I’m praying you find that special someone. Dating is a stressful process and absolutely needs examining at every level. Be careful of becoming tired and end up settling.
A) you are hilarious! B) interrogate lol and that's pretty apt. I've been with the first two, and you got this! When you know and are comfortable with yourself, there is not a 'need' for a partner but a want. The prospective partner should be in a similar place.
You're right about most of us Jonathan. We are definitely with users n Spenders and your suggestions about sending a message or telephoning the culprit to hear what he has to say about pulling away.
My last boyfriend was a spender, he committed to me after about 6 dates, after commitment and sex he started limiting communication and we only saw eachother about once/week, he said he's always "busy" it was a great time together and the sex was good, but it wasn't enough to build a relationship on. I am actually more busy then him so I didn't believe he was so busy he couldn't see me more, just felt he didn't want to. I did what the other dating advice videos suggested, living my best life without him, this didn't work, made him think there is no problem. Then when I went to talk to him about it he was surprised and said he thought everything was going good, could not understand that I needed more time with him. This ended our relationship because he was not willing to give me more time. I wish I took this advice instead and talked to him sooner then later. Glad I only wasted 3 months. I really appreciate this channel because I know Jonathan is out there with same experiences and humbly shares his own problems but also his solutions to healing. I am planning on reading some of the recommended books but currently studying work stuff.
Yes, you are so correct. I am in a wonderful relationship that we say is forever. We kneaded out hearts together first with a lot of talking and humor.
This is sinking in..and resonating...you are like a big brother to us ladies...thank you for giving us the answers as to why men behave they do (and of course what we women are doing wrong)...i always thought 'The Rules', book which many women seem to follow is just a bunch of crap 😊!!
This was a great video! I too have grown by leaps and bounds my relationships 23 yrs, 7 yrs on an off and all my small short small connections since have served to help me practice what I learned all the prior years. I have learned exactly. What I want and need. I deleted my bumble profile. I will meet someone holistically in the next few months! Thanks so much!
You are open and a great teacher and coach. We are your students. Your books help immensely. I enjoy your homework to learn and grow. Thank You For Your Videos
There is an amazing poem written by a dismissive avoidant. You truly get to see what attracts you to them with these words of pain. The attachment to them is not fair to an anxious person, but there's a ritual you have to create for yourself before you go out and date again. That ritual can be affirmations or a pep talk. A walkthrough would be phenomenal!!! Doing things differently has to be doing things wiser. Rebounding, insecure attachment, situationships, trauma bonds, using/abusing each other and other toxicities have to be flushed out the brain! You have to start out fresh in one way and ready to not pick on those that aren't in the right place for you. If you pick on a stranger you are dating, then when are you going to concentrate on interviewing the right person??? Most foods available out there are a carbohydrate, so a diet that keeps you eating low carb foods means there's a pseudocompetition for food to be in your mouth. Dating is like that. Can you visualize the metaphor?
I enjoy hearing about your past relationships Jonathon. I also enjoy the lists, 🤗intentions/affirmations! Great stuff! Very good episode, so fun and deep! Thank you so much!
I love you Jonathan. I love that you don't take yourself too seriously and laugh your way through....you have alot to offer and I love that I laugh with you from across the opposite sides of the globe. I seek the healthy juicy relationship that we know is totally possible....sooooo uch to look forward to. Manifesting this .....love you
As always, great video. Thanks. Have heard there has been bad weather along the Californian coast with huge waves and flooding. Hope all is well in your area and the affected areas are no longer at risk.
Great Stuff! Your Honesty is refreshing and it's unfortunate that anyone would judge you on your relationships when they know not of what they speak! Love it continue to keep it REAL!! Thanks & Amen! 😄👍M
I like listening to you Jonathan. I started watching/listen to you since last week and I can’t stop. Thank you so much for breaking down in such a simple way You’re really speaking to me
I had two long term relationships years ago with grower builders. I ended these because they eventually decided they wanted children, to marry me, and to buy a house in the suburbs. The children and living in the suburbs were misalignment.
Once in a rare while, I get tired. I completely lose focus. I walk off the train track. I pull away. A better way to characterize it is I lose interest. Then I recover and I come back. (???)
The dating scene and online dating. Ugh. I feel same. One dating site I lasted a week!! I csn take so much of the bs and then I need a break! lol so I get it!! My guess is only about 5 percent are worthwhile …I could be wrong, but that’s been my odds …..the only advice I can share is maybe try a different angle and sort of refresh your spirit. Take a class, attend a singles Bible study or event. I belong to a golfing club for singles and it’s a blast!!
Johnathan, why do I get tired? Probably bored. Have to try too hard to get an intelligent response. Or the caring is one sided - me to him. Or it could be physical (hemochromatosis), or fatigue from pain.
I been dating this man for 2 years,traveled together, been to many places , I am only seeing him , he says his ex will go after my assets if we get married. Also he never has posted anything about me online. Is it time to say goodbye?
I'm assuming he has children with the ex and would go after your assets for child support, if so I would research your state laws to see if that's a true concern. If you're seriously thinking of marrying him you may want to consult with an Attorney.
I never live my life out on social media. Pulling away for small periods of time is natural in a relationship due to hormonal reasons. This is NOT for days on end. All of this is in a committed relationship.
Yes I know because I believe of my self because is in alcoholic I know I'm alcoholic but your questions is bout that but my back roomd Isa good nothing bad
I do research by the first date-as much as possible. I also have a google phone number so the man cannot find out too much about me. Most people have no idea how much info they give out.
Thank you so much Johnathan for doing these, I'm so Greatful I found you after a really weird, short relationship I was in after being alone for many yrs after my guy of a lot of yrs. Passed, it was so strange but I guess by today's dating scene it was par for the course, not going into specifics, just that I guess I was Love Bombed to the max, I've NEVER been in anything like it, I think the guy's a narcissist, I am older than him, I just know it left me totally shell shocked, I'm writing to say I'm so Greatful I found your shows, I spend my late nights especially the weekends listening to your videos, your awesome, your insights are so honest and right on, my parents were together forever like your Parents, I was a teenager in the 70's, which affected many parts of my life, I could go on &:on I just wanted to say I'm so glad I found your shows, there's so much more to this story but I'm just st leaving at thanks so much for what you do! 😉
Hi Jonathan, impressed by your site. I have been listening for a while and only attend to follow a lot of your advice. I want to sign up for a consultation with you. I’m dating for the first time in four years.
I honestly don't understand why anyone says anything about your and Marie's relationship. I was sad to hear it ended, but other than that it's your business.
This is a fantastic stream. U keep outdoing yourself. Absolutely love your candor abt your past relationships. ❤ I’m a potty mouth too. I try not to say the word out loud just sort of whisper an “f-ing”while not saying the entire word unless I’m tipsy. Lol I have several men interested in me. I’m not that person either. I don’t want to get confused. I date one at a time. I don’t go on dating apps. I meet men organically. I have a boyfriend I really like that I’ve known almost a year… but we are not intimate yet. Just starting to talk about moving in that direction. The wild chemistry is juicy to say the least. But we have only kissed & hugged. He’s not that person who would touch or grab me. I really love that about him. I am letting him find out who I am in drips & drabs. The other day I told him… although I have white hair now… I’m a natural red-head & I can prove it. lol. Just being silly. But I told him only 1 in 100 women are red. Meaning I’m special of course.😉 That’s as racy as Ive gotten in words… but so so fun. I tell him my “faults” in simple terms… like I used to be a workaholic now I’m an alcoholic. No I’m kidding… I said I’m a lazy bones now… so as not to shock him when he finds out exactly how lazy I REALLY am! Haha. I am savoring every moment. It’s such a blessing. I told him let’s continue to enjoy each other & if it goes beyond that… bcuz he does bring up marriage from time to time & I’m flattered to say the least… but beyond what we have now there could be dragons & I don’t want anything to spoil it. Feels so good to be loving & supportive & to have it reciprocated. We just simply click. Im over the moon. Most of the men I meet… their wives have died. I’m in that age group. They all seem to want to get serious. I’m not opposed to it but I want to make sure I choose the correct partner. In fact… I may even invite ya’ll to my wedding. Just kidding. Lol
I've been watching your channel for some time now, and I'm curious if a user or spender could possibly evolve or change into a builder/grower? Thank you 😊
If you don’t have self actualization, being completely healed, and “ Self Love “ then any attempts at dating are like codependency trials. They may be fun, you may really dig that partner, but it’s still on a shaky, precarious foundation. The I’ll scratch my back if you’ll scratch mine. It’s all arrested development. All attachment disorders and dysfunction, sad to say.
What questions should woman ask themselves to help determine what they want? I thought I wanted a committed relationship until I listened to you. my actions indicate I may want a casual relationship? I haven’t met anyone that I was significantly interested in/excited by so I’ve been enjoying my company and friends… but would be nice to love someone romantically!
I must be rare as I voice what the problem is that I see and I like coming to a happy place for both parties. Most people don’t listen to their partner as they think non verbal communication resolves all when there was a miscommunication instead. Often times I don’t care who caused the misunderstanding but want to address it before it gets out of hand. I have no problem telling that person to their face what’s going on but they prefer to throw it under the rug. I prefer over the phone OR in person so you get their full attention as text message cannot be fully understood sometimes or they read one way or you meant it another way. To ask the question by text is fine though.
I asked him why he went quiet. I asked if he was involved with ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. He said, " No dear, my father is in the hospital". That was one of our last conversations. It been a few months. Yes, I asked intimate questions. I went there. I'm not afraid. I guess he was a user. Never kissed or had sex. However, he gave me a sip of his espresso with a straw of course.
We all like good looking people and hope they'll want to 'be' with us. But that's superficial. In the end, looks fade, sex drives change. How much merit do you put on the aspect of intimate companionship?
Men dont pull away when the woman is confident and attractive both physically and emotionally. The whole mary ainsworth research on attachment style for children never did sit well for me as an explanation for adult behaviors.
This was awesome! The important inner work I did this year was practicing sitting with very uncomfortable abandonment feelings/emotions and learning how to process them. The fear of the deep pain had a lot to do with my staying for too long in toxic relationships. Would you consider doing an interview with someone who teaches us how to do this? Russell Kennedy, The Anxiety MD (RUclips) has great guided techniques for processing childhood/adolescent pain. Just one person that comes to mind. I’m feeling more comfortable in my own body and more resilient overall! Grateful. 💖💪🏻💖
Testosterone makes men seek sex. Like they had to do when we were living in tribes. It was acceptable back then. We women are high on oxytocin and seek connection. It takes effort 1) to identify a compatible partner and 2) to truly connect. Modern love takes patience and intentionality. It’s so true that once we hit our 50s, the hormones taper off and subconsciously we might seek companionship more. Companionate love. The book “Modern Love” by Aziz Ansari is really good.
Hi question. Why does someone stay for over 3 years if he wasent interested and then says he can't do it anymire we got along great and spent two or three times a week togeather. He's 69 . Should I try to keep in touch or let it go.
If a relationship gets to the point of physical intimacy and he decided not to have sex with you because he realizes he is not ready for any relationship and says he can’t sleep with you because he respects you too much, and breaks off the relationship, would you give him a chance later on in the future if he comes back and says he is now ready and done the work?
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*Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.*
“Call them
Out on their shit “
Amen 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I believe I am with a grower but I still watch your channel because you are brutally honest, and incredibly humorous. Xoxo
Wow, thank you!
Rejection is divine protection ™ for sure Jonathon. ❤
I’m praying you find that special someone. Dating is a stressful process and absolutely needs examining at every level. Be careful of becoming tired and end up settling.
Awe... thank you 😊
Yes Jonathon. Stay STRONG! U DESERVE LOVE
Yes Jonathon. Stay STRONG! U DESERVE LOVE
A) you are hilarious!
B) interrogate lol and that's pretty apt. I've been with the first two, and you got this! When you know and are comfortable with yourself, there is not a 'need' for a partner but a want. The prospective partner should be in a similar place.
You're right about most of us Jonathan. We are definitely with users n Spenders and your suggestions about sending a message or telephoning the culprit to hear what he has to say about pulling away.
My last boyfriend was a spender, he committed to me after about 6 dates, after commitment and sex he started limiting communication and we only saw eachother about once/week, he said he's always "busy" it was a great time together and the sex was good, but it wasn't enough to build a relationship on. I am actually more busy then him so I didn't believe he was so busy he couldn't see me more, just felt he didn't want to. I did what the other dating advice videos suggested, living my best life without him, this didn't work, made him think there is no problem. Then when I went to talk to him about it he was surprised and said he thought everything was going good, could not understand that I needed more time with him. This ended our relationship because he was not willing to give me more time. I wish I took this advice instead and talked to him sooner then later. Glad I only wasted 3 months. I really appreciate this channel because I know Jonathan is out there with same experiences and humbly shares his own problems but also his solutions to healing. I am planning on reading some of the recommended books but currently studying work stuff.
Not only interrogation but consult private investigator, FBI,CIA and state police.
Indeed
Call them out! Either they step up or step out.
Exactly
Yes, you are so correct. I am in a wonderful relationship that we say is forever. We kneaded out hearts together first with a lot of talking and humor.
They got married because of biblical standard. Want sex? Gotta' marry ... loved this JA!
Turns out the Owner's manual suggests a foundation first.
This is sinking in..and resonating...you are like a big brother to us ladies...thank you for giving us the answers as to why men behave they do (and of course what we women are doing wrong)...i always thought 'The Rules', book which many women seem to follow is just a bunch of crap 😊!!
The Rules is crap. I read it in my early 20's ( 1980's) and practiced the dynamics. The result was attracting very dysfunctional men like flies. .
This was a great video! I too have grown by leaps and bounds my relationships 23 yrs, 7 yrs on an off and all my small short small connections since have served to help me practice what I learned all the prior years. I have learned exactly. What I want and need. I deleted my bumble profile. I will meet someone holistically in the next few months! Thanks so much!
Go organic CeCe!
You got this!
🤗
You are open and a great teacher and coach. We are your students. Your books help immensely. I enjoy your homework to learn and grow. Thank You For Your Videos
Wow, thank you!
There is an amazing poem written by a dismissive avoidant. You truly get to see what attracts you to them with these words of pain. The attachment to them is not fair to an anxious person, but there's a ritual you have to create for yourself before you go out and date again. That ritual can be affirmations or a pep talk. A walkthrough would be phenomenal!!! Doing things differently has to be doing things wiser. Rebounding, insecure attachment, situationships, trauma bonds, using/abusing each other and other toxicities have to be flushed out the brain! You have to start out fresh in one way and ready to not pick on those that aren't in the right place for you. If you pick on a stranger you are dating, then when are you going to concentrate on interviewing the right person??? Most foods available out there are a carbohydrate, so a diet that keeps you eating low carb foods means there's a pseudocompetition for food to be in your mouth. Dating is like that. Can you visualize the metaphor?
😂
Where can I find this poem? You made me curious.
Please share the poem if you find it. Thanks
I enjoy hearing about your past relationships Jonathon. I also enjoy the lists, 🤗intentions/affirmations! Great stuff! Very good episode, so fun and deep! Thank you so much!
I’m glad you found it helpful! 😊
I love you Jonathan. I love that you don't take yourself too seriously and laugh your way through....you have alot to offer and I love that I laugh with you from across the opposite sides of the globe. I seek the healthy juicy relationship that we know is totally possible....sooooo uch to look forward to. Manifesting this .....love you
How can you identify a Grower, early in dating? What are the signs and what questions should we ask to find out?
Great questions
I how i best him answer!
Thank you for asking
As always, great video. Thanks. Have heard there has been bad weather along the Californian coast with huge waves and flooding. Hope all is well in your area and the affected areas are no longer at risk.
All us good here...
"Spender- spends time with you but incapable of commitment." 60%. Thank you.
Great Stuff! Your Honesty is refreshing and it's unfortunate that anyone would judge you on your relationships when they know not of what they speak! Love it continue to keep it REAL!! Thanks & Amen! 😄👍M
I appreciate that!
You are cracking me up😂 while telling truth
Thanks
Thank you for sharing Jonathan. It’s so true. You ‘re humorous! ❤
Thanks for watching!
You're adorable. Your brutal honesty (f-bombs included) and beautiful heart is so endearing. Thank you for simply being you. Best of love to you
Thank you so much 🤗
@@JonathonAslay I'm a newbie here and can't seem to stop clicking on your videos. Fun times + wise advice 😂🤔💗
Very well said Stephanie. You took the words right out of my head Jonathan has helped me so very much !!
Jonathan, I truly appreciate your advice and brutal honesty - thank you! Cheers to a happy, healthy and a year full of love for the new year!
I like listening to you Jonathan. I started watching/listen to you since last week and I can’t stop.
Thank you so much for breaking down in such a simple way
You’re really speaking to me
So glad you're finding it helpful!
thank you sir. thank you sir. i got plenty of respect for sir. Sir is the best forever.
So nice of you
I love the theatrics!
I love this...I always feel like the mirroring is game playing
😂😂😂😂 This episide is the most hilarious one yet....love it!😂
I’m addicted to these videos
Me too
Me as well!
Thank you for dropping gems!!! 🫶🏾❤️
AMEN, AMEN, AMEN! I love the prayer.
Love your videos and so funny great sense of humour
I had two long term relationships years ago with grower builders. I ended these because they eventually decided they wanted children, to marry me, and to buy a house in the suburbs.
The children and living in the suburbs were misalignment.
makes total sense with you explaining it handsome ❤
Glad you think so!
I woukd rather remain alone 😅...which is better than my last relationship 2.5 years ago....God Bless Everyone!!🎉❤
Energy flows where interest goes
You crack me up "but Jonathan....!" 😂
Hi Jonathon! You look good!
Oh thank you
Once in a rare while, I get tired. I completely lose focus. I walk off the train track. I pull away. A better way to characterize it is I lose interest. Then I recover and I come back. (???)
Why do you get tired?
The dating scene and online dating. Ugh. I feel same. One dating site I lasted a week!! I csn take so much of the bs and then I need a break! lol so I get it!! My guess is only about 5 percent are worthwhile …I could be wrong, but that’s been my odds …..the only advice I can share is maybe try a different angle and sort of refresh your spirit. Take a class, attend a singles Bible study or event. I belong to a golfing club for singles and it’s a blast!!
Johnathan, why do I get tired? Probably bored. Have to try too hard to get an intelligent response. Or the caring is one sided - me to him. Or it could be physical (hemochromatosis), or fatigue from pain.
Amen 🙏 Jonathan, I’m back, and I need you
You give such great, factual advice! Funny too!
Thank you!!
You are so welcome
I been dating this man for 2 years,traveled together, been to many places , I am only seeing him , he says his ex will go after my assets if we get married.
Also he never has posted anything about me online.
Is it time to say goodbye?
Good question!
I'm assuming he has children with the ex and would go after your assets for child support, if so I would research your state laws to see if that's a true concern. If you're seriously thinking of marrying him you may want to consult with an Attorney.
Jonathan your a breath of fresh air. You just say how it is and I love your show. Thank you for all your help. Love Mary UK. Hug 🫂
God bless you Jonathon 😇🙏Happy new year 2024✌️💫❤️🌈
Hugs Kiki! It's definitely not easy out there. 😩
Tell me about it
I never live my life out on social media. Pulling away for small periods of time is natural in a relationship due to hormonal reasons. This is NOT for days on end. All of this is in a committed relationship.
Exactly
Yes I know because I believe of my self because is in alcoholic I know I'm alcoholic but your questions is bout that but my back roomd Isa good nothing bad
Im going to give this book to a guy on Saturday.He really needs to smell the coffee!!I became an expert with you Bro 🥺
Thank you for the prayer.
Too much work. Move on.
Indeed
a lot of ppl say the same thing about crab legs 😂 NPI
Seems like a lot of game playing. And it makes me feel like the sentiment would be he’s the prize and I’m pursuing.
Listening to Kiki made me feel better. Happy New Year 2024!
I'm so glad!
Regarding background checks, I just google their name after the 3rd date. You can find out more about them, just wanting to get to know them better.
I do research by the first date-as much as possible. I also have a google phone number so the man cannot find out too much about me. Most people have no idea how much info they give out.
It's me because I believe to my self because is my normal I'm not abnormal
Kiki, you got this! I love Mark Manson’s book, it’s available on RUclips!
Yes 👍🏼
Wonderful content, thank you 😊
Glad you enjoyed it!
😂😂😂 you are hilarious Jonathan
Amen Jonathon
6:47 - what to say in a message
Thank you so much Johnathan for doing these, I'm so Greatful I found you after a really weird, short relationship I was in after being alone for many yrs after my guy of a lot of yrs. Passed, it was so strange but I guess by today's dating scene it was par for the course, not going into specifics, just that I guess I was Love Bombed to the max, I've NEVER been in anything like it, I think the guy's a narcissist, I am older than him, I just know it left me totally shell shocked, I'm writing to say I'm so Greatful I found your shows, I spend my late nights especially the weekends listening to your videos, your awesome, your insights are so honest and right on, my parents were together forever like your Parents, I was a teenager in the 70's, which affected many parts of my life, I could go on &:on I just wanted to say I'm so glad I found your shows, there's so much more to this story but I'm just st leaving at thanks so much for what you do! 😉
Just enjoying your videos and learning. A lot is reasonating. Thank you
I'm glad!
Love it
Got ghosted. Got blocked. No conversation ability
absolutely love this channel
Hi Jonathan, impressed by your site. I have been listening for a while and only attend to follow a lot of your advice. I want to sign up for a consultation with you. I’m dating for the first time in four years.
Great... here you go Www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching
I honestly don't understand why anyone says anything about your and Marie's relationship. I was sad to hear it ended, but other than that it's your business.
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
It’s utter crap!! Love you Jonathan. I’m
Cracking up. You’re right on though !!
Thank you 😊
This is a fantastic stream. U keep outdoing yourself. Absolutely love your candor abt your past relationships. ❤ I’m a potty mouth too. I try not to say the word out loud just sort of whisper an “f-ing”while not saying the entire word unless I’m tipsy. Lol
I have several men interested in me. I’m not that person either. I don’t want to get confused. I date one at a time. I don’t go on dating apps. I meet men organically.
I have a boyfriend I really like that I’ve known almost a year… but we are not intimate yet. Just starting to talk about moving in that direction. The wild chemistry is juicy to say the least. But we have only kissed & hugged. He’s not that person who would touch or grab me. I really love that about him.
I am letting him find out who I am in drips & drabs. The other day I told him… although I have white hair now… I’m a natural red-head & I can prove it. lol. Just being silly. But I told him only 1 in 100 women are red. Meaning I’m special of course.😉 That’s as racy as Ive gotten in words… but so so fun.
I tell him my “faults” in simple terms… like I used to be a workaholic now I’m an alcoholic. No I’m kidding… I said I’m a lazy bones now… so as not to shock him when he finds out exactly how lazy I REALLY am! Haha.
I am savoring every moment. It’s such a blessing. I told him let’s continue to enjoy each other & if it goes beyond that… bcuz he does bring up marriage from time to time & I’m flattered to say the least… but beyond what we have now there could be dragons & I don’t want anything to spoil it.
Feels so good to be loving & supportive & to have it reciprocated. We just simply click. Im over the moon.
Most of the men I meet… their wives have died. I’m in that age group. They all seem to want to get serious. I’m not opposed to it but I want to make sure I choose the correct partner. In fact… I may even invite ya’ll to my wedding. Just kidding. Lol
WOW, thank you 😊
Good luck & Mercy Ame
What's do you mean
Truth
I've been watching your channel for some time now, and I'm curious if a user or spender could possibly evolve or change into a builder/grower? Thank you 😊
Possibly! If they desire too...
If you don’t have self actualization, being completely healed, and “ Self Love “ then any attempts at dating are like codependency trials. They may be fun, you may really dig that partner, but it’s still on a shaky, precarious foundation. The I’ll scratch my back if you’ll scratch mine. It’s all arrested development. All attachment disorders and dysfunction, sad to say.
What questions should woman ask themselves to help determine what they want? I thought I wanted a committed relationship until I listened to you. my actions indicate I may want a casual relationship? I haven’t met anyone that I was significantly interested in/excited by so I’ve been enjoying my company and friends… but would be nice to love someone romantically!
You ✿ are ✿ the ✿ best
I don't know about that
I must be rare as I voice what the problem is that I see and I like coming to a happy place for both parties. Most people don’t listen to their partner as they think non verbal communication resolves all when there was a miscommunication instead. Often times I don’t care who caused the misunderstanding but want to address it before it gets out of hand. I have no problem telling that person to their face what’s going on but they prefer to throw it under the rug. I prefer over the phone OR in person so you get their full attention as text message cannot be fully understood sometimes or they read one way or you meant it another way. To ask the question by text is fine though.
Train 🎶 "Calling all angels"
Like Jonathon says:
100 hrs face time
I asked him why he went quiet. I asked if he was involved with ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. He said, " No dear, my father is in the hospital". That was one of our last conversations. It been a few months. Yes, I asked intimate questions. I went there. I'm not afraid. I guess he was a user. Never kissed or had sex. However, he gave me a sip of his espresso with a straw of course.
Interesting
Sad
Perhaps an avoidant
@@lisaj3583 did he come back?
I read that book. My favourite part was disappointment panda. Lol
We all like good looking people and hope they'll want to 'be' with us. But that's superficial. In the end, looks fade, sex drives change. How much merit do you put on the aspect of intimate companionship?
Men dont pull away when the woman is confident and attractive both physically and emotionally.
The whole mary ainsworth research on attachment style for children never did sit well for me as an explanation for adult behaviors.
I don't know
I'm nothing break up
There's no men in this town i have to go long distance. This isn't fair
This was awesome! The important inner work I did this year was practicing sitting with very uncomfortable abandonment feelings/emotions and learning how to process them. The fear of the deep pain had a lot to do with my staying for too long in toxic relationships. Would you consider doing an interview with someone who teaches us how to do this?
Russell Kennedy, The Anxiety MD (RUclips) has great guided techniques for processing childhood/adolescent pain. Just one person that comes to mind. I’m feeling more comfortable in my own body and more resilient overall! Grateful.
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I had to address this too. Big hugz 🤗
Testosterone makes men seek sex. Like they had to do when we were living in tribes. It was acceptable back then. We women are high on oxytocin and seek connection. It takes effort 1) to identify a compatible partner and 2) to truly connect. Modern love takes patience and intentionality. It’s so true that once we hit our 50s, the hormones taper off and subconsciously we might seek companionship more. Companionate love. The book “Modern Love” by Aziz Ansari is really good.
55:31 You want a good mother not a life partner.
Lol 😆
You are soooo funny.
🙏Amen 52:53
Hi question. Why does someone stay for over 3 years if he wasent interested and then says he can't do it anymire we got along great and spent two or three times a week togeather. He's 69 . Should I try to keep in touch or let it go.
He was using you for company...
Omg im a spender... i guess i need to change How can i become a builder
I’d love to be on the hot seat!!!😊
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I don’t think you understood her question/point.
I'm playing to myself
Pretty sure you are the only man existing that likes to be asked questions. Lol
I know lots of men who are the same...
Amen 🙏
I'm is true
About why
I know
If a relationship gets to the point of physical intimacy and he decided not to have sex with you because he realizes he is not ready for any relationship and says he can’t sleep with you because he respects you too much, and breaks off the relationship, would you give him a chance later on in the future if he comes back and says he is now ready and done the work?
Why?
Nothing like clube okay