Everyday sexism | Laura Bates | TEDxOxford
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- Опубликовано: 12 окт 2014
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. In this powerful and touching talk, Laura Bates confronts us with the realities of everyday sexism at UK universities. Quoting from eyewitness reports, she tells us shocking stories of women being expected to 'race to strip' as part of initiations; point scoring systems for sleeping with (especially virgin) freshers; and male freshers being forced to watch pornography. Moving from past problems to hopes for the future, Laura Bates reminds us that we can fight these sexist aspects of uni culture if we all stand together.
Laura Bates is the founder of the
Everyday Sexism project, a collection of
women's daily experiences of gender
inequality, which aims to step towards
gender equality by demonstrating that
sexism still exists in abundance in the UK
and abroad, despite what many think. In
December 2013 the project received its 50,000th entry. She is also contributor at Women Under Siege, a New York-based project working to combat the use of sexualised violence as a tool of war. She has written for the Independent, the Huffington Post, Grazia, the Women's Media Center and JUMP!Magazine for girls.
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I find it incredibly disgusting how many comments feature judgments against Ms. Bates for her talk, her dress, and her subject matter. However, I am not surprised. It figures that individuals who say these things will overlook a discussion regarding sexual abuse and discrimination in favor of talking about what Ms. Bates is wearing. You feel more comfortable discussing her wardrobe choices or labeling her as "whiny" instead of listening to her valid, well-formed points on sexism. But please, continue to prove her point. The prevalence of your misogynistic, hateful judgments only serves to solidify the point that sexism is in fact thriving in new ways through folks like you.
Check your bias
Well said.
I completely agree
isn`t metoo sexist how women can say anything about men sexist. women only care about themselves they have no respect for men unless they fear them. why should women only have rights. Andrea Constance was Caught several times lying under oath but experts say that inconsistencies in stories are normal behavior of women claiming to be victims
Women experience far more abuse at the hands of other women, than they ever do from men.
Please implore your gender to stop abusing women.
The content of the talk was shocking, revolting, and more. Thank you, Laura Bates, and hope you live long, safe and well, and succeed in raising thus awareness.
i agree but the fact you felt the need to add 'safe' and i felt the same concerns me >.>
Laura, keep up your IMPORTANT work. This is a conversation that is overdue. Thank you!
I can't believe how far in denial wemon have become snap out of it, stop dressing inappropriately
😂
The conversation that is long overdue is why misandry is a part of everyday life and academia.
@@Gambit771 - Except "misandry" is rare. You believe men as rapists is a good look?? You believe that's how we should see men? As rapists and abusers?
@@kdphotos4691 What are you in about?
If you can't counter my point (because you know I'm right) then don't embarrass yourself by lying about things I haven't said.
Misandry is everywhere, in advertising, films, TV, games, comics, books, music, laws, governments, education and so on.
It is the main form of sexism as it is the acceptable form of sexism.
If women were treated like men then you'd really have something to complain about.
You want proof that misandry exist?
Look at your own attitude towards men.
No woman that isn't sexist would ever make the comment you just did.
I'm shocked that these things happen in universities where kids are supposed to be educated. How is this education and why do universities even allow that?
Excellent point. Universities need to take action to prevent these things from occurring.
Sexism exists
bro what there's so many educated rapists out there where people defend them like "nOoOOo waYYyyYYY that can't be true they went to Harvard! Harvard I say!" Learning stuff which almost the entire population is capable of doing doesn't make you a good model citizen in all regards duoi.
@@violethaye6987 nope stop spreading misinformation
Sorry, but university students are NOT kids, they are (at least commonly) by law fully accountable adults. Sad to see them to behave not even like kids but below humanity
Good God!! That University should be held accountable for the deplorable treatment of young women in such events. If I was the parent of one of those students, I'd be furious.
As a friend of any of the women and girls... Actually, as a stranger, I am furious and disgusted
In this story, it looked like it was more then 1 university
I can't believe you fools are buying into this rubbish
Look into how they treat boys, far worse.
You'd really complain if girls were treated like boys.
@@israelgabriel1989 - It isn't "rubbish." You sound guilty.
Shocking how many thumbs down and despicable comments this video has gotten. We still have a long way to go against sexism.
What sexism? The fake SJW nonsense, or the real issue happening in the middle east? Because calling someone on the street (cat calling) isn't sexist, but taking away multiple rights to another human is sexist.
Adam Levy no need to derail the problem, just dare to challenge your views for once.
That Introvert but here is the issue, this person is not oppressed! America as a whole is not oppressed! These people are playing victim for any issue that doesn't go their way. Don't believe me, that's your own opinion and I respect that, because everyone should be at the least tolerable. I am a polish Jew and I sure have a lot to complain and bitch about, I could say that Germany should pay for my flights if I wanted to see my killed off heritage, but I know that playing victim isn't the right answer. It wasn't Germany as a whole who made itself a bad place, certain people did! All third wave feminist do is target the majority, and criticize, I might be doing that in my comment here and I'm sorry if I am wrong. How about all of our selfish asses including me try to help the real issues, not just by raising awareness, but by actions. Let's help the real oppressed!
Adam Levy Feminism has come a long way, I acknowledge that. Many people claim it's outdated and not necessary in this particular society. However, we are dealing with marks left on society after women have been opressed for so long. It might sound little or irrelevant, but it definitely influences women and effects them negatively. That alone should be something to be aware of, just so we can be better people ourselves and have that selfawareness that she's trying to evoke so we can change even more for the better as a society. I am very sorry for what happened to your ancestors, truly am. I get that when you put things in perspective like that this sounds whiny. But by that same logic we wouldn't look up unless something violent or catastrophic happens. While the root of the problem (in this case sexism, or any form of hate) had been flooting around unapologetically all along. Condemned as normal, if you will. It's not bad to create self awareness for yourself, it makes us better people.
^Biggest load of shite I've seen in a while. It is a vindictive man hating culture and victim narrative. Stop it. What "marks" are left that you are talking about? What effects and influence women? advertisements? That is the result of capitalism, men deal with it on the same amount and basis. If you want to be "self aware" realize feminism is a regressive ideology.
The majority of female sexism, comes from females. Yet, feminists never miss an opportunity to shit on men.
qz.com/692902/on-twitter-a-study-says-half-of-all-sexist-abuse-comes-from-women/
This is so sad. Rape and violence is a real problem and fear.
no one argued that ever.
Incredible! and this happens everyday... everywhere... and some people believe thousands of women make it up... it is so sad when people don't accept real issues
So sorry for not believing random anonymous sexual harassment claims off the internet. No, a woman would NEVER make that up right? Even though there is an EPIDEMIC of fake rape claims. It is so sad when people don't think objectively and rational.
Okay, first of all, stop assuming shit about me, you clearly know nothing about me, and are drawing grandiose conclusions based on your perception, not mine. As the term "nice guy" is subjective, and you clearly don't know what I meant by it. I am not "offended" by this video. I am refuting his truth claim that women do not make up claims of sexual assault/rape, as they do, all the time, for personal gain. It isn't that some people refuse to see the truth, I am being objective and pointing out facts. He is being biased. Nice strawman btw. Have I ever claimed every woman is a liar? No. Have I ever denied the existence of rape or sexual assault? No. How incredibly condescending and patronizing of you to post obvious facts about women and assume I don't acknowledge or realize these things. You are being rude, smug, arrogant, and I wouldn't expect any less from a third wave feminist hell bent on being oppressed. Also, your "pay gap" doesn't exist. There is an earnings gap, not a wage gap. The study I believe you are talking about fails to take into account profession chosen, hours worked, and life choices. If that really existed, wouldn't companies just hire all women? It would save them a lot of money. According to multiple studies by Claudia Goldin, men and women earn the same out of college when you take into account those factors. Single, childless women also out earn men in most major cities. I see your game, and it is pathetic.
The sad thing is they are telling the truth that they are doing this to themselves, sitting on guys laps saying they made them do it then telling everybody about it trying to perverte the next generations of young boys so the cycle can continue girl power! The saying should be switched from children should be seen not heard to wemon should be seen and not heard
@@thedood7930 - 6 years later and your comment didn't age well. Have you grown up yet?
excellent talk. thank you. sadly this is the truth. women and for that matter men, are not objects.
The low views and the sexist comment section only prove her point.
feminists turned me into a trump supporter. they are full of hate, will never be happy, and are hurting themselves in the workplace.
last place I bet you hate when some feminists generalize all men, yet you do the same to them? Sad how you can’t see your own hypocrisy
@@cindyl2444 I guess they lived long enough to become the thing they hate
during my freshers week some random guy I didn't know was in my house because he'd invited himself over for a pre-drinks party and he grabbed my ass and when I slapped him he said 'wow' and picked me up. I kicked him and he dropped me and I sprained my thumb. I filed a claim against him and he was warned that a female had made a complaint against him. He lived next door to me and turned out to be in over half of my lectures, so I had to see him every day, knowing that he knew it was me who made the complaint. He's never said anything to me since, only glared at me.
Melissa Osaki
trust me people like you are not as evolved as you would like to think. With your stupid terms like manspreading, mansplaining and mantiruppting, you are just as bad. Also to try and deny the existence of sexism amongst men is pretty hypocritical. You people say you don't hate men but at the same time, bash men who don't fit your image of an ideal men.My god.
Sorry, but you really know nothing about me and my terms and beliefs. Where did you ever get the idea that I hate men? Are you lumping me into a category just because I support women who are victims of sexual harassment? If you're a man, I'd like you to walk in a woman's shoes for a couple weeks and see if you're not treated differently than men. It's degrading and humiliating to be treated with such primitive aggression and sexual degeneration. A perfect example is all these countries who are letting in refugees from lower developed areas, their women are being raped at 2 to 3 times the rate. These men are degenerate in consciousness and significantly less evolved. Religion plays a big role in this degeneration as well. As for your manspreading, mansplaining and I never heard of that last one, I think those are the stupidest things I've ever heard. I don't deny men face sexism and discrimination, but I support them as well. There is no such thing as a perfect/ideal man or woman. It's impossible. People are either good and decent human beings or they are not.
Canadian Owl. we are talking about the assholes who are out of touch with reality. Not all men are the same. There are some good men out there. the danger is a mentally weak man who uses his physical strength against a woman to turture her or punish her through sex. If there is no consent, you are basically torturing and punishing another human being, whether male or female.
Melissa Osaki Yes there is great guys like myself out there...which you women ignore for those jerks.
And as plenty of men have evolved we can hope that women follow our example. I was raised to hate my own masculinity and thought of all women as self sacrificing princesses. Needles to say my confrontation with reality was swift and brutal. I would also like to point out that these seem more like examples of young men acting like assholes, especially the powerless type of male who often spout off this way. In a population of hundreds of millions in western society examples will always be available.
Lol all the people hating in the comments are only helping her case. Thanks! ^_^
+Chloe Price Right because feminists never use hate to push an agenda. Like pulling the fire alarm at a mra conference or suggesting to putting all men in work camps.
***** Real feminism isn't like that okay?
Oh yes it is. I've seen countless videos and articles where feminist demonstrate that kind of behavior.
***** And therefore aren't feminists. REAL feminism is to make ourselves equal to men, not above them. Because we are just as good and need to be treated that way, not better than men, the same. Don't play off all feminists as the same, it's like saying all men are the same which they aren't.
***** You are the only reasonable feminist I met so far. A majority are nothing but a bunch of man haters.
I can only hope that I never go to a university like that; I don't know what universities egg on atrocities like this, but if I end up in one, I'll try as hard as I can to not let the social pressure get to me...
I think you are the only man who has commented on here with an honest point of view. Perhaps you can be a force for change in not accepting the type of peer pressure that makes you uncomfortable? If more men had your point of view (which I'm sure there are plenty of guys who do) then this type of ridiculous behavior wouldn't go on at universities. Isn't the whole point of going to school is to be studying and gaining an education rather than wasting one's energy with all this sort of nonsense? Good luck to you David Allen. Cheers from New York City!
I really wish some guys would just stop being jerks to women. Thanks to all the men out there that are mistreating women, I now have to assure the girls I date that I am not a bad guy, but because of all the abuse they have suffered in the past it is difficult for them to trust me.
If humans could just act civil then this world would be a much better place.
The thing is women go for jerks and ignore men that treat women with respect which is more than they deserve.
Cannibal Candy thanks for your comment. It is so true. Ironically you then receive 2 comments from jerks showing you how it's done and your comment swooshes completely over their heads :(
Please tell me how misogyny saves lives and wow!1!!1!!1! A woman was caught lying under oath! This must mean all women are manipulative, lying abusers!!11!1!1!
@@hopedean6424
Your excessive punctuation is a clear indication of excessive neuroticism (something you were born with).
*Case closed.*
@@lockandloadlikehell You mean the !!!!1!1!!1!!11 is excessive use of punctuation? Do tell
finding it weird people are 'shocked' in the comments. Clearly haven't been listening to women in their lives
no , we listen but we don't believe all women , especially from a feminazi (or femcel)
I heard Laura's interview on Crooked Media's Offline and immediately ordered her book. Absolutely heart-shattering work. As a Baptist pastor and a father of a toddler boy, I hope and pray we can begin to model non-patriarchal, non-violent, egalitarian relationships in our homes, workplaces, and communities. I don't know your beliefs nor do I need to, but I do know that Christ was on the side of women, and God is on your side. Keep up the good work, Ms. Bates.
This honestly terrifies me. Especially since time at a university is supposed to be a fun time with positive and learning experiences. Even at my small school there were horror stories of girls being drugged at parties on campus. Want to claim that “not all men”? Then stand up, help where you see a problem. Don’t stand by.
Wow if I said that about golddiggers
Inform me how gold diggers destroy the fabrications of men and how men are truly suffering because of everyday sexism from “gold diggers”.
Laura is brilliant.
thank you, laura bates
Thank you!
Thank you.
The comment section is shocking and just further emphasises why feminism so important.
this comment section is a fucking embarrassment to humanity. It's people who have no idea what they're talking about feeling threatened and talking shit. Makes me question why some guys need brains if all they are ever gonna do is jumping on a bandwagon without thinking.
The anonymity provided by the internet gives a voice to the deep thoughts of those who prefer to state in public "I'm not sexist, I treat my housekeeper like a real human being."
@Fireworks I Have no problem with feminism, I Have no problem with women, In fact Im male I Realize that their is little to none sexism(In the 1st world) Where as in the 3rd world sexism is everywhere,Back to 1st world feminists still like to try and get attention, Yes women are more vulnerable, But men are still held responsible for what other men do YES SOME MEN ARE TERRIBLE, YES SOME MEN RAPE, But why do feminists try and get mad at men in all, GET MAD AT THE BAD ONES, Dont say "men" say some men, YES in a males world being raped feels like its non existant, but it isnt. RAPE IS BAD, No-one wants to get raped,,No-one wants to be violated, and no-one wants to be blamed for what other men do, Their will always have bad men, their will also have bad women, Men are told when their young to keep their feelings to them selves, but women try and make themselves the victim, All im trying to say is stop worrying about just women, worry about both genders,(Triggered arnt ya i said "both genders' Informing their is 2 genders)
I love women, I Respect them, Id do anything for them, I wont touch a women unless they tell me to, I wont force them into it, i wont egg them on, If they dont want it I know if they dont, infact im edgy if a girl feels uncomfortable around me, I want to make them not uncomfortable, Like i said, I would rather see equality, but we all know that will never happen, their will always be messed up people, Women already rule the world, they get accepted for their feelings they win instant attention when they claim they get raped,they win child support , where as men, arnt allowed to show emotion, they arnt able to win the acceptance over rape, Be like the ancient feminists, accept everyone, actually try and help everybody, not just urselves, Trying to blame men for ur problems GET THAT OUTTA HERE Blame urselves for not trying to help everybody, Yes their are some feminists that are accually good, I Like to call them 'Human Beings' They accept everyone, they fight for everyone, they want equality, Equality isnt just about men, isnt just about women, Its about everyone, 1st world to 3rd, they stop sexism everywhere, they Try not to get angry at "Men" The men their pursueing as bad they should call Terrorists, dont call the bad men 'Men' Because you make us men(Real humans) look bad for what others do, just calm urself and u'll be fine ;D Have a great day and realize this was made by a 11 year old, Bye -Cole Williams
That OneRUclipsr learn how to read dude, save yourself some time and frustration.
I didn't say 'men', I said 'some guys'. Self-victimization goes both ways.
Angry, irrational Third-Wave feminism is the reason for all of these comments. Most of these men had no problem with women until feminism went on the offense and began labeling everything sexism and microaggressions. You can't expect to try to destroy a scientist over his shirt, go on a campaign to ban the word "bossy", advocate putting men into concentration camps and attempt to ruin men's lives with false accusations and not expect them to respond negatively. Not realistically, anyway.
Wow, so many dislikes? What's wrong with her talk?
@Henry La Suer How is it any of those things? Care to elaborate? I don’t think I see your point.
@Henry La Suer Don’t “sweetheart” me, jackass.
@@gillianlingo9741 Ok Tootsie Pop
@@gillianlingo9741 fragile males who can't handle being held accountable.
@Henry La Suer shut ur fuckin hole
The situation is sad and I don't understand why sometimes women are alienated like we are some weird unreachable creatures.. I feel like fighting won't help though, anger only multiplies anger, but raising awareness could help. Educating kids to treat all girls and boys responsibly, maybe supporting friendships of opposite genders. Also movies nowadays are putting pressure stressing machism which makes the one that goes for a women as for a pray to be the real man or so..
I am so glad that I did not have to tolerate this when I was in University. I am disgusted by this, but I am grateful that Laura Bates is bringing this up front. I have brought this to the attention of my husband who is a prof at a Canadian University. Now that you have highlighted this, I certainly hope that all Universities become proactive in preventative work! Hopefully parents of university aged youth will comprehend that they need to be proactive in pressuring the universities to do better!
What were these wemon doing sitting on the guys lap in her story? Do wemon not have a mind of there own? Do you feminists hear yourselves talk?
@@christophermartin7927 yay you have good grammer 👏👏👏
I get the feeling if you could read this woman's mind what she would really like is anytime that a man gets accused of anything he goes directly to jail for a very long time.
You're defensive when it is clear that if the sexes were reversed, men would not put up with being treated like any of that.
Why is it ok to call women horrific names and to be abused like how she described?? What if we started labelling people as "women and creeps" or "CEOs and creeps" or "Ladies and creeps?"
What if we reduced ALL men down to hateful slurs, then treated them as if they are animals? What if we told men they had to accept being called "creeps" and that they had to do "initiations" such as crawling around on the floor as women slapped them?
Get over yourself. When men start taking accountability for their hateful actions, then women won't be calling this behaviour out. Boys who brag about r*ping women?
What is wrong with you men??
A goddess - brilliant, highly intelligent and extremely courageous human being. Thank you for your enormous courage, true personality and leading the path to justice and fairness. You rock.
You know what you will never see? Laura Bates debate one of the men she makes a career out of defaming...
i feel that if men were treated how they treat women i.e men groping men in the streets they would change their attitudes towards assault.
This is so painful. ☹️ It’s commendable that it’s been acknowledged.
What i heard in this video terrifies me
This kind of behavior is unacceptable and needs to be stopped! Men, if you know someone who is treating a woman like this then you need to stand up and report it or stand up and say something, it may even come to be violent but you have to do something instead of sitting in the corner with your mouths shut. Wome, if your university is known for acts of this kind then maybe you shouldnt go out to the parties on campus if you want to go out and relax go out to a piano bar or something like that with your friends. It is sad that it has come to this but you have to think more about protecting yourself than having fun, it is just how it goes these days. i have more to say but don't have the time to say it gotta go to work.
Wonderful! Thank you for giving this talk!
Thank you for your sharing that. Please keep up the good work.
Blessings
Spreading lies and misandry is good work?
Thanks for your work Laura
I hate how half of the comments are men saying how they missed out on the ‘fun’ of harming women by going to a good school. Grow up. Glad to see that your education was not pointless at all.
It's sad how this is still happening but I'm glad that more people are becoming aware of the disguises via such events occur!
Everyday sexism is a huge contributor to the ongoing trauma many of the therapy participants I work with have. This can lead to problems including PTSD, severe social anxiety, and ongoing difficulty concentrating and speaking up in many different areas of their lives. This sort of everyday sexism contributes to why so many women don't live up to their dreams and potentials.
Yes
Uhu, the fact that way more women get into college is because women don't live up to their dreams, not men. The fact that way more men die because of workplace fatalities while lots of women have it nice and cosy at the workplace is because those men are living up to their dreams. Sigh.
PEOPLE have it hard, not women.
@@lennertcornettenone of what you just said is true, and none of the assumptions behind it are, either.
This story must be heard and shared! Time's up for the chauvinist oppressors among - and above - us.
Is that ASL or BSL?
I really look up to her
Is there a difference in events/behaviours where there are frats/sororities vs. universities where there are none? When I went to university (in the 1990s) I didn't see any of this. But there was not a huge on-campus population of students, and no frats/sororities. I can only base what I now about frats/sororities on the movies... and if they are any reflection, some can promote awful views, attitudes and behaviours, and way too much peer pressure to do the wrong thing. Curious if anyone has personal experience and can provide me with some input.
I fail to understand what the upside is for the young women who agree to participate in these events. Could someone possibly enlighten me?
A chance to fit in. Or rather, neglecting these evens might result in social isolation at the university. The younger someone is the bigger the need is to fit in with peers.
and not for the first time, i feel as if 'liking' this video might send the wrong message... as if i would be showing support for the culture of misogyny, rather than agreeing that it needs to stop...
at any rate, thanks TEDx and Laura Bates for bringing this to people's attention.
oforth has you
Understandable, but I think liking the video in this case supports Bates bringing the topic to public attention.
Oxford University has admitted to allowing women 15 more minutes to complete maths and computer science than they do men. The University doesn't believe that this is a sexist Act, and defends it by saying that women deal with more stress and therefore need more time.
Thats weird and bull but not something important in this story. Like you even listened to wtf she said. Why the "oh that doesnt matter, here are real problems" mentality wtf
@@carimavandijk1091 Because it's aaaaaaalways about women's problems and we are so tired of it. If you are going to exclude and entire gender and constantly blame them for all of your problems, men aren't going to care about it anymore either.
@@lennertcornette then go and actually do something about the issues that this gendered society causes for men, instead of only talking about it and acting you care when the topic is womens issues.
@@lennertcornette - You don't think stopping r*pists from teaching men how to make drugs used to r*pe women is important?
@@carimavandijk1091 For society to change, more than 1 gender of the population has to care. Without men, women wouldn't be able to vote f.e. Men don't get the same sympathy from society that women always get but you know very well. Women in the west just cannot lose. Blaming men for everything and victimhood all the time. The only thing I can do is teach you men about the true nature of women and to never ever marry since that's just welfare for women when they initiate divorce (80% from all the divorces)
Guys, there’s a sign language interpreter!
A win for inclusivity!!!
Wow! This is so horrific!!
This is horrible. Thank you for sharing.
I might be just confused, but in a party with actions going on like that why didn't people stand up for one another and leave?
Because of the "social pressure" that makes it look "normal"
@Ismael Barrera I understand that individual people can't change culture overnight, but I hope you do try and make individual choices that shows to the women around you that you respect them and stand with them
This is really shocking but it´s real and also it´s real that we can change something about it around us, so each one have to do something, may be educate, talk, support or whatever but something important, it´s in our hands
How is it she has only done TEDx talks and not a regular TED talk?
I was “bothered” once on a street and cornered by a stranger male who found it extremely funny to see me in tears (I just had had a fight with my boyfriend)... I knocked him down... I am sure he will think twice now before harassing women...
We need to educate boys to respect women AND girls that they aren’t fragile and helpless little things. We should not expect respect we should be ready to take it when it is denied from us!
Good job knocking that guy down!
Entrenched Mgtow , I’m sorry but in a woman’s world you earn respect. and seeing that most men have oppressed and treated women like objects for the past thousands of years, and still do, you guys definitely haven’t ‘earned’ any.
Entrenched Mgtow yea you earn respect but you don’t harris random people in the street just because they haven’t earnt your respect respect should be something you should lose not gain you show respect to anyone who hasn’t proven they dint deserve it
You physically assault men for speaking to you. Thank you for admitting women's violence.
'We need to educate boys to respect women ' Indeed, and we should learn women that hypergamy and friendzoning is a bad thing.
Hegelian Dialectic: The first step (thesis) is to create a problem. The second step (antithesis) is to generate opposition to the problem (fear, panic and hysteria). The third step (synthesis) is to offer the solution to the problem created by step one: A change which would have been impossible to impose upon the people without the proper psychological conditioning achieved in stages one and two.”
Imagine living in a free country where you can just leave and not willingly take part. hmmmmm
What on earth are the universities doing about this? Surely they know it goes on. Why are they allowing/facilitating it? I cant even begin to imagine what it must be like to be a girl at one of these institutions. It's appalling.
Jesus Christ! Hearing this makes me glad I couldn't' afford to send my daughter off to college!! OMG!
Denise Columbia send her to the local college where she commutes back and forth from home, lot of bad things happen in dorms in schools even men get lost in those places with 🍺🥃
@Entrenched Mgtow She's 27 and is working full time. She's got credentials from two different trade-schools and doesn't make money from either of them. This country is a joke for Millenials.
The marks out of 10 goes both ways though, if its an issue, no one mentioned it as being one before other than maybe as again a women's only issue, if we abolish it, OK, sure, but for all people, if we keep it, OK, but again, for both, if we want things to be equal, then I guess it should be as infrequently spoken outside of that which you say amongst your group of friends in confidence to the same level, or something like that
For both what? If we want it to be equal what? Girls don’t go around taking men’s virginities for shits sake. Wtf.
Gender inequality is something that is deep seated in the psychology of all animals. It makes sense we server 2 separate biological roles in reproduction. While there are things that are harder for woman to do then men, it's also reversed back. I think if we just learn to respect each other, inequality will naturally decline.
Exactly, but judging this comments section, it doesn't look like that's going to happen any time soon - to be honest this video proves it.
In the psychology of all animals? What about bears, lions, sharks?
What inequality? Women are over 60% of students in universities, and woman work fewer hours than men at the same jobs.
@@customsongmaker shh they aren’t ready for that yet
Laura Bates work is so precious. I read her book and I feel ashamed how many thinks seemed normal to me before.
Unfortunately it was hard to read 'cause English isn't my mother tongue. Translating it would be awesome and give access to all people not having the privilege of speaking English.
After watching this I am so glad that I went through the Open Uni and could therefore study at home as opposed to being on a campus, where I could have been either subjected to or had to witness such vile behaviour.
More men are homeless how about a video on this gender gap Laura?
You do it
@@alexandriatb11 I already have. You keep pretending that women are economically disadvantaged even though less are homeless, less are unemployed and more hold degrees.
@FeminismDebunked sorry bro, this isn't the pain Olympics. You're bringing up a completely different topic for... what exactly?
If you're trying to advocate for why secondary education should be free for girls but not boys, then you have done a good job of that, because I wouldn't want my future daughters to go through that, and if they had to, they should be paid, and if they can't be paid, they should receive something equal in compensation to pay, so until that is abolished, I think they shouldn't have to pay for school
Yes, and women buy into it... Learn to recognize it... then Just say No to sexualized stereotypes.
Freshest week? Well tell the university they won’t tolerate this type of cult abuse behavior
OMG THIS IS FUCKING CREEPY, I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT THIS STUFF ACTUALLY HAPPENS, LIKE HOLY SHLIT!!!!
IlluminatiConfirmed, welcome to planet Earth my friend.
It doesn't she lying to serve her own biased personal agenda. That's why there are no references to academic studies or to evidence of the university supporting what she is talking about
BennKay It. Does. Happen. I don't need any University studies to prove it (even though I could easily find them) because it is a daily part of my life and the women around me.
The Dood There are a lot more problems in the middle east (and other areas of the world) concerning women's rights than there are in America and a lot of feminists are fighting that. However, another country's problems don't make ours any less legitimate. If you feel strongly about the women in the middle east then do something to help them and speak out about the prevalent sexism there. But what your doing now is trying to silence their biggest advocates.
I've YET to see any buzzfeed, mic, or any feminist videos on the degenerate culture has for women in the middle east, don't get me wrong, I'm sure one or two exist, but they are nowhere near in the volume they should be. Instead it is filled with things like "mansplaining" "manspreading" and all sorts of bullshit that is irrelevant and not a real issue. If there are a lot more problems in the middle east, why is there not a lot more coverage, marches, protests, TEDX VIDEOS. Why are we stuck with nitpicking nonissues and "muh patriarchy". The truth is feminism is allied with Islam and the middle east because they have a common enemy, the "middle class white guy".
There is no legitimate issue of sexism in the United States. There are individual circumstances and cases, but do not reflect the group as a whole. Most "sexism" and mean behavior to women, COMES FROM women. Look it up.
I promised myself I wouldn't respond but you are just so wrong I had to.
This is real and happening, but it is also happening to men as well. What is worse, however, is how many men do it to other men and women do it to other women. That needs to be addressed as well.
Good luck with that, this is a mans world remember... I remember it well; like the time I worked in an office full of women and when a delivery arrived I was expected to deal with it - because I was a man. Or like the time I became stressed after being given work to do that I'd not received training and missing a target... I was signed off but was told to man up and get a grip (over the phone while off sick shaking from stress) while a female colleague received hugs and praise and told to go home...
Ah, not being sexualised you say? Ok, how about being one of a few men on a night out when all the women are drunk and literally tear your clothes off as the others cheer? Or an older female manager putting a hand down my trousers and squeezing my balls? Nah, didn't happen and if it did then I enjoyed it as I'm a man.
@@legendaryhamster2027 sorry this happened to you 💜 we just want equality
@@artvid-1915 Exactly
As opposed to special occasion sexism.
It’s psychological warfare. It’s such that after all these years of love for men I have zero desire for them none and it seems I’m not alone oh well men have always been fair leaders until recently right now it’s just disgraceful. Many women I know can’t make a living and this is not a society to praise or men to praise it’s cowards losers obviously harmed mentally I hope men take back their rightful favored and loved space in society as protectors, leaders , and so much more as they and those men make life worth living. It’s a huge turn off right now big turnoff I can’t even finish listening it’s just why bother and it fills me with sadness that’s not what I wanted for myself or kids
I think she appears as an intelligent, well read and articulate young woman.
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Amazing how you a speaker that knows very little about sexism to speak on sexism and who displays her sexism.
Brexit makes sense now.
APTN
As we watch this, I just want to encourage you to report as many of those harmful comments as you possibly can.
ok all u guys are starting too late in the game. The big issue is our over sexualisation in mainstream society and the fact that its going younger and younger and that its seen as a means to a end as either a method of marketing or as a status symbol or measure of success n perpetuated as normal is the big problem.
Feminism lost so go home ladies, cats are hungry.
unfortunately there are a lot of simps out there, that give us men a bad name.
Wtf..can't believe this is is real.
I have an exhausting amount of stories just like these. It's hard to explain again and again. I can't believe that you almost can't believe this is real. It's been a reality for me since I was 10 and going to church and school
I love how they keep taking down my best comments
youtube helps feminism and don't like red pilled men.
Move to Sweden.
"Hello My name is Laura Bates , I am a feminist and I am here to campaign for children to have equal access for both parents after divorce, same sentences for both genders and more women working in mines and dangerous places. " Only joking...
Jon Edenvale If women want to work in mines then they can. They have every right to do whatever job feels best for them.
+Jon Edenvale How many men work in nursing or take care of the elderly or are kindergarten or elementary school teachers or cleaners? Thank God that that isn't hard work or a "lousy job" and on top of that badly paid.
+Jon Edenvale If women don't want to work in mines, why do you want them to?? It's the men who decide to work in dangerous places.
Steve Fenton Right... Because I'm pointing out it's not feminism's fault that men are miners, I'm privileged??? Oh wow, you really don't know what privilege means. Instead of being butt hurt, feminism is actually trying to remove the ideas of a man being hyper masculine. And you want equality for men whilst also downgrading the woman's worth? Hmm... Your idea of equality is very screwed.
Steve Fenton Actually I don't believe in rape culture but ok... I love how you're making shit up without even knowing which type of feminism I fight for. You're an idiot anyways.
Yeah probably should have went to the Dean that's his/hers responsibility to deal with that. That's why people die
I got it let's make it illegal for people to wear revealing clothing, no more objectification no more inappropriate exposure of one's body
But how are women going to use/manipulate men if they can't show off their body?
@at lennert
U f*ing pathetic
Understood nothing of it
Be a girl for a week u ll understand u f*er
@@lennertcornette - Men manipulate, not women. If someone's clothes bother you, then you are weak minded and lack self control. It is a manipulation to claim that women "show off their bodies to manipulate men." No, because you can't manipulate those who can't be manipulated.
Worry about yourself, not what women do.
That makes zero sense. You're saying that "all men are r*pists" because they can't behave as human beings. Do better if you can't look at other human beings and not reduce them down to the sum of their parts.
@@lennertcornetteidiot
Men you need to stop pursuing relationships with women and just work on yourself.Pursue education, building a business, working on your hobbies and traveling to other parts of the world where radical feminism doesn't exist.
There is no discrimination against men ?
Did she say that?
So women assault men on college campus’ to this extent?
Im male & all women think Im a creep
well maybe you are. Think about that.
Maybe they have a reason
wow your life sounds so hard
i think there might be a reason for that or you are a bit odd in general and people make quick judgments on you
I hope this video helped you realize the trauma women face. I am sure it is not because of you.
gave up halfway through. too depressing.
This is why I think the saying CHILDREN SHOULD BE SEEN AND NOT HEARD, should be changed to WEMON SHOULD BE SEEN AND NOT HEARD
You are a r*pist?
wtffff.. this is so barbaric.
Ms Bates is very savvy in the way that she dresses. She is deliberately wearing non-provocative clothing so that guys can focus on her MESSAGE. Good job!
how do you know?
what difference does what she's wearing make?
your eyes, your responsibility
@@em5353 that's right, it's none of your business when men use their eyes on whatever woman they want
@@customsongmaker - Are you a r*pist because the video is mostly about men promoting hatred for women and r*pe.
Her speech might have had a lot of flaws in it but, I don't think this was as bad as people made it out to be.
It doesn't matter as long as you get a point across.
The main idea is to get people thinking.
This would be more convincing if there were any sources other than her personal website.
Feelings>Facts. Once you understand that, you'll understand feminism.
It's not just her personal website, she is conducting a social experiment. Would you accuse another academic of not being convincing purely because they were reporting results of their surveys and experiments?
If a man was reporting on data he'd collected from his own website would you say the same?
@@hopedean6424
Why would that make a difference?
Some people need to wake up and look around to see how women are treated evcry day. I am a man and it makes me sick to see how some men regard women as playtoys. Your post is 4 years old and hopefully you have grown up.
So sexism is only bad when it happens to women?
Nope. Sexism is bad and it does not matter who the victim is.
awardwin it’s sad that this is the only thought you gained from this video
you missed the point of this video entirely
Why are you so angry @awardwin?
when did anyone say that?
Just watch Chimamanda Adichie's speech. It's better than this.
ARINZECHUKWU OBI Evidence of how she's an idiot.
ARINZECHUKWU OBI She hasn't told one lie about Nigeria. If you've read her bios or listened to any of her interviews, you would know how much research she put into the books she wrote e.g. Half a Yellow Sun. Even Chinua Achebe thinks she's a great author. Maybe you're just in denial. Please tell me where she has lied about Nigeria.
ARINZECHUKWU OBI. i do not think you understand. She collects stories from men and women, from all over the world, about being mistreated because of sexism. Even men are harmed by sexism.
Everyday misandry more like!
Geeks are powerful now? I grew up in the wrong era... Also, a lot of those Freshers events are sponsored by drinks companies, they're there simply to sell alcohol. When my daughter is university age I'm going to advise her to stay away from it all and get her some Mace.
Just don't let her take up humanities or gender studies etc. At least allow her to learn something that enables her to be actually useful to society.
@Ismael Barrera
My words aren't legally binding.
They are just good advice.
Why do you not want people to give good advice? Do you want others to fail?
James Gornall - quick question. How did you treat women in college? We’re you part of male cults that treated women like this? This will exist for your daughter unless you tell all men to stop doing this to women.
I actually liked a woman but liking her cause she's a woman seems pretty sexist.
i think you got a bit confused 🤷♀️
Everything you're talking about comes from your fathers, brothers, uncles, and maybe boyfriends. Stop blaming all men.
David Wong ????? i’m so confused by this comment
yes, men (including your fathers, brothers, uncles, and boyfriends) commit sexism... that doesn’t make it not sexist
Yes my brother, boyfriend, and brother committed sexist actions. Your point?
family can be perpetrators too lol
If Norman Bates had a sister....
first example she gives is a joke... lol