Well Biblically If you put God first that doesn't mean to wish to be fullfilled your Desires through God but to have to accept God's desire to be fullfilled in your life even if He wants You to be UNMARRIED for your Whole Life.
Relationships take energy and work. Often we see all the positives & think we want what others have- not knowing about the struggles we don’t see. The Lord knows what’s best for each one of us ✝️🕊💜
and serving the lord doesn't take energy and work? i say serving the lord while struggling with a single curse is infinitely harder than not single and serving the lord
If more messages like these were shared in churches, Christians would make more informed decisions about whether they really want to get married or stay single and serve the Lord. Thank you Pastor Allen, for the video!
Being married was the biggest blessing of my life. My husband unexpectedly died at 39 in July 2021. I miss him terribly every day. But because of how wonderful he was and our relationship was, I know I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm trying to fully trust God to be my provider and defender. I'm trying to find as many ways as possible to serve God. But I miss so much having that partner in everything. I pray to find that again!
Yes, married people stop asking us single folks, why are we single? Why are you married? Still believing for my purpose partner as a single woman in her 40's. Tfs
I am 38 years old and single. I've had a couple of relationships that were supposed to lead to marriage, but it was too hard for me. The most difficult thing was to devote my free time, my passions, time to read the Bible, time to play sports, etc. Someone later told me that it was because I was selfish. I don't know if this is the case, I just have a hard time sharing my life with someone. Right now, I am glad to be able to study the Word and be involved in the church. We will see what the future holds, but the thought that I will be alone for the rest of my life is a less and less problematic for me. The world is going crazy, there is hope that the Lord will come soon :)
Let the people of the church say AMEN! This is my personal feeling and overall attitude honestly! The people who say that you're selfish are stupid because at the end of the day, how you choose to live your life is none of their business and vice versa. How you live your life is not going to affect them in any way at all so why are they critical of you? I told my dad that I actually want to be single for the rest of my life (I've had no relationships because I wasn't the 8, 9, or 10 at all. I even had a Black man tell me that according to that rating system, I'm between a 2-3 because I'm overweight and ugly but if I were to lose weight, the most that I'll be is a 4, possibly 5 depending on how I look. So there goes that Black unity that we want so bad.) because I don't need the hell in my life especially with how things are going. Men treating women horribly and vice versa. So essentially it's just best to keep my sanity and peace by choosing not be out there. The con of course to this is that more and more men and women are doing this and that will eventually lead to more of a drop in birthing and marriage rates, thereby making the continuation of society be threatened.
I'm 25 years old and single. Never been in a relationship tbh. I'm torn though,on one hand It can be pretty lonely being in my apartment but on the other hand I don't have to worry about much other than bills and feeding myself. But still, going to church and seeing young men with beautiful women makes me feel a bit left out. But at the same time I feel a sense of peace being single. Please offer some advice and pray for me. I need it
I'm going to suggest that you are or were selfish but not as an insult. The truth is we are all selfish learning to become selfless, like Christ. The natural state of marriage leads people to face the selfishness head on. Some people end up breaking up because it is overwhelming. It is a difficult thing to learn. The process of becoming selfish to selfless is the same process to truly love. Truly loving God without expectations. However learning how to truly love without selfishness is the main lesson in the bible. It's a simple concept but a difficult one to carry out and accept. Also this lesson is learned through work, having friends, being a part of a family, and follow Christ. Learning how to love without expecting anything from anyone is difficult. Learning how to give trust, even after people mess up, is also difficult. I used to think marriage, friendships and such were a set up of reasonable exchanges. That trust was an discussed and agree upon ruleset. I would get perturbed if people would hypocritically break their own rules. Then I learned about love is a choice and so is trust. Ever since that, I've been more easily to forgive others and be more patient and less hurt if they are being unreasonable. And also I can forgive myself when I'm also being unreasonable. I'm more easily able to apologize for faults and forgive faults. Marriage isn't "sharing" a life. It's giving a life. The way Christ gave himself up for the church. I too also wanted to run from this. I cried to God "Howcome you sent me this man? We are so incompatible." Long story short I didn't understand how to truly love. I still struggle with selfishness from time to time. But life as been significantly more peaceful after realizing what true love is. True love isn't moved by the rules of the world. It's absolute foolishness by ways of the world. When I was asking the hard hitting questions to my spouse, we both confronted and figured out the purpose of love. I don't think everyone should get married. I think God knows what's best. However learning how to truly love is something I think God wants us all to eventually know somehow. Because when you look at Abraham almost sacrificing his son, Job going through trials, Moses wondering in the wilderness, Jesus chastising people for only wanting food, and Jesus dying for our sins. There seems to be that common theme of loving God and not expecting anything from God. And so Paul and the other apostles live this selfless way. I don't think America is rooted in selfishness like some claim. It's rooted in the freedom to choose. Which is Holy. "The perfect law of liberty " We are free to choose now. Now we can choose to truly love God the selfless way. Whither is discovering that through work, marriage, friends or family, I think it's all okay. I think God simply wants us to learn what real love is about. :)
My advice is to keep praying to God about what's best for you. In the end, God knows what's best. For me, God sent me my man. It's been the most challenging but beautiful relationship I've ever had. And I learned how to truly love. Which I never loved like this before (aside from my babies). However people can learn this type of love through friendships, work and family so a person doesn't have to be married to learn how to love. Also, we all learn in our own time and only God knows what that best time is. It might not be time to get married. I know if my husband and I met any time sooner, we would've hated each other lol. I was still bitter at men and he was exactly not my "type" before we met. I had to heal first. He also had to heal also. So when dealing with complex human beings with various trauma, it's good to pray. I believe when you act accordingly to God's will, it sets you on a path to discover what's best for you. Whither it's being single or being married. :)
Thanks so much for this video. As a Christian single woman who has been blessed with the gift of celibacy it’s a little frustrating dealing with the opinions and criticism from peers and others on why I’m not married. And I feel bad sometimes like maybe I should be married but then I’m reminded of Paul and the very scriptures you mentioned from the Bible. So thank you again for the reminder, it’s so encouraging.
I've never met someone that has the gift of singleness. Could you describe how it feels like? I've been single for about 4 years now and I do have a desire to be married, but I also don't think of it most days. Lately I have been thinking about it more, I don't know
@@somethinggood9267 I try not to think about it much. I spend my time in serving/helping others which I believe is God’s purpose for my life. It keeps me busy so that I don’t dwell on the fact that I’m single. Its usually those around me who can’t move on from it and gets annoying at times. It’s definitely a gift as everyone can’t live this life but I believe God has given me the grace to do so. Glory be to God. I pray the same for you, if it be the Lord’s will.
Single and in my 40’s, I never wanted a husband before I underwent some trauma. After suffering a stroke, I recognized the importance of having a someone - a husband. Thank God, I am well and his love pulled me through. Thank you for this video. Grown and single is the forgotten group in churches. I’ve asked priests to speak on it, and even RUclipsrs to no avail. Appreciate this video!
Check out Houston's First Baptist Church. They have a singles bible study group that was made in order to serve those singles in the city of Houston with the age range of 30s and 40s.
I wished I heard this teaching decades ago because I always felt this way. I have been divorced since 2013, and my exhusband remarried. I definitely believe I always had the gift of singleness even while I was married. I got married out of anxiety and peer pressure when I was young. I enjoy my peace, freedom and celibacy of being single.
Paul is so right when he talks about marriage in 1 Corinthians 7. Unfortunately many Christians are so fixated on marriage that some completely disregard this chapter of the Bible. I am single woman, 41, never really wanted to get married till I came to Christ over 4 years ago... Was it Christ or Christian who have 'convinced' me? Still don't know ... I can't even say how many prophesies I've received about wonderful man of God coming into my life, how many conversations or questions I had about whether I met someone or simply 'when I'm getting married?'..., how many disappointments (at that age it's pretty hard to find Christian man who is not 10 years younger and still single or who is not messed up or divorced....) It's been many times since than when I decided to stay single and serving the Lord, but many Christians didn't have it and continue prophesying... It's tiring and such a waste of time. But it should be about getting married to someone you are in love with, right? Not just for the sake of getting married. May the Lord have grace on us all who are still single whether you want to get married or not. May it be His will. Plus Jesus is coming back very soon 😀 Let's focus on serving Him and winning more souls to His Kingdom
Thank you for this video. Certain Christian influencers often pressure us singles (especially women) to get married. I’m in my early forties, single, and childfree. I learned to enjoy my singleness by doing what God has called me to do, doing what I love, and being with the people I love. I’m thankful for supportive family, friends, and church-I don’t feel much pressure to get married. It makes this season so much easier. I would like to get married someday to share my life with someone, but I’m not in a rush. It’s mainly because God has tasked me with so much to do, and I love my own space! I am grateful.
Before I got married at 40 years old, I was getting discipled and doing ministry constantly. I'm grateful that I didn't waste my singleness by learning how to serve and make the best of my time to make disciples and pour out my life for others. When I finally did get married, it made it easier to serve my wife and weather the various trials in my marriage. I would suggest to singles considering marriage that they learn to maximize their time to learn how to serve and minister to others before you get married. What I've learned is that marriage is not to fulfill personal happiness, but to learn to grow in character and deal with sin issues that bubble to the surface. If you are selfish, lazy or have an independent mentality, it would behoove you to not get married until you have more self control in those areas. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it's hard and requires a lot of work. Just dropping that knowledge you can't learn in college. Peace and grace to all of the single people out there putting in work for the Kingdom!!!
Brother Allen this is like counselling for singles; wish I had gotten this teaching over 38 years ago. I would've been better prepared fore my marriage, less problems.
Great lesson! Thank you. I am unmarried and have never been married. I do desire to be married; however, it will have to be a Godly marriage. And you are 100% correct about it being more difficult to marry as you grow older as a single person. Lol. I ponder whether I want to give up my space, often. That's why I try to serve as much as possible. It's hard to be selfish when you're serving others. Have a great day!
Brother Allen, I'm so glad that God brought a wonderful Christian woman into your life. Much happiness to you and your wife in your marriage. I've been widowed two years now and I miss my wife dearly. We had no children, but God has been good to me while grieving her loss to Covid. I don't know what God has in store for me in the future. But I do know I miss the Union of being married and I'm asking the Lord for his guidance and will to be done.
As a single Christian woman, I have to say that it's extremely difficult to find a potential husband these days, as obviously I want a man who is born again and also one, who is awake to what has been happening in the last 2 years. Sometimes I also think that it's not a God's plan for me to be married, so I have somewhat accepted it and won't mind, if I will remain single for the rest of my life. God bless 🙏♥️
As a single Christian man, I’m kinda on the same page as your thinking, would love to find a Christian woman, but 1 where we’re on the same wavelength spiritually, as in taking note of all the end times signs that are going on, cos Jesus is coming to rapture us out of here soon, and for that reason mainly I then think, is it actually worth getting married 🤷🏻🙏🏻
@@Sacrifice-Paid I totally understand what you mean, it's very important to be equally yoked with your other half. In regards to the pre- tribulation rapture, I would love for it to happen, but I think I follow too many channels on here, who have varied opinions on that, the same goes for brothers and sisters in Christ in my life. I guess the only thing we can do is to trust in the Lord, that no matter what, He will give us the strength and will see us through until the end 🙏 I also think at times, that it's not even worth it to bother with marriage, certainly wouldn't be a good idea to bring a child into this messed- up world. God bless you brother 🙏
Same here I've been struggling with this for year's now it's been hard to find a men who's is on the same level I had to turn down a couple of guys before I'm not so quick to date just anyone
@@LittleSister1981 I’ve recently deleted a bunch on channels of whom I was following, cos some of them I wasn’t actually watching their content cos I didn’t see it as biblical, on the note of the pre trib rapture, there maybe differing opinions, but only 1 of them is correct, in regards to pre-mid-post….., from my studies I’ve looked at all 3 positions, and can understand why some think the 2 that aren’t correct, but putting that aside, cos yes, it’s happening sooner than what we can imagine, but I don’t know wen, cos I’m not God, but yeah, same as you, even if there was time to raise children, I say that in the sense of that’s how short of time we have left, I wouldn’t want the stress of bringing them up in this mess of a world, it’s beyond a mess, that’s how soon the rapture is, from a worldly perspective, the world is falling apart, from a biblical prophecy perspective, it’s falling into place…… 🙏🏻👍🏻
@@Sacrifice-Paid I guess I should also unsubscribe from some of the channels that I have been following, but as someone who only just got saved in 2019, I still have a lot to learn 😊Yes, this world is a total mess and I thank God everyday, that I haven't fallen for the recent deception, that I have used the discernment of the Holy Spirit, otherwise I would have taken part in the medical experiment by taking the "magic potion", praise the Lord for that 🙏 Only God knows the day and the hour when the rapture will take place, we must be ready and keep our lamps oil filled 🙏
Marriage has alot of responsibility... I never knew this untill I got married...... The fact that there is a lot of " to do list" and living with someone who has a thought process and personality different from you can be exhausting!!!... May the LORD give me strength. 🙏🙏🙏 Though I really love my husband ❤️
Good message! I think we can fulfill our purpose to the Lord while bathing our kids, serving our spouse, cleaning kitchen, etc, because if all things are done unto the Lord, then we are ultimately loving and serving Him and walking in obedience to what He’s called us to :).
Oh how I love your comment! Until recently I felt like being married and having kids distracted me from serving God in the way that “pleases Him” But God told me that he gave me these gifts and all I have to do is just walk in obedience to what He called me into which is marriage and parenting. God bless you!
I am 32 and single and I understand your points. Paul was very wise on this topic. But marriage is from God and he invented it for a reason. Although I am content and living in purity and by myself, I will continue praying for God to make marriage a reality in my life for him to be glorified. Although I won't be entitled. Guys, think what you want, but as much as I loooove to be single, I don't believe it is the best way of life - at least for me. May God glorify his beautiful name and power in any season though. Peace and out.
About time a Christian talks about this! I def feel left out and had to start a podcast about singleness because we aren’t served very well across the board. I also appreciate the transparency about the spiritual and practical difficulty of marriage because a lot of the time marriage has been idolized and painted as this pie in the sky type experience.
I am of beautiful Christian lady (71years young😃) I will be celebrating my beloved husband ( that the LORD TOOK HOME 9 years AGO… ) tomorrow 12-08-22 Gary went home 12-08-13.. We were high school sweethearts, getting married on my 18th birthday, finishing my senior year of high school in Norfolk,Va I’d go to school.. Gary would go to the ship yards.. we had over 30 years in ministry of our 44 years of marriage… I’m single now…and only desiring marriage if GOD GAVE ME A godly man that we finished our last assignment together before going home… And to taste, companionship, affection, and Togetherness again… I realize the differences, the sacrifices, and the struggles of growing in life… that HOLY SPIRIT MAKES ME CONTENT and let GOD give HIS BEST not mine… Soooo Allen, thank you again for this loving truthful message… The Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas is excellent.. may you my precious pastor be blessed! Sincerely in JESUS, Violet Strike St Paul, Mn
I’m divorced and according to your one video I felt better about that divorce as my husband wanted it and made me crazy to get out. Anyways I’m 67 now and God has led me closer to him during my singleness. Time I didn’t have in abundance before. Raising kids etc, so being single gave me many blessings. But at church your right everything is addressed to married people, what about us widows and divorced. You are awesome to address this. But lately I’m wanting to find a good Christian man to grow together in shared faith. Plus due to fraud I’m struggling to make ends meet, plus facing 2 surgeries on neck and back, please pray for me. God is faithful and has led four people to send me money to help out. Christian friends who said God called them to help me. Praise God. In my trials God is working in my life to provide for the things I need
I’m divorced too in my later years but God opened many doors for me. I will admit I have walked out of church many times because EVERY TEACHING is on marriage raising children etc. I sigh and leave. Or if you are single it’s for the young singles so older singles don’t fit in
@@LisaLisaCJ I understand. I don’t leave but rejoice that they are doing so much for young kids, but we are a group that’s left out. Almost makes you think, where do I fit in? I was listening to Jack Hibbs from Calvary Baptist of Chino hills CA and they use the mature Christians in a beautiful way by pairing new believers with older Christians to mentor them. Fabulous idea. Obviously we have a gap that churches need to identify and minister too. I love my church but sometimes it makes you feel lonely in our needs. Thankfully our relationship to Christ b brings us peace we need. I think we need to address the issues with the church we attend.
@@marciacoe4610 I think I’m going to look for another church with older singles. Because I feel like I can’t heal from my divorce fully constantly listening to marriage teachings
@@somethinggood9267 thank you. I live in lots of pain, but people prayers are helping. Neck surgery on Dec 12. Then back surgery next year. Praying I have enough money to pay my home taxes coming up too.
I just turned 32. I’ve been single for some years now and I’m great at being single but I still struggle with celibacy. I’m not sexually active but mentally, I’m struggling with lust so I asked God for a husband so I can at least be intimate in a way that pleases God. I don’t know if I’m praying right or praying for the right thing but I don’t want to sin against God. My name is Sharaine. Can someone pray for my deliverance or maybe a God- fearing husband that pleases God? May God’s will be done. Amen.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH remains - The CREATOR of the heavens and the earth is still the Most High and Sovereign GOD. JESUS CHRIST is still the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED about HUMAN BEINGS CREATED BY THE CREATOR - Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still raising, glorifying, and exalting themselves as better, greater, powerful, higher and superior than the Creator and Jesus Christ. Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still mocking, degrading, and insulting the BIBLE as worthless and useless, without any value at all. Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions will still become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths like Adam and Eve. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "KINGDOM OF GOD" REMAINS AS TRUTH - Believers of the BIBLICAL authority and teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" will still be rewarded and honored by the CREATOR with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth without pains, sufferings, griefs, sickness and deaths. They will fully enjoy the Creator's and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ, the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "RESURRECTION OF THE DEAD" REMAINS AS TRUTH - Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, Daniel, Jesus Christ's disciples, and many others will still be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own good time.
Hey Autumn! I totally hear you. I too have wrestled with lust, masterbating, and a porn addiction since 14 but remained celibate for the last 6 years. I have been free from lust and sexual immortality for about 2 months now and I can impart prayer and some revelations that have helped me! First we must seek God and his righteousness first in prayer and fasting. Second we must resist AND FLEE temptation (meaning running away from it literally). And third we must become so completely turned off by sexual sin where pleading with God on hands and knees to be free from this sin on our own bodies. Remember that every brother in Christ you see if a BROTHER, so lusting after your brother would be gross… right (has really helped me see my sisters as sisters and never desiring anything sexually from them knowing that it hurts my relationship with the Lord. I pray that the Lord Jesus would strengthen you in your times of weakness to the flesh and that he would supernaturally deliver you from any spirit of wickedness. I pray that you would be purified and renewed in your mind will and emotions and that you would be set free from any bondage of the enemy. If you do get delivered like I was, it will be easy to resist temptation and the Devil won’t be able to use this sin against you because you will be walking with Him in spirit and truth. Keep on your guard and don’t forget to pray for protection every morning day and night. It’s a battle but you will win. God will deliver you in his perfect timing
I am 31 and single I am living for the Lord and I understand every word that you are saying because I am going through that myself. It takes the holy spirit to keep me from actually going out to fulfill my flesh desires. I do struggle mentally as well but the battle is in the mind and that is what the enemy attacks. There are some days that I am weak and days where are speak against these thoughts. I am praying to be delivered and heal from lust because I do not want to enter to a marriage with lust. My main focus right now is to serve the lord and be the woman he wants me to be.
I'm same here sis also 32 and struggling with lust but we have to renew our minds with the word and overcome evil with good stay faithful to your walk with the Lord and He will deliver you. As the word also says to renew your strength in Him as you wait
I'm feeling overwhelmed by serious medical issues that I am dealing with right now and crying because I am single and entering my " golden years". Feeling lonely and I KNOW that as a single person I have more time to devote to the Lord and continually grow in His word. He knows what's best for me and I know what Brother Parr is saying about 1 Corinthians because I've read it numerous times. The Holy Spirit led me to this because I was feeling like I wish I had a mate, however I KNOW that I belong to the most high God. I just needed to see and hear this to remind me that I really am not alone at all. Like Paul when he was walking on the water toward Jesus, and he looked down, he began to sink...I looked down and took my eyes from him and looked at my Self. Thank you Brother Parr for your wonderful ministry because I truly believe that I was led to hear this now. God bless you..I didn't mean to write so much but it's from my heart.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH remains - The CREATOR of the heavens and the earth is still the Most High and Sovereign GOD. JESUS CHRIST is still the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED about HUMAN BEINGS CREATED BY THE CREATOR - Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still raising, glorifying, and exalting themselves as better, greater, powerful, higher and superior than the Creator and Jesus Christ. Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still mocking, degrading, and insulting the BIBLE as worthless and useless, without any value at all. Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions will still become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths like Adam and Eve. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "KINGDOM OF GOD" REMAINS AS TRUTH - Believers of the BIBLICAL authority and teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" will still be rewarded and honored by the CREATOR with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth without pains, sufferings, griefs, sickness and deaths. They will fully enjoy the Creator's and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ, the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "RESURRECTION OF THE DEAD" REMAINS AS TRUTH - Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, Daniel, Jesus Christ's disciples, and many others will still be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own good time.
I totally agree with you, Allan! I’m single and prefer to be that way because people are crazy and their standards are off the wall. You can be a good woman but because you don’t fall under the standard of beauty (being an 8, 9, or 10) then you’re not seen as valuable or worthy of commitment, only just for sex and this includes Christian men. If you’re a man and not the standard of beauty and/or a high value man, then you’re not worthy of commitment or seen as valuable. It’s not worth the stress of getting out there whether you’re a man or woman. It just makes sense to be single and in peace.
@@aspiringactress8806 ok, maybe I shouldn’t have said all, but you clearly have a very pessimistic view of men and what we’re apparently after….., sorry but it goes both ways
@@Sacrifice-Paid: I actually don’t have a pessimistic view of men at all. I’m only telling the truth of what both men and women have said which is the reason why I choose not to be apart of the dating market and why I see why men are saying the same.
Funny you say Christian men. I have been preyed on for sec by more men professing Christ than when I was in the world and handing it out. Funny how the Word never applies to men in the sex category. If he asks me for sec I know he will cheat if we were married. I have been accused of being “ really saved” by single “Christian” men because I won’t sleep with them. It’s a sad state of affairs out here
43 and single. I anticipate it will be difficult to get through life alone. When house issues arise, important decisions need to be made, health issues, growing old/retirement - doing these things will be much more difficult alone than when surrounded by family. Being alone means being alone. When married you have children and grandchildren and a built in support system. - Greiving that I have matured past fertility is a whole other monster in itself, and it's the gift that keeps on giving (eg. No kids, no graduations, no future marriages, grandkids etc).
I will say just because you have a spouse or kids doesn’t mean you will have someone when you are old. Ever been to a nursing home? Many of us now singles thought our spouse would stay in sickness and health and was left. Many of us have kids who are ungrateful. You cannot place your care or destiny in no one but GOD.
LindaC403, On those things you miss out, you also miss out on the problems that will come out of them. I also don't have those in my life, and realize, for me, I probably wouldn't have handled them as well as most do. Would like to get married again for companionship and the usual married things, but not so I can get pulled into family drama and such things. She has to be a true Christian, not a demanding person. I put it in God's hands. He knows best.
@@SJ-qf2tz Celibacy ain't it 😅😅😅I have crushes every year ...and I have been in various relationships and I do want a family I just don't wanna force it
@@MA-yc7pz Oh girl I just realized I misread your comment hahaha I thought you said you didn't have any spiritual gift lmbo thank you for responding with grace haha but same that isn't my gift either I feel you. I want a husband and family too .
I'm a 39 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. As a Christian I have believed it was best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I have struggled with porn and masturbation nearly my whole life as a result and despite trying my best to stop, it feels like such a hardened habit now. It may not be too late to meet someone but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now. I rarely even meet someone I want to pursue. The few I do aren't into me and the ones that are, I'm not into. There always seems to be something missing. Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me or maybe I'm just unlucky or maybe I'm cursed? I don't know, but a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Everyday I have such a strong desire for a woman but it's only in my dreams that that becomes a reality.
There's no such thing as lucky/ unlucky and if you re a child of God you're not cursed. Hang in there while God's will is done. In the meantime always pray to Father in Jesus name for guidance and protection.
@skyclasp praise God for giving u the boldness to post this message. As a child of God u can’t be cursed. God has different timings for us, speak to Him and ask Him to bring the right person for you as John Piper said ask great things from God, attempt great things for Him and submit all to Him. Also ask God to break the bad habits in your life and find Godly accountability partners to help u. God bless u
Same, I’m 34 right now and have had some sexual experiences/compromises/scares but haven’t ‘gone all the way’ and have struggled with lusts and porn since 15. I feel indifference in my attachment style which makes matters worse and I get over ppl and things too easily. I am seeking therapy but I go back and forth on whether I really want marriage but I’m praying to become a solid man of God regardless. The last 3-4 years I found myself stuck in these patterns with women I know shouldn’t have gotten so close to me in a certain manner and now I’m trying to redeem time. I only hope I make it out without doing something foolish or messing up the blessing of singleness within itself. Bless you and know you’re not alone in this fight.
Praying in agreement for your deliverance from lust (porn, masturbation). Check out the video Allen did on this if you haven’t already. People underestimate the psychological and warfare power of such and how it negatively impacts your ability to wholly connect with another person. The sex industry (including lusting at Instagram pics and other) is destroying families, relationships, and intimacy.
I am a single man and I do not have the gift of celibacy. There are times when I think I want to be married but I wonder if the real reason I wanna be married is to have a sexual relationship which I don’t think would be what God has in mind. I’m not sure if I could spend the rest of my life with somebody there 24 seven. The problem is trying to remain pure and not become sexually immoral. I must confess at times I fail, Paul talks about this when he says burn with lust. So I continue to pray for God‘s will in my life whether I should stay single or get married.
I'm 49, HEALTHY, fit and desire PHYSICAL TOUCH and intimacy. I am divorced. He abandoned me and committed adultery. I BELIEVE that biblically ALLOWS for me to be remarried. I DON'T like being single. I'm a FABULOUS lover and partner. Ultimately it's up to GOD. I DARE not pick ever again. BUT I enjoy the company of a Full blown Man, ONLY this time he needs to LOVE GOD and be a true follower of JESUS CHRIST✊🏾✊🏾
I just turned 25, and I'm single. For a while now I've been going back and forth with how I feel about this status of my life. I have days where I do feel like I need to really cherish my singleness because it is a blessing. But then I have days where I feel like my life would be so much better if I were married. I just don't know how to feel sometimes, either. I am glad you made this video because you hit on a lot of the scriptures and ideas I've used to encourage myself, as well as a lot of difficulties I face. I am also the youngest of 4 and the only daughter and I sometimes feel like my family won't respect me as a fully functioning and independent adult until I get married or become some 7 figure business woman. I am a recent first gen college grad but I'm not where I want to be career wise either but I'm not trying to idolize career because I know there's more to life than that & I dont want to drown myself in my career to fill a void. I have no children, either, and I feel as though my parents still see me as a child and always will until I start my own family and this really makes me sad sometimes. I feel like I'm always included in their plans especially extended family events and holidays as if I'm just my parents' automatic plus 1. Because where else would I be? Yet, they always have to ask my brothers in advance and constantly reassure them that they understand if they cant do certain things or make it to certain events. They respect them as their own separate unions and I have asked God to help me not to envy that. It gets overwhelming sometimes. I often wonder if I was born for my sole purpose to be a servant to my family and nothing more. I feel like none of my heart's desires are even valid and I'm selfish for even desiring a husband because I should be grateful I have both parents, and that they're always so invasive into my private life because that means they care, and that I have neices and nephews that love me and don't get me wrong I am grateful for everything I have in life. I just wish I was in a different place sometimes, or had my own family and stability. I feel like I'm trying so hard to break through into womanhood. If you read this and made it all the way here, just pray for me. I know God has a plan for my life I'm trying to just see it through.
I relate heavily to you. I’m 24, single and no children and I guess I have a pretty goofy personality so I’m always looked at as a child by my family members instead of a young woman. I also desire for a husband at times because it would take so much of the financial/career/physical load off me and I do enjoy serving others. And nobodies perfect but there’s less and less God fearing men as the days go by. I know just how you feel. I guess we’ll have to just keep praying on it and at the same time dote on our singleness and the righteousness that can grow in us from being single. Also I think for us ladies at least, not having other Christian women friends also exasperates our desire to marriage. Sometimes we just want platonic intimacy and companionship and we don’t necessarily need to be married for that. I prayed for you btw! 🌸
@@berrysweetbreanna Thank you for sharing sis. I relate to you alot too. Very goofy personality as well lol. Heavy on the wanting someone to help bear the load part!!! Whew it can just be really awkward in today's society to be a single young christian woman, so many potential odds against us but God is greater than any of them, and that requires a daily reminder to self because you can really fall into feeling so sad, lonely, insufficient if you let your mind roam on it. You really hit the nail on the head for me with all of what you said and it helped me to see things a little differently. Satan loves to attack our minds to get us to view things negatively that were meant for good. I think God admires and gave us our unique youthfulness for a reason and for his glory. I'm just glad I'm not alone with this. Thank you for praying for me girl that means so much to me. And I just prayed for you too.
Whatever you do, you must live with your prospective partner before marrying. Find out of the compatibility is there emotionally, sexually and that you are on the same page about finances. A bit of a trial run before saying "I do" is a must.
Good Morning Allen ! You said it perfectly! The pressure is real ! I personally never experienced this but i see people going through being forced to get married all the time ! Amen ! I feel you when you said you need more time ! This was a great video ! Sharing this out ! Everyone needs to hear this ! Have a blessed dayy! 💞💞
This videos a God send, I broke up with my boyfriend last night because I was rushing into a relationship when I wasn't ready. He's an amazing man, just not the right time.
Marriage sounds like such a burden to me. Yes it might have benefits of course but in my opinion the cons outweigh the pros. I’m fine with staying single, I’d much rather be free with the Lord.
I'm almost 42 and have a desire to want to get married for years. I just don't see myself wanting to stay single all my life. It just doesn't seem right to me, but I hear you. Pray for me.
Loneliness is not good for me .....I will never give up looking for a wife.........I still believe Gods original plan was for Adam and Eve to be in love forever? (Gen 2:18)
Good message! I'm going on 30 years of marriage and all that Paul said is true. I've felt a number of times that I've missed out on ministry opportunities being married. But I will say this, I believe that through marriage, and learning to become one with a woman who has a completely opposite personality than me, that I have grown more in my walk with God than I could have as a single person. My marriage brought out so many things inside me that I probably never would have bothered with if I were single.
Am a single christian straggling with lust and sexual sins..But through the holy spirit and prayers I know I will be able to overcome before I get married..
Very true. I was serving and doing a lot in the church until I got married. Then of course my mission changed bc now it's focused on my family's salvation. But trying to get back to the church it's been a bumpy road. So Paul knew what he was talking about.
Hmm. I actually feel like I'm made to feel guilty for wanting to be married. I'm 30 and I want to be married. I don't have the gift of singleness, I don't like being alone, and while I've never been sexually active, I "burn with passion." "Its better to marry than to burn with passion." Burning is frustrating and distracting and sometimes I feel Iike other Christians/people unintentionally discourage me, because maybe they married unwisely and they're unhappy. Those with good marriages I think take it for granted. Being single is lonely and the hormones are frustrating.
I've been single for years and really love it, I try to go to church and group meetings like cr. I try to stay active and talk about my current problems and try to possibly help others in need. 43 years clean this month through the grace of the Lord God. Amen
I had a goal to get married. But I'm approaching 35 soon and it's going to be hard to adapt to someone else's routine. I've prayed and prayed about but finding a spouse, but it's just too stressful finding someone. If I can't find someone by 35, I'm just going to accept life for what it is, predestined to be single (by fate not by choice).
As a 17 year old man, I have been planning on staying single for a while. And for me I see it to be more useful in my life because I love Him so much I want to completely serve my life to Christ and evangelize in the near future. If any of you are willing, please pray for me. 🙏
let's keep trying to learn through the teachings good ways to live, most of all trying to learn to be more kind and understanding with others (if carefully at times in a dangerous and saddened world, Matthew 10:16) He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:8) (Psalms 37:11) (Proverbs 12:10) (Luke 6:35 - 36)
I have learned humility is important. It comes from obeying God in everything, as much as it is possible for a person. There's a lot more, the Bible has all the answers.
48 and single. Really don't want to be, Im ready for marriage. Everything this video speaks about I am aware of. Of course there will always ever be more things to learn, but as a therapist we are exposed to and are trained to think about these potential difficulties. What happens when you feel you have been blocked from being married and the choice has been taken away from you? Id rather go through struggles of marriage, knowing my husband was still God chosen, rather than live this life alone. Its very painful.
48 and in the same boat too. There's not a day that goes by that I don't take this to the Lord. A partner in life is not too much to ask. Life is that much harder when there's no one loving you like the way a spouse does. My womb is expired, and I have nothing to show for my personal life. I feel left behind by God.
Yeah I think it’s important to think about the context. He brings up good points but God made women for men. Yeah if everyone was like him we could get things done in the church but civilization doesn’t move. This is definitely something to think about going into marriage to make sure you’re considering God even after you’re married. I don’t think God wants us to be single because he wants us to multiply. Great video!
I’ve been divorced for 25 years. I’ve prayed to find a husband but I have come to enjoy the freedom I have!! I teach bible study in my home I can study as long and as much as I want!! I’ve had some up and down issues the past 2 years but I praise Him for forgiveness and renewal!! Thank you for your messages!! 🙏
I was praying to the Lord praying for this very thing this morning. Do I want to get married or not. The Lord has not put anyone in my life. I believe this video helps me to be in a good place not being married and staying single and keep living for Jesus. Thank you!
Great video! I'm married and hearing this took a burden off my shoulders. I felt like I wasn't doing enough spiritually and felt pressured. Now I know why. Great explanation 😃👍
I've been married 13 years. All is well,but I must be brutally honest that both my wife and I miss being single. It's not that anything traumatic has happened to us,but life was better. All my life I listened to people (Christian and Not) say Do Not Get Married!!! They were right!! Especially this day in age it's easier in so many ways to take care of yourself.
@@friedchicken892 Yes there are just less responsibilities and worry. You got to remember one thing you don't marry a person you marry a intire family and even though we both agree that our family members are not crazy people but they struggle with stuff that pop up in life and let's face it you get roped in whether you like it or not. I feel bad for my wife that she sacrifices time and money dealing with my aging parents. I would sooner do it alone. It would be easier.
33 year old virgin guy i might get married im trusting god. If hes gonna send me a wife great if not im stay single im happy following god and liveing my single life. I can fully take care of myself im takeing care of my ailing grandparents god is giving me strength. I can fully take care of myself and a house dont really need a spouse.
I think that this video was good to share. Honestly, I also think that it's a heart issue. A lot of believers unknowingly idolize marriage. That needs to be taught more. Yes, I'm single, but I'm learning to be more thankful for God keeping me single so that my affection for Him grows as well as my faith. Learning to be content is always going to be a struggle but when I'm more satisfied in Him, I realize that's the GOAL. It's all for his glory.
I needed to hear this message. I did not accept wrong proposals and become unequally yoked or unhappy for all the reasons you mentioned. God directed my path. I listened to Godly and parental advice. I hope I listened well enough, and God continues to give me discernment, wisdom, and hope. ( Looking back, I see I missed some awful bullets that would have made me suffer! I prayed hard, but I think Satan brought his best to try me. Thank you Lord for keeping me from stumbling.) I pray God keeps me safe, provides for me, and lifts me up as my good Father and God. I trust the LORD. Bless me, Father. Thank you, Jesus! Amen
I am single for more than 40 years. It's really a struggle to battle sexual temptations. I am never loved in a way that will lead into a marriage, and the one I loved that way was not feeling the same for me. Sometimes I really wish for someone who can understand me and love me as I am, but it's not easy to meet that one. I was serving God through my 20s. Now I am overwhelmed with works. I feel now that alone can be rewarding.
I had been single all my life and I tried to meet men but idk. Second, over the years my family church friends would ask me why I am single, or when I am going to get married. At first I thought I was doing something wrong by being single but thank you for this video. I understand that being single is not a bad thing especially when you're pleasing and worshiping the Lord and that is what I'm going to continue to do until he sees fit for me to marry
I'm turning 34 soon and still single with the desire to get married. I recently gave my desire to God and put it in His hands, but it's still hard. Some days I'm content and others I'm not. The hardest thing for me right now to deal with is my desire to have kids. I also don't know how much I would need to change about my lifestyle before I got married. Sometimes I think I put too much pressure on myself, and others I don't know.
I'm a male Christian in my late fifthties.I've never been in a dating relationship.The church doesn't do enough to address the needs of single Christians
Every time I see my extended family members they always ask when you getting married? Like I’m the last person in the whole entire family that is single. I’m 37 I can’t help it I’m not married right now in fact I’ve seen many marriages crumble over the years with mess attached. It’s not that I’m choosing to be married I’ve hadn’t crossed a woman’s radar yet I must be invisible or smart one not getting into mess regret misery. I’ll like too be married someday if it’s in Gods will for me too be. So yeah I gotta put up with from my extended family why are you not married yet until then.
I am a married woman. This video in all honesty made me really sad. I understand that’s points made in it, but sometimes I don’t understand if marriage was something I should have done. I want to do good for the Lord, but when I often hear about how being single is better, it makes me feel guilty for wanting a husband and for having already gotten married 😢
I just wanted to give you some encouragement. Marriage is a very special bond God created between man and women. If marriage is wrong or inferior to singleness God would not have created marriage . You don't need to feel guilty for wanting marriage and an husband. If God says this about a man finding a wife then it applies to a woman finding a husband " He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" Proverbs 18:22 ESV. Marriage is difficult but it's also a beautiful thing and singleness dosen't come with out problems either. Singleness can be a beautiful thing as well, so they are both challenging. Also remember you are doing God's work with being invested in your husband and if you have children teaching them the Word of God and investing in them. Marriage isn't a mistake and I don't think you made a mistake by marry. I'm married and very happy to be. It's challenging but I don't think I could have handled being single. I also love my job as a mother!
I think maybe you were already sad. There is a danger in hearing about the way others live (and it is not a wonderful as potrayed, life is not easy, depend on Christ), for it may pull you out of what you should be rejoicing in and affect your attitude about what God requires of you. May God help you in your marriage. He loves and cares for you.
If marriage was less than singleness, God would never have created Adam and eve. It's just everyone is called to something different, sis. We all just serve God within our own way in our own situation
Sounds like you are coveting what another person has; this is a sin. I wouldn’t recommend disrespecting your husband like this behind his back. The Lord knows your heart and thoughts and you made the choice to get married. Don’t let Satan talk you into having an affair to end the marriage. Keep pressing in to Jesus in prayer and pray that your marriage is restored and that you can experience joy with your husband and both serve the Lord together as ONE. Communicate with him. Singleness is a great place to heal before you are married I have realized but I desire to be married to a Godly women but I know patience and character building before marriage is important to me. My rant. It just makes me sad to hear women hiding their feelings from the man who loves them unconditionally
Listen to it again. Marriage is strongly encouraged for many reasons. He's just saying, as a single person, you are not at disadvantage just because you are single.
I’m a 44 year old man. I’ve always seem to attract good looking woman. I am a business owner and I can supply my future family with a good life. Most importantly I am filled with the Spirit, I understand the times we are living in and my life’s desire is to follow Christ wherever that may lead. I’ve been celibate for 15 years. No kids. No baggage. No crazy ex girlfriends or wives. Yet I can’t find a suitable mate. I went on Christian Mingle the other day and 75% of woman have children. Unless God calls me to raise on other mans child... I’m not interested. I would always be in fourth place behind the needs of the woman, child and the child’s father. No Thank You. I rarely see a difference in between ‘christian’ woman and woman of this world. I dreamed of raising a family on a little hobby farm my the last 20 years.... yet I don’t know if it’s too late at this point.
Your story is inspiring sir. The good news is that you can still find a woman who is child free like you. Don't just limit yourself to women from your church and Christian dating site. You may also search out, you can get a suitable spouse for you.
Reading through these comments has been eye opening. I'm on the flipside. I belong yo a culture where basically every man has at least one or two kids by one or two women. I'm not interested in baby mama drama. I honestly don't know a single man who is unmarried that doesn't have dome kids somewhere, even in the "church".
My wife and I have been together since 2014 when we were Juniors in high school. With my family being Catholic I grew up with a lot of religion, however as I got older I was on the fence. She grew up with little to no religion in her life. While I was on the fence I still held on to some of my Christian beliefs but I was admittedly lukewarm, but my wife started slowly coming around to the idea of Christianity. Fast forward to today in 2022 I have had a lot of callings to come back to Christ and I've been slowly getting my wife involved and now I have been re-baptized and she was baptized for the first time in a non-denominational church. I love my wife so much and even when we both were agnostic I knew she was the one for me. Almost as if God had brought us together to make us stronger in our faith together.
Single. Happy. Staying single. As such, you have to plan accordingly for the surprises that life will enviably throw your way - have substantial savings, long-term care insurance, reliable vehicle(s), living will, plan for pets in the event of untimely demise, etc - but would much rather live alone or w a platonic roommate (separate sleeping quarters).
I definitely want to be married. I always felt like that was in God's plan for me. Second to serving God, I feel the most fulfilled when I'm in a relationship, helping the man I'm with. 🥰
I’m single and celibate for yeahs now focused on ma purpose and I can tell that the benefits are tremendous and one thing I can say is that ma memory understanding and ability to understand increased
I'm 26 and single, and have thought about getting serious about dating to marry, but I think my time is best served now being single which I'm taking comfort in. I'm in seminary right now (soon taking a gap semester or year) and thinking about how next to go about my life with the free time I will have. Please please please pray for me.
Thank you for including us singles in this brother Allen! We are left out so much in church discussions these days! (P.S. Also I'm sure you probably know but just in case the shoutout you did for your logos livestream in this video is on a date that I believe had already passed when this video was posted may want to adjust for the next one 🙂)
Godly Marriage is good, it is a gift from God, loneliness, waiting for someone who might never come and endlessly burning with passion is very bad for any one. We live in this flesh World, we must never deny our physical needs, when we are resurrected, we will be like Angels neither getting married or given in marriage, then we can enjoy our singleness, no wonder so many Christians are caught up in Sexual scandals because of a need that is consistently ignored 🙏.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH remains - The CREATOR of the heavens and the earth is still the Most High and Sovereign GOD. JESUS CHRIST is still the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED about HUMAN BEINGS ON PLANET EARTH - Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still raising, glorifying, and exalting themselves as better, greater, powerful, higher and superior than the Creator and Jesus Christ. Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still mocking, degrading, and insulting the BIBLE as worthless and useless, without any value at all. Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions will still suffer, get sick and weak and just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths like Adam and Eve. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "KINGDOM OF GOD" REMAINS AS TRUTH - Believers of the BIBLICAL authority and teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" will still be rewarded and honored by the CREATOR with ETERNAL LIFE and existence without pains, sufferings, griefs, sickness and deaths on a safe and peaceful planet earth without unkind and hateful atheists, agnostics, and fanatics of religions, without liars, slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, terrorists, criminals, militaries, funeral homes, and cemeteries.. They will fully enjoy the Creator's and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ, the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth. THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "RESURRECTION OF THE DEAD" REMAINS AS TRUTH - Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, Daniel, Jesus Christ's disciples, and many others will still be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own good time.
I find that too often the Church idolizes marriage and puts so much emphasis on couples marrying early/young 20yo and younger and doesn’t consider those married later in age. Which is still very common. This needs to change
Wow, this has to be one of my favorite videos from you. Thank you for your transparency. I can't tell you how many times I'm asked that question at church!! Thank you for all the nuggets of information. Of course I want to get married but somethings I get asked so often, I'm like lemme just chose anyone and get it over with. Of course, I know this is not wise which is why I"m waiting for the right one. Keep up the awesome work.
After two divorces and no children, I believe I was never called to marriage or parenthood to begin with, and I'm totally OK with that. I feel no jealousy when I observe married friends or see family photos. If anything, I'm happy for them! I truly feel no resentment, no feelings of "why don't I have that, too" or regret other than not listening closer to what God called me to from the start. Honest. I like my life. I just wish I had prayed more before involving the lives of two honorable men who deserved better than to be married to me, someone who could not make a proper commitment. Fortunately, God is forgiving, and neither of these men harbors any ill will toward me.
I'm single and I know I will be celibate for my whole life. I'm bound to the Word of God, that says marriage is good, but being unmarried is better. Unless this verse will be erased by God's divine hand, I cannot marry. I want God to have my all.
I was married for 17 years wife passed over 2 years ago .people wondering why im still single because I have not got over my wife.and I don't think I am for a long time staying single.
Put God first and He will take care of the rest
Amen 🙏
Well Biblically If you put God first that doesn't mean to wish to be fullfilled your Desires through God but to have to accept God's desire to be fullfilled in your life even if He wants You to be UNMARRIED for your Whole Life.
I agree with @swayam
@@Anonymous-jd4hs that sucks!!
AMEN
Relationships take energy and work. Often we see all the positives & think we want what others have- not knowing about the struggles we don’t see. The Lord knows what’s best for each one of us ✝️🕊💜
Definitely.
Sure...
👏🏽 you better preach!
Amen
and serving the lord doesn't take energy and work? i say serving the lord while struggling with a single curse is infinitely harder than not single and serving the lord
You are right being single has so much freedom to serve God and the church.
Really enjoyed this message. As a single, I sometimes feel like I’m an outsider at church. Thank you for this talk!
If more messages like these were shared in churches, Christians would make more informed decisions about whether they really want to get married or stay single and serve the Lord. Thank you Pastor Allen, for the video!
Sure...
Yes!! I go to church by phone because I was bullied by the church due to my being single.
Ain't that the truth
Being married was the biggest blessing of my life. My husband unexpectedly died at 39 in July 2021. I miss him terribly every day. But because of how wonderful he was and our relationship was, I know I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm trying to fully trust God to be my provider and defender. I'm trying to find as many ways as possible to serve God. But I miss so much having that partner in everything. I pray to find that again!
That's okay to think that. Humans need companionship. I'll pray for you my sister in Christ.
There are many Mature Christian men out there ,looking for a mature Christian woman . I am one of those.
@@sanjuan100100 Thank you. I pray God brings such a man into my life.
Yes, married people stop asking us single folks, why are we single? Why are you married? Still believing for my purpose partner as a single woman in her 40's. Tfs
I am 38 years old and single. I've had a couple of relationships that were supposed to lead to marriage, but it was too hard for me. The most difficult thing was to devote my free time, my passions, time to read the Bible, time to play sports, etc. Someone later told me that it was because I was selfish. I don't know if this is the case, I just have a hard time sharing my life with someone. Right now, I am glad to be able to study the Word and be involved in the church. We will see what the future holds, but the thought that I will be alone for the rest of my life is a less and less problematic for me. The world is going crazy, there is hope that the Lord will come soon :)
Let the people of the church say AMEN! This is my personal feeling and overall attitude honestly! The people who say that you're selfish are stupid because at the end of the day, how you choose to live your life is none of their business and vice versa. How you live your life is not going to affect them in any way at all so why are they critical of you? I told my dad that I actually want to be single for the rest of my life (I've had no relationships because I wasn't the 8, 9, or 10 at all. I even had a Black man tell me that according to that rating system, I'm between a 2-3 because I'm overweight and ugly but if I were to lose weight, the most that I'll be is a 4, possibly 5 depending on how I look. So there goes that Black unity that we want so bad.) because I don't need the hell in my life especially with how things are going. Men treating women horribly and vice versa. So essentially it's just best to keep my sanity and peace by choosing not be out there. The con of course to this is that more and more men and women are doing this and that will eventually lead to more of a drop in birthing and marriage rates, thereby making the continuation of society be threatened.
I'm 25 years old and single. Never been in a relationship tbh. I'm torn though,on one hand It can be pretty lonely being in my apartment but on the other hand I don't have to worry about much other than bills and feeding myself. But still, going to church and seeing young men with beautiful women makes me feel a bit left out. But at the same time I feel a sense of peace being single. Please offer some advice and pray for me. I need it
I'm going to suggest that you are or were selfish but not as an insult.
The truth is we are all selfish learning to become selfless, like Christ.
The natural state of marriage leads people to face the selfishness head on. Some people end up breaking up because it is overwhelming. It is a difficult thing to learn.
The process of becoming selfish to selfless is the same process to truly love. Truly loving God without expectations.
However learning how to truly love without selfishness is the main lesson in the bible. It's a simple concept but a difficult one to carry out and accept.
Also this lesson is learned through work, having friends, being a part of a family, and follow Christ. Learning how to love without expecting anything from anyone is difficult. Learning how to give trust, even after people mess up, is also difficult.
I used to think marriage, friendships and such were a set up of reasonable exchanges. That trust was an discussed and agree upon ruleset. I would get perturbed if people would hypocritically break their own rules.
Then I learned about love is a choice and so is trust. Ever since that, I've been more easily to forgive others and be more patient and less hurt if they are being unreasonable. And also I can forgive myself when I'm also being unreasonable. I'm more easily able to apologize for faults and forgive faults.
Marriage isn't "sharing" a life. It's giving a life. The way Christ gave himself up for the church.
I too also wanted to run from this. I cried to God "Howcome you sent me this man? We are so incompatible."
Long story short I didn't understand how to truly love.
I still struggle with selfishness from time to time. But life as been significantly more peaceful after realizing what true love is.
True love isn't moved by the rules of the world. It's absolute foolishness by ways of the world.
When I was asking the hard hitting questions to my spouse, we both confronted and figured out the purpose of love.
I don't think everyone should get married. I think God knows what's best.
However learning how to truly love is something I think God wants us all to eventually know somehow.
Because when you look at Abraham almost sacrificing his son, Job going through trials, Moses wondering in the wilderness, Jesus chastising people for only wanting food, and Jesus dying for our sins. There seems to be that common theme of loving God and not expecting anything from God. And so Paul and the other apostles live this selfless way.
I don't think America is rooted in selfishness like some claim. It's rooted in the freedom to choose. Which is Holy. "The perfect law of liberty "
We are free to choose now. Now we can choose to truly love God the selfless way.
Whither is discovering that through work, marriage, friends or family, I think it's all okay. I think God simply wants us to learn what real love is about. :)
My advice is to keep praying to God about what's best for you. In the end, God knows what's best.
For me, God sent me my man. It's been the most challenging but beautiful relationship I've ever had. And I learned how to truly love. Which I never loved like this before (aside from my babies).
However people can learn this type of love through friendships, work and family so a person doesn't have to be married to learn how to love.
Also, we all learn in our own time and only God knows what that best time is. It might not be time to get married. I know if my husband and I met any time sooner, we would've hated each other lol. I was still bitter at men and he was exactly not my "type" before we met.
I had to heal first. He also had to heal also.
So when dealing with complex human beings with various trauma, it's good to pray. I believe when you act accordingly to God's will, it sets you on a path to discover what's best for you. Whither it's being single or being married. :)
I'm 55 never married and loving my freedom to do what I want when I want
30 and single and praying and preparing (out of faith and trust in the LORD) for a wife... praying its soon
Thanks so much for this video. As a Christian single woman who has been blessed with the gift of celibacy it’s a little frustrating dealing with the opinions and criticism from peers and others on why I’m not married. And I feel bad sometimes like maybe I should be married but then I’m reminded of Paul and the very scriptures you mentioned from the Bible. So thank you again for the reminder, it’s so encouraging.
I've never met someone that has the gift of singleness. Could you describe how it feels like? I've been single for about 4 years now and I do have a desire to be married, but I also don't think of it most days. Lately I have been thinking about it more, I don't know
@@somethinggood9267 I try not to think about it much. I spend my time in serving/helping others which I believe is God’s purpose for my life. It keeps me busy so that I don’t dwell on the fact that I’m single. Its usually those around me who can’t move on from it and gets annoying at times. It’s definitely a gift as everyone can’t live this life but I believe God has given me the grace to do so. Glory be to God. I pray the same for you, if it be the Lord’s will.
Single and in my 40’s, I never wanted a husband before I underwent some trauma. After suffering a stroke, I recognized the importance of having a someone - a husband. Thank God, I am well and his love pulled me through. Thank you for this video. Grown and single is the forgotten group in churches. I’ve asked priests to speak on it, and even RUclipsrs to no avail. Appreciate this video!
Forgotten and made to feel less than and treated as such. Churches need to do better.
Exactly. I'm in that same boat as well.
Check out Houston's First Baptist Church. They have a singles bible study group that was made in order to serve those singles in the city of Houston with the age range of 30s and 40s.
@Justin Gary my humble advice is stay a virgin until the Lord delivers your wife. Stay pure for the Lord.
The church and even online ministries have dropped the ball in regards to the pain of loneliness older singles struggle with.
I wished I heard this teaching decades ago because I always felt this way. I have been divorced since 2013, and my exhusband remarried. I definitely believe I always had the gift of singleness even while I was married. I got married out of anxiety and peer pressure when I was young. I enjoy my peace, freedom and celibacy of being single.
I really want to get married and i pray YAH help me make it work.Marriage is a gift from our HEAVENLY father to us.
Paul is so right when he talks about marriage in 1 Corinthians 7. Unfortunately many Christians are so fixated on marriage that some completely disregard this chapter of the Bible. I am single woman, 41, never really wanted to get married till I came to Christ over 4 years ago... Was it Christ or Christian who have 'convinced' me? Still don't know ... I can't even say how many prophesies I've received about wonderful man of God coming into my life, how many conversations or questions I had about whether I met someone or simply 'when I'm getting married?'..., how many disappointments (at that age it's pretty hard to find Christian man who is not 10 years younger and still single or who is not messed up or divorced....) It's been many times since than when I decided to stay single and serving the Lord, but many Christians didn't have it and continue prophesying... It's tiring and such a waste of time. But it should be about getting married to someone you are in love with, right? Not just for the sake of getting married. May the Lord have grace on us all who are still single whether you want to get married or not. May it be His will. Plus Jesus is coming back very soon 😀 Let's focus on serving Him and winning more souls to His Kingdom
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Divorced people can remarry, 1 Corinthians 7:27,28a.
Thank you for this video. Certain Christian influencers often pressure us singles (especially women) to get married. I’m in my early forties, single, and childfree. I learned to enjoy my singleness by doing what God has called me to do, doing what I love, and being with the people I love. I’m thankful for supportive family, friends, and church-I don’t feel much pressure to get married. It makes this season so much easier. I would like to get married someday to share my life with someone, but I’m not in a rush. It’s mainly because God has tasked me with so much to do, and I love my own space! I am grateful.
Must b nice....most don't have that great support
@@ladyj5682 by the Grace of God… I pray more singles will have support
Same here!
I might prefer being pressured to consider marriage by anyone than pressured to stay single and avoid marriage by married people.
Before I got married at 40 years old, I was getting discipled and doing ministry constantly. I'm grateful that I didn't waste my singleness by learning how to serve and make the best of my time to make disciples and pour out my life for others. When I finally did get married, it made it easier to serve my wife and weather the various trials in my marriage. I would suggest to singles considering marriage that they learn to maximize their time to learn how to serve and minister to others before you get married. What I've learned is that marriage is not to fulfill personal happiness, but to learn to grow in character and deal with sin issues that bubble to the surface. If you are selfish, lazy or have an independent mentality, it would behoove you to not get married until you have more self control in those areas. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it's hard and requires a lot of work. Just dropping that knowledge you can't learn in college. Peace and grace to all of the single people out there putting in work for the Kingdom!!!
This is great counsel and wisdom.
Brother Allen this is like counselling for singles; wish I had gotten this teaching over 38 years ago. I would've been better prepared fore my marriage, less problems.
Great lesson! Thank you. I am unmarried and have never been married. I do desire to be married; however, it will have to be a Godly marriage. And you are 100% correct about it being more difficult to marry as you grow older as a single person. Lol. I ponder whether I want to give up my space, often. That's why I try to serve as much as possible. It's hard to be selfish when you're serving others. Have a great day!
Brother Allen, I'm so glad that God brought a wonderful Christian woman into your life. Much happiness to you and your wife in your marriage. I've been widowed two years now and I miss my wife dearly. We had no children, but God has been good to me while grieving her loss to Covid. I don't know what God has in store for me in the future. But I do know I miss the Union of being married and I'm asking the Lord for his guidance and will to be done.
As a single Christian woman, I have to say that it's extremely difficult to find a potential husband these days, as obviously I want a man who is born again and also one, who is awake to what has been happening in the last 2 years. Sometimes I also think that it's not a God's plan for me to be married, so I have somewhat accepted it and won't mind, if I will remain single for the rest of my life. God bless 🙏♥️
As a single Christian man, I’m kinda on the same page as your thinking, would love to find a Christian woman, but 1 where we’re on the same wavelength spiritually, as in taking note of all the end times signs that are going on, cos Jesus is coming to rapture us out of here soon, and for that reason mainly I then think, is it actually worth getting married 🤷🏻🙏🏻
@@Sacrifice-Paid I totally understand what you mean, it's very important to be equally yoked with your other half. In regards to the pre- tribulation rapture, I would love for it to happen, but I think I follow too many channels on here, who have varied opinions on that, the same goes for brothers and sisters in Christ in my life. I guess the only thing we can do is to trust in the Lord, that no matter what, He will give us the strength and will see us through until the end 🙏 I also think at times, that it's not even worth it to bother with marriage, certainly wouldn't be a good idea to bring a child into this messed- up world. God bless you brother 🙏
Same here I've been struggling with this for year's now it's been hard to find a men who's is on the same level I had to turn down a couple of guys before I'm not so quick to date just anyone
@@LittleSister1981 I’ve recently deleted a bunch on channels of whom I was following, cos some of them I wasn’t actually watching their content cos I didn’t see it as biblical, on the note of the pre trib rapture, there maybe differing opinions, but only 1 of them is correct, in regards to pre-mid-post….., from my studies I’ve looked at all 3 positions, and can understand why some think the 2 that aren’t correct, but putting that aside, cos yes, it’s happening sooner than what we can imagine, but I don’t know wen, cos I’m not God, but yeah, same as you, even if there was time to raise children, I say that in the sense of that’s how short of time we have left, I wouldn’t want the stress of bringing them up in this mess of a world, it’s beyond a mess, that’s how soon the rapture is, from a worldly perspective, the world is falling apart, from a biblical prophecy perspective, it’s falling into place…… 🙏🏻👍🏻
@@Sacrifice-Paid I guess I should also unsubscribe from some of the channels that I have been following, but as someone who only just got saved in 2019, I still have a lot to learn 😊Yes, this world is a total mess and I thank God everyday, that I haven't fallen for the recent deception, that I have used the discernment of the Holy Spirit, otherwise I would have taken part in the medical experiment by taking the "magic potion", praise the Lord for that 🙏
Only God knows the day and the hour when the rapture will take place, we must be ready and keep our lamps oil filled 🙏
Marriage has alot of responsibility... I never knew this untill I got married...... The fact that there is a lot of " to do list" and living with someone who has a thought process and personality different from you can be exhausting!!!... May the LORD give me strength. 🙏🙏🙏
Though I really love my husband ❤️
Good message! I think we can fulfill our purpose to the Lord while bathing our kids, serving our spouse, cleaning kitchen, etc, because if all things are done unto the Lord, then we are ultimately loving and serving Him and walking in obedience to what He’s called us to :).
Oh how I love your comment! Until recently I felt like being married and having kids distracted me from serving God in the way that “pleases Him” But God told me that he gave me these gifts and all I have to do is just walk in obedience to what He called me into which is marriage and parenting. God bless you!
Amen
@@audreyestelle687 I am so glad that it was helpful! Keeping serving the Lord in all you do! :)
@@CharleneBurgos thank you soo much!!🙏🏾
I am 32 and single and I understand your points. Paul was very wise on this topic.
But marriage is from God and he invented it for a reason. Although I am content and living in purity and by myself, I will continue praying for God to make marriage a reality in my life for him to be glorified. Although I won't be entitled. Guys, think what you want, but as much as I loooove to be single, I don't believe it is the best way of life - at least for me. May God glorify his beautiful name and power in any season though. Peace and out.
About time a Christian talks about this! I def feel left out and had to start a podcast about singleness because we aren’t served very well across the board.
I also appreciate the transparency about the spiritual and practical difficulty of marriage because a lot of the time marriage has been idolized and painted as this pie in the sky type experience.
Do you have a link?
@@Dsturb85 yes, thanks for asking! Hope you are well Daniel.
@@MrKingcarella23 you're welcome please share it with me
I am of beautiful Christian lady
(71years young😃) I will be celebrating my beloved husband ( that the LORD TOOK HOME 9 years AGO… ) tomorrow 12-08-22
Gary went home 12-08-13..
We were high school sweethearts, getting married on my 18th birthday, finishing my senior year of high school in Norfolk,Va
I’d go to school.. Gary would go to the ship yards.. we had over 30 years in ministry of our 44 years of marriage…
I’m single now…and only desiring marriage if GOD GAVE ME A godly man that we finished our last assignment together before going home…
And to taste, companionship, affection, and
Togetherness again… I realize the differences, the sacrifices, and the struggles of growing in life… that HOLY SPIRIT MAKES ME CONTENT and let GOD give HIS BEST not mine…
Soooo Allen, thank you again for this loving truthful message…
The Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas is excellent.. may you my precious pastor be blessed!
Sincerely in JESUS,
Violet Strike
St Paul, Mn
when people ask me " when are you going to get married" ; i always say " when are you going to pay for my wedding "
Love it.
That's a good one
better than a married person telling you "don't EVER get married!"
Really do need more teachings on singleness thank you Allen God Bless
I love being single it give me more peace than being in a relationship. 😇
I’m divorced and according to your one video I felt better about that divorce as my husband wanted it and made me crazy to get out. Anyways I’m 67 now and God has led me closer to him during my singleness. Time I didn’t have in abundance before. Raising kids etc, so being single gave me many blessings. But at church your right everything is addressed to married people, what about us widows and divorced. You are awesome to address this. But lately I’m wanting to find a good Christian man to grow together in shared faith. Plus due to fraud I’m struggling to make ends meet, plus facing 2 surgeries on neck and back, please pray for me. God is faithful and has led four people to send me money to help out. Christian friends who said God called them to help me. Praise God. In my trials God is working in my life to provide for the things I need
I’m divorced too in my later years but God opened many doors for me. I will admit I have walked out of church many times because EVERY TEACHING is on marriage raising children etc. I sigh and leave. Or if you are single it’s for the young singles so older singles don’t fit in
@@LisaLisaCJ I understand. I don’t leave but rejoice that they are doing so much for young kids, but we are a group that’s left out. Almost makes you think, where do I fit in? I was listening to Jack Hibbs from Calvary Baptist of Chino hills CA and they use the mature Christians in a beautiful way by pairing new believers with older Christians to mentor them. Fabulous idea. Obviously we have a gap that churches need to identify and minister too. I love my church but sometimes it makes you feel lonely in our needs. Thankfully our relationship to Christ b brings us peace we need. I think we need to address the issues with the church we attend.
@@marciacoe4610 I think I’m going to look for another church with older singles. Because I feel like I can’t heal from my divorce fully constantly listening to marriage teachings
I said a prayer for you.
@@somethinggood9267 thank you. I live in lots of pain, but people prayers are helping. Neck surgery on Dec 12. Then back surgery next year. Praying I have enough money to pay my home taxes coming up too.
I just turned 32. I’ve been single for some years now and I’m great at being single but I still struggle with celibacy. I’m not sexually active but mentally, I’m struggling with lust so I asked God for a husband so I can at least be intimate in a way that pleases God. I don’t know if I’m praying right or praying for the right thing but I don’t want to sin against God. My name is Sharaine. Can someone pray for my deliverance or maybe a God- fearing husband that pleases God? May God’s will be done. Amen.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH remains -
The CREATOR of the heavens and the earth is still the Most High and Sovereign GOD.
JESUS CHRIST is still the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED about HUMAN BEINGS CREATED BY THE CREATOR -
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still raising, glorifying, and exalting themselves as better, greater, powerful, higher and superior than the Creator and Jesus Christ.
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still mocking, degrading, and insulting the BIBLE as worthless and useless, without any value at all.
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions will still become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths like Adam and Eve.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "KINGDOM OF GOD" REMAINS AS TRUTH -
Believers of the BIBLICAL authority and teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" will still be rewarded and honored by the CREATOR with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth without pains, sufferings, griefs, sickness and deaths.
They will fully enjoy the Creator's and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ, the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "RESURRECTION OF THE DEAD" REMAINS AS TRUTH -
Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, Daniel, Jesus Christ's disciples, and many others will still be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own good time.
Hey Autumn! I totally hear you. I too have wrestled with lust, masterbating, and a porn addiction since 14 but remained celibate for the last 6 years. I have been free from lust and sexual immortality for about 2 months now and I can impart prayer and some revelations that have helped me! First we must seek God and his righteousness first in prayer and fasting. Second we must resist AND FLEE temptation (meaning running away from it literally). And third we must become so completely turned off by sexual sin where pleading with God on hands and knees to be free from this sin on our own bodies. Remember that every brother in Christ you see if a BROTHER, so lusting after your brother would be gross… right (has really helped me see my sisters as sisters and never desiring anything sexually from them knowing that it hurts my relationship with the Lord.
I pray that the Lord Jesus would strengthen you in your times of weakness to the flesh and that he would supernaturally deliver you from any spirit of wickedness. I pray that you would be purified and renewed in your mind will and emotions and that you would be set free from any bondage of the enemy.
If you do get delivered like I was, it will be easy to resist temptation and the Devil won’t be able to use this sin against you because you will be walking with Him in spirit and truth.
Keep on your guard and don’t forget to pray for protection every morning day and night. It’s a battle but you will win. God will deliver you in his perfect timing
I am 31 and single I am living for the Lord and I understand every word that you are saying because I am going through that myself. It takes the holy spirit to keep me from actually going out to fulfill my flesh desires. I do struggle mentally as well but the battle is in the mind and that is what the enemy attacks. There are some days that I am weak and days where are speak against these thoughts. I am praying to be delivered and heal from lust because I do not want to enter to a marriage with lust. My main focus right now is to serve the lord and be the woman he wants me to be.
I'm same here sis also 32 and struggling with lust but we have to renew our minds with the word and overcome evil with good stay faithful to your walk with the Lord and He will deliver you. As the word also says to renew your strength in Him as you wait
Same
I'm feeling overwhelmed by serious medical issues that I am dealing with right now and crying because I am single and entering my " golden years". Feeling lonely and I KNOW that as a single person I have more time to devote to the Lord and continually grow in His word. He knows what's best for me and I know what Brother Parr is saying about 1 Corinthians because I've read it numerous times.
The Holy Spirit led me to this because I was feeling like I wish I had a mate, however I KNOW that I belong to the most high God. I just needed to see and hear this to remind me that I really am not alone at all. Like Paul when he was walking on the water toward Jesus, and he looked down, he began to sink...I looked down and took my eyes from him and looked at my Self. Thank you Brother Parr for your wonderful ministry because I truly believe that I was led to hear this now. God bless you..I didn't mean to write so much but it's from my heart.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH remains -
The CREATOR of the heavens and the earth is still the Most High and Sovereign GOD.
JESUS CHRIST is still the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED about HUMAN BEINGS CREATED BY THE CREATOR -
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still raising, glorifying, and exalting themselves as better, greater, powerful, higher and superior than the Creator and Jesus Christ.
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still mocking, degrading, and insulting the BIBLE as worthless and useless, without any value at all.
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions will still become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths like Adam and Eve.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "KINGDOM OF GOD" REMAINS AS TRUTH -
Believers of the BIBLICAL authority and teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" will still be rewarded and honored by the CREATOR with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth without pains, sufferings, griefs, sickness and deaths.
They will fully enjoy the Creator's and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ, the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "RESURRECTION OF THE DEAD" REMAINS AS TRUTH -
Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, Daniel, Jesus Christ's disciples, and many others will still be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own good time.
Peter*
Tristan Hodgen thank you so much for the correction! I was sharing my thoughts with a friend and he said "Peter". Oh my☺️
38 and single here...barely hanging on lol
I'm RETTY!!
Pretty or ready? 😀
@@michaelalbertson7457 "retty" is slang for ready!
I totally agree with you, Allan! I’m single and prefer to be that way because people are crazy and their standards are off the wall. You can be a good woman but because you don’t fall under the standard of beauty (being an 8, 9, or 10) then you’re not seen as valuable or worthy of commitment, only just for sex and this includes Christian men. If you’re a man and not the standard of beauty and/or a high value man, then you’re not worthy of commitment or seen as valuable. It’s not worth the stress of getting out there whether you’re a man or woman. It just makes sense to be single and in peace.
Thanks for tarnishing us men with same brush, some of us would love to find a Christian woman, and not just for sex!!!
@@Sacrifice-Paid: I never once said all Christian men are like this.
@@aspiringactress8806 ok, maybe I shouldn’t have said all, but you clearly have a very pessimistic view of men and what we’re apparently after….., sorry but it goes both ways
@@Sacrifice-Paid: I actually don’t have a pessimistic view of men at all. I’m only telling the truth of what both men and women have said which is the reason why I choose not to be apart of the dating market and why I see why men are saying the same.
Funny you say Christian men. I have been preyed on for sec by more men professing Christ than when I was in the world and handing it out. Funny how the Word never applies to men in the sex category. If he asks me for sec I know he will cheat if we were married. I have been accused of being “ really saved” by single “Christian” men because I won’t sleep with them. It’s a sad state of affairs out here
43 and single. I anticipate it will be difficult to get through life alone. When house issues arise, important decisions need to be made, health issues, growing old/retirement - doing these things will be much more difficult alone than when surrounded by family. Being alone means being alone. When married you have children and grandchildren and a built in support system. - Greiving that I have matured past fertility is a whole other monster in itself, and it's the gift that keeps on giving (eg. No kids, no graduations, no future marriages, grandkids etc).
Adopt kids
I will say just because you have a spouse or kids doesn’t mean you will have someone when you are old. Ever been to a nursing home? Many of us now singles thought our spouse would stay in sickness and health and was left. Many of us have kids who are ungrateful. You cannot place your care or destiny in no one but GOD.
LindaC403, On those things you miss out, you also miss out on the problems that will come out of them. I also don't have those in my life, and realize, for me, I probably wouldn't have handled them as well as most do. Would like to get married again for companionship and the usual married things, but not so I can get pulled into family drama and such things. She has to be a true Christian, not a demanding person. I put it in God's hands. He knows best.
@@LisaLisaCJ 💯
@@LisaLisaCJ aMEN!!
This is a very helpful video for single people. Marriage is a wonderful gift when Christ is priority. I hope more single people hear this message.
32 woman single but at this point I don't care anymore 🤷🏼♀️ and I don't have that spiritual gift at all
you absolutely have a spiritual giftyou justhavent discovered it yet
@@SJ-qf2tz Celibacy ain't it 😅😅😅I have crushes every year ...and I have been in various relationships and I do want a family I just don't wanna force it
@@MA-yc7pz Oh girl I just realized I misread your comment hahaha I thought you said you didn't have any spiritual gift lmbo thank you for responding with grace haha but same that isn't my gift either I feel you. I want a husband and family too .
I'm a 39 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. As a Christian I have believed it was best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I have struggled with porn and masturbation nearly my whole life as a result and despite trying my best to stop, it feels like such a hardened habit now.
It may not be too late to meet someone but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now. I rarely even meet someone I want to pursue. The few I do aren't into me and the ones that are, I'm not into. There always seems to be something missing.
Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me or maybe I'm just unlucky or maybe I'm cursed? I don't know, but a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Everyday I have such a strong desire for a woman but it's only in my dreams that that becomes a reality.
There's no such thing as lucky/ unlucky and if you re a child of God you're not cursed. Hang in there while God's will is done. In the meantime always pray to Father in Jesus name for guidance and protection.
Pray and fast for 40 days, from 6am to 6pm. Focus on your relationship with God, and he will lead you.
@skyclasp praise God for giving u the boldness to post this message. As a child of God u can’t be cursed. God has different timings for us, speak to Him and ask Him to bring the right person for you as John Piper said ask great things from God, attempt great things for Him and submit all to Him. Also ask God to break the bad habits in your life and find Godly accountability partners to help u. God bless u
Same, I’m 34 right now and have had some sexual experiences/compromises/scares but haven’t ‘gone all the way’ and have struggled with lusts and porn since 15. I feel indifference in my attachment style which makes matters worse and I get over ppl and things too easily. I am seeking therapy but I go back and forth on whether I really want marriage but I’m praying to become a solid man of God regardless. The last 3-4 years I found myself stuck in these patterns with women I know shouldn’t have gotten so close to me in a certain manner and now I’m trying to redeem time. I only hope I make it out without doing something foolish or messing up the blessing of singleness within itself. Bless you and know you’re not alone in this fight.
Praying in agreement for your deliverance from lust (porn, masturbation). Check out the video Allen did on this if you haven’t already. People underestimate the psychological and warfare power of such and how it negatively impacts your ability to wholly connect with another person. The sex industry (including lusting at Instagram pics and other) is destroying families, relationships, and intimacy.
I am a single man and I do not have the gift of celibacy. There are times when I think I want to be married but I wonder if the real reason I wanna be married is to have a sexual relationship which I don’t think would be what God has in mind. I’m not sure if I could spend the rest of my life with somebody there 24 seven. The problem is trying to remain pure and not become sexually immoral. I must confess at times I fail, Paul talks about this when he says burn with lust. So I continue to pray for God‘s will in my life whether I should stay single or get married.
I'm 49, HEALTHY, fit and desire PHYSICAL TOUCH and intimacy. I am divorced. He abandoned me and committed adultery. I BELIEVE that biblically ALLOWS for me to be remarried. I DON'T like being single. I'm a FABULOUS lover and partner. Ultimately it's up to GOD. I DARE not pick ever again. BUT I enjoy the company of a Full blown Man, ONLY this time he needs to LOVE GOD and be a true follower of JESUS CHRIST✊🏾✊🏾
No it doesnt.unless he was married before he met you
I just turned 25, and I'm single. For a while now I've been going back and forth with how I feel about this status of my life. I have days where I do feel like I need to really cherish my singleness because it is a blessing. But then I have days where I feel like my life would be so much better if I were married. I just don't know how to feel sometimes, either. I am glad you made this video because you hit on a lot of the scriptures and ideas I've used to encourage myself, as well as a lot of difficulties I face. I am also the youngest of 4 and the only daughter and I sometimes feel like my family won't respect me as a fully functioning and independent adult until I get married or become some 7 figure business woman. I am a recent first gen college grad but I'm not where I want to be career wise either but I'm not trying to idolize career because I know there's more to life than that & I dont want to drown myself in my career to fill a void. I have no children, either, and I feel as though my parents still see me as a child and always will until I start my own family and this really makes me sad sometimes. I feel like I'm always included in their plans especially extended family events and holidays as if I'm just my parents' automatic plus 1. Because where else would I be? Yet, they always have to ask my brothers in advance and constantly reassure them that they understand if they cant do certain things or make it to certain events. They respect them as their own separate unions and I have asked God to help me not to envy that. It gets overwhelming sometimes. I often wonder if I was born for my sole purpose to be a servant to my family and nothing more. I feel like none of my heart's desires are even valid and I'm selfish for even desiring a husband because I should be grateful I have both parents, and that they're always so invasive into my private life because that means they care, and that I have neices and nephews that love me and don't get me wrong I am grateful for everything I have in life. I just wish I was in a different place sometimes, or had my own family and stability. I feel like I'm trying so hard to break through into womanhood. If you read this and made it all the way here, just pray for me. I know God has a plan for my life I'm trying to just see it through.
I relate heavily to you. I’m 24, single and no children and I guess I have a pretty goofy personality so I’m always looked at as a child by my family members instead of a young woman. I also desire for a husband at times because it would take so much of the financial/career/physical load off me and I do enjoy serving others. And nobodies perfect but there’s less and less God fearing men as the days go by. I know just how you feel. I guess we’ll have to just keep praying on it and at the same time dote on our singleness and the righteousness that can grow in us from being single. Also I think for us ladies at least, not having other Christian women friends also exasperates our desire to marriage. Sometimes we just want platonic intimacy and companionship and we don’t necessarily need to be married for that. I prayed for you btw! 🌸
@@berrysweetbreanna Thank you for sharing sis. I relate to you alot too. Very goofy personality as well lol. Heavy on the wanting someone to help bear the load part!!! Whew it can just be really awkward in today's society to be a single young christian woman, so many potential odds against us but God is greater than any of them, and that requires a daily reminder to self because you can really fall into feeling so sad, lonely, insufficient if you let your mind roam on it. You really hit the nail on the head for me with all of what you said and it helped me to see things a little differently. Satan loves to attack our minds to get us to view things negatively that were meant for good. I think God admires and gave us our unique youthfulness for a reason and for his glory. I'm just glad I'm not alone with this. Thank you for praying for me girl that means so much to me. And I just prayed for you too.
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Whatever you do, you must live with your prospective partner before marrying. Find out of the compatibility is there emotionally, sexually and that you are on the same page about finances. A bit of a trial run before saying "I do" is a must.
God Loves You Daily Reminder 🙏🏾❤️✝️
Good Morning Allen ! You said it perfectly! The pressure is real ! I personally never experienced this but i see people going through being forced to get married all the time ! Amen ! I feel you when you said you need more time ! This was a great video ! Sharing this out ! Everyone needs to hear this ! Have a blessed dayy! 💞💞
This videos a God send, I broke up with my boyfriend last night because I was rushing into a relationship when I wasn't ready. He's an amazing man, just not the right time.
I totally agree. Being in a marriage divided me like nothing. You gotta have the wisdom first to put God first in every situation ❤
Marriage sounds like such a burden to me. Yes it might have benefits of course but in my opinion the cons outweigh the pros. I’m fine with staying single, I’d much rather be free with the Lord.
I’m single learnt a lot from this video Allen both biblically and through your experience. Thanks ! I will share to my friends ✌️
I'm almost 42 and have a desire to want to get married for years. I just don't see myself wanting to stay single all my life. It just doesn't seem right to me, but I hear you. Pray for me.
Will do, my brother. Stay strong, trust in God.
We love you, The Lord loves you.
Pray for yourself according to the word of God Genesis 2:18. You have to speak your desire to God, don't forget Numbers 23:19. Be blessed 🙏🏾
Loneliness is not good for me .....I will never give up looking for a wife.........I still believe Gods original plan was for Adam and Eve to be in love forever? (Gen 2:18)
Good message! I'm going on 30 years of marriage and all that Paul said is true. I've felt a number of times that I've missed out on ministry opportunities being married. But I will say this, I believe that through marriage, and learning to become one with a woman who has a completely opposite personality than me, that I have grown more in my walk with God than I could have as a single person. My marriage brought out so many things inside me that I probably never would have bothered with if I were single.
The gift of celibacy is AWESOME, of course I serve an AWESOME GOD! 😃
People may not want to hear this but it's a good word.
Am a single christian straggling with lust and sexual sins..But through the holy spirit and prayers I know I will be able to overcome before I get married..
If I'm not financially stable I don't want to get married
Very true. I was serving and doing a lot in the church until I got married. Then of course my mission changed bc now it's focused on my family's salvation. But trying to get back to the church it's been a bumpy road. So Paul knew what he was talking about.
Hmm. I actually feel like I'm made to feel guilty for wanting to be married.
I'm 30 and I want to be married. I don't have the gift of singleness, I don't like being alone, and while I've never been sexually active, I "burn with passion." "Its better to marry than to burn with passion." Burning is frustrating and distracting and sometimes I feel Iike other Christians/people unintentionally discourage me, because maybe they married unwisely and they're unhappy. Those with good marriages I think take it for granted. Being single is lonely and the hormones are frustrating.
wait, so I am not the only marriage-desiring single that has been told, advised, lectured to avoid marriage... by married people??!!
I've been single for years and really love it, I try to go to church and group meetings like cr. I try to stay active and talk about my current problems and try to possibly help others in need. 43 years clean this month through the grace of the Lord God. Amen
I had a goal to get married. But I'm approaching 35 soon and it's going to be hard to adapt to someone else's routine. I've prayed and prayed about but finding a spouse, but it's just too stressful finding someone. If I can't find someone by 35, I'm just going to accept life for what it is, predestined to be single (by fate not by choice).
As a 17 year old man, I have been planning on staying single for a while. And for me I see it to be more useful in my life because I love Him so much I want to completely serve my life to Christ and evangelize in the near future. If any of you are willing, please pray for me. 🙏
let's keep trying to learn through the teachings good ways to live, most of all trying to learn to be more kind and understanding with others (if carefully at times in a dangerous and saddened world, Matthew 10:16)
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
(Micah 6:8) (Psalms 37:11) (Proverbs 12:10) (Luke 6:35 - 36)
I have learned humility is important. It comes from obeying God in everything, as much as it is possible for a person. There's a lot more, the Bible has all the answers.
Loving this series, thank you. God bless you and your family!
48 and single. Really don't want to be, Im ready for marriage. Everything this video speaks about I am aware of. Of course there will always ever be more things to learn, but as a therapist we are exposed to and are trained to think about these potential difficulties. What happens when you feel you have been blocked from being married and the choice has been taken away from you? Id rather go through struggles of marriage, knowing my husband was still God chosen, rather than live this life alone. Its very painful.
48 and in the same boat too. There's not a day that goes by that I don't take this to the Lord. A partner in life is not too much to ask. Life is that much harder when there's no one loving you like the way a spouse does. My womb is expired, and I have nothing to show for my personal life. I feel left behind by God.
Yeah I think it’s important to think about the context. He brings up good points but God made women for men. Yeah if everyone was like him we could get things done in the church but civilization doesn’t move. This is definitely something to think about going into marriage to make sure you’re considering God even after you’re married. I don’t think God wants us to be single because he wants us to multiply. Great video!
I’ve been divorced for 25 years. I’ve prayed to find a husband but I have come to enjoy the freedom I have!! I teach bible study in my home I can study as long and as much as I want!! I’ve had some up and down issues the past 2 years but I praise Him for forgiveness and renewal!! Thank you for your messages!! 🙏
I was praying to the Lord praying for this very thing this morning. Do I want to get married or not. The Lord has not put anyone in my life. I believe this video helps me to be in a good place not being married and staying single and keep living for Jesus. Thank you!
Great video! I'm married and hearing this took a burden off my shoulders. I felt like I wasn't doing enough spiritually and felt pressured. Now I know why. Great explanation 😃👍
I've been married 13 years. All is well,but I must be brutally honest that both my wife and I miss being single. It's not that anything traumatic has happened to us,but life was better.
All my life I listened to people (Christian and Not) say Do Not Get Married!!! They were right!! Especially this day in age it's easier in so many ways to take care of yourself.
Do you miss no marital responsiblitie,personal space. I feel this might be me😩
@@friedchicken892 Yes there are just less responsibilities and worry. You got to remember one thing you don't marry a person you marry a intire family and even though we both agree that our family members are not crazy people but they struggle with stuff that pop up in life and let's face it you get roped in whether you like it or not. I feel bad for my wife that she sacrifices time and money dealing with my aging parents. I would sooner do it alone. It would be easier.
@@Jason1Pa okay thanks for your honesty, my mom despises my dads side and its bern the most weight in their marriage
33 year old virgin guy i might get married im trusting god. If hes gonna send me a wife great if not im stay single im happy following god and liveing my single life. I can fully take care of myself im takeing care of my ailing grandparents god is giving me strength. I can fully take care of myself and a house dont really need a spouse.
It is not good for man to be alone (Gen 2:18)
I think that this video was good to share. Honestly, I also think that it's a heart issue. A lot of believers unknowingly idolize marriage. That needs to be taught more. Yes, I'm single, but I'm learning to be more thankful for God keeping me single so that my affection for Him grows as well as my faith. Learning to be content is always going to be a struggle but when I'm more satisfied in Him, I realize that's the GOAL. It's all for his glory.
Allen should host a big live meet & greet for all of us divorced/single people who are subscribed to the channel😂
@GS Johnson, and the single women would greatly outnumber the single men (like they usually do at such events). 😄
I needed to hear this message. I did not accept wrong proposals and become unequally yoked or unhappy for all the reasons you mentioned. God directed my path. I listened to Godly and parental advice. I hope I listened well enough, and God continues to give me discernment, wisdom, and hope. ( Looking back, I see I missed some awful bullets that would have made me suffer! I prayed hard, but I think Satan brought his best to try me. Thank you Lord for keeping me from stumbling.)
I pray God keeps me safe, provides for me, and lifts me up as my good Father and God. I trust the LORD. Bless me, Father. Thank you, Jesus! Amen
I am single for more than 40 years. It's really a struggle to battle sexual temptations. I am never loved in a way that will lead into a marriage, and the one I loved that way was not feeling the same for me. Sometimes I really wish for someone who can understand me and love me as I am, but it's not easy to meet that one. I was serving God through my 20s. Now I am overwhelmed with works. I feel now that alone can be rewarding.
I had been single all my life and I tried to meet men but idk. Second, over the years my family church friends would ask me why I am single, or when I am going to get married. At first I thought I was doing something wrong by being single but thank you for this video. I understand that being single is not a bad thing especially when you're pleasing and worshiping the Lord and that is what I'm going to continue to do until he sees fit for me to marry
I'm turning 34 soon and still single with the desire to get married. I recently gave my desire to God and put it in His hands, but it's still hard. Some days I'm content and others I'm not. The hardest thing for me right now to deal with is my desire to have kids. I also don't know how much I would need to change about my lifestyle before I got married. Sometimes I think I put too much pressure on myself, and others I don't know.
Very insightful 🙏🏽
I'm a male Christian in my late fifthties.I've never been in a dating relationship.The church doesn't do enough to address the needs of single Christians
You got that right. It's very disappointing.
yeah they do; they just tell singles to avoid marriage.
Excellent. I'm 55 and single, and want to spend the rest of my time in ministry.
Every time I see my extended family members they always ask when you getting married? Like I’m the last person in the whole entire family that is single. I’m 37 I can’t help it I’m not married right now in fact I’ve seen many marriages crumble over the years with mess attached. It’s not that I’m choosing to be married I’ve hadn’t crossed a woman’s radar yet I must be invisible or smart one not getting into mess regret misery. I’ll like too be married someday if it’s in Gods will for me too be. So yeah I gotta put up with from my extended family why are you not married yet until then.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
His grace and mercy be upon you and your loved ones 🕊️🥛🍯
I am a married woman. This video in all honesty made me really sad. I understand that’s points made in it, but sometimes I don’t understand if marriage was something I should have done. I want to do good for the Lord, but when I often hear about how being single is better, it makes me feel guilty for wanting a husband and for having already gotten married 😢
I just wanted to give you some encouragement. Marriage is a very special bond God created between man and women. If marriage is wrong or inferior to singleness God would not have created marriage . You don't need to feel guilty for wanting marriage and an husband. If God says this about a man finding a wife then it applies to a woman finding a husband " He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" Proverbs 18:22 ESV. Marriage is difficult but it's also a beautiful thing and singleness dosen't come with out problems either. Singleness can be a beautiful thing as well, so they are both challenging. Also remember you are doing God's work with being invested in your husband and if you have children teaching them the Word of God and investing in them. Marriage isn't a mistake and I don't think you made a mistake by marry.
I'm married and very happy to be. It's challenging but I don't think I could have handled being single. I also love my job as a mother!
I think maybe you were already sad. There is a danger in hearing about the way others live (and it is not a wonderful as potrayed, life is not easy, depend on Christ), for it may pull you out of what you should be rejoicing in and affect your attitude about what God requires of you. May God help you in your marriage. He loves and cares for you.
If marriage was less than singleness, God would never have created Adam and eve. It's just everyone is called to something different, sis. We all just serve God within our own way in our own situation
Sounds like you are coveting what another person has; this is a sin. I wouldn’t recommend disrespecting your husband like this behind his back. The Lord knows your heart and thoughts and you made the choice to get married. Don’t let Satan talk you into having an affair to end the marriage. Keep pressing in to Jesus in prayer and pray that your marriage is restored and that you can experience joy with your husband and both serve the Lord together as ONE. Communicate with him. Singleness is a great place to heal before you are married I have realized but I desire to be married to a Godly women but I know patience and character building before marriage is important to me.
My rant. It just makes me sad to hear women hiding their feelings from the man who loves them unconditionally
Listen to it again. Marriage is strongly encouraged for many reasons. He's just saying, as a single person, you are not at disadvantage just because you are single.
Please understand that being single is a 🎁 gift. Marriage 💑 is not a step up or down as is singleness. God Bless.
Amen
I’m a 44 year old man. I’ve always seem to attract good looking woman. I am a business owner and I can supply my future family with a good life. Most importantly I am filled with the Spirit, I understand the times we are living in and my life’s desire is to follow Christ wherever that may lead. I’ve been celibate for 15 years. No kids. No baggage. No crazy ex girlfriends or wives.
Yet I can’t find a suitable mate.
I went on Christian Mingle the other day and 75% of woman have children. Unless God calls me to raise on other mans child... I’m not interested. I would always be in fourth place behind the needs of the woman, child and the child’s father. No Thank You. I rarely see a difference in between ‘christian’ woman and woman of this world.
I dreamed of raising a family on a little hobby farm my the last 20 years.... yet I don’t know if it’s too late at this point.
Your story is inspiring sir. The good news is that you can still find a woman who is child free like you. Don't just limit yourself to women from your church and Christian dating site. You may also search out, you can get a suitable spouse for you.
@@distefanolinonoka3567 Thank you for the encouragement.
Reading through these comments has been eye opening. I'm on the flipside. I belong yo a culture where basically every man has at least one or two kids by one or two women. I'm not interested in baby mama drama. I honestly don't know a single man who is unmarried that doesn't have dome kids somewhere, even in the "church".
@@SomethingBeautifulHandcrafts Why do identify yourself as 'belonging to a culture'?
My wife and I have been together since 2014 when we were Juniors in high school. With my family being Catholic I grew up with a lot of religion, however as I got older I was on the fence. She grew up with little to no religion in her life. While I was on the fence I still held on to some of my Christian beliefs but I was admittedly lukewarm, but my wife started slowly coming around to the idea of Christianity. Fast forward to today in 2022 I have had a lot of callings to come back to Christ and I've been slowly getting my wife involved and now I have been re-baptized and she was baptized for the first time in a non-denominational church. I love my wife so much and even when we both were agnostic I knew she was the one for me. Almost as if God had brought us together to make us stronger in our faith together.
Single. Happy. Staying single. As such, you have to plan accordingly for the surprises that life will enviably throw your way - have substantial savings, long-term care insurance, reliable vehicle(s), living will, plan for pets in the event of untimely demise, etc - but would much rather live alone or w a platonic roommate (separate sleeping quarters).
I definitely want to be married. I always felt like that was in God's plan for me. Second to serving God, I feel the most fulfilled when I'm in a relationship, helping the man I'm with. 🥰
(1) pain
(2) problems
- gender differences
- personality differences
- childhood differences
- sexual differences
- spiritual differences
(3) priorities
(4) pressure
I’m single and celibate for yeahs now focused on ma purpose and I can tell that the benefits are tremendous and one thing I can say is that ma memory understanding and ability to understand increased
I'm 26 and single, and have thought about getting serious about dating to marry, but I think my time is best served now being single which I'm taking comfort in. I'm in seminary right now (soon taking a gap semester or year) and thinking about how next to go about my life with the free time I will have. Please please please pray for me.
Thank you for including us singles in this brother Allen! We are left out so much in church discussions these days!
(P.S. Also I'm sure you probably know but just in case the shoutout you did for your logos livestream in this video is on a date that I believe had already passed when this video was posted may want to adjust for the next one 🙂)
Godly Marriage is good, it is a gift from God, loneliness, waiting for someone who might never come and endlessly burning with passion is very bad for any one. We live in this flesh World, we must never deny our physical needs, when we are resurrected, we will be like Angels neither getting married or given in marriage, then we can enjoy our singleness, no wonder so many Christians are caught up in Sexual scandals because of a need that is consistently ignored 🙏.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH remains -
The CREATOR of the heavens and the earth is still the Most High and Sovereign GOD.
JESUS CHRIST is still the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED about HUMAN BEINGS ON PLANET EARTH -
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still raising, glorifying, and exalting themselves as better, greater, powerful, higher and superior than the Creator and Jesus Christ.
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions are still mocking, degrading, and insulting the BIBLE as worthless and useless, without any value at all.
Billions and billions of Atheists, Agnostics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, all Fanatics of Religions will still suffer, get sick and weak and just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths like Adam and Eve.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "KINGDOM OF GOD" REMAINS AS TRUTH -
Believers of the BIBLICAL authority and teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" will still be rewarded and honored by the CREATOR with ETERNAL LIFE and existence without pains, sufferings, griefs, sickness and deaths on a safe and peaceful planet earth without unkind and hateful atheists, agnostics, and fanatics of religions, without liars, slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, terrorists, criminals, militaries, funeral homes, and cemeteries..
They will fully enjoy the Creator's and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ, the One given by the Creator all authority in heaven and on earth.
THOUSANDS OF YEARS and NOTHING HAS CHANGED, the TRUTH about the "RESURRECTION OF THE DEAD" REMAINS AS TRUTH -
Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, Daniel, Jesus Christ's disciples, and many others will still be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own good time.
truth
Great video! Looking forward to the next video. ❤️
I find that too often the Church idolizes marriage and puts so much emphasis on couples marrying early/young 20yo and younger and doesn’t consider those married later in age. Which is still very common. This needs to change
Thank you so much for sharing this video!
Great video! 🙏🏾
Definitely staying tuned🙏🏾❤🙂
Wow, this has to be one of my favorite videos from you. Thank you for your transparency. I can't tell you how many times I'm asked that question at church!! Thank you for all the nuggets of information. Of course I want to get married but somethings I get asked so often, I'm like lemme just chose anyone and get it over with. Of course, I know this is not wise which is why I"m waiting for the right one. Keep up the awesome work.
After two divorces and no children, I believe I was never called to marriage or parenthood to begin with, and I'm totally OK with that. I feel no jealousy when I observe married friends or see family photos. If anything, I'm happy for them! I truly feel no resentment, no feelings of "why don't I have that, too" or regret other than not listening closer to what God called me to from the start. Honest. I like my life. I just wish I had prayed more before involving the lives of two honorable men who deserved better than to be married to me, someone who could not make a proper commitment. Fortunately, God is forgiving, and neither of these men harbors any ill will toward me.
With great power comes great responsibility!
Hey brother Allen, hope you have a great week o/
I'm single and I know I will be celibate for my whole life. I'm bound to the Word of God, that says marriage is good, but being unmarried is better. Unless this verse will be erased by God's divine hand, I cannot marry. I want God to have my all.
I was married for 17 years wife passed over 2 years ago .people wondering why im still single because I have not got over my wife.and I don't think I am for a long time staying single.