Your new date has been trying to meet your needs. Have you tried to meet her needs? Also kissing is considered an intimate act and it may be too soon to kiss when you two are still vetting and getting to know each other. Like you mentioned, there are still more things to talk about to see if there’s enough compatibility to go the long haul. It takes time to see the all the flaws and imperfections of someone. You’re in the rose-colored glasses stage right now and it’s nice to see you happy and that you’re enjoying this stage of dating. Thanks for keeping us posted and hope things continue to go well.
She rescheduled an appointment so she could get together? She’s been calling and texting? Seeing each other 4 times in the first week of meeting? Netflix and chill already? She made it all better after she received a passive aggressive text? I’m sure she’s a nice woman, but not a great dater and doing everything she can to get you to like her. Pace ladies and don’t rearrange your schedule to see him!
Exactly 💯. Ladies don't rearrange everything just to be with a man. I'm in a relationship now and in the beginning I was working a lot of overtime that was optional. My boyfriend understood and I didn't change anything in my schedule for him. I'm back to my usual schedule and we've been together over a year.
It is more useful to change the way one thinks and speaks about things. For example, if one keeps saying & thinking that divorce has "unraveled one's tapestry of life," you'll forever be "unraveled." Phrases & tropes constantly repeated here concretize certain ideas. These aren't scientific facts. To move forward, one's perspective must change & language is the big reveal.
@@mariad1151my point is that you misquoted what was said and when you put it in context it means something different. Forever unravelling a relationship with another human being is not a problem and neither is that language unless you want to hold onto all relationships. Life is constantly undoing and reconfiguring relationships and situations into something you prefer. Yes, language is powerful but the phrase you misquoted is neither harmful or careless, it poetically illustrates what needs to happen to move on.
@@karmarising144 Disagree. The phrase is not misquoted, and Jonathan consistently uses it as an example of a negative event that has permanently damaged a person.The idea of unravelling a tapestry is inherently negative. The phrase is endlessly repeated here with a serious period at the end as tho it's the same for everyone and a scientific fact. As such, it lacks a nimbleness of thought, & that's how folks get stuck in their own narratives. My point is that for some, it was the marriage that was unraveling of the tapestry of their happiness, not the divorce. For some, the "unraveling of the tapestry of life with another human being" was a blessing & a release from something untenable. However, if one only sees it in the negative, and only speaks about it in the negative, one becomes stuck. As is this tired phrase that is endlessly repeated here to always refer to a single, stale idea as tho it's a scientific fact.
@@mariad1151 i think you are missing the point, that divorcees may see it that way and agree. If you disagree its ok, but these discussions are not about scientific facts and Jonathon is NOT pretending to be a therapist, instead he often guides viewers to seek for professional help for deeper healing. So to me it seems you are fixated on all things you think that are wrong. I have had years if experience in contact with therapists and professionals, and Jonathon is very careful of what he is saying as a coach who is not pretending to be your therapist.
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It’s good to see that you’re out there Dating until you meet the one. But you mentioned in this video that you did not really feel any true love feelings with this person. I believe and feel that the people that we come across in our lives that are that person we’re supposed to be with is a soulmate in someway. You will know from the get-go that you’re in love with them and that there will be that magnetic attraction to know. If you’re confused by that and there may be not feelings of love from the beginning, it might not be the right person. It’s just dating and companionship. Could it be that you still have not fully healed from Marie that she still in your heart and it’s not fully resolved? Those past situations can still be strongly on our minds trying to enter him into another relationship with someone else.
I agree with you! He says he has "residue" to deal with from his breakup with Marie. I think he's still in love with her and it was tough when he found out she's move on and in a relationship.
either/or: How we can tell? 1. Tennov said there are limerents & non limerents. That's about right. Some folks do not experience emotionality. How did you choose your first wife, Jonathan? 2. I don't think this lady could be the one unless Jonathan is a non-limerent or is ready to settle. There is no excitement that I can see. It's sad. Do I believe head over heels is pathological? No. I think linking up w someone that doesn't touch you is pathological & not worthwhile. However, there are costs either way. Pick your poison.
Thoughtful comment. I should read that book. We're looking for someone who's done "the work" on themselves but is that it? If that box is ticked, shouldn't there be more to them? Not sure I'm explaining myself correctly. "No drama" doesn't necessarily mean they're the one for you either though.
@@MegInASheathDress I agree with you. Everyone's different. Love is mysterious. Susan Winter talks about how certain people "awaken the dream" in us. I liken it to Sleeping Beauty. Something inside of us is dormant till someone comes along & awakens it. I don't believe we can turn it on or turn it off. It's just there or it's not. It's overwhelming, & in most circumstances, unfortunate. Odds are against it. Do you mean something like that? Or do you mean they have to meet other criteria?
Is it chasing if I text him once every two weeks? I’m very traditional and he would tell me it’s okay to miss him and think about him. Now I’m the one doing all the initiation granted the fact it’s sparingly. I don’t like it. Since he also doesn’t always respond. I’m starting to feel disgust because I feel really played.
Thanks for this charming lovely Jonathon and all wonderful in the chat here. So many wise reflections poping up. I recognise the feeling of beeing a little afraid getting closer to relationship. Even so im willing to deep diving in my system feelings learning challanging both ways And see what comes out off this. So far so good with little loops and twists.honest comminucation even when I or him feel it a bit embarrassing:)
Getting a lot out of “How To Be An Adult in Relationships”. Thanks for the recommendation. It’s already challenging my thoughts and behaviours. Love it!
JA, what is her love language and are you attempting to meet hers? What is her zodiac sign, age? I get it about the fear of losing my autonomy as that y biggest fear still. I can tell you I would have not changed my 💅appt. this early in the game, sorry, not sorry😄.
I feel like so many women (including myself) do this for men. We rearrange our life for men because we were taught to do so. I like Jonathon's advice, but he clearly wants a woman to bend over backwards to meet his needs. Super selfish and very narcissistic.
@ not projecting at all - just stating the facts about relationships and how women have to jump through hoops for men. You honestly sound very defensive.
Your new date has been trying to meet your needs. Have you tried to meet her needs? Also kissing is considered an intimate act and it may be too soon to kiss when you two are still vetting and getting to know each other. Like you mentioned, there are still more things to talk about to see if there’s enough compatibility to go the long haul. It takes time to see the all the flaws and imperfections of someone. You’re in the rose-colored glasses stage right now and it’s nice to see you happy and that you’re enjoying this stage of dating. Thanks for keeping us posted and hope things continue to go well.
I did ask her and wanted to know her needs.
She rescheduled an appointment so she could get together? She’s been calling and texting? Seeing each other 4 times in the first week of meeting? Netflix and chill already? She made it all better after she received a passive aggressive text? I’m sure she’s a nice woman, but not a great dater and doing everything she can to get you to like her. Pace ladies and don’t rearrange your schedule to see him!
Exactly 💯. Ladies don't rearrange everything just to be with a man. I'm in a relationship now and in the beginning I was working a lot of overtime that was optional. My boyfriend understood and I didn't change anything in my schedule for him. I'm back to my usual schedule and we've been together over a year.
It’s all about meeting his needs
It is more useful to change the way one thinks and speaks about things. For example, if one keeps saying & thinking that divorce has "unraveled one's tapestry of life," you'll forever be "unraveled." Phrases & tropes constantly repeated here concretize certain ideas. These aren't scientific facts. To move forward, one's perspective must change & language is the big reveal.
“Unravelling one’s tapestry of life with another human being” is what was said. I agree with Jonathon, that’s exactly what is.
@karmarising144 That doesn't address the point.
@@mariad1151my point is that you misquoted what was said and when you put it in context it means something different. Forever unravelling a relationship with another human being is not a problem and neither is that language unless you want to hold onto all relationships. Life is constantly undoing and reconfiguring relationships and situations into something you prefer. Yes, language is powerful but the phrase you misquoted is neither harmful or careless, it poetically illustrates what needs to happen to move on.
@@karmarising144 Disagree. The phrase is not misquoted, and Jonathan consistently uses it as an example of a negative event that has permanently damaged a person.The idea of unravelling a tapestry is inherently negative. The phrase is endlessly repeated here with a serious period at the end as tho it's the same for everyone and a scientific fact. As such, it lacks a nimbleness of thought, & that's how folks get stuck in their own narratives.
My point is that for some, it was the marriage that was unraveling of the tapestry of their happiness, not the divorce. For some, the "unraveling of the tapestry of life with another human being" was a blessing & a release from something untenable.
However, if one only sees it in the negative, and only speaks about it in the negative, one becomes stuck. As is this tired phrase that is endlessly repeated here to always refer to a single, stale idea as tho it's a scientific fact.
@@mariad1151 i think you are missing the point, that divorcees may see it that way and agree.
If you disagree its ok, but these discussions are not about scientific facts and Jonathon is NOT pretending to be a therapist, instead he often guides viewers to seek for professional help for deeper healing.
So to me it seems you are fixated on all things you think that are wrong.
I have had years if experience in contact with therapists and professionals, and Jonathon is very careful of what he is saying as a coach who is not pretending to be your therapist.
This video answered my question how women give their power away. Everything evolves around him and on his time.
Exactly
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It’s good to see that you’re out there Dating until you meet the one. But you mentioned in this video that you did not really feel any true love feelings with this person. I believe and feel that the people that we come across in our lives that are that person we’re supposed to be with is a soulmate in someway. You will know from the get-go that you’re in love with them and that there will be that magnetic attraction to know. If you’re confused by that and there may be not feelings of love from the beginning, it might not be the right person. It’s just dating and companionship. Could it be that you still have not fully healed from Marie that she still in your heart and it’s not fully resolved? Those past situations can still be strongly on our minds trying to enter him into another relationship with someone else.
What if healthy love feels different?
I tend to agree with this. Not really the Marie part, but that knowing.
This is well said. I do feel he seems to be hung up on Marie and still very hurt over the breakup.
I agree with you! He says he has "residue" to deal with from his breakup with Marie. I think he's still in love with her and it was tough when he found out she's move on and in a relationship.
@@sr-vs6ef Agree but they weren't on the same page at all. Marie wanted to travel and explore the world - he didn't. Not a match in my opinion.
Wow ! Im not relationship ready still.
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either/or: How we can tell?
1. Tennov said there are limerents & non limerents. That's about right. Some folks do not experience emotionality. How did you choose your first wife, Jonathan?
2. I don't think this lady could be the one unless Jonathan is a non-limerent or is ready to settle. There is no excitement that I can see. It's sad. Do I believe head over heels is pathological? No. I think linking up w someone that doesn't touch you is pathological & not worthwhile. However, there are costs either way.
Pick your poison.
Thoughtful comment. I should read that book. We're looking for someone who's done "the work" on themselves but is that it? If that box is ticked, shouldn't there be more to them? Not sure I'm explaining myself correctly. "No drama" doesn't necessarily mean they're the one for you either though.
@@MegInASheathDress I agree with you. Everyone's different. Love is mysterious. Susan Winter talks about how certain people "awaken the dream" in us. I liken it to Sleeping Beauty. Something inside of us is dormant till someone comes along & awakens it. I don't believe we can turn it on or turn it off. It's just there or it's not. It's overwhelming, & in most circumstances, unfortunate. Odds are against it. Do you mean something like that? Or do you mean they have to meet other criteria?
Maybe he's holding it back a bit since we all were on his case for his overzealous behavior for that lady who lived 4 hours away.😀
@@ginam.4990 Yes! Who can ever figure out a man?! 🤣😉
Yea, always giving the power away and money
Is it chasing if I text him once every two weeks? I’m very traditional and he would tell me it’s okay to miss him and think about him. Now I’m the one doing all the initiation granted the fact it’s sparingly. I don’t like it. Since he also doesn’t always respond. I’m starting to feel disgust because I feel really played.
God's blessings and healing to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🍀🤗💜
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I remember dr Phil saying what’s the pay off?
Yes
So happy for you!! As someone who has watched for years, you deserve a secure abundant love! Hoping the best 🥰💗
Thank you so much!
Thanks for this charming lovely Jonathon and all wonderful in the chat here. So many wise reflections poping up. I recognise the feeling of beeing a little afraid getting closer to relationship. Even so im willing to deep diving in my system feelings learning challanging both ways And see what comes out off this. So far so good with little loops and twists.honest comminucation even when I or him feel it a bit embarrassing:)
What is the point of interrupting yourself to say 11:11? It happens multiple times a day, every day, & has no meaning and no context.
Numerology, 11:11 spiritual awakening. I say it out loud when my clock reads 11:11 and it does have meaning
Because it holds significance for him and his viewers that's why.
@@tatOOdLady19 What is the meaning? It's mundane; happens twice a day.
@@Sherryyahoo Spiritual awakening? What does that have to do with it?
@@tatOOdLady19 thank you, she just doesn’t understand this 💕🇹🇿
You have been through Way too many Women….. Calm Down
I'm selective though
Resonates as always👍❤
I'm glad you feel that way! 😊
Getting a lot out of “How To Be An Adult in Relationships”. Thanks for the recommendation. It’s already challenging my thoughts and behaviours. Love it!
I'm glad it's resonating with you!
'No Emotional Zombies Allowed'; that's good!
Exactly
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JA, what is her love language and are you attempting to meet hers? What is her zodiac sign, age? I get it about the fear of losing my autonomy as that y biggest fear still. I can tell you I would have not changed my 💅appt. this early in the game, sorry, not sorry😄.
That was her choice. I appreciate she wanted spend more time.
I feel like so many women (including myself) do this for men. We rearrange our life for men because we were taught to do so. I like Jonathon's advice, but he clearly wants a woman to bend over backwards to meet his needs. Super selfish and very narcissistic.
@@JessicaPolman-i2p Or, you are simply projecting because you don't have all the facts.
@ not projecting at all - just stating the facts about relationships and how women have to jump through hoops for men. You honestly sound very defensive.