The craziest thing is that if I saw this woman in the streets I would have never thought this had happened to her. You never know the silent battles people are facing.
And “got on with his life”. Likely resumed his job, his position in the religious group and no doubt the conspiratorial mother stayed with him. Appalling and frankly ridiculous that she did not leave the first time she got pregnant. I am older than her and roommates were a dime a dozen back then.
@@lindaaitken7679i thought the short time was due to him being a special constable so he had nore connections to shorten his jailtine. Really though his sentencw was way too lax.
I thought the same thing....I imagine it's the scared, confused little girl still in her mind that's reverting back to what she said she believed was the normal thing for fathers to do :-(
I got the feeling that she phrased it that way because it's very hard for her to say it. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been to speak up about it, especially when she hadn't been believed the first time.
how heartbreaking to be a daddys girl and for him to abuse you and break your heart. The way you speak about what happened to you is incredibly brave. I can not imagine a worse betrayal. im sorry you've had such a horrendous past, hope your future is brighter ❤
Well done for speaking up. You were a child and he knew what he was doing. Some humans...pure plotting, evil beings. Bless you for having to burden this load.
I’m so sorry you were put through this horrible ordeal 🙏🏻thank you for speaking up. My best friend was sexually abused by a policeman . I think that it must be so difficult when it’s someone who is so called a “ respectable “ member of society !
So sad for you and for your sons who are a result of this. I can’t imagine what your son that you havnt seen for a long time must feel. The shame and the pain. Just disgraceful.
So sorry for you Mandy I didn't have the best start in life myself I grew up in care but I met so many other kids who were betrayed and sexually exploited by their parents it goes on more than we're led to believe.
To call him a demon would be insulting a demon. I am so sorry you went through this but please please to you and every survivor of child abuse ,,,, it was not your fault ❤
You are such a powerful positive person. well done in telling your story. well done for what you have done and achieved now. your father i can not understand, im sorry this has happened to you ,18 months is nothing to what he put you through. well done again. i can not write what id like to say . Good luck for your future
I was abused when i was 13 yrs old for almost a year, by someone who i trusted within my family. I reported the abuse to the police and my abuser received a 6 month sentence suspended for 2 years- back in the 80s it wasn't talked about much, hushed up, very little support for victims, you were expected to just get over it and get on with your life. I can assure you victims of child abuse continue to suffer, they have to deal with the aftermath and lenient sentencing only increases the suffering. The abuser makes their victim feel worthless and betrays their trust, a lenient sentence compounds that feeling of worthlessness and adds to it a feeling of further betrayal . I am nearly 50yrs old and i still question "If i had been braver and said "stop" the first time it happened, would the abuse have been continued? Would it have made it worse? Why did the courts think the abuse so trivial? Why was i made to feel like i was a huge troublemaker because i had spoken out?
@@Ags-g1n Please don’t say that the 80’s were as backward as you describe. As a woman who is nearly 2 decades older than you I recall the 80’s as being the time when there were many many organizations to rescue these girls. Child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed by enlightened courts and victims were provided support and safe housing.
@@lululacanuck3824 not every victim was supported or provided with safe housing. The children's act came into force in the late eighties but not enforced entirely in the courts. Yes, there were organisations raising awareness but it was still hushed up, if it could be brushed under the carpet, it was brushed under the carpet. Organisations were raising awareness surrounding child abuse, encouraging victims to speak out but courts were still backwards at coming forward with stricter sentencing.
@@Ags-g1n 1. I am so sorry you were harmed by someone who betrayed your trust. It was never your fault and you did the best you could to protect yourself. I hope you are in a position to pursue healing in a safe space ❤ 2. Please pay no mind to the person above who for whatever reason is far more interested in discounting personal LIVED experiences (such as yours and the subject of this video) than simply accepting that not everyone's life was the same as her own. I don't know what world this person was/is living in but I am flabbergasted at the claim that "child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed" and resources were easily accessible to survivors when even today in 2024 that is simply not true! Justice and appropriate care is seriously inadequate when it comes to child abuse, CSA, domestic violence, sexual assualt etc It is at best a smidgen less undervalued and pathetically undercriminalized as it was in previous decades. No one should ever be made to question their experience in such a disrespectful way. I am sorry for that too!
HE DID WHAT HE WANTED TO DO !! Don’t excuse his actions by saying he did what he had to do . What a piece of human garbage . I don’t how you get over that but I hope you have some peace in your life and your boys who along with you did nothing wrong .xx
At 20, you are an adult and have the opportunity to escape. Why did she not leave at the age of majority. Surely there must have been a responsible adult / relative to help her. Where is the mother’s responsibility? Don’t tell me she didn’t know. And a second time at 22?!?!? PUULLLEEEEZE.
Did you miss the part where she tried to report him (presumably before she was an adult) and no one believed her because of her father's role in local authority? And SHE went to jail for "lying" about the abuse? Unfortunately getting pregnant was perhaps the thing that saved her from this situation as she finally had undeniable proof. I can't imagine how broken and defeated she must have felt after finally mustering the courage to tell someone, only to be punished herself! Let's show some more respect and compassion for the horrors this woman lived through. I am sure what she shared--soul destroying enough--isn't even the tip of the iceberg
Abusers create dependency and isolation. As she described, her mother clearly had difficulties and was 'absent' on sleeping tablets. There is also another elephant in the room. The confusion and impact early childhood sexual abuse experiences have on sexual development and normalcy. Count your naive lucky stars you don't understand this, and be mindful that because of that, you are not equipped to judge her state of mind at any age.
You poor poor woman I am so so sorry that happens to u you must of gone through hell nobody should be but through anything like that he is evil he is not a man he is a monster I hope he has the sadness and heart ache u have gone through it will happen he can not get away with this u are a wonderful brave lady good luck for the future u deserve it so much be happy take care 🌈
The craziest thing is that if I saw this woman in the streets I would have never thought this had happened to her. You never know the silent battles people are facing.
Jail for 3 years and only served 18 months. The justice system in uk is a flipping joke.
I'm home alone but I audibly gasped and went "whatthefyck" when she said that.
I think the problem was she was over 20 when she became pregnant by him. Wrong I know, but I think that's why the light sentence
And “got on with his life”. Likely resumed his job, his position in the religious group and no doubt the conspiratorial mother stayed with him. Appalling and frankly ridiculous that she did not leave the first time she got pregnant. I am older than her and roommates were a dime a dozen back then.
@@lindaaitken7679i thought the short time was due to him being a special constable so he had nore connections to shorten his jailtine. Really though his sentencw was way too lax.
If you would like to educate yourself further and find the answer to these questions you have don’t hesitate to read “please save me- Mandy Yousaf”
‘He did what he had to do.’ NO. ‘He did what he CHOSE to do.’ To say he ‘had’ to do it is to excuse the inexcusable. Love to a very brave woman.
I thought the same thing....I imagine it's the scared, confused little girl still in her mind that's reverting back to what she said she believed was the normal thing for fathers to do :-(
I got the feeling that she phrased it that way because it's very hard for her to say it. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been to speak up about it, especially when she hadn't been believed the first time.
Shocking and he only got 3 years, should have locked him up and thrown away the key, disgusting
how heartbreaking to be a daddys girl and for him to abuse you and break your heart.
The way you speak about what happened to you is incredibly brave.
I can not imagine a worse betrayal.
im sorry you've had such a horrendous past, hope your future is brighter ❤
Well done for speaking up. You were a child and he knew what he was doing. Some humans...pure plotting, evil beings. Bless you for having to burden this load.
You mean men
Heartbreaking. I admire your courage and strength.
I’m so sorry you were put through this horrible ordeal 🙏🏻thank you for speaking up. My best friend was sexually abused by a policeman . I think that it must be so difficult when it’s someone who is so called a “ respectable “ member of society !
I've seen Mandy speak about this before on another documentary. Nothing but love and respect for her. An incredible woman xx
She struggled through this for 10 plus years physically and more emotionally and all he got was 3 years, 18 months served disgusting
Poor woman, she was let down by everyone in the worst way. What incredible strength she has shown to rise above it.
I can't get over your courage. You are amazing ❤
Brave lady for speaking out .
This lady has healed herself ❤
So sad for you and for your sons who are a result of this. I can’t imagine what your son that you havnt seen for a long time must feel. The shame and the pain. Just disgraceful.
Well done for speaking out its not a easy thing to do. God bless you x
My dad passed 2 years ago and he was my best friend i don't know how a parent could do this to any child let alone their own.
You poor woman so strong and brave with what you went through that no child should EVER ho through.😊❤
Counting flowers & patterns,, have you ever heard anything so sad in your life😢
Pheeew This story is testament to the strength of this woman. Made me cry.
625 flowers... 🥀
He should have received longer in jail absolutely horrendous incredible lady telling her story 😢
Wooow! Such a brave woman! You are an inspiration to all the sexual abuse victims out there l.
Disguting.....vile man.
So sorry for you Mandy I didn't have the best start in life myself I grew up in care but I met so many other kids who were betrayed and sexually exploited by their parents it goes on more than we're led to believe.
To call him a demon would be insulting a demon. I am so sorry you went through this but please please to you and every survivor of child abuse ,,,, it was not your fault ❤
I hope you can find some healing in time, i'm sorry that you had to endure something that no parent should ever do to their child.
Strong strong lady. I hope she finds peace🙏
This is horrendous...
Horrific 😢 I'm so sorry
The grooming plus his community status meant she had no chance of being believed or helped. I am sure the mother knew too.
You are such a powerful positive person. well done in telling your story. well done for what you have done and achieved now. your father i can not understand, im sorry this has happened to you ,18 months is nothing to what he put you through. well done again. i can not write what id like to say . Good luck for your future
Brave to speak up, so sorry this happened to you,
Very strong woman bless her 🙏
Very brave lady.
My heart grieves for her. Anyone who intentionally hurts an innocent child is indwelled by Satan.
😢 what a life but a strong woman 😢
What an amazing woman! Free !
I was abused when i was 13 yrs old for almost a year, by someone who i trusted within my family. I reported the abuse to the police and my abuser received a 6 month sentence suspended for 2 years- back in the 80s it wasn't talked about much, hushed up, very little support for victims, you were expected to just get over it and get on with your life. I can assure you victims of child abuse continue to suffer, they have to deal with the aftermath and lenient sentencing only increases the suffering. The abuser makes their victim feel worthless and betrays their trust, a lenient sentence compounds that feeling of worthlessness and adds to it a feeling of further betrayal . I am nearly 50yrs old and i still question "If i had been braver and said "stop" the first time it happened, would the abuse have been continued? Would it have made it worse? Why did the courts think the abuse so trivial? Why was i made to feel like i was a huge troublemaker because i had spoken out?
Gosh… so so hard. Prayers and love for you.
@@Ags-g1n Please don’t say that the 80’s were as backward as you describe. As a woman who is nearly 2 decades older than you I recall the 80’s as being the time when there were many many organizations to rescue these girls. Child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed by enlightened courts and victims were provided support and safe housing.
@@lululacanuck3824 not every victim was supported or provided with safe housing. The children's act came into force in the late eighties but not enforced entirely in the courts. Yes, there were organisations raising awareness but it was still hushed up, if it could be brushed under the carpet, it was brushed under the carpet. Organisations were raising awareness surrounding child abuse, encouraging victims to speak out but courts were still backwards at coming forward with stricter sentencing.
@@Ags-g1n 1. I am so sorry you were harmed by someone who betrayed your trust. It was never your fault and you did the best you could to protect yourself. I hope you are in a position to pursue healing in a safe space ❤ 2. Please pay no mind to the person above who for whatever reason is far more interested in discounting personal LIVED experiences (such as yours and the subject of this video) than simply accepting that not everyone's life was the same as her own. I don't know what world this person was/is living in but I am flabbergasted at the claim that "child abuse of every kind was judicially addressed" and resources were easily accessible to survivors when even today in 2024 that is simply not true! Justice and appropriate care is seriously inadequate when it comes to child abuse, CSA, domestic violence, sexual assualt etc It is at best a smidgen less undervalued and pathetically undercriminalized as it was in previous decades. No one should ever be made to question their experience in such a disrespectful way. I am sorry for that too!
I am so sorry. You look so beautiful. You didn't deserve to be raped.
Weird comment
You are a sick psycho. @@folasadeosibodu7119
@@folasadeosibodu7119The first sentence is all you needed ❤
@@folasadeosibodu7119The context makes it sound awkward but I think their heart was in the right place
HE DID WHAT HE WANTED TO DO !! Don’t excuse his actions by saying he did what he had to do . What a piece of human garbage . I don’t how you get over that but I hope you have some peace in your life and your boys who along with you did nothing wrong .xx
Bless you love. I truly understand what you've been through. I hope you find peace & happiness, in your life.
COURAGEOUS!😢 BUT REALLY SAD!!! HUGS. BE STRONG HE WILL PAY!!(Y.K.W.)
why u don’t have a relationship with your youngest son must be hard on him too
I didn't realize they could do DNA testing back then. This poor lady.
Member of the salvation army? What the heck??
@@lindaaitken7679 Predators often clothe themselves with religion.
I hope her second son is okay❤❤❤❤
Very sad and brave....yet no justice.
I’m so sorry 💔 me too but it was my so called mother’s boyfriend. 🙄🙄
Fantastic amazing women all our ❤ to you ❤❤❤❤
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Vile
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Bear
At 20, you are an adult and have the opportunity to escape. Why did she not leave at the age of majority. Surely there must have been a responsible adult / relative to help her. Where is the mother’s responsibility? Don’t tell me she didn’t know. And a second time at 22?!?!? PUULLLEEEEZE.
Well said I thought the same thing .also I feel sick at the thought of her own father having sex with her oh my god
She must of been terrified and not all that bright
@@sounsure9108disgusting comment
Did you miss the part where she tried to report him (presumably before she was an adult) and no one believed her because of her father's role in local authority? And SHE went to jail for "lying" about the abuse? Unfortunately getting pregnant was perhaps the thing that saved her from this situation as she finally had undeniable proof. I can't imagine how broken and defeated she must have felt after finally mustering the courage to tell someone, only to be punished herself! Let's show some more respect and compassion for the horrors this woman lived through. I am sure what she shared--soul destroying enough--isn't even the tip of the iceberg
Abusers create dependency and isolation. As she described, her mother clearly had difficulties and was 'absent' on sleeping tablets.
There is also another elephant in the room. The confusion and impact early childhood sexual abuse experiences have on sexual development and normalcy.
Count your naive lucky stars you don't understand this, and be mindful that because of that, you are not equipped to judge her state of mind at any age.
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Here you go MAGA, pay attention!!!
Why didn't U abort?
Not all women choose to abort after being raped, educate yourself.
So does that mean she enjoyed it?
She wouldnt understand at it was bad at the time genius
What do you mean?
You poor poor woman I am so so sorry that happens to u you must of gone through hell nobody should be but through anything like that he is evil he is not a man he is a monster I hope he has the sadness and heart ache u have gone through it will happen he can not get away with this u are a wonderful brave lady good luck for the future u deserve it so much be happy take care 🌈
@@szzk7937 So she did enjoy it?
You need investigating