One question to ask before sleeping with someone
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a wise woman told me: "dont marry a man unless youd be proud if your children turned out just like him." 😶
Oooh that's a rough one, I agree 100% but that makes it even harder to navigate the dating world for sure. Which is ok I guess, no wasting time on bs
this is a good one!
mind blown......
Oh my gooood :o
👏🏻👌🏻
Poor Melissa. She had the misfortune of finding happiness with someone.
~grumble~
Hahah too true
Kept feeling sorry for her being picked on. that face she made! :(
@@brians9016 1. she read the script of the scene before it was recorded 2. she's acting out a skit 3. she's grown
Don't worry Brian, I'm sure she's fine :) /gen
@@bubblegumplastic Lol. Thanks for the reassurance
“Do you have any STIs” would also be a good question
This
Winning
nope. always use a condom.
I always ask if they have a beastly Subaru lurking outside, better safe then sorry in today's world.
@@marieantoinettepaddelboot3149 Sadly I speak from experience when I say: a condom will not prevent the infection with all sexual diseases. You should definitely always use one, I'm with you there, but it might not be enough.
My sister married her high school sweetheart and have been together almost 20 years. Whereas I am still single. I 100% feel that passive-aggression towards Melissa 😂
True ^^
i have never slept with someone but still gonna watch this
same lol
Same
Ur not missing much. It's only fun for a lil bit. Then it almost always is hell for much longer then it was good for.
@@wacojitsu I'm 21 lol
@@EnvyTraxus youre good bruv, just find out what you want atm.
Love that this immediately started with an existential crisis about a miscalculated birth chart. I relate hardcore.
I love me some existential dread😁
Same!
As an Aquarius I literally felt that she was one, but aye. Good news for me!
I can totally relate too as this happened to me as well haha
As a Fur Dad, yeah, trusting someone enough to watch over my cat is hot.
Isn't that more like "trusting someone enough to be ignored by your cat"?
@Daniel Smith Projecting 101
@Daniel Smith who says he's attracted to women?
WTF is a fur dad?
Heck yeah! Hey Omni!! ✨😅✌️
You know you've watched a lot of Anna's videos when you're starting to tell the twins apart
Mind you I was one of the people shocked that they were two different people
@@lisagriffin8221 Lol same! How do you tell them apart though? I'm still trying to do that lol
I thought it was a special effect.
Also "the before time" we sound like something out of some YA dystopian novel now ☠️
Where’s the love triangle?
we are.
Except we're not in the after yet. We are still living the apocalypse lol.
It IS a dystopia! This was preventable!
Read station eleven if you dare 👀
If you don’t have a pet;
Anna: 🙅🏻♀️ Find yourself a more relevant question to ask.
Anna: 💁🏻♀️ Get a cat. NOW.
😂
Get *six* cats. NOW.
Anna: Once you have a cat, allow me access to said cat. NOW!
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I changed it from 1K to 1.1K :)
my first thought: well, of course my dog is more important than my body-
I'm surprised people don't ask the question: Do I trust this person to take an active role in helping me raise a child?
Pets are pretty close
@@gracelewis4016 No they're not. If the building was on fire & you only had time to save one (child or pet), if that is a hard decision for someone to make..... wow. I know it's extreme, but extremes put things into perspective.
@@dtuitt79 I would save my pet.
@@julietrose260 over your child? Respect. 👍
That kind of implies that sex necessarily leads to having children, which is not true at all.
I feel like replacing "pets" with "plants" is a valid substitution for some people... namely, me
Loll same
then no one should trust me. Ever. I even kill cactuses :(
Thanks! I have to water my plant
I would trust anyone can take better care of my plants then me so...
Was literally thinking the same thing
REALLY making sure you’re NOT doing it out of peer pressure or insecurity is also another big thing.
But many people don't realize they are under peer pressure or that they are insecure. That's only for a third person to tell them.
Does this still apply in your mid30s cuz I keep asking before getting down and the women are like "yaya just stick it in"
@@mikek7660 No, Anna's question only applies to women, because men aren't supposed to be good with pets, but most women are due to their basic instincts.
For men, I think we should think whether we can trust her with our cellphones, our messaging histories, our credit cards, or our bank accounts.
@@niccolom really hope you're joking
@@bjawrk2926 No, I'm serious, and you know deep down inside you that it's true.
I know you are thinking "men and women are the same" and that's where you are wrong. You can change the way people think by conditioning them, but you cannot change how the Homo Sapiens are genetically coded.
Women are genetically born to be better nurturers than men on average. It's like how women are genetically born to be smaller in size than men on average. That's an irrefutable scientific fact.
And statistically, I can accept outliers, and Anna is teaching women to find the outlying men who happen to be good nurturers. Those are rare, and that's what you women should look for in men.
She's teaching you not to sleep with average men, and find the "special" ones. That's a good lesson for all, and I suggest you take heed.
Wrong question. You'll end up sleeping with the vet: worst desition EVER.
😂😂 girl made my day
girl you had some terrible experiences with vets? 😭😭
Excerpt from a tinder profile:
" ... must be tall, dark, handsome, witty, and... a veterinarian. "
@@bobinthewest8559 😂😂😂
You slept with the VET? Girl, we need a story time!
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Everyone: "Yes, Daddy Squarespace!"
I love how calling Squarespace daddy was funny and now it’s just what it’s called daddy squarespace.
This immediately made my “priorities” change
Disliked. Bc I just got to be that first person to dislike this comment
@@economiste_washington8658 but it doesn't show dislikes?
I love "the before time."
It makes this whole thing sound super-apocalyptic
I stopped dating people during this pandemic because I felt they were not being responsible enough so I totally felt that.
@@psychopompous3207 yeah, going out when we were told not to do so, hanging out with people, etc...
@@mrswats Gotcha. The whole "when we were told not to do so" is where I disagree. I wear the damn mask, Social Distance, and avoid large groups. But I am an adult and I do what I want. To each their own though. I am not going to let the fear of a potential outcome keep me from living my life. Have a nice day.
@@mrswats Be careful. Women are more desperate because of the pandemic. You do not want to get with someone in a state of desperation!
It’s that Time to agree with Anna for 5mins.
Determinism is Freedom 🤙 🤙
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@@Polyglot_English *determination
Then I would basically have to trust them with a child, because they are that important!!! That sets the bar super high.
Thats the point
And you always should ask that because contraceptives are not 100% protection and you could get pregnant even if it's a small chance. And then what?
@@Astharia you do know abortions exist?
@@ashtons8626 not in all countries...
@@ashtons8626 they do exist but not everyone is comfortable with an abortion so I think it's an important thing to consider.
When you realise you've slept with people you wouldn't trust your pet with. (-.-)
I've also heard "would you let your CHILD date someone that was exactly like them"
Nope
Variant on this: "Would you tell your best friend/younger sibling that someone exactly like this person was good enough for them?"
Omg thisss one is goldddd
the question I ask usually is would I trust this kind of person to be with my bff? I always feel like i have higher standards for my bff so that usually keeps me in check HAHAH
now this is something i would do
Yes!!! This is a good one! I will use this!
@@mani_stud yes yes!!! I personally never have had a pet!!
@@SatumainenOlento its funny how we usually have higher standards for our friends and people in our lives. I really need to work on holding myself to that same standard!!
@@SamElle - I do this with self-criticism. If I start being hard on myself I think ‘would I say that to my friend’. Of course not, so it really helps.
You are worthy. Take time to do whatever brings you joy every day. Have a good weekend.
People with mustaches can't watch pets. Got it.
Especially if they have a mustache but without a beard or sideburns!
People with facial hair is a big No it means no higene and in corona era higene is the most important
@@rebecaprat712 evenly trimmed beards are okay. Mustaches with no beards are for pedos. XD
maybe watch a pet catipillar
I suppose well groomed facial hair is a no no
my question: would I be okay with this person being the father of my kids?
Wise
"Cat Owner" is a contradiction in terms. You *own* a dog'; you *live with and serve* a cat!
I prefer the term Cat owned, the cat owns you, you don't own the cat.
My cat came when I called him and got off counters on command from across the room. You have to be the Alpha. Cats are descended from a pack animal, too, not from solitary wild cats.
@@itoshiibaka8267 still constant challenges and stare downs with my cat when it comes to counters and scratching furniture haha
Too true
@@DMANROCK1 I just did the instant consequence strategy 😆 on the table? Shout No! Then plop him down. As many times as it takes. Good luck! 🤭
"this doesn't apply to you Melissa" bahaha
love calling pre-covid the Before Time. I feel like a protagonist in a YA dystopian novel
Hahaha me too!!
“If I get any more introspective I might die” hits hard. Also I barely trust myself to take care of my dog I love him too much and I’m paranoid. Also the grocery store scene is not even exaggerated it’s just real. Thanks for the gems Anna 😅
“The next 4 years are about internal work and introspection..”
*it seems like your whole life if about internal work and introspection*
"The before time" ... very Handmaids Tale.
If I would apply this criteria to all my potential partners, I might just adopt celibacy.
I sleep with a guy only when I trust him to adopt my celibacy
Bruh.... I don't have a pet anymore but I still feel this
My retiring plan: adopt as many cats as i can and live happily ever after
Crazy cat lady prepping haha
I love how you edit your videos. I also love how short and funny they are. The role plays etc. Tge content is always funny and relatable so you never get bored watching them.
This question just changed my whole outlook... Often I ponder is it worth it to deal with possible drama, the past, how they would be as a result of something happening and yet, asking that about my pet immediately puts a firm NO before everything else!
This made me think of "land before time." oh what is life
Important scaling question for anyone: Do you value your pets as much as yourself and your body?
Honestly, I struggle to value myself as much as those I care for. But I am an libra, so it all balances out in the end. 😁
Squarespace: Do you want us to sponsor you?
Anna: Can I call you daddy?
Squarespace: .......
I’d have to know someone for years before I trusted them with my dog. Almost no one is good enough.
100% - by this criteria I'll never be having sex again
Are you Exhausted Artist?
"...I'm sorry, I just don't trust you to hold my snek."
This comment is amazing 😂
@@ninja5chic One of the best things about having a snek is the ability to make comments rife with innuendo. Ask me about engorging.
That's cute af honestly hahahaha
Anna been smashing the regular uploads for a minute now!
I only came across your channel a few days ago and I think I have struck gold. What a perfect woman who is witty, wholesome, charming, beautiful, and can also act, perform, write, etc... You also explains stuff so clearly with your verbal, non-verbal, and visual language. Your videos' pacing is so good and the contents are all so well planed and current.
You are not only the girl that I wanted ( When I was young) but never deserve, but also the person I myself wanted to become. I will show my little daughter your videos and give her example of a confident self-loving young woman.
Thank you for being you, Anna.
Do I trust this person with not looking at my browser history while holding my unlocked phone.
Very true-
I almost fell over when the guy I was just beginning to date but had kinda known through his work for a while left his cell unlocked and next to me in his house when he went outside for an extended timeframe where I could see him but HE couldn't really see me!
Man, it was face up and it rang like 5 times with 3 being a girl's face as the number image with her name.... and who knows how many texts displayed too...
I didn't touch the thing, and kept working on the helpful household task I was doing with him before he went outside to deal with something...
But it struck me that he had left his cell unattended next to me vs in his pocket like usual.... 😶
I was more stunned when he finally came back in and I said "your cell's been blowing up with calls and texts, you'll want to check it", and he casually says "Did you answer it? Tell them I'm busy".
WHAT?!?! 😳
He then says "I'M BUSY- I HAVE PLANS WITH YOU NOT THEM" and points at his cell while repeating I can answer it if he's not there- it isn't locked.
I actually said rather strongly that it was HIS cell and privacy and I wasn't about to do that.
To which he smiled slowly and said "That's why I trust you to have it- you won't use anything on it against me or spy".
*well*!!! ...true...
Too bad he himself could never get out of both the assumptions of people lie about everything and cheat widely- and that was normal in "relationships" vs meaning your words and holding committment. *sigh*
Bringing back "Where's the beef?" in 2021. Clara Peller is smiling from above.
Can i just say i adore your editing its fun and fitting the story and moral you want to teach but not too chaotic or boring or loud or repetitive or idk... It's just really good
Melissa...I hear ya gurl!! 🤗 This is awesome! So glad this showed up in my feed!
aquarius rising is literally what i always assumed you to be. you’re such a creative force and just bring this innovative energy wherever u are
How do you do it anna? after this many years on the platform you continue to create great, relatable, enjoyable content. Keep it up, you're the coolest cat (besides my own two kitties)
your hair looks really great!
YOUR HAIR. OMG. GORGEOUS.
The grocery store scene is SO ACCURATE!
answer: are you tested
Your hair is amazing !!! ❤️
so happy i found this channel
Thank you for inspiring me to come out as trans. You've helped me so much and you keep on putting a smile on my face when there isn't one.
hell yeah i believe in you!! trans pride
Never been this early in my life, just don't ask my ex.
GAGAGAGAGAAGAG this is wonderful! PRANK! It is terrible! I looked in the mirror and saw something UNPRETTY: my face. GAGAGAGAG! But I am happy again because I have TWO HOT GIRLFRIENDS and I make cool YT videos with them! Good evening, love and peace, dear tan
Determinism is Freedom 🤙 🤙 🤙
You are literally the reason why I have started a RUclips Channel! you are wonderful!
I love it! I love every single thing about your channel lmao
The last person I slept with did a couple things that rubbed me the wrong way in the sheets, but I would give him my pet anyway 😅
So I think we should raise our standards even more.
I feel like I don't even need to ask these questions to gauge whether or not I want to have sex with someone, it's more about the feeling I have with them. I haven't met someone with whom I felt comfortable being my absolute most vulnerable in front of, as sex is very vulnerable for me. Or maybe my standards are just super high.
Your standards are perfect. We all have different comfort levels.
I'm an introverted shy person so my standards may be higher
I think it is good to have a standard that is right for you. Keep your healthy boundaries. Don’t forget: You are valid. Your feelings matter.You are important.
Definitely find someone you can be comfortable with. Idk, I’d rather have high standards than meh relationships haha!
RUclips recommended me this and to be honest am actually satisfied your videos are lit.
You girl... I just discovered you a couple of days ago and I am like... this girl is the salt of the Earth. THANK YOU for bringing up so much humor and fun into our lives, but most of all for speaking so openly on the painfully true aspects of this up-side down world.
Okay so I'll probably die alone.
Kidding, I'm Asexual. I was gonna die alone anyway so...
*NOBODY TOUCH MY PETS*
Butter fingers mmm good
My only problem with this question is
“If he’s watching your pet this means he’s in your house, so therefore the question is am I comfortable with this guy spending the weekend alone in my house.”
Nope
you could bring your pet over to their house
Your hair is gorgeous !!!!
We love you, Anna!
I know a few people who wouldn't have even gotten married if they asked this question before sleeping with their significant other 😂
I was thinking the same thing 😂
A better question to ask might be, "Do I trust this person to create life with me and bear the consequences of that choice for at least 18 years thereafter?"
I love you. This is hilarious and smart. Nice work!💖👊
Thank you for the life advice ❤️❤️
Thinking back, I would probably not trust anyone I've slept with with my pet. Maybe one person. This is hard.
My question would be: "If the worst case happened and he got you pregnant, would you still want to raise your child together?"
Yus Daddy Squarespace!!
Love this channel
Don't trust a person, whom you wouldn't like riding your horse. Every equestrian knows that
That one friend who's been in a relationship for a while now: that's me. 😅
Cool, how did you two meet
Oh my god, Melissa, we know you are in a relationship
For me it’s all my friends except for me. 🥲
@@maishazarinanan5028 We met from a friend's friend. Me and my friends were hanging out while their boyfriends were practicing for a performance and he joined that group. Wasn't really looking for a relationship at the time, but here we are 8 years later and still together. 😃
Wow so insightful, thank you 😊
loved the supermarket scene!
Imagine relating to the Capricorn sign your entire life, then realizing you're an Aquarius. I mean doesn't that prove signs aren't personalized, they are vague enough to apply to literally anyone???
That has already happened with one of my closest relatives. For a fraction of her life, she thought she was an Aquarius, but later found out that she's actually a Pisces. That was when I realized that zodiac and stuff like that are not 100% accurate and the truth.
So, I just take them a bit for ✌️ facts ✌️ and mostly for entertainment purposes.
Yup, read about Barnum effect. The Big Five are personality traits that have been identified with scientific methodology and that are stable over a lifespan. Much more valuable, but less fun.
I have always looked at how a person treats their pets. Makes sense to look in reverse and see if you could trust a potential mate with how thy treat your pets.
Your hair is so shiny and pretty!
That’s the beautiful finishing ever 🥰🥰I am a dog mom and I totally relate to this!!
My go to was always gauging their reaction to cats - like if they didn't like them for reasons that weren't like "oh i'm allergic" or something similar i would always watch them a bit more carefully bc ppl ive met who say they don't like cats always have MAJOR issues with boundaries and control
interesting
Here early enough to see “posted x seconds ago” gang
Loved the banter on Melissa 🤣
There are a few other questions you should ask but this is a good start !
My one question goes like this: If an angel told me I was going to die and I had 48 hours to pick my next parents, would I want that person as a mother (or father}. This will make you really separate out people with kindness, compassion, gentleness, thoughtfulness etc... from all the drama that we are attracted to because of our trama and damage. If you wouldn't trust them to raise you as a child, you shouldn't spend your time with them as an adult.
Good call. I've always found this to be true. But there are really only about 4 people on the planet, that I know, that I would trust to take care of my cats!
Love your videos!!
This needs to be made into a movie. A+
I can’t relate bc I have no pets but now I’m thinking about what questions I would ask so this was helpful.
I don't have an animal but I imagined them babysitting a young family member I care for a lot and oh boy I would never get with anyone
nahh im not trusting a vulnerable family member with anyone... you should really try to imagine a pet
@@CapeEniEer I feel I'd treat a pet the same, unfortunately
I love the question - so easy, so much depth 😍
🤯 this is awesome!! Love it. I am doing this from now on. No more falling for idiots. Fantastic!! Thank you Anna
Thought it would be: " do I want to enmesh and expose my biology and psychology with this unknown person this early on?"
Nope
I thought I was a Virgo rising for the longest time. I specified my birth city and I was actually a Libra rising. The existential crisis is real.
😂 Daddy Squarespace! I love it!
I like this question to gage trust. Great advice, Anna.