what caused my obsession was the comments from others during all my life since high school. sounds silly and shallow but other's comments or opinions can shape your beliefs.
100% my feelings about my appearance have come from other people. I always knew I wasnt the most attractive gal but the things people, complete strangers have said about my face and body has been devastating. Other people's reactions to my appearance have prevented me from so many experiences in life and it makes me so sad, I've never had enough money for plastic surgery though... My life is never going to improve.
"It means that OUR men are suffering in silence" I also struggle with muscle dysmorphia, but this statement right here gave me so much support along with this talk. The fact that she says "OUR MEN" gives me a sense that i have support and i am not in this alone. Thank you for this ted talks.
This is something I was suffering with pretty much all my life but I'm ready to let go of body dysmorphia, it feels good, I hope everyone can be free from this disorder
There are clinical studies you can see online investigating the way people with body dysmorphia see faces and even objects using different parts of their brains, or with parts more or less active than healthy people.
"Valuing content of the character over valuing the content of the mirror" - absolutely! But, as seeing is believing it ain't gonna happen until we understand as a society that believing is seeing. There has to be a revolutionary shift in our perception about what really matters - our souls, not our bodies.
I developed anorexia nervosa at 11 years of age, after being “husky” for a couple of years. This was only reinforced by my Mum who told everyone “she has such willpower”! Through the years I eventually began over exercising, 7 days a week, running, biking, swimming and spending 2 or 3 hours a day lifting weights. I spent hours looking in the mirror. It was awful! I realized I had BDD also, still, to this day! I’m 60 now but weigh more than years past. It’s so hard to work through these disorders...no matter that I’ve been in psychotherapy since I was 17. It just never seems to completely go away.
Anyone can suffer from body dismorphia, even people that from our perspective, radiate attractiveness. These people may be aware that they are attractive but still having a complete fixation on a certain body part. I'm 18 years old and I believe I've shown enough symptoms to suggest that I may have this disorder. I know that deep down, I think I'm attractive but there are these voices in my head yelling at me and suggesting otherwise. From my personal experience, I found that growing up, there is always something to fixate on, the difference is how much. For people reading this that may or may not suffer from this, I want you to know that we live in an imperfect world and it is okay to feel inadequate in any way, I love you all and I believe in you.
I was diagnosed with BDD very recently. It feels wonderful to see that there is an answer for what's wrong with me. And yet, it's incredibly horrifying.
Just brilliant!!!!! I’m just in the beginning to treat this „problem“. And was a bit disappointed when I read about possible treatment with ssri. Because I’m now well enough to not take it anymore. But still found out that I need to put some effort in treating my bdd. And I think the best way to start with it is to get some so well explained information like in this talk. Thanks so much!
Is it still considered BDD if you feel like you look fine (good most times) in mirrors/selfies but feel disgusted / like a goblin and avoid looking at yourself in photos or videos when others are taking it of you?
That's exactly what BDD is. I like what I see in mirror. Pics and vids depend on the camera, lighting and angles. The worst is when you can't see your reflection and you have to rely on your imagination. This is where I think of myself as the ugliest piece of shxt I can come up with. And no matter how much I know the image is not real, I can't shake the emotions that comes with it.
It actually depends on the effect this has on your life- how big it is for you and the limits it gives you. Not so much about the perspective and personal insecurities themselves
it’s about everything on your body (skin and all) not only weight, but still it’s very nice video ! I don’t care about my appearance a lot, but I care about health. appearance doesn’t define you, even though a lot of ppl say this, think about it, everyone is beautiful, you might not be beautiful to someone but you are beautiful to someone ELSE, everyone has a different idea of beauty. And weight is the same, but remember to stay healthy and differentiate between unhealthy and healthy, 💕💕💕💕
Santiago x exactly! i was waiting on her to bring up bdd as a whole, not just the stereotypical belief that having bdd is about obsessing over your weight.
omg thats me, i have soooo many scars and spot i literally cant go out in public without make up....i know its sad but my go you've hit a nail on the head
When I was in high school, I was very often made fun of because my head and body are bigger than most people and I look way younger than I actually am. In addition to my family history of OCD, I was unfortunately going to be diagnosed with BDD at the age of 21 (this year). It should not be underestimated how much of an impact it has on your daily life. Its so hard to go out in public, especially since I often feel like I have too much of a presence since I am 6'2 and over 200 lbs. Best of luck to all those struggling with body dysmorphia out there!
She looks very good here ! Its hard and a struggle pushing through these disorders ... self inflicted pain through self hatred ! Good for her for overcoming this disorder !
Amazing delivery!! And for a student to show such professionalism in their field is inspiring. I agree she's stunning but then I'm also in awe of how well she spoke and how connected to the audience she was. However, she focussed a bit too much on weight issues in BDD, and for me, BDD is not about weight. Overall though a great presentation and in a way it helped. Definitely left me thinking about BDD in a broader context!
Good presentation and she has some good insights. I like the idea of fighting bdd by not agreeing with ones negative self talk. Seems like a piece of the puzzle anyhow.
Your mind is not you enemy,, but it's actually trying to protect you from giving in to the society's standard of appearance that would make you love yourself conditionally, instead of loving yourself unconditionally just the way you are. It's a form of resistance of the mind from making you fall into the trap of society's standards
I think this woman is onto something but I also think she probably didn't present it as well as she would have liked to. I think the theory that the mind fills in gaps during times of high stress or inadequate nutrition makes total sense. The brain is always trying to take a short cut. It's not a bad thing. It's a mechanism that we use to conserve energy. This might only work in some cases though.
Well the Minnesota Starvation Experiment shows how malnutrition effects the brain and how the people starves start acting like people with anorexia nervosa, over exercising, obsessing over food and even body issues. Also, Dr. Shan Guisinger has a theory called "Adapt to Famine" where she talks about body dysmorphia possibly being a sort of protective mechanism for the brain with anorexia nervosa.
Beautiful amazing impressive soul . Believe in yourself and have a life one dreams of. Inspiring talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
I've been in a treatment centernthat not only treated thoes with an eating disorder but also Drug and alcohol dependence.I' m a success story because Based upon my experience at that treatment center I saw some several fellow patiants who ranged in age between 7 - 21 Years old, it was extremely humbling to see thoese earing disorder parents and patience luke myself whom where there for drug or alcohol addiction
Interesting observation about people wishing to take up as little space as possible. I am very much that way, especially on a bad anxiety day or when I was drinking & had a bad hangover. I am often annoyed by other people who seem somewhat unaware of how much space they're taking up & seem oblivious to those around them. 1 reason why I hate big cities.
what i dont like about the image of the skinny girl seeing the chubby version of her in the mirror is that when people look at the one in the mirror and she's supposed to be the chubby one in the image then the viewer may think that theyre chubby too when neither of them are. like labeling her as fat when shes not is like what dies it mean for people who don't look like that, who are of diff sizes. i do understand its purpose though its a very strong image about the severity of an ed. good job on this ted talk, hits home
When I was younger I thought that my legs were too thin and I didn't like my nose but at that time nobody talked about body dysmorphia we just said complexes...it all disappeared with my first boyfriend who was always looking at me with love and was telling me that it made him happy to look at me...I don't know if it is a psychological problem linked with social networks or if it existed before but we didn't know it...this is very interesting...
Interesting indeed, my guess is that it's the result of a low self value, it just takes one mean comment in our early years to have a deeply rooted insecurity for the rest of our life. I'll always say that there should be a psychologist figure in every kid, just like we have a general practitioner. The sooner you address these insecurities the sooner they go away :/
So the thing with body dysmorfia is that you get obsessed with whatever flaw that you have. You think about it over and over, you feel the need that you have to check yourself in the mirror 40 times a day. The flaw that you have becomes something else, something worse in your eyes. If you have these symptoms you may have body dysmorfic disorder. But I can't say it for sure
Yes. My body dysmorphia manifested itself by obsessing over a scar on my body. The scar is real, certainly, but it is the obsession and compulsion to check it 100 times a day and the anxiety that comes with it that is detrimental to one's well-being. The physical "flaw" is far less important than the mental behavior you associate with it.
I am large. Always have been. I was okay with myself until recently. My boyfriend passed away. Since I've tried to get back into the world. My anxiety came back with a vengeance. I work morning shift too. I started overdosing on energy shots. I noticed I wake up better and the upside, I wouldn't eat at all somedays. I was fine... Until I noticed I had some internal bleeding. So I cut back. I force myself to eat some. I'm still large. I still hate myself. But I'm realizing I have a problem. And it's not just my weight
Body weight is based on what people eat. If you are female. Eat 2000 calories a day. If you eat alot and still skinny. I feel you. Eating more than your metabolism will do it. Tho some people think they eat alot but unless they count their calories intake it wouldn't be enough to be deemed as accurately eating alot. So it is recommended to count calorie intake. Losing weight would be decreasing calorie intake. 500 less everyday is 1 lb less a week.
Yes, absolutely correct. When we lack information we fill it in with beliefs. That's why people come up with conspiracy theories. Every conspiracy tells us only about the person who made up the conspiracy.
I play this game with people, well only played it once with my partner. We chose pictures of people who looked like me and compared. I trust him play it correctly. He found a chubby girl (I was overweight), and said x and y were bigger but basically the same. I chose someone easily 10-20kg bigger (if they're both my height) so I see myself as close to 25% bigger.
I'm a bdd patient and takes 7 years but still are in trouble so what treatment is needed to do it... because he damaged my school, college,,uni life.........
I believe Meredith is right in what she describes. It is indicative of something deeper. Specifically what people see on their own cognitive screen. What's more, that image can alter as peoples life experiences change their pattern of belief, as basic assumptions are questioned. The core problem is that everyone's cognitive screen shows the view before them in a subtly different way. each dependent on their beliefs. There is a saying, 'your eyes are your window on the world'. I disagree. They're more like TV cameras. How good is your receiver?
The wish for losing the additional kilograms taken during times of excess, like holidays, might be actually a good impulse of getting your body back to its normal state and not a sign of body dysmorphia. And the body dysmorphia in anorectics and bodybuilders is connected to a very, very complex condition involving self esteem, loneliness, social and psychological difficulties, etc. Calling just one of the symptoms "a condition" is not productive.
Interesting but a bit hard for me to follow. I was expecting 4 slides illustrating 4 different manifestations of dysmorphia. I only saw two; the skinny woman seeing a much heavier version of herself in the mirror and the male bodybuilder, seeing a skinny version of himself in the mirror. Did I miss something?
What about the fact that everyone has a different perspective? If you prefer a smaller body and ask one person who prefers a heavier body if you look good and they say you look great. You ask someone else who prefers a thinner body type and they say you look a little heavy. It depends on who you ask. And also how can you trust their opinion based on what YOU prefer, if theirs is opposite. How can you truly gauge where you currently are?
Well their preference should not matter to you. Its hard to understand that or even do that when we are caught up in this cycle of body image issue... basically what we are doing when we ask others is that we are seeking reassurance, which only feeds the BD even more. Its hard to do this but its worth the try. Check out Ana psychology she has a whole playlist on this
Body dysmorphia pushed me to spend €10,000 on a nose surgery and I’m still not satisfied, this is a sick Illness and I don’t k ow what to do , I’m a male aged 22 constantly concerned about my appearance it’s an obsession and I know it’s irrational but still obsess
I am so so sorry. I went through the exact same thing. I wish I could give you a hug and tell u ur beautiful. It’s hard living with BDD, it’s so tiring
I think i have this disorder.. or a bit of it. Except mine isnt about my body, it's about my face. I could really care less about my body, i barely ever pay attention to it but my face.. i cannot tell you how much i have sat in my room, trembling and bawling.. wanting to isolate myself from everybody because i felt like nobody could love me, because of how i looked. I'm so obsessed with how im looking in every moment that i can barely ever think of anything other than it. I check my appearance as much as i can and if I'm not satisfied with how i look, it will really change my mood and behavior for the rest of the day and sometimes it gets so bad that i feel angry, like i cant stop thinking about it, and it makes me just feel like im going crazy. I can't be up close and face to face with someone, even if it's just my mom without feeling extremely uncomfortable, because i feel like they can see every flaw. I can go on and on and on.. i just feel so lost with this and i don't know how to heal myself. I feel sooo stuck. I would not wish this upon anyone
oh my god. i have the same feeling. i take pictures of myself and my face looks lopsided and not asymmetrical at all. it really messes up my daily life and brings me so much anxiety. I always felt no one felt the same way as do i... I wish it would just go away
Seek counseling to help you to deal with how you feel. Once you figure out how to accept yourself, your perceived flaws will become less significant to your self esteem. Good luck to you.
when I first started watching I thought , here we go, rich girl complaining about nothing- but 2 mins in couldnt agree more- since a kid ive not even been able to look in the mirror without making a different face or pout, I know this sounds vain but I do it subconsciously people think im a ok looking lad but in my head I feel like pure shit , and that no lass should like me even though ive had what people would say good are looking girls ,- that I think are also and I dont have a clue why they are intrested until I get to know them) etc, who knows.......... I dont think ill even be able to make it go away,but its messing up my life in a way
Ben Campbell, what qualities do you like about yourself? Are you smart, good with math or computers, can you run fast, draw, help others learn a second language that you're fluent in, have an awesome fashion sense, loving, life of the party, good at dancing, xyz. There are more things to each us other than our physical characteristics that make us awesome and unique ! Lastly, point out three physical features that you like ? Any three !! Focus on those man !!
im not being big headed but its not about looks , alot of women that ive slept with wonder why it take me along time to feel ok , something about my head a a kid I guess , thanks for the advice x
people look at me as that people think is 'supposed' to be a good looking individual and dont get it when it comes to the bedroom stuff, and im feeling like im a monster even thought they say they see the opposite
Mite need to get bdd treatment if not done so already, its bin scientifically proven tat ppl with bdd see how they look differently in the mirror as opposed to someone who hasn’t got bdd
Strong and beautiful are both positive descriptions of personality and inner beauty too ! but to someone obsessed with they way they or and other people look its seems to be only descriptive to outer appearance . A sort of transference of negativity from a positive statement that can be justifiable as a positive and negative reactions !
I dont agree that everybody has bdd. There are people that want to change something but carry on with their lives. But bdd is an obsessive compulsive disorder.
I think bdd isn’t treated completely,it leaves deep physological scars,I was also suffering from it,it’s all right for me as for now but i’m not absolutely in inner peace believe me
There is a mention of over-exercise possibly triggering BDD, rather than it necessarily being a possible symptom of. I've been trying to find an article or study on that. Anyone know if there is an actual link?
i get what she was trying to say that bdd is universal but i low key got really offended bc it’s nothing to do with insecurity or self esteem it’s a FALSE perception that one looks deformed as in not normal looking.
I hate bdd it ruin my life and held me back from me to reach my full potential at life, it's a horrible mental disorder that most aren't aware of its impact😢😢😢
She has a beautiful voice. I could listen to her 24/7.
what caused my obsession was the comments from others during all my life since high school. sounds silly and shallow but other's comments or opinions can shape your beliefs.
I can totally relate! I remember every single comment about my body even to this day.
Not silly at all, very reasonable.
same here.
I suffered from that too for a while cos of bullying of a mix of dis confidence. Mine is with my face, not body.
100% my feelings about my appearance have come from other people. I always knew I wasnt the most attractive gal but the things people, complete strangers have said about my face and body has been devastating. Other people's reactions to my appearance have prevented me from so many experiences in life and it makes me so sad, I've never had enough money for plastic surgery though... My life is never going to improve.
"It means that OUR men are suffering in silence" I also struggle with muscle dysmorphia, but this statement right here gave me so much support along with this talk. The fact that she says "OUR MEN" gives me a sense that i have support and i am not in this alone. Thank you for this ted talks.
u got this ♥ ur beautiful just as how u are
of course you’re not alone! we’re rooting for you :)
You aren’t alone and never will be
This is something I was suffering with pretty much all my life but I'm ready to let go of body dysmorphia, it feels good, I hope everyone can be free from this disorder
@@mahitadissanayake4193 ultimately it came down to not caring anymore about what people think about me. There's a book that helped psycho cybernetics
@@TheMuslimRobot how has it been since?
"Don't fight people who beat themselves up on a daily basis, you'll only be putting yourself in their shoes"
Why are all the videos about BDD from the UK?? the US needs to address this issue more openly
@Matheus 97 yes its terrible. BDD is so bad. I suffer from it. Cannot take photographs and don't like to look in the mirror.
Most people here don't really know about BDD.
Check out the bdd foundation website. It has support groups and online resources
The industries in the US would rather monetize it.
@Matheus 97 I live in Nepal & it's just similar to your country
There are clinical studies you can see online investigating the way people with body dysmorphia see faces and even objects using different parts of their brains, or with parts more or less active than healthy people.
Source?
"Valuing content of the character over valuing the content of the mirror" - absolutely! But, as seeing is believing it ain't gonna happen until we understand as a society that believing is seeing. There has to be a revolutionary shift in our perception about what really matters - our souls, not our bodies.
Love this
I developed anorexia nervosa at 11 years of age, after being “husky” for a couple of years. This was only reinforced by my Mum who told everyone “she has such willpower”! Through the years I eventually began over exercising, 7 days a week, running, biking, swimming and spending 2 or 3 hours a day lifting weights. I spent hours looking in the mirror. It was awful! I realized I had BDD also, still, to this day! I’m 60 now but weigh more than years past. It’s so hard to work through these disorders...no matter that I’ve been in psychotherapy since I was 17. It just never seems to completely go away.
Anyone can suffer from body dismorphia, even people that from our perspective, radiate attractiveness. These people may be aware that they are attractive but still having a complete fixation on a certain body part. I'm 18 years old and I believe I've shown enough symptoms to suggest that I may have this disorder. I know that deep down, I think I'm attractive but there are these voices in my head yelling at me and suggesting otherwise. From my personal experience, I found that growing up, there is always something to fixate on, the difference is how much. For people reading this that may or may not suffer from this, I want you to know that we live in an imperfect world and it is okay to feel inadequate in any way, I love you all and I believe in you.
Got me in tears. This world benefits greatly from heroes like you!
"Can we not value the content of our character rather than the mirror?"
Jordan Fisher cr
Congratulations on missing the whole point
The content of ones character also involeves the ability to handle criticism.
Jordan Fisher, Easier said than done!!
her dress in a harmony with the background
If she had a red belt on it would complete the picture
She is so brave for speaking about her own story. This felt personable and informative and super interesting :)
But why is the pillow vaguely falling off the red chair?
Momo Grace Heeheehee 😳🤔😃😂😅
a ghost is sitting on it
😂 for real, i didn’t even notice till i saw this comment 👌
It may have PDD Pillow Dysmorphia Disorder
I was diagnosed with BDD very recently. It feels wonderful to see that there is an answer for what's wrong with me. And yet, it's incredibly horrifying.
I hope you have found help since your comment, I recently found Caldwell Ramsey's work on BDD and its been so helpful to my healing journey
What she just said is highly provoking personally ❤️
To my dad, thankyou so much for telling me that “women look good only when they're skinny ”it helped me develop bdd:)
Just brilliant!!!!!
I’m just in the beginning to treat this „problem“. And was a bit disappointed when I read about possible treatment with ssri. Because I’m now well enough to not take it anymore. But still found out that I need to put some effort in treating my bdd. And I think the best way to start with it is to get some so well explained information like in this talk. Thanks so much!
Is it still considered BDD if you feel like you look fine (good most times) in mirrors/selfies but feel disgusted / like a goblin and avoid looking at yourself in photos or videos when others are taking it of you?
Yh it’s regarded as mild bdd or high functioning bdd
I have this issue.
That's exactly what BDD is. I like what I see in mirror. Pics and vids depend on the camera, lighting and angles. The worst is when you can't see your reflection and you have to rely on your imagination. This is where I think of myself as the ugliest piece of shxt I can come up with. And no matter how much I know the image is not real, I can't shake the emotions that comes with it.
It actually depends on the effect this has on your life- how big it is for you and the limits it gives you. Not so much about the perspective and personal insecurities themselves
@@SL-pg4dhno, this doesn’t define bdd.
it’s about everything on your body (skin and all) not only weight, but still it’s very nice video !
I don’t care about my appearance a lot, but I care about health. appearance doesn’t define you, even though a lot of ppl say this, think about it, everyone is beautiful, you might not be beautiful to someone but you are beautiful to someone ELSE, everyone has a different idea of beauty. And weight is the same, but remember to stay healthy and differentiate between unhealthy and healthy, 💕💕💕💕
I am annoyed she is only talking about weight when BDD is mainly about other flaws (skin, face etc)
Santiago x exactly! i was waiting on her to bring up bdd as a whole, not just the stereotypical belief that having bdd is about obsessing over your weight.
But that isn't her story.
omg thats me, i have soooo many scars and spot i literally cant go out in public without make up....i know its sad but my go you've hit a nail on the head
@@One_Winged_Warrior scars are cool
Exactly
When I was in high school, I was very often made fun of because my head and body are bigger than most people and I look way younger than I actually am. In addition to my family history of OCD, I was unfortunately going to be diagnosed with BDD at the age of 21 (this year). It should not be underestimated how much of an impact it has on your daily life. Its so hard to go out in public, especially since I often feel like I have too much of a presence since I am 6'2 and over 200 lbs. Best of luck to all those struggling with body dysmorphia out there!
She looks very good here ! Its hard and a struggle pushing through these disorders ... self inflicted pain through self hatred ! Good for her for overcoming this disorder !
I like how her eyes move. And also how she presents herself
Thank you, Meredith, for such an honest and intimate account of your personal story!
Amazing delivery!! And for a student to show such professionalism in their field is inspiring. I agree she's stunning but then I'm also in awe of how well she spoke and how connected to the audience she was. However, she focussed a bit too much on weight issues in BDD, and for me, BDD is not about weight. Overall though a great presentation and in a way it helped. Definitely left me thinking about BDD in a broader context!
It was anything but an amazing presentation
Good presentation and she has some good insights. I like the idea of fighting bdd by not agreeing with ones negative self talk. Seems like a piece of the puzzle anyhow.
She is absolutely brilliant
I wish i saw what other people seen when they look at me😩so many people tell me how good looking i am but i just dont see it
Tem Cornish same here 💔
Live for yourself not for the opinion of other
JCBPARISPARIS easier said than done
Rebecca H in facteverything is easier to say than to do.
JCBPARISPARIS I guess so...
Your mind is not you enemy,, but it's actually trying to protect you from giving in to the society's standard of appearance that would make you love yourself conditionally, instead of loving yourself unconditionally just the way you are. It's a form of resistance of the mind from making you fall into the trap of society's standards
I think this woman is onto something but I also think she probably didn't present it as well as she would have liked to.
I think the theory that the mind fills in gaps during times of high stress or inadequate nutrition makes total sense. The brain is always trying to take a short cut. It's not a bad thing. It's a mechanism that we use to conserve energy.
This might only work in some cases though.
Well the Minnesota Starvation Experiment shows how malnutrition effects the brain and how the people starves start acting like people with anorexia nervosa, over exercising, obsessing over food and even body issues.
Also, Dr. Shan Guisinger has a theory called "Adapt to Famine" where she talks about body dysmorphia possibly being a sort of protective mechanism for the brain with anorexia nervosa.
Beautiful amazing impressive soul . Believe in yourself and have a life one dreams of. Inspiring talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
I've been in a treatment centernthat not only treated thoes with an eating disorder but also Drug and alcohol dependence.I' m a success story because
Based upon my experience at that treatment center I saw some several fellow patiants who ranged in age between 7 - 21 Years old, it was extremely humbling to see thoese earing disorder parents and patience luke myself whom where there for drug or alcohol addiction
All I want is a an effective treatment for skin picking, a symptom of BDD. My face is full of scars and I can't look at myself.
Interesting observation about people wishing to take up as little space as possible. I am very much that way, especially on a bad anxiety day or when I was drinking & had a bad hangover. I am often annoyed by other people who seem somewhat unaware of how much space they're taking up & seem oblivious to those around them. 1 reason why I hate big cities.
I'll go to my grave hating my weird looking, freakish body
You shouldn't
I feel the same way bro...I'm trying to challenge it tho. Seems about all I can do
Mark Walker no you wont
sad that you believe that.. because it will then be so :(
That really hit home
This was so enlightening!
what i dont like about the image of the skinny girl seeing the chubby version of her in the mirror is that when people look at the one in the mirror and she's supposed to be the chubby one in the image then the viewer may think that theyre chubby too when neither of them are. like labeling her as fat when shes not is like what dies it mean for people who don't look like that, who are of diff sizes. i do understand its purpose though its a very strong image about the severity of an ed. good job on this ted talk, hits home
Excellent Ted Talk!
This woman is a genius
aligab123 indeed
When I was younger I thought that my legs were too thin and I didn't like my nose but at that time nobody talked about body dysmorphia we just said complexes...it all disappeared with my first boyfriend who was always looking at me with love and was telling me that it made him happy to look at me...I don't know if it is a psychological problem linked with social networks or if it existed before but we didn't know it...this is very interesting...
Interesting indeed, my guess is that it's the result of a low self value, it just takes one mean comment in our early years to have a deeply rooted insecurity for the rest of our life.
I'll always say that there should be a psychologist figure in every kid, just like we have a general practitioner. The sooner you address these insecurities the sooner they go away :/
It definitely existed before.
I hope you have found help since your comment, I recently found Caldwell Ramsey's work on BDD and its been so helpful to my healing journey
Weight is a big issue but yes face also , she did really good
She is so beautiful. God bless your soul.
What if you have a facial deformity that you can't stop thinking about.. would that still be classified as Bdd if it's an actual facial deformity???
So the thing with body dysmorfia is that you get obsessed with whatever flaw that you have. You think about it over and over, you feel the need that you have to check yourself in the mirror 40 times a day. The flaw that you have becomes something else, something worse in your eyes. If you have these symptoms you may have body dysmorfic disorder. But I can't say it for sure
Yes. My body dysmorphia manifested itself by obsessing over a scar on my body. The scar is real, certainly, but it is the obsession and compulsion to check it 100 times a day and the anxiety that comes with it that is detrimental to one's well-being. The physical "flaw" is far less important than the mental behavior you associate with it.
@@nikkinevver that is soooooooo not a helpful response you were better off saying nothing
It's ocd if you are preoccupied with it. It's BDD if you are exaggerating in your mind how bad the deform is.
can people stop confusing body dysmorphia with anorexia : D
it’s extremely frustrating.
Body dysmorphia can cause it
BDD can lead to anorexia. I think I have it and I'm forcing myself to eat less.
@@mcplumpkin6191 oh :^) i hope ull seek help and get better , it's not an easy thing to go through alone
She’s saying that the way she viewed her body (seeing weight gain when losing weight) exacerbated her eating disorder- it’s her story not yours!
I am large. Always have been. I was okay with myself until recently. My boyfriend passed away. Since I've tried to get back into the world. My anxiety came back with a vengeance. I work morning shift too. I started overdosing on energy shots. I noticed I wake up better and the upside, I wouldn't eat at all somedays. I was fine... Until I noticed I had some internal bleeding. So I cut back. I force myself to eat some. I'm still large. I still hate myself. But I'm realizing I have a problem. And it's not just my weight
I can’t imagine having such a perfect body like her. I am built like a stick and have terrible hip dips and am an A cup.
Body weight is based on what people eat.
If you are female. Eat 2000 calories a day.
If you eat alot and still skinny.
I feel you.
Eating more than your metabolism will do it.
Tho some people think they eat alot but unless they count their calories intake it wouldn't be enough to be deemed as accurately eating alot.
So it is recommended to count calorie intake.
Losing weight would be decreasing calorie intake.
500 less everyday is 1 lb less a week.
I hope you took what she said away from the video hon, instead of just looking at her. Close your eyes and listen to her words
I think this theory can definitely go into the power of our minds. Looking at this from the opposite spectrum as well.
Yes, absolutely correct. When we lack information we fill it in with beliefs. That's why people come up with conspiracy theories. Every conspiracy tells us only about the person who made up the conspiracy.
God bless this woman
This talk was so good! 👏🏼
I play this game with people, well only played it once with my partner. We chose pictures of people who looked like me and compared. I trust him play it correctly. He found a chubby girl (I was overweight), and said x and y were bigger but basically the same. I chose someone easily 10-20kg bigger (if they're both my height) so I see myself as close to 25% bigger.
Shes stunning i love her
I'm a bdd patient and takes 7 years but still are in trouble so what treatment is needed to do it... because he damaged my school, college,,uni life.........
You are Wonderful and Courageous
I believe Meredith is right in what she describes. It is indicative of something deeper. Specifically what people see on their own cognitive screen. What's more, that image can alter as peoples life experiences change their pattern of belief, as basic assumptions are questioned. The core problem is that everyone's cognitive screen shows the view before them in a subtly different way. each dependent on their beliefs.
There is a saying, 'your eyes are your window on the world'. I disagree. They're more like TV cameras. How good is your receiver?
The wish for losing the additional kilograms taken during times of excess, like holidays, might be actually a good impulse of getting your body back to its normal state and not a sign of body dysmorphia. And the body dysmorphia in anorectics and bodybuilders is connected to a very, very complex condition involving self esteem, loneliness, social and psychological difficulties, etc. Calling just one of the symptoms "a condition" is not productive.
I am crying while wathcing my thigs in the miror , I have seen them maybe 3 times for 6 years and when I go near some reflecting theng I never watch
Good,clear presentation. Hope your future research works out.
Sia Fuller vibes definitely
Interesting but a bit hard for me to follow. I was expecting 4 slides illustrating 4 different manifestations of dysmorphia. I only saw two; the skinny woman seeing a much heavier version of herself in the mirror and the male bodybuilder, seeing a skinny version of himself in the mirror. Did I miss something?
she explained the other two.. and i think she doesn't have images cause its hard to find one for those.
10:00 and 10:54
measuring tape and the Beach Body Ready Ad
What about the fact that everyone has a different perspective? If you prefer a smaller body and ask one person who prefers a heavier body if you look good and they say you look great. You ask someone else who prefers a thinner body type and they say you look a little heavy. It depends on who you ask. And also how can you trust their opinion based on what YOU prefer, if theirs is opposite. How can you truly gauge where you currently are?
Well their preference should not matter to you. Its hard to understand that or even do that when we are caught up in this cycle of body image issue... basically what we are doing when we ask others is that we are seeking reassurance, which only feeds the BD even more.
Its hard to do this but its worth the try.
Check out Ana psychology she has a whole playlist on this
Body dysmorphia pushed me to spend €10,000 on a nose surgery and I’m still not satisfied, this is a sick Illness and I don’t k ow what to do , I’m a male aged 22 constantly concerned about my appearance it’s an obsession and I know it’s irrational but still obsess
I am so so sorry. I went through the exact same thing. I wish I could give you a hug and tell u ur beautiful. It’s hard living with BDD, it’s so tiring
Nice talk, take a bowl, I mean bow
I think i have this disorder.. or a bit of it. Except mine isnt about my body, it's about my face. I could really care less about my body, i barely ever pay attention to it but my face.. i cannot tell you how much i have sat in my room, trembling and bawling.. wanting to isolate myself from everybody because i felt like nobody could love me, because of how i looked. I'm so obsessed with how im looking in every moment that i can barely ever think of anything other than it. I check my appearance as much as i can and if I'm not satisfied with how i look, it will really change my mood and behavior for the rest of the day and sometimes it gets so bad that i feel angry, like i cant stop thinking about it, and it makes me just feel like im going crazy. I can't be up close and face to face with someone, even if it's just my mom without feeling extremely uncomfortable, because i feel like they can see every flaw. I can go on and on and on.. i just feel so lost with this and i don't know how to heal myself. I feel sooo stuck. I would not wish this upon anyone
oh my god. i have the same feeling. i take pictures of myself and my face looks lopsided and not asymmetrical at all. it really messes up my daily life and brings me so much anxiety. I always felt no one felt the same way as do i... I wish it would just go away
The face is included in the disorder.
I know the struggle girl, I feel so arrogant constantly thinking about my appearance but it’s all that matters to me
Seek counseling to help you to deal with how you feel. Once you figure out how to accept yourself, your perceived flaws will become less significant to your self esteem. Good luck to you.
when I first started watching I thought , here we go, rich girl complaining about nothing- but 2 mins in couldnt agree more- since a kid ive not even been able to look in the mirror without making a different face or pout, I know this sounds vain but I do it subconsciously people think im a ok looking lad but in my head I feel like pure shit , and that no lass should like me even though ive had what people would say good are looking girls ,- that I think are also and I dont have a clue why they are intrested until I get to know them) etc, who knows.......... I dont think ill even be able to make it go away,but its messing up my life in a way
Ben Campbell, what qualities do you like about yourself? Are you smart, good with math or computers, can you run fast, draw, help others learn a second language that you're fluent in, have an awesome fashion sense, loving, life of the party, good at dancing, xyz. There are more things to each us other than our physical characteristics that make us awesome and unique ! Lastly, point out three physical features that you like ? Any three !! Focus on those man !!
im not being big headed but its not about looks , alot of women that ive slept with wonder why it take me along time to feel ok , something about my head a a kid I guess , thanks for the advice x
people look at me as that people think is 'supposed' to be a good looking individual and dont get it when it comes to the bedroom stuff, and im feeling like im a monster even thought they say they see the opposite
Mite need to get bdd treatment if not done so already, its bin scientifically proven tat ppl with bdd see how they look differently in the mirror as opposed to someone who hasn’t got bdd
She's delivering this like a damn monologue
You can tell she's nervous..
powerful.
Suffering from bdd every day now keep looking in the mirror trying to see myself handsome but cant
I've suffered since I was 15, 37 now. I believe there is help out there... I'm determined to finally not let it control my life! You got this!
Get treatment it will reli help u
Fantastic
Andy Hal
Strong and beautiful are both positive descriptions of personality and inner beauty too ! but to someone obsessed with they way they or and other people look its seems to be only descriptive to outer appearance . A sort of transference of negativity from a positive statement that can be justifiable as a positive and negative reactions !
You can lose weight but not being anorexic, just healthy and looking pretty.
I've ever got bullying about my body. It made me depressed
I dont agree that everybody has bdd. There are people that want to change something but carry on with their lives. But bdd is an obsessive compulsive disorder.
I think bdd isn’t treated completely,it leaves deep physological scars,I was also suffering from it,it’s all right for me as for now but i’m not absolutely in inner peace believe me
Had a nose job because i wanted to be liked by a guy i regret it so much my nose is kida botched now and cant stop looking at it its killing me
I’m so sorry love. Ur beautiful anyways, don’t concentrate on ur nose!!!
I am even conscious about my voice
There is a mention of over-exercise possibly triggering BDD, rather than it necessarily being a possible symptom of. I've been trying to find an article or study on that. Anyone know if there is an actual link?
I have the exact problem . It's so hard😣it's called anorexia athletica...at least for me
i get what she was trying to say that bdd is universal but i low key got really offended bc it’s nothing to do with insecurity or self esteem it’s a FALSE perception that one looks deformed as in not normal looking.
GOOD !
I hate bdd it ruin my life and held me back from me to reach my full potential at life, it's a horrible mental disorder that most aren't aware of its impact😢😢😢
Can someone tell me how to heal from body dismorphia if you have no money for seeing a therapist?
Push the pillow in.
The title is not right. Thats not bdd
Yes it is. Her bdd caused her eating disorder and caused her to think she was heavier than she was.
And the you have the link with us ADHDrs
Oh I wish I was wrong about what I see in the mirror too... But no.
i don’t understand. i see what i see, how can i be wrong
I can't just can't look at my pics I look ...........
I hate that term.... " I DIGRESS " {{{{shiver}}}}
Hi lovely
Well I really liked was the orator she is splendid although her speech is very important for a lot of girls who sacrifice their health
I think anorexia nervosa isn’t included in BDD,it is one of the eating disorders
yasss.
can't stop myself... Wasn't she looking very similar to young Justin Bieber..?
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I like her points but she’s jarring
make sens
In the thumbnail I legit thought it was A teenage dude.
So what? You want a cookie?
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To be fair you can have a mis-shaped unattractive body and be skinny. More people should try weightlifting.