I don’t know if the shame was even theirs. They were both children themselves 🤷🏼♀️. While this is shocking I don’t feel anyone should be shamed. This is such a sad story.
@Mrs.TJTaylor you have no idea what those children were brought up amongst and therefore have no room to judge anyone. Incest is usually taught. I suggest you educate yourself instead of judging what you know very little about.
Well said! She is God send for what was given in life this lovely woman, A wonderful mother and Father that loves her dearly. Dont be ashamed for it was the birth parents that ruined any given chances to lose you 2nd time. God loves you just lean on him always🙏💕
You don't know the full context of this because maybe they were abused or seen raised young, or maybe they weren't full biological relatives either. You should look for a full genetic profile. Maybe they were separated as children. A full profile would clarify things
@@MarieCassidy-zd8sc not necessarily. Single parents in the UK were only legally allowed to adopt after mid 70's and then it was very difficult as married couples were the preferred choice for decades after. She would have had social workers going into her background, asking questions, during the adoption process. She probably would have found that very difficult and no guarantee until everything had been raked up. How soul destroying that would have been.
@@kathleenstoin671what might happen if it all was out in the open. Criminal charges, enforced separation, they were obviously still together, embarrassment , fear she might report them even. Before they actually moved they must have been afraid. Possibly had to move a lot. They saw their daughter had flourished into a fine woman.
@@hazzachannel1are we going to ignore the fact that she met them when they were ADULTS and they rejected her again? Y’all stuck with "they were kids" and completely ignoring that fact.
Fair play to her not having children even though she really wanted them. This poor woman shouldn't feel ashamed, it wasn't her fault. She seems like a wonderful person
@@crochetbyducky its a lengthy process that costs a lot of money, and some people simply just want biological children over adopted and thats completely fine.
shes free to make that choice, sure, but with just one instance of inbreeding in her close family history and with a non blood relative partner it wouldnt have made any difference for her kids. but ofc it was a long time ago and stuff was harder to look into before google...
@@marycanary86That's not a guarantee, she could unknowingly carry an autosomal recessive gene and pass it to her children. It's less likely if her children aren't incestuous but it's still a possibility.
Yes, elegant is definitely the word. How sad that she believes any of the uncovered history was her fault. We're not responsible for what anyone else does...most especially those who created us.
A friend of mine found out she was adopted. She spent years searching for her birth mother. Only to find she was the product of incest. The shame & disgust almost drove her to suicide. Sometimes not knowing one’s heritage is best. I admire Teresa’s courage to talk about her conception. It must have been very difficult & painful.
Honesty before you find out probably best to go to therapy and prepare for anything. Important to know that it's not the childs fault and doesn't make them disgusting.
@@teijaflink2226 Absolutely! Having seen the devastation it’s caused my friend. Speaking to someone who can help process knowledge that could potentially ruin their life would certainly be beneficial.
@@Angela-Louisawe have to learn as adults how to grow through life and the challenges it brings and not become a victim to things we had/have no control over!! Why people wanna remain victims is crazy to me..
But maybe it is better to find out so that YOU are prepared for whatever the results are, instead of your CHILDREN finding out FIRST about their ancestry. And hopefully whoever finds out first knows that the world is a better place because they WERE born!
If adopted parents are loving and gave their children a great childhood, I don’t understand a need to find a biological parents as it is a life mission. Yes it is important but doesn’t seems life changing important. The adopted parents have been the parents to live and protect. The kids should love that love, not a stranger that maybe left them.
Lol it was uninformed at best, dramatic and extremist at worst… Just as she mentioned, biologically speaking, she was as fine as everyone else… so there is nothing to admire here, but I’m glad she finally is at peace with her decision
@@melmelb6146She did a good thing because who knows the real story with her parents.Was it really consensual and so on.She didn’t want to pass down those genes at all.
@@melissaann513 no Not at all But inbreeding is dangerous. Not to mention that isn’t a legacy you want to pass on (your grandparents are brother & sister) It was smart of her not to take any risk to have unhealthy children & to let the shame of the situation end with her. Look at the big picture.
Me too. I found the grandpa I'd been searching for all my life.. a few years after his death. My grandma pushed him out of their lives when she found out she was pregnant with my dad. I also found out that one of my best friends from elementary school who was adopted, was actually adopted from that side of my family. We were cousins the whole time and never knew it.
That would require explanation to the husband in detail, a Catholic husband who would then not be allowed to have any sex with her. Otherwise you mean she could adopt children on her own as a single mother. Not everyone is that brave. @@oh_omo7989
I am NOT a sentimental person, but when she got around to the part when she finally told her parents (her REAL parents), and how they were so loving and accepting, I actually teared up. Poor sweet old lady. I'm so sorry she had to go through all that.
Your reason for not having children, is what makes you a great mother. You are so needed on this planet, I'm honoured to have watched you share your story. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I was raped went I was 12 yo, by my brother and I had a boy. My mom decided to give him for adoption. She took me my live with my aunt.. I always think of my babe. And deep down in my heart. I thought, I’ll look for him. But it was too late . My son die when he was 7 months old. Problem with enlarge heart. I decided not to have kids.
My mother was born in Chicago. Her mother got pregnant with her when she was very young. My mother nknows nothing about her father. She was given up for adoption right away. Her mother tried to see my mom a few times. She beat my mother bloody. My mother told someone at the orphanage about it and she was saved. She never saw her mother again. She was never adopted. Just thrown into the world at 18. I know that it really hurts my mother but, she was better off not living with her mom. My mom had 4 children and we are all good. My mother is a beautiful lady. You are a remarkable women!!❤
"My mom had 4 children and we are all good. My mother is a beautiful lady." Wonderful news despite your mother's suffering. Glad she kept her head and spirits high and built a family.
Our daughter is adopted, we were told by the social worker that her parents were 1st cousins, did we want her, immediately we said of course, armed with this information we have been able to deal with any health problems she encounters, she now has a beautiful talented daughter herself. My prayers to this beautiful graceful woman it's not too late to find the love you deserve in a partner.
The child will be fine. One instance of first cousin incest isn't a big problem. The problem comes when the children of first cousins have children with their first cousins. That's when the inbreeding causes serious genetic problems.
I’m very happy you were born healthy with no complications. My heart breaks for you. NONE of this is your fault. ZERO. You are worthy of having a beautiful life
Though you wanted to have a family you couldn't just because you didn't wanted to pass any disease to the children. So humane. She sacrificed her desires so that any of her child doesn't go through a struggling life. Lots of strength to you.
My ex husband was born of incest too. His mom gave birth at 13 years old after being raped by her older brother. Their mom (his grandma) kept the baby and raised him as her own child. He calls her mom (not his biological mom). It was the family secret. It's sad and I always felt bad for him but it never seemed to bother him. He went on to have children without any issues.
@@freedomofspeech766 You sure about that? If Anxchan wasn't talking about the woman in the video (Teresa), then why would she use "she" "her" "she" and "would have been"? Why would it be a bit sad for ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband to have had children without any issues? 😕 Genetically, if Teresa had had children with someone not related to her, then the fact that her own parents were siblings wouldn't have been a problem, since she could only pass on one copy of any of her chromosomes that were duplicated.
@@freedomofspeech766 You know you could just admit you were wrong. 😕 AnxChan was indeed replying to ShatteredSoul2's comment, but clearly referring to the woman in the video who didn't have children, rather than ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband who did. Let's ask her...
@@AnxChan Since it seems to have become a point of debate, to whom were you referring with this part of your comment: " as long as she had children with someone not related at all to her, she would have been fine" - the woman in the video, or ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband?
AUNTIES ARE EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I got all of my moral values from my great aunt. Aunt Billie (Elizabeth) Was my grandfather sister. She took care of my siblings and I when my father was in jail and my mother was in the hospital. I learned about to value materialistic things over heart felt things. I learned to be honest hardworking and family oriented because of her. I don't think she'll ever know how valuable she was to my life. She passed away at 83 thirty years ago, and I still miss her so much. She met more than to me than my mother ever would or my father. God bless you. Please know that you are loved and valued more than you'll ever know.🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤
Most definitely aunts are important! My aunt is still my aunt, even after she divorced my uncle. I told her not long ago, I didn't know how else to call her. I love my aunt, and she is one of the most wonderful, giving, loving woman I've ever met.
I feel her pain. I was 'adopted' (1964 but 'in the household as a 'foster baby' since birth ) and found out decades later that my 'sister' was my bio mother and my 'adoptive' father was my bio father and my 'adoptive' mother was my Grandmother! I spent EVERY summer at my 'sister's' and HATED IT. Finding years later my niece & nephew were my half siblings... For as long as I can remember I NEVER wanted to get married and have kids....
@@Shello58 this sounds like a mentally stressful place to be at any age. I'm sorry that you went through this, hopefully you were able to get enough counseling that you have recovered and can find the positive in life!
My heart aches for this beautiful and kind woman. You were raised by parents who chose you and wanted you and loved you. You were made to be their child. And no doubt, you brought them so much joy and completed their family.
The parents are those who gave you their name. The parents are those who cared for you, who woke up at night when you were sick, who put clothes on you and food on the table. You are BLESSED. Your true parents chose you twice!
Whenever someone asks me if I have ever wanted to know who my real parents are this is what I tell them. I know who my parents are. They are the ones who took me in and loved me unconditionally and made sure I had that love always. I miss them both now that they are gone. But because of the way they raised me, I know I will see them again.
I wonder how much her religious upbringing had to do with how she digested this issue! I wonder if she would have had a different view,had she not grown up with a religious upbringing or lesser of one, ir a totally different religion. Or, it just appears that she was born with a very strong sub-conscience. She needs to be a bit more selfish when it comes to this issue.
I was 15 when I was told my mom was raped by her cousin which resulted in me. For years I watched my mom struggled with mental health. She attempted suicide so many times. This one time they sent her away for nearly a year. Sitting at a cafe with my grandma and aunt I begged them to please take me. I didn't want to live with my dad (very abu$ive) what was said next changed the rest of my life. My aunt said don't worry you won't have to he isn't your real dad. My grandma went on to explain that my mom was raped by her cousin. I'm nearly 50 they didn't believe in abortion and adoption wasn't an option. My mom continued to struggle with mental health. My family was horrible to her and me. When she would get placed in the hospital they would tell me it's all my fault. All I could think is how horrible life was for my mom. I couldn't imagine looking at this child every single day. My mom never once spoke about it after she found out I was told. We were very close. I loved her I just wish this wasn't part of our story. My mom ended up turning to religion her faith made her happy. I didn't understand and honestly still don't today. She struggled with mental health her entire life. My kids gave her so much love. When she found out she was going to be a great grandma she was so happy. I backed away because I wanted her to have some happiness in her life. I regret that choice now. She took her life on Nov 10th 2022. I never saw it coming I thought she was ok. I have always wanted to confront him. He was literally at family reunions and big family get togethers. I didn't want to make my mom's life worse so I held it in. I was determined to after she passed to find out he died the same week. I don't understand why people say this is God's plan. God wanted all this? I spent most of my life watching my mom live a hell no one should have to live. I live knowing I came from nothing good. I wish I would have been adopted or aborted maybe my mom would have had a better life. I have some comfort knowing she is where she believed she would be. She isn't in pain anymore. I wish I could believe like her.
How do you know they were sick? Do you personally know them or do you just state your moral judgement based on on 3 mins of info? The one fact that we know is that her mother was 14 when she got pregnant, so she was a child. The rest is just speculation…
@melmelb6146 Did you not listen? Her medical history says her father was her mother's brother and she confirmed by meeting them that it was a willing union between the two siblings.
Clearly something was very wrong in the home they were in, as incest is one of the strongest of our societal taboos. But as we don't know what they went through as children, I don't think we can or should judge them. They did what they did for a reason and they didn't compound the problem by raising their baby in the same troubled environment.
@@TurtleMyrtle12 no. All she saw was a man she assumed was her father based on her impression, but nothing was actually confirmed. Even if that was her biological father, many people can live with their abusers for all their lives, so let’s not jump to conclusions based on suppositions from a 10 minute meeting And her medical history didn’t corroborate anything, it was all based on her orphanage records.
I just want to give her a hug. Most adopted children go through a lot of trauma and she had to experience it twice over. I’m glad she had closure with her family and that she was able to alleviate the pain a bit by sharing her story.
You are a wonderful person - I could tell that less than one minute into your interview. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and candor in sharing your story. You deserve love and I hope that there are people in your life who have made you feel loved.
Another big problem was the adoption agency. They had the records and knew what was in them--there should have been some support and guidance for her from a social worker or counselor at the time she first read them, rather than leaving her blindsided and alone...
Im one of those children. Befire I was able to obtain all my adoption records and before I knew the situation, I had to see a counsellor, who then told me the details. This was in about 2004..
One of the most heartbreaking stories I've heard in ages. The discovery of the initial way she was concieved was horrific enough, but then the rejection as an adult right after seeing them in person... that must've been catastrophic. She is insanely strong to make it through that alive. All respect to you Teresa.
So glad she got to hear from the people who raised her that they would have loved her no matter who her birth parents were and what they had done. I hope her story helps to make a positive influence on others who have similar stories.
The courage of this woman is truly humbling. I am so glad she at least has the peace of knowing she was fully loved by her adoptive parents even with the knowledge of her conception.
I'm glad she was adopted by a clearly lovely family that raised her well and loved her unconditionally. I'm sorry she never got the closure she needed with her biological parents.
What a beautiful, beautiful woman. To feel unloved and unwanted is the worst. It destroys you. Her nephews and nieces are very lucky to have her as an auntie.
You are not a mistake. You are here, and this world is a better place because of it. I adopted a child with fetal alcohol syndrome. I love him with my whole heart despite his struggles with drugs and alcohol. He is this way because his mother drank heavily for the first 4 months of her pregnancy. That is a fact. Neither her nor my son are to blame for their behaviour. Please know that you did nothing wrong. You had parents who raised you and loved you dearly. I feel privileged to be my sons mother. I'm sure your adopted parents felt the same way. Be proud of who you are, and know that you are loved. Blessed Be from Canada ❤
@@ScouseJazmin very true we forget that all the medical knowledge we have now was not available decades ago - no DNA matches etc then. Very different times.
I felt so much for this woman and the pain she’s suffered for something that was never her fault. What an incredible human being she is, I hope she is much loved by her extended family
You are the one good thing that came out a bad situation. You have every right to be here and to be happy and proud of yourself. I've seen a few people in the comments say that they were born from similar circumstance - this includes all of you, too!
I know that sometimes a brother takes the blame for what a girl’s father has actually done. Because the father - often the sole breadwinner, in the past - will be prosecuted, the family will be destitute and broken up. An underage boy taking the blame is presented as being less “harmful” to the family as a whole.
Actually you're right, as far as I know, incest between siblings (let alone consensual) is less common than between parents and their children. I also think that it's weird that the bio mom agreed to see her but then ghosted her, and I don't fully see the point of lying about the guy that she took with her not being her brother if the daughter already knew she was born from incest, but then taking him with her anyway. I'm not saying that the bio mom's father was the actual bio dad but I don't think it's impossible.
Interesting. I’ve also heard a case where A father was sexually abusing his daughter. His daughter then started abusing her younger brother- lasting until the brother turned 15. She was being abused by her father and having an incestuous relationship with her younger brother. Horrible these situations are some people’s reality.
You are a beautiful soul, elegant and elequent...I am an adotive mother and occasionally I remind my sons that their parents gave them the greatest gift of all....life.
She was very fortunate to have been adopted by two loving and competent parents. Life gave her an amazing gift, not to mention the fact that despite her biological parent's relationship, she was born healthy. That far outweighs any negative emotions from finding out who her parents were.
Amazing lady. Such a test in her life and such a courage. You look amazingly healthy and you’re certainly bright. You have led a great life. Very inspiring.
I fully relate to the part at 5:41 when she speaks of not recognizing her own features in anyone. I received that magical gift with the birth of my son. It's mind blowing when you've spent a lifetime being your own island.
I am not adopted, but I have family members who are, and I have always thought about that....having people around you who look like you. I can see why having a bio child would fill that void. Congratulations.
I don't think physical features should matter. Personality traits between family members are more important in my opinion.. that transcends biology & would make adopted or having a step parent much more easy going
I’m adopted and not only did I have no one, everyone else is white while I am Hispanic. Completely different! I finally got two mini mes with my sons. But my younger son looks so much like me it’s unreal. I finally see my face in his face.
I’m sorry you carried so much shame. I was sexually assaulted by my sister, as a kid, and I always feared that a child might result. I carried (still carry) so much shame, and unfortunately I just never had a way out. Luckily, I was 9 when it started and I was 11 when it ended You are not the shame, ma’am. I’m thankful that you have/had loving parents ❤
@@Alpha1111Omega unfortunately we live in different cities now. I didn’t know guys could also be assaulted by woman until I was in my 20s, prior to that, I was just carrying the shame feeling like I’m garbage. And my sister always terrified me, growing up, she’s 2 years older than me, so anything she asked me to do, I did 😔
What a beautiful lady with a beautiful heart. I hope her heart is overflowing with the love she has from being an auntie and much is poured back into her.
You’re a lovely person that was dealt quite a blow in life, and even with that, you made a conscious decision to be the best aunt in the world. I’ve often said that auntie is one of the most cherished roles in my life and I take it seriously. Consequently, I’m the favorite aunt, lol. Your nieces and nephews are blessed ❤
You are not responsible for what they did. I am glad they made the decision to keep you alive. You have become a great person with a mission to help others through your testimony. Stay kind to yourself!
I love this woman… She is so much better than her beginnings and I really hope that she knows that. She is worthy. She is kind and she has a lot of people who love her including the people who don’t even know her. I think she’s amazing and an inspiration.
YOU are NOT responsible for the way you were conceived. YOU never were FILTHY and UNWORTHY. You are a lovely soul and very worthy and very virtuous.
I mean pretty much said that at the end.
'nobody wanted me' your adopted parents did) do))
You are loved and Blessed🙏🙏🙏🤣👏👏👏
The Bible says we are fearfully and wonderfully made, regardless of how we are conceived!
So unbearably sad and unfair. May God Bless her. 🙏🏼🤍🦅
You’re obviously a very good woman, moral and upright. You are needed here. The shame is theirs, not yours.
I don’t know if the shame was even theirs. They were both children themselves 🤷🏼♀️. While this is shocking I don’t feel anyone should be shamed. This is such a sad story.
@@janina8559 Laughing. Oh please. Brothers and sisters know not to have sex with each other. Yeah, shame on them.
It' s complicated because people judge you just for being related or a daughter of TWO MONSTERS
You poor dear Lady, your adopted family loves you. Take heart ❤️ you are dearly loved.
@Mrs.TJTaylor you have no idea what those children were brought up amongst and therefore have no room to judge anyone. Incest is usually taught. I suggest you educate yourself instead of judging what you know very little about.
maybe your birth parents rejected you twice, BUT YOUR REAL PARENTS CHOSE YOU! TWICE!!!!!! YOU ARE BLESSED!
Well said! She is God send for what was given in life this lovely woman, A wonderful mother and Father that loves her dearly. Dont be ashamed for it was the birth parents that ruined any given chances to lose you 2nd time. God loves you just lean on him always🙏💕
You don't know the full context of this because maybe they were abused or seen raised young, or maybe they weren't full biological relatives either. You should look for a full genetic profile. Maybe they were separated as children. A full profile would clarify things
You could have adopted
Absolutely! It’s all in how you look at it ❤
@@MarieCassidy-zd8sc not necessarily. Single parents in the UK were only legally allowed to adopt after mid 70's and then it was very difficult as married couples were the preferred choice for decades after.
She would have had social workers going into her background, asking questions, during the adoption process. She probably would have found that very difficult and no guarantee until everything had been raked up. How soul destroying that would have been.
Her biological parents didn't want her, but the rest of the world does! She seems like a very fine person, and I would be proud to call her my friend.
Her mom was 17 and her dad was 14. They were children.
R U SERIOUS? ‘HER PARENTS DIDN’T WANT HER’? HOW LUDICROUS! THEY WERE KIDS THEMSELVES, LIKELY NO IDEA WHAT REALLY WAS GOING TO BE A RESULT!
@@hazzachannel1 Of course they were just kids when she was born, but I was referring to the fact that they rejected her when they met her as an adult.
@@kathleenstoin671what might happen if it all was out in the open. Criminal charges, enforced separation, they were obviously still together, embarrassment , fear she might report them even. Before they actually moved they must have been afraid. Possibly had to move a lot. They saw their daughter had flourished into a fine woman.
@@hazzachannel1are we going to ignore the fact that she met them when they were ADULTS and they rejected her again? Y’all stuck with "they were kids" and completely ignoring that fact.
Fair play to her not having children even though she really wanted them. This poor woman shouldn't feel ashamed, it wasn't her fault. She seems like a wonderful person
it's strange though she didn't adopt a child even though she wanted them so bad, especially she's an adopted child, i find it odd
@@crochetbyducky its a lengthy process that costs a lot of money, and some people simply just want biological children over adopted and thats completely fine.
shes free to make that choice, sure, but with just one instance of inbreeding in her close family history and with a non blood relative partner it wouldnt have made any difference for her kids. but ofc it was a long time ago and stuff was harder to look into before google...
@@marycanary86That's not a guarantee, she could unknowingly carry an autosomal recessive gene and pass it to her children. It's less likely if her children aren't incestuous but it's still a possibility.
She actually turned out very intelligent ,emphatic ,beautiful ,elegant .
incest doesn't guarantee genetic issues, just multiplies the likelihood
Yes, elegant is definitely the word. How sad that she believes any of the uncovered history was her fault. We're not responsible for what anyone else does...most especially those who created us.
Yeah. Coulda gone either way. Probably wouldn't be sitting there if it had.😖
@@anja2716 seriously, what a dice roll
@@anja2716most incest turn out like this
A friend of mine found out she was adopted. She spent years searching for her birth mother. Only to find she was the product of incest. The shame & disgust almost drove her to suicide. Sometimes not knowing one’s heritage is best. I admire Teresa’s courage to talk about her conception. It must have been very difficult & painful.
Honesty before you find out probably best to go to therapy and prepare for anything. Important to know that it's not the childs fault and doesn't make them disgusting.
@@teijaflink2226 Absolutely! Having seen the devastation it’s caused my friend. Speaking to someone who can help process knowledge that could potentially ruin their life would certainly be beneficial.
@@Angela-Louisawe have to learn as adults how to grow through life and the challenges it brings and not become a victim to things we had/have no control over!! Why people wanna remain victims is crazy to me..
But maybe it is better to find out so that YOU are prepared for whatever the results are, instead of your CHILDREN finding out FIRST about their ancestry. And hopefully whoever finds out first knows that the world is a better place because they WERE born!
If adopted parents are loving and gave their children a great childhood, I don’t understand a need to find a biological parents as it is a life mission. Yes it is important but doesn’t seems life changing important. The adopted parents have been the parents to live and protect. The kids should love that love, not a stranger that maybe left them.
I think her decision not to have children was very responsible of her & unselfish.
I respect that.
Lol it was uninformed at best, dramatic and extremist at worst…
Just as she mentioned, biologically speaking, she was as fine as everyone else… so there is nothing to admire here, but I’m glad she finally is at peace with her decision
Me too!!!
@@melmelb6146She did a good thing because who knows the real story with her parents.Was it really consensual and so on.She didn’t want to pass down those genes at all.
@IAMHERE486 What do you mean? You make it sound like rape is genetic?
@@melissaann513 no
Not at all
But inbreeding is dangerous.
Not to mention that isn’t a legacy you want to pass on (your grandparents are brother & sister)
It was smart of her not to take any risk to have unhealthy children & to let the shame of the situation end with her.
Look at the big picture.
The comment section passed the vibe check! So kind and supportive!
Lady, you are beautiful and special ❤
You have absolutely no fault in the actions of others. You are not a “dirty secret “, you are a worthy, wonderful person!
I recently did a DNA test and found out some hard information. Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏🏾❤️
You are not alone.
Neither are you. ❤
Me too. I found the grandpa I'd been searching for all my life.. a few years after his death. My grandma pushed him out of their lives when she found out she was pregnant with my dad. I also found out that one of my best friends from elementary school who was adopted, was actually adopted from that side of my family. We were cousins the whole time and never knew it.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@Lottatherottathat his/her parents are siblings
@@Lottatherottaprobably smth that is none of ur business?
i’m so happy the parents who chose her loved her so much, every child deserves that
She was wise to choose not to have kids even though I'm sure it was a devastating choice.❤
@@nacarreira777 do you think she could have adopted? she could have raised a child without passing on any disabiliies
That would require explanation to the husband in detail, a Catholic husband who would then not be allowed to have any sex with her. Otherwise you mean she could adopt children on her own as a single mother. Not everyone is that brave. @@oh_omo7989
Not unloving, not unworthy. Dignified and resilient.
1000 X’s this ❤
I am NOT a sentimental person, but when she got around to the part when she finally told her parents (her REAL parents), and how they were so loving and accepting, I actually teared up. Poor sweet old lady. I'm so sorry she had to go through all that.
Your reason for not having children, is what makes you a great mother. You are so needed on this planet, I'm honoured to have watched you share your story. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I was raped went I was 12 yo, by my brother and I had a boy. My mom decided to give him for adoption. She took me my live with my aunt.. I always think of my babe. And deep down in my heart. I thought, I’ll look for him. But it was too late . My son die when he was 7 months old. Problem with enlarge heart. I decided not to have kids.
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I am so incredibly sorry for what you've gone through!
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I‘m so sorry. You will reunite with your baby in heaven one day 🫂
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Such dignity in horrible circumstances. I'm glad she had a great life with her adoptive parents.
Children should NEVER have to own the shame of their parents, but we do. You are a wonderful person, which is a gift to our world!🙏🏻❤️🦋
Im one of those children. Put up for adoption at 2 weeks of age. Adopted at 9 months. Found bio parents in 2018 at age 53.
My parents are first cousins and I don't feel ashamed. it's not my fault.
@@kaiser1295 if it makes you feel any better its actually quite common in countries like Turkey and the middle east
My mother was born in Chicago. Her mother got pregnant with her when she was very young. My mother nknows nothing about her father. She was given up for adoption right away.
Her mother tried to see my mom a few times. She beat my mother bloody. My mother told someone at the orphanage about it and she was saved. She never saw her mother again. She was never adopted. Just thrown into the world at 18. I know that it really hurts my mother but, she was better off not living with her mom. My mom had 4 children and we are all good. My mother is a beautiful lady.
You are a remarkable women!!❤
"My mom had 4 children and we are all good. My mother is a beautiful lady." Wonderful news despite your mother's suffering. Glad she kept her head and spirits high and built a family.
You are truly blessed to have your Mother, in spite of her life she became a wonderful Mother for you & your siblings ❤
@@gloriabebop5313 I am truly blessed. 😊
Your mother stopped the cycle. She did a great job.
@@fragrantbloom she sure did!
Our daughter is adopted, we were told by the social worker that her parents were 1st cousins, did we want her, immediately we said of course, armed with this information we have been able to deal with any health problems she encounters, she now has a beautiful talented daughter herself. My prayers to this beautiful graceful woman it's not too late to find the love you deserve in a partner.
You're a beautiful soul ❤
The child will be fine. One instance of first cousin incest isn't a big problem. The problem comes when the children of first cousins have children with their first cousins. That's when the inbreeding causes serious genetic problems.
As gross as it is, cousin incest isn't as bad
Of course she turned out fine, she has you loving her!
This is so beautiful to hear. You are the types of humans I am so grateful for. Thank you for saving her, from the bottom of my heart. ❤
I’m so sorry. You were meant to be born and your life has been a blessing to many people.
Take care.
You were meant to be born. You are such a loving and beautiful person. I am so sorry that you were burdened with this knowledge.
💯💯💯
So God wanted incest? 😱
I’m very happy you were born healthy with no complications. My heart breaks for you. NONE of this is your fault. ZERO. You are worthy of having a beautiful life
Love how she lights up at the end, talking about being the best auntie. Your nieces and nephews are so lucky to have you.
Though you wanted to have a family you couldn't just because you didn't wanted to pass any disease to the children. So humane. She sacrificed her desires so that any of her child doesn't go through a struggling life. Lots of strength to you.
My ex husband was born of incest too. His mom gave birth at 13 years old after being raped by her older brother. Their mom (his grandma) kept the baby and raised him as her own child. He calls her mom (not his biological mom). It was the family secret. It's sad and I always felt bad for him but it never seemed to bother him. He went on to have children without any issues.
Yea, that part was a bit sad, as long as she had children with someone not related at all to her, she would have been fine
@@freedomofspeech766 AnxChan was talking about the woman speaking in the video.
@@freedomofspeech766 You sure about that? If Anxchan wasn't talking about the woman in the video (Teresa), then why would she use "she" "her" "she" and "would have been"? Why would it be a bit sad for ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband to have had children without any issues? 😕 Genetically, if Teresa had had children with someone not related to her, then the fact that her own parents were siblings wouldn't have been a problem, since she could only pass on one copy of any of her chromosomes that were duplicated.
@@freedomofspeech766 You know you could just admit you were wrong. 😕 AnxChan was indeed replying to ShatteredSoul2's comment, but clearly referring to the woman in the video who didn't have children, rather than ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband who did.
Let's ask her...
@@AnxChan Since it seems to have become a point of debate, to whom were you referring with this part of your comment:
" as long as she had children with someone not related at all to her, she would have been fine" - the woman in the video, or ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband?
AUNTIES ARE EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I got all of my moral values from my great aunt. Aunt Billie (Elizabeth) Was my grandfather sister. She took care of my siblings and I when my father was in jail and my mother was in the hospital. I learned about to value materialistic things over heart felt things. I learned to be honest hardworking and family oriented because of her. I don't think she'll ever know how valuable she was to my life. She passed away at 83 thirty years ago, and I still miss her so much. She met more than to me than my mother ever would or my father. God bless you. Please know that you are loved and valued more than you'll ever know.🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤
Most definitely aunts are important! My aunt is still my aunt, even after she divorced my uncle. I told her not long ago, I didn't know how else to call her. I love my aunt, and she is one of the most wonderful, giving, loving woman I've ever met.
I feel her pain. I was 'adopted' (1964 but 'in the household as a 'foster baby' since birth ) and found out decades later that my 'sister' was my bio mother and my 'adoptive' father was my bio father and my 'adoptive' mother was my Grandmother! I spent EVERY summer at my 'sister's' and HATED IT. Finding years later my niece & nephew were my half siblings... For as long as I can remember I NEVER wanted to get married and have kids....
Wow. So your father had a child with his step daughter? What a sick man.
That’s what happened to Jack Nicolson.
@@Shello58 this sounds like a mentally stressful place to be at any age. I'm sorry that you went through this, hopefully you were able to get enough counseling that you have recovered and can find the positive in life!
Did ur grandmother (adoptive mother) know the real truth?
Omg. I hope your grandpa/ father didn't abuse you too. 😢
My heart aches for this beautiful and kind woman. You were raised by parents who chose you and wanted you and loved you. You were made to be their child. And no doubt, you brought them so much joy and completed their family.
Children are not responsible for the manner or nature of their birth, they are completely innocent in that respect.
The parents are those who gave you their name. The parents are those who cared for you, who woke up at night when you were sick, who put clothes on you and food on the table.
You are BLESSED. Your true parents chose you twice!
Whenever someone asks me if I have ever wanted to know who my real parents are this is what I tell them. I know who my parents are. They are the ones who took me in and loved me unconditionally and made sure I had that love always. I miss them both now that they are gone. But because of the way they raised me, I know I will see them again.
Beautifully and rightfully spoken.
Most def!!
A remarkable story. A remarkable woman. You’ve done yourself proud.
This woman is stronger than most Marines I served with
💜💜💜💜💜💜
Odd slight of the Marines but alright lol
This has absolutely nothing comparable with being a Marine! At least not when I was in, 84-88 field artillery Camp LeJeune! 🤷♂️
I wonder how much her religious upbringing had to do with how she digested this issue! I wonder if she would have had a different view,had she not grown up with a religious upbringing or lesser of one, ir a totally different religion. Or, it just appears that she was born with a very strong sub-conscience. She needs to be a bit more selfish when it comes to this issue.
@@pauldeanda4985 so how'd YOU get so fragile?
This Madam is a Heroine of honesty and many noble virtues.
Bless this ladies heart . She is so brave to even tell her story
I was 15 when I was told my mom was raped by her cousin which resulted in me. For years I watched my mom struggled with mental health. She attempted suicide so many times. This one time they sent her away for nearly a year. Sitting at a cafe with my grandma and aunt I begged them to please take me. I didn't want to live with my dad (very abu$ive) what was said next changed the rest of my life. My aunt said don't worry you won't have to he isn't your real dad. My grandma went on to explain that my mom was raped by her cousin. I'm nearly 50 they didn't believe in abortion and adoption wasn't an option. My mom continued to struggle with mental health. My family was horrible to her and me. When she would get placed in the hospital they would tell me it's all my fault. All I could think is how horrible life was for my mom. I couldn't imagine looking at this child every single day. My mom never once spoke about it after she found out I was told. We were very close. I loved her I just wish this wasn't part of our story. My mom ended up turning to religion her faith made her happy. I didn't understand and honestly still don't today. She struggled with mental health her entire life. My kids gave her so much love. When she found out she was going to be a great grandma she was so happy. I backed away because I wanted her to have some happiness in her life. I regret that choice now. She took her life on Nov 10th 2022. I never saw it coming I thought she was ok. I have always wanted to confront him. He was literally at family reunions and big family get togethers. I didn't want to make my mom's life worse so I held it in. I was determined to after she passed to find out he died the same week. I don't understand why people say this is God's plan. God wanted all this? I spent most of my life watching my mom live a hell no one should have to live. I live knowing I came from nothing good. I wish I would have been adopted or aborted maybe my mom would have had a better life. I have some comfort knowing she is where she believed she would be. She isn't in pain anymore. I wish I could believe like her.
I'm so sorry for all you've gone through. Life can be so unfair. Sending you all the love and healing you so much deserve. 💕
None of this was your fault. You deserve to be loved and not,to,feel shame. Take care of yourself please.
@@Meeeesje tysvm ❤️
@@DeborahStJohn-c1h tysm ❤️
Thank you for sharing this! All the best. ❤
It's a miracle to have had your wonderful adoptive parents. ❤ You turned out lovely.
They were sick and you had nothing to do with your conception. You’re a beautiful woman and it’s their loss for getting to know you!
How do you know they were sick? Do you personally know them or do you just state your moral judgement based on on 3 mins of info?
The one fact that we know is that her mother was 14 when she got pregnant, so she was a child. The rest is just speculation…
@@melmelb6146I thought her mother was 16 when she gave birth and her father was 14?
@melmelb6146 Did you not listen? Her medical history says her father was her mother's brother and she confirmed by meeting them that it was a willing union between the two siblings.
Clearly something was very wrong in the home they were in, as incest is one of the strongest of our societal taboos. But as we don't know what they went through as children, I don't think we can or should judge them. They did what they did for a reason and they didn't compound the problem by raising their baby in the same troubled environment.
@@TurtleMyrtle12 no. All she saw was a man she assumed was her father based on her impression, but nothing was actually confirmed. Even if that was her biological father, many people can live with their abusers for all their lives, so let’s not jump to conclusions based on suppositions from a 10 minute meeting
And her medical history didn’t corroborate anything, it was all based on her orphanage records.
I just want to give her a big hug. We love you! You deserved better!
I just want to give her a hug. Most adopted children go through a lot of trauma and she had to experience it twice over. I’m glad she had closure with her family and that she was able to alleviate the pain a bit by sharing her story.
What a wonderful lady. Her adoptive parents got a great gift when she came into their lives.
I am so glad you told your parents, and that they were fully supportive of you.
What a lovely lady , her nieces and nephews are very lucky
Her smile at 10:21. I love her peace.❤
You are a wonderful person - I could tell that less than one minute into your interview. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and candor in sharing your story. You deserve love and I hope that there are people in your life who have made you feel loved.
I am so sorry you have been hurt like this. Your adoptive parents obviously loved you very much.
Another big problem was the adoption agency. They had the records and knew what was in them--there should have been some support and guidance for her from a social worker or counselor at the time she first read them, rather than leaving her blindsided and alone...
Rofl there was no such thing as counseling back then. No one cared about people's trauma
@@Hayri2011they didn't understand it.
@@Hayri2011 and it is such a human taboo, copulating with your sibling. Not ok in anybody’s book.
Yes, because that was a thing at the time lol
Im one of those children. Befire I was able to obtain all my adoption records and before I knew the situation, I had to see a counsellor, who then told me the details. This was in about 2004..
What a beautiful soul this woman is... God made you perfectly.
One of the most heartbreaking stories I've heard in ages. The discovery of the initial way she was concieved was horrific enough, but then the rejection as an adult right after seeing them in person... that must've been catastrophic. She is insanely strong to make it through that alive. All respect to you Teresa.
Teresa you're awesome. What an epic and intense story to tell so bravely and confidently. Shows the healing you had to do to get here.
The silver lining is that you are the best auntie!❤
So glad she got to hear from the people who raised her that they would have loved her no matter who her birth parents were and what they had done. I hope her story helps to make a positive influence on others who have similar stories.
Beautiful lady. And yes, having an Auntie that loves you dearly is a very, very special gift.
This lady has a lot of courage, she held her life together when so many would fall apart. Blessing to this very fine lady.
The courage of this woman is truly humbling. I am so glad she at least has the peace of knowing she was fully loved by her adoptive parents even with the knowledge of her conception.
I'm glad she was adopted by a clearly lovely family that raised her well and loved her unconditionally. I'm sorry she never got the closure she needed with her biological parents.
You are NOT unworthy!!! You have no control over the way you were conceived! You seem like such a sweet person! May God bless you!
What a wonderfully articulate lady, so sorry her dreams were broken through no fault of her own.
Too bad she never talked to a doctor about having children.😢
I respect this woman a lot. She seems like a gem of a human being
What a beautiful, beautiful woman. To feel unloved and unwanted is the worst. It destroys you. Her nephews and nieces are very lucky to have her as an auntie.
You are not a mistake. You are here, and this world is a better place because of it. I adopted a child with fetal alcohol syndrome. I love him with my whole heart despite his struggles with drugs and alcohol. He is this way because his mother drank heavily for the first 4 months of her pregnancy. That is a fact. Neither her nor my son are to blame for their behaviour. Please know that you did nothing wrong. You had parents who raised you and loved you dearly. I feel privileged to be my sons mother. I'm sure your adopted parents felt the same way. Be proud of who you are, and know that you are loved. Blessed Be from Canada ❤
I’m really pleased she told her parents too.
You are a beautiful woman!!! And God loves you!! Thank you for being brave to tell your story.❤❤❤
Bless you, dear lady. You are a brave, tender, lovable person.
She seems like a beautiful, wonderful person. Just want to hug her
What a beautiful lovely lady. Very sad that she carried that burden which was not of her making.
This is such a sad story. One conversation with a geneticist and she would’ve known that there was virtually no extra risk for her children.
Yes, I've heard problems wouldn't occur for several generations.
Maybe back when she wanted to have children, the understanding of genetics wasn't as comprehensive as today.
@@3DJapanand the problems would disappear the moment she had children with someone not closely related to her.
@@ScouseJazmin very true we forget that all the medical knowledge we have now was not available decades ago - no DNA matches etc then. Very different times.
@@3DJapanIf a defect did not show up in her it is unlikely it would show up in her offspring due to most are carried on recessive genes.
Your bravery in telling this is immense. You shouldn't feel ashamed in any way, shape or form. Take care ❤
I felt so much for this woman and the pain she’s suffered for something that was never her fault. What an incredible human being she is, I hope she is much loved by her extended family
You are the one good thing that came out a bad situation. You have every right to be here and to be happy and proud of yourself. I've seen a few people in the comments say that they were born from similar circumstance - this includes all of you, too!
I know that sometimes a brother takes the blame for what a girl’s father has actually done. Because the father - often the sole breadwinner, in the past - will be prosecuted, the family will be destitute and broken up. An underage boy taking the blame is presented as being less “harmful” to the family as a whole.
Thought about that too
Actually you're right, as far as I know, incest between siblings (let alone consensual) is less common than between parents and their children. I also think that it's weird that the bio mom agreed to see her but then ghosted her, and I don't fully see the point of lying about the guy that she took with her not being her brother if the daughter already knew she was born from incest, but then taking him with her anyway. I'm not saying that the bio mom's father was the actual bio dad but I don't think it's impossible.
Interesting. Especially considering this was a younger brother, merely a kid of 14. Doesn't sound coherent, indeed. You could be right.
@@hineraable No, I don't think it’s impossible. Just less probable.
Interesting. I’ve also heard a case where A father was sexually abusing his daughter. His daughter then started abusing her younger brother- lasting until the brother turned 15. She was being abused by her father and having an incestuous relationship with her younger brother. Horrible these situations are some people’s reality.
Your a beautiful soul, god bless you.
You are a beautiful soul, elegant and elequent...I am an adotive mother and occasionally I remind my sons that their parents gave them the greatest gift of all....life.
I want to hug this lady. I’m so sorry this happened to you!
She was very fortunate to have been adopted by two loving and competent parents. Life gave her an amazing gift, not to mention the fact that despite her biological parent's relationship, she was born healthy. That far outweighs any negative emotions from finding out who her parents were.
I wish I could give her a hug
Me too 😢
Amazing lady. Such a test in her life and such a courage. You look amazingly healthy and you’re certainly bright. You have led a great life. Very inspiring.
I for one am very glad you’re here- good people are needed more than ever. God bless you.
What a brave, lovely lady.
What a great woman. I've never seen someone talking so calm and yet not trying to hide emotions. Much love. ❤
You are a beautiful person . Don't ever feel unwanted your adoptive parents has loved you and your nieces and nephews love love ❤❤❤❤
I fully relate to the part at 5:41 when she speaks of not recognizing her own features in anyone. I received that magical gift with the birth of my son. It's mind blowing when you've spent a lifetime being your own island.
I am not adopted, but I have family members who are, and I have always thought about that....having people around you who look like you. I can see why having a bio child would fill that void. Congratulations.
@@catecurry48 Thanks very much. 🥰 it's a wild experience. I wish this poor woman had a better memory of it.
I don't think physical features should matter. Personality traits between family members are more important in my opinion.. that transcends biology & would make adopted or having a step parent much more easy going
I’m adopted and not only did I have no one, everyone else is white while I am Hispanic. Completely different!
I finally got two mini mes with my sons. But my younger son looks so much like me it’s unreal. I finally see my face in his face.
Well, my first born looked nothing like me and entirely like his father, so there's that. With four children now, only one looks like me. 😅
She is to be commended for her strength. Daily blessings for her.
Please wonderful woman you are worthy and not alone..so many broken people need to understand that they are perfectly and wonderfully made
What a beautiful strong woman you have become. I want to give you a hug!
I’m sorry for your pain. Your adoptive parents were a gift💕
Courageous & articulate. Devastating to imagine. Well done her.
I’m sorry you carried so much shame. I was sexually assaulted by my sister, as a kid, and I always feared that a child might result. I carried (still carry) so much shame, and unfortunately I just never had a way out. Luckily, I was 9 when it started and I was 11 when it ended
You are not the shame, ma’am. I’m thankful that you have/had loving parents ❤
I’m sorry that happened to you ❤❤❤ your sister is sick in the head !!
I hope you know the same is true about you. This should never have happened to you, especially at such a young age.
@@FrauSjoeblom thank you 🙏🏾
Did you confront her?
@@Alpha1111Omega unfortunately we live in different cities now. I didn’t know guys could also be assaulted by woman until I was in my 20s, prior to that, I was just carrying the shame feeling like I’m garbage. And my sister always terrified me, growing up, she’s 2 years older than me, so anything she asked me to do, I did 😔
I feel like giving that lady the warmest hug.
What a beautiful lady with a beautiful heart. I hope her heart is overflowing with the love she has from being an auntie and much is poured back into her.
What a wonderful lady. You were conceived and born because obviously this world needed you here
You’re a lovely person that was dealt quite a blow in life, and even with that, you made a conscious decision to be the best aunt in the world. I’ve often said that auntie is one of the most cherished roles in my life and I take it seriously. Consequently, I’m the favorite aunt, lol. Your nieces and nephews are blessed ❤
What a beautiful soul- I'm sure she is a very treasured Auntie.
God bless this woman, thank you for sharing your wisdoms and story
You are not responsible for what they did. I am glad they made the decision to keep you alive. You have become a great person with a mission to help others through your testimony. Stay kind to yourself!
I love this woman… She is so much better than her beginnings and I really hope that she knows that. She is worthy. She is kind and she has a lot of people who love her including the people who don’t even know her. I think she’s amazing and an inspiration.
Poor lady. Bless her. She seems intelligent and looks healthy. I wish her well.
You are not responsible for your parents life, only your own and you are a lovely lady x
What an amazing lady, to mentally cope so well after finding that out shows such strength.
Dear you have nothing to be ashamed , it was NOT in any way your fault..Your a strong beautiful person.