Part two of Nina's story is available here - ruclips.net/video/mcSsrYXuqs0/видео.html. You can find out about the work Nina does at www.ninaaouilk.com and endhonourkillings.org/ Follow her on instagram at instagram.com/londonslifecoach/?hl=en
Oh Nina it's so hard to hear I can't imagine what it was like for you to live through all of that! Honestly it's a testimony to your strength of character as a human being that despite all the torture and abuse you endured from birth that now you present as a kind decent human and I wish I could be your friend! Please keep sharing your story because there's a young girl that maybe is on the bus on her way to or from school that will see your story and know that what she's enduring is not okay! I think you're beautiful and I'm so grateful you're alive!!!!❤️
@MishMashOz271 Thats horrific. Right now in Afghanistan women are killing themselves because they cant go to school or work anymore. Iranian women are being arrested for not wearing hijab. All these stories of abuses but its rarely discussed in the mainstream or by the social justice advocates.
@@tubester4567people shy away from these issues in fear of being perceived as "culturally insensitive" or racist which in itself is bonkers. No woman or girl should be treated as less than human. It should be unacceptable anywhere and everywhere.
Mrs H 🇬🇧 ... If they don't want girls then why did they keep you...Many in UK would of raised and loved you.... No innocent child from any culture should EVER such suffer such heinous abuse ... I have no doubt you'll carry this trauma for the rest of your life BUT I think your AN extremely brave survivor.... Thank you for sharing your story .... I'm so sorry you suffered so much...💔
Dear Nina, how horrific this time was for you, thank you for sharing. Always remember your beautiful stunning, and listening to you your so lovely and these so call family members what they did they should have if in the UK they had the death penalty they deserved it. I’m so sorry you had a lonely awful time I hope now you are happier and you have your children. I felt your heartbreak Take care beautiful Nina ❤❤❤
Her family has no honor to retain. The fact that so many years have gone by and they still send 30-40 death threats a month is absolutely insane. When her parents die, I hope the only tears she sheds are tears of relief.
@@BeckBeckGowhat will a restraining order do....the police watched other girls in similar situations get burned to death , they did nothing....they dont want to be involved!!! Probably apart of the same occult
@@BeckBeckGo Assuming she's in the UK, I don't know how restraining orders work there. I *do* know how they work where I live in the US, that they expire after 2 years and you have to petition to renew them. They do also require you to give your location of work and/or location of residence, so that the person is barred from going to those places or calling landlines.
She's not seemingly functional. She is functional. Don't assume abused victims are broken, often they are the strongest, most aware and fully functional people you will ever meet.
They should be called "pride killings." When the predator is at risk of being exposed or held accountable, they try to get rid of the victim. Sounds like a bunch of psychopathic narcissists.
@@londonslifecoach Will be checking out your TedX immediately. Your resilience should have NEVER been necessary, but it is truly mind blowing what you have survived and how you have managed to thrive despite it. Thank you for sharing a piece of your life with us. There are so many woman out there with similar, it has to stop. Thank you.
100%. There is zero honor or exhalation in abusing, starving, molesting and killing your children, especially as a “punishment” for being a girl or birthing a girl.
I’ve never wanted to just hug and hold someone so badly. I don’t know her personally but I want her to know how loved she is, and how beautiful her soul is.
I feel the same way. I wish I could be her friend and show her nothing but love, kindness, joy. I would hug her and hold her and stroke her hair and tell her how much she was loved.
One thing you can do is to learn the names of your neighbors and their kids. If you haven’t already. Imagine if she had had one neighbor who showed her she was important enough that they knew her name. You can do that for someone.
Yes, I third what you all are saying and would also love to be able to love her and be her dear friend/earth sister. How she is still so kind and truly the strongest person ever, is just so amazing and so inspiring. Wishing her the best and most loving life ever!!
@@realstatisticianthat is great advice! Everyone needs to absolutely do this, as well as keep a close eye on/get acquainted with children at your child(ren)’s school. Your awareness and voice could literally be life or death for them.
So her brother, a man who beats his partner with a hammer openly admits to attempted murder and NOTHING happens? This is beyond disgusting and a travesty of justice
Blaming her for not being a virgin yet HE and his buddies were the ones to rape her, while he mother stood by. The sense it doesn't make is astounding. The fact that she has been able to rise above the hurt and torment she endured for so many years of her life is a testament to the kind of person she must be. wishing her nothing but happiness and love for the remainder of her life
Perspective is a hell of a thing. Please don't let that diminish the victory you deserve to feel every day for making it through though. Pain is pain, Struggle is struggle and in case nobody has said so recently, I'm so proud of you for not giving up. That's some warrior shit ❤
The problem is that a lot of survivors don't show it all outside. She might still be suffering incredibly on the inside. And similarly - many people we meet have shit ton of sadness, fear and anger inside us.
@@anne_vvvexactly. People think that just because somebody puts on some nice looking clothes and combs their hair then they must be doing alright. Not how it works at all. Often times the people who are struggling the most emotionally are the ones who seem bubbly and well adjusted.
Im a grown man, 50 years old and not ashamed to say ive cried at every turn of this story. As a father of 3 very much loved daughters i feel SO hurt for her.
Don't be ashamed. It's not weakness it's human. Please remember that. Crying is apart of us yet somehow it's a crime. It shouldn't be that way. Normal human emotions should never be a sign of weakness or should be suppressed. Guys who say it isn't manly are cowards. You sir, are human and you should never apologize for your feelings, nor be ashamed of feeling empathy for someone. You are clearly a person with a heart of gold. That's rare nowadays! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Wish all of us had a father like you I told my father that one of our family member is very in appropriate with me. He just nodded and went back to using his phone. My mother told me “we’ve known him for a long time and we grew up together. He’s not like that. You’re lying” If any parent is reading this, I beg you to listen to your children when they say something vulnerable.
❤Dear NINA.... 4.8 Million complete strangers who live all across this world want you to know that YOU MATTER & WE ALL LOVE YOU! So much RESPECT for you! You are hands down the STRONGEST FEMALE I've ever come across. ❤THANK YOU FOR YOUR STRENGHT❤
@user-dw4cs4xv8y I don't know if it exists, but how can I know? I question you because you seem so sure of the answer, but based on what you wrote, it was a bit disappointing. If you have no evidence or can't disprove something, how can you be so confidence about your answer? What's funny about your comment is that you didn't used any reasoning or logic to come to the conclusion that heaven and hell doesn't exist, you just used common internet answers and questions as if you got me. I might be wrong, but I have a strong feeling something broke your faith, and now you're just throwing a tantrum on the internet. I doubt you suddenly reason your way out of your religion. Nothing about your reply indicates that
Hell doesn't exist, and saying and thinking that is just a lame cop out to make yourself feel better about the fact that they never receive the punishment they truly deserve.
@@CompUter-oo7er absolutely! That dog was more human than those monsters. I haven’t stopped thinking about this woman’s story and imagining how many others are going through this as we speak.
My heart goes out to this woman. How are people so horrible and evil allowed to carry on. Her treatment is unthinkable. A dog can literally save your emotional health and your heart if you are in terrible home life as child. Until I was allowed to have one I knocked on every neighbors door who had a dog as a little girl. I proved to them I could handle walking their large dogs and eventually it became expected that I'd be taking their dog for walks every day. We had the best moments of my life. We'd sit together, we'd go to abandoned buildings, eat lunch together by the creek, and they let you love on them as much as you want to. Finally I was given a small dog. She was the best thing to ever happen, but my mother came home one day and said we were getting rid of her. I pleaded, cried until I couldn't breathe, but we still drove to give her away. I remember her fur being soaked from my face as we got out of the car and I touched her. My hands couldn't let go of her. I will never forget sitting her down in the people's driveway and am suddenly unable to write this without crying at the memory of it. Now, decades later I try to get to know my mother in her older age, and we pretend to like each other more than we do, but I lost trust and feeling for her that I will never get back no matter how hard I try. Please if you have kids who are dedicated to taking care of things, and ONLY if you trust that they will give the utmost care to a pet, get them a rescue dog from a shelter or a dog rescue. If there is screaming and constant strife in the house though, please please don;t do it because it is painful for animals to live in domesticated, loud and stressful households and more than any creatures on earth; they deserve nothing but good because they are pure, and are angels. God Bless.
I honestly do not know how she’s able to tell this story. I am amazed at her strength and will to live. Thank god for her resolve and her inner voice and that god for the lil angel dog.
As a teacher, please don't go automatically villainizing a child's parents who you believe may be doing something like that to a child. Find out all the information you can before you expose anyone for wrongdoing. We live in a much different and highly suggestive times. C
I had to take a screenshot of RUclips telling me that instead of me saying, "We live in a much different time," I have to say, "We live in a MANY different time." 😂😂😂 This is how they keep my posts from being seen by people. As a teacher, HELP THEM, PLEASE!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👌🏾
Teachers which are predominantly middle class are the same people that encourage those cultures and people to come and live amongst me and my children. I find it extremely ironic you are making those comments. You fetched someone else's problem to my doorstep.
@@martinconneally8756 With all due respect sir, you don't know me or my political beliefs, and you're making a sweeping generalisation. I don't make the choices of a government, but I can honestly say if I did, they would be very different to the choices made by our leaders.
I’m a 43 year old man. No kids, never married. Even my paternal instincts is so strong that I find myself in tears, wishing I could just give this young woman a long, warm hug and tell her she’s a wonderful woman and everything is ok. How ANYONE could treat their child this way is beyond me.
Im 41, female, no kids and never married either. And i could truly and genuinely feel and understand what you are saying here.. this so disgustingly terrible.. i cannot believe how evil this family is.. and the kind of culture or belief is there in this community. I genuinely admire how strong, intelligent and resilient this woman is despite all the terrible inhumane things done to her.
It’s Nina reading your comment gave me such hope that compassion and kindness exists and will carve a better path for others with men like you being on this world 🙏🏼
@@londonslifecoach I barely watch documentaries but i sat through this one from beginning to end, the way you convey your message is so unique and heartfelt I couldn't help but cry. I hope all is well for you my love,,
Not sure if you missed the part that this woman was tortured by the beliefs of her family and countries religion, why would she need another blessing from another God that is make believe. ALL religions should be globally banned for the what the do to humanity, every single religion is a plague on society.
@@londonslifecoach I just want to say you are an incredible woman. If no one's told you today, then I want you to know you are beyond gorgeous, soo brave and courageous! You are a SURVIVOR and by telling your story you're helping other girls recognize abuse and giving them the strength to survive as well! Your story broke my heart! No one especially a child should ever have to endure such hate and horrific abuse by the hands of family or anyone for that matter. You are so beautiful and one of the strongest women I've ever seen!! ❤️
@@londonslifecoachYou are truly an amazing woman and though I may not know you, I love you and I am so proud of you. ❤ You are an inspiration to me as a female and as a human being. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. I would hug you if I could.
What hurts me most about this beautiful woman's story is that she is willing to relive it every time she retells it, and she does it solely for the benefit of others so that they may find hope and hopefully never experience this again. What a saint this woman. I pray that she is receiving all the love and support and blessings that she always deserved. We love you Nina. May God bless you and your children for generations to come. Amen.
This is what I don’t get. Isn’t her mother a female of their culture? Aren’t females needed for marriage and children. They had already had two sons so…it’s all so illogical. One can’t blame culture or tradition, they are just evil, evil using culture and tradition as an excuse to enjoy perpetuating violence against those less powerful.
This is horrific. She is an elegant, well spoken lady. So many parents would be beyond proud of her. It won’t help heal her but the women of the world are beyond proud and in awe of her.
I didn't say " what should be" plus there are no "other women". Meridias etc mentioned the women of the world and I mentioned the exceptions . What other women can there be ?
I’m only half way through and I can honestly say that this is one of the most horrible cases of child abuse I have heard in my entire life. It actually brought me to tears. To be abused to this extent at all is completely and categorically wrong but to have this happen to you because you happened to be born female…. The fact that she is still here, strong enough to talk to us all about it today is so remarkable.
“Normal” parents usually protect and care for their children, so what does this tell you about these parents and the religion they practice ? ! The word “demonic” comes to mind, certainly not “godly” ! However they will pay for the atrocity they have perpetrated on perpetrated on their own child. Shame on them !
Today was the first time in 15 years that I've cried. This woman is the bravest woman I have ever seen. Surely the school or her friends should have noticed sooner?
This woman looks like she is carrying so much trauma in her yet still managed to share this heartbreaking story in such a well articulated and graceful manner. The fact that she is still here with us looking beautiful and full of kindness in her eyes makes her a true Queen.Nina you deserve the world, You are a true jewel.
Everyone in Nina’s life failed her. Unfortunately there are many who can relate to her story. Nina you’re a survivor and you’re here for a reason. Thank you for sharing your story
Let's not forget, it's also the disgusting culture. Which comprises of that misogynistic thinking. In order to show unconditional love, you have to be human first
I don't think her friends failed her. I'm glad she had people in her life looking out for her, be it by giving her jam sandwiches, knowing they were such a luxury for her - or by giving her a shoulder to cry on, with nothing to gain from it. They were treating her like a person, even though they were no more powerful than her.
As a punjabi, this is horrifying to hear and I feel ashamed that our culture allows this kind of evil to exist. Unfortunately this is one of many stories of women I’ve heard over the years who have been through similar horrors and a lot of them do not make it out alive. How one inflicts that kind of pain on their own flesh and blood is beyond me. Gender-based discrimination and voilence is a huge problem in my culture, but it doesn’t get the attention it needs and the system fails these women over and over again. I applaud her for having the courage to speak out about what she went through, it has shaken me to my core and I cannot stop crying. We need to do better to protect our girls and women. This is not okay, nobody should have to deal with this kind of pain and trauma.
I agree. I'm Punjabi SIkh from Vancouver, Canada, and let me tell you, I'm truly disgusted by our community. Even if families don't do to their daughters to the magnitude that this woman's family did to her, but a majority of the community stays silent on the issue, and they too are part of the problem, because they feel disappointed at the birth of a girl child, think girls should act, dress a certain way, do what they are told, and so in my eyes, most people are part of the problem, that gives rise to shit families like this, who have the audacity to do what they did. This so called friend of this woman's who gave her the advice to go back home was so wrong. Why would you want to go back to a place where your father and all his friends raped you. I thought my family was bad, my parents are just plain toxic in terms of mental and emotional abuse, but I endured nothing like this to this magnitude, actually I had it much better after I got married and moved to the United States, and after I left one night my dad almost ended up killing my sister because she had to work late, and he thought she was out slutting around, and my parents the next day said, oh it was nothing. Like fuck this shit. I wish I could have 5 minutes with this piece of shit father and her brothers, and still them in a room with big military guys and lets see how fucking tough they are then. I've heard so many stories like this, it's disgusting. Glad I distanced and disassociated myself the the community.
I cried throughout the video too. It’s beyond heartbreaking how your own family can break your spirit like this. Except for the rape and breaking of bones, I suffered a lot like this woman by my family. My mother was the same kind of angry abusive lunatic. And my dad a violent drunk. My school removed me from home when I was 17 and they always told me the same thing, “so many women don’t make it out alive.” I consider myself lucky. But the emotional pain this experience leaves you with is unlike any other. My only two options in life were 1. Live without a family and be completely on your own. 2. Be seriously abused by your parents and brother because you’re a girl. I chose the first one. This is the first time I’ve heard a story that’s much much worse than mine. And mine is pretty evil.
I'm shocked beyond belief. To think that this had happened and continue to happen is something I find reprehensible. I will only advise that she cuts all connections with all those who made her suffer. She should live her life and face everything with the courage, confidence and determination that is needed. I salute her for speaking out. I am surprised that a country like England would not take cognizance of such behavior in a community.
As a mum I just cannot imagine being your child’s bully and wanting to hurt them let alone for making eye contact and then all the horror that poor lady went through. So horrific, how can anyone do these things to a child is beyond me.
@@SuperGulzada RUclips deleted my history comment, sorry if that's out of context.. I was trying to explain how the Cultural Norms of 100 to 200+ years ago can be seen as cruel and unusual behavior today, why we shouldn't hate them all and added the often violent experiences I went through at the hands of my Female teachers growing up as a boy, how families shared a similar disciplinary mindset, and why I don't hate them for it.. Cultural Norms are everywhere and influence what people may believe is acceptable behavior.. 100 years from now, I'm sure people would view US as cruel in certain areas as well..
It enrages me that all these cultures that praise boys and men, and shame girls and women, seem to forget the fact that all their prized boys and men would not even exist in the first place if it weren't for the women. It makes my blood boil!!
Every time I thought she'd told the worst of it, it got more horrific. I can't believe anyone could survive this. What a warrior, what an outstanding human being. I hope the rest of her life is peaceful and she can finally have some happiness.
YES! I hope the rest of her life is peaceful and she finds a safe place to heal and live her best life. She's suffered long enough at the hands of monsters.
She should get them arrested. Why forgive? That's not something to be forgiven even if it was part of the culture. Bringing them to justice will lead to a positive change and will be helpful to many others in the future. But I don't blame her if she doesn't want to fight on her own. She might be so tired and seeking some peace in life. Some Humans rights organisation or activists must fight on her behalf.
@@VolodymyrTheJewishClown Muslims are untouchable in EU f.e.x pakistani r@pe gang went on for decades with police and everyone else knowing... People are being stabbed, robbed, beaten with police doing nothing if the perpetrator is muslim. For victims of honor violence there is no safe place - their community is violating them and police won´t help frequently. It´s insane.
I've just somehow stumbled upon this video. And genuinely in my life, have I never wanted to give a random stranger a hug so much. What a truly incredible woman she is to be able to have the mental fortitude to live her life having experienced what she did for so long. Inspirational lady!
So sad what happened to this woman. This is why we need to criticize the bad parts of each culture. Just because its "part of their culture" doesn't mean its ok.
That’s so true because honor killings happen in Europe still and no one ever talks about them but when it’s in the middle east or south Asia people it’s the only time people talk about
it's unfortunately the evil people and not the culture which cause this. If you have an evil person, you can't change him. I mean like how can a father (with friends) rape his own daughter? That's not a thing that belongs to any culture.
@@Azaarvpropel do talk about inter family killings in Europe. They are just harder to spot because the perpetrators are either in rural areas where no one will find out or more in tune with the rules of their country and how to not be caught. Plus it’s way less common. And WAY less boring. “Honor killing in UK” sounds interesting, “husband killed wife and daughter” is just another repeated news headline. There is a difference in magnitude and media attention.
It's striking how soft and sensitive she is considering the evil cruelty she endured. She managed to retain her beautiful soul and her humanity and not let those horrible people turn her into one of them.
Most women that go through things like that are softer and more sweet. That's why it often happens to them repeatedly. Like, people who were physically and sexually abused as children end up experiencing the same as adults because abusers can spot them from a mile away. They're passive and softer and don't see red flags. It's hard to break the cycle.
I've listened to her before powerful speaker,..what really gets me angry is knowing that millions of girls are going through exactly what she is and it's somehow been normalised by a society because a bat sh!t crazy religious belief system that treats women/girls,like personal property,I cannot for the life of me,understand why we do trade with countrys like this,..I hear the argument that we can show them another side to life by trading with them,but i feel we are giving them legitimacy in their eyes,.I think that's the wrong approach,..Ending apartheid only worked because the whole world stood firm against an idea that divided people by race and once everybody was on border with that process of not working with that government in anyway,..it fell,they could no longer justify their political decision of government or feel thst they were somehow being accepted in anyway whatsoever,...invading country's and trying to impose our standards of humanity might seem the right way to go but these peoole still have their pride and ot must come from within and be forced into thst way of thinking as the world turns its back on them,...all we do is get country's to double down on their backward ideology and they have the money to do this,thanks to the trade we still do with them...country's I would not do business with.. Saudi Arabia Pakistan, China Qatar Iran Would be a good way to start and thst eould put other country's on notice obviously it would work better one country at a time and I would start with Pakistan.. There hatred towards Christians in Pakistan is horrendous and without trade they would collapse within months,we would demand fundermental changes gender equality, religious freedom,property rights protection,a new consitution and they would be helped financially with infrastructure projects and increased trade.....it could work but do we have the will...?
This level of torture could kill someone or mentally damage in an irreversible way... The way she is still standing and sane...Hats off to you sister... May nobody face such hell on earth...
The fact that she is still alive is fascinating. I can’t imagine surviving that kind of abuse. I can’t imagine surviving and still having a desire to live. That’s the strongest woman I’ve ever seen in my life
o Allah, destroy these oppressors with a destruction never seen before and annihilate them o Allah for the abuse they have done to your creation. dear Allah, respond
I'm a man from Sri Lanka, very similar culture to India and the Punjabis. I've never ever heard such a horrific story like this in my life. I'm in tears hearing her story. Monsters exist everywhere. But I'm also glad to see how well Nina is coping. Nina's courage must be applauded. What a strong, brave woman. You're a survivor, and you give people hope.
@@jackmoore337 Indians and Chinese (Asians in general) devalue girls because (1) they're more expensive, for dowry purposes, it costs more to raise them, and (2) once they're married, they go live with the man's family so they become 'useless' to the parents, and (3) in rural areas, men being stronger can work more and earn more money.
Sri Lankan has broken away from India a long time ago. It seems like most Sri Lankan take the middle path of the Buddha. Here you see the Buddha & Jesus in person. This is non-reactive put into practice. This is love and forgiveness put I to practice.
For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed,but my steadfast love shall not depart from you,and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,”says the Lord , who has compassion on you. (Isaiah54:10 ESV)
This woman is a warrior queen. Not the evil witch she was brought up to believe. She was placed into an environment of evil and has survived it because of her strong inner voice and unbreakable spirit. I am in awe of her strength of character. Respect.
This is the most horrific story I’ve ever listened to or wactched. I’m in absolute shock, and cannot believe that she’s still alive and sane. Huge simpathy for this poor woman. What a dreadful horrible hamily to grow up in.
I watch a ton of true crime, but this is literally the list horrific thing I’ve ever seen/heard about. Ted Bundy has NOTHING on this poor woman’s family.
@@Paul94096i think the thing is Ted Bundy was a lone ranger…… and he clearly had mental issues…. This is an entire family!! Living life ‘normal’ and thinking this behaviour is ok. It is sickening to get your head around isn’t it!
There is no point of that honor killing. Those families had no honor to protect. The truth of the matter is that they didn't want their secrets getting out.
There are worse stories that are just as common as this one. In the Asian and African worlds, many parts of their cultures still allow this kind of abuse. I worked with women who had their genitals cut when they were 12 or so, the reasoning is they will remain virgins and respect their husbands because they can't feel sexual feelings. This woman's family is everywhere. Many people who practice as she reports live in Europe, especially England, and here in western US. Women are still burned to death, and in Saudi Arabia, stoned (I've been to the stoning circle) to death.
Listening to her horrific story makes me feel like mine, I should never feel sorry, never hurt for myself and never be so dramatic when I have flash backs or dreams of...
I genuinely burst into tears as she continued on with her story. It surprises me just how calm and polite she is all throughout the interview. She truly deserves all the love in the world. ❤
The police need to arrest these evil people. They need to find the babies who were buried and all those involved. Nina has a beautiful soul. I’m so upset that these people got away with such horrible acts of evil. I’m so so sorry this happened to you Nina. I’m so sorry, you really are a gentle soul.
They didn't get away from it, trust me, when people die, it will hit them with a force unknown to man. You suddenly realize what you did, and the Eternal consequences involved in it.
As a nurse, it pained me to the core to hear her say that she was ignored even by one of us. How I wish I could have been there to hug and comfort her. I’m so sorry you were let down even by us Nina. Truly am.
To think people have been conditioned to be so petrified of being labelled a 'racist' we're willing to turn a complete blind eye to an inhumane situation...is it worth it?
Respect for religion, culture, and personal beliefs goes 100% out the window in cases of child abuse and murder. I have zero respect or understanding for anyone who would do this to a child
I only respect that which is kind and loving. But I don't respect any part of a culture or religion just because it is. There has to be a reason for respect to be shown. I am a Buddhist. The Buddha said never take anything at face value, even the Buddha's teaching itself. You have to examine it yourself.
This is so horrific and heartbreaking to hear what this lady Nina has had to endure, and no one should ever have to experience this. I have read many of the comments from the various talks given around this traumatic and difficult story, (which hopefully will encourage and inspire others who may suffer in silence to share and speak up.) However,It's important not to have a judgmental perspective that gives the distorted and negative bias that this happens purely because of cultural patterns of behaviour and differences and is therefore a common phenomenon within . It is important to remember and point out that there are deeply loving Punjabi and Sikh families (parents of Nina’s era), including subsequent generations, who adore their daughters, treat them with the utmost love and respect, and nurture them in a safe and happy family environment. Let’s not vilify all Punjabi, Sikh, and Asian families under the label that it is cultural appropriation to treat their girls or daughters with hate, contempt, or abuse. I have five sisters, one of whom was adopted by my parents. We were so fortunate and truly blessed to have parents who adored each of us, treated us with nothing but love and respect, educated us, and allowed us to form our own paths and identities in life, despite the challenges they had to face, pleasing the extended family and sometimes wider community in the process. Sadly, so much of this has to do with individual parents mindsets, personal morals, and perhaps unacceptable behaviour patterns learned from their own past and personal experiences as opposed to cultural. Abuse, whether it's sexual, physical, or emotional It is not mutually exclusive to the Indian and Asian cultures; ill treatment of children happens in all parts of society.
A simple answer points to the Indian caste system. There is an expression in India that “bringing up a daughter is like watering a neighbor’s plant.” India places women lower than men. There is a total and complete disrespect for women in Indian religious scriptures. The Mahabharata, Book 13 Section 40 (13.40), states, “There is no creature more sinful, than woman. She is poison, she is snake.” Other texts say that “Women are living lies.”
Every time I think my parents are bad, which they are, I always am thankful that I’ve never had to go through anything to this degree. I feel awful for this poor woman. Even now that she knows that all she went through was wrong, there are certain things you can never unlearn. I hope she feels okay someday.
It's crazy that her brother admitted to a police officer that he had ATTEMPTED MURDER but they said they would let him off if he apologised?? What??? I cannot imagine how strong she must be for dealing with all this abuse her whole life.
Likely the legal system just freezes up since this is a 'cultural' issue. They don't know how to handle it and these in-groups can be very secretive and uncooperative so the police just turn a blind eye. They're likely already just pretty racist and don't care much for these people and at the same time they don't want to rile up these communities. So nothing gets done. Tale as old as time.
@@elifnazsinav312 well then why the hell did they move to the UK? Don’t tell me. I know exactly why. They want the safe and prosperous society that reasonable people are capable of architecting, but don’t want to let go of the very practices that ruined their own. Absolute hypocrites. I hope they’re citizens, because, if not, they should be deported to the country and culture they see as so very superior. It is also an offence to all those immigrants who retain the beauty of their culture, whilst still respecting and embracing the one that welcomed them. And are useful and loved additions, instead of barnacles like this poor woman’s family. I am an immigrant. I can say this without any malice toward most of us. I know what culture adjustment is like, and I know it’s natural to balk against some unexpected realities you face in your host country. But this? Absolutely unacceptable.
Her family should be in prison. Their faces shouldn’t be blurred, instead let the world see their faces and shame them for being vile and wicked people. If I was her I don’t think I could forgive them. She a gentle and good human being that deserves a great life.
As much as I agree with the sentiment, it may only agitate them more and drive them insane to the point that they would do literally anything to ensure her death. Those kinds of parents are so warped by the sense of maintaining their reputation and image among their peers and other family that being humiliated further would likely drive them to do some vile stuff. They care far more about their “honor” than being a loving parent to their children.
It was heart-throbbing to hear her story, not with the expectance of human acts going this far with even their own blood. I love the fact that she was strong enough to share her story even with the overflowing emotions, letting people know that THIS can and has happened
If they were psychopaths they would not think of honor or shame. Truth is they all were healthy in this sense. Just too afraid of shame. They felt guilty, so tried to cover their asses at any cost. Children only fault is that they are, weaker in such families.women and children are to blame because they cant defend themselves. Being afraid is empathic trait, but its an egoism that turns this trait into raping and then killing your daughter.
@@Tetradepodmelonteain that case it makes them worse. if you are not born with apathy and still are that cruel and self serving, you’re a pretty abhorrent person. arguably, sociopaths/psychopaths DO still care about self image. psychopaths especially. that’s how they rise to the top. sociopaths are more likely not to care.
@@Tetradepodmelonteathis is not psychopathy this is the consequence of letting misogyny take full control of a culture. All these ideologies are fully embedded in these people since birth. They genuinely believe what they're doing is righteous.
It's not one family though, it's literally the society upon which India was built. Women are just less and it's played out time and time again in regards to gang rapes of vacationers even.
@@TetradepodmelonteaYou're a mile off. Psychopaths experience jealousy, insecurity and pride. Their sense of "honour" is one of their biggest red buttons. If you think psychopaths don't experience feelings, you don't know what you're talking about. OP is on the money, these sound like violent psychopaths.
I'm almost half a century old and this might be the most horrific account of child abuse I've ever heard. And I haven't even made it to her describing the attempted honor killing yet. I can't watch any more right now. This woman's strength in surviving this stuff and having the courage to talk about it is mind-boggling.
The thing is most women who experience this kind of abuse don't survive it to talk about it. Between honor killings, suicide, or death by accident in the beatings- its so rare to see someone survive and flourish. This kind of abusive is not uncommon in some middle eastern/asian cultures.
Seriously, I’m sitting here crying and I’m just listening to her. The world truly can be such a dark place. I just don’t understand how anybody could do this to a child. Children are some of the brightest lights in this world, why are some adults so intent on snuffing it out. Do they not remember what it was like to be a child? To feel not listened too? To be abused and not be able to fight back?
Nina, you are the strongest human I've ever known. With everything the people that were supposed to love you and protect you did to you, you came out stronger and determined to help others. May the Lord bless you, keep you and give you peace. You are my hero!⭐👏
this whole story was so sad but the story about the dog basically being quiet so she can escape rlly brought tears to my eyes. not only did the dog try to protect her during the beating, but the dog helped her escape. the connection animals have is insane. i’m so happy this lovely woman escaped from her horrible family 🫶🏾
its crazy how at times, our own pets are more humane and kind than humans themselves, and they're often the ones that understand us better. Ironic how the most animalistic and vile of beings came from her family, and that the one that expressed kindness was the dog.
I'm listening to her story and wishing how that dog would just have had more than enough with that family and that the dog would just one day turn on all of them and attack them then leave.
What a brave woman Nina is. I'm horrified listening to her story. Her parents; her brothers; her in-laws have absolutely no honour. They are shameful wastes of oxygen.
Jail!! Extradition.... im portuguese! I lived 7 yeras in london... and 2 years a a sik house they was cool.. police should go after her family... her voice is very important... for teachers and people from outside looking after clues on young girls...
Yet, she never pressed charges. They were never brought to justice. They and their culture will continue to perpetuate this. Because they were never punished.
This is why I feel it’s so important to discuss abuse of all kinds in school. Because for so many children, they don’t even realize that what is happening to them is wrong and unacceptable. I wish I could hug this woman.
Sadly very little can be done by teachers. The abused kiddos go home and to their abusers. Even when child protective services are involved, the abuse continues. Just what happened to poor Gabriel Fernandez. 💔
That is so true! If we see someone who isn't very pleasant or is shy or acts in any number of ways that we think are strange of even criminal, we have to have some compassion for what led them to being like this. It seems that abuse is happening behind doors in every street up and down the country and often the very people who perpetuate the abuse act like normal human beings on the outside but beneath it all they are sadistic lunatics. However again we have to at least try to understand how that person became like they are no matter how horrid, as often they were programmed at a young age to be like that are
Back in 2018, there was a "dad" and a daughter who came in to the optometrists office where I worked. He had cold eyes, and they were dark, not the color, but creepy, like there was a shadow over them. The way he talked was monotonous and emotionless. He had a necklace with an occultist symbol on it. I remember looking at the daughter and she had these big scared eyes that looked like "help me." I still think about her and sometimes I cry about it. Because I know that something was wrong there.
This broke my heart into many pieces. I'm an Indian woman from Sikh background who also ran away at 15 to escape regular beatings. I am so sorry for what you went through. May the Lord bless you and continue to heal you. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know you will be happy in your life. God bless you ❤
I am truly pained by what you went through. I’m also aware that survivors are apt to find silver linings from all they endured. So I’m sorry to say that research has shown that developmental trauma is *only* detrimental ...which means that such harm absolutely *does not* make you stronger. This type of abuse permanently compromises your emotional well-being. The emotional (and in this case physical) scars last a lifetime. As I said, I know that victims want to believe that something good came out of the horrific experiences they lived through. Yet it’s not beneficial to perpetuate erroneous beliefs - especially ones which minimize the magnitude of the damage of this kind of abuse.
@@jenniferlynn3537I for me can certainly say, what didn't kill me made me really stronger (different things than in the vid, but anyway). I guess it's individually.
She is not old either, it's not like this happened 100 years ago, this must be fairly recent? The authorities obviously do not interfere with the cultural garbage rules this family had. This must be stopped.
I’m so disgusted and angry. Not only was this poor, kind woman unloved and abused by her own family, but she then went on to be failed miserably by EVERY institution that should have helped her. Her teachers who ignored her bruises? Her friends’ parents who didn’t care that she was underfed? Her pediatrician that didn’t report the obvious abuse? The cop who didn’t arrest anyone? The doctors who didn’t file a report? The nurses who didn’t offer her counseling? I’m really embarrassed that all this happened in the UK.
Of course in typical UK fashion you will blame yourself, the cops, the system, the teacher, the neighborhood dog, anybody but the vile punjabis who did this. . Commendable virtue signaling. But that's the reason why this will never stop. Because you don't blame the right people - the vile disgusting pigs who do this to their own daughters. The vile culture that makes a mom act as enabler to her 14 year old daughter's gang rape by her husband's friends. Sorry, your virtue signalling doesn't help stop this filth. It's important that the large Punjabi diaspora is clearly told these vile practices allowed in their culture will not be tolerated in the UK. You keep with your self flagellation and you'll only see more girls suffer like Nina.
Sadly for whatever reason the U.K. Police and adjacent services are very averse to pursuing and investigateing and documenting cases of honor killings, attempted honor killings and this kind of "cultural" abuse which 99.9% of the time happens to women and girls and frankly it is disgusting. The change however has to start from those around us as well, this poor woman passed through an entire education system, into the job market with clear and evident sings that something was not right. I'm all for the "don't stick your nose into other people's business" but when you see someone who is suffering, even if they don't outwardly show it you can tell (hell a dog could tell) and you don't at least try to say anything you're an accessory to whatever happens next to that person.
It is barbaric and Britain should be ashamed how they LET these monsters behave in a country that allegedly forbids rape, child abuse, honour killings and much more! Sitting in front of a camera telling that strory, I wonder why not prosecute these monsters?
Votebank. The Sikhs are quite a population and also influential in UK and some other countries. What goes on in their homes can be exactly opposite of what they show to the world. Even in India, in the north-western part, where the sikhs reside along with a few other communities, the attitude towards women is pathetic. Decades ago, it was a place where rampant female infanticide was practiced until the government had to ban the practice of the determination of sex of a child by punishing any medical practitioner who did so. The killings have come down substantially but the sex ratio is still skewed in that part. Also, the general attitude towards women is just not good. So, education is low in that area with a vast majority of sikhs involved in farming. women get married early. There's less focus on their studies, goes without saying. There's a lot of focus on their looks. Skin colour is very important. They are mostly seen as wives who have to bear children. after a woman becomes older, she gains influence in the family. i would like to point out that there are many sikhs who are very educated and the exact opposite. But the rural culture is what I've described.
Sikhs don’t do this…she could be someone paid to malign the culture and religion….real question why did she not go the police? Why has no one been charged or persecuted? The culture and community would have publicly shamed her family and disowned them….our community does not condone this type of stuff….her father would have committed suicide if she had gotten the community involved. Instead getting help from the community….she is just going around blaming an entire culture, community and religion….as if we know the going’s on in a dysfunctional family. That’s the only thing I can say….she belonged to a dysfunctional family and needed to get help…
Nina had told the world about her awful family - why don’t the police just arrest them all? Murdering baby girls and an attempted murder on their own daughter?!?! Where is the justice?
@@poisonkiss201this happened in the UK…. Did you even listen? How ignorant. This can happen anywhere. People and especially young girls are hurt and abused here in America everyday.
The way the police responded to her saying "it was an attempted honour killing" and how the police would assume it was a suicide anytime they came across a bride-burning says everything you need to know. At that time, religious and racial tensions were clearly affecting local law enforcement. Either they were under direction to stay out of it, prior legal rulings made it impossible to prosecute, or they feared retaliation. Altogether a disgusting failure.
@@ciaa8387 yes it happened in the uk but the family is indian ....they did not assimilate into british culture they brought their third world culture with them where it didnt belong
She needed love. Let's shower her with love. YOU ARE LOVED, RESPECTED BY ALL OF US. SENDING YOU LOVE, COURAGE, BLESSINGS MY DEAR SISTER. JUST LOOOOOOOVE YOU. ❤❤❤❤❤
Bless that taxi driver for helping her and staying with her. I could feel her pain when she was telling her story. The first time she felt loved was in an abortion clinic after she had been gang raped. How awful. I really want to give this woman a hug
When she referred to her dog as a “ she as a person” my heart sank! She saw this dog as an ANGEL . I cried and felt her pain! God bless her soul and heart.
Obviously the Pooch knew that this girl was in pain & suffering. The dear pooch had way more empathy towards her, than this monster human family. This lady had undergone enough sufferings through the hands of her own family & it's painful even to watch. However, does anyone know that in India, if the Husband dies ' first' before the wife, so the wife also should die when the day comes to cremate the husband's body? It was said that the relatives will gather & throw the wife into her husband's funeral fire. I wonder what type of monster people have come up with such heinous crimes.
The way she is able to articulate all these years of trauma and torture is really shocking. Even the times when she gets emotional she is still able to keep her composure. I can’t imagine the amount of internal pain she has had to work through and the amount of pain she still has. Thank you for sharing Nina
You are a victorious never lose sight of how strong you are may you be the best that God meant for you to be . God bless you and bring you peace and joy in your life . Keep on being Brave we love and appreciate your true story.
It's so sad. It's so clear that she had to learn to communicate through the torture and she's had to bottle it up and still be clear. It brought me to tears knowing the levels of trauma and suffering she endured. She's a pure soul, I wish comfort and Peace for her ❤
She is so eloquent in her speaking, the way she describes her torture and how her family treated her is so incredibly difficult to listen to. What a strong lady.
@@j.h.miretskay3430I think she’s referring to Nina’s ability to recount her rape so earnestly and with so much detail, because that, in fact, does take a lot of courage and strength. It is not something ever victim/survivor is able to do. She does not mean any disrespect by her comment.
I think this is the single bravest person I have ever heard of. To go through a lifetime of unspeakable events and to still find the courage to speak up is just beyond me.
I'm an Indian and I don't think you are bringing any undeserved disrepute to Indians or Sikhs or any group of persons. This is the truth and you've tolerated and faced the worse kind of abuse. And others should be able tolerate the truth. It's a common practice to abuse women and shout them down when they speak up. Women are blamed for bringing disrepute to the country or religion or community. It is not our job to keep this facade of reputation intact. Those who did that to you will carry the shame and I hope people here shame them plenty. Pretending to be civilized when they are far from it.
@@PittheadX this is any culture that is regressive and people who are uneducated. So, be it Muslims, Sikhs or Hindus. And those BJP RSS will also be included in it who believe, propagate and practice this. But not every BJP person does things like this
As a Middle Eastern I’m so sorry you had to go through this💔 I’m so proud you were able to get out of that house and escape this horror So many girls weren’t as brave as yourself and lost their lives because they felt like they couldn’t escape🥺 I’m so happy you were able to leave your family❤️❤️
This is how you know abuse can't be used as an excuse for being a bad person. This woman is respectable and brave. I wish her the best in the rest of her life.
Well everyone is different, i ve been through mental abuse, beatings but not sure if i got raped and i was a kid was very vague. What i did most of my adulthood was to erase all of this, i find myself now with a lot of issues i never been aware of, i m still clueless of what s happening with me and i at times i am mean, distant, hateful towards someone that hurts me. I just hope for love and at 28 i still don t know how to pave my road. A lot of strength came at 18 when i runned from home in a different city and i ve worked with everything so new to me..now at 28 i m very fearful to do a step again, a lot of my motivation disappeard and my confidence never existed. I am most of the times alone.
@@scuzemoa oh no I completely understand that!! I have social anxiety and anger outbursts and stuff. I mean like serial killers and rapists having a traumatic childhood as their sole reason for doing those things
This is horrific. None of it should have happened. I also wonder: if this group values women so little that they will kill baby girls or treat them like garbage, who do they expect to marry their precious sons?
@@KoshPilotbecause they are a population of idiots who discard women who are either divorced or have not been married by 30ish. Nothing good about their current culture... I have friends who were professional expats in china and they said as a group they're absolutely animals. Now their ancient culture, thats a different story as they did great things.
I never so desperately wanted to give a hug to someone. My daughter is 7, and I’d happily give my life for her in a heartbeat. To think that this angel of a woman was deprived of love growing up makes her a genuine miracle.
Amazing lady. It is hard to believe that someone can show such strength and composure in the retelling of such a story? To be treated like this by those who should be the strongest source of love and protection in your life must be unbearable to experience.
The fact that she was beaten at school in addition to all her horrors at home just makes me furious. As if being raped at home wasnt enough being beaten for the simple fact of not being white at school is disgusting. Her family failed her, the UK failed her, the school, teachers and stidents failed her. Its disgusting
It sort of confuses me how you're more outraged by ignorant children bullying her than her own family beating and raping her. They're just not even in the same league.
I can't believe the British Government is not charging these perpetrators with attempted murder, rape, child abuse, kidnapping, torture and whatever else these crimes would fall under. Police should be making arrests. My heart goes out to this lady who have lived through years of unimaginable crimes. I have decided to no longer frequent businesses owned by the men from this culture. I never knew this think went on with this culture and I'm appalled that it does.
Its not the culture, its about individual. Their are bad people in all culture. Dont corrupt your narrative about this culture. Punjabis in India are the most beloving parents.
GOOD for you! What you are experiencing there is what USED to be known as 'Noble Anger' - something the World needs MUCH more of these days - as opposed to its ugly sister - Pointless Anger.
The fact that this women's 'family' lives their lifes unbothered and free makes me lose the rests of faith I had in people. And the police... how you can feel safe when they know what happened and done nothing... absolutely disgusting. I feel so sorry for her
@Julmaa87 my sincere apologies for this appalling mistake of putting 'oo' instead of 'o'. Please forgive me bearing in mind that English is my second language. On the other hand... Next time before you try to correct miniscule mistake make sure you can speak ANY OTHER LANGUAGE THAN ENGLISH on the same level I speak English you sad little grammar nazi...
She, that Dog and God given Will to get over that fence is nothing short of a miracle Edit: in addition, to all that she endured working for her higher purpose in the work she does today spreading her story far and wide and the essential, priceless, vital awareness and assistance to civilians, medical/authority professionals, government etc. simply wow.
Most of us have no idea how blessed we are. You are so strong! The fact that you speak with such Grace and love after everything you have been put through. You are an angel and you are loved. I’m sorry the people that should have loved and protected you didn’t. But there are people out there who don’t know you and love you and want the best for you because that is what you deserve. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Hearing her testimony is gut-wrenching. And the worst part is knowing that the same is happening to girls around the world RIGHT NOW. I am so happy to see her as a functional adult now, because oh my goodness I would have lost my mind.
There was no honor killing in my Afro-Caribbean upbringing, but I can relate to so much, and I'm in tears. My mom hated having daughters; she did not mind my two brothers but gave them away. My sister was sent with my equally cruel grandmother, and I stayed with my mother. She literally lit my clothes on fire on my body when I was four years old and tried to cut my chest when I began developing breasts at eight. Nina found hope in Rapunzel, and I found hope in Cinderella. I survived abuse of every kind and am now a married mommy of four little girls. I homeschool my little ones, and I'm not an abuser. The cycle of abuse has broken with me. I can't imagine hurting my children. I am also a certified teacher with a graduate degree. There is a calm after the storm. I am grateful to hear of Nina's triumph but sorry to hear about what she experienced. How parents can hate their children, I'll never understand.
When I think of people like you who have successfully waded through the swamp and quagmire of life it make me happy this will put you way out in front on our trek into the eternities.
What the hell is wrong with people. If you don’t want girls and are going to be a monster to them. Just give them up for adoption. It makes no sense to hate having girls. How will there be wives for your sons if there are no girls.
I’m only 13 mins in but imagine experiencing kindness for the first time in your young 15 yr life from a nurse whilst having an abortion derived from rape? Brave beautiful lady.
Too bad the practitioner covered up the crime with the abortion. Think about how her life could have changed in that moment if the police were called? DNA taken and responsible parties brought to justice? Think about this barbaric culture sitting in your town? Little girls like Nina being abused and raped and it all goes unnoticed because the local abortion clinic covers it up with the nice lady stroking your hair and being "kind" to you while they get rid of the evidence. Sorry this story upset me to my core. I am sure there are so many more like her in our society.
Part two of Nina's story is available here - ruclips.net/video/mcSsrYXuqs0/видео.html. You can find out about the work Nina does at www.ninaaouilk.com and endhonourkillings.org/
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Oh Nina it's so hard to hear I can't imagine what it was like for you to live through all of that! Honestly it's a testimony to your strength of character as a human being that despite all the torture and abuse you endured from birth that now you present as a kind decent human and I wish I could be your friend! Please keep sharing your story because there's a young girl that maybe is on the bus on her way to or from school that will see your story and know that what she's enduring is not okay! I think you're beautiful and I'm so grateful you're alive!!!!❤️
@MishMashOz271 Thats horrific. Right now in Afghanistan women are killing themselves because they cant go to school or work anymore. Iranian women are being arrested for not wearing hijab. All these stories of abuses but its rarely discussed in the mainstream or by the social justice advocates.
@@tubester4567people shy away from these issues in fear of being perceived as "culturally insensitive" or racist which in itself is bonkers.
No woman or girl should be treated as less than human. It should be unacceptable anywhere and everywhere.
Mrs H 🇬🇧 ... If they don't want girls then why did they keep you...Many in UK would of raised and loved you.... No innocent child from any culture should EVER such suffer such heinous abuse ... I have no doubt you'll carry this trauma for the rest of your life BUT I think your AN extremely brave survivor.... Thank you for sharing your story .... I'm so sorry you suffered so much...💔
Dear Nina, how horrific this time was for you, thank you for sharing. Always remember your beautiful stunning, and listening to you your so lovely and these so call family members what they did they should have if in the UK they had the death penalty they deserved it. I’m so sorry you had a lonely awful time I hope now you are happier and you have your children. I felt your heartbreak Take care beautiful Nina ❤❤❤
Her family has no honor to retain. The fact that so many years have gone by and they still send 30-40 death threats a month is absolutely insane. When her parents die, I hope the only tears she sheds are tears of relief.
She needs to press charges. At the very least, get restraining orders and then change her number, address, everything.
@@BeckBeckGowhat will a restraining order do....the police watched other girls in similar situations get burned to death , they did nothing....they dont want to be involved!!! Probably apart of the same occult
@@BeckBeckGo Assuming she's in the UK, I don't know how restraining orders work there. I *do* know how they work where I live in the US, that they expire after 2 years and you have to petition to renew them. They do also require you to give your location of work and/or location of residence, so that the person is barred from going to those places or calling landlines.
That is so sad
Those parents need to burn in hell. That's disgusting. How can you be such an awful person and keep living life thinking you deserve to live?
She got crap at home and at school. How this woman is still sane and seemingly functional is beyond me.
her resilience is actually out of this world
literally, the universe know if I was her i'd be 6ft under. Her strength to continue in life is beautiful
“Survivor” doesn’t even begin to cover the surface of what this woman is. She’s a goddess.
She's not seemingly functional. She is functional. Don't assume abused victims are broken, often they are the strongest, most aware and fully functional people you will ever meet.
@@yourfavoritecoffeehouse9343 wouldn't say it means they are broken if they can't cope with years of abuse
The irony in a so-called “honour” killing is that there is nothing more dishonorable than hurting a person who you are supposed to love and protect.
In my TEDx i question that as it’s title states “There is no honour in killing”
They should be called "pride killings." When the predator is at risk of being exposed or held accountable, they try to get rid of the victim. Sounds like a bunch of psychopathic narcissists.
@@londonslifecoach Will be checking out your TedX immediately. Your resilience should have NEVER been necessary, but it is truly mind blowing what you have survived and how you have managed to thrive despite it. Thank you for sharing a piece of your life with us. There are so many woman out there with similar, it has to stop. Thank you.
In India the vast majority find honour in killings, as in Russia the vast majority find homosexuality same as paedophilia. Welcome to reality.
100%. There is zero honor or exhalation in abusing, starving, molesting and killing your children, especially as a “punishment” for being a girl or birthing a girl.
I’ve never wanted to just hug and hold someone so badly. I don’t know her personally but I want her to know how loved she is, and how beautiful her soul is.
I feel the same way. I wish I could be her friend and show her nothing but love, kindness, joy. I would hug her and hold her and stroke her hair and tell her how much she was loved.
One thing you can do is to learn the names of your neighbors and their kids. If you haven’t already.
Imagine if she had had one neighbor who showed her she was important enough that they knew her name.
You can do that for someone.
I just want to show her kindness too
Yes, I third what you all are saying and would also love to be able to love her and be her dear friend/earth sister. How she is still so kind and truly the strongest person ever, is just so amazing and so inspiring. Wishing her the best and most loving life ever!!
@@realstatisticianthat is great advice! Everyone needs to absolutely do this, as well as keep a close eye on/get acquainted with children at your child(ren)’s school. Your awareness and voice could literally be life or death for them.
So her brother, a man who beats his partner with a hammer openly admits to attempted murder and NOTHING happens? This is beyond disgusting and a travesty of justice
IKR? Plus the cops knew about it when she first escaped, just before she was in hospital! Wtf?
@@downieduck2414Her family isn’t muslim
@@downieduck2414sources?
@@downieduck2414 she mentioned Sikhs, Punjabis and Indians, idk where you got Muslim from, thats a dumb assumption
The authorities there are useless. It’s no wonder the area is being taken over by foreigners they cannot control
There is absolutely NO honor in killing your own child to appease your public image and opinions of others. It is shameful and detestable
They’re not children they’re property.
@@Muffinga the fuck you saying? Property? That is the most backwards inhumane shit I have ever heard
Clearly these parents are mentally ill
* There is no honor killing, period.
It is just absolutely vile
Blaming her for not being a virgin yet HE and his buddies were the ones to rape her, while he mother stood by. The sense it doesn't make is astounding. The fact that she has been able to rise above the hurt and torment she endured for so many years of her life is a testament to the kind of person she must be. wishing her nothing but happiness and love for the remainder of her life
There’s a special Place in Hell for this despicable family… What a strong and wonderful woman, Godspeed to her…❤🙏🇨🇦
That's what they do
These people cannot take responsibility for their actions and must blame the victim.
This is just sickening. Honestly, this woman is one of the strongest humans. What a survivor
U r unfortunate to have a devil parents .
My childhood was a nightmare of neglect, abuse, and violence, and it still feels like a 70’s sitcom compared to what this woman went through.
I’m really sorry for you as well. Sending love from Brazil ❤
Perspective is a hell of a thing. Please don't let that diminish the victory you deserve to feel every day for making it through though. Pain is pain, Struggle is struggle and in case nobody has said so recently, I'm so proud of you for not giving up. That's some warrior shit ❤
I AM SO ANGRY THAT HER PARENTS AREN’T IN PRISON!!! How can they still to this day be making threats to her??? The police failed her
her country and people failed her, not just the police
yoko ono: woman is n-word of the world. we are mistreated the world over.
@@Dave_of_Mordor It's more prevalent in their culture than Americans realize.
Americans don't realize how these people and their "culture" bring their evil ways to this country.
@@chris1638 She's from the UK. America is irrelevant in this discussion.
How can this woman be so collected, classy, well-adjusted, beautiful, and stable? Absolute superhuman.
Absolutely.
The problem is that a lot of survivors don't show it all outside. She might still be suffering incredibly on the inside. And similarly - many people we meet have shit ton of sadness, fear and anger inside us.
@@anne_vvvexactly. People think that just because somebody puts on some nice looking clothes and combs their hair then they must be doing alright. Not how it works at all. Often times the people who are struggling the most emotionally are the ones who seem bubbly and well adjusted.
Whatever does not destroy you only makes you stronger.
She is so beautiful today...may she be forever loved
Im a grown man, 50 years old and not ashamed to say ive cried at every turn of this story. As a father of 3 very much loved daughters i feel SO hurt for her.
Don't be ashamed. You seem like a genuine caring person❤
Don't be ashamed. It's not weakness it's human. Please remember that. Crying is apart of us yet somehow it's a crime. It shouldn't be that way. Normal human emotions should never be a sign of weakness or should be suppressed. Guys who say it isn't manly are cowards.
You sir, are human and you should never apologize for your feelings, nor be ashamed of feeling empathy for someone. You are clearly a person with a heart of gold. That's rare nowadays! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Wish all of us had a father like you
I told my father that one of our family member is very in appropriate with me. He just nodded and went back to using his phone. My mother told me “we’ve known him for a long time and we grew up together. He’s not like that. You’re lying”
If any parent is reading this, I beg you to listen to your children when they say something vulnerable.
there is nothing to be ashamed
A man who can feel a woman's pain
And a woman who can respect a man are always to be respected
This is disgusting...i am so sorry for this , how about you talk about this to any teacher at your school?@@nonenone8655
❤Dear NINA.... 4.8 Million complete strangers who live all across this world want you to know that YOU MATTER & WE ALL LOVE YOU!
So much RESPECT for you! You are hands down the STRONGEST FEMALE I've ever come across.
❤THANK YOU FOR YOUR STRENGHT❤
Nina is an absolute warrior!
Yeah!! ❤❤
(200th like but that doesn't matter anyway)
Nina what you said brought me to 😢 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 you are so brave and Love for your courage ❤
There’s a special place in hell for people that treat children like this.
I wish I could love your comment 1 million times
@user-dw4cs4xv8y how do you know heaven and hell doesn't exist? did you die and saw nothing, then came back?
@user-dw4cs4xv8y I don't know if it exists, but how can I know? I question you because you seem so sure of the answer, but based on what you wrote, it was a bit disappointing. If you have no evidence or can't disprove something, how can you be so confidence about your answer?
What's funny about your comment is that you didn't used any reasoning or logic to come to the conclusion that heaven and hell doesn't exist, you just used common internet answers and questions as if you got me.
I might be wrong, but I have a strong feeling something broke your faith, and now you're just throwing a tantrum on the internet. I doubt you suddenly reason your way out of your religion. Nothing about your reply indicates that
@user-dw4cs4xv8y again how can you be so sure? this is what I'm trying to get out of you. how do you know god only exists in our minds?
Hell doesn't exist, and saying and thinking that is just a lame cop out to make yourself feel better about the fact that they never receive the punishment they truly deserve.
They allow a group of men to assault her and then are mad that she gets pregnant from it. Like what did they expect? Sickening people.
Strongholds controlling them.They should repent
her family is made out of demons theyre not humans
Stupid + sickening.
Sucking Favages!!
Sadly, this is par for the course in many religious fundamentalist groups (read: cults). Horrifying.
I love that she called her dog “the loudest person”. It shows how much she loved her dog and what they meant to her. I’m so glad she had her dog.
I thought the same thing, ironic that the most humanity was shown by an “animal”
That dog showed more humanity than the so-called humans in that house. Poor woman. I hope she’s thriving
@@CompUter-oo7er absolutely! That dog was more human than those monsters. I haven’t stopped thinking about this woman’s story and imagining how many others are going through this as we speak.
My heart goes out to this woman.
How are people so horrible and evil allowed to carry on.
Her treatment is unthinkable.
A dog can literally save your emotional health and your heart if you are in terrible home life as child.
Until I was allowed to have one I knocked on every neighbors door who had a dog as a little girl.
I proved to them I could handle walking their large dogs and eventually it became expected that I'd
be taking their dog for walks every day.
We had the best moments of my life. We'd sit together, we'd go to abandoned buildings, eat lunch together by the creek,
and they let you love on them as much as you want to.
Finally I was given a small dog.
She was the best thing to ever happen, but my mother came home one day and said we were getting rid of her.
I pleaded, cried until I couldn't breathe, but we still drove to give her away.
I remember her fur being soaked from my face as we got out of the car and I touched her.
My hands couldn't let go of her.
I will never forget sitting her down in the people's driveway and am suddenly unable to write this without crying at the memory of it.
Now, decades later I try to get to know my mother in her older age, and we pretend to like each other more than we do, but I lost
trust and feeling for her that I will never get back no matter how hard I try.
Please if you have kids who are dedicated to taking care of things, and ONLY if you trust that they will give the utmost care to a pet, get them a rescue dog from a shelter or a dog rescue.
If there is screaming and constant strife in the house though, please please don;t do it because it is painful for animals to live
in domesticated, loud and stressful households and more than any creatures on earth; they deserve nothing but good because they are pure, and are angels.
God Bless.
I wonder what happen to the dog 🐕?
I honestly do not know how she’s able to tell this story. I am amazed at her strength and will to live. Thank god for her resolve and her inner voice and that god for the lil angel dog.
As a teacher my worst fear is that a child in my care could go through this and I could not know about it
As a teacher, please don't go automatically villainizing a child's parents who you believe may be doing something like that to a child. Find out all the information you can before you expose anyone for wrongdoing. We live in a much different and highly suggestive times. C
I had to take a screenshot of RUclips telling me that instead of me saying, "We live in a much different time," I have to say, "We live in a MANY different time." 😂😂😂 This is how they keep my posts from being seen by people. As a teacher, HELP THEM, PLEASE!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👌🏾
@@youtubeillegallydeletesacc1525 Absolutely true as well. Luckily we have very strict processes for escalating concerns these days.
Teachers which are predominantly middle class are the same people that encourage those cultures and people to come and live amongst me and my children. I find it extremely ironic you are making those comments. You fetched someone else's problem to my doorstep.
@@martinconneally8756 With all due respect sir, you don't know me or my political beliefs, and you're making a sweeping generalisation. I don't make the choices of a government, but I can honestly say if I did, they would be very different to the choices made by our leaders.
The British police has failed this precious woman, what a shame
yes SHAME ON THEM!!
Out of the fear of being called r.cist..
Worse than shame. Dishonor. A stain on honor that would take a century to repair. How disgusting.
More likely because of racism
@@eily_bplease they weren’t scared of being called racist they didn’t see any value in their lives to they couldn’t be bothered to help
I’m a 43 year old man. No kids, never married. Even my paternal instincts is so strong that I find myself in tears, wishing I could just give this young woman a long, warm hug and tell her she’s a wonderful woman and everything is ok. How ANYONE could treat their child this way is beyond me.
Im 41, female, no kids and never married either. And i could truly and genuinely feel and understand what you are saying here.. this so disgustingly terrible.. i cannot believe how evil this family is.. and the kind of culture or belief is there in this community. I genuinely admire how strong, intelligent and resilient this woman is despite all the terrible inhumane things done to her.
It’s Nina reading your comment gave me such hope that compassion and kindness exists and will carve a better path for others with men like you being on this world 🙏🏼
@@londonslifecoach I barely watch documentaries but i sat through this one from beginning to end, the way you convey your message is so unique and heartfelt I couldn't help but cry. I hope all is well for you my love,,
You're just a normal, humane person. Her treatment was hell. It's sad, but her stories are happening to others today.
“Even if your friends & family betray you, i shall send for you , to be your guide , the spirit of truth” -the owners manual
6:22 i was NOT expecting this. i just felt heart drop. this poor girl this poor poor girl i’m crying.
I’m still tryna to figure out if “He” is her father…. OMG these people are fucking demons. 😨
The person who goes through and faces the abuse, doesn't at that time know what's going on
😭
This poor woman was raised and surrounded by monsters. God bless and be with Nina.
Unfortunately, there are lots of other “Ninas” out there which is why I’m doing what I’m doing so that they too can find their own freedom
@@londonslifecoach
Are you helping other people like Nina? I'm so proud of you! ❤🎉
@londonslifecoach:
Thank you for doing this incredibly important work.
@@dea9457 The person you are responding to is Nina, just as a heads up.
Not sure if you missed the part that this woman was tortured by the beliefs of her family and countries religion, why would she need another blessing from another God that is make believe. ALL religions should be globally banned for the what the do to humanity, every single religion is a plague on society.
What a force of nature Nina is to survive such a horrific childhood.
I appreciate your response and extended love ❤
@@londonslifecoach when is the part two getting released?
@@londonslifecoach I just want to say you are an incredible woman. If no one's told you today, then I want you to know you are beyond gorgeous, soo brave and courageous! You are a SURVIVOR and by telling your story you're helping other girls recognize abuse and giving them the strength to survive as well! Your story broke my heart! No one especially a child should ever have to endure such hate and horrific abuse by the hands of family or anyone for that matter. You are so beautiful and one of the strongest women I've ever seen!! ❤️
💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
@@londonslifecoachYou are truly an amazing woman and though I may not know you, I love you and I am so proud of you. ❤ You are an inspiration to me as a female and as a human being. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. I would hug you if I could.
What hurts me most about this beautiful woman's story is that she is willing to relive it every time she retells it, and she does it solely for the benefit of others so that they may find hope and hopefully never experience this again. What a saint this woman. I pray that she is receiving all the love and support and blessings that she always deserved. We love you Nina. May God bless you and your children for generations to come. Amen.
Sharing the story more and more helps her to integrate and heal. It's good for you to share your story in a safe place.
she must have relived it a hundred of times when she would close her eyes, cross that house, hear news about her family members or pass those streets.
SWEETIE YOU HAD MR AND MRS DEVIL FOR PARENTS 👿👿👿
INLAW DEVIL 👿👿 TOO YOU LIVING IN HELL😳😳😳
Watch ‘girl in the river’.. because THOUSANDS OF GIRLS ARE KILLED BY THEIR OWN FATHERS AND ITS A SICK CULTURE.. SICK..
The way she can speak of these inhuman acts is so respect worthy. She is one of the strongest women I have ever seen.
So its ok to be a mother but not a daughter? That’s outright bullying, I am so sorry you went thru this.
It's a cycle. You either abuse your kids and the other women around you or you get abused and killed yourself. It's all you know.
I think this is way beyond the scope of bullying.
@@existentialhangover1124agreed. This is downright abuse stemmed from cultural prejudice.
This is what I don’t get. Isn’t her mother a female of their culture? Aren’t females needed for marriage and children. They had already had two sons so…it’s all so illogical. One can’t blame culture or tradition, they are just evil, evil using culture and tradition as an excuse to enjoy perpetuating violence against those less powerful.
So. Right , my bully’s mother was sh*t
This is horrific. She is an elegant, well spoken lady. So many parents would be beyond proud of her. It won’t help heal her but the women of the world are beyond proud and in awe of her.
Except for the women who abused her.
@@davidlamb7524, those are not women, those are monsters.
@@davidlamb7524
Why would you say what should be without saying about the other women?! 🙄
@@SweetChicagoGator Can you repeat that in standard English please ?
It is not coherent.
I didn't say " what should be" plus there are no "other women".
Meridias etc mentioned the women of the world and I mentioned the exceptions .
What other women can there be ?
I’m only half way through and I can honestly say that this is one of the most horrible cases of child abuse I have heard in my entire life. It actually brought me to tears. To be abused to this extent at all is completely and categorically wrong but to have this happen to you because you happened to be born female…. The fact that she is still here, strong enough to talk to us all about it today is so remarkable.
Did this happen in Great Britain?
@@MisterSantilliyes, it did
Did they all go to prison for attempted m-rder?@@sheilae.9670
And this is common among that religion and they bring the crap to Europe.
“Normal” parents usually protect and care for their children, so what does this tell you about these parents and the religion they practice ? ! The word “demonic” comes to mind, certainly not “godly” ! However they will pay for the atrocity they have perpetrated on perpetrated on their own child. Shame on them !
Today was the first time in 15 years that I've cried. This woman is the bravest woman I have ever seen. Surely the school or her friends should have noticed sooner?
This woman looks like she is carrying so much trauma in her yet still managed to share this heartbreaking story in such a well articulated and graceful manner. The fact that she is still here with us looking beautiful and full of kindness in her eyes makes her a true Queen.Nina you deserve the world, You are a true jewel.
♥
❤😢
She’s truly amazing. God bless her. 🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾♥️
Everyone in Nina’s life failed her. Unfortunately there are many who can relate to her story. Nina you’re a survivor and you’re here for a reason. Thank you for sharing your story
Since speaking out I have had over 14,000 victims and survivors call out for help via my non profit… the power of standing in your truth is immense ❤
@londonslifecoach Nina may I ask if you know what happened to your sister?
Everyone didn't fail her. As usual, the non human (her dog) was a better person than the humans.
Let's not forget, it's also the disgusting culture. Which comprises of that misogynistic thinking. In order to show unconditional love, you have to be human first
I don't think her friends failed her. I'm glad she had people in her life looking out for her, be it by giving her jam sandwiches, knowing they were such a luxury for her - or by giving her a shoulder to cry on, with nothing to gain from it. They were treating her like a person, even though they were no more powerful than her.
As a punjabi, this is horrifying to hear and I feel ashamed that our culture allows this kind of evil to exist. Unfortunately this is one of many stories of women I’ve heard over the years who have been through similar horrors and a lot of them do not make it out alive. How one inflicts that kind of pain on their own flesh and blood is beyond me. Gender-based discrimination and voilence is a huge problem in my culture, but it doesn’t get the attention it needs and the system fails these women over and over again. I applaud her for having the courage to speak out about what she went through, it has shaken me to my core and I cannot stop crying. We need to do better to protect our girls and women. This is not okay, nobody should have to deal with this kind of pain and trauma.
I agree. I'm Punjabi SIkh from Vancouver, Canada, and let me tell you, I'm truly disgusted by our community. Even if families don't do to their daughters to the magnitude that this woman's family did to her, but a majority of the community stays silent on the issue, and they too are part of the problem, because they feel disappointed at the birth of a girl child, think girls should act, dress a certain way, do what they are told, and so in my eyes, most people are part of the problem, that gives rise to shit families like this, who have the audacity to do what they did. This so called friend of this woman's who gave her the advice to go back home was so wrong. Why would you want to go back to a place where your father and all his friends raped you. I thought my family was bad, my parents are just plain toxic in terms of mental and emotional abuse, but I endured nothing like this to this magnitude, actually I had it much better after I got married and moved to the United States, and after I left one night my dad almost ended up killing my sister because she had to work late, and he thought she was out slutting around, and my parents the next day said, oh it was nothing. Like fuck this shit. I wish I could have 5 minutes with this piece of shit father and her brothers, and still them in a room with big military guys and lets see how fucking tough they are then. I've heard so many stories like this, it's disgusting. Glad I distanced and disassociated myself the the community.
I cried throughout the video too. It’s beyond heartbreaking how your own family can break your spirit like this. Except for the rape and breaking of bones, I suffered a lot like this woman by my family. My mother was the same kind of angry abusive lunatic. And my dad a violent drunk. My school removed me from home when I was 17 and they always told me the same thing, “so many women don’t make it out alive.” I consider myself lucky. But the emotional pain this experience leaves you with is unlike any other. My only two options in life were 1. Live without a family and be completely on your own. 2. Be seriously abused by your parents and brother because you’re a girl. I chose the first one. This is the first time I’ve heard a story that’s much much worse than mine. And mine is pretty evil.
I hope you know you are with so much more, you deserve love, you deserve respect ❤
I'm shocked beyond belief. To think that this had happened and continue to happen is something I find reprehensible. I will only advise that she cuts all connections with all those who made her suffer. She should live her life and face everything with the courage, confidence and determination that is needed. I salute her for speaking out. I am surprised that a country like England would not take cognizance of such behavior in a community.
Bad parents..!
How these people can be so cruel. Nina is such a brave brave woman. Sending you all of my love Nina.
As a mum I just cannot imagine being your child’s bully and wanting to hurt them let alone for making eye contact and then all the horror that poor lady went through. So horrific, how can anyone do these things to a child is beyond me.
I had a “mother” like that. I was even given a lobotomy to cover up all the xes abuse I experienced. I was forced to give oral before I knew my abcs
Ladies were very brutal indeed xD
@@myman8336yeah men were so gentle and caring
@@SuperGulzada
RUclips deleted my history comment, sorry if that's out of context..
I was trying to explain how the Cultural Norms of 100 to 200+ years ago can be seen as cruel and unusual behavior today, why we shouldn't hate them all and added the often violent experiences I went through at the hands of my Female teachers growing up as a boy, how families shared a similar disciplinary mindset, and why I don't hate them for it..
Cultural Norms are everywhere and influence what people may believe is acceptable behavior..
100 years from now, I'm sure people would view US as cruel in certain areas as well..
@@myman8336 Cultural Norms lol Just bunch of stupid scared pathetic people
It enrages me that all these cultures that praise boys and men, and shame girls and women, seem to forget the fact that all their prized boys and men would not even exist in the first place if it weren't for the women. It makes my blood boil!!
They seem to forget that a woman is another human deserving of equal opportunitities and rights DESPITE however they feel about them.
So this happened in the UK , shocking !! I do hope her parents and the filth that abused her pay for this,
This!
Wow I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Be strong god’s had special place for you. & Karma will definitely deliver it for all who abused you.
Exactly this. Unbelievably ignorant. I hate it
Every time I thought she'd told the worst of it, it got more horrific. I can't believe anyone could survive this. What a warrior, what an outstanding human being. I hope the rest of her life is peaceful and she can finally have some happiness.
YES! I hope the rest of her life is peaceful and she finds a safe place to heal and live her best life. She's suffered long enough at the hands of monsters.
She should get them arrested. Why forgive? That's not something to be forgiven even if it was part of the culture. Bringing them to justice will lead to a positive change and will be helpful to many others in the future. But I don't blame her if she doesn't want to fight on her own. She might be so tired and seeking some peace in life. Some Humans rights organisation or activists must fight on her behalf.
@@redheadredemption3hey she still says it's her culture, have fun in your culture.
@@VolodymyrTheJewishClown "Nobody gets away with attempted murder". They do get away, and more than you think. Stop denying that.
@@VolodymyrTheJewishClown Muslims are untouchable in EU f.e.x pakistani r@pe gang went on for decades with police and everyone else knowing... People are being stabbed, robbed, beaten with police doing nothing if the perpetrator is muslim. For victims of honor violence there is no safe place - their community is violating them and police won´t help frequently. It´s insane.
I've just somehow stumbled upon this video. And genuinely in my life, have I never wanted to give a random stranger a hug so much. What a truly incredible woman she is to be able to have the mental fortitude to live her life having experienced what she did for so long. Inspirational lady!
She went through that living hell and yet she has the softest, kindest eyes I’ve ever seen.
Those aren't soft eyes, they are repressed, broken & sad.
So sad what happened to this woman. This is why we need to criticize the bad parts of each culture. Just because its "part of their culture" doesn't mean its ok.
That’s so true because honor killings happen in Europe still and no one ever talks about them but when it’s in the middle east or south Asia people it’s the only time people talk about
@@Azaarvyes and they blame the religion as a muslim honour killing is totally prohibited and seeing people thinking that it's part of it is very sad
it's unfortunately the evil people and not the culture which cause this. If you have an evil person, you can't change him. I mean like how can a father (with friends) rape his own daughter? That's not a thing that belongs to any culture.
@@Azaarvpropel do talk about inter family killings in Europe. They are just harder to spot because the perpetrators are either in rural areas where no one will find out or more in tune with the rules of their country and how to not be caught. Plus it’s way less common. And WAY less boring. “Honor killing in UK” sounds interesting, “husband killed wife and daughter” is just another repeated news headline.
There is a difference in magnitude and media attention.
@hml25 please read quran chap 4 verse 15
It's striking how soft and sensitive she is considering the evil cruelty she endured. She managed to retain her beautiful soul and her humanity and not let those horrible people turn her into one of them.
Only 1.6 billion to go..
This show you have a choice to break the cycle and you can come out stronger than ever.
Most women that go through things like that are softer and more sweet.
That's why it often happens to them repeatedly.
Like, people who were physically and sexually abused as children end up experiencing the same as adults because abusers can spot them from a mile away.
They're passive and softer and don't see red flags.
It's hard to break the cycle.
I've listened to her before powerful speaker,..what really gets me angry is knowing that millions of girls are going through exactly what she is and it's somehow been normalised by a society because a bat sh!t crazy religious belief system that treats women/girls,like personal property,I cannot for the life of me,understand why we do trade with countrys like this,..I hear the argument that we can show them another side to life by trading with them,but i feel we are giving them legitimacy in their eyes,.I think that's the wrong approach,..Ending apartheid only worked because the whole world stood firm against an idea that divided people by race and once everybody was on border with that process of not working with that government in anyway,..it fell,they could no longer justify their political decision of government or feel thst they were somehow being accepted in anyway whatsoever,...invading country's and trying to impose our standards of humanity might seem the right way to go but these peoole still have their pride and ot must come from within and be forced into thst way of thinking as the world turns its back on them,...all we do is get country's to double down on their backward ideology and they have the money to do this,thanks to the trade we still do with them...country's I would not do business with..
Saudi Arabia
Pakistan,
China
Qatar
Iran
Would be a good way to start and thst eould put other country's on notice obviously it would work better one country at a time and I would start with Pakistan..
There hatred towards Christians in Pakistan is horrendous and without trade they would collapse within months,we would demand fundermental changes gender equality, religious freedom,property rights protection,a new consitution and they would be helped financially with infrastructure projects and increased trade.....it could work but do we have the will...?
This level of torture could kill someone or mentally damage in an irreversible way...
The way she is still standing and sane...Hats off to you sister...
May nobody face such hell on earth...
The fact that she is still alive is fascinating. I can’t imagine surviving that kind of abuse. I can’t imagine surviving and still having a desire to live. That’s the strongest woman I’ve ever seen in my life
Lucky to be alive. Strong will power to survive.
I agree, can't imagine being able to want to live after what happened to her.
If you don’t have a desire to live, why are you still here?
o Allah, destroy these oppressors with a destruction never seen before and annihilate them o Allah for the abuse they have done to your creation. dear Allah, respond
@@mylordtakemeaway here to response, chose your own path. Stop believing in an all seeing god..
I'm a man from Sri Lanka, very similar culture to India and the Punjabis. I've never ever heard such a horrific story like this in my life. I'm in tears hearing her story. Monsters exist everywhere. But I'm also glad to see how well Nina is coping. Nina's courage must be applauded. What a strong, brave woman. You're a survivor, and you give people hope.
Why does this culture hate their women? I'm not trying to be rude but it seems to me there's no respect for those who give life.
@@jackmoore337 Indians and Chinese (Asians in general) devalue girls because (1) they're more expensive, for dowry purposes, it costs more to raise them, and (2) once they're married, they go live with the man's family so they become 'useless' to the parents, and (3) in rural areas, men being stronger can work more and earn more money.
@@jackmoore337idk either but it feels like women have been hated in general for way too long now
Peace to you bravel lady😂
Sri Lankan has broken away from India a long time ago. It seems like most Sri Lankan take the middle path of the Buddha. Here you see the Buddha & Jesus in person. This is non-reactive put into
practice. This is love and forgiveness put I to practice.
As a man born and raised in streets of New York City. This is one of the most horrific stories I have ever heard. Much respect to this woman.
My friend that shit happend in london!!! LONDON!! probably still happen... wonder in india..
@@connect_orNYC is wicked hard
For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed,but my steadfast love shall not depart from you,and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,”says the Lord , who has compassion on you. (Isaiah54:10 ESV)
@@hzjc9680 Religion is how we got ourselves into this mess, and religion can't get us out.
@@meowy4720 Lord Jesus gets you out of darkness into His marvellous light
This woman is a warrior queen. Not the evil witch she was brought up to believe. She was placed into an environment of evil and has survived it because of her strong inner voice and unbreakable spirit. I am in awe of her strength of character. Respect.
This is the most horrific story I’ve ever listened to or wactched. I’m in absolute shock, and cannot believe that she’s still alive and sane. Huge simpathy for this poor woman. What a dreadful horrible hamily to grow up in.
I watch a ton of true crime, but this is literally the list horrific thing I’ve ever seen/heard about. Ted Bundy has NOTHING on this poor woman’s family.
@@Paul94096i think the thing is Ted Bundy was a lone ranger…… and he clearly had mental issues…. This is an entire family!! Living life ‘normal’ and thinking this behaviour is ok. It is sickening to get your head around isn’t it!
Honestly.
There is no point of that honor killing. Those families had no honor to protect. The truth of the matter is that they didn't want their secrets getting out.
There are worse stories that are just as common as this one. In the Asian and African worlds, many parts of their cultures still allow this kind of abuse. I worked with women who had their genitals cut when they were 12 or so, the reasoning is they will remain virgins and respect their husbands because they can't feel sexual feelings. This woman's family is everywhere. Many people who practice as she reports live in Europe, especially England, and here in western US. Women are still burned to death, and in Saudi Arabia, stoned (I've been to the stoning circle) to death.
Never in my life I wanted to hug anyone so bad. Sending all my love and warmth to Nina, what an absolute treasure of a woman. I’m so sorry.
Listening to her horrific story makes me feel like mine, I should never feel sorry, never hurt for myself and never be so dramatic when I have flash backs or dreams of...
You should vote for Trump and keep Muslim Men out of the US.
so true.
I feel the same 😢
The irony of calling it an "honour killing," and it's the most cowardly thing to do.
So true. Her "family" only did it to cover up the abuse. It's beyond cruel and despicable.
Honour. Honour my ass, absolute monsters.
@@RollerBallerIslam is a beautiful culture
@@jimathybindlenim6359 you only say this because youre a greedy man
@@jimathybindlenim6359 This has nothing to do with Islam, which is not even a culture by the way. She was born Sikh not Muslim
I genuinely burst into tears as she continued on with her story. It surprises me just how calm and polite she is all throughout the interview. She truly deserves all the love in the world. ❤
The police need to arrest these evil people. They need to find the babies who were buried and all those involved. Nina has a beautiful soul. I’m so upset that these people got away with such horrible acts of evil. I’m so so sorry this happened to you Nina. I’m so sorry, you really are a gentle soul.
I’ve been on google and nothing can be found. I agree with you.!
Not just arrest they deserve life sentence
They didn't get away from it, trust me, when people die, it will hit them with a force unknown to man. You suddenly realize what you did, and the Eternal consequences involved in it.
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that's islam for you
As a nurse, it pained me to the core to hear her say that she was ignored even by one of us. How I wish I could have been there to hug and comfort her. I’m so sorry you were let down even by us Nina. Truly am.
To think people have been conditioned to be so petrified of being labelled a 'racist' we're willing to turn a complete blind eye to an inhumane situation...is it worth it?
As a nurse student that hurted me too and I was searching this kind of comment, Bless you Alexa and thank you for speaking own our behalf❤
You don't need to speak on behalf of all nurses even though you may feel obligated to. We appreciate your hard work.
Respect for religion, culture, and personal beliefs goes 100% out the window in cases of child abuse and murder. I have zero respect or understanding for anyone who would do this to a child
I only respect that which is kind and loving. But I don't respect any part of a culture or religion just because it is. There has to be a reason for respect to be shown. I am a Buddhist. The Buddha said never take anything at face value, even the Buddha's teaching itself. You have to examine it yourself.
This has absolutely nothing to do with religion but more so cultural this is very common in their culture.
This is so horrific and heartbreaking to hear what this lady Nina has had to endure, and no one should ever have to experience this.
I have read many of the comments from the various talks given around this traumatic and difficult story, (which hopefully will encourage and inspire others who may suffer in silence to share and speak up.) However,It's important not to have a judgmental perspective that gives the distorted and negative bias that this happens purely because of cultural patterns of behaviour and differences and is therefore a common phenomenon within .
It is important to remember and point out that there are deeply loving Punjabi and Sikh families (parents of Nina’s era), including subsequent generations, who adore their daughters, treat them with the utmost love and respect, and nurture them in a safe and happy family environment. Let’s not vilify all Punjabi, Sikh, and Asian families under the label that it is cultural appropriation to treat their girls or daughters with hate, contempt, or abuse.
I have five sisters, one of whom was adopted by my parents. We were so fortunate and truly blessed to have parents who adored each of us, treated us with nothing but love and respect, educated us, and allowed us to form our own paths and identities in life, despite the challenges they had to face, pleasing the extended family and sometimes wider community in the process.
Sadly, so much of this has to do with individual parents mindsets, personal morals, and perhaps unacceptable behaviour patterns learned from their own past and personal experiences as opposed to cultural.
Abuse, whether it's sexual, physical, or emotional It is not mutually exclusive to the Indian and Asian cultures; ill treatment of children happens in all parts of society.
Well said totally agree with you
A simple answer points to the Indian caste system. There is an expression in India that “bringing up a daughter is like watering a neighbor’s plant.” India places women lower than men. There is a total and complete disrespect for women in Indian religious scriptures. The Mahabharata, Book 13 Section 40 (13.40), states, “There is no creature more sinful, than woman. She is poison, she is snake.” Other texts say that “Women are living lies.”
Every time I think my parents are bad, which they are, I always am thankful that I’ve never had to go through anything to this degree. I feel awful for this poor woman. Even now that she knows that all she went through was wrong, there are certain things you can never unlearn. I hope she feels okay someday.
It's crazy that her brother admitted to a police officer that he had ATTEMPTED MURDER but they said they would let him off if he apologised?? What??? I cannot imagine how strong she must be for dealing with all this abuse her whole life.
Likely the legal system just freezes up since this is a 'cultural' issue. They don't know how to handle it and these in-groups can be very secretive and uncooperative so the police just turn a blind eye. They're likely already just pretty racist and don't care much for these people and at the same time they don't want to rile up these communities. So nothing gets done. Tale as old as time.
That’s the British Police for you, good job UK law enforcement! Also, it’s cultural enrichment just fantastic? 😊
@@krischette4108 Can you imagine if a white person said he attempted to kill his sister.... Absolutely fucking disgrace this country has become.
Also, why do they even know where she lives? She said she get death threats on the daily why do any of them know where she lives?
Indian are men worshippers and to them they can use and abuse women the police are men too what do you expect😅
I hope her family is watching this and know none of us respect them and we see them as honourless people.
They wouldn’t care, they see the outsiders as shameful people anyway
We dont even see them as people
Narcissists don't care about things like that.
(Their old traditional "cultural" ways were built on narcissism - yeah, I said it)
I hope they know they should be in prison. If anyone watching this knows who they are, that might be the safest place for them.
@@elifnazsinav312 well then why the hell did they move to the UK?
Don’t tell me. I know exactly why. They want the safe and prosperous society that reasonable people are capable of architecting, but don’t want to let go of the very practices that ruined their own. Absolute hypocrites. I hope they’re citizens, because, if not, they should be deported to the country and culture they see as so very superior.
It is also an offence to all those immigrants who retain the beauty of their culture, whilst still respecting and embracing the one that welcomed them. And are useful and loved additions, instead of barnacles like this poor woman’s family.
I am an immigrant. I can say this without any malice toward most of us. I know what culture adjustment is like, and I know it’s natural to balk against some unexpected realities you face in your host country. But this? Absolutely unacceptable.
Her family should be in prison. Their faces shouldn’t be blurred, instead let the world see their faces and shame them for being vile and wicked people. If I was her I don’t think I could forgive them. She a gentle and good human being that deserves a great life.
Well said totally agree with you
What's not usually talked about is in countries that hate on women, is how much worse or just as bad the child abuse in those countries are.
We'd have both been orphans if she was my sister...
Why do not think whatever she is saying is true? She owns a vagina so she must be telling the truth right?
As much as I agree with the sentiment, it may only agitate them more and drive them insane to the point that they would do literally anything to ensure her death. Those kinds of parents are so warped by the sense of maintaining their reputation and image among their peers and other family that being humiliated further would likely drive them to do some vile stuff. They care far more about their “honor” than being a loving parent to their children.
It was heart-throbbing to hear her story, not with the expectance of human acts going this far with even their own blood. I love the fact that she was strong enough to share her story even with the overflowing emotions, letting people know that THIS can and has happened
In a family of psychopaths, one empath was born. Thank goodness she made it out alive to tell her story.
If they were psychopaths they would not think of honor or shame. Truth is they all were healthy in this sense. Just too afraid of shame. They felt guilty, so tried to cover their asses at any cost.
Children only fault is that they are, weaker in such families.women and children are to blame because they cant defend themselves. Being afraid is empathic trait, but its an egoism that turns this trait into raping and then killing your daughter.
@@Tetradepodmelonteain that case it makes them worse. if you are not born with apathy and still are that cruel and self serving, you’re a pretty abhorrent person.
arguably, sociopaths/psychopaths DO still care about self image. psychopaths especially. that’s how they rise to the top.
sociopaths are more likely not to care.
@@Tetradepodmelonteathis is not psychopathy this is the consequence of letting misogyny take full control of a culture. All these ideologies are fully embedded in these people since birth. They genuinely believe what they're doing is righteous.
It's not one family though, it's literally the society upon which India was built. Women are just less and it's played out time and time again in regards to gang rapes of vacationers even.
@@TetradepodmelonteaYou're a mile off. Psychopaths experience jealousy, insecurity and pride. Their sense of "honour" is one of their biggest red buttons. If you think psychopaths don't experience feelings, you don't know what you're talking about. OP is on the money, these sound like violent psychopaths.
I'm almost half a century old and this might be the most horrific account of child abuse I've ever heard. And I haven't even made it to her describing the attempted honor killing yet. I can't watch any more right now. This woman's strength in surviving this stuff and having the courage to talk about it is mind-boggling.
The thing is most women who experience this kind of abuse don't survive it to talk about it. Between honor killings, suicide, or death by accident in the beatings- its so rare to see someone survive and flourish. This kind of abusive is not uncommon in some middle eastern/asian cultures.
@@mayaneuhoff5929 Great point.
The fact that she can talk about this without completely balling is mind boggling to me. Such a strong woman.
She's able to do this because of all the years of crying she's already done
She probably got used to it
Seriously, I’m sitting here crying and I’m just listening to her. The world truly can be such a dark place. I just don’t understand how anybody could do this to a child. Children are some of the brightest lights in this world, why are some adults so intent on snuffing it out. Do they not remember what it was like to be a child? To feel not listened too? To be abused and not be able to fight back?
Top tier forced strength
Therapy
Nina, you are the strongest human I've ever known. With everything the people that were supposed to love you and protect you did to you, you came out stronger and determined to help others. May the Lord bless you, keep you and give you peace. You are my hero!⭐👏
this whole story was so sad but the story about the dog basically being quiet so she can escape rlly brought tears to my eyes. not only did the dog try to protect her during the beating, but the dog helped her escape. the connection animals have is insane. i’m so happy this lovely woman escaped from her horrible family 🫶🏾
THIS! Animals are the better humans!
Except the victim, the dog was the only human being in this house.
its crazy how at times, our own pets are more humane and kind than humans themselves, and they're often the ones that understand us better. Ironic how the most animalistic and vile of beings came from her family, and that the one that expressed kindness was the dog.
Did you notices she referred to the dog as a person? "The noisiest person." Because the dog was the only one in the house that acted with humanity.
I'm listening to her story and wishing how that dog would just have had more than enough with that family and that the dog would just one day turn on all of them and attack them then leave.
What a brave woman Nina is. I'm horrified listening to her story. Her parents; her brothers; her in-laws have absolutely no honour. They are shameful wastes of oxygen.
Jail!! Extradition.... im portuguese! I lived 7 yeras in london... and 2 years a a sik house they was cool.. police should go after her family... her voice is very important... for teachers and people from outside looking after clues on young girls...
Yet, she never pressed charges. They were never brought to justice. They and their culture will continue to perpetuate this. Because they were never punished.
@@yeseniah7373 It's so frustrating.
@@yeseniah7373 The laws need to change so that one doesn't NEED to press charges for assault.
This is why I feel it’s so important to discuss abuse of all kinds in school. Because for so many children, they don’t even realize that what is happening to them is wrong and unacceptable. I wish I could hug this woman.
Sadly very little can be done by teachers. The abused kiddos go home and to their abusers. Even when child protective services are involved, the abuse continues. Just what happened to poor Gabriel Fernandez. 💔
This is why sex education is so important in schools
It should be a curriculum class all the way up into junior high school.
This woman. Her bravery and courage is something to praise. What a beautiful soul. I don't know her, but I hope she knows she is loved.
No one showed her any kindness or love growing up. I cant even fathom surviving that abuse. She is incredible.
Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves children
Well said!
Do try and come up with something original.
@@myeyestudios5784it’s true though and the person didn’t claim to create the quote
How trite .
@@myeyestudios5784 Likewise.. Do try and come up with something original.
Familial abuse is one of the reasons why we have to be kind to strangers. We never know what's going on in a stranger's life, behind closed doors.
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That is so true! If we see someone who isn't very pleasant or is shy or acts in any number of ways that we think are strange of even criminal, we have to have some compassion for what led them to being like this. It seems that abuse is happening behind doors in every street up and down the country and often the very people who perpetuate the abuse act like normal human beings on the outside but beneath it all they are sadistic lunatics.
However again we have to at least try to understand how that person became like they are no matter how horrid, as often they were programmed at a young age to be like that are
Yes. Sometimes the only kindness and sympathy a person receives is from strangers. Especially when you come from a family like this.
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Back in 2018, there was a "dad" and a daughter who came in to the optometrists office where I worked. He had cold eyes, and they were dark, not the color, but creepy, like there was a shadow over them. The way he talked was monotonous and emotionless. He had a necklace with an occultist symbol on it.
I remember looking at the daughter and she had these big scared eyes that looked like "help me." I still think about her and sometimes I cry about it. Because I know that something was wrong there.
Healthy upbringing is a privilege.
this first tear i shed hearing someone's story in all my 28 years. around 27 minutes ..in the hospital.. she said "no one was coming for me"
This lady is incredible. She has overcome some of the worst abuse a human can go through. I hope she has peace now.
She seems like such a sweet soul. I wish her peace.
This broke my heart into many pieces. I'm an Indian woman from Sikh background who also ran away at 15 to escape regular beatings. I am so sorry for what you went through. May the Lord bless you and continue to heal you. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know you will be happy in your life. God bless you ❤
i hope you are doing better now ❣
I am truly pained by what you went through. I’m also aware that survivors are apt to find silver linings from all they endured.
So I’m sorry to say that research has shown that developmental trauma is *only* detrimental ...which means that such harm absolutely *does not* make you stronger. This type of abuse permanently compromises your emotional well-being. The emotional (and in this case physical) scars last a lifetime.
As I said, I know that victims want to believe that something good came out of the horrific experiences they lived through. Yet it’s not beneficial to perpetuate erroneous beliefs - especially ones which minimize the magnitude of the damage of this kind of abuse.
@@jenniferlynn3537I for me can certainly say, what didn't kill me made me really stronger (different things than in the vid, but anyway). I guess it's individually.
Am sorry for what she through but the story is not adding up or be am not understanding
@@MultiStefano78what don't you understand? It's quite well explained?..
It’s infuriating that these people are not charged with abuse, rape, kidnapping, attempted murder!! Am I missing something ?
My thoughts exactly!
She is not old either, it's not like this happened 100 years ago, this must be fairly recent? The authorities obviously do not interfere with the cultural garbage rules this family had. This must be stopped.
Yes, it's a misogynist culture, and lots of stupid people never question it.
Forget 100 years ago, this is probably happening right now as we speak to another poor soul. @christendenise220
It's sooo messed up how the British judicial system just takes a backseat and allows this because this is their "culture". It is inexcusable.
I want to hug this woman so badly 😢 youre incredibly strong and such a gorgeous woman.. i pray you feel the healing you deserve
I’m so disgusted and angry. Not only was this poor, kind woman unloved and abused by her own family, but she then went on to be failed miserably by EVERY institution that should have helped her.
Her teachers who ignored her bruises? Her friends’ parents who didn’t care that she was underfed? Her pediatrician that didn’t report the obvious abuse? The cop who didn’t arrest anyone? The doctors who didn’t file a report? The nurses who didn’t offer her counseling?
I’m really embarrassed that all this happened in the UK.
Be thankful.
@@TamariBoatnerfor what?
Of course in typical UK fashion you will blame yourself, the cops, the system, the teacher, the neighborhood dog, anybody but the vile punjabis who did this. . Commendable virtue signaling.
But that's the reason why this will never stop. Because you don't blame the right people - the vile disgusting pigs who do this to their own daughters. The vile culture that makes a mom act as enabler to her 14 year old daughter's gang rape by her husband's friends. Sorry, your virtue signalling doesn't help stop this filth. It's important that the large Punjabi diaspora is clearly told these vile practices allowed in their culture will not be tolerated in the UK. You keep with your self flagellation and you'll only see more girls suffer like Nina.
@TamariBoatner are you okay????
Sadly for whatever reason the U.K. Police and adjacent services are very averse to pursuing and investigateing and documenting cases of honor killings, attempted honor killings and this kind of "cultural" abuse which 99.9% of the time happens to women and girls and frankly it is disgusting.
The change however has to start from those around us as well, this poor woman passed through an entire education system, into the job market with clear and evident sings that something was not right.
I'm all for the "don't stick your nose into other people's business" but when you see someone who is suffering, even if they don't outwardly show it you can tell (hell a dog could tell) and you don't at least try to say anything you're an accessory to whatever happens next to that person.
It is barbaric and Britain should be ashamed how they LET these monsters behave in a country that allegedly forbids rape, child abuse, honour killings and much more! Sitting in front of a camera telling that strory, I wonder why not prosecute these monsters?
Votebank. The Sikhs are quite a population and also influential in UK and some other countries. What goes on in their homes can be exactly opposite of what they show to the world. Even in India, in the north-western part, where the sikhs reside along with a few other communities, the attitude towards women is pathetic. Decades ago, it was a place where rampant female infanticide was practiced until the government had to ban the practice of the determination of sex of a child by punishing any medical practitioner who did so. The killings have come down substantially but the sex ratio is still skewed in that part. Also, the general attitude towards women is just not good. So, education is low in that area with a vast majority of sikhs involved in farming. women get married early. There's less focus on their studies, goes without saying. There's a lot of focus on their looks. Skin colour is very important. They are mostly seen as wives who have to bear children. after a woman becomes older, she gains influence in the family. i would like to point out that there are many sikhs who are very educated and the exact opposite. But the rural culture is what I've described.
@tinkerbelle5240 so they really want a population of only boys? Do they realize how stupid they are? They are practicing eugenics on themselves.
@@tomorrowisanotherday12This was very enlightening, thank you for sharing this.
@@The_Daily_Tomato you're welcome
Sikhs don’t do this…she could be someone paid to malign the culture and religion….real question why did she not go the police? Why has no one been charged or persecuted? The culture and community would have publicly shamed her family and disowned them….our community does not condone this type of stuff….her father would have committed suicide if she had gotten the community involved. Instead getting help from the community….she is just going around blaming an entire culture, community and religion….as if we know the going’s on in a dysfunctional family. That’s the only thing I can say….she belonged to a dysfunctional family and needed to get help…
Nina had told the world about her awful family - why don’t the police just arrest them all? Murdering baby girls and an attempted murder on their own daughter?!?! Where is the justice?
that's the culture there. they obviously don't care. it's disgusting how they mistreat their daughters.
@@poisonkiss201this happened in the UK…. Did you even listen? How ignorant.
This can happen anywhere. People and especially young girls are hurt and abused here in America everyday.
@@ciaa8387FYI… ppl can be arrested in the UK.
The way the police responded to her saying "it was an attempted honour killing" and how the police would assume it was a suicide anytime they came across a bride-burning says everything you need to know. At that time, religious and racial tensions were clearly affecting local law enforcement. Either they were under direction to stay out of it, prior legal rulings made it impossible to prosecute, or they feared retaliation. Altogether a disgusting failure.
@@ciaa8387 yes it happened in the uk but the family is indian ....they did not assimilate into british culture they brought their third world culture with them where it didnt belong
She needed love. Let's shower her with love. YOU ARE LOVED, RESPECTED BY ALL OF US. SENDING YOU LOVE, COURAGE, BLESSINGS MY DEAR SISTER. JUST LOOOOOOOVE YOU. ❤❤❤❤❤
Bless that taxi driver for helping her and staying with her. I could feel her pain when she was telling her story. The first time she felt loved was in an abortion clinic after she had been gang raped. How awful. I really want to give this woman a hug
Her family is more concerned about the judgment of others. They couldn't see their child.
@@gelflingfay that's not even the most vile thing they did. The father led a gang rape on her when she was 14, that is NAUSEATING
When she referred to her dog as a “ she as a person” my heart sank! She saw this dog as an ANGEL . I cried and felt her pain! God bless her soul and heart.
That was the point I cried too. Her dog cared about her and showed more humanity than her family ever did.
All animals are he's and she's, they are not it's. To refer to an animal as "it" is ignorant.
@@anglophils645 she said it was "the loudest person"
Obviously the Pooch knew that this girl was in pain & suffering. The dear pooch had way more empathy towards her, than this monster human family. This lady had undergone enough sufferings through the hands of her own family & it's painful even to watch.
However, does anyone know that in India, if the Husband dies ' first' before the wife, so the wife also should die when the day comes to cremate the husband's body? It was said that the relatives will gather & throw the wife into her husband's funeral fire.
I wonder what type of monster people have come up with such heinous crimes.
My heart is bleeding 💔 for this lady. There is true evil in this world 👎👎
The way she is able to articulate all these years of trauma and torture is really shocking. Even the times when she gets emotional she is still able to keep her composure. I can’t imagine the amount of internal pain she has had to work through and the amount of pain she still has. Thank you for sharing Nina
You are a victorious never lose sight of how strong you are may you be the best that God meant for you to be . God bless you and bring you peace and joy in your life . Keep on being Brave we love and appreciate your true story.
@@tongbaimason362Thank you for this comment. ❤
How could her parents do this to there children, bless her and I wish her much happiness!
It's so sad. It's so clear that she had to learn to communicate through the torture and she's had to bottle it up and still be clear. It brought me to tears knowing the levels of trauma and suffering she endured. She's a pure soul, I wish comfort and Peace for her ❤
I will never forget her words or her courage. This beautiful woman -- i want nothing more than to hug her.
She is so eloquent in her speaking, the way she describes her torture and how her family treated her is so incredibly difficult to listen to. What a strong lady.
This person described disgusting, unspeakable torture - and you comment upon her “strength” and “eloquence”?!! Damn... you’re pretty messed up.
This person described disgusting, unspeakable torture - and you comment upon her “strength” and “eloquence”?!! Damn... that’s pretty messed up.
@@j.h.miretskay3430 What?
Absolutely awful!
@@j.h.miretskay3430I think she’s referring to Nina’s ability to recount her rape so earnestly and with so much detail, because that, in fact, does take a lot of courage and strength. It is not something ever victim/survivor is able to do. She does not mean any disrespect by her comment.
I think this is the single bravest person I have ever heard of. To go through a lifetime of unspeakable events and to still find the courage to speak up is just beyond me.
So brave! /s
@@thefumblebee I’m in the UK and I’m absolutely shocked this has happened here I’m so sad and I wish there was something I could do to help.
I have a few names to add starting with Michelle Knight
@@NF40375 yes very brave lady
I'm an Indian and I don't think you are bringing any undeserved disrepute to Indians or Sikhs or any group of persons. This is the truth and you've tolerated and faced the worse kind of abuse. And others should be able tolerate the truth. It's a common practice to abuse women and shout them down when they speak up. Women are blamed for bringing disrepute to the country or religion or community. It is not our job to keep this facade of reputation intact. Those who did that to you will carry the shame and I hope people here shame them plenty. Pretending to be civilized when they are far from it.
Very well said! No more hiding behind "culture." Like she said, culture is music, arts, theater, beauty...this is abuse.
This is a Bjp-rss culture.
Aren't Sikhs indian too?
@@PittheadX this is any culture that is regressive and people who are uneducated. So, be it Muslims, Sikhs or Hindus. And those BJP RSS will also be included in it who believe, propagate and practice this. But not every BJP person does things like this
@@SafavidAfsharid3197 all Sikhs aren't Indians. Sikhs live all over the world
As a Middle Eastern I’m so sorry you had to go through this💔
I’m so proud you were able to get out of that house and escape this horror
So many girls weren’t as brave as yourself and lost their lives because they felt like they couldn’t escape🥺
I’m so happy you were able to leave your family❤️❤️
This is how you know abuse can't be used as an excuse for being a bad person. This woman is respectable and brave. I wish her the best in the rest of her life.
Not everyone is gifted with that strength
Well everyone is different, i ve been through mental abuse, beatings but not sure if i got raped and i was a kid was very vague. What i did most of my adulthood was to erase all of this, i find myself now with a lot of issues i never been aware of, i m still clueless of what s happening with me and i at times i am mean, distant, hateful towards someone that hurts me. I just hope for love and at 28 i still don t know how to pave my road. A lot of strength came at 18 when i runned from home in a different city and i ve worked with everything so new to me..now at 28 i m very fearful to do a step again, a lot of my motivation disappeard and my confidence never existed. I am most of the times alone.
@@whointhewhat youre terrible
@@scuzemoa oh no I completely understand that!! I have social anxiety and anger outbursts and stuff. I mean like serial killers and rapists having a traumatic childhood as their sole reason for doing those things
It’s not an excuse, although it is sometimes an explanation. Nothing justifies it though.
This is horrific. None of it should have happened. I also wonder: if this group values women so little that they will kill baby girls or treat them like garbage, who do they expect to marry their precious sons?
To have slaves.
China has this exact problem
Not seen as people.
@@KoshPilotbecause they are a population of idiots who discard women who are either divorced or have not been married by 30ish. Nothing good about their current culture... I have friends who were professional expats in china and they said as a group they're absolutely animals. Now their ancient culture, thats a different story as they did great things.
It happens in India every single day. Baby girls are unwanted and disappear…exactly how she described it.
I never so desperately wanted to give a hug to someone. My daughter is 7, and I’d happily give my life for her in a heartbeat. To think that this angel of a woman was deprived of love growing up makes her a genuine miracle.
Amazing lady. It is hard to believe that someone can show such strength and composure in the retelling of such a story? To be treated like this by those who should be the strongest source of love and protection in your life must be unbearable to experience.
The fact that she was beaten at school in addition to all her horrors at home just makes me furious. As if being raped at home wasnt enough being beaten for the simple fact of not being white at school is disgusting. Her family failed her, the UK failed her, the school, teachers and stidents failed her. Its disgusting
Don't forget the police failed her and so did the hospital as well
Imagine her bullies listening to this story
Absolutely 😭
It sort of confuses me how you're more outraged by ignorant children bullying her than her own family beating and raping her. They're just not even in the same league.
@@harrydavey9884 that's not what that comment said. You are adding to it.
I can't believe the British Government is not charging these perpetrators with attempted murder, rape, child abuse, kidnapping, torture and whatever else these crimes would fall under. Police should be making arrests. My heart goes out to this lady who have lived through years of unimaginable crimes. I have decided to no longer frequent businesses owned by the men from this culture. I never knew this think went on with this culture and I'm appalled that it does.
LOL... who are you trying to kid? You were PROBABLY ALWAYS A RACIST to begin with! 🤣😂😆😎
I can't believe the school never reported on this even tho she never had lunch to school and at some point I assume visible bite marks
Its not the culture, its about individual. Their are bad people in all culture. Dont corrupt your narrative about this culture. Punjabis in India are the most beloving parents.
Sure
If that’s what you got out of this m you’re part of the problem
Her family thought she was carrying evil in her, but the goodness she was carrying is what kept her alive, and they were the evil ones.
No one deserves to go through this, she seems so kind and full of love
the level of sheer rage i felt listening to this woman go through all of this.
I am so so angry listening to this, I cannot believe this poor woman can even speak about such horrific things so calmly
GOOD for you! What you are experiencing there is what USED to be known as 'Noble Anger' - something the World needs MUCH more of these days - as opposed to its ugly sister - Pointless Anger.
I fet so angry started getting up to go to the garden to do some gardening because just couldn't take it.😢
The fact that this women's 'family' lives their lifes unbothered and free makes me lose the rests of faith I had in people. And the police... how you can feel safe when they know what happened and done nothing... absolutely disgusting. I feel so sorry for her
i know. how are they not....oh the things i wish upon them....i can't understand...
Makes you loose??
I know, like so many monsters and criminals do whatever they want with impunity.
@Julmaa87 my sincere apologies for this appalling mistake of putting 'oo' instead of 'o'.
Please forgive me bearing in mind that English is my second language.
On the other hand... Next time before you try to correct miniscule mistake make sure you can speak ANY OTHER LANGUAGE THAN ENGLISH on the same level I speak English you sad little grammar nazi...
I'm not usually moved to tears, but when she talked about how her dog acted as a messenger from an angel, I couldn't help but tear up.
She, that Dog and God given Will to get over that fence is nothing short of a miracle
Edit: in addition, to all that she endured working for her higher purpose in the work she does today spreading her story far and wide and the essential, priceless, vital awareness and assistance to civilians, medical/authority professionals, government etc. simply wow.
me too!
Same
It touched me deeply too.
Most of us have no idea how blessed we are. You are so strong! The fact that you speak with such Grace and love after everything you have been put through. You are an angel and you are loved. I’m sorry the people that should have loved and protected you didn’t. But there are people out there who don’t know you and love you and want the best for you because that is what you deserve. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Hearing her testimony is gut-wrenching.
And the worst part is knowing that the same is happening to girls around the world RIGHT NOW.
I am so happy to see her as a functional adult now, because oh my goodness I would have lost my mind.
Right now -exactly!😢
"Everywhere in the world they hurt little girls."
I can't understand why this lady was treated like that. She is so special.
What did this lady do to deserve this?
IT's not great for young boys either.
There was no honor killing in my Afro-Caribbean upbringing, but I can relate to so much, and I'm in tears. My mom hated having daughters; she did not mind my two brothers but gave them away. My sister was sent with my equally cruel grandmother, and I stayed with my mother. She literally lit my clothes on fire on my body when I was four years old and tried to cut my chest when I began developing breasts at eight. Nina found hope in Rapunzel, and I found hope in Cinderella. I survived abuse of every kind and am now a married mommy of four little girls. I homeschool my little ones, and I'm not an abuser. The cycle of abuse has broken with me. I can't imagine hurting my children. I am also a certified teacher with a graduate degree. There is a calm after the storm. I am grateful to hear of Nina's triumph but sorry to hear about what she experienced. How parents can hate their children, I'll never understand.
So sorry 😞
You are an incredibly brave and strong individual. Thank you so much for sharing ❤
I seriously don't know where you get the inner strength from, but it's heart warming to see that you've come thru and have a lovely family of your own
When I think of people like you who have successfully waded through the swamp and quagmire of life it make me happy this will put you way out in front on our trek into the eternities.
What the hell is wrong with people. If you don’t want girls and are going to be a monster to them. Just give them up for adoption. It makes no sense to hate having girls. How will there be wives for your sons if there are no girls.
I’m only 13 mins in but imagine experiencing kindness for the first time in your young 15 yr life from a nurse whilst having an abortion derived from rape? Brave beautiful lady.
Too bad the practitioner covered up the crime with the abortion. Think about how her life could have changed in that moment if the police were called? DNA taken and responsible parties brought to justice? Think about this barbaric culture sitting in your town? Little girls like Nina being abused and raped and it all goes unnoticed because the local abortion clinic covers it up with the nice lady stroking your hair and being "kind" to you while they get rid of the evidence. Sorry this story upset me to my core. I am sure there are so many more like her in our society.
May God keep that kind hearted nurse in His grace always .