When do we initiate these questions? Or rather statements, like "Im seeking a life partner." If a guy hits on me in Safeway, am I supposed to say "im only looking for a life partner" while Im standing there picking out avocados? 😅 even a guy who has their emotional shit together would run from that. 🤷♀️
As soon as that conversation happens.. they exit. It’s too advanced/forward for most the men on dating apps. But I’m sick of wasting my time. Expose the truth, then we both can move on. Gotta have very thick skin.. 💪
@@staceywood7800💯💯 I haven't done dating apps. That avenue hasnt sounded promising based on comments on line. Meeting them IRL probably isn't easy either though. But I'm a Marxist and in a country full of capitalists, I doubt the apps would be spilling over with commies. 😅😅 maybe I should try Rednote, meet a Chinese communist. 😅 I meet guys thru political activism and that's always a possibility. Marxists aren't any more "self actualized" than capitalists though. But they're less sexist and classist in general.
I would ask what they are looking for on the first coffee or meeting. If they can’t state that they are looking for something more serious then, I’m out.
I love the point that you made about money, Jonathan! Back in the day when somebody was courting you, you went on walks or had tea together or went to the social church picnic. There wasn’t money spending. It’s easy to hide behind money.
@JonathonAslay I just found out yesterday so I'm still in the shock and gobsmacked phase. I am hoping in time, I will heal from what he took from me and I will begin to trust that the right man will come into my life. Thank you again. Katherine
I'm all for the LAT. It suits my personality and I require a lot of space. JA I adore you but you would be emotionally exhausting on @ 24/7 basis😆😉😘big hugs
Met a beautiful ❤️ man (he is Turkish like you) and really fell in love , still love him. Recently saw him in December 24 and he told me we did well for getting to year of knowing each other , however as soon as we are apart , he would become closed off. It's been a relationship of him being hot and cold but I knew he had feelings for me and always wanted me , to the point of telling me I do it for him and he reminisced about how we first met in more recent conversations. But, he recently told me not to ring him again. He closed the door. I respected that. I didn't call. I was hoping my patience would pay off by giving him space like I have before to show him I love him and I was still there for him. I wanted to move our situationship into a long term relationship which I mentioned on more than one occasion. In fact he knew when we met I'm a Christian and this is what I wanted . I left the door open but this last time, he wanted to close the door. Any advice please would be helpful to know your thoughts?
@Ugnele I think I wanted to understand why he kept this pattern. He doesn't want me, you are right. But understanding why helps me to have clarity and learn to avoid this situation again.
You will not get the closure you are looking for. Let him go. Do no contact and close your own doors. You can’t heal and find a better option while he is still in your heart. Dr Phil always says there is only one thing worse than being in a bad relationship and that is staying in it one day longer. Him not wanting you has more to do with him than it does with you.
If a man wants to pay, let him. I wouldn't demand that he pay on a first date. The woman can offer to pay next time. I think you are being a tad too hard on the ladies. It's not black & white. Not all women are the same in this regard.
I always offer to go half on the bill on the first date. [Bring enough cash to do it] If they say no, I say I'll get the tip. If they say no to that, I drop it and say I'll pay next time. Let them do it. If they're a shitty tipper, they don't get a second date. If theyre rude to the waitstaff, no second date. I don't date class collaborators. 😅
Totally agree with your goals for a relationship, it’s difficult to pull off when you have full lives with homes, retirement plans and grown families. Are you willing to give up all you have built?
If they can afford it and want to do it. During the time period when you are getting aquainted I much prefer to do things that don't cost money. Meeting during the day, taking walks, going to parks, enjoying free events, etc. Wait to spend money till you've established that you want an actual relationship. I'm 67 years old and still working out of financial necessity. I date men who are generally a bit older and living on a fixed retirement income. We don't have a lot of money to waste. Not spending money means we put the emphasis on spending quality time together and get to be more creative and playful with how we spend time together. When a man spends a lot of money on me or makes promises of future travel plans that he'll foot the bill on, I tend to feel like I'm being schmoozed, manipulated and controlled. I don't want to feel that if a man takes me out for an expensive dinner date I have to "repay" him with sex.
Jonathon I truly love your Carlsons Tucker personality, like!!!❤❤especially when u both on the air!!❤️❤️❤️and each of you might be different after turning cameras and microphones off!!!but .. Your channel ,that You Tube algorithms have allowed me discover your zest of life , after twist/turns after sorrow ,of loosing a child and father !! Still trying to absorb all links under ur presentations…. and hmmm have no F -n clue how to post my question on live🥲🥲🥲 Attempted to exchange some thoughts on FB !! Are u accepting any FB friends??
I Genuinely Appreciate You Welcoming Me into Your space and allowing Me to Share!!! God Bless You & Your Family🙏
When do we initiate these questions? Or rather statements, like "Im seeking a life partner." If a guy hits on me in Safeway, am I supposed to say "im only looking for a life partner" while Im standing there picking out avocados? 😅 even a guy who has their emotional shit together would run from that. 🤷♀️
As soon as that conversation happens.. they exit. It’s too advanced/forward for most the men on dating apps. But I’m sick of wasting my time. Expose the truth, then we both can move on. Gotta have very thick skin.. 💪
@@staceywood7800💯💯 I haven't done dating apps. That avenue hasnt sounded promising based on comments on line. Meeting them IRL probably isn't easy either though. But I'm a Marxist and in a country full of capitalists, I doubt the apps would be spilling over with commies. 😅😅 maybe I should try Rednote, meet a Chinese communist. 😅 I meet guys thru political activism and that's always a possibility. Marxists aren't any more "self actualized" than capitalists though. But they're less sexist and classist in general.
Even if you say you are looking for a life partner, they can always lie and agree and still take off.
I would ask what they are looking for on the first coffee or meeting. If they can’t state that they are looking for something more serious then, I’m out.
I love the point that you made about money, Jonathan! Back in the day when somebody was courting you, you went on walks or had tea together or went to the social church picnic. There wasn’t money spending. It’s easy to hide behind money.
Yes, your message resonates with me. I just got scammed from a man online, so I am not trusting men now.
There are good men out there...
@JonathonAslay I just found out yesterday so I'm still in the shock and gobsmacked phase. I am hoping in time, I will heal from what he took from me and I will begin to trust that the right man will come into my life. Thank you again. Katherine
Anybody ask you for money you don’t know or haven’t meet it a red flag.
This truly reasonates….hugs
Here’s how they waste your time - putting your day and evening on hold - tentative plans and later calling it off
That sucks 😕
My relationship ended out of nowhere, and I’m devastated. I still love him and want him back so badly.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ve been there it’s heartbreaking. But I found someone who helped me.
Really? Who helped you?
Do you think he could help me?
Absolutely. He’ve helped so many people. He’s very compassionate and gifted.
Like Jonathon says, what did you learn from it? How can you do things differently next time? The hurt is real though. 😢
I'm all for the LAT. It suits my personality and I require a lot of space. JA I adore you but you would be emotionally exhausting on @ 24/7 basis😆😉😘big hugs
Met a beautiful ❤️ man (he is Turkish like you) and really fell in love , still love him. Recently saw him in December 24 and he told me we did well for getting to year of knowing each other , however as soon as we are apart , he would become closed off. It's been a relationship of him being hot and cold but I knew he had feelings for me and always wanted me , to the point of telling me I do it for him and he reminisced about how we first met in more recent conversations. But, he recently told me not to ring him again. He closed the door. I respected that. I didn't call. I was hoping my patience would pay off by giving him space like I have before to show him I love him and I was still there for him. I wanted to move our situationship into a long term relationship which I mentioned on more than one occasion. In fact he knew when we met I'm a Christian and this is what I wanted . I left the door open but this last time, he wanted to close the door. Any advice please would be helpful to know your thoughts?
Mėn can move mountains for women they care about. If at this point you are not in a relationship with him, he doesn't want you.
@Ugnele I think I wanted to understand why he kept this pattern. He doesn't want me, you are right. But understanding why helps me to have clarity and learn to avoid this situation again.
You will not get the closure you are looking for. Let him go. Do no contact and close your own doors. You can’t heal and find a better option while he is still in your heart. Dr Phil always says there is only one thing worse than being in a bad relationship and that is staying in it one day longer. Him not wanting you has more to do with him than it does with you.
Keep moving forward. You can't convince someone to love you. I'm not a shrink but he sounds commitment phobic.
YOU JUST GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU LET HIM GO
If a man wants to pay, let him. I wouldn't demand that he pay on a first date. The woman can offer to pay next time. I think you are being a tad too hard on the ladies. It's not black & white. Not all women are the same in this regard.
I always offer to go half on the bill on the first date. [Bring enough cash to do it] If they say no, I say I'll get the tip. If they say no to that, I drop it and say I'll pay next time. Let them do it. If they're a shitty tipper, they don't get a second date. If theyre rude to the waitstaff, no second date. I don't date class collaborators. 😅
Thank you for this ❤super helpful 🙏
I'm not interested in hearing someone's clarification from some discussion weeks ago. I'd rather hear new questions .
I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm open to new questions as well
Totally agree with your goals for a relationship, it’s difficult to pull off when you have full lives with homes, retirement plans and grown families. Are you willing to give up all you have built?
That's a challenge
Question: How do you get over anger when your husband was murdered?
I can't even image the pain of such a thing. To answer your question, I believe it takes a tremendous amount of love, healing and prayer.
Find a good psychotherapist experienced in the trauma of losing a loved one due to violence.
I always enjoy your videos. I usually hear something that causes me to look at myself and my actions. Thank you for doing these.
Much appreciated!
You are such a great support, Jonathon! And a very wise guy! 💕🤗🙏
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I think men should pay for everything😂❤
If they can afford it and want to do it. During the time period when you are getting aquainted I much prefer to do things that don't cost money. Meeting during the day, taking walks, going to parks, enjoying free events, etc. Wait to spend money till you've established that you want an actual relationship. I'm 67 years old and still working out of financial necessity. I date men who are generally a bit older and living on a fixed retirement income. We don't have a lot of money to waste. Not spending money means we put the emphasis on spending quality time together and get to be more creative and playful with how we spend time together. When a man spends a lot of money on me or makes promises of future travel plans that he'll foot the bill on, I tend to feel like I'm being schmoozed, manipulated and controlled. I don't want to feel that if a man takes me out for an expensive dinner date I have to "repay" him with sex.
"capacity" ... of the majority.
Yes
Pre-Qualified…😅
Before the P
Goes in the V
Sounds good 👌
Always enjoy your videos.. A lot of solid
Information…..🤗
Seriously! What's the point??? Where is the relationship headed?
Yes
Jonathon I truly love your Carlsons Tucker personality, like!!!❤❤especially when u both on the air!!❤️❤️❤️and each of you might be different after turning cameras and microphones off!!!but ..
Your channel ,that You Tube algorithms have allowed me discover your zest of life , after twist/turns after sorrow ,of loosing a child and father !!
Still trying to absorb all links under ur presentations…. and hmmm have no F -n clue how to post my question on live🥲🥲🥲
Attempted to exchange some thoughts on FB !! Are u accepting any FB friends??