Father Knows: Not Giving Up || Father Knows Something Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 16 янв 2023
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This weeks episode has Justin and Jerry discussing write-ins from some people who are considering giving up. There is a wide range of stories from whether or not to keep a friendship or relationship to wondering if they should continue their degree.
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The story with the jealous friend.. OP is sweet to ask what she could do better, but the friend isn’t a friend at all. At least not anymore. Jealousy brings out the worst in people. Unfortunately no one can fix that other than her. This is not OP’s problem at all. OP, you deserve better. Don’t let this “friend” bring you down. Getting rid of negativity does wonders and unfortunately the friendship you once had might be in the past. It’s still hard to come to terms with that for me with my high school best friend. It still hurts.
Hey y'all. I just wanted to suggest looking into Better Help. There have been some serious issues with the program and lots of creators/influencers have cut ties. There are lots of videos here on YT showing how horrible they actually are.
I agree. A good video to look up & watch is "Why are RUclipsrs STILL supporting Better Help?"
I feel like there’s a ton of comments about this every video and they never acknowledge it so they might be under a year contract or something
I had some of the worst experiences ever with them. They even sent me the wrong medications for someone else with all of their personal information on it once
I agree, I commented a few weeks ago and Jerry said he was looking into it ❤
Unfortunately they may be under a legal contract of advertising and may not physically be able to cut ties etc. they’re awful and the woman I had joked about my SA… I then changed therapist and the man I had called me a Sp*z and sp*ztic etc. I have movement disorders like spasms and seizures. He literally sat mocking me for being disabled for a solid 5 minutes before I cussed him out and hung up. At least they refunded me but fuck… they’re not good.
Story 1: from my personal experience with a chronic condition and school. Take it a day at a time and find a school/program that will work for you. No wrong choices, I am sure your grandma (like mine) wants you healthy and happy.
Having an illness that effects you everyday can be tiring, you will need to adjust to your new life. I know it sucks to look back and realize you cant juggle as much as you use to, but you are making it work to the best of your ability that's all that matters in the end.
Jerry's "I don't know, honey" at 43:16 gave me all of the warmth in my heart I needed for the next year
IDK why I think the little black square is so cute lol. This was a good ep
First story hit me hard. I’m currently on leave of absence due to being severely ill. I have intestinal failure, stomach failure, PoTS (as the OP in story 1), Fibromyalgia, Lower limb paralysis (due to a failed surgery), FND, Seizures, Crohn’s, epilepsy, etc. I’m fully tube fed and maintained through extremely strong pain meds, IV fluids, TPN, etc. I genuinely feel like I’m a failure but I know that I’m severely disabled now and can’t do what I used to be able to. Internally I’m struggling with ableism. I hate my wheelchair (even though I can’t live without it). I just struggle with having all these tubes sticking out of me and want to be a regular 23 year old but that’s not possible anymore. I need to not carry this burden anymore it’s just not the right fit for me. I’m getting married next year and I feel like it’s a brilliant time to let go. It’s okay for me to change my perspective, I have to.
I just feel like I’m trying to climb out of a 100ft well with a 10ft ladder and I’m crying just writing this comment. My fiancé supports me and wants me to leave. It’s so hard going from being best in the class to failing. I relate to OP on a serious level and I wish I could chat 121 with someone like that to make me feel less alone. X
I still get 2 years and a 2/3 bachelors degree. It’s just hard when I’m on my final year. X
My heart goes out to you. Please take good care of yourself and do what works for you to have the happiest life. 🤍
Story 1: 2:30
Story 2: 15:30
Story 3: 24:20
Story 4: 33:15
Story 5: 40:50
I got a knot in my gut listening to the first story, because it sounds, almost word for word, like my story.
I got into college at 17, studying biochemistry. Hated it; next year moved to Biology.
I then spent almost 6 years trying to make Biology work... My parents were paying for everything and I just kept getting sicker and sicked and deeper into depression. I took a year off when I started having panic attacks every time I even tried to open a textbook to study.
I worked for a bit, went to the gym, tried to get distracted and numb myself to avoid thinking about stuff.
When I started dating my bf and moved back into the college town I was b4, and tried getting back into the course, since I only needed roughly 3 semesters to finish it. It started happening again... My body was regecting it fully and I was hopeless... I felt like I was useless and I hit an all time low. I was suicidal, and casually hoped to get into an accident so it wouldn't be my fault I made my bf and family grieve my loss...
My bf pushed me to get therapy and it changed me. It saved me.
Got diagnosed with depression, anxiety, ADHD, and got a hint that I could also have ASD, but not formally diagnosed. I also got diagnosed with severe IBS and an immunodeficiency (different from POTS, but it still affects basically every aspect of my life in one way or another).
My therapist helped me figure out what I could do professionally and I ended up re-applying and getting into a Design degree.
At first I struggled to come to terms with "tossing out" 6 years of college time in another degree to completely change field and start again, and ask my parents for even more money. But then I realised that a lot of it was not lost at all.
The maturity I gained for studying in college was a major advantage with the learning process. I had thicker skin.
I use a lot of my bio knowledge applied in arts and design, something that is rare and very valued. I allowed me to innovate and find unnexpected solutions to course projects.
Since I am older, more mature, and have a diverse pool of knowledge from my path, my teachers and peers appreciate my input in projects and value my opinion.
I am also much happier doing this than b4. I realised a couple months ago that I was the happiest I have ever been, maybe, in my entire life. Not because I was "being productive" but because I allowed myself to enjoy the things I was doing while achieving a meaningfull goal.
I also, over the course of the years and a lot of therapy, learned to forgive myself and "be selfish" with my choices. Yes, my parents invested a lot in me, but if I had continued in that path I would have gotten sicker and more mentally ill and closer to suicide. I'm 100% sure my parents would prefer a major career change over a child who died... So if death is back to 0.... Let's go back to 0.1, what's the loss in that?
(It sounds dramatic but depression does some shit to your brain XD)
My physical health is also getting under control. With better mental health I had more motivation and energy to put into daily routines to help with my body. It also directly improved due to less anxiety - cortisol and inflamation and, even though some days are still very hard, my gut health is now more under control than ever.
I have also allowed myself to not work for school at all and rest when I don't feel like I can work. This sounds simple, but it's pretty common for ADHD adults to excel academically when younger and then completelly crash and burnout as adults.
I almost never stay up late to work.
If I want to just play videogames or do my hobbies, I do.
If I just want to lie on the sofa and scroll tik tok, I do.
And I do this guilt free. Because this to me is self care, and I need it to stay healthy.
College is important, but my body, sanity and peace is more important than anything. And no teacher/peer/society standard can guilt me into regretting this ever again.
OP if you are in this comment section (and had the patience to read my trauma dump XD) just know that your life is yours only. No other person, either by good or bad intentions, can dictate what you do with it. And yeah, it may seem selfish to make changes when someone else is supporting you now, but if you allow yourself to grow in a place where you 1. enjoy what you do and 2. stay healthy, the outcome is more than likelly going to be something that you can be proud of, even on the days where you just don't have the energy to dedicate to it.
I recommend reading a bit on the japanese philosophy of Ikigai, it healped me immensely to make difficult choices regarding my carreer and life. (I'm not usually very ideological with anything, but this one was helpfull to apply to my life, so maybe a short read on it can be of value).
I feel the grief you have of letting go of things you thought you could do and no longer can because of your health. It's very real and it is a grief process. It's ok. Feel what you need to feel and have no shame.
Chronic illness is hard and carrying it is like going on a hike with friends but your backpack is twice as heavy as everyone. It's no shame to take a little more time to get to the same place. And when you do keep up with people, not only is it something to take pride in, but you have also become stronger, possibly stronger than anyone around you, even though they probably won't notice, because their backpacks are much lighter.
Be kind to yourself and just know that your story and path is not only valid and important, but also not abnormal in the world.
The biggest of digital hugs to you OP and anyone who relates.
You are not alone.
You are valid.
❤
The first story hit me hard. I failed at a university ten years ago, and I haven't had the guts to go back. But now I think it might do it.
Please do! I felt the same and now that I have finished my Associates, finally, I am mad at myself for waiting so long. It made me feel so much more confident! Good luck and Enjoy!!
If you can, go back bc you won't regret it; even if you don't succeed, you will have given it a second chance and given it your best. Proud of you for considering going back, lovely stranger :)
My mom failed to get into her dream uni 30 years ago. She studied a lot last year and got in. She's there right now actually. Don't give up 🥰
Yes I think she will regret it if she doesn't! And I hope OP sees this but they should look into getting a service animal for POTS it's helped alot of people adjust
Or don't. I didn't and ended up great
Second story- Oh my gosh. I felt like I was listening to a young version of myself. I’ve been in that place with the older mentor figure I was totally in love with more than once. And I always used to wish I had a lesbian big sister to go to for guidance. Because if I could go back in time I’d be advising my own younger self to cool it a bit. And to not tell her.
I was also the type who felt SO strongly and couldn’t push it away and somehow thought I absolutely had to tell her. Even though she was older and married and probably straight. It seemed like there was no way I could not say something and I had to unburden myself or let her know just how wonderful she was in my eyes.
I might be projecting but was getting a feeling the writer might be thinking that too. Don’t tell her if that’s your reason. It won’t make things stop hurting. And there’s a good chance you’re going to hurt worse when she pushes you away and you mess up the friendship and supportive relationship you do have. And really what do you expect? I had the two women it happened with me not entirely push me away at first. They cared about me though made it clear not in that way. But things just got awkward after that and it hurts because now it’s not like it was… basically there’s next to no way you don’t end up hurt in the end. And you can’t alleviate the pain you’re already feeling from the unrequited love by confessing. It sucks and it’s gonna suck on some level no matter what. But don’t make your pain worse.
I also feel like I ended up causing her pain and creating a lot of messiness (especially at the place we had originally met and interacted most at. The church piece of your story is going to get real awkward.) Thats probably the biggest reason why I always wished I’d had that “lesbian big sister” and what I’d have wanted her to tell me.
Unrequited love sucks especially when it’s with someone who means so much to you in other ways too and it’s gonna hurt, that’s just the way it is. I don’t know that the writer needs to step away- I know I never felt like I could- but I would recommend getting active in lgbt groups or even trying dating apps. There’s kind of an additional loneliness I think, when you’re newly out and so into someone you can’t have. Especially since she’s been such a supporter and ally but this is where being around other queer people will be good. And you’ll meet someone else when you’re ready.
Sorry for such a longwinded response. This one just hit really close to home for me.
Hi I’m the one who wrote in that second story and you were right on the money… and I had decided to not tell her but a bunch of stuff happened and I’m going to send an update if you would like to keep listening and listen for it
Do not ask her to be in the bridal party. As someone in a similar situation without being aware of the jealousy going in, the weight of it is not worth it. Undoing the invite was more difficult. Ask her to do a reading so she is still involved, but she doesn't have to be a bridesmaid. You could even have her pick a dress that compliments the bridesmaids and make it a special day with you two.
This is already a mental drain on you, and you don't want every choice you make to "need approval" from her, because she will likely want to make all decisions about dresses, hair, shoes, etc. and not be a team player.
This whole team is so consistent and brilliant. Morgan is a genius and I absolutely adore all of you and your opinions. I have learned so much from so many episodes across both channels. Thank you for all you do, there have been episodes that have helped my relationship. We love you!
The story with the jealous best friend: I had a friend like that. There were moments she was giving off red flags even before I met my now husband but it became exacerbated once I met him. She judged how much time I spent with him to ignoring me for days at a time. I realized that that wasn’t a friend I wanted to have at all. It was causing me way more stress than it was worth so I say cut ties. My ex friend’s silence all these years later shows that she was not meant to be in my life. I hope you get clarity. 🫶🏽
Last one. Long term relationship. My brother and his gf were together in middle school. 7th grade and a freshman. After high school, he went to work. Her senior year, they broke up. It was 100% mutual. She wanted to stretch her legs. And he wanted her too. He worked and saved, worked and saved. Almost 2 years later, neither of them found anyone else. They've been together since. Married 25 years. Happily. 2 daughters. It's the real deal.
Very similar with my sister. 8 years, hs sweethearts but add distance (Mexico/US), they broke up and my sister bloomed. She allowed herself to make new friends, found a wonderful partner that gave her light. Either decision OP makes is the right one
That mismatch couple. That is my husband and I except my husband and I both thrive without structure and he has become much more soft and lighthearted since we’ve had a child. We’ve fallen in love a million times over the more we grow together. We’re great communicators these days 😊
Story 1: It can help if you take a few classes. Nine classes a semester is way too much. I failed a math class at a university i wanted to do my degree it. I tried for 2 semesters over different years. I moved to community college and smashed the math class. I moved onto another university that fit me better, and I excelled with a high gpa when I graduated. It isn't the end of the road.
Hopefully the first writer checks the comments! Don’t feel any shame in taking a longer break from school! You are 22 and you only have a semester or two left, you have accomplished so much already on top of getting diagnosed with 3 disabilities. You obviously have a lot of strength!
If you have the option to pursue a different career or a different path in school, that you think will make you happier, do it! Take advantage of the privilege of choice! However if even that feels exhausting there is no shame in taking a longer break. It’s is better to heal & deal with your burn out now rather than continuing to push yourself and then burning out even worse and being unable to do anything a few years from now.
If you have a place to live & the resources to survive take advantage of it now! Rest, get to therapy, treat yourself as you would a friend or family member who is burning out. I am 28 and just now deciding to start school after two years on disability and being unable to do the bare minimum in life. I ignored my health and pushed through and then got to a spot where I couldn’t do anything anymore, not even work part time. If I started taking care of my health at 20 or 22 I would be in a very different spot at almost 30. There is no shame in resting & healing. I wish everyone had the privilege to do so. So if you can & want to continue your break & work on your health, DO IT!
agreed to all of this! as a former college advisor: if you only have one semester left, it also doesn't hurt to take an extra semester or two off, explore your visual arts interest, and still finish your degree. a common misconception among people is that they have to have a degree in a specific field in order to break into that field, but a LOT of times, a combination of that skill + a background in another area makes you stand out even more. maybe you can even try to take some classes that would give you specific background and/or skills that'd make you stand out. you've worked really hard, and just because you've changed your mind about your career doesn't mean that your degree wouldn't be helpful, now or in the future.
if you're in the US, most schools offer medical & retroactive withdrawal programs for medical situations, and they've been extra flexible during the last few years. that means that, before you graduate, if you provide the right documentation, they can turn any Fs (and maybe Ds, depending on their policy, and any failure for nonattendance) into Ws. this is a lot easier to explain to prospective employers. if you're using any financial aid, or were doing so during that time (especially merit-based stuff), you may be able to appeal any loss of aid as well. i would speak to your university's advising office *as well as* the registrar. these retroactive withdrawals are usually available for people who experience any unexpected hardship btw - from unexpected loss, to illness, to financial difficulties. take care of yourselves!!
First story really related to my story circa about 7 years ago. I also have POTS, secondary to a genetic connective tissue disorder, EDS. I had debilitating symptoms from puberty on, but my condition worsened and steeply declined at age 20 (thanks to birth control hormones) when I was in my junior year of college at a top university I had a merit scholarship at. I had to take nearly a year off, and I ended up finishing my undergraduate degree online through a different, not-at-all-prestigious school. I was also a very good student, so school not going according to plan hurt my self esteem and identity.
There was a point where I wondered if I should stick to the same degree path or change, but ultimately I decided to finish out my original degree in business. I worked in account management for a couple years, decided I didn’t like the corporate world enough to exist in it for the rest of my life, and am now 1.5 years into my masters to become a therapist (a second career I’d had in mind since I was a teen). Ultimately, I’m glad I finished out my initial degree. The information I learned was valuable, and that accomplishment in a time in my life where I was bed-bound and severely ill was so rewarding. You don’t have to stick to what you get your undergraduate degree in, especially in more liberal-arts-related fields (versus engineering, nursing, etc). I would honestly encourage writer #1 to take the break she needs for her health, finish the degree, and then pursue jobs in whatever field she’s most interested in.
This first story sounds exactly like my life😅 I worked so hard and got into a top college, but after my second year I got ADHD, lupus, pots, and other diagnoses after taking medical leave. I GRIEVED and I grieved really hard. I was planning to go to med school, but similarly my love for music grew and that’s what I’m pursuing now! I did graduate from that school but with a degree that was more manageable and I’m honestly happier than I’ve ever been
The couple who are "opposites", in my opinion and experience, have a good advantage. And I want to also acknowledge that my opinion isn't just about romantic relationships, it's fully about loving relationships in general. I think it's important to be compatible definitely. Compatible doesn't always mean "similar" in a surface kind of way imo though... compatibility means, more often than not, that you can lean on and trust that that person will be there through the good, the bad, the uncertainty... all while they feel the same way about you. It's feeling safe and loved for being exactly who you are. Not being who you think they want you to be or what you think others expect you to be. The advantage to me is that you're able to expand from each other, rather than molding into something. You learn and you grow from accepting differences (except repeated toxic and abusive behaviors obvi). You get to know that you can be who you are and they will love you for that. There's no fixing, there's no facade, there's no pretending. Because seriously...how friggin exhausting. It's a lot easier to be true to yourself and find someone who will be there with you exactly as you are and exactly as they are. To me, why would you want anything different than that? This definitely isn't always black and white too, there's many many many grey areas, but it's generally how I feel about loving someone.
I actually really needed this topic right now
My husband of 12 years and I are very opposite. We also had vastly different upbringings and with our own kids we find we are very yin and yang. We communicate, acknowledge that we both of the same goal of raising healthy adults, and we comprise, ending up with a very balanced parenting approach. Now our kids are 9, 7, and 6, we’ve invited them into the family councils to see the process of having different views, finding a unified goal, and reaching a healthy compromise while also allowing them to share their views.
I thought the full "it's not giving up, it's Going On!" Was spot on
Story #1 is in many ways my story as well. I want to offer the writer some wisdom: All of life is a process. Grieving the path you were on is necessary and healthy. Your life isn't over! Adapting to your new reality will open new doors for you.
I highly suggest getting treatment for all of your conditions. POTS is the main illness that squashed my dream career as well, but with treatment I've been able to pursue new goals. Honor your past, adapt to your present, and look forward to the future. You are smart and self-aware. You got this :)
The last write in: Sounds a lot like my relationship. We are 30 now and have been together 14 years. For us, what was/is in our hearts overrides the logic. We just had to take the leap of faith. Consider couples counseling to talk through some of the big picture things you see for your life if you're not able to get there one on one.
As someone with both POTS and fibromyalgia, who had to drop my career for 1.5 years to get ahold of my health, OP needs to give themself grace and prioritize their well being. I totally understand the fear of disappointing others, and the grieving of your old self/life before chronic illness, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that it’s happening and do what you can to bring peace and stability back in your life. Cut out as much stress as you can, get back to basics (sleep, nutrition, *hydration), and pursue treatments that may help. By experience, I can say that was the only way to improve.
Burn-out combined with chronic illnesses is an impending disaster. These (and many more) conditions will inevitably catch up to you if you are constantly trying to push through the symptoms and carry on like they don’t exist. Everything gets compounded until, as what happened in my situation, it becomes unbearable and you are forced to push pause on everything else.
But there is light on the other side. After taking that time to rest and commit to bettering my health, I am now doing 2-3 days/week in the work I love, have created a schedule that gives me plenty of opportunity to recover from each shift. And I’m continuing to slowly and gently work on my fitness so I can have more strength and better endurance.
I don’t expect to ever be cured, but I’m shooting for well-managed and not doing too shabby so far.
Thank you for sharing Your experience with us. Great advice especially since you love it it’s more than just giving someone advice or showing them that it works. Again thanks so much for your comment
wow such an awesome episode! I related to so much!
For writer #1 (regarding school and illness) I did same thing rushing through junior college getting good grades but struggling to fully comprehend all the material. After i finished my AA i was diagnosed with ADHD and knew that a traditional school setting wasn’t for me. So i sought out an online program that would let me work as fast or as slow as I liked in my classes. This was amazing because i was able to work on school when i felt in the right mental space and wasn’t forcing myself to work on a traditional schooling schedule. For me I am the most productive between 5am and noon so that is when i typically do school. and if i’m not feeling great for a day, week, or weeks i can give myself the space to take that time. my schooling coupled with me being medicated is helping me complete 2 years of school into 2 semesters. if you feel like this would be a good situation for you i recommend looking into Western Governors University (WGU) Im not sure if they have ur major or a major u would be i interested in but its worth a shot! (also super affordable if money is an issue)
Love listening to you at work Jerry, Justin too you're so sweet, I play it at the office and all of my coworkers love listening to you as well ❤
Always excited!
OP from the first story- at a fellow sufferer of POTS, there is hope! At one point I wondered how I would get through school and have a full time career with how sick I felt. With medication, lifestyle changes, etc. all of that has become achievable. Keep fighting and advocating for yourself!
I love your podcast so much I learn so much in each video. ❤
Story 1 hit me hard. Listening to the story made me cry because I kinda know how that feels. I was diagnosed with a chronic illnesses, Rheumatoid arthritis, just a couple days before leaving my country and moving across Europe to get my masters. It was so hard and I straggled a lot and I still do. In Easter break I went back home and I got diagnosed also with fibromyalgia. This past year felt like hell. I had classes every day for 8 hours straight. But here I am on the bus going to the airport and back home after finishing my masters.
I am saying that because nothing is impossible. You can do whatever you put your mind to.
Talk with your grandma, tell her how you feel and what are your thoughts. Also talk with a therapist, I am sure talking to someone else will help. I am also going to talk with one as soon as I get into my routine of being back home.
If you want to give up on uni do it. But only if that is going to help you. Take as much time off as you can and think about everything. I know how it feels to be desperate and wanting to give up on everything. I am so sorry you are going through this.
I hope we can hear an update from you soon.
If you need anyone to talk to I am here for you.
From one spoonie to another, I wish you luck. ❤
The friend one hit home. My best friend of over 15 years ended our friendship over text the day after Christmas in 2020. She put it all on me. We live 4 hours away and it was always on me to visit. I even traveled to surprise her for her birthday while 5 months pregnant and ended up with pneumonia and all she said was sorry. She never came to visit me and always wanted me to respond to texts right away. I have 6 kids and she has 1. While in the moment it was hard and it took me a long time to grieve, I see now that our relationship was unhealthy and one sided. I’m better off.
I wish I could tell the OP of the first story to check out some of the translated writings of Lao Tzu. Learning to go with the flow, and move with life instead of against it, it’s so helpful and healing. Life is crazy and overwhelming sometimes, and all we can do is keep going
I'm 32 and found out I was autistic last year. Soooo since I was masking my entire life I went into autistic burn out and once that happens you can't do the same things you use too and now that I know I'm autistic I am learning to u mask and that causes you to also not be at the same level as before even though I've always been autistic my brain was in fight or flight and I was high masking so it makes sense that the first writer talked about not being able to be at the same level as before I also have adhd and pots is super hard so I can only imagine having all three would be hard
can’t wait to hear this and see if I can take anything from it.. or maybe it will be here lets see
Perfect title & timing 👌 I'm getting ready to eat some Chick-fil-A just sat down got on RUclips seen this right on top of my feed.. yay.. I get to eat & enjoy this podcast. 🥰❤️ with that being said Thank you for the content y'all
Hi guys! I love your podcast 😊
The first story… you are going to have to learn to live with it. Find another doctor to get a second opinion. Anxiety can cause similar symptoms. You always had ADHD and Autism. You still did fantastic with your work. You state you’re non-binary. You did a lot of self reflection on who you are and discovered what’s wrong with your health. Health anxiety sucks. I encourage you to get better. I have ADHD and sensory processing disorder and an autoimmune disease which leaves me fatigued and pretty severe ptsd which is super fun. Went through college and got a bachelors with two young kids at home plus I worked. The mind is a powerful thing. You’ll be amazed at what you can overcome. You got this. Look at it from another angle. Push through. And the workload of a 4 year school is a lot more than a community college. That was a shock to me. That’s what I did.
The story about the friend…
I disagree with Jerry, that is a relationship him and his friend are comfortable having and that’s great. I personally require a more intimate relationship as it sounds like the person writing in does as well. What I’ve learned in my life is some people have different expectations and if the other person can’t honor those expectations than it’s not going to work. She didn’t say anything rude or hurtful so if that friend actually cared and wanted op to be in her life she should have said “omg I had no idea you were feeling a disconnect, what can we do to fix that?”
I’m so horrified to end up like the first story, all throughout my life I’ve been told that going on your own timeline isn’t possible, and that you need to go as fast as possible…but maybe my own timeline is just dandy.
The bad friend story... she is so jealous of you and your relationship. As a march 2023 bride with major family issues - do not have her in your bridal party. She will ruin the day and make her mood known and it will spoil that part of the experience. Only have the closest people to you in your party.
The story dealing with the friend and the fiancé… I really wonder if the friend is in love with OP
I almost wrote in with a story identical to the first. different chronic illnesses and with dental school but other than that it’s exactly my situation
First Story: I know you can get a service animal for POTS and it has done wonders to help people adjust
if you're driving down the highway at 80 mph and it starts to rain suddenly, you might slow the car down and that certainly doesn't make you a failure. adjust for the current life conditions 😊
Dude friend breakups are honestly worse than intimate relationship breakups
I’m wearing long Grogu socks 🥰
Can we please stop taking better help sponsors 😅
Please stop doing sponsorships with better help.
Where do I email you at for advice??
The link is in the video description