Love u Charlotte! My potato queen. This just makes me not want to have a ceremonial wedding lol I feel I would be a bridezilla. Oh you should do an episode of when scammers get scammed lol I think I sent u a screen shot of my encounter with a scammer
I'm your biggest fan, but would like to gently remind you with all due respect that not everyone has your current socioeconomic advantages. Plenty of people choose not to provide booze at weddings and their decision is delegitimized publically when 460,000 people hear you ridicule it. Families sensitive to those iñ recovery for example. Those who know someone who was sued after a driver left their gathering and caused a fatal crash. Or people who just want to share their happiness with those they love but must leave out extras like bartenders and d.j.s in order to do so. For myself, i've yet to see a wedding improved by drunks.
My friend did something like a dry wedding thing. But she warned us. She told us she was just getting married at the City Hall ,and if we wanted we could go, but that only her family and that of her husband would hold a private reception. We went to see her ,she wore a beautiful wedding dress, and the time we stayed there hearing their vows to each other, and some family member's speeches was very sweet. Afterwards we met her outside the hall and congratulated her, took some pictures etc.. And then they went off to their private reception. Everybody was happy.
@@lindsayengland5241 It was ,I think it was a smart idea. She gets her dress and the vows ,and her friends around her. But we don't have to trouble ourselves with all the parafernalia of getting the dress ,presents ,etc and she has a cheap but great day lol
"dry" means no alcohol. But what your friend did for her wedding is smart...weddings are soooo expensive. I know because my daughter is getting married in February, I cannot believe how much more expensive everything is since I was married!
My grandma wore TWO engagement rings, and she wore them till the day she died. She was widowed less than a year into her marriage, and when she finally remarried five years later her two engagement rings were attached together by a jeweler. So yeah, no one is entitled to anyone's rings unless and until a designated time. When I was about 12 my grandma told me she wanted me to have her rings when she died, so I have them now and they are precious, not because of their "value" as rings, but because they were important to my grandma.
You know, every time I watch these, I reflect that the loveliest wedding I've ever been to was extremely cheap and unpretentious. The bride had survived cancer (and the groom had nursed her through it), so her head was shaved and they were basically broke from medical payments. She wore a white dress that was likely a thrift store prom dress and looked beautiful. Her friends did her makeup. She had two bridesmaids- her sisters. One made the (chocolate) wedding cake, which was decorated with pansies from their garden, while the other sewed their bridesmaid dresses. The groom's family cooked a meal for the rehearsal, there was a simple, sweet ceremony at the church, and the reception was in her parents' backyard, with her parents making the food. They were touched when people brought gifts, but they didn't expect them. They were overjoyed that their loved ones had taken the time and expense to join them for their special day. Honestly, it was one of the most moving experiences I've ever had. It was one big love fest and the couple was radiant with happiness in the pictures their friends took of them. Fast-forward to the present-day and they've been married for fifteen years and have four children. THAT is a couple who understood what was most important in a wedding.
Exactly! Like, it’s ok to wanna have a beautiful ceremony, but beautiful doesn’t always mean expectations as high as the Sistine Chapel. Sometimes all you want is a lovely ceremony, which is fine, but what you need is to have a ceremony that makes you happy, and that’s a lovely affair for everyone. That doesn’t mean horses and gold bars, it means being considerate and understanding, both with your guests, and yourself. It’s not wrong to want something big; it’s wrong to force everyone to go along.
That sounds beautiful. You don't need to spend big bucks to celebrate your love. Heck, I've known some people who had INSANELY expensive weddings and got divorced 2-5 years later, but others who had very simple weddings & are married decades later.
When my wife and I were planning our wedding we decided on the following approach to guests: (1) This is our wedding, we are committing ourselves to each other, and we would like you to share our special day. (2) Ladies - wear what you like as long as it isn't white. (3) Men - tie preferred, but not essential. (4) Reception for all guests - we provide meal, champagne, wines, beers, soft drinks (guests can buy spirits at the bar) (5) Presents - not essential but, if guests want to buy something, basic items to set up our home would be good (bedding, towels, crockery etc) - or whatever you think would be fun or useful. (6) There will not be a gift table to display presents (so no-one will feel they need to spend for show or feel embarrassed). (7) Discreet message to people on tight budgets - F*** buying a present - spending time with us is more important than spending money on us! 33 years on, whenever we look at the wedding photos we think of our families and friends, not what they were wearing!
This is pure gold...so wholesome...and yes...it is about the two committing themselves to each other and the people......not the presents or the fancy party or the snazzy dresses
Funny story: one of my bridesmaids had a cycling accident a few weeks before my wedding. She was going to be in a cast and on crutches. I said, NBD, we'll decorate your crutches and make it fun! The mother of my MOH was SO annoyed that I allowed her to be in the wedding. She told me my pictures would be ruined and the girl should understand "she had no place any longer in the procession." I told her I would do what I wanted, TYVM, and she was staying in the wedding. Her escort took good care of her to make sure she was comfortable during the ceremony and, for most all the pictures, we simply placed a large floral arrangement in front of her cast and she put her weight on a stool placed behind her. The photographer was very accommodating and it looked beautiful! Shame on that lady (who, it turned out, didn't do any of the planning for her daughter (my MOH) because they were estranged by then...go figure).
"Who doesn't have alcohol at their wedding?" My husband and I were on a tight (3k) budget for our big day, so everything was done on the cheap. That included having both the ceremony and reception at a rented out pavilion in a state park. Thing about parks and Pennsylvania... Alcohol is not permitted whatsoever. So dry wedding it was. And we had a lovely time. Some people make the choice because funds. Others make it to prevent tempting recovering alcoholics in the family. There are many reasons
Ummm if you've got a family of alcoholics that fight when drunk, a dry wedding sounds perfect. My family drank the bar tab before the bride and groom got back from having their photos done.
I’m a recovering alcoholic and IF I ever got married again (which I won’t) I would have a dry wedding. I wouldn’t want alcohol all around me and especially wouldn’t want the drunk ass people around me on such a special day. Everybody has their own reasons and no matter what people should respect it and simply enjoy the special day
I genuinely never understood not wanting people with crutches (or with cancer who have lost their hair) in wedding photos. To me that would make those moments that much more special - look at how much this person cares for me, that they were willing to be there for me even after what they're going through. ALSO - just had a good friend get married whose best friend & maid of honor passed away a couple of weeks before the wedding - she would have rather had her there for the day, no matter what she looked like. Hell, even if they had to bring the whole dang hospital bed, she would have welcomed it gladly.
Those were my thoughts too. I would look back on that day an smile because my real friends showed up. And having a perfect wedding or wedding photos doesn't always mean a good outcome. My photos would be more unique with a friend on crutches 😉
Those people don't care about friendship, they don't care whether the feelings of their guests are genuine. All they care about is creating picture perfect that they dreamt about from childhood, it's all about visual effect. Honestly half the time I'm not sure if those brides care about their husbands to be or whether the guys are just there to make the big childish dream possible
If my best friend was in a freaking iron lung and had to be pushed by a hospital orderly, I wouldn't mind. I don't care about the wedding photos. I don't even think I'd look at a wedding album very often. If the wife wanted photos from the wedding on the mantle, I want the guests as they are. If Margo has the wild magenta hair, I'm not asking her to dye it a natural shade for the event. If Fred was in an auto accident and has bandages and missing teeth, so what? They took time out of their lives to attend, and that's gift enough. If anybody wondered about how somebody would "look in the photos" I'd tell them we want them to look like themselves. And don't push me. Because if anybody did, I'd call over the wife to be and tell her Aunt Karen is concerned about how people will look in the wedding photos, and I'm starting to agree. So, do we want to hire a blond, brunette, or redhead to take the place of Aunt Karen for the wedding photos, or do we want to add a little diversity by hiring a person of color to stand in for her? Maybe Karen would be so offended she won't attend. Kind of a win-win on that.
I can’t imagine how heartless those people are. One of my best friends uses a cane and will probably be getting a wheelchair soon, and it would be unthinkable not to include her in my wedding photos. She’s such an important part of both mine and my fiancé’s lives. The fact that these brides purposely exclude their sick or disabled friends for “aesthetic” reasons is absolutely abhorrent
People made my work friends man feel so uncomfortable because he had sweatpants and crutches from being in a bad motorcycle scrape. I didn't care one but and don't remember what anyone wore to my wedding. I was livid when I found out how he was shamed, especially since I've been thru 2 cycle accidents and totally understood how painful his skin was injured and tight clothes would have been torture for a few hours. Crazy how no one just asked them and people whispered. They left early because of it! I was so ashamed of the people who judged.
To be fair my husband and I had a dry wedding. His side of the family are judgmental religious and my side is German/Irish either heavy drinkers or recovering alcoholics. It was on a golf course so they could buy it themselves if they wanted it cheap but we were not gonna deal with all that mess. The religious folk were told anyone with alcohol bought it from the golf course and the recovering alcoholics still felt welcome and supported.
I'm going to marry someone whose family are strict Muslims...never did I ever think I was going to have a dry wedding (or marrying into a traditional Muslim family for that matter) but here I am. Love is so nice but so weird.
I think there is difference from refusing to provide alcohol over objections to people drinking alcohol. I've been to weddings with a host bar and a cash bar. I don't question either choice; booze can get expensive.
My engagement ring came as a set with the wedding band for $80 (I picked it out from an Etsy seller). Literally no one who has asked me didn’t know it wasn’t a diamond. And if I were to ever lose it or something I could easily get a replacement. It’s a symbol. If the price tag is more important than what it means to you then you’re doing it wrong.
I have heard of people inviting people to the ceremony and not the reception. One of my cousins did that! She attended a large church that her family has been a part of since before she was born. All of the church members wanted to be wedding guests (hundreds of people!) so she and her fiancé invited everyone to the ceremony, hosted at the church, had a greeting line where everyone could hug the newly married couple and take photos, and had basic sheet cake and punch available in the church hall. THEN, the bride and groom and close family and friends went to the real reception at a different location (catered meal, speeches, DJ, dancing, etc).
This is exactly what my sister did at her wedding. Everyone at the church was invited to the wedding, but due to budgeting concerns, only people who were close friends, family, or travelled from out of town were invited to the reception, (ended up being ~50-75 total people iirc) The cake was cut at the ceremony location, and a greeting line with the bride and groom allowed for all guests to congratulate them and get some cake, but the reception was a catered meal at a different location, and took place after bridal party photos were finished.
Same for both of my children - large congregation for the ceremony with greeting line with refreshments ( cake, fresh fruit, champagne and soft drinks ) afterwards and a smaller ( 65- 70) people reception with all the trimmings at the specially venue.
What you guys all did was very different. You are good people who may not have been able to afford to feed hundreds of people (who can?) You still provided cake, drinks, snacks, an opportunity to congratulate the couple. The girl in the story just wanted money/gifts. I guess that's the difference between a bride and a bridezilla!
Writing an angry review just to find out you put the dress on inside out is one of the most embarrassing bridezilla debacles I’ve heard Edit: wow I would have never expected this comment to STILL get replies two years later
@@lexsol6941 thats a really good question.... haha I feel like there is too much structure in a dress to have it inside out.... or there are tags.... or its super itchy.... my dress had some structure that in order for me to have it inside out things would be facing weird ways that it would be obvious. She probably just wanted something to be mad at so she decided to do that thinking no one would notice.
Reminds me of when I lived in my first apartment. I did a load of laundry in the on-site laundry room. As I was folding my laundry (in my apartment), I noticed my brand new towels were missing. I wrote a snotty note to the effect of: "Thanks" so much for stealing MY new towels! I hope your guilty conscience doesn't ruin your enjoyment of using them. I went down to the laundry room, and posted my sign. As I was finishing folding my laundry...I found said towels...hiding inside of a fitted sheet that was in that load. 🤦🏻♀️ Needless to say, I removed my sign ASAP! 😂😂😂
Than kid that wanted moms ring doesn’t know that it only becomes an heirloom after it has been passed down a few generations and the ring usually skips generations because it’s passed down by grandparents unless mom dies before the kids get married. Plus he was doing it just to save himself some money or having to work a bunch of overtime!
Yeah and not to mention you can just propose without an engagement ring it won't be the end of the world and many people do that. They should just buy wedding rings if they want a ring so bad😂😂😂😂
So, my wife and I got married in 2019. We immediately had to move as our home was being sold (We found out AFTER we spent the money and planned the wedding. Our wedding was at our house. Our house was a rental in the country) cash was tight. She got a new job, and I had to earn new clients in our new town, I’m a musician and producer. I also do guitar tech work. We moved back to Winnipeg (For my business. Unaware of what was to come) Covid happened, and we waited to see how long the pandemic and restrictions would last. During all of this, I couldn’t work (Autoimmune illness. Not safe for me to have people coming in and out of my home for work before vaccines were available. Even now.) and she had to take some time off as well. Our savings flew out the window (Metaphorically). Two and a half years since our wedding, and we still haven’t had a honeymoon 😣. We didn’t ask anyone to pay for any part of our wedding (Although family gave us cards, etc. Which was nice. It helped in a small way. We’ll always be grateful for that). But we didn’t request anyone pay for our wedding, let alone. Our honeymoon. Fingers crossed we get to have one soon. We also bought our OWN. RINGS! My goodness. These people. I tell ya. Take care!
The "ugly crutches" is an easy fix! I have a disability that requires me to use walking aids and I went to a wedding on my crutches a few years ago. I decided to decorate them with fairy lights and ribbons with glittery gold hearts down them and they looked really nice. I've always decorated my crutches/wheelchair for special occasions and always have fun doing it around Christmas and Halloween! I've been wrapping my crutches in tinsel, fairy lights and adding tiny baubles to them every Christmas for a few years now and everyone loves them 😊
I was a bartender at a beautiful country club when I was in college and I did mostly weddings and larger parties. Lemme tell you that open bars can turn even the nicest crowds into a trashy mess!! There will always be that one group, that one uncle, that one table of coworkers etc that gets SMASHED and ruins stuff. Breaking glasses, tripping over decor, getting in fights...not to mention trying their hardest to get the groom so drunk he can't even remember the $40k wedding he just paid for. Ugh. Anyone who has a dry wedding is doing themselves and their other guests a favor!
Or at least a limit on how much alcohol is allowed per person/table and a weather eye kept on the types who pinch other's alotment. Once it's gone, it's gone.
Ive seen Italian Catholic weddings where they like invite everyone in town to the Mass but not to the reception but it's VERY clear. It's basically just a huge church service that anyone can attend but the reception is invite only.
The person concerned about their honeymoon should have done a Honeymoon Registry. When my husband and I got married we both agreed we didn't need a bunch of stuff, because we already have plates, cutlery, home goods, etc. So we planned out or honeymoon via travel agent, and then set up a Honeymoon Registry. People were able to pick and choose what, if anything, they wanted to pay for. It was as low as $24 for the two of us for an historical tour, to the cost of our plane tickets, to the cost of a night at our hotel, to the cost of a nice dinner or two, and an option where people could just contribute money if they were so inclined. We kept things fairly low-key as far as all of that went. We had a fairly small wedding too (less than 100 people) and it still covered at least half the cost of the honeymoon. And if someone did get us a gift independent of the registry, we still thanked them for it. You know, like decent human beings.
The Honeymoon Registry sounds like a great idea! It also sounds more fun for the people who want to take part in it compared to just buying home goods etc. They’d be able to see how much fun you had rather than if you used what they bought you at home.
I've definitely heard of weddings where not everyone is invited to the reception, but usually the couple is honest about it up-front. Being sneaky about it just to get more gifts is gross.
Correct, unless you receive an invitation that includes the details of the reception, you are NOT invited to the reception. I thought this was common knowledge. The wedding and the party are two different things. And no, you're not obligated to bring a gift, reception or not. A marriage is not quid pro quo! Hopefully you're invited only to weddings where you're close enough to the couple that you would WANT to give them something to mark the occasion.
I’ve heard that only the opposite is okay. If you invite only some people to your wedding but everyone to your reception that’s ok from an etiquette standpoint. If you invite everyone to the wedding but only some people to the reception that’s rude, because then you’re just taking gifts from people and their time and not feeding them.
@@ludobagman3882 True, etiquette varies from place to place. Where I'm from, one is not expected to bring a gift AT ALL. A guest is a guest, to be feted and entertained by the bride and groom as a token of thanks for traveling/making time/sharing the day with them, and not obligated to "pay back" in the form of a present. Newlyweds get gifts from the family and extremely close friends, no one else outside of that most intimate circle feels like they have to contribute to their settling into married life.
In my culture, you can come to the reception, invited or not. It doesn't even matter if you know the couple or not you will still be fed. That's why here, it costs a fortune to get married
As someone who was in a family that every party was drinking and involved drama the next day… I respect that my sister had a dry wedding…. That being said, her and her husband payed for everything and did not make it a crazy expensive wedding … they did what they wanted with their budget. And boy, it was fun. They had no expectations, they just wanted to have a great time.
"Who doesn't have alcohol at their wedding??" ...Me, who had a lunchtime wedding about a month ago. In order to serve alcohol at all, we'd have to pay for extra insurance coverage and hire a certified bartender. The theme was essentially "hobbit teatime in the woods" so our special drinks were ginger beer and a selection of locally purchased teas.
We contemplated whether or not to have a dry wedding, as there are recovering and active alcoholics on both sides. The decision became easier when the staff for the venue we went with (a lovely pavilion at Stanley Park) advised us that no alcohol was allowed in the park. We had our caterer, who was phenomenal in both product and service, make up several types of mocktails for people who still wanted to feel fancy. Everyone we've talked to in the two years since then have said they had a fantastic time. So it all worked out with no booze required (and no booze-related drama either).
I hope the lady invited to the non-existent Japan wedding used her tickets to go and enjoy herself in Japan. Maybe she and some of the other folks in the chat could have gotten together there and had a blast. Without bridezilla.
The bride that's upset about her friend's constellation tattoo because that's her heme is outrageous. It's equivalent to a bride being upset about a rose tattoo because that's the flowers she chooses for her wedding.
Warning to Girlfriend in the story. Your guy is CHEEP CHEEP CHEEP. Like a baby bird, he'll expect you to drop everything into his waiting maw. Gimme gimme gimme. Red flag.
When my father passes ( god forbid ) I would like to keep his ring, shirts and tools. I’m close to my father and losing him will be the worse day of my life.
My best friend and her husband got married at a simple ceremony at a gazebo by the river here in Austin. I was their "best person". The minister met us there on his lunch hour (worked another job). He married them and went back to work. The 3 of us then went and had a lovely lunch where the staff gave them a really nice dessert complete with Congratulations. They dropped me off and went on their honeymoon. Afterwards they had an "elopement" party to celebrate. LOL. Theyve been married over 25 years and have never been happier. It's not about the trappings or the ceremony. It's about what you want and who you're committing to being with.
This is so sweet. And what an honor to be the only person they wanted to share it with. It makes it so much more special I think. It truly is about the couple feeling comfortable and celebrating their new life together by starting with love and not a stressful big day
My cousin got married about a month ago and she and her husband were camping in *several areas of Georgia for their honeymoon. During the honeymoon, she actually put up a post on Facebook asking people for money to continue funding their trip. When I saw the post, the first thing that went through my mind was "the audacity!" (thanks, Charlotte :) ) *Edited because I was confusing people :)
@@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife I'm not sure. While some people 'liked' the post, no one commented (comments were not turned off) and the registry doesn't show donations. I know that it's not particularly nice of me but I hope no one donated.
Glitch in the matrix: I read your post and my brain went - "Hmmm, they're camping in different areas, as in separately... strange honeymoon 🤔" 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Clearly I need to sleep, but gotta see the video first.
@@darth-imperius I thought the same lmao 😂😂 like why would the go camping seperatley on their honeymoon? They really must like having their space... Weird couple, but I guess there is nothing new under the sun...
Regarding the day/evening guest thing: All weddings I’ve gone to in England (including both my sisters’ upcoming weddings) have addressed their invites stating ‘all-day’ guest or ‘evening’ guest. This has always been normal for me, so maybe it’s a British thing? For example: - anyone can go to the actual wedding/church even without an invite, particularly to stand outside and throw confetti (we live in a small village with a community so it’s normal for people to just pop in to weddings/funerals) - ‘all-day’ guests are expected at the ceremony, the afternoon (food + speeches) and the evening (reception/party) - ‘evening’ guests are obviously only invited to the reception, because there are always people you want to celebrate with but are not necessarily close enough to to qualify being there for speeches (and 3-courses is expensive!) TLDR; Categorising guests is normal in England to minimise costs, maximise the people you can celebrate with, and make sure the speeches/food section is just for family/god patents/close friends. Not to mention that way you can invite kids to the ceremony + afternoon, and have just adults at the reception.
It's the same in Italy! I've been reading various comments saying that in various European nations that's a standard thing, so I'm guessing it's only normal in Europe
For the one regarding the sister who shaved/dyed her hair, the only reason I could see the bridezilla getting upset is if her sister already knew that she didn't really like that kind of look. Out of respect for my sister, I would wait until after the wedding because that's kind of a bitchy move. However, if I was the bridezilla and my sister did it before the wedding anyway, I might be kind of annoyed about it, but I wouldn't throw her out of the wedding or make a big deal of it because she's still my sister, and it's more important that my sister is there in the first place than what she looks like.
Yeah with the way they texted back and forth, I kinda wonder if there is an underlying issue there. Like the bridesmaid sister is bitter about her sister's "perfect wedding" so she decided to do a crazy hair color and shave, knowing it would piss her off. That's just not what a sweet sister relationship is like. Or maybe the bridezilla put weird restrictions on everyone and the sister was retaliating. 🤷🏼♀️
Also, what did she pay $1500 for? Unless she was referring to the bridesmaid dress, which is higher than your typical cost. Or maybe she helped with the wedding cost? IDK. But seriously, since she did it a few weeks or even days ahead of the wedding, I'm assuming, it does sound like the sister did it to be spiteful.
Is it remotely possible that she wasn't so chill when she was not around you? Did you spend every second with her before the wedding? Were you there when she was getting ready, getting her make-up done, and getting dressed? Also, was it a big or middle type fancy wedding? I'm NOT doubting you...really. But there is ALWAYS something that brides will get upset about and the majority of the time, it's when the groom is nowhere around because they're getting ready too... Some brides will be perfectly calm, or even show a happy chill vibe around their grooms because they don't want to seem petty. However, I TRULY believe that all women (including me when I got married) have something that does not go right and are bridezillas about it. Some of them are justified, but it's the one's who aren't that makes them COMPLETELY insane. My wedding was somewhat justified. It was my 15yo sister-in-law who WASN'T in the wedding. I mean seriously...we had three people in it on my side. My niece who was 5 and the flower girl, my nephew who was 4 ring bearer, and my sister was my MOH. When told she wasn't in it, she tried to make me kick out my niece as the flower girl. Then when that didn't work, she lied to her mother and told her that I had said she could be in the wedding that I had said she could pick out her own dress. Her mother went out and bought her a BRIGHT NEON GREEN bridesmaid dress. When my MIL tried to make sure she was in some of the wedding party photos, my hubby put his foot down and stated that he was not going to reward her for lying.
Perhaps she took (or a relative slipped her) a Xanax? 😉 Kidding of course, but it wouldn't be the first time. It's great that she was able to enjoy her day, being stressed just drags you down.
@@eiyiyi well, it was a smaller wedding, just under 100 guests, most of my wife's family live interstate and flew over for the wedding so we didn't have brides maids or anything like that, we had a wedding event organiser at the venue which helped so much with flower deliveries etc, I was not there for makeup etc but from the photos I saw afterwards she looked very happy there. There were a few minor hiccups on the day like the flower arrangement fell over and broke so she could not have her flower arch thing but she literally brushed it off as "oh well". Plus it rained heavily the days before so it was too muddy to do some of the photos she wanted but she just came up with other ideas without even batting a eye. To this day 5 years on she can't say a bad thing about the day. Oh and her parents are divorced and there may have been some tension between them but my wife brushed it off. Still a perfectionist though, just didn't let it stop her that day.
The sad part is they will be this way for all of their weddings, not just their first. Come on, you know they'll end in divorce because they'll never be happy.
Had two work building acquaintances getting married. Had to teach one of them how to walk in a long train. These were elaborate second weddings. Less than two years later, they were both divorced. Back in one's day (longer ago than you think), everybody sewed their dresses and you got served cake after. That's all.
At big weddings in Germany, the couple sometimes doesn't invite everyone to the festive dinner, because it is too expensive, however they do get an invitation to a reception before the dinner, the ceremony in the church and the party after dinner. I heard that people like it, because they get a break during the festivities. Plus the party is definitely not dry lol
That‘s how most weddings are in Switzerland. The big party is for family and close friends and friends from clubs or work just come to the ceremony and drinks after and leave before the big party. But 99% of the couples don‘t expect gifts from the ceremony guests or at least not big ones.
@@radhiadeedou8286 I don't have a lot of first hand experience, but wealthy people do it. It is also trendy to have entire weekends, but I don't know what they're like
Hi there! I'm Italian, and here are some "normal" things at Italian weddings (disregarding the pandemic situation): - indicating in the invite the bank info to send the couple money, in case they don't have a registry and/or they need money to pay for their honeymoon - having the registry at a travel agent, see above - distinguishing between "invite" - which includes reception - and "participation" - which includes ceremony only - having two receptions: one with close family and friends, especially for elderly relatives, and one at night for all the friends and young relatives to dance the night out. Each reception has its own menu, including a different cake. - Giving out a small gift to each guest, alongside an odd number of sugared almonds called "confetti" - having two witnesses for the bride and two for the groom, who can wear whatever the heck they want.
My best friend stood up in my wedding and I asked them if they could wait until after the wedding to put purple streaks back in their hair. They completely understood and were cool with it.
Nothing wrong with having a dry wedding no matter what the reason for the dry wedding is. If I was inclined to get married (I'm not), the wedding would definitely be a dry wedding, not for religious reason or alcoholics in the family, I just don't drink or like being around drunk people. I would assume the people I'd invite to that hypothetical wedding also know this, and would be perfectly happy to celebrate without alcohol. If anyone was going to shame me for not having alcohol at my wedding, well, they don't belong at the party in the first place.
My hubby's best bud gifted us these kinda ugly really heavy duty outside folding chairs for our wedding. I was like WUT. We had a registry of cheap stuff from Target. Well... 11 yrs later we are STILL using those chairs. Great for porch, camping, events, etc. And they are durable af. Dude knew his stuff. 👍 he understood the assignment 😁
Just a fun fact in Switzerland it's common to have a lot of people invited for the church wedding and apperife after usually held outdoors... And later the small wedding party of usual 20-50 people (close family & friends) will be moving on to the reception location. So there are 2 invited one for the guests who attend the church with aperitif and another one for the once who are invited the reception aswell.
I've read about people being invited to the ceremony but not he reception, but this only works if they're in different locations. The most expensive part of a wedding is the reception so I get it, but I wouldn't invite anyone to the ceremony if I'm not close enough to have them at the reception. Weird to want people to see you get married, but not attend the party afterwards. Although it's a tad weird people equate alcohol with whether a reception was fun or not, you're not there to drink.
The church is a public building, so technically you cannot really bar someone from coming to the ceremony. There's no cost involved to have people come to the church and sit in the pew while you take your vows, but those people will be bringing/sending a gift so that's pure profit. The reception is another story. That's a private event at a private venue, so invitations are required for entrance. Those people will also bring/send a gift but that will be mitigated by the cost per plate.
It's not that strange in the Netherlands actually for churchweddings. When you get married in a church you are a member, often there is an announcement in the church saying when you get married. A few people might show up. Just don't raise expectations as if they are invited and don't expect a gift, just a card or something maybe.
so we actually did that - we had a ceremony in a city hall, and a small reception for our close family and friends (38 people in total), because of our small budget. We had invited more people for the ceremony, but everybody knew beforehand if they will be invited to the reception or not, and most of them were cool with it. It's pretty normal thing to do in my area.
Yes, it is not uncommon at all to invite many, many people to the marriage but only a select few to the reception. You want the people you love and grew up with to witness your vows and bless your union, that's what the wedding is about. The party is not important. Guests are not expected to bring a gift whether they attend one or both events.
@@irairod5160 I was surprised after moving to Canada few years ago, that many people in here will not go to the church or city hall and witness the wedding ceremony, but they will show up for the reception. It's so weird and backward for me...
We had a technically dry wedding because it was an afternoon event at a State Park & alcohol was only allowed as a BYOB situation. We had a couple of people reach out and ask if they could quietly bring a 6 pack for themselves. It was really nice to not have a ton of drunk people to get home/to the hotel safely at the end of the reception. We had an after party at the karaoke bar where we met, later that night and lined up cab rides home for everyone who came. It was so much less drama than my first wedding with a limited open bar!
I had an experience similar to the couple that wasn’t invited to the reception. It was the wedding of a girl I became good friends with while studying abroad. I, along with another good friend of mine, received the invite to her wedding with the date, time and place and we were so thrilled to be a part of her big day because the three of us were really close and did everything together while studying abroad. There was no registry, which I thought was interesting, and bride mentioned at her bachelorette party that they weren’t going to do plates, but more of a buffet, so not getting a card for food wasn’t a surprise. So the day of the wedding came and I carpooled with my friend, brought the beautiful card I got the couple along with a good amount of money, we get to the venue, and to our complete shock, the wedding had already happened, they had already had dinner and now they were just dancing. We weren’t even invited to the reception… The two of us just sat there struggling to even smile as we were talking to others knew that had attended the wedding. The three of us spend almost all of our time together on the trip and we’re in constant communication after, and this is what we got in return. Well, thank God I didn’t see the gift table initially, because I took that card and money home with me. I was absolutely heartbroken and cried the moment I got home. I guess she didn’t really see us as her friends. Oh, I almost forgot to mention the icing on the cake! There was this girl that would constantly speak shit about me on our trip, I literally did and said nothing bad or negative about her, she just had it out for me, (she’s possessive and I think she didn’t like that I befriended her friend), and literally everyone on the trip knew it, but ignored it because they knew the type of person I really was. Well, that girl that spoke constant shit about me, was a BRIDESMAID at my friend’s wedding!!! 😊 Way to make me feel even shitter about not being invited to the wedding, you had the person who treated me horribly stand up there with you. Well, that’s my fun wedding story 😁
I’ve attended a lot of weddings as a sound assistant/DJ. And have experienced some of the worst weddings. One of them was because of the mother in law. You see, we provide all the equipment such as speakers, microphones, etc. As well as live music. This woman (mother of the bride) kept insisting we play the most boring, slowest song I’ve ever heard and we kept putting it off because the music we played kept the vibe going and people on the dance floor. She then said that she wants the song to be played because she paid for the wedding, walked off in a huff and sat to the side sulking. As the reception got closer to the end, we offered to play the song for her, she huffed at us again and said in a ‘no care attitude’ “Fine, play it.” We left her, feeling quite angry with her attitude towards us (we were nice to her the whole time, kept explaining that the music we played was what the bride and groom asked of us). On another side note, at the same time people were becoming increasingly drunk, some sat next to me, trying to go on the laptop to find their songs, it got so bad that around 10 people were surrounding the sound desk, requesting their songs. One guy even grabbed the microphone out of our hands and started making a drunken speech. The mother of the groom tried to get him to put down the mike, he refused and continued. We then unplugged the microphone, asked the bride and groom to sort things out and they graciously did. We started to pack up (it was time for us to leave anyway), and the people booed us all the way. The thing is, the venue was closing up, they asked everyone to move to another location so that they can clean. The entitled mother of the bride still glared at us but at least the bride and groom was happy with our service 😁
I got booted out of a wedding where I was supposed to be maid of honor because I’d had a surgery that got infected and I was in a hip to ankle cast. I’d also gained a bit of weight because I wasn’t allowed to do much. Yeah, that was the last time I spoke to her.
I think there's nothing wrong with a dry wedding, but if alcohol is culturally expected, it'd be normal to tell the guests in advance that there won't be any just so they know.
@@brittanyneiswinger3561 Well, I see where you're coming from but the heads up is for your guests. If you could also guarantee that every single one of your guests don't drink and would expect it to be dry then cool. But if you have a vast friend and family group of different people (maybe some don't even go to yours or any church) that include people who DO drink then yeah... heads up could be good. Couples commonly include what type of bar they are going to have on their invitations (open bar or whatever) so it's really a simple matter of including that your wedding will be dry.
Guests shouldn’t have a problem with not having alcohol at a wedding if they kick off then they clearly don’t care about the people or they day it’s just an excuse to get drunk or get free alcohol on someone else’s £/$, if they can’t enjoy themselves with out it, they have problems.
@@xPidgexSmithx I hate to break it to you but unless you're an immediate family member to the bride and groom (like a mother/father/sibling/grandparent etc, or even best friend) that's 100% the reason people go to weddings lmao
@@heartsfire3187 some, definitely. All, definitely not. Me for instance. Been to plenty of weddings of people I've not been best friends of, or they were distant relatives that I never knew before (I can vouch for my mother she was not in it for freebies) and I was there because I was invited and wanted to go (except as a kid I had to). Never been to a wedding for the freebies. Don't get me wrong, they're great, but they're not the motivation!
My boyfriend's aunt... To start out with a bang: The man she was getting married to, it was her sister's ex-husband... Anyway, my boyfriend and I are there helping pre the wedding, which we had done like every day for a week. It was this old fort they had hired for the venue. She, the bride, she is a "witch". Aka, I mean when it suits her identy-crisis. So, yes, you have guessed the theme of the wedding. Anyhow, after my boyfriend and I have aided for a week with practical things (rather hard labor), we also invested in proper attire and a gift. The wedding itself was rather basics, but most of the family etc. enjoyed themselves. We later found out that the wedding had no formality, as such... They are not married in the eyes of the law, but some weird Nordic God acknowledges their alliance.......
I once owned a catering business that mostly catered weddings. I can say for sure that caterers do not get included in the cost per plate. They eat the food they prepare because caterers always have extra food. The bartenders (which can often be provided by the catering service) also eat the extra food. So no, there isn't an extra cost to feed the caterers. That cost is already included in the cost for the food to begin with.
And a dry wedding is one where no alcohol is served during the cocktail hour or reception. While are many reasons to host a dry wedding (they can be considerably more budget friendly)
Why do people want to have giant weddings? Like, why not just invite close friends and family? Why do you need to invite your best friend's cousin's girlfriend's childhood best friend? Edit: I would like to clarify that this only stands for the couples that are like those in the videos
haha i agree. but for me, it sucks because I have a huge family and some close friends that I wanted to invite... but because my dad was paying for my wedding he wanted to have some of his close friends there too even though I didn't want them there so, therefore, the wedding got bigger sadly. But even if I got my way it still would have been big with the amount and family and friends we wanted to invite
Well you can have a big wedding, meaning lots of friends and family with the right budget. I just think too many people want this dream wedding thats not attainable or just a crazy cost on a walmart budget. Or even if you have say $10,000 available why spend so much and spend a third of that on the wedding, another 3rd of that on a nice honeymoon and save the rest.
@@RyanM473 To be fair, weddings are expensive... so 10.000 is a decent wedding (at least where I live), but yeah I do agree that a lot of people have a very unrealistic dream of a wedding. If you want a big wedding, you'll have to save up on your own and not expect others to pay for it
Another video from everybody's favorite Canadian (Charlotte) that the world does not owe any of us a thing. I just, I cannot understand this level of entitlement, a very special day absolutely! Needing to be a control freak, and ruin everyone else's day or life, that's extra, and terms and conditions may apply. Thank you for the laughter today Charlotte!!!! Have a great Thursday everybody!!!!
OMG the crutches one. My best college friend knew I was recovering from a broken hip when she asked me to be her maid of honor. It turned out I was able to walk unassisted by the time of the wedding, but later she told me about her plans to decorate my crutches if I still needed them. Every time I hear about a bridezilla excluding someone with a disability I just want to jump on a plane and go give my old friend a hug.
As a married woman, "the happiest day of your life" is just pure bs. As in having a big party and everything has to be perfect etc... The by far happiest day of my life was holding my babies for the first time after they were born... And many more happy days are to come. The wedding is not the peak happiness and everything goes downhill from there... Quite the opposite to be honest. The wedding is just the start of a wonderful journey you have ahead of you. A whole life of hardships & happiness. But whatever comes along you don't have to go through it alone ❤️
This is such a good outlook. The wedding is a great day because it is the start of a new chapter in one's life. Maybe people think if it's perfect their marriage will be perfect?
I agree 100%, your wedding is very special but the real deal is the marriage, I've known people with beautiful weddings and Paris honeymoon along with a horrible marriage and divorce. My husband and I had a small wedding with family and friends, small honeymoon trip and went straight and bought our home, best decision ever 🥰
I agree. I think too many people have this high expectation about their wedding day that when it comes down to it, it should only be a launching point. Not the pinnacle of the relationship. Maybe that is why so many people end up divorced because they aren’t prepared for everything after the wedding. My wedding was a good day but I’ve had many other good days in the last 25 years. Two of those being the birth of my children.
I wasn't happy at all on my wedding day, I've always hated weddings and mine wasn't an exception, I was stressed out and uncomfortable, I kept thinking "this is gonna be over soon and you'll be on your honeymoon" About 90% of my days since then have been way happier than the wedding
@@radhiadeedou8286 yes!! My husband has social anxiety and that meant that he felt uncomfortable a lot of the day too. I was constantly checking on him to see if he was alright and how I could make him feel more comfortable. All in all we had an very nice day with all our friends and loved ones. But I was no "THE HAPPIEST DAY OD MY LIFE".. It was just a very happy day for us
That first bride actually ended up being a really good sport about it. She realized she was wrong, apologized and has a healthy sense of humor about it. I wish her joy in her marriage.
my parents actually had their reception completely separate from like the whole party and shit, they got married in this tiny chapel with only their closest relatives and then a few days later they went back to their hometown and had a sick party with all their friends lol
Only one wedding that I've attended actually had a reception, and it did not have any alcohol being served. It was also the only one where they had a cake, and it was just a frosted cake still in the pan that it was baked in. There were no rehearsal dinners, or bridesmaids/groomsmen taking up space. When my brother got married, when we were living in Las Vegas, his employer got them a suite at one of the hotels, but both later said that while the view was magnificent, and the hotel was nice, they would rather have been at home playing UNO or Yahtzee with the rest of the family.
That last one is super true... I had a wedding with 6 bridesmaids, I gave them a color, length and fabric and told them to go find a dress that worked for them within their price range. (AKA go to David's Bridal and find a dress that fits that criteria.) I told them whatever silver necklaces/earrings they wanted was fine and to wear a silver shoe of their comfort level. Nobody was required to get hair/make up done but if they wanted it, I would book (and pay) for it to be done. You had to pay. for your own dress and everybody got their dress for under 100 except for one friend. One girl lost her job over the summer so I paid for her dress because I knew she needed her money to pay for rent and such. I didn't want her to go broke for my wedding. One of the girls who threw a fit because she had a problem with the color that I picked out. How DARE I pick purple and not green! She called me a bridezilla and screamed at me on the phone lecturing to me about being a demanding bitchy bride. I tried to explain that I was keeping a "wide net" so the dress that everybody got could be used again and so that they could wear a dress that made them feel like 1000000 bucks while having some uniformity for photos etc as our main color was eggplant purple. She screamed at me for being demanding calling me names and telling me how stressful it is for her to wear purple and it should be green I suggested for her to wear the green dress she wanted in purple (which it did come in) but she said no and accused me of being spoiled. I finally said "I'm the bride damnit and what color I say goes" and hung up the phone. That's the phrase that went around the wedding party and to this day, we have a laugh about it. Needless to say she and I didn't talk and was no longer attending the wedding . She finally spoke to me on the day after my wedding to brag about running a 6 minute mile. When I asked her if she realized what day it was she said "I never have and never will give a f--- about your wedding. That's what I didn't speak to you until today." That was the last time time we spoke. Another friend no longer spoke to me either because she was also upset about the color purple---that was HER color (abiet a different shade) and was very upset that I would "steal" a color from her. That friend offered to bring cake pops to my shower and then decided at the last minute "she was hungry," and ate them all. Luckily my mom ordered a set of her own "just in case." Yikes. Both of these girls are best friends now and hopefully living their best life. Meanwhile, we had a small beautiful no drama llama wedding with 5 bridesmaids who have all worn their dress multiple times to other things! Moral of the story: pick wisely when you're getting married!
I loved my wedding. I have a large family, we are 28 cousins and we are close to each others, every year we celebrate a Family Fest xD. And when someone of us get marry, we make a fun video to be play during the dinner at the wedding salon. I am a BSB fan since I was 14 years old, a hard fan xD. And for mine wedding, 5 of my cousins dress up as the band members and the rest perform as the fans. They recreated "I want it that way" at a local airport xD they even got kicked out bc they were not aloud to film there. But the video was hilarious. And they even write a song about my husband and me. It was so fun to watch that I keep smiling everytime a remember it and I got married at 2013, so its been a while.I don't remember what clothes they wore or what hairstyle they had, I just remember all the love and fun. For me, weddings should be like that.
In the area where I live, its common to invite some people just to the reception/dinner. I think its becuase I live in a pretty rural area where everyone knows everyone and have large extended families and they either want to keep the actual ceremony more private or the church/place they are getting married doesn't have the capacity for all the people they want to invite (we have to pretty big churches too lol). Also people put invites in the local newspaper with specifically the time of just the dance part of the reception after dinner. It's just like a "hey, come to our wedding dance and have a fun time celebrating with us!"
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We had a "semi-dry" wedding reception. Alcohol was available for the guests to individually purchase if they wished. We served complimentary Champaign for the toast. We did this because neither of us wanted to feel responsible for getting people smashed with an unlimited alcohol reception then sending them onto the roads where they are a danger to themselves and everyone else on the road with them. If they wanted to get smashed...they could do it on their own and the consequences of driving drunk would be entirely on their shoulders. We also had a couple guests fighting alcoholism and the temptation of free unlimited alcohol was certainly not helpful for them and we cared about that because we cared about them. If people wouldn't come because they only wanted to be there for the free food and unlimited bar rather than to share that special day with us...so be it. We included the information that "a cash bar will be provided" in our reception information. We have no regrets for that decision.
@@beckynunn4649 TY. We got a LOT of grief from some family members when they found out that this was how we were going to do it. We stood firm. It was one day...everyone got over the "trauma" of not being able to gorge themselves on free unlimited alcohol and life went on, lol.
When it comes to wedding invites where you're splitting the guest list and only inviting some people to the reception, it's generally considered polite to include on the main invite "ceremony only" or have a ceremony invite and a reception invite and list it as such somewhere on the paper. And yeah, split guest lists are getting more and more common. Also, asking people to include a goft receipt for anything, even from a registry, is fine as long as it's polite as there may be duplicates or issues.
But Zoe... no one cares about the ceremony :D You are either invited to the party or not. Inviting someone JUST for the ceremony is the same as saying: we don't like you enough to pay for you. So just gift us something and be in your way. So rude.
@@16poetisa Exactly... people can chose not to participate of a celebration after the bride and groom put them in the group of "less important people that we are not interested in having in our party". I certainly would.
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Regarding feeding vendors, and your comment that there will be food leftover....As a chef, it's well known that we always prepare 5-15% more food for a catering than was ordered....that's why it costs $26 a plate...
Nothing worse than running out of food before all the guests get their fill. I love the people that show up thirty minutes before the event ends and wonder why all the chicken marsala is gone. X'D
My pet peeve are the guests who immediately pig out on the most expensive items on the buffet, leaving nothing for the bride and groom. Totally bad manners.
For her wedding, my sister asked me to dye my hair a natural color (it was blue). I totally understood and did my best to get as much blue out and brown in, cost $$. I was fine with it, just annoyed. Then her wedding got canceled two days before, because her groom had covid. I dyed my hair blue again right after.
Different parties (read: invite everyone for church & only some for the reception/dinner) is definitely a thing here in the Netherlands. I’ve been to a dozen weddings and only know of one where all the guests stayed all the day. Then again, weddings are much cheaper here. Not only for the bride and groom (I’ve been to lovely weddings with a total budget of €5000), but also for guests; they are not expected to invest in bridesmaids dresses or expensive gifts.
Well, I kinda get the thing with excluding some people from the actual celebration after the ceremony. 2 friends of mine got married some time ago, and they were on a tight budget as they were young and simply didn't have that much money and no parents to support them. So they invited a lot of people to the ceremony and only a handfull of people to the celebration afterwards. And that was fine for everyone! But they communicated that a little bit better, I guess 😅 Edit: they also did not expect any gifts, so that may be it.
I’m that person who will not be having alcohol at the wedding. I’m not against drinking alcohol but the church I’m getting married in does not allow alcohol in the building. I also have family members who are recovering from alcohol and drug abuse and it wouldn’t be a good idea over all. So instead of cocktail hour I’m having a tea party, I’ll have different types of tea, coffee, cookies and scones for everyone until the reception
4:40 My grandfather got his mothers diamond ring and gave it to my grandmother when they married My grandmother gave my mother the ring when she got married My mother is preparing the ring for my wedding to give to my future wife It’s just a beautiful tradition we have in our family since a few generations, the diamond itself doesn’t change but the golden ring gets melted and reshaped every generation with the same diamond on top But yes, forcing such a thing is terrible, it’s your ring and it’s special to you only, given to you by your other half
love the feed the vendor thing. as someone who works many catered events including occasional weddings(dealer for casino themed events)its disgusting how often we dont get fed. especially considering the amount of food thrown away at end of night.
My former coworker had three different wedding celebrations in addition to their very small ceremony - one for her side of the family and their friends several states away, one for the groom's family and their friends a few counties away, and one at their house for all of their friends in the area. I'm not sure about the other two, but I went to the party at their house and it was just a chill, fun time meeting all their friends. I think it was a great strategy.
The son who wanted his mothers engagement ring just sounds cheap. You can get a nice ring without going into debt. Plus, weddings are even more expensive, how they going to pay for that if a ring puts them in debt.
Both a cheapskate and unoriginal. _Hi Honey, I'm such a cheapskate that can't even commit to buying a basic engagement ring for you, (God knows how I will be able to commit to you for our marriage then) so I am going to tell my mother you should get HER engagement ring._
My sister didn't think she could count on me to dress well for her wedding, so she excluded me from the family table, and sat me at the "extras table," where people without a plus-one were being seated, trying to make it sound like she was doing me a big favor by saying, "you'll be right by the bar!" When I told her I found that insulting and that I'd be just fine skipping the wedding entirely. She didn't want the scandal of her own sister not showing up, so she offered move me to a table with my favorite relative - not the main family table, but also not the "extras" table. I agreed. And then I showed up to her wedding reception in shorts. It was epic. The look on her face when the next wedding we were both invited to rolled around and I showed up in a gorgeous tux was one for the books.
One of our options for gifts at our wedding was a Honeyfund for our honeymoon, but we had a registry as well with a wide range of price points and there were no expectations whatsoever, we were just happy with whatever people felt like giving us
Not sure when the custom changed, but it used to be that the church/City Hall ceremony was the smaller and more private part of the wedding and the reception was for more people to celebrate. But everyone at the wedding was invited to the reception. But then again, if you were inviting 100 people to the reception you served them what you could afford to serve, so if it was cake and coffee - that’s what you offered…
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7:15 Apparently it is. I once was invited to attend the wedding in another city (officially 4 hr train trip, in practice probably 6, knowing polish trains), but only for the church part, not reception. It was super embarasing for me, especially that I actually got invite with website, that included instruction about reception, so it didn't even cross my mind, that I'm not invited to it. I find out, when I picked my meal option and proceed to inform the bride. I shouldn't, but I felt so stupid, when she told me, that I misunderstood. The confusing invite was one thing, but who in their right mind would ask somebody to spend at least 8 hr in total in travel (and money on tickets, dress, some gift and probably night in hotel) for ceremony only. I can't wrap my mind around it, until this day. I get, that wedding are expensive and people need to keep quest list under control, but truly, it would be better (and will show more respect) for me to not be invited at all.
My friend who herself was quite a bridezilla was just talking to me about weddings and I mentioned that it’s entertaining seeing bridezillas act like they are the queen of the world. And she said I was being harsh and that it’s a big day. I said that doesn’t mean the world revolves around them and she literally said “....it does though”. That’s her copied and pasted text. She said a bride deserves to have her dreams met. I couldn’t believe she was actually being serious. I felt like pulling out my hair.
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Bridezillas must have the most boring wedding photos. Imagine the couples just there for fun... more interesting that ppl might actually want to look at or ask about.
I hate to say it, but the airplane wedding idea was brilliant. Pros: everybody had to be vaccinated or have a negative Covid test, it’s a fun idea and, as long as it didn’t get out of hand with drunken passengers, the crew probably had fun with it too, the beleaguered airlines filled a plane, and no laws or restrictions were violated.
Maybe you are right. But we didn't know the regulations for such a chartered flight. If everybody was vaccinated or tested... but... why would be an investigation after? I think they did violated a restriction.
All of you really need to actually look into what happened before commenting lmao They did all have negative covid testing because the airline obviously doesnt allow positive cases on board. But the airline also didn't give permission for this even to take place in the first place! Everyone there was briefed on the guidelines and denied permission to do the event. You can see countless unmasked people standing cramped together in one end of the plane and the aisles completely blocking everything making it a complete hazard... The entire crew on the plane was fired for not stopping it. It was not "outside the box". They're just morons.
@@nonyabusiness936 very true, they were morons. They are being investigated because they 1) booked a chartered flight for the occasion 2) were denied permission to from the airline to charter for the wedding but did it anyway 3) didn’t follow Covid safety protocols like testing and masking and 4) the plane was too full of people with no social distancing (like middle seats empty). Very different from what most people were thinking in the comments. Abiding by normal airline procedures under Covid restrictions, on a normal flight (not chartered for the express purpose of avoiding Covid safety), not getting unruly and plastered (as I mentioned) and approved by the airline was what I said. Still say it sounds like fun. I recently declined an invitation to a wedding because I have a mom who is high risk and I don’t want to take any chances. I’d actually feel safer under airline restrictions and probably would have attended.
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You didn't say "Its my day!!"
Love u Charlotte! My potato queen. This just makes me not want to have a ceremonial wedding lol I feel I would be a bridezilla. Oh you should do an episode of when scammers get scammed lol I think I sent u a screen shot of my encounter with a scammer
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You've captured the "Bridezilla" vibe perfectly. Were I the groom, I'd demand my ring back and let her find her own way home.
I'm your biggest fan, but would like to gently remind you with all due respect that not everyone has your current socioeconomic advantages. Plenty of people choose not to provide booze at weddings and their decision is delegitimized publically when 460,000 people hear you ridicule it. Families sensitive to those iñ recovery for example. Those who know someone who was sued after a driver left their gathering and caused a fatal crash. Or people who just want to share their happiness with those they love but must leave out extras like bartenders and d.j.s in order to do so. For myself, i've yet to see a wedding improved by drunks.
My friend did something like a dry wedding thing. But she warned us. She told us she was just getting married at the City Hall ,and if we wanted we could go, but that only her family and that of her husband would hold a private reception. We went to see her ,she wore a beautiful wedding dress, and the time we stayed there hearing their vows to each other, and some family member's speeches was very sweet. Afterwards we met her outside the hall and congratulated her, took some pictures etc.. And then they went off to their private reception. Everybody was happy.
Sounds great!
@@lindsayengland5241 It was ,I think it was a smart idea. She gets her dress and the vows ,and her friends around her. But we don't have to trouble ourselves with all the parafernalia of getting the dress ,presents ,etc and she has a cheap but great day lol
Just shows that a little bit of good communication goes such a long way!
"dry" means no alcohol. But what your friend did for her wedding is smart...weddings are soooo expensive. I know because my daughter is getting married in February, I cannot believe how much more expensive everything is since I was married!
@@jen7916 Loool oh ok, I didn't get the term right lol. They did have alcohol and cocktails and stuff. Thanks for explaining!
My grandma wore TWO engagement rings, and she wore them till the day she died. She was widowed less than a year into her marriage, and when she finally remarried five years later her two engagement rings were attached together by a jeweler. So yeah, no one is entitled to anyone's rings unless and until a designated time. When I was about 12 my grandma told me she wanted me to have her rings when she died, so I have them now and they are precious, not because of their "value" as rings, but because they were important to my grandma.
Aw that's sweet
I am sorry for the loss of your Grandma. She sounds like she was a lovely person and so do you.
@@chrissyxx21 Thank you, she really was. She's been gone quite a while now, so I can mostly reminisce about her and not be sad.
Lovely!
Sentimental value is higher than material value. That's beautiful!
You know, every time I watch these, I reflect that the loveliest wedding I've ever been to was extremely cheap and unpretentious. The bride had survived cancer (and the groom had nursed her through it), so her head was shaved and they were basically broke from medical payments. She wore a white dress that was likely a thrift store prom dress and looked beautiful. Her friends did her makeup. She had two bridesmaids- her sisters. One made the (chocolate) wedding cake, which was decorated with pansies from their garden, while the other sewed their bridesmaid dresses. The groom's family cooked a meal for the rehearsal, there was a simple, sweet ceremony at the church, and the reception was in her parents' backyard, with her parents making the food. They were touched when people brought gifts, but they didn't expect them. They were overjoyed that their loved ones had taken the time and expense to join them for their special day.
Honestly, it was one of the most moving experiences I've ever had. It was one big love fest and the couple was radiant with happiness in the pictures their friends took of them.
Fast-forward to the present-day and they've been married for fifteen years and have four children.
THAT is a couple who understood what was most important in a wedding.
Awww i love this. It's so sweet and precious 💞
Truly refreshing after all these horrible stories
Exactly! Like, it’s ok to wanna have a beautiful ceremony, but beautiful doesn’t always mean expectations as high as the Sistine Chapel. Sometimes all you want is a lovely ceremony, which is fine, but what you need is to have a ceremony that makes you happy, and that’s a lovely affair for everyone. That doesn’t mean horses and gold bars, it means being considerate and understanding, both with your guests, and yourself. It’s not wrong to want something big; it’s wrong to force everyone to go along.
Sometimes those weddings are the best ones!!
That sounds beautiful. You don't need to spend big bucks to celebrate your love.
Heck, I've known some people who had INSANELY expensive weddings and got divorced 2-5 years later, but others who had very simple weddings & are married decades later.
Beautiful!
When my wife and I were planning our wedding we decided on the following approach to guests:
(1) This is our wedding, we are committing ourselves to each other, and we would like you to share our special day.
(2) Ladies - wear what you like as long as it isn't white.
(3) Men - tie preferred, but not essential.
(4) Reception for all guests - we provide meal, champagne, wines, beers, soft drinks (guests can buy spirits at the bar)
(5) Presents - not essential but, if guests want to buy something, basic items to set up our home would be good (bedding, towels, crockery etc) - or whatever you think would be fun or useful.
(6) There will not be a gift table to display presents (so no-one will feel they need to spend for show or feel embarrassed).
(7) Discreet message to people on tight budgets - F*** buying a present - spending time with us is more important than spending money on us!
33 years on, whenever we look at the wedding photos we think of our families and friends, not what they were wearing!
I love this!!
Fabulous! Just the way it should be done!
This is pure gold...so wholesome...and yes...it is about the two committing themselves to each other and the people......not the presents or the fancy party or the snazzy dresses
Exactly as it should be...glad there are still normal, kind people out there ✌️✌️✌️
This is the mindset my fiancé and I have! 👏
Funny story: one of my bridesmaids had a cycling accident a few weeks before my wedding. She was going to be in a cast and on crutches. I said, NBD, we'll decorate your crutches and make it fun! The mother of my MOH was SO annoyed that I allowed her to be in the wedding. She told me my pictures would be ruined and the girl should understand "she had no place any longer in the procession." I told her I would do what I wanted, TYVM, and she was staying in the wedding. Her escort took good care of her to make sure she was comfortable during the ceremony and, for most all the pictures, we simply placed a large floral arrangement in front of her cast and she put her weight on a stool placed behind her. The photographer was very accommodating and it looked beautiful! Shame on that lady (who, it turned out, didn't do any of the planning for her daughter (my MOH) because they were estranged by then...go figure).
Makes me think of regina in mean girls still looking great after the accident
It just depend on what you choose to focus on
You are a true friend.
"Who doesn't have alcohol at their wedding?"
My husband and I were on a tight (3k) budget for our big day, so everything was done on the cheap. That included having both the ceremony and reception at a rented out pavilion in a state park. Thing about parks and Pennsylvania... Alcohol is not permitted whatsoever. So dry wedding it was. And we had a lovely time.
Some people make the choice because funds. Others make it to prevent tempting recovering alcoholics in the family. There are many reasons
Weddings can be fun without drinking.
Yeah I don’t understand the forced need to have to drink alcohol … ACCEPT it or pay for it yourself… that shit is expensive
I had a dry wedding. Until my dumbass photographer brought a bar in her trunk... and then proceeded to get drunk and my pictures sucked.
Ummm if you've got a family of alcoholics that fight when drunk, a dry wedding sounds perfect.
My family drank the bar tab before the bride and groom got back from having their photos done.
I’m a recovering alcoholic and IF I ever got married again (which I won’t) I would have a dry wedding. I wouldn’t want alcohol all around me and especially wouldn’t want the drunk ass people around me on such a special day. Everybody has their own reasons and no matter what people should respect it and simply enjoy the special day
I genuinely never understood not wanting people with crutches (or with cancer who have lost their hair) in wedding photos. To me that would make those moments that much more special - look at how much this person cares for me, that they were willing to be there for me even after what they're going through. ALSO - just had a good friend get married whose best friend & maid of honor passed away a couple of weeks before the wedding - she would have rather had her there for the day, no matter what she looked like. Hell, even if they had to bring the whole dang hospital bed, she would have welcomed it gladly.
Those were my thoughts too. I would look back on that day an smile because my real friends showed up. And having a perfect wedding or wedding photos doesn't always mean a good outcome. My photos would be more unique with a friend on crutches 😉
Those people don't care about friendship, they don't care whether the feelings of their guests are genuine. All they care about is creating picture perfect that they dreamt about from childhood, it's all about visual effect. Honestly half the time I'm not sure if those brides care about their husbands to be or whether the guys are just there to make the big childish dream possible
If my best friend was in a freaking iron lung and had to be pushed by a hospital orderly, I wouldn't mind. I don't care about the wedding photos. I don't even think I'd look at a wedding album very often. If the wife wanted photos from the wedding on the mantle, I want the guests as they are. If Margo has the wild magenta hair, I'm not asking her to dye it a natural shade for the event. If Fred was in an auto accident and has bandages and missing teeth, so what? They took time out of their lives to attend, and that's gift enough.
If anybody wondered about how somebody would "look in the photos" I'd tell them we want them to look like themselves.
And don't push me. Because if anybody did, I'd call over the wife to be and tell her Aunt Karen is concerned about how people will look in the wedding photos, and I'm starting to agree. So, do we want to hire a blond, brunette, or redhead to take the place of Aunt Karen for the wedding photos, or do we want to add a little diversity by hiring a person of color to stand in for her?
Maybe Karen would be so offended she won't attend. Kind of a win-win on that.
I can’t imagine how heartless those people are. One of my best friends uses a cane and will probably be getting a wheelchair soon, and it would be unthinkable not to include her in my wedding photos. She’s such an important part of both mine and my fiancé’s lives. The fact that these brides purposely exclude their sick or disabled friends for “aesthetic” reasons is absolutely abhorrent
People made my work friends man feel so uncomfortable because he had sweatpants and crutches from being in a bad motorcycle scrape. I didn't care one but and don't remember what anyone wore to my wedding. I was livid when I found out how he was shamed, especially since I've been thru 2 cycle accidents and totally understood how painful his skin was injured and tight clothes would have been torture for a few hours. Crazy how no one just asked them and people whispered. They left early because of it! I was so ashamed of the people who judged.
To be fair my husband and I had a dry wedding. His side of the family are judgmental religious and my side is German/Irish either heavy drinkers or recovering alcoholics. It was on a golf course so they could buy it themselves if they wanted it cheap but we were not gonna deal with all that mess. The religious folk were told anyone with alcohol bought it from the golf course and the recovering alcoholics still felt welcome and supported.
Sounds like a smart decision, under the circumstances...
That's fair enough
I'm going to marry someone whose family are strict Muslims...never did I ever think I was going to have a dry wedding (or marrying into a traditional Muslim family for that matter) but here I am. Love is so nice but so weird.
It's nice you were able to compromise with it! Especially in the presence of recovering alcoholics
I think there is difference from refusing to provide alcohol over objections to people drinking alcohol. I've been to weddings with a host bar and a cash bar. I don't question either choice; booze can get expensive.
My engagement ring came as a set with the wedding band for $80 (I picked it out from an Etsy seller). Literally no one who has asked me didn’t know it wasn’t a diamond. And if I were to ever lose it or something I could easily get a replacement. It’s a symbol. If the price tag is more important than what it means to you then you’re doing it wrong.
I have heard of people inviting people to the ceremony and not the reception. One of my cousins did that! She attended a large church that her family has been a part of since before she was born. All of the church members wanted to be wedding guests (hundreds of people!) so she and her fiancé invited everyone to the ceremony, hosted at the church, had a greeting line where everyone could hug the newly married couple and take photos, and had basic sheet cake and punch available in the church hall. THEN, the bride and groom and close family and friends went to the real reception at a different location (catered meal, speeches, DJ, dancing, etc).
Oh, I like the greeting line idea!
This is exactly what my sister did at her wedding. Everyone at the church was invited to the wedding, but due to budgeting concerns, only people who were close friends, family, or travelled from out of town were invited to the reception, (ended up being ~50-75 total people iirc) The cake was cut at the ceremony location, and a greeting line with the bride and groom allowed for all guests to congratulate them and get some cake, but the reception was a catered meal at a different location, and took place after bridal party photos were finished.
Same for both of my children - large congregation for the ceremony with greeting line with refreshments ( cake, fresh fruit, champagne and soft drinks ) afterwards and a smaller ( 65- 70) people reception with all the trimmings at the specially venue.
What you guys all did was very different. You are good people who may not have been able to afford to feed hundreds of people (who can?) You still provided cake, drinks, snacks, an opportunity to congratulate the couple. The girl in the story just wanted money/gifts. I guess that's the difference between a bride and a bridezilla!
Writing an angry review just to find out you put the dress on inside out is one of the most embarrassing bridezilla debacles I’ve heard
Edit: wow I would have never expected this comment to STILL get replies two years later
Debacles & Calamities
I've never been married so I've never worn a wedding dress but how do you not know that you put on the dress inside out?
@@lexsol6941 thats a really good question.... haha I feel like there is too much structure in a dress to have it inside out.... or there are tags.... or its super itchy.... my dress had some structure that in order for me to have it inside out things would be facing weird ways that it would be obvious. She probably just wanted something to be mad at so she decided to do that thinking no one would notice.
Reminds me of when I lived in my first apartment. I did a load of laundry in the on-site laundry room.
As I was folding my laundry (in my apartment), I noticed my brand new towels were missing.
I wrote a snotty note to the effect of: "Thanks" so much for stealing MY new towels! I hope your guilty conscience doesn't ruin your enjoyment of using them.
I went down to the laundry room, and posted my sign.
As I was finishing folding my laundry...I found said towels...hiding inside of a fitted sheet that was in that load. 🤦🏻♀️
Needless to say, I removed my sign ASAP! 😂😂😂
@@bettyveronica460 omg thats hilarious. Man those fitted sheets hide everything, don't they.
Than kid that wanted moms ring doesn’t know that it only becomes an heirloom after it has been passed down a few generations and the ring usually skips generations because it’s passed down by grandparents unless mom dies before the kids get married. Plus he was doing it just to save himself some money or having to work a bunch of overtime!
I think he were just trying to get a nice ring on the cheap.
Okay so I’m quite cheap. My future partner could propose to me with a hula hoop and I’d be happy. It’s about the person not the ring
It's not an heirloom it's just a free ring
Yeah and not to mention you can just propose without an engagement ring it won't be the end of the world and many people do that. They should just buy wedding rings if they want a ring so bad😂😂😂😂
@@infinitetenzer042 My partner proposed without a ring and later got me a customised necklace instead of a ring
So, my wife and I got married in 2019. We immediately had to move as our home was being sold (We found out AFTER we spent the money and planned the wedding. Our wedding was at our house. Our house was a rental in the country) cash was tight. She got a new job, and I had to earn new clients in our new town, I’m a musician and producer. I also do guitar tech work. We moved back to Winnipeg (For my business. Unaware of what was to come) Covid happened, and we waited to see how long the pandemic and restrictions would last. During all of this, I couldn’t work (Autoimmune illness. Not safe for me to have people coming in and out of my home for work before vaccines were available. Even now.) and she had to take some time off as well. Our savings flew out the window (Metaphorically). Two and a half years since our wedding, and we still haven’t had a honeymoon 😣. We didn’t ask anyone to pay for any part of our wedding (Although family gave us cards, etc. Which was nice. It helped in a small way. We’ll always be grateful for that). But we didn’t request anyone pay for our wedding, let alone. Our honeymoon. Fingers crossed we get to have one soon. We also bought our OWN. RINGS! My goodness. These people. I tell ya. Take care!
"That's it, back to Winnipeg!"
Hey I live in Winnipeg too! I love it here.
The "ugly crutches" is an easy fix! I have a disability that requires me to use walking aids and I went to a wedding on my crutches a few years ago. I decided to decorate them with fairy lights and ribbons with glittery gold hearts down them and they looked really nice. I've always decorated my crutches/wheelchair for special occasions and always have fun doing it around Christmas and Halloween! I've been wrapping my crutches in tinsel, fairy lights and adding tiny baubles to them every Christmas for a few years now and everyone loves them 😊
I was a bartender at a beautiful country club when I was in college and I did mostly weddings and larger parties. Lemme tell you that open bars can turn even the nicest crowds into a trashy mess!! There will always be that one group, that one uncle, that one table of coworkers etc that gets SMASHED and ruins stuff. Breaking glasses, tripping over decor, getting in fights...not to mention trying their hardest to get the groom so drunk he can't even remember the $40k wedding he just paid for. Ugh.
Anyone who has a dry wedding is doing themselves and their other guests a favor!
Or at least a limit on how much alcohol is allowed per person/table and a weather eye kept on the types who pinch other's alotment. Once it's gone, it's gone.
The groom isn't supposed to pay for the wedding, that's the bride's family's job
@@annalisadugard3628where I came from, the bride paid for the wedding and reception, but if there was an open bar the groom paid for it.
Ive seen Italian Catholic weddings where they like invite everyone in town to the Mass but not to the reception but it's VERY clear. It's basically just a huge church service that anyone can attend but the reception is invite only.
It is like that in most places of the world. The marriage and the party are two different events, one is public and the other private.
The person concerned about their honeymoon should have done a Honeymoon Registry. When my husband and I got married we both agreed we didn't need a bunch of stuff, because we already have plates, cutlery, home goods, etc. So we planned out or honeymoon via travel agent, and then set up a Honeymoon Registry. People were able to pick and choose what, if anything, they wanted to pay for. It was as low as $24 for the two of us for an historical tour, to the cost of our plane tickets, to the cost of a night at our hotel, to the cost of a nice dinner or two, and an option where people could just contribute money if they were so inclined. We kept things fairly low-key as far as all of that went. We had a fairly small wedding too (less than 100 people) and it still covered at least half the cost of the honeymoon. And if someone did get us a gift independent of the registry, we still thanked them for it. You know, like decent human beings.
The Honeymoon Registry sounds like a great idea! It also sounds more fun for the people who want to take part in it compared to just buying home goods etc. They’d be able to see how much fun you had rather than if you used what they bought you at home.
Yes we went to a wedding where they did the same thing and people chipped in for their honeymoon to Thailand! I think that was a nice way to do it.
I have some friends who got married recently and did this exact thing. Instead of gifts they did the honeymoon registry.
"You know, like decent human beings." Is something I kinda want as merch or a wand tattoo or something.
This is exactly what my friends did! We could even pay with credit card to make it easier for everyone.
I've definitely heard of weddings where not everyone is invited to the reception, but usually the couple is honest about it up-front. Being sneaky about it just to get more gifts is gross.
hey look at royal weddings not everyone is invited to the reception except if you are Oprah or elton John
Correct, unless you receive an invitation that includes the details of the reception, you are NOT invited to the reception. I thought this was common knowledge. The wedding and the party are two different things. And no, you're not obligated to bring a gift, reception or not. A marriage is not quid pro quo! Hopefully you're invited only to weddings where you're close enough to the couple that you would WANT to give them something to mark the occasion.
I’ve heard that only the opposite is okay. If you invite only some people to your wedding but everyone to your reception that’s ok from an etiquette standpoint. If you invite everyone to the wedding but only some people to the reception that’s rude, because then you’re just taking gifts from people and their time and not feeding them.
@@ludobagman3882 True, etiquette varies from place to place. Where I'm from, one is not expected to bring a gift AT ALL. A guest is a guest, to be feted and entertained by the bride and groom as a token of thanks for traveling/making time/sharing the day with them, and not obligated to "pay back" in the form of a present. Newlyweds get gifts from the family and extremely close friends, no one else outside of that most intimate circle feels like they have to contribute to their settling into married life.
In my culture, you can come to the reception, invited or not. It doesn't even matter if you know the couple or not you will still be fed. That's why here, it costs a fortune to get married
As someone who was in a family that every party was drinking and involved drama the next day… I respect that my sister had a dry wedding…. That being said, her and her husband payed for everything and did not make it a crazy expensive wedding … they did what they wanted with their budget. And boy, it was fun. They had no expectations, they just wanted to have a great time.
"Who doesn't have alcohol at their wedding??" ...Me, who had a lunchtime wedding about a month ago.
In order to serve alcohol at all, we'd have to pay for extra insurance coverage and hire a certified bartender. The theme was essentially "hobbit teatime in the woods" so our special drinks were ginger beer and a selection of locally purchased teas.
We contemplated whether or not to have a dry wedding, as there are recovering and active alcoholics on both sides. The decision became easier when the staff for the venue we went with (a lovely pavilion at Stanley Park) advised us that no alcohol was allowed in the park. We had our caterer, who was phenomenal in both product and service, make up several types of mocktails for people who still wanted to feel fancy. Everyone we've talked to in the two years since then have said they had a fantastic time. So it all worked out with no booze required (and no booze-related drama either).
My brother had pictures taken at Stanley Park
I worked in bridal for six years. Dresses are often shipped inside out to protect the outside from any possible damage during shipment.
I hope the lady invited to the non-existent Japan wedding used her tickets to go and enjoy herself in Japan. Maybe she and some of the other folks in the chat could have gotten together there and had a blast. Without bridezilla.
I was thinking the same thing. They've paid all that money, now they can go enjoy a nice vacation, lol.
The bride that's upset about her friend's constellation tattoo because that's her heme is outrageous. It's equivalent to a bride being upset about a rose tattoo because that's the flowers she chooses for her wedding.
I would think if anything that it'd be cool.
Sonzilla was the worst. Mom's not dead yet, and he asks for the ring...
Get a cheaper ring. If she loves you, she'll understand. Gee!
Warning to Girlfriend in the story. Your guy is CHEEP CHEEP CHEEP. Like a baby bird, he'll expect you to drop everything into his waiting maw. Gimme gimme gimme. Red flag.
Sonzilla like that.
When my father passes ( god forbid ) I would like to keep his ring, shirts and tools. I’m close to my father and losing him will be the worse day of my life.
@@Kayenne54 if you find and read the rest of the post its actually the girlfriend demanding the ring more than the son. its a crazy post, must read.
My best friend and her husband got married at a simple ceremony at a gazebo by the river here in Austin. I was their "best person". The minister met us there on his lunch hour (worked another job). He married them and went back to work. The 3 of us then went and had a lovely lunch where the staff gave them a really nice dessert complete with Congratulations. They dropped me off and went on their honeymoon. Afterwards they had an "elopement" party to celebrate. LOL. Theyve been married over 25 years and have never been happier. It's not about the trappings or the ceremony. It's about what you want and who you're committing to being with.
Really wish I had done something similar!
This is so sweet. And what an honor to be the only person they wanted to share it with. It makes it so much more special I think. It truly is about the couple feeling comfortable and celebrating their new life together by starting with love and not a stressful big day
My cousin got married about a month ago and she and her husband were camping in *several areas of Georgia for their honeymoon. During the honeymoon, she actually put up a post on Facebook asking people for money to continue funding their trip. When I saw the post, the first thing that went through my mind was "the audacity!" (thanks, Charlotte :) )
*Edited because I was confusing people :)
so, did they get any funding?
it's cool if you don't want to answer.
@@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife I'm not sure. While some people 'liked' the post, no one commented (comments were not turned off) and the registry doesn't show donations. I know that it's not particularly nice of me but I hope no one donated.
Glitch in the matrix: I read your post and my brain went - "Hmmm, they're camping in different areas, as in separately... strange honeymoon 🤔"
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Clearly I need to sleep, but gotta see the video first.
I kinda hope they strand at the Grand Canyon, because of failed funding,
Honeymoons are in the wedding budget, sorry, but not sorry.
@@darth-imperius I thought the same lmao 😂😂 like why would the go camping seperatley on their honeymoon? They really must like having their space... Weird couple, but I guess there is nothing new under the sun...
Charlotte: "Don't forget to take out recycling!"
Me: - has a overflowing bag of stuff that needs to be recycled - oh, sh*t. Thanks, Charlotte.
I'm not taking mine out, it's even better for the planet if I just keep it in my apartment. Just thinking of the planet, here ;)
Mine is full too 😂😂😂
I see that cute lil cooky 👀
@@kithric4878 lol yes I have a few Cookys! As well as all of the other BT21 characters.
ARMYssss!!💜💜
Regarding the day/evening guest thing: All weddings I’ve gone to in England (including both my sisters’ upcoming weddings) have addressed their invites stating ‘all-day’ guest or ‘evening’ guest. This has always been normal for me, so maybe it’s a British thing?
For example:
- anyone can go to the actual wedding/church even without an invite, particularly to stand outside and throw confetti (we live in a small village with a community so it’s normal for people to just pop in to weddings/funerals)
- ‘all-day’ guests are expected at the ceremony, the afternoon (food + speeches) and the evening (reception/party)
- ‘evening’ guests are obviously only invited to the reception, because there are always people you want to celebrate with but are not necessarily close enough to to qualify being there for speeches (and 3-courses is expensive!)
TLDR; Categorising guests is normal in England to minimise costs, maximise the people you can celebrate with, and make sure the speeches/food section is just for family/god patents/close friends. Not to mention that way you can invite kids to the ceremony + afternoon, and have just adults at the reception.
It's the same in Italy! I've been reading various comments saying that in various European nations that's a standard thing, so I'm guessing it's only normal in Europe
For the one regarding the sister who shaved/dyed her hair, the only reason I could see the bridezilla getting upset is if her sister already knew that she didn't really like that kind of look. Out of respect for my sister, I would wait until after the wedding because that's kind of a bitchy move. However, if I was the bridezilla and my sister did it before the wedding anyway, I might be kind of annoyed about it, but I wouldn't throw her out of the wedding or make a big deal of it because she's still my sister, and it's more important that my sister is there in the first place than what she looks like.
Yeah with the way they texted back and forth, I kinda wonder if there is an underlying issue there. Like the bridesmaid sister is bitter about her sister's "perfect wedding" so she decided to do a crazy hair color and shave, knowing it would piss her off. That's just not what a sweet sister relationship is like. Or maybe the bridezilla put weird restrictions on everyone and the sister was retaliating. 🤷🏼♀️
Also, what did she pay $1500 for? Unless she was referring to the bridesmaid dress, which is higher than your typical cost. Or maybe she helped with the wedding cost? IDK. But seriously, since she did it a few weeks or even days ahead of the wedding, I'm assuming, it does sound like the sister did it to be spiteful.
@@FiddleKat "Also, what did she pay $1500 for?"
From the context I think she paid her photographer that sum.
I'm proud of my wife, she is a perfectionist but on our wedding day she was so chill and let nothing bother her.
Is it remotely possible that she wasn't so chill when she was not around you? Did you spend every second with her before the wedding? Were you there when she was getting ready, getting her make-up done, and getting dressed? Also, was it a big or middle type fancy wedding?
I'm NOT doubting you...really. But there is ALWAYS something that brides will get upset about and the majority of the time, it's when the groom is nowhere around because they're getting ready too... Some brides will be perfectly calm, or even show a happy chill vibe around their grooms because they don't want to seem petty. However, I TRULY believe that all women (including me when I got married) have something that does not go right and are bridezillas about it. Some of them are justified, but it's the one's who aren't that makes them COMPLETELY insane.
My wedding was somewhat justified. It was my 15yo sister-in-law who WASN'T in the wedding. I mean seriously...we had three people in it on my side. My niece who was 5 and the flower girl, my nephew who was 4 ring bearer, and my sister was my MOH. When told she wasn't in it, she tried to make me kick out my niece as the flower girl. Then when that didn't work, she lied to her mother and told her that I had said she could be in the wedding that I had said she could pick out her own dress. Her mother went out and bought her a BRIGHT NEON GREEN bridesmaid dress. When my MIL tried to make sure she was in some of the wedding party photos, my hubby put his foot down and stated that he was not going to reward her for lying.
Perhaps she took (or a relative slipped her) a Xanax? 😉 Kidding of course, but it wouldn't be the first time. It's great that she was able to enjoy her day, being stressed just drags you down.
@@eiyiyi well, it was a smaller wedding, just under 100 guests, most of my wife's family live interstate and flew over for the wedding so we didn't have brides maids or anything like that, we had a wedding event organiser at the venue which helped so much with flower deliveries etc, I was not there for makeup etc but from the photos I saw afterwards she looked very happy there. There were a few minor hiccups on the day like the flower arrangement fell over and broke so she could not have her flower arch thing but she literally brushed it off as "oh well". Plus it rained heavily the days before so it was too muddy to do some of the photos she wanted but she just came up with other ideas without even batting a eye. To this day 5 years on she can't say a bad thing about the day. Oh and her parents are divorced and there may have been some tension between them but my wife brushed it off. Still a perfectionist though, just didn't let it stop her that day.
@@Miakel That is really good! I'm happy that you guys DID have a wedding you both enjoyed! 😉
@@eiyiyi That was honestly such a weird way to react to a sweet comment about his wife lol
The sad part is they will be this way for all of their weddings, not just their first. Come on, you know they'll end in divorce because they'll never be happy.
You can always tell when someone is getting married for the party and gifts that you'll probably be attending more than one of their weddings
Had two work building acquaintances getting married. Had to teach one of them how to walk in a long train. These were elaborate second weddings.
Less than two years later, they were both divorced.
Back in one's day (longer ago than you think), everybody sewed their dresses and you got served cake after.
That's all.
At big weddings in Germany, the couple sometimes doesn't invite everyone to the festive dinner, because it is too expensive, however they do get an invitation to a reception before the dinner, the ceremony in the church and the party after dinner. I heard that people like it, because they get a break during the festivities. Plus the party is definitely not dry lol
I do like it that way, especially if I am just a college or a random friend or neighbour. If anything else I feel like an expensive intrusion to them.
That‘s how most weddings are in Switzerland. The big party is for family and close friends and friends from clubs or work just come to the ceremony and drinks after and leave before the big party. But 99% of the couples don‘t expect gifts from the ceremony guests or at least not big ones.
So in a German wedding there's a ceremony at the church then a reception then dinner then a party? Not judging weddings in my culture last 3 days
@@radhiadeedou8286 I don't have a lot of first hand experience, but wealthy people do it. It is also trendy to have entire weekends, but I don't know what they're like
Hi there! I'm Italian, and here are some "normal" things at Italian weddings (disregarding the pandemic situation):
- indicating in the invite the bank info to send the couple money, in case they don't have a registry and/or they need money to pay for their honeymoon
- having the registry at a travel agent, see above
- distinguishing between "invite" - which includes reception - and "participation" - which includes ceremony only
- having two receptions: one with close family and friends, especially for elderly relatives, and one at night for all the friends and young relatives to dance the night out. Each reception has its own menu, including a different cake.
- Giving out a small gift to each guest, alongside an odd number of sugared almonds called "confetti"
- having two witnesses for the bride and two for the groom, who can wear whatever the heck they want.
My best friend stood up in my wedding and I asked them if they could wait until after the wedding to put purple streaks back in their hair. They completely understood and were cool with it.
Nothing wrong with having a dry wedding no matter what the reason for the dry wedding is. If I was inclined to get married (I'm not), the wedding would definitely be a dry wedding, not for religious reason or alcoholics in the family, I just don't drink or like being around drunk people. I would assume the people I'd invite to that hypothetical wedding also know this, and would be perfectly happy to celebrate without alcohol. If anyone was going to shame me for not having alcohol at my wedding, well, they don't belong at the party in the first place.
It's ALWAYS a treat to hear Charlotte say "IT'S MY DAY!"
Charlotte is SO pretty! Just found her channel and loving it so far.
Me too! I'm new here and i already love her
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Fyi...she's also super talented.. the song at the end is also her...she sounds amazing...
My hubby's best bud gifted us these kinda ugly really heavy duty outside folding chairs for our wedding. I was like WUT. We had a registry of cheap stuff from Target. Well... 11 yrs later we are STILL using those chairs. Great for porch, camping, events, etc. And they are durable af. Dude knew his stuff. 👍 he understood the assignment 😁
Just a fun fact in Switzerland it's common to have a lot of people invited for the church wedding and apperife after usually held outdoors... And later the small wedding party of usual 20-50 people (close family & friends) will be moving on to the reception location. So there are 2 invited one for the guests who attend the church with aperitif and another one for the once who are invited the reception aswell.
I've read about people being invited to the ceremony but not he reception, but this only works if they're in different locations. The most expensive part of a wedding is the reception so I get it, but I wouldn't invite anyone to the ceremony if I'm not close enough to have them at the reception. Weird to want people to see you get married, but not attend the party afterwards.
Although it's a tad weird people equate alcohol with whether a reception was fun or not, you're not there to drink.
The church is a public building, so technically you cannot really bar someone from coming to the ceremony. There's no cost involved to have people come to the church and sit in the pew while you take your vows, but those people will be bringing/sending a gift so that's pure profit. The reception is another story. That's a private event at a private venue, so invitations are required for entrance. Those people will also bring/send a gift but that will be mitigated by the cost per plate.
It's not that strange in the Netherlands actually for churchweddings. When you get married in a church you are a member, often there is an announcement in the church saying when you get married. A few people might show up. Just don't raise expectations as if they are invited and don't expect a gift, just a card or something maybe.
so we actually did that - we had a ceremony in a city hall, and a small reception for our close family and friends (38 people in total), because of our small budget. We had invited more people for the ceremony, but everybody knew beforehand if they will be invited to the reception or not, and most of them were cool with it. It's pretty normal thing to do in my area.
Yes, it is not uncommon at all to invite many, many people to the marriage but only a select few to the reception. You want the people you love and grew up with to witness your vows and bless your union, that's what the wedding is about. The party is not important. Guests are not expected to bring a gift whether they attend one or both events.
@@irairod5160 I was surprised after moving to Canada few years ago, that many people in here will not go to the church or city hall and witness the wedding ceremony, but they will show up for the reception. It's so weird and backward for me...
They say babies stare at people they find beautiful. Every time I play one of your videos my 3 mo is glued to the TV
We had a technically dry wedding because it was an afternoon event at a State Park & alcohol was only allowed as a BYOB situation. We had a couple of people reach out and ask if they could quietly bring a 6 pack for themselves. It was really nice to not have a ton of drunk people to get home/to the hotel safely at the end of the reception. We had an after party at the karaoke bar where we met, later that night and lined up cab rides home for everyone who came. It was so much less drama than my first wedding with a limited open bar!
I had an experience similar to the couple that wasn’t invited to the reception. It was the wedding of a girl I became good friends with while studying abroad. I, along with another good friend of mine, received the invite to her wedding with the date, time and place and we were so thrilled to be a part of her big day because the three of us were really close and did everything together while studying abroad. There was no registry, which I thought was interesting, and bride mentioned at her bachelorette party that they weren’t going to do plates, but more of a buffet, so not getting a card for food wasn’t a surprise. So the day of the wedding came and I carpooled with my friend, brought the beautiful card I got the couple along with a good amount of money, we get to the venue, and to our complete shock, the wedding had already happened, they had already had dinner and now they were just dancing. We weren’t even invited to the reception… The two of us just sat there struggling to even smile as we were talking to others knew that had attended the wedding. The three of us spend almost all of our time together on the trip and we’re in constant communication after, and this is what we got in return. Well, thank God I didn’t see the gift table initially, because I took that card and money home with me. I was absolutely heartbroken and cried the moment I got home. I guess she didn’t really see us as her friends. Oh, I almost forgot to mention the icing on the cake! There was this girl that would constantly speak shit about me on our trip, I literally did and said nothing bad or negative about her, she just had it out for me, (she’s possessive and I think she didn’t like that I befriended her friend), and literally everyone on the trip knew it, but ignored it because they knew the type of person I really was. Well, that girl that spoke constant shit about me, was a BRIDESMAID at my friend’s wedding!!! 😊 Way to make me feel even shitter about not being invited to the wedding, you had the person who treated me horribly stand up there with you. Well, that’s my fun wedding story 😁
I’ve attended a lot of weddings as a sound assistant/DJ. And have experienced some of the worst weddings. One of them was because of the mother in law. You see, we provide all the equipment such as speakers, microphones, etc. As well as live music.
This woman (mother of the bride) kept insisting we play the most boring, slowest song I’ve ever heard and we kept putting it off because the music we played kept the vibe going and people on the dance floor.
She then said that she wants the song to be played because she paid for the wedding, walked off in a huff and sat to the side sulking. As the reception got closer to the end, we offered to play the song for her, she huffed at us again and said in a ‘no care attitude’ “Fine, play it.”
We left her, feeling quite angry with her attitude towards us (we were nice to her the whole time, kept explaining that the music we played was what the bride and groom asked of us).
On another side note, at the same time people were becoming increasingly drunk, some sat next to me, trying to go on the laptop to find their songs, it got so bad that around 10 people were surrounding the sound desk, requesting their songs. One guy even grabbed the microphone out of our hands and started making a drunken speech.
The mother of the groom tried to get him to put down the mike, he refused and continued. We then unplugged the microphone, asked the bride and groom to sort things out and they graciously did. We started to pack up (it was time for us to leave anyway), and the people booed us all the way. The thing is, the venue was closing up, they asked everyone to move to another location so that they can clean. The entitled mother of the bride still glared at us but at least the bride and groom was happy with our service 😁
I got booted out of a wedding where I was supposed to be maid of honor because I’d had a surgery that got infected and I was in a hip to ankle cast. I’d also gained a bit of weight because I wasn’t allowed to do much. Yeah, that was the last time I spoke to her.
I think there's nothing wrong with a dry wedding, but if alcohol is culturally expected, it'd be normal to tell the guests in advance that there won't be any just so they know.
Of course if you grew up in a church where the wedding is at that church and you don't drink anyway, why do I have to give a heads up? ,🤷
@@brittanyneiswinger3561 Well, I see where you're coming from but the heads up is for your guests. If you could also guarantee that every single one of your guests don't drink and would expect it to be dry then cool. But if you have a vast friend and family group of different people (maybe some don't even go to yours or any church) that include people who DO drink then yeah... heads up could be good. Couples commonly include what type of bar they are going to have on their invitations (open bar or whatever) so it's really a simple matter of including that your wedding will be dry.
Guests shouldn’t have a problem with not having alcohol at a wedding if they kick off then they clearly don’t care about the people or they day it’s just an excuse to get drunk or get free alcohol on someone else’s £/$, if they can’t enjoy themselves with out it, they have problems.
@@xPidgexSmithx I hate to break it to you but unless you're an immediate family member to the bride and groom (like a mother/father/sibling/grandparent etc, or even best friend) that's 100% the reason people go to weddings lmao
@@heartsfire3187 some, definitely. All, definitely not. Me for instance. Been to plenty of weddings of people I've not been best friends of, or they were distant relatives that I never knew before (I can vouch for my mother she was not in it for freebies) and I was there because I was invited and wanted to go (except as a kid I had to). Never been to a wedding for the freebies. Don't get me wrong, they're great, but they're not the motivation!
My boyfriend's aunt... To start out with a bang: The man she was getting married to, it was her sister's ex-husband... Anyway, my boyfriend and I are there helping pre the wedding, which we had done like every day for a week. It was this old fort they had hired for the venue. She, the bride, she is a "witch". Aka, I mean when it suits her identy-crisis. So, yes, you have guessed the theme of the wedding. Anyhow, after my boyfriend and I have aided for a week with practical things (rather hard labor), we also invested in proper attire and a gift. The wedding itself was rather basics, but most of the family etc. enjoyed themselves. We later found out that the wedding had no formality, as such... They are not married in the eyes of the law, but some weird Nordic God acknowledges their alliance.......
This was a bit of a roller coaster and I loved it.
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Noooo 😂😂😂😂 people are crazy 🤣
Good for them. True to their beliefs, not wanting The State to interfere with their bond, and committing to each other. Wholesome. 👏🏻
I once owned a catering business that mostly catered weddings. I can say for sure that caterers do not get included in the cost per plate. They eat the food they prepare because caterers always have extra food. The bartenders (which can often be provided by the catering service) also eat the extra food. So no, there isn't an extra cost to feed the caterers. That cost is already included in the cost for the food to begin with.
And a dry wedding is one where no alcohol is served during the cocktail hour or reception. While are many reasons to host a dry wedding (they can be considerably more budget friendly)
Why do people want to have giant weddings? Like, why not just invite close friends and family? Why do you need to invite your best friend's cousin's girlfriend's childhood best friend?
Edit: I would like to clarify that this only stands for the couples that are like those in the videos
haha i agree. but for me, it sucks because I have a huge family and some close friends that I wanted to invite... but because my dad was paying for my wedding he wanted to have some of his close friends there too even though I didn't want them there so, therefore, the wedding got bigger sadly. But even if I got my way it still would have been big with the amount and family and friends we wanted to invite
Well you can have a big wedding, meaning lots of friends and family with the right budget. I just think too many people want this dream wedding thats not attainable or just a crazy cost on a walmart budget. Or even if you have say $10,000 available why spend so much and spend a third of that on the wedding, another 3rd of that on a nice honeymoon and save the rest.
The thought of it gives me stress
@@RyanM473 To be fair, weddings are expensive... so 10.000 is a decent wedding (at least where I live), but yeah I do agree that a lot of people have a very unrealistic dream of a wedding. If you want a big wedding, you'll have to save up on your own and not expect others to pay for it
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I always love the "Bridezilla" videos. Appreciated seeing the Sklar Brothers share a story as well.
Another video from everybody's favorite Canadian (Charlotte) that the world does not owe any of us a thing. I just, I cannot understand this level of entitlement, a very special day absolutely! Needing to be a control freak, and ruin everyone else's day or life, that's extra, and terms and conditions may apply. Thank you for the laughter today Charlotte!!!! Have a great Thursday everybody!!!!
Incorrect. Charlotte is everybody's favorite Canadian
@@chroniclemagpie1081 Ahh I see I typed it out wrong, I shall fix it. That is exactly what I meant, though
OMG the crutches one. My best college friend knew I was recovering from a broken hip when she asked me to be her maid of honor. It turned out I was able to walk unassisted by the time of the wedding, but later she told me about her plans to decorate my crutches if I still needed them. Every time I hear about a bridezilla excluding someone with a disability I just want to jump on a plane and go give my old friend a hug.
I’m m here for thr wonderful life tip at the end. Yes I took out the recycling, thanks for the reminder Charlotte.
As a married woman, "the happiest day of your life" is just pure bs. As in having a big party and everything has to be perfect etc... The by far happiest day of my life was holding my babies for the first time after they were born...
And many more happy days are to come. The wedding is not the peak happiness and everything goes downhill from there... Quite the opposite to be honest. The wedding is just the start of a wonderful journey you have ahead of you. A whole life of hardships & happiness. But whatever comes along you don't have to go through it alone ❤️
This is such a good outlook. The wedding is a great day because it is the start of a new chapter in one's life. Maybe people think if it's perfect their marriage will be perfect?
I agree 100%, your wedding is very special but the real deal is the marriage, I've known people with beautiful weddings and Paris honeymoon along with a horrible marriage and divorce. My husband and I had a small wedding with family and friends, small honeymoon trip and went straight and bought our home, best decision ever 🥰
I agree. I think too many people have this high expectation about their wedding day that when it comes down to it, it should only be a launching point. Not the pinnacle of the relationship. Maybe that is why so many people end up divorced because they aren’t prepared for everything after the wedding. My wedding was a good day but I’ve had many other good days in the last 25 years. Two of those being the birth of my children.
I wasn't happy at all on my wedding day, I've always hated weddings and mine wasn't an exception, I was stressed out and uncomfortable, I kept thinking "this is gonna be over soon and you'll be on your honeymoon" About 90% of my days since then have been way happier than the wedding
@@radhiadeedou8286 yes!! My husband has social anxiety and that meant that he felt uncomfortable a lot of the day too. I was constantly checking on him to see if he was alright and how I could make him feel more comfortable. All in all we had an very nice day with all our friends and loved ones. But I was no "THE HAPPIEST DAY OD MY LIFE".. It was just a very happy day for us
That first bride actually ended up being a really good sport about it. She realized she was wrong, apologized and has a healthy sense of humor about it.
I wish her joy in her marriage.
my parents actually had their reception completely separate from like the whole party and shit, they got married in this tiny chapel with only their closest relatives and then a few days later they went back to their hometown and had a sick party with all their friends lol
Only one wedding that I've attended actually had a reception, and it did not have any alcohol being served. It was also the only one where they had a cake, and it was just a frosted cake still in the pan that it was baked in. There were no rehearsal dinners, or bridesmaids/groomsmen taking up space.
When my brother got married, when we were living in Las Vegas, his employer got them a suite at one of the hotels, but both later said that while the view was magnificent, and the hotel was nice, they would rather have been at home playing UNO or Yahtzee with the rest of the family.
That last one is super true...
I had a wedding with 6 bridesmaids, I gave them a color, length and fabric and told them to go find a dress that worked for them within their price range. (AKA go to David's Bridal and find a dress that fits that criteria.) I told them whatever silver necklaces/earrings they wanted was fine and to wear a silver shoe of their comfort level. Nobody was required to get hair/make up done but if they wanted it, I would book (and pay) for it to be done. You had to pay. for your own dress and everybody got their dress for under 100 except for one friend. One girl lost her job over the summer so I paid for her dress because I knew she needed her money to pay for rent and such. I didn't want her to go broke for my wedding. One of the girls who threw a fit because she had a problem with the color that I picked out. How DARE I pick purple and not green! She called me a bridezilla and screamed at me on the phone lecturing to me about being a demanding bitchy bride. I tried to explain that I was keeping a "wide net" so the dress that everybody got could be used again and so that they could wear a dress that made them feel like 1000000 bucks while having some uniformity for photos etc as our main color was eggplant purple. She screamed at me for being demanding calling me names and telling me how stressful it is for her to wear purple and it should be green I suggested for her to wear the green dress she wanted in purple (which it did come in) but she said no and accused me of being spoiled. I finally said "I'm the bride damnit and what color I say goes" and hung up the phone. That's the phrase that went around the wedding party and to this day, we have a laugh about it. Needless to say she and I didn't talk and was no longer attending the wedding . She finally spoke to me on the day after my wedding to brag about running a 6 minute mile. When I asked her if she realized what day it was she said "I never have and never will give a f--- about your wedding. That's what I didn't speak to you until today." That was the last time time we spoke.
Another friend no longer spoke to me either because she was also upset about the color purple---that was HER color (abiet a different shade) and was very upset that I would "steal" a color from her. That friend offered to bring cake pops to my shower and then decided at the last minute "she was hungry," and ate them all. Luckily my mom ordered a set of her own "just in case." Yikes. Both of these girls are best friends now and hopefully living their best life. Meanwhile, we had a small beautiful no drama llama wedding with 5 bridesmaids who have all worn their dress multiple times to other things! Moral of the story: pick wisely when you're getting married!
Agreed Charlotte, seen most of your bridezilla videos and I'm still surprised. Everytime lol can't believe how entitled people can be.
I loved my wedding. I have a large family, we are 28 cousins and we are close to each others, every year we celebrate a Family Fest xD. And when someone of us get marry, we make a fun video to be play during the dinner at the wedding salon. I am a BSB fan since I was 14 years old, a hard fan xD. And for mine wedding, 5 of my cousins dress up as the band members and the rest perform as the fans. They recreated "I want it that way" at a local airport xD they even got kicked out bc they were not aloud to film there. But the video was hilarious. And they even write a song about my husband and me. It was so fun to watch that I keep smiling everytime a remember it and I got married at 2013, so its been a while.I don't remember what clothes they wore or what hairstyle they had, I just remember all the love and fun. For me, weddings should be like that.
These are so addictive to watch. Im always amazed at how entitled folks can be....even when I know better.
In the area where I live, its common to invite some people just to the reception/dinner. I think its becuase I live in a pretty rural area where everyone knows everyone and have large extended families and they either want to keep the actual ceremony more private or the church/place they are getting married doesn't have the capacity for all the people they want to invite (we have to pretty big churches too lol). Also people put invites in the local newspaper with specifically the time of just the dance part of the reception after dinner. It's just like a "hey, come to our wedding dance and have a fun time celebrating with us!"
That random Dr. Manhattan insert gave me LIFE! Wonderful!
If the church had any integrity, they shouldn't have allowed a 'gift table' at the side.
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Yes it's only november...but i was listening christmas songs lol...
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We had a "semi-dry" wedding reception. Alcohol was available for the guests to individually purchase if they wished. We served complimentary Champaign for the toast. We did this because neither of us wanted to feel responsible for getting people smashed with an unlimited alcohol reception then sending them onto the roads where they are a danger to themselves and everyone else on the road with them. If they wanted to get smashed...they could do it on their own and the consequences of driving drunk would be entirely on their shoulders. We also had a couple guests fighting alcoholism and the temptation of free unlimited alcohol was certainly not helpful for them and we cared about that because we cared about them. If people wouldn't come because they only wanted to be there for the free food and unlimited bar rather than to share that special day with us...so be it. We included the information that "a cash bar will be provided" in our reception information. We have no regrets for that decision.
I think you were smart! Whowant a lot ofdrunk drivers leaving their wedding!
@@beckynunn4649 TY. We got a LOT of grief from some family members when they found out that this was how we were going to do it. We stood firm. It was one day...everyone got over the "trauma" of not being able to gorge themselves on free unlimited alcohol and life went on, lol.
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2 seconds of Dr. Manhattan: "I am tired of Earth."
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When it comes to wedding invites where you're splitting the guest list and only inviting some people to the reception, it's generally considered polite to include on the main invite "ceremony only" or have a ceremony invite and a reception invite and list it as such somewhere on the paper. And yeah, split guest lists are getting more and more common.
Also, asking people to include a goft receipt for anything, even from a registry, is fine as long as it's polite as there may be duplicates or issues.
But Zoe... no one cares about the ceremony :D You are either invited to the party or not. Inviting someone JUST for the ceremony is the same as saying: we don't like you enough to pay for you. So just gift us something and be in your way. So rude.
@@xz3024 If that's how people feel, they can just not go. If you're not invited to the reception, you're even less obligated to get a gift.
@@16poetisa Exactly... people can chose not to participate of a celebration after the bride and groom put them in the group of "less important people that we are not interested in having in our party". I certainly would.
Never commented but everyone loves my oversized tie-dye hoodie! Get compliments all the time, best merch I've bought ever!! Also the potato t-shirts sum up my life so well, thanks Charlotte!
Never get sick of these! Charlotte, just load them up, we are down for it!.
Regarding feeding vendors, and your comment that there will be food leftover....As a chef, it's well known that we always prepare 5-15% more food for a catering than was ordered....that's why it costs $26 a plate...
Nothing worse than running out of food before all the guests get their fill.
I love the people that show up thirty minutes before the event ends and wonder why all the chicken marsala is gone. X'D
My pet peeve are the guests who immediately pig out on the most expensive items on the buffet, leaving nothing for the bride and groom. Totally bad manners.
For her wedding, my sister asked me to dye my hair a natural color (it was blue). I totally understood and did my best to get as much blue out and brown in, cost $$. I was fine with it, just annoyed. Then her wedding got canceled two days before, because her groom had covid. I dyed my hair blue again right after.
Different parties (read: invite everyone for church & only some for the reception/dinner) is definitely a thing here in the Netherlands. I’ve been to a dozen weddings and only know of one where all the guests stayed all the day.
Then again, weddings are much cheaper here. Not only for the bride and groom (I’ve been to lovely weddings with a total budget of €5000), but also for guests; they are not expected to invest in bridesmaids dresses or expensive gifts.
Yes it's common in France too, you'll be invited to the church and the cocktail but not to the full reception.
Well, I kinda get the thing with excluding some people from the actual celebration after the ceremony.
2 friends of mine got married some time ago, and they were on a tight budget as they were young and simply didn't have that much money and no parents to support them.
So they invited a lot of people to the ceremony and only a handfull of people to the celebration afterwards.
And that was fine for everyone! But they communicated that a little bit better, I guess 😅
Edit: they also did not expect any gifts, so that may be it.
I’m that person who will not be having alcohol at the wedding. I’m not against drinking alcohol but the church I’m getting married in does not allow alcohol in the building. I also have family members who are recovering from alcohol and drug abuse and it wouldn’t be a good idea over all. So instead of cocktail hour I’m having a tea party, I’ll have different types of tea, coffee, cookies and scones for everyone until the reception
That sounds really nice.
This is my dream T.T
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My grandfather got his mothers diamond ring and gave it to my grandmother when they married
My grandmother gave my mother the ring when she got married
My mother is preparing the ring for my wedding to give to my future wife
It’s just a beautiful tradition we have in our family since a few generations, the diamond itself doesn’t change but the golden ring gets melted and reshaped every generation with the same diamond on top
But yes, forcing such a thing is terrible, it’s your ring and it’s special to you only, given to you by your other half
love the feed the vendor thing. as someone who works many catered events including occasional weddings(dealer for casino themed events)its disgusting how often we dont get fed. especially considering the amount of food thrown away at end of night.
My former coworker had three different wedding celebrations in addition to their very small ceremony - one for her side of the family and their friends several states away, one for the groom's family and their friends a few counties away, and one at their house for all of their friends in the area. I'm not sure about the other two, but I went to the party at their house and it was just a chill, fun time meeting all their friends. I think it was a great strategy.
I live for the bridezilla videos, they make me feel relatively sane & stable!
The son who wanted his mothers engagement ring just sounds cheap. You can get a nice ring without going into debt. Plus, weddings are even more expensive, how they going to pay for that if a ring puts them in debt.
That’s exactly what I was thinking!
He's cheap and/or his fiance wants an expensive ring. All around, sounds like a disaster.
2 words for that cheapskate: silicone rings!
Both a cheapskate and unoriginal. _Hi Honey, I'm such a cheapskate that can't even commit to buying a basic engagement ring for you, (God knows how I will be able to commit to you for our marriage then) so I am going to tell my mother you should get HER engagement ring._
JTV for the win! Moissanite and morganite are way prettier anyway
My sister didn't think she could count on me to dress well for her wedding, so she excluded me from the family table, and sat me at the "extras table," where people without a plus-one were being seated, trying to make it sound like she was doing me a big favor by saying, "you'll be right by the bar!" When I told her I found that insulting and that I'd be just fine skipping the wedding entirely. She didn't want the scandal of her own sister not showing up, so she offered move me to a table with my favorite relative - not the main family table, but also not the "extras" table. I agreed. And then I showed up to her wedding reception in shorts. It was epic. The look on her face when the next wedding we were both invited to rolled around and I showed up in a gorgeous tux was one for the books.
One of our options for gifts at our wedding was a Honeyfund for our honeymoon, but we had a registry as well with a wide range of price points and there were no expectations whatsoever, we were just happy with whatever people felt like giving us
Not sure when the custom changed, but it used to be that the church/City Hall ceremony was the smaller and more private part of the wedding and the reception was for more people to celebrate. But everyone at the wedding was invited to the reception. But then again, if you were inviting 100 people to the reception you served them what you could afford to serve, so if it was cake and coffee - that’s what you offered…
2:46- You ever notice that people that make a point of telling everyone else how honest they are tend to be the most unlikable people?
Imagine watching a Charlotte Dobre video then as soon as it’s over she posts ANOTHER ONE!!!!
wait, did I miss a video?
@@Denada1350 ooooooh, somebody ain’t subscribed or ya wouldn’t have to ask dat. 😉 Was she talking to you Jason? Do you watch but not subscribe? Tsk tsk, you should be ashamed!
@@davidguidry657 lol. I am definitely subscribed, I am just lousy at the internet. hehe.
@@Denada1350 same!!!! Hail fellow, well met.
@@davidguidry657 Indeed. You're clearly a gentleman. The pleasure is mine.
7:15 Apparently it is. I once was invited to attend the wedding in another city (officially 4 hr train trip, in practice probably 6, knowing polish trains), but only for the church part, not reception. It was super embarasing for me, especially that I actually got invite with website, that included instruction about reception, so it didn't even cross my mind, that I'm not invited to it. I find out, when I picked my meal option and proceed to inform the bride. I shouldn't, but I felt so stupid, when she told me, that I misunderstood. The confusing invite was one thing, but who in their right mind would ask somebody to spend at least 8 hr in total in travel (and money on tickets, dress, some gift and probably night in hotel) for ceremony only. I can't wrap my mind around it, until this day. I get, that wedding are expensive and people need to keep quest list under control, but truly, it would be better (and will show more respect) for me to not be invited at all.
That is so rude of them! People should either be invited or not.
I haven't started planning my wedding yet, but I'm more worried about the comfort of others than myself. This stuff here... Is mind blowing.
My friend who herself was quite a bridezilla was just talking to me about weddings and I mentioned that it’s entertaining seeing bridezillas act like they are the queen of the world. And she said I was being harsh and that it’s a big day. I said that doesn’t mean the world revolves around them and she literally said “....it does though”. That’s her copied and pasted text. She said a bride deserves to have her dreams met. I couldn’t believe she was actually being serious. I felt like pulling out my hair.
So happy to see someone put a light on the entitlement issue all together.
You know when Charlotte finds her Potato Beau, they gonna have the most chill, swanky bash, and the happiest bridal posse evah!
The question is:. Will Naked guy be the Best Man?🤔😉
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He should. lol
It's naked MAN not guy 😅
He should at least be invited!
Best man can't be a groom though lol
for the inside out dress, i believe that embarrassing is the king of understatements.
Not the Punisher clip!!! I cried and died laughing at the same time. Ahhhhh
When I’m in my bed at midnight and just before I go to sleep I watch Charlotte. She makes my shitty days just that bit better. I go to sleep feeling just a little better after she makes me laugh. Thank you Charlotte 🤗
Charlotte is reading my mind. I was thinking that I should take out my recycling tonight. Now, I MUST!!
Bridezillas must have the most boring wedding photos. Imagine the couples just there for fun... more interesting that ppl might actually want to look at or ask about.
When did people start caring about the pictures more than the wedding itself?
My thoughts exactly😂😂
@@radhiadeedou8286 i think only the bridezillas do
I hate to say it, but the airplane wedding idea was brilliant. Pros: everybody had to be vaccinated or have a negative Covid test, it’s a fun idea and, as long as it didn’t get out of hand with drunken passengers, the crew probably had fun with it too, the beleaguered airlines filled a plane, and no laws or restrictions were violated.
Maybe you are right. But we didn't know the regulations for such a chartered flight. If everybody was vaccinated or tested... but... why would be an investigation after? I think they did violated a restriction.
I agree. What were they in trouble for?
@@sunshinerose685 thinking outside the box😉
All of you really need to actually look into what happened before commenting lmao They did all have negative covid testing because the airline obviously doesnt allow positive cases on board. But the airline also didn't give permission for this even to take place in the first place! Everyone there was briefed on the guidelines and denied permission to do the event. You can see countless unmasked people standing cramped together in one end of the plane and the aisles completely blocking everything making it a complete hazard... The entire crew on the plane was fired for not stopping it.
It was not "outside the box". They're just morons.
@@nonyabusiness936 very true, they were morons. They are being investigated because they 1) booked a chartered flight for the occasion 2) were denied permission to from the airline to charter for the wedding but did it anyway 3) didn’t follow Covid safety protocols like testing and masking and 4) the plane was too full of people with no social distancing (like middle seats empty). Very different from what most people were thinking in the comments. Abiding by normal airline procedures under Covid restrictions, on a normal flight (not chartered for the express purpose of avoiding Covid safety), not getting unruly and plastered (as I mentioned) and approved by the airline was what I said. Still say it sounds like fun. I recently declined an invitation to a wedding because I have a mom who is high risk and I don’t want to take any chances. I’d actually feel safer under airline restrictions and probably would have attended.
I don't understand how one would NOT subscribe. Not only are you entertaining, but you also come across as a professional, your videos are skillfully edited in a way that makes all of your videos, no matter the topic, seem like a "official" series you'd find in Netflix or Hulu. Plus, you have found the sweet spot of video length- they're not too long that someone ends up skipping because they don't have the time, but not so short that I forget about you, like I always wish there were a couple more videos when you're done so it makes me want to come back for more! You are rocking this RUclips business ma'am 😍