Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor-Marisol

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  • Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024

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  • @marismoodswings
    @marismoodswings 3 года назад +29288

    Hello everyone,
    Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to my story. Words can’t express how grateful I am for YOU!! Never let anyone take your voice, strength, love, and most importantly YOUR WILLINGNESS TO LIVE FOR YOURSELF
    May God bless all of YOU!!!
    Love Mari ♥️

    • @hayleywhelan3243
      @hayleywhelan3243 3 года назад +510

      I'm so sorry you went tru all of this is so upsetting but you are a strong beautiful woman with so much to give to the world and I hope you find happiness and more in your life xxx hayley from Dublin Ireland ☘🍀🌻

    • @leahdinatale9606
      @leahdinatale9606 3 года назад +484

      Mari, you are such a beautiful person. You are strong, brave, and so smart! May God continue to bless you and cover you in his love.

    • @hmmm8552
      @hmmm8552 3 года назад +274

      Thank you for sharing ❤️ stay beautiful and continue to heal yourself every day

    • @juliefennell3343
      @juliefennell3343 3 года назад +256

      God bless you, Mari. Thank you for sharing your incredibly impactful words. You are so articulate and poised. I’m praying for you. God bless you. ❤️

    • @Heartsinhandshorsemanshipllc
      @Heartsinhandshorsemanshipllc 3 года назад +196

      Thank you Marisol for sharing your story. You are a very strong young lady, and we all appreciate your honesty. Those of us who have been through trials can learn so much from you.

  • @SuperMiIk
    @SuperMiIk 3 года назад +5231

    A conversation needs to be had about mothers that abuse their daughters and coddle their sons. And before anyone twists my words, *no* , sons don't deserve to be abused either.

    • @DaMensch86
      @DaMensch86 3 года назад +608

      This happens a lot in the latin or Hispanic community. Not so much abuse, but the boys are treated like little prince and the girls are treated like housemaids

    • @kimcarroll4955
      @kimcarroll4955 3 года назад +235

      I agree totally! My mothers a narcissist, who would accept anything that a male in her life could dish out (my brothers, her partners) but treated me like shit & a verbal punching bag my whole life. Not excusing her behaviour, but I think it comes down to her father and that need for acceptance from him that she never got. Which translates to women in her life being second class and accepting any toxic behaviour from men.

    • @nikkidalogan3502
      @nikkidalogan3502 3 года назад +199

      Also in the black community will at least the Caribbean I have many female cousins that can’t go outside to play like there brothers can etc. They don’t understand how this causes children to rebel

    • @lailahfields8916
      @lailahfields8916 3 года назад +116

      @@nikkidalogan3502 no the black community period. There's black American mothers out there who do the same thing

    • @Web19814
      @Web19814 3 года назад +207

      100%. I am Hispanic and this is exactly how it was and is. It's disgusting. We had to do so much for my brothers. Serve them, iron their clothes... It was all BS. I now have 2 kids, 1 girl and 1 boy. I make sure they both do chores, both know how to do laundry. I don't know how I got lucky with my husband as well.

  • @courtney8203
    @courtney8203 3 года назад +3774

    Family molestation is so swept under the rug yet so prevalent in society. Marisol, thank you for sharing your story and you are a courageous human… much love

    • @leilacherradi3485
      @leilacherradi3485 3 года назад +160

      Right ? It's scary when you see how common it is.... It makes you wonder what kind of society we live in!!!!

    • @Desaree1
      @Desaree1 3 года назад +86

      Her story touched me and reminded me I'm not alone we are not alone

    • @sandypandy5506
      @sandypandy5506 3 года назад +135

      My boyfriend and I could not sustain a relationship. I believe it’s the severe molestation from his dad. He never trusted me. I was totally devoted to him. Still love him. I went to work and he moved out. This abuse destroys families

    • @sandypandy5506
      @sandypandy5506 3 года назад +43

      And relationships

    • @naturallaw1733
      @naturallaw1733 3 года назад +15

      @@leilacherradi3485
      what do you mean 'Society'? this is actually part of the Human story. it's one of the usual Taboos throughout time and place. 🤷‍♀️

  • @vanessaaac
    @vanessaaac Год назад +910

    The sheer amount of children being sexually assaulted all of the time is truly unfathomable. I am so deeply disgusted every single time I hear about these poor children and I hear about it a LOT. Like......WHAT THE F*** IS WRONG WITH THESE HORRIBLE PEOPLE?! I don't f***ing understand!
    All of you survivors out there are so strong, thank god for you. You all have a great purpose on this earth, even if it feels the exact opposite sometimes. Mari, your courage is inspiring and I will never forget your strength.

    • @Celestialnighthawk
      @Celestialnighthawk Год назад +10

      Broken people create broken homes which create more broken people and all the anger and sadness is inflicted onto innocent people then more broken people are created and the cycle continues it’s probably never going to stop but I pray it does one day also some people are just born evil

    • @JesusistheonetrueGod
      @JesusistheonetrueGod Год назад

      Children are sexually assaulted in schools now without their parent's knowledge, they just call it "gender affirming healthcare" and convince people it's a good thing.

    • @dawnsky11
      @dawnsky11 Год назад +9

      I agree. These men need to start telling themselves NO - whenever they are tempted. Also, kids need to be supervised. Please, be aware of what your kids are doing at home, especially when they are teenagers.

    • @steveotatooed
      @steveotatooed 10 месяцев назад +7

      Its very simple the abusers were once the abused they are just repeating learned behavior

    • @dbr311
      @dbr311 9 месяцев назад

      I was thinking the same thing!!

  • @rideorfly13
    @rideorfly13 3 года назад +4654

    You really have won the lottery of life if you are a born into a caring, loving family. I’m a lucky, lucky guy

    • @ThePresentation010
      @ThePresentation010 3 года назад +34

      Pretty much wyte..

    • @david21216
      @david21216 3 года назад +68

      I often think of the statistic that around 50% of the world lives on $5.5 dollars a day, birth can be all about those statistics homie, gotta be thankful all the time

    • @rideorfly13
      @rideorfly13 3 года назад +85

      @@ThePresentation010 yeah cos no white people live in poverty do they….

    • @rideorfly13
      @rideorfly13 3 года назад +22

      @@david21216 damn right

    • @MusicLeeSarah
      @MusicLeeSarah 3 года назад +40

      White person living in poverty here 👋🏼(actually "perceived white person" as I'm half indigenous/ native American and half Anglo-Saxon but I have yet to benefit (in any financial and/or societal way) from my native heritage and everyone just assumes I'm white so I guess I have that assumed White privilege going for and against me...) But anyway I didn't always live in poverty. I grew up in the suburbs to working class parents who worked their asses off and now they are technically millionaires and I'm 40 just bought my first home which is a mobile home for $2,000... So now that We've gotten all of the formalities out of the way 😉🤣 I agree that yes if you're born into that I think you win some kind of lottery in Life or even if you're born into a family that holds its top priority to be others perception that you are a loving caring family I think if you're born into that kind of family you win some kind of life lottery as well. Based on the whole fake it till you make it theory...
      (All of this In my humble and usually crappy opinion 😉)

  • @greggonzalez661
    @greggonzalez661 3 года назад +3564

    This beautiful young woman was betrayed by all of those who were placed on Earth to love and protect her. This is the cruelest betrayal of all.

    • @patriciaque197
      @patriciaque197 3 года назад +51

      Marisol, I pray you know in your soul that the trauma had to be revealed in order to begin casting it from your being. You are brave and you are worthy. 🙏💛🙏

    • @bohemia9956
      @bohemia9956 3 года назад +8

      💛💚💙

    • @rsdouglass4
      @rsdouglass4 3 года назад +13

      You said it.

    • @davidx4120
      @davidx4120 3 года назад +53

      Yes, I almost cried. Her voice was trembling as she was discussing her mother. Every girl wants their mothers love. This has to be difficult.

    • @donp9982
      @donp9982 3 года назад +5

      So sad bro

  • @personallynicki2455
    @personallynicki2455 3 года назад +2095

    Her tears when she hugged Mark shows that all she needed/wanted outside of peace was for someone to hear and see her. You are heard Mari, we love you!

    • @JFU245
      @JFU245 2 года назад +48

      It made me cry. I cried with her. She’s so strong!!

    • @personallynicki2455
      @personallynicki2455 2 года назад +51

      @@JFU245 after watching this I’ve found out that my husband niece have been being rapped by her father for 4yrs. She 16 now. The universe is an amazing thing. I never thought I’d know someone who’s personally been through such torment. I cried for Mari and I cry for keke too now. What is life! She was only 12. Her mother knew. My heart is broken.

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 2 года назад +17

      @@personallynicki2455 i found out one of my rlly close family members was also being raped by another one of our older family members since childhood. This crap is so scarily common. I hope youre there for her and were able to tell her that its not her fault and it doesnt define her, and that you are there for her!!!!! Such simple words are sometimes needed to be heard by someone else!!!!

    • @personallynicki2455
      @personallynicki2455 2 года назад +19

      @@yyg4632 absolutely me and my husband now are trying to pick her up and show her a normal family dynamic. We’ve always tried to pick her up and was denied that because he lived with the mother and for years NO ONE WAS ALLOWED in their home and they would make excuses why she couldn’t join our family outings. We know now. Only god knows!

    • @that_blonde_punk
      @that_blonde_punk 2 года назад +2

      ur right, she was heard and felt. love these people and followers

  • @ja398
    @ja398 Год назад +253

    Amazing Mari!!!! I didn't speak of my childhood abuse to my parents until I was 57 years old. By then both of the abusers were dead. My parents gave me to my grandparents because my grandmother wanted a child with blue eyes. I was between 1 and 2 when I went there and was sexually abused by my grandfather and an uncle until I was about 7 or 8 and returned to my parents. Therapists in a program convinced me to tell my parents. Parents believed me but I blamed them for giving me away to where I got abused. There wasn't a need for me to go to my grandparents. How could my parents just give me away like a puppy. I just wanted them to say they were sorry that this happened to me. I never got it, even when I asked for it. It's not done in our culture, you don't say you're sorry. So I am saying to you now with all my heart that I am so very sorry that you went through all that abuse. You are beautiful inside and out. Wishing you love and happiness.

    • @myrnab2022
      @myrnab2022 Год назад +18

      I'm sorry that you were abused and that your parents couldn't say sorry for sending you away. ❤

    • @deveaneatkinson2450
      @deveaneatkinson2450 9 месяцев назад

      :Your grandmother is a child abuser enabler she knew what they were doing and put up with it. I am so sorry

    • @Tabithaatk2019
      @Tabithaatk2019 9 месяцев назад +7

      I’m also wishing YOU a lifetime of love and happiness and peace ❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing this comment

    • @EternalRiver90
      @EternalRiver90 8 месяцев назад +2

      I’m so sorry as well for all you had to to through. I was also abused by two older male cousins when I was 5. One time at my house and a couple other times at my grandparents’ as well... Not sure why so much abuse happens at grandparents’ houses whether it’d be by them or another family member. It’s so weird. Anyway I hope you’ve gotten the therapy you needed and definitely deserved. You are loved always and forever ❤

    • @alyssachausse6752
      @alyssachausse6752 8 месяцев назад

      And I am very sorry that you felt betrayed, and hurt by people who were supposed to protect you❤ and I am proud of you

  • @ihaveadreamformykids4400
    @ihaveadreamformykids4400 Год назад +261

    The cry at the end was the little girl who needed consoling, loving, and understanding. Made me cry too 😢

    • @carsongibson5145
      @carsongibson5145 8 месяцев назад +8

      I would like to hear how she's doing now. Despite everything thrown at her she still manages to have a good head on her shoulders and a positive attitude. I wish nothing but the absolute best for this young lady.

    • @guyguyver7552
      @guyguyver7552 6 месяцев назад +1

      I just see two big BAZOOMMBAS!!!...🤪😋🤪😛😛😛

  • @SteveEilertsenSouthAfrica
    @SteveEilertsenSouthAfrica 2 года назад +754

    Hi married a "Marisol" 20 years ago. She told me what happened when we met - and I said I love you, and want you regardless. She dumped me almost at the altar but I fought for her and finally got her. I love her more than anything. She is precious beyond words. Today she was sick and I took off work to care for her. Some things have taken years to heal - I am a patient man - she is worth it. If you are a Marisol, you are worth it. There is someone out there who will love you for the precious person you are.

    • @dragonflyparade8143
      @dragonflyparade8143 2 года назад +51

      What a lovely message to give out. I hope your wife is now well again and up and about. Be very happy together for a very long time.

    • @DA-ib1ii
      @DA-ib1ii 2 года назад +10

      ❤️🙏❤️

    • @dontevercalmdowntsegai
      @dontevercalmdowntsegai 2 года назад +21

      Someone pin this comment 🥰

    • @christopherhorn1161
      @christopherhorn1161 2 года назад +22

      This is the most beautiful thing I've ever read, given who Marisol is.

    • @ElderandOakFarm
      @ElderandOakFarm 2 года назад +16

      She is lucky to have you

  • @Pollyjisdabest
    @Pollyjisdabest Год назад +855

    This story broke my heart more than any other SWU video I've watched before... This channel makes me realize more and more how it should become a top priority to everyone to keep children safe. Even if you are not a parent, watch out for the children in your life. Once a child's spirit is broken, they will never be the same.

    • @flordelis9649
      @flordelis9649 Год назад +21

      Same here. I was abused as a child by family and my mother still doesn't believe it!! If sexual abuse was talked about and taken more seriously we could fix the problems of the world.

    • @Pollyjisdabest
      @Pollyjisdabest Год назад +11

      @@flordelis9649 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Some people think denial brings protection, but that's not how it works. The more that people share their stories and speak out about the issue, the more awareness it brings. I never would have thought that child abuse of this kind was so persistent around the world until I started watching YT. May God bring you and anyone with childhood scars strength and peace 🙏

    • @jaynesegman7847
      @jaynesegman7847 Год назад +8

      YOU MUST ALSO WARN NAIVE YOUTH OF ALL THE DANGERS OUT THERE.

    • @bonniecleveland3470
      @bonniecleveland3470 Год назад +5

      This one is hard because of some stuff I went through

    • @justsomenobody889
      @justsomenobody889 10 месяцев назад +7

      Sibling sexual abuse is the worst type because of course the children must live in the same house, and for some reason it just doesn't cross parents' minds as a possibility. This particular type of abuse is rampant in Amish communities, in part because children are never even told that sex exists (much less what it is) until the day they are married, so the teenage boys start acting purely on instincts with no sense of what they're doing. I suppose the best way to prevent it is for parents to have the 'bad touch' talks when the child is very young, like 3 or 4, and obviously to spend more time supervising their children in general (which sadly isn't always possible)

  • @KayliDaShizNit
    @KayliDaShizNit 9 месяцев назад +68

    Her saying “all she ever wanted and wished for was to learn how to read” my heart broke in that moment. What a beautiful, pure, stunning soul! We can all learn a lot from this strong amazing girl ❤sending love and strength

  • @unlitdarkness6
    @unlitdarkness6 3 года назад +1234

    Round of applause for the detective who believed her.

    • @samuelpena3195
      @samuelpena3195 3 года назад +29

      Give him a raise

    • @sweetness5599
      @sweetness5599 3 года назад +83

      And a pit in hell reserved for the detective who didn't believe child me

    • @blueStarKitt7924
      @blueStarKitt7924 7 месяцев назад +6

      ​@sweetness5599 😡🤬😔 Sorry for what you went through. May you heal and find peace and love.❤️🙏

  • @Jivolt
    @Jivolt 3 года назад +532

    She held it together for over 51 minutes.
    The power of hugs.

    • @stansmith5610
      @stansmith5610 3 года назад +5

      Hugs?

    • @P4PKing
      @P4PKing 3 года назад +20

      @@stansmith5610 Yeah, she broke down after the hug. So, the power of hugs.

    • @crissypoo83
      @crissypoo83 3 года назад

      @@P4PKing òplllĺ

    • @brianda5793
      @brianda5793 3 года назад +6

      She needed the hug, she’s definitely been deprived of affection

    • @AlisonJacobson77Ching
      @AlisonJacobson77Ching 27 дней назад

      Well said!

  • @Strength_In_Wisdom
    @Strength_In_Wisdom 3 года назад +1989

    Does anyone feel how much love she carries in her heart. Really you can feel her love.
    You're an amazing soul Marisol

    • @kevinkinney5445
      @kevinkinney5445 3 года назад +4

      How do like being an empath?

    • @kevinkinney5445
      @kevinkinney5445 3 года назад

      How do like being an empath?

    • @wesleyAlan9179
      @wesleyAlan9179 3 года назад +5

      I completely understand, Growth

    • @Strength_In_Wisdom
      @Strength_In_Wisdom 3 года назад +17

      @@kevinkinney5445 😁 Being such has become a whole lot easier. It's like being the actual sun.

    • @marismoodswings
      @marismoodswings 3 года назад +23

      Thank you so much Growth for listening! May God bless you!!! ♥️

  • @bee1715
    @bee1715 Год назад +468

    12.09 she nails it by explaining childhood sexual abuse. It’s dissociation and your mind does it to keep you safe because what is happening is the WORST most horrific traumatic thing that’s ever happened to you. It’s why so many people don’t even remember or have recall of their abuse until as late as mid 40s. Prayers on EVERYONES healing journey who has had their lives ruined by sexual abuse

    • @Mamabear1320-h4k
      @Mamabear1320-h4k Год назад +5

      You stated that perfectly. ❤ Sending you love 💐

    • @carmenrodriquez-cedillo9082
      @carmenrodriquez-cedillo9082 11 месяцев назад +9

      Your right, I used to feel like I was spinning and falling at the same time during my SA. I also would pee on myself. I'm almost 40 and am trying to build courage to go to therapy

    • @sanb9459
      @sanb9459 7 месяцев назад +1

      Sending you love ... wishing you all the best for the future! You're amazing 🙏🏻

  • @cindys2995
    @cindys2995 3 года назад +1767

    When I was a teacher, we were always taught that a child smelling like urine was a sign of abuse, but I NEVER understood that, other than that possible neglect. Her explaining her bedwetting was an eye-opener....such a sad, yet POWERFUL story!

    • @bambabalino
      @bambabalino 3 года назад +97

      I knew someone whom 'smelled' etc., years and years later, I found out they had been abused - after watching this, I wonder if same/similar situation... It's an eye opening thing for me too and I'm taught also to look for signs of 'Neglect', without considering this as the 'type' of abuse happening...

    • @jonahsummersell345
      @jonahsummersell345 3 года назад +3

      @@amandasmith2109 how is that funny

    • @pambeforethestorm9784
      @pambeforethestorm9784 3 года назад +104

      @@bambabalino Yes I remember a girl who smelled of urine in middle school daily and she was teased relentlessly....she was my friend so I never participated but always wondered why...she would explain to her tormentors that he brother wet the bed each night. Later, I realized she just thought up a story but found out she And her brother were abused and she married an abusive husband. People don't realize how far abuse follows into adult life if not treated properly with therapy. So sad, but I'm glad I never teased her....

    • @bambabalino
      @bambabalino 3 года назад +14

      @@amandasmith2109 That including emojis? lol
      ..Using, I think, in right context? (!) …Just in case, we are trained as best we can be (depending where we work, whom we work for, which service etc.), to look for signs of abuse, and this particular sign would initially/normally, I personally think, indicate neglect.. I have never been made aware of it be a sign of sexual abuse, but I will certainly bring it up in our next Safe-Guarding training... hence this video may help care/support givers another aspect to consider... the beautiful woman in this video, Mari, deserves a medal for potentially saving children... even if just one...

    • @samueldoss9608
      @samueldoss9608 3 года назад +32

      I went to school with a girl
      That was abused
      Thankfully she recovered very well, has a family of her own doing very well
      When we were younger
      We have those talks
      My understanding is
      It's not neglect so much as to making themselves undesirable, in hopes not to be touched anymore
      I would say if the person is
      Really young than its negligence
      If there coming to an age of self sufficiency
      Then it's a defensive tactic and possibly a quit cry for help

  • @lavernebell6274
    @lavernebell6274 2 года назад +614

    I’ve been through this from age 5 to 15 yrs old. My stepfather was the culprit.
    Then went onto being homeless, having intimate experiences with men much older than me. Onto many broken relationships, losing friends from me lashing out.
    Finally at 63 yrs old, yes a lifetime of misery and a broken world I have found a beautiful therapist who is looking after me.

    • @Rose_budd
      @Rose_budd Год назад +27

      Rooting for u!

    • @tdeo2141
      @tdeo2141 Год назад +18

      I wish you lots of peace and healing.
      I know how distressing it is when it happens right at home, a place that is supposed to be safe and comfortable when the exact opposite happens.

    • @MrEpz4321
      @MrEpz4321 Год назад

      Your mother was the culprit. Look up single mother statistics.

    • @idamaebennett9965
      @idamaebennett9965 Год назад +9

      Am sorry you experience such evil

    • @carolinareaper8089
      @carolinareaper8089 Год назад +3

      I sent my ❤ love and support to you! Reeder you are amazing person and you mean a world !!!! Don’t be hard on yourself! I am sure your guardian angel is watching over you! I wish you only good days and a lot of sun ☀️ and happiness! Sending hugs 🤗

  • @deniselomeli450
    @deniselomeli450 3 года назад +1216

    This hits so close to home. My sister was molested by my oldest sister’s husband and when we told my mom, she told us not to tell anyone. Fast forward 20 yrs later my mom gave him $70k to open up a restaurant. Some parents are so fucked up in the head. Instead of protecting her children she awards the perpetrator.

    • @pamelaroach319
      @pamelaroach319 3 года назад +43

      Wow that is horrible

    • @deniselomeli450
      @deniselomeli450 3 года назад +68

      Yes, but I’m blessed to have an amazing life away from all of those sick people. My sister that was molested is still around those animals. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @care4animals114
      @care4animals114 3 года назад +15

      So sorry ppl are disgusting
      God heal you please 🙏

    • @emraith9
      @emraith9 3 года назад +21

      That’s disgusting 🤮 I’m sorry you girls went through that.

    • @chicnoir29
      @chicnoir29 3 года назад +26

      OMG why would she do that. Some women throw other women to the wolfs.

  • @Lilsonya262
    @Lilsonya262 9 месяцев назад +145

    The fact that she said her dad was the only one out of that whole family that was somewhat mentally stable and took care of her & even thought of him as amazing but then once he found out that she was being molested by her own siblings all the support just vanished and he too even shunned her. 💔 just shattered my heart most of the time in these tragic stories we want at least one person to be their support system. 😔

    • @amberjulia123
      @amberjulia123 Месяц назад +1

      I was wondering the whole time if the dad actually started this whole cycle by sexually abusing the oldest daughter- because where else would she learn such a thing to pass onto her younger brothers and sister? So I wasn’t surprised that he shunned her when she exposed the truth.

  • @Lunapoodles
    @Lunapoodles 3 года назад +391

    Therapy has saved her...she knows her boundaries, understands its not her fault and not her shame to carry anymore. POWERFULL!!!!

  • @megancgreen
    @megancgreen 3 года назад +546

    The amount of adults in this child’s life who utterly failed her is staggering. I’m angry at them, but so in awe of Marisol’s strength and wisdom.

    • @nicksterp2805
      @nicksterp2805 3 года назад +36

      just awful how her family shunned her when SHE was the victim

    • @user-lk1qx7gb5o
      @user-lk1qx7gb5o 2 года назад +13

      That's very common, adults inside the home, schools and community all turn the other way. No one wants to get involved. Which in my opinion is the worst part of the crime. You see this public neglect to a lesser degree everyday at grocery stores, fairs, events..the general public will walk right past a crying child alone without a parent in a public place. I've had to jump to the rescue hundreds of times in my life in public places for children and animals.

    • @dawsonb5569
      @dawsonb5569 2 года назад

      What if you had said, "No! I don't want to do this!"

    • @dawsonb5569
      @dawsonb5569 2 года назад

      Praise God!! You told on them!!

    • @jaymegallo5575
      @jaymegallo5575 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@dawsonb5569and it would still happen. people say no all the time and they are still forced to do things. how ignorant of you.

  • @Magoodw
    @Magoodw 3 года назад +703

    “You don’t define me. And I forgive you”. - She set herself free with those words. She will be unstoppable in life in all that she does. She is a Survivor. What a Beautiful Soul.

    • @JaneSpades
      @JaneSpades 3 года назад +1

      Let's hope she does better

    • @JaneSpades
      @JaneSpades 3 года назад

      She's beautiful. Sorry forryakkvpain and dad see was a beast

    • @angie_is_tired
      @angie_is_tired 3 года назад +1

      Good god, i’d read your comment before she said those words during the interview …
      Your comment literally struck me sober.
      I don’t know you; you don’t know me. But it’s so weird how the things we say can help people …
      God bless ✌️

    • @carlmorgan8452
      @carlmorgan8452 3 года назад +4

      She has her own youtube channel now....sharing and helping others on it too ... may God bless her 🙏❤

  • @wetsand7379
    @wetsand7379 Год назад +109

    I never comment on videos but damn... this woman is strong. Hearing her story makes me feel so angry and dissapointmented in humanity but I'm so glad she's still here with us and that she's making a healthy life for herself. Much love to this woman!

  • @GaiaDay66
    @GaiaDay66 3 года назад +1417

    As a licensed therapist…I want to say to you Marisol. Thank you 🙏🏾 for telling your story. Your poise and eloquence in speaking your truth, brought me to tears. I want to let you know you are loved and appreciated. Your story…sadly to say is a similar story I’ve heard in my practice, more times than I want to count. Someone here needed to hear this today. Thank you so very much for sharing you don’t how many you’ve helped.

    • @shawnscott5647
      @shawnscott5647 3 года назад +14

      I have been through the same way things. I have a therapist but I don't really know how to talk to him about it. Were can I find a female therapist.

    • @GaiaDay66
      @GaiaDay66 3 года назад +28

      @@shawnscott5647
      Hi Shawn,
      There are several different ways you can seek out therapy and ask for a female. First, if you have insurance you can call your insurance provider and ask the rep to send you a list of in-network female providers in your zip code. Another, also way is that there a lot of new online platforms and in person centers that are nationwide like, BetterHelp and Thrive Counseling that you can ask for a female. Also free counseling and support in organizations like RAINN and Mending the Soul. I hope this helpful, thank you for reaching out.
      I hope you find someone, your courage to ask for guidance, is very much an indication that you’re ready to receive it.
      With love and appreciation of you reaching out, I wish you the best.
      Gail

    • @alyssacozart716
      @alyssacozart716 3 года назад

      Truth

    • @Ygonnaeatthat3136
      @Ygonnaeatthat3136 3 года назад +7

      Gail, I've lost all confidence in the therapist I've been seeing for three years now. Before, we would discuss and work towards goals of getting better. Now, our time consists of catching up and addressing trivial instances of events that recently transpired.
      Have you ever encountered this and how should I approach resolving this? Thank you.

    • @northernstar7162
      @northernstar7162 3 года назад +6

      @@Ygonnaeatthat3136 It sounds to me like you and your therapist have outgrown each other? Maybe you could use the suggestions/advice offered in Gail's second comment and start looking for a new therapist?

  • @rlms56
    @rlms56 3 года назад +754

    She is so articulate and conveys her traumas so well. She would be a great at working with other abused children.

    • @giannacargill796
      @giannacargill796 3 года назад +8

      My thoughts exactly.

    • @grandmamarymarthatammy_blo6603
      @grandmamarymarthatammy_blo6603 3 года назад +4

      Good point!!

    • @sandypants111
      @sandypants111 3 года назад +2

      Agreed. I thought she may have shared that at the end. What a true warrior 💕

    • @PippiLong1
      @PippiLong1 3 года назад +6

      I wonder if they now, would like to apologize. Now that they are older and may know better, they may be ashamed. They might need help getting to that point of approach.

    • @tatertot58
      @tatertot58 3 года назад +15

      @@PippiLong1 They probably still deny it ever happened classic abuser style.

  • @nikkikrow2211
    @nikkikrow2211 3 года назад +304

    In spite of having a horrific child marked by abuse, Mari blossomed into a beautiful, sweet young lady.

    • @sareenawyld
      @sareenawyld Месяц назад

      So wise and so well rounded, in spite. ✅️✅️✅️

  • @vaar2742
    @vaar2742 Год назад +44

    Thank you Marisol, your story really hit home for me. I am a 71 year old woman who suffered from sexual abuse, physical and emotional abuse for years from family, co-workers and in marriage. All the time believing it was because I was a sub standard, flawed human being. My own mother turned against me also and so have my siblings..never believing me. I was blessed with two of the most wonderful children in the world who believe in me and love me with all their hearts and this has helped me along my journey. I am so sorry you suffered as you did, I pray that God will always be there for you and comfort you. You are right..Love is liberating and I feel hate and holding grudges puts us in a kind of prison., a prison I have broken out of. Take care of yourself and God Bless you.

  • @nurseprac.nikki513
    @nurseprac.nikki513 3 года назад +595

    My heart aches for Marisol. I was also sexually abused as a child, physically abused by my mother and mentally by my stepfather. The one silver lining for me though was a grandfather who knew what I was going through and as a teenager made me come live with him. He taught me that I was deserving of love. It was bc of him and my grandmother that I’m am a successful adult today. I miss them so much.

  • @ztebazile
    @ztebazile Год назад +593

    "I didn't know that I can say no" 💔 every one of these stories makes me a more fierce mama bear. Sibling sex abuse happened in both my child's father's and grandmother's family and I am here to protect and break the cycle !!! Much love to you Marisol and thanks to Mark for giving her story space.

    • @cosmicreef5858
      @cosmicreef5858 Год назад +8

      Happened to me as well and i do not tolerate ANY of it. It is EVIL. One of the worst betrayals you can ever experience.

    • @loanicastillo3327
      @loanicastillo3327 Год назад

      Do not let your children have sex education at school. Home school. Go to church. Sex is the idol of young generation. Not God. But sex. They do not read the lives of the Holy. Or the Bible. Sex education makes children to explore. Kids are even raped in college these days. So common! They can get whatever they want in planned parenthood without your permission. Adults can be raped not only children. Adults are not safe either. Do never let them live with a person they are not married to. Do not let them be promiscuous as teens or adults. Talking about sex with children is promoting the idea. I am from a different country and I don't know what to think of sex education. At least I was in the Middle class and people are respectful and Kids do not have a social life. I wish I knew nothing about it. I was abused as an audult. I think sex education should be at the doctor's office when you get married. But now I remember procreation and sex is not the same thing. A teacher first mentioned this to me. And God wants the first. Still I cannot beleive people can procreate so easily, the whole thing to this day seems so crazy to me I don't know how people actually do it. So I don't know why people even want to do that. As a Child pancakes looked delicious on T. V. But in reality, they were never that good. So if you watch porn you may become lustful. I have never Heard of a real person enjoying it.

  • @alabamajenny8751
    @alabamajenny8751 3 года назад +787

    Those words,” I’m being sexually abused at home.” Those were the were most freeing words you could have expressed.
    It’s okay, Marisol. You are not alone.

    • @TAM2031006
      @TAM2031006 3 года назад +5

      Yes, until you do you are in a prison of your own misery.

    • @catherinenevin747
      @catherinenevin747 3 года назад +7

      You deserve good things

    • @patriciacole8773
      @patriciacole8773 3 года назад

      I know Jenny. It’s not happening now, right?

    • @StevenEvens7125
      @StevenEvens7125 3 года назад +1

      Sounds a lot like snitching

    • @s3m4jno5w4d
      @s3m4jno5w4d 3 года назад +4

      @@StevenEvens7125 the fuck are you talking about?

  • @deeyoung8611
    @deeyoung8611 9 месяцев назад +12

    “Therapy is life”. Absolutely love this. It saved me too and I’ve been a therapist for over a decade to provide the same support and unconditional positive regard for each client who has been violated, minimized, marginalized, abused. I tell people, you don’t need therapy, but instead you deserve it.

  • @vivio2852
    @vivio2852 2 года назад +239

    You are the black sheep because you’re the only one who’s not messed up. What a courageous, gentle spirit you have. I hope your light keeps shining.

  • @natashavandekamp145
    @natashavandekamp145 Год назад +427

    This was one of the hardest videos I’ve watched so far. I can feel her pain. So many people failed her and it breaks my heart. She’s a beautiful human inside and out. ❤️

    • @jackiesmith765
      @jackiesmith765 Год назад +3

      Her parent, her parents and elder failed her period!! 😢

  • @yyg4632
    @yyg4632 2 года назад +265

    A teacher literally has lives in their hands. God bless those 2 teachers who took time out of their lives to actually worry about her problems and literally improve her life so much. Heroes.

  • @nadiasoho1
    @nadiasoho1 Год назад +51

    Marisol, you telling yourself to ‘snap out of it’ made me burst out crying. The fact that you had been through hell and back, the hurt, the mental and physical pain, the failures of those around you… and you still had the strength to say that to yourself…is mind blowing and epic. You are a warrior of life and deserve the the best of everything. Your strength is other worldly and I want to say you are loved. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏽♥️

  • @kdog9104
    @kdog9104 3 года назад +477

    I know her inner child is so proud of her for standing up on this platform and strongly telling her story and helping others who may be going through similar things. Thank you Mari

  • @chicagolife5302
    @chicagolife5302 3 года назад +1845

    Marisol is already a HUGE success! She's not a drug addict, prostitute, incarcerated, neglectful or abusive mother. Y'all watch the channel and understand the repercussions of an abusive childhood. God bless you Mari 🙏 you're a great role model.

    • @eltorocal
      @eltorocal 3 года назад +74

      @Patrick Meallet ...she doesn't have to be a drug addict, prostitute, incarcerated, neglectful or abusive mother. But, she could have been, as it is treatment by the very same people as what she experienced that forms or creates the drug addict, prostitute, incarcerated, neglectful or abusive mother.

    • @davidx4120
      @davidx4120 3 года назад +21

      Even when the abuse is verbal & mental to a child by adults in my neighborhood.

    • @karithema9ician657
      @karithema9ician657 3 года назад +34

      Yeah she’s literally a goat 🐐 all the things life tried to break her down with…. She keeps fighting. She heavy handed too 💪🏾🙌🏾🔥

    • @eltorocal
      @eltorocal 3 года назад +20

      @@karithema9ician657 Damn Good Woman there... she will make a Man a really Good Man... some day. Her decision... Her's ..and Her's alone.

    • @MandenTV
      @MandenTV 3 года назад +8

      Bar for success is pretty low if not being a drug addict, prostitute, in prison or an abusive parent are the goals.

  • @lesliejohnson1138
    @lesliejohnson1138 3 года назад +695

    Thank you, Mark, for knowing to be mostly silent while Mari told her story. She had quite a story to tell and she did it so beautifully. You knew something magical was happening and your silence let it unfold. Mari, you are a gifted person. Your telling of your story took my breath away. You are awesome and I hope you take the world by storm!

    • @albertohernandez2540
      @albertohernandez2540 3 года назад

      Hispanics already un the majiriaty un los ángeles,Leslie TIC TAC TIC tac,the poder of Moctezuma

    • @whofarted2903
      @whofarted2903 3 года назад

      Hi yeah same this poor girl Marisol
      Also took my breath away
      Does anyone know what that meant for me please ?
      I'm so sorry to her ❤️

    • @mariemonn8912
      @mariemonn8912 3 года назад +13

      Mark always allow the silence….a good trauma counselor know not to interrupt also….

    • @katrinascheuermann763
      @katrinascheuermann763 3 года назад +3

      I agree 100%

    • @ohlottie
      @ohlottie 3 года назад +2

      Here here to your comment. It’s exactly how I felt listening to Marisol.

  • @sue5158
    @sue5158 Год назад +30

    I recall the embarrassments of being abused in f4ont of others. Itvadds a whole new level of shame. Its like, " I must be so bad to be treated 5his way. And now everyone knows". My parents mirror Marisols. Thanks for sharing. We aren't alone. We aren't to blame. Xx

  • @ginaseaton3646
    @ginaseaton3646 3 года назад +233

    "But at night, who's gonna protect me from THEM" Wow. This sentence cut through me like a knife. Peace and Love Marisol

    • @olivia-hh9ml
      @olivia-hh9ml 3 года назад +2

      It gives me chills, so sad

    • @karenevanoff8586
      @karenevanoff8586 3 года назад +1

      @@olivia-hh9ml Same.

    • @MiloMyriad
      @MiloMyriad 9 месяцев назад

      But why did they abuse their sister? As they knew what they were doing...

  • @KathleenHemrich
    @KathleenHemrich 3 года назад +554

    Thank you Marisol! I'm a therapist and am so thankful that you had the bravery to share your story. Your story, your voice helps others who cannot tell their story. And thank you Mark for giving us the privilege of wathching such courageous beings. Bless you.

    • @bettynelson5361
      @bettynelson5361 2 года назад +11

      Very brave indeed, I relate to her and could not tell my story for all to see. I'm praying she finds a peaceful life. I've been in counseling over 40 yrs. Hopefully it happens for her in less time. 🙏⚘

    • @KathleenHemrich
      @KathleenHemrich 2 года назад +7

      @@bettynelson5361 I agree Betty! I actually have my own RUclips channel and tell a bit of my story intermixed with counseling tips/tools but it's nothing compared to what Marisol went through. It reminds me of Maya Angelou the writer who wrote I know why the caged bird sings - after her trauma she stopped talking for some years as a little girl and then she said something akin to "Once I started talking again, you could not stop me" So powerful and I see Marisol this way.

    • @teresamyers6992
      @teresamyers6992 2 года назад +3

      Everyone in this comment section is a therapist,

  • @10slover62
    @10slover62 3 года назад +688

    That was one of the most heartbreaking, emotionally moving, gut wrenching recountings I've ever heard in my life. Marisol, you are absolutely incredible. You are strong far beyond your words. Far beyond. So strong. So damned brave. So wise. So sensitive (and I mean that in the best sense of the word). You will always prosper and bring light into this world. Thanks for your light, Marisol.

    • @armygirl85fuckhitler74
      @armygirl85fuckhitler74 3 года назад +7

      Watch Tyrone's video about the real boogeyman. I cried like a baby glad Mark hugged him at the end

    • @intellectualunicorn7383
      @intellectualunicorn7383 3 года назад +9

      She truly is a role model for a lot of us, I wish her the best in this world 🌎 ❤️

    • @anaisvlogs3672
      @anaisvlogs3672 3 года назад +8

      Marisol. I commend you girl! To speak the truth and be freed from the darkest secret is so brave!!! I pray you are doing better and taking it day by day❤

    • @tinamaze8937
      @tinamaze8937 3 года назад +2

      P88hn

  • @georgiastewart4479
    @georgiastewart4479 Год назад +197

    Marisol, You survived a nightmare childhood, and my heart breaks hearing you talk about this. You're a survivor. I hope you can find peace and comfort. You deserve that. All the best to you

  • @ruhiyyakhaspoladli4332
    @ruhiyyakhaspoladli4332 2 года назад +607

    started crying at min 8 as a person who face sexual abuse when i was a kid. you are very very strong Mari! God bless you!

    • @forever-rosebud
      @forever-rosebud Год назад +1

      💛

    • @hannahkayee831
      @hannahkayee831 Год назад

      Her mom should be in jail.....

    • @MiraSky
      @MiraSky Год назад +3

      Same, I felt like she was speaking FOR ME!!

    • @tdeo2141
      @tdeo2141 Год назад +2

      It is particularly distressing when the abuse happens by a sibling.
      I've been there as well and wish you all peace and healing.

    • @jerrynospringer2516
      @jerrynospringer2516 Год назад

      Do not call her Mari, you don’t know her

  • @andreak6132
    @andreak6132 3 года назад +302

    This was the most emotionally intense thing I have ever watched. Never have I ever cried so hard for a perfect stranger.
    God bless your beautiful shining soul, Marisol.

    • @alwaysmoreme
      @alwaysmoreme 3 года назад +2

      Your God should have blessed her by saving her from years of being raped by her brothers.

  • @orpha9031
    @orpha9031 2 года назад +295

    Powerful story.
    By the time I came to grips with childhood sexual abuse I was 57 and my abuser was deceased. I wrote out a "mock" police report detailing the abuse. It brought me much healing. I ended up burning it. Marisol, go forth and conquer! We deserve peace and happiness 😊.

    • @ashly9379
      @ashly9379 2 года назад +12

      you are a very strong and brave person. im sorry that has happened to you ❤️

    • @gemcove5783
      @gemcove5783 Год назад +6

      Great idea. I too had a situation with a next door neighbor. Never told a soul because my Mom was Crazy & would have killed him. When he died. I had a party! I got thru my childhood trauma with a lot of therapy. I wish I had said something to someone.

  • @tinavann2548
    @tinavann2548 2 месяца назад +4

    Mark, thank you for giving her that fatherly hug at the end. She needed that so badly and you sensed that.

  • @jadeharper4623
    @jadeharper4623 3 года назад +513

    I wonder if she knows how poetic she is. It’s truly beautiful. She said she couldn’t hear what her mom was saying over the feeling of the cold water hitting her body. Though I’ve never actually felt that, I felt her words. And then she described the feeling of the warmth of the sun on your face in a car ride, and that red color when your eyes are closed. I would’ve have never known to use those descriptors of that feeling, yet I knew exactly what she was talking about. She speaks like how my favorite writers, write: Zora Neale Hurston and Maya Angelou.

    • @ashleyjade570
      @ashleyjade570 3 года назад +4

      OMG YES!

    • @noelhickman1048
      @noelhickman1048 3 года назад +2

      Yes! I totally agree 💭📖💕

    • @user-sh2mk8ew4c
      @user-sh2mk8ew4c 3 года назад

      No she does not. She need to be told daily what a wonderful lady she is.

    • @pamelaroach319
      @pamelaroach319 3 года назад +8

      Yes the ones that walk with pain write poetry to keep us sane.though broken down and defeated feeling like we have been cheated.we find peace in small things like how the waves crash or a bird sings.we started out brokenhearted and without a chance now we can be free and to the moonlight we shall dance.

    • @jviarruel
      @jviarruel 3 года назад

      Yes!!! 🙏

  • @lisalamorey3453
    @lisalamorey3453 3 года назад +254

    I just love this woman. Wish she was MY daughter, and part of OUR family so we could show her love and support.
    Thankfully she found this all on her own.
    Please know you have SO many people here that care and admire you SO much!

  • @Michael2x
    @Michael2x 3 года назад +398

    This interview was so difficult to watch! I am 61 years old and I had to keep stopping the video to clear my eyes. She is the strongest human being ever! Such an amazingly beautiful forgiving soul. How could anyone ever do this to anyone, especially a child. She was tortured by monsters, but she defeated them all. I never knew such cruelty could exist in this world, especially at the hands of your own family members. This lady is truly an angel here on this earth. She has taught all of humanity what it is to be a survivor! God bless you Mari!!!

    • @nicholaskrancher2693
      @nicholaskrancher2693 3 года назад +4

      You never knew such cruelty could exist? Do you live in a cave?

    • @Sharebearr1214
      @Sharebearr1214 3 года назад +3

      This one was very hard to listen to. Absolutely horrific what she’s been through and survived. Much love Mari!

    • @Fifty8day
      @Fifty8day 3 года назад +4

      I’m 63 and I found it difficult also.
      She is so brave to tell her story .
      I so hope your life is better .

    • @stacyyoust
      @stacyyoust 3 года назад

      @@nicholaskrancher2693 it's different hearing from her, she's smart and also real. I'm feeling the way too.

    • @SkybabyandStar
      @SkybabyandStar 3 года назад +6

      @@nicholaskrancher2693 whether or not you choose to believe it- many people aren’t aware of the things that go on in life. I feel I was pretty much sheltered a large part of my life. I wasn’t exposed to anything cruel or abusive growing up. For you to remark what you did to the lady- you are the one who must live in the cave. You don’t have the right to treat others with sarcasm or judgement. - you are nobody and until you know how to treat others you remain just that. A nobody.

  • @thomasmiller1670
    @thomasmiller1670 8 месяцев назад +7

    That's a powerful woman right there. Smart, beautiful and so well spoken. I'm clapping and crying for you. You're unstoppable

  • @56brever
    @56brever 2 года назад +763

    This is one of the most compelling testimonies I've ever heard. God, please protect and bless this beautiful soul.

    • @viva2pk
      @viva2pk 2 года назад +9

      Amen 🙏 May she have many blessings in this life and protection.

    • @unclesamzbastardsonu.s.b.s9315
      @unclesamzbastardsonu.s.b.s9315 2 года назад

      Lol, your god let it happen.

    • @nomadsteve5297
      @nomadsteve5297 2 года назад

      Your god sat back and watched this poor child being abused for years and never did anything to help,
      Your god sounds like a real evil b&£ta£#

    • @kerifernandez
      @kerifernandez 2 года назад

      God didn’t protect her bc there is no god.

    • @queenofscots2004
      @queenofscots2004 2 года назад +2

      Marisol, you're such a wonderful person.... Sweet, gentle, kind, sensitive, intelligent and absolutely gorgeous!
      I can't describe how enraged I am about your history! I wish there was a way I could help you. I've watched this video a couple of times since it was posted and my heart chatters in a thousand pieces. Every time. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kimsekulski4328
    @kimsekulski4328 2 года назад +509

    I could feel her trauma. I could see her relive it as she was sharing it. Heartbreaking. I wish her healing and the life she deserves free from her past.

    • @pinkpugginz
      @pinkpugginz Год назад +10

      her dad seriously pissed me off. I bet he knew what was going on the whole time

  • @SophieMarieWellness
    @SophieMarieWellness 2 года назад +361

    I am just blown away by her ability to tell her story so eloquently. I’m still sobbing. What an absolute warrior woman. Much love to you Marisol

    • @AmberLovesMystery
      @AmberLovesMystery 2 года назад +26

      @@shottashabazz6721 are you serious? I’m sure she means because just LISTENING to such horror is difficult to get through- let alone recount. Why are you trying to make this about race.
      Do better ❤

    • @blackthornsloe8049
      @blackthornsloe8049 2 года назад +16

      @@shottashabazz6721 energy vampire be gone

    • @dawnmazarati3301
      @dawnmazarati3301 2 года назад +1

      @@shottashabazz6721 you're not only a racist piece of shit for making this assumption, but also a loser piece of shit. Only those guilty of racism themselves jump to the race card. The rest of us in the human race give zero fucks about your wounded agenda.

    • @jesseramirez9062
      @jesseramirez9062 2 года назад

      @@shottashabazz6721 if the first thing you say is about race, you are the racist.

    • @ISa-jy8ol
      @ISa-jy8ol Год назад

      @@shottashabazz6721 Hey Shotta - I just want to make sure you know that your comment here, is the comment of a bad person. Why you making everything about race? It’s obvious you have no idea what it is like to experience adversity.

  • @nora__
    @nora__ Год назад +41

    It’s so unsettling how common it is for people to experience this abuse everywhere they turn as they’re growing up. Thank goodness her teacher recognized something was up and did the right thing. Glad she has gotten help and is healing now.

  • @whitebread-bn3ve
    @whitebread-bn3ve 3 года назад +598

    A 45 year old white guy from the sticks who lived something similar. My entire life has been messed up from it. I feel for you sis. When our siblings mess us up, no one can understand. Stay strong!

    • @niaprice3267
      @niaprice3267 3 года назад +59

      We see you too White Bread!!! We are with you in Spirit! May you continue to heal and shine bright!!

    • @ellamayoxoxo9510
      @ellamayoxoxo9510 3 года назад +15

      That’s so fucked up 😔 I’m so sorry my friend

    • @ms.chacon7920
      @ms.chacon7920 3 года назад +13

      Love and Light and Healing to you 🙏

    • @RayleneG679
      @RayleneG679 2 года назад +7

      💔❣🤟🏻🙏

    • @syeager2389
      @syeager2389 2 года назад +7

      Take care. Best wishes n Blessing in the New Year 2022. 💖

  • @emmiecook1015
    @emmiecook1015 3 года назад +577

    Mari, your story is so inspiring. I live in Waukegan and grew up here as well. I have experienced similar situations, and I am an addict because I couldn't find ways to deal with my trauma. I had 4 years clean and I relapsed a few months ago. I have 3 days clean from heroin and I just want you to know your story has helped me.

    • @denicesealy
      @denicesealy 3 года назад +25

      Stay strong friend. You are not alone. Congratulations on your sobriety🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️

    • @solarose7820
      @solarose7820 3 года назад +14

      Hi Emmie!
      Stay strong. You did it and you can do it again! I’ve been there. Surround yourself with encouraging people and let go of the toxic and negative. Get back to your doctor to ask to start sub/methadone if you’re able to?
      You can do it! :)
      Take care of yourself xoxo

    • @pappy9473
      @pappy9473 3 года назад +10

      Emmie I hope this message finds you in good health.
      I wish you well.
      Marisol said something very profound about the perpetrators in her story. She forgives them and does not allow the traumas of her past to 'define' her.
      She has found great strength.
      I hope you have too
      The very best of luck to you Emmie.

    • @remy1016
      @remy1016 3 года назад +5

      Here’s to another 4 and another and another, you’re gonna get there 💗

    • @aananimity
      @aananimity 3 года назад +1

      ODAT ❤

  • @e0070414
    @e0070414 3 года назад +337

    I don't usually do this, but she has got to be one of the most amazing women I have ever had the pleasure of listening to in my whole life. I have never been so fixated and captivated, yet feeling so incredibly sorry for a person in my life. Her story is so triumphant. To go through unspeakable trauma and still be here to tell the story. Marisol, you are amazing! You are the true definition of the power and strength to overcome any obstacle.. God bless you my dear. Your story will change lives. You inspire change.

  • @superunknown70
    @superunknown70 Год назад +32

    When she describes the way she seized control of her life for herself @ 42:45 was really inspiring. She chose not to live in a victimized state of mind for the rest of her life. I'm struggling to find the right words. Marisol, YOU are a freaking bad ass!! I hope your life, the one you create gives you every happiness you deserve!! Best wishes and thank you for sharing.

  • @hayat-ec4bt
    @hayat-ec4bt 2 года назад +304

    I cried at the last minutes she needed that hug , such a forgiving and beautiful person , probably one of my favs interviews in this channel

    • @Zumcho
      @Zumcho 2 года назад +10

      Yeah this my first time watching the hug, I cried too. What a powerful show of release.

    • @jonnaobrien6495
      @jonnaobrien6495 2 года назад +1

      I had the same thought that Marisol was my favorite interview. When I saw it was a 51 minute interview, I almost bypassed it. I have a short attention span ! From her first words, until the end, I was captivated. Mark Laita’s photography and interviews have opened doors in my soul, yet not walked through.

    • @gloriouscontent3538
      @gloriouscontent3538 2 года назад

      Oh, I would loe to give her a hug.

  • @js7924
    @js7924 2 года назад +358

    The last 10 seconds hit me the hardest, you could feel & hear the release. So impactful and brave! She’s a victor not a victim and I absolutely love her soul!

  • @itsjust_deanna
    @itsjust_deanna Год назад +57

    I remember seeing your video a year ago. I cried and was touched so deeply by your vulnerability and bravery for speaking out on things that aren’t easy to speak about. I was incredibly inspired by you. So I reached out to Mark myself and a year later I was able to share my story on here as well. It was so empowering and I thank you so much for sharing and being so strong ❤

    • @krischanlive
      @krischanlive Год назад +2

      I watched your interview, it was very touching.. hope you're doing alright 😊

    • @itsjust_deanna
      @itsjust_deanna Год назад +4

      @@krischanlive Thank you so much! Yes, I’m doing much better these days 🙏🏼

    • @krischanlive
      @krischanlive Год назад

      @@itsjust_deanna That's great, I'm glad 😇

    • @JesusistheonetrueGod
      @JesusistheonetrueGod Год назад +2

      Go with God. There is hope in Lord Jesus

  • @specialk5579
    @specialk5579 3 года назад +256

    The traumatic experiences of incest & sexual abuse by her siblings still haunts her immensely praying u find peace in ur soul to b happy

  • @nicolealexandria333
    @nicolealexandria333 3 года назад +94

    She would be a great public speaker to talk about trauma and learning to heal. She was poetic and honest. I hope she heals fully because her beautiful heart deserves it.

  • @maureenmartini5094
    @maureenmartini5094 3 года назад +483

    Her parents are examples of people who should never have had children. I am so sorry she was abused her entire life. She has strength beyond belief. So well spoken and eloquent. She should be a writer. I am in complete admiration of her survival and just her as a person. I wish her peace and love and happiness...she deserves all good things. I lost it when Mark hugged her. This is the MOST impactful video he has ever made.

    • @Catalinaobregon
      @Catalinaobregon 3 года назад +31

      Unfortunately broken people have children everyday. It’s takes a Marisol to stop the madness. Fortunately there are Marisol’s out there to do just that.

    • @gracemurrayart
      @gracemurrayart 3 года назад +13

      She'd write an incredible book

    • @kadeelacayo4806
      @kadeelacayo4806 3 года назад +15

      Not her parents , her mother. Her father did the best he could

    • @femmedraven
      @femmedraven 3 года назад +47

      @@kadeelacayo4806 Until he stood up for his sons and treated her like garbage when she finally told the truth.

    • @ashleyp2625
      @ashleyp2625 3 года назад +7

      She should definitely be a writer. I would love to read anything she wrote. The strength she has is so admirable. So sorry she had to go through this in her childhood. I wish those who hurt her would have gotten their punishment. Horrible disgusting people.

  • @EmilyEverett-w7u
    @EmilyEverett-w7u Год назад +20

    I’m not sure how I came across this.?! I watched the movie Sound of Freedom and have been so moved that I can’t stop researching and learning about all the types of trafficking molestation trauma abuse etc…
    Your story hurt my heart. I cried numerous times. I’m so sorry
    I have to encourage you now and say
    YOU MADE IT!!
    KEEP THAT HEAD UP!!
    You survived and now I pray you thrive!
    You truly are stunningly beautiful inside and out!
    God is and will continue to use you to help others in similar situations past and present.
    I’m so very sorry no one has apologized to you. Their loss and issues, not yours! Their deep rooted issues themselves are what keep them from apologizing.
    I pray and pray you can realize( if you haven’t already) it’s NOT YOU.
    You should be given a Medal of Honor for surviving your abuse! They are in the WRONG 10000000%
    I pray you get so strong and happy and healthy that you can feel amazing about yourself and LIVE AGAIN! You deserve a beautiful ending. I am praying for you ! ❤ God bless you sweet girl!

  • @missvaleriedragon
    @missvaleriedragon 3 года назад +347

    This should be played for every high school child. Unbelievable ! Such a powerful, strong women ! I am so in awe of this amazing woman ! Thank you Marisol, for exposing your soul !!! So much love and respect for you.

    • @Andrea-zv3up
      @Andrea-zv3up 3 года назад +22

      @Dave N you just had to be that person huh

    • @missvaleriedragon
      @missvaleriedragon 3 года назад +15

      @Dave N Gee, thanks Dave. It was a typo. I'm fully aware of plural and singular diction. I won't correct it, in hopes that it will piss u off even further. Thanks again for your "help."

    • @michelerenem
      @michelerenem 3 года назад +2

      Why the hell would this need to be played for every high school child? Weird much? It's a tragic and beautiful story but weird that you would feel that this would need to be "played for every high school child" Weirdo.

    • @keturah113
      @keturah113 3 года назад +15

      @@michelerenem because if you learnt what empathy is as a teenager, it would make you a better adult. 👍

    • @missvaleriedragon
      @missvaleriedragon 3 года назад +10

      @@michelerenem Name calling really has no place here or anywhere, for that matter. 157 "weirdos" liked my comment so stop with your bullying rant. U might want to rewatch this video while u are awake, sober and alert.

  • @caesarn7
    @caesarn7 3 года назад +128

    Poor girl , the shivers in her voice shows the emotional tolls still present. Scarred for life. I wish her the best . It’s great that she is telling her story with such detail as if it was yesterday

  • @bridgetteb8537
    @bridgetteb8537 3 года назад +157

    She is the definition of perseverance! Rising above all of her trauma and pain. She is an inspiration! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @529Missy
    @529Missy Год назад +11

    This is the saddest one I’ve seen on this channel. I’m literally crying. Girl you are beautiful and worth more than you know ❤

  • @_Cristina_
    @_Cristina_ 3 года назад +320

    How articulate is her language, she sounds so intelligent and educated! And her smile is like the sun after the rain, just like her name suggests.

    • @Sunshine-gh6vy
      @Sunshine-gh6vy 3 года назад +4

      That comment was beautifully written. When she laughed & I saw her smile it made me smile. Look at a person & you Can’t believe what a person is going through in life. Makes you aware to treat everyone kind

    • @subcool1762
      @subcool1762 3 года назад +5

      Imagine how much smarter she would be if she would of been in a good family that cared and showed her the way..

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 года назад +8

      @@subcool1762 Educated, not smarter.

    • @kali4good
      @kali4good 3 года назад +17

      Why is everyone so surprised when someone comes across as intelligent or educated. Is she not supposed to?? Someone help me out here….

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 года назад +6

      @@kali4good She told us about not being able to read, being passed from grade to grade and skipping school. Most of us know that would affect being able to express and explain ourselves.

  • @AlinaMcleod
    @AlinaMcleod 3 года назад +748

    You are such a beautiful, strong and intelligent person. Great things are destined for you.

    • @Nan-Elle
      @Nan-Elle 3 года назад +5

      Marisol -- I am so sorry that these things happened to you. You didn't deserve to be treated this way and harmed. Thank you for being so open and honest. That is hard to do to express how you felt and what was done to you. God bless you!

    • @alabamajenny8751
      @alabamajenny8751 3 года назад +1

      Yes she is. My God where the parents? The real parents who are supposed to PROTECT YOUR LITTLE GIRL!
      We go thru hell to find peace and you did what you had to do to survive. The mind is an incredible thing.
      I am so proud of you that you made it out and I pray you know you are strong. You were never wrong about this. Not once did you do anything wrong.
      Shame and humility are so strange emotions to deal with.
      Bless you Marisol. You know your story is helping SO many. Thank you. You are so brave, so beautiful. Let your heart be happy.

    • @tiffanyrodarte2466
      @tiffanyrodarte2466 3 года назад

      I agree

    • @tiffanyrodarte2466
      @tiffanyrodarte2466 3 года назад +10

      Mari i have went through what u have not exactly but SA dropping out turnjnfnro substance and I lost my kids due to my drug use. Ended up anprostitute living in the streets. But now am clean a straight A college student second year, with a full time job, sober, and we didn't let it break us!!! Ur beautiful

    • @hales6547
      @hales6547 3 года назад

      J

  • @jenniquatro561
    @jenniquatro561 3 года назад +218

    This video is almost an hour long and I was riveted by Marisol's every word. My eyes never left the screen, I barely remember taking a breath. Proof that real human experience told simply with honesty & heart will connect more than the most expensive blockbuster movie production. Marisol's story and her beautiful spirit are incredibly impactful.

  • @BeautyandtheBeeze
    @BeautyandtheBeeze Год назад +7

    She is so brave and so strong. And I'm both in tears and in awe of her strength and perseverance.

  • @smokewolf8746
    @smokewolf8746 3 года назад +234

    I love how he just put her name, no title could do her story justice. Such a beautiful woman on the inside and out, and has such a great laugh but you can tell she laughs rarely which makes it even more beautiful

    • @samuelelder9434
      @samuelelder9434 3 года назад +4

      The original title was censored by YT

    • @sereneserene8
      @sereneserene8 3 года назад +2

      @@samuelelder9434 what was it?

    • @janetmcbee
      @janetmcbee 3 года назад +1

      @@samuelelder9434 why!!! The truth is the truth, and she doesn't realize, with speaking up, or, out, how much she's helping herself, and Soooo many others .
      Right

    • @samuelelder9434
      @samuelelder9434 3 года назад

      @@sereneserene8 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @samuelelder9434
      @samuelelder9434 3 года назад

      @@janetmcbee sounds like you’re arguing with me about something

  • @ethanyarboro1745
    @ethanyarboro1745 3 года назад +277

    It’s a miracle that she’s not strung out and on the streets. Too many times that’s the case with that sort of sexual abuse that you hear stories about on this channel. She is def a beauty too and could have a career on film or modeling, or anything she wants- she’s an all around boss. Sending Love and strength from Washington D.C

    • @MariselaR.da1daOnly
      @MariselaR.da1daOnly 3 года назад +22

      Say that LOUDER for the people in the back! You hit the nail on the head!

    • @SmartMoveGraphics
      @SmartMoveGraphics 3 года назад +6

      Well said.

    • @lolsamftw
      @lolsamftw 3 года назад +14

      I honestly think its because she's been honest with herself. She's admitted what happened and told others. It helps A LOT with trauma. A lot of these junkies on the streets havnt been honest with themselves since childhood. Its eating them alive.

  • @kakashiluver123100
    @kakashiluver123100 3 года назад +99

    Man. I didn’t have the most stable childhood but hearing stories like this make me feel grateful for what I did have.

  • @Juviosa_
    @Juviosa_ Год назад +6

    Man that hug at the end broke me 💔 What a story, thank you so much for your courage to share this. Its so important!

  • @pepper1188
    @pepper1188 3 года назад +116

    I understand..I got away from my "family" at 15 and never looked back. People raised with love are so lucky. God bless this woman.

    • @novelaego2404
      @novelaego2404 3 года назад +6

      i can barely go visit each time i do it hurts

  • @robertsilver1296
    @robertsilver1296 2 года назад +364

    One of the best interviewees I have ever heard on any subject. This lady claims to have had an education that was lacking, yet she spoke so eloquently, articulately, clearly and passionately, that she sounded like a professional story teller. I know it's a tragic story with hopefully a happy ending, but it was gripping from the first word to the last word.
    Congratulations to the production team, too, because you allowed the lady to speak for 51 minutes with what appeared to be no editing, interrupting nor prompting.
    All the best to you madam.

    • @Cerebro13
      @Cerebro13 2 года назад +4

      It’s strange sometimes ,that despite lack of education ,people still find away to excel in some fashion or sense.Such an intense story,her strength is amazing,her resilience is something to be admired.

    • @sugarsore
      @sugarsore 2 года назад +4

      Production team? It's just Mark doing everything.

    • @raoulduke344
      @raoulduke344 2 года назад +2

      @@Cerebro13 Education isn't always a guarantor of success, or indicative of intelligence. I know you weren't saying it in a snide way though.

    • @sheiladawg1664
      @sheiladawg1664 2 года назад

      Likely from attending a few group meetings as well.

    • @KaylaNoelle1
      @KaylaNoelle1 2 года назад

      My dad started teaching me to read as a baby, as soon as I started to talk I was taught to sound out words. It happened so early that I don't even have any memories of not being able to read. It's always been like breathing as far back as I can remember I can't even imagine how she felt. Poverty and misogyny are so incredibly cruel. It destroys me that change takes so long and we keep backsliding. Her story puts A LOT into perspective for me, how lucky I was.

  • @kaylajo1
    @kaylajo1 3 года назад +289

    Hang on while i compose myself so i can see to write this...
    That was the most powerful and courageous expression of circumstance i have ever heard in my life. I cried like a baby for you, for your childhood, for your innocence, and in part for myself as well. Thank you for so bravely sharing your story and your healing. You have no idea how many lives you will change with this video. Thank you for including that hug at the end Mark, I felt like you were hugging her for everyone who just listened to her story.

  • @peggybowles3982
    @peggybowles3982 9 месяцев назад +3

    Mark you’re a angel for so many. Thank you for giving so many people a voice without judging!❤

  • @russelld1254
    @russelld1254 Год назад +147

    I just don't understand why these things happen to such precious children. It is unacceptable how many people have had such horrible experiences. Thank you, Marisol. May you find peace and are happy. You are a beautiful and sweet person.

  • @kimle190
    @kimle190 3 года назад +286

    The fact that her siblings used to abuse her like that suggest to me that they were also abused in the same way growing up. The fact that her dad didn't defend her and wanted her to lie for her abusers suggest to me that he thinks its ok and may have abused the oldest siblings in the same way.

    • @EddyG0rdo
      @EddyG0rdo 3 года назад +79

      Yea, someone had to teach them. Kids don’t just grow up sexualized at a young age. She didn’t mention the age gaps, but still they couldn’t be more than 5 or 6 years older Someone had to manipulate the brothers. Its so sad.

    • @GetTheeBehindMe23
      @GetTheeBehindMe23 3 года назад +17

      @Claire Joy Lives : The mom sounds more emotionally angry… The kind of mother that beat the crap out of their kid for the smallest thing. She made it seem like her mother just beat her but I’m sure if her sisters can tell their stories it will be very similar to hers.

    • @thematriarchy2075
      @thematriarchy2075 3 года назад +6

      @@GetTheeBehindMe23 And the mother was most likely denied to just be a frikkin human being when she grew up. The cycle.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 года назад +16

      None of it means her father was the abuser.

    • @kadeelacayo4806
      @kadeelacayo4806 3 года назад +14

      Why do you jump to the father ? The mother was the abusive parent that ran off. Also, I was never abused or taught anything about sex and I had a lot of sexual thoughts VERY young

  • @suzanneanderson6921
    @suzanneanderson6921 3 года назад +60

    Marisol, darling, I felt your pain, torment, sadness, depression, anger. I really lost it when Mark hugged you and you started crying. When we know that human physical contact doesn't come with any motive other than comfort and honest to God goodness, it can be overwhelming, at least for me. You take care, sweetheart. Hugs and happiness.

  • @marchelleteague3562
    @marchelleteague3562 9 месяцев назад +2

    Best SWU episode I’ve ever seen! Marisol is gonna do great things in her lifetime. She’s gonna help a lot of abuse victims to overcome what they have been through. God bless her.

  • @cliffordbrock9242
    @cliffordbrock9242 Год назад +143

    Hello Maris,
    I am a, nearly sixty two, year, old man. I was diagnosed two years ago. With Complex -PTSD. In my case there are three, dynamics at play for me. Childhood, Armed Forces and my marital divorce.
    I could so, relate to your experiences and trauma!!. One of the anxiety traits I developed, was bed wetting, up until I was seventeen years old. I thank you, for having the courage and tenacity to speak up. You are a beautiful human being. I pray and hope that the, rest of your life, is, contented, and to your, satisfaction. You deserve to be loved..💓
    Love Cliff..xx

    • @samuellandos785
      @samuellandos785 Год назад +16

      But also you deserve to feel loved Cliff! Take care ❤

    • @Mamabear1320-h4k
      @Mamabear1320-h4k Год назад +6

      Thank you for your service and God bless you sir ❤

  • @4eyes2sea
    @4eyes2sea 3 года назад +100

    Thank you Mark for hugging her at the end.. i wanted to be there for her. Her willingness to open up and let us in was so raw and real. she has already helped many many women with this video..
    Simply amazing and truly beautiful.

  • @irairod5160
    @irairod5160 3 года назад +252

    Marisol, if you ever want to visit Washington, DC, let me now. I'm old enough to be your tia, maybe even your abuela, but mi casa es tu casa. Your strength and your wisdom are inspiring, and you have reminded me of the incredible responsibility I have as a teacher...and of how so much of it goes far beyond the history, science, grammar, and math lessons. A big hug and a thank you from a cyber-friend rooting for you!

  • @veronicaaldaco2140
    @veronicaaldaco2140 Год назад +5

    Marisol, you’re a chingona and a guerrera! Your resilience, grit and determination have helped you survive your traumatic childhood. Blessings to you❤

  • @triciafeld8897
    @triciafeld8897 3 года назад +146

    Mari,
    I was riveted to your story. There isn’t an actress dead or alive that could play you. Your intelligence combines with your ability to express yourself and reveal a purity of your very soul. You are extremely special, rare, I was enlightened three times by your words. I looked up to the ceiling , still listening, and thought to myself, “ she’s right”. You’re truthfulness and kindness and fearlessness are the warmth that touched me. I couldn’t believe it when you stated you didn’t read in 8th grade. I kept thinking over again, you’re a writer. Every word you spoke was a moving image. No elaboration was needed because you set up every scene perfectly with words. I learned from you. Please use your intelligence and be disciplined. Have a great life.

  • @loveofthegame4395
    @loveofthegame4395 3 года назад +191

    "When I was in these fights, I was never mad at the person who I was fighting. I was always thinking about the things that were happening to me at home and I would just take my anger out on on them". That statement sent a light bulb off in my head and confirmed what God had showed me a couple of years ago. I used to like fighting as a kid and young adult because of a molestation incident and not feeling fully accepted by family. Thank you Marisol for sharing!

  • @privateuser3859
    @privateuser3859 3 года назад +220

    This was the hardest story of them all. And the worst of it is we know it's happening all over the world, every day. You must be so strong, Mark. Your films help spread understanding but I just don't know how your heart can take it. Thank you again for all you do to help these poor souls.

    • @lucindagarichi9213
      @lucindagarichi9213 3 года назад +8

      I so often pray for Mark ,his 'job' takes a lot 🙏🙏❤🥺

    • @OddWomanOut_Pi81
      @OddWomanOut_Pi81 3 года назад +3

      Oh my goodness... I would be a blubbering fool, balled up into the fetal position in corner somewhere! I'm holding back tears the entire time I'm watching & the hug at the end broke me.

  • @tasha111ify
    @tasha111ify 2 месяца назад +2

    I've been through some horrific shit but by God Marisol broke me, that hug and sob at the end would put a lump in anyones throat, I wish her healing and love, Thank you for taking are of her

  • @erickocampo6048
    @erickocampo6048 3 года назад +154

    Floored how evil can people be against their own blood, she speaks about horrible humans that were part of her upbringing, the fact that she can speak to it is incredible to me, you Ms, Marisol have given me a new perspective on courage, you are a true BAMF. Please know you are an inspiration to many, I being one of them. Thank you Ms. Marisol.

  • @Timsgal777
    @Timsgal777 3 года назад +105

    These feelings she had of blame are exactly why I never told on my uncle, and now I have major problems at 59. You did the right thing sweety.

    • @icecreamman1
      @icecreamman1 3 года назад +9

      Please get help it’s never too late.

    • @jenrich111
      @jenrich111 3 года назад +8

      Yes, when we become Grandma age we truely realise the depth of damage and our innocence stolen and whole life shadowed by the betrayal and abandonment

    • @janpangilinan2979
      @janpangilinan2979 3 года назад

      My heart is with you.. You're a amazing strong woman. Bring inspiration to all women who needs guidance.

    • @MandenTV
      @MandenTV 3 года назад

      Didn’t tell anyone then, don’t stop now. Getting help now won’t actually help.

  • @juliacramer3351
    @juliacramer3351 3 года назад +50

    Every time she moved on to another part of her childhood I had to brace myself. Thank you for hugging her on camera. I don't think I could have gone to sleep tonight not knowing if she got a hug.

  • @Calcifurr
    @Calcifurr 11 месяцев назад +1

    That hit me like a train, especially the ending with that quote. Marisol, you are absolutely correct. The only person stopping you from living life is yourself. Thank you for having the courage to speak out and share your truth. You don’t know how much it helps people like me who too is a trauma survival and hasn’t spoken her own truth. Thank you.

  • @hermetickitten
    @hermetickitten 3 года назад +106

    Such a brave girl. I just wish I could give her a big hug, for all that she had endured and how much I admire her mental strength.

    • @marcelinoperez2926
      @marcelinoperez2926 2 года назад +1

      Then hit the road.
      You can hug and help thousands of Latino children.
      In many Latino societies, children are sent away to work or are abused.
      For most, immorality is non-existent.