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  • @mompofelski4191
    @mompofelski4191 4 месяца назад +14697

    YOU are NOT responsible for the way you were conceived. YOU never were FILTHY and UNWORTHY. You are a lovely soul and very worthy and very virtuous.

    • @thesun-N-moon8885
      @thesun-N-moon8885 4 месяца назад +34

      I mean pretty much said that at the end.

    • @laurarush
      @laurarush 4 месяца назад +101

      'nobody wanted me' your adopted parents did) do))

    • @Marygranny
      @Marygranny 4 месяца назад +36

      You are loved and Blessed🙏🙏🙏🤣👏👏👏

    • @beverlywilliams7278
      @beverlywilliams7278 4 месяца назад +62

      The Bible says we are fearfully and wonderfully made, regardless of how we are conceived!

    • @christinalw19
      @christinalw19 4 месяца назад +30

      So unbearably sad and unfair. May God Bless her. 🙏🏼🤍🦅

  • @Mrs.TJTaylor
    @Mrs.TJTaylor 4 месяца назад +12496

    You’re obviously a very good woman, moral and upright. You are needed here. The shame is theirs, not yours.

    • @janina8559
      @janina8559 4 месяца назад +299

      I don’t know if the shame was even theirs. They were both children themselves 🤷🏼‍♀️. While this is shocking I don’t feel anyone should be shamed. This is such a sad story.

    • @Mrs.TJTaylor
      @Mrs.TJTaylor 4 месяца назад +315

      @@janina8559 Laughing. Oh please. Brothers and sisters know not to have sex with each other. Yeah, shame on them.

    • @giorgioroyaume8815
      @giorgioroyaume8815 4 месяца назад +53

      It' s complicated because people judge you just for being related or a daughter of TWO MONSTERS

    • @sheilaali
      @sheilaali 4 месяца назад +83

      You poor dear Lady, your adopted family loves you. Take heart ❤️ you are dearly loved.

    • @angelav4568
      @angelav4568 4 месяца назад +187

      ​@Mrs.TJTaylor you have no idea what those children were brought up amongst and therefore have no room to judge anyone. Incest is usually taught. I suggest you educate yourself instead of judging what you know very little about.

  • @wrghty
    @wrghty 4 месяца назад +2196

    Fair play to her not having children even though she really wanted them. This poor woman shouldn't feel ashamed, it wasn't her fault. She seems like a wonderful person

    • @crochetbyducky
      @crochetbyducky 3 месяца назад +57

      it's strange though she didn't adopt a child even though she wanted them so bad, especially she's an adopted child, i find it odd

    • @milktea-np2dy
      @milktea-np2dy 3 месяца назад +122

      ​@@crochetbyducky its a lengthy process that costs a lot of money, and some people simply just want biological children over adopted and thats completely fine.

    • @marycanary86
      @marycanary86 2 месяца назад +32

      shes free to make that choice, sure, but with just one instance of inbreeding in her close family history and with a non blood relative partner it wouldnt have made any difference for her kids. but ofc it was a long time ago and stuff was harder to look into before google...

    • @leidelend5021
      @leidelend5021 2 месяца назад +37

      ​@@marycanary86That's not a guarantee, she could unknowingly carry an autosomal recessive gene and pass it to her children. It's less likely if her children aren't incestuous but it's still a possibility.

    • @Dragoncam13
      @Dragoncam13 Месяц назад +2

      I know a guy whose mom’s parents were brother and sister and he came out with autism,not bad autism but autism nonetheless

  • @tishamonroe7418
    @tishamonroe7418 4 месяца назад +10903

    maybe your birth parents rejected you twice, BUT YOUR REAL PARENTS CHOSE YOU! TWICE!!!!!! YOU ARE BLESSED!

    • @Beccaroo690
      @Beccaroo690 4 месяца назад +74

      Well said! She is God send for what was given in life this lovely woman, A wonderful mother and Father that loves her dearly. Dont be ashamed for it was the birth parents that ruined any given chances to lose you 2nd time. God loves you just lean on him always🙏💕

    • @MarieCassidy-zd8sc
      @MarieCassidy-zd8sc 4 месяца назад +37

      You don't know the full context of this because maybe they were abused or seen raised young, or maybe they weren't full biological relatives either. You should look for a full genetic profile. Maybe they were separated as children. A full profile would clarify things

    • @MarieCassidy-zd8sc
      @MarieCassidy-zd8sc 4 месяца назад +5

      You could have adopted

    • @Kim-Berly200
      @Kim-Berly200 4 месяца назад +2

      Absolutely! It’s all in how you look at it ❤

    • @gail9299
      @gail9299 4 месяца назад +14

      @@MarieCassidy-zd8sc not necessarily. Single parents in the UK were only legally allowed to adopt after mid 70's and then it was very difficult as married couples were the preferred choice for decades after.
      She would have had social workers going into her background, asking questions, during the adoption process. She probably would have found that very difficult and no guarantee until everything had been raked up. How soul destroying that would have been.

  • @giovannamoro8564
    @giovannamoro8564 4 месяца назад +5938

    She actually turned out very intelligent ,emphatic ,beautiful ,elegant .

    • @grreeeeee
      @grreeeeee 4 месяца назад

      incest doesn't guarantee genetic issues, just multiplies the likelihood

    • @ratsumatra3003
      @ratsumatra3003 4 месяца назад +110

      Yes, elegant is definitely the word. How sad that she believes any of the uncovered history was her fault. We're not responsible for what anyone else does...most especially those who created us.

    • @anja2716
      @anja2716 4 месяца назад +13

      Yeah. Coulda gone either way. Probably wouldn't be sitting there if it had.😖

    • @The_Food_Police
      @The_Food_Police 4 месяца назад +14

      @@anja2716 seriously, what a dice roll

    • @stefanigreeneyes
      @stefanigreeneyes 4 месяца назад

      @@anja2716most incest turn out like this

  • @TalkingTomx3
    @TalkingTomx3 2 месяца назад +312

    no one is talking about how well spoken and stunning this lady is.
    wonderful story.

    • @tykeandjonsieshow3595
      @tykeandjonsieshow3595 Месяц назад

      She's not. She made a lot of idiotic choices

    • @aliciacaroline581
      @aliciacaroline581 26 дней назад +7

      @@tykeandjonsieshow3595why would you ever think I’d be okay to say such thing??? Apart from the fact that it’s incredibly disrespectful and presumptuous it’s her life and she made her decisions and it’s really not for you to judge someone’s life choices.

  • @Angela-Louisa
    @Angela-Louisa 4 месяца назад +5942

    A friend of mine found out she was adopted. She spent years searching for her birth mother. Only to find she was the product of incest. The shame & disgust almost drove her to suicide. Sometimes not knowing one’s heritage is best. I admire Teresa’s courage to talk about her conception. It must have been very difficult & painful.

    • @teijaflink2226
      @teijaflink2226 4 месяца назад +360

      Honesty before you find out probably best to go to therapy and prepare for anything. Important to know that it's not the childs fault and doesn't make them disgusting.

    • @Angela-Louisa
      @Angela-Louisa 4 месяца назад +138

      @@teijaflink2226 Absolutely! Having seen the devastation it’s caused my friend. Speaking to someone who can help process knowledge that could potentially ruin their life would certainly be beneficial.

    • @thesun-N-moon8885
      @thesun-N-moon8885 4 месяца назад +38

      @@Angela-Louisawe have to learn as adults how to grow through life and the challenges it brings and not become a victim to things we had/have no control over!! Why people wanna remain victims is crazy to me..

    • @22lyric
      @22lyric 4 месяца назад +38

      But maybe it is better to find out so that YOU are prepared for whatever the results are, instead of your CHILDREN finding out FIRST about their ancestry. And hopefully whoever finds out first knows that the world is a better place because they WERE born!

    • @annat6249
      @annat6249 4 месяца назад +46

      If adopted parents are loving and gave their children a great childhood, I don’t understand a need to find a biological parents as it is a life mission. Yes it is important but doesn’t seems life changing important. The adopted parents have been the parents to live and protect. The kids should love that love, not a stranger that maybe left them.

  • @kathleenstoin671
    @kathleenstoin671 4 месяца назад +2789

    Her biological parents didn't want her, but the rest of the world does! She seems like a very fine person, and I would be proud to call her my friend.

    • @eric-seanjakoph8045
      @eric-seanjakoph8045 4 месяца назад +21

      Her mom was 17 and her dad was 14. They were children.

    • @hazzachannel1
      @hazzachannel1 4 месяца назад +19

      R U SERIOUS? ‘HER PARENTS DIDN’T WANT HER’? HOW LUDICROUS! THEY WERE KIDS THEMSELVES, LIKELY NO IDEA WHAT REALLY WAS GOING TO BE A RESULT!

    • @kathleenstoin671
      @kathleenstoin671 4 месяца назад +34

      @@hazzachannel1 Of course they were just kids when she was born, but I was referring to the fact that they rejected her when they met her as an adult.

    • @pamelagaull3928
      @pamelagaull3928 4 месяца назад +10

      @@kathleenstoin671what might happen if it all was out in the open. Criminal charges, enforced separation, they were obviously still together, embarrassment , fear she might report them even. Before they actually moved they must have been afraid. Possibly had to move a lot. They saw their daughter had flourished into a fine woman.

    • @sarahkoho7794
      @sarahkoho7794 3 месяца назад +4

      @@hazzachannel1are we going to ignore the fact that she met them when they were ADULTS and they rejected her again? Y’all stuck with "they were kids" and completely ignoring that fact.

  • @sugar-free-2centz
    @sugar-free-2centz 3 месяца назад +455

    I am NOT a sentimental person, but when she got around to the part when she finally told her parents (her REAL parents), and how they were so loving and accepting, I actually teared up. Poor sweet old lady. I'm so sorry she had to go through all that.

  • @Keewaf
    @Keewaf 4 месяца назад +3209

    i’m so happy the parents who chose her loved her so much, every child deserves that

    • @nacarreira777
      @nacarreira777 4 месяца назад +20

      She was wise to choose not to have kids even though I'm sure it was a devastating choice.❤

    • @oh_omo7989
      @oh_omo7989 4 месяца назад +6

      @@nacarreira777 do you think she could have adopted? she could have raised a child without passing on any disabiliies

    • @spidercherry108
      @spidercherry108 4 месяца назад

      That would require explanation to the husband in detail, a Catholic husband who would then not be allowed to have any sex with her. Otherwise you mean she could adopt children on her own as a single mother. Not everyone is that brave. ​@@oh_omo7989

  • @heartstrummer
    @heartstrummer 4 месяца назад +2040

    Not unloving, not unworthy. Dignified and resilient.

  • @mandyj3160
    @mandyj3160 27 дней назад +117

    Thank you for sharing. My mother is severely disabled and my father was a serial rapist. You are amazing and are not responsible for their choices.

    • @danitho
      @danitho 19 дней назад +5

      ❤❤ hope you're doing well!!

    • @btsmochimi7924
      @btsmochimi7924 18 дней назад +2

      I hope you are okay❤

    • @Hollyluya41
      @Hollyluya41 18 дней назад +7

      God bless you! My granddaughter was conceived from rape and she is the most wonderful blessing to me!

  • @MilagrosArroyo-of3rj
    @MilagrosArroyo-of3rj 4 месяца назад +2183

    Thank you for sharing. I was raped went I was 12 yo, by my brother and I had a boy. My mom decided to give him for adoption. She took me my live with my aunt.. I always think of my babe. And deep down in my heart. I thought, I’ll look for him. But it was too late . My son die when he was 7 months old. Problem with enlarge heart. I decided not to have kids.

    • @nesxya
      @nesxya 4 месяца назад +196

      😭 🫂

    • @JClover2
      @JClover2 4 месяца назад +370

      I am so incredibly sorry for what you've gone through!

    • @rosannedemol
      @rosannedemol 4 месяца назад +42

      😢

    • @user-eg1hs5qv8p
      @user-eg1hs5qv8p 4 месяца назад +152

      I‘m so sorry. You will reunite with your baby in heaven one day 🫂

    • @janetcw9808
      @janetcw9808 4 месяца назад +20

      😢🙏🏼❤️

  • @genevievetaylor85
    @genevievetaylor85 4 месяца назад +4254

    I think her decision not to have children was very responsible of her & unselfish.
    I respect that.

    • @melmelb6146
      @melmelb6146 4 месяца назад +278

      Lol it was uninformed at best, dramatic and extremist at worst…
      Just as she mentioned, biologically speaking, she was as fine as everyone else… so there is nothing to admire here, but I’m glad she finally is at peace with her decision

    • @IAMHERE486
      @IAMHERE486 4 месяца назад +6

      Me too!!!

    • @IAMHERE486
      @IAMHERE486 4 месяца назад +220

      @@melmelb6146She did a good thing because who knows the real story with her parents.Was it really consensual and so on.She didn’t want to pass down those genes at all.

    • @melissaann513
      @melissaann513 4 месяца назад +161

      ​@IAMHERE486 What do you mean? You make it sound like rape is genetic?

    • @genevievetaylor85
      @genevievetaylor85 4 месяца назад +327

      @@melissaann513 no
      Not at all
      But inbreeding is dangerous.
      Not to mention that isn’t a legacy you want to pass on (your grandparents are brother & sister)
      It was smart of her not to take any risk to have unhealthy children & to let the shame of the situation end with her.
      Look at the big picture.

  • @MirrorSelfies
    @MirrorSelfies 4 месяца назад +418

    The comment section passed the vibe check! So kind and supportive!
    Lady, you are beautiful and special ❤

  • @May52525
    @May52525 4 месяца назад +3150

    I recently did a DNA test and found out some hard information. Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏🏾❤️
    You are not alone.

    • @the_glitter_is
      @the_glitter_is 4 месяца назад +186

      Neither are you. ❤

    • @GirlWithThePlumbobTattoo
      @GirlWithThePlumbobTattoo 4 месяца назад

      Me too. I found the grandpa I'd been searching for all my life.. a few years after his death. My grandma pushed him out of their lives when she found out she was pregnant with my dad. I also found out that one of my best friends from elementary school who was adopted, was actually adopted from that side of my family. We were cousins the whole time and never knew it.

    • @TScot-v3m
      @TScot-v3m 4 месяца назад +21

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @Q_QQ_Q
      @Q_QQ_Q 4 месяца назад +6

      ​@@Lottatherottathat his/her parents are siblings

    • @tsh1aaa.starrr
      @tsh1aaa.starrr 4 месяца назад +110

      @@Lottatherottaprobably smth that is none of ur business?

  • @janesweetman9890
    @janesweetman9890 4 месяца назад +1163

    Such dignity in horrible circumstances. I'm glad she had a great life with her adoptive parents.

  • @guystevens5429
    @guystevens5429 4 месяца назад +168

    Children are not responsible for the manner or nature of their birth, they are completely innocent in that respect.

    • @TheGhostofAmna
      @TheGhostofAmna 18 дней назад

      Neither was her mother, who was very likely raped by the brother.

  • @marniefriedman9564
    @marniefriedman9564 4 месяца назад +1252

    Children should NEVER have to own the shame of their parents, but we do. You are a wonderful person, which is a gift to our world!🙏🏻❤️🦋

    • @sharonmcloughlin
      @sharonmcloughlin 4 месяца назад +7

      Im one of those children. Put up for adoption at 2 weeks of age. Adopted at 9 months. Found bio parents in 2018 at age 53.

    • @kaiser1295
      @kaiser1295 4 месяца назад +10

      My parents are first cousins and I don't feel ashamed. it's not my fault.

    • @cinnabeld8284
      @cinnabeld8284 4 месяца назад

      ​@@kaiser1295 if it makes you feel any better its actually quite common in countries like Turkey and the middle east

    • @TheGhostofAmna
      @TheGhostofAmna 18 дней назад

      Her bio mother shouldn’t feel ashamed, either. She very likely had no choice in the matter.

  • @Jo-gk3kt
    @Jo-gk3kt 4 месяца назад +953

    Our daughter is adopted, we were told by the social worker that her parents were 1st cousins, did we want her, immediately we said of course, armed with this information we have been able to deal with any health problems she encounters, she now has a beautiful talented daughter herself. My prayers to this beautiful graceful woman it's not too late to find the love you deserve in a partner.

    • @Soprano1638
      @Soprano1638 4 месяца назад +14

      You're a beautiful soul ❤

    • @chesterdonnelly1212
      @chesterdonnelly1212 4 месяца назад +79

      The child will be fine. One instance of first cousin incest isn't a big problem. The problem comes when the children of first cousins have children with their first cousins. That's when the inbreeding causes serious genetic problems.

    • @auroradera2862
      @auroradera2862 3 месяца назад +12

      As gross as it is, cousin incest isn't as bad

    • @tammyleung7578
      @tammyleung7578 3 месяца назад +2

      Of course she turned out fine, she has you loving her!

    • @erinzini
      @erinzini 3 месяца назад +2

      This is so beautiful to hear. You are the types of humans I am so grateful for. Thank you for saving her, from the bottom of my heart. ❤

  • @evailibera
    @evailibera 3 месяца назад +239

    Your reason for not having children, is what makes you a great mother. You are so needed on this planet, I'm honoured to have watched you share your story. Thank you.

    • @juneb4300
      @juneb4300 2 месяца назад

      Interesting. I recently read Call The Midwife and read that incest was not uncommon in poverty stricken families where several kids shared beds growing up. There was quite a touching story about a brother and sister who had endured horrible conditions living in a workhouse. They later reunited and they were everything to each other and lived their entire lives together. Incest is very taboo in our culture. You don’t know the birth parents story. It’s too bad that she went in so angry. She would have learned more if she had been more inquisitive and not judgemental.

    • @evailibera
      @evailibera 2 месяца назад +1

      @@juneb4300 I understand where you're coming from, and with all due respect, I disagree. You seem certain that if she didn't go in so angry (which, has a judgemental tone in my opinion) she would have learned more. More doesn't always equal good. Just because there can be a touching story here and there doesn't mean all stories are like this. Nobody can guarantee that if she would've been less angry and learned more about her parent's past, she would've gained more perspective. What if it ended up doing more harm than good? All I see is a beautiful human who chose to sacrifice herself and not have children to protect them, from a potentially touching story that can produce children with endless problems.

    • @exoticolors9953
      @exoticolors9953 Месяц назад +4

      @@juneb4300 weird ass comment bruh

    • @shestewa6581
      @shestewa6581 Месяц назад +1

      Unfortunately, as long as she didn't have a child with any relative, she wouldn't have had a risk of deformities having any children she wanted at all.
      The risk is from family-specific genes coming together again and again. With somebody unrelated, even if they're as inbred as the hapsburgs, it's unlikely to cause any issues. Any issues caused would be in terms of the ability to carry/make/grow etc the baby instead of any genetics. You need two people with similar genetics for that. She can't pass on double of herself so it would be her and somebody else - like any other conception.
      It is sad and tragic that she didn't know this, but it sounds like she was an amazing auntie and was a mother several times over in the way she loved her niblings.

  • @JdWi-96
    @JdWi-96 4 месяца назад +378

    You have absolutely no fault in the actions of others. You are not a “dirty secret “, you are a worthy, wonderful person!

  • @readg4fun
    @readg4fun 4 месяца назад +875

    I’m so sorry. You were meant to be born and your life has been a blessing to many people.
    Take care.

  • @Suzi64grad
    @Suzi64grad 2 месяца назад +43

    I am 78 and I understand the secrecy of years ago….you have nothing to be ashamed of at all! You are a beautiful soul! I was abused as a child and back then it was swept under the rug! My mom said I was a liar. My heart is with you!

    • @lizp.9513
      @lizp.9513 День назад

      Same with me. I'm 58 and they still sweep it under the carpet. Sorry you had to go through that. Unfortunately, it stays with us throughout our life.

  • @Keeterx
    @Keeterx 4 месяца назад +446

    I’m very happy you were born healthy with no complications. My heart breaks for you. NONE of this is your fault. ZERO. You are worthy of having a beautiful life

  • @RelentlessSoul
    @RelentlessSoul 4 месяца назад +1199

    My ex husband was born of incest too. His mom gave birth at 13 years old after being raped by her older brother. Their mom (his grandma) kept the baby and raised him as her own child. He calls her mom (not his biological mom). It was the family secret. It's sad and I always felt bad for him but it never seemed to bother him. He went on to have children without any issues.

    • @AnxChan
      @AnxChan 4 месяца назад +90

      Yea, that part was a bit sad, as long as she had children with someone not related at all to her, she would have been fine

    • @ML-vl7gt
      @ML-vl7gt 4 месяца назад +15

      @@freedomofspeech766 AnxChan was talking about the woman speaking in the video.

    • @ML-vl7gt
      @ML-vl7gt 4 месяца назад +5

      @@freedomofspeech766 You sure about that? If Anxchan wasn't talking about the woman in the video (Teresa), then why would she use "she" "her" "she" and "would have been"? Why would it be a bit sad for ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband to have had children without any issues? 😕 Genetically, if Teresa had had children with someone not related to her, then the fact that her own parents were siblings wouldn't have been a problem, since she could only pass on one copy of any of her chromosomes that were duplicated.

    • @ML-vl7gt
      @ML-vl7gt 4 месяца назад +3

      ​@@freedomofspeech766 You know you could just admit you were wrong. 😕 AnxChan was indeed replying to ShatteredSoul2's comment, but clearly referring to the woman in the video who didn't have children, rather than ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband who did.
      Let's ask her...

    • @ML-vl7gt
      @ML-vl7gt 4 месяца назад

      @@AnxChan Since it seems to have become a point of debate, to whom were you referring with this part of your comment:
      " as long as she had children with someone not related at all to her, she would have been fine" - the woman in the video, or ShatteredSoul2's ex-husband?

  • @dishachaurasiaa1342
    @dishachaurasiaa1342 4 месяца назад +143

    Though you wanted to have a family you couldn't just because you didn't wanted to pass any disease to the children. So humane. She sacrificed her desires so that any of her child doesn't go through a struggling life. Lots of strength to you.

    • @AreYouABadfishToo
      @AreYouABadfishToo Месяц назад +1

      Bro, I just came from a video of parents with a severely disabled child. They proceeded to have MORE children knowing full well there was a HIGH likelihood of more children being born disabled. They now have three children, two who are very disabled.

    • @christyanaadams4959
      @christyanaadams4959 28 дней назад

      She could’ve still had babies. It was one act of incest in a generation. If it had been multiple then her kids could’ve been born with disabilities. She could’ve still had children. She could’ve even adopted children! Any way to get children.

  • @terryarrow702
    @terryarrow702 4 месяца назад +288

    A remarkable story. A remarkable woman. You’ve done yourself proud.

  • @laura-angelarinaldi7597
    @laura-angelarinaldi7597 4 месяца назад +805

    The parents are those who gave you their name. The parents are those who cared for you, who woke up at night when you were sick, who put clothes on you and food on the table.
    You are BLESSED. Your true parents chose you twice!

    • @marykay2461
      @marykay2461 4 месяца назад +28

      Whenever someone asks me if I have ever wanted to know who my real parents are this is what I tell them. I know who my parents are. They are the ones who took me in and loved me unconditionally and made sure I had that love always. I miss them both now that they are gone. But because of the way they raised me, I know I will see them again.

    • @cg5611
      @cg5611 4 месяца назад +7

      Beautifully and rightfully spoken.

    • @ninanightnurse
      @ninanightnurse 4 месяца назад +5

      Most def!!

    • @mesangmom
      @mesangmom 7 дней назад

      But incest does not cause disease, it just increases the risk of inheriting n autosomal recessive disease. She is no more likely than anyone else to pass on a disease.

  • @dankmemesmeltexistentialdr2769
    @dankmemesmeltexistentialdr2769 21 день назад +18

    I have a very close friend who is most likely the result of incest between a father and daughter. She is the wonderful person. In the time we’ve known each other, she has been a constant source of wisdom, peace and reassurance in my life and I in hers. She found this out late in life, after she had children and unfortunately both children have the same genetically inheritable condition, and one is very severely autistic. I know those kids have good lives, that disabled lives are worth living, and that she is a fantastic, loving, dedicated mother. It hurts her more than anything else in the world though, and I wish there was anything anyone could say to take that pain away from her.
    Here’s to you Ivy-Anne, you’re an incredible person, you’ve let nothing in your hard life beat you, you’ve carried forth with your duties to those you love and served society in your professional life, helping children avoid the cruelest of harms. You won’t see this, but you inspire me every day.

  • @Shello58
    @Shello58 4 месяца назад +1849

    I feel her pain. I was 'adopted' (1964 but 'in the household as a 'foster baby' since birth ) and found out decades later that my 'sister' was my bio mother and my 'adoptive' father was my bio father and my 'adoptive' mother was my Grandmother! I spent EVERY summer at my 'sister's' and HATED IT. Finding years later my niece & nephew were my half siblings... For as long as I can remember I NEVER wanted to get married and have kids....

    • @lauralee65
      @lauralee65 4 месяца назад +6

      Wow. So your father had a child with his step daughter? What a sick man.

    • @Luna-ml7id
      @Luna-ml7id 4 месяца назад +86

      That’s what happened to Jack Nicolson.

    • @elricofarmer1561
      @elricofarmer1561 4 месяца назад +202

      @@Shello58 this sounds like a mentally stressful place to be at any age. I'm sorry that you went through this, hopefully you were able to get enough counseling that you have recovered and can find the positive in life!

    • @Exye-o2y
      @Exye-o2y 4 месяца назад +70

      Did ur grandmother (adoptive mother) know the real truth?

    • @sydneymagicmenfan-sd9zt
      @sydneymagicmenfan-sd9zt 4 месяца назад +95

      Omg. I hope your grandpa/ father didn't abuse you too. 😢

  • @cheriyost2780
    @cheriyost2780 4 месяца назад +766

    My mother was born in Chicago. Her mother got pregnant with her when she was very young. My mother knows nothing about her father. She was given up for adoption right away.
    Her mother tried to see my mom a few times. She beat my mother bloody. My mother told someone at the orphanage about it and she was saved. She never saw her mother again. She was never adopted. Just thrown into the world at 18. I know that it really hurts my mother but, she was better off not living with her mom. My mom had 4 children and we are all good. My mother is a beautiful lady.
    You are a remarkable women!!❤

    • @CheloPerales
      @CheloPerales 4 месяца назад +48

      "My mom had 4 children and we are all good. My mother is a beautiful lady." Wonderful news despite your mother's suffering. Glad she kept her head and spirits high and built a family.

    • @gloriabebop5313
      @gloriabebop5313 4 месяца назад +14

      You are truly blessed to have your Mother, in spite of her life she became a wonderful Mother for you & your siblings ❤

    • @cheriyost2780
      @cheriyost2780 4 месяца назад +10

      @@gloriabebop5313 I am truly blessed. 😊

    • @fragrantbloom
      @fragrantbloom 4 месяца назад +25

      Your mother stopped the cycle. She did a great job.

    • @cheriyost2780
      @cheriyost2780 4 месяца назад +8

      @@fragrantbloom she sure did!

  • @itsthepens
    @itsthepens 23 дня назад +4

    My god, what a harrowing story. My heart goes out to this wonderful, kind, powerfully strong woman. No-one should ever have to deal with something like this, and yet she’s here, sharing her terrible pain with us and a still a beacon of warmth and light and kindness. She deserves the world.

  • @om617yota8
    @om617yota8 4 месяца назад +115

    Love how she lights up at the end, talking about being the best auntie. Your nieces and nephews are so lucky to have you.

  • @patriciarocco2610
    @patriciarocco2610 4 месяца назад +1027

    You were meant to be born. You are such a loving and beautiful person. I am so sorry that you were burdened with this knowledge.

  • @stephaniem8278
    @stephaniem8278 4 месяца назад +25

    I just want to give her a hug. Most adopted children go through a lot of trauma and she had to experience it twice over. I’m glad she had closure with her family and that she was able to alleviate the pain a bit by sharing her story.

  • @debbiethompson14
    @debbiethompson14 4 месяца назад +284

    AUNTIES ARE EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I got all of my moral values from my great aunt. Aunt Billie (Elizabeth) Was my grandfather sister. She took care of my siblings and I when my father was in jail and my mother was in the hospital. I learned about to value materialistic things over heart felt things. I learned to be honest hardworking and family oriented because of her. I don't think she'll ever know how valuable she was to my life. She passed away at 83 thirty years ago, and I still miss her so much. She met more than to me than my mother ever would or my father. God bless you. Please know that you are loved and valued more than you'll ever know.🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤

    • @susanearhart7585
      @susanearhart7585 4 месяца назад +10

      Most definitely aunts are important! My aunt is still my aunt, even after she divorced my uncle. I told her not long ago, I didn't know how else to call her. I love my aunt, and she is one of the most wonderful, giving, loving woman I've ever met.

    • @Decently.kinkyy
      @Decently.kinkyy Месяц назад

      What WHAT? Learned to value materialistic things over heart felt things! HOW SICK!

    • @roslyne_8363
      @roslyne_8363 Месяц назад

      @Decently.kinkyy I Believe She Meant To Not Value Materials. It Was A Typo .

  • @outofthesinking
    @outofthesinking 4 месяца назад +196

    What a wonderful lady. Her adoptive parents got a great gift when she came into their lives.

  • @jamesb.9155
    @jamesb.9155 4 месяца назад +27

    This Madam is a Heroine of honesty and many noble virtues.

  • @catecurry48
    @catecurry48 4 месяца назад +234

    I am so glad you told your parents, and that they were fully supportive of you.

  • @Jonesy-q1p
    @Jonesy-q1p 4 месяца назад +307

    It's a miracle to have had your wonderful adoptive parents. ❤ You turned out lovely.

  • @rebeccaandrews8834
    @rebeccaandrews8834 4 месяца назад +9

    Teresa you're awesome. What an epic and intense story to tell so bravely and confidently. Shows the healing you had to do to get here.

  • @kathrynbrook9261
    @kathrynbrook9261 4 месяца назад +114

    What a lovely lady , her nieces and nephews are very lucky

  • @cindyreames2784
    @cindyreames2784 4 месяца назад +551

    They were sick and you had nothing to do with your conception. You’re a beautiful woman and it’s their loss for getting to know you!

    • @melmelb6146
      @melmelb6146 4 месяца назад +22

      How do you know they were sick? Do you personally know them or do you just state your moral judgement based on on 3 mins of info?
      The one fact that we know is that her mother was 14 when she got pregnant, so she was a child. The rest is just speculation…

    • @NsTheName
      @NsTheName 4 месяца назад +71

      @@melmelb6146I thought her mother was 16 when she gave birth and her father was 14?

    • @TurtleMyrtle12
      @TurtleMyrtle12 4 месяца назад +63

      ​@melmelb6146 Did you not listen? Her medical history says her father was her mother's brother and she confirmed by meeting them that it was a willing union between the two siblings.

    • @gigi-ij1hk
      @gigi-ij1hk 4 месяца назад +41

      Clearly something was very wrong in the home they were in, as incest is one of the strongest of our societal taboos. But as we don't know what they went through as children, I don't think we can or should judge them. They did what they did for a reason and they didn't compound the problem by raising their baby in the same troubled environment.

    • @melmelb6146
      @melmelb6146 4 месяца назад +14

      @@TurtleMyrtle12 no. All she saw was a man she assumed was her father based on her impression, but nothing was actually confirmed. Even if that was her biological father, many people can live with their abusers for all their lives, so let’s not jump to conclusions based on suppositions from a 10 minute meeting
      And her medical history didn’t corroborate anything, it was all based on her orphanage records.

  • @MDThomps1907
    @MDThomps1907 4 месяца назад +8

    You are a wonderful person - I could tell that less than one minute into your interview. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and candor in sharing your story. You deserve love and I hope that there are people in your life who have made you feel loved.

  • @Laycie1976
    @Laycie1976 4 месяца назад +1055

    I was 15 when I was told my mom was raped by her cousin which resulted in me. For years I watched my mom struggled with mental health. She attempted suicide so many times. This one time they sent her away for nearly a year. Sitting at a cafe with my grandma and aunt I begged them to please take me. I didn't want to live with my dad (very abu$ive) what was said next changed the rest of my life. My aunt said don't worry you won't have to he isn't your real dad. My grandma went on to explain that my mom was raped by her cousin. I'm nearly 50 they didn't believe in abortion and adoption wasn't an option. My mom continued to struggle with mental health. My family was horrible to her and me. When she would get placed in the hospital they would tell me it's all my fault. All I could think is how horrible life was for my mom. I couldn't imagine looking at this child every single day. My mom never once spoke about it after she found out I was told. We were very close. I loved her I just wish this wasn't part of our story. My mom ended up turning to religion her faith made her happy. I didn't understand and honestly still don't today. She struggled with mental health her entire life. My kids gave her so much love. When she found out she was going to be a great grandma she was so happy. I backed away because I wanted her to have some happiness in her life. I regret that choice now. She took her life on Nov 10th 2022. I never saw it coming I thought she was ok. I have always wanted to confront him. He was literally at family reunions and big family get togethers. I didn't want to make my mom's life worse so I held it in. I was determined to after she passed to find out he died the same week. I don't understand why people say this is God's plan. God wanted all this? I spent most of my life watching my mom live a hell no one should have to live. I live knowing I came from nothing good. I wish I would have been adopted or aborted maybe my mom would have had a better life. I have some comfort knowing she is where she believed she would be. She isn't in pain anymore. I wish I could believe like her.

    • @Meeeesje
      @Meeeesje 4 месяца назад +157

      I'm so sorry for all you've gone through. Life can be so unfair. Sending you all the love and healing you so much deserve. 💕

    • @DeborahStJohn-c1h
      @DeborahStJohn-c1h 4 месяца назад +146

      ⁠None of this was your fault. You deserve to be loved and not,to,feel shame. Take care of yourself please.

    • @Laycie1976
      @Laycie1976 4 месяца назад +13

      @@Meeeesje tysvm ❤️

    • @Laycie1976
      @Laycie1976 4 месяца назад

      @@DeborahStJohn-c1h tysm ❤️

    • @Alltagundso
      @Alltagundso 4 месяца назад +35

      Thank you for sharing this! All the best. ❤

  • @sandyFreePalestine
    @sandyFreePalestine 4 месяца назад +93

    Beautiful lady. And yes, having an Auntie that loves you dearly is a very, very special gift.

  • @celeste7301
    @celeste7301 Месяц назад +8

    This woman should be so proud of what she's gotten herself through.

  • @jeankollantai9342
    @jeankollantai9342 4 месяца назад +549

    Another big problem was the adoption agency. They had the records and knew what was in them--there should have been some support and guidance for her from a social worker or counselor at the time she first read them, rather than leaving her blindsided and alone...

    • @Hayri2011
      @Hayri2011 4 месяца назад +58

      Rofl there was no such thing as counseling back then. No one cared about people's trauma

    • @Pinkranger87
      @Pinkranger87 4 месяца назад +21

      @@Hayri2011they didn't understand it.

    • @mwoods1052
      @mwoods1052 4 месяца назад +12

      ⁠@@Hayri2011 and it is such a human taboo, copulating with your sibling. Not ok in anybody’s book.

    • @emusaurus
      @emusaurus 4 месяца назад

      Yes, because that was a thing at the time lol

    • @sharonmcloughlin
      @sharonmcloughlin 4 месяца назад +11

      Im one of those children. Befire I was able to obtain all my adoption records and before I knew the situation, I had to see a counsellor, who then told me the details. This was in about 2004..

  • @keithjones9546
    @keithjones9546 4 месяца назад +88

    So glad she got to hear from the people who raised her that they would have loved her no matter who her birth parents were and what they had done. I hope her story helps to make a positive influence on others who have similar stories.

  • @zoe-pz8eh
    @zoe-pz8eh 4 месяца назад +3

    What a great woman. I've never seen someone talking so calm and yet not trying to hide emotions. Much love. ❤

  • @mephisto1176
    @mephisto1176 4 месяца назад +718

    This woman is stronger than most Marines I served with

    • @SonyaHudson
      @SonyaHudson 4 месяца назад +5

      💜💜💜💜💜💜

    • @JackieDaytona1776
      @JackieDaytona1776 4 месяца назад +24

      Odd slight of the Marines but alright lol

    • @pauldeanda4985
      @pauldeanda4985 4 месяца назад +8

      This has absolutely nothing comparable with being a Marine! At least not when I was in, 84-88 field artillery Camp LeJeune! 🤷‍♂️

    • @pauldeanda4985
      @pauldeanda4985 4 месяца назад +7

      I wonder how much her religious upbringing had to do with how she digested this issue! I wonder if she would have had a different view,had she not grown up with a religious upbringing or lesser of one, ir a totally different religion. Or, it just appears that she was born with a very strong sub-conscience. She needs to be a bit more selfish when it comes to this issue.

    • @raggedyanarchist
      @raggedyanarchist 4 месяца назад +14

      @@pauldeanda4985 so how'd YOU get so fragile?

  • @Bette_Fontenot
    @Bette_Fontenot 4 месяца назад +46

    My heart aches for this beautiful and kind woman. You were raised by parents who chose you and wanted you and loved you. You were made to be their child. And no doubt, you brought them so much joy and completed their family.

  • @dbcruser3133
    @dbcruser3133 4 месяца назад +4

    This lady has a lot of courage, she held her life together when so many would fall apart. Blessing to this very fine lady.

  • @barb679
    @barb679 4 месяца назад +75

    What a beautiful soul this woman is... God made you perfectly.

  • @marytermini1381
    @marytermini1381 4 месяца назад +68

    You are NOT unworthy!!! You have no control over the way you were conceived! You seem like such a sweet person! May God bless you!

  • @em-bw9dp
    @em-bw9dp 4 месяца назад +6

    I just want to give her a big hug. We love you! You deserved better!

  • @neilseagrave3975
    @neilseagrave3975 4 месяца назад +49

    Your bravery in telling this is immense. You shouldn't feel ashamed in any way, shape or form. Take care ❤

  • @blobbybobs1
    @blobbybobs1 4 месяца назад +137

    I am so sorry you have been hurt like this. Your adoptive parents obviously loved you very much.

  • @vishy
    @vishy 3 месяца назад +6

    I respect this woman a lot. She seems like a gem of a human being

  • @bananie2383
    @bananie2383 4 месяца назад +33

    I for one am very glad you’re here- good people are needed more than ever. God bless you.

  • @dianevetter4260
    @dianevetter4260 4 месяца назад +21

    She is to be commended for her strength. Daily blessings for her.

  • @peteshop
    @peteshop 28 дней назад +3

    What a brave and sweet woman. I’m sure she’s an amazing auntie.

  • @susanpera2131
    @susanpera2131 4 месяца назад +42

    What a beautiful lovely lady. Very sad that she carried that burden which was not of her making.

  • @dianethompson2458
    @dianethompson2458 4 месяца назад +136

    You are not a mistake. You are here, and this world is a better place because of it. I adopted a child with fetal alcohol syndrome. I love him with my whole heart despite his struggles with drugs and alcohol. He is this way because his mother drank heavily for the first 4 months of her pregnancy. That is a fact. Neither her nor my son are to blame for their behaviour. Please know that you did nothing wrong. You had parents who raised you and loved you dearly. I feel privileged to be my sons mother. I'm sure your adopted parents felt the same way. Be proud of who you are, and know that you are loved. Blessed Be from Canada ❤

  • @mrpickles6968
    @mrpickles6968 26 дней назад +5

    I have nothing but huge respect and bravery for getting something like this off her chest to share with the whole world. She maybe a result of incest but she looks and sounds incredibly well mentally and physically despite her circumstances. I’m pleased that she plucked up the courage to tell her real parents (the ones whole raised her) what she learnt about herself and she was still loved and accepted the same as before, her birth parents aren’t worth the time of dayna obviously have no shame they brought on their daughter. Thank you so much for telling us your story xx

  • @FreeEnergy137
    @FreeEnergy137 4 месяца назад +120

    The silver lining is that you are the best auntie!❤

  • @mariewilliams602
    @mariewilliams602 4 месяца назад +35

    You are a beautiful person . Don't ever feel unwanted your adoptive parents has loved you and your nieces and nephews love love ❤❤❤❤

  • @deborahchasteen3206
    @deborahchasteen3206 24 дня назад +1

    Oh, bless you. You are a gift. I'm so sorry you have felt unworthy, and for the great pain you've had. Your family is so fortunate in you.

  • @Zantemakeup
    @Zantemakeup 4 месяца назад +13

    What a wonderful lady. You were conceived and born because obviously this world needed you here

  • @Saeshmea
    @Saeshmea 4 месяца назад +112

    I'm glad she was adopted by a clearly lovely family that raised her well and loved her unconditionally. I'm sorry she never got the closure she needed with her biological parents.

  • @Nooticus
    @Nooticus 4 месяца назад +37

    One of the most heartbreaking stories I've heard in ages. The discovery of the initial way she was concieved was horrific enough, but then the rejection as an adult right after seeing them in person... that must've been catastrophic. She is insanely strong to make it through that alive. All respect to you Teresa.

  • @emmaclapham209
    @emmaclapham209 4 месяца назад +96

    What a wonderfully articulate lady, so sorry her dreams were broken through no fault of her own.

    • @lisalarouge6309
      @lisalarouge6309 4 месяца назад +6

      Too bad she never talked to a doctor about having children.😢

  • @FionaLamb-j7l
    @FionaLamb-j7l 4 месяца назад +58

    You are a beautiful soul, elegant and elequent...I am an adotive mother and occasionally I remind my sons that their parents gave them the greatest gift of all....life.

  • @tawnieh3397
    @tawnieh3397 3 месяца назад +21

    Her smile at 10:21. I love her peace.❤

  • @sbalsamo410
    @sbalsamo410 4 месяца назад +48

    I’m really pleased she told her parents too.

  • @Chossid-er6nl
    @Chossid-er6nl 4 месяца назад +56

    Amazing lady. Such a test in her life and such a courage. You look amazingly healthy and you’re certainly bright. You have led a great life. Very inspiring.

  • @Kiwiwanderer
    @Kiwiwanderer Месяц назад +3

    What a wonderful woman. Loving adoptive parents. She would have been such a good mother. Lucky nieces and nephews.

  • @FormerTory92
    @FormerTory92 4 месяца назад +15

    Courageous & articulate. Devastating to imagine. Well done her.

  • @AmberUnavailable
    @AmberUnavailable 4 месяца назад +10

    I love this woman… She is so much better than her beginnings and I really hope that she knows that. She is worthy. She is kind and she has a lot of people who love her including the people who don’t even know her. I think she’s amazing and an inspiration.

  • @mammabearjo5483
    @mammabearjo5483 27 дней назад +2

    You're a wonderful person.
    Shame is not your burden to carry. Don't take what isn't yours.
    Keep being you!
    Enjoy life

  • @Patkatdep
    @Patkatdep 4 месяца назад +86

    You are a beautiful woman!!! And God loves you!! Thank you for being brave to tell your story.❤❤❤

  • @deedeeblanscet4433
    @deedeeblanscet4433 4 месяца назад +13

    You’re a lovely person that was dealt quite a blow in life, and even with that, you made a conscious decision to be the best aunt in the world. I’ve often said that auntie is one of the most cherished roles in my life and I take it seriously. Consequently, I’m the favorite aunt, lol. Your nieces and nephews are blessed ❤

  • @skylinerunner1695
    @skylinerunner1695 3 месяца назад +3

    The courage of this woman is truly humbling. I am so glad she at least has the peace of knowing she was fully loved by her adoptive parents even with the knowledge of her conception.

  • @SandiByrd
    @SandiByrd 4 месяца назад +66

    I fully relate to the part at 5:41 when she speaks of not recognizing her own features in anyone. I received that magical gift with the birth of my son. It's mind blowing when you've spent a lifetime being your own island.

    • @catecurry48
      @catecurry48 4 месяца назад +1

      I am not adopted, but I have family members who are, and I have always thought about that....having people around you who look like you. I can see why having a bio child would fill that void. Congratulations.

    • @SandiByrd
      @SandiByrd 4 месяца назад +1

      @@catecurry48 Thanks very much. 🥰 it's a wild experience. I wish this poor woman had a better memory of it.

    • @Superior208
      @Superior208 4 месяца назад

      I don't think physical features should matter. Personality traits between family members are more important in my opinion.. that transcends biology & would make adopted or having a step parent much more easy going

    • @AngelJuliet
      @AngelJuliet 4 месяца назад +2

      I’m adopted and not only did I have no one, everyone else is white while I am Hispanic. Completely different!
      I finally got two mini mes with my sons. But my younger son looks so much like me it’s unreal. I finally see my face in his face.

    • @73cidalia
      @73cidalia 4 месяца назад +1

      Well, my first born looked nothing like me and entirely like his father, so there's that. With four children now, only one looks like me. 😅

  • @promayes8186
    @promayes8186 4 месяца назад +6

    Bless this ladies heart . She is so brave to even tell her story

  • @oceansapart2249
    @oceansapart2249 23 дня назад +2

    From an internet stranger - that feeling of rejection is painful. To face that 2 is horrible, sending you lots of love. You’ve grown into an amazing person. Your view of the situation is great. I wish you the best of luck on the future

  • @goosemother4224
    @goosemother4224 4 месяца назад +57

    Your a beautiful soul, god bless you.

  • @TheCarole63
    @TheCarole63 4 месяца назад +22

    I’m sorry for your pain. Your adoptive parents were a gift💕

  • @anisamanoban
    @anisamanoban 22 дня назад +1

    What a gorgeous and kind hearted woman. Please never think of that way gorgeous, you are not responsible for the way you were conceived!

  • @marcierenee15
    @marcierenee15 4 месяца назад +8

    What a beautiful soul- I'm sure she is a very treasured Auntie.

  • @Renee-b2y
    @Renee-b2y 4 месяца назад +10

    I'm so sorry that you felt unworthy of love. I am so.pleased for you that you finally told your parents and were able to lift that burden for yourself. I hope you now feel fully deserving of love and feel a sense of peace. Thank you for your enormous courage in sharing your story. ❤❤❤❤

  • @tdecker2937
    @tdecker2937 4 месяца назад +3

    Bless you, dear lady. You are a brave, tender, lovable person.

  • @naomidoss1837
    @naomidoss1837 4 месяца назад +56

    I wish I could give her a hug

  • @lindapindabelinda3570
    @lindapindabelinda3570 4 месяца назад +932

    This is such a sad story. One conversation with a geneticist and she would’ve known that there was virtually no extra risk for her children.

    • @3DJapan
      @3DJapan 4 месяца назад +64

      Yes, I've heard problems wouldn't occur for several generations.

    • @ScouseJazmin
      @ScouseJazmin 4 месяца назад +262

      Maybe back when she wanted to have children, the understanding of genetics wasn't as comprehensive as today.

    • @JustBen81
      @JustBen81 4 месяца назад +72

      ​@@3DJapanand the problems would disappear the moment she had children with someone not closely related to her.

    • @gail9299
      @gail9299 4 месяца назад +77

      @@ScouseJazmin very true we forget that all the medical knowledge we have now was not available decades ago - no DNA matches etc then. Very different times.

    • @joretta8251
      @joretta8251 4 месяца назад

      @@3DJapanIf a defect did not show up in her it is unlikely it would show up in her offspring due to most are carried on recessive genes.

  • @LaughingLil21
    @LaughingLil21 Месяц назад +1

    What a beautiful soul. I can’t even imagine the pain that she went through.

  • @flufwix
    @flufwix 4 месяца назад +9

    You were blessed with wonderful adoptive parents and you are a blessing for your family, especially your neices and nephews

    • @naomitrask751
      @naomitrask751 4 месяца назад

      What a sad, wonderful story. May God richly bless you-you are loved.

  • @thekatt...
    @thekatt... 4 месяца назад +32

    Your bio parents created a wonderful you. There's nothing for you to be ashamed of.
    You're meant to be here. And I'm glad you are.
    💜🇨🇦

  • @gani2an1
    @gani2an1 2 месяца назад +1

    She seems like a beautiful, wonderful person. Just want to hug her

  • @gillhoward7975
    @gillhoward7975 4 месяца назад +19

    You are not responsible for your parents life, only your own and you are a lovely lady x