And “got on with his life”. Likely resumed his job, his position in the religious group and no doubt the conspiratorial mother stayed with him. Appalling and frankly ridiculous that she did not leave the first time she got pregnant. I am older than her and roommates were a dime a dozen back then.
@@lindaaitken7679i thought the short time was due to him being a special constable so he had nore connections to shorten his jailtine. Really though his sentencw was way too lax.
The craziest thing is that if I saw this woman in the streets I would have never thought this had happened to her. You never know the silent battles people are facing.
@@juliemarks9952No of course not. I don't walk around with a label on my shirt telling the world I'm a fag8...amongst other things of course, so why should she wear one telling the world her story? Most people, for better, for worse, keep their inner battles hidden...sometimes hidden so well, their mind hides the worst excesses of them from even themselves. From my experience of this, it's as a form of psychological self defence. And sometimes, if you go digging too deeply in order to (at least try to) 'fix yourself', you begin to wish you'd never even begun the process. Such is my 🌎. Some things are hidden deep in your subconscious for a reason, and should thus (in my opinion anyway) be left well alone. But, and if in all your earnest zeal you end up unearthing them, it's almost impossible to put them back in your Pandora's box (where they well belong). My one is large. In both dimensions...even if it's hinges are about what you'd expect of a box capable of storing all your 🤪 stuff. Not to mention capable of holding all your precious family jewelry, or is it all your jewels, I can never quite decide... Sometimes, I think, IT IS actually possible to 'know yourself' (and why you are as you are) almost rather too well, becoming a hindrance to what remains of the rest of your life... Beware..! PS: I'm a huge success at parties...unless I get half drunk...or at minimum at least quarter. It takes the edge off all my psychological, if not at all my physical...💩. In my experience of both of them anyway. Apologies for (all) the mental pictures, as well as for being... Not. And also, congratulations for making it to the end. Many haven't, so I gather, getting tangled, if not lost altogether, amongst all the innuendo. But, and as I'm (fully) 🧮, as well as (half) 🇬🇧, I guess it's almost compulsory, don't you think?
@luns486 I just say what I think! Yes, she is brave enough to carry on her normal everyday life! But at the same time, she doesn't want people's attention or pity. She just wants to go about her business! She's probably had years of therapy to face everyday life! So no, I didn't miss the point. I totally understood it! We all suffer in silence!! Get my point now?
@@juliemarks9952 i agree with you 100% but i also know what the comment meant bc I thought the same, its exactly the SHOCK of listening to this and look at the person we are thinking it would be someone completely broken i dont know its shocking and I think she is beyond brave beyond BRAVE and she looks lovely and a survivor of something HORRENDOUS, i dont know what this does to a person
'' I had my two younger sisters to think about so ...'' '' as long as he was doing it to me, he werent doing it to them '' that was like a punch in the gut. This woman deserves every happiness in the world. I hope she sees our messages on this thread and know that many of us here have genuine deep respect and love for her and her bravery. Mandy, thank you for sharing your story, you'll be saving another girls life by doing so.
And to think them little sisters harassing my mum and blame her. This guys in all these people and children's life's.. is that normal?? He raped his own CHILD DAUGHTER for years and years and he's allowed near grandkids even his daughters after prison your telling me hes never ever done it again!?!?!?.. it ain't right my poor mum x
yes, there is a similar story on another channel about a girl who cut a deal with her grandfather to protect her sisters from him. yeah, it was single white underbelly.
@Hjominbonrun my mum didn't cut no deal with him he abused and raped her since she was a child and my mum had it in her head she was protecting her sisters if he was doing it to her he wasn't doing it to them!!! And she'll never even know either
My brother sexually assaulted me when I was a little girl. He was a monster, especially to me. Many, many, many years of verbal, mental & physical abuse, not just towards me (although I got the brunt of it), but towards my parents. Even as an adult, & telling myself he can’t hurt me, just phone the police etc.. he had that hold over me, this internal fear that I can’t even begin to express, so I can completely understand her when she says she’s terrified of her father. My ‘brother’ died 9 months after the sudden passing of my mum, dropped down of a huge heart attack aged 44. I called it karma. No, I didn’t go to his funeral. I told my other two brothers about the abuse, but they either didn’t care or didn’t believe me, which left me more broken. I found out after his passing, he had pushed many, many false narratives, stories & lies onto extended family members we weren’t in touch with (as he’d burnt so many bridges with us we didn’t have any contact with him), so even in death, he manipulated others against me and the rest of the family - including the narrative he was sexually abused himself, which he was not. I knew him so well, that I knew he had made up this story (yes, he was THAT warped & disgusting) to cover his own tracks if I ever came forward, to victimise himself all over again. That was his entire life.. playing the victim. No point reporting it to the police now. He’s long gone. Took me years to even admit what he’d done to me, I thought I had a sick imagination and it was all in my head. I’m sending her so, so much love and strength. I’m so, so sorry you went through this. I truly am. I hope your dad rots. x
Omg! You deserve so much love and peace. I cannot believe the life you’ve lived and having the courage and strength to get through that horrible part of your life.!! I hope you are around loving and supportive people because you deserve it!! sending you a big hug❤🙏🏼‼️
I’m so sorry for what you had to go through. I was sexually abused by two family members as a child who have now passed. But I’ve always hated the ones who made me feel at fault or covered it up more than the ones who did it to me. One whom made me lie to investigators as a child to cover up for the abuser. Both enablers keep in contact with each other giving information on me and always trying to make me feel guilty for not talking to them bc of the family title. It almost drives me to end it bc that’s the only way to escape them but I won’t. I’ll never get justice and it eats me alive but at least the ones who sexually assaulted me are gone
My dad was a real sicko to me And he spread horrible lies about me when I stopped wanting to be around him And has cut me off from the family for almost 20 years. They lie to make us look like we aren't credible.
I thought the same thing....I imagine it's the scared, confused little girl still in her mind that's reverting back to what she said she believed was the normal thing for fathers to do :-(
I got the feeling that she phrased it that way because it's very hard for her to say it. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been to speak up about it, especially when she hadn't been believed the first time.
"The first time I reported it to the police was before I'd had the children... and they didn't believe me, because my father was a special constable." This is heartbreaking, that she looked for help but the people who could have helped ignored her. I hope she is in a much better place now. She is a very strong person, though she didn't have to be as a child - she should have been protected.
Well done for speaking up. You were a child and he knew what he was doing. Some humans...pure plotting, evil beings. Bless you for having to burden this load.
I have not heard of this Lady before - I'm so Thankful that she has strength and can speak the truth of what her evil father did to her. Looking online he was still able to volunteer within the Salvation Army - I find that incredible that after a court case and prison time, they felt he could still be part of them. I have no words Mandy - I'm similar age to you - I cannot imagine what you went through. Sending you fondest wishes. Keep strong, keep talking. xx
@@Soulfulshal1962 Actually that is what baffles me too. I don’t understand how a convicted criminal would not be disallowed to hold a prominent position in the SA. But it is always interesting to see how predators and other human garbage manage to affiliate themselves with religious organizations. Where does common sense come in? Yes I realize that SA is a charitable group and I commend them for their contribution to the needy but when it comes to people who are overseeing their operations, do they not have any screening processes? It seems like there was an awful amount of blind naïveté going around that area. JS.
@@lululacanuck3824 I agree with you Lulula - it's really beyond shocking that the SA would continue to allow him back into the fold - if it was still the local branch, the rest of his colleagues would know what he is - I certainly would want him nowhere near myself - why would anyone? Sadly, I think church organisations have been a breeding ground for this type of sickness - they all flock together, protect each other. Look the other way. How anyone locally could have looked him in the face after finding this out, is beyond the pale. I hope Mandy is living the life she wants - how anyone would get over this I don't know.
how heartbreaking to be a daddys girl and for him to abuse you and break your heart. The way you speak about what happened to you is incredibly brave. I can not imagine a worse betrayal. im sorry you've had such a horrendous past, hope your future is brighter ❤
It's very common actually. It's a way to disassociate from what's taking place. Intrinsically she knew it wasn't right but she just couldn't understand. Her body knew though. I feel for her.
So sad for you and for your sons who are a result of this. I can’t imagine what your son that you havnt seen for a long time must feel. The shame and the pain. Just disgraceful.
I’m so very sorry for all you experienced. It. Was. Not. Your. Fault. Never forget that. I was sexually abused at 3 - 6, then again as an adult. People just don’t understand how it affects us or why we can’t ‘tell’ or walk away. I’m 63 now and all abuse finally stopped at age 57. I have had therapy and taken/taking medications but I’m triggered more now my life is free of it all than when it was happening. Again, my heart goes out to you. Much love and you’re so strong and brave to talk about it. 🌻🥰🙅♀️🥰
I think you're triggered more now because you are processing and dealing with it. That's been my experience as a fellow survivor. It's like our brains know we can't deal with the implications until we're safe. I really, really hope you are finding freedom and joy in your new life 💖💖💖
Kids are scared to say anything because these monsters face MINIMAL repercussions. This needs to change. Utmost respect to this woman for continuing on and overcoming such abhorrent treatment
I’m so sorry you were put through this horrible ordeal 🙏🏻thank you for speaking up. My best friend was sexually abused by a policeman . I think that it must be so difficult when it’s someone who is so called a “ respectable “ member of society !
To call him a demon would be insulting a demon. I am so sorry you went through this but please please to you and every survivor of child abuse ,,,, it was not your fault ❤
I’ll never understand people who don’t teach their kids openly about sex. It is protecting them, if they know what’s happening and know it’s wrong and know they can openly tell you they are more protected.
Yup. My mom comes from a pretty conservative and religious background but even she didn’t shy away from teaching me and my sisters that it was not okay to be touched in certain places and that other people showing us their privates or telling us to keep secrets was not okay and that we needed to tell her even if we were threatened not to. She said she remembers grown men saying disgusting things to her, flashing her, and propositioning her when she was clearly still a child, so that’s why it was so important to her to make sure we were safe. My aunt, her sister, was abandoned by her husband and left with two young children. She *never* dated after that because she always said that she would not risk her children’s safety by bringing a man into her house just for her own pleasure. You just can’t be too careful and it’s so important to teach kids about this stuff so that they know this isn’t okay and that they should never be afraid to ask for help.
Mandy, what an incredible woman you are, incredible that you can tell your story with so much calm, I cannot imagine what you are feeling as you talk this experience out load. Huge love and respect to you x
That fear is the little girl who suffered far too much, and he got far too little jail/punishment! Yes take back your power! So brave, so strong! Bravo!👏💕
Such an amazingly brave and courageous woman. I specialise in trauma work and always admire those who are able to speak out alongside those who choose to not share. I hope all survivors can find someone to support them.
I’m so very sorry for what you had to go through it never ceases to amaze me how depraved some people/parents are 😢 you are a beautiful strong brave woman and mum❤
These light sentences after vile assaults like this on young kids make me feel like the victims may feel like they don't even matter. It shows that the pedophiles are all up in the justice system too. Absolutely ridiculous.
You are such a powerful positive person. well done in telling your story. well done for what you have done and achieved now. your father i can not understand, im sorry this has happened to you ,18 months is nothing to what he put you through. well done again. i can not write what id like to say . Good luck for your future
Just awful..counting the flowers I found really upsetting. You’re very brave and I admire you for talking about what that waste of space did you to you
We need to campaign for harsher sentences for SA. I am so so enraged with the sentences for SA cases. I'm a survivor of SA too. I am so sorry you went through this. The justice system does not seem to fully understand the life sentence being SA has on the individual. Whilst we do say we're survivors, there is no taking away from the fact that it does affect the rest of your life. It never goes away. You learn to become stronger etc., but it is always there, even when you don't seem to think it is. Why does the justice system give such light sentences to the perpetrators!?
So sorry for you Mandy I didn't have the best start in life myself I grew up in care but I met so many other kids who were betrayed and sexually exploited by their parents it goes on more than we're led to believe.
Fellow SA survivor. I'm sorry this happened to you. That person wasn't a Father he should have been locked up forever. Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. Hope you find some kind of peace telling your story.
This is why as a teacher, you treat every student with respect. You don’t know what they go through at home. You can make your expectations clear, but you can’t talk down to them, because they are heros.
I’m not ridiculous. They behave for me. And they say hello to me in the grocery store. You can’t judge them. You don’t have enough information. You just let them know what is expected. Learned this from my dad, the chief master at arms on the US Simon Lake. There’s always a back story. There has to be limits snd consequences, but not shaming and condescension. That woman saved her younger from being raped. That’s a hero. I know a young woman just like that. They’re young they don’t understand their emotions and they act out when you talk down to them.
I am very proud of you for speaking out. Were you forced to live at home when you became pregnant twice by that person? Im so glad you have such a loving and caring husband now who loves your sons as well.
I can’t believe the evil that exists in the world. I’m so sorry but your mother should have protected you. She must have known or was wilfully blind to it.
A vulnerable child but what a strong, courageous lady to speak her truth. So sorry the justice system let you down and he only served a miserly 18 months. As a fellow survivor also let down by the system I feel people should hear these accounts and hopefully be absolutely aware that this goes on . Look out for our children and save as many as we can from these sick individuals. Your courage astounds me , I appreciate your bravery, your selflessness brings me to tears ❤sending love
I was abused when i was 13 yrs old for almost a year, by someone who i trusted within my family. I reported the abuse to the police and my abuser received a 6 month sentence suspended for 2 years- back in the 80s it wasn't talked about much, hushed up, very little support for victims, you were expected to just get over it and get on with your life. I can assure you victims of child abuse continue to suffer, they have to deal with the aftermath and lenient sentencing only increases the suffering. The abuser makes their victim feel worthless and betrays their trust, a lenient sentence compounds that feeling of worthlessness and adds to it a feeling of further betrayal . I am nearly 50yrs old and i still question "If i had been braver and said "stop" the first time it happened, would the abuse have been continued? Would it have made it worse? Why did the courts think the abuse so trivial? Why was i made to feel like i was a huge troublemaker because i had spoken out?
@@Ags-g1n Please don’t say that the 80’s were as backward as you describe. As a woman who is nearly 2 decades older than you I recall the 80’s as being the time when there were many many organizations to rescue these girls. Child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed by enlightened courts and victims were provided support and safe housing.
@@lululacanuck3824 not every victim was supported or provided with safe housing. The children's act came into force in the late eighties but not enforced entirely in the courts. Yes, there were organisations raising awareness but it was still hushed up, if it could be brushed under the carpet, it was brushed under the carpet. Organisations were raising awareness surrounding child abuse, encouraging victims to speak out but courts were still backwards at coming forward with stricter sentencing.
@@Ags-g1n 1. I am so sorry you were harmed by someone who betrayed your trust. It was never your fault and you did the best you could to protect yourself. I hope you are in a position to pursue healing in a safe space ❤ 2. Please pay no mind to the person above who for whatever reason is far more interested in discounting personal LIVED experiences (such as yours and the subject of this video) than simply accepting that not everyone's life was the same as her own. I don't know what world this person was/is living in but I am flabbergasted at the claim that "child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed" and resources were easily accessible to survivors when even today in 2024 that is simply not true! Justice and appropriate care is seriously inadequate when it comes to child abuse, CSA, domestic violence, sexual assualt etc It is at best a smidgen less undervalued and pathetically undercriminalized as it was in previous decades. No one should ever be made to question their experience in such a disrespectful way. I am sorry for that too!
@@Ags-g1n Actually child protection agencies have existed in North America since the turn of the century (1875) focusing primarily on neglect and battery, by community organizations. However, csa became recognized as early as the early 60’s. By 1962, child protective services were established nation wide. Of course, this is in North America. I find it hard to believe that a metropolitan area like London and its environs was that behind. I understand that you are from England, yes? Obviously the lady featured in this article is from England. Her accent is unmistakable. Also, your age of 13 at the time of the abuse is a vastly different circumstance of her being a legal adult.
*I don't know ANY women who haven't been sexually assaulted/abused!* 💯 (besides myself) *LET THAT SINK IN!!...* 😶🥺 I wish this lady the absolute BEST for the rest of her life.. ❤ She was failed.. Along with many others. *If you see/know something...SAY SOMETHING!!* ❤💯
Respect you ma'am..for living a life that brought struggles from the ones who are supposed to care and support you...feel proud of this people for speaking out and for having a platform to speak out so the upcoming generations can benefit
This is the most powerful woman I've ever seen. Thank you for sharing your experience and being able to carry on living your life, taking back your power. Such a beautiful human being. This world is absolutely cruel
My story is very silmar i was 13 wen my biological father raped me for years and my son died wen he was 4 due to insest.its disgusting thst my oen father dothis to me.i did take him to court and a few other girls came forward so my sperm dona got 18 years but only had to 9of them the justice system as it all wrong.x
Thank you Mandy for sharing; they come in all shapes and sizes, rich, poor, black brown, and brindle; a terrible stain of what it is to be human...men as the majority of predators should be speaking up and out about this the most heinous of all crimes, creating a terrible, unstable, sad, fearful and angry society.
I went to school with a girl who was in foster care because her dad had been R*ping her and her sisters and their mom knew about it but ignored it. I know that the dad went to prison but I don’t recall if the mom did any time. I checked up on her a few years ago and she seems to be doing fine. She works with animals and I think she finished college. Last I heard though is that her dad is out, her parents are still together, and the craziest part is that she speaks to them. I don’t even know what’s worse, SA’ing your child or knowing that your child is being SA’d and doing nothing about it.
The entire situation is bent. Its a shame an abortion wasnt on the cards for this poor woman... let alone being the child of incest & what risks mentally & physically that poses...
You’re talking about the “risks” it poses like you didn’t just say they should have been stripped of their basic human rights and murdered as babies instead. Psychotic.
Unimaginable, it is so sad to believe that a father could do such a thing. We live in a sick world. This lady has such a strong character to even talk about this. I have a lady friend who was also raped by her father, but she has only told very few people about it and the really sad thing is that her mother knew that it was going on and she never did anything about it.
Jail for 3 years and only served 18 months. The justice system in uk is a flipping joke.
I'm home alone but I audibly gasped and went "whatthefyck" when she said that.
I think the problem was she was over 20 when she became pregnant by him. Wrong I know, but I think that's why the light sentence
And “got on with his life”. Likely resumed his job, his position in the religious group and no doubt the conspiratorial mother stayed with him. Appalling and frankly ridiculous that she did not leave the first time she got pregnant. I am older than her and roommates were a dime a dozen back then.
@@lindaaitken7679i thought the short time was due to him being a special constable so he had nore connections to shorten his jailtine. Really though his sentencw was way too lax.
If you would like to educate yourself further and find the answer to these questions you have don’t hesitate to read “please save me- Mandy Yousaf”
The craziest thing is that if I saw this woman in the streets I would have never thought this had happened to her. You never know the silent battles people are facing.
What is she supposed to do to wear a label? Saying what her father did!
@@juliemarks9952wow. That point went right over your head, didn’t it?
@@juliemarks9952No of course not. I don't walk around with a label on my shirt telling the world I'm a fag8...amongst other things of course, so why should she wear one telling the world her story?
Most people, for better, for worse, keep their inner battles hidden...sometimes hidden so well, their mind hides the worst excesses of them from even themselves. From my experience of this, it's as a form of psychological self defence. And sometimes, if you go digging too deeply in order to (at least try to) 'fix yourself', you begin to wish you'd never even begun the process.
Such is my 🌎.
Some things are hidden deep in your subconscious for a reason, and should thus (in my opinion anyway) be left well alone. But, and if in all your earnest zeal you end up unearthing them, it's almost impossible to put them back in your Pandora's box (where they well belong).
My one is large. In both dimensions...even if it's hinges are about what you'd expect of a box capable of storing all your 🤪 stuff. Not to mention capable of holding all your precious family jewelry, or is it all your jewels, I can never quite decide...
Sometimes, I think, IT IS actually possible to 'know yourself' (and why you are as you are) almost rather too well, becoming a hindrance to what remains of the rest of your life...
Beware..!
PS: I'm a huge success at parties...unless I get half drunk...or at minimum at least quarter. It takes the edge off all my psychological, if not at all my physical...💩. In my experience of both of them anyway.
Apologies for (all) the mental pictures, as well as for being...
Not.
And also, congratulations for making it to the end. Many haven't, so I gather, getting tangled, if not lost altogether, amongst all the innuendo. But, and as I'm (fully) 🧮, as well as (half) 🇬🇧, I guess it's almost compulsory, don't you think?
@luns486 I just say what I think! Yes, she is brave enough to carry on her normal everyday life! But at the same time, she doesn't want people's attention or pity. She just wants to go about her business! She's probably had years of therapy to face everyday life! So no, I didn't miss the point. I totally understood it! We all suffer in silence!! Get my point now?
@@juliemarks9952 i agree with you 100% but i also know what the comment meant bc I thought the same, its exactly the SHOCK of listening to this and look at the person we are thinking it would be someone completely broken i dont know its shocking and I think she is beyond brave beyond BRAVE and she looks lovely and a survivor of something HORRENDOUS, i dont know what this does to a person
'' I had my two younger sisters to think about so ...'' '' as long as he was doing it to me, he werent doing it to them '' that was like a punch in the gut. This woman deserves every happiness in the world. I hope she sees our messages on this thread and know that many of us here have genuine deep respect and love for her and her bravery. Mandy, thank you for sharing your story, you'll be saving another girls life by doing so.
@@clair233 Thank you for your lovely comment, my mum won’t read the comments incase of any horrible ones but i’ll forward this to her 🩷
And to think them little sisters harassing my mum and blame her. This guys in all these people and children's life's.. is that normal?? He raped his own CHILD DAUGHTER for years and years and he's allowed near grandkids even his daughters after prison your telling me hes never ever done it again!?!?!?.. it ain't right my poor mum x
yes, there is a similar story on another channel about a girl who cut a deal with her grandfather to protect her sisters from him.
yeah, it was single white underbelly.
@Hjominbonrun my mum didn't cut no deal with him he abused and raped her since she was a child and my mum had it in her head she was protecting her sisters if he was doing it to her he wasn't doing it to them!!! And she'll never even know either
Couldn’t have said it better. Bless her ❤
Poor woman, she was let down by everyone in the worst way. What incredible strength she has shown to rise above it.
My brother sexually assaulted me when I was a little girl. He was a monster, especially to me. Many, many, many years of verbal, mental & physical abuse, not just towards me (although I got the brunt of it), but towards my parents. Even as an adult, & telling myself he can’t hurt me, just phone the police etc.. he had that hold over me, this internal fear that I can’t even begin to express, so I can completely understand her when she says she’s terrified of her father.
My ‘brother’ died 9 months after the sudden passing of my mum, dropped down of a huge heart attack aged 44. I called it karma. No, I didn’t go to his funeral. I told my other two brothers about the abuse, but they either didn’t care or didn’t believe me, which left me more broken. I found out after his passing, he had pushed many, many false narratives, stories & lies onto extended family members we weren’t in touch with (as he’d burnt so many bridges with us we didn’t have any contact with him), so even in death, he manipulated others against me and the rest of the family - including the narrative he was sexually abused himself, which he was not. I knew him so well, that I knew he had made up this story (yes, he was THAT warped & disgusting) to cover his own tracks if I ever came forward, to victimise himself all over again. That was his entire life.. playing the victim.
No point reporting it to the police now. He’s long gone. Took me years to even admit what he’d done to me, I thought I had a sick imagination and it was all in my head.
I’m sending her so, so much love and strength. I’m so, so sorry you went through this. I truly am. I hope your dad rots.
x
Omg! You deserve so much love and peace. I cannot believe the life you’ve lived and having the courage and strength to get through that horrible part of your life.!! I hope you are around loving and supportive people because you deserve it!! sending you a big hug❤🙏🏼‼️
I believe you. You're so strong and you deserved a blessed and happy life.
I believe you too!!! I have a similar story. The truth is the truth!!!
I’m so sorry for what you had to go through. I was sexually abused by two family members as a child who have now passed. But I’ve always hated the ones who made me feel at fault or covered it up more than the ones who did it to me. One whom made me lie to investigators as a child to cover up for the abuser. Both enablers keep in contact with each other giving information on me and always trying to make me feel guilty for not talking to them bc of the family title. It almost drives me to end it bc that’s the only way to escape them but I won’t. I’ll never get justice and it eats me alive but at least the ones who sexually assaulted me are gone
My dad was a real sicko to me
And he spread horrible lies about me when I stopped wanting to be around him
And has cut me off from the family for almost 20 years.
They lie to make us look like we aren't credible.
Imagine reporting it to police at such a young age and they dismiss you! What a sad world
Did sarawati report to police about her dad Brahma?
@ParadiseJannah_ what the HELL dyou think youre saying???she was a small child. Dont be so disgustingly disrepectful of her
Shocking and he only got 3 years, should have locked him up and thrown away the key, disgusting
3 years but only served half. Just heartbreaking.
My dad passed 2 years ago and he was my best friend i don't know how a parent could do this to any child let alone their own.
Me too, I wish this lady had the experience that we did with our lovely Dads! ❤
So sorry for your loss ❤
‘He did what he had to do.’ NO. ‘He did what he CHOSE to do.’ To say he ‘had’ to do it is to excuse the inexcusable. Love to a very brave woman.
I thought the same thing....I imagine it's the scared, confused little girl still in her mind that's reverting back to what she said she believed was the normal thing for fathers to do :-(
I got the feeling that she phrased it that way because it's very hard for her to say it. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been to speak up about it, especially when she hadn't been believed the first time.
This is very common in a certain community. This is why they promote 2 parent households so much. The men use it to their advantage 🤨
She phrased it that way because that was what she understood. It's what she knew according to her experience.
I can't ever know what this did to her.
No, SHE did what she had to do.
"The first time I reported it to the police was before I'd had the children... and they didn't believe me, because my father was a special constable." This is heartbreaking, that she looked for help but the people who could have helped ignored her. I hope she is in a much better place now. She is a very strong person, though she didn't have to be as a child - she should have been protected.
I've seen Mandy speak about this before on another documentary. Nothing but love and respect for her. An incredible woman xx
Well done for speaking up. You were a child and he knew what he was doing. Some humans...pure plotting, evil beings. Bless you for having to burden this load.
You mean men
She struggled through this for 10 plus years physically and more emotionally and all he got was 3 years, 18 months served disgusting
She will sadly struggle for the rest of her life, what a strong lady ❤❤❤
I have not heard of this Lady before - I'm so Thankful that she has strength and can speak the truth of what her evil father did to her.
Looking online he was still able to volunteer within the Salvation Army - I find that incredible that after a court case and prison time, they felt he could still be part of them.
I have no words Mandy - I'm similar age to you - I cannot imagine what you went through. Sending you fondest wishes. Keep strong, keep talking. xx
@@Soulfulshal1962 Actually that is what baffles me too. I don’t understand how a convicted criminal would not be disallowed to hold a prominent position in the SA. But it is always interesting to see how predators and other human garbage manage to affiliate themselves with religious organizations. Where does common sense come in? Yes I realize that SA is a charitable group and I commend them for their contribution to the needy but when it comes to people who are overseeing their operations, do they not have any screening processes? It seems like there was an awful amount of blind naïveté going around that area. JS.
@@lululacanuck3824 I agree with you Lulula - it's really beyond shocking that the SA would continue to allow him back into the fold - if it was still the local branch, the rest of his colleagues would know what he is - I certainly would want him nowhere near myself - why would anyone?
Sadly, I think church organisations have been a breeding ground for this type of sickness - they all flock together, protect each other. Look the other way.
How anyone locally could have looked him in the face after finding this out, is beyond the pale.
I hope Mandy is living the life she wants - how anyone would get over this I don't know.
You need to get off your computer hun you seriously do 😂😂read the book then give ur review
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18 months? Did I hear that right? That's a crime in and of itself. WTF?!!!
Heartbreaking. I admire your courage and strength.
how heartbreaking to be a daddys girl and for him to abuse you and break your heart.
The way you speak about what happened to you is incredibly brave.
I can not imagine a worse betrayal.
im sorry you've had such a horrendous past, hope your future is brighter ❤
Counting flowers & patterns,, have you ever heard anything so sad in your life😢
Pheeew This story is testament to the strength of this woman. Made me cry.
625 flowers... 🥀
Truly heartbreaking! 😭
That really got me…😢
It's very common actually. It's a way to disassociate from what's taking place. Intrinsically she knew it wasn't right but she just couldn't understand. Her body knew though. I feel for her.
What a wicked, cruel man. I have so much respect for this lovely lady.
Sweet soul. Such suffering. Praying for your continuous healing. Thank you so much for sharing your painful story to let many know they are not alone.
So sad for you and for your sons who are a result of this. I can’t imagine what your son that you havnt seen for a long time must feel. The shame and the pain. Just disgraceful.
Brave lady for speaking out .
This lady has healed herself ❤
I can't get over your courage. You are amazing ❤
I’m so very sorry for all you experienced. It. Was. Not. Your. Fault. Never forget that. I was sexually abused at 3 - 6, then again as an adult. People just don’t understand how it affects us or why we can’t ‘tell’ or walk away. I’m 63 now and all abuse finally stopped at age 57. I have had therapy and taken/taking medications but I’m triggered more now my life is free of it all than when it was happening.
Again, my heart goes out to you. Much love and you’re so strong and brave to talk about it. 🌻🥰🙅♀️🥰
I think you're triggered more now because you are processing and dealing with it. That's been my experience as a fellow survivor. It's like our brains know we can't deal with the implications until we're safe. I really, really hope you are finding freedom and joy in your new life 💖💖💖
I'm so happy you're free of it all now. Wishing you all the best for your healing journey!
@@adelemartin1528 thank you so much for your kind words and wishes. I wish the same for you 🌻🥰🙅♀️
Kids are scared to say anything because these monsters face MINIMAL repercussions.
This needs to change.
Utmost respect to this woman for continuing on and overcoming such abhorrent treatment
I’m so sorry you were put through this horrible ordeal 🙏🏻thank you for speaking up. My best friend was sexually abused by a policeman . I think that it must be so difficult when it’s someone who is so called a “ respectable “ member of society !
To call him a demon would be insulting a demon. I am so sorry you went through this but please please to you and every survivor of child abuse ,,,, it was not your fault ❤
The courage it's taken you to open up and share your story is unfathomable. You are an amazingly strong person. I applaud you.
I’ll never understand people who don’t teach their kids openly about sex. It is protecting them, if they know what’s happening and know it’s wrong and know they can openly tell you they are more protected.
Yup. My mom comes from a pretty conservative and religious background but even she didn’t shy away from teaching me and my sisters that it was not okay to be touched in certain places and that other people showing us their privates or telling us to keep secrets was not okay and that we needed to tell her even if we were threatened not to. She said she remembers grown men saying disgusting things to her, flashing her, and propositioning her when she was clearly still a child, so that’s why it was so important to her to make sure we were safe. My aunt, her sister, was abandoned by her husband and left with two young children. She *never* dated after that because she always said that she would not risk her children’s safety by bringing a man into her house just for her own pleasure. You just can’t be too careful and it’s so important to teach kids about this stuff so that they know this isn’t okay and that they should never be afraid to ask for help.
Mandy, what an incredible woman you are, incredible that you can tell your story with so much calm, I cannot imagine what you are feeling as you talk this experience out load. Huge love and respect to you x
I am so sorry this happened to you. You are so brave for speaking up about it. I'm 60 years old and still haven't confronted my abuser.
Well done for speaking out its not a easy thing to do. God bless you x
That fear is the little girl who suffered far too much, and he got far too little jail/punishment!
Yes take back your power! So brave, so strong! Bravo!👏💕
You poor woman so strong and brave with what you went through that no child should EVER ho through.😊❤
The absolute strength of this woman is unbelievable
Such an amazingly brave and courageous woman. I specialise in trauma work and always admire those who are able to speak out alongside those who choose to not share. I hope all survivors can find someone to support them.
Disguting.....vile man.
He should have received longer in jail absolutely horrendous incredible lady telling her story 😢
The grooming plus his community status meant she had no chance of being believed or helped. I am sure the mother knew too.
I’m so very sorry for what you had to go through it never ceases to amaze me how depraved some people/parents are 😢 you are a beautiful strong brave woman and mum❤
These light sentences after vile assaults like this on young kids make me feel like the victims may feel like they don't even matter. It shows that the pedophiles are all up in the justice system too. Absolutely ridiculous.
I hope you have had more healing. It’s taken me my whole life to get through my abuse. You don’t get over it but if you’re lucky you get through it.
Fathers are supposed to protect their children not abuse them, and 3 years when he’s destroyed Mandy’s life is abhorrent, he wants stringing up
Tragic but how, you have taken your power back is awe inspiring. Love and blessings to you and your babies🙏 xx
You are such a powerful positive person. well done in telling your story. well done for what you have done and achieved now. your father i can not understand, im sorry this has happened to you ,18 months is nothing to what he put you through. well done again. i can not write what id like to say . Good luck for your future
Just awful..counting the flowers I found really upsetting. You’re very brave and I admire you for talking about what that waste of space did you to you
…his sentence is an approval of the behaviour.
Thank you for sharing your story.
We need to campaign for harsher sentences for SA. I am so so enraged with the sentences for SA cases. I'm a survivor of SA too. I am so sorry you went through this. The justice system does not seem to fully understand the life sentence being SA has on the individual. Whilst we do say we're survivors, there is no taking away from the fact that it does affect the rest of your life. It never goes away. You learn to become stronger etc., but it is always there, even when you don't seem to think it is. Why does the justice system give such light sentences to the perpetrators!?
Absolutely horrific!
Wooow! Such a brave woman! You are an inspiration to all the sexual abuse victims out there l.
This is horrendous...
So sorry for you Mandy I didn't have the best start in life myself I grew up in care but I met so many other kids who were betrayed and sexually exploited by their parents it goes on more than we're led to believe.
Fellow SA survivor. I'm sorry this happened to you. That person wasn't a Father he should have been locked up forever. Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. Hope you find some kind of peace telling your story.
This is why as a teacher, you treat every student with respect. You don’t know what they go through at home. You can make your expectations clear, but you can’t talk down to them, because they are heros.
Don't be ridiculous
Don't be ridiculous
Don't be r1d1culous
I’m not ridiculous. They behave for me. And they say hello to me in the grocery store. You can’t judge them. You don’t have enough information. You just let them know what is expected. Learned this from my dad, the chief master at arms on the US Simon Lake. There’s always a back story. There has to be limits snd consequences, but not shaming and condescension. That woman saved her younger from being raped. That’s a hero. I know a young woman just like that. They’re young they don’t understand their emotions and they act out when you talk down to them.
I am very proud of you for speaking out. Were you forced to live at home when you became pregnant twice by that person?
Im so glad you have such a loving and caring husband now who loves your sons as well.
Makes my blood boil! Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story x
Strong strong lady. I hope she finds peace🙏
What an amazing woman! How well put together she is for what she's gone through... absolute inspiration!
OMG,how does one do this own children? Now that is sick.
This is so sad...sorry for this and thank you for your bravery.
I bet she’s carried this in shame for so long, and she feels free telling her story. Her story isn’t her shame anymore, it’s her father’s.
Horrific 😢 I'm so sorry
I can’t believe the evil that exists in the world. I’m so sorry but your mother should have protected you. She must have known or was wilfully blind to it.
Mother was well aware and did nothing
Just as bad as the sex offender
we wonder why God created hell is for these kind of ppl ..u mean ur daughter got pregnant n she knows nothing seriously n by who sick man.
Great job for speaking up. I am extremely proud of you
A vulnerable child but what a strong, courageous lady to speak her truth. So sorry the justice system let you down and he only served a miserly 18 months. As a fellow survivor also let down by the system I feel people should hear these accounts and hopefully be absolutely aware that this goes on . Look out for our children and save as many as we can from these sick individuals. Your courage astounds me , I appreciate your bravery, your selflessness brings me to tears ❤sending love
My heart grieves for her. Anyone who intentionally hurts an innocent child is indwelled by Satan.
It sounds like he was hiding in plane sight like Saville did. It's a shame she had to go through this at all!
I was abused when i was 13 yrs old for almost a year, by someone who i trusted within my family. I reported the abuse to the police and my abuser received a 6 month sentence suspended for 2 years- back in the 80s it wasn't talked about much, hushed up, very little support for victims, you were expected to just get over it and get on with your life. I can assure you victims of child abuse continue to suffer, they have to deal with the aftermath and lenient sentencing only increases the suffering. The abuser makes their victim feel worthless and betrays their trust, a lenient sentence compounds that feeling of worthlessness and adds to it a feeling of further betrayal . I am nearly 50yrs old and i still question "If i had been braver and said "stop" the first time it happened, would the abuse have been continued? Would it have made it worse? Why did the courts think the abuse so trivial? Why was i made to feel like i was a huge troublemaker because i had spoken out?
Gosh… so so hard. Prayers and love for you.
@@Ags-g1n Please don’t say that the 80’s were as backward as you describe. As a woman who is nearly 2 decades older than you I recall the 80’s as being the time when there were many many organizations to rescue these girls. Child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed by enlightened courts and victims were provided support and safe housing.
@@lululacanuck3824 not every victim was supported or provided with safe housing. The children's act came into force in the late eighties but not enforced entirely in the courts. Yes, there were organisations raising awareness but it was still hushed up, if it could be brushed under the carpet, it was brushed under the carpet. Organisations were raising awareness surrounding child abuse, encouraging victims to speak out but courts were still backwards at coming forward with stricter sentencing.
@@Ags-g1n 1. I am so sorry you were harmed by someone who betrayed your trust. It was never your fault and you did the best you could to protect yourself. I hope you are in a position to pursue healing in a safe space ❤ 2. Please pay no mind to the person above who for whatever reason is far more interested in discounting personal LIVED experiences (such as yours and the subject of this video) than simply accepting that not everyone's life was the same as her own. I don't know what world this person was/is living in but I am flabbergasted at the claim that "child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed" and resources were easily accessible to survivors when even today in 2024 that is simply not true! Justice and appropriate care is seriously inadequate when it comes to child abuse, CSA, domestic violence, sexual assualt etc It is at best a smidgen less undervalued and pathetically undercriminalized as it was in previous decades. No one should ever be made to question their experience in such a disrespectful way. I am sorry for that too!
@@Ags-g1n Actually child protection agencies have existed in North America since the turn of the century (1875) focusing primarily on neglect and battery, by community organizations. However, csa became recognized as early as the early 60’s. By 1962, child protective services were established nation wide. Of course, this is in North America. I find it hard to believe that a metropolitan area like London and its environs was that behind. I understand that you are from England, yes? Obviously the lady featured in this article is from England. Her accent is unmistakable. Also, your age of 13 at the time of the abuse is a vastly different circumstance of her being a legal adult.
It's hard to get away from such a traumatic past! GOD BLESS YOU SWEETHEART! MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. BRAVE LADY ❤❤❤❤
*I don't know ANY women who haven't been sexually assaulted/abused!* 💯
(besides myself)
*LET THAT SINK IN!!...* 😶🥺
I wish this lady the absolute BEST for the rest of her life.. ❤ She was failed..
Along with many others.
*If you see/know something...SAY SOMETHING!!* ❤💯
Because we allow sexual predators to roam free and each of them has multiple victims
She is so courageous. So much respect for waiving anonymity for creating awareness. So much respect.
Who made these stupid laws? How do you encourage such evil men with such light sentences? He should be rotting in jail! This is wrong!
So much Love and healing to You.
I wish You happiness.. Peace and moments of great Joy. Thx for sharing your story. You’re a beautiful woman.
You're so strong. I hope your life now is blessed. Much love. ❤️💪🏼
You are so strong and brave ,hope you can heal this pain,God bless you .
Brave to speak up, so sorry this happened to you,
Respect you ma'am..for living a life that brought struggles from the ones who are supposed to care and support you...feel proud of this people for speaking out and for having a platform to speak out so the upcoming generations can benefit
I am sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is the most powerful woman I've ever seen. Thank you for sharing your experience and being able to carry on living your life, taking back your power. Such a beautiful human being. This world is absolutely cruel
My story is very silmar i was 13 wen my biological father raped me for years and my son died wen he was 4 due to insest.its disgusting thst my oen father dothis to me.i did take him to court and a few other girls came forward so my sperm dona got 18 years but only had to 9of them the justice system as it all wrong.x
The Mom had no clue?? She doesnt mention her mother only to say she worked nights. Did the Mom actually know and did nothing??
Yes she knew and did nothing.
Thank you Mandy for sharing; they come in all shapes and sizes, rich, poor, black brown, and brindle; a terrible stain of what it is to be human...men as the majority of predators should be speaking up and out about this the most heinous of all crimes, creating a terrible, unstable, sad, fearful and angry society.
I am glad she broke free. Justice was only mildly served. He should have gotten 10 plus years.
Bless you love. I truly understand what you've been through. I hope you find peace & happiness, in your life.
God bless you Mandy,
I pray you find healing, you are so strong and you are LOVED
I went to school with a girl who was in foster care because her dad had been R*ping her and her sisters and their mom knew about it but ignored it. I know that the dad went to prison but I don’t recall if the mom did any time. I checked up on her a few years ago and she seems to be doing fine. She works with animals and I think she finished college. Last I heard though is that her dad is out, her parents are still together, and the craziest part is that she speaks to them. I don’t even know what’s worse, SA’ing your child or knowing that your child is being SA’d and doing nothing about it.
I hope you can find some healing in time, i'm sorry that you had to endure something that no parent should ever do to their child.
Brave and beautiful lady. Thank you for sharing your story. God Bless.
Very strong woman bless her 🙏
No one at the hospital said or did anything when her first son obviously had all these genetic problems? What a broken system.
Hearing this is so disturbing. 😢 i can't imagine what it might have felt like for kids lime her.
The entire situation is bent. Its a shame an abortion wasnt on the cards for this poor woman... let alone being the child of incest & what risks mentally & physically that poses...
She was 20 and 22…she could have gotten an abortion.
You’re talking about the “risks” it poses like you didn’t just say they should have been stripped of their basic human rights and murdered as babies instead. Psychotic.
I'm so sorry, strong lady
I can't believe how brave you are
Unimaginable, it is so sad to believe that a father could do such a thing. We live in a sick world. This lady has such a strong character to even talk about this. I have a lady friend who was also raped by her father, but she has only told very few people about it and the really sad thing is that her mother knew that it was going on and she never did anything about it.
Her and her boys all have the same father and it’s sick 😢
I’m so sorry that happened to her. I’m sorry anyone would ever go through this.
Bless her heart. What hell that perverse freak out her through. I pray that she has a good life now 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m so sorry this happened to you , I can’t imagine the suffering you have been through . It’s so unfair
If i could reach through the screen to hug her and tell her shes amazing ❤❤😢😢