My *summary* (mixed with some own thoughts) of this talk: • The problem: People tend to get stuck in life and they lack the right tools. Design Thinking (DT) is such a tool. • Dysfunctional beliefs -> get rid of them! ○ You need a passion. ○ You should know where you're going by now. ○ You must become the BEST version of yourself. 1. The unattainable best is the enemy of all the available betters. • 5 Tips from DT for Life Design: 1. Connecting the dots i. People want their lives to be meaningful / add up to something ii. Exercise: Write 250 word essays on the following three questions and try to match them: 1) Who are you (your thoughts, words, actions)? 2) What do you believe? What's the meaning of life? The big picture? Why are you here? 3) What do you do in the world? Why do you work? (Not a job description) The point of working? 2. Gravity problems: If it's not actionable, it's not a problem, it's a circumstance, e. g. gravity i. try to reframe problems to something workable. If that doesn't work, accept them as circumstances 3. Thought experiment: Multiverse -> How many good lives are out there for you? i. Exercise: Come up with 3 great five-year-from-now versions of yourself 1) Why 3? Good quality/quantity of follow-up ideas. 2) 3 rubrics: a) Your life as it is now goes great (continue what you're currently doing, trend-extrapolation) b) What would you do if a) died tomorrow, e. g. your job gets replaced by AI? Any sidehustle or talent to explore etc.? c) Wildcard-Plan: If neither $ nor reputation (nobody would laugh) was a restriction, what would you do/be? -> get creative! 3) Goal: recognize the great oppotunities life has to offer, smartly implement insights from b) and c) into a), as they usually get left behind 4. Prototyping your ideas i. Prototype to… 1) …ask interesting questions: "What would it be like if I tried this?" 2) …expose the underlying assumptions: "Is this even the thing I want (now) or is that just something I remember I wanted when I was 20?" 3) …involve others with your ideas 4) …sneak up on the future (because I don't know yet if this is exactly what I want..) ii. You can "prototype" ideas by… 1) protoyping conversations: the future is already here, only unevenly distributed -> others are already living your future -> get in touch with them and learn 2) prototyping experiences: test the experience (example: a 45 yo business exec attending a uni lecture to see if it feels right) 5. Making better choices: How do you know when you know? i. The process of choosing well and making yourself happy: 1. Gather & create options a) Deliberately (active brainstorming etc.) b) Serendipitious (be open for opportunities in your peripheral vision etc.) 2. Narrow down options to a working list a) "When you have too many choices, you have no choice" b) Radically cross out all choices until ~7 are left (overcome FOMO!) 3. Choose / Pick one: Combine rational judgement (pro/contra comparisons etc.) with holistic gut feelings 4. Let go & move on instead of agonizing (FOMO strikes again!): Consider decisions irreversible • Simply get curious, talk to people and try stuff!
Seeing this at almost 57. I think classes every year in high school need to be dedicated to teaching kids this stuff. Too many are just on trajectories of eventual emptiness, delusion and depression.
Indeed. Even now our education system is heavily embedded in its industrial revolution roots, and could benefit from some serious design thinking itself.
I am 42 and when people ask my favorite age. It was when all these realizations hit me and I finally was able to start moving my life in the direction I always wanted - without fear, no cares of judgement etc. Godspeed, friend, you're going to love it. (And happy birthday in advance)
This is very interesting because I am someone who was a bartender in Belize, a hairstylist in LA and now a Brand Owner in Seattle. lmao. I quit my job and moved to Belize and left to Seattle. Honestly I feel like I've lived 5 lives and everyone is waiting for me to "grow up" but im loving my life!
At grad school, our team tried to find out how to create the next best Ted talk by analysing the data about all the Ted talks published till 2016. One of our findings was that talks shorter than 20 minutes had the most views. That expalins why this one doesn't have the number of views it should have had. One of the most insightful Ted talk I ever watched.
Yeh. Most videos waste everyone’s time with filler/self-aggrandizement, blabber, self-satisfying verbose hyperbole and other BS by the creator. That’s why I use at least a speed of 1.5 when listening unless the monologue is fast then I may cut it back to 1.25 x the regular speed. Yep
Hi Bill, I am writing a Pre-Employment Program for Aboriginal Women - I live in northern Canada. I am getting SO much from this TED Talk. Thank you. It is very inspiring, I am delving deeper, and working through it on a personal level, so I can grasp the ideas. My hope, and My prayer - which I did write in my journal yesterday - I want to Learn How to be Happy! This is what I want to everyone to be, and....is one of the basic elements of the program I am writing. Rhoda :)
DESIGNING YOUR LIFE [Dysfunctional Beliefs] 1. You should have passion 2. You should know where you are going to be 3. You are in the best version of yourself [5 Ideas from Design Thinking] 1. Connecting the Dots Who you are What you do What you believe = Key to gaining meaningful life 2. Gravity vs Problem If it's not actionable, it's a circumstance : you just have to accept If it's a problem, find a way to solve it. 3. One life, Many Possibilities - What are you doing right now? Continue doing it and make it better. - What would you do if you died tomorrow? - What would you do if you have money and don’t care what people think? 4. Prototype - interesting ideas, assumptions - Prototype conversation, prototype experience: Somebody has already living my future 5.Choosing Well - Gather&Create - Narrow Down - Choose - Let Go& Move On - Pay attention to your Peripheral Vision to be ‘lucky’ EDIPT Emphatize - Design - Idealise - Prototype - Testing
You should know who you are?. It's your thoughts, words, and actions that will either move you closer to where you want to be or further away from where you want to be. ;)
I am actually 25 atm, and I have experienced my parents often saying to me that exact same sentence: "You should know what you want by now!" The kind of pressure that is expressed with that can be immense.
My kids keep telling me that but, as far as I'm concerned, there's too much I want to do to settle for any one thing! Disclaimer: they're grown and living their lives. I didn't go do my thing until I was sure they were successfully launched.
You always know what you want. Sometimes it’s not what other people want to hear. Sometimes you don’t even want to hear it yourself, but you always know what you want. 🍀
Oh and “I want nothing specific for the moment” is also a type of want. It means: I am open for interesting things should they strike me. And they will. That’s the beauty of letting life guide you. As long as you’re not a hermit in a cave, it will. ;-)
This should be studied in schools. Pretty much every TED should be. It's amazing know that almost everything which is essential in your life and professional life is not studied by school, supposed to learn you basic abilities in your daily life, but the world teaches it to you, the own life, and with your own own efforts you have to comprehend these things.
Agreed. Bear with me as I’ll provide my view from where I am I think such talks should be made mandatory courses in the last years of educational years (high school or more importantly, college). I desperately wished my college provided such info. Rather, I have to learn it the hard way in the real world and find myself coming back to these RUclips vids to reassure myself. As the world is becoming increasingly more competitive filled with distractions, people lose track of life itself. Many people have the necessary knowledge and skills but do not know what to do with them. Over the course of time, what I am discovering is the world is kind to people who know what to do with they have rather than what they have itself.
That example with pizza or Chinese food changed my life. I constantly ask my partner or my friend for their opinion on two things and when they said "choice 1" and I realize I actually prefer choice 2 and express that, they get annoyed - why even ask them if their choice won't be picked anyway. And over the years I stopped listening to what I wanted and went through with their choice to not make them annoyed and you know to follow through. And now realizing that it is completely normal to feel the decision after it has been made just gives me SO much.
He is most likely the best Teacher/ Speaker to come on here in the last decade. If someone engages you connects with you and makes you ENJOY the conversation or being taught the specifics, it will make you eager to learn more, to become a sponge, and absorb more information. It is due to instructors like him, that made me actually interested in subjects like physics and chemistry.
100% agreed! I took premed in a post-bacc program, and the only class I enjoyed was physics where my teacher was so engaging and fun, while my other adjunct professors made me hate the other pre-med subjects. Didn't continue the program (wasn't for me) but I'll always remember physics as my favorite class
That part about too much choice really hit home with me. I want to do too many things and I constantly feel overwhelmed so I don't do anything.... I kind of wish someone would just take all choice away from me and say 'right, you are going to be a web designer" or one of the tings I am interested in. Then I could just focus on one thing knowing that there is nothing else to distract me.
I am struggling so much with finding out what I want to do with my life and I suffer from extreme decision anxiety. Ppl just tell me “just go for something you like” or “follow your dreams” and I’m like…IDK HOW TO DO THAT OR START! But watching this tedtalk helped me have a step-by-step process on making those big decisions I’ve been needing to make. This was very introspective and I’m glad I watched this Tedtalk.
Watching this for the first time is both inspiring and confusing because I feel overwhelmed with the amount of important information I want to remember. Will definitely need to watch it again. I am 30 year old and starting over - want to change my career and work from home while taking care of my toddler son. There's a lot to figure out and a lot of gravity holding me back. I hope this lecture will help me in my journey.
This is really interesting because I’ve had such a diverse journey-I was a bartender in Belize, a hairstylist in LA, and now I’m a brand owner in Seattle. LOL. I quit my job, moved to Belize, and then ended up in Seattle. Honestly, it feels like I’ve lived five different lives, and everyone’s waiting for me to "grow up," but I’m just loving every minute of it!
I joined a career event yesterday, which used the concepts in this Stanford's design program. It was really helpful to watch this video again after I have planed three of my career paths yesterday. It is like refresh my mind again and also showed what I need to do next after I have my plans in mind. The next steps I would take are to talk to people, prototype, just do it and enjoy my life! Really appreciate this video.
I would love to see this program redesigned specifically for retirees, because that’s where I am right now! There are a lot of overwhelming options out there for the golden years as well!
And people of that age, who are not able to retire...and have limited income to pay for additional education/resources to start something new ( more risk at older age, less time to repay loans and/or credit cards) that could make new ventures possible...
The conversation held in the TED really connected with me. It was a deep talk about people trying to emerge from traditional ways of gender roles, looking for themselves. He speaks about the pressures put on him to the standards of masculinity and how it struggles inside of him because he is not what that would be considered. That is so powerful, and it goes to remind us all that we are different, and it's good just to allow ourselves to be free. I love how the speaker can be so open and honest about their personal story. It is a story of 'self-discovery'; to hear anyone's journey to find themselves and finally accept themselves is just so motivating. I feel that this video is a great resource for any person who might feel confused about their identity or perhaps struggling to be true to oneself in light of other people's pressures.
I am 27 years old, i think this video is very helpful. I hope after watching this video, i can decide what i want to be and what i know what i have to doing from now
I freaking love the shift of design thinking - I'm a growth mindset expert and sometimes it can be hard for folks to shift into "this is a challenge" from "this is a quality about myself I can't change" - but the focus on prototyping, playing, and testing things out is huge.
You can make plans. For some of us life brings us a lot of challanges we never planned or never thought to have. Because these problems always was in films or happened to acquantiance of our workmate but not us... Salute to people who still is not giving up and working on trying to be best of themselves.
So true! I just did an expensive real estate agent course in Dez because I wanted to do exact this course since years. After completing, I found out that it was a nice course, but what the heck was I thinking? Not a job for me! Was the money wasted? No because exactly this course was the last 10 years in my bucket list with exact this company. Now finally I have my inner peace :) Sometimes u have to allow yourself to go to the places u wanted to go when u were younger to see, u outgrown your old ideas, but they still stuck with you for whatever reasons.
I am 19, I think i must re-watch this ted and i am sure anytime i watch i will get more what he is saying. I was after this subconsciously and I will come back to this again.
This is so valuable, more valuable than Gold! And we needed this 200 years ago. But glad to have gotten this in my lifetime. I’m almost 60 now so I still have a little time to work on this!
I’m 65 , left America over 15 years ago & I went from working for a pay check, to running my own business that brings me passion & at least triple the money I made taking orders from some 1 else! Only self started this business 1 year ago in another country living my dream ! It’s never to late!
We just think, "Alright, you are were ever you are. Let's start from where you are. You're not late for anything." Who you are, What you believe, and what you do.
I thank you Bill Burnett for motivating my daughter when thing went really had for her. It was really so bad that she attempted committing murder until you invited Mrs Lyra Holt Dean for your TED show program. Am really so grateful for her finical assistance in my daughters life thank you so much once again.
I see please do you mind if i know how this woman helped you cause i have been hearing people testifying i really want to know who this Mrs Lyra Holt Dean is. I even searched her name on goggle she was all over but i want to confirm if she can help me too.
@@testimonialblessings8058 I figured out Mrs Lyra Holt From a TED show hosted by Bill Burnett . He invited this particular woman and she introduced this fabulous type strategy for making money. It looked like a scam until we took the risk and tired it out and it worked
This is probably the best summary for decision making I've seen, after watching Gilbert and reading a whole bunch of others. And, not less important, it is very well delivered. Thank you VERY much, Mr. Burnett!
I'm so happy I've found this Ted talk at the right time. I am really busy designing my life and I've just narrowed all up to 3 choices, but I excluded what I would do if I had enough money :). New food for thought, awesome.
Fabulous insight and tools. At 23:37, I heard Bill say, "make decisions 'irreversible' " - which supports the concept he was speaking of. The text however indicates, "reversible", which confused me until I re-watched and listened several times. Recap section: "If you make decisions reversible, your chance of being happy goes down like 60 or 70 percent. So, let go and move on, make the decision irreversible."
That's why I love their teachings. I'm still at the same job I was before but doing so much more that makes me ME. I was doing and trying my hardest in something I hated that I left all the things that made me happy. Now I realize that my job is the reason I have more time to do other hobbies and because I developed the habit of working faster no one noticed when I started to to shift my efforts to other things. Win win for me.
The best is about being at the top... Where can you go from there? I think this sentence is about contentment & always aspiring to learn and be more. He was saying it in tha vid. We choose one dream and make it concrete then we are basically devastated when that dream for one reason or another is never brought to fruition... Profound way to put it though and it's every bit 💯 Facts 🧘♀️
@@XxDiamondBubbles364xX ( The best is about being at the top... Where can you go from there? ) = Down.(or stuck) And create a loop (or stay stuck).. This is how you think right now. Facts.. you are right. are those facts good for anything? Nope...Can you prevent those facts? Yes.. How? Adapt and see what make YOU happy.. and forget what makes others happy.
@@gattonpc I'm sorry to hear you say that coz it sounds like a lot has happened and given you a very dim view on life or what can be done with it. It's true that you can fall back down, it's also true that you can get stuck in the same loop time and time again but... lol ( there's always gotta be a but i know ) It is also true that you can, if willing to work hard enough pull yourself up out of that. It sounds flower child ish but it really is about the way you perceive things. If you perceive that at the bottom is where you're doomed to stay, then unfortunately that is exactly where you will stay. These words are meant as message of hope to you. Give it a chance. It's your life and you deserve to live it. Best of luck 😘
Great talk - love the way it links purpose and happiness, just to cast one of the many pearls. Did anybody notice that at 23.38 the audio text is wrong - crucially changing Bill's "irreversible" to "reversible"? What Bill doesn't say, but what his talk infers, is that the (old fashioned) concept of marriage, where you make an irreversible commitment to a person, makes you happier than nowadays where you can effectively take your "Monet print" back ( through divorce/separation etc) multiple times. Food for thought indeed. Thank you for this!
Oh my, This is such a GREAT presentation in every way! Congratulations. I love how your presentation has evolved from closed in a box to the “study of fear” - understanding and breaking it down to a clear definition of stories we tell ourselves (thinking) and chemical reactions while projecting a feeling that was completely natural, personal,and educational with 4 tactics to master. That made it seem “obtainable”, too, which is fulfilling to an audience (and to me!!)
Great video! I’m a designer and product developer of motorcycle outerwear, so every 6 months I design at least 10 different garments, and drop at least 50% without any regrets because I know that confirmed options will turn out awesome. Why I haven’t thought to apply these principles to my life until I saw this video?
Dysfunctional beliefs 3:31 What's your passion? 4:24 You should know by now. 5:25 Be the best version of you Design thinking 6:35 Connecting the dots 7:46 Gravity problems 9:21 How many lives are you? 13:35 Prototyping your life 16:29 Choosing well
Amazing... This is just what I needed in my life at this point.... I will never should on myself or anyone in life... I am not late for anything....I should enjoy my life where I am in and be in the moment.... Accept the things you cannot change and work with what you got... Interact with people who are already in your future.That will give you useful pointers in helping you make good decisions and giving you great confidence to choose well.The best video I have watched this year, cause I felt so stuck!I am so encouraged with this talk.
I'm 51 years old with no retirement plan yet,any suggestions on accumulating a million dollar portfolio within 12-18 months? I have currently saved a capital of $100k
In times like this,the best thing any American can do for him or herself is to have another source of income apart from his or her salary,invest wisely people!
@@armstrongbill6805 Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth,investing remains the priority. Forex trading has plenty of opportunities to earn a decent payout,with the right skills and proper understanding of how the market works
I totally agree with you,Forex trading is the most profitable venture I ever invested in,I reached my goal of $500k yearly trade earnings, setting realistic goals is an essential part of trading
But successful people don't become that way over night,what most people see is a glance wealth,a great career,purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time
True story: I sold a product at state fairs and trade shows- but it’s the product next to me, next to my booth that inspired me to create an online business that finally made me successful- being “lucky” is opening up your vision to those things that are around you but you did not notice, take a small risk and try it part-time while working full time. Success, whether financially or relationships, takes a lots of work.
One practical way to start thinking about the life you want to have is by setting short-term achievable goals. They are useful because you can actually see all the progress you're making.
5. Choosing well A. Gather and create options B. Narrow down to working list C. Choose D. Let go and move on Leave room for the lucky ideas Stanford experience: people who thought they were lucky are better at keeping peripheral vision open Can’t handle more than 5 decisions Won’t know how you feel about a decision until after it’s been made Cant make decisions just off of reason If you make decisions reversible your chance for happiness goes down like 70%
I'd been looking at designing my career as a student, using Design Thinking. Though I got stuck after the empathy building stage. This gives me so much clarity on how to take the process forward. Super excited to apply this! Thanks Bill 😍
I’m stuck on 4, almost about to pull the plug and quit before prototyping. Glad I watched this cause it could back fire again and being what I don’t want to do.
I am looking to make a career pivot and was recommended this video. Very eye opening. I feel a bit more confident that I am making the right choice to move on.
Thank you so much for sharing this thought. I am a long listener of TED X talk but this talk really made my thinking simple regard to design my life.... Thank You
Great talk and idea of three visions. I've pursued a new occupation every 6 years on average. I've had six so far. Typist, Layout and design, Marketing coordinator, Copywriter, Book editor, now Author's Coach, combining many of the other skills.
3 prototypes then experiment with each then choose and move on and feel lucky that you choose the good one. Also it is very true that you bring good luck to your life by simply thinking you are lucky. Positive thinking.
Extremely inspiring video, we all tend to get overwhelmed by looking at the big tasks in life. This is all we need, to get started and make micro achievements for a big success
How about starting law school at 66? Anyone ever do that? If we’re still here we’re meant to be doing something contributive. And random acts of kindness. And loving. Even if it’s a dog. Love that dog the way that dog loves you.
This is one of the best videos I have ever watched!! Im certainly working on this and on my gravity problems and putting them away... and take a step closer to live a life that I would like to live. Thank you for this video..
Awesome! I've been practicing a large part of these life-designing methodologies for years. Imagining alternative futures can be an eye-opener and very motivational too. Accepting and appreciating also have big roles in overall happiness. Freeing yourself from culturally-imposed paradigms and allowing yourself to explore, experiment and unfold your full potential is what makes for a full life!
@@Copywritertest Going well. I definitely leveled-up in the past 5 years. Took bigger financial decisions in my life and achieved goals that previously seemed kind of unreachable. I'm still very much in the process of making, of self-improving, polishing, re-programming.. all the time. I guess it is a never-ending journey that morphs, develops and unfolds, but there is no real end to it, it is a life-long path of self-discovery and acting upon the world and your life. Everyone has their own path, own personal legend. What helps me keep centered is having a set of core values and long-term vision/perspectives on life.
We just think, "Alright, you are were ever you are. Let's start from where you are. You're not late for anything." Who you are, What you believe, and what you do.
Thank God for the internet.... A kid from The horn of African can get access to such information us tool to build up yourself is massive.... Thank you.... Am be someone in this thing called world....
This was excellent and I couldn't have found it at a better time!! I just graduated a few months ago and I will go for postgrad in a year or two but I was overwhelmed with the idea of choosing which part of biology I want to specialize in further. I will defo follow these steps and ideas as my past plans didn't solve my problem
Thank you so much for making this. You have provided me with structure and clarity I very much needed right now, and didn't think I would get. Thank you so much Bill.
My *summary* (mixed with some own thoughts) of this talk:
• The problem: People tend to get stuck in life and they lack the right tools. Design Thinking (DT) is such a tool.
• Dysfunctional beliefs -> get rid of them!
○ You need a passion.
○ You should know where you're going by now.
○ You must become the BEST version of yourself.
1. The unattainable best is the enemy of all the available betters.
• 5 Tips from DT for Life Design:
1. Connecting the dots
i. People want their lives to be meaningful / add up to something
ii. Exercise: Write 250 word essays on the following three questions and try to match them:
1) Who are you (your thoughts, words, actions)?
2) What do you believe? What's the meaning of life? The big picture? Why are you here?
3) What do you do in the world? Why do you work? (Not a job description) The point of working?
2. Gravity problems: If it's not actionable, it's not a problem, it's a circumstance, e. g. gravity
i. try to reframe problems to something workable. If that doesn't work, accept them as circumstances
3. Thought experiment: Multiverse -> How many good lives are out there for you?
i. Exercise: Come up with 3 great five-year-from-now versions of yourself
1) Why 3? Good quality/quantity of follow-up ideas.
2) 3 rubrics:
a) Your life as it is now goes great (continue what you're currently doing, trend-extrapolation)
b) What would you do if a) died tomorrow, e. g. your job gets replaced by AI? Any sidehustle or talent to explore etc.?
c) Wildcard-Plan: If neither $ nor reputation (nobody would laugh) was a restriction, what would you do/be? -> get creative!
3) Goal: recognize the great oppotunities life has to offer, smartly implement insights from b) and c) into a), as they usually get left behind
4. Prototyping your ideas
i. Prototype to…
1) …ask interesting questions: "What would it be like if I tried this?"
2) …expose the underlying assumptions: "Is this even the thing I want (now) or is that just something I remember I wanted when I was 20?"
3) …involve others with your ideas
4) …sneak up on the future (because I don't know yet if this is exactly what I want..)
ii. You can "prototype" ideas by…
1) protoyping conversations: the future is already here, only unevenly distributed -> others are already living your future -> get in touch with them and learn
2) prototyping experiences: test the experience (example: a 45 yo business exec attending a uni lecture to see if it feels right)
5. Making better choices: How do you know when you know?
i. The process of choosing well and making yourself happy:
1. Gather & create options
a) Deliberately (active brainstorming etc.)
b) Serendipitious (be open for opportunities in your peripheral vision etc.)
2. Narrow down options to a working list
a) "When you have too many choices, you have no choice"
b) Radically cross out all choices until ~7 are left (overcome FOMO!)
3. Choose / Pick one: Combine rational judgement (pro/contra comparisons etc.) with holistic gut feelings
4. Let go & move on instead of agonizing (FOMO strikes again!): Consider decisions irreversible
• Simply get curious, talk to people and try stuff!
Thank you so much for your talk, AND your outline. Super helpful!
Thank you!!
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Thx bro
Thank you!!!
Seeing this at almost 57. I think classes every year in high school need to be dedicated to teaching kids this stuff. Too many are just on trajectories of eventual emptiness, delusion and depression.
Indeed. Even now our education system is heavily embedded in its industrial revolution roots, and could benefit from some serious design thinking itself.
Yes it's so obvious that values, mental health, and how to deal with problems should be a class in school! It's ludicrous to me...
Very good comment.
You could do that. All you need is a BA & they’ll let you in there to talk to those kids for an hour.
“Make the decision irreversible increases satisfaction by 60%” This is a good argument for marriage vs living together
Marriage is reversible- they call it divorce.
Are you good at being lucky? What a concept. So simple. So powerful. So many different levels.
I'll be 35 in 4 months and I will most likely be hitting the reset button on my life soon. I was terrified that I wasted my life. I needed this.
Hi! There is nothing wasted in life' thanks to recycle experiences, we can create new ideas and experiences
All the best for u!!!!
I am 42 and when people ask my favorite age. It was when all these realizations hit me and I finally was able to start moving my life in the direction I always wanted - without fear, no cares of judgement etc. Godspeed, friend, you're going to love it. (And happy birthday in advance)
How did this go for you?
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glad I'm just 17... really great watching this while almost all of my life is still in front of me...
This is very interesting because I am someone who was a bartender in Belize, a hairstylist in LA and now a Brand Owner in Seattle. lmao. I quit my job and moved to Belize and left to Seattle. Honestly I feel like I've lived 5 lives and everyone is waiting for me to "grow up" but im loving my life!
You should do bukakke movies.
@@silverbullet2008bb Whoa! What a cool comment.
@@madyem4672 I agree!
At grad school, our team tried to find out how to create the next best Ted talk by analysing the data about all the Ted talks published till 2016. One of our findings was that talks shorter than 20 minutes had the most views. That expalins why this one doesn't have the number of views it should have had. One of the most insightful Ted talk I ever watched.
Yeh. Most videos waste everyone’s time with filler/self-aggrandizement, blabber, self-satisfying verbose hyperbole and other BS by the creator. That’s why I use at least a speed of 1.5 when listening unless the monologue is fast then I may cut it back to 1.25 x the regular speed. Yep
I am 50 and I want to do a master's degree abroad. This video has encouraged me to follow my dreams.
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Hi Bill, I am writing a Pre-Employment Program for Aboriginal Women - I live in northern Canada. I am getting SO much from this TED Talk. Thank you. It is very inspiring, I am delving deeper, and working through it on a personal level, so I can grasp the ideas. My hope, and My prayer - which I did write in my journal yesterday - I want to Learn How to be Happy! This is what I want to everyone to be, and....is one of the basic elements of the program I am writing. Rhoda :)
I am 26 and after all those videos it feels like I discovered the mighty power of life. Wish all of you all the best 🍀
How is your life going now that you're 29?
@@CT-mn7vu great tbh
@@CT-mn7vu got the job I dreamed of as a kid, got a healthy 11month old son and found the love of my life. ngl it went great
@@benten9110 I'm happy for u dude❤
Congrats, can you please share the steps you have taken in those last 3 years, it will be very helpful. Thank you in advance.
I wish I heard this in my late 30s.... it might have made a nice difference in my life. But, I am alive! There is still time.
I felt the same at the beginning that i lost many years but then the thing is, its not. Start from where you are
👌well said. Your only as old as you feel darl. Whatever you want to do, go for it!
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I am sure you know someone who is in their early thirties, you can share and you could be the difference in their life.
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DESIGNING YOUR LIFE
[Dysfunctional Beliefs]
1. You should have passion
2. You should know where you are going to be
3. You are in the best version of yourself
[5 Ideas from Design Thinking]
1. Connecting the Dots
Who you are What you do What you believe
= Key to gaining meaningful life
2. Gravity vs Problem
If it's not actionable, it's a circumstance : you just have to accept
If it's a problem, find a way to solve it.
3. One life, Many Possibilities
- What are you doing right now? Continue doing it and make it better.
- What would you do if you died tomorrow?
- What would you do if you have money and don’t care what people think?
4. Prototype
- interesting ideas, assumptions
- Prototype conversation, prototype experience: Somebody has already living my future
5.Choosing Well
- Gather&Create - Narrow Down - Choose - Let Go& Move On
- Pay attention to your Peripheral Vision to be ‘lucky’
EDIPT
Emphatize - Design - Idealise - Prototype - Testing
ldd sa
thanks i totally didn't watch the video
You should know who you are?. It's your thoughts, words, and actions that will either move you closer to where you want to be or further away from where you want to be. ;)
Thank you.
People like you deserve a 1000 hugs. So here it is 🤗 x 1000 hehehe. Thank you.
I am actually 25 atm, and I have experienced my parents often saying to me that exact same sentence: "You should know what you want by now!"
The kind of pressure that is expressed with that can be immense.
I’ m 25 too and same. I usually reply: I’m not lost, I’m woke.
My kids keep telling me that but, as far as I'm concerned, there's too much I want to do to settle for any one thing!
Disclaimer: they're grown and living their lives. I didn't go do my thing until I was sure they were successfully launched.
Been through that and I'm 18 lol
You always know what you want. Sometimes it’s not what other people want to hear. Sometimes you don’t even want to hear it yourself, but you always know what you want. 🍀
Oh and “I want nothing specific for the moment” is also a type of want. It means: I am open for interesting things should they strike me. And they will. That’s the beauty of letting life guide you. As long as you’re not a hermit in a cave, it will. ;-)
"Collect, reduce, decide and move on. That how you make yourself happy."
This should be studied in schools. Pretty much every TED should be. It's amazing know that almost everything which is essential in your life and professional life is not studied by school, supposed to learn you basic abilities in your daily life, but the world teaches it to you, the own life, and with your own own efforts you have to comprehend these things.
Agreed. Bear with me as I’ll provide my view from where I am
I think such talks should be made mandatory courses in the last years of educational years (high school or more importantly, college). I desperately wished my college provided such info. Rather, I have to learn it the hard way in the real world and find myself coming back to these RUclips vids to reassure myself. As the world is becoming increasingly more competitive filled with distractions, people lose track of life itself. Many people have the necessary knowledge and skills but do not know what to do with them. Over the course of time, what I am discovering is the world is kind to people who know what to do with they have rather than what they have itself.
Dysfunctional Beliefs: 3:23
Connecting the Dots: 6:35
Gravity Problems: 7:57
Three Five-Year Odyssey Plans: 10:30
Prototyping Your Life: 13:40
Choosing Well: 16:32
God's work
@@lofi_Insomnia_ What? lol
Tori Z whaaat
Thank youuuu
Omg thank you
That example with pizza or Chinese food changed my life. I constantly ask my partner or my friend for their opinion on two things and when they said "choice 1" and I realize I actually prefer choice 2 and express that, they get annoyed - why even ask them if their choice won't be picked anyway. And over the years I stopped listening to what I wanted and went through with their choice to not make them annoyed and you know to follow through. And now realizing that it is completely normal to feel the decision after it has been made just gives me SO much.
He is most likely the best Teacher/ Speaker to come on here in the last decade.
If someone engages you connects with you and makes you ENJOY the conversation or being taught the specifics, it will make you eager to learn more, to become a sponge, and absorb more information.
It is due to instructors like him, that made me actually interested in subjects like physics and chemistry.
100% agreed! I took premed in a post-bacc program, and the only class I enjoyed was physics where my teacher was so engaging and fun, while my other adjunct professors made me hate the other pre-med subjects. Didn't continue the program (wasn't for me) but I'll always remember physics as my favorite class
That part about too much choice really hit home with me. I want to do too many things and I constantly feel overwhelmed so I don't do anything....
I kind of wish someone would just take all choice away from me and say 'right, you are going to be a web designer" or one of the tings I am interested in. Then I could just focus on one thing knowing that there is nothing else to distract me.
Too many choices means no choice. That’s what I felt.
N Silva LOL
@N Silva how are you doing now?
You are going to be a web designer.
How did it turn out?? I find myself a that situation now
I am struggling so much with finding out what I want to do with my life and I suffer from extreme decision anxiety. Ppl just tell me “just go for something you like” or “follow your dreams” and I’m like…IDK HOW TO DO THAT OR START! But watching this tedtalk helped me have a step-by-step process on making those big decisions I’ve been needing to make. This was very introspective and I’m glad I watched this Tedtalk.
Watching this for the first time is both inspiring and confusing because I feel overwhelmed with the amount of important information I want to remember. Will definitely need to watch it again.
I am 30 year old and starting over - want to change my career and work from home while taking care of my toddler son. There's a lot to figure out and a lot of gravity holding me back. I hope this lecture will help me in my journey.
how u doing now?
Definitely do yourself a favor and buy the book :) Very straightforward, easy to read and highly motivating. You got this!
OMG if it were difficult to you Imagine in my case that I don't even know English properly 😳😬🤭🥺
Write it down in a mind map in a way how it'll help you to execute in Daily life. I hope it helps.
I checked the book out from my local library to read and reread.
Thank you Bill Burnett for sharing your wisdom and doing it so concisely. You cover a LOT in 25mins and every minute is worth watching again!
Remarkable clarity. Choosing well starts with curiosity and imagination. Indeed, we can have the future we’re looking for.
This is really interesting because I’ve had such a diverse journey-I was a bartender in Belize, a hairstylist in LA, and now I’m a brand owner in Seattle. LOL. I quit my job, moved to Belize, and then ended up in Seattle. Honestly, it feels like I’ve lived five different lives, and everyone’s waiting for me to "grow up," but I’m just loving every minute of it!
I joined a career event yesterday, which used the concepts in this Stanford's design program. It was really helpful to watch this video again after I have planed three of my career paths yesterday. It is like refresh my mind again and also showed what I need to do next after I have my plans in mind. The next steps I would take are to talk to people, prototype, just do it and enjoy my life! Really appreciate this video.
I’m 61 and I have been stuck for a very long time. I’m going to have to watch this video again and again. And take notes.
I would love to see this program redesigned specifically for retirees, because that’s where I am right now! There are a lot of overwhelming options out there for the golden years as well!
And people of that age, who are not able to retire...and have limited income to pay for additional education/resources to start something new ( more risk at older age, less time to repay loans and/or credit cards) that could make new ventures possible...
The conversation held in the TED really connected with me. It was a deep talk about people trying to emerge from traditional ways of gender roles, looking for themselves. He speaks about the pressures put on him to the standards of masculinity and how it struggles inside of him because he is not what that would be considered. That is so powerful, and it goes to remind us all that we are different, and it's good just to allow ourselves to be free.
I love how the speaker can be so open and honest about their personal story. It is a story of 'self-discovery'; to hear anyone's journey to find themselves and finally accept themselves is just so motivating. I feel that this video is a great resource for any person who might feel confused about their identity or perhaps struggling to be true to oneself in light of other people's pressures.
I keep going back to this every year. Always always learns something so relevant and meaningful to me.
I am 27 years old, i think this video is very helpful. I hope after watching this video, i can decide what i want to be and what i know what i have to doing from now
I freaking love the shift of design thinking - I'm a growth mindset expert and sometimes it can be hard for folks to shift into "this is a challenge" from "this is a quality about myself I can't change" - but the focus on prototyping, playing, and testing things out is huge.
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Yes getting partner to shift states is crazy difficult so much resistance and a predisposition to gravitating towards negative destructive behaviours.
yo mama'
This is one of the best Ted talks i've watched. It is really helpful for someone who has poor decision making skills..... 🙋♀️
You can make plans. For some of us life brings us a lot of challanges we never planned or never thought to have. Because these problems always was in films or happened to acquantiance of our workmate but not us... Salute to people who still is not giving up and working on trying to be best of themselves.
Glad i'm seeing this at the age of 19
The first and The best teacher in the world is LIFE, second teache is TEDX .
Bilal...really?
@@parnamsaini4751 why not ?
@@knowthyself99 Sadhguru?
@@knowthyself99 Bilal..why not parents? Are they not any better?
So you discovered TEDX and forgot your parents?
This is one of the best TedTalks ever!
i concur
Agreed!
The "one of the best ...'s ever" is always correct! lol
Yes, very heplful!
So true! I just did an expensive real estate agent course in Dez because I wanted to do exact this course since years. After completing, I found out that it was a nice course, but what the heck was I thinking? Not a job for me! Was the money wasted? No because exactly this course was the last 10 years in my bucket list with exact this company. Now finally I have my inner peace :) Sometimes u have to allow yourself to go to the places u wanted to go when u were younger to see, u outgrown your old ideas, but they still stuck with you for whatever reasons.
I really love the idea of prototyping everything in life before jumping in.
I am 19, I think i must re-watch this ted and i am sure anytime i watch i will get more what he is saying. I was after this subconsciously and I will come back to this again.
This is so valuable, more valuable than Gold! And we needed this 200 years ago. But glad to have gotten this in my lifetime. I’m almost 60 now so I still have a little time to work on this!
I’m 65 , left America over 15 years ago & I went from working for a pay check, to running my own business that brings me passion & at least triple the money I made taking orders from some 1 else! Only self started this business 1 year ago in another country living my dream ! It’s never to late!
We just think, "Alright, you are were ever you are.
Let's start from where you are. You're not late for anything."
Who you are, What you believe, and what you do.
Thanks!
Absolutely excellent. Bravo 👏🏾
I thank you Bill Burnett for motivating my daughter when thing went really had for her.
It was really so bad that she attempted committing murder until you invited Mrs Lyra Holt Dean for your TED show program.
Am really so grateful for her finical assistance in my daughters life thank you so much once again.
I see please do you mind if i know how this woman helped you cause i have been hearing people testifying i really want to know who this Mrs Lyra Holt Dean is. I even searched her name on goggle she was all over but i want to confirm if she can help me too.
@@testimonialblessings8058 I figured out Mrs Lyra Holt From a TED show hosted by Bill Burnett .
He invited this particular woman and she introduced this fabulous type strategy for making money.
It looked like a scam until we took the risk and tired it out and it worked
@@Andrewjames319 Hmm please can you tell me about this strategy i will like to get involved in it.
@@testimonialblessings8058 Honestly is not something we can talk about on the comment section i can give you her direct so you can contact her.
@@Andrewjames319 Sure please can you do that now?
My favorite Ted talk I've seen this year. Amazing and transformational!
This is probably the best summary for decision making I've seen, after watching Gilbert and reading a whole bunch of others. And, not less important, it is very well delivered. Thank you VERY much, Mr. Burnett!
Which Gilbert, sir?
Elizabeth Gilbert?
@@sylvesteragbeboaye6721 Daniel Gilbert! He has a bunch of talks (a couple TED talks) and a wonderful book called "Stumbling on Happiness"
This is the best Ted Talk I’ve ever seen. Thank you so much for this, I’m at a time in my life where I needed to hear this. Thank you
I'm so happy I've found this Ted talk at the right time. I am really busy designing my life and I've just narrowed all up to 3 choices, but I excluded what I would do if I had enough money :). New food for thought, awesome.
We are on the same path
Fabulous insight and tools. At 23:37, I heard Bill say, "make decisions 'irreversible' " - which supports the concept he was speaking of. The text however indicates, "reversible", which confused me until I re-watched and listened several times. Recap section: "If you make decisions reversible, your chance of being happy goes down like 60 or 70 percent. So, let go and move on, make the decision irreversible."
At almost 50...
Sooo needed this💥💫
Thanks
Go Kelly!!!!
Wish I had heard this when was younger, I wouldn't have stayed in limbo in between for so long! Now on to planning my retirement now - thank you!
@6:03 "The unattainable best is the enemy of all the available betters" OTL this is exactly where I stuck 💀
That's why I love their teachings. I'm still at the same job I was before but doing so much more that makes me ME. I was doing and trying my hardest in something I hated that I left all the things that made me happy. Now I realize that my job is the reason I have more time to do other hobbies and because I developed the habit of working faster no one noticed when I started to to shift my efforts to other things. Win win for me.
Me too!!! I do this to myself A LOT! But I’m working on ending it!!
Excellent Analysis, Deployed Worldwide Through My Deep Learning AI Research Library… Thank You
"The unattainable best is the enemy of all the available betters." .... Pause for a moment, and let's think about that.
You go ahead and do whatever. The rest of us can decide for ourselves.
@@TheVeek192 Speak for yourself
The best is about being at the top... Where can you go from there? I think this sentence is about contentment & always aspiring to learn and be more. He was saying it in tha vid. We choose one dream and make it concrete then we are basically devastated when that dream for one reason or another is never brought to fruition...
Profound way to put it though and it's every bit 💯 Facts 🧘♀️
@@XxDiamondBubbles364xX ( The best is about being at the top... Where can you go from there? ) = Down.(or stuck) And create a loop (or stay stuck).. This is how you think right now. Facts.. you are right. are those facts good for anything? Nope...Can you prevent those facts? Yes.. How? Adapt and see what make YOU happy.. and forget what makes others happy.
@@gattonpc I'm sorry to hear you say that coz it sounds like a lot has happened and given you a very dim view on life or what can be done with it. It's true that you can fall back down, it's also true that you can get stuck in the same loop time and time again but... lol ( there's always gotta be a but i know ) It is also true that you can, if willing to work hard enough pull yourself up out of that. It sounds flower child ish but it really is about the way you perceive things. If you perceive that at the bottom is where you're doomed to stay, then unfortunately that is exactly where you will stay. These words are meant as message of hope to you. Give it a chance. It's your life and you deserve to live it. Best of luck 😘
Great talk - love the way it links purpose and happiness, just to cast one of the many pearls. Did anybody notice that at 23.38 the audio text is wrong - crucially changing Bill's "irreversible" to "reversible"? What Bill doesn't say, but what his talk infers, is that the (old fashioned) concept of marriage, where you make an irreversible commitment to a person, makes you happier than nowadays where you can effectively take your "Monet print" back ( through divorce/separation etc) multiple times. Food for thought indeed. Thank you for this!
This...this is the best ted talk...watch it completely
Oh my, This is such a GREAT presentation in every way! Congratulations. I love how your presentation has evolved from closed in a box to the “study of fear” - understanding and breaking it down to a clear definition of stories we tell ourselves (thinking) and chemical reactions while projecting a feeling that was completely natural, personal,and educational with 4 tactics to master. That made it seem “obtainable”, too, which is fulfilling to an audience (and to me!!)
Great video! I’m a designer and product developer of motorcycle outerwear, so every 6 months I design at least 10 different garments, and drop at least 50% without any regrets because I know that confirmed options will turn out awesome. Why I haven’t thought to apply these principles to my life until I saw this video?
Dysfunctional beliefs
3:31 What's your passion?
4:24 You should know by now.
5:25 Be the best version of you
Design thinking
6:35 Connecting the dots
7:46 Gravity problems
9:21 How many lives are you?
13:35 Prototyping your life
16:29 Choosing well
3:31
When he was talking about the multiple lives, it reminded me of the book called the "Midnight Library"
Love this talk and it mirrors so much of what I try to do with my clients. I also like the "don't should on yourself" comment. I say that all the time
Amazing... This is just what I needed in my life at this point.... I will never should on myself or anyone in life... I am not late for anything....I should enjoy my life where I am in and be in the moment.... Accept the things you cannot change and work with what you got... Interact with people who are already in your future.That will give you useful pointers in helping you make good decisions and giving you great confidence to choose well.The best video I have watched this year, cause I felt so stuck!I am so encouraged with this talk.
One of the best talks ever! So grateful! 🙏🥰
Denzel Washington once said *"TO get what you never had before you have to do what you never did before"*
I'm 51 years old with no retirement plan yet,any suggestions on accumulating a million dollar portfolio within 12-18 months? I have currently saved a capital of $100k
In times like this,the best thing any American can do for him or herself is to have another source of income apart from his or her salary,invest wisely people!
@@armstrongbill6805 Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth,investing remains the priority. Forex trading has plenty of opportunities to earn a decent payout,with the right skills and proper understanding of how the market works
I totally agree with you,Forex trading is the most profitable venture I ever invested in,I reached my goal of $500k yearly trade earnings, setting realistic goals is an essential part of trading
But successful people don't become that way over night,what most people see is a glance wealth,a great career,purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time
True story: I sold a product at state fairs and trade shows- but it’s the product next to me, next to my booth that inspired me to create an online business that finally made me successful- being “lucky” is opening up your vision to those things that are around you but you did not notice, take a small risk and try it part-time while working full time. Success, whether financially or relationships, takes a lots of work.
One practical way to start thinking about the life you want to have is by setting short-term achievable goals. They are useful because you can actually see all the progress you're making.
Excellent talk. With actionable, tangible advice that can be implemented. Thanks.
5. Choosing well
A. Gather and create options
B. Narrow down to working list
C. Choose
D. Let go and move on
Leave room for the lucky ideas
Stanford experience: people who thought they were lucky are better at keeping peripheral vision open
Can’t handle more than 5 decisions
Won’t know how you feel about a decision until after it’s been made
Cant make decisions just off of reason
If you make decisions reversible your chance for happiness goes down like 70%
i feel i got to hear this every day...l
kudos to Bill Burnett , You were
outstanding.
I'd been looking at designing my career as a student, using Design Thinking. Though I got stuck after the empathy building stage. This gives me so much clarity on how to take the process forward. Super excited to apply this! Thanks Bill 😍
I’m stuck on 4, almost about to pull the plug and quit before prototyping. Glad I watched this cause it could back fire again and being what I don’t want to do.
Thank you for such a lovely talk. I was ' not knowing what to do ' before watching this , now have a clue to design small part of my life.
I'm curious did you make any changes following this?
I am looking to make a career pivot and was recommended this video. Very eye opening. I feel a bit more confident that I am making the right choice to move on.
Thank you so much for sharing this thought. I am a long listener of TED X talk but this talk really made my thinking simple regard to design my life.... Thank You
I always come to your channel when I need clarity. Your explanations are unmatched! [2:35]
Awesome! I love design thinking. Never thought it could be applied to life choices. I'm going to buy this book and/or workbook if there is one.
Theres a nice crossover/match of this talk and “Stop searching for your passion” (really recommend this tedtalk too!)
I loved this one! Especially the structure it brings to the thought process.
What a genuine humor - enjoyed so much!
Great talk and idea of three visions. I've pursued a new occupation every 6 years on average. I've had six so far. Typist, Layout and design, Marketing coordinator, Copywriter, Book editor, now Author's Coach, combining many of the other skills.
Buy the book its amazing. I've read it twice and have had clarity.
3 prototypes then experiment with each then choose and move on and feel lucky that you choose the good one. Also it is very true that you bring good luck to your life by simply thinking you are lucky. Positive thinking.
Make the decision irreversible increases satisfaction by 60%” This is a good argument for marriage vs living together
I love this presentation! I really like the segment about too many choices impacting happiness.
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Me too! I loved what he said about the dysfunctional beliefs.
totally true !! don't allow 'expectations' to interfere with the process
Just in time when I need this advice the most. Thank you.
I am going to watch this video many times. I think it can help a lot to all people. Thank you.
I've never seen anything in the media worth watching before. I dont expect I ever will.
Being a 19 year old, glad that I listen to this. TEDx😊
Extremely inspiring video, we all tend to get overwhelmed by looking at the big tasks in life. This is all we need, to get started and make micro achievements for a big success
Vera Wang didn't design her first dress until she was 40
What a primal comment
How about starting law school at 66? Anyone ever do that? If we’re still here we’re meant to be doing something contributive. And random acts of kindness. And loving. Even if it’s a dog. Love that dog the way that dog loves you.
This is one of the best videos I have ever watched!! Im certainly working on this and on my gravity problems and putting them away... and take a step closer to live a life that I would like to live. Thank you for this video..
Awesome! I've been practicing a large part of these life-designing methodologies for years. Imagining alternative futures can be an eye-opener and very motivational too. Accepting and appreciating also have big roles in overall happiness. Freeing yourself from culturally-imposed paradigms and allowing yourself to explore, experiment and unfold your full potential is what makes for a full life!
How is your progress? What phase are you in life now?
@@Copywritertest Going well. I definitely leveled-up in the past 5 years. Took bigger financial decisions in my life and achieved goals that previously seemed kind of unreachable. I'm still very much in the process of making, of self-improving, polishing, re-programming.. all the time. I guess it is a never-ending journey that morphs, develops and unfolds, but there is no real end to it, it is a life-long path of self-discovery and acting upon the world and your life. Everyone has their own path, own personal legend. What helps me keep centered is having a set of core values and long-term vision/perspectives on life.
Glad I was born today and I am watching this video!
" You can't solve a problem you're not willing to have"
"If it's not actionable it's not a problem, it's a circumstance"
"I think the most interesting design problem is your life"
what a burn
We just think, "Alright, you are were ever you are.
Let's start from where you are. You're not late for anything."
Who you are, What you believe, and what you do.
Thank God for the internet.... A kid from The horn of African can get access to such information us tool to build up yourself is massive.... Thank you.... Am be someone in this thing called world....
This was excellent and I couldn't have found it at a better time!! I just graduated a few months ago and I will go for postgrad in a year or two but I was overwhelmed with the idea of choosing which part of biology I want to specialize in further. I will defo follow these steps and ideas as my past plans didn't solve my problem
Glad I'm seeing this at the age of 84.
Thank you so much for making this. You have provided me with structure and clarity I very much needed right now, and didn't think I would get. Thank you so much Bill.