Her Ex Partner Almost Ended Her Life

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  • Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
  • Today, join us as Ashley Koester shares her journey of survival and healing. After enduring a series of relationships marked by abuse, manipulation, and violence, Ashley faced a critical moment that left her hospitalized with serious brain injuries. Tune in to hear how she has worked to overcome her past and build a hopeful future.
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Комментарии • 224

  • @gracietilert8952
    @gracietilert8952 3 месяца назад +68

    I feel so bad for elderly people
    Who stay in a lifetime of
    An abusive relationship.

    • @oliviagraham9958
      @oliviagraham9958 3 месяца назад +1

      Why you write it like that

    • @venternicky9599
      @venternicky9599 3 месяца назад

      The only problem In this world is the humans and their drugs

    • @Gigglypuffx3
      @Gigglypuffx3 3 месяца назад +1

      She's not that old

    • @imanii4u
      @imanii4u 2 месяца назад +1

      I think understand what they’re saying. Older people, especially women, were taught the follow, respect, and honor men. No matter how they are treated. In some religious circles, they told women that abuse was their “trial” and they could never divorce. The devil’s goal is to kill, steal, and destroy. He will use anyone who allows him to achieve his goal. Jesus is the opposite. He loves and cares for all of us.

    • @ElviraMerriweather
      @ElviraMerriweather 2 месяца назад

      Gracie, you might be surprised by the number of women who remain in an abusive relationship, even marriage & call it a celebration. Sometimes it thirty, forty, even fifty plus years.😮
      Women, feed the nonsense of how they should build a man up.💯😮🙃
      What about those bums building you, the women in their lives up?
      Lyndon Johnson created & signed the bill in the sixties that open a door for women to gradually free themselves.
      Many women in abuse, would stay because they had no money, that is a key element to being able to leave & survive.💯💯
      If she become pregnant, has children, that's another obstacle.
      Many landlords, (even if she could scrape money together) didn't want children.💯
      A woman's hands were tied, so to speak.💯💯😕😕
      Those creeps knew that.💯👿👎🏾
      However, I don't know a nicer way to say this. Many black females are just as evil as the guys. Straight Up!!
      It's extremely difficult to feel much sadness, if any for them. The majority of them, tit for that are every bit as evil as many of the guys.
      I have been treated worse by them, male & female as a whole, than anyone. The evil jealous, insecure females have even topped the guys.💯👿👿👿😕😕🙃🙃🙃
      So, my expression is usually whatever, but, I am working on evaluating on an individual basis. It's not easy &
      will never be easy.💯😮😢😢
      Because their evil keeps reappearing!!💯👿

  • @TMeyer-ge5pj
    @TMeyer-ge5pj 3 месяца назад +175

    This is why society needs to get rid of the idea that you have to be in a relationship. Life isn't a fairy tale

    • @user-ut6kr8rf9y
      @user-ut6kr8rf9y 3 месяца назад +11

      AMEN!

    • @ivacvrk5558
      @ivacvrk5558 3 месяца назад +14

      With the right man,it is! I'm 14 years with my husband,my soul mate,my everything! He never even raised his voice to me! I get i love you in the morning when we wake up and in the night when we go to sleep,i would gave my life for him and he would do the same for me! My heart breaks when i see real life storys like this one! I hope this woman can find true love and peace!

    • @kellyhuffman5082
      @kellyhuffman5082 3 месяца назад +1

      Hey. Ashley, this winterbell56. I just want to say I live you and u miss you on Tic . I love you ❤️

    • @marissa._
      @marissa._ 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@ivacvrk5558
      What was the point of your comment?! Like seriously! 🙄😒
      If it doesn't apply to you and you can't **relate**, why respond?! If you haven't been abused, that's great. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. However, like the o.p. said, life ISN'T a fairytale! LITERALLY for the VAST MAJORITY! So therefore, society as a whole needs to STOP indoctrinating and pushing this dangerous, sick and vile narrative that people (*especially women and girls*) "need" to be in a relationship! Its okay to be single and childfree if that's what that person chooses! Singleness is a gift! Its not lonely! So if the story at hand doesn't apply, let it fly!

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly

  • @lusciouslivingtoday
    @lusciouslivingtoday 3 месяца назад +28

    Abuse is not just physical and unfortunately when it's done in other ways it's harder to prove. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @Noname-ni8qm
      @Noname-ni8qm 3 месяца назад

      That is it when ends begin. If u hear someone like anal and he is not gay or something weird u know this person is not normal. If is young guy who feel interested just to tey is other thing. Otherwise u accept to be with dirty ps. Same as bdsm . And if someone push u in that is red flag to stop anything with him. For anal rape i dont know even what to comment even. Story getting more scarier

  • @Karlucci7
    @Karlucci7 3 месяца назад +38

    I'm so glad you're still here to tell your story. You will save lives.

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 3 месяца назад +39

    The devil is real and uses relationships to destroy us.

  • @Hephzibah_n_beulah
    @Hephzibah_n_beulah 2 месяца назад +27

    I’m at a complete loss. Why did she continue to recycle the same men that were ALWAYS abusive and dangerous or get naively involved with men on such short notice? My GOD her poor kids😔. Is this better than being single?

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful 2 месяца назад +7

      Thats how it works when one doesnt get the right therapy for childhood abuse. Read up on it!

    • @hayleykiyokoisbae1776
      @hayleykiyokoisbae1776 Месяц назад +4

      Consider yourself lucky that you don’t understand. She was swindled into these men making her believe she found a good man after leaving an abusive one, just to end up in a worse situation. The amount of therapy this woman will need is unbelievable

    • @Hephzibah_n_beulah
      @Hephzibah_n_beulah 16 дней назад

      @@Vixinaful no I don’t need to read up on decisions that do not make sense. I just chose to make better choices.

    • @MC-mk6gs
      @MC-mk6gs 12 дней назад

      Unless you are in her shoes don't judge her.
      Empathy and love and compassion for this lady and her children

  • @valerielewis7870
    @valerielewis7870 3 месяца назад +60

    After being in one abusive relationship, I refuse to ever take a chance again. It's not worth it. How did you keep trying for relationships over and over? Be happy being single.

    • @marissa._
      @marissa._ 3 месяца назад +13

      This. 💯
      Wholeheartedly agree. 💯
      After hearing and seeing women get abused, including my own mother and MYSELF, I'm glad I've NEVER been (*and never will be*) in a relationship! I remember getting accused of being "jealous" because I didn't "have a man!"
      First off, in order to be "jealous" of ANYTHING, you first have to possess something that another person wants, needs, is interested in or has a desire for! If you don't have anything that anyone wants, needs, is interested in or has a desire for...how on earth is anybody going to be "jealous" of crap they don't want or need??? 😂
      I love being single and childfree! I loved being single and childfree when I was younger and I still love being single and childfree as an adult. No harm, no foul. No added hardship, no added stress, no added suffering, no added struggling. Being single and childfree is bliss. It never fails and you can't ever go wrong with it. 🤷

    • @maureenbennett809
      @maureenbennett809 3 месяца назад +3

      Truth 💯

    • @jernisharichard5032
      @jernisharichard5032 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@marissa._Just turn to Christ ❤ that's what really matters.

    • @ContextReallyMatters
      @ContextReallyMatters 3 месяца назад +7

      Both are kind of extreme. It's your choice but one bad experience at a restaurant probably wouldn't stop you from eating out. Now if you went to 5 different restaurants and had bad experiences at all of them, I can understand. The person who abused you would probably take joy in knowing they are the cause of you not giving anyone else a chance.

    • @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722
      @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722 3 месяца назад

      ​@@ContextReallyMattersso true! I fucking hate the comment sections of this videos...I want to cheer everyone that I can and cheer the person in the video but noooo everyone haves to act like edgy teenagers that instead of understand that not every fucking human it's like that noooooo, u agreed with you enjoying being alone, but I don't agree with being a son of a bitch that it's going to let a trauma to defeat them

  • @rachelgilbert708
    @rachelgilbert708 3 месяца назад +29

    I was also punished in that very same way. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @katarzynamariamuszynska2811
    @katarzynamariamuszynska2811 3 месяца назад +21

    She was with so many men and rushing into relationships and almost every guy she been with was abusive

    • @virgoddess3456
      @virgoddess3456 2 месяца назад

      Yes, clearly she was not completely blameless. I stayed out of relationships and am alone today because I refused to subject a child to the abuse that I recognized early on just naturally comes with the territory of today’s sexually promiscuous culture. The sexual revolution unfortunately has not worked in women’s favor. We are hardwired for love, but instead we get sexually used and abused over and over. We need to boycott the culture and insist on being respected and loved. It is very hard in one’s younger years when the impulse is so strong to be with someone and have a child, but this is what happens when culture gives in to the dark and irresponsible side of human nature. It’s so hard to find goodness when there is no moral compass anywhere and the only value is feeling good with whatever floats your boat. We are lost.

  • @juliahernandez9572
    @juliahernandez9572 3 месяца назад +17

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. I don’t think people can judge unless you have been through it. Men like this know who to target, sadly they know who is more susceptible to being manipulated. The scary thing is how easily this can become generational, kids are smart they see what we don’t think they will and it’s all they know. I’m praying for your and your children, I’m so sorry 😢

  • @shyreljohnson3271
    @shyreljohnson3271 3 месяца назад +39

    You were in A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP. LIVING AND SLEEPING WITH YOUR ENEMY.

    • @danizay2833
      @danizay2833 3 месяца назад +2

      She was a bit selfish and made same mistakes over and over again

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@danizay2833How the hell is it selfish to leave abusers and try a new guy who seems kind?

    • @elizabethp4064
      @elizabethp4064 2 месяца назад

      STOp 😂 victim blaming don't be part of the problem ​@@danizay2833

    • @debra8883
      @debra8883 Месяц назад

      I would say that this young woman in this video was more naive than anything. She did not need to go back to this abusive relationship or any other. Not to go back and rehash any her former relationships. Just stop and clear her mind and heal some and was really in great need of protection and support or guidance. She was jumping from one relationship to another. It was actually sometimes hard to follow her story.

  • @dianthis
    @dianthis 3 месяца назад +16

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. My situation was very similar. I always thought and sometimes still do think it must’ve been me.
    I hear what some people here are saying, “Just leave.” I used to say that too. Until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes it’s not as simple as that. Also some, I think are just wired differently? Idk but either way she’s human, I believe she tried her best and I’m happy she’s out of that relationship.
    I wish her all the best! My heart is with you. ❤

    • @jernisharichard5032
      @jernisharichard5032 3 месяца назад

      They are called Narcissist. They have no empathy. They play on your kindness. They are oppressed and even possessed by the devil. Use this to turn to Christ. Pastor Kevin la Ewing has videos on this. He is funny and he shows you the real problem. It helped me Alot. May God bless you 🙏🏽.

    • @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722
      @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722 3 месяца назад +2

      I'm so sorry ❤I hope everything to be alright now, you're such a great and strong person ❤

    • @DomesticAbuseJourney
      @DomesticAbuseJourney 3 месяца назад

      Thank you! I'm so sorry you endured abuse and I hope you are happy now!

  • @amithebrand5095
    @amithebrand5095 3 месяца назад +30

    After all the abuse, still having kids still longing for a relationship instead of focusing on healing and the kids 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад +7

      I have worked very hard on my recovery, you have no idea.

    • @ildimed
      @ildimed 2 месяца назад

      Don’t judge how people heal. You don’t know her struggle

  • @ceceprincess4758
    @ceceprincess4758 3 месяца назад +25

    Nothing is wrong with u. God loves you

  • @tranquility9325
    @tranquility9325 3 месяца назад +12

    Speed is the weapon of choice for many toxic ppl.

  • @elizabethbarmann5361
    @elizabethbarmann5361 3 месяца назад +10

    Prayers that you will find inner peace and love for yourself and I pray that your daughters don’t follow in your footsteps 🙏😔

  • @elizabethp4064
    @elizabethp4064 2 месяца назад +3

    Disgusting for the women in the comments shaming her that it must be her fault bc it happened to her more than once YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM. nobody is super happy alone they all want a partner secretly Thank you for sharing your story i can relate to it in so many ways. ❤Jesus found me & while im "happily " single no im not better off alone i want babies and marriage too. I just leave it in His hands now.

  • @billie44
    @billie44 3 месяца назад +29

    My mother was
    just like you. I use to help her fight. These guys enjoy abusing these women.

  • @aussieoma361
    @aussieoma361 3 месяца назад +25

    For the sake of your children don’t get into a relationship until they’ve left home. Clearly you are not capable of seeing these abusive men for what they are.

    • @Padilla-81
      @Padilla-81 3 месяца назад +3

      Exactly.

    • @vanessaroper3028
      @vanessaroper3028 3 месяца назад +7

      Predators can smell either weakness or brokenness. She definitely need to heal before being in a relationship and as you said after the kids are grown-up

  • @tranquility9325
    @tranquility9325 3 месяца назад +15

    Get a restraining order so that every time he makes contact he can get arrested.

    • @heatherlindquist1899
      @heatherlindquist1899 3 месяца назад +3

      Doesn’t happen that way.

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful 2 месяца назад

      Those are difficuot to get.

    • @ildimed
      @ildimed 2 месяца назад

      Restraining orders are useless unfortunately

  • @kelliwest
    @kelliwest 2 месяца назад +4

    How tf did Corey agree to a plea deal but then turn around and appeal and get out on bond?!?!? Great justice system we have 🤬🤬🤬

  • @cookdanceandpraythroughit8516
    @cookdanceandpraythroughit8516 3 месяца назад +12

    You are sooo beautiful!!😍Brave‼️‼️ and loved ❤️

  • @KarenGrimes-ru3gc
    @KarenGrimes-ru3gc 2 месяца назад +5

    Why bring all these men into your children's life 😢

    • @StargazerLily82
      @StargazerLily82 Месяц назад

      Why keep having children with these men???

  • @KennethRachel-xi7dv
    @KennethRachel-xi7dv 3 месяца назад +4

    He really almost beat you to death. Im so sorry you kept going through that you are better than that!!!!! 💓💓💓💓

  • @dianewilliamson4830
    @dianewilliamson4830 2 месяца назад +3

    Your children's well-being ought to be your priority now. Take care of yourself and stop looking toward relationships to create happiness.

  • @hannahm1223
    @hannahm1223 3 месяца назад +28

    I usually have immense empathy for people who share their stories on this channel, but I’m struggling with this one…You’re not responsible for his actions, but you are responsible for giving awful men more opportunities to be awful to you. Boundaries are meaningless unless you enforce them, and by enforce them, I mean LEAVE. I hope you’ve since learned to “love yourself so much that when someone treats you wrong, you recognize it.”

    • @sharonsekhon9475
      @sharonsekhon9475 3 месяца назад +13

      These are unfiltered for a reason; not all stories have perfect victims and that is the point.

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад +7

      I feel for people who lack the ability to have empathy for other humans. I can't imagine being that cruel.

    • @danizay2833
      @danizay2833 3 месяца назад +6

      She was too selfish and made same mistakes over n over again and to get pregnant everytime. It’s like she was willing to sacrifice just to b married and have a complete family

    • @mamathemeat
      @mamathemeat 3 месяца назад +3

      God doesn’t want actors. She could have fluffed up her story to make it sound better but she told us the truth. She’s not perfect and that’s ok at least she’s not an ABUSER

    • @vanessaroper3028
      @vanessaroper3028 3 месяца назад +2

      ⁠she needed to heal first before starting a new relationship

  • @thekurabiye8997
    @thekurabiye8997 3 месяца назад +14

    I don't know what to say. I hope what you said will be a lesson to someone, especially yourself.

  • @bem6344
    @bem6344 2 месяца назад +2

    There is nothing wrong with u sweetheart, you just needed to find self love. I hope u found it❤God is with u

  • @alisonthomson439
    @alisonthomson439 3 месяца назад +3

    I think it is rather concerning that you also took on the responsibility of being a mother … as you seem to be unable to look after yourself

  • @shawnamarie84
    @shawnamarie84 2 месяца назад +1

    I am so sorry this happened to you!I had this happen to me too.

  • @Vixinaful
    @Vixinaful 2 месяца назад +1

    This is how it works when one hasnt been in therapy for a troubled childhood. One violent relationship after another takes place. Been in it for 31 years now, getting help this summer. So she is a classic case, like the rest of us. The comments in here are awful and absolutely lacking in any form of knowledge. Cudos to her for telling! ❤❤❤❤

  • @leanneadams2549
    @leanneadams2549 3 месяца назад +10

    WHY mention if he will reach out ? That stuck me as her wanting him to ! I really hope not !

    • @chartier2525
      @chartier2525 3 месяца назад +6

      I was thinking the same thing. She wants him to reach out. What a weird statement. Sometimes ppl never learn until they are no longer alive .

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад

      I was simply making a point. I do not want to see him or talk to him again.

  • @irenematt8018
    @irenematt8018 3 месяца назад +4

    why do you want him to reach out again?¿??????

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад

      I don't ever want to see him or speak to him again!

  • @marissa._
    @marissa._ 3 месяца назад +17

    (skip to 8:05) Imagine lying 🤥 and saying you "lost touch" of your child when in actuality, you voluntarily gave up your parental rights to your OWN biological child, only to then turn around and ADOPT two kids that AREN'T yours! Like...wtf. 🤦

    • @kevinalleyne361
      @kevinalleyne361 2 месяца назад +3

      Happens quite a bit when men get involved with a new woman who has kids. He then ignores his others.

    • @maddart4445
      @maddart4445 2 месяца назад

      He only adopted them for power.

  • @5thdimension954
    @5thdimension954 3 месяца назад +13

    We teach people how to treat us. Hit me once it’s your fault, hit me twice it’s mine. I am NOT blaming the “victim” here please don’t go there. ITS NEVER ok to yell, threaten, strike or hit another person. EVER! However, Unfortunately our “victim” mindset culture doesn’t address the internal makings of domestic violence and is too focused on the perpetrators of violence and not the dance behind the couple that dances it. It’s always related to unprocessed childhood trauma on both sides, and lack of connection to one’s inner most being! Always!! I think you helped some people when you discussed how you ignored obvious red flags and justified staying repeatedly in abusive relationships because you wanted the relationship to be a certain way rather than the way it really was! This is HUGE and a repeated pattern of making up a fantasy relationship vs reality. The relationships all got progressively worse over time, never better. The victim gets addicted to the adrenaline rushes that go with constant fight or flight mode and this is not discussed enough in the DV culture. I think you can be a great service to others if you continue to work on your internal split which led you to these kinds of men. I hope you’re not with someone right now either. I really hope you are finally getting to know the real you and are being a little selfish with her and not sharing that with anyone for a while. Keep healing and thank you for sharing your story. You’re stronger than you think you are!

    • @Confessions089
      @Confessions089 3 месяца назад +3

      So stalk me once is their fault but stalk me twice is our fault? That doesn't make a lick of sense at all. I'm not victim blaming but I'm going to proceed to victim blame by going into a lengthy explanation of my own personal viewpoints. Viewpoints that are biased and unsympathetic towards victims of abuse.

  • @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722
    @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722 3 месяца назад +1

    I'm so sorry girl❤ you're such an strong and brave woman for keep going❤

    • @Morrocanprincess
      @Morrocanprincess 3 месяца назад +2

      Stong and brave? She's sadly very co-dependent! She can't be alone and always has to be with a man. She has to be strong because of her choices. She needs therapy, not a relationship.

    • @DomesticAbuseJourney
      @DomesticAbuseJourney 3 месяца назад

      I am strong, thank you! I will never let a guy hurt me again!

  • @sandrajohnstone5813
    @sandrajohnstone5813 2 месяца назад +2

    Feel sorry for the children.

  • @heatherlindquist1899
    @heatherlindquist1899 3 месяца назад +3

    My ex gave me a brain bleed.. and I was married. He never came to the hospital…

  • @user-zz2zj3mh9g
    @user-zz2zj3mh9g 2 месяца назад +2

    Mistake was to jump from one relationship to another

  • @truth_hunter
    @truth_hunter 3 месяца назад +6

    Ok, so I’ve been in many bad relationships and tolerated things longer than I should have.
    After my divorce, I decided to work on me. My self-esteem was low and I noticed I always jumped into relationships quickly then think they will change if they love me.
    So I worked on myself built confidence and reminded myself that I’m a good person and I deserve to be treated well.
    Next, I thought about what I want and don’t want in a man. I told myself to watch for red flags and not to stay with anyone if I noticed them.
    Plus, I decided to just talk to guys for awhile before even considering dating them and I wasn’t in a rush to make it a relationship. So if a guy didn’t seem like what I was looking for I’d stop talking to him. It was easy to just stop associating with them because I have good self-esteem and I wasn’t in a relationship it was just talking.
    I made sure I enjoyed being single and made a life I enjoyed so much that any guy that wanted me would have to be worth me not staying single.
    Later I met my husband. It just happened we started talking awhile and he was upfront and honest like me. Most guys I’ve talked to or dated were never upfront and they’d try to act like they are so good only to change after 6 months to a jerk.
    My husband did things for me I never expected from a guy nor did I think those things were something men do anymore. Like open doors for me. We dated awhile then got married. He still opens doors for me and helps me with things. May 24th it will be 2 years of marriage.
    My point is you have to learn to value yourself and believe you deserve to be treated with respect and love. What you accept/tolerate in a relationship that is what you will continue to receive. You have to respect yourself enough to know when to leave a toxic relationship. But if you know what you’re looking for you don’t even have to be in a relationship to know if a guy is good for you or not. Now, if there are things like flaws and behaviors you don’t like in a man understand that he won’t change after you get married those things you don’t like will get much worse. You must set boundaries and know what you’re willing to tolerate and what you’re not gonna tolerate you know deal breakers. Going from one bad relationship to another is partially your fault because you kept choosing the same kind of men. I know what I’m saying because that was me choosing the wrong guys not seeing my worth and tolerating abuse. If you don’t learn to love yourself you will never know what love is and what being loved is like. Don’t make excuses for a man to be abusive towards you. We all have had hardships it’s no excuse to beat a person and treat them horribly. A partner is like looking for a nice pair of shoes. You must find the right pair of shoes that fits comfortably. You cannot just grab any pair of shoes and expect them to be comfortable. If you pick any pair of shoes then you have to decide whether to keep those shoes that hurt your feet or look for a better pair. You cannot make a person be the right person for you. They are either right or wrong for you.

  • @saffronsolo9668
    @saffronsolo9668 2 месяца назад +5

    If someone hits you just once, leave.

  • @amybe3
    @amybe3 3 месяца назад +2

    At least for me, everything goes back to growing up when abuse was normalized, and not understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy. And when you go out to the real world, you want to feel “safe” and that only happens in familiar situations. Please be health so that you don't find scum bags again!

  • @shyreljohnson3271
    @shyreljohnson3271 3 месяца назад +9

    Once you see the DARKSIDE of SOMEONE IN PLAIN SIGHT LEAVE IMMEDIATELY WITHIN ANY EXPLANATION. A MAN WILL ALWAYS TELL YOU EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR.OK SO BE SMART.

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад

      The most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves, that's what almost cost me my life.

  • @KK-mm8ms
    @KK-mm8ms 3 месяца назад +16

    I just can't withwomen who pick the same dude over and over. They go against EVERYONE around them. At some point you just let them alone to be miserable. Don't get sucked into their problems

    • @Confessions089
      @Confessions089 3 месяца назад +1

      No, why are these men all acting in the same manner is what the question needs to be. There's something obviously wrong with a lot of males. Especially the ones who think that it's appropriate to abuse women in any manner.

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад +5

      I just can't with people who lack empathy and are uneducated.

    • @mamathemeat
      @mamathemeat 3 месяца назад

      I’m sure she felt way more stressed and pressed than you do bud… thanks for the shame and rudeness…

    • @jeanniefelix6534
      @jeanniefelix6534 2 месяца назад +1

      There is a lot of bad guys out there, that's why they are alone, they come from dysfunctional families many times, I know cause I've met a few

    • @KK-mm8ms
      @KK-mm8ms 2 месяца назад

      @@Ash-ec5iq educate me. Lol. What don't I understand? Give me a break.

  • @mistysummer3859
    @mistysummer3859 3 месяца назад +2

    I pray for your healing and protection for your children! Also just wanted to know how long ago this was because there is a bruise on the top of her eye lid and small one on the bottom of it!?

    • @DomesticAbuseJourney
      @DomesticAbuseJourney 3 месяца назад

      It must be the lighting I had no bruises on my face.

    • @alyngrace123
      @alyngrace123 Месяц назад

      And in her wright cheek or is the phone camera?

  • @jello12345
    @jello12345 Месяц назад +1

    Is this what co dependency is ? Bc its almost unbelievable that every single man she chooses just happens to he the devil by chance. There's gotta be something more to this case.

  • @zukosmom3780
    @zukosmom3780 2 месяца назад +5

    Anyone else think she's a fool?

  • @bwilliams1152
    @bwilliams1152 Месяц назад

    Wow all the negative comments…. No one will understand why people make the decisions they make in these types of circumstances. There’s obviously something going on that she may not even have know about yet as to why she made the choices she made. She deserves mercy and grace and prayer for healing and strength to move forward in a positive way for her and her children.

  • @CatherineHorn-xo8xv
    @CatherineHorn-xo8xv 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank God...U r ere ..after All That..👈🙏🙏🙏..just Love urself ...we absolutely deserve That 🎉....💔❤️🙏

  • @develyamccullough6554
    @develyamccullough6554 3 месяца назад +12

    You seriously need help seek a therapist!!!

  • @rosario_len
    @rosario_len 3 месяца назад +10

    You need to look internally. Every single relationship was abusive. Why are you attracting monsters. Lightening doesn’t strike twice, but for you it hits every single time.

    • @nessat.v.
      @nessat.v. 3 месяца назад +1

      First of all…B@$CH!!. She was young at the time. Yeah on the outside looking in she should’ve paid attention to the red flags after the first experience . HOWEVER, she is not the blame for those pieces of shit that couldn’t control their tempers and hands. Everytime they abused her they CHOSE to. That’s not her fault.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 3 месяца назад +8

      I agree. Probably unhealed childhood wounds. Be gentle with her.

    • @rosario_len
      @rosario_len 3 месяца назад +1

      @danilaroche1156 yes… this breaks my heart. I’m such a girls girl and sometimes my support can come of as blunt. But it she doesn’t heal within she will find another man that that might be worse. It looks like she’s healing from a black eye in this video 💔

    • @vickymoshi6038
      @vickymoshi6038 3 месяца назад

      Jesus is the answer....should repent and renounce all soul ties...

    • @DomesticAbuseJourney
      @DomesticAbuseJourney 3 месяца назад

      Maybe we should support victims of abuse. I choose to use my story to inspire others, teach, advocate for justice and most of all I'm here to start a movement. People feel safe in my space, can you say the same about yours?

  • @paulaswyers9348
    @paulaswyers9348 2 месяца назад

    I went through similar courts here in Stephenville nl our judicial system is sad and there for the abuser

  • @andreahurst6156
    @andreahurst6156 3 месяца назад

    You're so brave!! Thank you for your story. A true blessing

  • @gingerspeidel-ys6et
    @gingerspeidel-ys6et Месяц назад

    I believe in long engagements. They can’t hide that long.

  • @jaynescott219
    @jaynescott219 13 дней назад

    Unfortunately lots of women, men to are victims of DV! I got into my first relationship at 16 this was full of abuse of all sorest. I was fortunate enough to get out early. He did stalk me for quite some time after. By 17 I met my next who was also slap, punch, kick happy. I was young and thought I could change him. So we got married. The violence continued. We had a son together. The day he chose to attack me in front of my son was the last day I stayed. After 7 years I left and got a divorce. A couple of year later I met someone else who I thought was mr right. We had a daughter but he was mentally abusive. I left after several miserable years. I decided to give myself a break from men. After a couple of years I went on a blind date. We have been together ever since. Now about to celebrate 20 years of marriage and 22 years of being together. I got lucky in the end ❤

  • @GP-dw3hb
    @GP-dw3hb 2 месяца назад +1

    Why are people not getting private investigators to vet these guys?

  • @jernisharichard5032
    @jernisharichard5032 3 месяца назад +2

    Those are Narcissist's you were with. Turn to Christ and heal. So sorry you experienced all of this. I know how it can be. Keep your head up. God is our REDEEMER 🎉.
    Pastor Kevin la Ewing has videos on this. It helped me. ❤ May God bless you 🙏🏽

    • @jernisharichard5032
      @jernisharichard5032 3 месяца назад +1

      I was in the same thing it's not just DV, it's in a whole nother level these types of people.

  • @beautifullyblessedandnatur7457
    @beautifullyblessedandnatur7457 2 месяца назад +1

    See being single sounds so much easier even if you may have moments of loneliness. This woman should have been looking for God instead of men

  • @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph
    @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph Месяц назад

    What’s just as scary as being with somebody who shows no empathy is someone who can fake it my ex was a psychopath told me after we got married and a narcissist so he could fake empathy that look in someone’s eye she’s talks about I’ve seen it few times

  • @batninbin9046
    @batninbin9046 2 месяца назад

    Tank you for all u saying

  • @jollyjohnathan9524
    @jollyjohnathan9524 23 дня назад

    The "justice" system is a absolute joke.

    • @MC-mk6gs
      @MC-mk6gs 12 дней назад

      Yep my perp is enabled by some of the local police,
      They know I am victim.he has nearly killed me several times

  • @princess13sparkles
    @princess13sparkles 2 месяца назад

    How dare they reduce his sentence 🤬

  • @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph
    @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph Месяц назад

    My ex husband was in therapy doesn’t mean anything narcissists do it in private that’s how they don’t get caught too smart if they didn’t abuse women and actually do something with there lives they would great normal people

  • @miloteagan4273
    @miloteagan4273 2 месяца назад +1

    Can I ask Where are your children? They need therapy after seeing all this.

  • @Judy-c3d
    @Judy-c3d 2 месяца назад +1

    Why is she shaking her head no the whole time? That’s a tell of someone who is lying.

    • @jokermotorcycle
      @jokermotorcycle Месяц назад

      Interesting 🤨 interesting head shaking🫨🧐~🤥Shake it off

  • @batninbin9046
    @batninbin9046 2 месяца назад

    A now how you feel a feel sorry for you 😢
    From me the women in sweden😌

  • @dantedevil4962
    @dantedevil4962 2 месяца назад +1

    Look I'm not denying that it was really horrible experience but at what point you thought maybe U should find out why I'm choosing these bad people and maybe not to have children with them sure first time 18 I understand but after that you were not 18 anymore your children paying price work your bad choices

  • @towandaward5821
    @towandaward5821 3 месяца назад +3

    🙏

  • @kazandraschellenger5505
    @kazandraschellenger5505 Месяц назад

    I have noticed these stories always have a certain theme of women that are desperate for love. Learn to be alone. Instead of getting into one relationship after another heal yourself and become whole within and get a clue. What annoys me the most is the children that have to live through one man after another abusing their mother because they can't be alone.

  • @ruksyo7904
    @ruksyo7904 3 месяца назад +5

    🤔🤐

  • @virginiadelarosa1238
    @virginiadelarosa1238 2 месяца назад

    I think she had these guys in life because of self hatred.. she probably went through some trauma, she didn't want to hurt herself, so she the man in her life that did..it's like when you hear women say to their friends if something happens to me my husband did it..why, why do they stay with this person???please love yourself, when you see one red flag, be out ✌️

  • @TheQueen07
    @TheQueen07 3 месяца назад +9

    How long ago was this look like I see a bruise on your face now

    • @rosario_len
      @rosario_len 3 месяца назад +6

      Her eye? Yeah I noticed this too

    • @TheQueen07
      @TheQueen07 3 месяца назад +2

      @@rosario_len yeah

    • @TheSpiritRoom23
      @TheSpiritRoom23 3 месяца назад +1

      Must be another abusive situation she’s secretly in unless that’s a permanent bruise. The stories she’s telling are in her past.

    • @TheQueen07
      @TheQueen07 3 месяца назад +1

      @@TheSpiritRoom23 lol I hope not

    • @TheQueen07
      @TheQueen07 3 месяца назад +2

      @@TheSpiritRoom23 lol I hope not maybe it’s old

  • @ddhh3251
    @ddhh3251 3 месяца назад

    Ii do not understand men wanting annul sex. The thought of it is so disgusting.Im sorry she went through so much trauma!

  • @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph
    @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph Месяц назад

    Ao thankful I didn’t get pregnant with my ex I got lucky cuzz we tried for long time one point in my life god was looking out for me or I wouldn’t be alive today cuzz I would have stayed

  • @priyokabi
    @priyokabi 2 месяца назад

    Sorry to say this, but the problem in her life is she herself! It must have been horrible for the children!

  • @cynthiagibson6793
    @cynthiagibson6793 2 месяца назад

    And I thought I was dumb

  • @sophia4christ
    @sophia4christ 2 месяца назад +1

    Lady, please accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. Don't waste your second chance at life. When you have God's Holy Spirit inside of you, you will discern these people right away and walk in His wisdom to avoid them. God bless. 🙏🏽

  • @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph
    @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph Месяц назад

    His new gf now is gonna be the next victim need to have list of names cuzz that goes away can search it but doesn’t always come up online I’ve tried

  • @gabbymiles5655
    @gabbymiles5655 3 месяца назад

    🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @gingerspeidel-ys6et
    @gingerspeidel-ys6et Месяц назад

    Your looking at the devil or one of his demons.

  • @valdezaimee6
    @valdezaimee6 3 месяца назад +1

    ❤️‍🩹

  • @michellejalbert-deen1329
    @michellejalbert-deen1329 3 месяца назад +4

    Girl can pick em!

  • @primadonna2819
    @primadonna2819 3 месяца назад +8

    When are women going to wake up to the fact that romantic love doesn't exist?

    • @badgirlhollywood9741
      @badgirlhollywood9741 3 месяца назад +3

      What do you define as romantic love?

    • @Confessions089
      @Confessions089 3 месяца назад

      What's your definition of romantic love?

    • @badgirlhollywood9741
      @badgirlhollywood9741 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Confessions089 I suppose it’s something between the way a mom loves a child and having unconditional love I think that men are incapable of unconditional love

    • @jernisharichard5032
      @jernisharichard5032 3 месяца назад

      ​@@badgirlhollywood9741All men are not the same. Turn to Christ and learn the word of God. It explains everything. The good news. The devil, our sin,
      all brings our destruction. 😢

    • @TheSpiritRoom23
      @TheSpiritRoom23 3 месяца назад +2

      It took me years to finally learn that and since then I’ve been flourishing by myself💙

  • @DaleneGroenewald-tr9yl
    @DaleneGroenewald-tr9yl 2 месяца назад

    Something is wrong with you!!!!!!

  • @bambii9620
    @bambii9620 3 месяца назад +2

    💔💔

  • @NoNonsense30
    @NoNonsense30 2 месяца назад +1

    I feel no sympathy for this woman. She clearly cheated, so don’t whine about anything when you are the CHEATER.! I feel that this woman is the instigator, the fraud, you are not even remotely a victim.!! And playing the suicide card is repulsive. Stop jumping from man to man .

    • @carriesmith9943
      @carriesmith9943 2 месяца назад

      Your comment is disgusting! No one deserves abuse! You must be an abuser!

  • @ojay8961
    @ojay8961 3 месяца назад +1

    Ohh, so she was being a fast azz out here cheating. There usually is a reason, esta la bollitas culpa😂😂

    • @Ash-ec5iq
      @Ash-ec5iq 3 месяца назад

      There is NEVER an excuse for rape. Your comment is disgusting.

    • @Gigglypuffx3
      @Gigglypuffx3 3 месяца назад

      Lmfaooooooo I was like u could atlease hide the cheating part

  • @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph
    @KayLeeHoward-vc2ph Месяц назад

    What’s just as scary as being with somebody who shows no empathy is someone who can fake it my ex was a psychopath told me after we got married and a narcissist so he could fake empathy that look in someone’s eye she’s talks about I’ve seen it few times