entitled bridezilla demands sister's wedding venue...gets reality check - REACTION
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Hey guys, it's Charlotte Dobre here and in today's video, I'm going to be talking about something that's been on my mind lately: dealing with a sister who's turned into a bridezilla!
As someone who's been a bridesmaid more times than I can count, I know how stressful weddings can be. But when your own sister is the one getting married and she's acting like a total diva, things can get even more challenging.
In this video, I'm going to be sharing my personal experiences and some tips on how to handle a bridezilla sister. From dealing with her demands and tantrums to navigating family drama, I've got you covered.
I'll also be sharing some stories from other bridesmaids who've had similar experiences and some of the craziest things they've had to deal with.
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She booked a venue three years in advance, saved up, went to school and waited. Now her sister thinks she can blindside everyone to get everything instantly because of poor life decisions? Yeah, life and adulthood don't work that way.
In her eyes, apparently it does.
I'm happy for the OP for having supportive in-laws & some of her own family members supporting her, her brother & aunt.
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 My cousins kids are the types that insist on blowing out candles every time we have everyone over for someone's birthday. They're only 4 and 6 though, so we don't make a big deal but by 10 it has to stop IMO. Hopefully they're not the entitled level of spoiled that can finally grow out of it.
Blowing out candles I do the slap over to put them out or pinch the flame, they've asked if they can do that but fortunately everyone has said no because it's dangerous.
I feel like she only got engaged and pregnant to steal her sister's only attention away.
Unfortunately I’m dealing with a15 yr ok who acts like that little sister entitled and daddy lets her
She did t need a venue she needed a condomn
I feel sorry for this baby she’s carrying. Having a selfish, self absorbed mother leaves scars that can last a lifetime.
Maybe she wasn't really pregnant. That would be a good kicker to this story.
If she's even pregnant
I wouldn't worry about the baby. I'm betting the girl's parents will end up raising the child.
There is an update in the comments, and well ... that entitled sister miscarried, and the reason for it was drinking (alcohol).
@@kennycai8695that’s really sad obviously but I’m not shocked
Super impressed with that Maid of Honor who knew what was coming and prevented disaster. Keep that girl close
Some heroes wear gowns
A future godmother if there ever was one.
I like to imagine she tackled her like a linebacker 😂
This is the literal definition of “lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part”
As someone who works at an answering service for doctors’ offices, can I just say I felt this comment in my SOUL
I first saw this phrase in a welfare office lol
I repeated that phrase in my head as I read your quote. 30 years ago, I gave it on a coffee cup to a boss who always gave us stuff to do at the last minute & expected immediately. Even after all this time, that phrase is a great one and can be so appropriate. When it is, it needs to be said directly to the troublemaker and hopefully gets their attention or.at.least.the people around them..
YOU LEFT OUT THE BEST PART!!! Before the wedding she had a meeting with her parents where they asked why they cancelled the catering they paid for to which her fiancée responded that they didn’t want them to have anything they could hold over their heads. Then they starting arguing about the venue and reiterated that “it doesn’t matter where you get married, but the person you are marrying” and she responded with “yes dad, exactly. But isn’t it weird how that only applies to me and not my sister? As long as she is marrying BIL it doesn’t matter where, right?” Which made them speechless. Then she basically called them out on their favoritism towards her sister all those years and even brought out a LIST of all the times they put her sister before her. She put them on blast to the point they were to the point of almost crying. Then she disinvited them to her wedding for not apologizing. Honestly good for her for standing up to her entitled parents and sister.
Edit: here the post for anyone that wants to read it: www.reddit.com/r/entitledparents/s/6DfHCXdJay
YYYYAAASSS! Good on her! I hope OP keeps her future child away from her family, if not then AT LEAST THE SISTER. If she was willing to scream and cry and attempt to fling mud at OP's dress just to be petty and ruin her wedding like a psycho, imagine what she might do to OP's child if she had another meltdown infront of them
Oooooohhh I needed that….
@@dianaperry1929 Rightttt??? It's so satisfying! I hope that this moment of catharsis was a wake up call for OP's parents. Their relationship may never be repaired but hopefully they'll find it in their cold hearts to apologize to her.
Thank you for this! It's so juicy it's almost delicious! 😂 But totally warranted and I'm glad she got to finally spell it out to them once and for all! I can sleep now knowing this lol 😂❤ good on her 👏 🙌
Feeling sorry for the guy who impregnated the psycho sister. He will have to deal with that weirdo forever.
One thing to be noted , there is a silent hero in the sisters brother . Simply walked the elder sister up the aisle , did not listen to both their parents and vindictive sister . he came , did the right thing and walked back into the shadows . 😊 .
Youngest of 5 only girl my brothers teased me bullied me when we were little but no one else could they protected me god help anyone who messed with me 😮 her brother is the unsung hero
He's had a front row seat, watching a life of enabling and drama unfold with his parents and his crazy sister. I'm not at all surprised he supported OP, but I am relieved that she doesn't have to be the lone reasonable member of her family.
Right!? Brother was probably just waiting for the older sister to give the signal... he has had to live with them his whole life too. I hope she doesn't move too far away from him because he will probably be the greatest uncle ever to that child.
King behavior honestly
Most likely this brother also has his own little stories about their parents favoritism for the "poor baby"
She's the scapegoat and her sister is the golden child
Thank you! I said the same thing. Do you also speak from experience? 🖐️ It took me about half a century to figure it out and walk away, this young lady can go nowhere from here but up. 🍀👍❤️🙂
I am SO here for OP’s in-laws, fiancée, maid of honor, and friends! Just so nice to hear a story where the OP has all these great people stepping up and supporting them when their bio family sucks
It's sucks how common in these posts that the person writing them often has a toxic family, it's probably why they feel the need to make a AITA post in the first place
Let's get away from this idea, "Family is family." Not if your family favors one child over another & treats you like a second class citizen.
How does nobody see that the MOH would have been charged with assaulting a pregnant woman?
If true, she doesn't sound like the type to let and assault on her go unchecked?
I think this bit is either added to make the story more juicy or its all a work of fiction . .. you just can tell with reddit posts sometimes
yo give an award to the bridesmaid that immediately jumped into action and tackled the crazy sister when she tried to throw mud on OP's wedding dress.
Did anyone else think when Charlotte read that that no mention was made of her "pregnancy"?
I'm guessing OP's sister may have never been pregnant.
@@theoriginalbridgetconnorsWe can only hope. She isn't fit to be an adult, let alone raise a child.
@@theoriginalbridgetconnorscan also be why the fiance broke up with the sister. It felt so planned, announcing the pregnancy during that gathering
What does OP stand for
@@Thamsiie_mOriginal Poster
Entitled parents with spoiled kids never anticipate actually being stuck with them as adults. The updates were awesome, good for OP!!
Karma's sweet. OP who worked hard & married a man with a wonderful family has their support, a good job, & a honeymoon baby while her parents have to deal with the consequences of spoiling & favoriting their other daughter having to take care of her into her 20's.
They got what they deserved. She wont work now, baby is on the way expecting a lot of money to spend on that baby. The only way how they get rid of her is either a judge or some boyfriend.
The parents will continue to heap blame and resentment onto the scapegoat child and refuse to acknowledge their wrongdoing, probably for many years to come.
@@lucienovakova9330 if they don't get turned off by her being a single parent, a bad one at that.
That is the best summation!
The lion, the witch, and the audacity of this ....
Can we all take a moment to appreciate the poetic justice of the parents now having to take care of the monster that they raised ⚖️😈 They are essentially trapped in a cell of their own creation
And thar spoiled younger sister is not going to be a responsible mother, either.
They will be looking after that grandbaby too I suspect
I feel bad for the baby cause now deal with the mom who has the emotional response of a toddler
“Pre-eclampsia runs in the family!” I think the mom is implying that the stress could cause the sister to have pregnancy complications. Eclampsia can be fatal, so that’s a really nasty card to try to play. Good on the inlaws for telling the mom to kick rocks
I agree. Also just because her sister is pregnant it doesn't mean she gets to steal someone else's venue. I'm also planning a wedding and I don't go around feeling entitled. These bridezillas are so selfish I don't understand how the men go through with the wedding 🤷🏽♀️
@@Shellygrrl2573 Right??? Good on the fiancé for getting out while he still could
Plus, if that is the case, any wedding is probably too much for such a delicate little troll.
But, just because something runs in the family doesn't necessarily mean you have it, are they saying that because Op's sister definitely will have it, has a very high risk of it or are they just saying it because of guilt-tripping?
@@ShalomDove I wouldn't be surprised (based on OP's recount of his behavior initially) that he was already second guessing himself before this situation arose.
I can NOT get over this story. I even taught my girls at 3 years old they can’t throw a tantrum if it’s their sisters birthday. The fact that the parents treated her this poorly and supported the crazy sister is outrageous. My first grader knows better than
I know a sister like that. She is the sister of my highschool best friend. The moment she was born my bf was second which resulted in her trying everything to make her parents proud, she always was best in class and she got nasty if someone was better than her (which is actually why we aren't friends anymore). Her sister only needed to breath to be praised like a goddess why my bf only got attention when she was at the top and then only little, always sharing the spotlight with her little sister. I hope my bf is in therapy now and does better in life. Last thing I know is that she went no contact with her mother
Ikr, like how can you be in your 20s and still act like that, especially in public and in front of all OP's friends. Is she not embarrassed?
@@gravyz2cute4u She probably never even learned to be embarrassed in such situations in the first place. Her parents always enabling her and it always coming out in her favor would have shaped her twisted world view and exaggerated self-importance during her formative years. That will be very hard to undo even if she's going to get therapy.
My baby sister always wanted to celebrate everyone's birthday in the house with them. We didn't make a big deal about it but she did it every year. Her nine years birthday, my brothers and I declared it was our birthday too. She threw a tantrum but my parents just laughed and didn't reprimand us like she wanted. We told her we could share hers because she always wanted to share everyone's birthday. The next year, she didn't claim anyone's birthday.
IKR! I mean seriously her parents should be ashamed of themselves for that! They condone this behaviour! It’s like her and her brother obviously had to work for everything and their sister got everything handed to her! I mean call me crazy but that’s favouritism right front smack bang in the last spot! Oh maybe if I throw a tantrum I’ll get what I want and that’s basically what she has been doing her whole life I mean a 23 year old come even I knew better than that when I was her age heck even when I kid! Mum and dad taught me if I throw a tantrum I won’t get it!
For the first story... if "venue doesn't matter" then do a beautiful backyard wedding!!! Intimate and special garden weddings are beautiful and so special.
Or a justce of the peace!
If my parents tried to comfort my sibling who ruined my graduation, because my fiance mentioned my acoplishments and made a beautiful cake for me AND THEM BLAMED ME FOR IT I woul go NO-contact cause they showed me their priority that day
Wait but can we all just give a round of applause to the bridesmaid that pushed psycho sister onto the ground as soon as she saw that she was going to fling mud at the bride??? Like seriously what a hero. 👏👏👏
She’s the real hero here! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Hell yeah!
Not even bridesmaid, the maid of honor! True hero💪💪
She's truly deserving of the title 'maid/made of honor'
Fareal. Risking your 1000 something dollar dress you can't return to save best friends wedding! I bet she's a GodMother of the kid now.
It’s amazing how two people can be raised in the same family and become such different people.
Entitlement vs perseverance
Golden child vs scapegoat.
Hehe, it's so true, tho. My father always says to his friends to not bother trying to raise each kid the same way, cuz all children are their own people and will act differently. All you can do is adapt. Lol
There are four of us (well, now 6, my fam adopted 2 lil girls), and one at a time we've been introduced to my dad's team at work and even spent some time working for him during our 20s for a summer (different one each year) and they all exclaimed in amazement that they've never seen siblings so drastically different from each other. LOLOLOL
So true! My sister acts entitled and spoiled sometimes and still does as an adult. My parents are like "We raised you both the same, we don't understand why she's like that." Some people have it in them I guess 🤷♀️
@@Enocent1 Where my grandparent's four sons turned out so similar that the woman at the coffee shop though they were the same person for 2 years--even confusing their father with them for a while. She thought it was one guy who just REALLY liked coffee and kept coming back for more each day *lol*
@@ladygrndr9424 I love that 😂 they pretty much accidentally trolled the same coffee shop for years lol
I can only imagine what the bystanders were thinking when an "adult" throws a screaming, crying tantrum and smashes a handmade cake on her way out. I hope she developed a reputation that day. And I'm so glad her own fiancé woke up and ran, lmao.
"I now have a shiny new backbone!" Gurl, you just MADE MY DAY!!! 👏
As someone with significant mental health problems, Charlotte's comment about not weaponizing mental health brings so true to me. It makes people, like myself and others, who actually have mental illnesses struggle to find genuine empathy because people are using it in negative ways.
Couldn't have said it better myself!
I once had someone ( who shall remain nameless) say to me, “I know when to play my mental health card.” So yes, I have great empathy and completely understand what you are saying and feel bad for those that really struggle. ( this person is NOT in my life just for that reason)
Sending prayers to you🙏🏼
Definitely agree with you. I also have mental health problems and it’s hard enough to get support from family, friends etc. I don’t weaponise my mental illnesses, sometimes they stop me from doing things but I don’t want them to define me.
Absolutely. My ex used to laugh at me for my MH issues, yet when he started to use MH issues excuse (unfortunately, due to divorce he ticks all the boxes on the assessment form) first thing he told me was: I am even on the higher dose than you. Like it was a competition. I responded: Well, actually they took me off the meds 6 months after I left you.
@@nikolamodio2846 😆 good for you for not keeping that toxic sludge around.
You know its extra juicy when Charlotte jumps straight into the story 😂😂😂
IKR??! I even checked my time stamp if I had accidentally forwarded the video 😂
@@armi0828lol hahaha same here 😂😅
I'm so glad for the older sister! The younger sister doesn't deserve someone like her, because she was literally so calm throughout this whole situation, and I'm so glad that the younger sister can't even get NEAR to her after what she did, and I js wanna say congrats to the older sister for handling this all so well, and for expecting a child!
Your new family sticking up for you is gold.
Good for them. And you.
The cooking together with them and friends is absolutely lovely!
You are lucky to get rid of the toxic crew, and see your true friends and get to celebrate with them.
OMG! That graduation story is even WORSE than the demanding of the wedding venue! OP's family is HORRIBLE!
That one really broke my heart because she actually did ruin OPs day. And parents did f all. Monsters. All of them.
Right?!? That instant alone would have justified going no contact with the lot of them. Insane!
Same. My heart broke for OP. Her parents trying to justify walking out so selfishly on her proudest moment of college graduation…college/university isn’t easy to accomplish or graduate from. Shame on her parents and entitled brat sister. Let’s hope OP and her new family of her in laws and her spouse will cut off all contact with her parents and sister. They aren’t worth working things out or trying to communicate with in her life. They won’t change even for OP having a child now.
@@cassandramalfoy Exactly. OP worked for a lot longer than the sister, and SUCCEEDED in getting her DOCTORATE. But because the brat FAILED to get into the master's program she wanted (which means she only has a bachelor's degree), it's all "My poor baby!" and "You should make this day all about the FAILURE, instead of the SUCCESS! Who cares about HER hard work, when MY BABY is sad?!"
Honestly, after that, it would be time to move, change numbers, and not tell the parents, the sister, and maybe Nan. Good for the aunt and brother for sticking up for her. I get the feeling that the brother has his own "My sister ruins everything with her selfishness and my parents take her part" stories. And I bet, too, that the aunt has HER stories of how Mom stole everything, and Nan allowed it, because Mom was HER "baby." Entitled people, continuing the cycle.
Nan seems to have learned at least enough to apologize, even if she doesn't understand WHY.
I almost wish that the sister had thrown the mud, and hit her mark. With that, OP could have had that brat ARRESTED, and she could suffer some time in jail, for her actions, and her parents could suffer the shame of having a jail-bird for a daughter. And pay damages. However, I'd only be OK with that, if OP said, "I was well-prepared with a spare dress, just in case, because I KNEW my sister, and what she was capable of doing." I don't want OP to ACTUALLY suffer on her well-deserved special day.
I think that sister and HER parents (they can't really be called OP's parents or OP's brother's parents. At MOST, they are OP's and brother's procreators) deserve to spend some hard time behind bars, and if the inmates decide to give them a beat-down or five, I would not be fussed about it.
graduating is a big deal because of the years of hard work. she put in the effort and everyone celebrated her. the sister doesn't even fill out her own job applications, so that says enough! yet the parents are like "oh but she got rejected, say something about her achievements" at her celebration?!?!? what a dick move, man.
Good on the (ex) brother-in-law as well. He told the sister not to ask for the venue and apologized to OP. Even he could see the sister’s manipulative behaviour was beyond the pale. Leaving was the safest thing for him to do.
As much as the sister needs to be held accountable for her behaviour, this is just as much on the parents. You can’t raise someone to think they are owed everything and expect them to flourish in life.
Thought the same, but then I thought about the baby. Will it become as terrible as the sister? Does the ex-fiance pay child support? Will he take better care of the baby? Will the parents of the sisters do most of the work? Is the siser even still pregnant? I always feel sad for kids with crazy parents....
@@heyheyvicky1498 - I didn’t get the vibe that the ex-BIL would just not support his child. Based on him reaching out to OP to apologize and say he told the sister not to ask, he seems like someone who is responsible. But I do agree that this baby is in for a world of trouble and that’s disheartening.
Yep. To quote a family therapist that I know: "If you spoil kids rotten, they become rotten people."
@@Rikrobat Well, if there's a baby at all... Because none of the family members talked about the child after the Venue apocalypse , only to weaponizing it when needed. I mean she crashed in OP's wedding without any care and only about "ruining her relationship" no words about her supposed pregnancy.
I think there was an update ( this story is a couple years old) where it turns out that sis was cheating and the baby isn't his
I’m the little sibling and I would cry during my sister’s birthday during presents, so my mum would give me a small tiny present to appease me…when I was 7, because you grow out of it and learn to enjoy someone else’s special day as it’s not always about you!
Those parents were awful. There was a part missing where the parents sat down with op and her fiancé at their apartment to try and convince them to give the wedding to her sister again. Dad got mad and yelled it doesn’t matter where you get married, it’s who you marry, so just give the venue to your sister. Op told him that if that is true, why does it only apply to her? If it doesn’t matter, why does sister need her venue so badly? It’s who she is marrying that is important right? Dad turned red and couldn’t come up with a response. She then whipped out a list she had written of every event that her sister had ruined for her and every situation where the parents enabled her sister and showed blatant favoritism. Her mom cried and then asked op why she hated them so much and op told her that she could ask them the same thing. 🔥🔥 And then fiancé kicked them out 😂
That sister is more than a narcissist. She sounds like a sociopath. She may even end up in jail one day. If she would assault her own sister, there are no lines. Sooo happy the elder one found happiness. She should also make sure she can have restraining order in new city.
I think in Germany a restraining order is not limited to a city or area and works for the whole of Germany. On one hand it would be well deserved if the sister ended up in jail (maybe humbling her?) on the other hand OP doesn't need more drama in her life and deserves all the happiness in the world. :)
sounds like the mother is a narcisstic and the children are the classic "scapegoat" and "golden child".
She is the dark triad!
Yup - I was thinking BPD but she sounds more malignant than that. Her ex fiancé dodged a bullet!
@@EH23831 on was kinda thinking same until OP talked about the incidents in her history. She literally has no regard for others and is unable to sympathize or feel remorse. Actually, now that I've said that makes her more of a psychopath. Either way, she's not only toxic but a potentially dangerous person. Fiance dodged a bullet big time.
Big props to BOTH Fiancés. The fact that her sisters fiancé KNEW she was in the wrong and tried to stop the drama and tell her not to beg to change venues and ultimately left-good on him! Also her fiancé (now husband) is an Angel, and his family is amazing. That makes me happy.
I’m worried for her though, her sister may have bpd 🥴
You better bet she baby trapped him. My narcissist did the same thing.
They're ALL evil.
Seriously.The sisters fiance came to his senses and avoided this bullet. He needs to run for the hills.
No joke, 2 days ago I found out my narcissist husband has been "buying people" our whole marraige.
I do not know how to get away from him with what is going on in the world. 8 have no money etc.
Plus he cannot get ANY custody of the kids. He would psychologically abuse them if left alone with them.
I have bpd and aint no way someone with bpd is gonna act like that, that is fully on how the parents treated her
Some of her behaviors remind me of my boyfriends ex though that has BPD, which is the only reason I said it.
This one just kept getting better with each update from OP. The original venue demand. WOW. The graduation party... Double WOW. Showing up TO RUIN THE WEDDING. Off the charts. I am glad OP's Nan came (slightly) around. I wonder if the antics at the wedding pushed her fully to OP's side. The karma coming at OP's parents now is priceless. I hope the OP's sister has a baby girl so she can experience the karma back at her ten-fold!
That’s insane how your parents have no regards for your feelings whatsoever. Glad everything worked out!🥰
I got married 9 years ago today and it was a wonderful day because I uninvited my mother who is exactly like her sister. Didn’t even miss her. Still have nothing to do with her. Nothing like a shiny backbone. Congratulations on your marriage, your baby and your strength. You are truly a Queen. 👑
Happy Anniversary! May you have many more happy years together, without toxic family! 🎉😊
Happy anniversary ❤🎉🎉
So heartbreaking and so unbelievable, it is so hard for me to imagine a mother behaving in that way... But then again I also know so many people had and still have babies that they are not ready for or didn't really want to have, but lack of sexual education, and oppression, or lack of contraception /abortion made them have babies they didn't want and then treat them like this. Or simply mental health issues. Wow. I'm so sorry and also proud of you stranger for doing such a hard thing. You came from that but there really is no other choice than to cut them out completely. Good for you.
Happy anniversary!!!
When each his children got married, my great grandfather gave them 7 acres each to help start their married lives. My great uncle, who also happened to be the baby of the family, wanted to purchase my grandmother's acres. She did not want to sell, but the family piled on until she did. There was an underlying idea that he, being a male, needed the property more than my grandmother because she was female. Her whole life she was regretful of the decision, and eventually became bitter about it with certain family members. Point is, its not about a venue. It's-about-RESPECT! And honestly, even if the bride gave in to her sister, there would be resentment and hurt feelings.
Exactly! If OP had given her the venue, what is to stop her from expecting OP to also provide and pay for everything else because she already has everything "ready"?!
My thoughts too. They would not stop at the venue. They would want the catering, the planner, maybe even the dress and basically everything, but of course they would not pay for anything because OP had it already planned and at least partially paid for in advance.
Or, would she give in, they would still be mad because she "didn´t offer and had to be asked to"... toxic people always find ways to express power.
@@lillia2479 That sister is an extreme case of "golden child" entitlement! I'm sure there are plenty of other venues that would work just fine. I live near a small rural redneck town, and I can think of 4 different venues that would be ideal for weddings besides the lovely historic churches here.
The fiance is the best he made a thoughtful cake for her graduation and stuck with her when her family were being a-holes.
I’m having my second son in a few months and all of these sibling rivalry videos are helping me re-solidify exactly how I don’t want to parent/Forster their relationship. Wtaf is wrong with these parents for raising these kinds of people and enabling such inexcusable behaviour?
There’s a little more to the story about when she gets to confront her parents. She got to air out all the things that they had done in favour of her sister and it was very gratifying. They couldn’t even contradict her because they knew it was all true.
Yes, I remember OP's dad then trying to list out all of the reasons the sister should get the wedding. OP stood up to him by refuting all of it by simply replying that little sis could do anything that they believed OP could too.
And got to throw the it’s who your marrying that matters back in her dads stupid face - why does that not apply to sister?
Yes! Loved the fact they were all "come on! if you love someone, it doesn't matter where you're married" to get her to give up her venue and find something else. And she uno reversed it so quick to her parents, they were stunned.
Loving the extra updates :D That's oh so satisfying!
Sometimes to better to shut people away rather than confronting them. And even if she confronted her parents will never see where they went wrong. So it would have been wastage of time and energy.
Mom and Dad are now having to deal with the consequences of raising a spoiled brat.
The sister's engagement was probably called off because her potential groom had the eye opening experience of what his life would be like dealing with her temper tantrums.
Glad to hear the newlyweds are expecting!
that what i was thinking...
I do worry for that baby tho
@@kawaiicake8038 the baby will be taken care of by...the grandpas. To me it's clear as if I was there watching them do it...
They will have again two new kids in the house, their daughter being a drama queen all the time and probably saying "I'm too stressed and sad to be a mom!", and their newborn grandkid. I expect the dad to pay his part for the baby, but on the other hand a wise decision. Maybe didn't give him much crap knowing he's not his parents and could scare him off lol
Dude had a near miss. If he's smart he'll apply for sole custody as soon as the kid is born.
If you raise your kids, you can spoil your grandkids; spoil your kids, you'll end up raising your grandkids.
When i was younger, i was terrified that my brother would turned out like that younger sister in the story. I was forced to always give in to my brother just because he was younger than me by 15 months.
But i am glad that he didn't. I moved out from my parents' house when I was 15 and became the golden child through my academic achievements. My brother grew up to be a decent guy.
Dad missed out on one of the proudest moments he will ever have by walking her down the isle. All because of the emotional adult child they raised.
My sister has outshined me my whole life and rightfully so. She worked hard at everything she accomplished and earned each and every acclimation she received. There is no way I would take any of it from her nor would I be jealous. We all forged our own paths and what we choose to do is up to us. She chose wisely and with a plan. I celebrate her and love her even though she does think she is smarter lol. She is but don’t tell her 😂
Same with my brother. He was always better in school, more successful, etc. But I’m not jealous, I am happy for him. He is my brother and I WANT him to be successful and happy.
Yes! This is how siblings should be. We should absolutely be happy for our family members and dear friends who have success, respect the hard work they've put in to achieve their goals, and celebrate their accomplishments. It's not a competition, it's a family.
Yeah, just play fair and square. It would be easy if the parents don't play favorite.
@@phaedrapage4217 Agree 💯
@@s.a.4358 Same ❣️
I’m so happy for OPs parents. They get to keep the nightmare they created. Could not have happened to better people.
And now they'll be raising a new baby and the adult baby. I hope the ex gets custody of the kid, though.
Literally reap what you sow
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Perfect ending 😂😂😂
They say that if you raise your children right, you get spoil your grandkids. If you spoil your children, you will be raising your grandkids.
Willful ignorance is a helluva drug.
I shed tears. Cheers to all women who were nice doormats, and grew strong backbones. CHEERS!!!
I feel like I just listened to the drama in my toxic family 🥴 It's been 3 years since I've spoke to my parents and sister and honestly it's been a relief. My situation has nothing to do with our wedding but our twin daughters coming home from the NICU after 200 days. Good for the older sister standing up for herself!!
Wow. That sister was UN HINGED! Family was off their rocker, too. If wedding planning was so stressful for the sister, they should have just gotten married at town hall and had a fancy wedding after the baby came. To think that everyone blamed OP for everything is insane. I'm glad they moved and she has her own family now!
If the wedding planning was so stressful then why couldn’t her parents and family have helped plan a wedding for her? They had plenty of time to harass OP so they had the time.
I think it was more about stealing OP’s dream venue, stealing her day and getting married first. She definitely has main character syndrome.
If her family had said, “We’ll help you plan a wedding. Don’t worry, it’ll be better that’s your sisters.” Then maybe sister wouldn’t have become so fixated on her sister’s wedding and so crazy with jealousy that her fiancé left her. Instead they supported the crazy.
@@zoevokes6406 I think you might be right. There are also places that organise your wedding for you, just pay them a fee and they handle everything. I'm willing to bet she was planning on keeping all the money her sister had put in to the wedding she wanted to steal too, though. Take her work, her money, her dream, and 1000% she would have then complained that the sister (OP) using the colours/flowers/caterers and even the venue later on was "stealing her ideas" or "copying" her, and made a fuss about that. (Of course OP probably would have wanted to change a lot anyway so it wasn't a copy, but those were the things she wanted so she shouldn't have to).
Exactly. If it's so stressful - don't do it. Not worth the alleged Eclampsia risk. Elope/backyard ceremony. Big reception after baby is born; and all attention/gifts wrung out of that event, as well.
Unfortunately, OP was the scapegoat, whilst her sister will always be the golden child.
They take from the one who's earned what they have, and when it goes to shit because of the bratty sisters' behaviour, it's OP's fault just because.
This is why you don't pander to or spoil a child their whole life, she had a total and complete meltdown at one "no". Lost her relationship, her sister and was escorted away covered in mud looking like a psycho. OP is well rid!
And tore apart the family.
Eventually got to say no, if not the family, someone else in real life, she’d probably throw a tantrum at a restaurant.
It’s more than that - there is some major dysfunction/narcissism going on in that family…
I have 4 siblings, (2 sisters & 2 brothers). I feel so fortunate that we are a close knit family and would never dream of hurting one another in this way. Our parents are a shining example of love and respect, and they NEVER express favoritism! I’m glad she was able to step away from the toxicity.
I'm glad it worked out for her. It sucks that she had to realize what a toxic family she had, but luckily all the internet strangers had her back! 🎉
What parents? This lovely women needs to realize she is an orphan. Those people have one daughter.
I'm so glad for her husband and in-laws, and friends. Congrats on marriage and baby to her!
Seems she has her husband's family now at least
And said one daughter doesn't deserve to be a mother, nor does she have what it takes after having been raised that way.
@@xDarkTrinityxand thar one anut
And her brother.
"If she wanted a celebration of her achievements, then she should've achieved something." ~ BEST STATEMENT EVER!!! Had to pause the video, post it on Facebook, listen another time, wipe away my tears of laughter, and continue on...... 😂 Thank you for the belly laugh, Charlotte!
Wow... She has so many heroes in her life, thank goodness as there was so much toxicity surrounding her. The graduation story was beyond ridiculous. This is where enabling gets so out of control! Congratulations on your wedding and little one on the way. You deserve all the happiness coming to you 💗
Bratty sister is definition of F around and find out.
Her partner saw the real her and escaped before it was too late.
I see this as an absolute win. The woman had her nice wedding, figured out her parents are sister were toxic, went no-contact, the sister's boyfriend realized the life he could expect being married to her and "noped" out, and the parents are getting a daily dose of hell from the spawn they unleashed on the world.
Somebody even managed to plant sister's pregnant ass in the mud. I'm not thrilled with that happening to pregnant women in general, but given she was about to try to destroy a wedding, I'll give it a pass.
Couldn’t have been said better
I'm very glad that her sister's ex-fiancé realized who he was about to marry and broke up with her. I hope him and OP still stays in touch
Im pretty sure the sister most likely lied about being pregnant, so she could have the venue
Honestly? Might sound awful but I'm not bothered by shit like that happening to pregnant women when they're that much of a psycho bitch. They're not the kind of people you want reproducing anyhow. I have doubts that she was really pregnant anyway and she was just digging for attention.
I think the sister lied about being pregnant. She’s petty enough to try that. Probably why the fiancé dumped her so quick.
You know what you can do if you're pregnant, don't want the stress of planning a wedding and don't want to wait until after the birth? Have a lovely courthouse ceremony and go to a nice restaurant afterwards with close friends/family.
I would bet money that the sister got pregnant on purpose to use this as an excuse to take OP's venue
That confused the hell out of me - why couldn’t all the family members have helped OP’s sister plan a wedding? They clearly had hours free to harass OP.
If the wedding was about marrying her fiancé then any place would do. It’s clearly more about taking OP’s dream venue, getting married first and not letting OP have a day that isn’t about her sister.
And now sister is going to spend the rest of life thinking “I did nothing wrong. My sister is so mean and made my fiancé leave me.” Not realising that she is a crazy narcissist and her main character syndrome caused her to lose her fiancé. Poor guy.
It wasn’t about that - it was about cutting the elder sister down
Phew, needing to put a warning label on this one. The tea was SMOKING HOT
Wow, what an amazing woman!! To have to deal with terrible parents and sister and then still be able to achieve success and start her own new family... this story made me happy cry 🥰
I think there's an update to this story that keeps either getting left out or missed - OP did speak to her parents prior to the wedding, and she ends up throwing the whole "It's not the venue but the person you're marrying" back in her father's face during the convo. Even pulls out a list of things, including the graduation, where they favored the little sister over the years - parents were apparently red-faced but never backed down from their bs.
The graduation story was in the vid. Maybe it was an add?
Yes . The father tried to give reasons why the sister needed the wedding and how it was ok because OP could do this or that . OP shot them all down with the sister could do all of them too and pointed out how they clearly were playing favorites . The parents were furious that OP wasn't buying their B.S. and clearly was not going to give in no matter what .
They don't. My mother hated me for whatever reason since I was a kid. To the point she tried to remove me from earth when I was 21... for money her favorite son, my younger brother, st0l3 from her and she decided I did it.
God literally saved my behind🙏😂. I left home, finished my undergrad, a PhD, found a great job just like the OP and moved to other state.
Some 20 y later, she had the audacity to call me because she wanted to come visit me. I live in an apartment gated community and told her she'd not be authorized to get in... if she did a scene I'd call the cops on her.
No new call ever again.😂
@@donhardy6661 Things did get condensed in favor of time. Charlotte's team likes to keep these short. I think it was just a part of the second update that got chopped.
@@Willowy13 I am so sorry for your situation. As a mother who loves my child more than anything else, this is heartbreaking. You're able to find the humor in this and I hope that carries you through the rest of your life, but know this internet stranger is thinking of you with love. I'd offer to be your mum, but I think we're about the same age *lol*
I have a toxic sister whom I'm estranged from and know how utterly horrible that can be. It took my mom 35 years to realize how awful my sister was and to finally stop enabling her bad behavior. I am so happy the bride had support from her fiance and his family. Cutting off toxic family is an act of self care. Your sanity and peace are more important than being biologically related.
"Cutting off toxic family is an act of self care."
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes! I keep trying to explain to a relative people keep taking advantage of her and treating her just terribly is because she allows it. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TOLERATE ABUSE JUST BECAUSE IT COMES FROM RELATIVES. If you don't have the type of personality that allows you to explain why you don't like the way you're being treated, just stay away from the toxic people.
"Your sanity and peace are more important than being biologically related."
You are smart.
Honestly, it's truly sometimes better to make your own family (friends, partner's family etc) than try to break negative, toxic cycles that keep happening with a sibling or biological family member. My oldest brother has always been a pain, manipulative, and toxic with ultimatums about every situation. Every time I've tried to give him an olive branch eventually he does something hurtful again to me and I have to cut him off again for a time. I had some cousins who were like the spoiled sister in the story, and I was always shocked at how much people sucked up to it. I'm glad your mom finally saw that your sister's behavior was acceptable.
If I were the older sister in the story I'd call my parents out on their behavior, do what Charlotte was saying, and flip the questions about "being selfish" back on them. I'd tell them that they are spoiling her and making her act the way she does. It has nothing to do with me and that they are enabling her tantrums. I'd tell them they aren't giving me the respect and appreciation that I need for my own things in my life, and that every time I celebrate something for myself..... NO, it does not need to be about my spoiled baby sister, she doesn't get presents on my birthday, or a speech about her on a day about me. That's life, and she needs to grow up. Utterly ridiculous, never gonna spoil my kids that way each one gets their own time to be " the special one" no one will trump the other.
@hyrum3759 I agree that found family can be vastly more supportive and loving than biological family. My sister and I were never close but I realized I had to remove her from my life when my daughters were little because instead of being able to focus solely on raising my daughters my sister and her husband expected me and my mom to raise their 4 kids, pay all their bills, rent, & groceries. Then cps got involved because they were terrible parents, and when cps escorted her, her husband, and the kids to transfer custody to my mom and I, my sister didn't even cry or care. Which was crazy to me since the youngest was only a few months old. That was it for me because in that moment I realized she didn't care about anyone but herself. A couple years after that I got a scary neurological medical diagnosis (basically too much spinal fluid causing brain tumor like symptoms) and my mom mentioned it when she was on the phone with my sister and my sister went "who cares I get headaches too and I have double the amount of kids she does". It sadly has taken my mom a lot longer to cut my sister out of her life which I understand because my moms 1st daughter lost her life in a car accident and I was meant to be a twin but my twin didn't survive the pregnancy and my mom had a massive heart attack while delivering my estranged sister (caused by a freak allergic reaction to some medication used to slow her bleeding) that was her very last baby ever. What finally made my mom see my sister for the actual monster she is was the horrible way that my sister and her husband treat the oldest 2 kids (they are my sisters kids from prior relationships). They blame my oldest nephew (almost 19 but is on the spectrum, so he acts more like a 14 year old) and my niece (15) for all their problems. They expect them to clean the house, care for the younger 2 kids, and verbally abuse them constantly. My nephew lives with my mom now and we are trying to get my niece emancipated since her mom and dad are both equally awful. I'm sorry you had to deal with toxic family members it's something so common but rarely spoken about. It's so frustrating to get rid of the toxic person/people and have others questioning you about it or saying things like "you will regret this once you're older" or "family always comes first" or even when people imply that you're just too sensitive or the bad person for setting boundaries. My daughters are so much better off not being subjected to my sisters entitled, abusive, and awful actions. My daughters are also able to be there for their cousins since they are close in age (my eldest is 16 and my youngest almost 15). My daughters are quick to point out to my niece & nephew that the way their mom and step dad treat them is not okay and that they deserve so much better.
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If it hadn’t been the venue, it would have been something else. Narcissists always find a way to ruin everyone else’s joy.
Honestly, OP definitely saved herself from some huge embarrassment, if the sister destroyed her graduation like that, can you imagine what she would do at her wedding? What's next? Another hulk smashing moment or destroying decorations of the wedding? Can't even picture
As someone who's distanced herself from her family for much less than this crazy little sister, I applaud OP for realizing just how toxic her family was. I'm not surprised about the weaponizing mental health, my mom does it constantly, my sister and my brother just need to play the "I'm depressed" card to my mom and she caters to their every whim... yet I'm the one who's been seeing a psychologist for the last 3 years because I couldn't deal with my siblings any longer.
My family is just the opposite. They view mental illness as a choice and a weakness.
Six years ago, I became suicidal due to a very bad reaction to being given an SSRI and an SNRI at the same time by a doctor who was not a psychiatrist. I developed serotonin syndrome, a potentially lethal condition, and was physically feeling horrible along with losing my mind.
I spent 4 days in a mental hospital. When my neighbors and family back in Texas found out, I was immediately shunned and still am. My family doesn't believe that mental illness is "real", and that depressed people are just feeling sorry for themselves. I was told that God would have healed me if I had prayed correctly.
I don't know why those in my rural community treat me like a ground-zero plague victim. There's an old busybody here who is a retired 911 operator. Now she listens to her police scanner constantly and has friends in the Sheriff department who fill her in on the details when they are called to our community.
She heard the dispatch when my therapist called the sheriff to come get me and transport me to the mental hospital. She apparently blabbed my business to the whole community, but told them that I had attempted suicide! I did NOT, and there was no danger that I would attempt that!
Now my neighbors act like I'm diseased and dangerous, and my closest relative, my brother, says that I'm dead to him if another relative mentions my name.
@@LazyIRanch , ah yep Texas. All the good Christians there taking good neighborly care of you, just as they learn every Sunday when they run to church.
Wow! ❤ Don’t discount your feeling or experience. You matter and you deserve better also. Sending love
@@LazyIRanchsending love
@@heiner71 Yep, I think they never forgave me for leaving Texas and moving 1500 miles to the land of "sexual deviants and blasphemers" back in 2001.
I've met some very nice people here in California. I even found a UMC church I love, with a congregation of good people who strive to make the world a little better and who support homeless folks financially and personally by helping them find employment, food, healthcare and housing. They do this because it's the right thing to do. They don't preach, judge, or humiliate those in need, just try to help them by meeting their needs.
My relatives would hate this church, since at least half the members are LGBTQIA and the pastor is a WOMAN (gasp!). She's also a former stand-up comic and actress who performed with Second City in Chicago back in the 70s. She was friends with the Belushi brothers!
I love her witty, often funny sermons and I've also learned some Bible history from her that helps make some sense about why my relatives think (and hate) the way they do.
One sermon she gave while wearing a full "praying" mantis insect costume! She also walks in Pride Month parades every June, wearing a full size Bible costume, her arms, legs and head protruding from a giant Bible that has a rainbow bookmark. That alone would cause some of my family to expire from heart attacks.
An entire episode dedicated to ONE story - Now THAT was a wild ride! This is the "take no shish" era. We are here for the one's who grow beyond the family ties and recognise when the home life is toxic. We support you finding your strength and happiness! ❤
It’s interesting that her Aunt is the one family member supporting her. (Besides her brother of course).
I wonder if the Aunt is the sister of OP’s mother?
I’m imagining that, when younger they too had a dysfunctional sibling relationship.
I’m SO glad that Auntie stood by OP - RIGHT from the start.❤
13:02 I have (diagnosed) severe anxiety and massive depressive disorder, sometimes it does effect the way I am socially, but that tends to be more people pleasing then poopy person
Clearly there has been a decades long pattern of toxicity ... sounds like her mother is an NPD and her sister is the "golden child" and she's the "scapegoat" (a common dynamic in families where the mother is an NPD). Honestly she should cut those people out of her life (and not just because of the wedding thing).
fun fact being a golden child is not as great as it sounds, its plain code for another flavor of abuse. funny enough the disney film encanto has a pefect example for the 3 classicaly expected roles kids fill in a narcissistic family dynamic. as a kidsfilm, she abuse of cause is kept mild, but the dynamics are clear as day. Isabella the oldest is the golden child , existing to be a trophy and not allowed any freedom for that, luisa is the lost child that does not get any attention and the youngest mirabel is the scapegoat who always gets the blame and no one believes in.
If an abusive parent hits the scapegoat, you can be pretty sure they hit the golden child too should they fail to live up to the parents impossible standarts
Father certainly had a hand in all of this, even if just passively. Both parents are beyond shameful, though.
What is NPD?
@@tequilacortez6811 Narcissistic personality disorder
@@tequilacortez6811 Narcissistic personality disorder.
I don’t think I have ever been happier for an internet stranger than I am for this bride ❤❤❤ I hope she has nothing but happiness and success.
I am So with you, I so triggering 😱
Me too!!! ❤
Me too. OP deserves all of the happiness in the world. 💖💕❤️
Same! And she has what seems to be an awesome husband and great parents-in-law who care about her and will stand by her.
She's a strong intelligent person with a good emotional support system with her husband and his family. I think she will have a true fairytale happily ever after, and she certainly deserves it! I love this story so much.
Last story was so so satisfying. Family can hurt you in ways you couldn't imagine. I don't talk to half of my family for those reasons most of them are toxic people.
Oh please...after college i would have just moved on the other side of the states. That family is too stressful.
Germany is not that big (OP was from Germany).
Love that the maid of honor or one of the bridesmaids just ran and tackled the sister into the ground
I would have made sure she got a knee to the face as I got up
If she'd know OP for a while, she was waiting for the opportunity and literally jumped at the chance.
The MOH is there to support the bride on her wedding day, making sure nothing goes wrong. She did just that. I would have loved to have seen the tackle!
PROPS TO THE MAID OF HONOUR. SHE UNDERSTOOD THE ASSIGNMENT. TARGET ACQUIRED. IMMINENT TAKEDOWN. SHE TOOK HER SHOES OFF WHILE RUNNING TO TACKLE COS GAL KNOWS SWITCHING TO A SIDEARM IS FASTER THAN RELOADING.
Hell have no fury like a maid of honor protecting her BFF bride
Charlotte said “all of that because you would not give up the venue you booked three years in advance” but the reality is, this is the first time OP said no and stood her ground. All of that over a daughter who is done with the abuse. I dearly hope OP found the family she deserved with her husbands family. Sounds like they were 100% supportive and their friends were absolutely there for them. What a testament to their relationship. If they can survive that they’ve got it!
I’m SPEECHLESS. What a toxic, horrible family. I’m so glad that OP got away from them, and that she’s living her best life. They’ll definitely regret their actions when they’re not allowed to see their grandkid.
Yeah, it sounds like it's time to cut ties completely. It's obvious they love your sister and tollerate you. That's really sad. What a bunch of losers they are. You are so blessed to have the inlaws you have!❤
Maybe not the whole family she's got her brother and maybe Nan
OP's family enabled little sister for years. Now they are reaping what they've sown, a entitled 'main character' woman who acts like a child when she doesn't get her way. The parents have FAFO'ed and now they have a woman who blames everyone else for things she did. OP was right to distance herself from family and sister and not look back. Great story, Charlotte and read in your own way we've all come to love about you and your channel.
It is a super easy pattern to fall into, when dealing with a narcissist. Child is over-emotional and intelligent enough to be manipulative, and parents just want to keep the peace, so they start enabling and pressuring others to be accommodating and it circles the drain. I hope more people are starting to recognize NPD/Psychopathy now and get their child help. And I wouldn't be at all surprised if it was an inherited trait from mom.
100% will never understand families like that.
It’s like a movie! Unbelievable.
If that had been my family and they were giving me grief about "making" my sibling cry I would have told them one of my favorite sayings. The tears of her anguish shall nourish me.
Oh my please I'm going to borrow that line it's apropos in many situations and just savage love it sounds like an ancient curse
I have never heard this before, but my God, I love it!!
Please end that sentence with a maniacal MUWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! 😈
@@grannym2880 or an epic glare ya know that one from under the eyebrow
Tell me you're related to a sociopath without telling me you're related to a sociopath.
Sounds like the little sister was the golden child and “mommy” gave her anything she wanted.
Ugh, “golden child” syndrome in families is THE WORST.
Good for you, OP - and congratulations!
Golden child that did not achieve anything 😂
OP is the true golden child here. Harridan sister is the electroplated child.
The parents making a rod for their own backs.
The moment the crazy sister was ready to trash the brides dress and the maid of honor spirited and shoved her into the flowers 👏 that’s a true sister there.
at this point this could be made into a movie! that part in particular sounds straight out of a rom com or something!
There's also apparently another section to the story where the potential brother-in-law, now ex to crazy sister, found out that crazy sister was cheating on him with someone else 😮 so the baby was not his. The only reason why she kept pushing to have a wedding in September was that he was the kind of guy that would have married a woman so she wouldn't have a child out of wedlock and stayed in a crazy - go nuts marriage.🤯
Also apparently after he broke up with her she was so distraught that her plan didn't work that she kept drinking so much alcohol that she had a miscarriage.
I noticed there was no mention of the baby in the final updates. I was wondering if it was a fake pregnancy, or she had miscarriage
I’m SO glad you shared so we can be there to let her know shes right!!
This story is absolutely insane!!! She was responsible, becoming a PHD, and waited 3 YEARS for her venue... Her sister's irresponsible behavior does not constitute her giving up her dreams!!! As Charlotte says, ABSOLUTELY NOT!😂
This story was so infuriating and satisfying at the same time. I paid for my own wedding, went through college with 3 kids and Graduated with my masters right before my 4th pregnancy. I was able to get an amazing job and have had a “FRIEND” complain that I’m so entitled and have it too good. I BUSTED MY ASS and work long hours to have what I have. This story was such a trigger for me- most people who want something badly enough will work hard for it. Good on FIL for telling off this toxic family! Good on you for standing up for yourself and valuing your dignity and husband!
That’s outrageous that her sister would even ask! And the parents bullying her is wrong!
It's funny how when people like that say: 'Family is more important and you should do anything for family' it only ever goes one way, they're always expecting you to get on your hands and knees and do stuff for them but they never do it for you. 😂
Textbook “golden child/scapegoat” dynamic, which can only exist when one parent is a narcissist. I’m literally watching my roommate go through the process of removing herself from the exact same situation, minus the wedding. She’s doing great with her therapy and hasn’t seen or spoken to her sister in 6 months. She may ultimately have to go no contact with her parents too, because her mom is waffling so much on setting boundaries with the sister. I sent her (my roommate) this video but she shut it off about 5 minutes in because it was triggering her so bad (oops 😔). I’m really happy that OP is having a great life now that she’s gotten away from that toxic family of hers.
That's why I'm seeing this as an absolute win.
Ask her to keep watching it. She may learn how to avoid mishaps in the future, as well as see her own happiness through OP’s story. I wish your friend nothing but good health from here on. Much love
Yep!
Absolutely insane. They wanted to steal the wedding venue from OP because they didn’t wanting sister to plan a wedding and deal with stress. Why couldn’t her family, which spent so many hours harassing OP, have helped the sister plan her wedding? They clearly had a lot of free time.
And sister is so special that I’m sure the parents could help financially and help pay for a nice venue. Surely the jealous rage she was in wasn’t good for stress either, yet nobody tried to calm her down, just all supported the crazy.
Poor sister’s fiancé. He learnt that his bride too is a crazy narcissistic and suffers from main character syndrome. He asked her not to talk to OP about the venue in front of everybody. She did it anyway, completely disregarded his feelings on everything. And obviously became fixated on her jealousy and rage to the point that it ruined their relationship. She should have been happy marrying him anywhere.
Of course she tried to ruin the wedding by ruining the dress. It sounds like she ruined every birthday, OP’s graduation and every event that isn’t about her / is for her sister. Why did her parents enable such behaviour and ruin both their daughter’s lives?
✨Golden child✨
Exato! Eu odeio esse tipo de argumento que os pais usaram! "É muito estressante para sua irmã, faça por amor" , mas por quê é estressante só pra uma e não pra outra? Se é por amor, não poderia a família apoiar OP? Se é por amor então fiquem felizes que uma filha já vai ter o dia dela e arrumem outro para a grávida! Se está sem tempo faça uma cerimônia simples, só com os mais próximos e pronto! Agora por quê uma pode desistir de tudo que planejou, mas a outra (que inclusive planejou absolutamente nada) não? Odeio esse tipo de gente! Não tem lógica! Família tóxica!
A irmã obviamente falou na frente de todos para usar a pressão psicológica, ainda bem que OP não cedeu.
The amount of time they spent begging for the venue and harassing OP could’ve definitely planned an entire wedding
I must say when I was engaged I went to tell my sister and all she did was complain that the ring was purchased at a name brand jewelry store and not the store she wanted. After a bunch of drama she is no longer a part of my life and like the video my life is so much better without her in it. Even when I thought I was in the wrong I realized how toxic she was and how she made me feel bad about myself.
Good for you girl. ❤❤ sometimes the best thing is to let those people go!!
She even saved her brother in law from a life of hell🎉
This hit so hard. So hard. This family is everywhere. As much as I like families working their differences out, this was a good call to break it up. This family does NOT care for this woman, and now they are shaming her because they can't hide the truth. Manipulation from birth? My heart goes out.
Toxic family systems for sure
It's comforting to know that OP and her brother have both cut their parents and sister out of their lives. I hope the sister's ex lawyered up and went for full custody.
@@kaylahall1219 The best analogy I ever saw was a family sitting in the boat, trying to keep it stable because one member was committed to rocking it. It can be REALLY easy to fall into the trap of being the one to try to keep things stable and smooth--spouses do this, parents do this. They think if they just soothe the boat-rocker, that they can continue on their journey. They start to take pride in how well they stabilize the boat, not realizing that it is a crappy way to live and that if they just get the boat rocker REAL help so they can sit still, then things would be so much better. (Or in some cases, toss them over the side.) OP's sister was definitely mentally unstable, but has learned to be manipulative. Probably on the narcissistic side, which is a VALID disorder that she has as little control over as someone who has depression or bi-polar...if she doesn't get the right kind of help. If people around her existed to keep her world stable, then she never learned better. I hope she starts to figure it out now, but it's probably too late for her. From Nana's update though, the parents are starting to realize that they're in a sinking ship. I also hope they take a step back and see what is at the root of all the problems...and it's not OP.
My family is also like this
I know you probably won't see this, but my Nanny and I say hi! We love you so much!
SAY HI FOR MEEE
You keep me entertained while I cook dinner. Thank you for the laughs.
@@michieregan1053that’s exactly what I was about to do 😊
She won the lottery with the husbands fam. They sound AWESOME.
The conspiracy theorist in me says, sister planned to ruin her big day as soon as she knew she was engaged and had a venue selected. I feel like this was a plot 3 years in the making.
Wedding is getting close, so sister enacts her plan, starting with pressuring her fiancé into proposing (probably rushing him about making a commitment), and fakes a pregnancy to upstage sister. When she doesn’t get the venue, sister defaults to her usual extended tantrum to make it as miserable for her as possible.
Too many clues, including the smashed graduation cake and stolen gummy worms, just point to her being much more calculated than others are giving her credit for. I had a sister like this… but thank God she grew out of this when I cut contact with her for a while. Then we were besties. Hope this setback makes her sister realize what she lost by alienating her very first best friend, and she makes amends with her sister and her new family before it’s too late.
Except she didn’t fake a pregnancy, she actually had the baby 😅 which makes it even funnier if it was all part of the plan. Cuz it didn’t work and now she’s got no fiancé either
So there a few other updates, I can try to find the links.... fiancee made his own post. She had cheated, and he wasn't even the father.
@@kahluakarnagedid you find the updates? I’m invested lol
@amayes3232 unfortunately OP made some comments on her update about BIL and he deleted his own post. Unsure why. I guess he just wanted to move on? But OP original post got deleted from the subreddit so they were lost. I read this a while ago but she posted the updates and her entire post on her own profile, u/paperweightfairy.
Be careful about letting your guard down with your sister. They can play the long game.
The level of decency that the financé has and the fact that the sister's fiancé finally said "enough, I am Done" is amazing. I assume they will still have to have some contact if she was pregnant and eventually gave birth, but he seemed like a decent guy and I hope he finds someone worth his time and energy. A terrible situation full of decent, very supportive people
I have a feeling that the child will eventually go to him. People who are selfish like this don't give a crap about kids so because of it they often at minimum neglect them and at most abuse them. Something tells me CPS is going to be involved with this and that she's going to loser her kid because of it. Clearly the ex-fiance is more responsible than she is and the courts will probably take that into account. We'll see.
Hopefully she lied about being pregnant.
Apparently the guy wasn’t the father
This is precisely why my family found out I was married when I posted it on Facebook. I was not having my day ruined. 😂
My looord this is the most satisfying story i have ever heard. Congrats to her.
This is just ridiculous. I love that BIL was on OP's side through that and even broke up with the sister too. I cannot imagine any of my sisters asking this of me [I'm the oldest of four girls]. My parents certainly never raised us to be that selfish and whiny. The younger two didn't get the same lessons as myself and number 2 but they still have better understanding than OP's sister and would never ask for something like that. And even if they did, they would not get the same reaction from our parents. They wouldn't be babied and cooed at. I hate that OP had to go through that but I'm glad for how her life turned out after, minus having to practically ditch her family.
Yes. One good thing to come from all this drama is that "Almost BIL" got his eyes open about what a narcissistic loonie his fiancé is before he married her. It's very sad he needs to co-parent with her though. Maybe he can sue for full custody.
@@crichtonbruce4329 I would have made him my friend and let him come to my wedding
Special shoutout to the maid of honor who placed herself between OP and crazy sister, plus risking the chance to become a muddy mess in protecting OP