The One Person You Shouldn't Date
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The one person you shouldn't date: Prince Charles.
Done and done
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In a nutshell
prince trash
Prince trash well said!
A piece of advice:
"If you are a creative person date someone who's a fan of your creativity"
YES. Not someone who will try to break your confidence and vision. It's the easiest way to breal a creative mind.
"If you are big chungy person, date someone who's a fan of big chungus"
Smooth way to get into her DM's...
YES this is so true!
Yes, and if ur a successful creative person, who honestly is more of a fan than the groupies. Amirite?
"She's capable of anything" sounds so different in a romance vs a thriller
Lol
You just made my day 😂😂 So silly but omg so true!
ok but picture this: a romantic thriller?
If it's a sci-fi/ fantasy it sounds even more different
You just made my morning, good sir 😂
Never prioritize someone who treats you like an option. That alone will save you so much time and heartbreak.
That sounds good in saying, but very unrealistic in todays age of online dating, where women have plenty options and average men have to play a numbers game to actually find somebody, therefore everybody can only see options.
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@@MMOplayeerr If you “play a numbers game” with online dating, then you’ll likely only match with people who will take what they can get. Not somebody who picks you out of a crowd. People “playing a numbers game” can be sensed and anyone seeking genuine connection is just gonna nope out. Finding genuine connection can take time, but it’s more fulfilling.
@@thriftyfreebies The 'number game' is different for men and women. The way our society is , a woman picks a man because her numbers are basically options. A man gets picked up by woman so his numbers are compulsions. If men do not approach it like that he risks staying single all his life. A man does not have that luxury , unless he is conventionally good looking or wealthy or have lot of communication skills , to pick and choose that much. Its mind bending when you look at from a man's perspective. Btw any girl who says oh she looks for inside bla bla she is lying..just simple lie or just does not know herself. She WILL look for that inner beauty , yes , AFTER she has dated bunch of idiots and her time is running out for having kids.
@@Valkyri3Z "any girl who says oh she looks for inside bla bla she is lying" mate my girl fell in love with me when i looked like a homeless person. you're being shallow. but obviously looks play a part. but many women look for the inner beauty even when young, just like many men do. immaturity comes to play (...like you generalizing entire demogaphics...) and lack of experience makes dating and more so a potential relationship hard, but that's part of the play.
you usually need more than one relationship to understand what you really want out of one. that's totally fine. but many men nowadays seem to idealize far too quickly because someone vibes well, and that's something that women do pick up on. just like men do.
I love the idea of trying to recognizing your own core gifts and only accepting people who appreciate them and you.
I'm happy enjoying others and not feeling as if I'm not being disrespected by them. This isn't the same thing, but I've been single for three years (like Anna) and haven't found anything like feeling loved. Core beliefs and core strengths are important.
It's true, my ex saw my gifts as my weaknesses...that's why he's my ex now
"only accepting people who appreciate them and you". Really? Then you are setting yourself up for a major disappointment. You should accept people's opinion when asked. You need honesty, not a cheerleading squad. If you wish to grow then be ready to prune things of your life that are not fruitful or things that hold you back. Failures will teach you more than any success you may have had in the past.
@@Joshuatree7746 There is a huge difference in people who appreciate your core gifts and you, but also tell you to the truth and allow you to grow, vs someone who actively puts you down constantly out of jealousy of your core gift.
Basically put, your partner should always lift you up to be the best person you can be.
Even if they are jealous, they need to put their jealousy aside and help you foster what you're good at doing. After all, growing as a person requires discomfort, and jealousy is just a form of discomfort about a perceived inadequacy.
Support your loved ones, peeps, and accept they *will* be better than you in some areas. It's the adult thing to do.
Wow, good to see a comment out in the world about how to healthily accept and address jealousy. It is often shunned, demonized and simply not talked about, but it is only an emotion - it can't do any harm without harmful actions to follow it. Jealousy can be a great sign to focus on what to improve about yourself (perceived inadequacy as you said), as emotions reveal to us things about ourselves we may not have previously known or acknowledged. Fantastic comment!
That was very well put!
how are some people not jealous tho even if someone is better in x area than them? is it cause they admire it and think its cool instead and they dont care that their not as great in the area
True.
Very well, if jealousy is discomfort and that's what growing as a person is: if you're gonna expect your partner to put up with it, you should put it with it yourself. Because it's growth, and that's what you should do for your partner
Most of Diana interviews hurt me to my soul. She still and always be the queen in our hearts!
It sounds like you are experiencing the collective female pain-body that Eckhart Tolle talks about in "The Power of Now."
The People's Princess, of course!
@@nickkamenev8281 there is no "collective female body pain", it's called empathy and pretty common in humans
@@NiiiXD I was just trying to empathize with Jackie
@@nickkamenev8281 that book is for losers who think they’re woke and discovered the answers of the universe. Ive read it and its cringe
Hi Anna, we've reached out to you over email! Hopefully we can collaborate together soon :)
Yesss, perfect colaboration
aaa :D that would be awesome !!
Dude that would be epic
This would be so good stop
Yes please!
"I've been single for three years now"
Me: "Finally, a worthy opponent! Our battle will be legendary!"
Huh? An opponent in what kind of a contest? Surely you're not talking about a partnership or even love (or both) are you? Advice: Don't!
I wonder who'll win😉😂
@@meghana1113 Nobody wins these battles. The children lose the most.
Hahha love that comment 😄
Red Flag.... people that don't understand and appreciate sarcasm. 😂
Wisdom does not come with age, it comes with experience. We tend to get better when we look at our failures.
Yes. Thinking all old people are wiser and more mature is not correct. Sometimes young people go through stuff too
And not even just experience, but the ability to reflect on those experiences. A lot of experienced yet unwise people out there.
*Reads title* - That would be my ex.
bro, it`s so rare to see you here! i`m one of you subscribers! =D
An unexpected but not an unwanted surprise 😆
Lol
I was thinking exactly the same
😂😂😂
Empathy is definitely a core gift. In all honesty, if you feel what someone feels, then they will most certainly appreciate and reciprocate
No, this is definitely not the case. People feel threatened by the most narcissistic reasons, reasons of jealousy, feelings of less self-worth.
I think the point was that not everyone appreciates and reciprocates, and you should choose someone who does.
People often do NOT appreciate or reciprocate empathy. Empathy is uncomfortable for most people.
I think the same. How someone expects to have a SO if they don’t have any type if empathy.
OOF this is definitely not true
I absolutely love the turn towards introspection over the past few years for Anna. Her combition of wit and sincerity really make the viewing experience feel personal and relatable
I've found Anna's alt account
Anna fascinates me to no end with her intellect.
Same
That's cuz she reads books.
Books make people fascinating.
@@niccolom Well, not only. Reading books doesn't make everyone smarter or more articulate, and it is not that easy to present information from a book you read in such a clear and playful manner. It shows she's quite smart, introspective and hard-working.
Yall are deluded. Megan inspired Harry by ruining his life
fr, how does she do it? OwO
This is really deep. Prince Harry and Meghan see themselves as equals. On the other hand, Prince Charles expects to be the center of attention, but it all went to Diana.
Isn’t Prince Harry the one that got divorced though?
@@m.c.martin Nope. Charles and Diana separated and the queen encouraged the two to divorce.
Meghan sees herself as superior, and Harry is her trophy
@@MsBabbi oh did meghan phone you up and say that herself?
Also, the folks at Psych2go mentioned that we tend to be attracted to what's familiar, rather than what's best for us. So if you grew up in an abusive household, you are familiar with that toxic environment and might subconsciously seek to recreate that familiar environment in a new connection. Hence, why it's important to know yourself before looking for a serious romantic connection.
This 100%. It’s so sad that understanding ourselves is so fundamental to not repeating the broken cycle, but even more tragic, is that it is impossible to see that cycle until we are able to get outside it, and actually see it from outside looking in.
Sooo American society is broken
@@qjtvaddict Most societies are. Most people are.
Dunno though based on my experience they just gave me the example of red flags that I will avoid in the future. I really hate closed-minded and angry people the most. 🙂
You're correct. For most people, looking within is too scary. It's not just a 5 minute horror show either. It's a marathon of some of the most painful memories you get to re-live until you learn to let go. This is why people are more comfortable in their pain with something familiar than to face their past trauma's and grow out of their shell.
what a perfect timing-
Yeah youtube knows lmao
youtube has access to our concerns. So concerning 😅
Yesss
Huh? What has happened?
EXACTLYYYYYYY
Prince Charles with the dislike we see you. Wonderful work as always Anna
It was the merit of Charles that he stood up against the arranged marriages of the royals!
Harry had it easier. He had the chance to walk the road his father built: Marrying someone he chose.
Very unfair to blame Charles for that.
Know yourself before you know others. Know your wants and desires before you learn those of someone else. Understand if you are following your natural path (Tao) or trying to force a path/relationship to meet your own goal.
Well...it should be fine if the path means better financial status for ypu and the kid...mo money mo freedom
The conundrum is it's rare that any person is an "either/or" fully inspirational or deprivational, but rather BOTH will have a mix of inspirational traits along with deprivational traits- because we are HUMAN with imperfections.
So one must figure out what the "mix" is with not just the person you're interested in but yourself as well to figure out if the "combined mix" is mutually compatible.
Exactly. If it was cookie cutter, it would be far too easy to find 'the one'
One of my favorite things about Anna is that she's not self-deprecating, but is realistic with her faults.
"What gifts do you bring to the relationship" also translates to "What do you bring to the table in the relationship." Because if only one person is bringing gifts its not going to be a good relationship.
True.
Everyone has gifts and is bringing them to the table. The question here is, are those gifts compatible, are they valued by your partner or do they need something different?
Around 7 years without anyone and never better.
Need to actually start paying Anna for being my therapist 😂 Her videos have informed me on so much
Single 3 years, that's rookie numbers. You got to push them up..
The fact that someone as beautiful, talented and intelligent as you has been single for 3 years makes me feel a lot less troubled by my almost four years of being single. This is the longest stretch I can remember and it is by choice for the most part - so much effort needs to be made to share something that should be so easy and I am just not going to settle for anything less than what I want. She's out there somewhere and if the universe will it we will find each other. Good luck with your chosen direction and thank you for sharing!
Been single all my life. Not that hard lol. Yk the more I read into this relationship and stuff, the more I feel like being single isn't that bad.
Or maybe it's my coping mechanism lmao
She is holding out for the top 0.1% tall, rich, 6pack abs, but the top 0.1% got options. So she gets pumped and dumped and keeps accumulating mental damage while staying perpetually single. Time and time again it keeps happening.
I hate to parrot the tired line, but if you don't value your own gifts, you'll make it difficult for yourself to present them to your partner. This can lead to a very lopsided relationship with one person validating what makes the other special, and the other being mystified about what they're supposed to be valuing
This is so true, Learning your own core gifts and seeking people who appreciate them. Literally have been told I'm too much by some people then others are completely fine with it *shrugs*
I really admire that she didn't place the blame of the ending of previous relationships entirely on the other person. Takes real guts and courage to admit one may have been to blame.
Here’s hoping everyone finds that special someone that appreciates them and everything that makes you who you are.
Still can't get over the way Harry and Meghan look at each other with pure love. Great choice of examples.
Yes! Nearly as intense as Charles and Camilla.
What a difference between a chosen partner and an arranged one, isn’t it?
Just cause they're hot doesn't mean they respect you.
Or you could say: 'Having their attention doesn't mean you have their respect.'
I've been dumped 1 month ago. This explained to me why my relationship was toxic for me. It was weird because it was like sofly toxic. I tried so hard to match her expectations.
I bet you will meet someone wonderful that will make you feel comfortable, loved and at peace! Just keep working and focusing on yourself. The right girl with come along in meanwhile !
This was such a good explanation of why I sometimes felt attracted to someone but also had a sinking feeling whenever they walked into the room. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why I was attracted to someone like that, but now I know. Thanks Anna!
Well...this is good timing.
I think my core gifts are sensitivity and kindness towards my friends. My ex told me to not be so sensitive and attached to my friends. I want someone who appreciates these parts of me.
It took me a good long while to recognize the difference between that initial chemistry based on genuine affection & admiration, vs. something that feels oddly similar to chemistry but is actually just comfortable because it resembles the trauma in your life….
As always... GREAT CONTENT AND PERFECT TIMING.
Love hearing your thoughts on essentially...everything. Thank you for all your videos, I always come away from them feeling positive and introspective!
Thank you for making these videos. You’re helping people see their own reflection that they couldn’t otherwise see or maybe just won’t accept, including myself.
Always thought-provoking, always entertaining 👍👏👏
Wow this definitely got me thinking. Thank you again for the free therapy!
Thank you for being a real one and putting in so much work to be a better human. The self reflection and inspiration your channel and testimonies give is pure life ❤
I adore your videos. Watching them is like breathing a sigh of relief.
Thank you so much for your wisdom!! Here's to finding people who amplify our core gifts
Thank you Anna for your creative and insightful videos
"Whatever in love means" CRINGE. Ouch, Well just seeing Harry and Megan just put a big smile on my face. Thank you for your channel and IG etc. :)
Conflict maturity is like the #1 thing for lasting relationships
Oui oui
yes!!
I love how simply she puts all the things
*super* appreciated this omggg
This is SO good!! Thank you so much, seriously thank you! I needed to hear this and I already sent it to all my friends. Everyone should hear this message!
Brilliant summary of the book and the topic. You are such a great teacher and communicator. Thank you!
I love that you have a passion for learning and improving yourself! And that you share your new found knowledge and continue to inspire us!
+Maui
To engage in human relations is to be an emotional masochist. We willingly subject ourselves to the possibility of rejection, frustration, and public humiliation just in the off chance that we will find someone who appreciates and cherishes us. It’s madness. We have been tricked by society into thinking we need relationships to define us and our worth. People are shamed and ridiculed for seeking to define themselves outside of connections to others. Human relationships are petty and dangerous. We need to abandon them. They won’t do us any favors in the long run. Love is a trap.
@@razorwindrazor3981 social interactions have a negative relationship with dementia/Alzheimer's so if you don't want to die mumbling incoherently in a nursing home being eaten alive by maggots due to the neglect of corrupt staff, building social connections is probably not actually that bad of an idea
+lixinxin
Love is a trap.
I love the core gifts way of thinking, taking time to recognize what is special and good about you and understanding that people should recognize that and appreciate it
Watching this for the 2nd time, this is such a great help and reminder!
You're brilliant, good timing too. This vid made me teared up a little.. everything so much clearer.
you always get me thinking Anna! great vid :)
This was really helpful Anna!! Thank you for summarising all of your learnings for us :))
How wonderfully honest of you, Anna. Thanks for the vid.
You bring something so special to RUclips. Thank you for this
Informative insight as always. That's a thumbs up.
I must say it's one of your best videos anna. More wisdom to you !
Wow. So many insights. Thank you. Just ordered the book.
The Core Gifts Thing was a Great Takeaway. Thanks Anna.
Anna's core gift of Harry Potter-like spontaneously apparating her pink headphones onto herself should make anyone sound off on wanting to date her.
Pretty serious topic and compared to other videos, it definitively comes off that way. Thank you for making content like this.
I’m here from your book Ana. I’m following your advice “taking actions”. Thank you Ana for changing young women lives.
Oooooohhh good I rewatched this today! Jumping into my journal rn
“Prince trash- sorry prince Charles” XD XD
was looking for this one😂
Thanks, this is really helpful to know in advance! 💞
Genius. Thank you. I just experienced this and ended it literally moments ago and saw this. I kept wondering why I was so attached when I wasn't getting a fraction of what I was giving. Duly noted. Some people will just take and not understand that it goes both ways.
I really needed this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Quiero que me quieran por como soy, no a pesar de como soy.
-Axlin
Anna! you are a communications genius! Remember that as one of your core aspects!!!
I just discovered your channel and I truly love the message you're trying to convey. You do it in a very likeable and down to earth way. I also believe that the content you are spreading is changing peoples lives for the better. Thank you!
This is so eye opening, I’m gonna keep coming back to this vid ❤️
This could not be more perfect for my life rn
OMG!! Yes Anna Akana! Preach!!!
Amazing episode! Thank you so much.
Thanks for breaking things down so eloquently and saving me some research lol love listening to everything you have to say!
Loved the concept of the book I'll definitely give it a read
I know this is off topic, but you're cute, smart and genuine. You are definitely a positive female force on the internet; thanks and keep it up!!
This was so enlightening and interesting! Thank you! 🙏
This is so so amazing. You're truly doing gods work here! Thankyaww
Don't date a Prince. Problem solved. Plus the Purple one died.
wow XD
What a timing...
Just WOW ❤
Wow this is so on point! When I was younger I was not my true self I was a devalued. Now I am most definitely am inspirer. It's amazing because for the last like 10 years I've been telling people that I will not be in a relationship out of commitment but only out of inspiration and if somebody wants to be with me they have to inspire me and I will be committed out of inspiration And it's funny because 90% of women actually treat me worse and since I'm attractive six-foot-six I'm a very powerful man a lot of them don't like my core power and try to destroy it out of insecurity.
like you said. So I've been single for a couple years and celibate for a year working on my peace power and prosperity!!!
Wonderful and concise insight into what marks the sign of a bad relationship and how to recognize one that is better! Thank you from bringing this book to my eye holes and my earballs!
too broke for therapy so thank u anna
Love this... After 3 years being single, I've changed from one kind of love to another. The deprivation love drove me crazy. I was depressed and anxious and I had to seek for therapy. The love I have right now is the opposite. It encourages me, it makes me feel I deserve the best because I worth. This is real love, not the anxiety of deprivation
The production value of this is stunning. Charismatic too and great advice
I'm loving the content!!! Thank you for this.
Anna deserves 100 times the views, she's the single most introspective and relatable person on this platform
I’m reading this book and following the podcast now. It’s how I was guided to my girlfriend. Good choice of audiobooks! 😊❤️
WOW. Thank you.
I will keep this in mind.
Wow this was really insightful, thanks for sharing this with us Anna
I really appreciate how at the end she says her past relationships likely didn't work because her core gifts were not appreciated OR SHE didn't value the core gifts of her partners. Talk about integrity and owning up to what you've done instead of only blaming others ❤️ Thank you, I needed this.
attraction of deprivation is also called "playing the game", as if messing with another human life should be only worth some thrill to another person. it should not, yet it's something that wealthy people have been doing for centuries on a whole other level.
For sure.
Awesome, awesome, awesome! This is literally what I teach my kids so they can live their best lives. All of what you mention is what I came to the realization of after my 20 year marriage ended and my healing began.
Omg Anna you help me so much through hard times cause you are so natural and honest about your opinion and talk about struggles we are all facing ( If we are honest to ourselves )
Thank you & Love youuuu