My grandma was the one that told me I had gained weight and I needed to watch what I eat. She is now 87 still gardening, walks in wedge heels, and is aging very gracefully. I took her advice and my husband can’t stop complimenting me.
@@kaylajames3098 No, I still eat whatever I want. I stopped over eating and taking my workouts more seriously. For clarity purposes, I never eat out or buy much processed foods, and I don’t consume many sweets. I personally think my weight gain came from stress, because I am a former elite athlete, and prior to that moment I couldn’t gain weight to save my life😅.
Jesus! I’m so glad a Black woman that is a Christian Housewife and Entrepreneur with two children is saying this. In the black culture we need to encourage a culture of exercise and stop being so concerned about sweating out out hair and nails. Dating to marry is survival of the fittest in many ways y’all. Get right with Jesus and stay right with Jesus. Get fine and stay fine. We can pray for discipline in our health too. Much love and God bless everyone. Thank you Bindi for beautifully sharing the gospel in your gifts!
You are the reason I finally started on a weight loss/health journey. We had a special needs baby (child #6) and I was so stressed out that I gained about 60 pounds. Your quote from a previous video: "it is an assault on the covenant of marriage to let oneself go" (I'm paraphrasing) really struck me. Thank you for making these videos.
@Bindi Marc Considering how often you have brought up the issue of poor self image and weight gain as a problem in marriage, maybe a series of practical tips on how to properly maintain a healthy self image and weight to follow this up would be appropriate? Also some more 'Cook with Me' episodes of healthier recipes would be good. Give these ladies the tools they need to succeed!
I had a similar situation. I had gained over 50 pounds after giving birth to my son. My father-in-law law came to me and said I was getting too big and I need to get in the gym. I was so offended, however instead of continuing with my bad habits, I got in the gym changed my diet and lost over 70 pounds. I feel amazing, I enjoy being active now and putting healthy foods in my body. His comment helped me.
Yes!! My mom always tells me take the good and leave the bad. It may not have been his placed but you took the good from it and changed…made a great change to taking care of your body! I love this
That was not his place, I feel like a woman or a husband with tact of course should say something if anyone, but I'm glad you did it because YOU wanted to and for YOUR health and benefit.
Seems your father in law loves you and his son to be willing to upset you to keep your marriage happy ❤ The only issue I take is when an undisciplined overweight family member talks about my weight gain but they are visibly obese and don't do anything for their health. I adore my father in law...if he told me that I would have taken it pretty well too! I just had a baby 3 months ago and I have to lose this weight it's too much!
I agree with all of this. What I love about my husband is even right after childbirth when my poor belly is pitiful, and my swelling has still not all gone, my husband always makes me feel beautiful. That is precisely why I work hard to get back to my pre-baby body or better because he gives me the gift of unconditional love and comfort when I'm really not where I want to be and he gives me grace. That motivates me to get back to my best version of me.
Ive watched multiple divorces in my community. After the divorce, all the women started taking care of themselves, loosing weight, working out, dressing attractively. It makes no sense to me why they waited until they are trying to impress a new man that they were willing to invest in themselves. It makes me wonder what could have been if they had prioritized their health before the marriage came apart....
Maybe their spouses affected their health ,in this case I am assuming the divorce was due to stress on the wife? Maybe they were stressed .Also men do it too ,divorce ,or break up and now they have six oacks and al
It sounds like they loose weight from effort but it is the grief and strife of the divorce. Between 25 -40 lbs come off from not being able to eat or sleep.
I think we need to remember that our health comes first to be able to give ourselves fully to our families and husband . If we start by simply eating cleaner it helps us have a clear mind and the rest will follow. Trying to fit into a beauty standard is not healthy . Being healthy and having a healthy lifestyle is it’s own kind of beautiful
@@roxyperson8328 I agree ! That’s why I deleted all social media besides RUclips. I focused more on my connection with God and living a healthy lifestyle. Social media is toxic when it comes to beauty standards
I agree! I also feel like my body is a sacrifice. I give birth to babies. My body won't be perfect anymore because I have children and want more children. This is natural. Mature men can accept natural processes. Plus, my husband enjoys these thick thighs forreal. 😂
So true! As a single woman my biggest issue is overworking and stress. God calls us to take care of ourselves through rest in Him (Matt 11 v28-30), rest so we won't fall into disobedience (Hebrews 4 v 9-11) and resting is also exampled as a sign of trusting God (Psalms 127 v 2, Philippians 4 v 6-7) Learning to maintain my mental health through rest has been a tough lesson to learn
Love love love that you are honest about this topic. My mom is almost 60 and absolutely timeless, she just takes care of herself and is aging so beautifully. My dad is absolutely crazy about her.
A husband needs to also make sure he cooperates in making sure she has time to workout. Sometimes spouses don't do their part and make it difficult for the wife to take the time to do what needs to be done.
I hear and understand what you are saying. For a long time my husband worked 15hr night shifts, slept throughout the day (because he worked at night), hung out with us for an hour before he had to go to work. So obviously he was unable to make time to take the kids (newborn, 2yrs 4yrs) so I can exercise. So what I did was have the kids work out with me. We ran up and down the stairs together. Walked to the dog park (the kids would play in the fenced in dog park while I ran around the fence still inside the dog park). I mainly ate healthy to help keep my body healthy. Yes, it is so much more difficult when your spouse isn’t physically there to help with the kids, but it is possible. ☺️
A really good reason to be a homemaker as Bindi, and the Bible, recommends. We can work out WITH the kids, at home, etc. Husbands don't need to shoulder the burden of our fitness. That's 100% on us.
Unfortunately once we place part of the responsibility in someone else, there will always be excuses as to why it’s not working and we will most likely fail.
I think personal appearance matters in the sense being put together and in shape, heathy inwards and outwards. I grew up with my grandparents and my mother had me very young but she would work nights and sleep during the day. When she would be up during the day, her hair wasn’t brushed, her face didn’t seem bright alert and groomed. Her clothes were rough and smelled. I remember as a little girl thinking “when I’m older / a mother I’m always gonna be put together first thing in the morning for my husband and family and even just my self.” Now , I still have that mentality and standard for myself that I follow. It’s a blessing for me and others. 😊👍🏼
I'm down 34 pounds so far in 5 months and I feel so much better! I started wearing a skirt...it's the only one I have so far and I wear it most days because most of my other pants and shorts don't fit. I have 20 more pounds to go and I think I will order my first dress here in a couple weeks. I will be close enough to my goal weight that I likely will still be able to wear it then too. I have an important medical appointment on October 6th to check my blood work and I would like to show up 40 pounds or more lighter than last 6 month check up and in my new dress. As a women who never wore dresses (twice in like 30 years) I am so happy to feel confident in a dress now and be healthier. This is as much for health as spirit. I pray that God brings me healing in this next month and my kidneys are doing better.
I had my appointment and God granted me healing! My resting glucose went from 113 (prediabetic) to 96 (normal). My cholesterol went from 230 (high) to 188 (normal). My kidney function (EGFR) went from 59.1 (possible chronic kidney disease) to 84 mild kidney damage but still considered "normal". My blood pressure is "really good". I'm now down 46 pounds. I also got news skirts and a dress that I wear exclusively. The greatest news is, because my health is so good now, we're preparing for pregnancy. God has worked miracles in my life.
@@ichbinschlechtinclashroyal6833 😊 I'm almost 11 weeks pregnant after losing 70 pounds total. Doc says everything looks great. Baby's heart beat at 8 weeks 5 days was 167 bpm. Still wearing dresses and skirts. Mostly dresses now because they are more comfortable on the belly. God bless!
Praise God on your women's ministry. As I watch your posts, I pause for the scripture on the screen and read in my Bible further for full text. You are a blessing to your sisters in Christ❤.
I’m a stay at him mom of 4 children and I’m at my high school weight. I 100% believe what you’re saying and I MAKE time to workout and feed myself nutritious foods! My youngest is 5 months old and my oldest is 6. It’s possible ladies, don’t make excuses.
@@sakuraesther6309 as we all know, we can not control our husbands. He does work outside of the home 9-12 hours on any given day and has more trouble prioritizing his health. But I’ve been on a health journey for YEARS before I got to this point. I have watched him become influenced by me though, in the best way, and he has recently joined a gym and has been making the effort to eat more healthy. We can only be responsible for ourselves, and I take my responsibilities seriously.
@BindiMarc Have you read, “Created to be his help mate?” I think it’d be great to hear a review of it from you. I’ve read it and liked it. I’m new to this journey and still struggling every day. So it helped with some mind sets that I struggle with. Please keep me in your prayers as I struggle with this change and my marriage is under strain due to my resistance. Love you channel and pray that you continue on.
You made so many good and deep points (as usual). Truth is that both husbands and wives need to ensure they remain physically attractive (and physically healthy). This is our duty to both man and to God. There's a huge problem in the black church also. We forget gluttony and laziness are sins.
@@annarocha3254 Hi Anna, proverbs 31.17 RE physically healthy- 'she equips herself with strength and makes her arms strong' I.e. she takes care of her health and body. Proverbs 31.22b RE physically attractive- 'her clothing is linen, pure and fine, and purple' I.e. she's pleasant to look at.
It can definitely be a hard thing. I have PCOS and low thyroid. After having two babies I gained weight and have been working to get it off. Sometimes it can feel almost defeating when it’s harder for you to lose weight but I definitely agree with trying. You can have a hard time but that doesn’t mean you should give up
I developed severe hashimotos thyroid disorder right after marrying my husband and they couldn’t get the dosage right so my weight ballooned out. Im so very grateful my husband still loves me and has stayed faithful but I feel an incredible amount of guilt for how drastically my appearance has changed. It is defeating but I keep trying. Don’t give up! If anything, at least you will feel healthier.
@@Megthomas44 it’s easy to feel guilty, I do too. My husband tells me he can tell I’m trying and he thinks Im beautiful. But it’s hard. Don’t give up either, one day it’ll be worth it :)
Hey sis 💕 herbs that balance your hormones can and definitely will help with your PCOS and thyroid !( along with cutting out imbalancing foods )which will then help you loose weight 🙏🏾 I’m a herbalist! Ive done some good research on the subject.. I hope that helps !
This is true. My husband, isn't gifted at sugar coating things, he pointed out that I had gained excess weight prior to my last pregnancy. Like we literally just found out about our second pregnancy and here he was talking about my weight! I was soooo upset. I Lashed out, said some unkind things. It hurt my feelings but I started portion control and I'm now 15lbs lighter than I was pre pregnancy. No diet, no extra exercise just portion control and nursing my babyycan't imagine how much weight I would have gained if he didn't say anything.
Your videos are like new movies BUT BETTER to me!!I look and value each one so preciously as they come out. So much profound wisdom and guidance for the young and old. Thank you sister :)
I am not married yet but this is really good advice. I want to start being intentional about taking care of myself especially with my hair and gut. I am not overweight or anything but I believe I could do in keeping God temple by the help of the Holy Spirit. Thank you for sharing from your wealth of wisdom. You are helping single like me prepare for marriage
Do you have standards for the man you want? I tend to interpret these traditional advises as to be perfect and just love the man as he is or am I wrong??
You are one of my favorites and watch online. I don’t know if you’ve ever thought about writing a book… But I know it’s lotta women could benefit from hearing your voice more.
@Bindi Marc your assessment of this book was more than fair, and it was necessary. The lies of the feminist movement were woven throughout that entire book and you eloquently shot them down. Despite popular belief, the feminist movement is making women more masculine and further removing accountability from women, but your review definitely called it out. Great job!!!
Wonderful, reasonable and sound words. Thank you for bringing this clear message that is pro men and women. We need to be accountable for ourselves. We need to take care of our bodies and those who are believers know that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit.
My doctor's brutal honest about my weight at 19 has had be me on a worthwhile health journey for the last 12 years. I was overweight every year up till that point and the biggest since was during my pregnancy with my little one. I am embracing being healthy and I feel good. Also, whenever I get overweight which I was for a bit 2020- beginning of 2022, I think about the brutal honesty of my doctor and my want to be healthy. I am currently back down to below the weight I was when 19 and heard that amd still have 20 more to go. I love your assessment of this book! Encouraging and biblical based responses❤️
I agree with SOME of what you said in this video. Health and wellness is definitely important, but I’m extremely disappointed that you didn’t mention that there’s a number of people who struggle with their weight due to health issues. Like people who have thyroid problems, for example, those whose weight gain may have been caused by certain medications, people who don’t have access to or can’t afford healthier food choices, etc. It’s so much bigger than JUST gluttony or letting oneself go for lots of women. I don’t know, I thought this was a little tone deaf, even though I do understand the message and agree with it to a certain extent.
@@hopefull61256 Exactly! I don’t lose weight at all while breastfeeding and I’m a mom of 4. My youngest is 6 months old so I’ve been pregnant and breastfeeding for the last 6 or so years. I can lose weight normally again only once I wean. Every woman’s body is different and situation also. And we definitely need to be kinder and understanding of that.
Overall, I agree with you. However, from a psychological standpoint, motivation works differently in men and women. Women are more easily discouranged when something seems almost impossible (Like looking Like an underwear model), whereas men are more likely to start fighting for it. So 'perfect' underwear Models might be discouraging for women, but encouraging for men to get in shape. Women generally do better when there is less competition (Like dieting together with a friend and make it a social thing...)
I like the video. Your channel has helped me to see things differently (what I could expect from a good man I might consider marrying but also what would my responsibilities in marriage be). I really love that you "teach" it is important remaining attractive and also sexually available (to a husband). I now see it is how a woman shows appreciation and honor to her man. I was taught different things..
Being slim/skinny is not & should not be the ultimate goal for a woman. Vanity is the source of this obsession which is in direct opposition to God's will for us. I have been skinny my whole life, and actually was made fun of for being skinny...(enter kids) then hypothyroidism & premature menopause so losing the weight continues to be a struggle & self control is not an issue. Obessing about the size or shape of our bodies is also narcissistic. I praise God my husband loves my fuller shape as much & he loved my smaller size. I continue working at a healthier BMI but I find alot of your content triggering given an already low self-esteem, although I do value some things you cover. You may not intend for this, but your sentiments can also reinforce self-hate for a very naturally changing body. Also, the emphasis cannot always be on the exterior, to the point of it sounding obsessive. Does it matter whether someone fits an "ideal" feminine body type when they actually lack fruits of the Holy Spirit. Someone could look really great and be rotton inside & God looks at the heart. Also the ulitimate or one particular female body type is a fallacy. I honestly didn't feel feminine when I was skinny but got way more unwanted attention from men, even dressing modesty but now having curves/being thick feels ok & everyday I have to remind myself to love this body, this body that is His temple & God probably knew my husband would appreciate me at this size right now 🤷🏾♀️ I pray and ask God for health & healthy weighloss, while I continue to do the work on myself.
We hear you girl.. but a naturally skinny woman preaching to naturally heavier women with different genes, hormones, etc. just always rubs me the wrong way. However the message is valid. Do your best to steward your body and let no woman or man look down on you for not living according to their standards
You could do it:) try different diets that work for your body. Such as fasting, ketogenic diet or one meal a day. I've seen heavy women drop pounds like butter :)❤
I have noticed that feminist ideologies coddles women's bad behaviour and traditional ideologies tend to coddle mens bad behaviours .Why do you think this is so ? Anyone can answer .Please and thanks
I don't know why this makes me so mad, i guess because it suggests that we are objects instead of souls and that love is conditional. I've struggled so much with this idea and how much heartache. I will get in shape but i really hate this world.
Hi Bindi! I am a young Christian lady (I will be 18 in 6 months) and I was wondering if you could make a video (or the link to one that you have already made if I have missed it) on how to get started with proper care as a woman. Proper hygiene, how to elegantly honor the Lord inside and out, preparing for becoming a wife (if of course the Lord wills for me to become one), and other things you think would be helpful for a young girl my age to know and begin to make a habit of. May the Lord Jesus bless your household. Thanks!
Bindi, we are so lucky to have your voice. The work you do is much needed and appreciated. I believe God wants his children to be happy. Following God's word can only lead to fulfillment and happiness. That is why I am grateful for your videos.
I agree that women should keep up with their appearances while married, but I don’t like how you equate thin with universally attractive. I’ve been overweight the whole time I’ve been with my fiancé and he loves my curves and says He prefers bigger women. Not every man wants a thin woman, and not every overweight person is lazy and overeats. The latter may sound like a bold statement but some medications and genetics cause weight gain. I do think it’s good advice to stay attractive for your husband and try to impress him.
THANK YOU so very much for speaking the truth in love to women. I am 58 years old and I have just in the past 7 years started to understand how much I have internalized the world’s thinking. I have been on a journey to lose weight this past year because I have not been a good steward of my body or been an obedient child of God in this area.
The idea that men aren’t allowed to NOT be attracted to their wives is so strange. They have to love and accept their wives regardless of what she looks like or what amount of effort she puts into their relationship. I do think that’s true to an extent, you should still love your spouse through their lows, but lows that are a result of factors you can’t control, like depression, medications, thyroid problems, pregnancy, or any other health issues that are out of your control, NOT lows that are due to laziness, selfishness, or just not caring. If you WANT someone to stay attracted to you, if you WANT to foster love and sexual desire then you HAVE TO WORK to KEEP IT. Sexual desire and attraction is something you EARN from somebody else, it’s is not a given or a right. You can not demand someone FEEL a certain way about you, you have to evoke those feelings from them through your words, actions, and appearance.
I would not advise this book. I know it does have some helpful snippets in it. However debi endorses a lot of extra biblical personal preferences and advice she touts as scriptural that is simply her own thoughts. She embraces some harmful ideas.
@@oldfashionedgirl2819 thank you for saying this. the highest rated review for the book on Amazon has Scriptural correction for every dangerous assertion the author makes in her book.
Hey ,why do so many pastors coddle many bad mens behaviour and expect the wife to keep up with it??I find that christians do it while feminism coddles womens bad behaviour and expect men to put up with it. But I am asking a a christian on the fence
God expects us to treat ourselves and others with dignity. This includes not allowing ourselves to be objectified. Nor condoning another's objectification for the sake of their own soul. (As a wife, my purpose in life and in my marriage is the soul of my husband. My first concern is getting him to heaven.) No matter how you look, if you don't want your husband to want you, that's what's broken in your relationship. If your husband only desires you because of your physical attributes, that's what's broken in your relationship. May God bless us with His wisdom and give us ears to hear.
Mmmmm...Girl.....This is 🔥🔥🔥 I've been convicted about my weight for a long time after 4 babies and definitely some stress eating. I love and respect my husband so much and I feel so sad for him for the way I look. He tells me everyday that I'm beautiful and that he loves my body. I'm thankful for that but I know a change is needed. Thanks for speaking honestly and biblically. ❤️ Now to figure out how to get rid of it! 🤔😜
I needed this encouragement! I’m not overweight but I have gained weight. We are in transition of moving into our new build that my husband is doing. In the mean time we are RV-ing it in my parents driveway. I don’t have my normal routine and I’m making dinner every night for us all because mom is a “bit tired these days.” So I think I’ve been eating out of boredom and parental stress😯😬😆 Thank you for the reminder. As my husband says "being nice isn’t always kind" 😉
We're doing the same! We have 4 littles and the stress of everything is not helping my snacking habit. It's something I really need to work on and instead of just telling my husband that I like him just the way he looks I should encourage him to change what he can to lose the weight he wants to. I need to be better at facilitating those changes too.
I don't know if you have seen it already, but the author did an interview on a channel called God is Grey. You might find it interesting as you wrap up the book.
Bindi your videos are so refreshing! Thank you for standing up on biblical truth. I appreciate all the advice I’ve learned from you through Christ. Blessings to you and yours! I really enjoy listening to videos about home making, femininity & marriage! Thank you!
Wish I had this info BEFORE I was married & had kids. My first pregnancy I gained 80 lbs. due to this mismanagement of my health, I had a 10 lb baby & gestational diabetes. I ended up having a C-section and alot of trouble recovering from that. when my hubby met me, I weighed 140 lbs ( I am fairly tall, so I was thin) to being 220lbs. I completely ruined my body. I only ever had one other child, because in the county I live in, after 1 c-section you must have all babies by C-section. I would've liked to have more kids, but I had such a terrible time recovering from the surgeries - physical & mental - that Dr.s advised me to not have anymore pregnancies. My midsection is a mess, even tho I eat healthy & keep my weight down. It gets depressing, because I feel like my husband got cheated out of the attractive wife that he married all due to my ignorance & a certain amount of gluttony. My husband never makes me feel like he is not attracted to me, but it is something I can't get past in my own mind. It hinders me from feeling like I look my best because there is absolutely NOTHING I can do about it now. - its been 20 years. Losing weight only makes it worse and I can't afford surgery to fix it. Be wise about your health, especially during childbearing years.
I love how you call a spade a spade even though it speaks against women. As a woman myself i appreciate the genuine truth even though it corrects me. Unfortunately there is so little 'truth' content out there. Keep speaking the truth even though the majority despise it (those who are looking for truth are definitely listening.). new sub
I watched every single video in your series and I am amazed how great you’re able to explain parts of the book and actually show the truth and ideas to really question things that we are consuming. Sometimes I blindly read & follow books/ blog posts/ instagram posts and just now watching you really makes me think that I should pay closer attention. You’re very knowledgeable what’s in the Bible and I am still a beginner so I feel like that makes it harder to see through it. Love your channel! always excited when you uploaded a new video 🥰🥰
Of course, being healthy and, as a consequence, preety would be an ideal state for everyone. Life is not always smooth and it may interfere with our plan. Accept your current situation and do little steps at time if you feel like to improve: I got used at doing a 1 hour fast walking, which is great both for body and mind. Drink a lot, cook your own lunch, avoid sun bathing and rest when needed. When in need, ask for medical help. Also, it's good to have someone who finds you attractive, but you are doing a great favor to yourself first by keeping healthy.
Thank you for this book review! I am a young wife and mother and had heard of this author and listened to her podcast previously. However when I listened, something felt wrong. I too recognized some things that were contrary to the Word of God and discontinued listening to her podcast regularly. I haven't read her books and am glad that I never purchased them. Your channel has been a huge blessing and at times convicting. Thank you 😊
Thank you for sharing so much wisdom. I would appreciate if you could do a video on your daily/weekly routines that help you to manage your time and responsibilities so well. God bless you!
I think you got the author wrong. I haven’t read the book yet but according to to part you read she’s referring to how sarcastic the man sounded. There are better ways of saying youn need to lose weight… for some weight gain is not due to over eating but due to genetic or physiological problems so being nice in how you present the issue is important. You are right both men and women have a moral obligation to stay healthy and to manage their weight for each other and for themselves…
It’s definitely not biblical. I love her videos, and there is some wisdom in what she is saying about watching our weight, taking care of our temples etc but you won’t a scripture to back this up in the Bible. immediately what comes to my mind is “charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain but a woman of the Lord is to be praised”. Pvbs 31:30 Also “delight in the wife of your youth. Let her breasts satisfy you ”Pvbs 5:1819 paraphrased* But that’s about it. people can interpret that how they want.
Great book review. I love how you are able to discern what is true and what to reject, being grounded and in alignment with the scriptures. I suggest “excellent wife” by Martha Peace as your next book review.
Overeating is not as simple as a lack of self control. I've needed to transition to a ketogenic diet to finally be able to lose weight. I think gluttony is done voluntarily and consciously, but being overweight is more complicated
I feel like this video was sent by God for me, I have gained about 70 lb since I'm with my husband, i also dont really take care of myself anymore because I feel like I'm in a pit, i have developed an EMOTIONAL eating disorder and also trough not feeling confident in my new body, I dont feel sexy enough to want to have sex, like i ask myself how my husband stills loves me and says good things about my body, I*m honest, im pretty fit too, like the weight gain is not only fat but still being bigger now, just fustrates me, i have always used clothes in xs and s but now im an L to even XXL . and what i have noticed is that i have developed an rejection towards my husband, trough this video i recognize that I need to change things- i have been living with Christ for about 7 Years now and the last 2 to 4 Years I have been in an circle of gaining and loosing weight, so much that i feel like giving up. I thank God and then i thank you! i dont look like I looked when i met my husband, in all my weakness and letting myself go moments he has still been really nice and supportive and loving, now I understand that i have been very selfish and that this thing with being over 30 kg over my bmi is not a joke anymore. thank you so much!
Hello Dear, I hope you are well. How is the weight loss going? I hope you have been managing. If you have, well done 👏🏽. If not, that’s ok.🙏🏽 Let this be an encouragement to begin today. A little at a time. Aim for 1kg a week so that you don’t have loose skin. In seven months you would have lost 28kg. It’s all about saying no to the excess sugar and carbs, saying yes to an apple instead (and other fruit and veg), a little exercise (walking up hills is great, walking in general), drink water instead of other drinks. You can do it. No, you got this in JESUS’ name.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽AMEN
I’m really excited to see how your doctrine and faith evolves as the Holy Spirit leads you further into the truth of God’s word. It’s so encouraging to listen to testimonies like yours- gives me hope for friends who are going down this path. Here is a question I’m wrestling with I would love to hear you weigh in on: are the word of God and Holy Spirit alone completely sufficient for helping us walk in obedience, love, health, and godliness? If so, what do we make of plant medicine?
Hi Bindi, I've recently discovered your channel and you've opened my eyes to alot of things which I really appreciate. I was wondering if you could do a video talking about what you believe Paul is talking about in first Corinthians 11 about the head covering, maybe in the form of a book review? This is something I have an opinion on already, but have a hard time putting into words. You've helped me so much in other areas by being able to put into words things I've already believed because of the holy spirit.
I used to read the blog created by the author of the book you're reviewing. She gave me some great perspective about a wife's role has in regards to sex, but after reading her work for a couple of years, a lot of positions she took in regards to men rubbed me the wrong way. Like you mentioned in the book, she has a lot of double standards And it's not biblical. So glad you had the eyes to see
NEW SUB HERE AND I AM SOO SOO INSPIRED BY YOUR CONTENT TO MAKE MORE CONTENT LIKE THIS ON MY CHANNEL!! Thank you so so much for the obedience of making such videos. It's controversial to talk about such things in today's time of such masculinity in gender roles etc. Love this, keep em coming!
I loved this conversation! A couple of years ago I came out of a period of my life where I was obsessed with being skinny to an unhealthy extreme…i fell pray to the opposite extreme, the body positive movement. Some things were helpful and I still follow some dietitians that offer valuable information. I eventually unfollowed a lot of influencers because I truly believe that yes we have different body types and there can be an unhealthy and vain controlling obsession with weight loss. But obesity is not good and it’s not healthy. Gluttony is sinful. Our heart should always be to glorify god. Staying Healthy and losing weight if you need to are ways to glorify god but if the heart and intention for weight loss is for worldly validation than that’s not ok. I ended up gaining back to much weight and realized like hey what I was doing before to be so small was not ok but I still have to take care of myself to honor my body and to honor god and my husband. So I lost some weight in a healthy way with a mindset of honoring God and not vanity or worldly things. God really blessed me with wisdom, health, a healthy relationship with food during those years. Don’t swing from one extreme to another. Find a healthy mindset and find balance with healthy habits. Be the best for your personal body type. I may not be as skinny mini as I was but I’m not overweight and I’m not bugger than when my husband first met me. I’m also healthy and capable of being active.
An immature comment. Both sexes have issues that the other gender do not have to deal with. I can give you examples: child support, alimony payments, child stays with the mom and the list goes on. Men don’t hate being men, because of unfairness.
Having seen numerous health ailments of overweight relatives over the years, I agree. While we shouldn't go out of our way to be hurtful, we shouldn't regard the truth as an insult. Just objectively think about if you've eaten more junk food lately, sitting around, not leaving the house or not staying hydrated. I think a lot of the guilt and shame ppl feel is from knowing better and actively choosing NOT to do better. The science and stats don't lie about illnesses that occur over time with obesity. If there were certain things about your spouse you're attracted to that drastically changed, wouldn't your feelings or interactions with them change? Their appearance, job, willingness to communicate, etc. Why are we so quick to make our poor choices someone else's fault? Marriage should be one of the most honest and comfortable relationships we have w someone. If we want our words/feelings to matter to our spouse, then we also have to value theirs. And as my family's gotten older, the harder it's been for them to function. I'm aware of when I'm at a normal weight and when I need to lost a few lbs. I felt heavier and less comfortable trying to move around. Not to mention skin and digestive issues that came from the foods I was eating.
Learned a lot from this video, I never did understand why just saying these things and it's the opposite on men. I had a self body image problem because my mom called me fat all my life. High school of course the kiddie fat and everything dropped and I was in the NJROTC at the time so I lost a bit of weight. I was chunky at the time but still believed I was a whale, fast forward in my mid 20's I started to gain weight all because of stress both work and home life, I had friends that said your beautiful or good the way you are and didn't help my grandma was saying that "Your young and healthy". I whole heartily believed in everything at that time. It also didn't help I was on and off with dieting and excising, my depression and self esteem was so awful to boot. I started to see health problems as soon as the age of 26 but it was one and eventually it started to show signs of what might go wrong. Now on a healthier and much more stable lifestyle bettering myself to find a suitable husband.
I am a 27 female. I will turn 28 next month (Oct 24th. I take offense with some of the things you say in this video.. here's why. I was 145 lbs at 16-22... I never once had an issue with my body until I was 23. I was married at 19 and my husband was so impressed with my body... my 19 yr old unmatured body. I started gaining at 22 yrs old... it was got to the point that I remember not even wanting to look in the mirror.. I was only 175 lbs. I remember this disticntly. I was so confused as to why I was gaining weight. My husband of 3 yrs didn't want to have sex with me at this point and I was devastated. I was "exercising" I wasn't "given to gluttony" but I was gaining weight. And at the time it felt like I was in a prison after having the "perfect" body and the perfect body image. Turns out it wasn't so perfect.. I get pregnant and have my baby 23-24 and guess what? I lost 25 lbs during my pregnancy due to being so sick that I couldn't eat or get out of bed... but I was ecstatic at losing the weight as soon as I gave birth... but 6 months I gained it back... fast forward to today and I am very satisfied with my weight at 226 lbs... could I stand to lose 10-20 lbs? SURE! there's always room for improvement. Do I want to be how I was when I was 19? Absolutely not! And it took me from the time I was 25 til now to realize that my body is not a prison... I was one of the lucky ones... your type of body positive is why so many women feel like their bodies are prisons! I couldn't imagine feeling this way any longer than I did and it was only 5 yrss! Some women feel this their whole lives! Whether it's due to outside influences or their husband's or their own self degradation this is not what we want women OR men to feel! Just be healthy!and if you are not healthy make plans with your S.O. or a friend to become the healthiest you possible!
Is your husband happy with your weight? Part of loving our husbands is trying to a healthy weight. No, we don't have to be perfect and you don't need to look the same as you did at 19, but we need to do our best to be a healthy weight. Think about it this way. What was one of the things that attracted you to your husband? For example, maybe he was a great listener. What if, after you got married, five years in he stopped listening to you and stopped caring about your feelings. Let us say this caused you to not be as attracted to him emotionally and also then physically. You would rightfully feel betrayed and he would be in the wrong and in need of changing, right? Would it be your fault for not feeling as attracted to him? No. For men, weight is the same way. They cannot help not being attracted to a woman visually. He might love you deeply no matter what, but that does not mean he will be attracted to you physically. Women's attraction works differently and is more emotion based. I didn't say completely, but much more so than men. For men, attraction is much more visually based and it is not a character flaw or something that they can change about themselves. By being at a weight of 226, you are "betraying" him just like he would be betraying you by no longer listening to you or caring about your feelings (again that's just a for instance). Just something to consider. Also, weight can ALWAYS be lost, but it cannot always be lost as easily for some people as others. The hard cold truth is that sadly weight loss is not fair. Some people work out, but they don't push hard enough to really make a difference. Some people eat healthy, but ti still does not make a difference. If you are one of those people you need to increase the intensity of your workouts, or experiment with what types of workouts help your body lose weight the best. Maybe its weight training instead of cardio, maybe it's hit workouts instead of aerobics. Every body is different, so not every strategy works the same, but they all can lose weight. Its not fair that some people lose it quickly and others don't, but that's just the way it is. It's not enough to just say, "I worked out and it didn't do anything so I'm off the hook." It means your strategy was wrong or the workout was wrong, or you didn't push hard enough. I know this isn't a nice thing to read, but that's just the cold truth. Please consider your husband in all of this. Please consider his wellbeing. Maybe he's not a kind man (I don't know him so I have no idea) but you are married to him and it is your God given duty to be the best wife to him you can be regardless of his actions. You are doing it for God, not for him.
Fantastic review. So glad you have the courage to tell the truth according to God's word, with kindness and unwavering firmness. God bless you. So look forward to your reviews!!
I often think: If God wants us to represent him well, shouldn’t we make an effort to dress, look, and smell well? If we saw God before us, today, would we expect him to be ugly and smell gross? No. So we shouldn’t present ourselves like that.
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My grandma was the one that told me I had gained weight and I needed to watch what I eat. She is now 87 still gardening, walks in wedge heels, and is aging very gracefully. I took her advice and my husband can’t stop complimenting me.
God bless the wonderful grandmothers with God given wisdom passed down! Me too
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Go you girly!
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@@kaylajames3098 No, I still eat whatever I want. I stopped over eating and taking my workouts more seriously. For clarity purposes, I never eat out or buy much processed foods, and I don’t consume many sweets. I personally think my weight gain came from stress, because I am a former elite athlete, and prior to that moment I couldn’t gain weight to save my life😅.
Jesus! I’m so glad a Black woman that is a Christian Housewife and Entrepreneur with two children is saying this. In the black culture we need to encourage a culture of exercise and stop being so concerned about sweating out out hair and nails. Dating to marry is survival of the fittest in many ways y’all. Get right with Jesus and stay right with Jesus. Get fine and stay fine. We can pray for discipline in our health too. Much love and God bless everyone. Thank you Bindi for beautifully sharing the gospel in your gifts!
You are the reason I finally started on a weight loss/health journey. We had a special needs baby (child #6) and I was so stressed out that I gained about 60 pounds. Your quote from a previous video: "it is an assault on the covenant of marriage to let oneself go" (I'm paraphrasing) really struck me. Thank you for making these videos.
Yes! That quote hit me hard too.
Oh my goodness.. six babies?!? I only have two and one on the way and it feels so hard to take care of my self 😭
Samantha, I have 11 children and need to lose about 80 pounds. What have you found helpful? I am currently breastfeeding.
Good for you!
I've had 10 babies, im 47, baby is almost 3...I'm stuck at 185. Its hard sometimes to loose anything.
@Bindi Marc Considering how often you have brought up the issue of poor self image and weight gain as a problem in marriage, maybe a series of practical tips on how to properly maintain a healthy self image and weight to follow this up would be appropriate? Also some more 'Cook with Me' episodes of healthier recipes would be good. Give these ladies the tools they need to succeed!
That would be lovely 🥰
Yeah, I have hypothyroidism so it’s already super hard for me to lose weight naturally. I have to try and try and try so hard! And it’s not easy!
I tried calorie counting but do moms seriously have the time for that? Like how?? I eat a lot of Whole Foods and it’s not easy to calorie count those.
Great idea!
@@Whoamiiiiiiiiiiii throw in intermittent fasting & you won’t have to worry abt calories as much. I lost 7lbs in 2 weeks on the 16:8 fasting schedule.
I had a similar situation. I had gained over 50 pounds after giving birth to my son. My father-in-law law came to me and said I was getting too big and I need to get in the gym. I was so offended, however instead of continuing with my bad habits, I got in the gym changed my diet and lost over 70 pounds. I feel amazing, I enjoy being active now and putting healthy foods in my body. His comment helped me.
Yes!! My mom always tells me take the good and leave the bad. It may not have been his placed but you took the good from it and changed…made a great change to taking care of your body! I love this
That was not his place, I feel like a woman or a husband with tact of course should say something if anyone, but I'm glad you did it because YOU wanted to and for YOUR health and benefit.
Seems your father in law loves you and his son to be willing to upset you to keep your marriage happy ❤ The only issue I take is when an undisciplined overweight family member talks about my weight gain but they are visibly obese and don't do anything for their health. I adore my father in law...if he told me that I would have taken it pretty well too! I just had a baby 3 months ago and I have to lose this weight it's too much!
I agree with all of this. What I love about my husband is even right after childbirth when my poor belly is pitiful, and my swelling has still not all gone, my husband always makes me feel beautiful. That is precisely why I work hard to get back to my pre-baby body or better because he gives me the gift of unconditional love and comfort when I'm really not where I want to be and he gives me grace. That motivates me to get back to my best version of me.
Ive watched multiple divorces in my community. After the divorce, all the women started taking care of themselves, loosing weight, working out, dressing attractively. It makes no sense to me why they waited until they are trying to impress a new man that they were willing to invest in themselves. It makes me wonder what could have been if they had prioritized their health before the marriage came apart....
Maybe their spouses affected their health ,in this case I am assuming the divorce was due to stress on the wife? Maybe they were stressed .Also men do it too ,divorce ,or break up and now they have six oacks and al
It's so messed up
It sounds like they loose weight from effort but it is the grief and strife of the divorce. Between 25 -40 lbs come off from not being able to eat or sleep.
I think we need to remember that our health comes first to be able to give ourselves fully to our families and husband . If we start by simply eating cleaner it helps us have a clear mind and the rest will follow. Trying to fit into a beauty standard is not healthy . Being healthy and having a healthy lifestyle is it’s own kind of beautiful
Yes the trap is going too far to one side. Weather that is not caring at all what we look like or trying to be something that is out of our league.
@@roxyperson8328 I agree ! That’s why I deleted all social media besides RUclips. I focused more on my connection with God and living a healthy lifestyle. Social media is toxic when it comes to beauty standards
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I agree! I also feel like my body is a sacrifice. I give birth to babies. My body won't be perfect anymore because I have children and want more children. This is natural. Mature men can accept natural processes. Plus, my husband enjoys these thick thighs forreal. 😂
Best comment I’ve read today ❤
“We hold men accountable and we lie to women” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Yes Ma’am!
So true! As a single woman my biggest issue is overworking and stress.
God calls us to take care of ourselves through rest in Him (Matt 11 v28-30), rest so we won't fall into disobedience (Hebrews 4 v 9-11) and resting is also exampled as a sign of trusting God (Psalms 127 v 2, Philippians 4 v 6-7)
Learning to maintain my mental health through rest has been a tough lesson to learn
Love love love that you are honest about this topic. My mom is almost 60 and absolutely timeless, she just takes care of herself and is aging so beautifully. My dad is absolutely crazy about her.
When I got engaged, my grandma said now don't let yourself go! (and I haven't even after 4 kids). You have wisdom beyond your years ❤️
A husband needs to also make sure he cooperates in making sure she has time to workout. Sometimes spouses don't do their part and make it difficult for the wife to take the time to do what needs to be done.
I hear and understand what you are saying. For a long time my husband worked 15hr night shifts, slept throughout the day (because he worked at night), hung out with us for an hour before he had to go to work. So obviously he was unable to make time to take the kids (newborn, 2yrs 4yrs) so I can exercise. So what I did was have the kids work out with me. We ran up and down the stairs together. Walked to the dog park (the kids would play in the fenced in dog park while I ran around the fence still inside the dog park). I mainly ate healthy to help keep my body healthy.
Yes, it is so much more difficult when your spouse isn’t physically there to help with the kids, but it is possible. ☺️
Yes that would help but also LA fitness and YMCA have child watch available while u workout! 2 hours at a time
That's understandable when a man is working to support his family. I'm referring to those who's wife work outside the house as well.
A really good reason to be a homemaker as Bindi, and the Bible, recommends. We can work out WITH the kids, at home, etc. Husbands don't need to shoulder the burden of our fitness. That's 100% on us.
Unfortunately once we place part of the responsibility in someone else, there will always be excuses as to why it’s not working and we will most likely fail.
I think personal appearance matters in the sense being put together and in shape, heathy inwards and outwards. I grew up with my grandparents and my mother had me very young but she would work nights and sleep during the day. When she would be up during the day, her hair wasn’t brushed, her face didn’t seem bright alert and groomed. Her clothes were rough and smelled. I remember as a little girl thinking “when I’m older / a mother I’m always gonna be put together first thing in the morning for my husband and family and even just my self.” Now , I still have that mentality and standard for myself that I follow. It’s a blessing for me and others. 😊👍🏼
I'm down 34 pounds so far in 5 months and I feel so much better! I started wearing a skirt...it's the only one I have so far and I wear it most days because most of my other pants and shorts don't fit. I have 20 more pounds to go and I think I will order my first dress here in a couple weeks. I will be close enough to my goal weight that I likely will still be able to wear it then too. I have an important medical appointment on October 6th to check my blood work and I would like to show up 40 pounds or more lighter than last 6 month check up and in my new dress. As a women who never wore dresses (twice in like 30 years) I am so happy to feel confident in a dress now and be healthier. This is as much for health as spirit. I pray that God brings me healing in this next month and my kidneys are doing better.
Amen
I had my appointment and God granted me healing! My resting glucose went from 113 (prediabetic) to 96 (normal). My cholesterol went from 230 (high) to 188 (normal). My kidney function (EGFR) went from 59.1 (possible chronic kidney disease) to 84 mild kidney damage but still considered "normal". My blood pressure is "really good". I'm now down 46 pounds. I also got news skirts and a dress that I wear exclusively. The greatest news is, because my health is so good now, we're preparing for pregnancy. God has worked miracles in my life.
HALLELUYAH ❤🎉
@@ichbinschlechtinclashroyal6833 😊 I'm almost 11 weeks pregnant after losing 70 pounds total. Doc says everything looks great. Baby's heart beat at 8 weeks 5 days was 167 bpm. Still wearing dresses and skirts. Mostly dresses now because they are more comfortable on the belly. God bless!
@@Kra-ri6fd Amen sister 🙌
Were you ever a teacher by profession? I find your lessons so easy to listen to, always a joy to hear what you have to say on a given topic!
Praise God on your women's ministry. As I watch your posts, I pause for the scripture on the screen and read in my Bible further for full text. You are a blessing to your sisters in Christ❤.
I’m a stay at him mom of 4 children and I’m at my high school weight. I 100% believe what you’re saying and I MAKE time to workout and feed myself nutritious foods! My youngest is 5 months old and my oldest is 6. It’s possible ladies, don’t make excuses.
What about your husband? Or is not a requirement??
@@sakuraesther6309 as we all know, we can not control our husbands. He does work outside of the home 9-12 hours on any given day and has more trouble prioritizing his health. But I’ve been on a health journey for YEARS before I got to this point. I have watched him become influenced by me though, in the best way, and he has recently joined a gym and has been making the effort to eat more healthy. We can only be responsible for ourselves, and I take my responsibilities seriously.
Both parties should be held accountable.
@BindiMarc Have you read, “Created to be his help mate?” I think it’d be great to hear a review of it from you.
I’ve read it and liked it. I’m new to this journey and still struggling every day. So it helped with some mind sets that I struggle with.
Please keep me in your prayers as I struggle with this change and my marriage is under strain due to my resistance.
Love you channel and pray that you continue on.
Loved Created to Be His Help Meet. So much wisdom in that book!
I absolutely agree!
That would be a great book to review I think!
Yes, Binding please review this book!!!
Agreed!!!
You made so many good and deep points (as usual). Truth is that both husbands and wives need to ensure they remain physically attractive (and physically healthy). This is our duty to both man and to God. There's a huge problem in the black church also. We forget gluttony and laziness are sins.
Where on earth does God say that is our duty?
@@annarocha3254 Hi Anna, proverbs 31.17 RE physically healthy- 'she equips herself with strength and makes her arms strong' I.e. she takes care of her health and body. Proverbs 31.22b RE physically attractive- 'her clothing is linen, pure and fine, and purple' I.e. she's pleasant to look at.
Here for your Biblical wisdom. You are SO wise!
Same!
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It can definitely be a hard thing. I have PCOS and low thyroid. After having two babies I gained weight and have been working to get it off. Sometimes it can feel almost defeating when it’s harder for you to lose weight but I definitely agree with trying. You can have a hard time but that doesn’t mean you should give up
I developed severe hashimotos thyroid disorder right after marrying my husband and they couldn’t get the dosage right so my weight ballooned out. Im so very grateful my husband still loves me and has stayed faithful but I feel an incredible amount of guilt for how drastically my appearance has changed.
It is defeating but I keep trying. Don’t give up! If anything, at least you will feel healthier.
@@Megthomas44 it’s easy to feel guilty, I do too. My husband tells me he can tell I’m trying and he thinks Im beautiful. But it’s hard. Don’t give up either, one day it’ll be worth it :)
Hi Sarah if you don't mind sharing... I have a friend with PCOS struggling to get pregnant? Do you have any advice you can give?
Hey sis 💕 herbs that balance your hormones can and definitely will help with your PCOS and thyroid !( along with cutting out imbalancing foods )which will then help you loose weight 🙏🏾 I’m a herbalist! Ive done some good research on the subject.. I hope that helps !
I would highly recommend cutting milk and gluten, taking complex B vitamins , as well as A, D and K. They helped me a lot in PCOS
This is true. My husband, isn't gifted at sugar coating things, he pointed out that I had gained excess weight prior to my last pregnancy. Like we literally just found out about our second pregnancy and here he was talking about my weight! I was soooo upset. I Lashed out, said some unkind things. It hurt my feelings but I started portion control and I'm now 15lbs lighter than I was pre pregnancy. No diet, no extra exercise just portion control and nursing my babyycan't imagine how much weight I would have gained if he didn't say anything.
Your videos are like new movies BUT BETTER to me!!I look and value each one so preciously as they come out. So much profound wisdom and guidance for the young and old. Thank you sister :)
Me too!!!
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I am not married yet but this is really good advice. I want to start being intentional about taking care of myself especially with my hair and gut. I am not overweight or anything but I believe I could do in keeping God temple by the help of the Holy Spirit. Thank you for sharing from your wealth of wisdom. You are helping single like me prepare for marriage
Do you have standards for the man you want? I tend to interpret these traditional advises as to be perfect and just love the man as he is or am I wrong??
You are one of my favorites and watch online. I don’t know if you’ve ever thought about writing a book… But I know it’s lotta women could benefit from hearing your voice more.
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@Bindi Marc your assessment of this book was more than fair, and it was necessary. The lies of the feminist movement were woven throughout that entire book and you eloquently shot them down. Despite popular belief, the feminist movement is making women more masculine and further removing accountability from women, but your review definitely called it out. Great job!!!
Well said, I agree
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Wonderful, reasonable and sound words. Thank you for bringing this clear message that is pro men and women. We need to be accountable for ourselves. We need to take care of our bodies and those who are believers know that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit.
You've hit the nail on the head Joyce. Keep on sharing godly wisdom. You're helping to build my marriage. God bless you 🙏
Thank you Bindi. I've been taking better care of my hair and skin since listening to you. I appreciate you.
My doctor's brutal honest about my weight at 19 has had be me on a worthwhile health journey for the last 12 years. I was overweight every year up till that point and the biggest since was during my pregnancy with my little one. I am embracing being healthy and I feel good. Also, whenever I get overweight which I was for a bit 2020- beginning of 2022, I think about the brutal honesty of my doctor and my want to be healthy. I am currently back down to below the weight I was when 19 and heard that amd still have 20 more to go. I love your assessment of this book! Encouraging and biblical based responses❤️
We do have a responsibility to take care of ourselves, thank you for the reminder. Good video
I agree with SOME of what you said in this video. Health and wellness is definitely important, but I’m extremely disappointed that you didn’t mention that there’s a number of people who struggle with their weight due to health issues. Like people who have thyroid problems, for example, those whose weight gain may have been caused by certain medications, people who don’t have access to or can’t afford healthier food choices, etc. It’s so much bigger than JUST gluttony or letting oneself go for lots of women. I don’t know, I thought this was a little tone deaf, even though I do understand the message and agree with it to a certain extent.
I agree, and some people do naturally gain weight easily due to metabolism and pregnancy.
@@hopefull61256 Exactly! I don’t lose weight at all while breastfeeding and I’m a mom of 4. My youngest is 6 months old so I’ve been pregnant and breastfeeding for the last 6 or so years. I can lose weight normally again only once I wean. Every woman’s body is different and situation also. And we definitely need to be kinder and understanding of that.
Look into intermittent fasting, it can help solve/improve many health problems and there are tons of free videos on RUclips about how it works.
Food is so expensive!!! Most people don't have money to eat better. It cost almost twice as much to eat healthier. Ijs.
Yesss!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Overall, I agree with you. However, from a psychological standpoint, motivation works differently in men and women. Women are more easily discouranged when something seems almost impossible (Like looking Like an underwear model), whereas men are more likely to start fighting for it. So 'perfect' underwear Models might be discouraging for women, but encouraging for men to get in shape. Women generally do better when there is less competition (Like dieting together with a friend and make it a social thing...)
@Sunny 🌻Physiologically, it’s easier for men to lose weight than women as well.
Yes! That’s exactly how I feel
I like the video. Your channel has helped me to see things differently (what I could expect from a good man I might consider marrying but also what would my responsibilities in marriage be). I really love that you "teach" it is important remaining attractive and also sexually available (to a husband). I now see it is how a woman shows appreciation and honor to her man. I was taught different things..
Being slim/skinny is not & should not be the ultimate goal for a woman. Vanity is the source of this obsession which is in direct opposition to God's will for us. I have been skinny my whole life, and actually was made fun of for being skinny...(enter kids) then hypothyroidism & premature menopause so losing the weight continues to be a struggle & self control is not an issue. Obessing about the size or shape of our bodies is also narcissistic. I praise God my husband loves my fuller shape as much & he loved my smaller size. I continue working at a healthier BMI but I find alot of your content triggering given an already low self-esteem, although I do value some things you cover.
You may not intend for this, but your sentiments can also reinforce self-hate for a very naturally changing body.
Also, the emphasis cannot always be on the exterior, to the point of it sounding obsessive. Does it matter whether someone fits an "ideal" feminine body type when they actually lack fruits of the Holy Spirit. Someone could look really great and be rotton inside & God looks at the heart. Also the ulitimate or one particular female body type is a fallacy.
I honestly didn't feel feminine when I was skinny but got way more unwanted attention from men, even dressing modesty but now having curves/being thick feels ok & everyday I have to remind myself to love this body, this body that is His temple & God probably knew my husband would appreciate me at this size right now 🤷🏾♀️
I pray and ask God for health & healthy weighloss, while I continue to do the work on myself.
We hear you girl.. but a naturally skinny woman preaching to naturally heavier women with different genes, hormones, etc. just always rubs me the wrong way. However the message is valid. Do your best to steward your body and let no woman or man look down on you for not living according to their standards
You could do it:) try different diets that work for your body. Such as fasting, ketogenic diet or one meal a day. I've seen heavy women drop pounds like butter :)❤
Only big Shirley talk the way you do
Great insight 👏🏾 I had to learn not to reject information that was difficult to hear. It had to start asking myself if I was mad because it was true
Same. I don't take criticism well but most of the time it's true. My 2 year old is just like me too!
I have noticed that feminist ideologies coddles women's bad behaviour and traditional ideologies tend to coddle mens bad behaviours .Why do you think this is so ? Anyone can answer .Please and thanks
I don't know why this makes me so mad, i guess because it suggests that we are objects instead of souls and that love is conditional. I've struggled so much with this idea and how much heartache.
I will get in shape but i really hate this world.
Thank you for blessing us with another video. I'm not married but I hope to be one day and I want to be a good wife :)
Hi Bindi! I am a young Christian lady (I will be 18 in 6 months) and I was wondering if you could make a video (or the link to one that you have already made if I have missed it) on how to get started with proper care as a woman. Proper hygiene, how to elegantly honor the Lord inside and out, preparing for becoming a wife (if of course the Lord wills for me to become one), and other things you think would be helpful for a young girl my age to know and begin to make a habit of. May the Lord Jesus bless your household. Thanks!
You have a great gift in explaining things. Breaking concepts down simply. Thank you for your ministry.
Bindi, we are so lucky to have your voice. The work you do is much needed and appreciated. I believe God wants his children to be happy. Following God's word can only lead to fulfillment and happiness. That is why I am grateful for your videos.
Spot on girl, SO spot on. Thank you for the raw truth that no one wants to speak!
I agree that women should keep up with their appearances while married, but I don’t like how you equate thin with universally attractive. I’ve been overweight the whole time I’ve been with my fiancé and he loves my curves and says He prefers bigger women. Not every man wants a thin woman, and not every overweight person is lazy and overeats. The latter may sound like a bold statement but some medications and genetics cause weight gain.
I do think it’s good advice to stay attractive for your husband and try to impress him.
Love your book reviews, please do more!
Yes! More book reviews!
I love them too!!
THANK YOU so very much for speaking the truth in love to women. I am 58 years old and I have just in the past 7 years started to understand how much I have internalized the world’s thinking. I have been on a journey to lose weight this past year because I have not been a good steward of my body or been an obedient child of God in this area.
The idea that men aren’t allowed to NOT be attracted to their wives is so strange. They have to love and accept their wives regardless of what she looks like or what amount of effort she puts into their relationship. I do think that’s true to an extent, you should still love your spouse through their lows, but lows that are a result of factors you can’t control, like depression, medications, thyroid problems, pregnancy, or any other health issues that are out of your control, NOT lows that are due to laziness, selfishness, or just not caring. If you WANT someone to stay attracted to you, if you WANT to foster love and sexual desire then you HAVE TO WORK to KEEP IT. Sexual desire and attraction is something you EARN from somebody else, it’s is not a given or a right. You can not demand someone FEEL a certain way about you, you have to evoke those feelings from them through your words, actions, and appearance.
Great topic to cover Bindi. I know I am a lot nicer person to be around when I feel healthier. I've been enjoying listening to your videos. :)
The observation about short term "winners" in double standards, being long term "losers" is profound.
This is great biblical teaching for accountability with our health and presentation!
I agree. Both need to watch their bodies. If you get so heavy your spouse can’t handle the weight of your arm on them - that’s too much.
I am here for you and I support you, lady. Very good information here. Going for a run now!
Your next book needs to be “created to be his help meet” by Debi Pearl.☺️
Yes!!!
I would not advise this book. I know it does have some helpful snippets in it. However debi endorses a lot of extra biblical personal preferences and advice she touts as scriptural that is simply her own thoughts. She embraces some harmful ideas.
@@oldfashionedgirl2819 thank you for saying this. the highest rated review for the book on Amazon has Scriptural correction for every dangerous assertion the author makes in her book.
My husband and I are reading "his needs her needs" right now with our pastor and his wife.
Hey ,why do so many pastors coddle many bad mens behaviour and expect the wife to keep up with it??I find that christians do it while feminism coddles womens bad behaviour and expect men to put up with it. But I am asking a a christian on the fence
God expects us to treat ourselves and others with dignity. This includes not allowing ourselves to be objectified. Nor condoning another's objectification for the sake of their own soul. (As a wife, my purpose in life and in my marriage is the soul of my husband. My first concern is getting him to heaven.)
No matter how you look, if you don't want your husband to want you, that's what's broken in your relationship. If your husband only desires you because of your physical attributes, that's what's broken in your relationship.
May God bless us with His wisdom and give us ears to hear.
Where did you read that?
Amazing series. I'm not yet married but I did find some really awesome gems watching this
I love this, I started following your channel not too long ago and I’m so happy I did, you really hit every point on the nail ❤️❤️
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Mmmmm...Girl.....This is 🔥🔥🔥
I've been convicted about my weight for a long time after 4 babies and definitely some stress eating. I love and respect my husband so much and I feel so sad for him for the way I look. He tells me everyday that I'm beautiful and that he loves my body. I'm thankful for that but I know a change is needed. Thanks for speaking honestly and biblically. ❤️
Now to figure out how to get rid of it! 🤔😜
One of my friends has lost a considerable amount of weight with alternate day fasting (with no exercise). Hopefully that helps x
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I needed this encouragement! I’m not overweight but I have gained weight. We are in transition of moving into our new build that my husband is doing. In the mean time we are RV-ing it in my parents driveway. I don’t have my normal routine and I’m making dinner every night for us all because mom is a “bit tired these days.” So I think I’ve been eating out of boredom and parental stress😯😬😆 Thank you for the reminder. As my husband says "being nice isn’t always kind" 😉
We're doing the same! We have 4 littles and the stress of everything is not helping my snacking habit. It's something I really need to work on and instead of just telling my husband that I like him just the way he looks I should encourage him to change what he can to lose the weight he wants to. I need to be better at facilitating those changes too.
I don't know if you have seen it already, but the author did an interview on a channel called God is Grey. You might find it interesting as you wrap up the book.
That’s sooo good!!! “If the advice will help me in 5 years then it’s good advice.”
Bindi your videos are so refreshing!
Thank you for standing up on biblical truth. I appreciate all the advice I’ve learned from you through Christ. Blessings to you and yours!
I really enjoy listening to videos about home making, femininity & marriage!
Thank you!
Wish I had this info BEFORE I was married & had kids. My first pregnancy I gained 80 lbs. due to this mismanagement of my health, I had a 10 lb baby & gestational diabetes. I ended up having a C-section and alot of trouble recovering from that. when my hubby met me, I weighed 140 lbs ( I am fairly tall, so I was thin) to being 220lbs. I completely ruined my body. I only ever had one other child, because in the county I live in, after 1 c-section you must have all babies by C-section. I would've liked to have more kids, but I had such a terrible time recovering from the surgeries - physical & mental - that Dr.s advised me to not have anymore pregnancies. My midsection is a mess, even tho I eat healthy & keep my weight down. It gets depressing, because I feel like my husband got cheated out of the attractive wife that he married all due to my ignorance & a certain amount of gluttony. My husband never makes me feel like he is not attracted to me, but it is something I can't get past in my own mind. It hinders me from feeling like I look my best because there is absolutely NOTHING I can do about it now. - its been 20 years. Losing weight only makes it worse and I can't afford surgery to fix it. Be wise about your health, especially during childbearing years.
I love how you call a spade a spade even though it speaks against women. As a woman myself i appreciate the genuine truth even though it corrects me. Unfortunately there is so little 'truth' content out there. Keep speaking the truth even though the majority despise it (those who are looking for truth are definitely listening.). new sub
I watched every single video in your series and I am amazed how great you’re able to explain parts of the book and actually show the truth and ideas to really question things that we are consuming. Sometimes I blindly read & follow books/ blog posts/ instagram posts and just now watching you really makes me think that I should pay closer attention. You’re very knowledgeable what’s in the Bible and I am still a beginner so I feel like that makes it harder to see through it.
Love your channel! always excited when you uploaded a new video 🥰🥰
Faithful are the wounds of a friend. Thank you for this video.
Good point about the double standards.
Of course, being healthy and, as a consequence, preety would be an ideal state for everyone. Life is not always smooth and it may interfere with our plan.
Accept your current situation and do little steps at time if you feel like to improve: I got used at doing a 1 hour fast walking, which is great both for body and mind. Drink a lot, cook your own lunch, avoid sun bathing and rest when needed. When in need, ask for medical help.
Also, it's good to have someone who finds you attractive, but you are doing a great favor to yourself first by keeping healthy.
Thank you for this book review!
I am a young wife and mother and had heard of this author and listened to her podcast previously. However when I listened, something felt wrong. I too recognized some things that were contrary to the Word of God and discontinued listening to her podcast regularly. I haven't read her books and am glad that I never purchased them.
Your channel has been a huge blessing and at times convicting. Thank you 😊
Thank you for your ministry. It is such a blessing.
Thank you for sharing so much wisdom. I would appreciate if you could do a video on your daily/weekly routines that help you to manage your time and responsibilities so well. God bless you!
Girl you rock!! I'm definitely going to be eating healthy loose weight and keeping up with my beauty for my hubby
I think you got the author wrong. I haven’t read the book yet but according to to part you read she’s referring to how sarcastic the man sounded. There are better ways of saying youn need to lose weight… for some weight gain is not due to over eating but due to genetic or physiological problems so being nice in how you present the issue is important. You are right both men and women have a moral obligation to stay healthy and to manage their weight for each other and for themselves…
Just wondering if there scripture to back up the “assault on a marriage?” Thank you!
Some men like bigger women, so it is subjective.
It’s definitely not biblical. I love her videos, and there is some wisdom in what she is saying about watching our weight, taking care of our temples etc
but you won’t a scripture to back this up in the Bible.
immediately what comes to my mind is “charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain but a woman of the Lord is to be praised”. Pvbs 31:30 Also “delight in the wife of your youth. Let her breasts satisfy you ”Pvbs 5:1819 paraphrased* But that’s about it. people can interpret that how they want.
The natural process of aging is completely different from gaining weight and/or falling apart due to poor diet and lifestyle.
Great book review. I love how you are able to discern what is true and what to reject, being grounded and in alignment with the scriptures.
I suggest “excellent wife” by Martha Peace as your next book review.
Overeating is not as simple as a lack of self control. I've needed to transition to a ketogenic diet to finally be able to lose weight. I think gluttony is done voluntarily and consciously, but being overweight is more complicated
Agree. Not everyone with a weight problem is a glutton. I hate that Christians insist on that always being the cause of obesity.
I feel like this video was sent by God for me, I have gained about 70 lb since I'm with my husband, i also dont really take care of myself anymore because I feel like I'm in a pit, i have developed an EMOTIONAL eating disorder and also trough not feeling confident in my new body, I dont feel sexy enough to want to have sex, like i ask myself how my husband stills loves me and says good things about my body, I*m honest, im pretty fit too, like the weight gain is not only fat but still being bigger now, just fustrates me, i have always used clothes in xs and s but now im an L to even XXL . and what i have noticed is that i have developed an rejection towards my husband, trough this video i recognize that I need to change things- i have been living with Christ for about 7 Years now and the last 2 to 4 Years I have been in an circle of gaining and loosing weight, so much that i feel like giving up. I thank God and then i thank you! i dont look like I looked when i met my husband, in all my weakness and letting myself go moments he has still been really nice and supportive and loving, now I understand that i have been very selfish and that this thing with being over 30 kg over my bmi is not a joke anymore. thank you so much!
Hello Dear, I hope you are well.
How is the weight loss going? I hope you have been managing. If you have, well done 👏🏽. If not, that’s ok.🙏🏽
Let this be an encouragement to begin today. A little at a time. Aim for 1kg a week so that you don’t have loose skin. In seven months you would have lost 28kg. It’s all about saying no to the excess sugar and carbs, saying yes to an apple instead (and other fruit and veg), a little exercise (walking up hills is great, walking in general), drink water instead of other drinks. You can do it. No, you got this in JESUS’ name.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽AMEN
Being overweight is not healthy. I think the goal is good health not necessarily looking like a model or bodybuilder.
I’m really excited to see how your doctrine and faith evolves as the Holy Spirit leads you further into the truth of God’s word. It’s so encouraging to listen to testimonies like yours- gives me hope for friends who are going down this path.
Here is a question I’m wrestling with I would love to hear you weigh in on: are the word of God and Holy Spirit alone completely sufficient for helping us walk in obedience, love, health, and godliness? If so, what do we make of plant medicine?
Hi Bindi, I've recently discovered your channel and you've opened my eyes to alot of things which I really appreciate. I was wondering if you could do a video talking about what you believe Paul is talking about in first Corinthians 11 about the head covering, maybe in the form of a book review? This is something I have an opinion on already, but have a hard time putting into words. You've helped me so much in other areas by being able to put into words things I've already believed because of the holy spirit.
Do you announce what book you are reading next? I'd love to read along with you and hear your input as I read.
I used to read the blog created by the author of the book you're reviewing. She gave me some great perspective about a wife's role has in regards to sex, but after reading her work for a couple of years, a lot of positions she took in regards to men rubbed me the wrong way. Like you mentioned in the book, she has a lot of double standards And it's not biblical. So glad you had the eyes to see
NEW SUB HERE AND I AM SOO SOO INSPIRED BY YOUR CONTENT TO MAKE MORE CONTENT LIKE THIS ON MY CHANNEL!!
Thank you so so much for the obedience of making such videos. It's controversial to talk about such things in today's time of such masculinity in gender roles etc. Love this, keep em coming!
Almost 20 years married now and I feel that when I´m in my healthy weight...my mood is better and my husband and daughters are happier.
I loved this conversation! A couple of years ago I came out of a period of my life where I was obsessed with being skinny to an unhealthy extreme…i fell pray to the opposite extreme, the body positive movement. Some things were helpful and I still follow some dietitians that offer valuable information. I eventually unfollowed a lot of influencers because I truly believe that yes we have different body types and there can be an unhealthy and vain controlling obsession with weight loss. But obesity is not good and it’s not healthy. Gluttony is sinful. Our heart should always be to glorify god. Staying Healthy and losing weight if you need to are ways to glorify god but if the heart and intention for weight loss is for worldly validation than that’s not ok. I ended up gaining back to much weight and realized like hey what I was doing before to be so small was not ok but I still have to take care of myself to honor my body and to honor god and my husband. So I lost some weight in a healthy way with a mindset of honoring God and not vanity or worldly things. God really blessed me with wisdom, health, a healthy relationship with food during those years. Don’t swing from one extreme to another. Find a healthy mindset and find balance with healthy habits. Be the best for your personal body type. I may not be as skinny mini as I was but I’m not overweight and I’m not bugger than when my husband first met me. I’m also healthy and capable of being active.
Thank you Bindi Marc I am Love Love Loving ALL your content! So helpful and powerful. Thank you thank you!!
I recommend the book “Homemaking” by JR Miller; it talks about the home and the role of each member of the family through a Christian lens.
I love your harsh truths. Even if we don't like the way it sounds initially, sometimes things have to be said👍
I love love your honesty. Praise God for you.
I really hate being a woman. I feel like everything falls on us
It does
An immature comment. Both sexes have issues that the other gender do not have to deal with. I can give you examples: child support, alimony payments, child stays with the mom and the list goes on. Men don’t hate being men, because of unfairness.
Having seen numerous health ailments of overweight relatives over the years, I agree. While we shouldn't go out of our way to be hurtful, we shouldn't regard the truth as an insult. Just objectively think about if you've eaten more junk food lately, sitting around, not leaving the house or not staying hydrated. I think a lot of the guilt and shame ppl feel is from knowing better and actively choosing NOT to do better. The science and stats don't lie about illnesses that occur over time with obesity. If there were certain things about your spouse you're attracted to that drastically changed, wouldn't your feelings or interactions with them change? Their appearance, job, willingness to communicate, etc. Why are we so quick to make our poor choices someone else's fault? Marriage should be one of the most honest and comfortable relationships we have w someone. If we want our words/feelings to matter to our spouse, then we also have to value theirs. And as my family's gotten older, the harder it's been for them to function. I'm aware of when I'm at a normal weight and when I need to lost a few lbs. I felt heavier and less comfortable trying to move around. Not to mention skin and digestive issues that came from the foods I was eating.
Learned a lot from this video, I never did understand why just saying these things and it's the opposite on men.
I had a self body image problem because my mom called me fat all my life. High school of course the kiddie fat and everything dropped and I was in the NJROTC at the time so I lost a bit of weight. I was chunky at the time but still believed I was a whale, fast forward in my mid 20's I started to gain weight all because of stress both work and home life, I had friends that said your beautiful or good the way you are and didn't help my grandma was saying that "Your young and healthy". I whole heartily believed in everything at that time. It also didn't help I was on and off with dieting and excising, my depression and self esteem was so awful to boot. I started to see health problems as soon as the age of 26 but it was one and eventually it started to show signs of what might go wrong. Now on a healthier and much more stable lifestyle bettering myself to find a suitable husband.
I just love your content! I got happy when I saw this
I am a 27 female. I will turn 28 next month (Oct 24th. I take offense with some of the things you say in this video.. here's why. I was 145 lbs at 16-22... I never once had an issue with my body until I was 23. I was married at 19 and my husband was so impressed with my body... my 19 yr old unmatured body. I started gaining at 22 yrs old... it was got to the point that I remember not even wanting to look in the mirror.. I was only 175 lbs. I remember this disticntly. I was so confused as to why I was gaining weight. My husband of 3 yrs didn't want to have sex with me at this point and I was devastated. I was "exercising" I wasn't "given to gluttony" but I was gaining weight. And at the time it felt like I was in a prison after having the "perfect" body and the perfect body image. Turns out it wasn't so perfect.. I get pregnant and have my baby 23-24 and guess what? I lost 25 lbs during my pregnancy due to being so sick that I couldn't eat or get out of bed... but I was ecstatic at losing the weight as soon as I gave birth... but 6 months I gained it back... fast forward to today and I am very satisfied with my weight at 226 lbs... could I stand to lose 10-20 lbs? SURE! there's always room for improvement. Do I want to be how I was when I was 19? Absolutely not! And it took me from the time I was 25 til now to realize that my body is not a prison... I was one of the lucky ones... your type of body positive is why so many women feel like their bodies are prisons! I couldn't imagine feeling this way any longer than I did and it was only 5 yrss! Some women feel this their whole lives! Whether it's due to outside influences or their husband's or their own self degradation this is not what we want women OR men to feel! Just be healthy!and if you are not healthy make plans with your S.O. or a friend to become the healthiest you possible!
Is your husband happy with your weight? Part of loving our husbands is trying to a healthy weight. No, we don't have to be perfect and you don't need to look the same as you did at 19, but we need to do our best to be a healthy weight. Think about it this way. What was one of the things that attracted you to your husband? For example, maybe he was a great listener. What if, after you got married, five years in he stopped listening to you and stopped caring about your feelings. Let us say this caused you to not be as attracted to him emotionally and also then physically. You would rightfully feel betrayed and he would be in the wrong and in need of changing, right? Would it be your fault for not feeling as attracted to him? No. For men, weight is the same way. They cannot help not being attracted to a woman visually. He might love you deeply no matter what, but that does not mean he will be attracted to you physically. Women's attraction works differently and is more emotion based. I didn't say completely, but much more so than men. For men, attraction is much more visually based and it is not a character flaw or something that they can change about themselves. By being at a weight of 226, you are "betraying" him just like he would be betraying you by no longer listening to you or caring about your feelings (again that's just a for instance). Just something to consider. Also, weight can ALWAYS be lost, but it cannot always be lost as easily for some people as others. The hard cold truth is that sadly weight loss is not fair. Some people work out, but they don't push hard enough to really make a difference. Some people eat healthy, but ti still does not make a difference. If you are one of those people you need to increase the intensity of your workouts, or experiment with what types of workouts help your body lose weight the best. Maybe its weight training instead of cardio, maybe it's hit workouts instead of aerobics. Every body is different, so not every strategy works the same, but they all can lose weight. Its not fair that some people lose it quickly and others don't, but that's just the way it is. It's not enough to just say, "I worked out and it didn't do anything so I'm off the hook." It means your strategy was wrong or the workout was wrong, or you didn't push hard enough. I know this isn't a nice thing to read, but that's just the cold truth. Please consider your husband in all of this. Please consider his wellbeing. Maybe he's not a kind man (I don't know him so I have no idea) but you are married to him and it is your God given duty to be the best wife to him you can be regardless of his actions. You are doing it for God, not for him.
Fantastic review. So glad you have the courage to tell the truth according to God's word, with kindness and unwavering firmness. God bless you. So look forward to your reviews!!
Thank you for critique and encouragement!
I often think: If God wants us to represent him well, shouldn’t we make an effort to dress, look, and smell well? If we saw God before us, today, would we expect him to be ugly and smell gross? No. So we shouldn’t present ourselves like that.