The bride not wanting her dad to walk her down the aisle because he is in a wheelchair made me so mad. My dad died 5 months before I got married and I would have given anything for him to be there. She clearly doesn't realize that he is a human being, not a freaking prop for your wedding pictures ...
Totally agree with you. I also lost my dad and am sad that he wouldn’t be at my wedding. Also, that part of the story when she said that her dad was devastated by hearing the news from other people made me even angrier. I’m kind of glad that her boyfriend broke it off with her and she won’t be having a wedding. What a terrible thing to do and say to your own father.
Totally with you there, my Dad died last year so will never see me settle, but also he was very impaired physically the last 8 years after nearly dying, but dya know what? We got to spend more with him and his gorgeous witty clever funny mind when he was disabled than when he was working. I'm so glad her mum, aunt and now ex called her selfish ableist shit out!!!
I agree also, if she didn't want her dad to give her away, why not walk down the aisle alone? Being given away is not a requirment and that way she wouldn't rip out her dads heart.
The bride worrying about her dad in the wheelchair pissed me off massively. She’s lucky she still has her dad with her! I lost my dad five years ago and I’d give anything to have him back to walk me down the aisle and be there for all the things he should have gotten to see. That bride needs to be grateful she still has her dad and cherish him. Because he won’t be around forever and every moment counts.
It’s not even the wedding that pisses me off (that too, but not alone). She admitted that she doesn’t go to see him because it’s uncomfortable FOR HER to see him like that! Seriously, that poor man went through hell, survived it, and has to live with the aftermath every day…. and also has to feel like his daughter’s ashamed of him or that he’s not good enough for her any more. The emotional pain of the life HE had will be bad enough, but her not visiting him after what was, by all accounts, a close relationship before the accident?! Brutal. She doesn’t deserve him
I hate how ableism always comes out when people are planning a wedding. I've gotten kicked out of wedding parties, uninvited from weddings, and even just ignored entirely by people I considered myself close with for their weddings because I'm disabled and it would "complicate things for them." For anyone else that this has happened to, I'm so sorry. It really sucks to be treated like an alien over something you never asked to happen to you in the first place.
One of the most important people of my life, my Aunt, had poliomyelitis, she caught it in her childhood because there weren't vaccines yet. When my cousin, her own son, got married, in 2021 they made the reception at a restaurant by the beach. When I arrived I discovered to my horror that it wasn't easily accessible for handicapped people. This was extremely saddening since a lot of people at the wedding were on a wheelchair (my aunt and uncle lived in a community for people with handicaps for almost 10 years and they had made quite a few friends there), the godmother of my cousin's daughters also has polio and consequently no functioning legs. My cousin is kind of a doormat to his wife I must admit, it was obvious she chose the reception (not his stile, way out of budget). But still the whole thing made me quite sad. It was also the last time I saw my Aunt, she caught a lethal lung infection and died a few months later. I never got to say goodbye and that shit fucked me up big time. Sometimes I still think about how inconsiderate the whole wedding ordeal was. I get that "it's the couple's day" but how can you truly celebrate anything if half of the people invited are uncomfortable?
Holy smokes, that is just horrible. What terrible people to treat anyone like that. No one deserves that...and you are absolutely worth so much better ⭐️
It's your wedding, if you don't want it ruined by your crippled father that is your choice.. these are going to be your memories and you don't want your photos ruined by having a wheel chair in them.. good luck
If I was getting married again, I would totally invite you ❤ just so you can feel included and have so much fun! You deserve to be treated the same ❤❤❤❤ I'm so sorry people are so gross!!
How absolutely soul-crushing to find out your daughter, whom you've 'always had a good relationship with', has decided you're too much of a 'complication' to be a part of her wedding. I dont think their relationship will ever be the same. Good on her mom though.
The best part is that she avoids her father because it reminds her of how much pain he's in. Really? More like it reminds you that you don't know how to act around people in wheelchairs. One would think that having a close family member who uses a wheelchair would make you more comfortable with the situation, but no, you intentionally avoid him because you don't like feeling uncomfortable. What is wrong with people?
We didn't have a wedding, but we did host a reception for family and friends. We planned the event at a place that it would be possible for people like my dad who had mobility issues to be able to get in and out, be comfortable, etc. Unfortunately my dad passed away before we got married. So yeah, this chick is an insane a-hole. I would have traded a lot for my dad to have been able to go to our celebration. (It was still a nice party for us, but yeah, I just want to be angry at this girl and her disrespect for her dad.)
Yeah, and I don't know, but the fact that she wanted her uncle to walk her down the aisle instead, makes it so much worse!?!? I mean, she could have given her dad some bs excuse about how they decided not to do it, because it was an antiquated tradition, and they wanted to come up with something else. I can't imagine how hurt the dad would have been seeing his brother escort her, not because he did anything wrong, or was an all around shitty father, but rather for something devastating that he had absolutely no control over. What an awful human being she turned out to be. Smdh.
@@itskagurabitch1134 Just imagine you would be the one left out from a wedding of a very dear and closed loved one because you are too 'complicated' because of a physical disability that is not your fault in the least.
The wheelchair one gets me. My mom is in a wheelchair and when it was time for the groom and mom dance my mom didn't want to do it and I convinced her it would be fun, needless to say I was twirling, spinning and just made it a blast for my mama. To this day 8 years later people still tell me just how awesome it was. And the smile on my moms face will be with me in my heart forever!!!!!
My wedding was small, twelve people including me and my husband. Cost a total of about $1,500, including my dress. But it was absolutely beautiful. We had our wedding in this beautiful rustic countryside looking Greek restaurant in the second floor banquet room that had trellises hanging from the ceiling with vines woven in, giving the illusion of being outside in sunlight. Incredible Greek food, gorgeous two tier cake, beautiful vases with eucalyptus sprigs in them as centerpieces that the restaurant had, it was perfect. And it WASN'T STRESSFUL. It was FUN. It doesn't have to be stressful! It's ridiculous.
Yes!!! Mine was definitely under 2grand too. It was beautiful and magical and perfect as is. I've never understood the focus on dropping bank on one day.
Me too! She makes her own father feel unlovable! Good for the ex-fiance! I would also cut my relationship with someone so superficial and egotistical! I would do it with my siblings if they do something like this to my father!
arguable to exclude her from the will over it imo. her fiance definitely broke up with her over that (at least one reason in a list). incredibly, unimaginably shallow-literally said she AVOIDS HIM because she's "uncomfortable". no inheritance for her, justified.
As a disabled person, the story about the bride and her dad literally breaks my heart. I have a condition that gets worse over time and my family has been great about it, but I can't imagine how destroyed he feels by it. For the bride: a little reminder that disabled people are, in fact, people.
The bride not wanting her dad in a wheelchair to walk down the aisle made me literally cry. I lost my dad to cancer 7 years ago and in the last months of his life, he was in a wheelchair. I would give anything for him to be with us today.
My wedding was on D&D night. We were married by our DM. Our two little ones, my husband's family, and other D&D players. We served dinner and cookies. It was great. We 🎉 celebrated 🎉 our 15th anniversary December 17th and on January 28th we will have been together 21 years. You don't have to spend lots of money or become a bridezilla to have a wonderful happy marriage. I have noticed that the couples that spend lots of money don't seem to last.
Honestly as long as there's food for the guests and decent snacks I'd be happy. I'd probably still want a family gathering where we both invite at least our close family on both sides but even then it doesn't need to be expensive.
The fiancé most certainly dumped her when he realized how shallow, selfish, vain and cruel she was. He dodged a bullet. I feel so sorry for the poor father.
Right? He probably realized the whole "In sickness and in health" part wasn't going to apply to her and she'd drop him like it's no problem if god forbid something happened to him that ruined her "plans" for her life. I'd still want my dad (if I had one) to walk me down the aisle even if he were bed ridden! We'd just put some wheels on that bad boy. And what the fuck does she mean that she wouldn't be able to hug him? Does she think you can't hug people who are in wheelchairs? Even if they're quadriplegic you can still hug *them* just fine. I'm glad her mom called her out on her ableist bullshit though.
@@LadyBeyondTheWall That’s so true though! If she can do that to her own father then who’s to say she wouldn’t do it to anyone else. That’s so fucked up
I was in shock! My step-son is walking me down the isle at my wedding to his dad. He’s just found out he needs surgery. I’ve said I will push him down the isle myself if I need to. If the surgery is too close to the date we’ve chosen, I am changing the date! Him being there is way more important than having it on the date is like!
As a daddy's girl I am highly offended and for my mother who has to be in a wheelchair I'm pissed that she even would come out her mouth to say something like that just be happy that your parents are even here.
How humiliating for her dad! I guarantee he still dreamed of escorting her down the aisle. I bet her fiance RAN from her! What a poor excuse for a woman. Wow.
My dad never got to give any of his children away. His eldest daughter had a falling out with him (similar stubborn characters), his son hasn't gotten married, and my dad passed away before me or my youngest sister were 18. On my wedding day last year, my groom who's dad was the life of the party during every wedding but reduced to a shadow of himself due to cancer during his eldest son's wedding and missed his daughter's wedding bc he had passed, tried to say a few words like we are happy you all are here while some would have loved to be here but are no longer with us. My groom tried to say these words. He tried 3 times but couldn't get the words out.
The lashes thing is so true. My sister paid a professional MUA to do her makeup for her wedding day and her lash was not even touching her lash line. I ended up fixing it but the amount of money people spend for "professionals" is just crazy.
why do these brides think being in their wedding party is everyone's DREAM COME TRUE? like, who tf wants to spend tons of money on a dress, makeup and hairdo they hate, aside from having to hear someone bitch about every little thing for six months - two years of wedding planning?? being a regular guest sounds so much better and stress-free. i've been a bridesmaid before and didn't have to do literally anything but show up to the wedding and walk down the aisle.
Yeah she's definitely a narcissist. Normal rational women don't suddenly turn into irrational or cruel bridezillas when they start planning the wedding. They were ALWAYS like that and have just managed to hide it long enough to get engaged. Just because you're stressed out that doesn't give you the right to scream and take out your anger on other people. In fact if the woman you're going to marry starts acting like a bridezilla RUN! RUN FAR AWAY. Because if she acts irrationally entitled and takes out the stress and anger on other people that is how she will act under ALL stress. And you better believe you're the one who is going to bear the brunt of her irrational anger for years if you marry her. It's far better to cancel a wedding than have to go through a messy divorce.
I imagine she was “close” in the sense that she was his little princess who was spoilt and got everything she wanted… without giving much in return. When she was required to give, she couldn’t handle it. Entitled and narcissistic
The chick who's worried about her Dad being in a wheelchair is the most shallow one on here!! I inherited my Dad's sense of humor, and (I'm so grateful it didn't happen that way!) if that had been my Dad & me at my wedding back in the day, I probly would have sat on his lap & rode with him in his wheelchair down the aisle to the song 'Born To Be Wild' or something similarly hilarious.
I went to a friend's wedding in which her father was in a wheelchair and had Lou Gherig's disease (he was much less mobile than this other bride's father) and, of course, he "walked" her down the aisle and "danced" with her and it was so beautiful and moving and I cried every time I thought of it for a month. You don't have to be the a-hole. You can show class, no matter what life throws at you.
I have to admit I appreciate bride number one's contract. I respect she put her crazy out on the table, in writing, giving every bridesmaid a chance to tap out in the beginning, no surprise. You can't get mad at a bridezilla who fully disclosed she was going to be a bridezilla up front. If you agree to all the crazy shit she advised you of up front you only have yourself to balme.
Some of the things I understand....like the no kids rule (people can have child-free weddings) and the approved date (no one wants a sketchy bum causing trouble at their wedding). But yeah, there still is a toxic positivity and "yes man" thing going on with this bride.
Agreed! Charlotte says "I feel like a lot of these are unspoken....." and I'm like "Charlotte have you seen say Yes to the dress??" There are a ton of bridesmaids out there abusing brides for their dress choices, unspoken does not mean that they respect it much less even care!
I've been married 6 years and to this day, everyone says I was the anti bridezilla. I paid for my bridesmaids' dresses I mean every bride should. I think it's rude if they don't. I picked out their dresses and said they can do whatever they wanted for hair and makeup. They were stressing out because it was 4 women trying to compromise on something lol I also offered to pay for the services but they didn't let me. I also got them care packages which they loved.
eh. I had 2 bridesmaids. tech one maid of honor and one bridesmaid. They bought their own dresses and were fine with it. I just asked them to be green or purple (my colors) . My maid of honor wore a green prom dress she found at goodwill. LOL, What you should not do is pick out a specific dress and make them pay for it.
My sister did the exact same. She paid for all of our bridesmaids/maid of honor dresses, shoes, & corset bra. All the bridesmaids & myself maid of honor went to the dress shop & picked out dresses that were the same color, but simular styles. My sister didn't want anyone having to wear a dress that they didn't feel confident in so we all chose our own dress styles even though she paid for them. We all got ready & did our own hair & makeup at the venue, which was so much fun! I am the one that chose my sisters wedding dress because she loved the one that I chose for her to try on & said it was the one. As a maid of honor the only expenses I paid for was her Bachelorette party (decor, dinner, hotel, club fee & drinks), and she tried to not let me even do that as she is more financially stable than I & I have two kids. I had to repeatedly insist on paying & she still tried to pay me back for some of the cost though I refused. Instead of gifts her husband & herself asked for money towards their honeymoon. Her wedding was beautiful, fun, & stress free. We all had a great time & made wonderful memories & that's what it's about ❤️
As the only daughter with the only grandchildren that are all girls to a father who doesn't give a damn about us, this hit totally hard. I think we all need to rearrange our families and get loving people together.
I agree with you my father would have been 85 years old yesterday he passed away 5 years ago there isn't anything I wouldn't do to be able to have him at my wedding when I get married
I'd have to agree with another commenter on here. I lost my dad when I was 16 years old. I would give anything to have had him give me away at my wedding, let alone just see and talk to him again. She is just awful. I bet that fiancée of hers heard what she did and ran for the hills. It doesn't matter if she apologized, that kind of nasty will always be remembered.
When a friend who's father was in a wheelchair for her wedding had her brother walk her down the aisle but when it came to giving her away her father was wheeled forward and with a grace gave his daughter away. Two weeks later he passed away waiting for her to return from her honeymoon. It was a really emotional wedding and know way would my friend have left her father out.
The bride who didn’t want her dad to walk her down the aisle because he requires a wheelchair is terrible… I have to wonder if the reason her and her fiancé parted ways was because he finally saw her true colours.
I feel worse for the father. Hopefully he doesn't know. Imagine making all those sacrifices raising a kid, giving it all your love and it turns into something like this. You will not only be deeply hurt but also questioning yourself and where you did wrong to get such a child :(
Except for when u get married to a foreigner in their country without an actual wedding but just a tiny ceremony 🤣 its pretty darn stressful with paper work and translations but when all is done and ur getting married, its forgotten
I agree. When my husband and I got married it was a small affair because we were thinking more of the marriage than of the wedding. I was going to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved. What is stressful about that?
When my husband and I got married, we did the bare minimum. It was just us ,didn't wear dress and tux, just dressed descent got married the stayed the night in a hotel then went home. The only stress we had was finding someone to do it. Had to travel 5 and a half hours to do so.
The first Bridezilla is UNBELIEVABLE! For my wedding the only "demands" I made of my bridesmaids were: Black shoes (any style you want) and wear the earrings & necklace I gave as part of your attendants' gifts. I didn't even care that the neckline of the dress didn't cover up one of my bridesmaid's lizard tattoo, she decided to cover it over with makeup herself. All 5 of my attendants looked beautiful & I was still the "center of attention". So it is possible to have your day without rules & contracts galore.
The bride being worried about her dad in a wheelchair, this is my thoughts. My father passed away and I would give anything for my dad to give me away at a future wedding. This girl needs to reevaluate her life.
My dad passed away over a decade ago, and I too would give anything to have back for an hour. This chic has a busted moral compass and confusing a celebration and fancy party with commitment and relationships.
Seriously. And that's the thing, bridezillas like that MAKE it stressful, it doesn't have to BE stressful! I had so much fun planning our wedding, and it only cost $1500 including my dress, venue, cake, everything. I don't know how women like that convince some poor desperate dude to walk down the aisle. At least she got dumped, good for that dude. I was always so terrified that my mom wouldn't make it to my wedding(she has high BP/severe migraines, and ALL of the women on my mom's side of the family have died young from brain aneurysms), so I was thrilled that she is still healthy. And you know if her dad didn't make it through that car accident, she would say she wished he could have been there, no matter how. Absolutely disgusting, I hope she actually LEARNED a hard, harsh lesson from that.
I wish my Dad could have been in a wheelchair beside me as I walked down the aisle. He died 3 years before I got married. She needs to realize how many of us would trade places with her in a second.
What's really sad is that she mentioned avoiding being around him because it makes *her* uncomfortable. I don't know how she could type that, and it not obviously and immediately indicate that SHE has a problem.
There was another reddit wedding story where I thought that should happen. Apparently, the groom noticed his fiancé become quite nasty during the wedding planning. Among other things, her demands were putting her parent's retirement dreams at risk! When I heard how concerned the groom was about that I thought maybe he should be adopted by the bride's parents!
WOW...JUST WOW!!! My dad died of cancer when I was 17. When I got married at 29, as happy as I was, I thought about him all day, and how I wished I still had him so he could share in my happiness. People like this bride really irk my soul.
My fiance and I legit said that when our ceremony happens, dress up. They can wear costumes or whatever they like, if they look better than us then good on them I guess. It's supposed to be fun and a celebration of two people making a life for themselves. It won't be traditional, but we're not into tradition. We'll be honoring the deities we follow and celebrating us in the process. Lists are only for details and general courtesy rules.
The only person I got stressed with was my groom who, following unmarried friends advice did naff all towards the day! The ONLY thing I asked him to help with was picking songs for the ceremony and his answer was "I don't care about the music, have what you want." I preceeded to launch my laptop at him and cry I was so stressed as I made most things myself (bouquet, favours, etc). He apologised and his contribution to the wedding for any curious person, was walking out after the I do's to shook me all night long by ACDC which caused my family to break out laughing so all good in the end!
The bride who didn't want her dad to give her away because he is in a wheelchair made me so angry!!! I want to hug her dad. I hope she gets over herself and starts to appreciate her father.
She could have just had her mom walk her down and have her dad sitting at the front already. But her only concern is how her dad's injuries will affect her.
It's pretty common to be honest. I'm disabled and I get ableistic insults and such thrown at me almost every time I leave the house. It's extremely hard in the beginning an you never truly get used to it, but you learn how to ignore it and how to educate the public. I generally try to remain calm and ignore those people if I notice educating isn't an option, but I must say I've said some pretty petty responses too on days it was just too much to ignore. The pettiest was probably when I was in a hallway at uni/college (it's the same in my country) doing emergency meds and testing vitals on one of the school couches, so I wasn't in my wheelchair (it was set next to the couch, but slightly hidden), when a first year comes up to me and he tells me that he doesn't believe I am disabled out of the blue. Never met this kid before, but I ignored it as I was busy. He then starts going into detail as to why I couldn't be disabled according to him and he quite regularly said things as "you're young, so you are not disabled" or "You just don't look like a disabled person" and so on. After a few minutes I had had it, so I turned to him and said "well and you don't look stupid, but here we are". Shut him up really quickly and he left accompanied by the laughter of his classmates who were waiting for class in that same hall. Never heard from him again afterwards and after he left I could finish my emergency protocol in peace.
The second story about the Dad made me so sad. My Dad passed away 3 years ago and if I were to get married I would give anything for him to be there. She should be thankful her dad survived and make the accommodations for him to walk her down the aisle.
My dad passed in 2003 when I was 9. I spent my entire prom sobbing into a napkin because it had just hit me that my dad wouldn't be around to see the important milestones of my adult life. I honestly be grateful if he was there in a wheelchair rather then not at all. Be grateful for who you have for as long as you can.
My cousin's wedding was delightful! She gave us a color Scheme with three colors; we could incorporate them all or wear just one...we got to wear our own clothes! 🥰 She's just not the type of woman who gets stressed about this kind of stuff. It was a very simple, yet elegant wedding, and because my uncle got choked-up giving a speech about my cousin, I started crying, and was dubbed the crying bride's maid...but in an endearing way. It was truly beautiful, and they are still together since 1993!💕 As entertaining (and simultaneously appalling) as Bridezillas stories are, I think we need to also hear stories of Bride's who get it right! 👰🏽👰🏿👰🏻👰🏼👰🏾👰 💜💐
My brother is getting married next month and I’m going to a bridesmaid (I have Cerebral Palsy and I’m in a wheelchair) The bride has done everything possible and more to be super accommodating. I can wear trousers instead of a dress, at the reception they are having a buffet and my food will be brought to me. Where the rest of the bridesmaids will be carrying flowers, I will have mine on my wrist so I can still wheel myself
Most grooms probably chalk it up to the misconception that all brides go full bridezilla on their 'special day', and convince themselves that it's not indicative of their bride's overall personality. I think some brides likely are affected by that as well, especially with shows like Say Yes the the Dress and the other TLC/WE TV trash shows that push the narrative that it's normal to be an entitled POS at your wedding. Either way, it's shocking that anyone would agree to those asinine rules.
it’s because this type of people. act perfect and soo sweet when they are dating. but when the wedding day is set, their true ugly colors shines so bright they can no longer hide the fact, that they are horrible people.
@@mrs.h2725 Weddings bring out what's truly hiding under the surface in a woman. If she goes all bridezilla, she's just done a good job of hiding her bitchiness on a daily basis. Any groom who's bride goes bridezilla should instantly dip because its only going to end worse for him later to the tune of losing half his shit and paying her boatloads of money.
Yea... I hate the girl who didn't want her dad there because of his wheelchair... like some of these you could say that they're stressed or whatever but not that one! That's just cruel... she also said that she's been avoiding him because "it makes her feel bad" - like girl that's your dad how can you even say that? Good thing the fiancé left her.
Its amazing (amazingly horrible) how many people can be so ablest to their own loved ones! A close family member didn't tell me about their child's birthday party, a milestone birthday too, (because it was easier not to check the location for being wheelchair friendly (it was in a bowling alley about 10 minutes from home and we've been there together numerous times) or having to watch me to make sure I didn't run over any toes etc (in over a decade I have never done that. I also have 2 cats and 2 dogs who are just as likely to run over, that's never happened either. Maybe not quite as bad as the father not 'walking' her down the aisle, but it still stung a lot, and made a crack in our relationship. I don't even think he knows how hurtful that was. As a general rule of thumb, if you want to decline something, don't make the reason be that they're disabled... unless it would be to avoid a very dangerous scenario.
The Best Man at my cousin's wedding took a shine to me, asked me out and we were married 11 months later. She wasn't impressed. They divorced but we're still together 46 years later. Back then, people didn't have all these pre-wedding parties - a single bridesmaid was usual. Her duties included holding the bouquet and arranging the train for the photos. Most weddings happened in the bride's local church. Most people were in their early 20s and a wedding was a great place to meet other single young people. Words like bridezilla and destination wedding hadn't been invented. Oddly enough, marriages lasted longer than they do now that they cost so much.
I'm an only child and I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer 10 yrs ago this yr. I would give up everything that gives me any happiness and comfort just to see him for one more day - or even an hour. I'm sorry for her parents. It must be shocking to realize that your child has turned into a monster.
WE ARE HERE FOR IT AS DISABLED PEOPLE 👏👐👏👐👏 my Dad died last year so will never get to see me settle, but also he was very impaired physically the last 8 years after nearly dying, but dya know what? We got to spend more with him and his gorgeous witty clever funny mind when he was disabled than when he was working. I'm so glad her mum, aunt and now ex called her selfish ableist shit out!!!
This bride is crazy, she’s very lucky she had any bridesmaids attending. It strikes me that this bride is very insecure. The second bride should be bloody grateful that she has a Father to walk her down the aisle, some of us don’t .a definite A.O.
How does this demanding bride even have any friends? I can't imagine ANYONE being okay with this! Weddings should be fun, joyous occasions! I've only been a bridesmaid twice. My cousin bought the bridesmaid dresses herself, and they were very pretty. She had no demands about anything! It was a big Mexican-style wedding and we all had a blast at the reception. We drank too much and lots of silliness occured. My brother will never live down his silly prank gone wrong. He was a groomsman, and he put on a pair of really obnoxious-looking boxer shorts under his tux. His plan was to drop trou during his speech to the happy couple, revealing his crazy boxer shorts. He didn't realize the shorts were a bit too big, so when his pants fell to his ankles, his boxers came down with them! There he was, on a stage, in front of all our relatives and friends with all eyes on him, letting it all hang out! Took him a few seconds to realize what happened because he was so drunk. My Uncle Charlie spoke first (his Southern drawl sounded just like Foghorn Leghorn), "Boy! Did you want to tell us all about your shortcomings?" Probably the funniest thing I'll ever experience in my life! My cousin wasn't upset at all, she was doubled over laughing. When she regained composure, she said, "Dammit Bubba! You made me pee myself!" Yes, my brother's nickname really is "Bubba", and that was about the most "Bubba" stunt I've ever seen! 🤣 "Bless his heart" was said by many kinfolk that day. 😉
My years-old Reddit account would finally have a post if I'd seen that. My father died 2 weeks before I was born. My mother struggled as a widow in the 70s then I lost my husband when my own children were barely teenagers and this one is "uncomfortable" with the look of a wheelchair. My mind scrambles that this kind of lacking of EVERYTHING vital to humanity exists in one person.
@@dalpz205 I’m so very sorry for both the loss of your Father & your Husband. I’m sure they’re in Heaven with such pride for You. Wishing you a Happy & Healthy 2022
I'm A 77 year pl d grandmother and eally enjoy your RUclips videos, especially the ones about entitlement and audacity.You are delightful and very perceptive. Thank you and "keep on truckin mama."
Good lord... if I found out my (hypothetical) fiance treated people like this I'd be out the door. There is no excuse for this behavior. Hopefully I'd figure it out before asking her to marry me though. Sometimes I think guys are just oblivious because they're getting some and are too lazy to check out something else despite all the red flags. Hard to see some of these. The entitlement is strong with some of these ladies because no one ever told them to F off.
The dad in a wheelchair story made me cry. I never met my dad and every day I am reminded that something's missing... The "Am I the A-hole" question at the end also got me. Do you even have to ask? What an incredibly shallow, horrible person. If I was the dad and the mom, I'd disown her on the spot. Accidents happen and life is cruel, but your own family shouldn't be!!!!!!!! PS: I hope the soon to be husband ran away. How disgusting and sad :(
Absolutely floored by second bride. One of my best friends got married last year, and the person who was walking her down the aisle got admitted to the hospital the night before, but you bet they were wheeled down the aisle beside the bride the next day during the ceremony. Everyone was thrilled that they were able to make it, and no one would care how it looked, because they’re a loved one and the ‘perfect wedding’ should include who you love in your life, not how they’re gonna look.
This one actually made me mad. Like most of them I'm just laughing or nodding along with you but the bridezilla who said she would be embarrassed about her father being in a wheelchair literally had me pissed. My dad passed away in 2018, I will never have that father, daughter moment, I would give ANYTHING to have him living, wheelchair or otherwise. So to read that someone would not only pass this up but devastate her father like this all bc of some stupid image she has in her head of a "perfect wedding". UGH. I need a shot, possibly three. Hope you are having a wonderful day Charlotte, thank you for posting these videos calling out all the bridezillas and just in general terrible people. Gives me a laugh and helps me feel better after dealing with one or more of them in my day-to-day. Now to go find the tequila. :D
That absolutely broke my heart when that bridezilla didn’t want her father to take her down the aisle due to his wheelchair. 😔😑 I can’t think of anything more selfish and horrid to do that to her father after he’s experienced such a traumatic loss. 💔🤭
For real. And what is it with people thinking people in wheelchairs can't dance? I use a wheelchair and my wife and I still took classes and had a choreographed first dance at our wedding.
It should never be a question honestly... also if him hugging you is so important people could potentially hold him in a standing position (unless it's dangerous of course). I've seen videos where the brothers or uncles would do that and it's the sweetest thing ever
That poor dad. My father died when I was 4 and my stepdad when I was 16. For me having either one of them walk me down the aisle would be a dream come true. I cannot imagine that fathers pain knowing that his daughter was ashamed of him.
As a wheelchaired guy that has rolled my fair share of men/women down the aisle to give their hand to their special love, I can honestly say that that attempted bride deserves exactly what she's giving out. Her attitude just shreds my heart and leaves me a bit misty-eyed that a daughter could feel that way. That said, I do have to admit that I rented a standing powerchair specifically for a wedding so I was at eye level with everyone and had a free hand to hold during the procession. It worked out well, but the damn thing weighs a TON and we all had a dickins of a time loading and unloading the thing.
The rules I want for my wedding. 1) Please wear something appropriate from your closet. Don't feel the need to buy a new suit or dress. Ladies, we only ask you please refrain from wearing white. 2) Nobody is required to attend any side-events, like bachelor parties or dress shopping events. We'd love to have you, but if life has other things you need to do, we understand. 3) No gifts. We have enough stuff. Your presence is gift enough. 4) If you can't make the wedding but want to acknowledge it, a wedding card is sufficient. You don't have to buy a gift out of guilt for not attending. We understand you may have issues in your life that prevents your attendance. 5) If you have dietary restrictions, please let us know in advance so we can arrange for a substitute meal from our caterers. 6) Please, no pets. Service animals, however, are welcome. 7) If you have any kind of issues with another guest, please put them aside for the event. We believe that in ten years, nobody will remember what our centerpieces looked like, the type of cake, or the color scheme, but everybody will remember a fistfight or shouting match. 8) Please be decent to the staff. If your Blue Hawaii drink isn't the shade of blue you think it should be, keep it to yourself. Nobody wants to witness somebody going full-on Karen mode. 9) We've booked a venue that is handicapped accessible. If you have a disability up to and including being confined into an iron lung, your presence is welcome.
Exactly. A VERY reasonable and thoughtful list. Heck, one of our guests showed up after she worked a shift at work, in her work clothes, and we were just glad to welcome her to the party. We told folks we didn't expect or need gifts, but we knew folks were going to get them anyway. So we did a registration at Target for stuff like new towels, a new set of plates, things that were basically $25 and under, but would be an "upgrade" from the mismatched plates we had and the old/frayed towels we had. We told people about it if they asked. Or, maybe I mentioned it to my mom and she told everyone cause she likes to be the one to spread news to everyone. Anyway. I think the more you tell people NO GIFTS, the more you end up with gifts anyway. Or at least that's how it seems to be with our families.
@@crazybiogeek My dad and now step-mother had the "no gift" thing in the invitation. I mean, they were both in their 70s and had two households worth of stuff. Only one guest brought a gift that I know of. Maybe it helped that most of the guests were in their 70s and had life experience. To be fair, the person who brought the gift was both much younger and an immigrant, and may have been uncertain of American customs. However, if you have guests who are going to do the gift thing anyway, giving them a focus for new towels or dishes is a smart move.
I can see how people would respect "peers" who say no gifts. But lots of people don't necessarily listen to "children" (in this case, younger adults) who say "no gifts". Often, it's out of a sense of, "You kids are young and just starting out, surely you need something" or a "gifts are my love language and bringing a gift is how I show love" situation.
See how easy it is to NOT inconvenience the ppl you love & want to love you on your day? In fact, to accommodate those whom you are wanting support from is pretty damn reasonable! Be a decent human 😌
The dad one killed me. My father died 3 months before my 16th birthday, very unexpected. When I got married, my mom walked me down the "aisle"(got married in my MILs back yard) while holding my father's urn. We took some "father/daughter" photos with me holdingit, and the "brides family" photos as well. Imagine being upset that your LIVE FATHER was in a wheelchair at your wedding...
My dad passed away from cancer a couple years ago. There is nothing that will ever be able to fill the void of my father not being there to walk me down the isle, whenever I do get married. The woman who’s father survived a hit and run only to be shunned by her for having accessibility issues at her wedding can suck my dictionary. Maybe she should wheel him around everywhere and try to get a grasp on that oddly twisted thing called a soul within her human body. Wow, man
Bruh... If my fiancee was that concerned about how bad the "look" of her dad in a wheelchair would ruin her dream wedding, I'd ruin the whole damn thing for her by tapping out. My guy dodged a bullet there, for sure.
Is it bad that I might try using some of the things for the wedding as a gift to the poor dad in the wheelchair? Like maybe change the wedding to a party celebrating him.....I dunno.
I think when a bride asks a photographer to work with them "for exposure" I think they should do it and just take the most unflattering pictures imaginable!
Yessss!!!! And make a video slide show for them with comedic Benny Hill music lol you could make a fortune with watches on RUclips. Best kind of "exposure" 😂
The girl who didn’t want her dad in the wedding honestly breaks my heart. I lost my sweet dad in October and would give ANYTHING to give him a hug. Sounds like the boyfriend dodged a bullet!
I feel the same way! One day, he will pass. And I wonder if even then, will she care? If nearly losing him in such a terrible & sudden way didn't get her attention & make her appreciate him what would? Sad. Shameful.
@@mahshidsoleymani3962 My loss? You mean my son? I didn't mention that... Did I? Well, regardless thank you for your condolences. It's something I never thought I'd experience. No Mother should. I have gone through the worst of it. But, the ... Severing ... That just never goes away. It's the most intensely painful thing I have ever felt. And that is really saying something... Because I have experienced A LOT in my 38 years. More than anything else I just... Miss him. I miss his face, his laugh... He had an infectious laugh. I really wanted to see him experience life, get married, have babies that looked like he did when he was a little boy... Little Riley's running around... I looked forward to that so much. All my hopes & dreams for his future, gone. Just like that. It wasn't just his death that I faced it was the death of that dream & all I thought he would be. Oh, my boy... I wish the world could've known him like I did... Then they would all most definitely feel the sadness & heavyness of this loss too. Instead of just moving on seamlessly & telling me to get over it, pull myself together & move on as well.
@@pavlovasupernova1013 oh my god Pavlova i cant even image what you have been through... im so sorry you had to experience such loss... it truly breaks my heart ♥️ i wish i had meet him too♥️ i hope you find your peace some day some where... i wouldn't expect you to forget and move on that is unreasonable to ask! but i hope you some how find a way to live with this bitter truth... im sure he will never be forgotten ♥️♥️♥️
@@mahshidsoleymani3962 Thank you, truly. You would be shocked to know the number of people in my life who ignored, avoided, abandoned, blamed & shamed me after it happened. Literally ALL my friends, all my family. All except for my cousin his girlfriend & my step dad. 6 brothers 6 sisters. 42 first cousins. 9 Aunts 4 Uncle's. Both parents still alive. Friends I had had for most of my life... of those, only 2 of my siblings even bothered talking to me afterwards. The others didn't even call. And the one sister & one brother that did - sister ignored me shortly after offering condolences because she had just had her first son & my pain was "stealing her joy". My brother was good for a few weeks but then we got into an argument & he told me it was my fault. Of my cousins 3 bothered saying anything to me. 2 lived with me at the time, those were the 2 that were there for me. The other messaged me on a Facebook account I didn't use anymore. No aunt's. No uncle's. Not even my Dad acknowledged me. He called my ex, my son's father the day after it happened to offer his condolences. But, not me. And he still hasn't said a single word. I still don't know what I did... Covid just had hit. My daughter out of school, my boyfriend out of work, my 16 year old son dies & I'm trapped inside my house with all those memories & nothing but my thoughts... Almost no distractions. It was like what you might imagine isolated hell on earth would be like... I had to wait a crazy amount of time to get the autopsy results back because the state & federal labs were totally bogged down & backed up... I didn't even have the option of going to a church service, support group or even actually seeing a therapist. To be honest I am somewhat surprised that I made it through that dark time in one piece. I'm grateful I did though. It has made me far more aware of what matters & who I can trust.
The fact that she was worried about how it would 'look' if her dad walked her down the aisle in his wheelchair is outragious, like okay Karen just think of how it would look walking down the aisle completely alone, imagine worrying about stupid stuff like that instead of being grateful for having a dad in the first place. I would love it if my dad was even alive no matter how it would 'look' if he ended up in a wheelchair, because walking me down the aisle however he could would make him smile and that's what this bride should consider, other people's feelings should matter more than a freaking image.
about the professional makeup and so on, I so often see makeup on TV done just to follow a "trend" not to follow whether it suits the person or not... It's sad. So I understand you Charlotte for fixing your own when needed
Can't wait to see the list for her husband for their marriage. I bet he's thrilled. "You are only allowed to fart on Monday, Wed, and Friday". "You are expected to have sex every Sat afternoon between 2 and 4 pm. Sports broadcasts are no exception." Bless his heart. And the daughter about her dad in the wheelchair.. omg. I would give anything to have my dad with me again. She has no idea.
I get the feeling that those people forget what the wedding and marriage is all about - love. Love is basically all you need for a wedding. Love between you and your partner and you and your friends and family. Everything else is basically unnecessary. No wonder those people all get divorced
I am so glad that weddings in Germany are totally different - no bridesmaids for example. Saves a lot of costs, troubles and broken friendships it seems.
My Dad was in an accident was I was 10 and is also paralyzed. I always imagined him giving me away, with my hand on his shoulder as he pushed his wheelchair down the aisle. And sitting on his lap for the father/daughter dance. Unfortunately he decided not to be in our wedding because my fiance and I lived together before we got married (living in sin and all). But in no way would I have made the choice to leave him out. That lady was unbelievable.
When I got married I had a budget of $3000.00 and I went over budget by $3.00 😱 I lost my freaking MIND and my late FIL gave me the three dollars and told me to STFU in a joking manner. I felt so much better but here it is 11 years later and I still can’t tell you where those three dollars went 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣
I have two brothers. My father died before any of us were married, had kids, etc. I think I can speak for all three of us when I say that we would have given anything to have him with us on our wedding days or any day for that matter. Of course her dad was devastated by her selfishness. Good for him if he found it in him to forgive her.
There was a photo of an a father in a hospital bed, his deathbed, going down the aisle with his daughter. He wanted to walked her down. He died a day or two later. What an honour and wonderful memory to have. I can’t ever imagine doing anything to hurt my Dad like that “daughter” did. Also, loved the music in this video and your new gavel. ❤️
My older sister's wedding was a hindu wedding with only 20 people including the bride and groom (2020 covid wedding) and then after the wedding we had BBQ lunch and Indian food dinner and dance party at night up to like 3:00am with drinks on the building terrace. It was a really cheap wedding in comparison to how typical Indian weddings go but it was the most fun wedding I have ever been to. Best wedding experience of my life.
I lost my father when I was a child (I was 11) in 1998 to cancer and also my unofficially adopted dad died in 2015, that girl is lucky to have her father still. I know its no longer a go ahead but there are people here on YT that have found creative ways to include family members with a disability into the ceremony and/or reception. I just saw clips where family lifted up groom to dance with the bride. Straps were attached to each leg of the groom and helper so that the groom would not slide. Then they all swayed to the music. Another one was a father (turns out to be a forner racing car driver that got severely injured in a crash and was paralysed) who was attached to an exo-skeleton (a device that helps you walk) and he was able to not only dance with his daughter (the bride) but also his wife, other daughters and everyone else. Otherwise the thing that needs to change is not the circumstance, your father or family, but its your mindset that needs to change
I'm a wheelchair user, have been for 8 years, it's so comfortable and normal for me I couldn't imagine my kids having a problem with it, but they were all ten and under and had seen the decline and the freedom it gave me. Of course, I felt nervous the first time it appeared on a more formal family picture. Unfortunately, I've done more weddings than funerals in those 8 years, the only bit that's a problem is graveside if it's muddy.
The most beautiful wedding I ever attended was totally by accident. I was a public school educator and my principal and I had a truancy hearing to attend at the local justice's office. We went, had the hearing, and while we were there, a couple came with their son--we had him in school and we knew he was out for the day because his parents were getting married. Anyway, the couple came into the office, saw the principal and I and asked us to be their witnesses--they were going to use the secretaries in the office--and of course we said yes. It was a simple wedding, only like five or ten minutes long. We went out to the parking lot afterwards and had a toast with the lemonade they'd brought along.
Is a truancy hearing in court a US thing? My province just won't pass you or not give you the course credits towards graduation if you miss too many classes.
@@Student1483 Yep. Your kids *have* to do some type of school, whether it's public school, private school or homeschooling. I'm pretty sure you can have your children taken from you if you don't make sure they're educated, though they can legally drop out of school at 16 (or they just don't show up and thus will fail, as you said, which is basically the same as "dropping out"), so I don't think it applies after the age of 16 (I guess maybe partly because how do you control an asshole kid who leaves school property everyday at that age?)
I am a grown ass woman with zero desire to have a “traditional” wedding situation and yet these videos are my absolute favorite. I literally yell “YAAAS” every time you make these. Thank you and pls never stop.
The story about the bride with her father on a wheelchair made me cry, I can't believe that she is this shallow. My dad passed away last june and he was disable due to a brain stroke he walked with a cane and had some visible effects I could never imagine not wanting him there or saying those things about him, like I would literally fight anyone who ever dared say something about him or his illness and I can't believe that she gets the luck of having her father walk her down the aisle but she chooses not to for asthetics? I wish I could have him here with me and share moments like that and some people don't vale that for dumb reasons
I had a big, Italian wedding and it was still stress free because the only thing that mattered to me was that I was married to my best friend at the end of the day. I loved every minute of my wedding and wedding planning. My husband and I had equal input and were equally involved 🤷♀️
Wow. The bride who didn't want her dad to walk her down the isle, she deserved to not get married. My dad passed away about 4 years ago, and I literally don't even CARE about a wedding anymore because the idea of not having a father daughter dance, or him not walking me down an isle.... it just didn't feel as meaningful without my dad there to be happy for me. I don't need a party, the gifts, or title....I would give all of that to have my dad back.
When I got married (now divorced) both my sisters turned up on the day with the exact same hair colour as me. We also have the same colour eyes 😂 I wasn't upset at all. I was so thrilled that we 3 sisters looked so similar! They were my 2 bridesmades and they had different dressed to mine, so I certainly had no issue with them looking beautiful and having a great time ❤️ The photo of the 3 of us, and the one with my parents and I are the only 2 photos I have kept ♡
I’m so sadden by the lady who didn’t want her dad to walk her down the aisle because he’s in a wheelchair. If he wouldn’t have survived she would be crying because he wasn’t there to even be there to begin with. What a shady a$$hole. She should be grateful to even have parents. I don’t even have that.
My Dad passed away at 58 surprisingly, 6 months after my wedding and, of course, walking me down the aisle. I got to spent the night at my parent's/my childhood house the night before due to a snowstorm trapping me in NYC with a freak ride from my old bus company coming by! We had a very nice chat where I discussed me doing animal rescue after work, weekends, etc. His last words were "I love you" as I was walking out to my commuter bus. Mine was "I love you too!" (gotta catch the bus, call you at lunch). DO YOU KNOW WHAT PEACE YOU HAVE LEAVING OFF LIKE THAT! That idiot will rue the day she brought up the idea, let alone if her fiance didn't wise up.
@@carolr7333 Sorry to hear about your father. Glad he was there for you at your wedding. Also, glad your last words were I love you. That is the best words to have said and be the last words to have said to each other. ❤️ I lost my mom at 55, I was 23, and unfortunately. Short story her husband (jerk) forgot to tell me she was in the hospital and by the time I got there it was too late, and went into a coma. At least, I was able to talk to her days prior. People like her, and her thinking it just baffles me. Because she’s truly lucky that her father made it. Sure, he can’t move, properly hug her, and it makes “her” feel uncomfortable. Damn, how do you think her father feels. I bet he thinks about it all the time. I really hope her fiancé left her because of this reason, because he dodge a life time of miserly with this lady.
@@carolnacarato4448 oh 💯. I agree with that all the way. And now it’s too uncomfortable because he’s in a wheelchair. Wtf. And I’m so glad her fiancé broke it off. I just hope it was for this reason.
I personally like the German custom of the bride and groom walking down the aisle together (toward the altar), instead of the bride being the father's property until he "gives" her to the husband.
Long comment, so sorry in advance: The last bride absolutely BAFFLES me. I had a fairly similar situation. My dad had a motorcycle accident when I was 18. He was struck by a car who didn't have the right of way. While my dad wasn't paralyzed by this, he is a wheelchair user from a TBI he sustained in the accident and has similar traits to someone with cerebral palsy (I don't say this to put an umbrella term on people who have CS, but the major part of the damage my dad's brain took was to his cerebellum- his cerebellum atrophied from blood pooling in his brain before we could get him into the MRI machine- my dad was a really big guy to begin with and when he was injured, his body swelled everywhere and the MRI tech didn't think he would fit into the machine; they were wrong and it cost my dad dearly). He can't enunciate his words, he has very little balance, which means that if he does want to walk a few hundred feet, he needs a walker and then needs to sit immediately back down in his wheelchair, and he has the coordination of a 12 month old. My dad's biggest upset, other than the fact he will need assistance for the rest of his life and could hardly do anything for himself anymore, was that he didn't think he could ever walk me down the aisle when I found my person. I found my person 4 years later (almost to the date, I met my husband on August 10th and my Dad's accident was four years prior on the 9th of August), and about three years after that, my husband proposed to me. When he did, my dad told me he was really happy for me, but that he didn't think he could walk me down the aisle because it would crush my dream. I told him to "nut-up or shut-up" (a term my dad has always used toward my brother and I when we felt like giving up) and that he could either take his PT seriously for the next 18 months (depression got the better of him and he never felt like going), or he would roll with me down the aisle, but I was NOT walking down with anyone else, and I was NOT walking myself down the aisle. Our venue accomodated by ensuring he had enough space to walk between the seats, I made an attachment for my dad's chair out of acrylic to prevent my dress from getting caught in his wheels, just in case, and 18 months later, my dad walked me down the aisle, walker and all. He huffed and puffed as he did it, and he almost ran himself into some of our seated guests, but goddammit he did it and I am so proud of that moment. There was not a dry eye in that wedding. I cannot FATHOM not having had my dad walk me down the aisle, disabilities or not. And it absolutely disgusts me that this bride thought so little of her dad after what he had already been through.
So the girl having her wedding in Maine. Let me get this straight. You don't have to pay for the venue. And so you think the pics, dress and everything else should be free also. It's mind boggling to see people say stuff like this. Like how can you have such high standards then proceed to ask for it all for.... free? You are crazy lady.
Oof...that "don't forget to hug your dad" hit hard. My father died unexpectedly in his sleep at age 57. This was many years ago but it put me in major depression which I am still in recovery from. I love you though Charlotte I've been subscribed since like 30k or less and now you're about to hit 100k (soon to be a million I'm sure). You bring the laughs every day and this was no exception. (Ps I'm divorced now but I got married just six months before my dad died and he and my mom both walked me down the aisle and I'm glad he was still there for that. )
Same thing-Dad walked me down the aisle 6 months before heart attack at 58. Now divorced. I'm a carbon copy of Dad about to turn 58 (but going to cardio as usual, Mon, seeing GP Tues, and take pretty good care of myself esp while I have ex' great ins through end of year). His death in 1995, like with YOUR Dad, also has affected me many years later. I suffer from mixed anxiety and depr acc to DSM 4 and now 5. Also STILL very heartbroken at end of 5.5 year rel that ended 6 months ago. Went on first date last night that didn't work out, and BC ex' apt, that I USED to live in, is by all the restaurants and overlooks a lot of them, even parking lot, so I was honest and said we couldn't go to (I would just DIE if he walked in with another woman...it doesn't matter that there is a big gap in looks between us so I can't imagine what ex could be dating now. Apt still has a lot of my stuff around-we broke up a # of times before and got back together but I guess this is the final one. I have to go get my stuff from him. He is the biggest slob that ever existed and I was always cleaning up that place, even in a walker after surgery to fix my broken femur I broke in HIS filthy place on garbage bags piled up because I went over there after hip replacement and had to clean up just to tolerate the mess. No Za Za Zu on my part with date last night, so he figured that out when he tried to french kiss me. Decided I HAD to get back on the horse and start dating again so doing on-line dating. I just want to cry and right now I am crying as I write this.
I paid for my bridesmaids' hair and make-up and still let them pick any style they wanted, because I am not an insane person and I wanted my bridesmaids to be happy and look amazing.
My dad passed away from a long time sickness almost 2 years ago! I knew he would probably pass before I ever decided to get married ( because I just haven’t found that special person) but always dreamed that he would walk me down the aisle. I would do WHATEVER to accommodate my wedding to his needs for him to be able to walk me and give me away! I took care of my dad from 15 years of age till he passed away. If I ever do get married best believe I will be carrying my daddy’s ashes down the aisle with me that way he would still be walking with me
Recently lost my dad and would give anything to have him here to walk me down the aisle. Appreciate who and what you have! I'd have carried him down the aisle if it came to that, idfc how it looks.
OMG, Married in 1985, Had none of this at my wedding, grateful for all the help, presents and especially my Mum who paid for my wedding dress.guests relayed around after ceremony, reception brilliant.
Run! My wedding was in the beautiful chapel in the hospital where I worked. I wore an off the rack light grey dress ( a regular kind), and all my coworkers came down in their scrubs and uniforms if they could get away. Cake and punch reception at my parents, and it was lovely. Honeymooned in San Antonio. Been married 39 years and I still love memories of my wedding. These girls are out of their minds.
Miss Charlotte is in her element with Bridezilla content! How she manages to still stay classy even after all of these horrible examples of selfish “human” behavior is beyond me. It’s just another reason why I enjoy watching her daily. I even took a break from helping my mom pack up to watch this one (it’s ok, everyone else is eating) and I wasn’t disappointed. Miss Charlotte and Bridezilla content; I’m here for it!
I had the huge wedding, no bumps, no bridesmaid contracts, everyone had a great time. You can have the big wedding without crazy stipulations and stress
My dad passed away suddenly three years ago, and everytime i think that he's not there when i get married brings tears to my eyes. Would give anything to have that one day with him. How could anyone talk like that about their own father is just heartbreaking.
The bride not wanting her dad to walk her down the aisle because he is in a wheelchair made me so mad. My dad died 5 months before I got married and I would have given anything for him to be there. She clearly doesn't realize that he is a human being, not a freaking prop for your wedding pictures ...
So sorry for your loss.
And may I say, I do believe your dad was at your wedding as he probably is every day, watching over you as dads do. ❤️
Totally agree with you. I also lost my dad and am sad that he wouldn’t be at my wedding. Also, that part of the story when she said that her dad was devastated by hearing the news from other people made me even angrier. I’m kind of glad that her boyfriend broke it off with her and she won’t be having a wedding. What a terrible thing to do and say to your own father.
I’m sorry. That must have been hard.
I hope your marriage is happy and your husband or wife treats you well. 💐
Totally with you there, my Dad died last year so will never see me settle, but also he was very impaired physically the last 8 years after nearly dying, but dya know what? We got to spend more with him and his gorgeous witty clever funny mind when he was disabled than when he was working. I'm so glad her mum, aunt and now ex called her selfish ableist shit out!!!
I agree also, if she didn't want her dad to give her away, why not walk down the aisle alone? Being given away is not a requirment and that way she wouldn't rip out her dads heart.
The bride worrying about her dad in the wheelchair pissed me off massively. She’s lucky she still has her dad with her! I lost my dad five years ago and I’d give anything to have him back to walk me down the aisle and be there for all the things he should have gotten to see.
That bride needs to be grateful she still has her dad and cherish him. Because he won’t be around forever and every moment counts.
As a lost daughter..I felt the same. Like, imma thrown a drink in her face mad…
It’s not even the wedding that pisses me off (that too, but not alone). She admitted that she doesn’t go to see him because it’s uncomfortable FOR HER to see him like that! Seriously, that poor man went through hell, survived it, and has to live with the aftermath every day…. and also has to feel like his daughter’s ashamed of him or that he’s not good enough for her any more. The emotional pain of the life HE had will be bad enough, but her not visiting him after what was, by all accounts, a close relationship before the accident?! Brutal. She doesn’t deserve him
I refused to have a big wedding because my dad had died the year before. I’d do anything to see him again
Her father should be ashamed of his daughter. I'd be upset knowing I brought up such an insensitive, inconsiderate person.
My dad was also in a wheelchair but I wouldn't let that stop me from having him walk me down the aisle if he were still here. Man how selfish.
I hate how ableism always comes out when people are planning a wedding. I've gotten kicked out of wedding parties, uninvited from weddings, and even just ignored entirely by people I considered myself close with for their weddings because I'm disabled and it would "complicate things for them." For anyone else that this has happened to, I'm so sorry. It really sucks to be treated like an alien over something you never asked to happen to you in the first place.
I'm so sorry. You definitely didn't deserve to be treated like that *hugs*
One of the most important people of my life, my Aunt, had poliomyelitis, she caught it in her childhood because there weren't vaccines yet. When my cousin, her own son, got married, in 2021 they made the reception at a restaurant by the beach. When I arrived I discovered to my horror that it wasn't easily accessible for handicapped people. This was extremely saddening since a lot of people at the wedding were on a wheelchair (my aunt and uncle lived in a community for people with handicaps for almost 10 years and they had made quite a few friends there), the godmother of my cousin's daughters also has polio and consequently no functioning legs. My cousin is kind of a doormat to his wife I must admit, it was obvious she chose the reception (not his stile, way out of budget). But still the whole thing made me quite sad. It was also the last time I saw my Aunt, she caught a lethal lung infection and died a few months later. I never got to say goodbye and that shit fucked me up big time.
Sometimes I still think about how inconsiderate the whole wedding ordeal was. I get that "it's the couple's day" but how can you truly celebrate anything if half of the people invited are uncomfortable?
Holy smokes, that is just horrible. What terrible people to treat anyone like that. No one deserves that...and you are absolutely worth so much better ⭐️
It's your wedding, if you don't want it ruined by your crippled father that is your choice.. these are going to be your memories and you don't want your photos ruined by having a wheel chair in them.. good luck
If I was getting married again, I would totally invite you ❤ just so you can feel included and have so much fun! You deserve to be treated the same ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry people are so gross!!
How absolutely soul-crushing to find out your daughter, whom you've 'always had a good relationship with', has decided you're too much of a 'complication' to be a part of her wedding. I dont think their relationship will ever be the same. Good on her mom though.
The best part is that she avoids her father because it reminds her of how much pain he's in. Really? More like it reminds you that you don't know how to act around people in wheelchairs. One would think that having a close family member who uses a wheelchair would make you more comfortable with the situation, but no, you intentionally avoid him because you don't like feeling uncomfortable. What is wrong with people?
We didn't have a wedding, but we did host a reception for family and friends. We planned the event at a place that it would be possible for people like my dad who had mobility issues to be able to get in and out, be comfortable, etc. Unfortunately my dad passed away before we got married. So yeah, this chick is an insane a-hole. I would have traded a lot for my dad to have been able to go to our celebration. (It was still a nice party for us, but yeah, I just want to be angry at this girl and her disrespect for her dad.)
Yeah, and I don't know, but the fact that she wanted her uncle to walk her down the aisle instead, makes it so much worse!?!? I mean, she could have given her dad some bs excuse about how they decided not to do it, because it was an antiquated tradition, and they wanted to come up with something else. I can't imagine how hurt the dad would have been seeing his brother escort her, not because he did anything wrong, or was an all around shitty father, but rather for something devastating that he had absolutely no control over. What an awful human being she turned out to be. Smdh.
@@itskagurabitch1134 Just imagine you would be the one left out from a wedding of a very dear and closed loved one because you are too 'complicated' because of a physical disability that is not your fault in the least.
@@itskagurabitch1134 someone in a wheelchair is complicated?
The wheelchair one gets me. My mom is in a wheelchair and when it was time for the groom and mom dance my mom didn't want to do it and I convinced her it would be fun, needless to say I was twirling, spinning and just made it a blast for my mama. To this day 8 years later people still tell me just how awesome it was. And the smile on my moms face will be with me in my heart forever!!!!!
You are a very good son! Well done!
❤️❤️ aw love that for her and you
Bless you babe ❤
I mean bro ;P
As a mom, my heart swelled with pride..and a few tears of joy fell! Bless you!!
My wedding was small, twelve people including me and my husband. Cost a total of about $1,500, including my dress. But it was absolutely beautiful. We had our wedding in this beautiful rustic countryside looking Greek restaurant in the second floor banquet room that had trellises hanging from the ceiling with vines woven in, giving the illusion of being outside in sunlight. Incredible Greek food, gorgeous two tier cake, beautiful vases with eucalyptus sprigs in them as centerpieces that the restaurant had, it was perfect. And it WASN'T STRESSFUL. It was FUN. It doesn't have to be stressful! It's ridiculous.
Your wedding sounds wonderful!
Yes!!! Mine was definitely under 2grand too. It was beautiful and magical and perfect as is. I've never understood the focus on dropping bank on one day.
Yes but that just means youre normal haha 😄 i dont understand the whole lavish crap either.
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Your wedding sounds beautiful
The wheelchair story brought tears to my eyes. So, so sad. Even if she apologized, he'll remember this forever... it's just so cruel.
Me too! She makes her own father feel unlovable!
Good for the ex-fiance! I would also cut my relationship with someone so superficial and egotistical! I would do it with my siblings if they do something like this to my father!
@@genzi78514 Me too. People who cruelly mistreat disabled people have no place in my life. Period.
arguable to exclude her from the will over it imo. her fiance definitely broke up with her over that (at least one reason in a list). incredibly, unimaginably shallow-literally said she AVOIDS HIM because she's "uncomfortable". no inheritance for her, justified.
As a disabled person, the story about the bride and her dad literally breaks my heart. I have a condition that gets worse over time and my family has been great about it, but I can't imagine how destroyed he feels by it. For the bride: a little reminder that disabled people are, in fact, people.
The bride not wanting her dad in a wheelchair to walk down the aisle made me literally cry. I lost my dad to cancer 7 years ago and in the last months of his life, he was in a wheelchair. I would give anything for him to be with us today.
My wedding was on D&D night. We were married by our DM. Our two little ones, my husband's family, and other D&D players. We served dinner and cookies. It was great. We 🎉 celebrated 🎉 our 15th anniversary December 17th and on January 28th we will have been together 21 years. You don't have to spend lots of money or become a bridezilla to have a wonderful happy marriage. I have noticed that the couples that spend lots of money don't seem to last.
1. Coolest idea for a wedding omg.
2. You are correct, far too many are focused on a lavish wedding than an actual strong relationship tbh.
That is such a wonderful wedding! Especially with DnD! It’s so damn cute and beautiful!
Honestly as long as there's food for the guests and decent snacks I'd be happy. I'd probably still want a family gathering where we both invite at least our close family on both sides but even then it doesn't need to be expensive.
That's because once the wedding is over they're no longer the center of attention.
Best idea for a wedding.
The fiancé most certainly dumped her when he realized how shallow, selfish, vain and cruel she was. He dodged a bullet. I feel so sorry for the poor father.
Exactly, I'd do the exact same thing if my fiancè had those feelings
Right? He probably realized the whole "In sickness and in health" part wasn't going to apply to her and she'd drop him like it's no problem if god forbid something happened to him that ruined her "plans" for her life.
I'd still want my dad (if I had one) to walk me down the aisle even if he were bed ridden! We'd just put some wheels on that bad boy. And what the fuck does she mean that she wouldn't be able to hug him? Does she think you can't hug people who are in wheelchairs? Even if they're quadriplegic you can still hug *them* just fine.
I'm glad her mom called her out on her ableist bullshit though.
@@LadyBeyondTheWall That’s so true though! If she can do that to her own father then who’s to say she wouldn’t do it to anyone else. That’s so fucked up
I was in shock! My step-son is walking me down the isle at my wedding to his dad. He’s just found out he needs surgery. I’ve said I will push him down the isle myself if I need to. If the surgery is too close to the date we’ve chosen, I am changing the date! Him being there is way more important than having it on the date is like!
Unless he's a male version of her...
As a daddy's girl I am highly offended and for my mother who has to be in a wheelchair I'm pissed that she even would come out her mouth to say something like that just be happy that your parents are even here.
How humiliating for her dad! I guarantee he still dreamed of escorting her down the aisle. I bet her fiance RAN from her! What a poor excuse for a woman. Wow.
I hope her fiance left her as soon as he found out.
That's what I thought,he was disgusted by her attitude and ran.
My dad never got to give any of his children away. His eldest daughter had a falling out with him (similar stubborn characters), his son hasn't gotten married, and my dad passed away before me or my youngest sister were 18. On my wedding day last year, my groom who's dad was the life of the party during every wedding but reduced to a shadow of himself due to cancer during his eldest son's wedding and missed his daughter's wedding bc he had passed, tried to say a few words like we are happy you all are here while some would have loved to be here but are no longer with us. My groom tried to say these words. He tried 3 times but couldn't get the words out.
@@darcy5761 good for him, he saw her true colors before marrying her for life. I just hope she realized and has bettered her choices in future.
@@darcy5761 He made the right decision. Hopefully this will teach that bridezilla a lesson about empathy.
The lashes thing is so true. My sister paid a professional MUA to do her makeup for her wedding day and her lash was not even touching her lash line. I ended up fixing it but the amount of money people spend for "professionals" is just crazy.
why do these brides think being in their wedding party is everyone's DREAM COME TRUE? like, who tf wants to spend tons of money on a dress, makeup and hairdo they hate, aside from having to hear someone bitch about every little thing for six months - two years of wedding planning?? being a regular guest sounds so much better and stress-free. i've been a bridesmaid before and didn't have to do literally anything but show up to the wedding and walk down the aisle.
And nobody expected to control my hair or reproductive choices in either of the three weddings I was in!
I was in a wedding where got to pick different dress as long as if the where blue. It was great
I can’t imagine how someone “close” to her father could be absolutely devastating to him on many levels. Not just bridezilla, but daughterzilla too.
Yeah she's definitely a narcissist. Normal rational women don't suddenly turn into irrational or cruel bridezillas when they start planning the wedding. They were ALWAYS like that and have just managed to hide it long enough to get engaged. Just because you're stressed out that doesn't give you the right to scream and take out your anger on other people. In fact if the woman you're going to marry starts acting like a bridezilla RUN! RUN FAR AWAY. Because if she acts irrationally entitled and takes out the stress and anger on other people that is how she will act under ALL stress. And you better believe you're the one who is going to bear the brunt of her irrational anger for years if you marry her. It's far better to cancel a wedding than have to go through a messy divorce.
I imagine she was “close” in the sense that she was his little princess who was spoilt and got everything she wanted… without giving much in return. When she was required to give, she couldn’t handle it. Entitled and narcissistic
just less than human...
@@WhitneyDahlin I bet this was JUST the conclusion the fiance came to, which is why they "went their separate ways" in the final update.
Not even daughterzilla, she is an awful selfish person.
I would push my father’s wheelchair down the aisle. I would roll that chair around the dance floor. What a absolute wreck of a person 🤦🏼♀️
"I would roll that chair around the dance floor."
Sweet, but make sure you don't accidently roll the wheelchair over your feet during the dance!
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I love your post 🥰
This is because you are a Kind and Respectful Person who knows what’s important in life!
Roll on…. 😁
This!
or have her mom push the dad's wheelchair and the bride can hold her dad's hand...I think that would work
The chick who's worried about her Dad being in a wheelchair is the most shallow one on here!!
I inherited my Dad's sense of humor, and (I'm so grateful it didn't happen that way!) if that had been my Dad & me at my wedding back in the day, I probly would have sat on his lap & rode with him in his wheelchair down the aisle to the song 'Born To Be Wild' or something similarly hilarious.
That’s awesome!!! I’d o to that wedding!!
Oh my gosh I would do that with my grandfather if he ever went into a wheelchair! XD
How to be you miss lady, that is the greatest idea ever
I went to a friend's wedding in which her father was in a wheelchair and had Lou Gherig's disease (he was much less mobile than this other bride's father) and, of course, he "walked" her down the aisle and "danced" with her and it was so beautiful and moving and I cried every time I thought of it for a month.
You don't have to be the a-hole. You can show class, no matter what life throws at you.
I have to admit I appreciate bride number one's contract. I respect she put her crazy out on the table, in writing, giving every bridesmaid a chance to tap out in the beginning, no surprise. You can't get mad at a bridezilla who fully disclosed she was going to be a bridezilla up front. If you agree to all the crazy shit she advised you of up front you only have yourself to balme.
I was shocked six out of ten agreed to it
Some of the things I understand....like the no kids rule (people can have child-free weddings)
and the approved date (no one wants a sketchy bum causing trouble at their wedding).
But yeah, there still is a toxic positivity and "yes man" thing going on with this bride.
I’m surprised the groom agreed to attend the wedding
Agreed! Charlotte says "I feel like a lot of these are unspoken....." and I'm like "Charlotte have you seen say Yes to the dress??" There are a ton of bridesmaids out there abusing brides for their dress choices, unspoken does not mean that they respect it much less even care!
@@andrewthezeppo Yes, I wonder if they are relatives who felt they had to say yes. Can't think why else anyone would agree.
I've been married 6 years and to this day, everyone says I was the anti bridezilla. I paid for my bridesmaids' dresses I mean every bride should. I think it's rude if they don't. I picked out their dresses and said they can do whatever they wanted for hair and makeup. They were stressing out because it was 4 women trying to compromise on something lol I also offered to pay for the services but they didn't let me. I also got them care packages which they loved.
eh. I had 2 bridesmaids. tech one maid of honor and one bridesmaid. They bought their own dresses and were fine with it. I just asked them to be green or purple (my colors) . My maid of honor wore a green prom dress she found at goodwill. LOL, What you should not do is pick out a specific dress and make them pay for it.
My sister did the exact same. She paid for all of our bridesmaids/maid of honor dresses, shoes, & corset bra. All the bridesmaids & myself maid of honor went to the dress shop & picked out dresses that were the same color, but simular styles. My sister didn't want anyone having to wear a dress that they didn't feel confident in so we all chose our own dress styles even though she paid for them. We all got ready & did our own hair & makeup at the venue, which was so much fun! I am the one that chose my sisters wedding dress because she loved the one that I chose for her to try on & said it was the one. As a maid of honor the only expenses I paid for was her Bachelorette party (decor, dinner, hotel, club fee & drinks), and she tried to not let me even do that as she is more financially stable than I & I have two kids. I had to repeatedly insist on paying & she still tried to pay me back for some of the cost though I refused. Instead of gifts her husband & herself asked for money towards their honeymoon. Her wedding was beautiful, fun, & stress free. We all had a great time & made wonderful memories & that's what it's about ❤️
I wanna be your bridesmaid!! What a lovely heart you have! ❤
@@starlingswallow 💕❤
As a woman whos father has passed away before my wedding, that really hit me different.
How could you treat someone that way?
As the only daughter with the only grandchildren that are all girls to a father who doesn't give a damn about us, this hit totally hard. I think we all need to rearrange our families and get loving people together.
Exactly!! And same! Would have loved to have my dad at my wedding but he passed away a few yrs before my husband and I got married.
Agreed. I'm so sorry for your loss ❣️
I agree with you my father would have been 85 years old yesterday he passed away 5 years ago there isn't anything I wouldn't do to be able to have him at my wedding when I get married
@@lisalemponen701 I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you❤
I'd have to agree with another commenter on here. I lost my dad when I was 16 years old. I would give anything to have had him give me away at my wedding, let alone just see and talk to him again. She is just awful. I bet that fiancée of hers heard what she did and ran for the hills.
It doesn't matter if she apologized, that kind of nasty will always be remembered.
That poor girl with the paralyzed father. She's been avoiding her father so much that she hasn't learned how to hug a man in a wheelchair.
When a friend who's father was in a wheelchair for her wedding had her brother walk her down the aisle but when it came to giving her away her father was wheeled forward and with a grace gave his daughter away. Two weeks later he passed away waiting for her to return from her honeymoon. It was a really emotional wedding and know way would my friend have left her father out.
An elegant solution.
The bride who didn’t want her dad to walk her down the aisle because he requires a wheelchair is terrible… I have to wonder if the reason her and her fiancé parted ways was because he finally saw her true colours.
he found out a special hell is being made for her n didn't want to go too
I believe that is probably the reason he dumped her. Who would want to be tied with such vain and entitled piece of trash?
Oh that’s definitely why they parted ways. Has to be right? I wouldn’t stay with her either.
I feel worse for the father. Hopefully he doesn't know. Imagine making all those sacrifices raising a kid, giving it all your love and it turns into something like this. You will not only be deeply hurt but also questioning yourself and where you did wrong to get such a child :(
Oh you know it is!!!!
It's only stressful when the wedding is more important than actually being married. Keep it simple and you'll leave all the stress.
Except for when u get married to a foreigner in their country without an actual wedding but just a tiny ceremony 🤣 its pretty darn stressful with paper work and translations but when all is done and ur getting married, its forgotten
I agree. When my husband and I got married it was a small affair because we were thinking more of the marriage than of the wedding. I was going to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved. What is stressful about that?
When my husband and I got married, we did the bare minimum. It was just us ,didn't wear dress and tux, just dressed descent got married the stayed the night in a hotel then went home. The only stress we had was finding someone to do it. Had to travel 5 and a half hours to do so.
The first Bridezilla is UNBELIEVABLE! For my wedding the only "demands" I made of my bridesmaids were: Black shoes (any style you want) and wear the earrings & necklace I gave as part of your attendants' gifts. I didn't even care that the neckline of the dress didn't cover up one of my bridesmaid's lizard tattoo, she decided to cover it over with makeup herself. All 5 of my attendants looked beautiful & I was still the "center of attention". So it is possible to have your day without rules & contracts galore.
My 'contract' with my one bridesmaid was 'you wanna be my bridesmaid?'.
The bride being worried about her dad in a wheelchair, this is my thoughts. My father passed away and I would give anything for my dad to give me away at a future wedding. This girl needs to reevaluate her life.
My dad passed away over a decade ago, and I too would give anything to have back for an hour. This chic has a busted moral compass and confusing a celebration and fancy party with commitment and relationships.
Seriously. And that's the thing, bridezillas like that MAKE it stressful, it doesn't have to BE stressful! I had so much fun planning our wedding, and it only cost $1500 including my dress, venue, cake, everything. I don't know how women like that convince some poor desperate dude to walk down the aisle. At least she got dumped, good for that dude. I was always so terrified that my mom wouldn't make it to my wedding(she has high BP/severe migraines, and ALL of the women on my mom's side of the family have died young from brain aneurysms), so I was thrilled that she is still healthy. And you know if her dad didn't make it through that car accident, she would say she wished he could have been there, no matter how. Absolutely disgusting, I hope she actually LEARNED a hard, harsh lesson from that.
I wish my Dad could have been in a wheelchair beside me as I walked down the aisle. He died 3 years before I got married. She needs to realize how many of us would trade places with her in a second.
What's really sad is that she mentioned avoiding being around him because it makes *her* uncomfortable. I don't know how she could type that, and it not obviously and immediately indicate that SHE has a problem.
It looks like the ex-fiance re-evaluated his life and got out.
I think the Dad should disown his shallow daughter and adopt her ex as his accepting son.
There was another reddit wedding story where I thought that should happen.
Apparently, the groom noticed his fiancé become quite nasty during the wedding planning. Among other things, her demands were putting her parent's retirement dreams at risk!
When I heard how concerned the groom was about that I thought maybe he should be adopted by the bride's parents!
I second that motion.
@@SonjaElizabethTeal I third it!
@@cdnerin 🥂👍🏾
WOW...JUST WOW!!! My dad died of cancer when I was 17. When I got married at 29, as happy as I was, I thought about him all day, and how I wished I still had him so he could share in my happiness. People like this bride really irk my soul.
My fiance and I legit said that when our ceremony happens, dress up. They can wear costumes or whatever they like, if they look better than us then good on them I guess. It's supposed to be fun and a celebration of two people making a life for themselves. It won't be traditional, but we're not into tradition. We'll be honoring the deities we follow and celebrating us in the process. Lists are only for details and general courtesy rules.
The only person I got stressed with was my groom who, following unmarried friends advice did naff all towards the day! The ONLY thing I asked him to help with was picking songs for the ceremony and his answer was "I don't care about the music, have what you want." I preceeded to launch my laptop at him and cry I was so stressed as I made most things myself (bouquet, favours, etc). He apologised and his contribution to the wedding for any curious person, was walking out after the I do's to shook me all night long by ACDC which caused my family to break out laughing so all good in the end!
The bride who didn't want her dad to give her away because he is in a wheelchair made me so angry!!! I want to hug her dad. I hope she gets over herself and starts to appreciate her father.
The fact Charlotte actually bought the gaval really shows her honesty to her fans. Admirable.
Now we've got Gavel, Chair, and the occasional guest: Mr. McFly. :D
I was so excited to see the gavel lol
@@jayw9353 And Naked Man
@@treknoid I forgot about Naked Man!! You're so right!
The dad in a wheelchair story just absolutely shocked me. How does one even think like that !? Wow.....
The boyfriend had a lucky escape from that one
the delusion of females these days, living in a fairytale world. Blame Instagram and social media for this one.
She could have just had her mom walk her down and have her dad sitting at the front already. But her only concern is how her dad's injuries will affect her.
It's pretty common to be honest. I'm disabled and I get ableistic insults and such thrown at me almost every time I leave the house. It's extremely hard in the beginning an you never truly get used to it, but you learn how to ignore it and how to educate the public. I generally try to remain calm and ignore those people if I notice educating isn't an option, but I must say I've said some pretty petty responses too on days it was just too much to ignore. The pettiest was probably when I was in a hallway at uni/college (it's the same in my country) doing emergency meds and testing vitals on one of the school couches, so I wasn't in my wheelchair (it was set next to the couch, but slightly hidden), when a first year comes up to me and he tells me that he doesn't believe I am disabled out of the blue. Never met this kid before, but I ignored it as I was busy. He then starts going into detail as to why I couldn't be disabled according to him and he quite regularly said things as "you're young, so you are not disabled" or "You just don't look like a disabled person" and so on. After a few minutes I had had it, so I turned to him and said "well and you don't look stupid, but here we are". Shut him up really quickly and he left accompanied by the laughter of his classmates who were waiting for class in that same hall. Never heard from him again afterwards and after he left I could finish my emergency protocol in peace.
@@dedvalso I blame Barbie.
The second story about the Dad made me so sad. My Dad passed away 3 years ago and if I were to get married I would give anything for him to be there. She should be thankful her dad survived and make the accommodations for him to walk her down the aisle.
My dad passed in 2003 when I was 9. I spent my entire prom sobbing into a napkin because it had just hit me that my dad wouldn't be around to see the important milestones of my adult life. I honestly be grateful if he was there in a wheelchair rather then not at all.
Be grateful for who you have for as long as you can.
My cousin's wedding was delightful! She gave us a color Scheme with three colors; we could incorporate them all or wear just one...we got to wear our own clothes! 🥰 She's just not the type of woman who gets stressed about this kind of stuff.
It was a very simple, yet elegant wedding, and because my uncle got choked-up giving a speech about my cousin, I started crying, and was dubbed the crying bride's maid...but in an endearing way. It was truly beautiful, and they are still together since 1993!💕
As entertaining (and simultaneously appalling) as Bridezillas stories are, I think we need to also hear stories of Bride's who get it right! 👰🏽👰🏿👰🏻👰🏼👰🏾👰 💜💐
My brother is getting married next month and I’m going to a bridesmaid (I have Cerebral Palsy and I’m in a wheelchair) The bride has done everything possible and more to be super accommodating. I can wear trousers instead of a dress, at the reception they are having a buffet and my food will be brought to me. Where the rest of the bridesmaids will be carrying flowers, I will have mine on my wrist so I can still wheel myself
your cousins wedding is more reasonable than my friend’s quince
@@sarahkerr708 I'm so happy she's being accommodating! 🌷🌻💜 I'm sure it will be a wonderful wedding.
🥴 I can't believe these people can find someone to marry them.
Most grooms probably chalk it up to the misconception that all brides go full bridezilla on their 'special day', and convince themselves that it's not indicative of their bride's overall personality. I think some brides likely are affected by that as well, especially with shows like Say Yes the the Dress and the other TLC/WE TV trash shows that push the narrative that it's normal to be an entitled POS at your wedding. Either way, it's shocking that anyone would agree to those asinine rules.
FOR REAL, WHAHAHA
it’s because this type of people. act perfect and soo sweet when they are dating. but when the wedding day is set, their true ugly colors shines so bright they can no longer hide the fact, that they are horrible people.
@@mrs.h2725 Weddings bring out what's truly hiding under the surface in a woman. If she goes all bridezilla, she's just done a good job of hiding her bitchiness on a daily basis. Any groom who's bride goes bridezilla should instantly dip because its only going to end worse for him later to the tune of losing half his shit and paying her boatloads of money.
@@SonOfBaldo TRUTH!
I didn't realize that it was possible to hate someone you've never met but after watching these bridezilla videos I see now that it IS possible.
Yea... I hate the girl who didn't want her dad there because of his wheelchair... like some of these you could say that they're stressed or whatever but not that one! That's just cruel... she also said that she's been avoiding him because "it makes her feel bad" - like girl that's your dad how can you even say that? Good thing the fiancé left her.
Its amazing (amazingly horrible) how many people can be so ablest to their own loved ones! A close family member didn't tell me about their child's birthday party, a milestone birthday too, (because it was easier not to check the location for being wheelchair friendly (it was in a bowling alley about 10 minutes from home and we've been there together numerous times) or having to watch me to make sure I didn't run over any toes etc (in over a decade I have never done that. I also have 2 cats and 2 dogs who are just as likely to run over, that's never happened either. Maybe not quite as bad as the father not 'walking' her down the aisle, but it still stung a lot, and made a crack in our relationship. I don't even think he knows how hurtful that was. As a general rule of thumb, if you want to decline something, don't make the reason be that they're disabled... unless it would be to avoid a very dangerous scenario.
The Best Man at my cousin's wedding took a shine to me, asked me out and we were married 11 months later. She wasn't impressed. They divorced but we're still together 46 years later. Back then, people didn't have all these pre-wedding parties - a single bridesmaid was usual. Her duties included holding the bouquet and arranging the train for the photos. Most weddings happened in the bride's local church. Most people were in their early 20s and a wedding was a great place to meet other single young people. Words like bridezilla and destination wedding hadn't been invented. Oddly enough, marriages lasted longer than they do now that they cost so much.
I'm an only child and I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer 10 yrs ago this yr. I would give up everything that gives me any happiness and comfort just to see him for one more day - or even an hour. I'm sorry for her parents. It must be shocking to realize that your child has turned into a monster.
I never thought I'd be okay with a woman calling her child an "abelist POS." ... But I don't hate it.
She did raise her, though.
If the shite fits.
@@MsSilverTulip Sometimes you can do EVERYTHING right in raising a child, but a wedding makes people INSANE! As you can see.
Not only that, I am heartbroken for her poor dad. Glad the dude wised up and left her.
WE ARE HERE FOR IT AS DISABLED PEOPLE 👏👐👏👐👏 my Dad died last year so will never get to see me settle, but also he was very impaired physically the last 8 years after nearly dying, but dya know what? We got to spend more with him and his gorgeous witty clever funny mind when he was disabled than when he was working. I'm so glad her mum, aunt and now ex called her selfish ableist shit out!!!
This bride is crazy, she’s very lucky she had any bridesmaids attending. It strikes me that this bride is very insecure. The second bride should be bloody grateful that she has a Father to walk her down the aisle, some of us don’t .a definite A.O.
How does this demanding bride even have any friends? I can't imagine ANYONE being okay with this! Weddings should be fun, joyous occasions!
I've only been a bridesmaid twice. My cousin bought the bridesmaid dresses herself, and they were very pretty. She had no demands about anything!
It was a big Mexican-style wedding and we all had a blast at the reception. We drank too much and lots of silliness occured. My brother will never live down his silly prank gone wrong.
He was a groomsman, and he put on a pair of really obnoxious-looking boxer shorts under his tux. His plan was to drop trou during his speech to the happy couple, revealing his crazy boxer shorts. He didn't realize the shorts were a bit too big, so when his pants fell to his ankles, his boxers came down with them! There he was, on a stage, in front of all our relatives and friends with all eyes on him, letting it all hang out! Took him a few seconds to realize what happened because he was so drunk.
My Uncle Charlie spoke first (his Southern drawl sounded just like Foghorn Leghorn), "Boy! Did you want to tell us all about your shortcomings?"
Probably the funniest thing I'll ever experience in my life! My cousin wasn't upset at all, she was doubled over laughing. When she regained composure, she said, "Dammit Bubba! You made me pee myself!"
Yes, my brother's nickname really is "Bubba", and that was about the most "Bubba" stunt I've ever seen! 🤣
"Bless his heart" was said by many kinfolk that day. 😉
My years-old Reddit account would finally have a post if I'd seen that. My father died 2 weeks before I was born. My mother struggled as a widow in the 70s then I lost my husband when my own children were barely teenagers and this one is "uncomfortable" with the look of a wheelchair. My mind scrambles that this kind of lacking of EVERYTHING vital to humanity exists in one person.
@@dalpz205 I’m so very sorry for both the loss of your Father & your Husband. I’m sure they’re in Heaven with such pride for You. Wishing you a Happy & Healthy 2022
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Bridezilla 2, it seems, needs therapy to address her discomfort.
My father disowned me and I wouldn't even treat him like this.
I'm A 77 year pl d grandmother and eally enjoy your RUclips videos, especially the ones about entitlement and audacity.You are delightful and very perceptive. Thank you and "keep on truckin mama."
We love you Arleen, Keep on Keeping on!" 💜
Good lord... if I found out my (hypothetical) fiance treated people like this I'd be out the door. There is no excuse for this behavior. Hopefully I'd figure it out before asking her to marry me though. Sometimes I think guys are just oblivious because they're getting some and are too lazy to check out something else despite all the red flags. Hard to see some of these. The entitlement is strong with some of these ladies because no one ever told them to F off.
There's that saying that comes to mind... "No shame in asking" - Some people have taken it to the extremes. Thanks for entertaining us Charlotte!
The dad in a wheelchair story made me cry. I never met my dad and every day I am reminded that something's missing... The "Am I the A-hole" question at the end also got me. Do you even have to ask? What an incredibly shallow, horrible person. If I was the dad and the mom, I'd disown her on the spot. Accidents happen and life is cruel, but your own family shouldn't be!!!!!!!! PS: I hope the soon to be husband ran away. How disgusting and sad :(
Absolutely floored by second bride. One of my best friends got married last year, and the person who was walking her down the aisle got admitted to the hospital the night before, but you bet they were wheeled down the aisle beside the bride the next day during the ceremony. Everyone was thrilled that they were able to make it, and no one would care how it looked, because they’re a loved one and the ‘perfect wedding’ should include who you love in your life, not how they’re gonna look.
Dad in the wheelchair one broke my heart. Imagine how he feels, legs don't work, and rejected by his daughter.
This one actually made me mad. Like most of them I'm just laughing or nodding along with you but the bridezilla who said she would be embarrassed about her father being in a wheelchair literally had me pissed. My dad passed away in 2018, I will never have that father, daughter moment, I would give ANYTHING to have him living, wheelchair or otherwise. So to read that someone would not only pass this up but devastate her father like this all bc of some stupid image she has in her head of a "perfect wedding". UGH. I need a shot, possibly three. Hope you are having a wonderful day Charlotte, thank you for posting these videos calling out all the bridezillas and just in general terrible people. Gives me a laugh and helps me feel better after dealing with one or more of them in my day-to-day. Now to go find the tequila. :D
That absolutely broke my heart when that bridezilla didn’t want her father to take her down the aisle due to his wheelchair. 😔😑
I can’t think of anything more selfish and horrid to do that to her father after he’s experienced such a traumatic loss. 💔🤭
Is not about having a kindness is about respect
My dad is in a wheelchair and he “walked “ me down the aisle at my wedding. I never even gave it a second thought.
For real. And what is it with people thinking people in wheelchairs can't dance? I use a wheelchair and my wife and I still took classes and had a choreographed first dance at our wedding.
It should never be a question honestly... also if him hugging you is so important people could potentially hold him in a standing position (unless it's dangerous of course). I've seen videos where the brothers or uncles would do that and it's the sweetest thing ever
@@GubbiGap there's actually special leg devices to help a wheelchair person stand it's so cool
@@Silver_wind_1987_ Oh I didn't know that! That's awesome!
That's because you are a decent human being.
The rules that start with "I understand..."
Comprehension of the rule does not equal agreeing to follow said rule.
Yay loopholes!!!
That poor dad. My father died when I was 4 and my stepdad when I was 16. For me having either one of them walk me down the aisle would be a dream come true. I cannot imagine that fathers pain knowing that his daughter was ashamed of him.
Charlotte, sweetie, that's called a "gavel", not a "mallet". You crack me up!
As a wheelchaired guy that has rolled my fair share of men/women down the aisle to give their hand to their special love, I can honestly say that that attempted bride deserves exactly what she's giving out. Her attitude just shreds my heart and leaves me a bit misty-eyed that a daughter could feel that way.
That said, I do have to admit that I rented a standing powerchair specifically for a wedding so I was at eye level with everyone and had a free hand to hold during the procession. It worked out well, but the damn thing weighs a TON and we all had a dickins of a time loading and unloading the thing.
I remember your prior comment about helping same-sex partners. You're a hero. Thank you.
Those chairs are so clever but yeah, noisy and cumbersome!! So glad you've brought joy to so many people's special days :)
The rules I want for my wedding.
1) Please wear something appropriate from your closet. Don't feel the need to buy a new suit or dress. Ladies, we only ask you please refrain from wearing white.
2) Nobody is required to attend any side-events, like bachelor parties or dress shopping events. We'd love to have you, but if life has other things you need to do, we understand.
3) No gifts. We have enough stuff. Your presence is gift enough.
4) If you can't make the wedding but want to acknowledge it, a wedding card is sufficient. You don't have to buy a gift out of guilt for not attending. We understand you may have issues in your life that prevents your attendance.
5) If you have dietary restrictions, please let us know in advance so we can arrange for a substitute meal from our caterers.
6) Please, no pets. Service animals, however, are welcome.
7) If you have any kind of issues with another guest, please put them aside for the event. We believe that in ten years, nobody will remember what our centerpieces looked like, the type of cake, or the color scheme, but everybody will remember a fistfight or shouting match.
8) Please be decent to the staff. If your Blue Hawaii drink isn't the shade of blue you think it should be, keep it to yourself. Nobody wants to witness somebody going full-on Karen mode.
9) We've booked a venue that is handicapped accessible. If you have a disability up to and including being confined into an iron lung, your presence is welcome.
Exactly. A VERY reasonable and thoughtful list. Heck, one of our guests showed up after she worked a shift at work, in her work clothes, and we were just glad to welcome her to the party. We told folks we didn't expect or need gifts, but we knew folks were going to get them anyway. So we did a registration at Target for stuff like new towels, a new set of plates, things that were basically $25 and under, but would be an "upgrade" from the mismatched plates we had and the old/frayed towels we had. We told people about it if they asked. Or, maybe I mentioned it to my mom and she told everyone cause she likes to be the one to spread news to everyone. Anyway. I think the more you tell people NO GIFTS, the more you end up with gifts anyway. Or at least that's how it seems to be with our families.
@@crazybiogeek My dad and now step-mother had the "no gift" thing in the invitation. I mean, they were both in their 70s and had two households worth of stuff. Only one guest brought a gift that I know of. Maybe it helped that most of the guests were in their 70s and had life experience. To be fair, the person who brought the gift was both much younger and an immigrant, and may have been uncertain of American customs. However, if you have guests who are going to do the gift thing anyway, giving them a focus for new towels or dishes is a smart move.
I can see how people would respect "peers" who say no gifts. But lots of people don't necessarily listen to "children" (in this case, younger adults) who say "no gifts". Often, it's out of a sense of, "You kids are young and just starting out, surely you need something" or a "gifts are my love language and bringing a gift is how I show love" situation.
YOu described our wedding to a "T" and 22 years later look at the photos and still remember what a wonderful event is was for all.
See how easy it is to NOT inconvenience the ppl you love & want to love you on your day? In fact, to accommodate those whom you are wanting support from is pretty damn reasonable! Be a decent human 😌
Never clicked so fast. Love the bridezilla content
Same
The dad one killed me. My father died 3 months before my 16th birthday, very unexpected. When I got married, my mom walked me down the "aisle"(got married in my MILs back yard) while holding my father's urn. We took some "father/daughter" photos with me holdingit, and the "brides family" photos as well. Imagine being upset that your LIVE FATHER was in a wheelchair at your wedding...
My dad passed away from cancer a couple years ago. There is nothing that will ever be able to fill the void of my father not being there to walk me down the isle, whenever I do get married. The woman who’s father survived a hit and run only to be shunned by her for having accessibility issues at her wedding can suck my dictionary. Maybe she should wheel him around everywhere and try to get a grasp on that oddly twisted thing called a soul within her human body. Wow, man
Bruh... If my fiancee was that concerned about how bad the "look" of her dad in a wheelchair would ruin her dream wedding, I'd ruin the whole damn thing for her by tapping out.
My guy dodged a bullet there, for sure.
Is it bad that I might try using some of the things for the wedding as a gift to the poor dad in the wheelchair?
Like maybe change the wedding to a party celebrating him.....I dunno.
I think when a bride asks a photographer to work with them "for exposure" I think they should do it and just take the most unflattering pictures imaginable!
That...would be awesome. Eyes half closed, no one smiling, nonsense pictures of like...the ground 😆 I can just see it all now!
Or overexposed photos. Lots and lots of exposure - get it?
Yessss!!!! And make a video slide show for them with comedic Benny Hill music lol you could make a fortune with watches on RUclips. Best kind of "exposure" 😂
@@crazy4beatles yessssss🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sure. The photographer then can agree to return her exposure.
The girl who didn’t want her dad in the wedding honestly breaks my heart. I lost my sweet dad in October and would give ANYTHING to give him a hug. Sounds like the boyfriend dodged a bullet!
I feel the same way! One day, he will pass. And I wonder if even then, will she care? If nearly losing him in such a terrible & sudden way didn't get her attention & make her appreciate him what would? Sad. Shameful.
so sorry for your loss dear
@@mahshidsoleymani3962 My loss? You mean my son? I didn't mention that... Did I? Well, regardless thank you for your condolences. It's something I never thought I'd experience. No Mother should. I have gone through the worst of it. But, the ... Severing ... That just never goes away. It's the most intensely painful thing I have ever felt. And that is really saying something... Because I have experienced A LOT in my 38 years. More than anything else I just... Miss him. I miss his face, his laugh... He had an infectious laugh. I really wanted to see him experience life, get married, have babies that looked like he did when he was a little boy... Little Riley's running around... I looked forward to that so much. All my hopes & dreams for his future, gone. Just like that. It wasn't just his death that I faced it was the death of that dream & all I thought he would be. Oh, my boy... I wish the world could've known him like I did... Then they would all most definitely feel the sadness & heavyness of this loss too. Instead of just moving on seamlessly & telling me to get over it, pull myself together & move on as well.
@@pavlovasupernova1013 oh my god Pavlova i cant even image what you have been through... im so sorry you had to experience such loss... it truly breaks my heart ♥️ i wish i had meet him too♥️ i hope you find your peace some day some where... i wouldn't expect you to forget and move on that is unreasonable to ask! but i hope you some how find a way to live with this bitter truth... im sure he will never be forgotten ♥️♥️♥️
@@mahshidsoleymani3962 Thank you, truly. You would be shocked to know the number of people in my life who ignored, avoided, abandoned, blamed & shamed me after it happened. Literally ALL my friends, all my family. All except for my cousin his girlfriend & my step dad. 6 brothers 6 sisters. 42 first cousins. 9 Aunts 4 Uncle's. Both parents still alive. Friends I had had for most of my life... of those, only 2 of my siblings even bothered talking to me afterwards. The others didn't even call. And the one sister & one brother that did - sister ignored me shortly after offering condolences because she had just had her first son & my pain was "stealing her joy". My brother was good for a few weeks but then we got into an argument & he told me it was my fault. Of my cousins 3 bothered saying anything to me. 2 lived with me at the time, those were the 2 that were there for me. The other messaged me on a Facebook account I didn't use anymore. No aunt's. No uncle's. Not even my Dad acknowledged me. He called my ex, my son's father the day after it happened to offer his condolences. But, not me. And he still hasn't said a single word. I still don't know what I did... Covid just had hit. My daughter out of school, my boyfriend out of work, my 16 year old son dies & I'm trapped inside my house with all those memories & nothing but my thoughts... Almost no distractions. It was like what you might imagine isolated hell on earth would be like... I had to wait a crazy amount of time to get the autopsy results back because the state & federal labs were totally bogged down & backed up... I didn't even have the option of going to a church service, support group or even actually seeing a therapist. To be honest I am somewhat surprised that I made it through that dark time in one piece. I'm grateful I did though. It has made me far more aware of what matters & who I can trust.
The fact that she was worried about how it would 'look' if her dad walked her down the aisle in his wheelchair is outragious, like okay Karen just think of how it would look walking down the aisle completely alone, imagine worrying about stupid stuff like that instead of being grateful for having a dad in the first place. I would love it if my dad was even alive no matter how it would 'look' if he ended up in a wheelchair, because walking me down the aisle however he could would make him smile and that's what this bride should consider, other people's feelings should matter more than a freaking image.
about the professional makeup and so on, I so often see makeup on TV done just to follow a "trend" not to follow whether it suits the person or not... It's sad. So I understand you Charlotte for fixing your own when needed
Can't wait to see the list for her husband for their marriage. I bet he's thrilled. "You are only allowed to fart on Monday, Wed, and Friday". "You are expected to have sex every Sat afternoon between 2 and 4 pm. Sports broadcasts are no exception." Bless his heart.
And the daughter about her dad in the wheelchair.. omg. I would give anything to have my dad with me again. She has no idea.
A marriage with sex twice per week? Do they own a unicorn too?
I get the feeling that those people forget what the wedding and marriage is all about - love. Love is basically all you need for a wedding. Love between you and your partner and you and your friends and family. Everything else is basically unnecessary. No wonder those people all get divorced
I am so glad that weddings in Germany are totally different - no bridesmaids for example. Saves a lot of costs, troubles and broken friendships it seems.
Wow, I didn't know that - thanks for the cool fact!
My friend liked the idea of bridesmaids, but mainly for the Bachelorette party and the pictures
My Dad was in an accident was I was 10 and is also paralyzed. I always imagined him giving me away, with my hand on his shoulder as he pushed his wheelchair down the aisle. And sitting on his lap for the father/daughter dance. Unfortunately he decided not to be in our wedding because my fiance and I lived together before we got married (living in sin and all). But in no way would I have made the choice to leave him out. That lady was unbelievable.
At least he had a choice. No matter how messed up his reason
I am sorry he refused to be apart of your wedding. 💕
you are such a good person to love him despite his views
Your comments are EXACTLY word for word how I react! Love your show
When I got married I had a budget of $3000.00 and I went over budget by $3.00 😱 I lost my freaking MIND and my late FIL gave me the three dollars and told me to STFU in a joking manner. I felt so much better but here it is 11 years later and I still can’t tell you where those three dollars went 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣
I have two brothers. My father died before any of us were married, had kids, etc. I think I can speak for all three of us when I say that we would have given anything to have him with us on our wedding days or any day for that matter. Of course her dad was devastated by her selfishness. Good for him if he found it in him to forgive her.
There was a photo of an a father in a hospital bed, his deathbed, going down the aisle with his daughter. He wanted to walked her down. He died a day or two later. What an honour and wonderful memory to have. I can’t ever imagine doing anything to hurt my Dad like that “daughter” did. Also, loved the music in this video and your new gavel. ❤️
They ended up "parting ways" with the boyfriend and not getting married
My older sister's wedding was a hindu wedding with only 20 people including the bride and groom (2020 covid wedding) and then after the wedding we had BBQ lunch and Indian food dinner and dance party at night up to like 3:00am with drinks on the building terrace. It was a really cheap wedding in comparison to how typical Indian weddings go but it was the most fun wedding I have ever been to. Best wedding experience of my life.
I lost my father when I was a child (I was 11) in 1998 to cancer and also my unofficially adopted dad died in 2015, that girl is lucky to have her father still. I know its no longer a go ahead but there are people here on YT that have found creative ways to include family members with a disability into the ceremony and/or reception. I just saw clips where family lifted up groom to dance with the bride. Straps were attached to each leg of the groom and helper so that the groom would not slide. Then they all swayed to the music. Another one was a father (turns out to be a forner racing car driver that got severely injured in a crash and was paralysed) who was attached to an exo-skeleton (a device that helps you walk) and he was able to not only dance with his daughter (the bride) but also his wife, other daughters and everyone else. Otherwise the thing that needs to change is not the circumstance, your father or family, but its your mindset that needs to change
I'm a wheelchair user, have been for 8 years, it's so comfortable and normal for me I couldn't imagine my kids having a problem with it, but they were all ten and under and had seen the decline and the freedom it gave me. Of course, I felt nervous the first time it appeared on a more formal family picture. Unfortunately, I've done more weddings than funerals in those 8 years, the only bit that's a problem is graveside if it's muddy.
The most beautiful wedding I ever attended was totally by accident. I was a public school educator and my principal and I had a truancy hearing to attend at the local justice's office. We went, had the hearing, and while we were there, a couple came with their son--we had him in school and we knew he was out for the day because his parents were getting married. Anyway, the couple came into the office, saw the principal and I and asked us to be their witnesses--they were going to use the secretaries in the office--and of course we said yes. It was a simple wedding, only like five or ten minutes long. We went out to the parking lot afterwards and had a toast with the lemonade they'd brought along.
Is a truancy hearing in court a US thing? My province just won't pass you or not give you the course credits towards graduation if you miss too many classes.
That's beautiful. What a lovely memory.
@@Student1483 Yep. Your kids *have* to do some type of school, whether it's public school, private school or homeschooling. I'm pretty sure you can have your children taken from you if you don't make sure they're educated, though they can legally drop out of school at 16 (or they just don't show up and thus will fail, as you said, which is basically the same as "dropping out"), so I don't think it applies after the age of 16 (I guess maybe partly because how do you control an asshole kid who leaves school property everyday at that age?)
I am a grown ass woman with zero desire to have a “traditional” wedding situation and yet these videos are my absolute favorite. I literally yell “YAAAS” every time you make these. Thank you and pls never stop.
Haha same 😂
The story about the bride with her father on a wheelchair made me cry, I can't believe that she is this shallow. My dad passed away last june and he was disable due to a brain stroke he walked with a cane and had some visible effects I could never imagine not wanting him there or saying those things about him, like I would literally fight anyone who ever dared say something about him or his illness and I can't believe that she gets the luck of having her father walk her down the aisle but she chooses not to for asthetics? I wish I could have him here with me and share moments like that and some people don't vale that for dumb reasons
I had a big, Italian wedding and it was still stress free because the only thing that mattered to me was that I was married to my best friend at the end of the day. I loved every minute of my wedding and wedding planning. My husband and I had equal input and were equally involved 🤷♀️
Wow. The bride who didn't want her dad to walk her down the isle, she deserved to not get married. My dad passed away about 4 years ago, and I literally don't even CARE about a wedding anymore because the idea of not having a father daughter dance, or him not walking me down an isle.... it just didn't feel as meaningful without my dad there to be happy for me. I don't need a party, the gifts, or title....I would give all of that to have my dad back.
Why do people feel honoured to be in all these abusive friendships?
When I got married (now divorced) both my sisters turned up on the day with the exact same hair colour as me. We also have the same colour eyes 😂
I wasn't upset at all. I was so thrilled that we 3 sisters looked so similar! They were my 2 bridesmades and they had different dressed to mine, so I certainly had no issue with them looking beautiful and having a great time ❤️ The photo of the 3 of us, and the one with my parents and I are the only 2 photos I have kept ♡
Everyone’s different! I would personally hate that!
I’m so sadden by the lady who didn’t want her dad to walk her down the aisle because he’s in a wheelchair. If he wouldn’t have survived she would be crying because he wasn’t there to even be there to begin with. What a shady a$$hole. She should be grateful to even have parents. I don’t even have that.
Trash
My Dad passed away at 58 surprisingly, 6 months after my wedding and, of course, walking me down the aisle. I got to spent the night at my parent's/my childhood house the night before due to a snowstorm trapping me in NYC with a freak ride from my old bus company coming by! We had a very nice chat where I discussed me doing animal rescue after work, weekends, etc. His last words were "I love you" as I was walking out to my commuter bus. Mine was "I love you too!" (gotta catch the bus, call you at lunch). DO YOU KNOW WHAT PEACE YOU HAVE LEAVING OFF LIKE THAT! That idiot will rue the day she brought up the idea, let alone if her fiance didn't wise up.
If he hadn't been there she would have made it all about her and how sad she was that he wasn't there to take her down the aisle.....
@@carolr7333 Sorry to hear about your father. Glad he was there for you at your wedding. Also, glad your last words were I love you. That is the best words to have said and be the last words to have said to each other. ❤️
I lost my mom at 55, I was 23, and unfortunately. Short story her husband (jerk) forgot to tell me she was in the hospital and by the time I got there it was too late, and went into a coma.
At least, I was able to talk to her days prior.
People like her, and her thinking it just baffles me.
Because she’s truly lucky that her father made it. Sure, he can’t move, properly hug her, and it makes “her” feel uncomfortable. Damn, how do you think her father feels. I bet he thinks about it all the time.
I really hope her fiancé left her because of this reason, because he dodge a life time of miserly with this lady.
@@carolnacarato4448 oh 💯. I agree with that all the way. And now it’s too uncomfortable because he’s in a wheelchair. Wtf. And I’m so glad her fiancé broke it off. I just hope it was for this reason.
I personally like the German custom of the bride and groom walking down the aisle together (toward the altar), instead of the bride being the father's property until he "gives" her to the husband.
Long comment, so sorry in advance:
The last bride absolutely BAFFLES me. I had a fairly similar situation. My dad had a motorcycle accident when I was 18. He was struck by a car who didn't have the right of way. While my dad wasn't paralyzed by this, he is a wheelchair user from a TBI he sustained in the accident and has similar traits to someone with cerebral palsy (I don't say this to put an umbrella term on people who have CS, but the major part of the damage my dad's brain took was to his cerebellum- his cerebellum atrophied from blood pooling in his brain before we could get him into the MRI machine- my dad was a really big guy to begin with and when he was injured, his body swelled everywhere and the MRI tech didn't think he would fit into the machine; they were wrong and it cost my dad dearly). He can't enunciate his words, he has very little balance, which means that if he does want to walk a few hundred feet, he needs a walker and then needs to sit immediately back down in his wheelchair, and he has the coordination of a 12 month old. My dad's biggest upset, other than the fact he will need assistance for the rest of his life and could hardly do anything for himself anymore, was that he didn't think he could ever walk me down the aisle when I found my person.
I found my person 4 years later (almost to the date, I met my husband on August 10th and my Dad's accident was four years prior on the 9th of August), and about three years after that, my husband proposed to me. When he did, my dad told me he was really happy for me, but that he didn't think he could walk me down the aisle because it would crush my dream. I told him to "nut-up or shut-up" (a term my dad has always used toward my brother and I when we felt like giving up) and that he could either take his PT seriously for the next 18 months (depression got the better of him and he never felt like going), or he would roll with me down the aisle, but I was NOT walking down with anyone else, and I was NOT walking myself down the aisle.
Our venue accomodated by ensuring he had enough space to walk between the seats, I made an attachment for my dad's chair out of acrylic to prevent my dress from getting caught in his wheels, just in case, and 18 months later, my dad walked me down the aisle, walker and all. He huffed and puffed as he did it, and he almost ran himself into some of our seated guests, but goddammit he did it and I am so proud of that moment. There was not a dry eye in that wedding.
I cannot FATHOM not having had my dad walk me down the aisle, disabilities or not. And it absolutely disgusts me that this bride thought so little of her dad after what he had already been through.
So the girl having her wedding in Maine. Let me get this straight. You don't have to pay for the venue. And so you think the pics, dress and everything else should be free also. It's mind boggling to see people say stuff like this. Like how can you have such high standards then proceed to ask for it all for.... free? You are crazy lady.
Also, how much does a month in Dubai cost? Was that gifted to her as well? Unreal!
Oof...that "don't forget to hug your dad" hit hard. My father died unexpectedly in his sleep at age 57. This was many years ago but it put me in major depression which I am still in recovery from. I love you though Charlotte I've been subscribed since like 30k or less and now you're about to hit 100k (soon to be a million I'm sure). You bring the laughs every day and this was no exception. (Ps I'm divorced now but I got married just six months before my dad died and he and my mom both walked me down the aisle and I'm glad he was still there for that. )
Same thing-Dad walked me down the aisle 6 months before heart attack at 58. Now divorced. I'm a carbon copy of Dad about to turn 58 (but going to cardio as usual, Mon, seeing GP Tues, and take pretty good care of myself esp while I have ex' great ins through end of year). His death in 1995, like with YOUR Dad, also has affected me many years later. I suffer from mixed anxiety and depr acc to DSM 4 and now 5.
Also STILL very heartbroken at end of 5.5 year rel that ended 6 months ago. Went on first date last night that didn't work out, and BC ex' apt, that I USED to live in, is by all the restaurants and overlooks a lot of them, even parking lot, so I was honest and said we couldn't go to (I would just DIE if he walked in with another woman...it doesn't matter that there is a big gap in looks between us so I can't imagine what ex could be dating now. Apt still has a lot of my stuff around-we broke up a # of times before and got back together but I guess this is the final one. I have to go get my stuff from him. He is the biggest slob that ever existed and I was always cleaning up that place, even in a walker after surgery to fix my broken femur I broke in HIS filthy place on garbage bags piled up because I went over there after hip replacement and had to clean up just to tolerate the mess.
No Za Za Zu on my part with date last night, so he figured that out when he tried to french kiss me. Decided I HAD to get back on the horse and start dating again so doing on-line dating. I just want to cry and right now I am crying as I write this.
I paid for my bridesmaids' hair and make-up and still let them pick any style they wanted, because I am not an insane person and I wanted my bridesmaids to be happy and look amazing.
My dad passed away from a long time sickness almost 2 years ago! I knew he would probably pass before I ever decided to get married ( because I just haven’t found that special person) but always dreamed that he would walk me down the aisle. I would do WHATEVER to accommodate my wedding to his needs for him to be able to walk me and give me away! I took care of my dad from 15 years of age till he passed away. If I ever do get married best believe I will be carrying my daddy’s ashes down the aisle with me that way he would still be walking with me
Recently lost my dad and would give anything to have him here to walk me down the aisle. Appreciate who and what you have! I'd have carried him down the aisle if it came to that, idfc how it looks.
OMG, Married in 1985, Had none of this at my wedding, grateful for all the help, presents and especially my Mum who paid for my wedding dress.guests relayed around after ceremony, reception brilliant.
Run! My wedding was in the beautiful chapel in the hospital where I worked. I wore an off the rack light grey dress ( a regular kind), and all my coworkers came down in their scrubs and uniforms if they could get away. Cake and punch reception at my parents, and it was lovely. Honeymooned in San Antonio. Been married 39 years and I still love memories of my wedding. These girls are out of their minds.
Miss Charlotte is in her element with Bridezilla content! How she manages to still stay classy even after all of these horrible examples of selfish “human” behavior is beyond me. It’s just another reason why I enjoy watching her daily. I even took a break from helping my mom pack up to watch this one (it’s ok, everyone else is eating) and I wasn’t disappointed. Miss Charlotte and Bridezilla content; I’m here for it!
I had the huge wedding, no bumps, no bridesmaid contracts, everyone had a great time. You can have the big wedding without crazy stipulations and stress
I am shocked, how can anyone do that to their dad! My dad passed last year and I would give anything to have him back.
My dad passed away suddenly three years ago, and everytime i think that he's not there when i get married brings tears to my eyes. Would give anything to have that one day with him. How could anyone talk like that about their own father is just heartbreaking.