Hey hey hey! I want your marriage or future marriage to thrive! So, I hope these 7 things will help you assess 1) if you're ready for marriage and 2) the current state of your own marriage if you are married and you see these 7 things happening in your marriage. Enjoy and I love y'all!
Hey Allen, I've been watching your videos for several months. I've been blessed and encouraged many times. Had no idea you went to DTS... I'm watching a video you did at DTS about surviving as a student. Too cool. God bless!
Me and my wife have been married for over a year now. We both weren't saved till 7 months ago. My wife got into the bible and started encouraging me to join her so I did, I got saved shortly after her and have never been happier!!! We noticed our marriage have been blessed tremendously!!! Praise the lord jesus christ!!!
God taught me that when you marry someone you have to die to self. We're suppose to serve one another in a marriage. So if you have a selfish mentality like you said, then it won't work.
(Spoiler/shortcut to each point) 0:55 You struggle to completely give up your independence 3:03 You are an unhappy single looking for marriage to make you happy 4:43 You have signs of emotional immaturity 6:28 You have unresolved baggage that you refuse to deal with 7:53 You're not willing to be totally selfless and serving expecting nothing in return 9:48 You believe that if things get tough there is a way out of this marriage 10:32 You don't understand that the purpose of marriage is for the couple to have a purpose
Thanks for posting the timelines but I this is one of those videos that you actually have to watch it all to get the message. Every point and explanation is very relevant to any sort of relationship. Stay blessed
@@trisha2love Sure I agree with your comment, my comment was done in case someone would like to come back over some points if they feel like they missed something and rewatch it or maybe want to write the verses quoted for a specific part in a book (or somewhere else) for themselves. I can remove it in case it is not wise to keep it tho, please let me know. Grace be with you as well :)
This is why I flipped this thoughts and said God if it is your will for me to be married, then let it be so. I desire marriage for a purpose not to prove to anyone I’m capable of marriage. I want God to use my marriage as a stage to Glorify him.
I was just thinking and complaining about being single and alone :( thanks to this vid i noticed my faults. Praise the Lord and thanks for posting this video.
Complaining about being alone and single is a desire that you want to be with someone like having a wife. Psalm 37:4 Be content with yourself and God will give you the desire of your heart which is to have a wife like having a partner and being with someone. All you have to do is ask him for a wife and he will provide and give it to you but remember it's on God's time. His timing is perfect.
Right on time Allen! I’ve been in denial for awhile about this. I’d yearn to be married like everyone around me, when deep down both God and I know I’m not ready 🙄😭
i feel this a lil . i havent had many relationships in my life and now i am with someone and it seems to go very well everyone expects us to still break up. but i need to realize i am in no hurry. i have recognized points here he mentioned that i am strong at but also some i am weak still at, possibly because i am still young. cant believe i'm already 3 years older than my mom was when she married ... Yikes
So true, I thought I was the only one. It's tempting for me personally to do this as a guy, especially since most of my friends and family see me as an introvert (which I am)/one who is too shy to take bold action, but I'm learning and making progress in being satisfied first and always in God alone, my pure joy and satisfaction
Admitedly, #1 is currently an area in my life I desperately struggle with. I'm working on it, though. Giving it over to God is the first step in that direction.
I agree. I dont think we shld be single and waiting. I think we should be single and LIVING. Doing life and enjoying urself simply because you SHOULD be. Not because you're preoccupying urself until u get married. Constantly anticipating, waiting, and thinking about marriage creates desperation and anxiety. This will cause u to pick the wrong person and destroy even a good relationship.
i remember when my eyes were opened to how many things we so easily make idols out of. i feel like i have been sort of doing the same by imagining things will be easier or happier after marriage. but instead i just need to continue working towards happiness in this moment of my life the same way i worked when i was single. i worked on myself and now i work with my relationship to make it strong, so that the marriage will have a strong beginning.
You know, I don't understand why it's idolatrous to want to be married, because when God made man, ( even with all the pets in the Garden of Eden) He saw it was not good for man to be alone. So, he made him a woman. It's part of our make-up to want to share a life.
Thank you! I stayed with my ex for too long and he did all these things. I am focusing on my relationship with God now and wanting a real God centered marriage one day.
I go through phases in this area. Sometimes I’m confident in my singleness then other times I feel like something is off. I never thought I’d be single for 14 years. God makes no mistakes but this is definitely a challenge.
It is, but I’ve noticed when I continually read the Bible, focus on the assignments God has given me, and study the scriptures. I’m thinking less about being alone or still single and more about God what is your will for my life today.
I can't speak for every one, but why is it so hard to find a spouse for people who are responsible, reasonable, etc.? I think it's because one or both will not ascribe to holy living. Rather, they do something, and when called on it, they say, no big deal, or lie about it. Is that really a Christian?
Michael Albertson I believe we all fall short of the glory. However, it’s when we start to not feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit that concern sets in.
Wow... This is amazing. Wish I had seen this before marriage. Been married for 3.5 years and it's been the hardest thing in my life. Learning a lot of these tips as we go. Really hard. Wish I had known before hand... Thanks for sharing.
Sir!!!! This gave me perspective. Getting married to be happy...that brought such clarity. Prior to getting divorced, my ex said he just wasn’t happy. Thank you
I kind of don't want to share my life. I get lonely sometimes, but I have a hard time being accountable to another person. The sound of someone chewing or slurping too loudly can make me insane😟😟. If a person doesn't seem to have much to show after a lifetime, it makes me nervous. I would want to keep my secret rainy day stash. It's a lot of work and I'm too old. Thank you for the tips.
Most of what was mentioned in this video was why my last relationship ended. Made me realize I wasn't ready to share my life with anyone. Since then I've been working on fixing those things and I can say I see things clearer now. Listen to him guys he knows what he's talking about 😁😁.
I don't like the idea of having to be responsible for someone else's debt, especially after I've worked hard to get mine down. If I ever want marriage, I'll ask God for a financially stable partner.
i mean ideally if your values include low debt and/or good credit then hopefully the partner god blesses you with will also hold those values. i think the main thing is when you are married and are one, you both are essentially paying all of the same bills, which will include any debt from either side. i dont personally expect my so to help take care of my school debt (which is actually quite low in today's standards) but i already know that he is willing to help me with it, and we arent even at the point where he will need to yet (not married yet nor am i finished with school) and i also know that his debt is low and credit is good. we hold the same values of making sure we pay off the debt we do accrue and only spend what we know we can afford. instead of worrying over what kind of debt a potential so will have, i think it is best to just pray for the one god wills for you to be with, because he knows best no matter what that may end up being.
So, what you're saying is, only a person with good credit can make you happy? Wow! That's a very shallow way of thinking. What I'm hearing, you are telling God, to give you what you want, and not who he has for you, is that correct? What if what you want isn't what's best for you? In my experience, everytime a person tells God what they want, it's never good for them. If it was, you would have it. All I can say is, becareful what you ask for! U just might get it..
@@rayetaylor2993 Thanks for the admonishment, one of the toughest things a lot of the young adult men in the churches around my area deal with is the idea that we need to be the "perfect" suitor before we can even so much as pursue women because of the worldly standards that seeped into the church. Seems like faith in God and godly qualities are being swept under the rug in terms of dating and marriage
Allen you say that people who have these characteristics are not ready for marriage, but there are so many people who are like this that are married 🤷🏻♂️
Preach sister! The truth is, even in the Church, people are shallow. I agree with Allen’s argument that developing these qualities will lead to a more fulfilling, loving, and long-lasting marriage, but some people have an easier time attracting partners than others. The rise of dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc. have contributed to an increased emphasis on looks and other superficialities when choosing a partner. This is scriptural as well, because while God looks on the heart, Man looks on the outward appearance. You could have an average looking person who would make a wonderful spouse and is godly as can be, but no one will give them the time of day because they aren’t “hot” or whatever. On the flip-side, you have people who find each other physically attractive but are not spiritually or emotionally mature enough to handle a long-term commitment like marriage, and their relationships don’t last. If they do last, they aren’t healthy and are more a source of misery than joy.
My parents were married 50+ years and my mom had a separate account, 401 k and PO Box for her own " worldly goods like clothes jewelry etc. Im sure my dad knew but he always made sure All other bills were paid and I'm sure it was two becoming one as time went on. My Mom started working 10- years After my dad started a new and beneficial job together.
I truly enjoyed this. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready for marriage. Listening to what this powerful man of God stated, I'm ready. I've been in relationships where the individual's past has prevented them from moving forward. Having unforgiveness in our hearts due to something that happened in our past will prevent us from going forward. I refuse to live in the present with someone who can't let go of their past. Great video, man of God!
I don’t like marriage and I never want to get married. I’m 18 and the only reason I thought about marriage was because I have a little bit of lust issues sometimes it’s hard to control. I JUST ASKED GOD yesterday SHOULD I GET MARRIED IN THE FUTURE to resolve my issues .....and know this YUP I’m happy because GOD answered me he said “NO MARRIAGE FOR YOU”😃😊 thank Jesus
I feel like so many married people’s advice sounds like: “just expect marriage to be crap, and make sure you love God a lot, cuz that’s the only way you’ll survive this drain of a person you’re stuck with forever.” I mostly agree with your points, but I still get that same vibe from this video. I do appreciate how Word based your points are.
It's because few want to live as God says. First evidence is when they won't forsake all others as the wedding vows say. Second is when one or both are so selfish that they only care about their happiness. Forsake all others, and see if your marriage works or not. Because if you don't, it won't. And put God first. Then only can He lead you both in the right way.
Very true...in my opinion one of the biggest reasons for people to have serious problems in marriage is the the strong desire to be independent. In marriage the man and woman are one...
Brother Allen I love you 😊 what a great question I so needed to measure myself against this. #1- I passed 😊💕 #2- I passed😊💕 #3-I passed 😊💕 #4-I passed 😊💕 #5- I passed 😊💕 #6- I passed 😊💕 #7- I PASSED HALLELUJAH PRAISE THE LORD HEAVENLY FATHER I pass I'm ready Lord I AM REAAADDDYYYYYY 😍🤗💗💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜💜💜💜
Vincent H I agree but I was curious as to what Mr. Allen had to say about it. I know someone who’s a Christian with the mindset of wanting a prenup. Just wanted to hear what wisdom I could share with them. Thank you sir.
#1: I learned at a young age how to stop depending on people. I also believe firmly in sharing everything with my future spouse. None of that keeping it to myself, because it's no longer mine alone. #2: I'm actually beginning to become content in my singleness. Not thrilled about it, but I'm actually finding peace with it and in the Lord. #3: I can be a bit emotional or emotionally immature. I have a bit of a temper, but I'm learning peace and patience in it. I don't hold grudges though or avoid people because I'm angry with them. That's just childish. #4: I do have deep seated regrets from my past and things I'm afraid to let my family know about me. But I'm learning to grow and let go. I wouldn't be ashamed or afraid to talk with my husband about my past and the things in it when I meet him. #5: I'm already consistently giving of myself to my family to the point of having nothing left. I won't have any problem giving to my husband. At least he would appreciate me. #6: The word divorce is not even in my vocabulary. I would never marry a man I wasn't one hundred percent certain was from God and by God. #7: I'm praying and longing in my heart for a mission marriage. I want to be married not to be happy, but because I want to go out into the world with my partner and fulfill our God ordained propose in this life. I know marriage is hard and no one is happy with it all the time. You can truly love it though and have true joy in it. It really is beautiful that way. I'm genuinely surprised about my answers on most of these questions. I'm amazed and thrilled that they were so positive for me. I believe I am, but what do you think? Am I ready for marriage?
Thank you for sharing this extremely helpful advice. I certainly need to work on getting used to change. When things change from what I expect, and learning to adapt with a good attitude
I found number 7 really interesting because I don't really hear people talking about this. I'm not sure if you've already made a video on this, but what would you describe as the purpose of your marriage? Why do you think God brought you and your wife together?
The point of marriage from God's perspective was to take two broken people through his word and holy spirit help them become whole put them together and spread his love throughout the world. Since people in this world can't see his spirit he makes his love tangable through people your Joy is supposed to come from learning how Jesus died for our transgressions. And because of his grace and mercy that we are able to live another day because of our daily sins. It's never been about what your spouse can do for you. So doing marriage God's way you are promised to have a blessed and fruitful union which will bring happiness in and to your marriage
@Allen Parr....some clarification on "what your purpose" is would be helpful. From my understanding, as a Christian, my purpose is to Love God and Love Others. I can do that as a single person. I can serve others and commit to others as a single person. I can do all of those things that you mentioned as a single (besides intimacy and companionship with the opposite sex) so what is the point in changing station from single to married? Please expound on what this "purpose" would look like/entails in a marriage vs as a single. Additionally, what is the point in choosing?...we might as well pick a random person if we will still experience relationship issues in marriage that we experience as singles. We should be aware that regardless of what we think we are getting in marriage, the other person is flawed just like us and there will be challenges. So is marriage only a place to "grow" as a Christian in a relationship that is lifelong only(you can't get out of outside of divorce) and not a place to enjoy God's design for intimacy and companionship?
Am ready for marriage guys😂😂 The Holy spirit has broken all this attitudes out of my life Am single born again Christian woman in God i trust 💪I can make it😂
I've been asking God for a wife for the longest time. I've cried, I've had many lonely days that have hurt to the point where I thought I was gonna end my life, but I've slowly realized that I'm not ready for a wife. I gotta be content and know God is working things out for the best. I will be married one day, but I need to work on me and my faith right now.
After this last engagement, we aren't ready for marriage. Hearing your points definitely confirmed...we weren't ready for marriage. I am now thankful to God for sparing me....thank you Jesus I did not marry this man!
All these things are great to think about. Wouldn't say people can't get married with one or two of these issues, you can work on these issues in marriage but so much better if you do it before.
I knew I was not ready for marriage. This sermon has identified the areas I need to work on whether I get married or not. Thank you Pastor Allen for your Godly wisdom. I look forward to your other videos.
I don´t think you should get into a relationship miserable and expect it to solve all your problems. Some things you have to resolve on your own. But would you really go so far as to say that marriage doesn´t make anyone happier at all? If there is absolutely no happiness caused by marriage, then no one should ever marry. Although not all the time, marriage should often make people happy, and it´s ok to seek to give and receive that happiness in marriage.
Well I got away from this guy. He kept saying I was his wife but GOD didn't show me that. He was an angry person and would do things to get back at me if I didn't agree with his way. He liked to argue about things. Who would start arguments in a comical way but I didn't like it. He always thought that I was hurting him. It was alway I, I, I but he said it was me. He said I was full of myself. He always wanted to be under me. I wanted to go places with my cousin and he wanted to go. He was always thinking some other man was in the picture but he was living in the house with a female roommate for 9 years and felt I should be okay with that. They had a strange relationship, like that of a couple. He would have her rub lotion on his back and expected me to be okay with that. But this is the kicker. I was not allowed to come into their home because I would have issues with their relationship. He always wanted me to tell him I loved him everyday and I am not one to do that. I show you. After I made my break he broke down on his needs crying and begging. OMG this drove me nuts. After the breakup, he texted me a message stating: YOU ARE A 52 YEAR OLD GROWN AS GIRL WHO IS GOING THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH BECAUSE YOU NEED TO REPENT. Then he blocked me. So, in turn, I blocked him then he had other people contact me asking me to unblock him from my phone and facebook. He still refused to accept the fact that I was through and GOD gave me my answer concerning. I think he began making new account and sending friend request but I don't accept all request from men. OMG. He has no way to reach me now and he wouldn't dare come to my house because I would call the police.
You are not to remarry unless there was unfaithfulness. If you divorce without this then you cause each other to be adulterers for life. You can only remarry that same first person you divorced. God Bless you. Repent and have faith on The Lord Jesus Christ.
Based on this, I am kinda ready. 🤪 On the side note, I can’t take care of my self, how much more for my spouse to be? Nah, am quite too immature to be married. Plus, I do not have a boyfriend. (Am a girl, do not be fooled by the account name, ‘tis my father's) plus, am only 18. 😅
Marriage is simply about loving someone unconditionally. Not about all this other stuff...if you know you don't really love a person, flaws and all, then you're deceiving yourself.
Sign #2 is speaking to me since I struggle with being content single but I must talk to God to help me with this. I struggle with change in my own life, but God is trying to help me. Sign #4 is speaking to me which God is seriously trying to help me with. I know what my purpose from God is. Thanks so much for this video! God still has work to do on me before He brings my husband.
2 out of 7 not bad, but those 2 I need to work on tho I’m not in a relationship it’s something to work on for sure if God thinks I’m ready I’m glad I watched this video to learn and improve ! So Thank you
I'm 47, divorced twice, two kids. I gave my heart to Jesus when I as 19, but never noticed radical change in my walk (very slow and gradual changes) and made countless mistakes through the years. About three months, as if I was knocked off my horse like Paul was, my faith drastically changed with a teary eyed reflection on my past 20 plus years. I re-gave my life to Christ, all of it, full surrender. Immediately, something changed in me. My desire to follow Jesus was intense, I hated my old lifestyle (all of it), I have strived and been successful at being super obedient, denying myself, praying consistently, reading scripture, etc. It has taken a whole new level and people close to me have taken notice. I feel very completely different than before. So here in lies my dilemma. I have been dating a wonderful woman for two years, she is incredible is so many ways except that her Christian faith is on par with what mine was 2 years ago, somewhat lukewarm. I'm faced with a decision on whether to stay with her or leave her. I was planning to propose to her, but now with all my recent changes, I'm beyond stressed. I am fearful to lose her, yet fearful we are not spiritually on equal joke. Welcome any advice...
I was scared to watch this at first, but I realised that showed I wasn’t ready for marriage. Thank you for addressing the 7 points so clearly... especially the 7th point. May God give us wisdom, love and a teachable heart as we prepare for that which He has for us.
What about if you feel like God is calling you to be single for your whole life? What do I do then? Or rather, how do I know if that's just me avoiding commitment or is that actually the Holy Spirit guiding me to experience a blessing that few get to experience?
What do you do with your singleness. Is it spent doing the things a married couple will do but you doing them without having the same responsibilities or commitment ? God isn't a God of confusion if he wants you on a path there will be no second thoughts about it. I hope you find your purpose
If it’s “legalistic” to tell someone they can’t do yoga because the Bible doesn’t specifically command not to do yoga, which if you read my comment on that video I said is nonsense, then wouldn’t these reasons be considered legalistic as well? The Bible doesn’t say wait until you got it all together and then be fruitful and multiply. If you got two Christians who love each other, which the Bible doesn’t say you need to love each other in the first place, then get married. Give no opportunity for the devil to ensnare you in sexual sin. You quote Paul, but Paul was kinda anti-marriage. He said if you burn with passion, get married. Otherwise, stay single like me. So if you want to quote Paul you should say, if you burn with passion get married. Otherwise, don’t. I’m not trying to be a jerk. I’m just blurting out stuff. You’re my brother in Christ. I love you. But I just disagree strongly. I think these are more worldly principles and not biblical ones. If you’re a Christian, marriage should mature you and bring you closer to God. If you put it off until all these things are just so, that’s selfish in my opinion. Lastly, why would we be “content” being single? God made us for relationship. He made Eve for Adam. And Adam was blown away when he saw her. Those feelings are in all of us because we came from Adam. Paul said his singleness was a gift, not because he was content being single, but because he was about the Lord’s work. He, and many others, had a specific missional calling. Most Christians however are called to marry and populate the earth. So my advice is to get married, stay committed, be faithful, and figure out the rest as you go.
On the brink of divorce now even though I have tried everything I can to fight for my family. IF we get divorced and *IF* I ever desire to get married again this will definitely be one of the many sources I refer to along with marriage counseling. Thanks and subscribed.
If you have a lack of self-control in terms of sexual desire BEFORE marriage, don't fool yourself thinking marriage is a "cure" for your lust. It won't be. Deal with it beforehand.
Thank you for this ... you have helped me cultivate so many new perspectives... I am ready ... i have had issues with anger and holding grudges ... now I’ve transitioned into refusing to carry baggage... God has hidden me and we have been on a slow dance... Pruning is a beautiful horror. I’ve had 3 engagements pulled away in painful ways and had to watch them marry not long after ... and it left me staggered and made me deviate from moving forward towards my purpose... God sat me down to reveal to me how He sees me ...now I have a internal peace that makes me respond instead of react.
I have a question: Can a couple mary themselves...do they need a pastor to officiate? or clergy of some sort ? What scripture can show us we can just say our own vows and be present with God and them we are married...
My marriage is falling apart cause my spouse does not communicate and he work more hours and make more money then me and he takes all out the bank sometimes I dont have no money but he always throws money issues in my face I guess it's time to closed the doors
Okay people, marriage has been around for centuries and has worked. What happened? Did we have mass amnesia and forgot how to be married and make it work? No, we have been raised to be selfish and to not value marriage. Completely sad when young people would rather be a single parent than married. Until people are raised to value marriage and not go into it as a temporary love thing that can be easily disposed, marriage rates will continue to drop and divorce rates to rise.
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Hey hey hey! I want your marriage or future marriage to thrive! So, I hope these 7 things will help you assess 1) if you're ready for marriage and 2) the current state of your own marriage if you are married and you see these 7 things happening in your marriage. Enjoy and I love y'all!
Thanks for the message sir. It's always a blessing hearing from you
😯 Omg! a message we need to hear 👂 🙏🏽God bless this ministry 🎁
Hey Allen,
I've been watching your videos for several months. I've been blessed and encouraged many times. Had no idea you went to DTS... I'm watching a video you did at DTS about surviving as a student. Too cool. God bless!
Josh Pendley yes indeed. I’m a proud graduate!
📝 Great pointers for people period 💌
Me and my wife have been married for over a year now. We both weren't saved till 7 months ago. My wife got into the bible and started encouraging me to join her so I did, I got saved shortly after her and have never been happier!!! We noticed our marriage have been blessed tremendously!!! Praise the lord jesus christ!!!
That's absolutely dope! Praise Jesus!
Hallelujah
Congratulations on spiritual birth♥️
Praise God
Amen. A relationship relying on God is an unbreakable one
Ladies seek God and have a relationship with the Lord first!
Everyone needs to do this women and men equally.
Vincent H yes
Yes ...wholeness and letting everything glorify God ...
Yes ma'am
amen
God taught me that when you marry someone you have to die to self. We're suppose to serve one another in a marriage. So if you have a selfish mentality like you said, then it won't work.
Amen to that Elegant Anne! I agree. Thanks for sharing that. God bless!
I see you on every Christian video.
Jay Freeman That’s pretty cool
So true, Elegant Anne. God bless you.
@@jayfreeman5117 ♥️
(Spoiler/shortcut to each point)
0:55 You struggle to completely give up your independence
3:03 You are an unhappy single looking for marriage to make you happy
4:43 You have signs of emotional immaturity
6:28 You have unresolved baggage that you refuse to deal with
7:53 You're not willing to be totally selfless and serving expecting nothing in return
9:48 You believe that if things get tough there is a way out of this marriage
10:32 You don't understand that the purpose of marriage is for the couple to have a purpose
Thanks for posting the timelines but I this is one of those videos that you actually have to watch it all to get the message. Every point and explanation is very relevant to any sort of relationship. Stay blessed
@@trisha2love Sure I agree with your comment, my comment was done in case someone would like to come back over some points if they feel like they missed something and rewatch it or maybe want to write the verses quoted for a specific part in a book (or somewhere else) for themselves. I can remove it in case it is not wise to keep it tho, please let me know. Grace be with you as well :)
@@FTBRUclips no don't delete it pls as it is a good reference like you mentioned. Thanks for your kind reply.
@@trisha2love Okay I will keep it then, thank you as well and peace be with you from our Lord! :)
FTB Thank you for this. I too was thinking that this would be helpful when replaying the parts that fascinated us the most 💕
Is it me or, does he kinda resemble Denzel?🤔
I clicked on this video solely to see who else thought this 😂
He does!!
Bruhhhh!!!
😂🤣😂🤣😫
He kind of resembles Densely.
People can make an idol out wanting to be in a relationship.
This is why I flipped this thoughts and said God if it is your will for me to be married, then let it be so. I desire marriage for a purpose not to prove to anyone I’m capable of marriage. I want God to use my marriage as a stage to Glorify him.
@@truthandbeautyco You’re spot on about that!
True!
AMEN! ( cogic voice)
I agree!!!!!
I believe God in his wisdom knows when we are ready, even if we think we are ready or not for marriage.
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Why do you believe that? And what are you expecting people to do with this information?
Ofcourse but you can delay God in your attitude. Preparation is the best before the marraige arrives..
FEMA Camps Guillotines RFID Chips NWO I agree 💯
I was just thinking and complaining about being single and alone :( thanks to this vid i noticed my faults. Praise the Lord and thanks for posting this video.
Complaining about being alone and single is a desire that you want to be with someone like having a wife. Psalm 37:4 Be content with yourself and God will give you the desire of your heart which is to have a wife like having a partner and being with someone. All you have to do is ask him for a wife and he will provide and give it to you but remember it's on God's time. His timing is perfect.
Messerschmitt ME-109 ... the word gives 2 descriptions of singleness... it says it’s a gift and a blessing ... we have to be a whole person first
Chuy I never thought of it that way before. That’s really interesting, thank you!
Kahlan Isabella316 *37:4
The key word is being content with yourself . Being single is not a disease.
Right on time Allen! I’ve been in denial for awhile about this. I’d yearn to be married like everyone around me, when deep down both God and I know I’m not ready 🙄😭
Wow that is good self-awareness. You definitely do not want to self-sabotage a potential good relationship.
Amen Sista!!🙌🏾
You can hit me up
Are you ready yet? I am also in the waiting room and seems I have been here for a while 😮
Many do not think about these, they get married to prove a point to family and friends that they are capable of getting married.
Exactly 💯
i feel this a lil . i havent had many relationships in my life and now i am with someone and it seems to go very well everyone expects us to still break up. but i need to realize i am in no hurry. i have recognized points here he mentioned that i am strong at but also some i am weak still at, possibly because i am still young. cant believe i'm already 3 years older than my mom was when she married ... Yikes
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 wow you nailed it! So true and I’ve seen so many of my friends do this. I am content being single and being with God.
That was me and I ended in a divorce.. Lol. Thank you Jesus for the saving grace. Eternally grateful.
So true, I thought I was the only one. It's tempting for me personally to do this as a guy, especially since most of my friends and family see me as an introvert (which I am)/one who is too shy to take bold action, but I'm learning and making progress in being satisfied first and always in God alone, my pure joy and satisfaction
I'm ready 😭 trusting Gods timing
Happy to report that 1 year later and I’m getting married in April!
anthony James
Amen seek first the kingdom and and His righteousness.
Lisa Love Ministries I think about that verse almost daily and still somehow get caught up in focusing on other things. Thanks for the reminder!
God is faithful..
Amen !
Amen am olso trusting in God
This helps me as a single woman wanting a husband. Thank you.
Hello there
Lord have mercy, all 7 of these things stepped on my toes. I have work to do before I even CONSIDER getting married. Prayers are needed
We all have work to do, before and after we get married. Now that you know taking the first step will . be so much easier.
Am here
🤣🤣🤣me too.
Praying for u🙏🙏🙏🙏
Well said. I just took 5 steps back! Whoa! Not ready!
This was awesome, great tips bc I'm getting married soon, Also I'm going to show this to my fiancee we're gonna watch it together. Thank you! 👍🏼✝️
Exactly same position as you :)
That's what I like to hear! Thanks for watching, Lena
Admitedly, #1 is currently an area in my life I desperately struggle with. I'm working on it, though. Giving it over to God is the first step in that direction.
I agree. I dont think we shld be single and waiting. I think we should be single and LIVING. Doing life and enjoying urself simply because you SHOULD be. Not because you're preoccupying urself until u get married. Constantly anticipating, waiting, and thinking about marriage creates desperation and anxiety. This will cause u to pick the wrong person and destroy even a good relationship.
Good thoughts. Exactly, I am not waiting in that sense..I am living now the life God has given me.
I learned I was making an idol out of marriage.
I was doing the same thing.
i remember when my eyes were opened to how many things we so easily make idols out of. i feel like i have been sort of doing the same by imagining things will be easier or happier after marriage. but instead i just need to continue working towards happiness in this moment of my life the same way i worked when i was single. i worked on myself and now i work with my relationship to make it strong, so that the marriage will have a strong beginning.
Good job being honest
That is easy to do, unfortunately.
You know, I don't understand why it's idolatrous to want to be married, because when God made man, ( even with all the pets in the Garden of Eden) He saw it was not good for man to be alone. So, he made him a woman. It's part of our make-up to want to share a life.
Thank you! I stayed with my ex for too long and he did all these things. I am focusing on my relationship with God now and wanting a real God centered marriage one day.
It will come Marisa. Just coming off being broken up from my Fiancé. He has something and someone for us.
Point no 6
This guy isn't really ready. I've been aware of it for some time and can make no excuses. Hopefully God will help me in the areas I lack.
If He can do it for me, He can do it for you. God bless you. I'll say a prayer for you 🙏🏼
I go through phases in this area. Sometimes I’m confident in my singleness then other times I feel like something is off. I never thought I’d be single for 14 years. God makes no mistakes but this is definitely a challenge.
Wow you are not alone. Being confident is a daily mindset shift. What is important is to know you worth in Christ and believing him.
It is, but I’ve noticed when I continually read the Bible, focus on the assignments God has given me, and study the scriptures. I’m thinking less about being alone or still single and more about God what is your will for my life today.
I can't speak for every one, but why is it so hard to find a spouse for people who are responsible, reasonable, etc.? I think it's because one or both will not ascribe to holy living. Rather, they do something, and when called on it, they say, no big deal, or lie about it. Is that really a Christian?
Michael Albertson I believe we all fall short of the glory. However, it’s when we start to not feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit that concern sets in.
14 years? Lol...I'm 52 and I've never been married. Fourteen years is nothing.
Thank you.I'm on the right track.I pray that may God continue leading me.
Wow... This is amazing. Wish I had seen this before marriage. Been married for 3.5 years and it's been the hardest thing in my life. Learning a lot of these tips as we go. Really hard. Wish I had known before hand... Thanks for sharing.
Wow that showed me I am absolutely not ready to marry 😅
Sir!!!! This gave me perspective. Getting married to be happy...that brought such clarity. Prior to getting divorced, my ex said he just wasn’t happy. Thank you
I kind of don't want to share my life. I get lonely sometimes, but I have a hard time being accountable to another person. The sound of someone chewing or slurping too loudly can make me insane😟😟. If a person doesn't seem to have much to show after a lifetime, it makes me nervous. I would want to keep my secret rainy day stash. It's a lot of work and I'm too old. Thank you for the tips.
God knows when I am ready for marriage. I am just enjoying my single life now.
I would prefer to be single like Paul and live with animals and be a single pastor and wait patiently until Jesus comes .
Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV where does it say that and no I'mma still become single and a pastor and be like Paul so No I disagree .
I don't think Paul was a pastor. He's an Apostle. He wrote letters to churches, but he's not a pastor of a church.
IronMindTX ok then I'mma still be a pastor of a church .
@Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV lol huh?? Why cant u be a single pastor ? What does that have anything to do with it
shane hillert Temptation, basically
Bruh I need to work on like 10/7 of these 🤣🔥💪🏽
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When u add to watch later because you’re only 16
Lol, it's never to early to prepare.
me too lol
Ok so this video confirmed what I already knew, definitely not ready for marriage lol.
Time to accept that I'm going to be a cat lady.
I hear ya! 😁😁
Looooool sis, I'm on my way to the pet store 😂😂😂😂
Me too
Lol
I’m getting a dog soon
Most of what was mentioned in this video was why my last relationship ended. Made me realize I wasn't ready to share my life with anyone. Since then I've been working on fixing those things and I can say I see things clearer now. Listen to him guys he knows what he's talking about 😁😁.
Awesome video and topic. Even married people need to watch this video too.
I don't like the idea of having to be responsible for someone else's debt, especially after I've worked hard to get mine down. If I ever want marriage, I'll ask God for a financially stable partner.
Right. Thats a good prayer to pray.
@Beloved of Jesus pray you are granted wisdom not for specific attributes because only the Lord knows his will for your life
i mean ideally if your values include low debt and/or good credit then hopefully the partner god blesses you with will also hold those values. i think the main thing is when you are married and are one, you both are essentially paying all of the same bills, which will include any debt from either side. i dont personally expect my so to help take care of my school debt (which is actually quite low in today's standards) but i already know that he is willing to help me with it, and we arent even at the point where he will need to yet (not married yet nor am i finished with school) and i also know that his debt is low and credit is good. we hold the same values of making sure we pay off the debt we do accrue and only spend what we know we can afford. instead of worrying over what kind of debt a potential so will have, i think it is best to just pray for the one god wills for you to be with, because he knows best no matter what that may end up being.
So, what you're saying is, only a person with good credit can make you happy? Wow! That's a very shallow way of thinking. What I'm hearing, you are telling God, to give you what you want, and not who he has for you, is that correct? What if what you want isn't what's best for you? In my experience, everytime a person tells God what they want, it's never good for them. If it was, you would have it. All I can say is, becareful what you ask for! U just might get it..
@@rayetaylor2993 Thanks for the admonishment, one of the toughest things a lot of the young adult men in the churches around my area deal with is the idea that we need to be the "perfect" suitor before we can even so much as pursue women because of the worldly standards that seeped into the church. Seems like faith in God and godly qualities are being swept under the rug in terms of dating and marriage
Lol eh you might as well go ahead and do a video for those already married and dealing with all these problems! With scriptural backing.
Now this is a video worth watching more than once. Hide this one away in your storage for further review because this is life changing.
Allen you say that people who have these characteristics are not ready for marriage, but there are so many people who are like this that are married 🤷🏻♂️
Preach sister! The truth is, even in the Church, people are shallow. I agree with Allen’s argument that developing these qualities will lead to a more fulfilling, loving, and long-lasting marriage, but some people have an easier time attracting partners than others. The rise of dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc. have contributed to an increased emphasis on looks and other superficialities when choosing a partner. This is scriptural as well, because while God looks on the heart, Man looks on the outward appearance.
You could have an average looking person who would make a wonderful spouse and is godly as can be, but no one will give them the time of day because they aren’t “hot” or whatever.
On the flip-side, you have people who find each other physically attractive but are not spiritually or emotionally mature enough to handle a long-term commitment like marriage, and their relationships don’t last. If they do last, they aren’t healthy and are more a source of misery than joy.
Thanks! The one on giving spiritually and may not get anything in return for seasons really helps me.
My parents were married 50+ years and my mom had a separate account, 401 k and PO Box for her own " worldly goods like clothes jewelry etc.
Im sure my dad knew but he always made sure All other bills were paid and I'm sure it was two becoming one as time went on. My Mom started working 10- years After my dad started a new and beneficial job together.
I wonder if they discussed this and decided that’s what they were going to do as part of budgeting. Curious.
@AllenParr You forgot to mention strongholds that prevent you from marrying.
Humility is key
Well I’m poor and sick so def not cut out for marriage even before it starts. All I have is body parts and too much passion
Wow. This was very good and informative. Thank You 🙏. The GOD purpose was perfectly defined. Glory!
Thanks so much for watching and for your comment Wanda Wesley! God bless!
I truly enjoyed this. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready for marriage. Listening to what this powerful man of God stated, I'm ready. I've been in relationships where the individual's past has prevented them from moving forward. Having unforgiveness in our hearts due to something that happened in our past will prevent us from going forward. I refuse to live in the present with someone who can't let go of their past. Great video, man of God!
I don’t like marriage and I never want to get married. I’m 18 and the only reason I thought about marriage was because I have a little bit of lust issues sometimes it’s hard to control. I JUST ASKED GOD yesterday SHOULD I GET MARRIED IN THE FUTURE to resolve my issues .....and know this YUP I’m happy because GOD answered me he said “NO MARRIAGE FOR YOU”😃😊 thank Jesus
I feel like so many married people’s advice sounds like: “just expect marriage to be crap, and make sure you love God a lot, cuz that’s the only way you’ll survive this drain of a person you’re stuck with forever.” I mostly agree with your points, but I still get that same vibe from this video.
I do appreciate how Word based your points are.
He doesn’t make marriage look desirable
It's because few want to live as God says. First evidence is when they won't forsake all others as the wedding vows say. Second is when one or both are so selfish that they only care about their happiness. Forsake all others, and see if your marriage works or not. Because if you don't, it won't. And put God first. Then only can He lead you both in the right way.
Thinking to myself this morning "Lisa do you really think you are ready for marriage"? Then your video! You betta Preach Allen!!!
It's always an encouragement to hear that a video has helped someone in their walk with Christ! Thanks so much for watching and for your comment, LY
Very true...in my opinion one of the biggest reasons for people to have serious problems in marriage is the the strong desire to be independent. In marriage the man and woman are one...
Brother Allen I love you 😊 what a great question I so needed to measure myself against this.
#1- I passed 😊💕
#2- I passed😊💕
#3-I passed 😊💕
#4-I passed 😊💕
#5- I passed 😊💕
#6- I passed 😊💕
#7- I PASSED
HALLELUJAH PRAISE THE LORD HEAVENLY FATHER I pass I'm ready Lord I AM REAAADDDYYYYYY 😍🤗💗💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜💜💜💜
Lolllll!!!!
@@Chrxssym lol 😄
Awesome video on this topic! I’d love to know your views about Christians who believe in pre-nups...
That's a interesting concept. But I don't think he would need a whole video to explain that's not a good thing. Espically if we claim Christ
Vincent H I agree but I was curious as to what Mr. Allen had to say about it. I know someone who’s a Christian with the mindset of wanting a prenup. Just wanted to hear what wisdom I could share with them. Thank you sir.
#1: I learned at a young age how to stop depending on people. I also believe firmly in sharing everything with my future spouse. None of that keeping it to myself, because it's no longer mine alone.
#2: I'm actually beginning to become content in my singleness. Not thrilled about it, but I'm actually finding peace with it and in the Lord.
#3: I can be a bit emotional or emotionally immature. I have a bit of a temper, but I'm learning peace and patience in it. I don't hold grudges though or avoid people because I'm angry with them. That's just childish.
#4: I do have deep seated regrets from my past and things I'm afraid to let my family know about me. But I'm learning to grow and let go. I wouldn't be ashamed or afraid to talk with my husband about my past and the things in it when I meet him.
#5: I'm already consistently giving of myself to my family to the point of having nothing left. I won't have any problem giving to my husband. At least he would appreciate me.
#6: The word divorce is not even in my vocabulary. I would never marry a man I wasn't one hundred percent certain was from God and by God.
#7: I'm praying and longing in my heart for a mission marriage. I want to be married not to be happy, but because I want to go out into the world with my partner and fulfill our God ordained propose in this life.
I know marriage is hard and no one is happy with it all the time. You can truly love it though and have true joy in it. It really is beautiful that way.
I'm genuinely surprised about my answers on most of these questions. I'm amazed and thrilled that they were so positive for me.
I believe I am, but what do you think? Am I ready for marriage?
@Beloved of Jesus I had never thought of it that way before. I'll be praying for confirmation now. Thank you 💗
@@katiedrake76 hope you got your answer
Thanks for this video Allen! It was very educational. I needed to see it.
You're welcome Mike Kirkland! Thanks so much!
Thank you for sharing this extremely helpful advice. I certainly need to work on getting used to change. When things change from what I expect, and learning to adapt with a good attitude
I need you guy to pray for me I'm in a situation please help me and my family please in the name of Jesus
I found number 7 really interesting because I don't really hear people talking about this. I'm not sure if you've already made a video on this, but what would you describe as the purpose of your marriage? Why do you think God brought you and your wife together?
The point of marriage from God's perspective was to take two broken people through his word and holy spirit help them become whole put them together and spread his love throughout the world. Since people in this world can't see his spirit he makes his love tangable through people your Joy is supposed to come from learning how Jesus died for our transgressions. And because of his grace and mercy that we are able to live another day because of our daily sins. It's never been about what your spouse can do for you. So doing marriage God's way you are promised to have a blessed and fruitful union which will bring happiness in and to your marriage
7th point was my favourite!!😍
This is a really great video for those who want to be married☺
Thank you so much for watching! Your comment means a lot, Shantay Francis.
You're welcome, Sir ☺
@Allen Parr....some clarification on "what your purpose" is would be helpful. From my understanding, as a Christian, my purpose is to Love God and Love Others. I can do that as a single person. I can serve others and commit to others as a single person. I can do all of those things that you mentioned as a single (besides intimacy and companionship with the opposite sex) so what is the point in changing station from single to married? Please expound on what this "purpose" would look like/entails in a marriage vs as a single.
Additionally, what is the point in choosing?...we might as well pick a random person if we will still experience relationship issues in marriage that we experience as singles. We should be aware that regardless of what we think we are getting in marriage, the other person is flawed just like us and there will be challenges. So is marriage only a place to "grow" as a Christian in a relationship that is lifelong only(you can't get out of outside of divorce) and not a place to enjoy God's design for intimacy and companionship?
Am ready for marriage guys😂😂
The Holy spirit has broken all this attitudes out of my life Am single born again Christian woman
in God i trust
💪I can make it😂
Amen!!!
So...people wouldn't be ready ever til Jesus comes...cuz...we will always have immaturities and issues that need to be solved...
This is such great advice! So many times we look for happiness in our partner when we need to find it in God! :) Great points!! Loved it!
Well said my brother, very informative
I've been asking God for a wife for the longest time. I've cried, I've had many lonely days that have hurt to the point where I thought I was gonna end my life, but I've slowly realized that I'm not ready for a wife. I gotta be content and know God is working things out for the best. I will be married one day, but I need to work on me and my faith right now.
After this last engagement, we aren't ready for marriage. Hearing your points definitely confirmed...we weren't ready for marriage. I am now thankful to God for sparing me....thank you Jesus I did not marry this man!
Amen! I was in a similar situation. Thank you Lord for protecting me.
Same, our Father is faithful though it was painful at the time I thank Him
Amen pastor! Thank you.
I know I’m not ready for marriage cause I don’t want to get married lol. I’m trying to get to where I’m called first 😂
TyTheGuy please, what do you mean by getting to where you are called?
Yomi Dada get to my calling, see where God wants me to serve and how to serve. Everything else can wait
TyTheGuy I understand better. I guess I thought as much
That’s a very good mentality to have, one that I hope to have consistently!
Did you find your calling?
Please don't stay in no abusive marriage. Repeated infidelity must not be tolerated also.
All these things are great to think about. Wouldn't say people can't get married with one or two of these issues, you can work on these issues in marriage but so much better if you do it before.
This is so good!!!!!Thanks for this video!!@@Can you do one on signs that you are ready? And one on if God is preparing you for marriage?
Men need to learn that CHRIST said to love his wife like he loved the church UNTO death and women need to learn to honor their husband
I knew I was not ready for marriage. This sermon has identified the areas I need to work on whether I get married or not. Thank you Pastor Allen for your Godly wisdom. I look forward to your other videos.
No problem, glad I can help! Thanks so much for your support, Joann Byrd!
I don´t think you should get into a relationship miserable and expect it to solve all your problems. Some things you have to resolve on your own. But would you really go so far as to say that marriage doesn´t make anyone happier at all? If there is absolutely no happiness caused by marriage, then no one should ever marry. Although not all the time, marriage should often make people happy, and it´s ok to seek to give and receive that happiness in marriage.
Well I got away from this guy. He kept saying I was his wife but GOD didn't show me that. He was an angry person and would do things to get back at me if I didn't agree with his way. He liked to argue about things. Who would start arguments in a comical way but I didn't like it. He always thought that I was hurting him. It was alway I, I, I but he said it was me. He said I was full of myself. He always wanted to be under me. I wanted to go places with my cousin and he wanted to go. He was always thinking some other man was in the picture but he was living in the house with a female roommate for 9 years and felt I should be okay with that. They had a strange relationship, like that of a couple. He would have her rub lotion on his back and expected me to be okay with that. But this is the kicker. I was not allowed to come into their home because I would have issues with their relationship. He always wanted me to tell him I loved him everyday and I am not one to do that. I show you. After I made my break he broke down on his needs crying and begging. OMG this drove me nuts. After the breakup, he texted me a message stating: YOU ARE A 52 YEAR OLD GROWN AS GIRL WHO IS GOING THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH BECAUSE YOU NEED TO REPENT. Then he blocked me. So, in turn, I blocked him then he had other people contact me asking me to unblock him from my phone and facebook. He still refused to accept the fact that I was through and GOD gave me my answer concerning. I think he began making new account and sending friend request but I don't accept all request from men. OMG. He has no way to reach me now and he wouldn't dare come to my house because I would call the police.
Penny Jarmon It sounds like he has narcissistic personality disorder.
That was Satan all day long. Congratz. You passed the test and saved your sanity.
I went through #2... In processing of of GROWING THROUGH IT NOW
You are not to remarry unless there was unfaithfulness. If you divorce without this then you cause each other to be adulterers for life. You can only remarry that same first person you divorced. God Bless you. Repent and have faith on The Lord Jesus Christ.
@Audrey E I or abandonment
And maturity- maturity in relations to Christ
I don't think that there are many adults to meet your 7 signs , which is why they break up so easily.
If one is honest with themselves, God and the person will get them ready.
Thanks for the video! ^^
I have a huge fear of marriage, so when I hear just the word marriage, it send chills down my spine, so I'd rather be single.
😧 just can't..
Samme
me too
Based on this, I am kinda ready. 🤪
On the side note, I can’t take care of my self, how much more for my spouse to be? Nah, am quite too immature to be married. Plus, I do not have a boyfriend. (Am a girl, do not be fooled by the account name, ‘tis my father's) plus, am only 18. 😅
Marriage is simply about loving someone unconditionally. Not about all this other stuff...if you know you don't really love a person, flaws and all, then you're deceiving yourself.
Sign #2 is speaking to me since I struggle with being content single but I must talk to God to help me with this. I struggle with change in my own life, but God is trying to help me. Sign #4 is speaking to me which God is seriously trying to help me with. I know what my purpose from God is. Thanks so much for this video! God still has work to do on me before He brings my husband.
2 out of 7 not bad, but those 2 I need to work on tho I’m not in a relationship it’s something to work on for sure if God thinks I’m ready I’m glad I watched this video to learn and improve ! So Thank you
Put all your expectations in God!😊 He will provide!🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏
Never been married and don't expect to. ☺️
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I definitely ain’t ready! LOL! Great video my man! God Bless!
I'm 47, divorced twice, two kids. I gave my heart to Jesus when I as 19, but never noticed radical change in my walk (very slow and gradual changes) and made countless mistakes through the years. About three months, as if I was knocked off my horse like Paul was, my faith drastically changed with a teary eyed reflection on my past 20 plus years. I re-gave my life to Christ, all of it, full surrender. Immediately, something changed in me. My desire to follow Jesus was intense, I hated my old lifestyle (all of it), I have strived and been successful at being super obedient, denying myself, praying consistently, reading scripture, etc. It has taken a whole new level and people close to me have taken notice. I feel very completely different than before. So here in lies my dilemma. I have been dating a wonderful woman for two years, she is incredible is so many ways except that her Christian faith is on par with what mine was 2 years ago, somewhat lukewarm. I'm faced with a decision on whether to stay with her or leave her. I was planning to propose to her, but now with all my recent changes, I'm beyond stressed. I am fearful to lose her, yet fearful we are not spiritually on equal joke. Welcome any advice...
CONGRATS Brother Allen on reaching 270,000 subcribers! To God be the glory!☝️
I was scared to watch this at first, but I realised that showed I wasn’t ready for marriage. Thank you for addressing the 7 points so clearly... especially the 7th point. May God give us wisdom, love and a teachable heart as we prepare for that which He has for us.
What about if you feel like God is calling you to be single for your whole life? What do I do then? Or rather, how do I know if that's just me avoiding commitment or is that actually the Holy Spirit guiding me to experience a blessing that few get to experience?
What do you do with your singleness. Is it spent doing the things a married couple will do but you doing them without having the same responsibilities or commitment ? God isn't a God of confusion if he wants you on a path there will be no second thoughts about it. I hope you find your purpose
I feel the same way. I think im meant for singleness.
If it’s “legalistic” to tell someone they can’t do yoga because the Bible doesn’t specifically command not to do yoga, which if you read my comment on that video I said is nonsense, then wouldn’t these reasons be considered legalistic as well? The Bible doesn’t say wait until you got it all together and then be fruitful and multiply. If you got two Christians who love each other, which the Bible doesn’t say you need to love each other in the first place, then get married. Give no opportunity for the devil to ensnare you in sexual sin. You quote Paul, but Paul was kinda anti-marriage. He said if you burn with passion, get married. Otherwise, stay single like me. So if you want to quote Paul you should say, if you burn with passion get married. Otherwise, don’t. I’m not trying to be a jerk. I’m just blurting out stuff. You’re my brother in Christ. I love you. But I just disagree strongly. I think these are more worldly principles and not biblical ones. If you’re a Christian, marriage should mature you and bring you closer to God. If you put it off until all these things are just so, that’s selfish in my opinion. Lastly, why would we be “content” being single? God made us for relationship. He made Eve for Adam. And Adam was blown away when he saw her. Those feelings are in all of us because we came from Adam. Paul said his singleness was a gift, not because he was content being single, but because he was about the Lord’s work. He, and many others, had a specific missional calling. Most Christians however are called to marry and populate the earth. So my advice is to get married, stay committed, be faithful, and figure out the rest as you go.
On the brink of divorce now even though I have tried everything I can to fight for my family. IF we get divorced and *IF* I ever desire to get married again this will definitely be one of the many sources I refer to along with marriage counseling. Thanks and subscribed.
I pray for the restoration of your marriage. Wait on the lord, spend time with him...go within and find you again!!🙏
@@onamiilove777 thanks alot Onami!
If you have a lack of self-control in terms of sexual desire BEFORE marriage, don't fool yourself thinking marriage is a "cure" for your lust. It won't be. Deal with it beforehand.
Thank you for this ... you have helped me cultivate so many new perspectives... I am ready ... i have had issues with anger and holding grudges ... now I’ve transitioned into refusing to carry baggage... God has hidden me and we have been on a slow dance... Pruning is a beautiful horror. I’ve had 3 engagements pulled away in painful ways and had to watch them marry not long after ... and it left me staggered and made me deviate from moving forward towards my purpose... God sat me down to reveal to me how He sees me ...now I have a internal peace that makes me respond instead of react.
Also, what do you say to sexual abuse victims and human trafficking victims who are emotional about being violated or considered "dirty" by society?
It's great and all but if this is the criteria for marriage then not many people would have been married....😬Just saying..
I have a question: Can a couple mary themselves...do they need a pastor to officiate? or clergy of some sort ? What scripture can show us we can just say our own vows and be present with God and them we are married...
I'm on my way to the pet store ... obviously am gonna be a cat lady 😂😂😂
My marriage is falling apart cause my spouse does not communicate and he work more hours and make more money then me and he takes all out the bank sometimes I dont have no money but he always throws money issues in my face I guess it's time to closed the doors
Okay people, marriage has been around for centuries and has worked. What happened? Did we have mass amnesia and forgot how to be married and make it work? No, we have been raised to be selfish and to not value marriage. Completely sad when young people would rather be a single parent than married. Until people are raised to value marriage and not go into it as a temporary love thing that can be easily disposed, marriage rates will continue to drop and divorce rates to rise.