Choices that can Change your Life | Caroline Myss | TEDxFindhornSalon

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 2 апр 2017
  • NOTE FROM TED: This talk only represents the speaker's personal views and understanding of healing which lacks legitimate scientific support. While some viewers may find this talk helpful as a complementary approach, please do not look to this talk for health advice. We've flagged this talk because it falls outside the content guidelines TED gives TEDx organizers. TEDx events are independently organized by volunteers. The guidelines we give TEDx organizers are described in more detail here: storage.ted.com/tedx/manuals/t...
    In Caroline's unique style, she talks about 3 key choices people can make to change their life.
    Caroline Myss is a five-time New York Times bestselling author and internationally renowned speaker in the fields of human consciousness, spirituality and mysticism, health, energy medicine, and the science of medical intuition.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 3,5 тыс.

  • @FreedomofSpeech865
    @FreedomofSpeech865 3 года назад +2476

    “I won’t force another person to be in a circumstance in which I know they are uncomfortable in order to please me.” This is pure gold.

    • @Kiwiwanderer
      @Kiwiwanderer 3 года назад +75

      Yes. Every parent needs to read and memorise this before having a child.

    • @denawagner360
      @denawagner360 3 года назад +24

      That's an understanding of real love, eh?

    • @denawagner360
      @denawagner360 3 года назад +12

      @@Kiwiwanderer Agreed!

    • @user-mt9pr8jc5k
      @user-mt9pr8jc5k 3 года назад +126

      And also, don’t force yourself (this is for everyone) to be in a circumstance which makes you uncomfortable just because it pleases somebody else ✨

    • @clickclackbadabingbadaboom3738
      @clickclackbadabingbadaboom3738 3 года назад +6

      LORD GOD YES

  • @cdg4862
    @cdg4862 Год назад +280

    The power of choice:
    1. The choice of living with integrity.
    2. The choice of not to passing my suffering but my wisdom.
    3. The choice of taking risks.
    4. The choice of using my words wisely
    5. The choice of appreciating every single moment as unique.

    • @RubySlippers13
      @RubySlippers13 3 месяца назад +3

      Thank you for these notes!

    • @BelLa-up6iz
      @BelLa-up6iz Месяц назад +1

      The choice of not blaming anyone.

  • @shanthy27
    @shanthy27 2 года назад +623

    Choice #1 starts at 8:55 - Choose to live with Integrity
    Choice #2 starts at 12:03 - Choose to pass on my Wisdom
    Choice #3 starts at 15:09 - Choose to take Risks/be in the Newness, not afraid of it.
    Choice #4 starts at 19:03 - Choose new Words/Extricate three words - entitled, blame, deserve - from your head.
    Choice #5 starts at 24:18 - Choose to be Grateful

  • @PaceMorbyBestMoments
    @PaceMorbyBestMoments 5 месяцев назад +51

    I put this on while I was driving and my parents were listening to it. It changed their lives for ever. They’re not the same anymore. Thank you ❤

  • @candykandy
    @candykandy 3 года назад +1824

    Spoilers: It starts around 9:00. Here’s my own summary....
    1. Live with integrity - Liars don’t heal. People who deliberately says something to hurt others, people who blame others for their problems, etc won’t heal. Make the decision to live a life with integrity.
    2. Don’t pass on your suffering, pass on the wisdom you learn - life will never be fair. Look at what happens to you and say that it will never defeat you. Turn into your source of wisdom. Don’t live in woe. Wisdom or woe.
    3. The choice to take risks. Don’t wait for proof. Take risks. You will always hit the regret stage when you begin to weaken. How many of your greatest fears has actually happened? How many of the most wonderful things has happened to you?Don’t take the safe path. Don’t look backwards for guidance. Don’t look for over to chart new.
    4. Choose new words - Words are powerful. Don’t use the words entitled, blame and deserve.
    5. Choose to get up every single day and bless your day - not based on what you have or what you feel, just be grateful because you are. Everything that happens today in this exact way will not happen again. Be thankful for the day and present moment.
    PS: She’s amazing and I encourage watching the whole talk but hope this helps if you’re in a hurry or just want the gist as a reminder ♥️

    • @coryr7183
      @coryr7183 3 года назад +10

      funny u say it starts at the 9min mark as i happen to be at the 9 min mark but my spouse thinks of coursei t starts at the moment we at cuz no other way

    • @cassandrabrunson9131
      @cassandrabrunson9131 3 года назад +65

      The first five minutes may not be essential to most, but for me and perhaps some others, those first minutes gave me life and I especially loved the idea that the choices we may see as small may have the most impact in our lives. "Little" choices matter. We have to train ourselves to choose the right things.

    • @emimac182
      @emimac182 3 года назад +19

      Thank you almost didn’t make it to 9 😃🥰

    • @rpadmasini
      @rpadmasini 3 года назад +24

      Fantastically collated the essence of the talk. Thank u

    • @goodenergy11
      @goodenergy11 3 года назад +9

      @@cassandrabrunson9131 Yes!!!

  • @Kiwiwanderer
    @Kiwiwanderer 4 года назад +1344

    Ok. I have self diagnosed myself as addicted to this TED talk. I’ve watched it now 4 times in 24 hours. This woman is brilliant and nails exactly what we all need to do.

    • @soslothful
      @soslothful 4 года назад +12

      Have you checked out The Great Courses produced by The Teaching Company? This plug is non sponsored. It is written by me as a very satisfied customer.

    • @rnswann6324
      @rnswann6324 4 года назад +23

      Check out her many books. I bet you find one just right for you.

    • @claricesizo2639
      @claricesizo2639 3 года назад +15

      I am with u!! I watched it back to back n i take something new to work on everytime ... love love live her!!!

    • @gabikarvak
      @gabikarvak 3 года назад +16

      I just watched it for the first time, it blowed me away!

    • @gordanagrcic7179
      @gordanagrcic7179 3 года назад +8

      Yess, she is so powerful speaker!!! Left me speachless...😍

  • @kesienaodukuye7685
    @kesienaodukuye7685 2 года назад +559

    Listening to this 10 times now, and still learning. Oh my oh my. Since the beginning of 2022, I decided to listen to this daily. How amazing it has been so far. It has really helped me in my choices daily.

    • @vicino.
      @vicino. 2 года назад +7

      hey, how is it going?

    • @kesienaodukuye7685
      @kesienaodukuye7685 2 года назад +8

      @@vicino. very well and urself ? A good year so far for you ?

    • @melissamoore521
      @melissamoore521 2 года назад +8

      Sending warm regards to a wise soul xx

    • @kesienaodukuye7685
      @kesienaodukuye7685 2 года назад +5

      @@melissamoore521 bless you darling 😘

    • @vivsgm7538
      @vivsgm7538 2 года назад +4

      Great idea! Thanks!! 💡

  • @esviivse
    @esviivse 2 года назад +34

    I started replacing the phrase "I was bored so..." with "I was curious so..." and that shift of perspective changed my view and my conversations.

  • @j.lindsayrae9406
    @j.lindsayrae9406 4 года назад +551

    um... pretty sure this Queen with her symbolic butterfly shirt spittin FIRE just changed my life.

    • @eugeniemack1180
      @eugeniemack1180 3 года назад +5

      000

    • @kardoyle
      @kardoyle 3 года назад +9

      She’s WONDERFUL!!

    • @virgomoon978
      @virgomoon978 3 года назад +4

      She does that.

    • @maybeitskaya9769
      @maybeitskaya9769 3 года назад +7

      You should read her book it’s amazing

    • @January1487
      @January1487 3 года назад +3

      @@maybeitskaya9769 which one? I've read sacred contracts-- so powerful!

  • @susannnico
    @susannnico Год назад +394

    Thanks for this amazing information !! If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realize that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key, I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

    • @lailaalfaddil7389
      @lailaalfaddil7389 Год назад +1

      Exactly and many of us don't know where to invest our money so we invest it on wrong places and to the wrong people

    • @susannnico
      @susannnico Год назад +1

      Very true, I started investing before the pandemic and that same year I pulled a profit of about $750k with no prior investing experience, basically all I was doing was seeking guidance from *ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER* who's a guru in the game, you can be passively involved with the aid of a professional.

  • @robinnoya2643
    @robinnoya2643 Год назад +69

    14:28 Healing is not about forgetting. "It's about looking at what has happened to us and saying, 'This will never defeat me.' It will never defeat me, but I will not live in this."

  • @doreenlane2370
    @doreenlane2370 2 года назад +170

    Love how she says that a person who lies doesn't heal. I believe this. You can't heal or recover from something that you pretend isn't a problem. God knows. Preach it!

    • @scrumptiousjdp
      @scrumptiousjdp Год назад +2

      What about a lie that scr someone else from suffering?

    • @dnabart
      @dnabart Год назад +1

      Do you think people with multiple sclerosis or children with cancer are lying to themselves.

    • @vvohvaelez9277
      @vvohvaelez9277 Год назад +1

      @@dnabart how did you even get that from what she stated. She doesnt mean that if you have an incurable illness that makes you a liar...

  • @tedtalksrock
    @tedtalksrock 3 года назад +333

    This talk changed my life five years ago, no exaggeration. Looking back now, I’m still in awe.
    Amazing talk. Nothing else like it.

    • @inglessurco
      @inglessurco Год назад +3

      Hi! How did it change your life? Can you gives us something more specific, that's if you're open to share of course. Thanks

    • @anickablais2526
      @anickablais2526 Год назад +1

      So happy for you! Sacred Contracts , 2001 ( book and cds) had a major impact on mine. And this talk will surely help me ....

    • @TheTomC
      @TheTomC Год назад +1

      Just discovered this video and I'm utterly gobsmacked. So powerful, so timely, so wise. I can easily see this having an impact on me for years to come.

    • @The12isaie28
      @The12isaie28 Год назад

      Greatfullness to heared you. Mam..❤.1 of the most High Vibration I Hearedd. My neourohearing acivate & rezonate to my whole BEING..Thank you So Much Blessed You Mam..

  • @crystalgrose
    @crystalgrose 7 лет назад +397

    Do not pass on suffering, pass on wisdom. Choose wisdom or woe. This is awesome!

  • @user-yq8fc4we2o
    @user-yq8fc4we2o 8 месяцев назад +9

    I always come back to this whenever I am down or up and wanna stay there

  • @CarmellaSells
    @CarmellaSells 2 года назад +113

    The thought that there are over 4.7 million views of this Ted Talk give me hope that 4.7 people are walking the planet more enlightened. Love her way of telling the truth. And I love the prayer--nearly had me in tears.

    • @paynemeagan4086
      @paynemeagan4086 2 года назад +3

      She is ordained in the Light reason she is spirit filled to tell the truth, i am ordained in the Light i am Living a Life of endless blessings and power

    • @carolannhill6044
      @carolannhill6044 4 месяца назад +1

      As I'm listening, there are 39.8 million views! 12-14-2023

  • @whitehotmoonlight
    @whitehotmoonlight 7 лет назад +765

    Thanks, Caroline Myss!!
    Top 3 Takeaways -
    1. Decide to live a life of integrity
    2. Decide to pass on your wisdom not suffering
    3. Decide to take risks - don't wait for proof

  • @robinemmons1071
    @robinemmons1071 6 лет назад +299

    "Every word is a Universe unto itself." "Words contain Worlds." Powerful!

    • @Martapura-vn1bi
      @Martapura-vn1bi 3 года назад +1

      MOTIVATION END PERSONAL TO YEARS SHORT OK RUN QUALITY TXT FUNGSION COMMONECATION GOOD

    • @robertford4714
      @robertford4714 3 года назад +1

      @@Martapura-vn1bi You Sir.
      Are a genius.
      Thank You!

    • @colski3333
      @colski3333 3 года назад

      Yeah. If felt!!!

    • @heythave
      @heythave Год назад

      Yes, make sure you don’t say negative words to yourself.

  • @JuanGrados-xr1hd
    @JuanGrados-xr1hd 8 месяцев назад +8

    I heard this talk maybe a hundred times since I don’t speak English well, little by little I have learned many interested statements. Thank you for helping me to change my life.

  • @mygirlcheech85
    @mygirlcheech85 2 года назад +9

    My BEAUTIFUL daughter died a few years ago ... I remember they were talking about her care, and lifesupport.
    All I could think was... its a beautiful day in july, and my girl will never see this again.😔 .she was 28.
    I miss her so much

  • @kbal1451
    @kbal1451 7 лет назад +359

    Toxic words- Don't ever use them- Blame, Deserve, Entitled.
    Get up everyday and be grateful for the day. This day in my life will never come again.

    • @JeanRiget_TheTruthSpeaks
      @JeanRiget_TheTruthSpeaks 5 лет назад +3

      Bless you dear Caroline. You are my gardian angel 👼.
      Love from Jean Riget ❤️ Denmark.

    • @jacquelynchappel4434
      @jacquelynchappel4434 4 года назад +14

      but it's good to feel entitled to respect and fairness. entitlement also allows one to set boundaries and walk away from a bad situation.

    • @rajunarang1113
      @rajunarang1113 3 года назад

      @@JeanRiget_TheTruthSpeaks DIVINiTY

    • @rajunarang1113
      @rajunarang1113 3 года назад +2

      @@jacquelynchappel4434 GOD
      BLESSyou

    • @tanchingyueen6475
      @tanchingyueen6475 3 года назад +1

      Yes all should have and give respect & fairness
      But not all will be given respect &fairness,not -alltimes all places all situations So “entitlement” seems demanding the universe owes one self these qualities

  • @robincrowflies
    @robincrowflies 4 года назад +192

    ...And hold in your heart this prayer:
    This day of my life will never come again
    I will never see the people I am looking at again
    I will never see this sunrise again,
    And I will never see that sunset.
    I will never see the person I'm having breakfast with again just this way.
    No, nothing in my life like this will ever come again.
    That alone, that choice alone, should take out of your heart every bitter taste there is.

    • @soslothful
      @soslothful 4 года назад +3

      Sometimes one might be glad for the above.

    • @imonmyway317
      @imonmyway317 4 года назад +2

      @@soslothful That is true but then it comes down to the talks subject. 'Choices'.
      So as you sit there thinking that you don't want to ever sit again with that person, experience etc..... YOU make the CHOICE to change it.

    • @Ankit-zu2kp
      @Ankit-zu2kp 3 года назад +4

      From the third line onwards it feels as if the person saying this is about to die.

    • @notcomatose6602
      @notcomatose6602 3 года назад +1

      @@Ankit-zu2kp projection

    • @shaunapeebles9752
      @shaunapeebles9752 3 года назад +1

      .

  • @ClubCinco_V
    @ClubCinco_V Год назад +29

    I told myself 4 years ago before ever seeing this Ted talk, I would never use the word “confused”, again! Confusion surrenders your power to be discerning and since then I have been decisive about every CHOICE I CAN make. 🙏🏽✨

  • @Thedarkmaiden
    @Thedarkmaiden 2 года назад +94

    She literally just described the power of knowing we’re mortal. My life didn’t start changing truly until I accepted my inevitable death.. it’s the motivation we all need lol

    • @LadyJaggerX3
      @LadyJaggerX3 2 года назад +7

      Exactly. Between the pandemic, and surviving a car accident, I've decided to focus on living a life I could lose at any time.

    • @elifante
      @elifante Год назад

      Or feeling regretful

  • @xinageco
    @xinageco 4 года назад +369

    Thank you TEDx talks and Caroline Myss for this amazing talk I've listened to 2x this year already! My notes:
    1. Live a life of integrity
    2. Pass on wisdom [not suffering]
    3. Choose to take risks [try something new; travel the road less travelled]
    4. Choose new words + pick a word you'll never use again e.g. "blame, entitle, deserve"
    5. Choose to get up every day and bless it

    • @BodyMagicfood
      @BodyMagicfood 3 года назад +13

      Thank you for taking these notes!

    • @xinageco
      @xinageco 3 года назад +3

      @@BodyMagicfood my pleasure 😊

    • @heythave
      @heythave 2 года назад +13

      4. Also, watch what you say to yourself because words are powerful.

    • @xinageco
      @xinageco 2 года назад +1

      @@heythave exactly 😀

  • @blackandwhite691
    @blackandwhite691 3 года назад +262

    She is speaking in such a way that it makes you feel like you can do anything! In love with her energy!

    • @nccathy1
      @nccathy1 Год назад +1

      P

    • @jennifermuir1427
      @jennifermuir1427 Год назад +1

      You CAN DO anything!

    • @kayb6803
      @kayb6803 9 месяцев назад

      That’s Pluto in the 8th house for you, baby! Those people are a force of nature!

  • @dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099
    @dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 Год назад +5

    One day your childhood self and the kids on your block played together for the last time, but you didn't know it was the last time. You just enjoyed it. The ending made me think of that. I'm going to start picturing my life as a game of Frogger, each morning I'm going to choose to jump from one lilypad to another, yesterday to today.

    • @CC12398
      @CC12398 8 месяцев назад

      Nice!

  • @madrugadao25
    @madrugadao25 Год назад +29

    Ive watched dozens of ted talks. I liked some, i loved a few, and there are a couple i can literally say i have taken some advice from. But non of them went through me like this one. Im sitting at home in bed with a cold, feeling down and regretful for the life i could of had. And realizing all of the amazing things that happend to me, i had nothing to do with them. From beeing adopted as a baby, and having all i ever wanted in life. It was all done for me. And here i am sitting here feeling sorry for myself? Thank you. This was just in time. Ill be back here in a year from today to update. There are 1440 minutes in a day which means 1440 times we can choose to do it differently. bless all of you. We are alive. 27.12.2022

  • @HomeSweetCrafting
    @HomeSweetCrafting 7 лет назад +393

    I never truly understood it when I hear people say, "live each day like it's your last day," or something along that line. Caroline described it so gracefully. It's true; you only get to experience each day once. Sometimes when I'm feeling drained and depressed, I see the day as just another day. Nothing special. Nothing to be grateful for. But now I see that there is a reason to see each day with gratitude and love. The next thing I know, I'm in college, working, or living in a new city. I'm wondering where did all the time go. What happened to those days when I can just call my best friend and talk over coffee. I thought certain people or events will always be there, but things change. I changed. It's not every day that we get to experience the same day every day. And if we feel like each day is just another day, then stop betraying ourselves and putting up a front to please others.

    • @lightdweller1
      @lightdweller1 6 лет назад +8

      Home Sweet Crafting Lovely words of wisdom. You have a beautiful mind and heart ❣

    • @whitedandelion9765
      @whitedandelion9765 5 лет назад +1

      I think you might have misunderstood. Caroline Myss did not say to live each day like it's your last. People who say they live their day like it's their last day are usually the type who cannot bear to hold responsibility for their own actions (decisions and choices). The exact "type" C.M. just told us not to be.

    • @tremainw1413
      @tremainw1413 5 лет назад +9

      @@whitedandelion9765 Nope, you misunderstood Home Sweet Crafting, as she didn't state that the speaker said as much, rather she questioned when others did so. HTH
      BTW, it always amazed me - the amount of times in life you said "I'll call you later" or "see you soon", or similar, yet neither of you had even the slightest idea that that was the last time you'd meet for decades at best, or for your entire lives afterwards, more often than people could ever realise...

    • @marciamcm22
      @marciamcm22 4 года назад

      white dandelion 9

    • @karmacat68
      @karmacat68 2 года назад

      😻💕

  • @1DaTJo
    @1DaTJo 4 года назад +273

    “You’re not entitled to anything.” Hearing this truth makes me grateful for every single second, every single breath. 💕

    • @davidnyro19
      @davidnyro19 4 года назад +24

      I've been saying this for years. It came to me as part of my journey and I kept hearing lovers (as they left me) saying they "deserved" this and "deserved" that, and were "entitled" to this, "entitled" to that. And they were bolstered and validated by dozens and dozens of books, podcasts, RUclips presentations, and more, extolling how we "deserve" this and "deserve" that. "Get the Love/Life/Money/etc. you DESERVE!" OMG! It's a frackin' EPIDEMIC that sets us ALL up for failure. WE DO NOT DESERVE ANYTHING. We are not "entitled" to anything. This is separate from gratitude and loving self, life, and others and acting in truth and with love, dignity, integrity, honor and more. We can savor every moment. We can see ourselves and the world. We can use our powers of choice, consciousness, grace, clarity, truth and being true to ourselves. We can share and practice empathy. Right ON, Caroline!
      Now, let's all eat some cat food and be honest!

    • @kardoyle
      @kardoyle 3 года назад +6

      This line of the talk changed my life !

    • @kardoyle
      @kardoyle 3 года назад +8

      You are not entitled to anything!!!!! How freeing !!

    • @alisondblake
      @alisondblake 2 года назад +1

      @@davidnyro19 ... My favorite comment .. xx

    • @rebelraccoon9018
      @rebelraccoon9018 2 года назад

      @@davidnyro19 Everyone deserves love and a happy life.

  • @presley492
    @presley492 Год назад +147

    The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading

    • @stansburyclarice4968
      @stansburyclarice4968 Год назад

      May I ask which stocks are good? I've been looking at a few different ones but want others' opinions as well

    • @presley492
      @presley492 Год назад

      what i think you need is a Financial Adviser, who can help you get in and out of any stock you buy at any time and you'd sure be in Profit

    • @stansburyclarice4968
      @stansburyclarice4968 Год назад

      who would you recommend?

    • @presley492
      @presley492 Год назад

      *TERESA JENSEN WHITE,* That's whom i work with

    • @stansburyclarice4968
      @stansburyclarice4968 Год назад

      I have seen loads of news of *TERESA JENSEN WHITE* on the internet, she must really be that good for she to be talked about in such a way. Is she on RUclips? please how do I reach her

  • @gerardofrausto9691
    @gerardofrausto9691 2 года назад +179

    This chat is so powerful, I even decided to quit my job and some things in my life inspired in this, and you know what? It felt amazing and I don't regret at all. I came back after a time of watching it, to remember and keep all this wise words in my mind. Thank you for sharing this.

    • @heythave
      @heythave Год назад +2

      She and Sadhguru are two people who have lightened my life.

    • @lelouch9324
      @lelouch9324 Год назад +3

      Reading your comment after 11 months. How's your life going?

    • @monicalimbo5717
      @monicalimbo5717 Год назад +2

      This made me resign from my job too

  • @syedmammar1
    @syedmammar1 7 лет назад +416

    this is SO POWERFUL. I've watched many great Ted talks, but this beats them all. I'm so lucky to have listened to her talk.

    • @gcmusictchr
      @gcmusictchr 4 года назад +7

      @g quin - No, even labeling them "failures" is not uplifting and does not help us move beyond those experiences. Perhaps thinking of them as stepping stones in life, experiences to learn from and gain a better understanding of life and ourselves, and events or experiences that can lead to something better. The whole idea here is not to look at things in the negative and not to dwell on the past in a negative way. See the growth and the potential in experiences and keep looking forward and moving forward.

    • @catherineegli9955
      @catherineegli9955 3 года назад

      Wow, m'y thoughts EXACTLY !!

    • @narimankhan9776
      @narimankhan9776 3 года назад

      Yes please if you can imbibe her message, it can change your world.
      Many thanks. Nariman

    • @andrewignat6092
      @andrewignat6092 3 года назад

      @g quin ф

  • @bird123425
    @bird123425 5 лет назад +175

    I first listened to this shortly after my father had passed away and I was teetering on depression.
    I must have watched this 30 times over the next several weeks. Her statements helped me turn my focus into something I could use to move forward.
    I can’t say enough about how much this helped me begin to heal. I still watch it once or twice a month for a refresher !

    • @maxinemoore8119
      @maxinemoore8119 2 года назад +1

      I disagree that we are born knowing about choice. We learn about choices, we are not born with instinct lower animal operate on instincts, not human beings we are taught about choices some people still don't know that, for example I don't have a choice, see what I mean, that person never learned about choices.

    • @maxinemoore8119
      @maxinemoore8119 2 года назад

      This is boring.

    • @maxinemoore8119
      @maxinemoore8119 2 года назад

      This is enough to depress you, not energetic at all.

    • @gurkiratdhillon2905
      @gurkiratdhillon2905 2 года назад +3

      @@maxinemoore8119 Here’s my own summary....
      1. Live with integrity - Liars don’t heal. People who deliberately says something to hurt others, people who blame others for their problems, etc won’t heal. Make the decision to live a life with integrity.
      2. Don’t pass on your suffering, pass on the wisdom you learn - life will never be fair. Look at what happens to you and say that it will never defeat you. Turn into your source of wisdom. Don’t live in woe. Wisdom or woe.
      3. The choice to take risks. Don’t wait for proof. Take risks. You will always hit the regret stage when you begin to weaken. How many of your greatest fears has actually happened? How many of the most wonderful things has happened to you?Don’t take the safe path. Don’t look backwards for guidance. Don’t look for over to chart new.
      4. Choose new words - Words are powerful. Don’t use the words entitled, blame and deserve.
      5. Choose to get up every single day and bless your day - not based on what you have or what you feel, just be grateful because you are. Everything that happens today in this exact way will not happen again. Be thankful for the day and present moment.

    • @catrocastre8215
      @catrocastre8215 2 года назад

      @@maxinemoore8119 I've made decisions that create a butterfly effect in my life, too. And I dont see how to undo that.

  • @joehosler8966
    @joehosler8966 Месяц назад +2

    I came across the prayer at the end, and decided to use it to accompany a video of a crazy adventure experience I had. I then watched the video and was touched by it. This was just days before my wife would cheat, and leave me, and my life seemed to fall apart. But I leaned heavily on God, and this message. Its relevance is profound. In good times and bad.

  • @ceecretfiles2519
    @ceecretfiles2519 2 года назад +89

    Okay..never have commented on any ted talk before. But this one straight up ripped my heart out and made me cry. Every word she said is what exactly is needed for anyone who feels confused afraid or sad. And the best thing is she gives the reality on how to truly live a life in the present and forget who you are in the. I watched this 5x.

    • @Lisa-gw1lq
      @Lisa-gw1lq 4 месяца назад +1

      Exactly! You took the words out of my mouth...

    • @maggieconnorhoody554
      @maggieconnorhoody554 3 месяца назад +1

      Good Job! ❤ Caroline has amazing workshop on RUclips. I’m sure you’ve done that… I went to her workshop in Santa Fe New Mexico. If you love this, wait until you see her in person. She has changed my life. The love that comes out of her is truly life changing. Good girl keep up the good work ❤🌈✨✨

  • @jenvallance8945
    @jenvallance8945 7 лет назад +57

    Waking up happy for no reason are the best days!

    • @VIBEScutie926
      @VIBEScutie926 4 года назад

      No
      L
      lol
      I
      Not
      L
      Iklikikol

    • @lenas5613
      @lenas5613 4 года назад +1

      I don't like that she's right, but she is....in a world of self-rejection....just words!

    • @shaunloynds5317
      @shaunloynds5317 3 года назад

      Haven't felt like that is a very, very long time.

    • @pavankukreja6554
      @pavankukreja6554 3 года назад

      So True 👍❗

  • @aniness
    @aniness 6 лет назад +79

    "I will not pass my on my suffering...just my wisdom"

  • @robinnoya2643
    @robinnoya2643 Год назад +17

    10:48 "Dishonest people, people who lie, people who have moral crises and do not get it, people who blame others for things that they do and they know it, people who make choices, and they know another person's going to pay for the consequence of that choice and they are conscious of it, they know for a fact that they're saying something that is not true, and they know another person's going to be hurt by that, people who deliberately say things to hurt somebody, believe you me, your body knows you did that."

  • @robinnoya2643
    @robinnoya2643 Год назад +24

    9:39 "Im not going to betray myself." "I'm not going to compromise myself." "I'm not going to put myself in a position, or put myself in any circumstance, or if I'm in a circumstance, I'm getting out." "I won't force another person to be in a circumstance in which I know they're uncomfortable in order to please me." "I won't hold another person captive because that has no integrity."

  • @TheMcKenzieHaus
    @TheMcKenzieHaus 3 года назад +51

    I didn’t take how seriously words affect your mental state until I was so frozen in anxiety and panic attacks. After months of meditation, my mind no longer fill with negative words. Now it just sings. Like if I was having a bad day, my head plays a song that reflects my mood. When I meditate and calm down, my head plays the Christian song, “it is well”. It’s lots of other songs my head plays and I realize the songs reflect my mood. It’s a much kinder and gentler way to communicate with myself. Stop the negative words in their steps, forgive yourself and try again.

    • @mohamedkamara7056
      @mohamedkamara7056 3 года назад +1

      Your mind is very cool, meditation made me cool as Ice I haven’t sung yet !

  • @onefortrees
    @onefortrees 2 года назад +7

    Millions of Americans are going through this right now. People are choosing their lively hood and well being over corporate greed. Millions are quitting their jobs that don't pay them for their worth. Millions are HEALING and reforming our economy. Choices are EVERYTHING. This lady knows. ❤️

  • @TheTomC
    @TheTomC Год назад +6

    It's rare to find a TED talk that is so utterly life-changing. This should be prescribed.

  • @kateo7611
    @kateo7611 2 года назад +29

    I clicked on this talk because the lady looked wise, was not dissapointed. She is a gem and one of the most wise and intelligent people I have ever heard. Must listen again.

  • @tomoyoshinke
    @tomoyoshinke Год назад +12

    Oh my god this speech is so moving. I'll watch this every night before falling a sleep.

  • @grandmabear2840
    @grandmabear2840 Год назад +33

    Idk how, but as a very young mother and I was guided to always teach my children the importance of choice. One of the way's I did this was to say you're either part of the problem or part of the solution, each second of every minute, in every moment you have the power to choose. It's your choice... ..

  • @seanbeukman9563
    @seanbeukman9563 Год назад +31

    THIS IS OUT OF THIS WORLD!! I am completely knocked out. So happy I watched this. Different divison all together. Shes amazing!!!

  • @robynmellett3768
    @robynmellett3768 7 лет назад +76

    Turn your pain and mistakes into WISDOM and share that WISDOM

  • @jamesbernhardt6557
    @jamesbernhardt6557 3 года назад +119

    The more you listen the more powerful her message gets. Listen close, she is a smart cookie so don’t feel bad if her words flow a little faster than your brain can handle haha

    • @zigulimiguli
      @zigulimiguli 3 года назад +7

      true...I should write every wise word and advice Caroline has said here....I am listening to this lecture, again and again...

    • @reinas2439
      @reinas2439 2 года назад +2

      That's exactly what I felt listening to her evey word.

  • @mikeb0607
    @mikeb0607 2 года назад +11

    THIS goes high on my Ted Library! She is rare; direct, unapologetic, & spiritual.

  • @velvetcoconut
    @velvetcoconut 2 года назад +149

    This has changed my life. I have watched this over and over and over again and every time I discover something new. I love this! Best Ted talk ever! Thank you Caroline Myss

    • @merreastewart6411
      @merreastewart6411 2 года назад +7

      I was just telling myself I'm going to need to hear this more than once! So glad I'm not the only one!!

    • @kimshaw-williams
      @kimshaw-williams Год назад +1

      @@merreastewart6411 Same here

    • @HiThereImVinnyVega
      @HiThereImVinnyVega Год назад +1

      I’ve lost count…seeds have been planted in the foundation of my mind, through the experience of seeing & hearing this speech.
      And I just know, the garden that will grow & bloom as a result will be more enlightening than anything I’ve ever imagined

    • @SunnySunny-bi9ug
      @SunnySunny-bi9ug 7 месяцев назад

      I agree. I watched several times

  • @robertfraserthompson9421
    @robertfraserthompson9421 3 года назад +69

    The part where she talks about living an integrous life is the most important advice I have ever heard.

  • @zsuzsannaagocs5719
    @zsuzsannaagocs5719 2 года назад +34

    Strangely enough I once started writing a story with the title: Liars don't heal. 🤔 What a great talk, I love her.

  • @latoyajames2629
    @latoyajames2629 9 месяцев назад +15

    This is the most impactful thing I’ve heard in a long time. I’m so greatful for this message.

  • @mannhie
    @mannhie 2 года назад +76

    Today, 2021, in the pandemic... I listened to you... I have tears in my eyes and I am ever so thankful for your words... I have so much to choose anew... God bless you and your wisdom.

  • @sawsanbellaj1628
    @sawsanbellaj1628 5 лет назад +12

    Caroline Myss is a gift to life.

  • @ohkeydokeythen
    @ohkeydokeythen 8 месяцев назад +3

    This lady was the first ted talk to actually drive me to change, she got super real and her honesty was so harsh but needed.

  • @boss56679
    @boss56679 Год назад +37

    I have never seen such wisdom in any human being in my life. God has blessed her with such great wisdom and I struggled to write down all the great points she made. I’ll be back :).

    • @elifante
      @elifante Год назад

      If you liked how she thinks and expresses herself, I recommend reading the beautiful stories of Úrsula K. Le Guin.

  • @letsteachenglish4661
    @letsteachenglish4661 Год назад +2

    “What do you want to pass on the sludge or the wisdom” thanks kindly ❤

  • @mskrystlex
    @mskrystlex 3 года назад +29

    "Do not look backwards for guidance, do not look for over to chart new." Be in the newness. THIS.

  • @elaineferguson6800
    @elaineferguson6800 6 лет назад +7

    I have followed Caroline since 1995, when my husband died suddenly and the pain was unbearable. She helped me get through that period with such Grace. The Quakers taught me about the mystical side of religion but Carolyn added depth and wisdom to that understanding. I start each day with a prayer of gratitude inspired by Caroline and Maurene St Germain (who calls herself the practice mystic). "Lord, thank you for another opportunity to co-create a day of Heaven on Earth and share it with all who cross my path". Thank you Caroline for all your wisdon, support and guidance.

  • @jesicabajado8402
    @jesicabajado8402 9 месяцев назад +2

    Great gratitude and love 🧡🧡🧡🥹

  • @sarared2292
    @sarared2292 3 года назад +32

    The best and worst things that happened to me were because of the risks I took. The worst one ended up being a great thing as well actually.

  • @gailreichert4373
    @gailreichert4373 7 лет назад +86

    Somehow Caroline's words penetrate directly to my soul. She speaks wise truth that cuts through the armour of ego. Thanks for being you.

  • @univenko
    @univenko 2 года назад +24

    I choose risk and was one of the best decisions of my life.

    • @dictionarypictionary9872
      @dictionarypictionary9872 2 года назад +1

      I used to choose risk, and as someone who's been there, I can say that I'm far better off now after choosing Scrabble.

    • @traceyselvage9220
      @traceyselvage9220 2 года назад

      I'm sorry but I really don't get what on earth this woman is on about. Is it me?

  • @kimshaw-williams
    @kimshaw-williams Год назад +13

    Found this completely by accident 😂....when I most needed it and found it life-changing, without a doubt

    • @kimshaw-williams
      @kimshaw-williams Год назад

      PS I fell asleep listening to the latest podcast of Naom Chomsky and woke up at 3AM just as this started

  • @MrUtoobee
    @MrUtoobee Год назад +11

    Listened to it all over again because I don't want anyone to be in therapy because of me.
    Thanks for this wonderful bit. I am going to take out lot of words from my system.

  • @adilenemarieklink1951
    @adilenemarieklink1951 3 месяца назад +3

    As a 20 yo I have been watching Ted talks for 3+ years and they have taught me so much about what it means to truly live. I feel lucky to have access to such wisdom so early in my life. This one definitely makes the top of the list

  • @stevensmallwood6493
    @stevensmallwood6493 2 года назад +15

    Wow. Having the courage to live with integrity and stop betraying yourself. The peace of mind that must bring.

  • @prudenceoneness7846
    @prudenceoneness7846 3 года назад +11

    "i will not pass on my suffering, but my wisdom." (this includes with friends, and family)

  • @daMillenialTrucker
    @daMillenialTrucker 2 года назад +7

    Everything bad she said I nodded my head to, these are all things I struggle with now. The victimization, the wanting to blame my xhildhood, being inherently negative, not being nice and just being absolutely miserable in my depression. I've been working on turning it around, it's very uncomfortable to capture one of those thoughts, turn it around and swallow it. The feeling you get from being negative feels good and that's my problem. I've watched this video 5 times and everytime the universe reveals more ways to fight back and overcome what I'm going through. She's a very courageous woman

    • @missrachael1709
      @missrachael1709 2 года назад

      You sound like you're an aware human being.....and kind.....you're on a good path I reckon.

  • @sevrinaanastasia
    @sevrinaanastasia 2 года назад +93

    This is by far one of the best Ted talks I've ever heard. I've listened to it more then once. It's the most inspiring video I've listened to. :)

  • @mikailabdal-jamiil9624
    @mikailabdal-jamiil9624 Год назад +5

    God bless the teachers in the field of healing our hearts and minds.

  • @Hamless_Kiwi
    @Hamless_Kiwi Год назад +4

    REALLY NEEDED THIS I've spent weeks feeling horrible about myself, my life, everything, everyone around me, my past, worst case futures.

  • @mariaalonso-cummins438
    @mariaalonso-cummins438 Год назад +6

    I will not pass my suffering on, but my wisdom...Brilliant! This is how I live my life. My family can live their own authentic life and not relive my childhood at the hands of my abusive mother. My wisdom is to show that it is up to me to create the life I want. I've learned from the past, but I don't live there.

  • @patriciaacove4602
    @patriciaacove4602 7 лет назад +193

    Put a Very High Price Tag on Your Own Sense of Well-Being. Do Not Give Your Integrity. Well-Being, & Authenticity Away Cheaply - Nothing is Worth the Loss of Harming Your Own Body Cells, Even if You Think No One Knows/Sees. It is an Inside Job - You & Your Body Knows.

    • @theupwardspiral1580
      @theupwardspiral1580 6 лет назад +2

      Patricia Cove thats very good advice

    • @gargeepandey803
      @gargeepandey803 5 лет назад +3

      Ralph smart says your body is your subconscious mind.

    • @annliz8244
      @annliz8244 3 года назад +1

      That's great. I would like you know you more

    • @millerquinta6064
      @millerquinta6064 3 года назад

      Wow👏🏿👏🏿

    • @praague
      @praague 3 года назад

      @@gargeepandey803 Oh my! Yes...

  • @sizesmall1756
    @sizesmall1756 2 года назад +18

    I did not tell a man I was in love with him.. In fact, I lied to him and let him believe I only saw us as friends because I was afraid. I became physically and mentally ill to the point of struggling to function. The body knows when we lie.

    • @KentWav
      @KentWav 2 года назад +4

      Go tell him

    • @ke2568
      @ke2568 2 года назад

      Omg please go tell him and then tell us how your life changes!

  • @nopetheworld977
    @nopetheworld977 21 день назад +1

    I especially love the ending. Putting gratefulness into that kind of perspective grounded me like nothing has ever before. I've always heard the phrase "live like it's your last day"; but when you truly think about the uniqueness of every single moment, even the moments that seem routine or mundane, its gives you such a deep sense of 'wow'. No moment will be like this very moment. Every moment will pass and never come again, and tomorrow I will be a day older and experience moments I have never and will never experience again. This really hit me. This was a great tedtalk.

  • @lloydbilllariosa5900
    @lloydbilllariosa5900 Год назад +5

    I came across this Ted talk just now and straight up made me cry. I'm doing the choice to take a risk right now and will follow every wisdom imparted by you in this talk. I'll be back again next year to comment and see what happens.

  • @crystalgrose
    @crystalgrose 7 лет назад +60

    Bless your day because you are.

  • @alisonclunes9745
    @alisonclunes9745 Год назад +25

    I first came across this amazing woman around 30 years ago when my Homeopath Doctor gave me some cassette tapes of her. I read her book "The Anatomy of Health" and others I can't remember. I saw her twice live when she visited Brisbane, Australia. Now all these years later I find her again. She is brutal in her honesty and continues to shower us with pearls of wisdom. Thank you Caroline for all you do. Much much love.

  • @mocahill1756
    @mocahill1756 Год назад +3

    i have a friend who has had incredible trauma but soldiers on. i describe her as like the tree that fell over but didnt die, it just grew in a different direction.

  • @wildmattzz
    @wildmattzz 6 лет назад +18

    Brilliant! Thank you!

  • @eleniandreas1
    @eleniandreas1 2 года назад +5

    Funny enough my sister said to me that in her therapy sessions my name is used a lot. It was a wake up call for me as I realised I had made judgments on her and was not even aware of! Our words can effect people, be quick to think and slow to speak …. I now choose my words carefully, this ted talks is priceless. The symbol of a butterfly has always been a sign that my angels are watching over me. 🦋🦋

  • @tricia_kasapagh
    @tricia_kasapagh Год назад +4

    Be in the newness. Not afraid of it.

  • @ideasareLIMITLESS
    @ideasareLIMITLESS 7 месяцев назад +2

    This talk needs to be 2 hours long. But she has many talks out there so good idea to check them out.

  • @AngiexMarie
    @AngiexMarie 4 года назад +17

    Every word is a universe in itself
    Mind blown

  • @jasminepolson
    @jasminepolson 3 года назад +14

    17:30 don’t take the safe path. When you’re making decisions on what to do, don’t look backward for guidance, bc there’s nothing back there.
    Don’t look at the old to chart the new. What you did before got you where you are today. When you don’t know what to do next... Do not go to who you were and what you did, bc it’ll pull you back.
    Be in the NEWNESS.

  • @denawagner360
    @denawagner360 3 года назад +9

    " I absolutely love words." What a wonderful thing to understand how important words, and understanding the power of using specific words impact yourself and others.

  • @faithpeace5093
    @faithpeace5093 2 года назад +14

    Words are powerful.
    In the beginning God said let there be and there was. I love the verse that says "as a man thinks in his heart, so is he" Proverbs 23:7
    I have learnt never to give up.
    I was born British but was sent to Africa as a baby. I came back to the UK in my early 20s thought would make money and go back home to help my family. It was not an easy journey. But l tell you, l finally have my own business after 30 years of non stop acquiring knowledge, (education) working & learning new things. Please Do Not Give Up!

  • @slyt7012
    @slyt7012 3 года назад +10

    Where has she been all my life?? I’ve watched this three times. So far. Her words are spot on and yes, life changing if you own them and live them for yourself.

  • @emmahribar
    @emmahribar 7 лет назад +37

    she's not afraid to confront people and that's what I love about this woman. start with spiritual health and go from there.

    • @RaptureReady2025
      @RaptureReady2025 4 года назад

      Emma Ferguson I just read your post two years on and wondering how you are doing? Are you living life fully?

  • @SJEarthChild
    @SJEarthChild 9 месяцев назад +1

    I'm allowing this amazing human to be my sponsor!
    I vibe so hard with her delivery.

  • @daielesign
    @daielesign Год назад +7

    i wasn’t expecting this to be emotional but woah, i cried multiple times watching this because this is what i needed to hear after finding out recently that i need to be in the present more. this video is powerful, and life changing, thank you.

  • @Diamond18116
    @Diamond18116 6 лет назад +33

    YES . she is correct.. I say that every morning " O LORD THANK YOU FOR KEEPING ME ALIVE & thank you LORD FOR A ROOF OVER MY HEAD WITH 3 MEALS A DAY AND A HEALTHY LIFE TOO.

  • @cindy3218
    @cindy3218 7 лет назад +41

    What she said in the beginning was that this was a compilation of 30.5 yrs of her observations, condensed to 25 minutes. When she speaks about past traumas she doesn't discount them at all. She talks about grief, pain, suffering & the horrendous things people have to heal from. She talks about healing process. It was a 25 talk on vast amounts of info, VERY condensed.
    Of course it takes time. And she says we never forget, move forward and heal. Life is in the now. Following a spiritual path that is an important part of it. Daily goal. Not perfection. In order to have the capacity to live in the moment, healing, connection to true self, & Source are all a part of it.
    My "philosophy" - take what you want & leave the rest. If you don't like, there are buttons for that. She asks in the beginning, to see if what she says sits with you like chicken soup.This was a suggestion. There was nothing being rammed down anyone's throat.
    Scary? Have you seen what is on youtube & fb 24/7. Lol.

    • @threechairs7680
      @threechairs7680 6 лет назад +2

      I enjoyed the talk and am also enjoying reading the various reactions and responses, in particular the “negative” ones because these are from people whose voices matter, too. When she said “chicken soup,” I wondered how many vegetarian eyebrows were raised. o_O

  • @nourakhater800
    @nourakhater800 7 месяцев назад +3

    Your words ilght me, thank you very much 💕💛🌼💚💙 big love and respect 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏.

  • @AnnaGrace5
    @AnnaGrace5 2 года назад +4

    I think I have listened to this more than 200 times. Whenever I am in a funk and feeling self pity start to creep in - when a negative thought spiral is starting, I listen to this a half dozen times (at 4x speed).
    I can loop specific parts of the video with a chrome extension when I need to blast something into my sub-conscious.
    Caroline Myss - thank you so much for giving this talk!! It helps me more than I can say.

  • @karencarson2283
    @karencarson2283 6 лет назад +9

    "Liars don't heal." I love that. It's like I knew it, always knew it, and Ms. Myss has cleared it perfectly for me.

  • @mimmycal
    @mimmycal 5 лет назад +27

    My #1 spiritual mentor. Since the late 80s. She is good at telling us to Knock it off!!