You become what you think about! Most powerful thing I’ve learned when I was homeless at the age of 11! I then became the first division 1 football player ever out of my school, graduated on a full scholarship , and now own a gym in Westchester New York!
It really means that your brain distributes and endorses new learning (behaviors of personality, successful survival strategies), when repeated, throughout all new experiences as predictive memory.
1:35 “How you see yourself is how you act.” 2:28 change your input so you change your output. 3:08 Dress for the job you want, not the one you got. 3:58 Talk less of who I am and was and talk about who you’re gonna be. 5:14 What made a point of no return, a point of no return? Answer was he invested in a position he had to move forward. There was an Identity shift. 9:55 Imagine what is possible and commit. 10:22 “100% is easier then 98% committed.” You are sure, there is no doubt. Get rid of decision fatigue. Stop questioning who you’re gonna be, SEE THEM AND BE THEM.
"100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment" I'm really relate to this because I always feel guilty every single time to do it. I COMMIT TO QUIT DRINKING 100%.
You can do it. It’s really easy once you know how to change your beliefs about drinking-that it’s not the forbidden fruit, it’s just a useless trap. Check out Allen Carr’s Quit Drinking Without Willpower, or The Easy Way to Stop Drinking. You’ll be able to quit in no time at all!
Patience, perseverance, and persistence are coming to win your goals. Yes to you who is reading this. Good things are coming your way, my friend. Sending you good vibes. Now go and visualise
Better than reading 100 self-help books. Decision fatigue is something I've unknowingly struggled with for many years. Now I have a name and a solution for it. Thank you, Ben.
I've known Benjamin since he was born and - he's an epic human. He puts his money where his mouth is and practices what he preaches in every way. And he studies and researches relentlessly because he wants to help people realize their potential. I admit I am a little biased but it's well deserved in this case.
Nice input Barlow. He gets huge props from me for that. Authenticity is everything. Thank you, I’ll look into him and his programs because of this feedback.
@@meganrogers2707 : Wow! Pessimistic, dear! Although there is nothing wrong with self reliance goals in business (in fact, that is a good thing), if she knows Benjamin and is impressed with him, I’m glad she shared that compliment about him. Additionally, I love herbals and am always looking for good organic sources. Click bait for bad products, that’s another story. I also have a nephew who is outstanding like this.
Mental tug-of-war: been struggling with that my whole life, why did I choose to commit 98% when I can commit 100%? Life-changing ted-talk! Thank you so much.
This is so true. I used to worry about my drinking habit years ago, both for my finances and my health. But I realized that I had conditioned myself to obsess over whether to buy wine or not every single time I went to the grocery store. And I always gave in, every time, because I hadn't committed to quitting forever. I was only deliberating about whether to drink that day. That's not a commitment to stopping. It was actually remarkably easy to quit once I decided I was going to stop completely. Thankfully, I wasn't physically addicted. I know that others have much harder times with it so I was lucky. But for me, it really all came down to committing 100%. After 2 weeks of reaffirming my decision every time I went shopping, I stopped thinking about it completely. In the store, at home, after work, out with friends. It doesn't bother me at all to see it or talk about it because I decided it's just not even an option. It really worked.
Amazing how you find these things right when you need them. I grieved for my former self because I knew that person had to go away in order for me to grow. Two months later im 55 lbs lighter with no signs of stopping or slowing down after fully committing to ketogenic one meal per day eating. Moving towards my new self daily. What a powerful message. Pass it on. It can be done. It is possible if you decide to move towards it with conscious fidelity.
I'm doing the same right now too. I like calling what we're doing a lifestyle change, because diets last for a while then usually fail but a lifestyle change is permanent.
been doing keto omad for 7 months and it is just too great to give up... and to think i started "trying it for 30 days and see what happens..." haha, keep up the good work brother
Best Ted Talk ever, Bar none. I'm going to be great at my new job, and I'm going to stop doing drugs forever and be a good father. I'm going to watch this video every morning and night until I become the person I want to be
@@Wreckz_Tea hey man I can relate to you I stuggled for a long time. I’m an addict but I’m great full to be 6 and a half months sober today. Message me if you wanna talk about anything 100% judgement free. You are not alone.
1. Think ahead: Envision yourself how you want to be and commit to that vision. How you see yourself is how you act. Behave according to the circumstances you hope to have. 2. Be 100 percent committed to your goal. This eliminates mental fatigue you go through when u have to make a decision.
Honesty, TED blurring out his shirt was the best advertising he could have hoped for... made us all a lot more curious trying to figure out what it said then I even googled it and ended up finding his course. If it been a clear shirt without blurring I would have NEVER noticed and definitely wouldn’t have stumbled onto his website. Too funny.
I have watched a lot of Ted talks and this one really gave me a "eureka" moment with what he said about the identity thing. If you imagine yourself as the person you want to be then your behaviours change to align with the person you want to be. I have tried changing behaviours before and failed because I hadn't first changed my identity, the way I saw myself. With this knowledge from this talk I now have that chance to become who I want to. Thank you Benjamin. God bless you.
I liked your talk. I grew up in small town. As a result everyone was familiar with me and my family, which was very "ordinary". After my teen years I felt defined by my background and the people who knew me. So, I moved away, far away and redefined myself. I presented myself as who I wanted to be and set ambitious goals for life and achieved them. Looking back, I know now that one's life success or failure can be strongly influenced by those around you, just because they have low expectations of you.
I recently heard someone talk about aligning your goals and values, and that if they are not in sync (e.g. if my goal is to be a successful entrepreneur, but what I value is having 4 hours a day to play video games), then you will have frustration, procrastination, and lack the ability to reach your goals. If instead my goals are in sync with my values (what I would argue are part of my "identity") then I will be able to make progress towards the goals. So I love what Ben is saying here about saying "I am..." and identifying myself as someone whose values are in alignment with my stated goals.
What I learnt from this powerful talk: 1- If you want to make a life changing decision(e.g change of habits), go all in and don't make a decision that would end up making you change your mind to choose another alternative. 2- Like the Speaker's friend(Tom), when you want change in your life,accept and embrace the vision(his friend buying suits of smaller sizes even when he's overweight because he realized the suit was a constant reminder) 3- When making a serious or life changing decision, ask yourself "what would happen if i did this for the rest of my life?"
Thanks sir for comment this Because my english is little poor so that's why i m not able to understand what he is saying 😢 Thank you sir for make me understand what he is trying to tell me 😊 God bless you sir I m from India My Age is 16 now
One of the best Ted Talks on self perception & self improvement I’ve heard. “Once I make a decision I never think about it again” Micheal Jordon. Very powerful !!
This echos several different stages in my life: in my early 20s when I realized I had to stop defining myself through the lens of my family (and stop blaming them for who I was) and become who I wanted to be; in my late 30s when I committed 100% to restarting my education after years of thinking it was too late for me, then getting my BS and MS degrees within 8 years while working full-time; and again at 50 when, in the space of 1 year, I lost my husband of 21 years, moved interstate to take a new job, then was made redundant / laid-off and lost both my car and my house but knew that I was able to pick my self up and start over again. Making the decision is everything.
@@actuallyterry Just celebrated my 66th birthday, retired and very happily living in the English countryside. Don't have to make too many major decisions any more, thank goodness!
This video actually inspired me a lot, I took notes, so I don't forget anything. I just made a decision that i am going to clean the room I currently share with my sibling everyday for the rest of my life. (until i move out, then it will switch to my own future room) I know some people already do this, but I always procrastinate and I gotta start somewhere. Everyone starts somewhere. Hopefully waking up to a clean room everyday will make me feel a little better in the morning so I won't dread over having to clean it later. My goal is to be a self made millionaire. I am currently 15, turning 16 next month -Meadow Scott, 6/10/22 6:22 PM
I get what you're saying, but I think you may have changed your life, the video doesn't make you change anything. You will if you want to. Keep going strong.
SUMMARY: 🌟#1 SELF IMAGE Self image How you see yourself. How you see yourself determines how you act. See yourself, not from your current circumstances, but from the circumstances you hope you have Listen over and over again to a different Output and RE-wire your belief system through REPETITION Your input changes your output. Your outlook changes how you act Listen to things that train you to see yourself differently Bold behavior --> peak experience --> Identity Shift 🌟(4.22) #2 SPEND MONEY ON YOUR GOALS Invest money in your FUTURE identity, not your current one. Tell a story based on the FUTURE, not on the past. Explain yourself based on who you are going to be and where you're going, NOT on who you were, and why you are the way you are. 🌟 #3 THE POINT OF NO RETURN (4.25) Study of Wannabe Entrepreneurs vs Actual Successful Entrepreneurs "Have you ever had a point of no return experience?" A moment where you can't go back to who you were, and you are forced to move forward and shift into a new identity. "A mind stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions" No longer be the person you formerly were. Be the person you want to be, NOW. Because of this identity shift, in 18 months, Tom lost 175 lbs started a successful company, changed his whole life 🌟#4 (7.57) WHY FAD DIETS, 30 DAY DIETS DON'T WORK Changing your behavior has to start with FIRST a changing your identity. When your identity is in CONFLICT with your goals, it does not work. "How you do anything is how you do everything" 🌟#5 100% COMMITMENT IS EASIER THAN 98 % COMMITMENT (8.34) Story of Elco from Amsterdam Struggled with his weight his entire life Always had a story in his head that he will always struggle with his weight and self-destructive behavior He struggled to sleep One night he had a thought come to him: "What would happen if I went back to nature and eat clean?" Then a second thought came to him: "What would happen if I did this for the rest of my life?" From that moment, he saw what was possible. "100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment." If you are only 98% committed, you haven't really made a decision. 🌟#6 DECISION FATIGUE (10.55) When you haven't made a decision, you're not actually clear on what you're going to do. This leads to a tug of war in your mind, when the moment comes and you have to make a decision. This is called DECISION FATIGUE, otherwise known as Willpower You haven't made a choice, and you're not actually sure what you're going to do. Because you're unsure, the situation wins over you. And Social Psychology states that people are the byproduct of their situation. "Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again" - Micheal Jordan Once you make a decision, you have to cut off all alternative options 🌟#7 ASK THIS QUESTION for a PERMANENT SHIFT (12.04) Shift your idenity by asking the question: "What would happen if I did this for the rest of my life?" Not just for 30 days.. Not just for 1 year... But for the rest of my life? "Why would you do something for only for a year? WHat would happen a year from now? What if you just made the decision and no longer have to play a mebtal tug of war for the rest of your life? 🌟#8 WHY WILLPOWER DOESN'T WORK (13.21) An example with the alarm clock. When you haven't made a DECISION that you'll wake up at a certain time, when the alarm goes off you're not really sure what you're going to do. And since the situation always wins if you haven't made the decision, so you'll probably hit the snooze button. Write a list of PROS and CONS "What would happen if I did this for the rest of my life? The biggest PRO is that once you make this decision, you would never have to think about it again. When you WILLPOWER your way through a goal, or set short goals, you are never actually able to let go of the thing you really want to let go of. Once you're able to make a decision on who you want to be for the rest of your life. and once you make that shift by giving it 100% and putting off all other options You will be FREE, and be aligned with who you really want to be, and start doing things you've been putting off for years. 🌟#8 CONFIDENCE Confidence is the byproduct of prior performance Once you start acting confidently and Powerfully, you develop confidence. Confidence than allows you to develop imagination, see a bigger future, and believe in yourself Confidence allows you to be courageous 🌟#9 REFLECT IN YOUR OWN LIFE "What are some of the things YOU have been resisting? What are some of the things YOU have been thinking of doing... that has been on your mind for a long time. You can't do it through willpower. You have to do it through making the Shift to becoming who you want to be.
From now on I'm gonna live by the principals in this video, I gonna be the best version of my self and I'm not gonna stop until I achieve my goals. 100%
Dr. Benjamin Hardy is a brilliant man! 🥳 I recommend his channel to anyone who is into self- development!!! He's inspiring, succinct, and speaks with great clarity! 👍 😇😍
"100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment" - less mental tug and war (decision fatigue) - you haven't made a choice and bc you havent made a choice, the situation wins.
Excellent TEDx!! I changed my personal identity tremendously, however a couple of vices have been holding me back. 100% commitment means making the decision never to have to deal with those issues again!😃⭐️☮️💚
I was thinking about “Why Willpower Doesn’t Work,” and how much this talk also resonates true... then I read the transcript below and put two and two together. Thinking about the changes you made in your lives w adopting children and everything. Bless you and thank God for leading me here today. To those who question me about the above statement, let’s just say that I’m aware of Analytics and have a background in Biology and Psychology - Basically, I’m a very skeptical and questioning, open minded, rational person, but somehow I “know.” This is where faith doesn’t quite make sense but can ring more true than some of the truest proofs.
One of the most powerful ted talks I've ever seen! I have been hesitating about to start my weight-loss jorney for 3 years. And I never used to have obesity, but my mind was bogged into the idea that "i am not enought" which led to gaining weight. Now I truly started to change myself and this video with simple but crutial ideas gives me more energy towards reaching my goals. Mind-changing story has started! Thank you :)
I enjoy TEDx talks and I've been shutting them off half way through lately; however, because of the message and giving credit to so many people, I chose to listen til the end. Excellent job presenting 100% change as a solution to improved circumstances. 👏
I did a Goleman video course a couple of years ago. He interviewed a bunch of successful people in various fields, getting them to agree with him about the characteristics of successful leaders. The psychiatrist that he interviewed caught him off guard by asking, "Do unsuccessful leaders also have those characteristics?" He said he'd like to see a study that compared successful with unsuccessful people. Goleman had only spoken to successful people, so there was no real way to say if those characteristics lead to success. This is typical of modern coaching. Nice stories, but how many try it and fail compared to how many try it and succeed? Are there any characteristics that those that succeed have in common that the failures don't have?
@15:40 "he's no longer stopping/ avoiding the BEHAVIORS that he hates. instead, he's now pursuing the [REVISED] LIFE that he loves." thanks for this, ben. and also tedx for sharing!
I'm getting older and I've discovered this over time but the speakers description and explanation helped to crystalize this for me. I used to agonize over decisions and 2nd guess myself, I no longer do that.
Ok so that is the problem I am struggling with. Decision fatigue. Thank God for this video. By far the most beneficial Ted video i have watched. Thank you 😊
This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing in such a direct and straight forward method that everyone could understand easily. When in doubts, speeches like these make me feel empowered.
just made my shift let’s go, i imagined my successful self saying “you can do it look at me.” “it’s easy bro it’s possible” “it’s all gonna be okay” and in that moment with my eyes closed sitting on my bathroom floor i’ve now become him and ask myself “what would my best self do” “what would he do?”
This explains why my half-arsed efforts at change never work. The lesson I take from this is either give it your all, or don't bother; 'having a go' at something doesn't work. For those obsessing about his T-Shirt, I assume TEDx forbids advertising, but it's plugging Benjamin's 'Accelerated Momentum Program'.
Ok I’m doing a sugar challenge now it’s the only unhealthy food I eat and I want to publish ebooks. I literally wrote out a plan last night for the books. This is so powerful and I thank the universe for putting you in my path to committing to these lifestyle change and goals of mine. I happened onto this searching for music. Just Thank you❤️
Hardy never fails to motivate! He inspires you to be better, he makes improving seem within reach. Although I have to work on that snooze button thing.
I have followed Benjamin for the past year and resonate with his observations and Believe that someone's value of SELF Worth directly relates to their NET Worth, especially as a Wealth & Wellness Coach.
I decided and I can see myself as successful man I ever met. Best decision maker, decipline and consistan in in my life with having healthy lifestyle and happy. Thank you😊
I had this approach when I quit smoking. It worked great. The hardest though is to CONVINCE yourself it is the right choice, after that there is no turning back.
The title is cheesy. Started the video being skeptical. But such title is actually deserved. What a powerful talk! Before finishing the video I wrote down in my journal my first 100% commitment. Starting now.
As wonderful as this talk is, if your identity shift is based on others lives or dreams, it can lead to equal sadness and failure. Be careful with what your idea of happiness is.
The shift -the real progenitor - of everything he is speaking about was identified thousands of years ago and spoken of by those in the know for at least that long, right up until today. Our suffering, unhappiness, despair and dissatisfaction with our experience of existence prompts a shift of and or an awakening of awareness and an the development of unequivocal Honesty ( applied to oneself) that brings about realizations regarding the causes of our condition. The causes of our condition stand out in bold relief. The connection between our condition, approach, and attitude toward life and ourselves becomes glaringly apparent as we realize that how we have lived up until that point is now causing more pain than pleasure. We reach a point where denial and delusion drops away and change follows with very little effort.
I have decided that I will be watching one Ted talk on a daily basis, I don't get enough time to read books apart from my course books. Ted talk gives valuable insights and perspectives about life .
I struggled with being ambitious...I decided to end that addiction one day. And life has been so much better ever since. I no longer had a need to prove myself to anyone anymore.
I did this to myself and I never even noticed. I would never had created my successful company, unless I had received a job, done it, and then not being able to cash out on it without having a company. I forced myself to start my company with the technique mentioned here.
I'm taking his course because I think there is value in what he says. I did note some good insights from this talk, but it would have been more powerful had he varied his examples. Plenty of people who don't struggle with weight still struggle with realizing their goals.
I’ve struggled with self-sabotaging behavior for years. But if I allow my conscious mind to make the correct decision and then commit 100% to it, I found I can defeat the “shadow self” and become who I want to be. I wish I had these tools and strategies to deal with my disorder years ago
Interestingly enough, this concept repeatedly comes up in ancient literature. For example, check out Daniel 1:8. "But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's delicacies..."
Once you start acting confidently, once you start acting powerfully, then you develop confidence, and confidence allows you to have imagination, to see a bigger future , to believe in yourself and last allows you to ve courageous. Thanks! My life changes from now.
Great fighting approach 👍, positive dreams of future definitely keeps people motivated. Another way is to develop stature by being self ethical and rational; avoiding temptation, panicking, arrogance. If you know you are courageous rational person who doesn't accept injustice and also doesn't harm others or take advantage of them, down to earth creative person, then you can develop great stature. This can lead to easy obvious decision making and step by step self progress. Having detachment and not getting driven by others is important too.
Awesome message. I listened from another room so wasn't distracted by the moving blur. Hopefully Tedx decides this wasn't worth their bother. Decide, suicide, herbicide, insecticide...and all the other "cides" are from a word that means "to sever". That is powerful to know. He keeps telling us to cut it off, to stop thinking about it etc. We want to live efficiently and with what is familiar. THIS is what we confront. Words are powerful and the right ones give the right perspective to awaken us to realize what we are up against and what kind of mentality and approach will change our course towards empowerment and confidence. Something we all so much need. Love the message - I needed it!
You become what you think about!
Most powerful thing I’ve learned when I was homeless at the age of 11!
I then became the first division 1 football player ever out of my school, graduated on a full scholarship , and now own a gym in Westchester New York!
Nate Ortiz wow!!!
Good for you, man. You deserve it.
Congratulations brotha!
The struggle is real.
👏👏👏👌👌👍 congratulations brother. thank you for sharing 🙏
"How you do anything is how you do everything." - a little gem almost hidden in the talk
A lot of people said that
Check out Andrew Kirby for videos like this one. You won't regret it
It really means that your brain distributes and endorses new learning (behaviors of personality, successful survival strategies), when repeated, throughout all new experiences as predictive memory.
this is vastly oversimplified. most people are quite different or have vastly different results dependent on context
probably from the Japanese saying;
if yu can serve tea correctly .. yu can do anything correctly
100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment. What a powerful message!
1:35 “How you see yourself is how you act.”
2:28 change your input so you change your output.
3:08 Dress for the job you want, not the one you got.
3:58 Talk less of who I am and was and talk about who you’re gonna be.
5:14 What made a point of no return, a point of no return? Answer was he invested in a position he had to move forward. There was an Identity shift.
9:55 Imagine what is possible and commit.
10:22 “100% is easier then 98% committed.” You are sure, there is no doubt. Get rid of decision fatigue.
Stop questioning who you’re gonna be, SEE THEM AND BE THEM.
Fantastic. Thank you!
"100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment"
I'm really relate to this because I always feel guilty every single time to do it.
I COMMIT TO QUIT DRINKING 100%.
You can do it. It’s really easy once you know how to change your beliefs about drinking-that it’s not the forbidden fruit, it’s just a useless trap. Check out Allen Carr’s Quit Drinking Without Willpower, or The Easy Way to Stop Drinking. You’ll be able to quit in no time at all!
What a beautiful person you are
I hope you've succeeded!
Well? Did you do it?
👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
Patience, perseverance, and persistence are coming to win your goals. Yes to you who is reading this. Good things are coming your way, my friend. Sending you good vibes. Now go and visualise
Better than reading 100 self-help books. Decision fatigue is something I've unknowingly struggled with for many years. Now I have a name and a solution for it. Thank you, Ben.
Update?
Decision fatigue = procrastination
How are your a year later?
@@jaguar4118 how are you a month later?
Same here
I've known Benjamin since he was born and - he's an epic human. He puts his money where his mouth is and practices what he preaches in every way. And he studies and researches relentlessly because he wants to help people realize their potential. I admit I am a little biased but it's well deserved in this case.
Nice input Barlow. He gets huge props from me for that. Authenticity is everything. Thank you, I’ll look into him and his programs because of this feedback.
Thank you for that, that was so nice....
You don't care about Benjamin. You're just trying to drive traffic to your RUclips channel so they watch your videos.
@@meganrogers2707 I’ve seen her comments on other videos of his and she is always supportive - she is his Aunt:)
@@meganrogers2707 : Wow! Pessimistic, dear! Although there is nothing wrong with self reliance goals in business (in fact, that is a good thing), if she knows Benjamin and is impressed with him, I’m glad she shared that compliment about him. Additionally, I love herbals and am always looking for good organic sources. Click bait for bad products, that’s another story. I also have a nephew who is outstanding like this.
Mental tug-of-war: been struggling with that my whole life, why did I choose to commit 98% when I can commit 100%? Life-changing ted-talk! Thank you so much.
“Your input shapes your outlook and your outlook shapes your behavior”
"The nature of addiction is that you can't stop thinking about it"
- Wow, I've never thought to classify it that way. That makes a huge difference!
You ARE what you think about all day long. As you think today, so you ARE tomorrow.
When we realise everything is thought n memory our mind settles
This is so true. I used to worry about my drinking habit years ago, both for my finances and my health. But I realized that I had conditioned myself to obsess over whether to buy wine or not every single time I went to the grocery store. And I always gave in, every time, because I hadn't committed to quitting forever. I was only deliberating about whether to drink that day. That's not a commitment to stopping. It was actually remarkably easy to quit once I decided I was going to stop completely. Thankfully, I wasn't physically addicted. I know that others have much harder times with it so I was lucky. But for me, it really all came down to committing 100%. After 2 weeks of reaffirming my decision every time I went shopping, I stopped thinking about it completely. In the store, at home, after work, out with friends. It doesn't bother me at all to see it or talk about it because I decided it's just not even an option. It really worked.
Hey, Then take that same addiction to thinking about what you DO want to acheive, right?
that's the Alan Carr method
Amazing how you find these things right when you need them. I grieved for my former self because I knew that person had to go away in order for me to grow. Two months later im 55 lbs lighter with no signs of stopping or slowing down after fully committing to ketogenic one meal per day eating.
Moving towards my new self daily. What a powerful message. Pass it on. It can be done. It is possible if you decide to move towards it with conscious fidelity.
I'm doing the same right now too. I like calling what we're doing a lifestyle change, because diets last for a while then usually fail but a lifestyle change is permanent.
Well I'd never grieve for my former self to go away, it's doing me no good at all.
been doing keto omad for 7 months and it is just too great to give up... and to think i started "trying it for 30 days and see what happens..." haha, keep up the good work brother
Best Ted Talk ever, Bar none. I'm going to be great at my new job, and I'm going to stop doing drugs forever and be a good father. I'm going to watch this video every morning and night until I become the person I want to be
how are you doing man
We're rooting for you!
@@1999ankur literally failing in every category as of right now
@@Wreckz_Tea YOU can still turn it around!! DECIDE what you want and go for it!! YOU can do it Mike!! xo
@@Wreckz_Tea hey man I can relate to you I stuggled for a long time. I’m an addict but I’m great full to be 6 and a half months sober today. Message me if you wanna talk about anything 100% judgement free. You are not alone.
1. Think ahead:
Envision yourself how you want to be and commit to that vision. How you see yourself is how you act. Behave according to the circumstances you hope to have.
2. Be 100 percent committed to your goal. This eliminates mental fatigue you go through when u have to make a decision.
Honesty, TED blurring out his shirt was the best advertising he could have hoped for... made us all a lot more curious trying to figure out what it said then I even googled it and ended up finding his course. If it been a clear shirt without blurring I would have NEVER noticed and definitely wouldn’t have stumbled onto his website. Too funny.
Please share whats wriitten on his T
@@stanem1253 AMP with a logo, it stands doe accelerated momentum program. It’s a course he runs on his own website for profit.
@@sukie0195 thanks!
It was so distracting lol
@@gavinblower558 it's on the thumbnail too..you'd think they'd use a different one if they really don't want it see
“A mind stretched by a new experience can never go back to its same dimensions." - Oliver Wendell Holmes
thank you
Giuliano Supriano for?
avalanchesoul: expand your consciousness Himalayan snowfall. Haha
Same= Former
That was my favorite as well ❤️
I have watched a lot of Ted talks and this one really gave me a "eureka" moment with what he said about the identity thing. If you imagine yourself as the person you want to be then your behaviours change to align with the person you want to be. I have tried changing behaviours before and failed because I hadn't first changed my identity, the way I saw myself. With this knowledge from this talk I now have that chance to become who I want to. Thank you Benjamin. God bless you.
I liked your talk. I grew up in small town. As a result everyone was familiar with me and my family, which was very "ordinary". After my teen years I felt defined by my background and the people who knew me. So, I moved away, far away and redefined myself. I presented myself as who I wanted to be and set ambitious goals for life and achieved them. Looking back, I know now that one's life success or failure can be strongly influenced by those around you, just because they have low expectations of you.
Have always loved that Oliver Wendell Holmes quote: "The mind stretched by a new experience can never go back to it's former dimensions."
everything but the grammar. "its," not "it's."
I recently heard someone talk about aligning your goals and values, and that if they are not in sync (e.g. if my goal is to be a successful entrepreneur, but what I value is having 4 hours a day to play video games), then you will have frustration, procrastination, and lack the ability to reach your goals. If instead my goals are in sync with my values (what I would argue are part of my "identity") then I will be able to make progress towards the goals. So I love what Ben is saying here about saying "I am..." and identifying myself as someone whose values are in alignment with my stated goals.
TED clearly weren't 100% committed to blurring the t-shirt
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"100 % is easier than 98%." - Wow, beautiful quote.
This guy is the real deal... One of the best talks I’ve watched...
I agree, it makes a lot of good points and gives you direction.
The speech by stephen and him would change many lives
8.12 'Changing your behaviour has to be first a shift in identity.'
In the book atomic habits it mentions this too as a big thing
What I learnt from this powerful talk:
1- If you want to make a life changing decision(e.g change of habits), go all in and don't make a decision that would end up making you change your mind to choose another alternative.
2- Like the Speaker's friend(Tom), when you want change in your life,accept and embrace the vision(his friend buying suits of smaller sizes even when he's overweight because he realized the suit was a constant reminder)
3- When making a serious or life changing decision, ask yourself "what would happen if i did this for the rest of my life?"
Wow
Thanks sir for comment this
Because my english is little poor so that's why i m not able to understand what he is saying 😢
Thank you sir for make me understand what he is trying to tell me 😊
God bless you sir
I m from India
My Age is 16 now
This man looks so bright. I'd love a chat with him, he seems so genuine too
He's looks really genuine, he didn't try to made audience laugh like other TED speakers, just gave useful information without wasting a second.
One of the best Ted Talks on self perception & self improvement I’ve heard.
“Once I make a decision I never think about it again”
Micheal Jordon. Very powerful !!
“Input shapes your outlook and your outlook shapes your behavior.” This is the best advice!
This echos several different stages in my life: in my early 20s when I realized I had to stop defining myself through the lens of my family (and stop blaming them for who I was) and become who I wanted to be; in my late 30s when I committed 100% to restarting my education after years of thinking it was too late for me, then getting my BS and MS degrees within 8 years while working full-time; and again at 50 when, in the space of 1 year, I lost my husband of 21 years, moved interstate to take a new job, then was made redundant / laid-off and lost both my car and my house but knew that I was able to pick my self up and start over again. Making the decision is everything.
Wow. Thats a lot to have gone through. I hope things are going better now.
@@actuallyterry Just celebrated my 66th birthday, retired and very happily living in the English countryside. Don't have to make too many major decisions any more, thank goodness!
It was a tough journey but you proved tougher. Very inspiring.
What a motavational story ! Props to you 👏🏽
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"what would happen if i did this for the rest of my life?" this is such a brilliant question to put out there.
It is and the answer is even better. "You wouldn't have to think about it again". Excellent!
This video actually inspired me a lot, I took notes, so I don't forget anything. I just made a decision that i am going to clean the room I currently share with my sibling everyday for the rest of my life. (until i move out, then it will switch to my own future room) I know some people already do this, but I always procrastinate and I gotta start somewhere. Everyone starts somewhere. Hopefully waking up to a clean room everyday will make me feel a little better in the morning so I won't dread over having to clean it later.
My goal is to be a self made millionaire. I am currently 15, turning 16 next month
-Meadow Scott, 6/10/22 6:22 PM
If I had watched this about 14 months ago, I would not have understood how powerful this speech is.
One of my favorites I come back to every couple years. So moving and motivating, thank you so much Ben.
I've heard quite a few TED and TEDx talks. This one may have changed my life!
I get what you're saying, but I think you may have changed your life, the video doesn't make you change anything. You will if you want to. Keep going strong.
@@INTPnerd Agreed
It's been a month. Any changes so far?
@William Peterson how are you doing? Any progress?
SUMMARY:
🌟#1 SELF IMAGE
Self image How you see yourself. How you see yourself determines how you act.
See yourself, not from your current circumstances, but from the circumstances you hope you have
Listen over and over again to a different Output and RE-wire your belief system through REPETITION
Your input changes your output. Your outlook changes how you act
Listen to things that train you to see yourself differently
Bold behavior --> peak experience --> Identity Shift
🌟(4.22) #2 SPEND MONEY ON YOUR GOALS
Invest money in your FUTURE identity, not your current one.
Tell a story based on the FUTURE, not on the past.
Explain yourself based on who you are going to be and where you're going, NOT on who you were, and why you are the way you are.
🌟 #3 THE POINT OF NO RETURN
(4.25) Study of Wannabe Entrepreneurs vs Actual Successful Entrepreneurs
"Have you ever had a point of no return experience?"
A moment where you can't go back to who you were, and you are forced to move forward and shift into a new identity.
"A mind stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions"
No longer be the person you formerly were. Be the person you want to be, NOW.
Because of this identity shift, in 18 months, Tom lost 175 lbs started a successful company, changed his whole life
🌟#4 (7.57) WHY FAD DIETS, 30 DAY DIETS DON'T WORK
Changing your behavior has to start with FIRST a changing your identity.
When your identity is in CONFLICT with your goals, it does not work.
"How you do anything is how you do everything"
🌟#5 100% COMMITMENT IS EASIER THAN 98 % COMMITMENT
(8.34) Story of Elco from Amsterdam
Struggled with his weight his entire life
Always had a story in his head that he will always struggle with his weight and self-destructive behavior
He struggled to sleep
One night he had a thought come to him:
"What would happen if I went back to nature and eat clean?"
Then a second thought came to him:
"What would happen if I did this for the rest of my life?"
From that moment, he saw what was possible.
"100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment."
If you are only 98% committed, you haven't really made a decision.
🌟#6 DECISION FATIGUE
(10.55) When you haven't made a decision, you're not actually clear on what you're going to do.
This leads to a tug of war in your mind, when the moment comes and you have to make a decision.
This is called DECISION FATIGUE, otherwise known as Willpower
You haven't made a choice, and you're not actually sure what you're going to do.
Because you're unsure, the situation wins over you.
And Social Psychology states that people are the byproduct of their situation.
"Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again" - Micheal Jordan
Once you make a decision, you have to cut off all alternative options
🌟#7 ASK THIS QUESTION for a PERMANENT SHIFT
(12.04) Shift your idenity by asking the question:
"What would happen if I did this for the rest of my life?"
Not just for 30 days.. Not just for 1 year... But for the rest of my life?
"Why would you do something for only for a year? WHat would happen a year from now? What if you just made the decision and no longer have to play a mebtal tug of war for the rest of your life?
🌟#8 WHY WILLPOWER DOESN'T WORK
(13.21) An example with the alarm clock.
When you haven't made a DECISION that you'll wake up at a certain time, when the alarm goes off you're not really sure what you're going to do.
And since the situation always wins if you haven't made the decision, so you'll probably hit the snooze button.
Write a list of PROS and CONS
"What would happen if I did this for the rest of my life?
The biggest PRO is that once you make this decision, you would never have to think about it again.
When you WILLPOWER your way through a goal, or set short goals, you are never actually able to let go of the thing you really want to let go of.
Once you're able to make a decision on who you want to be for the rest of your life. and once you make that shift by giving it 100% and putting off all other options
You will be FREE, and be aligned with who you really want to be, and start doing things you've been putting off for years.
🌟#8 CONFIDENCE
Confidence is the byproduct of prior performance
Once you start acting confidently and Powerfully, you develop confidence.
Confidence than allows you to develop imagination, see a bigger future, and believe in yourself
Confidence allows you to be courageous
🌟#9 REFLECT IN YOUR OWN LIFE
"What are some of the things YOU have been resisting?
What are some of the things YOU have been thinking of doing... that has been on your mind for a long time.
You can't do it through willpower. You have to do it through making the Shift to becoming who you want to be.
Thank you for the effort to make a summary 🍀🙏
@@ozgebayer6652 Most welcome!!
Thank you for the summary!
Thank you for the good summary! Really helpful!
Thank you
This is definitely one of the best talks I've heard.
Agreed. If you listen to and absorb the message...the t-shirt really has no meaning....
Excellent Talk ~ I lost 220 facing my rebellion and lies. FA helped me in NYC. I feel great and yes! My life is so much better. TY ☺
From now on I'm gonna live by the principals in this video, I gonna be the best version of my self and I'm not gonna stop until I achieve my goals.
100%
I was on the same path until I clicked the next video. Then I sat back down and ate more chips.
Dr. Benjamin Hardy is a brilliant man! 🥳 I recommend his channel to anyone who is into self- development!!! He's inspiring, succinct, and speaks with great clarity! 👍 😇😍
"100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment"
- less mental tug and war (decision fatigue) - you haven't made a choice and bc you havent made a choice, the situation wins.
The best advice I received from this man is :-
Once you make the decesion you no longer have to think about it again
*No return experience*
Excellent TEDx!! I changed my personal identity tremendously, however a couple of vices have been holding me back. 100% commitment means making the decision never to have to deal with those issues again!😃⭐️☮️💚
I was thinking about “Why Willpower Doesn’t Work,” and how much this talk also resonates true... then I read the transcript below and put two and two together. Thinking about the changes you made in your lives w adopting children and everything. Bless you and thank God for leading me here today. To those who question me about the above statement, let’s just say that I’m aware of Analytics and have a background in Biology and Psychology - Basically, I’m a very skeptical and questioning, open minded, rational person, but somehow I “know.” This is where faith doesn’t quite make sense but can ring more true than some of the truest proofs.
Brilliant talk. He's so articulate. So many gems. I was writing notes furiously!
One of the most powerful ted talks I've ever seen!
I have been hesitating about to start my weight-loss jorney for 3 years. And I never used to have obesity, but my mind was bogged into the idea that "i am not enought" which led to gaining weight. Now I truly started to change myself and this video with simple but crutial ideas gives me more energy towards reaching my goals. Mind-changing story has started! Thank you :)
This is the best TEDX I have listened too to date! I am forever grateful and forever changed!
WOWOW I’m a teacher in these miserable times and I am trying to fix everything and be perfect and I NEEDED this!!
The info here is life changing... And everyone who is distracted by the t-shirt should commit 100% to focus!!!
I was TOTALLY focused, on the shirt! So much focus.
The shirt has not yet made a decision to be.
Look away! Sheesh
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I enjoy TEDx talks and I've been shutting them off half way through lately; however, because of the message and giving credit to so many people, I chose to listen til the end. Excellent job presenting 100% change as a solution to improved circumstances. 👏
I did a Goleman video course a couple of years ago. He interviewed a bunch of successful people in various fields, getting them to agree with him about the characteristics of successful leaders. The psychiatrist that he interviewed caught him off guard by asking, "Do unsuccessful leaders also have those characteristics?" He said he'd like to see a study that compared successful with unsuccessful people. Goleman had only spoken to successful people, so there was no real way to say if those characteristics lead to success. This is typical of modern coaching. Nice stories, but how many try it and fail compared to how many try it and succeed? Are there any characteristics that those that succeed have in common that the failures don't have?
This comment is gold....
One of the best ted talk I've ever heard.
I really like this guy! His example stories of Tom Hartman, Elko, etc.... resonated with me. Great Ted Talk Sir.✅
One of the best TEDx talks I have ever listened to.
Yes to 100% and getting rid of decision fatigue!
@15:40 "he's no longer stopping/ avoiding the BEHAVIORS that he hates. instead, he's now pursuing the [REVISED] LIFE that he loves."
thanks for this, ben. and also tedx for sharing!
"stopping/avoiding" (reactive) vs "pursuing" (proactive approach).
if reactive doesn't work, try proactive :D
I would LOVE for TEDX to FINALLY start showing clearly us the slides in these videos!!!
This is the best thing I've ever heard!
" 100% commitment is easier than 98%%
By far one of the best TedTalks ever!
Watching this for the first time on a Sunday evening and now I am pumped for the week ahead!
I'm getting older and I've discovered this over time but the speakers description and explanation helped to crystalize this for me. I used to agonize over decisions and 2nd guess myself, I no longer do that.
This TED Talk was a great help to me. It inspired me to run my 1st marathon and make more bold decisions in my life. Thank you Mr. Hardy.
“Only the disciplined ones in life are free.” Eliud Kipchoge
Really is the key..If you don't
have the discipline to stay with your plan..you're done
Ok so that is the problem I am struggling with. Decision fatigue. Thank God for this video. By far the most beneficial Ted video i have watched. Thank you 😊
This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing in such a direct and straight forward method that everyone could understand easily. When in doubts, speeches like these make me feel empowered.
just made my shift let’s go, i imagined my successful self saying “you can do it look at me.” “it’s easy bro it’s possible” “it’s all gonna be okay” and in that moment with my eyes closed sitting on my bathroom floor i’ve now become him and ask myself “what would my best self do” “what would he do?”
Well done, Ben! You're always pushing us to rise to our best self being!
This explains why my half-arsed efforts at change never work. The lesson I take from this is either give it your all, or don't bother; 'having a go' at something doesn't work.
For those obsessing about his T-Shirt, I assume TEDx forbids advertising, but it's plugging Benjamin's 'Accelerated Momentum Program'.
Who else directly came to the comment section to find out about the blurred logo in his T-shirt???
Same here
It's the name of his online program - AMP Accelerated Momentum Program. He's the real deal.
It's his online Program. I participated last year, I benefitted immensely. I truly shifted my identity.
👍🏽😊
So we'll benefit from his content and presentation but won't let his message or brand be seen. Ok.
Ok I’m doing a sugar challenge now it’s the only unhealthy food I eat and I want to publish ebooks. I literally wrote out a plan last night for the books. This is so powerful and I thank the universe for putting you in my path to committing to these lifestyle change and goals of mine. I happened onto this searching for music. Just Thank you❤️
Hardy never fails to motivate! He inspires you to be better, he makes improving seem within reach. Although I have to work on that snooze button thing.
I have followed Benjamin for the past year and resonate with his observations and Believe that someone's value of SELF Worth directly relates to their NET Worth, especially as a Wealth & Wellness Coach.
TED: we should blur his shirt
TED: only 30% of the time...
Too funny!
Ugh, well yeah, they’re not blurring the logo...it’s the brand name 🤦♂️
The shirt reads. Accelerated momentum program. AMP
@@ufcespnfightpass6969 thanks. This bad Blur made me curious.
@joey ramone LOL!
Wow I’ve seen so many Ted x talks but this one is absolutely superb must watch this one so many more times
I think it’s a life changer
This was one of the best TedTalks I’ve heard! This got me really thinking of accomplishing my one year business goal and give it 100% in stead of 98%!
I decided and I can see myself as successful man I ever met. Best decision maker, decipline and consistan in in my life with having healthy lifestyle and happy. Thank you😊
I was lucky enough to be able to attend a lot of these kinds of events and they really helped with my goals!!! Very motivational and inspiring!!!
I had this approach when I quit smoking. It worked great. The hardest though is to CONVINCE yourself it is the right choice, after that there is no turning back.
Great one on 100 % commitment and how much power it has! Love his storytelling
I’ve been at the point of no return for two years but most deeply right now. Perfect timing.
It's definitely one the best TED talks I ever watched. Very inspiring.
The title is cheesy. Started the video being skeptical. But such title is actually deserved. What a powerful talk!
Before finishing the video I wrote down in my journal my first 100% commitment. Starting now.
As wonderful as this talk is, if your identity shift is based on others lives or dreams, it can lead to equal sadness and failure. Be careful with what your idea of happiness is.
The shift -the real progenitor - of everything he is speaking about was identified thousands of years ago and spoken of by those in the know for at least that long, right up until today. Our suffering, unhappiness, despair and dissatisfaction with our experience of existence prompts a shift of and or an awakening of awareness and an the development of unequivocal Honesty ( applied to oneself) that brings about realizations regarding the causes of our condition. The causes of our condition stand out in bold relief. The connection between our condition, approach, and attitude toward life and ourselves becomes glaringly apparent as we realize that how we have lived up until that point is now causing more pain than pleasure. We reach a point where denial and delusion drops away and change follows with very little effort.
"You can't do it through willpower, you have to do it through who you're gonna be."
I have decided that I will be watching one Ted talk on a daily basis, I don't get enough time to read books apart from my course books. Ted talk gives valuable insights and perspectives about life .
Crazy how the story we tell ourselves becomes our reality. Luckily most of us can change that, sadly most don't.
The story we tell ourselves IS our reality. This fact cannot be changed.
I struggled with being ambitious...I decided to end that addiction one day. And life has been so much better ever since. I no longer had a need to prove myself to anyone anymore.
This talk may well have just changed my life...
Smokeysoul1 yeah I hear you
Your input shapes your outlook, and your outlook shapes your behaviour
I did this to myself and I never even noticed.
I would never had created my successful company, unless I had received a job, done it, and then not being able to cash out on it without having a company. I forced myself to start my company with the technique mentioned here.
يوم من الايام هقف على هذا المنصه واحكى قصة نجاحى 💙🙏 TEDx
I'm taking his course because I think there is value in what he says. I did note some good insights from this talk, but it would have been more powerful had he varied his examples. Plenty of people who don't struggle with weight still struggle with realizing their goals.
I’ve struggled with self-sabotaging behavior for years. But if I allow my conscious mind to make the correct decision and then commit 100% to it, I found I can defeat the “shadow self” and become who I want to be. I wish I had these tools and strategies to deal with my disorder years ago
Interestingly enough, this concept repeatedly comes up in ancient literature. For example, check out Daniel 1:8. "But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's delicacies..."
Once you start acting confidently, once you start acting powerfully, then you develop confidence, and confidence allows you to have imagination, to see a bigger future , to believe in yourself and last allows you to ve courageous. Thanks! My life changes from now.
Great fighting approach 👍, positive dreams of future definitely keeps people motivated.
Another way is to develop stature by being self ethical and rational; avoiding temptation, panicking, arrogance.
If you know you are courageous rational person who doesn't accept injustice and also doesn't harm others or take advantage of them, down to earth creative person, then you can develop great stature. This can lead to easy obvious decision making and step by step self progress. Having detachment and not getting driven by others is important too.
The story we tell ourselves can shackle us or open a whole lot of potential. Good stuff
Very inspiring talk. I can see the value in re-framing one's mind to extend themselves beyond their capacity.
Awesome message. I listened from another room so wasn't distracted by the moving blur. Hopefully Tedx decides this wasn't worth their bother.
Decide, suicide, herbicide, insecticide...and all the other "cides" are from a word that means "to sever". That is powerful to know. He keeps telling us to cut it off, to stop thinking about it etc. We want to live efficiently and with what is familiar. THIS is what we confront. Words are powerful and the right ones give the right perspective to awaken us to realize what we are up against and what kind of mentality and approach will change our course towards empowerment and confidence. Something we all so much need. Love the message - I needed it!