Bridezillas So Insane They Made The NEWS - REACTION
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Can you imagine how much the divorce rate would drop if people worked as hard on their marriage as they do their wedding?
There was some talk in the UK ages ago about making divorce harder so couples stayed together. No, I thought, make *marriage* harder so that people really realise what they're getting into
Facts!!!! 💯👍
@@franl155 yes! Our church actually offers a marriage class for new couples. They get into the nitty gritty of it, too. The couple in charge it totally open and honest. (They also teach health/hygiene classes for teenagers which I went through at age 14, so I know exactly how open and honest they can be!)
Good point.
Yes! I’ve seen people put more thought into a tattoo then who they marry, because they see the ink as permanent. And there is a world of difference between wanting to get married and wanting a wedding!
If I had all that money 800 and 1,000 for bachelorette party. I’m damn sure not gonna spend it on your frickin wedding. This girl is delusional.
😂Great point!
Right? I had to drop out of a wedding because it was a rough time financially for me and I couldn’t afford the $500 it was going to cost. The bride was understanding and we are still friends. (She wasn’t in much better straits than I was and even told me “I wish I could afford to cover your part!” It was a sweet gesture on her part.)
Me, neither. After all, the bride needs to understand that the wedding isn't as meaningful to the guests as to the bride and groom.
that whole story is delusional. she realises that someone has told the world about her demands, tries to polygraph the whole wedding party. then cancels/reschedules the wedding and went on a retreat for spiritual healing, keeping any wedding presents/money they'd already recieved.
Maybe I just don’t that rich parent lifestyle. But I’m spending that money on my own vacation and maybe find my own wife.
WELL to anyone wondering about the Bridezilla from the first one Charlotte read out....
she got what she deserved in the end lol...the post and multiple updates are now a part of the Best of reddit updates subreddit..and to sum it up, the family dynamics were fucked up because the bridezilla resented the OP and mom, coz the mom went through PPD after having OP and had to stay away for therapy for a while and the Bridezilla blames the OP for it since that time and hence the control issues, along with manipulation and gaslighting behaviours. This intensified even more once the youngest sibling that OP mentioned about was born and the bridezilla has apparently always treated the family like shit and cared only about herself! So, like the OP mentioned, she wanted to talk to the parents, but they kept pushing it due to the bridezillas tantrums and all that crap and coz the mom felt ill for a couple days as well. Finally when the OP spoke to the parents, Father told her about the money funds they had prepared for each of the kids' college/wedding of 25k which would be transferred to them after they turned 19(hence the conversation now) and since both her brothers were in military, none of them had used that money yet. Turns out the mom was manipulated into stealing all the money by the Bridezilla from 2 brothers and the OPs funds and putting it towards her ski hill wedding which was a total of 100k including hers. This was all done without discussing it with anyone and the dad was furious once he found out during the conversation. He did snap at the mom, and she said it was because she didnt think it mattered that much, but turns out shes been doing this favouritism all of OPs life because she was always guilted by the Bridezilla that it was her and OPs fault for not being there for her while forgetting that the other kids didnt have her the same amount of time as well. The dad, called up the Bridezilla for a conversation while she was at the inlaws place and she refused to come but the dad threatened with not giving money and hence came back after 5 hours and blew up right in front of mil who drove her there. The dad made sure the bridezilla stfu and sat down and then had a conversation while she kept insulting OP and mom and treating them like punching bags for her shitty behaviour which the dad immediately told her to stop. They made it clear to her that she will not be getting her siblings share of the money and told the inlaws about it which apparently they werent even aware of and the inlaws agreed to pay some for the wedding as well. The Bridezilla then went away to move in with her fiance and them and the inlaws for some weird reason kept badmouthing the OP and the family while the family went no contact with her. Meanwhile OP had taken out 17k loan for the sake of the wedding expenses which she ended up not going to, and the dad made sure that 17k+25k was not spent on the tuition and housing for her college for the first semester and paid for it himself. The brothers took some leave from the military during this whole thing and stayed back to support the family and to attend family counselling. The mom realised her mistakes and the OP and the mom have grown closer than ever including the rest of the family except for the Bridezilla sister. Nobody knows what she is upto or how things went but rumours are she is pregnant and lives with her then fiance and that they and the inlaws still keeps talking stuff about OP and her family. OP and the family dosent care and OP has promised her dad, who she calls her best friend, that she will never be like her Bridezilla sister and be a role model to their youngest baby sister. The family meet once every month for in person family counselling and every week for Virtual ones.
SOOOOO that was the ending of what happened to the 1st bridezilla in the Story!!!!
I am just wondering how come the groom wanted to marry someone like bridezilla. I pity the poor kid who is going to be born to her.
@@roshs5619 Probably got beaten to marry her.
Oh my flippity gaskits. Smh, glad the family itself is trying. I wish them the best.
that's giving at least not only a happy ending, but also more layers to explaining the mom's behaviour also partially being due to having her guilt/PPD consequences exploited and manipulated by bridezilla. I'm happy the family is moving towards better relations and that the relationship between OP and her/his parents is better than before now :)
Thanks for the update
The post about the bridezilla sister actually got real dark. Like, the reason OP needed to get their mom off their bank account is because the sister decided to hijack the $25,000 the parents had saved up for each of their kids, so that she could have a $100,000 wedding without paying anything, and the mom agreed without telling the dad. And that's just the tip of the iceberg because the "control" issues starting at the age of 9 were... nearly-made-the-news-bad. So yeah. Glad you stopped where you did.
For the TikTok girl explaining her rules; I don't think any of them or how she delivered them was like a bridezilla. I thought that was just her tone, or maybe she sounded a little off because she already had to explain herself over and over again. But the alcohol part; she's being considerate of her guests, and their lives. I've been to too many weddings where people have gone to the hospital because of alcohol poisoning, or hurting themselves while drunk. And getting drunk that early in the day, you're just an alcoholic. It's not like she was completely against the idea. She just had them wait. She just cared about her guests safety. If you want to have alcohol at the start of the reception, have a later wedding than her. Or, just serve low alcohol content drinks until a more acceptable time. 2 o'clock isn't acceptable for me, no matter the circumstances, and maybe that's because I either know/am related to people who don't really like alcohol, or alcoholics. There is rarely an in between, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. Though honestly, anyone can do whatever they want. I just don't think she specifically deserves criticism. Everyone else in this video definitely does
Edit: also, just learned from someone that where the TikTok girl lives, having an open bar is rare, but that the bar isn't closed beforehand. You just have to pay for your drinks until 5 o'clock. So honestly, I see even less of an issue with her list
Yeah in the UK it is very rare to have an open bar. She’s actually being really generous. We also tend to have smaller weddings, it’s considered rude to presume you’ll have a plus one and/or bring your children. On the flip side we tend to buy all the outfits for the bridal party and guests don’t tend to have to spend as much.
I’ve been to dry weddings before and they’re just as much fun- maybe even more so- as ones with alcohol. I also was at one wedding where they handed out three drink tickets to every guest. You could have three drinks and that was it. Nobody complained or called the bride a bridezilla. They just paced themselves to make their three drinks last.
@@christiekilley8051 I don't think I'll have a dry wedding, but I also don't surround myself with irresponsible people. Even if I did have a dry wedding, I know my people wouldn't care because it isn't the most important thing. So people who have dry weddings that are super fun and creative is honestly a dream. I don't mind alcohol, but I also know most of my friends and family won't be tripping over themselves to get drunk in general. Let alone at someone else's special day
Thanks for saying what I was thinking. Charlotte was way off on this one.
I agree. Those "rules" were imo not Bridezilla. A lot of people don't want children there and it's fair to ask people to please be sober for the photos etc until a reasonable hour
If you're only going to a wedding for the booze you may want to reevaluate your relationship with alcohol. Been to lots of alcohol free weddings and they were just as fun as the ones when alcohol was served. And a LOT less drama. Some people shouldn't drink. EVER.
That’s obviously not the only reason, it’s a joke. But having a bit of alcohol can make a long day feel less exhausting.
@@maddijasnyy especially because weddings can be boring if the bride is BASIC
Depending on the family. Sometimes alcohol is the only way someone could tolerate their family.
@@smartyexplorer135 Stop fucking spamming everyone.
People in the replies saying that they need the alcohol to cope with life/family/boredom this is exactly what OP was talking about lol
I’ve been to a lot of completely alcohol free weddings and everyone enjoyed themselves. I don’t really like the idea that you have to have alcohol to have fun, especially since I personally know people who struggle with alcohol addiction. I think it makes perfect sense that the bride wants to have some sober hours before the bar opens. Besides, we have no idea whether or not there is trauma surrounding alcohol influencing this decision, or there could be a person in the family or the bride or groom themselves who is recovering from alcohol addiction. I don’t think we can judge her for this decision.
True, it's like relying on things because you know you yourself is not funny. People around me are already crazy even just by mineral water. This is a country which require license to sell liquor and alcoholic beverages, it's hard to get so commonly only seen in 5-star hotel bar and so expensive you'd rather pay mortgage
Yes!!! I would have a dry wedding....I don't see anything but horror stories and drama when alcohol is involved. That is a huge turnoff. I will gladly revoke my "adult card" if I have to...I will gladly be ridiculed and called a killjoy for hating alcohol and what it makes people do.
There is a history of alcoholism in my family. My husband and I don’t drink, and we had a dry wedding. Our reception was at the church, so I believe most people were not surprised by this. We had 125 guests and people dancing for hours. We had so many friends tell us what a great time they had.
I'll get merried in july 22nd, will have a lot of food and music, but will be alcohol free, since me and my fiancé don't drink and it's very expensive 🤣
Well i think just people who wants to drink alcohol can do it. If you dont want to drink just dont.
I was a bridesmaid in 17 weddings during college. Most of the brides were absolutely amazing, paying for all our stuff (including custom perfume for each of us during one wedding) but one bride... I had to reel her in. At that point I had a dozen or so weddings under my belt so at least I knew how to confront a bride with the wedding crazies by that point. This one decided all her guests needed to wear the same, EXACT SAME Armani Dress or Suit. That's 200+ people, most of whom probably never even touched anything designer all expected to shell out thousands and many of whom would not even fit into the dress choice as it only ran to size 6. She threw an all out fit, screaming and crying and beating her furniture claiming that I was in love with her groom (I only met him once and was engaged myself) and wanted to ruin her big day. I just rolled my eyes as the other bridesmaids stood back in actual fear- this was not my first rodeo with this. Once she cried herself out I picked her up off the floor, explained that she gets one bridezilla moment like this and its gone and how getting married is an adult act so she needs to match her behavior to her endeavor. She felt embarrassed, I redirected the conversation to her outrageous demands and by the end of it she decided to ask everyone to wear dark blue and to let go of a bunch of other things (like insisting every guest has professional hair and make up, that they only wear gold jewelry and not silver, etc.) The other bridesmaids thanked me profusely for handling her, apparently she had blown up at all of them here and there in the month prior but nothing like with me and they starting nick-naming me "The Pro".
Wow. That's some skill! I would hate to have to be that firm with anyone, would probably just yell back. Glad you got that Bride under control so the Wedding wasn't a burden to everyone!
Brides need to realize they are having GUESTS, not casting a Broadway musical.
Holy crap you need to be everywhere.
Okay, if you can’t abstain from alcohol for three hours, you have a real problem.
I am ALL for sober weddings; I get so sick of booze being the main draw at every damn event. 🙄
Yeah, I really don't understand the appeal. Most of the weddings I've been to, including my own, have been alcohol-free, and consequently drama-free haha. I'm not a non-drinker. The couple of boozy weddings I've been to were disasters.
thanks. was feeling like I was an AH for not having alcohol at our teatime wedding. We were trying to keep it affordable and neither of us drank.
Yeah, if booz is the only reason someone considers showing up to an event of mine.... I geniunly would not want them to come.
Like you do you, but I would want people to share my special moment because they care, not for a free intoxication. I do not drink, if I was planing a big event I probably would get someone who does to take care of it, for those who do, but elsewise they have to get what they want to drink themselfs, I got literaly no clue.
I am OK with people drinking, as long as it does not compleatly go of the rails, but the perception of it being obligetory and well, more importent then the reason behind the event is pissing me of.
At my sisters wedding, I literally only took one sip of champagne for the wedding toast and then drank water for the rest of the night. Drinking has never been my thing.
Oh look, the wet blanket thread…
So the British one with all the rules. I'm not sure if you know this but having a free bar at a wedding over here is actually rare. We are expected to buy our own drinks. So having a tab that starts at 5 is bloody amazing. The bar will be open before then for people to buy alcohol.
EDIT: Didn't realise she was Aussie, my bad. You know us Brits love you ❤️
I didn't think there was anything wrong with that!
Same in Ireland
British lol... Us Aussies are the British rejects 🤣🤣🤣
Much love
I've been to British weddings and they'd start the alcohol part at like 7pm when the kids would go home and the adults would get absolutely wasted. Who wants to be drunk before 6 pm? Even at a birthday party that would be to early. I'd rather have food, coffee and cake than some boozes.
She wasn't British, she was an Aussie!
A colleague of mine HATES kids, she can't stand them, doesn't want to be a mom etc. BUT she allowed them at her wedding and hired a professional to entertain them during the evening with games and even a cotton candy machine so they could have fun and be out of the way. The parents really appreciated
I mean it’s nice that she did that but me, personally, I’d rather save my $.
@FirstnameLastnames ... She didn't want to deal with any children. She made sure of it. There are those people out there.
Go figure...LOL!!!
I had a dry wedding. I hate the idea that weddings can't be fun unless you're drunk. We had good food, fun music, games, gifts for the guests, a unique theme, and creative mocktails that the guests raved about. My husband and I have alcoholics and sober/ recovering addicts of all sorts in our family. We did this for them and for ourselves (both of us have trauma related to this). The majority of our guests still loved it and had a lot of fun. Those few who had an attitude about the alcohol ban seriously missed out on a great time. I think it's a sad attitude to have that fun can't exist without alcohol or drugs. That kind of mindset causes incredible harm that I've seen first hand growing up and still to this day. One memory of a particular family holiday when all the adults were drunk and fighting and me (the oldest child) had to gather my frightened, crying cousins into my room and put on a Disney movie loud enough to drown out all the screaming... All I ask Charolette is that you be a little more mindful about why people might have dry events for any reason. Please.
Yes! Yes! Yes!
I had a mostly dry wedding, just champagne for the toasts. My brother has a problem with drinking too much and then turning into a massive AH. He didn't even end up coming (not for any bad reasons, he needed to be with his wife who went into labor), but I don't regret not having a bunch of sloppy people at my wedding.
I scheduled the ceremony at 10am and we had brunch (yay pancakes and French toast!!) at the reception, so it wasn't strange not to have a bar.
I went to my bestie's wedding which was very big (her family is Italian) and I personally don't drink. They were very understanding about it and were just glad to see me again after so many years.
Yes 100%! I'm going to have a dry wedding if I ever have one because a lot of my family are recovering or ex alcoholics. Plus due to childhood trauma, I am extremely uncomfortable around drunk people, and choose not to drink myself. I have had fun with my close friends and family without alcohol involved. It only ever causes issues whenever it's involved. You don't need alcohol to have a good time in any situation!
👏👏💯👏👏
*I absolutely LOVE how you care enough about your friend's and family members who are recovering!*
*Absolutely shows you and hubby are AMAZING people❣️*
*My daddy has been sober, from alcohol, since 1984.. so I know how important it is to stay away from alcohol while you're recovering!*
*Y'all ROCK!*
My daughter was going through a rough time at a family wedding (traditional/ formal wedding) and wanted to wear top hat and tails rather than a dress. The couple immediately reassured her they didn't care what she came in or for how long she managed to stay, they just wanted her there. I thought this was normal.
She looked fantastic, by the way, had a wonderful day and it actually became one of the strands that helped her towards healing.
What a beautiful family.
That couple are awesome people.
That’s Wholesome.✨
That's awesome of them! Also, it sounds like an awesome outfit!
Now these are marriages that are likely to last. Sensible adults.
I had a dry wedding for multiple reasons, the trick is to add other things to do. We had a photo booth that was a big hit and a little photo scavenger hunt that let the guests participate in the wedding, etc. It was also an afternoon wedding, that was smaller, and shorter so guests could leave whenever, I had really positive feedback which made me happy. I really liked it, we held it and my grandma's house and it felt like a cute afternoon tea party. It was beautiful and special. My marriage didn't work out but I'll always remember my wedding day fondly.
Ok but you're ideas are cool. Hers seemed just...controlling
This sounds amazing, great idea!
this is so fun!! how does a photo scavenger hunt even works?? I have no frame of reference, but I really want to know what that would be like!!
@@sirgaykrovos yes I agree this sounds like fun!!! Would also like to know how it's done :)
@@ElanaVital83 thank you! I didn't try to control anyone I just wanted everyone to have a good time. I agree she was a little bit controlling lol 😅
The second bride who talks about her rules, everyone says that the way she says it is rude but as an Aussie and I can clearly tell she is one too
We are just like this🤣🤣
That's exactly it, the tone and delivery and attitude people picked up was just...being Australian.
I thought about having a dry wedding since I cannot drink. Some of my family outright told me my wedding wouldn’t be worth coming to if there wasn’t alcohol and I needed to think more about my guests. I felt like not inviting them since they didn’t seem to care about me and celebrating my marriage.
That is when you elope, then invite your best friends to a nice dinner party, and ignore your "family." If they can't come because they only want alcohol, they aren't worth having.
We were given the same ultimatum for our wedding. We held our ground, and it ended up cutting the guest list enough for us to actually invite our friends.
We had a alcohol-free wedding, with alcohol-free drinks, beers, wines, ciders, and it was a bang.
Even my grandfather (God rest his soul) who was a regular drinker, had a great time, because then everyone remembered the night, and there was no drama.
I'll get married in jully 22nd and mine will be alcohol free too
Me and my fiancé don't drink
@@juliacabral4781 No way! That was our wedding day in 2016! Congratulations, I hope you have a wonderful wedding-day
@@mizzmatrix ooh that's so cool! Thank u sm ❤
Wearing heels in sinking sand? That's a lawsuit and a hospital trip waiting to happen!
Not to mention wearing *very expensive* high heels in the sand. The sand is going to scratch up and ruin those shoes.
@@Zaft_K
That’s what I was thinking. If I spent that much for a pair of shoes, I would certainly like to wear them again! But they would be ruined from the sand!
That last story is infamous, I remember the bride becoming so mad because somebody spread those screenshots of her dresscode requirements, which she apparently posted in a private facebook group for the wedding, that she bought a "lie detector" off of amazon and held a lie detector party, which she demanded her guests attend if they wanted to stay invited to the wedding, allegedly the party was successful and she found the supposed snitch, I say allegedly, and supposedly, because if she found the right one, there were at least two cause her final update on the matter got shared as well
I just want to see the photos from the disaster of an outfit she demanded! LOL! Sounds like they'll be wearing vomit!🤮
That tiktok bride was okay. I think those are the kinds of rules that are reasonable for a couple to request of their guests.
I am all for the younger sister who just wanted to do a funny bridezilla post based on her ongoing experiences to entertain the public of reddit but who decided somewhere between the edits to make some positive life choices. Good on her!
The one where the wedding was going to cost guests 150?! The poster said she was 19 and in college and she was expected to pay 800$ for a bachelorette Spa day?! That’s bananas 🍌
I hope therapy truly helps her!
I just wouldn’t have been a bridesmaid lol. I don’t care if it’s my sister. That’s ridiculous.
Yeah, just going from my memory, that was a 300$ dress, 800$ spa day and 1000$ hotel, plus shoes, hair and makeup??? Even if the bridesmaids wear shoes they already own and do their own styling, that’s already over two grand!
The updates I read on Best of Reddit just hammer home how nuts this is. Sister is literally getting $75 K from her siblings accounts for her wedding by guilt triping mom.
Edit: Link to the BORU that covers this story for the curious.
@@alexkoder1982 I would sue the shit out of the mom if she took my money to do this.
@@alexkoder1982 😮 that’s insane!!!!
First story:
Holy crap. When I was in my cousin's wedding, I paid for my dress and makeup. That was it. My cousin and her fiance paid for everything else. Even my shoes, bless them! 🥰 I was the only bridesmaid who was out of state, so they were just thrilled that I was going to be there. It's such a shame that some people aren't blessed with wonderful family members like that.
The girl with the free bar tab after 5pm, I feel ya girl!
What she means is, no FREE drinks before 5pm. So if you want a drink you'll have to buy it, and trust me, it slows the gallop on a lot of ppl who will drink the bar dry in the first hour! I did the same. There were glasses of pink champagne or soft drinks for wedding guests and those arriving to the reception before 6pm. That way guests arriving after 6pm could take advantage of the free bar too! We put £1000 behind the bar, and ended up with some of our elders ADDING to it so the tab didn't run out. We paid the tab, and gave the 3 staff a cash tip as a thank you with the remainder 🧡
I'd love a update about how many people actually show up for these weddings.
I sure wouldn't attend a wedding if asked to pay to secure my spot, to report ahead of time what my gift will be, or to wear ridiculous clothes. Get over yourself, brides!
I wouldn't attend a wedding if the bride asked me to buy $8,000 shoes just to go to a beach wedding!
Same here 😂 or if the wedding even happened. These brides are delusional especially the one demanding for everyone to pay their way and attend all the events related to the wedding. I understand getting married is an exciting time but also can how and why people loose relationships with friends and family over a wedding day. Seriously just get married at the JP or have a small ceremony
That first story, if I were a bridesmaid (at Mom's insistence), expected to cover all that "Out of pocket expenses", I'd tell my Mom that she needed to pay for it all or I'm out.
but i do not think its worth it tho.. i think it is better to just not come and just attend a therapy session 😅😅
Touché
The one girl with the 7 rules I actually agree with tho. No kids, no cellphones, and tbh we might do a dry wedding and reception (alcoholism runs in both of our families, and of course there's always after-party)
Thank you, I appreciate this comment 🥲
100% as a photographer, no cameras or iPads please. Also putting your phone on silent is basic respect. The whole list makes sense to me. Also my "family" has 30+ kids so no seats would be free if kids were welcome.
I used to have a friend who asked me to be her MOH but wanted me to buy a ridiculously expensive dress. I told her not to be so stupid because I can't afford loads of money for a dress for one day. I was promptly uninvited and unfriended lol. She's still never spoken to me. That's fine, real friends don't care what you wear.
Edited for typos
My older cousin ( who is more like a older brother) just got married at his local court house. Just him, his bride and couple of family members as witnesses. They just wanted to be married, without the stress of a wedding. A good example that there is a difference between simply wanting to be married and wanting throwing a big expensive party. ( besides for religious reasons of course) edit: I am not trying to shame anyone for wanting a wedding, I was just making a jab. At those who perceive the celebration to be more important than their actual marriage.
That's exactly how my brother and now SiL got married, just them, her son, us sisters. They're still married with now three kids
My parents did this on a monday morning (which means free wedding, between 7-8) and in the evening a small party at their house. I loved it. We were there and their friends who were their witness (I guess that is the word for it?)
You can have both. Wanting to be married while throwing a big expensive party. As long as the couple could afford it and aren't demanding, why not have a big party?
My mom and mother in law were the only two people who were making a noise about wanting to "see us get married". So we invited them to be our court house witnesses. They were thrilled they got what they wanted. We were thrilled that it was so easy to find our two witnesses for the paperwork. Our city's court house is on an island, so we called it our "Island Destination Wedding".
I truly believe that if you want to be with the one you love for the rest of your life you throw a party you're comfortable with, to celebrate that moment with the rest of your loved ones. If you're more interested in the party and the money instead of the people and the celebration, just throw a birthday ball. You can dress pretty, have gifts and the attention will be all on you.
I work in a botanical garden that can be booked for weddings on weekends. It's an overall fun job and I will say most of the brides have been great! And things like "no kids" and "no phones during the ceremony" are very common now. We even had one wedding where the planner hired a company to lock people's phones in little pouches to be unlocked after the ceremony. This sounds extreme but then I remember the wedding where a family member started taking photos with an iPad mid-ceremony.
I have to say this though in terms of the alcohol. People this year at weddings have gone HARD on the alcohol. This doesn't help when I live in a state that has strict laws we have to follow to keep our licensing. There was not a week this spring I or someone I work with didn't have to cut some people off. There was one wedding I was working at where we just hosted the reception and cocktail hour. 20 minutes into cocktail hour my bartender called me to tell her she had a guest screaming at her. I went up and spoke with her and she was already slurring and stumbling words so the planner and I had her cut off the rest of the night.
I have a million stories and I've only been at this job since earlier this year. What's funny is that people constantly tell me: "You must know exactly what you want!"
And every single time, I just respond "Yeah, that I'm eloping." That seems to be the sentiment across the board for people in my industry.
I used to work at an event center my worst experience was with the wedding planner of one wedding, expecting me to clean the chargers (decorative plates that the actual plates go on) it wasn't my Job as they weren't provided by us I told her as much she talked down to me I wasn't having it
I feel really good about my wifes wedding! She even invited me! Our rules were really simple even though the wife and I had individual rules. My was easier, whatever she wanted was good for me. My wives rules were pretty simple. Dress casual, no tie necessary. Her bridesmaids and her decided together the bridesmaid dresses. Her mother and Her would pick out the grooms and groomsmens tuxes and we got to have the final word, which was easy for us. Her final requests were anybody coming to the reception have fun, enjoy yourself, no drinking and driving and finally, know that we appreciate everybody that could make it to our wedding, in case we didn't get a chance to thank you personnally. Wedding was supposed to end at midnight, friends and my father bought us extra time. People started leaving at two a.m. after my father and an uncle passed a hat around and collected a very large tip for the two bartenders, hostess and two servers and the band that not only stuck around but joined the party! Go figure, after dating for six years she still married me and, although she passed in 2021 I still consider us married. 42 years and I love her more today then yesterday and less today then I will tommorrow! I told her that on a regular basis.
I knew a bridezilla. Her wedding was at a stately home turned hotel, a week-long extravaganza of horse riding, archery, wine tasting, candle making, etc. with the wedding on the last day.
Now, I'm disabled and unable to work, my carer only worked part time due to looking after me, so we didn't have much in the way of disposable income. I did look into it, the hotel would have been £1,500 each (shared room), plus cost of food, train, taxis to and from train, and cost of activities. Seriously, we couldn't afford the train fare, never mind anything else (I had hoped to just go for day of wedding). So I apologised, explained we couldn't attend due to financial restrictions, gave her a small gift and wished her well.
I was floored when, after the wedding, I received a demand to pay 'my share' (@ £3,000) of this extravaganza. I assumed it was a mistake, I phoned her and she said no mistake, it was not fair she should be out of pocket because people couldn't be bothered to turn up! I again explained we couldn't afford it, she suggested I should get a job then (not so politely, and she knew my medical circumstances). I then received another letter demanding payment and threatening legal action, I phoned again, this time I spoke to her mother (thankfully), she was horrified, told me not to worry she'd sort it out and apologised for her daughters behaviour.
Needless to say, we never spoke to her again.
Got married poolside at my uncles house. The family all came together, and we had a cookout/pool party afterward.
Simple. Sweet. Not a single demand was made.
My family and friends were happy, we spent next to nothing on the wedding, I married my best friend, and we had a bomb ass time.
Same; parents backyard, no gifts, buffet of simple foods made by my dad, neighbor made the cake, ordained minister/judge from down the road then we all went swimming and enjoyed ourselves. Easy and cheap.
That sounds fantastic. That’s exactly what I want
Sounds like a perfect wedding to me!
I met my soulmate, Bert, in 1980 when I was 19. I knew from day one he was "the one", and I think he felt the same. We moved in together 4 years later, and 2 years after that he proposed. We were both shy and didn't want a big church wedding.
He had attended several of my family reunions in Schulenburg Texas at the old community hall built by my German great-grandfather in the late 1800s and he loved that place too. That's where we announced to my family that we were (finally!) getting married. Next question was: "Where?". My cousin spoke up and suggested the beautiful little Lutheran church less than a mile up the road (GGFather built that too, he was an architect with a crew). Then we could have the reception here at the hall! Well, DUH! I should have thought of that!
Over the years, our families had grown close. We shared many potlucks, so we were well aware that our families both had some fantastic cooks. We decided that the reception would be potluck, BYOB, but we'd have a keg of Shiner Beer (a tradition at my family reunion since our ancestors worked for that brewery since the 1800s). Bert was going to cook his famous brisket. He had a trailer with a large smoker welded to it that he took to cookoffs all over Texas and won trophies. He was also an amateur magician who loved to entertain children. (how could I NOT fall madly for this guy?). My brother's band would provide entertainment from the old bandstand, and we would dance on the old wooden floor where my ancestors danced to polkas.
Sadly, it never happened. Bert died suddenly in 1989, on Mother's day, at age 32. I've always regretted dragging my feet on getting married. We thought we had all the time in the world. I'm grateful for those wonderful years we had together, I never experienced that kind of love again.
I'm still close to his family even though I moved 1500 miles away 21 years ago. Bert's wonderful mother is in her 90s now. I still consider her the best MIL a girl could have.
I found this webpage that has pics of that beautiful old church, now it's a UMC. Last time I saw it was when I attended the 125 year anniversary of the church my ancestors loved. The family farm is about a mile and 1/2 away, owned by our family since 1870 and still a working cattle ranch. They are all resting in the graveyard next to the church. That's where I first learned of the "Spanish" flu epidemic. I was walking with a much older relative who survived it. We came to a section of lots of tiny headstones, all young children who died between 1918 and 1919. I asked her what happened, she told me how it devastated the community. She also told me how my GGparents quarantined and wore masks when they had to go to town. Not one of their 11 children got sick. I was confused, "Weren't there 12 children?". She said, "Yes, the 12th child was from a neighbor. Her entire family died and she was orphaned so she was welcomed into our family". 🥲
Anyway, this website has pics of the church, the graveyard, and the rustically beautiful Freyburg Hall. I'm so happy to see the church looks even better than last time I saw it!
Sorry for the long story. I'm bad about that, but I'm a lonely ol' lady now and I love remembering happy times.
www.texasescapes.com/CentralTexasTownsSouth/Freyburg-Texas.htm
Yeah, when my dad remarried a few years ago, it was done in his backyard, with ribs cooked by the best man and sides bought at Costco. Tables and chairs were rented; the invitation said "No Gifts". Drinks were out of a cooler.
To me you had everything that a wedding needs ! And doesn't need ! Sounds like a beautiful day for everyone and you married the man you love shared with friends and family that's what's important , I wish you all the best
I am the youngest of all sisters. After witnessing my sweet, kind and considerate sisters turn into bridezillas, my husband and I eloped.
Weddings don't turn people into controlling AH's. They were one already.
@@Steph-yz4tn no sometimes the stress gets to people and they get tunnel vision
@@cocolime6496 stress is part of life. If you're an ass under stress, you're going to be an ass under all forms of stress. Buying a home, kids, work...the list goes on in stressful situations. No, these people are just AH's.
@@Steph-yz4tn obviously you haven't read any of the accounts of people who acted like jerks around their wedding date but then got over themselves. and clearly you don't know many people if you think that's how everyone functions. not all stressful situations are the same. and it's actually common for someone to get short with people when stressed. you need to get out more
@@cocolime6496 speaking from experience? Plus, people just don't "get over" treating people around them like crap. Planning a wedding far less stressful than kids. Unless the couple plans on never having kids, I guarantee that bridezilla will turn into a Karen quick.
Charlotte talking about the alcohol being the best part of the wedding: 😄
Me, my sister, and my parents being allergic to alcohol: 😅
We had a dry wedding due to past trauma related to alcoholic family members. A huge number of family members then refused to come, since we weren’t having booze.
It’s interesting to find that family prefers alcohol to being with you…
My husband and I got married 12 years ago on July 4th. It was a potluck 4th of July celebration with a small wedding thrown in on our front porch. It cost $100. Dress, dress shirt for husband, an ordained friend, cake, and ribs that we supplied. My husband even did the BBQing after the wedding. Best day of my life. And our friends were told to dress comfortably. It was the 4th after all.
That sounds like my perfect wedding
It was so casual, and so fun. No stress at all!
Happy Anniversary 🎉
Wow!! That sounds like a lot of fun!! ☺️💜
My husband and I went to the courthouse and exchanged vows. I have no regrets, even 22 yrs later.
Me too. I’d rather spend money on something else
Smart and spend thrifty...also love everlasting along with 22 anniversaries
22 years ago, my husband and I got married in the JP’s backyard. Our guests were his momma and my mom (who sent pictures to my momma; they’re best friends). It was a lovely, relaxed and short ceremony, followed by a dinner out and a quiet evening in. Zero regrets and we’re still happy with grown kids. And he’s still my favorite person in the world.
The Burberry scarf one is even worse than that article explained, I've seen it come up in a few Bridezilla videos on RUclips. The insanely expensive clothes were for a choreographed dance number (which is why the bride wanted that brand of heels, so that the red bottoms of the shoes would show when they raised their feet), so they also had to DANCE on the sand in heals. That's also why they broke the outfits down by weight. Apparently in the dance, the lighter people would "shew away" the heavier people to represent the couple leading a healthy life. If I remember correctly, the guests were also expected to bring a change of clothes valued at at least $1,000 to wear throughout the rest of the wedding so that they "wouldn't look like garbage" (the brides actual words), and be judged by the staff of the really high end venue. It is absolutely insane.
I remember reading about the dress code bride. If I remember correctly, none of the fat people had to wear designer brands, just black and camo print… like they’re supposed to be invisible. The red bottom shoes were for a synchronized dance to show off the red soles. So not only were the skinny women supposed to wear suede, velvet, and high heels on a hot beach, but they had a dance routine to learn too.😂
The kids in red were supposed to make a giant heart on the dance floor like a marching band.
Honestly, I’d be impressed if anyone could find a pair of orange suede pants that fit well in just a year.
I would feel nervous having an open bar at my wedding because I have quite a few alcoholics in my family. I think I would want to do what one of my friends did when she got married: beer and wine were free, but if you wanted any other kind of alcohol, you had to pay for it.
Beer and wine can make a person as drunk as any other type of alcohol if you drink enough of it. In some cases, even faster.
that's very common at most weddings, and there's usually a limit on the bar - either a time limit, or the couple have put a certain amount of $$ on the bar and when it runs out guests buy their own.
We will not have an open bar. I mean we will and we won't. We will have a bar at our reception that serves red, white and rose wine to have some variety and 2 different brands of beer to have variety and I personally will be making a delicious signature cocktail that represents us as a couple for everyone to try if they want to. Those will be their options. But everybody will be encouraged to make one choice. The type of wine they choose or the brand of beer they choose is what they will get for the rest of the night. Same with our signature cocktail. Because we will have servers. The servers will be instructed to only give a person ONE refill of their alcoholic beverage. If they want other alcohol we don't have or if they want to keep drinking until they pass out they have to pay for it themselves. And the person running the actual bar will be instructed to cut people off when they have had too much no matter what they say. Which of course brings me to one of the reasons why we will have security. They will be responsible for kicking out the drunk people who are fighting the staff and demanding more alcohol after they've been told no. And I'll make sure they know to come and get us and let us deal with those people.
@@truthseeker9249: What happens if they want to try the cocktail, and then want to switch to the wine or beer? Some people do that, and it might not be an unreasonable request, if they only have one cocktail, and stick with something else after they have that.
@@jacklow9611 Yeah I was thinking that. Everybody only gets one cocktail. But limited to 2 beers or 2 glasses of wine. I just don't want to pay for people to get wasted beyond comprehension.
How are there so many bridezillas and why are they all so entertaining
Because... ITS MY DAY! 🤣
@@beckyduchesneau7267 😂
@@beckyduchesneau7267 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Sounds like the bratty kids that were never told no and got what they wanted after a temper tantrum grew up and got married.
1/3 of brides are bridezillas bc of social media. We all want perfection and some want to outdo others. Some are insecure about being poor. Some are just under a lot of pressure period. Then intro social media. You get people judging every thing you do. People snap. Not every woman is a bridezilla.
I mean, we had a lot of the same rules as the Tik Tok bride. No one attending our wedding cared that we had no alcohol at all (none of our family drinks, and only half our invited friends do, so wasn't worth paying extra for). I didn't want to pay for random people to be there when we had limited space, so you got a plus one if you'd been dating for at least 6 months prior to the wedding (if you broke up in the meantime, too bad you can't bring someone else). We didn't have kids because on my husband's side that'd be 25+ extra people and we could only fit 70 people total (we had an exception for babies/toddlers since they don't eat adult meals, need adult sized seats, and are hard to have babysat/are still breastfeeding), none of our cousins/siblings missed out because they were all over 16.
All reasonable rules when presented with the right attitude ❤️
To be honest, I didn’t even find her attitude to be off. To me, she just sounded incredibly frustrated and tired and to be fair, if I had completely normal and reasonable rules like that and people kept arguing with me and fighting me on it, my attitude would be much worse than hers 😂
She probably had the right attitude but people blasted her and were mean to her so she was forced to defend herself
I agree with you all
I was curious and went looking for the three rules Charlotte didn't show, expecting them to be weird or crazy, and they were....well. Normal. One was for people to just dress "formally", the next was "No big announcements like pregnancies/engagements/etc" and the last one was "Don't post photos on social media until we do".
Charlotte was seriously off the mark with this one, all of that lady's rules are perfectly normal and pretty fair. Sounds to me like she just got tired of people judging her for trying to have a relatively nice, child-free wedding.
@@charondusk5608 sadly I've noticed charlotte doesn't research before reacting. Sometimes there's more to a story, especially in a "Karen" story or a "cop" story. You can ruin peoples lives by calling them a name or laughing at them. You really need a full story.
I don’t drink and I still have fun at weddings.
I surprisingly have never drank alcohol at a wedding. But that’s mainly because I was either a child or pregnant or my own wedding where I was the designated driver for my husband and I to get to our hotel after haha
My bro and SIL had the same rules at their wedding and it makes complete sense. Short of literally monitoring everyone's alcohol consumption, it was easier to have a dry ceremony and photos. If people can't wait to start drinking, I think that's a reflection on themselves and why they can't cope in social situations without alcohol 😬 it also sends a pretty clear message as to what their priorities are and that it's not the couple getting married...
My sister is 14 years older than me, (yes, I was an "oopsie!" 😆). We have SO many pictures of me as a little kid because my sister loved, loved, loved dressing me up, doing my hair, and posing me for the camera.
We did have those years where we weren't that close because she went to collage, but when I reached my 20s, we grew super close and she is one of my best friends.
Yeah, a 5 year age gap isn't really that big. It sounds like the older sister is the one with issues.
"she sent me a keto diet book throgh amazon"
(me in this situation) : "guess whats being regifted for the wedding"
also i feel we need to normalise people being able to drop out of being bridesmaids/groomsmen
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😂😂😂 YESSSSS!
When my sister got married, she actually requested no gifts as she wanted the wedding to be affordable for family and friends. Of course we still gave gifts but I thought it was very sweet of her to think of everyone.
you can still drink before 5pm, you just have to pay for it yourself. honestly i would be totally fine with that, in fact i would happily "donate" to the wedding family more than once before 5 oclock lol
Surprised OP's bridezilla sister didn't bill her for the Keto diet book. Could definitely see her tuck the bill in the book somewhere.
"Uhhh...Where's the money you owe me for the Keto book?"
"Excuse me?"
" You owe me for that book because it's your fault you're too fat for my wedding pictures!"
"😶 please go barefoot tap dancing on a sea of broken Legos"
Also, pretty sure both E and her fiance BOTH set up the proposal cause god forbid she let go some control 🤣
If I was her, big sis would be in for a lifetime of Christmas and birthday gifts that suggest she needs to change something about herself. That's how pissed off I would be.
all of these insane bridezillas... and then there's my sister:
Wedding planner: "So what colour would you like for your centerpieces?"
Sister: "Well, I have blue flowers in my bouquet, so I guess blue?"
Wedding planner: "sure! We can do that! Which blue?"
Sister: ".....uhhh... idk, blue? light blue? I don't-- I don't really care, they're *centerpieces* "
she was so chill for the whole process, I love her so much.
The dress code for the last bridezilla, I would love to see how those wedding photos turned out. The color combinations and everything just sound so wacky. Those photos are probably hilarious.
My wedding (plus dress as I found it thrifting for $35 with only a few spots to fix up, fabric for bridesmaid dresses, best men's vests) was under 200. We did a simple church walk down and then back at my parents house for a bbq. For pictures, we got lucky and had a family friend who did it, I just paid for the SD card and cds that the pictures went onto. It was the best wedding and I was SO happy we didn't spend too much. Also, gifts were optional as it was just for us to tie vows and I didn't want anyone to pay out a lot!
I don't see an issue with the alcohol thing. If you can't handle a few hours without drinking, you may need to talk to a professional :') Love your videos though! x
Kind of gross how everyone here is taking a joke to be ableist and call people addicts. It's a JOKE
@@ElanaVital83 I’m not upset or arguing? Just stating my opinion. Don’t take comments so seriously
She wasn't even saying no alcohol before 5pm. It was no free bar ie guests would have to buy their own drinks for those few hours.
@@Fragmented_Mask once again, you’re taking my comment far too seriously. It was said in Jest.
@@ElanaVital83 it wasn't a joke though.
I thought I was a Bridezilla because I asked my wedding guests to wear light purple and I told my husband to ask his guests to wear apple green . This was 15 years ago and some guests complained and decided not to attend. I had only one brides maid because I did not want to make people unnecessarily spend on a dress they don't like. So, I told my sister it was ok to wear her favorite color dress (green).
Some on my family members said I was a jerk because we did not have alcohol at our wedding. Well, they drink all the time and make fools of themselves every weekend.
After watching her highness The 🥔Potato 👸Queen, I am glad I am not the worst Bridezilla.
Umm...was this a Babylon 5 thing? Because thar could get messy. 😂
Cute story BTW..🙃
Let me get this straight, they complained because you wanted a specific color of clothing? That's it? And they were also pissed because you didn't have alcohol due to their drunk habits that you didn't want ruining your wedding? Hun, you weren't a bridezilla, you just have crappy family members.
I think it's a bit slightly nuts to ask / demand guests wear certain things if they're not part of the wedding party, but as long as it's nothing specific (like, you have to go out and buy this $100 shirt) then just saying to wear a specific color should be okay. I can see why a few people would still refuse though. I certainly wouldn't want to be told what to wear, but I'd try to see if I had anything that could accommodate what they're asking, lol
I think what you asked for sounds like fun. I would have cooperated
We didn't even have alcohol at our reception but we had a short reception and didn't request gifts. I fully agree with the "unplugged" wedding. I did that for mine because I use to be a wedding photographer for 8+ years and there was always one wedding where the couple's well intended dad, mom, sibling, would jump in front of my well place candid shot. Nothing made me want to be unprofessional than in those moments.
Was at a wedding this last weekend, which was at an out of town resort, on a Friday night, cocktail attire. Everyone had to take 2 days off work and pay for their own hotel rooms, dresses, suits, etc. The couple hosted the rehearsal dinner, picked a very fancy expensive restaurant, then announced that it was separate checks for all. So, the rehearsal dinner, which is supposed to be a “thank you” to all of your attendants and all who are wedding involved turned into a big FU…..what makes it worse is the happy couple found this to be completely appropriate 😳🙄
there is no issue with putting up an extremely style specific designer dress code. in fact, i am sure most guests will be thrilled to comply, granted YOU provide them with the outfits/accessories wrapped nicely as a thank you gift for attending the wedding. Oh, what's that? You can't afford it? Oh too bad then, so you just F-ING CAN'T AFFORD A DESIGNER DRESSCODE WEDDING
and even better for the rest of that one (i posted the story) the fluffy ppl had to wear black or camo. because , you know...wouldnt wnat to see someone that weighs over 175 lbs , blend them into the background instead
@@vickiechandler3112 unbelievable o_O we just need to normalize not showing up to any weddings putting up such ridiculous requirements, even if we personally could fulfill them, just out of solidarity with those who wouldn't be able to.
Totally agree . Nice plot twist 😆
@@vickiechandler3112 Camo or black to "represent the evil" that all the other guests were to be "shooing away" as part of the SYNCHRONIZED DANCE ROUTINE. Like, my god, we saw only the barest tip of the nutberg here.
I wouldn't have worn that outfit if it was gift wrapped and handed to me by a hot guy in a Speedo! It sounds hideous, I can't wear heels anyway, and I sure wouldn't wear them on a beach!
I had a friend that wanted to charge admission to attend her second wedding. They would get dinner, and a NON ALCOHOLIC party. I told her I would just catch the next one.
I genuinely love that for you especially since its likely to happen again
We had a "dry" wedding, back before social media was big so most people didn't even know. Half the wedding party was under age, including my husband, and none of our immediate family drinks any alcohol. Hubby's side of the family doesn't drink for religious reasons anyway, so overall we decided not to serve alcohol. We had a lunch reception and had a great time with family and friends. Only my aunt was angry about it and she just showed up already drunk with a trunkful of beer. I figure it all worked out in the end, lol.
I just had my wedding a few weeks ago. My dj was sh*t, nothing went as planned and it was cold and raining and the ceremony was outside. But you know what? I didn't care, it was beautiful, my friends and family were there and that was the only thing that mattered. There were no silly rules and everyone had fun. Oh, and it was a Polish wedding so we partied untill 5 am 🥳
Just tell the ring bridezilla that nobody will be able to tell how massive her ring is if her bridesmaids aren't wearing their average-sized rings.
The second I saw they wanted heels ON THE BEACH?! LOUBOUTIN DOES NOT GO ON THE BEACH!!!
One wearing only! After the beach, they will be ruined.
The bride with the bar tab. She said the bar tab doesn't start until 5, guests can buy their own drinks beforehand. They just won't drink as many on their own dime
These videos are always so wild to me when brides demand that their friends and family spend hundreds/thousands of dollars just because they are getting married. I've been a bridesmaid 3 times and have only paid for alterations at one wedding, dresses were all paid for. Each bride did whatever they could to minimise my costs outside of the gifts I got them. They didn't want their day to bankrupt me or anyone else because they understood that the world does not stop for your 'one day'. In the middle of their high stress times of planning the biggest days of their lives, each bride remembered to care about being a friend to me. Brides who demand bridesmaids pay any high personal price for any reason don't actually think of their friends as actual people who exist outside of their friendship. They think they are the main character of life and everyone else is just cardboard cutouts with zero object permanence. When I get married, my budget rule will be, if I chose it, I pay for it. If I decide what the dresses will look like, I will pay for them. If I want showers or parties in a particular place or involving a particular activity, I will pay for it. If I choose you to be there, I will pay for your seat/meals. Its nuts to me to force people into a decision between 'Pay a price that I decided on for a thing I want that you had no say over or don't come support me on my happiest day.' I'd rather get married at a registry office in jeans than force people I love to pay up or don't come to my dream wedding.
It’s funny how brides think they are the only bride who’s ever lived during their own wedding season.
i've been to many weddings that didn't involve alcohol & still had a great time. don't need beer/wine to have a good time. 3 hours is just fine. they will survive
For me going to a wedding means FREE food and getting the chance to wear a nice dress without someone telling me I’m weird for liking nice dresses.
Our daughter is getting married next year. They decided on handing out two drink tickets per person then you pay for your own. The guests are going to be ecstatic as here you always pay for your own drinks. We got married at the court house, 25+ years ago. No reception or fuss. It was PERFECT. At 18 yr mark, we renewed our vows in a church so my Da could walk me down the aisle. My sister had died and he wasn’t going to have that experience, so we did it for him. We surprised him and he floated me down that aisle. Just Nana/aunts/uncles/siblings invited. My uncle came in khaki’s and a flannel shirt, it was phenomenal. Took them all out for early dinner afterwards. Our daughters stood up for us, 17 & 15 at the time. It was a brilliant day. My cousin took the photos, I paid her. The goofy grin on my da’s face is the BEST part of the whole day!
As an introvert, if I don’t get a plus one I’m not going to a wedding. Especially if I don’t know anybody. Someone needs to be there to shield me from conversations with strangers.
Although this is not an introvert you are describing but social anxiety/antisocial behaviour , I still feel with you
Feel you, but on the other hand, for the same reason I would not want plus ones on my own wedding either, unless I know and get along with them
I'd be okay with no plus-one if someone close to me was also invited and agreed to buddy up. I would want alcohol, though, to help me loosen up and talk to people.
I think that's one of the issues with no alcohol at a wedding: you've invited people who you care about and want with you on your special day, but those people are not necessarily social or comfortable at a big party. Alcohol really helps.
And to be clear, I only drink when I'm with other people, maybe a couple of times per year, and I haven't been drunk in many years. It just legitimately helps me loosen up when I'm intensely stressed in social situations.
Its kinda inconsiderate to expect your friend to spend $300 on food and drinks for someone she doesn't know. Even $150 for just one person is expensive. I do not think guests realize how expensive each guest costs. And caterers charge for children and any additional people that show up. The rule is each guest is supposed to bring a gift of equal value to the meal. And someone your taking with you who doesn't know the couple isn't likely to bring a $150 gift. And I doubt you want to buy a $300 gift. A bride would love to invite everyone. But it is so expensive. And these days a lot of parents don't contribute.
I do understand how uncomfortable it is to go to a wedding by yourself. I've done it before. And its not as fun as with a date or boyfriend. I certainly couldn't have a drink because I was driving. But you go for your friend and just suck it up and make the best of it. 😉
My husband is a part of me. I dont go to events without him.
I really hope that the 19-year-old got the right help she needed. I'm glad posting this and reading the comments on it, made her realize the situation was way too bizarre and unhealthy. I hope she'll be able to get that therapy and I'm happy to know she has her aunt to help her out. Good to know she has at least one family member completely on her side
Our family never has alcohol at weddings, but gifts are appreciated but not expected.
I celebrated my daughter’s sweet 16 and it was amazing! I spent a good amount of money.
No children, no alcohol, no jeans, no sneakers, no plus ones and only she could wear red. Everybody followed the rules and we had an amazing time.
My wedding is going to have the same rules.
7:00 as someone with heavy drinkers in the family, I think having the open bar start a little later is a great idea.
I might do some drink tickets for early reception though, while all the pictures are going on.
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Hahahaha...if I were a part of the wedding where the bride demanded that only she could wear her engagement ring... I would totally buy her one of your "Petty" products as a bridal gift.
Mindset of a bridezilla
“How DARE you not be willing to go into debt for MY DAY!”
Food, music, and alcohol are the only reasons I go to weddings. We eloped in New Orleans and zigzaged eating drinking and partying around the French Quarter. It was awesome! ❤️⚜️🎉
I’d give her something not on the register just so she had to return it. 😂
A gift that she’ll never forget 🎁🧾😆
Or something that can’t be returned like a really tacky piece of art.
Give her something you really want for a while but not in the register. Fool your own brain so not to feel guilty buying something too expensive non-sense for yourself
If I gt a wedding invite and was told I’d have to pay to attend, that would be a quick rsvp “no”.
The one at the end that said about the Louboutin heels, that price was South African Rand. So R11000 equates to approx £550.00 or $837.00 Canadian.
I can understand the 5 o’clock bar tab. If people start drinking at 2 there are going to be people that are so smashed that they ruin the experience. That’s a long time to drink between 2 and 10-11 pm end of evening. Especially if it’s free. If people want to drink all day, go to a music festival or a funeral.
Some people seem to be more in love with the thought of marriage and weddings than they seem to actually be in love with the person they married 😅 they seem to love the idea more than the actual practice of marriage
These videos just highlight how unproblematic I was as a bride and also, how many things I didn't even think of! Geezuz. No wonder I had a relaxing wedding day lol
These people are fucking wild. My little sister was such a chill bride. She just wanted to have fun, make some memories, and drink a little champagne. She had a tiny bridal party and my BIL had a small groom party too. Despite how stressful the entire wedding was (just the normal wedding stress stuff and me being an introvert which is my problem), I’d do it all over again just to watch my sister cry happy tears at the alter and she and my BIL feed each other the first bite of wedding cake! Best damn carrot cake I ever had.
So we recently had our wedding, and one of the things we planned was to have a £250 tab on soft drinks but people would have to pay for alcohol. This was mainly done because at another relative’s wedding, I was the designated driver and a pint of lemonade was more expensive than a pint of lager due to horrid hotel pricing. Since my wife doesn’t drink, the tab idea on soft drinks only wasn’t a problem, plus the designated drivers could have a break for once.
Charlotte, I had the same thing happen; my best friend not having me in her bridal party. She said it was because I lived two hours away at that point and she didn’t want me to stress out. In all reality I would have been there if she would have asked, I made the drive home regularly anyway.
Not only that I had actually saved her life when we were 18/19. She didn’t know she had a heart condition and just passed out and stopped breathing in front of me so I gave her mouth to mouth and had the other person we were with call 911. So, yea…
We had a dry wedding and it was fantastic. Were some people pissed about it? Sure. But IDGAF. We have some very important family members who were recovering alcoholics at the time and it was important to us they be comfortable. On top of that, we had a pool party for our reception and the last thing we needed was for our idiot family to get shitfaced and break their neck on the side of the pool. If they couldn't respect that, then they didn't need to come. And if getting drunk is your only reason to attend a wedding, then why even go?
@@user-gj1me4mf5c being and alcoholic is not a sin. If you can’t go a couple hours on one day (that isn’t even about you) without drinking, you’re probably the alcoholic. Some people aren’t selfish, judgmental assholes who think that no one else’s comfort should be considered just because someone else (probably an alcoholic) thinks it’s normal to be drunk in public.
@@user-gj1me4mf5c Or how about we put an end to the societal norm that only way to have fun is by way of alcohol? Hm? Again, if you're soooooo bothered that alcohol is not provided at a wedding, that's not the bride's problem. Don't go.
When I was a bridesmaids the bride just choose our dress told us what color to do our nails that match the dress it was like 3 shades that we could choose from and told us that she wanted us to have are hair done nicely thats it. Never bothered us or expected anything from us. We did take her out to dinner at a girl's night out. And a friend of hers took her to an expensive spa she didn't expect any of us to all go because it was pricey. It was a nice experience and she was a beautiful bride and it was a beautiful fun wedding.
That last one would have been the fastest "Nope." I've ever noped on an RSVP
I truly do not understand what has gotten into some of these young women planning weddings in this manner. When I got married (41 years ago today!), I asked friends and family members to be in my wedding that I wanted to honor, just to have a good time. I picked out a dress that would look good on everyone (from one sister-in-law who was very tiny, to another sister-in-law who was almost 6 feet tall, with a very voluptuous figure), and that was all I asked of them. I picked out a dress that would suit THEM-I didn't order THEM to fit into some ridiculous notion of "my vision that my bridesmaids would look like." They wore their own shoes (which were covered by the dress, so who cares??), and I did get a small flower for each to wear in their hair, but I certainly didn't tell anyone how to wear their hair. (Flowers in the hair was a thing in 1981, lol.) People didn't really have tatoos or blue hair back then, but aren't you asking people you love to be in your wedding? Don't you accept & love them for who they are? Why are you trying to make these people into some artificial magazine spread? As for these wretched gift demands: my maid of honor threw a shower for me, and a couple of other friends had events for me. But that was it. And the shower gifts WERE our wedding gifts from people, we certainly didn't "expect" another gift for the wedding. We didn't care if they brought gifts--we just wanted everyone to come and have fun! My daughter felt the same way when she got married; she just wanted her friends to enjoy themselves. These people are delusional. And on their way to being very, very lonely individuals. Also, don't give me the BS that this behavior is due to "wedding stress." These people are spoiled brats and deserve to be called out for their behavior. I wouldn't tolerate it from a 2 year old, much less a supposed adult getting married.
11:28 11:28 absolutely 💯
11:28 11:28 absolutely 💯
We had the same problem with kids at our wedding..we had very limited seats for the ceremony, but we wanted them there for the reception. So...we hired a fun play bus for the kids to play in while the ceremony was on. The company we hired had people who looked after the kids.
Fun fact, the last story seems to have taken place in South Africa which means that on top of all the super expensive clothing, the tickets to Hawaii would've been about triple that price.
I've attended several weddings (some of which I officiated, as I am an ordained minister) and there was only one that I remember that had alcohol available. Beer was provided, but anything stronger was BYOB. There was only one or two where there was a reception afterward, and none of them had a wedding cake (at my brother's wedding there was only a small cake that they were going to keep in the freezer for their 25th Anniversary). None of the weddings were fancy, affairs, either with all the planning, expense, bridesmaids and groomsmen, but most were fun-filled affairs with family and friends.
I’m getting married in May and I have 3 bridesmaids. They only have to pay for their dresses which is within their budget. They picked what they were comfortable in and the shade of purple they are in. The only thing I said was sneakers (which are white since I’m in purple sneakers). They have input on their hair and makeup (which I’m paying for). The reason for sneakers and not heels or flats is because 2 of my bridesmaids can’t wear heels and we’re outside by the water (down a hill from the venue).
That's exactly why I waited an extra year after Covid. That way not only would we be able to afford it better, but people will actually be able to male it without the hindrance of having to manage around all the weddings that are happening rn.
Right now, yours is the only one on agenda for next year!
@@davidguidry657 woot woot!!!
Everyone needs an aunt like the first one. She's an og for sure
Never gone to a wedding with alcohol, so for me a moot point. I don't drink and never have. I just enjoy talking with friends, relatives and people I haven't seen often. That first bride was a definite bridezilla.
OMG Charlotte! You would have loved my daughter and her hubby’s wedding! Italian wedding that was (her hubby😉). The food was to die for, the music and entertainment were butt lifting 😆 and the midnight table 🫢😃🥹! The midnight table was out*of*this*world! My daughter didn’t enter in the ‘bridezilla’ patern and her with her bridesmaids (all longtime friends) had a lot of fun during the reception. The photographer and the video person had their place to eat with the other guests. After all they were part of the party. They were so grateful for the way they were treated althrough the ceremony and the party that my daughter and hubby had a super good service from them and the pictures and video were PERFECT! During the ceremony though there were NO CHILDREN allowed and it was perfect. No intempestive cries or screams or tantrums because they didn’t want to be there. Since 2015 now and we still talk about once a while…WHAT A PARTY🤪!