Here's what I've learned: 1. If you've seen each other at your absolute worse, but still somehow find a way to move on and grow together, you're onto a winner. 2. If you're able to make compromises for each other, or are willing to change a few parts of yourself to adapt to your partner, things are good. 3. If you are both able to learn from where things went wrong in the past, perfect.
In order to do all these things, we need to take responsibility, as well as accountability. Men and women are held to different standards when it comes to accountability. Women would, instead justify her emotions and not take accountability for her actions. But I agree with you 100%, I wish people would stop searching for greener grass
@@marcol6363 as the man in the relationship, you should validate her emotions, that is extremely important. That's not to say she can avoid accountability, but I think men tend to downplay a lot of emotions their gf/wife can feel. They might seem "dramatic" to you, but when she tells you how she feels, she's communicating to you. If you reject it, its just gonna hurt both you and her. Basically there needs to be balance, have a partner where you can fully express your emotions, but also hold you accountable when it needs to be addressed.
@@carriehew6570 Agreed. Validating your partner's emotions and still holding them accountable are not mutually exclusive. You can acknowledge their emotions as valid while still making sure they take responsibility for it. But here's the important bit: You two must work together against what's causing the problems. Both men and women act out when stressed (contrary to what a lot of guys claim we are both equally emotional when under high stress situations) and we both tend to say and do things we may regret later. The important part is both partners being willing to clean up after the consequences of their mistakes AFTER the emotion has passed and is no longer clouding judgment. Just because you're not the person at fault doesn't mean you leave your partner to clean up their mess themselves; you give whatever assistance you can to help them get it together, and the ideal partner should be willing to do the same for you, because at the end of the day you're supposed to be a TEAM taking on the world together. While you might have rough patches and disagree on things sometimes, you have to always feel like you will both have each other's backs when life is pushing you down. Despite whatever disagreements you may sometimes have, your partner should be someone who you know will be there to pull you up when you're at your weakest, and you should be that person for them as well.
I've been married to my husband for 14 years and I feel all of these signs when I'm with him. I still get butterflies in my stomach when he's around and I'm so at peace when he's next to me even when he says nothing, its just wonderful to be near him. I can honestly say that I've found my soulmate😊
Timestamps 1). Zen 0:28 2). Without words 1:21 3). Good direction 2:21 4). Mutual respect 3:12 5). Intuition and gut feeling 3:48 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Well its a great advance learning information 😊 i used to watched a lot of relationship advise or stories and it helps when im already in the relationship 😅 it can even make you spot much faster what are the red & green flags
And don't forget that it can take time for these things to develop, especially the first two. Mutual Respect is probably the only thing that should be there right off the bat. I think that's especially true for younger couples and those with existing mental health issues. I ended up marrying my first girlfriend - feeling calm & nonverbal communication was hard just because we were inexperienced at being in a relationship + we both had some depression/anxiety to work through that we hadn't even really identified in ourselves.
Wishing couples out there after watching this video will treasure their relationship more. And to those who haven’t got anyone, Best of luck on the journey of finding one ❤
you gottas consider that not all of these mean you are with the right person or not. like the first one. the state of mind where you can feel like you trust your partner even when away from each other also depends on your own mental and emotional health. whether your with the right person or not, if you've been lied to and cheated on before, that's gonna play a role in how much you trust your current partner, whether they are innocent or not. i've dated a girl who had trust issues even though i wouldn't even look or flirt with another girl, she still thought i might simply because she had been cheated on before.
I think that's why it's important to work on yourself before being with someone else. You'll never have a healthy relationship if you can't trust others. That's why the right person will only come along when you're ready.
@@Cherrycreamsoda1 This advice has been thrown around so often when it’s so flawed. A lot of the time learning to trust, grow and heal to be suitable for the relationship comes WITHIN the relationship. Yes you can work on yourself but there’s a limit to that and this type of advice often sways people against entering in a relationship because of the need to “fix themselves”.
Summary: 1. 00:30 Zen - You're calm around your partner 2. 01:23 You're able to communicate non-verbally with each other 3. 02:22 You have the same directions/sense of purpose/shared meanings with your partner 4. 03:13 Mutual respect 5. 03:48 Gut feelings - Your intuition tells you so, that you're with the right person.
The 2nd develop over time. Having arguements and misunderstandings in the beginning is normal. The important part is how you both work together to learn how to understand each other thus slowly making arguments a thing of the past. I have all of that with my husband ❤
@@divathedivinegoddess8001 Many of our arguments was because we were not aware of each other triggers, so after we would talk about why did we argue to begin with, what caused it, and everytime is because we did something that triggered the other, so we worked together on how to understand our triggers and how to heal them, and if it happened what would be the process to calm the situation. We agreed as well in a safe word that would signal we are being upset due to our triggers and the other thinks is best to take a 10min break to calm down and then come back to to talk about it calmly. This worked wonders as now we don't argue at all, because we learned and understand each other needs, communication style and boundaries. What matters is how they work with you to solve problems. Because many dont put in the work so there is always conflict and if someone doesn't actively cooperate in the relationship with you, then it's best to find someone who is willing because life is too short for constant drama
Doesn't have to be normal :) there are people who respect each other so much that they never argue. They just discuss it plainly without fighting. Sadly, not all people are like this, so they fight because they are afraid etc
Mutual respect. I've been in a long term relationship for almost two decades. Having healthy boundaries is respect. Sometimes our needs and perspectives are so different. Communicating respectfully for understanding helps.
I always felt on edge with my ex and feel much safer overall (like not having to walk on eggshells) with my current husband. I suffer from anxiety disorder so being able to be calm and relaxed around my partner is essential (even if he can still piss me off sometimes lol).
It's a wonderful experience when all the checks line up in all the right boxes together. It's still an uphill journey, but worth it, fighting FOR one another instead of AGAINST each other. ❤
1: Unfortunately masked partially by my past trauma from an abusive ex, and by my current circumstances being not ideal at home, but my current gf makes me feel extremely calm and happy when I'm with her, compared to when I'm not. 2: We're both autistic so this is difficult for us. 3: I honestly don't know, but I definitely feel like this fits 4: I absolutely think we have this! 5: Absolutely, yes! We've been together for just over a year now i think, and I absolutely feel in my gut that she's the one! Edit: Oh wow, I just checked my calendar and it's actually almost our two year anniversary! Two more weeks!
It is a secure relationship built by secure attachment people - it is a relationship that clearly has Trust.... Love is nice but it must be held secure with Trust
feelings of lust/infatuation and love arent the same. it's easy for people to mistake the initial feeling of lust/infatuation in the early part of a relationship as love. because you are excited to be learning about someone new and who they are as a person. learning to calm that excitedness down and realize that you barely know them can get you back on track to finding if you are actually in love. because people are complicated and complex. they are going to have quirks about them that you may or may not like.
Very accurate. I went on a first date a few weeks ago for the first time in a while due to work and life circumstances and the guy and I had INSTANT chemistry. I'm usually not a person that is instantly attracted like that on a first date so I was excited for the second date and getting to know them more. Well we had to wait a weekend to see each other again and our communication was extremely spotty (his more than mine) and it turned out that he wanted us to "go with the flow" on the next date regarding intimacy and kissing and such and that was sort of wake up call for me that my excitement at the chemistry had blinded me to the fact that I didn't really know this guy at all beyond a text or so every day and our first date. When I came back to reality, I realized I still didn't have a clear idea of what he did for work and he seemed really avoidant on talking about himself much which led to me seeing a lot of other red flags or at least beige flags and I rethought going on a second date and wished him the best of luck.
I think 'similar top values' should be in this list too. You could say that's related to direction, as your direction/purpose in life is tied to your values...but I think it's worth calling out as its own thing.
I had that. All of that. This tells you shit. There are no signs. You can not trust any of it. Never ever!! There are no rules, just random gruellty, chaos, and mayhem! Betrayl out of nowhere and abandonment. She dropped me for her shitty ex, who just left her a year before because he wanted to move away for job goals. Then he came back because he failed in his goals and thought, "Well, then I can get back to her as my consolation price." And she went for it. Even though she knew it was stupid. Because she rather goes for the problems she knows than to find new ones. Even though there were none. We were great together. He left her despite the relationship. I stayed for her, and she just went with the asshole anyway. Ripped my heart out. Out of nowhere. I can't trust those signs ever again. Everyone deserves the love they choose.
I agree totally with points 2 and 4. Communication is not always verbal. Message can be conveyed through non verbal cues such as body gesture and facial expressions. And only those who care will understand the non verbal communication.
It's quite unfalsifiable that these help for adult birds. So, as always, a good video! Somehow, I would be much obliged if you could also explain more about:- 1. Delusional disorder, schizotypal personality disorder, schizophrenia(without hallucinations) 2. Difference of paranoia in BPD and schizophrenia 3. Sadistic Personality Disorder vs love of horror and how to not to be a strange person in front of the society. 4. Why we feel lonely without friends and also be anxious about having them + thinking that we don't deserve them as we're victimized by sloth(whatever, what is this? how to overcome these?) 5. Signs that you don't have dementia but a different memory issue.
My current boyfriend makes me feel really safe, and since I'm so paranoid all the time just being with him calms my nerves a whole lot. We're both are very similar, so we understand each other very well, and I just,,,love him so so much.
Got all five 🥰 But #1 really resonates with me. Contrary to ppl who get butterflies in their stomach when seeing their SO, I feel a deep sense of peace whenever I look at my husband. My body just completely relaxes when I'm with him. He makes me feel so safe and secure. We dated for five years before getting married and we'll be celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary next week! Not once did I ever doubt if he was "the one". Somehow, my gut just knew that he's a keeper. ❤
Never been in a relationship but I've always felt calm around my friends, for the better or the worse, the problem is that they don't like the overwhelming comfort I show and that's the reason why I'm lonely...
Have Just returned from a date with my gf and this is what showed out as first on main page. Everything in video is accurate af which made this whole meeting even more valuable and meaningfull than it was already
He doesn't need to be worried about what I am doing, I am transparent about my life most of the time. Except for some REALLY personal things, most of the time I got nothing to hide. And he understands who I am in anyway he could. I want someone who knows every inch of me. I wanna live a life where I have peace of mind. TBH, I honestly DGAF about how people see me. I do not ever want to lie about anything anymore. I wanna be so transparent, people do not have to try to see through me and people got nothing to use against me.
I currently have a really big crush on one of my dad’s family friend’s daughter. I don’t know man, every time I say goodbye, we both somehow always lock eyes and wave twice before going. I have met her around 5-6 times very sparsely, but every moment we’re together, we always have fun. She also seems really relatable and shares a lot of her memories with me and I do too. She even remembers small things like how I changed 5 schools. The gut feeling in me is telling me to go a step forward, but as always, the pressure is on the man to take the first step.
find someone who gives the same effort you do i hate to say it but you are wasting your time the only reason shes keeping you around is for personal gain not because you have a chance with her focus on yourself bro@@OtisDaVinchiTM
I have an anxious attachment style and ADHD, I'm stressed out about work stuff rn and the stress is projecting itself onto everything subconsciously. My partner is gone at work then after work activities with her friends, the anxiety came creeping. This helped me calm down a lot, thanks.
I do believe I have found the right one for me. Its been a couple rough years, but I think he is the one (I am a guy too) we are happily going on 6 months as of tomorrow! He is one the greatest guys I've ever met 😚 I have comfort in telling him what's on my mind, and to always be myself and not hide the real me. He makes me feel better than I've ever been, and that I can accomplish anything I put my mind to.
I feel like I can relate to some of the signs but because I’m traumatised from past experiences I have to let go of my fear and negativity to see the real picture.
I honestly watch psyc2go romance to plan out stories in my head because I need the stories to be deep psycologically. Nice vids and animation guys We love you all
well. i now know that i was doing the right things. but he didn’t want us to last like i did. he didn’t listen to me, he was good at articulating himself but he never actually communicated with me. he wasn’t willing to put in the work. everything was over the second i brought up my feelings (for the first time ever).
I’m currently dating someone I previously commented about having the biggest crush on, but being too scared to do anything on one of these videos. While I don’t trust my intuition that much, being with him feels very right, if that makes any sense. It’s very nice 🥰
I’m watching this while writing a love letter to her and checking off all these things we have (she’s the best person my bloodline has ever met and will ever meet)
The only reason I find it hard to be "Zen" with my partner now is not his fault, but because I'm traumatised af 😅 it's my problem though and I'm working on it, he's super helping and reassuring too
Watching these videos used to make me feel hopeful I’d find another relationship, but the more that time passes the more I realize it’s just not going to happen for me. The more time that I think about my last relationship of 7 years, the longer I realize that it was a shallow love; she did not love me for who I am, only what I could be for her. I’m older now, far more bitter, and less attractive than my younger self. I have been hurt too many times; beaten, mistreated, manipulated, neglected, raped in my own bed, and worst of all-utterly forgotten and tossed aside without a second thought. Life has steadily worn me down. I am not going to fall in love again-I can feel it. Instinctually, I know that I am done for. I have been nothing but a side dish for sycophants and sociopaths. I wish I were never born.
Hey I know how you feel. It ducks. It worse than sucks. It’s your choice to stay in this state of thinking or move on. In my experience things get better. People get better when you surround yourself with things you love/like/are fascinated in. You got this friend. Believe in yourself. Good luck.
7 years? Be glad you have the skill to had a relationship running for that long. The longest one Ive had was less than one year. Do you understand why i have given up on myself?
Well I am not in relationship with her but I have a feeling that we will be together in this year and you just confirmed it that I am in love with the right one cause I can feel that 1st, 2nd and 5th points were fulfilled by my side and 4th too I guess Also I don't know that is it common to get lovesick 3 times for the same girl Thank you Psych2go you've helped me to understand myself and this world in a much better way
A great personality does not necessitate a good relationship, they could be an honestly wonderful person, but that doesn't mean that you compliment each other, The problem also, is that all these could be in a compassionate person, or some sort of personality, they're easily likable, everyone around them is calm, happy, respected, they notice the signes and act accordingly, if you're in love with that person, they might not love you the same way, and if you're that person, sometimes you'll get confused by your actions and you won't know if you really like that person or not.
the craziest thing about this is I think I might be more compatible with a friend of mine than my actual girlfriend and that just scares me, we don't even have to talk sometimes to know what we are feeling or thinking while its such a hassle with me own lady
Relationships are intricate, and each one is unique. Honesty and communication are valuable tools in navigating these complexities and determining what is truly fulfilling for you.
You also need verbal too though. Non verbal is good for things like intimacy, emotions, but also verbal communication is needed for other things that are more hidden or harder to see. I don’t like the phrase give or take. Should be give or pull. You give and attract them to want to give not take
Well , yeah I mean I always wonder if she is ok or maybe too busy and perhaps very tired but I always feel that she is the right for me and I love her so much I want the best for her.
I knew I was with the right person when he started my car and cleaned it off for me so I wouldn't have to. I didnt ask him to, he just did it. Very very sweet. That and other little sweet jesters he does. One of my love languages is acts of service tho. Sad thing, I was with my ex for 14yrs and he never once did anything like that for me. So it moved me to tears when I came downstairs to see him doing that for me.
What a beautiful and touching moment! It's those thoughtful and spontaneous gestures that truly make a connection special. Wishing you a relationship filled with love and lasting happiness. 😊💖
I relate a lot to the last one where you have a gut feeling or just know you’re with the right person and I’m happy to say that I knew I found the right person for me when I first entered 10th grade with it that I’m not dating them, but still, I feel safe around them, feel vulnerable around them, and more
It’s very true…my ex I had none of those with… I thought I did but in reality it wasn’t meant to be, I should’ve realized these signs because in the end I was betrayed and hurt. Cheated on and tossed away for my best friend who obviously isn’t my friend anymore. I recently just found my new love, and we fit all of these.❤
We covered so much ground in a short time its kinda crazy but so dang fun .im always smiling or singing to myself nowadays.. thinking of how it will be at first and aways down the road.. all kinds of stuff goes through my mind..all the time.. overall it feels good to feel good☺️
Since I trust nobody and almost always have had bad experiences with human beings, my gut feeling is telling me she's thinking of me as the biggest jerk, too easy to manipulate and all that scary stuff, but when I am with her in the real world, I am calm. Like wtf ?
I met my woman a few months ago and it’s been really good. I had a lot of fear though from past relationships. I broke up with her a couple times but she kept taking me back when I realized I made a huge mistake. I feel terrible that I did that, but I’ve been lucky enough for her to forgive me and for us to move forward. This video makes me feel really good about our relationship and I’m excited for the future :)
I can agree on the zen though it took a while as i was jumpy from my previous relationships. I have so much going on. In my life and talk to alot of doctors. So they usually ask about my mental health. I explain my husband has given me a sense of calm (zen) i never knew existed its amazing. We were both married once before, both have kids and both can't believe we have the other.
Once I related it with someone. She left, but for a greater purpose (her future). She needed to move to another country, but I'm happy it is possible to live like something like that. I feel bad sometimes, but I hope the future can hold a girl so great (or if my fate is good enough maybe take me back to her arms)
I swear if im with my parents, Im always tense and I always feel like garbage around them. But if im with my bf, I just want to be in his arms all day and Im crying as I type this because I love them sosososo much.
@@Psych2go I found them very interesting and particularly liked them, especially the one about depression. As a young person, I struggle with depression and anxiety and am on medication for my depression. It's gotten better as I am in family therapy but let's hope for the best moving forward aswell since I still struggle with organisation issues.
After 6 relationships that failed. I feel i finally found the one this time. Unfortunately he lives in another country, but i made it my goal to bring him here to my country in hopes of giving him a better life with me. I love my partner so much and i want to be his wife as soon as possible!
im in a relationship and its my very first , and we both are very serious about it and yes we both share the same goals and we do feel all these signs , and i did have a gut feel that the person im with is the one , i literally feel so comfortable that we both just sit silently and enjoy each others company , we might not meet very often ( we meet like twice in a month ) and talk a lot through voice or video calls or normal chats and ofc we are gamers so thats another type of bonding that we share .so i can say that i have met my soulmate too !!
I was happy with the person i was with unfortunately the feelings weren't mutual. Eventually they ate my self-esteem and confidence and made me no believe in love anymore
Im in love with someone ever since we're primary school, we saved each other's number but super rarely text cuz im too nervous and shy, even until now (we're 19) i still can't text her anything, not even hangout or date, but im afraid one day, someone will date her
I found the right one for me and I know he loves me but he said he is not ready for a romantic relationship. So it kind of broke my heart but I understand that he has his reasons and that's ok and we are still friends.😊
I felt all of these present in my last relationship except for respect. I failed in that category and I'm left with a broken heart because of that. And I had worked real hard to make a healthy, strong relationship and I genuinely felt she was the one but just a single oversight cost me. I've learned from my mistake, but damn, it still hurts This all happened like recently btw
As humans, we all do mistakes, especially when it comes to something we haven’t done. The purpose of making mistakes is to grow and learn from it. I hope you find the perfect gal 👍
Here's what I've learned:
1. If you've seen each other at your absolute worse, but still somehow find a way to move on and grow together, you're onto a winner.
2. If you're able to make compromises for each other, or are willing to change a few parts of yourself to adapt to your partner, things are good.
3. If you are both able to learn from where things went wrong in the past, perfect.
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In order to do all these things, we need to take responsibility, as well as accountability.
Men and women are held to different standards when it comes to accountability. Women would, instead justify her emotions and not take accountability for her actions.
But I agree with you 100%, I wish people would stop searching for greener grass
yay we passed
@@marcol6363 as the man in the relationship, you should validate her emotions, that is extremely important. That's not to say she can avoid accountability, but I think men tend to downplay a lot of emotions their gf/wife can feel. They might seem "dramatic" to you, but when she tells you how she feels, she's communicating to you. If you reject it, its just gonna hurt both you and her. Basically there needs to be balance, have a partner where you can fully express your emotions, but also hold you accountable when it needs to be addressed.
@@carriehew6570 Agreed. Validating your partner's emotions and still holding them accountable are not mutually exclusive. You can acknowledge their emotions as valid while still making sure they take responsibility for it. But here's the important bit: You two must work together against what's causing the problems. Both men and women act out when stressed (contrary to what a lot of guys claim we are both equally emotional when under high stress situations) and we both tend to say and do things we may regret later. The important part is both partners being willing to clean up after the consequences of their mistakes AFTER the emotion has passed and is no longer clouding judgment. Just because you're not the person at fault doesn't mean you leave your partner to clean up their mess themselves; you give whatever assistance you can to help them get it together, and the ideal partner should be willing to do the same for you, because at the end of the day you're supposed to be a TEAM taking on the world together.
While you might have rough patches and disagree on things sometimes, you have to always feel like you will both have each other's backs when life is pushing you down. Despite whatever disagreements you may sometimes have, your partner should be someone who you know will be there to pull you up when you're at your weakest, and you should be that person for them as well.
I've been married to my husband for 14 years and I feel all of these signs when I'm with him. I still get butterflies in my stomach when he's around and I'm so at peace when he's next to me even when he says nothing, its just wonderful to be near him. I can honestly say that I've found my soulmate😊
Awww 🥹❤ I want to say that one day!
butterflies in the stomach is an anxiety sign, not a good thing
@@raphaelcarolo8861 or it could be nervous or excited.
@@raphaelcarolo8861 have you never had butterflies when you have a crush? or first kiss?? it’s a scary yet amazing feeling imo, wish i still got them😭
@@raphaelcarolo8861it mean you either feel excited or stressed or just a fluttering feeling in general. In this case its excited
Timestamps
1). Zen 0:28
2). Without words 1:21
3). Good direction 2:21
4). Mutual respect 3:12
5). Intuition and gut feeling 3:48
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
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@@Tintin.714 not a problem happy to help 💙💙💙💙💙💙
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@vestby-noege it's ok he tried:)
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Imagine watching this without even being in a relationship once
Sorry, but why do you think that is?
Welp this is me😅
now that’d be ridiculous🥲
Well its a great advance learning information 😊 i used to watched a lot of relationship advise or stories and it helps when im already in the relationship 😅 it can even make you spot much faster what are the red & green flags
I don't have to imagine 😎
And you realise the right person for you does not see you as the right person for them.
They'll see eventually 😭
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then they’re not actually the right person for you
For me, it is more like; you realise there’s no such a thing as “the right person” in your life haha
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And don't forget that it can take time for these things to develop, especially the first two. Mutual Respect is probably the only thing that should be there right off the bat.
I think that's especially true for younger couples and those with existing mental health issues. I ended up marrying my first girlfriend - feeling calm & nonverbal communication was hard just because we were inexperienced at being in a relationship + we both had some depression/anxiety to work through that we hadn't even really identified in ourselves.
Wishing couples out there after watching this video will treasure their relationship more. And to those who haven’t got anyone, Best of luck on the journey of finding one ❤
What a thoughtful message!🥰
Friendships can be forever, much more so than relationships.
you gottas consider that not all of these mean you are with the right person or not. like the first one. the state of mind where you can feel like you trust your partner even when away from each other also depends on your own mental and emotional health. whether your with the right person or not, if you've been lied to and cheated on before, that's gonna play a role in how much you trust your current partner, whether they are innocent or not. i've dated a girl who had trust issues even though i wouldn't even look or flirt with another girl, she still thought i might simply because she had been cheated on before.
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I think that's why it's important to work on yourself before being with someone else. You'll never have a healthy relationship if you can't trust others. That's why the right person will only come along when you're ready.
@@Cherrycreamsoda1 This advice has been thrown around so often when it’s so flawed. A lot of the time learning to trust, grow and heal to be suitable for the relationship comes WITHIN the relationship. Yes you can work on yourself but there’s a limit to that and this type of advice often sways people against entering in a relationship because of the need to “fix themselves”.
1. Zen
2. Without words
3. Good direction
4. Mutual respect
5. Intuition & gut feeling 🥺🤍 Im in love with the right person 🤍
Summary:
1. 00:30 Zen - You're calm around your partner
2. 01:23 You're able to communicate non-verbally with each other
3. 02:22 You have the same directions/sense of purpose/shared meanings with your partner
4. 03:13 Mutual respect
5. 03:48 Gut feelings - Your intuition tells you so, that you're with the right person.
The 2nd develop over time. Having arguements and misunderstandings in the beginning is normal. The important part is how you both work together to learn how to understand each other thus slowly making arguments a thing of the past. I have all of that with my husband ❤
Phew 😮💨 I feel relieved cause I was worried about the arguments at first
@@divathedivinegoddess8001 Many of our arguments was because we were not aware of each other triggers, so after we would talk about why did we argue to begin with, what caused it, and everytime is because we did something that triggered the other, so we worked together on how to understand our triggers and how to heal them, and if it happened what would be the process to calm the situation. We agreed as well in a safe word that would signal we are being upset due to our triggers and the other thinks is best to take a 10min break to calm down and then come back to to talk about it calmly. This worked wonders as now we don't argue at all, because we learned and understand each other needs, communication style and boundaries. What matters is how they work with you to solve problems. Because many dont put in the work so there is always conflict and if someone doesn't actively cooperate in the relationship with you, then it's best to find someone who is willing because life is too short for constant drama
Doesn't have to be normal :) there are people who respect each other so much that they never argue. They just discuss it plainly without fighting. Sadly, not all people are like this, so they fight because they are afraid etc
Which of the five signs resonated with you the most, and have you experienced this in your current relationship?
Um I haven't had a real relationship since March😅 so I'm not sure.
Mutual respect. I've been in a long term relationship for almost two decades. Having healthy boundaries is respect. Sometimes our needs and perspectives are so different. Communicating respectfully for understanding helps.
All of them, thank you!
I've never been in a relationship soooooo
I always felt on edge with my ex and feel much safer overall (like not having to walk on eggshells) with my current husband. I suffer from anxiety disorder so being able to be calm and relaxed around my partner is essential (even if he can still piss me off sometimes lol).
It sounds like you've found a sense of safety and comfort in your current relationship.😊
It's a wonderful experience when all the checks line up in all the right boxes together. It's still an uphill journey, but worth it, fighting FOR one another instead of AGAINST each other. ❤
1: Unfortunately masked partially by my past trauma from an abusive ex, and by my current circumstances being not ideal at home, but my current gf makes me feel extremely calm and happy when I'm with her, compared to when I'm not.
2: We're both autistic so this is difficult for us.
3: I honestly don't know, but I definitely feel like this fits
4: I absolutely think we have this!
5: Absolutely, yes! We've been together for just over a year now i think, and I absolutely feel in my gut that she's the one!
Edit: Oh wow, I just checked my calendar and it's actually almost our two year anniversary! Two more weeks!
Happy Anniversary!!
It is a secure relationship built by secure attachment people - it is a relationship that clearly has Trust.... Love is nice but it must be held secure with Trust
feelings of lust/infatuation and love arent the same. it's easy for people to mistake the initial feeling of lust/infatuation in the early part of a relationship as love. because you are excited to be learning about someone new and who they are as a person. learning to calm that excitedness down and realize that you barely know them can get you back on track to finding if you are actually in love. because people are complicated and complex. they are going to have quirks about them that you may or may not like.
Very accurate. I went on a first date a few weeks ago for the first time in a while due to work and life circumstances and the guy and I had INSTANT chemistry. I'm usually not a person that is instantly attracted like that on a first date so I was excited for the second date and getting to know them more. Well we had to wait a weekend to see each other again and our communication was extremely spotty (his more than mine) and it turned out that he wanted us to "go with the flow" on the next date regarding intimacy and kissing and such and that was sort of wake up call for me that my excitement at the chemistry had blinded me to the fact that I didn't really know this guy at all beyond a text or so every day and our first date. When I came back to reality, I realized I still didn't have a clear idea of what he did for work and he seemed really avoidant on talking about himself much which led to me seeing a lot of other red flags or at least beige flags and I rethought going on a second date and wished him the best of luck.
That's it. I'm getting the wedding rings
I think 'similar top values' should be in this list too. You could say that's related to direction, as your direction/purpose in life is tied to your values...but I think it's worth calling out as its own thing.
I had that. All of that. This tells you shit. There are no signs. You can not trust any of it. Never ever!! There are no rules, just random gruellty, chaos, and mayhem! Betrayl out of nowhere and abandonment.
She dropped me for her shitty ex, who just left her a year before because he wanted to move away for job goals.
Then he came back because he failed in his goals and thought, "Well, then I can get back to her as my consolation price." And she went for it. Even though she knew it was stupid. Because she rather goes for the problems she knows than to find new ones. Even though there were none. We were great together. He left her despite the relationship. I stayed for her, and she just went with the asshole anyway. Ripped my heart out. Out of nowhere. I can't trust those signs ever again.
Everyone deserves the love they choose.
I agree totally with points 2 and 4. Communication is not always verbal. Message can be conveyed through non verbal cues such as body gesture and facial expressions. And only those who care will understand the non verbal communication.
It's quite unfalsifiable that these help for adult birds. So, as always, a good video! Somehow, I would be much obliged if you could also explain more about:-
1. Delusional disorder, schizotypal personality disorder, schizophrenia(without hallucinations)
2. Difference of paranoia in BPD and schizophrenia
3. Sadistic Personality Disorder vs love of horror and how to not to be a strange person in front of the society.
4. Why we feel lonely without friends and also be anxious about having them + thinking that we don't deserve them as we're victimized by sloth(whatever, what is this? how to overcome these?)
5. Signs that you don't have dementia but a different memory issue.
My current boyfriend makes me feel really safe, and since I'm so paranoid all the time just being with him calms my nerves a whole lot. We're both are very similar, so we understand each other very well, and I just,,,love him so so much.
This comment above☝️ was written by a man, pretending to be a woman with "real" human "feelings" on the internet!
NGL... your voice and videos are very soothing and relaxing to listen to
Don't think I didn't see that reference YES MIA AND JENNY KEEP IT COMING!! YOR SUPPORT IS THE ONLY THING THAT MAES ME WANT TO TALK TO ANYON
Got all five 🥰 But #1 really resonates with me. Contrary to ppl who get butterflies in their stomach when seeing their SO, I feel a deep sense of peace whenever I look at my husband. My body just completely relaxes when I'm with him. He makes me feel so safe and secure. We dated for five years before getting married and we'll be celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary next week! Not once did I ever doubt if he was "the one". Somehow, my gut just knew that he's a keeper. ❤
Never been in a relationship but I've always felt calm around my friends, for the better or the worse, the problem is that they don't like the overwhelming comfort I show and that's the reason why I'm lonely...
I always say this but I feel so grateful for this channel. They always provide great content.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. its truly wonderful to hear.
Have Just returned from a date with my gf and this is what showed out as first on main page. Everything in video is accurate af which made this whole meeting even more valuable and meaningfull than it was already
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE 🙏💯🙏💙💪
He doesn't need to be worried about what I am doing, I am transparent about my life most of the time. Except for some REALLY personal things, most of the time I got nothing to hide.
And he understands who I am in anyway he could. I want someone who knows every inch of me.
I wanna live a life where I have peace of mind. TBH, I honestly DGAF about how people see me. I do not ever want to lie about anything anymore. I wanna be so transparent, people do not have to try to see through me and people got nothing to use against me.
And this makes me wonder why my crush talks to me a lot even when I'm way too quiet 🤔
I currently have a really big crush on one of my dad’s family friend’s daughter. I don’t know man, every time I say goodbye, we both somehow always lock eyes and wave twice before going. I have met her around 5-6 times very sparsely, but every moment we’re together, we always have fun. She also seems really relatable and shares a lot of her memories with me and I do too. She even remembers small things like how I changed 5 schools. The gut feeling in me is telling me to go a step forward, but as always, the pressure is on the man to take the first step.
All I'm gonna say is two things: don't shit where you eat. Be prepared for the consequences if you do.
@@kennethjuarez5384 thank you? I don’t know what that means
Am in love with a girl recently and she knows about it, I hope I can get along with her ❤
Good luck bro just be careful who u fall in love with these days, God bless u 🙏
@@samzzy5 amen, and she thinks of me as a friend or a brother.. 💀😭
Be careful ... most relationships don't last.
@@face-diaper bro she fucking like me as a friend or a brother 💀🤚
find someone who gives the same effort you do i hate to say it but you are wasting your time the only reason shes keeping you around is for personal gain not because you have a chance with her focus on yourself bro@@OtisDaVinchiTM
I have an anxious attachment style and ADHD, I'm stressed out about work stuff rn and the stress is projecting itself onto everything subconsciously.
My partner is gone at work then after work activities with her friends, the anxiety came creeping.
This helped me calm down a lot, thanks.
I do believe I have found the right one for me. Its been a couple rough years, but I think he is the one (I am a guy too) we are happily going on 6 months as of tomorrow! He is one the greatest guys I've ever met 😚
I have comfort in telling him what's on my mind, and to always be myself and not hide the real me. He makes me feel better than I've ever been, and that I can accomplish anything I put my mind to.
I feel like I can relate to some of the signs but because I’m traumatised from past experiences I have to let go of my fear and negativity to see the real picture.
I honestly watch psyc2go romance to plan out stories in my head because I need the stories to be deep psycologically.
Nice vids and animation guys
We love you all
well. i now know that i was doing the right things. but he didn’t want us to last like i did. he didn’t listen to me, he was good at articulating himself but he never actually communicated with me. he wasn’t willing to put in the work. everything was over the second i brought up my feelings (for the first time ever).
I’m currently dating someone I previously commented about having the biggest crush on, but being too scared to do anything on one of these videos. While I don’t trust my intuition that much, being with him feels very right, if that makes any sense. It’s very nice 🥰
I’m glad for you!
Lol as if your type have humane feelings😂 Just what exactly is wrong with you?😂
That's a delightful update! and I'm genuinely happy that being with him feels just right for you. Cherish those wonderful moments!😊💖
No seriously what is wrong with you?😂
I’m watching this while writing a love letter to her and checking off all these things we have (she’s the best person my bloodline has ever met and will ever meet)
I'm so happy to say I'm a lucky man 😊
I think I found my right person❤
Congrats!🥰
@@Psych2go Thank you 😊❤️🤞
Im so sorry for you
The only reason I find it hard to be "Zen" with my partner now is not his fault, but because I'm traumatised af 😅 it's my problem though and I'm working on it, he's super helping and reassuring too
How do you even manage to get a boyfriend if you are traumatized? He approached you?
No way could a traumatized man get the same approach.
Watching these videos used to make me feel hopeful I’d find another relationship, but the more that time passes the more I realize it’s just not going to happen for me. The more time that I think about my last relationship of 7 years, the longer I realize that it was a shallow love; she did not love me for who I am, only what I could be for her. I’m older now, far more bitter, and less attractive than my younger self. I have been hurt too many times; beaten, mistreated, manipulated, neglected, raped in my own bed, and worst of all-utterly forgotten and tossed aside without a second thought. Life has steadily worn me down. I am not going to fall in love again-I can feel it. Instinctually, I know that I am done for. I have been nothing but a side dish for sycophants and sociopaths. I wish I were never born.
Hey I know how you feel. It ducks. It worse than sucks. It’s your choice to stay in this state of thinking or move on. In my experience things get better. People get better when you surround yourself with things you love/like/are fascinated in. You got this friend. Believe in yourself. Good luck.
@@spencerkerkhof8356 thank you for your kind words
7 years? Be glad you have the skill to had a relationship running for that long. The longest one Ive had was less than one year.
Do you understand why i have given up on myself?
congrats on the engagement! 💕💕💕
I love how all of these medical mysteries have something to do with food! Thank you so much for sharing these with us
ALL OF IT!! YOU MAKE ME SMILE!☺️.
Well I am not in relationship with her but I have a feeling that we will be together in this year and you just confirmed it that I am in love with the right one cause I can feel that 1st, 2nd and 5th points were fulfilled by my side and 4th too I guess
Also I don't know that is it common to get lovesick 3 times for the same girl
Thank you Psych2go you've helped me to understand myself and this world in a much better way
A great personality does not necessitate a good relationship, they could be an honestly wonderful person, but that doesn't mean that you compliment each other,
The problem also, is that all these could be in a compassionate person, or some sort of personality, they're easily likable, everyone around them is calm, happy, respected, they notice the signes and act accordingly, if you're in love with that person, they might not love you the same way, and if you're that person, sometimes you'll get confused by your actions and you won't know if you really like that person or not.
the craziest thing about this is I think I might be more compatible with a friend of mine than my actual girlfriend and that just scares me, we don't even have to talk sometimes to know what we are feeling or thinking while its such a hassle with me own lady
Relationships are intricate, and each one is unique. Honesty and communication are valuable tools in navigating these complexities and determining what is truly fulfilling for you.
Why your voice is so soothing 😢
You also need verbal too though. Non verbal is good for things like intimacy, emotions, but also verbal communication is needed for other things that are more hidden or harder to see.
I don’t like the phrase give or take. Should be give or pull.
You give and attract them to want to give not take
Well , yeah
I mean I always wonder if she is ok or maybe too busy and perhaps very tired but I always feel that she is the right for me and I love her so much I want the best for her.
I knew I was with the right person when he started my car and cleaned it off for me so I wouldn't have to. I didnt ask him to, he just did it. Very very sweet. That and other little sweet jesters he does. One of my love languages is acts of service tho.
Sad thing, I was with my ex for 14yrs and he never once did anything like that for me. So it moved me to tears when I came downstairs to see him doing that for me.
What a beautiful and touching moment! It's those thoughtful and spontaneous gestures that truly make a connection special. Wishing you a relationship filled with love and lasting happiness. 😊💖
I relate a lot to the last one where you have a gut feeling or just know you’re with the right person and I’m happy to say that I knew I found the right person for me when I first entered 10th grade with it that I’m not dating them, but still, I feel safe around them, feel vulnerable around them, and more
Around her*
@@anderstermansen130 what. O_o
I wish. God, I wish. I pray every day.
Sparks. The answer is sparks.
It’s very true…my ex I had none of those with… I thought I did but in reality it wasn’t meant to be, I should’ve realized these signs because in the end I was betrayed and hurt. Cheated on and tossed away for my best friend who obviously isn’t my friend anymore. I recently just found my new love, and we fit all of these.❤
I have never been in this type of relationships and now I am done with everything , I am scared to love
Bpd makes these impossible but I'm changing for him to show him I love him sooo much
We covered so much ground in a short time its kinda crazy but so dang fun .im always smiling or singing to myself nowadays.. thinking of how it will be at first and aways down the road.. all kinds of stuff goes through my mind..all the time.. overall it feels good to feel good☺️
I know I'm not with the right person, but I still wanted to watch this video. It's sad, but sometimes I wish It could work.
Watching this and realizing I'm in love with my best friend, then freaking out and wondering what to do ^^'
I really like these "positive" videos. As apposed to, "87 signs you're going to die alone and in pain".
I feel luckier everyday with these videos 😁💋💜
~Jesse
Since I trust nobody and almost always have had bad experiences with human beings, my gut feeling is telling me she's thinking of me as the biggest jerk, too easy to manipulate and all that scary stuff, but when I am with her in the real world, I am calm. Like wtf ?
I met my woman a few months ago and it’s been really good. I had a lot of fear though from past relationships. I broke up with her a couple times but she kept taking me back when I realized I made a huge mistake. I feel terrible that I did that, but I’ve been lucky enough for her to forgive me and for us to move forward. This video makes me feel really good about our relationship and I’m excited for the future :)
Look there boys, something we will never have!
Yess, we are very happy
I can agree on the zen though it took a while as i was jumpy from my previous relationships. I have so much going on. In my life and talk to alot of doctors. So they usually ask about my mental health. I explain my husband has given me a sense of calm (zen) i never knew existed its amazing. We were both married once before, both have kids and both can't believe we have the other.
I've finally found them 🥰🍀🐺💖🐺🍀
Make your own cuddly......or ask a friend who can to make one for you. Use clothes you don’t wear anymore to make it. Love the Earth. Recycle.
helps sm if i literally dont even talk with my crush
Once I related it with someone. She left, but for a greater purpose (her future). She needed to move to another country, but I'm happy it is possible to live like something like that. I feel bad sometimes, but I hope the future can hold a girl so great (or if my fate is good enough maybe take me back to her arms)
While I watch this, I think of her. ❤️
Well I guess I'm good to go then!
I swear if im with my parents, Im always tense and I always feel like garbage around them. But if im with my bf, I just want to be in his arms all day and Im crying as I type this because I love them sosososo much.
Lovely video as usual. Thank you Psych2go. When will you be sharing your next stories?
Thank you! What did you think of the stories?😊
@@Psych2go I found them very interesting and particularly liked them, especially the one about depression. As a young person, I struggle with depression and anxiety and am on medication for my depression. It's gotten better as I am in family therapy but let's hope for the best moving forward aswell since I still struggle with organisation issues.
After 6 relationships that failed. I feel i finally found the one this time. Unfortunately he lives in another country, but i made it my goal to bring him here to my country in hopes of giving him a better life with me. I love my partner so much and i want to be his wife as soon as possible!
What kind of fool does it take to believe in marriage, in this time and age?😂
I love your channel!❤
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It's worse when they prob thought the same about you but you didn't act on it and now it's to late.... 😢
My work husband and I are all of this...but we're in agreement that we won't have an actual relationship because we work together.
Makes me wonder if my friend feels the same way. We exhibit all of these qualities around each other
rooting for you! :)
I bet you, she does not.
@@anderstermansen130 i’m pretty sure she doesn’t lol
im in a relationship and its my very first , and we both are very serious about it and yes we both share the same goals and we do feel all these signs , and i did have a gut feel that the person im with is the one , i literally feel so comfortable that we both just sit silently and enjoy each others company , we might not meet very often ( we meet like twice in a month ) and talk a lot through voice or video calls or normal chats and ofc we are gamers so thats another type of bonding that we share .so i can say that i have met my soulmate too !!
I came here looking for more knowledge in case I find love, but got distracted by the birb just vibing in the video. 10/10 would pet it.
I was happy with the person i was with unfortunately the feelings weren't mutual. Eventually they ate my self-esteem and confidence and made me no believe in love anymore
Im in love with someone ever since we're primary school, we saved each other's number but super rarely text cuz im too nervous and shy, even until now (we're 19) i still can't text her anything, not even hangout or date, but im afraid one day, someone will date her
When do you learn to give up? Before you gather the slightest shiver of courage, a man with actual balls have already taken her.
You have been warned.
I think I have found my one, we do life like a deep meaningful life. Bit off someday s but consistently trying.
I’ve never really been in love
❤❤❤I will forever clap for others until its my turn 🎉🎉🎉
That's a beautiful and supportive attitude!❤👏Your turn will come, Keep that positive spirit!
I found the right one for me and I know he loves me but he said he is not ready for a romantic relationship. So it kind of broke my heart but I understand that he has his reasons and that's ok and we are still friends.😊
Your handling of the situation with grace and understanding is truly admirable and reflects emotional maturity. Wishing you all the best.
He is afraid of your type, thats why. Leave the man alone already.
I'll never feel these with anyone. I don't even know why I'm watching this video.
I know my crush is in love wih me because he said "i like you" but i just dont know....
Given up on it. 💀
I felt all of these present in my last relationship except for respect. I failed in that category and I'm left with a broken heart because of that. And I had worked real hard to make a healthy, strong relationship and I genuinely felt she was the one but just a single oversight cost me. I've learned from my mistake, but damn, it still hurts
This all happened like recently btw
As humans, we all do mistakes, especially when it comes to something we haven’t done. The purpose of making mistakes is to grow and learn from it. I hope you find the perfect gal 👍
Hey. I’m experiencing something similar. What happened exactly with you guys?
I wish i could find exactly the right person for me.
You're asking for trouble. Be happy on your own first.
I was just watching one of your vids and you guys posted. Perfect timing
Gotta video idea: * This but for Empaths*
Who can naturally do ½ these steps w/ near anyone. How do you know;balance a relationship with that??
After watching this video, I feel like I'm really in love. But my partner doesn't care about love.
It's just one sided love thing going on.