to this elder woman 😍.
Phenomenal episode! ❤️
Love this content ❤
Watching from Panama. My husband and I moved here from Arizona over 2 years ago. I still have issues with my life, and I feel stuck sometimes, but I live in a place I truly love. The temps are 52 to 82 year round. If the weather is something you don't like, you can change that. Getting his book on Audible. Thanks again Mel
Thank-you Mel!!!! xoxoox
Mel, it’s so funny as I heard what your husband did about the reservation, just this day I had programmed to log on to make a reservation for new years
I have the feeling that "tomorrow" the world would collapse (financially/new pandemic etc) and for this reason I find it hard to set some goals in the future (because I believe that the future would be mostly about survival)..how can I manage this?
This is the artificial system we live in. I completely know what you mean. You are smarter than you recognize. Get right with your creator.
Here’s the problem…..the real reason people feel stuck is because we live in an artificial system. No one really cares about being successful, people wanna be free.
That's exactly right. The secret to not being stuck is to no longer buy into this system.
You nailed it.
Love her stuff. Lots of good info
GREAT discussion, i got a Lot of inspiration to follow up on Dr Alters' teachings.
Which book of his' is relevant to this podcast please ?
The Anatomy of a Breakthrough
@@KristelKayser Thanks heaps, i will get the book forsure.
Brilliant, thanks 🤩
A great and a very inspiring Topic ❤❤
145, taking it all in.
im hearing my life in this episode
145?! What about 2 and 3😂
Definitely learnt a new word
🎉 Hi Mel! 😁
We need to learn how to live the life of an underprivileged person. You have to learn to make more out of less. Thank you for helping me get back on track.
Thank you ❤
The fact that nobody talks about the book whispers of manifestation on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
I think you get one of those zipper jackets, when you get your Doctors degree, right?! 😂
Loved the conversation. Thank you both ❤
thank you, thank you, thank you :)
Hi Mel, l want to be like you life coach l am Certified life coach but l do not know where and when l start.is thier any advice please and thank you.
Thaks
“I’m getting six pack abs!” 😂
🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️💨
"what is the way to get unstuck?" "The first one is to f-"
Perfect intro👌
What are the 3 things?!
Mel, I'm 55 and would love to collaborate with you.
Part of it is opportunity. Like if you wanna move to new place, but you have to sacrifice being broke and working at starbucks to do so.
I would recommend picking up a job in the trades. Ive seen women electricians, so dont think its only for one gender.
My dad lived all his life working in restaurants either server or manager. But the problem is he never brought home enough money. He gave up on his teaching degree and never went back to try anything else.
I am a plumber that makes close to 30/hr and about to get another license with a raise.
You just have to get out there and find a job you can move up in and learn. Of course my job is hard. But i have purpose pushing me forward. I can open up my own business in the next 5 years.
The frequency of ad breaks on this channel is obscene
Another video with so much “potential” but no roadmap or timestamps. Why in the world would the Mel Robbins team ever upload a 1hour long video without timestamps? 🤦🏻♀️
I didn't learn anything. 😮
Omg this video has too many ads
How many people are writing a friction list as they listen. So Me
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First to comment😌
Potential? I thought it was gas!
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