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Chronically being on youtube kills my soul
And Instagram owns my soul
@@thatnaizy4376delete it man
there with you. deleted on one my phone, next day binged on the laptop.
@@thatnaizy4376 i watch yt for study purpose too but instagram . mostly jokers are out there in reels . so it's been 1 year since i have deleted my account and it helped alot
Then stop. If you want to read something that will make you use YT much less frequently then all you need to know is that you're not missing out on anything. News can be read on Reddit, or any news channels from your country here on YT, and that would only take you for about an hour (or less) to stay up to date with what happened.
You're seriously not missing out on anything.
To fight being terminally online, I've been carrying a small pocket notebook. Whenever I want to check my phone to distract myself, I grab the notebook instead. I write down thoughts and observations, or read what I wrote before. It's great!
That’s a great idea. I’m going to start doing that
Extremely insightful. I'm gonna do it too. But how come you're watching this vid? I'd like to know how do you balance it out?
yoo I'm going to start aswell, things have to have to as simple and accessible as possible
Interesting :) Thanks for sharing that, I might try that too!
I've been doing this for a couple years now. It's helps, a lot. Not an easy habit, surprisingly. I started by using it as a daily, weekly, and monthly planner, and then using the rest of the pages on between for thoughts.
It helps using a NICE pocket notebook. Personally, I use the Traveler's passport sized notebook. It's so perfect. Also helps having a nice pencil. Personally, I use 0.9mm lead mechanical pencils, love me some thicc lead.
Best of luck y'all ✌️
I like how a lot of self improvement RUclips is basically telling people to not just be watching self improvement stuff on RUclips.
i mean it makes total sense though.
Rocket science, eh?
Only the ones that realised the other side of the coin of self help. The shame, guilt, self righteousness and loneliness that it all brings.
Not just that but the fact they get an awful lot of views... Which just proves how necessary they still are to some people anyway
Thank you for talking about this. The internet has become so intense it’s actually alienating. The algorithms are absolutely aggressive, they’re not designed to help, they’re designed to keep people’s attention as long as possible.
I completely agree!
And it’s filled with a bunch of angry people arguing in the comments section all day long
@@garrett3726 massively agree. And that’s shown to you on purpose as well. Most social media platforms connect you with comments and people that will make you angry and reactive because it drives engagement. It’s essentially exploiting us all by putting us in a bad headspace.
True, it being horrendous for everybody. I wish it change in the future
And AI will soon start to make it worse for everybody.
I've reinvented myself multiple times. It is better than getting stale. You do good and much-needed work, though I think you're right about videos and passivity.
@Heluva3I think you’re lost bro
Here's a quote I got from a Chris Williamson (modern wisdom) episode and I think it speaks volumes to what you're saying.
Here is a list of things that are not doing the thing.
“Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Making a to-do list for the thing isn't doing the thing.
Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing.
Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing.
Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing.
Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn't doing the thing.
Fantasising about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing.
Reading this essay isn't doing the thing.
The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing.” - Strangest Loop
Would be awesome if he was brought in for the podcast!
Yeah…this hits so close to home and was sort of hard for me to read. I’ve noticed lately my ways of my procrastinating are obsessing over other mundane things like cleaning or organizing or doing “executive tasks” and keep daydreaming new ideas or putting off the real creative projects I’d like to start. I’m so hooked to my phone and although I try to convince myself that most of my phone usage is me learning new things it’s really just completely hindering me and overloading me with mostly useless information.
:D You're joking, right? Right????
Man this procrastination sucks , it's like evolving into harder to beat forms continuously
I'm 45 and just finishing a 3 year journey to earn my first degree, and start a new career. I have had to overcome many health and family issues that were major roadblocks in my life to get to this point. Despite being "behind" in life due to my circumstances, I feel like now is truly my time to do something really meaningful with my life. I have many ideas for novels and short stories I would love to get published, and am interested in starting a RUclips channel focusing on my health journey and recovery after an organ transplant. I just need to get off my butt and do the work! Thanks for all the great videos and inspiration up to this point, and good luck with your new house and small town life!
Congratulations. I wish you all the best.
Congratulations, wish you nothing but happiness and future success ❤
This is real. RUclips helped me quit drinking and drugs. I feel blessed that we have such easy-to-access self-improvement videos and content. But I noticed that I became stagnant. I stopped those habits, but moving forward with new ones took me forever. That is the key: consume the content and then create your life. Great video.
Everyone needed this reminder. Everyone will need this reminder again. Thank you.
True, sometimes such small advice help alot people, becuse internet is really making us staying all day long. We need to do a exercise/go for a walk or go with friends outiside for time to time
New house tour ASAP once you get all settled in !!!! looks awesome!
People are lost, they need purpose and contentment to actually work. This is the truth that everyone needs to know that purpose is what you are lacking. Find a purpose and it will fill you and you will be able to actually work and get into action.
Tips and advices are not going to help if you don't have a purpose, do's and don't's and instructions will not help if you lack a purpose.
And how does one find their purpose?
@@gibwolf8515 I was watching a video from Sadhguru and he said that if you boil down what people want is basically pleasantness within and around themselves. So that's a goal you might wrap your head around. How do you create that? I guess you start with making sure your mind is healthy and after that you might wanna make others feel a little better being kind, patient, positive, encouraging and just listening to them with attention. That's something already, after that you might wanna look for something else that suits your skills and interests.
@@gibwolf8515 I will assume that you look what actually makes you feel like you wanna live this life. What gives you meaning and contentment. What makes life in your eyes worth to live.
I'm pretty sure that there are certain moments in your life where you were invested in something and it gave you purpose and meaning, try to join the dots of those moments, Maybe these moments are the meanings of life that you are meant to live for. You will make a hole overview out of it, and then just stick to it.
Personally I find my purpose through religion. I'm a Muslim so I have a holistic overview of the world and I wake up everyday with a goal set and a purpose that ive received within my religion and it always gave me happiness and meaning and kept it moving and pushed me to work and get into life in real invest.
But I still think that people can find their own purpose too in other ways.
but please look for it, living without a purpose and a meaning means slowly killing yourself and putting yourself into a mental health crisis. I would say that the biggest cure against mental health issues like depression is an actual purpose to live by.
@@gibwolf8515IMHO, I think we need to know our origin as a good foundation on which to search for our purpose. Wouldn’t you agree?
@@MetalCrullThat seems right, to address ourselves first, before introducing ourselves to each other 😊
dude even if you dont upload a lot. i always find myself coming back to you for advice. thank you for all you do. (And also a thank you from my friend ^^)
i started taking a daily walk around my block and I learned a lot of life lessons by just walking. One of them is: Get out in nature if you feel isolated, restless and/or worthless!!!!
Yeah just going for a little walk every day really changed my life. Really helps to clear the mind. Very happy for you to have discovered this!
I've been following your suggestion of stepping outside first thing in the morning, light stretch, feeling the air on my sin, listening, being thankful for a new day and a fresh start.. Absolutely love it; it's been about 2 months now. Walking helps clear my head, too. Speaking of which... time to put the phone down... I appreciate you.
This is pretty much exactly what’s been going through my mind lately and I even made a mental note of this today. My new ways of my procrastinating have taken a slightly more socially acceptable turn; obsessing over other mundane things like cleaning or organizing or doing “executive tasks, always ruminating and feeling overwhelmed almost 24/7 how much needs to be done, keep daydreaming new ideas or putting off the real creative projects I’d like to start. I have so many ideas and interests, it’s hard to stay on one task or focus on one thing. I think I’ve created this mental block where I convince myself that doing anything else outside of my comfort zone is a “waste of time”. I’m so hooked to my phone and although I try to convince myself that most of my phone usage is me learning new things, researching, etc it’s really just completely hindering me and overloading me with mostly useless information. I end up feeling burnt out and completely scattered and the only thing I feel capable of doing at that point is doomscrolling. Then the cycle continues. I’ve been telling myself I need better habits for months and I’ve felt stuck for awhile. I think this is my sign I need to get a solid grip before my life truly passes me by. The reality is, there will never be enough time for other pursuits if you dont make enough time for it or truly prioritize it. The scarier it is the more intimidating it is to just start somewhere. I don’t need anymore tools or advice, I just need to show up for myself.
I can totally relate - but where to start when too many differnent things and interests are on one's mind?
A couple years ago, you made a video about how to stop procrastinating. The first (?) suggestion you gave was to eat the frog, and that has resonated me so consistently ever since that moment. Sometimes all it takes is someone saying the same thing you've always known in the right way to get yourself off your butt and actually do it. That same exact day, i decided I wanted a TV in my room so I could play my Switch at night without disturbing anyone. I started the long process of cleaning my entire room. It had been building up in crap for over 10 years, and i could only access my bed through the path i carved through the knee high piles of old papers, old toys, and literal, actual trash. I was raised in a home where this was normal, so i never thought anything of it. Roughly two years later, i have my own computer, half of my closet is dedicated to my new hobby of painting, and I am doing everything I can to get my entire family to start the process of making the house better. It really does only start when it starts, and while i recognize that your words kicked my ass into gear, it wasn't because they were some unforeseen truth of the universe, it was because they were the truth I had always known.
I used to get sick every week on Mondays for about 3 months. My dumbass started noticing the pattern too late.
You see every sunday I went to the beach and swam.
Sure enough when I checked online, the beach contained half of the city's shit.
Most beaches do lol don’t trust government and pool water chlorine causes cancer and health problems
Find a new sport
Poop tolerance maxxed out
But where's the other half..
Hahahah swimming in shit!!! Get plumped heheeeeeeee :D
This guy has singlehandedly changed my perspective about life ✨️ Thank u 🤴💖
I am dead from inside. I am just spending my days in autopilot.
Spend past 6 years working hard, opening businesses, persuing love, working on myself--} All failed. Now I am just a zombie.
Same
Don't say you have failed,you have learned😊
I don't think that's the right way of looking at it. It sounds like you've gone out of your comfort zone on many occasions over these past 6 years and done things that have truly challenged you. Despite the fact you may not have gotten what you wanted out of these things, I'm sure that you're a much wiser, experienced person because you've taken these risks
Lets Try again
Same dude. What's the way forward?
Love the new house! A buddy of mine bought a similar one and had trouble with woodpeckers tearing up the pillars on the porch. He had to have them replaced twice before getting them covered with vinyl. Just a friendly tip. :)
Radical gratitude is what keeps me present, grateful (duh) and moving forward. There’s a quote (I forget by whom): “I’ve made myself rich by making my wants few.” I feel that’s a good expression on what gratitude does for oneself. Being grateful for every breath, for all my senses, for the clothes I have and the space I occupy keeps me centered, especially when I notice I’m not. I hope this helps someone!
Loved this, I recommend watching DrK's breakdown of something similar where he describes how we change, in a titled "I Watch Your Videos But Never Change My Life". When we just over consume and don't spend time to reflect on what we just consumed, the next video starts to overwrite the previous one, he described it as chain watching. The act of reflecting is the action we can take while technically doing 'nothing', however the behavior change happens only after this, not before.
Being chronically online definitely is the worst thing to happen personally in my lifetime, completely eliminating the 'need' to find relationships in real life. Now that I'm trying to flip it around on it's head, it's a lot more uphill than I realized. I decided to join a run club recently to just get out and meet new people and experiences, and it's been SO refreshing to just connect with others in person. Thanks for your videos :)
So happy that you’re back! Great advice as always. Take all the time you need to heal and settle into your new home and life, you deserve to be well and happy. ☺️ much love from Montreal ✨
Your new home is beautiful. I needed this today. Thanks.
Thank you for this, I have been stuck on another loop of consuming & finding new information when I haven't even implemented the previous ideas & information I thought was already good for me to apply in real life. I've been over preparing, planning, just doing "busy wory" while avoiding the actual thing that I have to do. So, today I will break this loop. Thank you again, it feels like everytime I'm on a rut your videos pop up in my feed at the exact moment for me to see.
So sorry you and your family have been ill. Your posts are great, and your new home looks awesome. all the best!
Joey, I'm so glad you spoke about this. I was thinking the exact same thing last week.
I am looking for a job and I'm moving provinces. I have a lot to do and I have me, myself & I to help me with everything!
When I sit on my phone for 3 hours, I panic because I'm not doing the things I need to get done. Then I get anxious, the overwhelm hits me, then it's analysis paralysis.
Literally 5 minutes into sending out resumes, packing a box, going for a power walk or doing strength training....I feel completely different!
I feel like I'm getting ahead. I'm accomplishing things that I need to get done. My head feels awake and clear. I'm being healthy in my mind & body. Bottom line, I am respecting myself and my life.
I am a chronic self-help seeker. Books, videos, articles, podcasts, and the list goes on. This has had me thinking of a very good analogy.
It's like going for Driver's Ed . Yes we sit in class (Is that still done today? 😅) learning theories and everything about driving. But then, we need to do the practical side. Actually getting into the car & driving it.
This is the exact same thing.
A huge amount of changes I have seen in the last 2 - 3 decades in our world are not only frightening; they are dangerous and ruin millions of lives.
We all just need to get up off our a**es, put one foot in front of the other, and do what we can to be healthy in mind & body, create the life we want.....and be there for one another.
That actually IS the reason why we're all here. To help our fellow brother or sister 🙏
glad you and family are feeling better, I also just moved into a house surrounded by trees as well. Chopping wood is a great meditation. So is painting a room. There's so many projects to do and watching your hard work add up to improvements in your home is really satisfying. And I have to leave my house to go to the hardware store 15 times a day, so I'm socializing more too.
Hey Joey! I always find peace in watching your videos, they always seem to come in a timely manner also. (I don't know if that means I'm failing too often, but every time I hit a slump your videos are one of the saving graces to get me back on track.)
Thanks for the content always! I've definitely been online way too much lately.
Thank you for sharing Nectar with us Joey! Very good commentary! Yes, its true, this world ALLWAYS needs more "DOERS", but this is how it allways was. Great reflection!
you've expressed this so well. the core idea that so many self-help gurus are dancing around but don't actually manage to articulate. And congratulations on your new home. For future videos, perhaps some working-meditation around the physical tasks you're doing? (You might enjoy the book Shop Class as Soulcraft).
We are with you brother. Your videos never get boring
Glad to see you back and hope you're all feeling better.
Great video, sometimes I think people are looking for that trigger that makes them want to get up and 'get shit done'. Looking forward to seeing how the house comes along, wishing you all the best and keep the videos coming!
You held me in suspense until 4:35 when you said you weren’t going to stop making videos 😅 really, I’m happy that you’re recovering from illness and getting a fresh start on things. I wish you the best with being MORE in the world.
I agree that we are in general chronically online, and there have been lots of people talking out about the toxicity of “self improvement” culture. It’s easy to get a small sense of accomplishment by consuming the self improvement content rather than actually improving and that can be a bad feedback loop for some. However, stumbling into your videos last fall when I was spiraling in life and watching RUclips chronically was a game changer for me. I didn’t immediately start doing things. I didn’t immediately start producing more than I consume. But each video I watched planted a new seed in my mind for the right ideas to grow. Over the winter I began to apply little bits here and there and my life looks vastly different from before because I gradually compounded my little successes to get where I am. I think this kind of content is exactly what’s needed today. People ARE chronically online, and they NEED to get out into the world and be a doer, but that’s not going to happen if all that hits their feed is cat videos. Your “better ideas” made me think critically about my own life and realize that I wanted it to be different, and it made me realize it COULD be different. I hope you never feel like your work falls on deaf ears or contributes to the chronically online problem because you have definitely been a catalyst for change in my life.
I've actually added yoga, meditation, and reorganizing my house to my daily rituals (I'm 3 days in), so I'm not sitting 95% of the day working on my book. Better late than never.
Your content has been apart of my morning routine. I wake up in the morning, stretch, make a coffee, and listen in on some better ideas. It’s definitely, more than anything, helped me keep myself in a self-improvement mindset throughout my day to day, and has helped me make better decisions for myself each day. Rather than previously when I would aimlessly go through my week on autopilot. Glad your back and doing well. Looking forward to more videos.
Congrats on your move! Looks like a beautiful place. I am moving right now and it’s super stressful. Yoga and breathing are crucial. Your videos are excellent food for thought. You’re right - thoughts without action remain unmanifested, so thank you for the reminder to put knowledge into action. ✌🏽💚🙏
Your videos are awesome joey
The insights, the thoughts you provide are rare to find
Thanks for your videos ❤❤❤❤
Well said Joey. I just got done reading Michael Easter's book - "The Comfort Crisis" and "The Scarcity Brain". It's a really good look at what we can be when we get out and move through time and space. Hope you enjoy your new space!
Congratulations on the new house brother.
We always appreciate your thoughts and positive outlook. God bless
On one of your past videos, you shared the quote "Do the thing and you will have the power." I wrote it down and put it on my wall as a reminder. I appreciate your tips, and point taken!
Appreciate the raw authentic honesty bro, keep calling us out we need to realize we're all susipitable to this digital prison.
First thought that hit my head when you talked about a fragment of cyberspace tickling our brainstem was this: he is ahead of his time. You're a few steps ahead of what is going to be a long, slow decline of the modern mind. We need more like you providing illumination to the harder but better way. Thank you, sir.
Your ideas and perspective have helped me in really big ways. It wasn’t only thanks to your ideas but partially- in the past few years I started going to church again (converted to a new one that was a long time in the making) met my husband there, got married, became infinitely more productive and resolved a lot of nagging personal insufficiencies and about 6 weeks ago I got a personal trainer and work out almost every day to finally take care of my body and resolve insecurities I have struggled with since I was like 14 years old. I realized that not resolving the issues that made me unhappy was the cause of my anxiety and I had to cultivate the skill of discipline. I need to always be on an upward trajectory making progress improving myself in some way even if it is very small and not something anyone else will notice. I do need to spend less time watching RUclips still but I have cut down and am commenting this from a treadmill at the gym, which I have been on for the past 58 minutes. Anyway thanks for continuing to make videos.
Doing it on the treadmill is a great idea!
This is the best self improvement Message ive ever heard. Damn thank you, it's so right. Please never feel pressure with Video frequency. Ive never unsubscribed a Channel because of Lack of fresh content. Only If the content gets bad. Keep It Up, youre great!
Yo. Thanks for the update mate. As a thought to share back. I'm a medical professional who teaches at libraries and other venues. I found myself feeling...pressured. Weighted. Like doing the same work but wearing gloves while typing, or running through water. I'd been teaching topics for awhile and...I'd run out of things I was excited and bursting to teach, and was scrambling to put more together...but over time...I didn't really want to go through all that every single month, with the new weight. I didn't feel I could reteach the same things, but I also was finding it harder, not to invent a new topic, but to get myself to be willing to go through the find-vet-make process. And making it amusing enough for the public, since I am billed as 'the entertaining health doc'. Can't be boring.
Well...I found three things out
1) I COULD rotate in old stuff. 2/3 old, 1/3 new. I just add in new micro topics and we are good. This may not apply to you, but my audience changes over time. Some find me later, some miss things, and the of few who are neither I've had them comment that hearing it again was helpful anyway. It's okay to repeat things. The scriptures of any religion repeat things. So does scientific literature. Take your pick. It's allowed, and it works.
2) This one was big. I needed to swap things up, because *I* wasn't interested enough anymore. You know that "replaceable parts" was a big innovation? Before then, all parts were custom made, and if one broke, you custom made one to fit. In comes replaceable parts. Everything plays well with each other, and you can mix and match. You see...I started to use my presentation research like replaceable parts. I research for the presentation (one use), I record it (two uses), I write my notes in book format with citations, that with a few pictures and tweaks is 85% ready to print (three uses), and I am now trying to make quicksheets as either monographs/health guide handouts/clinic references summarizing Action Points, depending on what kind of topic I'm covering (four uses). And so on.
3) I took a break and had other ways to offer my knowledge/ply my craft. I don't have to rely on my presentations now. I also run a clinic. And have non-entertaining classes (we still have fun, but no pressure to dig up amusing stories and *entertain*) to break up the type of work. I took a month off of the fun-teaching and...I lived. I cut 2.5 of my 7 monthly venues, and shifted focus to making it sustainable. And I'm happy with it right now. If I need a break from one, I'll lean into another. RUclips is an attention engine, but maybe you can find a shift. Also, some RUclipsrs upload once a year (Captain Disillusion, or CG Gray, for example).
I don't know your answer, but for my ADHD self, these were great. Being able to half the new material prep and stabilize it with old material. Deliberately finding how to make the same research/prep work make multiple useful "tools". And to be able to 'run' to another type/area of my work, doing tool-assissted minimums and maybe a break on the one that got stale... all really helped.
Anyhow, this is written as a thank you for your channel, and some raw material on the off chance it helps you, or anyone, finding what works best in your life. My shower thoughts.
Stay solid mate,
Taylor-
PS: Saved in my Advice Given folder so I don't have to write from scratch next time a pre-med student asks about burnout. #2.
it's also important to remember that things change over time, so repeating old material isn't exclusively a negative. It's probably had changes in it over time.
Also on point 2, that's not explicitly true, it's true that a lot of things were custom made, but they were ALSO built to be serviced, a pipe flange between two surfaces? That was designed to be honed down again, repeatedly, it's serviceable material. Not just throw it away, make a new one. If it was completely bunked you would often make a new part, but usually these parts were pretty simple, so it's not like it was incredibly hard.
Relying excessively on self-improvement videos and external resources has become a concern. Instead of taking action, we often seek shortcuts, but the reality is that there are no easy paths to improvement. Progress requires setting goals, devising plans, and executing them. Without taking action, no improvement can occur.
It's been an issue like forever. I remember being in a tough spot in my life in the 2010s, and self help was like an escape for me (until I realized that some nefarious people out there take advantage of people through this).
Thanks for continuing the mission!! Sorry you were so sick. I am happy to have you back and appreciate your insight. True modern day philosopher. Thanks for looking around and creating a different perspective on things considered to be normal. You're one of my favs!!! ❤
Couple of your videos are my go to whenever I feel lost, losing control or picking up old bad habits. A nice little pill that hacks my brain into : ok we got this
I agree. Start by doing small things that you haven't done or rarely do before. Start going outside, cleaning your room. Talking to your neighbor, exercise, limiting watching movies, social media, avoiding porn and getting a lot closer to positive people.
The early bird gets the knowledge 😂
I found your channel a few months ago while in the midst of a very long rut. I was inspired to start implementing some of your tips. It was slow going, and if I'm being honest, through the ebb and flow of my journey I kind of forgot about the channel. The algorithm must have noticed something because your videos are being suggested to me again. I'm happy to say my outlook on life has completely changed. I was a suicidal agoraphobic addict with zero hope of returning to my place in the world for years. But the incremental changes that your content inspired have yielded impossible results. I'm getting out of the house, reading books again, reconnecting with friends, getting control of my health, and in the fall I'm going back to school to study my passion, human nutrition. Thank you for your channel. You deserve all the success you can possibly achieve because you are changing the world.
I love the "default do" mentality! It's always helpful to be reminded to not just learn about the self-improvement things, but to also put them into practice. One of the things I do regularly for my mental health is Wim Hof breathing as well as cold exposure. Those two things propelled me out of depression within five days when I did the Wim Hof expedition in Poland last month. I hope you're enjoying your new home! Love from Texas! 💛
Always appreciated the honesty in your content. Love your message, bro 💪
I have "be a person in the world" on my phone's lock screen, as a reminder to just get out there. Create, not just consume. Move.
New place looks great ❤
Oooohhhhhh.....norovirus is a *beast*. I am so so sorry your whole family came down with it. And then you got it again. And then a move! You have to be absolutely exhausted.
OTOH WTH is with that gorgeous place you have right there??? That is one beautiful home you have! Congratulations! And in the woods! Quiet, private, no people around, right? Sounds like heaven.
Something you said in a past video that still resonates with me is "Inaction is a slow death." I personally try to live that out, but have been stuck by looking for the perfect "Golden nuggets" of information on the internet to propell me forward, and only up till recently I've been implementing action based living. I've been messing up, and learning but I think that's the beauty of the human experience.
You could not post for 5 years, and I would instantly click your new video.
Well that's because by that point you'd be "where the hell has this guy been??" 😄
i am going to stop watching youtube videos for 1.5 years and wish me luck
All the best dude
I highly doubt it. You'll be back.
Start with a month.
Thanks for the idea! My 1 pence is that we gotta be careful of swinging too far either way... I've been signed off work with stress and it's because I've been trying too hard (in work and life) and burned myself out. Everything is a balance..! 🙏🏾
All good wishes to you in your new crib, Joey - sweet dreams! As to my go-to way of safeguarding my mental health, it's this: Get out of bed. Feed and groom the cat. Pick her poops out of the litter box. Feed the birds and fill the birdbath. Back indoors, open the bedroom windows unless it's blowing a gale (yes, even in the winter) strip the bedclothes to expose the bottom sheet, put the pillows out on the balcony to catch the wind, make coffee. Drink, rinse, repeat. Sometimes I do the crossword puzzle online, sometimes not. Eight incredible things before breakfast! :D But wait, there's more! I always have a running list of stuff to do - the laundromat trip, the grocery shopping, the library, the post office (I have a box). Housewifery, cooking, baking, small repairs and fixes around the house. Chatting with the cat. I, too, have an online presence, although it's just my Facebook page. I make all my posts public, however, and try to curate it so it's fun for anyone who drops by to scroll through. There are recipes and food porn, book recommendations and reviews, personal essays, music links and videos, and links to things I think might be of use to others - like your Better Ideas! :D I post lectures by scholars that I find of interest, travelogues, and posts about history, anthropology, art, science, philosophy, and nature. I post photos. I'm your one-stop Facebook shop for all things fun, hopeful, happy, and wise. :D (I'm not wise, but I can take you there.)
Good luck
Saw the Headspace ad coming 8 minutes ago.
Today I used mom's ipad without ads blocker for youtube. I was horrified. Ain't going back to normal yt ever again.
@@peterhel1077 I think it's unethical to use ad blockers. Compared to TV's 10-20 minutes ads, it's mostly a 5 second ad or at worst a 20 second one on YT and a large number of people are making their living from it. It's a convenient way to support other humans trying to do something with their lives. IMO
@L.I.T.H.I.U.M oh guess what. Add-ons also automatically skip all 'let's thank our sponsorship' bits. Sorry, I am not a person with whom morality based arguments will work, only efficiency.
@@peterhel1077 They started working for me when as I started getting older. I think it's pathological that people don't have a value system that allows them to think of things higher than themselves. Then the same people become religious and cause trouble. We need something bigger than ourselves, either it comes in a good way or in a bad way. But you can't avoid it, so better stand for something good like this while you can.
@L.I.T.H.I.U.M sorry I don't see any value adding my precious time for Google profits. RUclips ad revenue was 31 billion last year. If feeding one of the largest corporation is your moral duty, then be it.
Proud to be a fan of yours and watch your videos. Glad you’re taking the steps you need to feel good and recover from what sounds like a crazy few months. Agree with everything you’ve observed and grateful that you’re willing to share these thoughts
Great point. I think “self-improvement videos” can really give you a momentum, inspiration, you couldn’t get otherwise in this world constantly and overwhelmingly distracting your attention from your own creative way. Such video can shake you up, showing that you are a consumer, just like you do in this video but you do it literally. So when you feel that shake in your head - go and create, my friend!
I hope you’re intention in living the small town life has something to do with building relationships and has nothing to do with a romanticization of being alone.
I am faster than Usain Bolt.
You’re limited by human flesh. I am speed.
No, I am! I am far away from Canada!
Maybe in bed
*I am in your walls*
I am slower than Usain bolt
You're incredibly wise. I'm on a similar stage on my journey, so can relate. It was a pleasure to listen to you. Thank you
Woah, hit home for me. Been thinking along these lines for a long time now, but you expressed it in a way that made more sense. Appreciate it man!
I have a feeling this video is about me. I can't be the only one, right..? RIGHT?
Yeah, I think that video was maded for the millions of people suffering for staying all day long wanting to improve but not wanting to do it and staying on the internet. I am myself a bit guilt of that but I am doing my best to change, one exercice and studying at a time
@@a_1973_love_yourself same, I'm in between sets at the gym while typing this :). Doing what I can!
@@umaxii1591That great!! Keep strong and you can go far! Keep thinking of the reward of the Future and don't give up, I know YOU can do this!!!
Things that “stuck” during my growth journey only did so because I did them often enough and they worked for me. It was only years later I discovered to research or theory behind. Your lived experiences are worth so much more than you think
This video is so on point with where I am and feel like in my life right now.
I am struggling for years with this kind of life, where everything I am doing seems to be an abstract thing, happening only somewhere in the digital space and not in front of me.
Although I can and I am working on doing as much things as I can offline, in the real world, and occupy my free time with doing actual and tangible stuff that gives me with a massive sense of fulfilment and accomplishment, what kills me the most is the fact that I am working in an environment where I am not creating anything, I am not manipulating something and transform it into something better - do something real I can see and use - to put it simply.
Please do a video on this topic.
There are millions of people out there really unhappy because of this reason and most of them are not aware of it.
They blame it on a bunch of other things (partner, parents, friends, bosses, life, etc.) but they miss this huge thing that they are just existing out there and struggle because what they're doing everyday is not giving in return any palpable results (yeah, a financial income will not fulfill this need and you all know it already).
I am certain of this because whenever I do a something with a clear purpose that would give me in return a tangible result, I get a huge boost in my mood and motivation, compared to my dull everyday job, where I would just work like souless corpse for doing stuff that simply gets lost in a grand scheme of things (you can call it a database if you wan to).
And I know for a fact that I am not the only struggling with this.
Sublime video, well done. Thanks for your thoughts. I'm glad my brain thought about watching your video whilst thinking about my life. I just got off of a week-long break from work and start back again tomorrow. The brain stem really wants to think its way through optimizing what my life will be like back at work, "default do" is a nice simple phrase to use. I complicate being and you simplified it.
The hardest part is starting!
Good luck on your new house.
I like how the idea of a normal existence has become this oddness to people, man the internet sucks energy from you for real
EARLY GANG
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Very true. I used to watch self-improvement vids a lot. Then I just started walking every day for a couple of weeks. And then added swimming when I had the time. Last week I started eating healthier (less fast food). And this week I even added running. I must say, it truly feels good just *to do*.
Happy for you with your cabin in the woods Joel!
I'm confused, should we continue watching your videos or not?
Hahahaha good one
Wait... you're legit telling me to stop being on the Internet on my phone...but then you're trying to pedal an app?!
Your insights seem to be on par with or dare I might say, influencing my maturity and self-development. I appreciate that you don’t get stuck in ways of thinking, even some that have served you in the past. You keep improving, that’s a fine attribute in a mentor.
You introduced me to the concept of audiobooks while driving and that one habit has been instrumental in shaping my brain. Thanks, Joey.
Thank you. This is something I've struggled with greatly due to health issues. It's so easy to just wait for things to improve, but this passivity is an easy way to escape reality. Got to make the change we want to see. And that sometimes takes a tremendous amount of effort, time and knowledge. Meaning it will probably be a bumpy ride, but it's the only way. And it'll be worth it in the end. One step at a time!
Cool story bro, enjoy that house paid for by all of us mindless consumers.
Thank you! I remember in the 12 step program, a continuing message that would come up was, "Action Is The Magic Word," When I'm lost, that always comes up. Again, thank you for the message.
Funny how at some point in the beginning you were saying you don't know what you will be talking about in the videos and somehow you look back and you feel it's the best presented idea of A little less consuming a little more action. I appreciate how you know our struggles and you name them so precisely and you hit us with the solution. Thank you for being and doing.
started to hit record in Obs 4 months ago, and alot of your past words & videos lead up to the moment where i also started to upload it to RUclips. Without the idea of "just do it" i would prop never had taken the chance. And everyday(im 27) beforehand i lived with the thought of" what if i started and did youtube".
I did't have the best sounds, nor scrips. But simply by just doing it, i got into the habbit of it. Also found out that 99% of ppl was saying nice things in the comments, and not roasting me(as my fear beforehand was)
so, thank you
So true about the environment you were living in. My spouse and I fled the city a few months ago and are now living in a bustling outdoor-culture mid-sized town. I feel 20 years younger again (we're in our 50s)! So much more to do outside and fixing up our new home.
I'm so glad you're coming back! Welcome back. From your perspective, I completely agree with you. Think of it like this: you read books that interest you, akin to walking on a riverbed. You contemplate and pick a rock to drop into the river. The rock you dropped might seem insignificant to you, but for people like me, it helps to cross the river. Please keep adding more rocks; you may not see how it helps others, but there are people using them to cross over. Thank you for what you do. Keep doing what you enjoy.
Glad you're back man! I love watching your videos as i work out
Yes! I've watched your videos on and off for a while now. I appreciate your authenticity!
Hope you’re on the road to physical and mental recovery. Thank you for the ideas and thoughts shared over the years. God bless sir
From the comments BI, glad you are back. Sorry you and your family became so ill, but I appreciate your sharing that info for the obvious reasons. Look forward to your new view point.
Man, I needed this. I kind of know it, but it's so refreshing to hear it from someone else. Thank you!
This is honestly, hands down, the best self-improvement channel out there. It is seriously underrated. Hope you enjoy the new house, and off course, thank you. Your videos is sincerely appreciated
I like this. And one way I’ve been getting myself to stop procrastinating and start doing something (yoga, journaling, physical therapy, etc.) is using Focusmate. I set at least one session before I go to bed to start right when I wake up. It helps me get my day started with things that make me feel good.
I noticed your video yesterday but decided to watch it just now when I remembered you were in a dream of mine last night briefly lol. Thank you for helping me on my journey. I appreciate you!
As someone who has just started writing and creating more, this was encouraging. All the best with the move.
With you man, I am irrelevant as a channel and I still have that fear. I will say your right about living vs being online. It's very much improvemed my life and I spend more time in my house, cooking, crafting and such. =) I hope you feel better and enjoy your new house!!
whatever I do becomes an addiction. whether it's youtube, reddit, facebook or whatever. I can't stop being addicted to stuff. there's no balance.
I have been feeling and thinking these exact same thoughts. We are always consuming and rarely creating... Great video!
Sorry about you and your family getting sick. Congrats on your move btw. Your videos have always been so eye opening and have been helping me a lot my mental health. It often improves by talking to people I like, enjoying nature and listening to music I enjoy.
I love hearing what you have to say, and honestly I come back to your channel to refuel every now and then and it gets me back on track. Enjoy the new space!!
I wrote this in my journal on Sunday: “There is so much information and advice out there. If I just accumulate it all the time and never utilize it, what is the point? I cannot just be on my computer documenting things all the time. I need to be out in the world and trying to reach my goals.”
This video comes as a great reinforcer for me at the perfect time. Thank you for this.