found out 3 months later when i was changing my phone from our shared account. my mental health was at it's worst until then. finding out, all my insecurities she triggered started to fade away. slowly i'm getting my old secure self again. knowing that i don't need her to be happy. it's going to be a long road. your video's help me a lot Coach ❤ knowing that i need to work on myself and my own flaws. i'm grateful i found your channel for that
12 years married and he brutally discarded me in May, blindsided me actually. In the past, i blamed issues on alcohol alone, nope, hes a covert Narcissist, it all makes sense now. Sadly me and my daughter are the collateral damage of my soon ex husband and the secretary from his work. He left our home and immediately shacked up with her for the past 5 months. She's been divorced twice. Idk, im devastated yet definitely don't want a cheater back. Thankfully im not on social media, i don't need to see anymore than what i know
I was in an LDR with her for 7 years. Due to us finishing our degrees, finances and then covid, we couldn't close the distance sooner. Our plan was for her to finally move in with me next year. A month ago, she broke up with me, stating that she's interested in someone else. I noticed she was getting more distant for a few months which in turn made me act more distant as well. Immediately after the breakup, she entered this new relationship (which is also LDR, not closer to her than me). The guy was her online friend for about 2 years. I found out about this 2 weeks ago, when I asked her how she's feeling, to which she replied "she's not quite sure, figuring things out". She later revealed to me that she's having issues with her new bf that had "gotten relatively bad" and it "made her miss me". After that, I initiated no contact and left her alone. I'm looking for some insights for my situation. Is this considered a rebound, even though she was lining up the guy for some time it seems? Do you think her new relationship will last and how long?
My ex (5 1/2 years together) monkey branched to a coworker 7 months ago. I'm still torn up. It's a unique situation, where she is married, in a non-monogamous relationship with her husband, and now my ex says that is the kind of relationship he wants. He's always been monogamous, so I'm so confused and hurt. I have to think he's just trying to "sow his wild oats" or something. I'm just now starting to get back to focusing on myself, but I have to wonder if this kind of situation is considered a "rebound" or what? It seems like the current dating culture is all about non-monogamy, and I have to think it's just people making an excuse for being afraid of commitment or something.
How do you get over your wife of 21 years who monkey branched outa my life…I can’t even find anyone else because of my faith, I can’t divorce or anything I’m just supposed to leave it to God…my pastor just don’t understand and I can’t break the cycle of obsession because I know I’m either alone the rest of my life or stuck waiting on her to come back
by letting them go. look for "Avoidant Explained in 4 minutes/ anxious " 7 min" that helped for me. your obsession/ being anxious gets triggered by your avoidant ex. just the same way as you are triggering her avoidance by doing that. that's the "dance" like Coach said in the video. change that mindset that your going to be alone, stuck waiting on her. still being married... let her go. heal, learn to love yourself in the first place. become secure again. Coach his video's are perfect for understanding that deeper. i get your pain, it feels like the worst kind of betrayal. don't let the anger consume you. focus on yourself.
i feel your pain. 15 years and she also branched. slowly it gets better. by understanding the avoidant and anxious attachment. they always avoid conflicts, having trouble expressing themself. realize that the person you created in your memory. who you attached yourself to in a unhealthy way. that they never existed at all. eventually you need to let go. hang in there
found out 3 months later when i was changing my phone from our shared account. my mental health was at it's worst until then. finding out, all my insecurities she triggered started to fade away. slowly i'm getting my old secure self again. knowing that i don't need her to be happy. it's going to be a long road. your video's help me a lot Coach ❤ knowing that i need to work on myself and my own flaws. i'm grateful i found your channel for that
You’re not alone brother my wife of 21 years left me with three kids to go relive 20’s again and she’s living with another dude
12 years married and he brutally discarded me in May, blindsided me actually. In the past, i blamed issues on alcohol alone, nope, hes a covert Narcissist, it all makes sense now. Sadly me and my daughter are the collateral damage of my soon ex husband and the secretary from his work. He left our home and immediately shacked up with her for the past 5 months. She's been divorced twice. Idk, im devastated yet definitely don't want a cheater back. Thankfully im not on social media, i don't need to see anymore than what i know
I definitely needed to hear i shouldn't worry about the things said at the end... my situation is fresh....this is helping me focus
I was in an LDR with her for 7 years. Due to us finishing our degrees, finances and then covid, we couldn't close the distance sooner. Our plan was for her to finally move in with me next year.
A month ago, she broke up with me, stating that she's interested in someone else. I noticed she was getting more distant for a few months which in turn made me act more distant as well. Immediately after the breakup, she entered this new relationship (which is also LDR, not closer to her than me). The guy was her online friend for about 2 years.
I found out about this 2 weeks ago, when I asked her how she's feeling, to which she replied "she's not quite sure, figuring things out". She later revealed to me that she's having issues with her new bf that had "gotten relatively bad" and it "made her miss me". After that, I initiated no contact and left her alone.
I'm looking for some insights for my situation. Is this considered a rebound, even though she was lining up the guy for some time it seems? Do you think her new relationship will last and how long?
My ex (5 1/2 years together) monkey branched to a coworker 7 months ago. I'm still torn up. It's a unique situation, where she is married, in a non-monogamous relationship with her husband, and now my ex says that is the kind of relationship he wants. He's always been monogamous, so I'm so confused and hurt. I have to think he's just trying to "sow his wild oats" or something. I'm just now starting to get back to focusing on myself, but I have to wonder if this kind of situation is considered a "rebound" or what? It seems like the current dating culture is all about non-monogamy, and I have to think it's just people making an excuse for being afraid of commitment or something.
Hi coach Court, hope you’re doing well. Can you please make a video about ex coming back after no contact. How should we interact with them?
So she left him and then his mad that he moved onto other people? She got what she deserved.
How do you get over your wife of 21 years who monkey branched outa my life…I can’t even find anyone else because of my faith, I can’t divorce or anything I’m just supposed to leave it to God…my pastor just don’t understand and I can’t break the cycle of obsession because I know I’m either alone the rest of my life or stuck waiting on her to come back
by letting them go. look for "Avoidant Explained in 4 minutes/ anxious " 7 min" that helped for me. your obsession/ being anxious gets triggered by your avoidant ex. just the same way as you are triggering her avoidance by doing that. that's the "dance" like Coach said in the video. change that mindset that your going to be alone, stuck waiting on her. still being married... let her go. heal, learn to love yourself in the first place. become secure again. Coach his video's are perfect for understanding that deeper. i get your pain, it feels like the worst kind of betrayal. don't let the anger consume you. focus on yourself.
I’ll make a video
My ex branch out with my 4yr. Im having a hard time trying to get through.
i feel your pain. 15 years and she also branched. slowly it gets better. by understanding the avoidant and anxious attachment. they always avoid conflicts, having trouble expressing themself. realize that the person you created in your memory. who you attached yourself to in a unhealthy way. that they never existed at all. eventually you need to let go. hang in there
Two months after a breakup? Try two weeks. He was with someone else after two weeks.
Mine too