@Sorry Sorry: I put my trust in Yahweh, who says that he who findeth a wife, finds a good thing, and that it is not good for man to be alone. However, I do agree with you on one point- you are, indeed, sorry.
Pay attention to how she treats other people, because that is eventually how she will treat you, Such an important subject and some great advice thank you
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So hard to find such a lady even within the christian circles. Majority of them are just whining how men are mistreating them while they neglect their character. But by God's grace, I have this type of lady in my life. She is what I prayed for. Can't wait to get married to her.
The Pharisees used to go to widows houses to rip them off and then pray in pretense to cover their ROBBERIES.Jesus himself said so. God said DIRECTLY women will dream dreams and see visions.He uses them EQUALLY.Deutoronomy SAYS IN Chapter 22 verse 25 and on IF YOU RAPE A WOMAN THIS IS EQUAL TO KILLING A MAN GOD DEMANDS THE DEATH PENATLY FOR RAPE. The bible says SUBMIT TO MEN AS TO GOD.But they left off something important if you as a woman submit to a man HE CAN'T GIVE YOU ETERNAL LIFE.Only God can do that.How many men abuse their power?Some or more are raping your kids but because you follow them blindly YOU DON'T QUESTION!!!Your allegiance is to God not your husband.The jews Jesus Christ himself changed the laws of God and made them void by saying GIVES GIVES YOUR GIFTS TO THE THE TEMPLE INSTEADOF YOUR PARENTS.THEY IMPOSED THEIR CONVENIENT LAWS OVER GOD'S. QUESTION: LADIES WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THE JEWS DIDN'T DO THE SAME THING WITH YOU? I heard videos that say that the most POWERFUL MYSOGONIST PAY PASTORS to water down the word of God.What they did to us as women then they are repeating it again today.How many misogonist are pastors today? How many times have you heard preach that the book of Job says LOOKING AT A WOMAN WITH LUST IS A CRIME? So it's safe to conclude that PORNAGRAPHY IS ILLEGAL.IS RAPE CULTURE ILLEGAL?IS HUMAN TRAFFICKING ILLEGAL? DO YOU SEE WHERE I AM GOING WITH THIS?LADIES THE MEN IN POWER DON'T PLACE US IN THE CONSTITUTION AS INDEPENDENT INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE EQUAL WITH MEN THAT'S WHY RAPE CULTURE IS SO COMMON.THEY SELLBWOMEN LIKE CATTLE. THEY ARE THE ENEMIES.WE NEED LAWSUITS TO INCLUDE US IN THE CONSTITUTION THEN INFORCE LAWS TO PROTECT US!!!
Aw I love stories like this! Unfortunately that’s who I used to be complaining about men but I think God is changing my heart for the better. I also am not neglecting my character anymore. I’m happy for you and wish you and her the best and pray that God gives you two strength, guidance, and wisdom in your relationship
I THINK I FOUND HER!! OH YESS LORD I DID!! She's the most beautiful, humble and such an amazing woman..and better yet she's the Pastor's daughter! Ooh thank YOU JESUS!! Pray that God guides our love 🙏🏾
I was nervous about this video after being married for 13 years...but this was a great video. Even if you checked off all these things in your wife, remember the only one perfect in your marriage is the God you both serve. Keep your eyes on Him and your marriage will be heaven on earth.
I feel like that could backfire if there's problems or someone is dissatisfied with the sex in marriage. Not the waiting, but putting too much stake in it
Having sex before marriage could potentially make you see that your partner only wants you for sex. Seriously, I'd much rather go in knowing I can live with my partner and be compatible, and know that they care about me, versus not knowing anything and rushing into a marriage.
@@theblackmonktech hard to have a standard for sex when you've only had it with one person. I mean after all, love is the essential ingredient in sex. Ask anyone who's had a one night stand.
@@EricSmyth2Christ Yeah that's true. I mean put stake on it like thinking sex is gonna solve problems. Or the anticipation that leads people to get married really fast, not for love but sex.
Great stuff to consider! I tell my boys that I'm already praying for godly women to meet and marry. Also, tell them "if she loves Jesus more than you, she's alright!"
Hey Nelson! Thanks so much man. Always looking forward to your videos as well! Hey, I got my new camera and now I'm waiting to get my new lights in. I'll text you!
Not a virgin sadly but I promised God I would not have sex again till i got married and I've kept that promise of not engaging in sexual sin but I did struggle what the future may hold because of choices i made but God set me free and now I'm about to be 40 and loving my peace of mind in this area. Just glad God forgives. Thank you Jesus! Who knows maybe one day a new relationship :)
I’m 25 and I’ve made that same mistake and made that same promise to God and so far haven’t made that mistake again thank God 🙏🏻 but I struggle to feel forgiven sometimes and experience that peace that surpasses all understanding with Jesus because of those past mistakes always haunting me.
Im a woman and there are still 2 things I need to improve. 1. Being able to connect with other people - Perks of being an introvert.. But I am a loyal friend and to my family. 2. Dress well. Hahaha I even wear something that does not encourage men to like me 😂😂😂 sometimes I wear like a nerd, Sometimes I wear a house clothes, and I love slippers at all time. And also I still need to work on my healthy diet. And so I conclude... I am still not yet ready for a relationship and marriage 😂😂😂
I think his advice is just advice. But God has the final word as it relates to your life. A man can come into your life and you exhibit the traits he has been praying for. Even if your dressing may not appease EVERY man. It will attract the man God has in store for you. He may also like your introverted personality. There is no one size fits all when it comes to what men like hun. I’ve learned we just need to trust God and not lean on our own understanding.
Good stuff definitely have to look how she behaves around others and how she treats them. Some main things to always look for is how dedicated she is to the Lord, having a servants heart, meek, compassionate, etc. A huge thing is knowing roles in marriage if we can't agree with basic biblical doctrine everything will fall apart. No guys wants to keep knocking heads with his wife.....really defeats a man. The sexual purity part was spot on God bless brother.
R Malone I am, and as a man and as someone who knows how men think generally speaking, I can tell you most men DO value and look for sexual pure women. Bless you sis.
@@jollygoodgordon5580 you desire it but do you keep yourself in the same way is the question, women virgins literally at older ages with men who expect that but don't give the same, they can indulge but you shouldn't be when they meet you..it be nice to see men who practice this as well not always be the woman doing that
I love this. As a single female, I’ve found that a majority of Christian men I have encountered have said they won’t be in relationship without sex prior to marriage. I really value sexual purity but I don’t feel that’s something commonly respected or even desired in much of the church. It’s pretty discouraging. So on that point, I have to say my experiences have been much different.
Sorry to say that none of those men are true Christians then. A true Christian understands the importance of sexual purity. And the importance of marriage
These are men who are either not Christian or claim Christianity but want the world. Some Women unfortunately are like this too. It's very awful when you want to preserve your body for marriage but somebody doesn't want that. But God is good. We attract who we are becoming. Many don't believe me when I say this , but I've seen it in people's relationships. God opens our eyes to wisdom. Don't lower your standards. A Godly man will value those things. It's been 5 years since your comment. Praying you found someone, or are still walking heavily with God 🙏🏾
1.she is committed 2.she is a team player 3.she has a submissive spirit 4.she values sexual spirit 5.a woman who takes pride in her physical appearance
Pride is a problem. Are you willing to be cast into the lake of fire for keeping Sunday, Christmas, Easter, your birthday, fathers day, mothers day, independence day, Lent, Advent season, etc? The Roman catholic church forbids their priests (people) from marrying. Many times, you hear them say people should not eat red meat like beef. God created sheep, bulls, goats, doves, pigeons, quails, grasshoppers, locusts, fish with fins and scales to be received with thanksgiving. King Jesus Christ never ate swine's flesh, the mouse or any other abomination. Are you following: the true Jesus or another Jesus (2 Corinthians 11:4)? the true gospel or another gospel? the Holy Ghost or another spirit? The word of God must be rightly divided.
@@1newearth I suggest you read Mark 7 and reflect on it friend. Our God told us that it is what comes from within a man that can defile him, evil thoughts and actions. Jesus made all food clean.
I’ve been led on twice by supposedly “Godly” women. It hurts to have someone make you think they want to build with you and then you find out they just used you for attention. I worry about if I will ever find that person my soul loves now because now I have to keep worrying about being used again.
I feel you man. You just have to keep an eye out for red flags. At the first one the holy spirit will make it known to you or even way before. Give your desire to God
I feel that. Watch for major red flags. One in an ex was that she cheated . I forgave her and she wanted to keep talking, but i ceased contact and blocked her from all social media. She got married at some point only for me to find her on a dating app I use and saw her profile months back. Gods protection is the best
I agree with you and I truly appreciate this video, but respectfully, there is just one thing that I'd like to share. I notice that there is emphasis on spiritual "people" in the area of submission that you mention here. Respectfully, the submission to God alone is key because submission to God alone is the truth teller. For a woman (or a man) to be submitted to a pastor or spiritual leader can actually mean nothing, and it's possible that it may not be a good indicator because the truth is that there are many people who are willing to submit to a spiritual father or pastor more than or rather than God. Submission is for God, not man. So, I'd like to suggest that the solution is to focus on her (or his) personal submission to God. If one's eye is on that, than the view will be more clearer than looking through the lens of submission to a pastor or leader. Colossians 3:18 says, 'Wives submit to your husbands as unto the Lord' (meaning as to the Lord). One cannot fake submission to the Lord. If someone is not submitted to the Lord, it doesn't take long for that to become apparent. When a woman is not submitted the Lord, a man can feel the impossibleness, if that's a word, of her not submitting to him. But if he happens to depend seeing how she submits to spiritual leadership, it can take much longer for the truth to come out. When a woman is submitted to the Lord, life is much easier, and she will automatically respect her husband. Thanks Allan Parr for sharing this video. God bless you!
Great message brother! I prayed every night I hit puberty that I would find that 1 woman to spend my life with; took a long time of heart break to find my other half, but it was well worth the wait. Intercourse isn’t something a person should rush upon in this world. Strong message and keep me coming! God bless you and yours!
@@Africanesther1 Jack Hyles, the pastor of First Baptist Church, in Hammond, Indiana, was a fundamentalist. He despised liberals who did not believe in the inerrancy of scripture. Yet in one of his books he came close to saying that the book of Esther did not belong in the Bible. Esther married a divorced pagan man. Hyles was not impressed.
This is a great video, as your videos usually are. I think it's important for men to make sure we put ourselves in position to be worthy of being a leader and submitted to. And part of that is being humble enough to always look out for his wife first and/ or out for him and his wife as a unit oppose to just our own wants or desire.
Well probably because God has marriage planned for you someday? Maybe even in a few years. Either way, focus on God and start getting yourself in order.
@@ReformedSooner24 This. God calls us to marriage, and you're just feeling that call! I caution, though, that He has placed you in this season of singleness to prepare you! Jesus said in Matthew 6, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, THEN all these things (food, drink, clothing.. life's needs) will be added unto you.
Our youth leader in our church always told us through reunions,bible study,and preaching that find someone who treats people and their family especially their mother and father right and find someone who will love you as much as she loves God.
Great biblically sound advice! I have 4 boys! And these video are Shor sweet and to the point. I agree with everything you have said and you have said it in 8 min when I would ramble on for an hour. Thank you so much for these awesome!
I think it is important when we are in friendships with the opposite gender to guard our hearts. I was recently friends with someone who indicated that he liked me and I was really praying about it, but suddenly he just got into a relationship with another girl. He really hurt me. I pray and ask that all brothers in Christ would be careful with how they treat their sisters--caring for their hearts and not leading them into false hope (if they aren't interested in a relationship). I know sisters in Christ should do the same but men are the pursuers in this area.
I'm sorry you had this painful experience. I've been there too - it hurts for sure. I pray God continues to meet you in the pain and shows you His truth in the midst of it all. 💜
Fluxed DeLorean o please don’t say that. Having the wrong woman would be worse than being alone. Ask God to bring the RIGHT woman into your life & begin preparing yourself for her. God bless you.
Thanks everyone. I’ve prayed for a long time. I just wish I knew if I was supposed to get married or if I was wasting my time.. you know? I’m 30 and women my age don’t seem interested in meeting a Christian.
Good morning Allen! What a glorious day for the Lord to come unto us to help clarify our confusion ( since he is not the Author of confusion), edify & remove the veil that's been covering the truth!
She's The One Thank You Lord For Bringing Molly Into My Life She Has Turned My Life Around And I Feel Amazing and Spritually Sound with her and her Father is a Pastor as I am a Minister Excited To Serve in Ministry
Awesome videos. . Your wife is so blessed to have you! Great content. I would caution any man leaning on submissiveness as a determinate factor when choosing a wife. I’ve seen many men fall for this trap. Some unGodly women use this tactic just to play along because they know a mans need for control/dominance in a relationship. Always ask God to reveal to you whether this person is your wife/husband (as you’ve mentioned before).
Yep. I prayed and God been telling me that she is the one but not when I wanted her. I had to work on my own relationship with God first. We’re officially a couple now and taking things step by step but she’ll be my wife. That’s for sure.
Thank you brother Allen for this video! Yes, I agree. I am so glad that through my single years, God worked deeply in my life and cultivated these qualities in me, so I have a much stronger character now. I saw these qualities in my mother who became my role model, she was an excellent example of a godly wife and mother. God bless!
Very powerful message and I need to hear this and everything you said and your points are spot on and 2 I want that in a women who will loves God and loves me for me and get know the real me.
It hurts to think of wasting so many years on men and becoming mentally broken because I didn't know this information..But I know the truth now and I thank God for helping me out of the darkness. Just becoming a Christian I feel like I have been working on most of these topics already. I think I go read Ruth soon haha. Thanks for the video it is a great reminder and goals to strive for
Brother, I engaged a girl 18y/o thinking she was a godly woman, she was not at the beginning she was but she moved to Atlanta from Florida and things towards the middle and end of our relationship showed me she was very selfish when she wanted me to move up there leave my career here in aviation and wasn't supporting me when I got a second job to help my family she also fought with my mother and my grandmother about me moving up to Atlanta, trying to be the man when clearly that was my job and then blamed me for not being one when I told her she wasnt respecting me as a man It seems like she just wanted me for a purse then her husband. She was very toxic she started blaming me for the whole relationship why she was breaking up saying I'm not a man and that if I don't leave the house no woman would ever love me. she started saying I'm not making decisions the right way even though I took advice from my mother and my grandmother when she says they're brainwashing me which isn't the case cuz I took wise advice and her dad really loved me and thought it was a great son-in-law but her mom wondered why I wouldn't make a decision even though I did wasn't for what she wanted she wanted me to move in to her parents house sell my new car to get a cheaper car and save up for an apartment in Atlanta while I'm making good money here I just got promoted up the airport I work at and I'm working a second job to help pay my family's bills she didn't support me with this now I see she wasn't a Godly woman she wasn't Ruth and so God took an atomic bomb away from me she might be a little bit bipolar but I just turned 24 and I've been in a lot of relationships I really did love her but the Holy Spirit tells you when something is not right and he clearly did with me cuz we fought a lot at the end thank you for the godly advice you will help me in the future
Allen, I have a question about being married and balancing a social life. I feel that lots of women go to the extreme that when they are in relationship, their friends suddenly don’t exist. I’m a single woman and find it hard to make friends because most of the women I meet (in church and out) are so wrapped up in their relationships. I know it’s also unhealthy to do the opposite (spending too much time with friends and telling them everything about your relationship). Can you please do a video on this.
I agree with everything you said except one this can be complicated... When you are working for the Lord and you are set apart for his Purpose people will come and go out of your life, your relationship with your family will shift because you are not who you used to be.... Let this be okay they are not going where God is trying to take you...
The 5 Essential Qualities a Guy Should Do To Judge Her Character Based On Whether She Acts Like Ruth. The surest way to divorce is project a standard of behavior on an adult woman.
Robin Leslie My doesn’t dislike someone for no reason. So if my mother doesn’t take to my girlfriend there’s a big reason for it, and something I have to look out for. Is definitely take it into consideration.
Our pastor always discourages youngsters from marrying someone their parents don't like. Parents have life experience and if Christian wisdom from God. They know you better than anyone else and they can see who is good for you .
The woman I'm pursuing is a pastor at my church, and I know she is a Godly woman. I however, need your prayers because there are a few things in my life that will not make me a good Christian husband, especially a pastor's husband.
We will be never perfect on this Earth with these bodies brother... Read Romans 7! God works in HIS time... The LORD GOD is JESUS - Revelation 22:6-16! Jesus bless you and her!
@@jeanpaulgartier3404 Bro your response was disgusting. Strutting in here all smart and better like you dont grieve God everyday. But sure let's call a fellow brother a sinner for a mistake.
I think this list is pretty spot on. The only thing I’d like to add is that woman are visual creatures as well and like their man to also look respectable/ take care of themselves. Taking care of yourself is just a good rule in general. Just wasn’t a fan of how it was spoken that women should have to worry about how they look but men don’t. I don’t think that is how you meant it but that is how it felt to me.
Lord let me be a Ruth, let me be a Godly woman. Let my Boaz find and pursue me.
Amen
Lol
Well I walked by faith and not by sight and my Boaz found me... We got engaged last fall. Getting married this summer.
@Sorry Sorry: I put my trust in Yahweh, who says that he who findeth a wife, finds a good thing, and that it is not good for man to be alone. However, I do agree with you on one point- you are, indeed, sorry.
sounds like a god fearing prayer, god bless !!!!!
@@dr.dermixgirlmd7479 Dont listen to that guy hes just probably a atheist troll. I pray for you and your future husband
Pay attention to how she treats other people, because that is eventually how she will treat you, Such an important subject and some great advice thank you
Direct reflection
Man I should have seen this a while ago in my past relationship! Absolute truth.
thats good advice with friendships also
But how to know about attitude before marriage when we have not seen before ???... Pls guide me
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Chaplain Reece AMEN BROTHA !!!!
Chaplain Reece Amen....I’m sure your testimony is powerful
Tyler Sipes hast been easy at all! God is Faithful. If you can hold on, He Will Pull You Through! God Bless
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So hard to find such a lady even within the christian circles. Majority of them are just whining how men are mistreating them while they neglect their character. But by God's grace, I have this type of lady in my life. She is what I prayed for. Can't wait to get married to her.
Wilson Waigwa I hope it works out for you!
That's the truth my brother
My brother, reke gwere, change those circles. There are good women out here!
The Pharisees used to go to widows houses to rip them off and then pray in pretense to cover their ROBBERIES.Jesus himself said so.
God said DIRECTLY women will dream dreams and see visions.He uses them EQUALLY.Deutoronomy SAYS IN Chapter 22 verse 25 and on IF YOU RAPE A WOMAN THIS IS EQUAL TO KILLING A MAN GOD DEMANDS THE DEATH PENATLY FOR RAPE.
The bible says SUBMIT TO MEN AS TO GOD.But they left off something important if you as a woman submit to a man HE CAN'T GIVE YOU ETERNAL LIFE.Only God can do that.How many men abuse their power?Some or more are raping your kids but because you follow them blindly YOU DON'T QUESTION!!!Your allegiance is to God not your husband.The jews Jesus Christ himself changed the laws of God and made them void by saying GIVES GIVES YOUR GIFTS TO THE THE TEMPLE INSTEADOF YOUR PARENTS.THEY IMPOSED THEIR CONVENIENT LAWS OVER GOD'S.
QUESTION: LADIES WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THE JEWS DIDN'T DO THE SAME THING WITH YOU?
I heard videos that say that the most POWERFUL MYSOGONIST PAY PASTORS to water down the word of God.What they did to us as women then they are repeating it again today.How many misogonist are pastors today?
How many times have you heard preach that the book of Job says LOOKING AT A WOMAN WITH LUST IS A CRIME? So it's safe to conclude that PORNAGRAPHY IS ILLEGAL.IS RAPE CULTURE ILLEGAL?IS HUMAN TRAFFICKING ILLEGAL?
DO YOU SEE WHERE I AM GOING WITH THIS?LADIES THE MEN IN POWER DON'T PLACE US IN THE CONSTITUTION AS INDEPENDENT INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE EQUAL WITH MEN THAT'S WHY RAPE CULTURE IS SO COMMON.THEY SELLBWOMEN LIKE CATTLE.
THEY ARE THE ENEMIES.WE NEED LAWSUITS TO INCLUDE US IN THE CONSTITUTION THEN INFORCE LAWS TO PROTECT US!!!
Aw I love stories like this! Unfortunately that’s who I used to be complaining about men but I think God is changing my heart for the better. I also am not neglecting my character anymore. I’m happy for you and wish you and her the best and pray that God gives you two strength, guidance, and wisdom in your relationship
You just described my fiance, she's awesome. A tad bit stubborn, but amazing.
Lol
Awwwwwwww
Hahahahahaha just a tad....
Congrats 🙏
😂😂
5 GOOD QIALITIES
1. Committment
2. Team Player
3. Submission
4. Values sexual purity
5. Takes pride in her appearance
Pride is a problem.
@@1newearth „Takes care of her appearance“
Why is attention to appearance only a female thing? We don’t want men to look nice too? Women are what? Not visually stimulated🙄
@@yurfavsunflower I don't know, but i'm not putting on makeup anytime soon. I don't care what she says!
@@Ganruut123 Lol😅
I THINK I FOUND HER!! OH YESS LORD I DID!! She's the most beautiful, humble and such an amazing woman..and better yet she's the Pastor's daughter! Ooh thank YOU JESUS!! Pray that God guides our love 🙏🏾
Can I get an update, drama man?
Just the "I think I found her" is making people doubt that you create the situation yourself...🤷🏽♀️#sorrynotsorry
are u two still together?
Updates??
“And when the world needed him most he vanished” XD
I was nervous about this video after being married for 13 years...but this was a great video. Even if you checked off all these things in your wife, remember the only one perfect in your marriage is the God you both serve. Keep your eyes on Him and your marriage will be heaven on earth.
I am 28 and praying to God for a wife and family but His will be done not mine.
Marriage is overrated
You CAN pray to Father God for a wife.
Salt is Good where are you if I may ask
Goodluck.
This was so good. Especially the part about not giving up the goods before marriage. To be honest that’s half the reason for marriage .
I feel like that could backfire if there's problems or someone is dissatisfied with the sex in marriage. Not the waiting, but putting too much stake in it
Having sex before marriage could potentially make you see that your partner only wants you for sex. Seriously, I'd much rather go in knowing I can live with my partner and be compatible, and know that they care about me, versus not knowing anything and rushing into a marriage.
@@theblackmonktech hard to have a standard for sex when you've only had it with one person. I mean after all, love is the essential ingredient in sex. Ask anyone who's had a one night stand.
@@theblackmonktech no one waits then says "derp derp it's horrible". No virgin marriage that is.
Maybe an arranged marriage, but still
@@EricSmyth2Christ Yeah that's true. I mean put stake on it like thinking sex is gonna solve problems. Or the anticipation that leads people to get married really fast, not for love but sex.
Great stuff to consider! I tell my boys that I'm already praying for godly women to meet and marry. Also, tell them "if she loves Jesus more than you, she's alright!"
have u found her?
@@ebonyy5248 I have
Jammed packed with God's truth... as usual. Well done, brother!
Hey Nelson! Thanks so much man. Always looking forward to your videos as well! Hey, I got my new camera and now I'm waiting to get my new lights in. I'll text you!
@@thebeatagp Awesome! Let me know if I can help in any way.
Not a virgin sadly but I promised God I would not have sex again till i got married and I've kept that promise of not engaging in sexual sin but I did struggle what the future may hold because of choices i made but God set me free and now I'm about to be 40 and loving my peace of mind in this area. Just glad God forgives. Thank you Jesus! Who knows maybe one day a new relationship :)
I’m 25 and I’ve made that same mistake and made that same promise to God and so far haven’t made that mistake again thank God 🙏🏻 but I struggle to feel forgiven sometimes and experience that peace that surpasses all understanding with Jesus because of those past mistakes always haunting me.
A good man will love for who you are now, not who you have been, so ling as you're honest. Hope you find him.
I like listening to you, man. You're a strong brother in the Lord and someday I want to be strong like you.
Same brother
I deff found her 🥺 thank you Lord for bringing my baby into my life! I love how she loves the Lord and puts Him before me! Real proverbs 31 woman ❤️
Happy for u brudda
@@locobielsa8646 thank you 🙏🏾❤️
Im a woman and there are still 2 things I need to improve.
1. Being able to connect with other people - Perks of being an introvert.. But I am a loyal friend and to my family.
2. Dress well. Hahaha I even wear something that does not encourage men to like me 😂😂😂 sometimes I wear like a nerd, Sometimes I wear a house clothes, and I love slippers at all time. And also I still need to work on my healthy diet.
And so I conclude... I am still not yet ready for a relationship and marriage 😂😂😂
I think his advice is just advice.
But God has the final word as it relates to your life.
A man can come into your life and you exhibit the traits he has been praying for. Even if your dressing may not appease EVERY man. It will attract the man God has in store for you.
He may also like your introverted personality.
There is no one size fits all when it comes to what men like hun.
I’ve learned we just need to trust God and not lean on our own understanding.
Ooo the Holy Spirit is using you! Thank you I need to work on and sharpen to some things . Thank you for Grace and God’s timing. I ain’t ready yet!
Good stuff definitely have to look how she behaves around others and how she treats them. Some main things to always look for is how dedicated she is to the Lord, having a servants heart, meek, compassionate, etc. A huge thing is knowing roles in marriage if we can't agree with basic biblical doctrine everything will fall apart. No guys wants to keep knocking heads with his wife.....really defeats a man. The sexual purity part was spot on God bless brother.
Most men are not looking for a woman that is sexually pure.
R Malone I am, and as a man and as someone who knows how men think generally speaking, I can tell you most men DO value and look for sexual pure women. Bless you sis.
@@jollygoodgordon5580 forgive my stereotype mentality but most of them only seek the pure ones with the evil motive to 'indulge' and then ghost her
@@jollygoodgordon5580 you desire it but do you keep yourself in the same way is the question, women virgins literally at older ages with men who expect that but don't give the same, they can indulge but you shouldn't be when they meet you..it be nice to see men who practice this as well not always be the woman doing that
An intelligent, humble, spiritual person. How refreshing! Thanks Allen.
I love this. As a single female, I’ve found that a majority of Christian men I have encountered have said they won’t be in relationship without sex prior to marriage. I really value sexual purity but I don’t feel that’s something commonly respected or even desired in much of the church. It’s pretty discouraging. So on that point, I have to say my experiences have been much different.
Sorry to say that none of those men are true Christians then. A true Christian understands the importance of sexual purity. And the importance of marriage
Any man that says that isn't a Christian, he's a fake.
These are men who are either not Christian or claim Christianity but want the world. Some Women unfortunately are like this too. It's very awful when you want to preserve your body for marriage but somebody doesn't want that. But God is good. We attract who we are becoming. Many don't believe me when I say this , but I've seen it in people's relationships. God opens our eyes to wisdom. Don't lower your standards. A Godly man will value those things. It's been 5 years since your comment. Praying you found someone, or are still walking heavily with God 🙏🏾
1.she is committed
2.she is a team player
3.she has a submissive spirit
4.she values sexual spirit
5.a woman who takes pride in her physical appearance
Thanks.
Pride is a problem. Are you willing to be cast into the lake of fire for keeping Sunday, Christmas, Easter, your birthday, fathers day, mothers day, independence day, Lent, Advent season, etc? The Roman catholic church forbids their priests (people) from marrying. Many times, you hear them say people should not eat red meat like beef. God created sheep, bulls, goats, doves, pigeons, quails, grasshoppers, locusts, fish with fins and scales to be received with thanksgiving. King Jesus Christ never ate swine's flesh, the mouse or any other abomination. Are you following: the true Jesus or another Jesus (2 Corinthians 11:4)? the true gospel or another gospel? the Holy Ghost or another spirit? The word of God must be rightly divided.
@@1newearth true
@@1newearth I suggest you read Mark 7 and reflect on it friend. Our God told us that it is what comes from within a man that can defile him, evil thoughts and actions. Jesus made all food clean.
@@1newearth Yeah and look how many priests ended up diddling little boys.
God will locate her for you.
Am praying to God to locate my husband to with whom we shall serve God
Amen! God Jesus bless you!
I’ve been led on twice by supposedly “Godly” women. It hurts to have someone make you think they want to build with you and then you find out they just used you for attention. I worry about if I will ever find that person my soul loves now because now I have to keep worrying about being used again.
I feel you man. You just have to keep an eye out for red flags. At the first one the holy spirit will make it known to you or even way before. Give your desire to God
I feel that. Watch for major red flags. One in an ex was that she cheated . I forgave her and she wanted to keep talking, but i ceased contact and blocked her from all social media. She got married at some point only for me to find her on a dating app I use and saw her profile months back. Gods protection is the best
I agree with you and I truly appreciate this video, but respectfully, there is just one thing that I'd like to share. I notice that there is emphasis on spiritual "people" in the area of submission that you mention here. Respectfully, the submission to God alone is key because submission to God alone is the truth teller. For a woman (or a man) to be submitted to a pastor or spiritual leader can actually mean nothing, and it's possible that it may not be a good indicator because the truth is that there are many people who are willing to submit to a spiritual father or pastor more than or rather than God. Submission is for God, not man. So, I'd like to suggest that the solution is to focus on her (or his) personal submission to God. If one's eye is on that, than the view will be more clearer than looking through the lens of submission to a pastor or leader. Colossians 3:18 says, 'Wives submit to your husbands as unto the Lord' (meaning as to the Lord). One cannot fake submission to the Lord. If someone is not submitted to the Lord, it doesn't take long for that to become apparent. When a woman is not submitted the Lord, a man can feel the impossibleness, if that's a word, of her not submitting to him. But if he happens to depend seeing how she submits to spiritual leadership, it can take much longer for the truth to come out. When a woman is submitted to the Lord, life is much easier, and she will automatically respect her husband. Thanks Allan Parr for sharing this video. God bless you!
Preach it brother. Not just spiritual but practical. God bless
Great message brother! I prayed every night I hit puberty that I would find that 1 woman to spend my life with; took a long time of heart break to find my other half, but it was well worth the wait. Intercourse isn’t something a person should rush upon in this world.
Strong message and keep me coming! God bless you and yours!
Both encouraging & convicting! Thank you so much!
The book of RUTH, very inspiring, a picture of Christ and his bride..
Can you do a breakdown of Esther as well? Her qualities etc.
I'm right here🤣
@@Africanesther1 Jack Hyles, the pastor of First Baptist Church, in Hammond, Indiana, was a fundamentalist. He despised liberals who did not believe in the inerrancy of scripture. Yet in one of his books he came close to saying that the book of Esther did not belong in the Bible. Esther married a divorced pagan man. Hyles was not impressed.
This is a great video, as your videos usually are. I think it's important for men to make sure we put ourselves in position to be worthy of being a leader and submitted to. And part of that is being humble enough to always look out for his wife first and/ or out for him and his wife as a unit oppose to just our own wants or desire.
You know what, Imma save this video for my son; thank you brother.
Thx for making this video I was so longing for this!
Praise God!
I’m a 19 year old Christian... why am I thinking so hard about marriage??😩😩
Well probably because God has marriage planned for you someday? Maybe even in a few years. Either way, focus on God and start getting yourself in order.
Well you are at the age to marry. Also you may have a secret desire to get a wife.
@@ReformedSooner24 This. God calls us to marriage, and you're just feeling that call! I caution, though, that He has placed you in this season of singleness to prepare you! Jesus said in Matthew 6, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, THEN all these things (food, drink, clothing.. life's needs) will be added unto you.
Because you reached sexual maturity at 15 and delaying marriage as long as we do in modern times is unnatural
Ruth in the bible is probably the most overlooked scripture.
Love how brother broke it down.
I loved this video! I love the way you actually used examples from the BIBLE! Not everyone does that.
Our youth leader in our church always told us through reunions,bible study,and preaching that find someone who treats people and their family especially their mother and father right and find someone who will love you as much as she loves God.
Great biblically sound advice! I have 4 boys! And these video are Shor sweet and to the point. I agree with everything you have said and you have said it in 8 min when I would ramble on for an hour. Thank you so much for these awesome!
Well I looked for these same qualities in a Man . Respect, Honor & Love 💘
Wow.... wish I would have paid attention to that first one before I got married.
Awesome job! Love your videos
I think it is important when we are in friendships with the opposite gender to guard our hearts. I was recently friends with someone who indicated that he liked me and I was really praying about it, but suddenly he just got into a relationship with another girl. He really hurt me. I pray and ask that all brothers in Christ would be careful with how they treat their sisters--caring for their hearts and not leading them into false hope (if they aren't interested in a relationship). I know sisters in Christ should do the same but men are the pursuers in this area.
I'm sorry you had this painful experience. I've been there too - it hurts for sure.
I pray God continues to meet you in the pain and shows you His truth in the midst of it all. 💜
The way he says book gets me every time haha
I wish I could attract any woman. Let alone a Godly woman..
Dont settle for less. Pray that God will send you the right woman and He will send her.
Oh no don’t make that mistake, the Lord needs to be part of her as well.
Don't worry! If it is God's will for you to find a wife she will come!
Fluxed DeLorean o please don’t say that. Having the wrong woman would be worse than being alone.
Ask God to bring the RIGHT woman into your life & begin preparing yourself for her. God bless you.
Thanks everyone. I’ve prayed for a long time. I just wish I knew if I was supposed to get married or if I was wasting my time.. you know? I’m 30 and women my age don’t seem interested in meeting a Christian.
Thank you for this video, praying and trusting God for this type of woman!
Thank You sir❤️, now let me get to work👍
I’m teaching young men about women and this is so essential I am gonna use this video in my teaching wow!! bless you
I personally feel I meet these qualities however I need to work on making more money :-)
Good morning Allen! What a glorious day for the Lord to come unto us to help clarify our confusion ( since he is not the Author of confusion), edify & remove the veil that's been covering the truth!
My ex wife was missing 4 of these qualities.....That's why it didn't last. Wish I would have applied these principles
I love this man’s energy. Thank you.
She's The One Thank You Lord For Bringing Molly Into My Life She Has Turned My Life Around And I Feel Amazing and Spritually Sound with her and her Father is a Pastor as I am a Minister Excited To Serve in Ministry
Great points..I think he should've added a praying woman also
Would you be interested in doing a long distance relationship series? We could use the help.
Ha, my wife and I did long distance for a year. It can be done for sure!
@@thebeatagp Much thanks! And very interesting. I live in FL and she's in IL
I'm in long distance this is very important.
I'm ready let's watch this and get God's counsel 🍿
This video spoke into my life, good wisdom here
Awesome videos. . Your wife is so blessed to have you! Great content. I would caution any man leaning on submissiveness as a determinate factor when choosing a wife. I’ve seen many men fall for this trap. Some unGodly women use this tactic just to play along because they know a mans need for control/dominance in a relationship. Always ask God to reveal to you whether this person is your wife/husband (as you’ve mentioned before).
Kind to all
Hard worker
Follower
Valued intimacy
Discipline Presentation Wholeness
Yep. I prayed and God been telling me that she is the one but not when I wanted her. I had to work on my own relationship with God first. We’re officially a couple now and taking things step by step but she’ll be my wife. That’s for sure.
Thank you brother Allen for this video! Yes, I agree. I am so glad that through my single years, God worked deeply in my life and cultivated these qualities in me, so I have a much stronger character now. I saw these qualities in my mother who became my role model, she was an excellent example of a godly wife and mother. God bless!
Good Christian men are hard to find.
The same goes for women.
WERE OUT HERE...
We are out there Maria. I’m gods timing :)
AMEN I'm married but he isn't God fearing my regret so I keep praying
@@denisehoward4293 amen
Very powerful message and I need to hear this and everything you said and your points are spot on and 2 I want that in a women who will loves God and loves me for me and get know the real me.
Love the verse by verse exposition!
I need to be the right man for a woman like this !!!
It hurts to think of wasting so many years on men and becoming mentally broken because I didn't know this information..But I know the truth now and I thank God for helping me out of the darkness. Just becoming a Christian I feel like I have been working on most of these topics already. I think I go read Ruth soon haha. Thanks for the video it is a great reminder and goals to strive for
That was awesome. I think his Pastor knows more about women than women know about women :)
Perfect. Thanks and God bless you all
Awesome practical advice + I enjoy your short beat videos to help me & others on the journey
I have all these qualities bc I am a Godly women ! Thank you Jesus Christ mighty
Brother you are killing it, keep it up Allen . Blessings
As a man, even, this gives me a lot of things to think about.
Brother, I engaged a girl 18y/o thinking she was a godly woman, she was not at the beginning she was but she moved to Atlanta from Florida and things towards the middle and end of our relationship showed me she was very selfish when she wanted me to move up there leave my career here in aviation and wasn't supporting me when I got a second job to help my family she also fought with my mother and my grandmother about me moving up to Atlanta, trying to be the man when clearly that was my job and then blamed me for not being one when I told her she wasnt respecting me as a man It seems like she just wanted me for a purse then her husband. She was very toxic she started blaming me for the whole relationship why she was breaking up saying I'm not a man and that if I don't leave the house no woman would ever love me. she started saying I'm not making decisions the right way even though I took advice from my mother and my grandmother when she says they're brainwashing me which isn't the case cuz I took wise advice and her dad really loved me and thought it was a great son-in-law but her mom wondered why I wouldn't make a decision even though I did wasn't for what she wanted she wanted me to move in to her parents house sell my new car to get a cheaper car and save up for an apartment in Atlanta while I'm making good money here I just got promoted up the airport I work at and I'm working a second job to help pay my family's bills she didn't support me with this now I see she wasn't a Godly woman she wasn't Ruth and so God took an atomic bomb away from me she might be a little bit bipolar but I just turned 24 and I've been in a lot of relationships I really did love her but the Holy Spirit tells you when something is not right and he clearly did with me cuz we fought a lot at the end thank you for the godly advice you will help me in the future
Great video. May God continue to bless the work that you do
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 well put together. 😇
This is actually very insightful. I found this to be good, truthful and useful. Some key information here. God Bless you brother.
Allen, I have a question about being married and balancing a social life. I feel that lots of women go to the extreme that when they are in relationship, their friends suddenly don’t exist. I’m a single woman and find it hard to make friends because most of the women I meet (in church and out) are so wrapped up in their relationships. I know it’s also unhealthy to do the opposite (spending too much time with friends and telling them everything about your relationship). Can you please do a video on this.
That's me!
👏👏👏 love my girl Ruth ya go girl! 🤣
I agree with everything you said except one this can be complicated... When you are working for the Lord and you are set apart for his Purpose people will come and go out of your life, your relationship with your family will shift because you are not who you used to be.... Let this be okay they are not going where God is trying to take you...
Great video topic! Seeing it from a man's point of view. The woman leaving out the physical part so that she's sure about his intensions 😊
A man of god thanks for your advice i love watching your channel.
Excellent Biblical advice. I found this very helpful! Thank you...
Amazing ❤❤❤
The 5 Essential Qualities a Guy Should Do To Judge Her Character Based On Whether She Acts Like Ruth. The surest way to divorce is project a standard of behavior on an adult woman.
I don’t even need to watch this vid, my mom just needs to like her and that’s how I’ll know she’s a godly woman. My mom has a skill for this thing.
Stepz97 • but u prob did watch this vid.
Halobear_ROBLOX Halo Course I did it’s Allan Parr
So ur saying if ur mom don't like her u won't pursue a relationship with her? I doubt it that what u mean
Robin Leslie My doesn’t dislike someone for no reason. So if my mother doesn’t take to my girlfriend there’s a big reason for it, and something I have to look out for. Is definitely take it into consideration.
Our pastor always discourages youngsters from marrying someone their parents don't like. Parents have life experience and if Christian wisdom from God. They know you better than anyone else and they can see who is good for you .
The woman I'm pursuing is a pastor at my church, and I know she is a Godly woman. I however, need your prayers because there are a few things in my life that will not make me a good Christian husband, especially a pastor's husband.
We will be never perfect on this Earth with these bodies brother... Read Romans 7! God works in HIS time...
The LORD GOD is JESUS - Revelation 22:6-16! Jesus bless you and her!
No such thing as a female pastor!
If you knew even the first thing you'd not be asking for advice
@@jeanpaulgartier3404 Bro your response was disgusting. Strutting in here all smart and better like you dont grieve God everyday. But sure let's call a fellow brother a sinner for a mistake.
@@googlesucks478 and now you're calling me a sinner, hypocrite
Very sound advice. Ladies he right take heed.
Amen, great advice, thank you!
good word brother 👍
Look at you preaching all this old fashioned, outdated Bible stuff. Keep up the good work :)
This is hate speech in 2019 lol
Kyle Thomas There will come a day when the people who see this as hate speech will wish they had listened.
@@audreyronces7468 I think Kyle was being sarcastic when he said, "outdated".
lol they say Americans struggle to detect sarcasm..? 👀
Hate speech?? Your kidding right? Lol
lol that's so true! you made me laugh
Do a video on Biblical vs. Worldly marriage
Thank you!
Great points and advice. God bless you
Powerful stuff
First to comment and first thumbs up
Hey Man you look like Denzel Washington, Keep up the Great Work , God Bless 👍🙏
Great stuff bro. Thanks for sharing. God bless
This video is perfect
I think this list is pretty spot on. The only thing I’d like to add is that woman are visual creatures as well and like their man to also look respectable/ take care of themselves. Taking care of yourself is just a good rule in general. Just wasn’t a fan of how it was spoken that women should have to worry about how they look but men don’t. I don’t think that is how you meant it but that is how it felt to me.
This is an eye opener thank you
I'm calling my shot...
Lord please send me a Babe Ruth
Did God send her? Lol