I don't know why but this made me cry - I have been so hateful and mean toward myself. I'm going to try doing this, even if i cry every day, until I can start celebrating and honoring that person in the mirror. The last young man, and her conversation with him really spoke to my soul; especially when he said, (paraphrased) "No amount of love is going to fill the yearning our soul requires from us - and when do we work daily on being in love with that person in the mirror who's been through so much, but is still standing?" Bless each and every one of us who is still standing.
@@coleenevans9671 Now you can try this method. Concentrate on the qualities you possess. Don't look at all the negativity. I saw your photo and you are beautiful. May you see yourself in a better way.
This single mom working two jobs will start today! We HAVE to connect with ourselves at least once a day for a few minutes. Otherwise we’re caught right up in the whirlwind that is our lives. We NEED this. And a moment of quiet sitting. Just a moment. It’s so easy to pass up a practice once, then it’s gone for good and we’re back to the same old hustle. Lots of love 💕
I start everyday, no matter what is going on that day, by saying "Today is going to be a great day!" And at some point during the day, it is going to be a great day, and I find something, someone that makes it an amazing day. And you need to be your own best cheerleader. Get out those Poms Poms!!
Unbelievably true!!! I’m disgusted & disappointed in myself for settling to marry the wrong man to allow my whole family to take advantage of me abuse me make fun of talk down to me ordered me to stop college to take care of my druggy sister children just to never get a thank you! My husband has no respect for me since we dated because I chased him he didn’t chase me until I realized he was not good for me I dumped him for the first time! Now being married to a mean insulting rude lying husband has made me feel angry rage at myself for wasting my hood looks youth bring with a man who never appreciated me nor value me!!! Been married for 38 yrs till this date I don’t have a wedding ring from him!! He lies he don’t have money however he has money to purchase over$6,000 of weapons among other stuff!! 😢I gained 185 pounds!!! Started my diet few days ago to hopefully look better to feel good about myself to move on divorce him
You STILL don't have a ring??? You only married on paper hun start working on you your right You have let YOU DOWN but tht can STOP TODAY I gone thru a divorce from a man who never wanted me thank god we didn't have kids I went thru chemo alone while married I was married because I was a short cut to legalized status and because of my color my ex did everything to wreck me there was abuse of every kind I then found a fiance dead I couldn't save him medically then I took on my addict sisters children while taking in my dad who was ill on and off the children had off and on involvement with drugs/ police til I said no more then I had a severe 2 DV incidents and then I moved out in the middle of no where and begin therapy / reading working on me for 6yrs I now have a good relationship a decent home pets etc because I took a break I worked on me im still bruised I came from a beaten and battered place but I know I've beat the odds I no longer weigh 380lbs I'm not self harming or suicidal so today is better then yesterday read atomic habits
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U GOT THIS! HANDLE THAT SH*T GIRL!! BUT WITH ~G🩵D~ BY UR SIDE, ON UR SIDE, NO DOUBT, UR GNA GET THROUGH IT, LEARN FR IT&MAKE AN EVEN GREATER LIFE FOR URSELF WITHOUT NEGATIVITY, BUT WITH LOVE, STRENGTH&SO MANY MORE BLESSINGS. JUS DNT GIV UP&KEEP ~#1, ALWAYS 1ST&CLOSER THAN ANY1/ANYTHING, PERIOD. I CAN SOMEHOW HEAR THE STRENGTH AS I READ UR WORDS, PROVE URSELF RIGHT!!! I LOOK FORWARD TO 1 DAY BEING TO HEAR UR NEW &IMPROVED STORY!!!! 🙏🏽👣👆🏽🩵👆🏽👣🙏🏽 WITH ~G🩵D~ ON UR SIDE, WHO CAN B AGAINST U?! 🙏🏽💪🏽🙏🏽
You can DO it hun! Everything will be ok. I'm a single mother of 4 (was 6. Lost 2 of my babies early in life. I was beaten so badly 3 days after having a baby. Their father then proceeded to try to set the house on fire with us all in. Everyone didn't make it out but I tried my BEST. Half of my body is burnt, melted. Ugly, scarred. Will always be. Once I realized I was too weak to go back and get the last 2 I snapped. I got the strength to make it to my car and get my gun and I blew that evil SOB head off right in front of my kids. I Traumatized my babies and I feel like absolute shit. I went to prison for 3 yrs and left them alone in a time they needed me most. I was raped in prison a few times by guards. I was at rock bottom. Once released I went to get my kids and it was a no go. Broke my heart. Instead of fighting I gave up and became a fentanyl addict. Ended up homeless. I mean just a bottom of the barrel ass human. I hated myself. I wanted to just end it all but my soul refused to die. Here I am now 2yrs clean. I have my babies back. And I'm building myself and my life back again. Anything is possible! If I can do it I KNOW anyone can. I believe in you! Just pull yourself up and keep moving forward no matter what. You are beautiful, you are strong, you WILL overcome!!!! 💜 I commented because of the purple heart. I use it all the time. My favorite color. God bless you!
Never say the words "My husband left me" EVER AGAIN!!! Next time (ND EVERY time!!), you are going to say "I just gained my freedom!! Now it's me and my kids, and I don't have my Ex dragging me down ANYMORE!! Now I can focus on the three of us. I feel SO MUCH LIGHTER--WOW! What a GIFT!!" The only thing that left you was what was dragging you down! And you posted it 6 months ago. Don't you feel so much better already? Time is a great healer!! Good luck--you've got this!
prayer is the greatest benefit...humility is the key, and faith in God is the missing piece :) while collecting all the bits n pieces and slowly progressing you can very quickly progress with humility and faith and God...the evidence is out standing :)
I was coming from the bedroom to the kitchen passing a large mirror above a cabinet and thought, I think I'll try it -- I will high-five myself. But won't think of anything because if I do, it will be disappointment in myself and dislike for myself. So I just stopped, looked quickly at my image and high-fived it -- I saw a 72 year old woman I've been loathing look back at me with eyes that love me and she smiled at me. All in a few seconds -- I saw a nice lady who loves me as I high-fived, me!
You won’t believe Mel Today I drove my car on the highway after one year of freaking from driving. Thakn you for the 54321.What if it works out,looking for hearts all day,willingness of trying to build confidence. You mean the world to me.Blessing from Melbourne,Australia
I've been high five-ing. Myself in the mirror for a week now. I haven't noticed much of a mental change yet, but I have noticed a physical change! My bathroom mirror gets cleaned more often cause some lady keeps putting handprints on it! Lol!
I was in such a miserable and depressed mood. I put this video on while making dinner. I went into the bathroom and high fived myself and said. You've got this! I've been smiling and feeling so much better ever since! Thank you so much Mel!!
It's so weird, I had a similar experience looking in the mirror. I'm often my toughest critic; I'm 43 & sometimes look in the mirror & notice all the same things Mel said, how I'm aging & my face is changing, how I'm late & don't have my sh*t together that day, etc. But I've always known that I really, really do Love myself. One night, I had smoked a little bit of weed and I was in the bathroom looking in the mirror & for some reason, I smiled at myself. Suddenly, shockingly, I felt this overwhelming wave of love, familiarity, & comfort. It felt like I was seeing an old friend I hadn't seen in years and this wave of excitement, and heart-bursting Love just washed over me! I wanted to cry and wished I could run to me & hug myself because I had missed Me so much, it was like an out-of-body experience! In that moment, I literally felt like I was looking at someone else and all I felt was unconditional Love; I loved seeing that familiar, loving face - her eyes, her cheeks, her smile. I just wanted to feel her embrace, hold her hand & sit and talk with her, catch up. I have never experienced anything like that before or after, but the experience was so profound, it changed me. I'm kinder to myself, give myself more grace, & appreciate myself more. For the 1st time, I saw myself from the outside and I saw so many good things. I've always said that I wish I had someone in my life just like me & now I know I do - ME. There's the part of me that is me & there's the part that is observing me - the Me that is a friend to me, and I'm never alone. When I've used marijuana correctly, (not abused), I've had some experiences I can't fully put into words, but they've been spiritually profound and I hope I never forget them. I am so grateful for that unique moment.💖💝
I am 43 also and feel so forgotten. Not by everyone else, but by me. Where did I go? Why did I lose myself raising my daughter? My body is changing, face is wrinkled, stretch marks getting darker with sun, grey hair poking out in all the wrong places, 3 little dark hairs making their way through the chin again...and I'm focusing on all the negative immediately after waking up! It's no wonder looking to others for happiness hasn't worked! I can't even be happy with myself. Wish there was an ongoing female camp someplace where over 40s could stay, be surrounded by positivity, surrounded by nature, no mirrors, and just a place to go to get back to our happiness. I feel your words here to my inner soul. You are right where I am.
@@leftylove2011 Welcome, Friend! 😊 A place like that sounds like an amazing soul hug. A judgement-free zone, where we can find that which isn't really lost, but hidden - I love that. Until then, do your work! Read uplifting, introspective things, watch inspirational vid's, TED talks, follow inspirational bloggers, dye your hair and get a new cut, learn how to wax at home, (I did), & get those 3 lil chin hairs 😄, EXERCISE, EAT WELL, REST, dance, restructure your space, journal, go to bookstores. Just mentioning things that worked for me, but tailor it to you. It's amazing how good accomplishing goals makes you feel. Getting older opens your mind to accept that there's more to life than looks; dig deep & find out who you really are & what makes you amazing - then live out loud. Blessings on your journey! ❤️🔥🧡
I've read The 5 Second Rule yesterday and took action. With a totally different mindset. I also use this rule to stop drinking and smoking marijuana. Today , zero alcohol and 've smoked 3 instead of 10! I feel amazing. Centered. It's an incredible sensation to take back control on your life. "If you don't like your life, do something about it." - Mel Robbins Your words and your energy have created a shift in my brain. I've never felt so excited, free and powerful. You save people. You've saved me from a heartbreak. I've just spent six months in the limbo, and now I'm out of it. Today I sent you pure light and love vibes, I don't know if you felt it... It was my gift to say: " thank you, I love you."
Mel, I have really missed you. When you were on TV, you helped me with my mental issues I was going through. You gave me a secure feeling to listen to your mindset. I looked forward to your show everyday. I love that you are so detailed in your thinking. You are awesome!!!! I get you. You're easy to listen to, God has put an angel here on earth, that is you. I'm so glad to find you on the internet. I'm sorry you had to go through your rough times but God has made you stronger. Love you, my friend. Thank you for your services of helping people that need to hear your voice. May God bless you thousand times over.
Well said!! I feel the same as what you said!🙂 I miss Mel's TV show as I was always looking forward to watch her show! I hope that Mel can have another TV show about mental health that this world desperately needs help with!! We all need acceptance, patience and Love!! 🙂🌺💗
Got teary eyes watching this...as the moment I got my anxiety attack and thinking all my failures and bad things happen in my life..I stand and watch myself in the mirror and watching myself giving me the motivation to tell myself..Heyyy Don't give up! I know you can do it.. DONT STOP LOVING YOURSELF..DONT STOP BEING KIND TO YOURSELF!THOUGH YOUR NOT PERFECT BUT DONT LET INPERFECTION STOP YOU IN TRYING BEING GOOD...THEN I SMILE TO MYSELF AND SAY I CAN MAKE IT AND I BELIEVE I CAN!ILOVEYOU SELF❤
I've started using intermittent fasting with my keto diet. It's the easiest thing to do, I think because it falls under the 5 second rule. Since I don't have to DO anything--I don't have to make food. I don't have to make choices about food. This has been a great way for me to lose weight and be healthier. I have been eating one meal a day and have never felt better. I get up and exercise (Tai Chi) instead of filling my face with food. I make a decision about one meal a day instead of making dozens of decisions. This has helped me to have more time to make the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 decisions that are really important.
I have recently been reading about the omad diet, I found it by accident but I did do the warrior diet years ago and fasted too, thanks for sharing I'll take that step
Mel, I’m a 69 year old woman who with Covid has gotten used to staying home and watching TV all day. I feel to my core that there is more! I’m gonna try this starting today.
I feel you Deb , I’m exactly the same! I’m 58 years old, and I’m just wasting my life sitting in front of the telly.I struggle everyday to get motivated and productive. I desperately want to change but for some reason never seem to be able to get on with it. We can do this! Good luck.
@@woodysmum1906 Hello! Thank you for your response! Nice to know that I’m not alone. I started today with really looking at myself in the mirror and giving her a high five ✋ We can change our lives 😄
@@IadoreyouMaxxy Today is my second day of high five ing myself and it has made a difference! I didn’t turn on the TV until 3pm today!! I was active until then! I want to do better tomorrow! I understand about self confidence, I have struggled with that too. I hope to gain more each day 😊
When you prepare for that big interview full of confidence that date tweaking your hair you say you look good... You feel good. You believe it ! Great advice here
Work out first before you eat breakfast. Don't work out if your tummy is full. It will create a bulging tummy. It will cause you to eat more, as your stomach stretches.
Her personal story about her husband just broke me and I like the video. I am sitting up now to listen attentively. Been going about cooking and playing this in the back ground until now. Thanks so much, Mel., I'm trying not to cry
When you look at yourself in the mirror and you put your arm up with an open Palm facing the mirror like you going to smack the mirror and say Hi Five it's more of an adrenaline type happiness where for me it's more of a gesture it puts a smile on your face and it gives you a little energy think of when you high-five somebody you don't say it with a frown on your face and no energy.... you high-five somebody with a smile on your face and energy and that's just what it gives me. I actually look at myself in the mirror every morning no matter what I look like and I say good morning beautiful and that sets up my day. It has to be something that works for you and if it doesn't that's okay also
The thing I love about Mel is that she never designs herself as perfect. Despite her incredible knowledge of self care and hacks she still feels human instincts such as anxiety and stress. She’s just so realistic
Just had a conversation with my son this morning. He was all upset about picture day and saying his school pictures get worse every year. That he doesn't like his smile. I told him I understand how he feels. That I'm 40 years old and just starting to learn to love myself. You're a beautiful person and thank you for your message 💗 Sending everyone love, who is going through the self-love journey💖 You're amazing, beautiful, kind, lovable and wonderful human being!🌌
My daughter was a professional model by 11 years old, yet her school pictures yet her school pictures were worse every single year! Tell your son it’s just a money maker and the photographer is an amateur!
I'm already in tears...just started watching this, just subbed this channel from another video on another channel. I am so afraid for the future and I have worked so hard on changing my life from being a depressed person to a healthier happier me and I have gained back the weight I lost on the keto diet and my mindset is now constantly afraid for our country. Thanks to you, no matter what is going on (unless the economy totally collapses) I am picking myself up and dusting myself off and getting back to where I was going before...I have GOT to do this for myself...5, 4, 3, 2.....1.
You have to be careful not to get stuck in your head. I've heard those diagnoses and I ignore them. You live your life, have interests and some of that is being interested in other people. That's key!!! I dealt with stuff and now live my life. Overthinking will kill you. My best wishes for your refocus.
I hope that you can have another TV show about helping others with their mental health which is so desperately needed nowadays! Thank you Mel for all of your advice, humour and Love for all!!🙂💗🌺🐿🙏🙌
Yes! Thank you Mel! I had recorded your message on my phone a while ago but i hadn't listened to it before. But yesterday i was in a situation and a place where i evidently had a fear decision trying to rob me of prospering financially. And i was searching for something or someone to encourage me to do it and i decided to listen to your message and a the end of the day i realized i had listened to your message about fear and how you said " I'm going to do it anyway "" and i just did it and i had an Amazing Time and Day All Day Long! Thank you Mel
Divine intervention for sure! The attacks of the devil are very real! This made me cry, too. Keep going Mel! God will meet you where you are; He wants the best for everyone. He wants to lavishly love every single human being - that will let Him. 💙
This is really wonderful,such a tiny bit of power condensed for a moment hifiving yourself in the mirror daily.. a shot …so fast, no need to sit in a chair for 10 minutes … brilliant … I love what you say .. so basic, no frills
It's kind of strange to know that every couple of minutes you are telling part of my story as if you are in my head. I completely get it! There's a lot of good information here. and for myself, I have been on a path of self-discovery and self-healing for years, and yet find there is still something missing. I have hope that your books, which i just ordered, will help. Can't wait to read them.
Is it amazing how we’re more a like as human than we think we are. We’re all pretty much the same inwardly. I am just so glad that it people like Mel Robbins that have the intelligence and insight to help us with insights like this.
1. check your nutrition (make sure you have your daily dose of all vitamines and minerals) 2. exercise 3. Change bad (mental) habbits works for me. Good luck!
I'm so glad I got to see this video. Because i started basically the same thing for myself a few months ago and since then I've accomplished greater things but I'm still a work in progress and I struggle sometimes with getting up and doing this for myself every day until the other day when you Mel popped up in my for you videos on something I really needed to see. It was about narcissist because I'm a scapegoat in a family full of narcissistic people, but I've also learned a self-doubt self-sabotage and self-hate for the last four decades of my life. So over the last couple days I had to get up and start doing this again and pull myself out of the bottom of the depression bucket. Yes I suffer with bipolar depression and I do not take meds. Will not take meds. They just make it worse so I've learned how to rewire my thinking so when I saw myself at the bottom of that bucket I said to myself Christy. It's time to get out of that bucket and put myself right back into this training to know my selfworth. So thank you for reiterating for me by putting this video out. Thank you, Mel you are a blessing in disguise for me. And I can tell you with honest and sincerity. You are one of the people that have helped me retrain my thinking to know that I am here for a reason and that I am good enough so Thank you. And from somebody who can have suicidal thoughts from time to time, you're also my savior, one of them anyways......
So good to hear this now, a week after Hurricane Ian in SWFL. It is so easy to forget about yourself and what i need. I feel guilt because I weathered the storm better than others. I needed to see this today. I’ve been practicing gratitude for others, everything outside of me. I am Implementing this new practice right now! High five to me! Love you Mel!
I love in the background when you're talking about how you use the just do it anyway rule that you're colleague says "yeah you do" when you hate working out
I luv listening to this! Everything being said is exactley how I feel! I cant afford to go talk to anyone! And noone around me truly listens to me! I just feel lost!!
Mel I have been binge watching you so I am not sure which video you mentioned it in but it was to do with you not loving the way you look. I am here to tell you last week I was at the hairdresser and pulled out your photo and said to her I want to look like Mel. 💕 Thank you for your amazing motivation.
Wild that this is actually a tactic. I never liked staring at myself in the mirror but when im having a really rough time and the old hurts of the past creep up and my depression trickles back in, I'm lying in bed crying, unable to get up. I'd pat myself on the head and whisper to myself that I am a good bean and I will come out of it ok. The same way a doting grandparent might do. Always made me feel better and now i understand. Positive self talk is so important. Cheering for yourself is necessary when you don't have anyone else in the stands.
Tears …. You hit so many things on the nose. I’m 41, just left my narcissistic husband with my 2 1/2 year old (gave birth 2 weeks before covid), was hit by a semi after leaving my husband, and to get any kind of comfort have eatin myself into a huge space. I hate how I look right now. But always have. My mom hated her weight. I put my value in my weight. Yet I’m such an empath and love everyone else for all their beautiful so called flaws. I’m going to try this but I normally avoid the mirror unless I’m 160 pounds. So lost. Thank you for coming in to my life. - a lost soul in Wisconsin
Wow, so this is what we do. Even the most successful people struggle with being kind to themselves. I took me years to learn how to be nice to myself and I am still learning. This is brilliant. Thank you.
This video will change my life. I thought of people with whom I want to share this throughout the entire video. Mel, you have created something life changing. You are, in fact, an awesome speaker. What an absolutely flawless presentation….with unbelievable content. Your words resonated with me on a powerful level. I am so grateful that the universe lead me here. Thank you for sharing your gift. I would love to meet you one day…..in the language of intention , I will meet you. I cannot wait to devour more of your work. 👏👏👏💕
Mel this was the most amazing truth after so many years of a blessed therapist I am too grateful ❤️ for you. Love you for your truth! It's a practice to be honest!!! With yourself and action towards words we say to ourselves. I am going to do my mirror work. Thank you, 👍. Also I teach children and I always high five them but never myself!
24.00 mark was one of my favorites of this discussion. Catching thoughts and momentarily tricking my brain into new thoughts worked for me. I was lucky or persistent and found an exceptional therapist years ago who was able to use imagery and metaphor. I'm a writer and it's how I think. The laughter in this discussion around momentarily tricking the brain is something. The energy got a turbo charge and you could see that joy and humor taking over. That's why traditional group therapy can be so great. Lots of surprises in the back and forth and then aha moments. These videos and the comments are the new group therapy. If you can laugh during self discovery and improvement all the better.
THIS IS A SUCH A WONDERFUL, FASCINATING INTERVIEW--MEL IS SHARING A SIMPLE YET ENORMOUSLY IMPORTANT IDEA AND INSIGHT! WE NEED TO START PERCEIVING OUR REFLECTION IN THE MIRROR THAT WE LOOK AT EVERY DAY AS OUR BEST FRIEND THAT WE SHOULD HELP/ ENCOURAGE AND THAT WE ALSO CAN RELY ON!
I so needed this. I’ve been working on myself with my negative thoughts 8 years ago. Everything your saying is right on. The energy is what it’s about. It wasn’t easy, but you see through and learn so much about yourself. ❤❤
mel i think this is why tiktok and youtube for kids and people working through something is so vitally important. we get to watch a play by play of ourselves being our most authentic self. it also enforces how dangerous it can be if you show up disingenuously. it’s such a cool form of self awareness.
Thank you. Chronic illness and mom of three. I haven't seen my face in years. I picture my mother's face instead of mine when I think of what I look like. This makes me feel like a real person. Thank you
Great video, Mel! I could be asleep for 2 days/ nights straight… felt horrible because of the time lost but couldn’t do a thing about it… One small step at a time by getting mosey out of the rut… Thank you for sharing, Mel, exceptionally helpful: make your brain and body work for “ ME”!!!!
Thank you so much Mel. I did high five and cried instantly. I said I am proud of you and tears rolled down. It felt I wanted to hear that from others for validation. I don’t need that and I am enough 😌
Thank you for keeping it simple... so informative...I have changed today just from listening to you and tomorrow I will implement a new way of taking care of my brain in all areas you mentioned.
The spiritual component of the High Five Habit is that it is an act of worship; you are telling the most high GOD that he created you awesome and HE blesses you for that. You are positioning yourself into the unforced rhythm of Love.
It starts with others that criticize you...whether jealous or feel you should do things differently...each person should grow as able...each have different ways to accomplish the same task...you get judged by how you learn or how you mold yourself of a task...if too many on you and if you befriend others that count on you or you count on them it you must be the same match of generosity and sobriety will and likes...eventually things pile high of their judgments ...its hard to not give up.. especially pure exhaustion...they won't understand....its always you should haves instead of how it should be of the taking all factors into play ....the recipe of the day..shame and guilt only debilitates..and when you encourage another too much then you get stepped on..eventually your attitude becomes attitude and youre segregated and forgotten
Must have needed these reminders right now. Watched a you tube video Mel put up ages ago where she uses herself as an example using the 5 sec rule before going on stage. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 I'm excited and explained the physiologically excitement and fear feel both the same. That got me to the dentist first time in 20 years, now I go every 6 months. Am going to try the 5 high habit today! Thanks Mel Robbins
OMG. when he's talking about how something like this can help the single mom--that's me--& I'm so happy & so grateful, but it's also SO f*ing hard!! Always I say to myself "if anyone can do it, it's me"; & that's been helpful in getting things done, but this goes a step further to actually acknowledging THAT it's not easy & that we each deserve & need to be kind to ourselves--if for no other reason than to keep on carrying on. Thank you!!
Remembering when I was a teenager there was an old guy that walked down main street and when he encountered us he would say "up top" and high-5 us as he passed by. we loved that guy.
Thank you, my dearest!!! I remember myslef, how I used only two or tree times not to see and listen some videos by ironing, I have no TV by the way, but I looked into the mirror like at a good and unexpected nice and lovely friend. I will shurely give myself these high 5 in the mirror, my depression caused by MS and ADHD need it since many, many years.
Hi my name is Jenna and I am from Glasgow . I am so grateful for your videos as you have helped me and still are today . I'm your biggest fan ahaha maybe in Scotland ahaha x thankyou for being you and I wouldn't mind being you Mel your amazing inside and out x sending my love from Scotland
This mom whose 2 kids think she’s so awful. One won’t let her meet her grand child and barely get to see the others, I’m leaving so much out, I really needed this! Thank you 🙏🏻
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I am grateful for stumbling on this utube…after having a good cry thinking about life stuff just before I saw this… Thank you so much for redirecting the kind and caring human being in me is worth it!
I don’t know how Mel Robbins popped up when searching for some answers to pick myself up, but boy does she break it down to the truth!!! In the same time I’ve been watching Brene Brown. I wonder if these two women talk?!
I use mirror gazing as a form of self love usually with a warm cup of tea.. cause lets be honest i do like to look at myself, since transitioning to non binary feminine i do love what i see.. i love this!! God Bless, Shri Riley
The mirror high-five is a moment of saying you care about oneself. It will shake one to the core to be acknowledged and received by oneself. Gratitude is the central seed.
I don't know why but this made me cry - I have been so hateful and mean toward myself. I'm going to try doing this, even if i cry every day, until I can start celebrating and honoring that person in the mirror. The last young man, and her conversation with him really spoke to my soul; especially when he said, (paraphrased) "No amount of love is going to fill the yearning our soul requires from us - and when do we work daily on being in love with that person in the mirror who's been through so much, but is still standing?" Bless each and every one of us who is still standing.
I am crying too!
you and me both,I cant look in the mirror without disgust
@@coleenevans9671 Now you can try this method. Concentrate on the qualities you possess. Don't look at all the negativity. I saw your photo and you are beautiful. May you see yourself in a better way.
Amen
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This single widowed mom working 2 jobs will start this tomorrow. Love it! Thank you.
You deserve that, from another single mom ♥️
All the best! You got this
I'm reading your comment 3wks after you wrote it. I'm curious as to how it went after you practiced using the particular technique
This single mom working two jobs will start today! We HAVE to connect with ourselves at least once a day for a few minutes. Otherwise we’re caught right up in the whirlwind that is our lives. We NEED this. And a moment of quiet sitting. Just a moment. It’s so easy to pass up a practice once, then it’s gone for good and we’re back to the same old hustle.
Lots of love 💕
You totally got this. 🙏
I start everyday, no matter what is going on that day, by saying "Today is going to be a great day!" And at some point during the day, it is going to be a great day, and I find something, someone that makes it an amazing day. And you need to be your own best cheerleader. Get out those Poms Poms!!
Unbelievably true!!! I’m disgusted & disappointed in myself for settling to marry the wrong man to allow my whole family to take advantage of me abuse me make fun of talk down to me ordered me to stop college to take care of my druggy sister children just to never get a thank you! My husband has no respect for me since we dated because I chased him he didn’t chase me until I realized he was not good for me I dumped him for the first time! Now being married to a mean insulting rude lying husband has made me feel angry rage at myself for wasting my hood looks youth bring with a man who never appreciated me nor value me!!! Been married for 38 yrs till this date I don’t have a wedding ring from him!! He lies he don’t have money however he has money to purchase over$6,000 of weapons among other stuff!! 😢I gained 185 pounds!!! Started my diet few days ago to hopefully look better to feel good about myself to move on divorce him
You STILL don't have a ring??? You only married on paper hun start working on you your right You have let YOU DOWN but tht can STOP TODAY I gone thru a divorce from a man who never wanted me thank god we didn't have kids I went thru chemo alone while married I was married because I was a short cut to legalized status and because of my color my ex did everything to wreck me there was abuse of every kind I then found a fiance dead I couldn't save him medically then I took on my addict sisters children while taking in my dad who was ill on and off the children had off and on involvement with drugs/ police til I said no more then I had a severe 2 DV incidents and then I moved out in the middle of no where and begin therapy / reading working on me for 6yrs I now have a good relationship a decent home pets etc because I took a break I worked on me im still bruised I came from a beaten and battered place but I know I've beat the odds I no longer weigh 380lbs I'm not self harming or suicidal so today is better then yesterday read atomic habits
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Single mom of 2, husband left me...I'm starting this today. Thank you for your video. 💜
Keep going gurl! Abundance to your life... Great life is waiting for you... Start with your RUclips journey too
I hope you have seen a transformation! Congratulations on just making that decision to start.
You can DO it hun! Everything will be ok. I'm a single mother of 4 (was 6. Lost 2 of my babies early in life. I was beaten so badly 3 days after having a baby. Their father then proceeded to try to set the house on fire with us all in. Everyone didn't make it out but I tried my BEST. Half of my body is burnt, melted. Ugly, scarred. Will always be. Once I realized I was too weak to go back and get the last 2 I snapped. I got the strength to make it to my car and get my gun and I blew that evil SOB head off right in front of my kids. I Traumatized my babies and I feel like absolute shit. I went to prison for 3 yrs and left them alone in a time they needed me most. I was raped in prison a few times by guards. I was at rock bottom. Once released I went to get my kids and it was a no go. Broke my heart. Instead of fighting I gave up and became a fentanyl addict. Ended up homeless. I mean just a bottom of the barrel ass human. I hated myself. I wanted to just end it all but my soul refused to die. Here I am now 2yrs clean. I have my babies back. And I'm building myself and my life back again. Anything is possible! If I can do it I KNOW anyone can. I believe in you! Just pull yourself up and keep moving forward no matter what. You are beautiful, you are strong, you WILL overcome!!!! 💜 I commented because of the purple heart. I use it all the time. My favorite color. God bless you!
Never say the words "My husband left me" EVER AGAIN!!! Next time (ND EVERY time!!), you are going to say "I just gained my freedom!! Now it's me and my kids, and I don't have my Ex dragging me down ANYMORE!! Now I can focus on the three of us. I feel SO MUCH LIGHTER--WOW! What a GIFT!!"
The only thing that left you was what was dragging you down!
And you posted it 6 months ago. Don't you feel so much better already? Time is a great healer!! Good luck--you've got this!
Keep going. You got this!
prayer is the greatest benefit...humility is the key, and faith in God is the missing piece :) while collecting all the bits n pieces and slowly progressing you can very quickly progress with humility and faith and God...the evidence is out standing :)
Amen 🙏
I was coming from the bedroom to the kitchen passing a large mirror above a cabinet and thought, I think I'll try it -- I will high-five myself. But won't think of anything because if I do, it will be disappointment in myself and dislike for myself. So I just stopped, looked quickly at my image and high-fived it -- I saw a 72 year old woman I've been loathing look back at me with eyes that love me and she smiled at me. All in a few seconds -- I saw a nice lady who loves me as I high-fived, me!
Thank you. I am at the lowest I have ever been. I needed this.
…read your comment and just paused for a minute to send out some good vibes wherever you are! Believe in yourself-YOU GOT THIS!!!
Take care, Keaton! You're not alone!
Keep your spirits up
Sending prayers your way today!!!
Keep waking up better things ahead for you Keaton!!!!❤️
you can get past this.! you can do anything.! you are awesome! you are not alone.sending you love! Xx
You won’t believe Mel
Today I drove my car on the highway after one year of freaking from driving.
Thakn you for the 54321.What if it works out,looking for hearts all day,willingness of trying to build confidence.
You mean the world to me.Blessing from Melbourne,Australia
I needed to watch this.
Praying that everyone that watches this puts it into practice and lives their best life possible!!!!
Agreed
Sending you virtual hugs 🤗 and high fives 🙌🏼 your way today! 😻
Me too!!!! I cried when she talked about her husband…
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I've been high five-ing. Myself in the mirror for a week now. I haven't noticed much of a mental change yet, but I have noticed a physical change! My bathroom mirror gets cleaned more often cause some lady keeps putting handprints on it! Lol!
I am beautiful
I am grateful
I am loved
I was in such a miserable and depressed mood. I put this video on while making dinner. I went into the bathroom and high fived myself and said. You've got this! I've been smiling and feeling so much better ever since! Thank you so much Mel!!
This should be taught in grade schools and high schools.
It's so weird, I had a similar experience looking in the mirror. I'm often my toughest critic; I'm 43 & sometimes look in the mirror & notice all the same things Mel said, how I'm aging & my face is changing, how I'm late & don't have my sh*t together that day, etc. But I've always known that I really, really do Love myself.
One night, I had smoked a little bit of weed and I was in the bathroom looking in the mirror & for some reason, I smiled at myself. Suddenly, shockingly, I felt this overwhelming wave of love, familiarity, & comfort. It felt like I was seeing an old friend I hadn't seen in years and this wave of excitement, and heart-bursting Love just washed over me! I wanted to cry and wished I could run to me & hug myself because I had missed Me so much, it was like an out-of-body experience! In that moment, I literally felt like I was looking at someone else and all I felt was unconditional Love; I loved seeing that familiar, loving face - her eyes, her cheeks, her smile. I just wanted to feel her embrace, hold her hand & sit and talk with her, catch up.
I have never experienced anything like that before or after, but the experience was so profound, it changed me. I'm kinder to myself, give myself more grace, & appreciate myself more. For the 1st time, I saw myself from the outside and I saw so many good things. I've always said that I wish I had someone in my life just like me & now I know I do - ME. There's the part of me that is me & there's the part that is observing me - the Me that is a friend to me, and I'm never alone. When I've used marijuana correctly, (not abused), I've had some experiences I can't fully put into words, but they've been spiritually profound and I hope I never forget them. I am so grateful for that unique moment.💖💝
Definitely ❤️
I am 43 also and feel so forgotten. Not by everyone else, but by me. Where did I go? Why did I lose myself raising my daughter? My body is changing, face is wrinkled, stretch marks getting darker with sun, grey hair poking out in all the wrong places, 3 little dark hairs making their way through the chin again...and I'm focusing on all the negative immediately after waking up! It's no wonder looking to others for happiness hasn't worked! I can't even be happy with myself. Wish there was an ongoing female camp someplace where over 40s could stay, be surrounded by positivity, surrounded by nature, no mirrors, and just a place to go to get back to our happiness.
I feel your words here to my inner soul. You are right where I am.
@@leftylove2011 Welcome, Friend! 😊 A place like that sounds like an amazing soul hug. A judgement-free zone, where we can find that which isn't really lost, but hidden - I love that. Until then, do your work! Read uplifting, introspective things, watch inspirational vid's, TED talks, follow inspirational bloggers, dye your hair and get a new cut, learn how to wax at home, (I did), & get those 3 lil chin hairs 😄, EXERCISE, EAT WELL, REST, dance, restructure your space, journal, go to bookstores.
Just mentioning things that worked for me, but tailor it to you. It's amazing how good accomplishing goals makes you feel. Getting older opens your mind to accept that there's more to life than looks; dig deep & find out who you really are & what makes you amazing - then live out loud. Blessings on your journey! ❤️🔥🧡
@@leftylove2011 I’m
I've read The 5 Second Rule yesterday and took action. With a totally different mindset. I also use this rule to stop drinking and smoking marijuana. Today , zero alcohol and 've smoked 3 instead of 10! I feel amazing. Centered.
It's an incredible sensation to take back control on your life.
"If you don't like your life, do something about it." - Mel Robbins
Your words and your energy have created a shift in my brain. I've never felt so excited, free and powerful.
You save people. You've saved me from a heartbreak. I've just spent six months in the limbo, and now I'm out of it.
Today I sent you pure light and love vibes, I don't know if you felt it... It was my gift to say: " thank you, I love you."
Mel, I have really missed you. When you were on TV, you helped me with my mental issues I was going through. You gave me a secure feeling to listen to your mindset. I looked forward to your show everyday. I love that you are so detailed in your thinking. You are awesome!!!! I get you. You're easy to listen to, God has put an angel here on earth, that is you. I'm so glad to find you on the internet. I'm sorry you had to go through your rough times but God has made you stronger. Love you, my friend. Thank you for your services of helping people that need to hear your voice. May God bless you thousand times over.
Well said!! I feel the same as what you said!🙂 I miss Mel's TV show as I was always looking forward to watch her show! I hope that Mel can have another TV show about mental health that this world desperately needs help with!! We all need acceptance, patience and Love!! 🙂🌺💗
I'm grateful to myself for not giving up.
It’s take a special person to be honest and be so candid
Yup
Got teary eyes watching this...as the moment I got my anxiety attack and thinking all my failures and bad things happen in my life..I stand and watch myself in the mirror and watching myself giving me the motivation to tell myself..Heyyy Don't give up! I know you can do it.. DONT STOP LOVING YOURSELF..DONT STOP BEING KIND TO YOURSELF!THOUGH YOUR NOT PERFECT BUT DONT LET INPERFECTION STOP YOU IN TRYING BEING GOOD...THEN I SMILE TO MYSELF AND SAY I CAN MAKE IT AND I BELIEVE I CAN!ILOVEYOU SELF❤
I've started using intermittent fasting with my keto diet. It's the easiest thing to do, I think because it falls under the 5 second rule. Since I don't have to DO anything--I don't have to make food. I don't have to make choices about food. This has been a great way for me to lose weight and be healthier. I have been eating one meal a day and have never felt better. I get up and exercise (Tai Chi) instead of filling my face with food. I make a decision about one meal a day instead of making dozens of decisions. This has helped me to have more time to make the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 decisions that are really important.
I have recently been reading about the omad diet, I found it by accident but I did do the warrior diet years ago and fasted too, thanks for sharing I'll take that step
How do you deal with hunger?!
Mel, I’m a 69 year old woman who with Covid has gotten used to staying home and watching TV all day. I feel to my core that there is more! I’m gonna try this starting today.
I feel you Deb , I’m exactly the same! I’m 58 years old, and I’m just wasting my life sitting in front of the telly.I struggle everyday to get motivated and productive. I desperately want to change but for some reason never seem to be able to get on with it.
We can do this! Good luck.
@@woodysmum1906 Hello! Thank you for your response! Nice to know that I’m not alone. I started today with really looking at myself in the mirror and giving her a high five ✋ We can change our lives 😄
@@IadoreyouMaxxy I totally understand. We can do this together! We know we want a change…. I believe this can work!
@@davenaai That’s awesome! Let’s do this! ✋
@@IadoreyouMaxxy Today is my second day of high five ing myself and it has made a difference! I didn’t turn on the TV until 3pm today!! I was active until then! I want to do better tomorrow! I understand about self confidence, I have struggled with that too. I hope to gain more each day 😊
When you prepare for that big interview full of confidence that date tweaking your hair you say you look good... You feel good. You believe it ! Great advice here
I want to get up, eat a healthy breakfast and go workout 😁 I'm going to start using the 5 second rule in the morning! Thank u!!!
Work out first before you eat breakfast. Don't work out if your tummy is full. It will create a bulging tummy. It will cause you to eat more, as your stomach stretches.
How did it go?
Her personal story about her husband just broke me and I like the video. I am sitting up now to listen attentively. Been going about cooking and playing this in the back ground until now. Thanks so much, Mel., I'm trying not to cry
I have been doing this every morning since I heard you say it a number of days ago, and it always makes me smile and sets up my day. Thank you Mel 💗
What do we actually do? Am I missing something? You just look in the mirror and high five yourself?
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When you look at yourself in the mirror and you put your arm up with an open Palm facing the mirror like you going to smack the mirror and say Hi Five it's more of an adrenaline type happiness where for me it's more of a gesture it puts a smile on your face and it gives you a little energy think of when you high-five somebody you don't say it with a frown on your face and no energy.... you high-five somebody with a smile on your face and energy and that's just what it gives me. I actually look at myself in the mirror every morning no matter what I look like and I say good morning beautiful and that sets up my day. It has to be something that works for you and if it doesn't that's okay also
The thing I love about Mel is that she never designs herself as perfect. Despite her incredible knowledge of self care and hacks she still feels human instincts such as anxiety and stress. She’s just so realistic
Agreed…simply put, she keeps it so real.
The world needs you Mel. I love you sister and know you are here to awaken those whose song you sing.
I think your song is beautiful.
Just had a conversation with my son this morning. He was all upset about picture day and saying his school pictures get worse every year. That he doesn't like his smile. I told him I understand how he feels. That I'm 40 years old and just starting to learn to love myself. You're a beautiful person and thank you for your message 💗 Sending everyone love, who is going through the self-love journey💖 You're amazing, beautiful, kind, lovable and wonderful human being!🌌
My daughter was a professional model by 11 years old, yet her school pictures yet her school pictures were worse every single year! Tell your son it’s just a money maker and the photographer is an amateur!
I'm already in tears...just started watching this, just subbed this channel from another video on another channel. I am so afraid for the future and I have worked so hard on changing my life from being a depressed person to a healthier happier me and I have gained back the weight I lost on the keto diet and my mindset is now constantly afraid for our country. Thanks to you, no matter what is going on (unless the economy totally collapses) I am picking myself up and dusting myself off and getting back to where I was going before...I have GOT to do this for myself...5, 4, 3, 2.....1.
This was what we as kids where taught by from my father 🥲always saying your not good enough.
I’m changing my mind set 🙏❤️🐠🌈😁
I must try this 👏👏,, I was diagnosed with C-ptsd , depression,, I’m in therapy and starting CBT ,,,
You have to be careful not to get stuck in your head. I've heard those diagnoses and I ignore them. You live your life, have interests and some of that is being interested in other people. That's key!!! I dealt with stuff and now live my life. Overthinking will kill you. My best wishes for your refocus.
@@lisamcallister6534 well said, I've heard those diagnoses and ignored them, I am too awesome to fit in that box.
I hope that you can have another TV show about helping others with their mental health which is so desperately needed nowadays! Thank you Mel for all of your advice, humour and Love for all!!🙂💗🌺🐿🙏🙌
Yes! Thank you Mel! I had recorded your message on my phone a while ago but i hadn't listened to it before. But yesterday i was in a situation and a place where i evidently had a fear decision trying to rob me of prospering financially. And i was searching for something or someone to encourage me to do it and i decided to listen to your message and a the end of the day i realized i had listened to your message about fear and how you said " I'm going to do it anyway "" and i just did it and i had an Amazing Time and Day All Day Long! Thank you Mel
Yes good day I I won't pay two blocks this morning and the exercise for a hour relaxing to your head song it up a little bit
Divine intervention for sure! The attacks of the devil are very real!
This made me cry, too.
Keep going Mel! God will meet you where you are; He wants the best for everyone. He wants to lavishly love every single human being - that will let Him. 💙
ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT VIDEOS, OF MY 35 YEAR SPIRITUAL JOURNEY!!! THANK YOU!!!❤️💛💚 I ALREADY POSTED IT ON MY SOCIAL MEDIA, TO SPREAD THE WORD!!!🙌🏽
Read the Bible and be blessed
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Yes, thank you! Every “spiritual journey” needs God’s Word! The fear of God is the beginning of Wisdom
This is really wonderful,such a tiny bit of power condensed for a moment hifiving yourself in the mirror daily.. a shot …so fast, no need to sit in a chair for 10 minutes … brilliant … I love what you say .. so basic, no frills
The most difficult thing for me to do is to brush my teeth. It may be that my depression is too far gone to benefit from this inspiring advice.
It's kind of strange to know that every couple of minutes you are telling part of my story as if you are in my head. I completely get it! There's a lot of good information here. and for myself, I have been on a path of self-discovery and self-healing for years, and yet find there is still something missing. I have hope that your books, which i just ordered, will help. Can't wait to read them.
Is it amazing how we’re more a like as human than we think we are. We’re all pretty much the same inwardly. I am just so glad that it people like Mel Robbins that have the intelligence and insight to help us with insights like this.
1. check your nutrition (make sure you have your daily dose of all vitamines and minerals)
2. exercise
3. Change bad (mental) habbits
works for me. Good luck!
Read the Bible talk to God, His love for you is unconditional, He brings emotional,mental and physical healing. Jesus loves you
Wow I’m sitting here crying. This is so powerful thank you so much❤
I love how honest you are Mel it makes you so relatable …
I'm so glad I got to see this video. Because i started basically the same thing for myself a few months ago and since then I've accomplished greater things but I'm still a work in progress and I struggle sometimes with getting up and doing this for myself every day until the other day when you Mel popped up in my for you videos on something I really needed to see. It was about narcissist because I'm a scapegoat in a family full of narcissistic people, but I've also learned a self-doubt self-sabotage and self-hate for the last four decades of my life. So over the last couple days I had to get up and start doing this again and pull myself out of the bottom of the depression bucket. Yes I suffer with bipolar depression and I do not take meds. Will not take meds. They just make it worse so I've learned how to rewire my thinking so when I saw myself at the bottom of that bucket I said to myself Christy. It's time to get out of that bucket and put myself right back into this training to know my selfworth. So thank you for reiterating for me by putting this video out. Thank you, Mel you are a blessing in disguise for me. And I can tell you with honest and sincerity. You are one of the people that have helped me retrain my thinking to know that I am here for a reason and that I am good enough so Thank you. And from somebody who can have suicidal thoughts from time to time, you're also my savior, one of them anyways......
So good to hear this now, a week after Hurricane Ian in SWFL. It is so easy to forget about yourself and what i need. I feel guilt because I weathered the storm better than others. I needed to see this today. I’ve been practicing gratitude for others, everything outside of me. I am Implementing this new practice right now! High five to me! Love you Mel!
I love in the background when you're talking about how you use the just do it anyway rule that you're colleague says "yeah you do" when you hate working out
I luv listening to this! Everything being said is exactley how I feel! I cant afford to go talk to anyone! And noone around me truly listens to me! I just feel lost!!
Mel I have been binge watching you so I am not sure which video you mentioned it in but it was to do with you not loving the way you look. I am here to tell you last week I was at the hairdresser and pulled out your photo and said to her I want to look like Mel. 💕
Thank you for your amazing motivation.
Wild that this is actually a tactic. I never liked staring at myself in the mirror but when im having a really rough time and the old hurts of the past creep up and my depression trickles back in, I'm lying in bed crying, unable to get up. I'd pat myself on the head and whisper to myself that I am a good bean and I will come out of it ok. The same way a doting grandparent might do. Always made me feel better and now i understand. Positive self talk is so important. Cheering for yourself is necessary when you don't have anyone else in the stands.
Tears …. You hit so many things on the nose. I’m 41, just left my narcissistic husband with my 2 1/2 year old (gave birth 2 weeks before covid), was hit by a semi after leaving my husband, and to get any kind of comfort have eatin myself into a huge space. I hate how I look right now. But always have. My mom hated her weight. I put my value in my weight. Yet I’m such an empath and love everyone else for all their beautiful so called flaws. I’m going to try this but I normally avoid the mirror unless I’m 160 pounds. So lost. Thank you for coming in to my life. - a lost soul in Wisconsin
I’m rooting for you. All things really are possible and you are beautiful
Wow, so this is what we do. Even the most successful people struggle with being kind to themselves. I took me years to learn how to be nice to myself and I am still learning. This is brilliant. Thank you.
This video will change my life. I thought of people with whom I want to share this throughout the entire video. Mel, you have created something life changing. You are, in fact, an awesome speaker. What an absolutely flawless presentation….with unbelievable content. Your words resonated with me on a powerful level. I am so grateful that the universe lead me here. Thank you for sharing your gift. I would love to meet you one day…..in the language of intention , I will meet you. I cannot wait to devour more of your work. 👏👏👏💕
Mel this was the most amazing truth after so many years of a blessed therapist I am too grateful ❤️ for you. Love you for your truth! It's a practice to be honest!!! With yourself and action towards words we say to ourselves. I am going to do my mirror work. Thank you, 👍. Also I teach children and I always high five them but never myself!
24.00 mark was one of my favorites of this discussion. Catching thoughts and momentarily tricking my brain into new thoughts worked for me. I was lucky or persistent and found an exceptional therapist years ago who was able to use imagery and metaphor. I'm a writer and it's how I think. The laughter in this discussion around momentarily tricking the brain is something. The energy got a turbo charge and you could see that joy and humor taking over. That's why traditional group therapy can be so great. Lots of surprises in the back and forth and then aha moments. These videos and the comments are the new group therapy. If you can laugh during self discovery and improvement all the better.
THIS IS A SUCH A WONDERFUL, FASCINATING INTERVIEW--MEL IS SHARING A SIMPLE YET ENORMOUSLY IMPORTANT IDEA AND INSIGHT!
WE NEED TO START PERCEIVING OUR REFLECTION IN THE MIRROR THAT WE LOOK AT EVERY DAY AS OUR BEST FRIEND THAT WE SHOULD HELP/ ENCOURAGE AND THAT WE ALSO CAN RELY ON!
Thank you 🙏😊 Mel Robbins 🙂❤
You're a life changer 😢 😉
Love you 😘
I so needed this. I’ve been working on myself with my negative thoughts 8 years ago. Everything your saying is right on. The energy is what it’s about. It wasn’t easy, but you see through and learn so much about yourself. ❤❤
mel i think this is why tiktok and youtube for kids and people working through something is so vitally important. we get to watch a play by play of ourselves being our most authentic self. it also enforces how dangerous it can be if you show up disingenuously. it’s such a cool form of self awareness.
Thank you Mel! I did the high five 1 minute and changed my anxiety
I'm 62 and am going to do this 🙏
Thank you. Chronic illness and mom of three. I haven't seen my face in years. I picture my mother's face instead of mine when I think of what I look like. This makes me feel like a real person. Thank you
I high fived myself this morning and my first thought was “don’t actually touch the mirror and get it dirty”😅
Same! I never touch the mirror … 😂
Put or hold a piece of translucent plastic there for the time being 😉
Great video, Mel!
I could be asleep for 2 days/ nights straight… felt horrible because of the time lost but couldn’t do a thing about it… One small step at a time by getting mosey out of the rut…
Thank you for sharing, Mel, exceptionally helpful: make your brain and body work for “ ME”!!!!
Thank you so much Mel. I did high five and cried instantly. I said I am proud of you and tears rolled down. It felt I wanted to hear that from others for validation. I don’t need that and I am enough 😌
Love those eye frames!
I need to change my actions and attitude, treat myself better no negative self talk.
Thank you for keeping it simple... so informative...I have changed today just from listening to you and tomorrow I will implement a new way of taking care of my brain in all areas you mentioned.
The spiritual component of the High Five Habit is that it is an act of worship; you are telling the most high GOD that he created you awesome and HE blesses you for that. You are positioning yourself into the unforced rhythm of Love.
It starts with others that criticize you...whether jealous or feel you should do things differently...each person should grow as able...each have different ways to accomplish the same task...you get judged by how you learn or how you mold yourself of a task...if too many on you and if you befriend others that count on you or you count on them it you must be the same match of generosity and sobriety will and likes...eventually things pile high of their judgments ...its hard to not give up.. especially pure exhaustion...they won't understand....its always you should haves instead of how it should be of the taking all factors into play ....the recipe of the day..shame and guilt only debilitates..and when you encourage another too much then you get stepped on..eventually your attitude becomes attitude and youre segregated and forgotten
You hit it right on the "nail". Thank you for all your encouragement you make life better for so many.
Must have needed these reminders right now. Watched a you tube video Mel put up ages ago where she uses herself as an example using the 5 sec rule before going on stage. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 I'm excited and explained the physiologically excitement and fear feel both the same. That got me to the dentist first time in 20 years, now I go every 6 months.
Am going to try the 5 high habit today! Thanks Mel Robbins
OMG. when he's talking about how something like this can help the single mom--that's me--& I'm so happy & so grateful, but it's also SO f*ing hard!! Always I say to myself "if anyone can do it, it's me"; & that's been helpful in getting things done, but this goes a step further to actually acknowledging THAT it's not easy & that we each deserve & need to be kind to ourselves--if for no other reason than to keep on carrying on. Thank you!!
As much as you love these one on ones, so do I. Video podcast uncensored and no time limit, I really enjoy.
Remembering when I was a teenager there was an old guy that walked down main street and when he encountered us he would say "up top" and high-5 us as he passed by. we loved that guy.
I added to my morning routine going back to sleep thank you one and all.
Thank you, my dearest!!! I remember myslef, how I used only two or tree times not to see and listen some videos by ironing, I have no TV by the way, but I looked into the mirror like at a good and unexpected nice and lovely friend. I will shurely give myself these high 5 in the mirror, my depression caused by MS and ADHD need it since many, many years.
Hi my name is Jenna and I am from Glasgow . I am so grateful for your videos as you have helped me and still are today . I'm your biggest fan ahaha maybe in Scotland ahaha x thankyou for being you and I wouldn't mind being you Mel your amazing inside and out x sending my love from Scotland
This mom whose 2 kids think she’s so awful. One won’t let her meet her grand child and barely get to see the others, I’m leaving so much out, I really needed this! Thank you 🙏🏻
I needed this at the beginning of the pandemic my oldest beautiful son died. I find myself stuck in denial and WHY WHY thank you
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
Amazing convo! Thanks Ladies, you’re inspiring me to be a better me.❤❤❤❤❤
Just wanted to thank you for ur video about " want things done, DO IT, GET IT DONE!! Today I did! Yay, I did...it's little things..
This is such an eye opener on so many levels. Thank you for sharing this. I have changes to make!
Your honesty is refreshing!
You make us feel your presence in the room of hope
Oh my God I am ndikolantya Farouk from Uganda Africa and am watching and liking and love your ideas,prayers and support may God bless you thanks
Just watched this again to share some videos with my friends and it’s so re-energizing and I LOVE it! I needed this reminder today!
I am only 11 minutes in and already appreciate this .. needed this one !
🙏😘🙏 I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MEL...GOD BLESS YOU...I PRAY YOUR SHOW COMES BACK, IT REALLY HELPED ME SO MUCH...I REALLY MISS IT!!! 🙏😟🙏
I am grateful for stumbling on this utube…after having a good cry thinking about life stuff just before I saw this…
Thank you so much for redirecting the kind and caring human being in me is worth it!
Interstestly never thought lying due to self worth and low self'stem was a thing or, the reason. Good to understand
It’s just self recognition of self 👊🏻. You are validated by yourself not by someone else 🥰. Giving yourself a psychological approval 💕
Mel. Your skin is Flawless. Your hair looks amazing and I really like you in those stylish frames.
Content is life changing.
Thank You for the gift
And thank you for teaching me how to manifest great things too cuz I have been manifesting some awesome things the last 6 months
I don’t know how Mel Robbins popped up when searching for some answers to pick myself up, but boy does she break it down to the truth!!! In the same time I’ve been watching Brene Brown. I wonder if these two women talk?!
I use mirror gazing as a form of self love usually with a warm cup of tea.. cause lets be honest i do like to look at myself, since transitioning to non binary feminine i do love what i see.. i love this!!
God Bless,
Shri Riley
This is magical and I feel it will change my life and finally help me to let go and move upwards and onwards 💞
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Love Mel's passion and excitement sharing this simple yet powerful routine! Ofcourse I'm giving this my best try the next week!
Good thing all about this podcast or whatever talk ,it's free take or leave . Used for your life
This brought me to tears!
Made me cry too, she gets it.
The mirror high-five is a moment of saying you care about oneself. It will shake one to the core to be acknowledged and received by oneself. Gratitude is the central seed.
Fighting yourself to do things that get you ahead in life is the hardest but Mel will get us through this !
Thank you for your very influential talk, so good for us humans !